I have so much respect for my teachers in the past... I was a difficult kid, but they were always there to support me and never lashed out or acted annoyed.
I was quiet and didn't misbehave at all but went to school with stains on my clothes I tried to hide, roaches in my purse/backpack, and not the best food at home. Got called profane names by my dad at times, yet I made very good grades. So, I wouldn't say it's a natural conclusion that kids who act out obviously have rough home lives. One of the most challenging kids I work with has a two-parent home with one parent as a social worker. He has the smoothest behavioral excuses for a kid his age.
You telling me that you give your own food to your poor student. Kudos to you for being the unknown daily hero that almost nobody notice. I appretiate that even without knowing you personally
I’m trying for work in me personally and professionally. I feel lost and I’m in therapy. This just lets me know I might need to just rethink life. I wanna be this certain type of person and I’m realizing through teaching I’m not. Thank you for this.
"Students that keep us on our toes with challenging behaviors." If you work with middle or high schoolers it's more like: "Students that keep us disturbed with wildly inappropriate behaviors."
I teach students from age 12 to 15, and this age is so difficult to deal with!!!! Im trying my best at taking control but today i lost my composure and now im regretting at how i behaved with the students, well im still new tho and each day i learn new things and how to deal with students, so thanks for the tips its really helpful
I feel this and honestly I’m ready to just say forget it. I make changes regularly and I’m always working with nothing to show for it is how I feel. I’m like this as a person reactive. This might not be for me.
You are so positive and nice, thank you. Im an newby English teacher from Russia. I have some difficult students, so now im going through this difficult times of building up the relationships with them. Thanks for support
Thanks for sharing this series, it's super helpful! I recently started substituting so these tips will come in handy as the students test me daily. I realized that I really do take rude behavior personally so that's something I should definitely work on.
Hooray! I'm so glad you found it helpful. :) I completely understand! It is hard as a substitute, as well, to really get a class to take you seriously. Yes, please, please do not take it personally. I know it's easier said than done! But just remember that there is usually something else going on and they tend to take it out on other people who are "easy targets" because they do not have the social skills to deal with it or cope with it appropriately. Sometimes kids are thrown off by change, as well, no matter how small. You are doing GREAT, I'm sure! :)
What you said under "Don't take it personally" are the things I have said to my child when he tells me stories of his classmates being difficult at school. Yes, the behaviour of difficult children is not usually respectful. However, we never know what the child is going through outside of school to trigger such behaviour. Thank you so much for this video.
Every child is different. She is right when it comes to learning where the behavior is coming from. There are always situations where children act out due to being hungry, living in an abusive environment at home, or not knowing where he or she will even be sleeping that night. We are more than just teachers. Show the child you care and they will show you positive behavior.
If only I could just give you one sweet hug because I am starting to melt . Here I am taking a mental look at My Life back in Elementary School back in around 1983 while I am watching you asking myself ( an autistic person who was once an autistic student ) what I really could have had more of in Elementary School because I really like it when one shows that much patience and openheartedness .
This series has been very helpful. Classroom Management is something I have been striving to get better in this area since I am a 1st year after school program teacher. I will definitely be using these tips during the next school year. Thank you.
Oh my!! I really needed these tips because everything I was doing was wrong!!! I used to rise my voice to get some difficult students attention because I was afraid of not having control. I mean some students are not interested in my class and now I see it was my fault I don't know what I'm going to do now but at least I have a clue where to start... Thanks a lot
I am a summer camp counselor for a daily summer camp not the overnight ones and usually what I do when a camper is having a meltdown or acting out or testing the counselor I remove them from the camp class that we use and walk them up and down the hall of the school and ask them exactly why they were acting this way and what sits on their mind and after a while they become calm and explain what is wrong and I help them work it out a bit and after they realize that it's ok to feel stressed or angry at something they are ready to get back into our class and continue our camp activities
I never got attention at home because my parents worked all the time and i was raised by nannies. Many times my nanny wouldn't have time to make me breakfast or lunch and i would eat my first meal when my mom would come home around 17 o'clock. But at school, my way of getting attention was to be the best! To always raise my hand when the teacher asks something, to get first into all the contests, to do all the extracurricular activities and to be praised. Interesting fact, why do some choose this way and some the other way?
What if you do all of this, but the student still smashes the windows in your classroom, laughs while doing it then throws glass at the teacher. Also, what if the parents are always drunk, high or beat their child? How do you build a relationship with the parents then?
I have to agree with the comment above; You have to report it if you even suspect there is abuse or neglect at home. Before (maybe even after) you report it you still have to deal with the behavior, so my guess is call for support: the office, the dean, the principal, security, I don't know. When their behavior is dangerous, you need someone to intervene. Don't think you have to handle it on your own, especially if it has escalated that far.
Great video content! Excuse me for butting in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a smashing one off guide for becoming an excellent parent minus the hard work. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my friend Sam after a lifetime of fighting got amazing success with it.
Your tips sound very useful. Could you please explain more about helping kids to set goal and get reward? How can we start to talk about goal with kids? Where are the rewards come from? Teacher buy them?
I teach toddlers and recently three year olds as well and I understand sleep is very important but it is difficult to do when I am studying to obtain my cognitive studies degree.
In regards to student/teacher relationships, There is a video by TEA that states that we ARE NOT to be friendly with students. To me, that means No relationships are ALLOWED. Can you elaborate on this? I've been a teacher for 1.5 years and NO ONE has been able to explicitly explain the code of ethics for teachers
@Cali White What exactly is considered "healthy relationships?" I know of a teacher who got fired from my district for doing this. Maybe it depends on the district how they interpret the law? In my district we are NOT ALLOWED to receive or give gifts NOT even as an appreciation.
Building relationship could mean sitting one on one with that student and trying to figure out what is triggering that child behavior. Helping them out, as a mentor. Once the student feel confident and understood, behavior changes along.
It would be great to see videos of this in action, with short edited clips of the behaviors and how they change over the weeks with your responses to the student. But there is probably some policy about not filming children in classrooms?
What would you adivise to do with a bratty student who hits his parents at home, and acts out at school? Plus the principal will not discipline this student, and the teacher of the student feels virtually helpless.
There's a rule you forgot to mention...be good looking. Humans, and especially teens, react immediately in a positive way to good looking people, this has been shown in countless experiments. This isn't to say that if you aren't an attractive person you won't be able to control your classroom, but is sure helps. Unattractive people have an additional hurdle they must overcome, that's simply a fact. Teens, just learning about the world (mostly through their cell phones these days) are extremely shallow.
Kudos for the Video clip! Sorry for the intrusion, I would love your thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (do a google search)? It is a smashing one off guide for becoming an excellent parent minus the normal expense. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got amazing results with it.
I have so much respect for my teachers in the past... I was a difficult kid, but they were always there to support me and never lashed out or acted annoyed.
Awe!!! Same! I was difficult to 😢
I was quiet and didn't misbehave at all but went to school with stains on my clothes I tried to hide, roaches in my purse/backpack, and not the best food at home. Got called profane names by my dad at times, yet I made very good grades. So, I wouldn't say it's a natural conclusion that kids who act out obviously have rough home lives.
One of the most challenging kids I work with has a two-parent home with one parent as a social worker. He has the smoothest behavioral excuses for a kid his age.
You telling me that you give your own food to your poor student. Kudos to you for being the unknown daily hero that almost nobody notice. I appretiate that even without knowing you personally
I’m trying for work in me personally and professionally. I feel lost and I’m in therapy. This just lets me know I might need to just rethink life. I wanna be this certain type of person and I’m realizing through teaching I’m not. Thank you for this.
"Students that keep us on our toes with challenging behaviors."
If you work with middle or high schoolers it's more like: "Students that keep us disturbed with wildly inappropriate behaviors."
But it is STILL a cry for help, like she mentioned.
Try Kindergarten where they still cuss, fight, choke each other out etc
I work in elementary school and I could say the same things...
I teach students from age 12 to 15, and this age is so difficult to deal with!!!! Im trying my best at taking control but today i lost my composure and now im regretting at how i behaved with the students, well im still new tho and each day i learn new things and how to deal with students, so thanks for the tips its really helpful
I feel this and honestly I’m ready to just say forget it. I make changes regularly and I’m always working with nothing to show for it is how I feel. I’m like this as a person reactive. This might not be for me.
You are so positive and nice, thank you. Im an newby English teacher from Russia. I have some difficult students, so now im going through this difficult times of building up the relationships with them. Thanks for support
Thanks for sharing this series, it's super helpful! I recently started substituting so these tips will come in handy as the students test me daily. I realized that I really do take rude behavior personally so that's something I should definitely work on.
Hooray! I'm so glad you found it helpful. :) I completely understand! It is hard as a substitute, as well, to really get a class to take you seriously. Yes, please, please do not take it personally. I know it's easier said than done! But just remember that there is usually something else going on and they tend to take it out on other people who are "easy targets" because they do not have the social skills to deal with it or cope with it appropriately. Sometimes kids are thrown off by change, as well, no matter how small. You are doing GREAT, I'm sure! :)
What you said under "Don't take it personally" are the things I have said to my child when he tells me stories of his classmates being difficult at school. Yes, the behaviour of difficult children is not usually respectful. However, we never know what the child is going through outside of school to trigger such behaviour.
Thank you so much for this video.
Every child is different. She is right when it comes to learning where the behavior is coming from. There are always situations where children act out due to being hungry, living in an abusive environment at home, or not knowing where he or she will even be sleeping that night. We are more than just teachers. Show the child you care and they will show you positive behavior.
As a newly qualified primary teacher, this is SO useful 😃
Blessings to you for Sharing!
I'm a college professor. "don't take it personally" is important.
How do you mean? I would think that college would the place you least are likely to take things personally?
If only I could just give you one sweet hug because I am starting to melt .
Here I am taking a mental look at My Life back in Elementary School back
in around 1983 while I am watching you asking myself ( an autistic person who was once an autistic student ) what I really could have had more of in
Elementary School because I really like it when one shows that much patience and openheartedness .
This series has been very helpful. Classroom Management is something I have been striving to get better in this area since I am a 1st year after school program teacher. I will definitely be using these tips during the next school year. Thank you.
Great way to summarize your classroom management strategies. Thanks for sharing.
I mean! Everything about this video was so helpful 💜 you are great and I wish that all teachers think the same way.
Oh my!! I really needed these tips because everything I was doing was wrong!!! I used to rise my voice to get some difficult students attention because I was afraid of not having control. I mean some students are not interested in my class and now I see it was my fault I don't know what I'm going to do now but at least I have a clue where to start... Thanks a lot
Way to be a learner!
Thanks for the 5 strategies shared. I will definitely try them out
I am a summer camp counselor for a daily summer camp not the overnight ones and usually what I do when a camper is having a meltdown or acting out or testing the counselor I remove them from the camp class that we use and walk them up and down the hall of the school and ask them exactly why they were acting this way and what sits on their mind and after a while they become calm and explain what is wrong and I help them work it out a bit and after they realize that it's ok to feel stressed or angry at something they are ready to get back into our class and continue our camp activities
WAY TO GO , +Natka Kat !!
Great tips, thank you so much. I agree with you, deep breathing is a great way to handle tough situations.
Thank you! Yes, it is! :) Thanks so much for watching!
Thank you this is so helpful!
I never got attention at home because my parents worked all the time and i was raised by nannies. Many times my nanny wouldn't have time to make me breakfast or lunch and i would eat my first meal when my mom would come home around 17 o'clock. But at school, my way of getting attention was to be the best! To always raise my hand when the teacher asks something, to get first into all the contests, to do all the extracurricular activities and to be praised. Interesting fact, why do some choose this way and some the other way?
This is a teacher that has been though the battlefield
What if you do all of this, but the student still smashes the windows in your classroom, laughs while doing it then throws glass at the teacher. Also, what if the parents are always drunk, high or beat their child? How do you build a relationship with the parents then?
Scott Blachford pray🙏🏾
Well if students are being abused, you have the responsibility to report that to DCF.
Truth
That child would be suspended obviously. And management would sit them in their office for a while.
I have to agree with the comment above; You have to report it if you even suspect there is abuse or neglect at home. Before (maybe even after) you report it you still have to deal with the behavior, so my guess is call for support: the office, the dean, the principal, security, I don't know. When their behavior is dangerous, you need someone to intervene. Don't think you have to handle it on your own, especially if it has escalated that far.
Thank you. That was such a nice informative video! I will surely follow your advice.
Loved this. You are quickly becoming my new favorite youtuber! So helpful!
Thank you! You are too sweet! :) I'm so glad you are finding the videos helpful!
Great video content! Excuse me for butting in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a smashing one off guide for becoming an excellent parent minus the hard work. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my friend Sam after a lifetime of fighting got amazing success with it.
wow, very nice input! I've learned from your classroom management. Thank you:)
Your tips sound very useful. Could you please explain more about helping kids to set goal and get reward? How can we start to talk about goal with kids? Where are the rewards come from? Teacher buy them?
Idk i just wanna say I love you!
I want to teach my student whole heartly as u do
I teach toddlers and recently three year olds as well and I understand sleep is very important but it is difficult to do when I am studying to obtain my cognitive studies degree.
In regards to student/teacher relationships, There is a video by TEA that states that we ARE NOT to be friendly with students. To me, that means No relationships are ALLOWED. Can you elaborate on this? I've been a teacher for 1.5 years and NO ONE has been able to explicitly explain the code of ethics for teachers
@Cali White What exactly is considered "healthy relationships?" I know of a teacher who got fired from my district for doing this. Maybe it depends on the district how they interpret the law? In my district we are NOT ALLOWED to receive or give gifts NOT even as an appreciation.
That seems crazy to me. The relationship is what allows you to really motivate a child!
Building relationship could mean sitting one on one with that student and trying to figure out what is triggering that child behavior. Helping them out, as a mentor. Once the student feel confident and understood, behavior changes along.
Graduating in the fall to teach elementary. Thank you for these videos
Excellent video, thank you very much
Can u please give me an example for students and teachers behaviour like "How students behaviour affect their relationship to their teacher"
It would be great to see videos of this in action, with short edited clips of the behaviors and how they change over the weeks with your responses to the student. But there is probably some policy about not filming children in classrooms?
THANK YOU!!
Great tips thanks
I love this series. So many great tips! Thank you!
Very helpful
I totally agree
What would you adivise to do with a bratty student who hits his parents at home, and acts out at school? Plus the principal will not discipline this student, and the teacher of the student feels virtually helpless.
Start by not calling them brats
What about middle school students
You are awesome!!!
I feel calmer now. Sorry I punched the TH-cam screen.
😏
What do you do if you are a substitute and cannot make those bonds and relationships
I wish someone had an answer for this!!
Try to sub at that school as much as possible to make those bonds
Can you make a video practically showing those points in a real classroom
She's not making videos as she has a new baby.
There's a rule you forgot to mention...be good looking. Humans, and especially teens, react immediately in a positive way to good looking people, this has been shown in countless experiments. This isn't to say that if you aren't an attractive person you won't be able to control your classroom, but is sure helps. Unattractive people have an additional hurdle they must overcome, that's simply a fact. Teens, just learning about the world (mostly through their cell phones these days) are extremely shallow.
Thanks a lot madam
How do you handle a students who consider themselves all knowing ?
Great
I am teaching at a village where I have 38 students in one class. How do I handle those. All 5th Grade loud boys
Kudos for the Video clip! Sorry for the intrusion, I would love your thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (do a google search)? It is a smashing one off guide for becoming an excellent parent minus the normal expense. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got amazing results with it.
thank you mam I really got help with this video
seriously, How about Challenging teachers......
.... Soft.....
A student that has no food at home merits a call to the proper authorities.
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As an attractive white female, what do you do to keep your older black boys from speaking to you with their wrong heads?
Older black boys? You mean African American young men?