As someone who is soon going to graduate as a psychologist I'd say that you were pretty spot on about the disorder and loved the way you tried your best to explain it.
I know how you feel. I was recently diagnosed with ocd, afters years of it interfering with my life. I probably always knew I had it especially in school and college when everything had to be perfect and I spent all my time obsessing over getting good grades. I'd always be worrying over small things for days whether it be something health related or something I said. It really was tiresome. Eventually it got so bad I was not leaving home and quit my job. At this stage I decided to seek help which was the best decision I made. I found out it wasn't my fault I was like this, to not be so hard on myself for my intrusive thoughts and behaviours. I am now able to work on it and get the help I need which has made life so much better. My advice to anyone who may feel they may have a mental health disorder is that it's okay to seek help, it's not your fault. It's not something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Life can and will get better.
I was also recently diagnosed with OCD and I’ve had the feeling that I’ve had it for most of my life but talking to my therapist about it made me realize just how much it effects my life. So many things started to make so much more sense. I also am in the process of getting diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Same goes for that, finally having a name for it and knowing just how much it effects my life. I finally have answers as to why I am the way I am and why I struggle with specific things. Getting a diagnosis can be scary bc it is a label and confirms that there is something “wrong” but it is also relieving bc it makes you feel less alone. At least that’s how I feel
I believe I have OCD and my real event obsessions make me feel that I don’t deserve to get treatment which is sad but I know it’s not true. Also I have a really bad period every few months and then it gets better and in the better periods I think I’ve made it all up. Can it come and go?
Exactly. ADHD is not something that just comes along later in life. It's lifelong, getting diagnosed doesn't mean you've gotten ADHD recently, it just means you've had it your entire life. You're the exact same, you just have a better explanation to yourself.
I thought these symptoms are something everyone had and was normal. Now I’m rethinking everything. As a brown, this is difficult to accept growing up in a society where mental health isn’t taken seriously
It is normal, ADHD is not a disorder its just a bunch of symptoms. There is nothing wrong with how your brain functions. So many of us think and feel this way. How can we all be ill. I have ADHD btw....
@@dmalkani2000 You're wrong in the part of saying 'How can we all be ill' and that ADHD is 'just a bunch of symptoms', that can be quite hurtful to the ND community.
I would say, research, and then talk to people who have ADHD or who are ND in general. because a lot of the ADHD symptoms overlap with Autism! So research, and talk to ADHDers. A good youtube channel to get info is 'How to ADHD'! I hope everything goes well!
its scary how i related to pretty much everything that taz was saying she related to too. When they asked her if she had things to do and wanted to do it and still wasnt able to do them, i started to cry because i deal with that a lot and it makes me hurt myself mentally and physically cause i feel so pathetic and know i should be trying harder. I had to change my major from pre-med to a more creative one too because i couldnt cope with pre-med and was in a terrible head space and i used to beat myself up for sucking at it. I never thought this would make me so emotional but here i am, sobbing like a baby
Honestly, the fact that you can see all this about yourself shows your growth as a person, also dont be ashamed of changing courses. From what you've described it sounds like it was a really good and healthy decision you made for yourself. Ik I'm just a random internet stranger but I'm proud of you for putting your own needs first over others expectations.
It's called executive dysfunction if you want to read up some more about it! I struggle with it as well and it is so, so validating to learn it's an actual thing with a name and hear that you are not alone with it. So the same goes to you; you are not alone, and I'm proud of you. It's horrible at times to deal with, and sometimes we just have to switch gears, and that's alright. I hope you're doing better now at the creative major!
we are creatures, its even in our dna a cycle (a plan) , wich every cell has to follow and be healthy same with mind, when we have a plan ,or we said we are going to do this (study,work etc), we often feel so bad,sad and tired bc we are doing nothing for it, reather then we are doing something for it, so maybe when u felt tired mentally in pre-med maybe it was bc u didnt study and work as much as u planed for it. It wasnt that u could but studying and working should be a habit and if u didnt have that habit it takes timee to create it(like month even year), so dont diagnose urself or think abt disorders ur ok. youre great, just like us, a human beeing.🦋
same, I started crying so hard during the screening. and honestly i couldn't stop crying because i have put myself under so much pressure and given Myself a lot of hard time and made mysefl feel worthless because i am impulsive and people kept saying that i am quirky as well. it all makes sense rn it all makes sense.
@@TheElenaNumb here's a tip: when you feel like you don't want to just tell yourself that you're building a habit. when you accomplish things, you're one step closer to building a habit. i don't know if you have adhd or not (i do), but these things work for me sometimes. I know how you feel, beating yourself up about things. try meditating. it sounds cheesy but you can meditate for 2 minutes a day and clear your headspace. you don't have to do these things, and it's not your fault if they don't work, but sometimes they work for me. just helping out a friend/internet stranger you're doing great :)
I've noticed lately a lot of females I watch in media or in my personal life have been diagnosed with adhd the last year or so & a lot of them are in their 20s-40s but they finally feel like they get it bc they thought for a while something was wrong or weird. Crazy how it takes a little while to actually know what's going on. I'm 29 and growing up you'd mainly heard young boys having it who tried messing up and joking loudly in class & they can't concentrate but haven't heard many people talk about it until recently
It’s because ADHD isn’t often seen in young girls as the more inattentivness part shows up in girls whereas the more hyperactivity part shows up in boys, and when you think of ADHD most people think of hyperactivity. It’s also why way more boys are diagnosed
I’m going through a similar situation, I have suspected autism and still waiting for the people to get back to me. I can’t wait to find answers because a lot of what I’ve looked up seem to relate a lot to how I act.
If you're diagnosed as "not autistic" but you really feel it explains you, consider the possibility that the experts are wrong. They're still learning what ASD is, and their understanding of ADHD is still changing, as well.
Taz: "I'm not special." Me: "Of course you are. I don't know, what you could possibly do, to make me love you even more - but you manage it every video." Taz: "Don't get attached." Me: "Way too late." :D
I never wanted to admit it but maybe it‘s also time for me to get checked out for it. Thank you so much for opening up peoples minds and taking away the fear a lil bit!💙
this video is making me question whether or not I have ADHD. for the past five years (since year 9), I realised I had severe anxiety ever since I moved back from one country to another but never got a formal assessment done purely because whenever I spoke to my GP the most they'd tell me to do was to call up mental health services, not understanding that, that is also a thing that triggers my anxiety. but regardless I tried calling a few times but then after a couple of attempts I just gave up. it was only until I left secondary that I decided to speak to the counsellor at my college. I recently finished college and have been advised to get professional help. I've also changed my GP because I just felt like they weren't taking me seriously. the symptoms Taz mentioned in the video align with mine, for the most part. I always used to associate such symptoms with my anxiety, but only recently I noticed that those symptoms have been more frequent, even though I haven't experienced full-blown anxiety attacks in some time. this is encouraging me to speak to my new GP for once and figure things out. I hate living on edge, not understanding exactly what's going on with me and just assuming whatever fits the description.
I don't think you understand how important and significant I feel that you posted this, thank you for using your platform to spread awareness. I got diagnosed with adhd in February 2021 and it's been such a long process to get a diagnosis especially in Canada. I brought up adhd to my GP for the first time a year and a half ago because I struggled in school and without asking questions, he said it wasn't adhd and it was probably because I didn't like my program. Im so proud of you, being aware of your adhd will make it easier for you to manage your symptoms and will allow you to get appropriate support.
I feel so happy for you. Not because you have a disorder but because you have an eplanation for things that you were insecure about. I relate so much to that. When I was officially diagnosed with depression it was so relieving to know that it's not me being weird or whatever but somply me having a disorder. Thank you for sharing this and bringing awareness!
so i watched this video when you first posted it, and at that point i didn't really know much or anything really about adhd. just knew what it stood for. some of what you said seemed familiar but i was quick to dismiss it and say nah nothing's wrong with me. but then. months later i also started seeing adhd posts on Instagram and Twitter and stuff and i went digging more. now, 9 months later i am diagnosed with adhd. and i thought of this video and came back to watch it. everything you said makes so much sense to me now it's so weirrrd😂
I am so proud of you! I myself am on the same exact journey awaiting my screening appointment. Validating is the best word to explain the process. You should be so proud of yourself for the strength it's taken to start your journey. You can feel the emotions and growth radiating from you 💜
Taz is so inspiring and so amazing!!! All I want is for her to be happy and I'm glad she is trying not to be hard on herself or speak bad about herself!!! Love you Taz!!!💜💜💜
istg thank you so much for this video becuase i relate to you so much! i remember beating myself up for things wondering why i COULDNT JUST DO IT but understanding that it’s my brain and i should be working WITH IT and not AGAINST it when it’s just simply wired differently. thank you so much for sharing your experience Taz ❤️
I always felt different. I remember telling my mum I felt like It took me longer to learn things in primary school. I've also had physical and verbal (no words) tics my whole life. Now I'm 25 and I went to the doc as my tics have been getting gradually stronger/bigger/harder to control/ louder. The doc suggested I have tourettes, ADHD or OCD. I'm on a waiting list for a psychiatrist now (9months) to get evaluated for all three. After doing alot of research I think I have tourettes and ADHD. I've had anxiety and bouts of depression my whole life too which lends itself to ADHD. I also feel like I'm hypersensitive emotionally and it's really hard to remain calm and grounded. I find it really hard to focus on conversations and other things. Thank you for telling us your experience Taz. I'm a fan anyway, but I'd love more ADHD content. Thank you x
I haven't even got to the first minute yet and I'm already crying. I can relate to you so much and I also might have ADHD (cannot get diagnosis) and I'm so emotional for no reason.
I hope you can heal some of your struggles while you navigate this new knowledge about yourself and get the right tools and strategies to help you live the best life possible without so much guilt and pain attached to what you have learned to perceive as flaws or shortcomings. Women and girls are often diagnosed late and are generally underdiagnosed for ADHD. You are great and you deserve to live a happy life.
I completely agree with this. I was diagnosed a year ago and it definitely has helped validate my character and then aid my process to learn about myself. I like how you said that doing or saying something bad doesn't make you a bad person, but instead its how you react and adapt to the next situation that determines that. Sending love💜
Welcome to the club - was diagnosed 2,5 years ago with 27...it is still a struggle to understand how it affects you daily...I highly recommend behavioural therapy to help with that and learning methods and skills that are better suited to an ADHD brain - we are motivated and interested in other ways than neurotypical people, trying to to things "the normal way" might just be frustrating...and most of the time the main issue is not the ADHD itself, it is beating yourself up for not being as organized, disciplined and focused as you think you should be....but you are awesome the way you are and will find your own way with people that love and cherish you just the way you are ❤️
Thanks to your last video talking about it, I came to know I have ADHD too and severe anxiety now I know all the reasons behind my actions. haha, My exams are there from Saturday and I have never found myself this distracted. i am like- *studies for 3 min* (3 seconds later) *doodling flowers*
@ilikecheese Yeah, I'll surely do it, I am just afraid that I can't go to therapist now, but I am trying my best. Thankyou so much for writing. Take care.
Hi! I was actually just scrolling through to see if anyone has ADHD and anxiety. I've had anxiety for ages (not diagnosed by a psychiatrist but I've had therapy for it), and I always blamed my stupid behaviour on the anxiety. But lately I've been really struggling mentally and I know for sure that it's not the anxiety because I'm not getting and actual anxiety symptoms! It would be great if anyone could tell me if I should go see a gp for it cos I've been having trouble concentrating, I have that 'I have a bunch to do but let me just watch NETFLIX for 5 hours and spend every second of it thinking 'I should get up and do all those things'' And also is it weird that if I'm watching a 20 minutes episode of friends it always turns into 40 minutes or something cos I constantly click off to watch or look up something else....? Sorry for the rant! 😭
@@godabuikute4157 Yeah, first of all that was a nice rant, and yes it is very difficult to see ourselves like this, and the worst feeling is doing everything and feeling guilty for it. It's like my brain and my heart is scared of not being able to get a good outcome, but my body just doesn't care, and it just wants that comfort zone, and those countless hours on you tube and maybe sleeping when I should be studying. It's 3:10 in the morning, and I am trying my best to concentrate, It has never been difficult, I had a better concentration when I was 5 not gonna lie. I am still trying and I still have that fear for the uncertainity of me not getting the desired grades. That fear just doesn't goes away. And I am kinda tired of feeling this way ngl. I don't know how I'll do on test tomorrow, but the fear makes everything worse. And yeah... maybe talking a lot is also one of the ADHD symptom... Haha I keep writing, I guess I'll stop here. Take care and smile often drink more water.
@ilikecheese Yeah You're right on that, I'll try my best to go to a professional as soon as I can, I am kinda tired of seeing myself this way, to find motivation for the smallest thing. Imagine waking up and cursing yourself just to brush your teeth. It sucks alot and I feel this is the first time I am talking about this! I have been very interested in psychology that's why mental health became one of my concerns when I started seeing myself like this. I'll try to find a professional as soon as I can, maybe I can try online professional's as well, if I didn't got any near me.
I actually go through almost all the symptoms you've mentioned but I don't get intrigued or bothered about it, which I don't know if it's a good thing or not. Like, it's just who I am and I never thought it could be a disorder until now. I'm glad that u explained it. And we love you too❤️
Listening to you always encourage me and I feel so positive. I hope, whatever you're fighting with in your life, you succeed. I love you a lot. You matter to a lot of us. Always here for you. #itsfinetaz
Lol haven’t watched the video yet but same and I’m super curious to watch cause I’m an introvert who ‘had’ (still kinda but worked hard hehe) social anxiety and anxiety and can be ‘quiet’ but my mind never shuts up
I relate to it, but not that not knowing adhd part.. I kinda know about all kinda of mental disorders for like 3 years i like psychology ig and for 3 to 2 years i always felt like i might have adhd.. Cuz of all the symptoms u just talk bout but being brown where mental health is not first priority its very hard to tell ur parents or family bout all of it im waitinh to get 20 or 21 soo i can get a proper diagnosis soo my life makes a bit more sense but rn i sometimes do things where i am just like its okay its okay u do that dont push urself to much i try mybest to know myself.. U r soo strong taz and im soo glad that u inspire so many people and causing awareness on this topic is very imp cuz having adhd is common but lot of people dont get an early diagnosis hope things workout for u stay happy, stay same❤❤
I think it's really brave how you chose to put this out there and I think you could have put it on your main channel and got more views but maybe this was a safer space which I fully understand. Hope you're good taz xx 🥰
As someone who really had to fight for people to take my adhd seriously, I am very happy for you & that you got your answers without having to walk from doctor to doctor. I got my diagnosis just a few weeks ago but I’ve spent the last 3 decades wondering wtf was wrong with me. I’ve had many misdiagnoses until I finally got diagnosed with adhd and its been life changing. All the best to you taz! I am 1000% not surprised you’ve got adhd tbh 😂
Yeah so I'm watching this still but I also think in your case. People in the comments are toxic and hard on you. Like your example on the W video. WHY can't people just enjoy the funny videos. Literally you're hilarious. Yet I have seen MANY comments that attack you. Taz from a older woman to you. YOU'RE DOING GREAT. LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN. YOU'RE BEYOND DOING GREAT. I'm almost 40 this year and have a whole house falling apart, LITERALLY broken in so many areas, can't afford anything, afraid, anxious, and live in fear everyday, a nervous wreck, my disability under this administration is being cut off, to disabled to work yet unable to keep my disability under this administration ( I'm not the only one this is happening too.), struggling at EVERYTHING, can't sleep, can't focus, can't breathe half the time, have a massive phobia to even leave the room much less my house, can't drive from another phobia, suffer extreme PTSD, and HUGE ETC. Not to mention I have 3 kids with multiple disabilities. The state won't help us. Two can die at anytime from cardiac arrest, seizures, or even infections. One has been missing for 5 birthday's this year. I can go on and on. ONLY YOUR VIDEOS. They keep me sane, laughing, focused more in these moments of extreme depression, happier, and highly much better. Sometimes after watching your videos I can leave the house and go to the grocery. Yes that comes with a huge breakdown BUT I made it further than the bed. Yet I noticed in the comments the hate to you. So again TRUST ME YOU'RE DOING SO AMAZING. You help so many people like me. EVERYDAY. You help so many people that you don't even know their stories. Like me. So thank you. Thank you so much for being you.
“Every decision I’ve made so far has brought me to a place where, as an ADHD person, I can thrive” - this resonated so hard. It’s amazing really to look back on all of our past ‘struggles’ and realise that actually, instead of making life more difficult, we were subconsciously setting ourselves up to succeed in an even better way!
I mentioned this a while ago and I got so many unkind messages I never said it in a bad day I'm a mother of 2 autistic's! Glad you are getting help hun x
I'm sure you won't see this. But I wanted to tell you that it's okay. It's really okay. I'm suffering from depression and borderline personality disorder. And I tell myself it's okay So I wanted to tell you that too. It's really okay
♥️♥️♥️ I have BPD and deal with severe depression as well so I feel this so much. I hope you are doing okay and taking care of yourself. You deserve to be happy and for all your dreams to come true ♥️.
So I never thought I could have ADHD because I didn't have the hyperactivity side (in fact been called lazy most of my life) but then I saw ADHD Instagram posts these past few months and I feel like it explained my life. And then this video popped up and Oh my gosh yes! The parts about being "quirky" and "sensitive" and being a wimp but putting myself in dangerous situations just speaks to me! I've been putting off speaking to a GP because I still didn't really believe I could have lived 28 years and no one pick up on it. You've given me the confidence to reach out and get the help. You're so right, once you find out and become self aware of these "flaws" that you've beat yourself up about are actually just your brain's way of thinking, it changes your whole perspective. Sorry this was a ramble but thanks Taz ❤️
I usually don’t comment on videos but this one has made me want to. I didn’t have the best day and was literally beating myself up over a mistake I made. Listening to you speak those words of encouragement were comforting. Thank you for bringing awareness to ADHD and taking out the time to be meticulous about how you put information about it across. Love your videos, will always watch 💛
thank you so much for this, for choosing to be open and, personally, for putting that clip of the screening in (which must have been difficult) i'm trying to gear myself up to start this process and it's so hard to find information for adults in the UK about what happens, as a very anxious person the not knowing has been holding me back from taking the first step, so thank you so much for being vulnerable and putting this out there, you've helped me so much and i'm sure many others too. ❤️
Welcome to the club!! We're welcoming you with open arms!!! 😊 You are such a kindhearted person, I really wish you the best. I hope you learn more and more about yourself and become more loving and understanding towards yourself.
Something to keep in mind with hyperactivity is that it isn’t just not being able to sit still or talking a lot. It’s like, me fiddling with my popsocket on my phone absentmindedly when I’m having a conversation, or picking at my nails, or right now, scrunching up a blanket under my toes while writing a comment. The movement can be really subtle. When my therapist pointed this out it blew me away, because I never thought of myself as hyperactive. Look up the channel How to ADHD, for sure. And keep in mind that ADHD is all about executive function, and in adulthood there are all sorts of ways it affects your life that can be surprising. You might look up rejection sensitivity and the emotional and sensory sensitivity in general that can come with it, which helped explain a lot for me. And finally, there is a growing body of evidence that suggests ADHD is an evolutionary trait that helped people thrive in hunter/gatherer societies. It’s a feature, not a bug! It’s just that in a modern world designed largely by and for neurotypicals ADHD can feel like a major disadvantage. But you’re living proof that ADHD comes with some really awesome superpowers. Me, too (I’m a professor!).
Also keep in mind that we tend to be way harder on ourselves and expect way more from ourselves than most neurotypical people, while from the outside people will wonder how we manage to do all the things we do. You’re awesome, Taz, just as you are, and don’t forget that.
You are such an amazing person Taz, your videos has inspired me to believe and myself and just do what I love. I can say it's definitely a blessing to have found your channel, you have given me happiness, thank you so much
Thank you for this Taz, I'm the same age as you and to a tee you've described symptoms and behaviours I have struggled with my whole life. I was never diagnosed in school instead even though I struggled massively. I was just called a ‘Daydreamer’ every single year, by every single teacher, on every school report and at every single parent evening 😭 Being female this is common as we tend to display less of the hyperactivity leading to the symptoms being overlooked. I always suspected I had ADHD through my own research but didn’t get help until I was in my late 20s, when I decided to learn how to drive. My lack of attention made it very dangerous for me and others. But I wish I had help sooner as not knowing really diminished my confidence growing up.
Thank you for this video, Taz! A friend of mine recently shared he has ADHD and it was the first time I ever heard about it. It was a bit difficult to even get what it was, I literally thought that's his personality It's important to explain and to understand why somebody acts a certain way and to help them, not judge them!
I used to resist myself from commenting that I see some signs because we usually think of a world in a particular way and we never like to believe that we are different, we like to believe for everyone to be uniform in behavior which is why we constantly strive to fit in and beat ourselves keeping high expectations. If I'd commented earlier, it would have given an impression that am just hating on you or blabbering random shit which is untrue. I am happy you finally found out and this gives a different perspective to look at yourself. I know it will take you time to let it sink in but I hope you're more generous and kind towards yourself now. You said it well, being self aware is very important.
I love you. I'm so happy you received this diagnosis. From a fellow neurodivergent, you are not alone in these behaviours, you are completely valid and you are never too much. I hope you find freedom and understanding through this 💛
Hey Taz, I hope you are doing well. I saw your video and to be honest, all of the boxes check out for me too. The screening part you recorded, all my answers surprisingly matched yours. Not that I am indicating I have ADHD but that I might. Being careless, a control freak, impulsive, fidgety etc. It all describes me. But the problem is, being a part of the desi culture, these mental illnesses/disorders are not actually considered illnesses/disorders. I can't ask my parent to get me help and I am not independent enough to do it myself. I have been watching your videos for as long as I can remember you channel started. A huge fan of your words and the way you run this channel, showing how normal actually is, is really darn impressive. Lots of love and best wishes for the future. Love you ❤
Thank you for showing us and explaining to others what ADHD is, it’s a silent disorder really where NOT A LOT of people KNOW what it is, hopefully things like this will help people understand us MORE❤️❤️❤️
thanks for sharing this part of your life. I feel the same way, I watched these TikToks videos and see myself in a lot of their experiences. I know I should speak to a GP, its just getting around to it.
Watching this video and I really relate to the things you're saying and it's making me wonder if I have ADHD. Thanks for sharing this, I have dyslexia and just openly talking about things like this is great
I really really struggle answering questions like on the screening, I feel like I can’t judge my behaviour or actions on the whole and have to ask other people. I think back and I can’t remember or I don’t judge it right and I don’t want to get it wrong.
With someone who has adhd it is very much much a curse and blessing. For me it is very hard for me to control my emotions and my anxiety is bad because I over think because my brain is always going. I'm super energetic and outgoing and want to do everything but I get distracted. Uts hard for me to finish projects. Just keep trying and stragies that help. Love u taz!!!!
8:59 I was writing a whole comment before deleting it thinking I was just being dramatic. Until you said that. I had VERY strong feelings I have anxiety/ certainly social anxiety where I’m now realizing is eating me up. But I wouldn’t know because it’s never been confirmed, so I’ve been keeping everything to myself. But when you said that it kinda pushed me to maybe man up for 20 seconds and finally ask my parents for help, so at least I know, and I’m not just making it up. So thanks Taz you literally might be the last push for me to finally help myself.
I also think I have ADHD. Also I think I have anxiety and depression. But I never got any help. After watching your videos, I think I should talk to a psychologist about it. It's actually making daily activities difficult for me. To all the amazing people in the comment section, can you please suggest an online platform where I can get help? Any random suggestions would be appreciated ❤️
I was diagnosed with ADHD to a few months ago I noticed that when my son was diagnosed last year that we had very similar symptoms and then when I started reading into this I thought wow this explains my entire life. Book recommendation (although if you are anything like me you find it hard to concentrate on reading I use audiobooks on audible) a radical guide for women with ADHD has been even more validating than the research that I've done all & the tiktok's I've watched because it really helps you put into perspective your own personal experience. Congratulations on your diagnosis too it's a very strange emotional feeling isn't it?
Thank you for this Taz...I've been struggling with anxiety (and depression) since I can remember...and I realized that just recently. It makes me so sad knowing how I always blamed myself for my thoughts and feelings and behavior. I mean I still do. I guess I just should find some help but it seems so "unreal" to me. This is the only thing I know, it's already a part of me. Anyway, just kind of clearing my mind here. 😅 Take care everyone! ♡
This was a very, very refreshing video Taz. There is little representation of non-neurotypical people that is shown in a positive light such as better understanding yourself and how your neuro divergence impacts the things you do and how you do them. There is NOTHING wrong with being neuro divergent AT ALL. People need to realise that. Did you grow a new head once you knew you had ADHD? No. Did you suddenly become unintelligent? No. Did you suddenly stop being able to live a full, complete, independent life with a job and friends and family? ABSOLUTELY NOT! NOTHING changed about you as a person AT ALL. This is what people, sometimes, fail to understand. Neuro typical doesn’t mean “weird,” “strange,” “incompetent,” incapable,” or anything else. It JUST means: Different way of perceiving and experiencing the world than Neurotypical people do. NOTHING ELSE. You are still the same Taz we have all grown to adore and you will remain the same Taz we adore as well. Keep being awesome!
I'm almost at tears when you showed your screening test because I, too, relate to those scenarios, yet I'm also scared because what if it's just all in my head.
i went through exactly that. so exactly. creepily exactly. - there were some cool things i realized i misexplained. i thought i'm super tough, cool, funny, rude [that's of course in my high energy spin mode] because i grew up with tough sets in big cities etc and don't seem to fear danger because i've seen worse. the diagnosis made me realize that is not true. i simply lack the imagination, the projection, to anticipate consequences like others do. how do i know: other people w/ ADHD who didn't grow up in squats, with riots & gangsta have exactly the same pattern. - so a layer of abstraction is missing. however, apparently i'm much more at home with multiple levels of abstractions above the 'anticipation' layer. i thought i could just show people how to do contemplation, create similes, poetry, inventions, amazing, unusual solutions to tricky problems. how to learn in unusual ways. it's easy for me and i can dissect how it works. only others can't copy it. in fact, according to their own rules, they can't tell you, nor ask about it. - i feel sorry for them about that because i don't mind that they don't get it and could explain it.
I was diagnosed with ADD years ago. I tried medication and therapy. Neither was as helpful as educating myself and making lifestyle changes. The meds can be very dangerous when used long-term so please be careful. Having ADHD is not an excuse. I do understand how you feel. You actually taught me a few things that I did not know. Daily meditation is very helpful.
I was diagnosed as hyperkinetic at 6mo (I couldn't stop moving) and then with ADHD when I was 4. I'm also autistic and have OCD with panic disorder and depression. I'm 36. I technically have combined type, but have more hyperactive symptoms. I literally watched this video while gardening in the rain. Majority of my family has ADHD to a degree (I'm the most severe . Impulsivity is a big thing for me (I live with 4 dogs, 3 guinea pigs, 2 cats and a husband). I work as an autism therapist and I get put with kids who need someone who can match their energy. I'm hyperverbal, so I also work with a lot of low and non-verbal kids. I can't sit still. I can't watch a movie at home without scrolling Facebook and playing on my tablet at the same time. I have multiple sleep disorders. I like to rub my face on things (my black cat is my favorite for that, though she doesn't agree). I'm looking at medication currently. I've spent most of my life without it, but the short time I did have it (age 22), it helps more that I can say without gestures. Like actual linear thought became a possibility, that level of significance of effect. I have a lot of behavioral tricks in my bag (schedules, lists, timers, etc) that work great, but they dont always work 100%
Thanks for putting this out here Taz, you really are doing amazing things for a lot of people. This has helped a lot in my personal situation and quite rightly, you talking about it normalises it more and more. Which is how it should be, no one should feel like an outsider, huge pat on the back mate, keep up the good work and self love 🥰👍
as someone who also just recently got diagnosed with adhd... YOU GOT THIS AND YOU ARE STILL A BEAUTIFUL HUMANBEING! WE LOVE YOU LOTS AND EVEN MORE BECAUSE OF YOUR EFFORTS
i been thinking i have adhd for a while now, and i realised the same way as u did, tiktok and instagram posts warning me. i never understood why i cant explain myself, why i take 1h to watch a 10 min video, why i zone out when people are talking to me, why dont i remember things i said 5min ago... now that i am 90% sure i may have adhd i feel like if i tell people they will judge me, like i want an opinion of family and boyfriend about it but im so scared they will think im trying to victimize myself or something. the other issue im facin gis telling my doctor about it. i dont feel comfortable with doctors as they always disregarded me torwards my PCOS helth issue... so idk what to do i just wish i could do the test and be sure without being judged
The first video I ever watched of you was one on procrastination. And I remember thinking, I relate to her so much. And the more of your videos I watched, it was like watching myself. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and every moment after that I was like, 'i'd be surprised is she doesn't have it as well.'
I love this ♥️ Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I’ve related to a lot of the things you’ve pointed out about yourself and it’s honestly making me want to get screening, myself. Just for my own peace of mind. Appreciate you always for sharing your life with us!!!
My brother and my best friend have adhd my brother was diagnosed as a kid and my best friend when he was 18 they have completely different types of ADHD from what they say it's frustrating when they can't do something or can't concentrate it's different for everyone and definitely different for boys and girls. I'm pretty sure I have it aswell. It's crazy how common it is
I knew there was something about you that I related to so much, with some stuff you say and how you act! I have autism & adhd mostly inattentiveness just like you and this video is just great for me to watch, I am glad that some answers to mysteries in your life have been solved by the diagnosis
My counsellor said that they thought I had ADHD so I did some research and I absolutely agree but when I went to my GP about it she completely disregarded me so I've still not been diagnosed. I'd love to get that validation instead of wondering all the time x
I don't know if this would help, but maybe you could see another doctor and get your counsellor to write a letter to your doctor. Maybe they did that already. I'm sorry you had that reaction from your GP.
@@rebeccajohnston1542 Thank you ❤️ I think I will try and see someone else, I haven’t seen the counsellor for a few years now but maybe I should try and find one that specialises in neurodivergency and see if they agree and will write a letter for me. I was just so disappointed with the outcome last time and made to feel like I was wasting her time so I didn’t bother trying again x
We should all like ourselves for who we are, don’t feel you have to change.... continue to be your positive self....😎 I was diagnosed with hyperactivity as a kid, now I don’t think I am as hyper as I used to be (I am older), but I am very OCD now. 😳
hey Taz, all this time i wonder why i like you soo much. i felt like all you do in your videos are so much relatable with the way im thinking. and now i know we both had adhd, i just talk to psychologist like 1 week ago.
If you don’t mind me asking, how long was it from the point you rang the gp to when you were diagnosed. I want to ring the gp but I’ve heard it can take like two years
as someone with adhd its been pretty funny watching u and slowly realising how much we had in common with just how we acted, i wanted to dm u and ask if u had adhd but idk its kinda weird to ahbsha , but cool !! my comfort youtuber and i have something pretty big in common :")
As someone who is soon going to graduate as a psychologist I'd say that you were pretty spot on about the disorder and loved the way you tried your best to explain it.
@@user-wi4gu7qt3f are you trying to make fun of someone who actually doing something and studying to get a degree ?
And you really think they've taught you the truth about it (let alone the root cause/s and how to deal with it)?
"Turns out I'm not quirky, I just have adhd" would have been my senior yearbook quote if I had been diagnosed before I graduated from school.
I graduate in 6 weeks. Maybe my own quote should be "As a kid, I always thought I was just quirky. Turns out I'm autistic"
I know how you feel. I was recently diagnosed with ocd, afters years of it interfering with my life. I probably always knew I had it especially in school and college when everything had to be perfect and I spent all my time obsessing over getting good grades. I'd always be worrying over small things for days whether it be something health related or something I said. It really was tiresome. Eventually it got so bad I was not leaving home and quit my job. At this stage I decided to seek help which was the best decision I made. I found out it wasn't my fault I was like this, to not be so hard on myself for my intrusive thoughts and behaviours. I am now able to work on it and get the help I need which has made life so much better. My advice to anyone who may feel they may have a mental health disorder is that it's okay to seek help, it's not your fault. It's not something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Life can and will get better.
I was also recently diagnosed with OCD and I’ve had the feeling that I’ve had it for most of my life but talking to my therapist about it made me realize just how much it effects my life. So many things started to make so much more sense. I also am in the process of getting diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Same goes for that, finally having a name for it and knowing just how much it effects my life. I finally have answers as to why I am the way I am and why I struggle with specific things. Getting a diagnosis can be scary bc it is a label and confirms that there is something “wrong” but it is also relieving bc it makes you feel less alone. At least that’s how I feel
Thank you for this!
I believe I have OCD and my real event obsessions make me feel that I don’t deserve to get treatment which is sad but I know it’s not true. Also I have a really bad period every few months and then it gets better and in the better periods I think I’ve made it all up. Can it come and go?
@@justthatgamergirl1 yes it can
@@tv-ep5gl thanks!
I just wanted to give Taz a hug when she was tryna hold back her tears. 💛
Same :
same
Lol
🌟 A diagnosis does not change you, it can just help you understand yourself a bit better 🌟
Absolutely! Taz, please remember that you're not your diagnosis
Exactly. ADHD is not something that just comes along later in life. It's lifelong, getting diagnosed doesn't mean you've gotten ADHD recently, it just means you've had it your entire life. You're the exact same, you just have a better explanation to yourself.
Perfectly said
I thought these symptoms are something everyone had and was normal. Now I’m rethinking everything. As a brown, this is difficult to accept growing up in a society where mental health isn’t taken seriously
It is normal, ADHD is not a disorder its just a bunch of symptoms. There is nothing wrong with how your brain functions. So many of us think and feel this way. How can we all be ill.
I have ADHD btw....
Exactly same
@@dmalkani2000 You're wrong in the part of saying 'How can we all be ill' and that ADHD is 'just a bunch of symptoms', that can be quite hurtful to the ND community.
I would say, research, and then talk to people who have ADHD or who are ND in general. because a lot of the ADHD symptoms overlap with Autism! So research, and talk to ADHDers. A good youtube channel to get info is 'How to ADHD'! I hope everything goes well!
Omg same I felt the same I was thinking "isn't eveeyone feel that way? Cause I feel that way everyday but I am not daignosed with ADHD....oh wait"
You have done so well bringing awareness to this and I am really glad you went to have this checked out with your GP.
Has ADHD but still has a first class law degree and a successful youtube channel. Inspirational Taz 🥺
its scary how i related to pretty much everything that taz was saying she related to too. When they asked her if she had things to do and wanted to do it and still wasnt able to do them, i started to cry because i deal with that a lot and it makes me hurt myself mentally and physically cause i feel so pathetic and know i should be trying harder. I had to change my major from pre-med to a more creative one too because i couldnt cope with pre-med and was in a terrible head space and i used to beat myself up for sucking at it. I never thought this would make me so emotional but here i am, sobbing like a baby
Honestly, the fact that you can see all this about yourself shows your growth as a person, also dont be ashamed of changing courses. From what you've described it sounds like it was a really good and healthy decision you made for yourself. Ik I'm just a random internet stranger but I'm proud of you for putting your own needs first over others expectations.
It's called executive dysfunction if you want to read up some more about it! I struggle with it as well and it is so, so validating to learn it's an actual thing with a name and hear that you are not alone with it. So the same goes to you; you are not alone, and I'm proud of you. It's horrible at times to deal with, and sometimes we just have to switch gears, and that's alright. I hope you're doing better now at the creative major!
we are creatures, its even in our dna a cycle (a plan) , wich every cell has to follow and be healthy same with mind, when we have a plan ,or we said we are going to do this (study,work etc), we often feel so bad,sad and tired bc we are doing nothing for it, reather then we are doing something for it, so maybe when u felt tired mentally in pre-med maybe it was bc u didnt study and work as much as u planed for it. It wasnt that u could but studying and working should be a habit and if u didnt have that habit it takes timee to create it(like month even year), so dont diagnose urself or think abt disorders ur ok. youre great, just like us, a human beeing.🦋
same, I started crying so hard during the screening. and honestly i couldn't stop crying because i have put myself under so much pressure and given Myself a lot of hard time and made mysefl feel worthless because i am impulsive and people kept saying that i am quirky as well. it all makes sense rn it all makes sense.
@@TheElenaNumb here's a tip: when you feel like you don't want to just tell yourself that you're building a habit. when you accomplish things, you're one step closer to building a habit. i don't know if you have adhd or not (i do), but these things work for me sometimes. I know how you feel, beating yourself up about things. try meditating. it sounds cheesy but you can meditate for 2 minutes a day and clear your headspace. you don't have to do these things, and it's not your fault if they don't work, but sometimes they work for me. just helping out a friend/internet stranger
you're doing great :)
I've noticed lately a lot of females I watch in media or in my personal life have been diagnosed with adhd the last year or so & a lot of them are in their 20s-40s but they finally feel like they get it bc they thought for a while something was wrong or weird.
Crazy how it takes a little while to actually know what's going on.
I'm 29 and growing up you'd mainly heard young boys having it who tried messing up and joking loudly in class & they can't concentrate but haven't heard many people talk about it until recently
It’s because ADHD isn’t often seen in young girls as the more inattentivness part shows up in girls whereas the more hyperactivity part shows up in boys, and when you think of ADHD most people think of hyperactivity. It’s also why way more boys are diagnosed
I’m going through a similar situation, I have suspected autism and still waiting for the people to get back to me. I can’t wait to find answers because a lot of what I’ve looked up seem to relate a lot to how I act.
If you're diagnosed as "not autistic" but you really feel it explains you, consider the possibility that the experts are wrong. They're still learning what ASD is, and their understanding of ADHD is still changing, as well.
@@MelissaThompson432 I’ve not been diagnosed yet I’ve sent a form across explaining my situation, they’re just taking ages to get back to me
@@Themepark_hannah yes, waiting takes forever....
Hi Hannah!
I have been working as an ABA therapist after graduating psychology:) I would be happy to help you!
Taz: "I'm not special."
Me: "Of course you are. I don't know, what you could possibly do, to make me love you even more - but you manage it every video."
Taz: "Don't get attached."
Me: "Way too late." :D
I'm so proud of you Taz. We're always learning more about ourselves. You're doing great.
I never wanted to admit it but maybe it‘s also time for me to get checked out for it. Thank you so much for opening up peoples minds and taking away the fear a lil bit!💙
this video is making me question whether or not I have ADHD. for the past five years (since year 9), I realised I had severe anxiety ever since I moved back from one country to another but never got a formal assessment done purely because whenever I spoke to my GP the most they'd tell me to do was to call up mental health services, not understanding that, that is also a thing that triggers my anxiety. but regardless I tried calling a few times but then after a couple of attempts I just gave up. it was only until I left secondary that I decided to speak to the counsellor at my college. I recently finished college and have been advised to get professional help. I've also changed my GP because I just felt like they weren't taking me seriously.
the symptoms Taz mentioned in the video align with mine, for the most part. I always used to associate such symptoms with my anxiety, but only recently I noticed that those symptoms have been more frequent, even though I haven't experienced full-blown anxiety attacks in some time. this is encouraging me to speak to my new GP for once and figure things out. I hate living on edge, not understanding exactly what's going on with me and just assuming whatever fits the description.
I don't think you understand how important and significant I feel that you posted this, thank you for using your platform to spread awareness. I got diagnosed with adhd in February 2021 and it's been such a long process to get a diagnosis especially in Canada. I brought up adhd to my GP for the first time a year and a half ago because I struggled in school and without asking questions, he said it wasn't adhd and it was probably because I didn't like my program. Im so proud of you, being aware of your adhd will make it easier for you to manage your symptoms and will allow you to get appropriate support.
I feel so happy for you. Not because you have a disorder but because you have an eplanation for things that you were insecure about.
I relate so much to that. When I was officially diagnosed with depression it was so relieving to know that it's not me being weird or whatever but somply me having a disorder.
Thank you for sharing this and bringing awareness!
so i watched this video when you first posted it, and at that point i didn't really know much or anything really about adhd. just knew what it stood for. some of what you said seemed familiar but i was quick to dismiss it and say nah nothing's wrong with me.
but then. months later i also started seeing adhd posts on Instagram and Twitter and stuff and i went digging more. now, 9 months later i am diagnosed with adhd. and i thought of this video and came back to watch it. everything you said makes so much sense to me now it's so weirrrd😂
She's one of the strongest person I know. The one person who makes me feel validated. Thanks Taz ♡♡. Just remember you're an amazing human.
I am so proud of you!
I myself am on the same exact journey awaiting my screening appointment. Validating is the best word to explain the process. You should be so proud of yourself for the strength it's taken to start your journey. You can feel the emotions and growth radiating from you 💜
I was diagnosed with adhd in the 1980's the older I get the better it I get.
What?
Taz is so inspiring and so amazing!!! All I want is for her to be happy and I'm glad she is trying not to be hard on herself or speak bad about herself!!! Love you Taz!!!💜💜💜
Taz be like: “don’t get attached”
While me watching this with half eye closed cz im damn sleepy🥺 love u gurl
SAMEE It's literally 2 AM here
Your pfp makes your comment even better
@@shake6474 aww HAHAHA THANKS
I literally fell asleep in the middle of the video. 😅😂 Had to watch it again now.
istg thank you so much for this video becuase i relate to you so much! i remember beating myself up for things wondering why i COULDNT JUST DO IT but understanding that it’s my brain and i should be working WITH IT and not AGAINST it when it’s just simply wired differently. thank you so much for sharing your experience Taz ❤️
Your still taz, so your still my favourite person, so your still gonna make my day :)) ❤️
I always felt different. I remember telling my mum I felt like It took me longer to learn things in primary school. I've also had physical and verbal (no words) tics my whole life. Now I'm 25 and I went to the doc as my tics have been getting gradually stronger/bigger/harder to control/ louder. The doc suggested I have tourettes, ADHD or OCD. I'm on a waiting list for a psychiatrist now (9months) to get evaluated for all three. After doing alot of research I think I have tourettes and ADHD. I've had anxiety and bouts of depression my whole life too which lends itself to ADHD. I also feel like I'm hypersensitive emotionally and it's really hard to remain calm and grounded. I find it really hard to focus on conversations and other things. Thank you for telling us your experience Taz. I'm a fan anyway, but I'd love more ADHD content. Thank you x
I haven't even got to the first minute yet and I'm already crying. I can relate to you so much and I also might have ADHD (cannot get diagnosis) and I'm so emotional for no reason.
I hope you can heal some of your struggles while you navigate this new knowledge about yourself and get the right tools and strategies to help you live the best life possible without so much guilt and pain attached to what you have learned to perceive as flaws or shortcomings. Women and girls are often diagnosed late and are generally underdiagnosed for ADHD. You are great and you deserve to live a happy life.
I completely agree with this. I was diagnosed a year ago and it definitely has helped validate my character and then aid my process to learn about myself. I like how you said that doing or saying something bad doesn't make you a bad person, but instead its how you react and adapt to the next situation that determines that. Sending love💜
That rice dish in the beginning looks really good!
Does anyone know what rice cooker brand Taz used?
Welcome to the club - was diagnosed 2,5 years ago with 27...it is still a struggle to understand how it affects you daily...I highly recommend behavioural therapy to help with that and learning methods and skills that are better suited to an ADHD brain - we are motivated and interested in other ways than neurotypical people, trying to to things "the normal way" might just be frustrating...and most of the time the main issue is not the ADHD itself, it is beating yourself up for not being as organized, disciplined and focused as you think you should be....but you are awesome the way you are and will find your own way with people that love and cherish you just the way you are ❤️
Whenever I feel low ( everyday* ) I just watch Taz's and it makes feel better Thank You TAZ.
Thanks to your last video talking about it, I came to know I have ADHD too and severe anxiety now I know all the reasons behind my actions. haha, My exams are there from Saturday and I have never found myself this distracted.
i am like- *studies for 3 min* (3 seconds later) *doodling flowers*
@ilikecheese Yeah, I'll surely do it, I am just afraid that I can't go to therapist now, but I am trying my best.
Thankyou so much for writing.
Take care.
Hi! I was actually just scrolling through to see if anyone has ADHD and anxiety. I've had anxiety for ages (not diagnosed by a psychiatrist but I've had therapy for it), and I always blamed my stupid behaviour on the anxiety. But lately I've been really struggling mentally and I know for sure that it's not the anxiety because I'm not getting and actual anxiety symptoms! It would be great if anyone could tell me if I should go see a gp for it cos I've been having trouble concentrating, I have that 'I have a bunch to do but let me just watch NETFLIX for 5 hours and spend every second of it thinking 'I should get up and do all those things'' And also is it weird that if I'm watching a 20 minutes episode of friends it always turns into 40 minutes or something cos I constantly click off to watch or look up something else....?
Sorry for the rant! 😭
@@godabuikute4157 Yeah, first of all that was a nice rant, and yes it is very difficult to see ourselves like this, and the worst feeling is doing everything and feeling guilty for it. It's like my brain and my heart is scared of not being able to get a good outcome, but my body just doesn't care, and it just wants that comfort zone, and those countless hours on you tube and maybe sleeping when I should be studying.
It's 3:10 in the morning, and I am trying my best to concentrate, It has never been difficult, I had a better concentration when I was 5 not gonna lie.
I am still trying and I still have that fear for the uncertainity of me not getting the desired grades.
That fear just doesn't goes away. And I am kinda tired of feeling this way ngl. I don't know how I'll do on test tomorrow, but the fear makes everything worse.
And yeah... maybe talking a lot is also one of the ADHD symptom... Haha I keep writing, I guess I'll stop here.
Take care and smile often drink more water.
@ilikecheese Yeah You're right on that, I'll try my best to go to a professional as soon as I can, I am kinda tired of seeing myself this way, to find motivation for the smallest thing. Imagine waking up and cursing yourself just to brush your teeth. It sucks alot and I feel this is the first time I am talking about this! I have been very interested in psychology that's why mental health became one of my concerns when I started seeing myself like this. I'll try to find a professional as soon as I can, maybe I can try online professional's as well, if I didn't got any near me.
I actually go through almost all the symptoms you've mentioned but I don't get intrigued or bothered about it, which I don't know if it's a good thing or not. Like, it's just who I am and I never thought it could be a disorder until now. I'm glad that u explained it. And we love you too❤️
Listening to you always encourage me and I feel so positive. I hope, whatever you're fighting with in your life, you succeed. I love you a lot. You matter to a lot of us. Always here for you. #itsfinetaz
Literally had the same process of realising I have adhd and then I talked to my therapist and she was like duh how didn’t you get diagnosed before
I was literally scrolling through TH-cam trying to find something to watch!! Yayyy I’m early for once 🥰
13:08 yall can see the tears in her eyes 🥺
Lol haven’t watched the video yet but same and I’m super curious to watch cause I’m an introvert who ‘had’ (still kinda but worked hard hehe) social anxiety and anxiety and can be ‘quiet’ but my mind never shuts up
I relate to it, but not that not knowing adhd part.. I kinda know about all kinda of mental disorders for like 3 years i like psychology ig and for 3 to 2 years i always felt like i might have adhd.. Cuz of all the symptoms u just talk bout but being brown where mental health is not first priority its very hard to tell ur parents or family bout all of it im waitinh to get 20 or 21 soo i can get a proper diagnosis soo my life makes a bit more sense but rn i sometimes do things where i am just like its okay its okay u do that dont push urself to much i try mybest to know myself..
U r soo strong taz and im soo glad that u inspire so many people and causing awareness on this topic is very imp cuz having adhd is common but lot of people dont get an early diagnosis hope things workout for u stay happy, stay same❤❤
Taz: "I don't really fidget"
Also Taz with her rings : 12:31
That's more of a nervous thing than ADHD. When talking to or in front of people, it helps to occupy your hands or tapping/shaking leg.
I think it's really brave how you chose to put this out there and I think you could have put it on your main channel and got more views but maybe this was a safer space which I fully understand. Hope you're good taz xx 🥰
As someone who really had to fight for people to take my adhd seriously, I am very happy for you & that you got your answers without having to walk from doctor to doctor. I got my diagnosis just a few weeks ago but I’ve spent the last 3 decades wondering wtf was wrong with me. I’ve had many misdiagnoses until I finally got diagnosed with adhd and its been life changing. All the best to you taz! I am 1000% not surprised you’ve got adhd tbh 😂
Yeah so I'm watching this still but I also think in your case. People in the comments are toxic and hard on you. Like your example on the W video. WHY can't people just enjoy the funny videos. Literally you're hilarious. Yet I have seen MANY comments that attack you. Taz from a older woman to you. YOU'RE DOING GREAT. LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN. YOU'RE BEYOND DOING GREAT. I'm almost 40 this year and have a whole house falling apart, LITERALLY broken in so many areas, can't afford anything, afraid, anxious, and live in fear everyday, a nervous wreck, my disability under this administration is being cut off, to disabled to work yet unable to keep my disability under this administration ( I'm not the only one this is happening too.), struggling at EVERYTHING, can't sleep, can't focus, can't breathe half the time, have a massive phobia to even leave the room much less my house, can't drive from another phobia, suffer extreme PTSD, and HUGE ETC. Not to mention I have 3 kids with multiple disabilities. The state won't help us. Two can die at anytime from cardiac arrest, seizures, or even infections. One has been missing for 5 birthday's this year. I can go on and on. ONLY YOUR VIDEOS. They keep me sane, laughing, focused more in these moments of extreme depression, happier, and highly much better. Sometimes after watching your videos I can leave the house and go to the grocery. Yes that comes with a huge breakdown BUT I made it further than the bed. Yet I noticed in the comments the hate to you. So again TRUST ME YOU'RE DOING SO AMAZING. You help so many people like me. EVERYDAY. You help so many people that you don't even know their stories. Like me. So thank you. Thank you so much for being you.
Give me your first name and surname, I'll pray for you
literally just finished watching all your vids on both channels and you just uploaded again yessss!!!!!
“Every decision I’ve made so far has brought me to a place where, as an ADHD person, I can thrive” - this resonated so hard.
It’s amazing really to look back on all of our past ‘struggles’ and realise that actually, instead of making life more difficult, we were subconsciously setting ourselves up to succeed in an even better way!
I mentioned this a while ago and I got so many unkind messages I never said it in a bad day I'm a mother of 2 autistic's! Glad you are getting help hun x
Maybe it's because their autistic.
I'm sure you won't see this. But I wanted to tell you that it's okay. It's really okay.
I'm suffering from depression and borderline personality disorder. And I tell myself it's okay
So I wanted to tell you that too. It's really okay
It is really ok x
I have severe depression (MDD/Dysthymia) Anxiety and autism. Sometimes all we can do is remind ourselves that it is ok.
♥️♥️♥️ I have BPD and deal with severe depression as well so I feel this so much. I hope you are doing okay and taking care of yourself. You deserve to be happy and for all your dreams to come true ♥️.
To have ADHD just means you have more of what every person already have. I view you no different Taz. Much love.
So I never thought I could have ADHD because I didn't have the hyperactivity side (in fact been called lazy most of my life) but then I saw ADHD Instagram posts these past few months and I feel like it explained my life. And then this video popped up and Oh my gosh yes! The parts about being "quirky" and "sensitive" and being a wimp but putting myself in dangerous situations just speaks to me! I've been putting off speaking to a GP because I still didn't really believe I could have lived 28 years and no one pick up on it. You've given me the confidence to reach out and get the help. You're so right, once you find out and become self aware of these "flaws" that you've beat yourself up about are actually just your brain's way of thinking, it changes your whole perspective. Sorry this was a ramble but thanks Taz ❤️
I usually don’t comment on videos but this one has made me want to. I didn’t have the best day and was literally beating myself up over a mistake I made. Listening to you speak those words of encouragement were comforting. Thank you for bringing awareness to ADHD and taking out the time to be meticulous about how you put information about it across. Love your videos, will always watch 💛
sorry to hear you got adhd babe
"If I was my own kid I'd be terrified"😂😂😂😂 I'm dead
Even if u have ADHD bub we still love youuu, and you really are a great person and we love your content. We never would want to pressurise you! ❤️
Why wouldn't we still love her? She is the sweetest person omg 💛💛💛
thank you so much for this, for choosing to be open and, personally, for putting that clip of the screening in (which must have been difficult) i'm trying to gear myself up to start this process and it's so hard to find information for adults in the UK about what happens, as a very anxious person the not knowing has been holding me back from taking the first step, so thank you so much for being vulnerable and putting this out there, you've helped me so much and i'm sure many others too. ❤️
Taz you brought me to tears with what you said about making mistakes, I really needed to hear that - Thank you xxx
lol. You just explained my life to me 😂 guess I gotta go get checked.
I thought everyone was like that. Turns out I was wrong
Bruh same
@@minionbaby7154 same like what
Welcome to the club!! We're welcoming you with open arms!!! 😊 You are such a kindhearted person, I really wish you the best.
I hope you learn more and more about yourself and become more loving and understanding towards yourself.
Something to keep in mind with hyperactivity is that it isn’t just not being able to sit still or talking a lot. It’s like, me fiddling with my popsocket on my phone absentmindedly when I’m having a conversation, or picking at my nails, or right now, scrunching up a blanket under my toes while writing a comment. The movement can be really subtle. When my therapist pointed this out it blew me away, because I never thought of myself as hyperactive.
Look up the channel How to ADHD, for sure. And keep in mind that ADHD is all about executive function, and in adulthood there are all sorts of ways it affects your life that can be surprising. You might look up rejection sensitivity and the emotional and sensory sensitivity in general that can come with it, which helped explain a lot for me.
And finally, there is a growing body of evidence that suggests ADHD is an evolutionary trait that helped people thrive in hunter/gatherer societies. It’s a feature, not a bug! It’s just that in a modern world designed largely by and for neurotypicals ADHD can feel like a major disadvantage. But you’re living proof that ADHD comes with some really awesome superpowers. Me, too (I’m a professor!).
Also keep in mind that we tend to be way harder on ourselves and expect way more from ourselves than most neurotypical people, while from the outside people will wonder how we manage to do all the things we do. You’re awesome, Taz, just as you are, and don’t forget that.
You are such an amazing person Taz, your videos has inspired me to believe and myself and just do what I love. I can say it's definitely a blessing to have found your channel, you have given me happiness, thank you so much
Thank you for this Taz, I'm the same age as you and to a tee you've described symptoms and behaviours I have struggled with my whole life.
I was never diagnosed in school instead even though I struggled massively. I was just called a ‘Daydreamer’ every single year, by every single teacher, on every school report and at every single parent evening 😭
Being female this is common as we tend to display less of the hyperactivity leading to the symptoms being overlooked.
I always suspected I had ADHD through my own research but didn’t get help until I was in my late 20s, when I decided to learn how to drive. My lack of attention made it very dangerous for me and others. But I wish I had help sooner as not knowing really diminished my confidence growing up.
Thank you for this video, Taz! A friend of mine recently shared he has ADHD and it was the first time I ever heard about it. It was a bit difficult to even get what it was, I literally thought that's his personality It's important to explain and to understand why somebody acts a certain way and to help them, not judge them!
I used to resist myself from commenting that I see some signs because we usually think of a world in a particular way and we never like to believe that we are different, we like to believe for everyone to be uniform in behavior which is why we constantly strive to fit in and beat ourselves keeping high expectations. If I'd commented earlier, it would have given an impression that am just hating on you or blabbering random shit which is untrue. I am happy you finally found out and this gives a different perspective to look at yourself. I know it will take you time to let it sink in but I hope you're more generous and kind towards yourself now. You said it well, being self aware is very important.
I love you. I'm so happy you received this diagnosis. From a fellow neurodivergent, you are not alone in these behaviours, you are completely valid and you are never too much. I hope you find freedom and understanding through this 💛
Hey Taz, I hope you are doing well. I saw your video and to be honest, all of the boxes check out for me too. The screening part you recorded, all my answers surprisingly matched yours. Not that I am indicating I have ADHD but that I might. Being careless, a control freak, impulsive, fidgety etc. It all describes me. But the problem is, being a part of the desi culture, these mental illnesses/disorders are not actually considered illnesses/disorders. I can't ask my parent to get me help and I am not independent enough to do it myself.
I have been watching your videos for as long as I can remember you channel started. A huge fan of your words and the way you run this channel, showing how normal actually is, is really darn impressive. Lots of love and best wishes for the future. Love you ❤
Thank you for showing us and explaining to others what ADHD is, it’s a silent disorder really where NOT A LOT of people KNOW what it is, hopefully things like this will help people understand us MORE❤️❤️❤️
thanks for sharing this part of your life. I feel the same way, I watched these TikToks videos and see myself in a lot of their experiences. I know I should speak to a GP, its just getting around to it.
I feel the same and have suspected it for a while, just feels like the GP won’t believe me or will palm me off.
@@sl-zs7cb I spoke to my GP and they were nice, but they said the waiting list is 2years to get a referral....
Watching this video and I really relate to the things you're saying and it's making me wonder if I have ADHD. Thanks for sharing this, I have dyslexia and just openly talking about things like this is great
I really really struggle answering questions like on the screening, I feel like I can’t judge my behaviour or actions on the whole and have to ask other people. I think back and I can’t remember or I don’t judge it right and I don’t want to get it wrong.
With someone who has adhd it is very much much a curse and blessing. For me it is very hard for me to control my emotions and my anxiety is bad because I over think because my brain is always going. I'm super energetic and outgoing and want to do everything but I get distracted. Uts hard for me to finish projects. Just keep trying and stragies that help. Love u taz!!!!
I watched this again this morning before my adhd assessment for comfort. I got my diagnosis and feel so relieved and validated 🥰
8:59 I was writing a whole comment before deleting it thinking I was just being dramatic. Until you said that. I had VERY strong feelings I have anxiety/ certainly social anxiety where I’m now realizing is eating me up. But I wouldn’t know because it’s never been confirmed, so I’ve been keeping everything to myself. But when you said that it kinda pushed me to maybe man up for 20 seconds and finally ask my parents for help, so at least I know, and I’m not just making it up. So thanks Taz you literally might be the last push for me to finally help myself.
I also think I have ADHD. Also I think I have anxiety and depression. But I never got any help.
After watching your videos, I think I should talk to a psychologist about it. It's actually making daily activities difficult for me.
To all the amazing people in the comment section, can you please suggest an online platform where I can get help? Any random suggestions would be appreciated ❤️
I was diagnosed with ADHD to a few months ago I noticed that when my son was diagnosed last year that we had very similar symptoms and then when I started reading into this I thought wow this explains my entire life. Book recommendation (although if you are anything like me you find it hard to concentrate on reading I use audiobooks on audible) a radical guide for women with ADHD has been even more validating than the research that I've done all & the tiktok's I've watched because it really helps you put into perspective your own personal experience. Congratulations on your diagnosis too it's a very strange emotional feeling isn't it?
Thank you for this Taz...I've been struggling with anxiety (and depression) since I can remember...and I realized that just recently. It makes me so sad knowing how I always blamed myself for my thoughts and feelings and behavior. I mean I still do. I guess I just should find some help but it seems so "unreal" to me. This is the only thing I know, it's already a part of me.
Anyway, just kind of clearing my mind here. 😅 Take care everyone! ♡
This was a very, very refreshing video Taz. There is little representation of non-neurotypical people that is shown in a positive light such as better understanding yourself and how your neuro divergence impacts the things you do and how you do them. There is NOTHING wrong with being neuro divergent AT ALL. People need to realise that. Did you grow a new head once you knew you had ADHD? No. Did you suddenly become unintelligent? No. Did you suddenly stop being able to live a full, complete, independent life with a job and friends and family? ABSOLUTELY NOT! NOTHING changed about you as a person AT ALL. This is what people, sometimes, fail to understand. Neuro typical doesn’t mean “weird,” “strange,” “incompetent,” incapable,” or anything else. It JUST means: Different way of perceiving and experiencing the world than Neurotypical people do. NOTHING ELSE.
You are still the same Taz we have all grown to adore and you will remain the same Taz we adore as well.
Keep being awesome!
We have been "BLESSED" with another taz vlog 😇😇. ~Ahhhhhnnnnhhhhhnnn~
I'm almost at tears when you showed your screening test because I, too, relate to those scenarios, yet I'm also scared because what if it's just all in my head.
i went through exactly that. so exactly. creepily exactly. - there were some cool things i realized i misexplained. i thought i'm super tough, cool, funny, rude [that's of course in my high energy spin mode] because i grew up with tough sets in big cities etc and don't seem to fear danger because i've seen worse. the diagnosis made me realize that is not true. i simply lack the imagination, the projection, to anticipate consequences like others do. how do i know: other people w/ ADHD who didn't grow up in squats, with riots & gangsta have exactly the same pattern. - so a layer of abstraction is missing.
however, apparently i'm much more at home with multiple levels of abstractions above the 'anticipation' layer. i thought i could just show people how to do contemplation, create similes, poetry, inventions, amazing, unusual solutions to tricky problems. how to learn in unusual ways. it's easy for me and i can dissect how it works. only others can't copy it. in fact, according to their own rules, they can't tell you, nor ask about it. - i feel sorry for them about that because i don't mind that they don't get it and could explain it.
I was diagnosed with ADD years ago. I tried medication and therapy. Neither was as helpful as educating myself and making lifestyle changes. The meds can be very dangerous when used long-term so please be careful. Having ADHD is not an excuse. I do understand how you feel. You actually taught me a few things that I did not know. Daily meditation is very helpful.
I was diagnosed as hyperkinetic at 6mo (I couldn't stop moving) and then with ADHD when I was 4. I'm also autistic and have OCD with panic disorder and depression. I'm 36. I technically have combined type, but have more hyperactive symptoms. I literally watched this video while gardening in the rain. Majority of my family has ADHD to a degree (I'm the most severe . Impulsivity is a big thing for me (I live with 4 dogs, 3 guinea pigs, 2 cats and a husband). I work as an autism therapist and I get put with kids who need someone who can match their energy. I'm hyperverbal, so I also work with a lot of low and non-verbal kids. I can't sit still. I can't watch a movie at home without scrolling Facebook and playing on my tablet at the same time. I have multiple sleep disorders. I like to rub my face on things (my black cat is my favorite for that, though she doesn't agree).
I'm looking at medication currently. I've spent most of my life without it, but the short time I did have it (age 22), it helps more that I can say without gestures. Like actual linear thought became a possibility, that level of significance of effect. I have a lot of behavioral tricks in my bag (schedules, lists, timers, etc) that work great, but they dont always work 100%
Thanks for putting this out here Taz, you really are doing amazing things for a lot of people. This has helped a lot in my personal situation and quite rightly, you talking about it normalises it more and more. Which is how it should be, no one should feel like an outsider, huge pat on the back mate, keep up the good work and self love 🥰👍
as someone who also just recently got diagnosed with adhd... YOU GOT THIS AND YOU ARE STILL A BEAUTIFUL HUMANBEING! WE LOVE YOU LOTS AND EVEN MORE BECAUSE OF YOUR EFFORTS
i been thinking i have adhd for a while now, and i realised the same way as u did, tiktok and instagram posts warning me. i never understood why i cant explain myself, why i take 1h to watch a 10 min video, why i zone out when people are talking to me, why dont i remember things i said 5min ago... now that i am 90% sure i may have adhd i feel like if i tell people they will judge me, like i want an opinion of family and boyfriend about it but im so scared they will think im trying to victimize myself or something. the other issue im facin gis telling my doctor about it. i dont feel comfortable with doctors as they always disregarded me torwards my PCOS helth issue... so idk what to do i just wish i could do the test and be sure without being judged
The first video I ever watched of you was one on procrastination. And I remember thinking, I relate to her so much. And the more of your videos I watched, it was like watching myself. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and every moment after that I was like, 'i'd be surprised is she doesn't have it as well.'
Are you on adhd medication ?
I love this ♥️
Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
I’ve related to a lot of the things you’ve pointed out about yourself and it’s honestly making me want to get screening, myself. Just for my own peace of mind.
Appreciate you always for sharing your life with us!!!
Hi you are ok it's just understanding one's self better. Take care
You're not too much. You are perfectly lovely and I was happy you could make this video and share this with us. Hope you're having a good day Taz xo
My brother and my best friend have adhd my brother was diagnosed as a kid and my best friend when he was 18 they have completely different types of ADHD from what they say it's frustrating when they can't do something or can't concentrate it's different for everyone and definitely different for boys and girls. I'm pretty sure I have it aswell. It's crazy how common it is
This video helped me in a moment when I really needed it. Thank you, Taz.
I knew there was something about you that I related to so much, with some stuff you say and how you act! I have autism & adhd mostly inattentiveness just like you and this video is just great for me to watch, I am glad that some answers to mysteries in your life have been solved by the diagnosis
You are such a great and authentic person Taz! Be kind to yourself always! I Love your videos. Wise words in this one!
My counsellor said that they thought I had ADHD so I did some research and I absolutely agree but when I went to my GP about it she completely disregarded me so I've still not been diagnosed. I'd love to get that validation instead of wondering all the time x
I don't know if this would help, but maybe you could see another doctor and get your counsellor to write a letter to your doctor. Maybe they did that already. I'm sorry you had that reaction from your GP.
@@rebeccajohnston1542 Thank you ❤️ I think I will try and see someone else, I haven’t seen the counsellor for a few years now but maybe I should try and find one that specialises in neurodivergency and see if they agree and will write a letter for me. I was just so disappointed with the outcome last time and made to feel like I was wasting her time so I didn’t bother trying again x
We should all like ourselves for who we are, don’t feel you have to change.... continue to be your positive self....😎
I was diagnosed with hyperactivity as a kid, now I don’t think I am as hyper as I used to be (I am older), but I am very OCD now. 😳
hey Taz, all this time i wonder why i like you soo much. i felt like all you do in your videos are so much relatable with the way im thinking. and now i know we both had adhd, i just talk to psychologist like 1 week ago.
If you don’t mind me asking, how long was it from the point you rang the gp to when you were diagnosed. I want to ring the gp but I’ve heard it can take like two years
Then you better call today! You won't get in any sooner if you ring tomorrow.
as someone with adhd its been pretty funny watching u and slowly realising how much we had in common with just how we acted, i wanted to dm u and ask if u had adhd but idk its kinda weird to ahbsha , but cool !! my comfort youtuber and i have something pretty big in common :")
You are such a gift Taz. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
Me: *being diagnosed with high functioning anxiety and ticking all the boxes for adhd 🤡🤣* i luv u taz
Same.
There's a lot of crossover between both.
I have ADHD too, we could be really good friends