The meditation for ADHD course I made has all the practices and strategies that I found extremely helpful during the difficult times, and as I made the necessary changes in my life these practices were even more impactful, helping me to totally transform my experience. These practices aren't about managing symptoms so much as they are about changing how we relate to our thoughts and feelings in a way that actually fundamentally changes our experience. Check it out here: beingintegrated.thinkific.com/courses/meditation-for-adhd
I joined a group of people locally that are regenerating a small bit of land, planting things, making habitats, and increasing biodiversity. Honestly it makes me feel incredible. It’s nothing really, just a small part of my week, but I always come away feeling amazing.
Amazing. I used to garden when I lived in Costa Rica and during a very difficult time for me it was so grounding and supportive. Now I imagine a community garden brings that to the next level, connecting with other people and not just the land and plants. Thank you for sharing 🙏
Great summary that dping things that in line with your values and nit the society is what brings ypur dysregulated nervous system back to homeostasis by integrating the emotions from doing what u love and that fulfils you. In the childhood we build the walls that help us to survive and when the midle life come knocking on your door, u realise those walls are keeping u the prisoner and its time to break them down so u can live the rest of ur life as a human u are meant to be.
I broke into tears listening to this, I felt like you were also describing my own life arc to the tee, and I felt more validated and seen. I’m now in my mid 30s, living the « most slow, healthy, and stable » lifestyle compared to my years of constant traveling and partying, but feeling the worst symptoms of my life as well (including going from being an avid reader, to no longer being able to read more than 2 pages as a time). You have given me a lot of validation and hope, thank you for your videos, they make a difference 🙏🏻❤
@BeingIntegrated Hey Jude, i bought your course a couple of years ago for my anxiety. Just wanted to say i got diagnosed with ADHD 3 months ago. I could finally understand the tumultuous cycles of my life, and where all of it came from. After a decade of anxiety and depression diagnoses, i finally figured out i actually had ADHD, and went and got assessed at the age of 31. I've been on methylphenidate for 2 months now, and you're right, they're just a part of a much larger solution. Had i not spent close to a 1000 hours meditating (including your course), I would never have been able to build healthy coping mechanisms, to deal with the emotional dysregulation that comes with ADHD, and i have started following your advice regarding diet, exercise and sleep as well. The meds only create temporary focus, but you need so many other variables in check for the meds to actually do their job. Again, thank you for all your help!
In life there is usually one very simple root cause that its causing like 90% of all suffering and doesnt matter if its depression, cancer, syphylis, common cold, anxiety. No matter what there is one root cause that can be simplified in like one sentence. And I think for people who think alot like those having ADHD the biggest problem is... your thoughts. Because they are not as easy to handle like for normal people. It might sometimes feel like a tsunami of thoughts coming and dragging you into negativity and you have to be strong and resist that rumination and remain present. So whatever helps you remain present.
In my most difficult time with depression and ADHD, I didn’t have any negative or repetitive thoughts. I know this is unusual, and probably because of all the meditation I had done, but if I caught myself in a negative thought I could let it go immediately and shift to better thoughts. My thoughts were in general optimistic and self-supportive. And yet I was still extremely depressed and my adhd was terrible (I couldn’t concentrate on anything for more than a few seconds, and always felt restless). I know for some people their thoughts make their lives worse, but this wasn’t the case with me. To me it was because I wasn’t “on track”, I wasn’t living my best life, I wasn’t doing meaningful work or contributing to the world in a way that was personally resonant. It’s not always our thoughts that cause problems… :)
Thank you, Jude. That was packed full of strategies and insight. About 5 years ago I got your meditation for ADHD. I listened to it on my walks especially when life seemed precarious. At the same time I started to practice yoga where I learned to sit, identify where I felt my feelings, and become friends with them, showing myself compassion when I struggle. I am changing the narrative of my obcessions.There a lot more to the story but suffice to say; Your work has made an impact on my additude and outlook. Thank you
I wonder if what you refer to as your true life path was really finding something that gives your brain more dopamine hits each day. What I’ve learned as a late diagnosed woman with adhd and autism - that with hormonal changes and understanding my brain - and what it lacks compared to the NT brain, the things I gravitated toward - special interests- would keep my brain engaged and sustained me (whether it be martial arts, meditation, spiritual, and educational pursuits)… being an educator since early 2000s and having realized in the past 10+ years or so that the systems I have worked and lived in (US/capitalism) are designed to destroy the collective well being. I would try and integrate mindfulness and yoga, etc into the classroom - but I was operating in a silo while colleagues and communities were still and still repeating their same dang behaviors - yet expect different results. So after many chapters which have included spiritual bypassing, demoralization, burnout, getting back into the workforce, I know that things are more meaningful when we focus on developing, strengthening, and sustaining relationships and the community, but all sectors need to be on board with this in order to truly transform. The culture that I grew up in only values productivity, profit, and materialism - and a certain sector operates in a way that destroys communities for its own bottom line. So, no wonder we are experiencing mental health crises and meltdowns in every sector of society. I’m in a culture where people are isolated (especially the most vulnerable - poor, children, and elderly) and it’s set up where we have to chase after every $ to afford living and health care expenses. I want to focus on community just not on the community with the messaging of « returning to normal » when the « normal » before was unhealthy. Thank you for your presence here in the Internets.
So true, we don’t have healthy social communities, families and dysfunctional, everyone is isolated and just working. Plenty of people on antidepressants or stimulants just to go on. Tv and then internet and smartphones completely destroyed communities and communication, we are now all in our miserable bubbles. Local communities are pretty much non existent, only way is to meet people around a common interest or activity. Society values us only based on what we produce (or consume) and not based on what we actually are. The problem is much deeper than what we are willing to see and the so called solutions are only band aids on a broken arm. There is no humanity, no spirit.
Thank you for sharing. I resonate with everything you say. The only way for collective change is through community. The idea of individualistic transformation is just not realistic on a larger scale. If we want real meaningful change to happen in the world, we need to do it together. I’ve said in previous posts on my substack that creating healing communities is the only way we can address the crisis we face today. Thank you for sharing. ❤️✨🙏
It shows that mind body approaches don't really work as self is too implicated in it to effect any changes. It's more helpful for me to see the mental narrative as not me, create some space and detachment from it and connect to something more aligning.
Thank you. I really appreciated this because it wasn't just another "find your inspiration in life and everything will be perfect" video. It tells a truth and offers general support. Well done.
Sounds like you had a similar journey to me. I dealt with my depression and ADHD by taking Zoloft. It’s not for everyone but it absolutely changed my life for the better. I was able to return to school, finish my degree and have a relatively normal life afterwards. My personal take on meditation and mental illness is that meditation is like trying to use an umbrella in a hurricane. Depression and trauma too easily overwhelm the mind and it is better to try to find a solution for those conditions outside of meditation. Nevertheless meditation plays an important role in recovery: since mental illness goes hand-in-hand with a life of unhelpful behavior once you deal with the fundamental issues via medication (or something else) then meditation can reprogram/rewire the mind resulting in helpful karmic-positive behavior.
Yes absolutely I appreciate your take and love the umbrella in the hurricane analogy. Meditation can be really profound if one is ready for it. But a lot of people need to clean up another aspects of themselves and their lives before they can get settled enough to get into a meditation practice. Also meditation can be a great supplement to other work. Glad you found my channel and looking forward to hearing more from you :)
Thanks so much for describing your process, I wonder how you dealt with fears around leaving 'the comfort' and also perhaps anxiety when it came to money and safety that oten comes with living in alignment with your values/integrity 💙
Yes it was a long slow process. It took a lot of time for me to finally make the big changes. I definitely worked up to it. Having conversations with others was helpful to work through a lot of my fears. Ultimately I just realized that even if I ended up in a bad financial place, it wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world and I would find a way. And I did.
No I never did. Being that I had long been involved in meditation and therapy, I thought I could get through without meds. I did try meds for ADHD once and the negative impacts for me were too much (actually made my depression worse when I came down). I definitely contemplated exploring meds more, but I also felt I was on the right track in life and had hope that things would eventually change (and they did). All that said, there's nothing wrong with meds. I look at them as part of a larger plan of action. Regular exercise and good diet are just as important and helpful as meds. But also of course what I talk about in the video. Ideally meds are used temporarily, to help stabilize or get through a difficult time in life. But I know things are never really ideal. I've worked with clients who needed take meds to be able to do their jobs and support their families. Each person needs to weight the pros and cons to them. The reality is that there's nearly always some negative side effects to meds, but often the positives outweigh the negatives. I did have a friend who was really depressed and got on meds to help. They helped a bit, but eventually he quit his job and started a new career path, which was really difficult for him to do, but when he did that it helped far more than his meds did, and he was able to get off of them. Each person is unique, and if someone wants to try meds I always advise they do, just know that they are never the whole solution, but can be part of a solution, and also know that some meds are difficult to get off, and that may need to be accounted for.
but how did adopting a life of service help you overcome your ADHD? or could it be the depression you were dealing with was manifesting as ADHD and it wasn't until you filled that void that you overcome ADHD?
Did you ever go to therapy and like dig in to your childhood and stuff? Sit with emotions and all that? I don't feel like I have anything to contribute to the world to be honest. I feel super stuck and I wonder how to find a calling when nothing feels meaningful and fun anymore? Thank you for your channel!
Lol yes I did many years of therapy with excellent therapists (mostly Gestalt). 3.5 years of group therapy (they were training programs) and years of 1:1 therapy along with the group work. If nothing feeling meaningful and you don’t know how to contribute, that’s ok. It’s normal, and I think most people just need to follow their curiosity to explore themselves or the world or do what feels “right” at the time. I think a bit part if needing to explore ourselves and the world as that’s how we grow and mature and find how we want to relate to all of it. The world, as it is now, has a way of “shutting us down” so we need to explore what can help us open up. And that could just be finding what’s supportive, or like I said following our curiosity. Good luck to you 🙏
@@BeingIntegrated Thank you for your response! Yeah what I mean is, nothing feels meaningful in depression, the only thing I'm curious about is to NOT feel this way anymore ... Just imagining it would stay forever, like you said, makes me understand why people kill themselves because depression is like living dead. Do you have any suggestions on how to find the purpose, meaning? Like how did you know that was your purpose? Thanks again!
@@MalinmedM Hey sorry to hear it's so rough. I really think Johann Hari nailed it in his book Lost Connections, that depression is usually a form of isolation of lack of meaningful connection. So I would say explore that, what ways could you feel more connected to the world? Even if you don't feel it, just to explore and do things that make you feel more connected to other people could be really helpful in the long term. Carl Jung once said that he had never encountered anyone who didn't on some level know what they needed to do in life. This doesn't mean it's always clear, but often we get a sense of what we need to be pursuing. James Hollis said that when we don't honour our soul it will live us, taking our energy with it. I know this isn't always the case, but for me it was insightful. There's also something called "the do something principle", I believe Mark Manson wrote a great article on it. It's just about doing things, anything, that engages you with the world. If you stay at home, your energy gets stagnant. But going out and trying things gets the energy moving, and if you are doing something with a social aspect (like a pottery class) you inevitably meet people and have conversations and open up more possibilities of chance and synchronicity. For a while I was just trying to put myself in situations where something *might* happen that could lead me to find more meaning. I think that's it. There's a saying that if you make an effort to change, the universe will meet you half way. Opportunities will open seemingly by chance. This has been my experience. I couldn't have planned meeting the people that would change my life, it just happened when I started making myself get out of the house and do stuff.
@@BeingIntegrated oh i love this, thank you SO much for your thoughts on this. I started listening to podcasts with Hollis now, and I see how good things can’t happen if I stay inside on my couch ruminating and watching TH-cam videos. I’ll take all your advice to heart and start taking small steps of curiosity. Very grateful for your response. 💚🙏🏻
I forbid myself thinking that I can help others before I'm able to help myself, although all I've ever wanted is to be a psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist. What's the worth of everything you teach if it couldn't help you? an obvious question. (sorry for bad english, you got the point)
I was very depressed when I started practicing as a therapist but it was pursuing that dream that brought me out of it. Helping others is helping yourself, so instead of thinking you need to be fully fixed before helping others, realize that sometimes the only way to help yourself is by going after what you want in life and trusting that will bring you where you need to go. The conditions will never be perfect, you just have to be true to yourself and go after it and things will fall into place. Many of my classmates in school still had serious personal challenges but were also great therapists. It allows you to connect with the clients even more deeply. The beauty of it is that sometimes the only way we can help ourselves is by helping others.
Sure, finding a purpose/meaning in life could get you out of depression but how about adhd? Adhd symptoms are still there, it’s a brain chemical thing no?
Yes the hard reality of this is not lost on me. I work with clients every day that are struggling and expend most of the time and energy just trying to survive. My hope is that this may change as more people turn towards deeper meaning, especially those with resources/power. Hope you can find opportunity in your life to do what you find most meaningful 🙏
For me it was arriving in america. Completely flipped my world upside down. I was 7. Dropped out of high-school because the path did not feel good even though I was great at it. Instead opted to hit the streets and help those that dropped out for different reasons. At 18 after being in cessation for about 6 months I forgot who I was. And I agree easily 90% better. But can be even better then that. 10x better. In my case 100x better. But I have been here since childhood. Twice around. We are human after all. Inch time. Foot gem. th-cam.com/video/-BRNcGvycOY/w-d-xo.html
The meditation for ADHD course I made has all the practices and strategies that I found extremely helpful during the difficult times, and as I made the necessary changes in my life these practices were even more impactful, helping me to totally transform my experience. These practices aren't about managing symptoms so much as they are about changing how we relate to our thoughts and feelings in a way that actually fundamentally changes our experience. Check it out here: beingintegrated.thinkific.com/courses/meditation-for-adhd
I joined a group of people locally that are regenerating a small bit of land, planting things, making habitats, and increasing biodiversity. Honestly it makes me feel incredible. It’s nothing really, just a small part of my week, but I always come away feeling amazing.
Amazing. I used to garden when I lived in Costa Rica and during a very difficult time for me it was so grounding and supportive. Now I imagine a community garden brings that to the next level, connecting with other people and not just the land and plants. Thank you for sharing 🙏
Great summary that dping things that in line with your values and nit the society is what brings ypur dysregulated nervous system back to homeostasis by integrating the emotions from doing what u love and that fulfils you. In the childhood we build the walls that help us to survive and when the midle life come knocking on your door, u realise those walls are keeping u the prisoner and its time to break them down so u can live the rest of ur life as a human u are meant to be.
Well said 🙏
The meaning of life is to give life meaning..thank you for sharing your story.
I broke into tears listening to this, I felt like you were also describing my own life arc to the tee, and I felt more validated and seen. I’m now in my mid 30s, living the « most slow, healthy, and stable » lifestyle compared to my years of constant traveling and partying, but feeling the worst symptoms of my life as well (including going from being an avid reader, to no longer being able to read more than 2 pages as a time). You have given me a lot of validation and hope, thank you for your videos, they make a difference 🙏🏻❤
You are not alone,just keep moving forward :)
Yes very similar thank you for sharing 🙏✨❤️
@BeingIntegrated Hey Jude, i bought your course a couple of years ago for my anxiety. Just wanted to say i got diagnosed with ADHD 3 months ago. I could finally understand the tumultuous cycles of my life, and where all of it came from. After a decade of anxiety and depression diagnoses, i finally figured out i actually had ADHD, and went and got assessed at the age of 31. I've been on methylphenidate for 2 months now, and you're right, they're just a part of a much larger solution. Had i not spent close to a 1000 hours meditating (including your course), I would never have been able to build healthy coping mechanisms, to deal with the emotional dysregulation that comes with ADHD, and i have started following your advice regarding diet, exercise and sleep as well. The meds only create temporary focus, but you need so many other variables in check for the meds to actually do their job. Again, thank you for all your help!
Amazing thank you so much for sharing. Really touching to hear from people I’ve impacted. Glad to hear about your progress! 🙏
Would be interested to hear your thoughts on meditation experience with hyper-active ADHD vs inattentive ADHD :)
In life there is usually one very simple root cause that its causing like 90% of all suffering and doesnt matter if its depression, cancer, syphylis, common cold, anxiety. No matter what there is one root cause that can be simplified in like one sentence. And I think for people who think alot like those having ADHD the biggest problem is... your thoughts. Because they are not as easy to handle like for normal people. It might sometimes feel like a tsunami of thoughts coming and dragging you into negativity and you have to be strong and resist that rumination and remain present. So whatever helps you remain present.
In my most difficult time with depression and ADHD, I didn’t have any negative or repetitive thoughts. I know this is unusual, and probably because of all the meditation I had done, but if I caught myself in a negative thought I could let it go immediately and shift to better thoughts.
My thoughts were in general optimistic and self-supportive. And yet I was still extremely depressed and my adhd was terrible (I couldn’t concentrate on anything for more than a few seconds, and always felt restless).
I know for some people their thoughts make their lives worse, but this wasn’t the case with me. To me it was because I wasn’t “on track”, I wasn’t living my best life, I wasn’t doing meaningful work or contributing to the world in a way that was personally resonant.
It’s not always our thoughts that cause problems…
:)
Thank you, Jude. That was packed full of strategies and insight. About 5 years ago I got your meditation for ADHD. I listened to it on my walks especially when life seemed precarious. At the same time I started to practice yoga where I learned to sit, identify where I felt my feelings, and become friends with them, showing myself compassion when I struggle. I am changing the narrative of my obcessions.There a lot more to the story but suffice to say; Your work has made an impact on my additude and outlook. Thank you
Amazing, thank you so much for sharing. Really an honour to be a part of your journey 🙏
I wonder if what you refer to as your true life path was really finding something that gives your brain more dopamine hits each day. What I’ve learned as a late diagnosed woman with adhd and autism - that with hormonal changes and understanding my brain - and what it lacks compared to the NT brain, the things I gravitated toward - special interests- would keep my brain engaged and sustained me (whether it be martial arts, meditation, spiritual, and educational pursuits)… being an educator since early 2000s and having realized in the past 10+ years or so that the systems I have worked and lived in (US/capitalism) are designed to destroy the collective well being. I would try and integrate mindfulness and yoga, etc into the classroom - but I was operating in a silo while colleagues and communities were still and still repeating their same dang behaviors - yet expect different results. So after many chapters which have included spiritual bypassing, demoralization, burnout, getting back into the workforce, I know that things are more meaningful when we focus on developing, strengthening, and sustaining relationships and the community, but all sectors need to be on board with this in order to truly transform. The culture that I grew up in only values productivity, profit, and materialism - and a certain sector operates in a way that destroys communities for its own bottom line. So, no wonder we are experiencing mental health crises and meltdowns in every sector of society. I’m in a culture where people are isolated (especially the most vulnerable - poor, children, and elderly) and it’s set up where we have to chase after every $ to afford living and health care expenses. I want to focus on community just not on the community with the messaging of « returning to normal » when the « normal » before was unhealthy. Thank you for your presence here in the Internets.
So true, we don’t have healthy social communities, families and dysfunctional, everyone is isolated and just working. Plenty of people on antidepressants or stimulants just to go on. Tv and then internet and smartphones completely destroyed communities and communication, we are now all in our miserable bubbles. Local communities are pretty much non existent, only way is to meet people around a common interest or activity. Society values us only based on what we produce (or consume) and not based on what we actually are. The problem is much deeper than what we are willing to see and the so called solutions are only band aids on a broken arm.
There is no humanity, no spirit.
Thank you for sharing. I resonate with everything you say. The only way for collective change is through community. The idea of individualistic transformation is just not realistic on a larger scale. If we want real meaningful change to happen in the world, we need to do it together.
I’ve said in previous posts on my substack that creating healing communities is the only way we can address the crisis we face today.
Thank you for sharing. ❤️✨🙏
You are a great therapist I see and wonderful person!!!! I struggle with ADHD but you are saving me now…
I think I've experienced this over the last half a year. Thank you for your content.
Amazing, so great to hear that.
I needed this video today ❤
It shows that mind body approaches don't really work as self is too implicated in it to effect any changes. It's more helpful for me to see the mental narrative as not me, create some space and detachment from it and connect to something more aligning.
Thank you, this was very helpful for me, being recently diagnosed, thank you.
You uploaded this video just at the right time for me. I needed this. Thank you.
Amazing to hear, I love when that happens 🙏
Thank you. I really appreciated this because it wasn't just another "find your inspiration in life and everything will be perfect" video. It tells a truth and offers general support.
Well done.
🙏
Sounds like you had a similar journey to me. I dealt with my depression and ADHD by taking Zoloft. It’s not for everyone but it absolutely changed my life for the better. I was able to return to school, finish my degree and have a relatively normal life afterwards. My personal take on meditation and mental illness is that meditation is like trying to use an umbrella in a hurricane. Depression and trauma too easily overwhelm the mind and it is better to try to find a solution for those conditions outside of meditation. Nevertheless meditation plays an important role in recovery: since mental illness goes hand-in-hand with a life of unhelpful behavior once you deal with the fundamental issues via medication (or something else) then meditation can reprogram/rewire the mind resulting in helpful karmic-positive behavior.
Yes absolutely I appreciate your take and love the umbrella in the hurricane analogy. Meditation can be really profound if one is ready for it. But a lot of people need to clean up another aspects of themselves and their lives before they can get settled enough to get into a meditation practice.
Also meditation can be a great supplement to other work.
Glad you found my channel and looking forward to hearing more from you :)
Thanks so much for describing your process, I wonder how you dealt with fears around leaving 'the comfort' and also perhaps anxiety when it came to money and safety that oten comes with living in alignment with your values/integrity 💙
Yes it was a long slow process. It took a lot of time for me to finally make the big changes. I definitely worked up to it. Having conversations with others was helpful to work through a lot of my fears. Ultimately I just realized that even if I ended up in a bad financial place, it wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world and I would find a way. And I did.
Thanks for sharing. Did you ever take medication for your ADHD or Depression?
No I never did. Being that I had long been involved in meditation and therapy, I thought I could get through without meds. I did try meds for ADHD once and the negative impacts for me were too much (actually made my depression worse when I came down). I definitely contemplated exploring meds more, but I also felt I was on the right track in life and had hope that things would eventually change (and they did).
All that said, there's nothing wrong with meds. I look at them as part of a larger plan of action. Regular exercise and good diet are just as important and helpful as meds. But also of course what I talk about in the video.
Ideally meds are used temporarily, to help stabilize or get through a difficult time in life. But I know things are never really ideal. I've worked with clients who needed take meds to be able to do their jobs and support their families. Each person needs to weight the pros and cons to them. The reality is that there's nearly always some negative side effects to meds, but often the positives outweigh the negatives.
I did have a friend who was really depressed and got on meds to help. They helped a bit, but eventually he quit his job and started a new career path, which was really difficult for him to do, but when he did that it helped far more than his meds did, and he was able to get off of them.
Each person is unique, and if someone wants to try meds I always advise they do, just know that they are never the whole solution, but can be part of a solution, and also know that some meds are difficult to get off, and that may need to be accounted for.
That’s so helpful
It makes sense
Thank you for sharing 🙏
🙏
Thank you for sharing brother❤
🙏❤️✨
but how did adopting a life of service help you overcome your ADHD? or could it be the depression you were dealing with was manifesting as ADHD and it wasn't until you filled that void that you overcome ADHD?
Did you ever go to therapy and like dig in to your childhood and stuff? Sit with emotions and all that? I don't feel like I have anything to contribute to the world to be honest. I feel super stuck and I wonder how to find a calling when nothing feels meaningful and fun anymore? Thank you for your channel!
Lol yes I did many years of therapy with excellent therapists (mostly Gestalt). 3.5 years of group therapy (they were training programs) and years of 1:1 therapy along with the group work.
If nothing feeling meaningful and you don’t know how to contribute, that’s ok. It’s normal, and I think most people just need to follow their curiosity to explore themselves or the world or do what feels “right” at the time.
I think a bit part if needing to explore ourselves and the world as that’s how we grow and mature and find how we want to relate to all of it.
The world, as it is now, has a way of “shutting us down” so we need to explore what can help us open up. And that could just be finding what’s supportive, or like I said following our curiosity. Good luck to you 🙏
@@BeingIntegrated Thank you for your response! Yeah what I mean is, nothing feels meaningful in depression, the only thing I'm curious about is to NOT feel this way anymore ... Just imagining it would stay forever, like you said, makes me understand why people kill themselves because depression is like living dead. Do you have any suggestions on how to find the purpose, meaning? Like how did you know that was your purpose? Thanks again!
@@MalinmedM Hey sorry to hear it's so rough. I really think Johann Hari nailed it in his book Lost Connections, that depression is usually a form of isolation of lack of meaningful connection. So I would say explore that, what ways could you feel more connected to the world? Even if you don't feel it, just to explore and do things that make you feel more connected to other people could be really helpful in the long term.
Carl Jung once said that he had never encountered anyone who didn't on some level know what they needed to do in life. This doesn't mean it's always clear, but often we get a sense of what we need to be pursuing. James Hollis said that when we don't honour our soul it will live us, taking our energy with it. I know this isn't always the case, but for me it was insightful.
There's also something called "the do something principle", I believe Mark Manson wrote a great article on it. It's just about doing things, anything, that engages you with the world. If you stay at home, your energy gets stagnant. But going out and trying things gets the energy moving, and if you are doing something with a social aspect (like a pottery class) you inevitably meet people and have conversations and open up more possibilities of chance and synchronicity.
For a while I was just trying to put myself in situations where something *might* happen that could lead me to find more meaning. I think that's it. There's a saying that if you make an effort to change, the universe will meet you half way. Opportunities will open seemingly by chance. This has been my experience. I couldn't have planned meeting the people that would change my life, it just happened when I started making myself get out of the house and do stuff.
@@BeingIntegrated oh i love this, thank you SO much for your thoughts on this. I started listening to podcasts with Hollis now, and I see how good things can’t happen if I stay inside on my couch ruminating and watching TH-cam videos. I’ll take all your advice to heart and start taking small steps of curiosity. Very grateful for your response. 💚🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing! What Hollis book would you recommend?
Living an Examined Life is a great starting point as it explores most of the major themes in his work.
Hello, I am planning to practice meditation daily and I wanted to know if you recommend any books?
Hi the video helped thanks a lot :) and I just wanted to say you look like Sonny Moore from Skrillex haha (if u r aware of his music)
Haha no I look nothing like him … but thanks for the comment ✨
I forbid myself thinking that I can help others before I'm able to help myself, although all I've ever wanted is to be a psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist. What's the worth of everything you teach if it couldn't help you? an obvious question. (sorry for bad english, you got the point)
I was very depressed when I started practicing as a therapist but it was pursuing that dream that brought me out of it. Helping others is helping yourself, so instead of thinking you need to be fully fixed before helping others, realize that sometimes the only way to help yourself is by going after what you want in life and trusting that will bring you where you need to go.
The conditions will never be perfect, you just have to be true to yourself and go after it and things will fall into place.
Many of my classmates in school still had serious personal challenges but were also great therapists. It allows you to connect with the clients even more deeply.
The beauty of it is that sometimes the only way we can help ourselves is by helping others.
Sure, finding a purpose/meaning in life could get you out of depression but how about adhd? Adhd symptoms are still there, it’s a brain chemical thing no?
What can I do with my time thats actually meaningful? Hmmmmm Id like to go back to giving massages and a place to meditate for people.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
❤️🙏
Welp you get a sub
🙏
I second that emotion 😉👇🏼🥰
*CLICK*
Ok. But what can I do with capitalism?
Yes the hard reality of this is not lost on me. I work with clients every day that are struggling and expend most of the time and energy just trying to survive. My hope is that this may change as more people turn towards deeper meaning, especially those with resources/power. Hope you can find opportunity in your life to do what you find most meaningful 🙏
For me it was arriving in america. Completely flipped my world upside down. I was 7. Dropped out of high-school because the path did not feel good even though I was great at it. Instead opted to hit the streets and help those that dropped out for different reasons. At 18 after being in cessation for about 6 months I forgot who I was. And I agree easily 90% better. But can be even better then that. 10x better. In my case 100x better. But I have been here since childhood. Twice around. We are human after all.
Inch time.
Foot gem.
th-cam.com/video/-BRNcGvycOY/w-d-xo.html