Sending much love ❤ I’m just trying to define what ambition is for me now, not what others have defined it in my life. I understand achieving anything in life could be considered having an ambition of some sort, I just wanted to talk about my process working through pressures to always be doing more and succeeding more… instead, enjoying what is enough for me and choosing not to compare, only to do my best within the confines of my own life. As someone who has struggled with workaholism and being quite anxious earlier in life, this has been a meaningful journey to me to ask myself not what I think I should want out of life, but what I truly want. And yes, I suppose this is ambitious! But I need to use words to describe what I’m trying to say, and those words can be interpreted in many ways, so I hope that this video shows that of course I have wanted to work hard to survive (and of course thrive), but that I have let go of what I previously considered ‘ambitious’ to embrace a new way of living… a very ambitious one at that: cultivating a loving interior life and finding gratitude and joy in the every day.
You are very beautiful inside and out. Heartfelt congratulations on your soon to be bundle of love and joy! You are going to be a most exquisite mother. I have learned a lot from you over the years and am very happy for you. Sending love to you. Bendicion! Cindy from Puerto Rico. 💕💕💕💕💕
I loved this video! As a mom I always get asked what my next step is, how I will grow, how I will expand my business. I just want to enjoy my kids, live in peace, be kind and help others❤
My first cousin Asia will curl up in her reading space for hours and just read 😂😂😂 as little girls was like come on, let’s play together (rode bikes, play hop scotch or get into makeup)💄 ❤ reading is power. God bless everyone here who has been through hell and back. We’re still standing 🙌🏼✨🙏🏼💫
My instant thought when you said "I was asked how I was going to change the world" was, you've already figured that out. Your videos leave a positive impact on so many people.
Intentionally living slowly and not always conforming to the world and its views of how to "live the right way", is one of the most freeing things ever✨️🌻
I concur. I studied at the finest universities and worked in management of a corporate for 25 years before slowing down. I'd tell you you don't miss anything in life. Money didn't give me the happiness that freedom gives me.
I agree! Yes, every job has its ups and downs but personally, I think if I ever own a bookstore (I want to! ), I am gonna live there and read books forever😍☺
I graduated high school in 1976, a time when women were told we can do it all. If we weren't doing it all, we were somehow letting down all of womanhood. So, I did, I have 3 advanced degrees, and 4 children. I worked full time and took care of family...or at least I thought I was. I had a nanny taking care of my kids and wearing myself out being active every waking minute of every day. When my kids were grown, I left my big life, retired early, and now live in a 4-room farmhouse where I spend my time in my art studio or just doing nothing. I spend time with my grandchildren and family...life is slow and simple. I am so glad you are seeing there is a plus to slow and simple in your younger years. Enjoy.
That push to make women feel the way you did, in the 70s, really took mothers away from so many of us kids. My Gen X group mostly raised ourselves. But I'm glad you finally get to enjoy just being, and bathing in simplicity and contentment. What a wonderful thing. 😊
Ironically, the Women's Lib movement created a generation of latch key kids who learned how to be unapologetically independent. I personally want to thank you (and my mother) on behalf of Gen X for your over achievement, over extension & provement because you believed that things could change and women could truly be the economic equals of men. All those shoulder pads worn by petite women in the board room huddle w/the boys did not go unnoticed or unappreciated; we are very lucky your generation made the sacrifices she did. Enjoy your retirement, you have truly earned it & know that we carry the baton!
I am exactly same. I’ve had folks ask me how I just stay home with no big plans or excursions. I’ve always loved using time to daydream and read. I never need to go out to find fulfillment. I love living quietly and peacefully with compassion and kindness. Thank you for your lovely videos.
Being a mother is doing something with your life and being a great one can change the world, todays world doesn’t recognize the value of being a present and patient mother but it is the cornerstone of society
This channel is one of my favourite safe spaces, it’s the digital equivalent a warm hug, a cosy blanket, eating hot cookies and petting my dog - all at once 😊
Yes! And she is learning young to embrace who she is instead of trying to fit other's molds for her. The lord Jesus tried to tell me years ago... "I just want you to totally,totally, totally be yourself." I couldn't do it. I was a Pastor's wife in a small church in a small town with high expectations of myself along with the expectations of others to surmount. Only now at age 75 am I allowing myself to just be me. Not very social, though I love people. Not going out much. Puttering when I'm physically able. Enjoying books & youtube. I am content being old. Thank you for your lovely videos, Cottage fairy!❤
Long ago I succumbed to my Hobbit nature, lol. It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life. I'm never bored. But I absolutely love solitude and doing nothing, I always have. It's lovely to see so many others who feel the same. Lots of people cannot relate at all, lol.
It's quite sad that the system teaches us to "be busy" and it's looked up on. At a phase in my life where I experienced solitude and nature, a lot of guilt and other feelings of unworthiness came up due to a lack of "productivity". When you look at animals though, they don't question their existence. They simply just lay on the ground and watch the day the go by. Overtime, I let those negative feelings go and accepted just being.
Never bored! So wonderful. It does not occur to modern humans how much of a liability boredom is. The American notion of freedom means the freedom to do anything you want, pursue any interest, wealth, pleasure, etc. But what about the freedom from having to do any of that? The freedom of a mind at rest, one that does not require constant stimulation just to feel okay. *That* is the real freedom. Be well. :)
@@mollyswanner1607 Yeah but the comment tries to paint a rosy picture of life, which is the exact opposite of reality. In real life, you always have to think about the money first and foremost.
The saddest part of having this personality is being around mean people. Otherwise, living alone and not desiring material things brings a lot of peace. I’m glad you have people that love and support you ❤
I'm 22. I have no ambition in life. Many times I feel like something's wrong with me for not having any drive, specially when I compare myself to people my age. I really love this quote: "we're not here to change the world, we're here to learn to love it as it is". Thank you for being an inspiration. I feel a little better about myself and my "lack of ambition" thanks to you ❤
I’m 22 as well and feel like i wrote this myself. I feel guilty or embarrassed when people asked “what do you do”. Because I didn’t go to college and I have no real desire to. I’ve never had a career goal or had an epiphany of “that’s what I want to be!” All I knew since a young age up until now is that I wanted a cottage or small home off in the woods with chickens and small animals. A garden to care for and live a simple life. It’s sad that a lot of people deem that ambitious-less or boring. I know I want to read my books and live off my own land. I guess it’s just the “how” I’m going to get there for me.
@@unaestheticarri6487you. Take action on your dreams . Start growing food in pots, learn to sew and mend. Learn how to use tools. Learn about the animals you want to keep. All this while saving for your dream.
I think ambition is over rated. There is nothing wrong with just being happy and living life on your terms. Especially in the US the idea of always driving for something more is ridiculous.
THis is all well and good as long as you are financially stable. The CF clearly has wealth from her family or spouse that affords her the luxury of staying at home. Do NOT neglect your finantical stability. Take it from a 55 year old.
"No ambition" keeps you open to opportunity & you can decide whether you take it or not. It's the ultimate position of freedom. "Success " is someone else's imposed construct. Enjoy your life, thats all anyone needs to do.
@@loosiluShe also has a youtube channel with over 1.5mil subscribers. It's pretty disingenuous to claim not to have ambition when you're a successful social media influencer. These videos take a lot of work and editing. Yet she portrays her life as just sitting around her bookstore with nothing to do. I'm kind of disappointed in the blantent lies.
I have never been ambitious but through my 20s, 30s, & most of my 40s I felt guilty about this. Then I found myself alone, very little money & learnt how to survive & enjoy simple pleasures & make do with very little & embraced a simpler life & gave myself permission to feel ok about not being ambitious. We only have one life & if we can live it well & not hurt others then it’s a life well lived.
I'm in my 50s and have realised that I am happiest in nature or solitude/meditation: immediately after experiencing this, I feel the most at peace. Relationships or the thought of them never really suited me as I am forgetful and lose focus too easily with my wandering mind.
She said : "There are healthy ways to have ambitions where it doesn't mean that you are going to be happy once you achieve those goals". This should be my rule of life from today. ❤
That’s so nice. Being a mother is the most important job, when you think about it. Because you are literally raising human beings, the next generation. 😊
I’m a pediatrician, and my work is so meaningful and I am so grateful for that. But being a mother has been my true calling, and it has meant more to me than anything else I have done. Cheers to moms.
You said a powerfully familiar thing, that everything you thought would make you happy didn’t. That was true for me as well. My husband of 42 years and I raised 6; 4boys, 2girls, and they have all become model adults true to their individual passions interests, and pursuits. .. and have their own beautiful families and all live 15 minutes away in their tree lined community, sub-divisions. It was truly a labor of love to be a stay home mom for 25 years, because I had originally romanticized the thought of motherhood because I thought that being a mom would make me happy and truly it didn’t, because I don’t like conflict and raising human beings-let alone 6- is all about resolving conflicts, conflicts of ideas, and temperament. I’m a homebody and love quietude and they were vibrant social bodies😅, but thankfully Thankfully I survived the long night, and now, it is day, and I smile and wonder how I survived it all. The story is told and now the pen is in their hands to write the next chapters of a family.. and if I had known it would be so hard, I would have fortified myself with practical and tactical 😅training for workplace conflict resolution 😅 which is what a home becomes for the mother. The work of raising adults is no crystal stair, or flowered garden, it is the trenches of life in heart break and heart building.
I’m 45 with 12 yr old twins and a 13 yr old daughter. It is an emotionally difficult age to get through anyway and I wish my husband understood the mental amount of work in making sure they have a good foundation. He bought a business 6 yrs ago (married 23 years) it’s changed him, we have very different values now. Not sure what the future looks like and where I belong. I’m doing a bit of therapy on the side to contribute financially. I am passionate about mental health but my focus is the kids. Not forever, just for now. Many traumas can happen between 12-17 and I want to be a safe person for them. Not sure why I just wrote so much. My marriage hasn’t been easy. But separating now doesn’t seem like a good thing for any of them so I shall keep on going. Thanks for ur channel, u r a gift!!
This is the type of content our busy, competitive, “always worried about everything” society needs to start consuming. This is the true definition of being FREE in your life. Congratulations for being one of very few people to experience what real freedom is about these days ❤
I only WISH I could have realized that lesson at your age, always felt the pressure from all sides that I wasn't doing enough and all I wanted to do was be home with my kids, garden, cook, knit, sew and read. I am in my retirement years and learning how to ignore anyone or anything that tries to rush me and it has been a challenge. This world has always been too speeded up for this girl.....I LOVE your book store😍 and you are just glowing young lady! Stay the course Paola, you are definitely on the right track💕🧚♀
That is very true it is really hard to unlearn what has been drilled into us and affected us from a very young age as though we are not enough until we prove our worth based on society's current standards. I think in some ways social media has been good in this sense that we can connect far more easily with people who have found their truth and who know how to separate their lives and goals from what others expect of them which is so encouraging and helps us take that step. I am a stay at home mom in my early 30s and I often feel I am still fighting against this or having to justify my decision to some people who are intrusive and I really have to unlearn this. I hope you continue to grow and learn and enjoy your retirement on your own terms.
I was terrified as a teenager of never living up to my expectations, that I'd miss out on a chance of greatness, that I would "waste" my time if I wasn't pursuing my biggest dream or aspiration... that I needed to do something important on big scale... and now, here I am living an average/normal life I never imagined, and all I really care about now is spending time with the people I love. I'm so much happier knowing myself, knowing that what I truly desire is the space to dream but no obligation to make it reality, to enjoy friends and family, to create art and express my feelings. Paola, I relate so much to this video.
One of the best sayings I have ever heard during my 63 years of life is "I'm a human being.... not a human doing"😊 We don't have to be busy all the time and we're not lazy just because we're not doing anything. Live life how you want to.
Im recovering from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue and prioritising my health for the first time, before external attainments, chased my whole life. In truth, that phase is over, something new and healthier awaits while I slowly rebuild my life creatvely.
I have recently found myself in this same place - no ambition, no goals, no striving. Just experiencing, just living, just being. Its beautiful. No weight, no pressure, no expectation. Just deep breaths. I feel like this has been the answer all along.
@@yungmentalproblems it takes a long time to get to a place where this can feel comfortable. The idea of this used to be hell for me too when I was younger.
thank you for validating my need for a slow, gentle life. My nervous system cannot keep up withe the typical American life, nor do I really want to- it is devoid of meaning. I love sitting in our apple orchard and drinking tea, watching our dog play and holding my partner’s hand in silence. Thank you for being you!
I don’t think it’s that you don’t have ambition in life per say. Ambition doesn’t have to equal career goals. I think, wanting to live life in a way that feels fulfilling to you, and having a dedication to that goal is a type of ambition in itself. I say this all because I myself have been having many of the same kinds of thoughts as you, and it’s refreshing, so refreshing, to hear somebody else give voice to those feelings. It made me feel less alone and less guilty for not wanting to give in to the social pressure to live by other people’s standards.
Those words ring true, "To grow, to be kind". My father used to say, 'If everyone was just a bit kinder to each other then the troubles in the world would disappear'. I love these words too 🌷🌹🌻🌿
I feel that us old souls came here this time around to relax and fully enjoy all there is on our beautiful earth. Nothing better for myself than to observe and explore nature- even in my own backyard.❤
what do you mean you've not "done something"?? your vlogs have definitely done something for me!! they are the remedy to my sleepless nights when my thoughts are too noisy, and hearing your perspective on life helps me feel less alone in the fast-paced, overachieving environment that i find myself in 🥺 thank you, my one and only cottage fairy 💕😌
Thank you Cottage Fairy for always keeping me grounded during times of pressure in my studies. Sometimes I get stuck in the unhealthy mindset that if I don’t get top results in my degree, then I am not sacrificing my happiness enough to succeed. I used to think that thinking that way made me admirable and strong. I have been trying to live more presently and romanticizing my life. Things are so much more interesting now; I am achieving better academic results, I am happier and I am less stressed about the future. I’m still figuring everything out, but trying to enjoy, and trust the process. Thank you thank you thank you ❤ I hold your videos so dear to me.
I needed this today. I often feel guilty or shamed for not having big goals or dreams, but I enjoy my own company, and I love to be left to myself. Comforting to know I’m not broken, and I’m not alone in how I feel
You have a poet's heart. You feel the seasons of your life and the world around you. It seems you are exactly who you are going to be. Someone who lives for kindness and the enrichment of life.
No matter what society wants to tell you, the eternal chase after money or fame is not the way to get happy or find peace in life. The sad thing is, society exepcts everyone to always work harder, do even more things on top of the things you already do. But the thing, is not everyone is made the same. Some people (i count myself among those) are just not made fot this style of life. Sending much positive energy.
I'm 54 and have done it all. I have had an exciting life. Now i know...the best time was having my babies...being a mother. That was the most wonderful times. Slow living spending days with my children. This was my greatest achievement...raising good hearted now grown children. Being a mother is the greatest gift in life. That was my heart ambition. To be a good mother. That is the highest success! You will be in awe when your baby arrives. Nothing in life compares.
this speaks to me so deeply. i quit my job at the library two years ago and took a part time job at my friends accounting firm. it has given me the gift of more time but it sadly has given me less luxuries with the pay cut. ironically i was burnt out at the library because i felt so tired and under immense pressure that wasn’t my own. now i’m trying to get my old job back because i have a gentler, holistic approach to life that i just needed time and space to cultivate and heal deep wounds. thank you for sharing your beautiful, slow, extraordinary life. as a highly sensitive person i feel seen and not so alone ❤
With each passing year, I feel the need to live slower and more peacefully. I do have many goals and dreams, such as making my living as an artist and TH-camr a reality while traveling the world, but it's not in some crazy adventurous way. I want to travel slowly, taking my time learning about each country and culture on a deeper level, spending many months in each place I live, and spend my days outside painting the landscapes and scenes that I see. I also do want to settle down sooner than later, preferably within the next few years. To be able to buy a small plot of land in a forest and live out a peaceful life growing my own food and being present with my future family. Most of my ambitions are creative and spiritual, and I don't want to stress about the projects I'm working on. I want to be grounded and create because I love what I do, not based off what society tells me I should do. I recently turned 30 and have been feeling this deeper than ever before. Yes, I'm working hard trying to make these dreams a reality, but I'm also reminding myself not to rush through life, to simply be present and enjoy each passing moment. Listen to your soul. 🌲💙
Lovely, what kinds of youtube videos would you ideally make? I love to support small, new channels and give feedback about how they can improve (whenever they want it)
@@baejay798 I'm honestly already making he kinds of videos that I want to be making. I'm not currently traveling at the moment, but will be moving to Bulgaria in September. I'm looking forward to the videos I'll be making then. 😊❤️
I'm in my early 20s and I have realized that I don't know what I want to do anymore. When I was a teenager I had so many ideas, but now I just want to live peacefully in the countryside with a garden. I don't have as much passion as I used to for college. Sometimes this makes me feel like a failure. Though, watching you is helping me through these thoughts.
I completely understand you. I'm in my mid 20s and the more I interact with the job market and the world in general, the more I feel the need for a simple, slow and poetic life. With time, I've realized I'm not made for the kind of lifestyle that society pressures us to follow. I don't want to always be in a rush, I despise the idea of being confined to a desk for most of my day, I dread the idea of feeling helpless and stuck in a dehumanizing routine. This can't be life, can it? We are here for such a brief time, I can't imagine spending it like that. Of course working is necessary and can also be rewarding, but I simply cannot imagine myself in a 9-5 soulless job for the rest of my life, surrounded by equally soulless people. There's so much inside of me that needs nurturing, so many dreams and things going on... I just want peace and time, and kindred spirits to share life with.
@@megancater5441 Glad to know I'm not the only one! Do you have someone in your life that shares this view? I personally don't, and it's making me feel quite lonely.
@@sundance1372Not specifically, but my husband has come around to this idea after all we have been through (so technically now I have someone in my life feeling this way, but haven't most of the time), so hopefully we can make it happen soon.
My son and daughter in law had a baby girl about 7 weeks ago. They didn’t have an extra room for a nursery either. So the made a little nursery for baby Ava in the corner of their bedroom and it’s adorable. They love that Ava is close to them every night. Your little spot for your baby will be magical too.
For someone with no ambition you sure do a lot - running a book store, starting a family, keeping animals, maintaining a TH-cam channel channel, craft projects etc.
You know… I must thank you first for putting the time and effort into making this video 🙏🏾 The video is on pause at 0:52 secs as I write this. That’s how much it already resonated with me. I really want to appreciate you for this. 🙏🏾 I don’t know what you going to say as I press play but I’m sure it’s what I need to hear. 😁👍
I always hear the Lord say to me “Just be and I will do.” And the scripture in Isaiah “In returning to Me and resting in Me you shall be saved. In quietness and confidence will be your strength.” The profound blessing of a surrendered life. So blessed!
Paola, I've often felt that my life amounted to so little , until I sat back and realized that I was a good and loving mother. I reap the joys of that now - my daughter and I are so close, we have a loving relationship. You're doing such meaningful things with your life, so keep going in this direction. Love and hugs from Mossel Bay in South Africa 🇿🇦
Life is about making your inner self happy ,loving yourself and not being pulled in by drama ,that’s ambition,make ing your soul happy ,whatever that may be ,being content in your own world ,material things and money will never make you happy ,making your own material things is what rewarding,big ambitions is what has ruined this beautiful world ,you got this right 🥰🥰🥰
I'm handicaped and chronically ill. This is such a good help to see someone not striving to always do more. I always feel guilty about resting. I saved your video for those times. Thank you
Our thoughts have great power. You are powerful. The body is just a suit. Busy does not equate to a fulfilling life. Most aha moments come in the stillness. Be well!
You have over 1.5 million subscribers! That is a major accomplishment. ❤ you're also a great artist. You're on your way to the best accomplishment of your life.....motherhood! In my view.......you're a super star! ❤
I totally feel you. So many years i woke up every day with the question Whats the meaning of my day? Whats my contribution? I felt that if I dont do smth meaningful , my life has no meaning. Nowadays, when I just live by the day, soft and without goals, I feel free. And light. And alive. And thankful.
I’m of the same vintage graduated in 1977. I’ve not ever figured out my “ambition” but I’ve done a lot of different things over the course of my life. To see a young person with so much self awareness and wisdom makes my heart hopeful for the generations to come. I love this channel so much! I love to read the comments, I also leave this space with something to reflect on.
Hi Paola 💫 You are absolutely glowing!!! You are always such a breath of fresh air in this strange world we now live in. Your videos are so inspirational and calming. Your little bundle of joy is so lucky to have such a wonderful Mama to take care of them and raise them with all the wonderful values you practice. Many blessings to you and Luke as time for your new arrival draws near every day. 🙏🏻💫
Impacting 1,4 Million people's lives is clearly "changing the world"! Success is ready for harvesting dear Paola! Thank you for taking so much time and effort to enchant our hearts and souls with your videos! Thank you for showing and sharing your feelings, your ups and downs - which give so much hope, inner peace and an outlook how living with what is in the moment can look like and lead to. A beloved old teacher of mine once said: there is no other outstanding task we are born with than to fill our daily life with meaning and love for all that lives and developing a kind heart. This is what you do right before our eyes! Thank you Paola - please continue to inspire and enchant us!
After losing my baby brother to fetanyl last year, everything in my life had to change. I was in the darkest place I could ever know, and upon giving up entirely, I found you. And i found someone who thought the way i did. That most things human stress about are truely unimportant in the grand scheme of things. Most of how we live our lives is based on societial norms. And i wanted out. I wanted to throw everything In my life away that didn't serve my souls experience. I had this constant thought, I just want to be a cottage fairy in the woods, connecting to mother earth. I looked up "cottage fairy" on TH-cam, and came across your videos. When I say they changed everything, you changed EVERYTHING for me. I truly feel that I am exactly where I was always meant to be. For me, your videos are the source of light that led me out of darkness. And I am forever grateful for how you impacted me, and helped me find peace and tranquility through my grief and loss. So, from the most sincere place in my soul, from one earth sister to another, I thank you and wish you all the most unique and beautiful blessings in your life ❤❤❤
I don't focus on "doing something big or successful or changing the world" I focus on being kind to all those that cross my path..human and animal..its the best I can do. Kindness is a ripple affect so if I'm kind to someone and they are kind and so on..world changes by all of us...for me personal "success" is not how much money I make or what kind of house I live in..its about being at peace with myself and I can say I'm there more and more each day..so I feel successful.
We're not lazy, we're just spending our energy on things that cannot be seen or measured by others. That doesn't make them any less real- but maybe all the more so. I've written about these emotions privately for a long time, though have had trouble explaining them aloud. Never heard someone so perfectly word what I feel. Thank you ❤
What a wonderful morning! I have a delicious cup of coffee, and three of my favorite youtube channels posted new videos! When I'm done starting the day right, my garden awaits my presence, on a lovely spring morning in the Rocky Mountains. May we all find peace, joy and love today! Go give someone a hug!
Even though I am 70 years old (yikes, how did that happen) I feel you and I are kindred spirits. You are more than enough just the way you are! I still work full time and get asked constantly when are you going to retire? All the years I stayed home to be with my 3 cildren I was asked, "aren't you bored? When are you going back to work etc" The only voice that matters in your inner voice. You are following that voice and you will be fine.
Your hair is absolutely beautiful! I love your videos! So calming and shows us that life belongs to us. God has blessed us to live life to the fullest in His creation.
I'm grateful that I don't get bored and enjoy living a slower-paced life (despite living in a fast-paced city which serves as the "center of power." I have multiple advanced degrees, and am perfectly satisfied without being defined by any of them to "be" anything. Contentment is a gift from God and I'm grateful to have it. I hope you and your husband have a healthy baby and enjoy being parents.
It`s so funny, you don`t try to change the world, but with those videos, that is are exactly what you are doing Paola ❤ Your videos change so much for me. Whenever I am anxious or stressed, I come back to them, it`s the best medicine I came across ✨
Mother Teresa said, if you want to change the world, go home and love your family. I think this is part of the core identity of women. So glad you are at peace with where you are in life!
@@egrace3738Myslím že tady jde spíše o ten citát samotný (tedy o to, co je řečeno), než o to, kdo to řekl... Mnoho výroků Matky Terezy je velmi hlubokých a moudrých, i když ona sama MOŽNÁ v pořádku nebyla. (?)
Thank you for creating this amazingly simple and sweet videos. I enjoy your videos whenever i need some grounding reminders. When ever i need to take some short breaks from my life. Enjoying your videos in my free time with my favorite side bites. We all need to get these reminder time to time. Love, Anushka
I love the clarity of instead of making something of your life, you’ve chose to live it. That’s a beautiful goal. We lose ourselves in the hustle and bustle of trying to make something of our lives.
I cannot even BEGIN to say how I relate to this! We are pretty much taught from the moment we can think and understand that we should decide how we’ll fit into the capitalist machine of do, do, do, make more money, work more, sell your soul to your career, like it’s the most important thing ever. For a very long time, I stressed over how I could please those people, but nowadays, I am perfectly content working a day job and then going home to my partner and my hobbies and just doing what I want, without worrying about what people think and how I ambitious I really am. Sometimes I am jealous that others have that drive to do “great things”, but I have to remind myself that that’s their journey, not mine. Right now, my journey involves exploring new things (like traditional magic and mindfulness) and giving more grace to myself. Thanks so much for all your beautiful and validating work!
Expecting yourself to live up to your potential, and reach a certain level of success, is just the worst. It puts so much pressure on a person. It makes you forget to enjoy life, and to forget that you're worth a lot just because you're a person. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
All of your videos are very comforting, healing, and resonate with me deeply. Thank you for sharing your journey and your vulnerability. Not all of us are built to deal with, in a healthy way, the demands and expectations of modern society (such as chasing big ambitions). For those who can, more power to them. But there’s also nothing wrong with those who prefer, need, and appreciate the slower, simpler life. Like you, I enjoy a “boring” life and spending time with myself. I’ve struggled with the guilt that I sometimes feel when spending a good deal of time at home without any “plans.” There is plenty to do at home anyway, but over time I’ve realized that this lifestyle is preferable and necessary in order for me to be the best version of myself. And it is truly wonderful just to “be.” Thank you for reminding us all of that. I admire how you are able to live a life with purpose while staying true to yourself and listening to yourself. You’re a beautiful soul. Congratulations to you and Luke on welcoming your first child! All best wishes.
My journey is never over. Now at 60 I feel free to do what I please. So I carry on looking after myself first and my family comes second. Health and happiness, a life of ease. I've traveled and find no need to go outside myself for validation. 🎉love your videos glad I happened upon your channel.❤
"But I'm not tired anymore...." I think this is a lesson that was hardest for me to learn. I think that this world today drives us to be more, do more. We are given tasks over what we can do, and a great deal do accomplish these tasks, but at what price? It has been difficult for me to learn this lesson, to put my ambitions on hold to take care of myself and my family first. I'm glad I have learned that doing the most at light speed is no way for anyone to live. I'm glad I'm not tired anymore either.
Remember that so many people wish they could live without an ambition but they can't because they're pressured to have one , by their family's expectations and their society , they envy you and they wish they could have a simple life like yours (me one of them). There's no life better than the other I think that it's just our human nature to want to experience the opposite of what we have , we always have doubts even when everyone thinks we're the best , we can't be content with what we have , there's nothing wrong with that but it would be very relieving if we could appreciate what we have ❤ lots of love to you and your baby
Being a mommy is the greatest Adventure you’ll ever have. Enjoy every moment and just remember that good or bad, nothing lasts forever. Sweet cuddles or crying sleepless nights, it’s all worth it. Your greatest adventure is just beginning.
Thank you Paola for defining "Just Live". Taking the pressure off to be superhuman make one feel lighter and more appreciative about enjoying the details of life. You are a life savior.
All of what you’re saying does kind of go hand in hand with motherhood, and now the ‘ambition’ of becoming a mother is a fantastic vocation and it’ll change in all the best ways. I know you’ve safely delivered now and hope new motherhood is treating you well.
I, too, have been carrying around loads of pressure and haven’t figured out how to let it all go yet. I hope if you’re reading this, you are having a sweet and wonderful year. You are worth more than you think. Stay safe out there. You all are doing a wonderful job in whatever you are working on, even if it is yourself.
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Sending much love ❤ I’m just trying to define what ambition is for me now, not what others have defined it in my life. I understand achieving anything in life could be considered having an ambition of some sort, I just wanted to talk about my process working through pressures to always be doing more and succeeding more… instead, enjoying what is enough for me and choosing not to compare, only to do my best within the confines of my own life. As someone who has struggled with workaholism and being quite anxious earlier in life, this has been a meaningful journey to me to ask myself not what I think I should want out of life, but what I truly want. And yes, I suppose this is ambitious! But I need to use words to describe what I’m trying to say, and those words can be interpreted in many ways, so I hope that this video shows that of course I have wanted to work hard to survive (and of course thrive), but that I have let go of what I previously considered ‘ambitious’ to embrace a new way of living… a very ambitious one at that: cultivating a loving interior life and finding gratitude and joy in the every day.
Wishing you the best dear one.
Just relish this time, take care of yourself, and focus on the expectation of your sweet bundle of joy. 💕
You are very beautiful inside and out. Heartfelt congratulations on your soon to be bundle of love and joy! You are going to be a most exquisite mother. I have learned a lot from you over the years and am very happy for you. Sending love to you. Bendicion! Cindy from Puerto Rico. 💕💕💕💕💕
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I loved this video! As a mom I always get asked what my next step is, how I will grow, how I will expand my business. I just want to enjoy my kids, live in peace, be kind and help others❤
Girl, same!!! I literally don’t want to do anything but just live and read.
Do you think having 1.5 million subs youtube channel is "doing nothing", and owning a store? This sole video was probably a week of hard work.
@@totoro888 sure Jan.
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My first cousin Asia will curl up in her reading space for hours and just read 😂😂😂 as little girls was like come on, let’s play together (rode bikes, play hop scotch or get into makeup)💄 ❤ reading is power. God bless everyone here who has been through hell and back. We’re still standing 🙌🏼✨🙏🏼💫
My instant thought when you said "I was asked how I was going to change the world" was, you've already figured that out. Your videos leave a positive impact on so many people.
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Amen!
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Her videos are potent and surge with truths. When you're authentic to the meaning of your life, you change the world.
I so agree with that ❤
My motto: Do what makes you Happy even if the whole world says it's Useless or Boring.
Fabulous and what a lovely saying. ❤
amen to that!
Yep,you do you and fk everyone else!
Except if what makes you happy makes others unhappy. Such as eating 🍖🍖
@@rickysong91even more reason to eat 🍖
Intentionally living slowly and not always conforming to the world and its views of how to "live the right way", is one of the most freeing things ever✨️🌻
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I concur. I studied at the finest universities and worked in management of a corporate for 25 years before slowing down. I'd tell you you don't miss anything in life. Money didn't give me the happiness that freedom gives me.
And it's like you're actually taking in existence and not just hopping from one week to another, endlessly.
"Working at my bookstore seems like a very boring job." Honestly, it sounds like a dream come true.
Is it possible to work there and pay the bills easily? Seems like people have to work like slaves just to have a place to live.
@@Anubis424242 was afordable before the forced lockdowns which i never did
Yes it does ❤️🤗
I agree! Yes, every job has its ups and downs but personally, I think if I ever own a bookstore (I want to! ), I am gonna live there and read books forever😍☺
I graduated high school in 1976, a time when women were told we can do it all. If we weren't doing it all, we were somehow letting down all of womanhood. So, I did, I have 3 advanced degrees, and 4 children. I worked full time and took care of family...or at least I thought I was. I had a nanny taking care of my kids and wearing myself out being active every waking minute of every day. When my kids were grown, I left my big life, retired early, and now live in a 4-room farmhouse where I spend my time in my art studio or just doing nothing. I spend time with my grandchildren and family...life is slow and simple. I am so glad you are seeing there is a plus to slow and simple in your younger years. Enjoy.
That push to make women feel the way you did, in the 70s, really took mothers away from so many of us kids. My Gen X group mostly raised ourselves. But I'm glad you finally get to enjoy just being, and bathing in simplicity and contentment. What a wonderful thing. 😊
Your career gave you the ability to retire early. Most millenials have a retirement plan called "death".
@@maryoleary2037 her sacrifices gave her kids a good life. No struggling.
@@katashley1031 no way my mother and father could have supported their 3 kids on his one salary. We still struggled even then.
Ironically, the Women's Lib movement created a generation of latch key kids who learned how to be unapologetically independent. I personally want to thank you (and my mother) on behalf of Gen X for your over achievement, over extension & provement because you believed that things could change and women could truly be the economic equals of men. All those shoulder pads worn by petite women in the board room huddle w/the boys did not go unnoticed or unappreciated; we are very lucky your generation made the sacrifices she did. Enjoy your retirement, you have truly earned it & know that we carry the baton!
I am exactly same. I’ve had folks ask me how I just stay home with no big plans or excursions. I’ve always loved using time to daydream and read. I never need to go out to find fulfillment. I love living quietly and peacefully with compassion and kindness. Thank you for your lovely videos.
I absolutely agree with you 100% ❤
Same here
Me toooo! 🎉 💚🌏💚
Same here ❤
Same here ❤
Being a mother is doing something with your life and being a great one can change the world, todays world doesn’t recognize the value of being a present and patient mother but it is the cornerstone of society
The value of a safe, present, supportive and patient parent (mother and/or father) can indeed be immeasurable.
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Well said. We are undervalued.
So so true!! Raising happy and kind children is the best way to change the world ❤
❤❤❤Amen!!❤❤❤
This channel is one of my favourite safe spaces, it’s the digital equivalent a warm hug, a cosy blanket, eating hot cookies and petting my dog - all at once 😊
And with a mug of hot chocolate...😂
I think all introverts must love your channel.
Yes! And she is learning young to embrace who she is instead of trying to fit other's molds for her. The lord Jesus tried to tell me years ago... "I just want you to totally,totally, totally be yourself." I couldn't do it. I was a Pastor's wife in a small church in a small town with high expectations of myself along with the expectations of others to surmount.
Only now at age 75 am I allowing myself to just be me. Not very social, though I love people. Not going out much. Puttering when I'm physically able. Enjoying books & youtube. I am content being old.
Thank you for your lovely videos, Cottage fairy!❤
We do
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Absolutely. This is how I want to live my life ❤
@@ladykay3333 Right!
This young woman is wise beyond her years. She blesses all her viewers her wisdom. May her birthing experience be kind.
Amen to that-a very special soul. ❤️
Beautifully said. And best wishes to Paola and her little darling boy
Amen!!! Never to loose that gentle spirit she has!! And not allow anyone to ruin that…
Long ago I succumbed to my Hobbit nature, lol. It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life. I'm never bored. But I absolutely love solitude and doing nothing, I always have. It's lovely to see so many others who feel the same. Lots of people cannot relate at all, lol.
Yes!❤
It's quite sad that the system teaches us to "be busy" and it's looked up on. At a phase in my life where I experienced solitude and nature, a lot of guilt and other feelings of unworthiness came up due to a lack of "productivity". When you look at animals though, they don't question their existence. They simply just lay on the ground and watch the day the go by. Overtime, I let those negative feelings go and accepted just being.
@@evak3356 This is beautiful.
@@evak3356”Only a slave quantifies itself through productivity.” -RJ Spina
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That’s just what ‘the system’ teaches/programs us to be, sadly.
Never bored! So wonderful. It does not occur to modern humans how much of a liability boredom is. The American notion of freedom means the freedom to do anything you want, pursue any interest, wealth, pleasure, etc. But what about the freedom from having to do any of that? The freedom of a mind at rest, one that does not require constant stimulation just to feel okay. *That* is the real freedom. Be well. :)
I believe in appreciating the smalls in life. One doesn't have to live for big events. The smalls can give you a beautiful life.
Yes. All of the threads in the blanket.
Beautiful and meaningful.
Yeah but where’s the money coming from to pay the bills?
@@anuragchakraborty8766 I don't think the comment was monetary related.
@@mollyswanner1607 Yeah but the comment tries to paint a rosy picture of life, which is the exact opposite of reality.
In real life, you always have to think about the money first and foremost.
”Only a slave quantifies itself through productivity.”
-RJ Spina
This is why i sleep all the time mom!
I needed to see this quote today more than you'll ever know. Thank you for commenting with this ❤
Ohhhh... I love that quote. Gotta save that for later.
Exactly a very obedient slave😂😂😂
Yeah well, only that they don't do it voluntarily... what an odd quote.
The saddest part of having this personality is being around mean people. Otherwise, living alone and not desiring material things brings a lot of peace. I’m glad you have people that love and support you ❤
Me too
I'm 22. I have no ambition in life. Many times I feel like something's wrong with me for not having any drive, specially when I compare myself to people my age. I really love this quote: "we're not here to change the world, we're here to learn to love it as it is". Thank you for being an inspiration. I feel a little better about myself and my "lack of ambition" thanks to you ❤
I’m 22 as well and feel like i wrote this myself. I feel guilty or embarrassed when people asked “what do you do”. Because I didn’t go to college and I have no real desire to. I’ve never had a career goal or had an epiphany of “that’s what I want to be!” All I knew since a young age up until now is that I wanted a cottage or small home off in the woods with chickens and small animals. A garden to care for and live a simple life. It’s sad that a lot of people deem that ambitious-less or boring. I know I want to read my books and live off my own land. I guess it’s just the “how” I’m going to get there for me.
@@unaestheticarri6487you. Take action on your dreams . Start growing food in pots, learn to sew and mend. Learn how to use tools. Learn about the animals you want to keep. All this while saving for your dream.
I wish I knew this when I was 22. Now I am 50 but doing Slow Living. Thank God I am not 80.
I think ambition is over rated. There is nothing wrong with just being happy and living life on your terms. Especially in the US the idea of always driving for something more is ridiculous.
THis is all well and good as long as you are financially stable. The CF clearly has wealth from her family or spouse that affords her the luxury of staying at home. Do NOT neglect your finantical stability. Take it from a 55 year old.
"No ambition" keeps you open to opportunity & you can decide whether you take it or not. It's the ultimate position of freedom. "Success " is someone else's imposed construct. Enjoy your life, thats all anyone needs to do.
Well said
Love this!!
Freedom is only possible if you can fund it. CF very obviously has family money to support herself. You MUST have your own money.
@@loosiluShe also has a youtube channel with over 1.5mil subscribers. It's pretty disingenuous to claim not to have ambition when you're a successful social media influencer. These videos take a lot of work and editing. Yet she portrays her life as just sitting around her bookstore with nothing to do. I'm kind of disappointed in the blantent lies.
@@guest_5992 Thank you! I thought I was the only one.
As a woman with a disability, you are giving my true heart a voice... JUST BE AND LET THAT BE ENOUGH...Thank You!
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I'm an old man in his sixties, doing his own art & craft thing. Never so old that I cannot be encouraged, so thank you for sharing your inner world. x
I have never been ambitious but through my 20s, 30s, & most of my 40s I felt guilty about this. Then I found myself alone, very little money & learnt how to survive & enjoy simple pleasures & make do with very little & embraced a simpler life & gave myself permission to feel ok about not being ambitious. We only have one life & if we can live it well & not hurt others then it’s a life well lived.
I'm in my 50s and have realised that I am happiest in nature or solitude/meditation: immediately after experiencing this, I feel the most at peace. Relationships or the thought of them never really suited me as I am forgetful and lose focus too easily with my wandering mind.
Correct 😊
She said : "There are healthy ways to have ambitions where it doesn't mean that you are going to be happy once you achieve those goals". This should be my rule of life from today. ❤
I will be 61 this year and still don't know what I want to be!
I think being a mother was my greatest calling. ❤
That’s so nice. Being a mother is the most important job, when you think about it. Because you are literally raising human beings, the next generation. 😊
I’m a pediatrician, and my work is so meaningful and I am so grateful for that. But being a mother has been my true calling, and it has meant more to me than anything else I have done. Cheers to moms.
I agree wholeheartedly ❤ my daughters are my world. I never needed to accomplish anything else other than their happiness
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Yes I agree with that
You said a powerfully familiar thing, that everything you thought would make you happy didn’t. That was true for me as well.
My husband of 42 years and I raised 6; 4boys, 2girls, and they have all become model adults true to their individual passions interests, and pursuits. .. and have their own beautiful families and all live 15 minutes away in their tree lined community, sub-divisions. It was truly a labor of love to be a stay home mom for 25 years, because I had originally romanticized the thought of motherhood because I thought that being a mom would make me happy and truly it didn’t, because I don’t like conflict and raising human beings-let alone 6- is all about resolving conflicts, conflicts of ideas, and temperament. I’m a homebody and love quietude and they were vibrant social bodies😅, but thankfully Thankfully I survived the long night, and now, it is day, and I smile and wonder how I survived it all. The story is told and now the pen is in their hands to write the next chapters of a family.. and if I had known it would be so hard, I would have fortified myself with practical and tactical 😅training for workplace conflict resolution 😅 which is what a home becomes for the mother. The work of raising adults is no crystal stair, or flowered garden, it is the trenches of life in heart break and heart building.
I’m 45 with 12 yr old twins and a 13 yr old daughter. It is an emotionally difficult age to get through anyway and I wish my husband understood the mental amount of work in making sure they have a good foundation. He bought a business 6 yrs ago (married 23 years) it’s changed him, we have very different values now. Not sure what the future looks like and where I belong. I’m doing a bit of therapy on the side to contribute financially. I am passionate about mental health but my focus is the kids. Not forever, just for now. Many traumas can happen between 12-17 and I want to be a safe person for them. Not sure why I just wrote so much. My marriage hasn’t been easy. But separating now doesn’t seem like a good thing for any of them so I shall keep on going. Thanks for ur channel, u r a gift!!
Well said.😊
This is the type of content our busy, competitive, “always worried about everything” society needs to start consuming. This is the true definition of being FREE in your life. Congratulations for being one of very few people to experience what real freedom is about these days ❤
I agree.
Hello Dear 💕 I also Love Slow Living and Slow Cooking. Ambition is overrated - Thanks for being you. Love from Canada 🇨🇦
I agree!
Well said!
I only WISH I could have realized that lesson at your age, always felt the pressure from all sides that I wasn't doing enough and all I wanted to do was be home with my kids, garden, cook, knit, sew and read. I am in my retirement years and learning how to ignore anyone or anything that tries to rush me and it has been a challenge. This world has always been too speeded up for this girl.....I LOVE your book store😍 and you are just glowing young lady! Stay the course Paola, you are definitely on the right track💕🧚♀
Same here
That is very true it is really hard to unlearn what has been drilled into us and affected us from a very young age as though we are not enough until we prove our worth based on society's current standards.
I think in some ways social media has been good in this sense that we can connect far more easily with people who have found their truth and who know how to separate their lives and goals from what others expect of them which is so encouraging and helps us take that step.
I am a stay at home mom in my early 30s and I often feel I am still fighting against this or having to justify my decision to some people who are intrusive and I really have to unlearn this. I hope you continue to grow and learn and enjoy your retirement on your own terms.
How were you able to afford that?
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I was terrified as a teenager of never living up to my expectations, that I'd miss out on a chance of greatness, that I would "waste" my time if I wasn't pursuing my biggest dream or aspiration... that I needed to do something important on big scale... and now, here I am living an average/normal life I never imagined, and all I really care about now is spending time with the people I love. I'm so much happier knowing myself, knowing that what I truly desire is the space to dream but no obligation to make it reality, to enjoy friends and family, to create art and express my feelings. Paola, I relate so much to this video.
100 % agree with every word couldn’t have said it better ❤️
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You are beautiful inside and out ❤😊
One of the best sayings I have ever heard during my 63 years of life is "I'm a human being.... not a human doing"😊 We don't have to be busy all the time and we're not lazy just because we're not doing anything. Live life how you want to.
I love this, thanks
“I absolutely love to be bored.” I felt that! I’d rather be bored than overwhelmed for sure.
What an intelligent way of looking at life, “simply live it!”
Im recovering from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue and prioritising my health for the first time, before external attainments, chased my whole life. In truth, that phase is over, something new and healthier awaits while I slowly rebuild my life creatvely.
Same!
The simple life is all I’ve ever wanted to be enough. Especially being kind most of all. There isn’t enough kindness in the world
Yes. Seems so many people have turned into ugly hearts and bullies. So very sad they don’t share in peace and kindness.
@@lc7169 Why should someone treat you with kindness if you are dirty dog?
I have recently found myself in this same place - no ambition, no goals, no striving. Just experiencing, just living, just being. Its beautiful. No weight, no pressure, no expectation. Just deep breaths. I feel like this has been the answer all along.
Yep, Even complete when JESUS is carrying the weight of burdens
This is hell for me
@@yungmentalproblems it takes a long time to get to a place where this can feel comfortable. The idea of this used to be hell for me too when I was younger.
@@Amz11_13 problem is.. how to pay bills
thank you for validating my need for a slow, gentle life. My nervous system cannot keep up withe the typical American life, nor do I really want to- it is devoid of meaning. I love sitting in our apple orchard and drinking tea, watching our dog play and holding my partner’s hand in silence. Thank you for being you!
:). I think most of humanity loves that:)
You will soon be doing the most fulfilling, and challenging “job” ever, MOTHERHOOD. Beat wishes
I don’t think it’s that you don’t have ambition in life per say. Ambition doesn’t have to equal career goals. I think, wanting to live life in a way that feels fulfilling to you, and having a dedication to that goal is a type of ambition in itself. I say this all because I myself have been having many of the same kinds of thoughts as you, and it’s refreshing, so refreshing, to hear somebody else give voice to those feelings. It made me feel less alone and less guilty for not wanting to give in to the social pressure to live by other people’s standards.
Those words ring true, "To grow, to be kind". My father used to say, 'If everyone was just a bit kinder to each other then the troubles in the world would disappear'. I love these words too 🌷🌹🌻🌿
Your channel is the equivalent to reading a Mary Oliver poem. Both of them just permanently alter my brain. So beautiful and simple and cozy.
Beyond busy-ness is boredom. Beyond boredom is peace. It's OK to just be and experience the miracle of life. Great video!
I feel that us old souls came here this time around to relax and fully enjoy all there is on our beautiful earth. Nothing better for myself than to observe and explore nature- even in my own backyard.❤
Paola! It's OK. The one thing categorically that we lose track of is, we are human beings, not human doings🤔
Yes, we are just human beings and we can’t do it all. 🤗
what do you mean you've not "done something"?? your vlogs have definitely done something for me!! they are the remedy to my sleepless nights when my thoughts are too noisy, and hearing your perspective on life helps me feel less alone in the fast-paced, overachieving environment that i find myself in 🥺 thank you, my one and only cottage fairy 💕😌
Thank you Cottage Fairy for always keeping me grounded during times of pressure in my studies. Sometimes I get stuck in the unhealthy mindset that if I don’t get top results in my degree, then I am not sacrificing my happiness enough to succeed. I used to think that thinking that way made me admirable and strong. I have been trying to live more presently and romanticizing my life. Things are so much more interesting now; I am achieving better academic results, I am happier and I am less stressed about the future. I’m still figuring everything out, but trying to enjoy, and trust the process. Thank you thank you thank you ❤ I hold your videos so dear to me.
I needed this today. I often feel guilty or shamed for not having big goals or dreams, but I enjoy my own company, and I love to be left to myself. Comforting to know I’m not broken, and I’m not alone in how I feel
You have a poet's heart. You feel the seasons of your life and the world around you. It seems you are exactly who you are going to be. Someone who lives for kindness and the enrichment of life.
Can u please explain what the term poets heart means?
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
"Kind," said the boy.
Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse
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thats so nice
No matter what society wants to tell you, the eternal chase after money or fame is not the way to get happy or find peace in life.
The sad thing is, society exepcts everyone to always work harder, do even more things on top of the things you already do. But the thing, is not everyone is made the same.
Some people (i count myself among those) are just not made fot this style of life.
Sending much positive energy.
I'm 54 and have done it all. I have had an exciting life. Now i know...the best time was having my babies...being a mother. That was the most wonderful times. Slow living spending days with my children. This was my greatest achievement...raising good hearted now grown children. Being a mother is the greatest gift in life. That was my heart ambition. To be a good mother. That is the highest success! You will be in awe when your baby arrives. Nothing in life compares.
Being a loving and caring mother is more than ENOUGH. Motherhood is a full time job 💛🌻
this speaks to me so deeply. i quit my job at the library two years ago and took a part time job at my friends accounting firm. it has given me the gift of more time but it sadly has given me less luxuries with the pay cut. ironically i was burnt out at the library because i felt so tired and under immense pressure that wasn’t my own. now i’m trying to get my old job back because i have a gentler, holistic approach to life that i just needed time and space to cultivate and heal deep wounds. thank you for sharing your beautiful, slow, extraordinary life. as a highly sensitive person i feel seen and not so alone ❤
and congratulations on all the love in your life for the foundation of your baby 🐣
With each passing year, I feel the need to live slower and more peacefully. I do have many goals and dreams, such as making my living as an artist and TH-camr a reality while traveling the world, but it's not in some crazy adventurous way. I want to travel slowly, taking my time learning about each country and culture on a deeper level, spending many months in each place I live, and spend my days outside painting the landscapes and scenes that I see. I also do want to settle down sooner than later, preferably within the next few years. To be able to buy a small plot of land in a forest and live out a peaceful life growing my own food and being present with my future family. Most of my ambitions are creative and spiritual, and I don't want to stress about the projects I'm working on. I want to be grounded and create because I love what I do, not based off what society tells me I should do.
I recently turned 30 and have been feeling this deeper than ever before. Yes, I'm working hard trying to make these dreams a reality, but I'm also reminding myself not to rush through life, to simply be present and enjoy each passing moment. Listen to your soul. 🌲💙
I love your dreams and I wish you get there soon!
Lovely, what kinds of youtube videos would you ideally make? I love to support small, new channels and give feedback about how they can improve (whenever they want it)
You have (almost) the same dream as mine! Just subscribed to your channel :)
@@BoboWay Thank you so much! ❤️
@@baejay798 I'm honestly already making he kinds of videos that I want to be making. I'm not currently traveling at the moment, but will be moving to Bulgaria in September. I'm looking forward to the videos I'll be making then. 😊❤️
I'm in my early 20s and I have realized that I don't know what I want to do anymore. When I was a teenager I had so many ideas, but now I just want to live peacefully in the countryside with a garden. I don't have as much passion as I used to for college. Sometimes this makes me feel like a failure. Though, watching you is helping me through these thoughts.
I completely understand you. I'm in my mid 20s and the more I interact with the job market and the world in general, the more I feel the need for a simple, slow and poetic life. With time, I've realized I'm not made for the kind of lifestyle that society pressures us to follow. I don't want to always be in a rush, I despise the idea of being confined to a desk for most of my day, I dread the idea of feeling helpless and stuck in a dehumanizing routine. This can't be life, can it? We are here for such a brief time, I can't imagine spending it like that. Of course working is necessary and can also be rewarding, but I simply cannot imagine myself in a 9-5 soulless job for the rest of my life, surrounded by equally soulless people. There's so much inside of me that needs nurturing, so many dreams and things going on... I just want peace and time, and kindred spirits to share life with.
@@sundance1372 I feel exactly as you do.
@@megancater5441 Glad to know I'm not the only one! Do you have someone in your life that shares this view? I personally don't, and it's making me feel quite lonely.
When you were young? lol What are you now?
@@sundance1372Not specifically, but my husband has come around to this idea after all we have been through (so technically now I have someone in my life feeling this way, but haven't most of the time), so hopefully we can make it happen soon.
My son and daughter in law had a baby girl about 7 weeks ago. They didn’t have an extra room for a nursery either. So the made a little nursery for baby Ava in the corner of their bedroom and it’s adorable. They love that Ava is close to them every night. Your little spot for your baby will be magical too.
Our first baby was in a bassenet in our room too❤
For someone with no ambition you sure do a lot - running a book store, starting a family, keeping animals, maintaining a TH-cam channel channel, craft projects etc.
Sshh! You are not suppose to notice those things, lol.
You know… I must thank you first for putting the time and effort into making this video 🙏🏾 The video is on pause at 0:52 secs as I write this. That’s how much it already resonated with me. I really want to appreciate you for this. 🙏🏾 I don’t know what you going to say as I press play but I’m sure it’s what I need to hear. 😁👍
I always hear the Lord say to me “Just be and I will do.” And the scripture in Isaiah “In returning to Me and resting in Me you shall be saved. In quietness and confidence will be your strength.” The profound blessing of a surrendered life. So blessed!
Paola, I've often felt that my life amounted to so little , until I sat back and realized that I was a good and loving mother. I reap the joys of that now - my daughter and I are so close, we have a loving relationship. You're doing such meaningful things with your life, so keep going in this direction. Love and hugs from Mossel Bay in South Africa 🇿🇦
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Thank you for making this beautiful short film. It touched my heart and gave me some peace. ❤
Life is about making your inner self happy ,loving yourself and not being pulled in by drama ,that’s ambition,make ing your soul happy ,whatever that may be ,being content in your own world ,material things and money will never make you happy ,making your own material things is what rewarding,big ambitions is what has ruined this beautiful world ,you got this right 🥰🥰🥰
I'm handicaped and chronically ill. This is such a good help to see someone not striving to always do more. I always feel guilty about resting. I saved your video for those times. Thank you
Our thoughts have great power. You are powerful. The body is just a suit. Busy does not equate to a fulfilling life. Most aha moments come in the stillness. Be well!
WHAT IS AMBITION? Its a goal orientation that doesn't compare to the spiritual connection that envelopes you with silence and sweetness.
Amen! Couldn't say it better.
You have over 1.5 million subscribers! That is a major accomplishment. ❤ you're also a great artist. You're on your way to the best accomplishment of your life.....motherhood! In my view.......you're a super star! ❤
The flower doesn't desire to be or not to be a flower. It just is a flower. And there lies its bliss 🌼
youre gonna loooooooooooooooove being a mom.........it is magical...meant for a spiritually acute person such as yourself
I totally feel you. So many years i woke up every day with the question Whats the meaning of my day? Whats my contribution? I felt that if I dont do smth meaningful , my life has no meaning. Nowadays, when I just live by the day, soft and without goals, I feel free. And light. And alive. And thankful.
I’m of the same vintage graduated in 1977. I’ve not ever figured out my “ambition” but I’ve done a lot of different things over the course of my life. To see a young person with so much self awareness and wisdom makes my heart hopeful for the generations to come. I love this channel so much! I love to read the comments, I also leave this space with something to reflect on.
Me too! She has changed my world! She holds so much wisdom at her age creating freedom for us all. To just be.
What a beautiful book store I would spend hours in there 😃
You are positively changing the mindset of your viewers. I wish the world were full of people with a mindset like yours.
Hi Paola 💫 You are absolutely glowing!!! You are always such a breath of fresh air in this strange world we now live in. Your videos are so inspirational and calming. Your little bundle of joy is so lucky to have such a wonderful Mama to take care of them and raise them with all the wonderful values you practice. Many blessings to you and Luke as time for your new arrival draws near every day.
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Impacting 1,4 Million people's lives is clearly "changing the world"! Success is ready for harvesting dear Paola! Thank you for taking so much time and effort to enchant our hearts and souls with your videos! Thank you for showing and sharing your feelings, your ups and downs - which give so much hope, inner peace and an outlook how living with what is in the moment can look like and lead to. A beloved old teacher of mine once said: there is no other outstanding task we are born with than to fill our daily life with meaning and love for all that lives and developing a kind heart. This is what you do right before our eyes! Thank you Paola - please continue to inspire and enchant us!
After losing my baby brother to fetanyl last year, everything in my life had to change. I was in the darkest place I could ever know, and upon giving up entirely, I found you. And i found someone who thought the way i did. That most things human stress about are truely unimportant in the grand scheme of things. Most of how we live our lives is based on societial norms. And i wanted out. I wanted to throw everything In my life away that didn't serve my souls experience. I had this constant thought, I just want to be a cottage fairy in the woods, connecting to mother earth. I looked up "cottage fairy" on TH-cam, and came across your videos. When I say they changed everything, you changed EVERYTHING for me.
I truly feel that I am exactly where I was always meant to be.
For me, your videos are the source of light that led me out of darkness. And I am forever grateful for how you impacted me, and helped me find peace and tranquility through my grief and loss. So, from the most sincere place in my soul, from one earth sister to another, I thank you and wish you all the most unique and beautiful blessings in your life ❤❤❤
Wow. So beautifully said.
Sending you love & light for your day to day journey 💫🙌🏼😊✌🏽❤✨
Thank you 🙏🦋💛@@tracylacko4940
So sorry for your loss. I pray the lord keeps giving you and your family to carry on😢his bless you, peace be with you😢
Have a good life ✨ so happy for you
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I don't focus on "doing something big or successful or changing the world" I focus on being kind to all those that cross my path..human and animal..its the best I can do. Kindness is a ripple affect so if I'm kind to someone and they are kind and so on..world changes by all of us...for me personal "success" is not how much money I make or what kind of house I live in..its about being at peace with myself and I can say I'm there more and more each day..so I feel successful.
Truly beautiful 🕊
Kindness is so underrated.
We're not lazy, we're just spending our energy on things that cannot be seen or measured by others.
That doesn't make them any less real- but maybe all the more so.
I've written about these emotions privately for a long time, though have had trouble explaining them aloud.
Never heard someone so perfectly word what I feel. Thank you ❤
God bless you sister. This makes me so happy.
What a wonderful morning!
I have a delicious cup of coffee, and three of my favorite youtube channels posted new videos! When I'm done starting the day right, my garden awaits my presence, on a lovely spring morning in the Rocky Mountains.
May we all find peace, joy and love today! Go give someone a hug!
Out of curiosity, who are the other two? Would love to hear your recommendations. ❤
Even though I am 70 years old (yikes, how did that happen) I feel you and I are kindred spirits. You are more than enough just the way you are! I still work full time and get asked constantly when are you going to retire? All the years I stayed home to be with my 3 cildren I was asked, "aren't you bored? When are you going back to work etc" The only voice that matters in your inner voice. You are following that voice and you will be fine.
Your hair is absolutely beautiful! I love your videos! So calming and shows us that life belongs to us. God has blessed us to live life to the fullest in His creation.
I'm grateful that I don't get bored and enjoy living a slower-paced life (despite living in a fast-paced city which serves as the "center of power." I have multiple advanced degrees, and am perfectly satisfied without being defined by any of them to "be" anything. Contentment is a gift from God and I'm grateful to have it. I hope you and your husband have a healthy baby and enjoy being parents.
You HAVE changed the world …… so many in the world seek your words of wisdom. My children are older than you, You are wiser than me
It`s so funny, you don`t try to change the world, but with those videos, that is are exactly what you are doing Paola ❤ Your videos change so much for me. Whenever I am anxious or stressed, I come back to them, it`s the best medicine I came across ✨
Mother Teresa said, if you want to change the world, go home and love your family. I think this is part of the core identity of women. So glad you are at peace with where you are in life!
Mother Teresa is a criminal cheater
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'Mother' Teresa was a shady person in reality 😔
@@egrace3738 Be prepared that your comment will be deleted. I wrote exactly the same thing and my comment isn’t there anymore….
@@egrace3738Myslím že tady jde spíše o ten citát samotný (tedy o to, co je řečeno), než o to, kdo to řekl... Mnoho výroků Matky Terezy je velmi hlubokých a moudrých, i když ona sama MOŽNÁ v pořádku nebyla. (?)
I'm 74 and have only recently given myself permission to just be. It's wonderful. I love this video.
Thank you for creating this amazingly simple and sweet videos. I enjoy your videos whenever i need some grounding reminders. When ever i need to take some short breaks from my life. Enjoying your videos in my free time with my favorite side bites.
We all need to get these reminder time to time.
Love,
Anushka
I love the clarity of instead of making something of your life, you’ve chose to live it. That’s a beautiful goal. We lose ourselves in the hustle and bustle of trying to make something of our lives.
I cannot even BEGIN to say how I relate to this! We are pretty much taught from the moment we can think and understand that we should decide how we’ll fit into the capitalist machine of do, do, do, make more money, work more, sell your soul to your career, like it’s the most important thing ever. For a very long time, I stressed over how I could please those people, but nowadays, I am perfectly content working a day job and then going home to my partner and my hobbies and just doing what I want, without worrying about what people think and how I ambitious I really am. Sometimes I am jealous that others have that drive to do “great things”, but I have to remind myself that that’s their journey, not mine. Right now, my journey involves exploring new things (like traditional magic and mindfulness) and giving more grace to myself. Thanks so much for all your beautiful and validating work!
Expecting yourself to live up to your potential, and reach a certain level of success, is just the worst. It puts so much pressure on a person. It makes you forget to enjoy life, and to forget that you're worth a lot just because you're a person. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
All of your videos are very comforting, healing, and resonate with me deeply. Thank you for sharing your journey and your vulnerability. Not all of us are built to deal with, in a healthy way, the demands and expectations of modern society (such as chasing big ambitions). For those who can, more power to them. But there’s also nothing wrong with those who prefer, need, and appreciate the slower, simpler life. Like you, I enjoy a “boring” life and spending time with myself. I’ve struggled with the guilt that I sometimes feel when spending a good deal of time at home without any “plans.” There is plenty to do at home anyway, but over time I’ve realized that this lifestyle is preferable and necessary in order for me to be the best version of myself. And it is truly wonderful just to “be.” Thank you for reminding us all of that. I admire how you are able to live a life with purpose while staying true to yourself and listening to yourself. You’re a beautiful soul. Congratulations to you and Luke on welcoming your first child! All best wishes.
My journey is never over. Now at 60 I feel free to do what I please. So I carry on looking after myself first and my family comes second. Health and happiness, a life of ease. I've traveled and find no need to go outside myself for validation. 🎉love your videos glad I happened upon your channel.❤
"But I'm not tired anymore...." I think this is a lesson that was hardest for me to learn. I think that this world today drives us to be more, do more. We are given tasks over what we can do, and a great deal do accomplish these tasks, but at what price? It has been difficult for me to learn this lesson, to put my ambitions on hold to take care of myself and my family first. I'm glad I have learned that doing the most at light speed is no way for anyone to live. I'm glad I'm not tired anymore either.
Loving "let life reveal itself over time." 🥰
You are fortunate to have achieved the peace and happiness that so many of us haven’t reached. Bless you.
Remember that so many people wish they could live without an ambition but they can't because they're pressured to have one , by their family's expectations and their society , they envy you and they wish they could have a simple life like yours (me one of them). There's no life better than the other I think that it's just our human nature to want to experience the opposite of what we have , we always have doubts even when everyone thinks we're the best , we can't be content with what we have , there's nothing wrong with that but it would be very relieving if we could appreciate what we have ❤ lots of love to you and your baby
Being a mommy is the greatest Adventure you’ll ever have. Enjoy every moment and just remember that good or bad, nothing lasts forever. Sweet cuddles or crying sleepless nights, it’s all worth it. Your greatest adventure is just beginning.
You are doing what you were meant to do. Now you're gonna be a Mama. The most important "job" in the world !❤
I can imagine it’s so quiet where you live. It’s so beautiful.
It kind of reminds me of someplace up in Lake George upstate
Thank you Paola for defining "Just Live". Taking the pressure off to be superhuman make one feel lighter and more appreciative about enjoying the details of life. You are a life savior.
All of what you’re saying does kind of go hand in hand with motherhood, and now the ‘ambition’ of becoming a mother is a fantastic vocation and it’ll change in all the best ways. I know you’ve safely delivered now and hope new motherhood is treating you well.
your videos are the epitome of comfort. you inspire me as a new creator.
I, too, have been carrying around loads of pressure and haven’t figured out how to let it all go yet. I hope if you’re reading this, you are having a sweet and wonderful year. You are worth more than you think. Stay safe out there. You all are doing a wonderful job in whatever you are working on, even if it is yourself.