He abandoned them for TWO FRIGGEN YEARS!? That's legal abandonment. Just sue him for child support and divorce , use the abandonment of you, the baby, and the house to get it all.
He was visiting her on her death bed though. I guess it took her 2 years to finally pass away? I guess if you do not put a time limit on it we are all on our "death beds" since none of us live forever.
@@Zurround Yea, he might have been with his ex-wife on her death bed, which he originally said was going to be 2 weeks (I'm sure OP would have said NO WAY if she had known it was going to be longer), but he had a fight with OP and then just cut contact with her and never once called to check up on her during her pregnancy or afterwards. Why couldn't he have made visits back home in those 2 years to visit his wife and see his child? The way he went about it was so wrong, that he silently told OP that his ex-wife was more important than his family. He abandoned her in HER time of need, left and never called and left OP to work to support herself and their child with no financial support from him. His own child doesn't even know who he is! What did he expect was going to happen when he returned...2 F-ing YEARS later? He did all the damage to himself. If only he had kept up communication with his wife, he might still have a family.
When he put the ex first and abandoned his wife while pregnant and then his child he lost any right to the child and her. Who cares he broke down he did it to himself. 2 years and he quit contacting her, never once came back to even see his child. Personally I think he is scum. I would never even talk to him.
Can Tom really be so stupid that he thinks he can go NO CONTACT with his wife for 2 years and leave her alone to deliver their child, not even check up on her or the child, and she would welcome him back with open arms? What a crock.
My cousin did this for almost a year then he came back to an abandoned apartment and bills that were all in his name. He really thought his baby mama would be waiting around and eager for him to come back because he was the "prize" le literally said that😂 He claimed he stayed away for work to make money for them but the dude came back broke with a drinking problem.
People DON’T understand what marriage is. It is not like roommates. As soon the ex asked him for company, his answer should be NO. His priority is his WIFE. The ex was selfish asking for his company.
The only problem I have is that she should have had the papers sent to him at her bedside. Let him know that the made the wrong choice and that he's now free to spend as much time as he wants with her.
So filing for divorce based on abandonment and demanding child support would have been way smarter. The fact he fled the country looks really bad. Good chance the assets would have been awarded to her in lieu of child support
I honestly think that her so-called husband was still in love with his ex-wife. Because no man will abandon his pregnant wife and moved to another country for two years to be with his ex and go no contact with the wife. Especially when the wife is pregnant with his baby. He may have not had a physical relationship sexual with the ex, but he was emotionally cheating. Then he had the audacity to come back and act like he could just pick up where he left off at. He abandoned his wife and unborn child. He has no right to be there with them.
@@hugznotdrugz1234 Better look a bit closer. This crap has been normal for millenia. Men wander around screwing who ever and whatever and expect their wife to just sit at home and accept he'll come back when he pleases.
@user-kp7yt6mf8t I mean playing Devil's advocate, best case scenario, and he WAS faithful, and his relationship with ex was strictly platonic this debacle is still divorce worthy.
I don't think I could ever forgive a partner who left me alone pregnant for a friend and no communication. She had to work through her pregnancy, she was weak after childbirth, he didn't check with her about his son and her health. He was a coward and selfish.
In the real story Jenny never died. She dumped him and that’s why he came back. Edited to add: this story was posted a couple years ago. Not sure why the adjustments were made?
Could be a different situation that’s similar to others who went through it. Read a lot of the comments on this video, there’s quite a few who went through this unfortunately.
Can we talk about his ex for a second? I get she's sick and all, but she should have been encouraging him to go. She shouldn't have been lapping up his attention.
Should have divorced before he returned. And should have changed the locks. No id charge him with desertion and he said a couple of weeks but drug it out for 2 years.
Judge would have thrown it out on account of her being ill. That would have then made OP look like a piece of sh-t for suing a sick and dying woman when she should be mad at her grown husband.
Being sick and verge of dying doesn't give you the right to destroy a family. Jenny is not a victim in this. She used it to get something she wanted and I AM SURE they have had some sort of relationship while he was there. Died in a dishonest and dishonorable way.
Screw being fair. He ABANDONED her to cheat for two years with a dying woman. He didn't love the OP because if he did, he would not have abandoned her for TWO YEARS
Opie’s husband is a douche bag you got to see her before she died weeks become two years I would’ve sent him divorce papers long before then, he had a family a newborn, and he thinks he can just walk back into that life🤦♀️
OP would hv been delusional if Jenny and her husband didn't live like husband/wife in Australia. Yea she was dying but that doesnt give her any right to cross the boundaries. Look at this way, if someone is dying, we still wouldn't be okay with him robbing or murdering.
He was still in love with his ex. Why wouldn't He be there for the birth of his son. Gone for 2 years and thinking his wife would be okay with him be there for his ex. I bet if she had been with her ex for 2 years he wouldn't be okay with it
Single parent putting their kid on their taxes is better than married. Also, would have been super easy to get full custody with him in a different country. Reasons don't make sense
And I bet his emotional breakdown was because of the loss of his ex wife and nothing to do with the new soon to be ex wife, despite his first wife dying of cancer, if he no longer loved her deeply and had moved on and loved his new wife deeply ,he would never have left
I swear this story was Jenny asking him to come to her side when his wife was a week away from being due and missed the delivery. The wife divorced him and he never got to see his child.
This is a very old story on Reddit. I have no sympathy for men like Tom. As for Jenny, she had her family, why didn't they go and take care of her when she was in her deathbed. This idiot wanted to play savior, and screwed up big time. Him crying is BS, and he can shove up his crying where the sun doesn't shine. He totally avoided his pregnant wife, and even after that, he absolutely ghosted his wife and child. Also, I don't understand the stupid logic of OP not wanting to divorce for the last 2½ years, and still expecting to rekindle with him was annoying as hell. She probably got some senses knocked in her head after such a long time of waiting.
I feel like this is a rewrite of the story, if I rememeber correctly the one I knew, the husband wasn't honnest with the australia bit and did it at the last moment letting OP guessing it based on a mail and make an ultimatum for him to come back in a week. And OP wasn't pregnante in this one.
Another case where a man doesn't understand tge meaning if the vows he made to the OP. He certainly held up the vows he has made with his ex-wife, but thise wre terminated upon his divorce from her. Seems he had forgotten that. His #2 priority should have been his current pregnant wife not an ex. She should have had other people around her yo help her, but no. She was selfish and caused tge ending of her ex-husbands 2nd marriage. I wo der hiw many marriages he'll go through before he finally wakes up and realizes he needs to change.
Finally!! Someone calls out Jenny for her unconscionable selfishness. Imagine her believing that her comfort was worth destroying a marriage and the trauma to a newborn child. I can't imagine anyone having good feelings towards that woman.
Any person knows that has common sense that all you had to do was send the divorce papers to the ex-wife's home because that's where he resides at and have been residing for the past 2 years even that year you could have sent the divorce papers there because he was going for a year all it took was that year because he abandoned you and then technically abandoned his child. These are the worst story lines because it only to me makes op look bad that she waited all that time and talked about to give him some f****** divorce papers that she could have sent to his ex-wife house
Husband knew the divorce was coming and he thought if he didnt talk to op for all that time then it wouldn't happen. Its sad that they died but now this will forever be in his mind was it worth sacrificing your family so your ex wasn't alone in her final days. Because none of their friends could do it. It had to be Tom. Also you know for those 2 years he was showering her with love and teeating her like they were still together. I remember hearing a similar story where the husband's ex milked her cancer and hyped it up to be worse. He went to help her and ended up cheating on his wife. He was shocked because wife was divorcing him and his ex was suing him for child support. She thought he was rich but it was all wifes money. They also had a prenup so he got nothing for cheating. It was then husband's friends revealed her cancer wasn't that savere and was extremely treatable. Also he did take his wifes moeny without asling to be with his ex. He called her and said he knew she would understand
You waited two years for her to die and he left while you where pregnant and he thinks he can just walk back like he never been away I don't think he loves you because he abandoned you she is both his emotional and physical love please don't tell me they didn't carry on as if he was not divorced so he annoyed his son doesn't know him what did he think that the child would magically know he was the father I would divorce him on the grounds of abandoning please don't waste any more years He is a selfish person who did not care enough for you or your baby He did not support you or your son he really thought babies love on fresh air they don't is he that deluded about this fantasy of waving a magic wand and the wife would be waiting like a loyal lap dog they where emotionally still in love with her and I sure he was sleeping with her if she had survived he would have abandoned you with out a back ward glance his grieving for her not the loss of you and your son
This is what I said...he left her to fend for herself while raising a baby all by herself with no financial help from him! She didn't sign up to be a single parent when they decided to have a baby and he abandoned her to do it all alone.
Should have filed for divorce on grounds of abandonment after the second 'delay'.
He abandoned them for TWO FRIGGEN YEARS!? That's legal abandonment. Just sue him for child support and divorce , use the abandonment of you, the baby, and the house to get it all.
He was visiting her on her death bed though. I guess it took her 2 years to finally pass away? I guess if you do not put a time limit on it we are all on our "death beds" since none of us live forever.
@@Zurround he still abandoned his LEGAL WIFE
@@Zurround Yea, he might have been with his ex-wife on her death bed, which he originally said was going to be 2 weeks (I'm sure OP would have said NO WAY if she had known it was going to be longer), but he had a fight with OP and then just cut contact with her and never once called to check up on her during her pregnancy or afterwards. Why couldn't he have made visits back home in those 2 years to visit his wife and see his child? The way he went about it was so wrong, that he silently told OP that his ex-wife was more important than his family. He abandoned her in HER time of need, left and never called and left OP to work to support herself and their child with no financial support from him. His own child doesn't even know who he is! What did he expect was going to happen when he returned...2 F-ing YEARS later? He did all the damage to himself. If only he had kept up communication with his wife, he might still have a family.
When he put the ex first and abandoned his wife while pregnant and then his child he lost any right to the child and her. Who cares he broke down he did it to himself. 2 years and he quit contacting her, never once came back to even see his child. Personally I think he is scum. I would never even talk to him.
Can Tom really be so stupid that he thinks he can go NO CONTACT with his wife for 2 years and leave her alone to deliver their child, not even check up on her or the child, and she would welcome him back with open arms? What a crock.
He thought she will be miserable single mother and will be thankful for him
@hanma6480 A miserable divorced mother ..AND as it turns out she is a well-adjusted happily divorced mother.
My cousin did this for almost a year then he came back to an abandoned apartment and bills that were all in his name. He really thought his baby mama would be waiting around and eager for him to come back because he was the "prize" le literally said that😂 He claimed he stayed away for work to make money for them but the dude came back broke with a drinking problem.
What's the saying? "Go big or go home?" He went big, went home, and had to go home...empty handed. What a schmuck.
No husband/wife/partner should stay with their ex for that long… even if that ex is on their death bed.
I would divorce asap.
People DON’T understand what marriage is. It is not like roommates. As soon the ex asked him for company, his answer should be NO. His priority is his WIFE. The ex was selfish asking for his company.
I mean a month would have been reasonable.
@@RequiemPoete I would probably give him a month, but after he cut contact, game was over in my eyes!
@stirrednotshaken4837 Absolutely. I wouldn't even put his name on the birth certificate after this stunt.
The only problem I have is that she should have had the papers sent to him at her bedside. Let him know that the made the wrong choice and that he's now free to spend as much time as he wants with her.
So filing for divorce based on abandonment and demanding child support would have been way smarter. The fact he fled the country looks really bad. Good chance the assets would have been awarded to her in lieu of child support
He really though she was waiting for him, without any contact or help with his baby, for two years?! The entitlement 😂
I honestly think that her so-called husband was still in love with his ex-wife. Because no man will abandon his pregnant wife and moved to another country for two years to be with his ex and go no contact with the wife. Especially when the wife is pregnant with his baby. He may have not had a physical relationship sexual with the ex, but he was emotionally cheating. Then he had the audacity to come back and act like he could just pick up where he left off at. He abandoned his wife and unborn child. He has no right to be there with them.
Yup
@@hugznotdrugz1234 Better look a bit closer. This crap has been normal for millenia. Men wander around screwing who ever and whatever and expect their wife to just sit at home and accept he'll come back when he pleases.
Of course he was. They didn't divorce due to falling out love.
Oh I don’t care what he says. He didn’t spend 2 years sleeping alone.
@user-kp7yt6mf8t I mean playing Devil's advocate, best case scenario, and he WAS faithful, and his relationship with ex was strictly platonic this debacle is still divorce worthy.
I don't think I could ever forgive a partner who left me alone pregnant for a friend and no communication. She had to work through her pregnancy, she was weak after childbirth, he didn't check with her about his son and her health. He was a coward and selfish.
In the real story Jenny never died. She dumped him and that’s why he came back.
Edited to add: this story was posted a couple years ago. Not sure why the adjustments were made?
The same stories are often rewritten by different people.
Could be a different situation that’s similar to others who went through it. Read a lot of the comments on this video, there’s quite a few who went through this unfortunately.
yeah no if my husband wanted to leave the country for something like this it would be instant divorce. you can do a zoom call every so often
Can we talk about his ex for a second? I get she's sick and all, but she should have been encouraging him to go. She shouldn't have been lapping up his attention.
Should have divorced before he returned. And should have changed the locks. No id charge him with desertion and he said a couple of weeks but drug it out for 2 years.
NO YOU’RE NOT THE ASSO. Leave that mofo.
I would have divorce him and sued Jenny when she was alive for alienation of affection.
Judge would have thrown it out on account of her being ill. That would have then made OP look like a piece of sh-t for suing a sick and dying woman when she should be mad at her grown husband.
Being sick and verge of dying doesn't give you the right to destroy a family.
Jenny is not a victim in this.
She used it to get something she wanted and I AM SURE they have had some sort of relationship while he was there.
Died in a dishonest and dishonorable way.
Screw being fair. He ABANDONED her to cheat for two years with a dying woman. He didn't love the OP because if he did, he would not have abandoned her for TWO YEARS
Opie’s husband is a douche bag you got to see her before she died weeks become two years I would’ve sent him divorce papers long before then, he had a family a newborn, and he thinks he can just walk back into that life🤦♀️
Does op really think he didn’t spend 2 years in another woman’s bed?
OP still has feeling for her ex obviously. She is just making excuses for her ex to see her often with their kid.
Nope, she doesn't want that crazy moron to go running off with her child
Or, he has court ordered visitation and OP is the one who oversees it?
OP would hv been delusional if Jenny and her husband didn't live like husband/wife in Australia. Yea she was dying but that doesnt give her any right to cross the boundaries. Look at this way, if someone is dying, we still wouldn't be okay with him robbing or murdering.
He was still in love with his ex. Why wouldn't He be there for the birth of his son. Gone for 2 years and thinking his wife would be okay with him be there for his ex. I bet if she had been with her ex for 2 years he wouldn't be okay with it
Single parent putting their kid on their taxes is better than married. Also, would have been super easy to get full custody with him in a different country. Reasons don't make sense
Yup. Her reasons for not filing are bogus.
not everyone is literate when it comes to these things. hell i dont even know how these things work completely
And I bet his emotional breakdown was because of the loss of his ex wife and nothing to do with the new soon to be ex wife, despite his first wife dying of cancer, if he no longer loved her deeply and had moved on and loved his new wife deeply ,he would never have left
Agreed. He realized that his true love was dead and his wife and son were dead to him
He realized that he had absolutely positively NOTHING...zero.
Divorce the man baby. No one should have left his Pregnant wife to go to his dying ex-wife. I would have filed for divorce immediately
I swear this story was Jenny asking him to come to her side when his wife was a week away from being due and missed the delivery. The wife divorced him and he never got to see his child.
Sounds like every other POS story on Reddit!
I really like your voice as well as your cadence. Keep up the good work. 😊❤
It's not what you say but what you do. The ex may have wanted to get back to OP and his son, but nothing he did showed it. Boo hoo for him.
This is a very old story on Reddit.
I have no sympathy for men like Tom. As for Jenny, she had her family, why didn't they go and take care of her when she was in her deathbed. This idiot wanted to play savior, and screwed up big time. Him crying is BS, and he can shove up his crying where the sun doesn't shine. He totally avoided his pregnant wife, and even after that, he absolutely ghosted his wife and child.
Also, I don't understand the stupid logic of OP not wanting to divorce for the last 2½ years, and still expecting to rekindle with him was annoying as hell. She probably got some senses knocked in her head after such a long time of waiting.
Yeah even in the Reddit thé Jenny send op massages about sleep with Tom
@@hanma6480 Yes, and there is a lot of story missing, like the friends tried to gaslight OP for divorcing him, and people siding with him etc.
I feel like this is a rewrite of the story, if I rememeber correctly the one I knew, the husband wasn't honnest with the australia bit and did it at the last moment letting OP guessing it based on a mail and make an ultimatum for him to come back in a week. And OP wasn't pregnante in this one.
@@gabrielrognon6238 Yes, you are right, even I do remember that. They just changed a few tit bits in the story, and rewrote the story.
Another case where a man doesn't understand tge meaning if the vows he made to the OP. He certainly held up the vows he has made with his ex-wife, but thise wre terminated upon his divorce from her. Seems he had forgotten that. His #2 priority should have been his current pregnant wife not an ex. She should have had other people around her yo help her, but no. She was selfish and caused tge ending of her ex-husbands 2nd marriage. I wo der hiw many marriages he'll go through before he finally wakes up and realizes he needs to change.
Finally!! Someone calls out Jenny for her unconscionable selfishness. Imagine her believing that her comfort was worth destroying a marriage and the trauma to a newborn child. I can't imagine anyone having good feelings towards that woman.
Any person knows that has common sense that all you had to do was send the divorce papers to the ex-wife's home because that's where he resides at and have been residing for the past 2 years even that year you could have sent the divorce papers there because he was going for a year all it took was that year because he abandoned you and then technically abandoned his child.
These are the worst story lines because it only to me makes op look bad that she waited all that time and talked about to give him some f****** divorce papers that she could have sent to his ex-wife house
Husband knew the divorce was coming and he thought if he didnt talk to op for all that time then it wouldn't happen. Its sad that they died but now this will forever be in his mind was it worth sacrificing your family so your ex wasn't alone in her final days. Because none of their friends could do it. It had to be Tom. Also you know for those 2 years he was showering her with love and teeating her like they were still together.
I remember hearing a similar story where the husband's ex milked her cancer and hyped it up to be worse. He went to help her and ended up cheating on his wife. He was shocked because wife was divorcing him and his ex was suing him for child support. She thought he was rich but it was all wifes money. They also had a prenup so he got nothing for cheating. It was then husband's friends revealed her cancer wasn't that savere and was extremely treatable.
Also he did take his wifes moeny without asling to be with his ex. He called her and said he knew she would understand
You cannot lose something that you threw away I have no sympathy for the husband whatsoever 🤷
You waited two years for her to die and he left while you where pregnant and he thinks he can just walk back like he never been away I don't think he loves you because he abandoned you she is both his emotional and physical love please don't tell me they didn't carry on as if he was not divorced so he annoyed his son doesn't know him what did he think that the child would magically know he was the father I would divorce him on the grounds of abandoning please don't waste any more years
He is a selfish person who did not care enough for you or your baby
He did not support you or your son he really thought babies love on fresh air they don't is he that deluded about this fantasy of waving a magic wand and the wife would be waiting like a loyal lap dog they where emotionally still in love with her and I sure he was sleeping with her if she had survived he would have abandoned you with out a back ward glance his grieving for her not the loss of you and your son
This is what I said...he left her to fend for herself while raising a baby all by herself with no financial help from him! She didn't sign up to be a single parent when they decided to have a baby and he abandoned her to do it all alone.