I've only had a baby for 11 months and I didn't birth him, but I would go on an entire internet rampage bad mouthing LisaRaye and Saucy Santana, if that was my baby. I've obviously never been rich enough to ignore haters, coz I don't know how Beyonce is staying above this and only responding thru her music, because I would be problematic af, using my influence to bury mofos.
While the other 2 stayed mute😒. Ms. Iyanla come put this woman in the dirt bc she has not learned, nor healed or grown. There is beauty in our diversed textures. I don't support anyone or anything that does not stand we me and mine and those that may look like us in solidarity.
Lisa Raye: “He couldn’t say that about Baby Bella bc she doesn’t have nappy hair.” Saids the woman that has a horse tail on the top of her head! Girl go disappear like your acting career. PERIODT!!!
I need us to ban the word “nappy.” “Textured” and “beautifully dense” are fine. 4C hair is lovely. People are hating on Blue Ivy because she is unambiguously Black. People fetishize exoticism, but it’s sick that they’re doing this with a child. Let that baby live.
i say this all the time. the definition of the word nappy means a diaper. why are blk ppl calling each other shitheads?? the history of the word is just so negative all together even with the "new/black definition" so why do we continue using the shit..its disgusting to me. I say "coily" or "tight curled" ..i wish the word would disappear
It’s just something about grown people coming at a child that’s not normal. Blue Ivy is a beautiful little black girl with beautiful natural hair and shame on everyone who disrespected her
And that’s the reason the public rarely get the see the twins now. And I don’t blame them at all. I’ll be scorching the earth of people on the Internet we’re talking about my child.
If u h8 yourself it's difficult to see why this is wrong. I had someone write "the girl is ugly, y'all need to let it go..." and I asked who a beautiful child is and they named North and Stormy and... u get the point
They been talking about that child hair ppl need to let it go it is sad for these grown folks to be discussing this as a Topic we all know her parents can afford any style it’s evident that SHE likes HER hair like that
That ‘n’ term gets me upset lmao but yes type 4 hair is beautiful, whether it’s a fro, defined coils, Bantu knots, mini twists, etc and at any hair length. 👩🏽🦱🧑🏽🦱
right, I’ve been learning to love it by wearing braid outs everyday with just a moisturiser in my hair. And I’ve taken a break from wigs and it’s really helped with my self love 💕
I feel bad for us as black women sometimes for constantly getting attacked for how we wear our hair. Even as children and well into our adult years, we get judge. For what?! Smh
Sadly people BEEN hating on Blue Ivy for 0 reason. Why? Why put that much effort to destroy a child’s self esteem? Just to feel better? I wonder what kind of thought process these people have to be doing this while being in their 20s/30s+
It’s the fact that he’s a BLACK MAN degraded a black girl let alone A CHILD!!! As a member of the black community I must say that this community can get toxic at times especially ignorant ideas like Santana. Why are we still brainwashing our community into thinking that a kinky hair type or “nappy” hair is bad hair?? There should only be one reference of “good hair” and that would be hair that’s healthy; AND THAT’S IT!!! (Since Santana brought up Kim’s baby so will I) Why is it that North West can have her hair in protective hairstyles but Blu Ivy can’t ? It starts with us as a black community we must end this toxic cycle because these texturism, colorist, racist, and prejudice generalizations are ruining our community. ALSO generally speaking we need to stop pushing the narrative that once someone with an influence or a platform does something wrong they immediately have to apologize. DON’T GET ME WRONG we definitely must hold them accountable especially when they themselves can’t see the damage that they’re creating. However I feel as though why should we push someone into apologizing for something that we know they aren’t sorry for just because it’s the right thing to do? I say this because say he did apologize for the sake of his career it wouldn’t be genuine and would a fake apology be better than no apology at all??? Instead of pressuring celebrities or influencers into apologizing ( because we’ve seen time and time again that apologies mean nothing) ; we should allow them to continue to show us their TRUE COLORS and when they do we should continue to hold them accountable for their Ignorance by not streaming their music or calling them out constantly until they get the issue or whatever it might be. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk; this topic disgusted me and I’m happy I was allowed to speak my truth in your comments. Thank you Eloho for covering topics like these and giving us a safe environment to talk about the toxicity in our community!!!!
@@Day2daywithDej Just because he’s a gay man that wears lashes and nails doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to a woman. Same goes for woman that dress masculine. I think he’s just a gay man expressing his femininity.
I’d rather him NOT apologize. At this point if he apologized it would be fake. He would only be apologizing at this point because he’s being dragged. He has shown us who he is and we need to believe him!!! So now we don’t have to give him any coin or support! He gets NOTHING!!!!!
Right! He can keep his sentiments and leave that child alone. I wouldn't blame Beyonce if she kept her other kids out of spotlight until they reached adulthood.
I honestly even hate saying stuff like “look at blue now, her hair is so long and beautiful“ cuz it implies that she went through some kind of ugly stage and had a glow up. Blues hair was ALWAYS gorgeous. It was gorgeous when it was a short Afro as well and if it was still a short afro that would be perfect and beautiful as well. We don’t have to grow our hair down our backs to be deemed worthy. She always was gorgeous and deserving of peace over her appearance
@@theamateurconnoisseur exactly! Like why should she have to silence the haters with how long her hair is. The haters should be silenced by being shamed over their desire to clown black features not by blues length retention
I’m a (brown skinned) milenial and was raised by my (light skinned) grandmother and she started relaxing my hair when I was like 5. Phucked my hair UP! Now as a mother, I have two teen aged daughters, never relaxed their hair and they LOVE their big beautiful Afros. Of course, my grandmother makes snide remarks about their hair being nappy and them needing relaxers. Nah bruh. Nah.
The truth bothers people judging by how many people chose to ignore your post! We really hate the truth! Bravo to you for learning the lesson and breaking the curse
People coming from Blue Ivy come from a place of jealousy. She is a black little girl living in pure wealth, she can afford to get all our hairs done. Just say you wish you grew up like her and keep it pushing grandma.
It all ties back to texturism and self hate. It was weird and sad to see all these adults attack blue ivy not alone a CHILD and at the same time uplift mixed children (more specifically the Kardashian kids) for the expense of Blue’s black features such as her hair. I hate the narrative that Beyoncé and Jay Z don’t love their daughter Blue because her hair wasn’t styled to fit European standards..
This…colorism-Lisa Raye Chile👀👀👀 am I surprised? Also this show is on the Fox network? These people need to take several seats. People we got some weird ways. Time to wake up! Blue Ivy maybe the daughter of Beyoncé but she (Beyoncé) wear wigs, do you know her hair texture? Yet you are coming for Blue. Of because it’s a shame that she gad lighter skin yet her hair is “nappy”. Tianna Taylor has the so called better “texture” than Beyoncé yet oh because her skin is darker no one recognizes this. But the real thing I am trying to highlight-texturizism, featurism and colorism. Get it together people. White supremacy be running your thoughts and politics-look at the network your are on-that’s why I don’t watch.
@@tanettacaleb7767 exactly i grew up with this because I had a loose curl pattern (always had my hair in braids as a kid only started letting my hair down as a teen), natural light brown/ginger hair and was the darkest at the time out of everyone they would be adamant that my hair was fake even till this day. people i grew up with now only say I have nice hair for a african when their african themselves bare in mind im in my 20s -_- I have had arguments with people because they say my youngest sister doesnt have the best hair out of all of us which is a lie the girl is 10 and her hair is strong, healthy and goes up to her butt and they only say this because she is darkskinned and has type 4 hair then they say I have the best hair when in reality I never had long hair or healthy fast hair growth the way my sisters did.
this is the type of stuff that really gets under my skin about the black community and has had generations of trauma about black hair. as a kid i had always worn braids, buns, ponytails, pressed hair, etc because my grandmother and my mother could not handle my thick hair. my grandmother was an exception because she had carpal tunnel in her hands and wasn’t really able to do very many things to my head. it wasn’t until i was able to learn how to do my own hair that i wore my hair how it naturally grew out of my head. it took some of my family members to get used to it because they’ve always seen an afro as unkept hair. they would often ask “what are you doing to do to your hair?” when i literally spend 3 hours putting product in it and combing it out. black hair in any form should be celebrated ESPECIALLY for the kids because they are still learning about their identity and the things that make them beautiful. we already get enough shit from r@cist people. we don’t need our own putting us down too.
I always find it funny when certain people attack people for having "Nappy" hair and calling it ugly... Only to turn around and lust or champion dreadlocks, all the way to the point that they go and get fake locks put in their head. That's exactly why I look at them as a joke!
@@mmaya772 Yeah, and the royals arent the royals to people of their country too. But the way Americans act with celebrities is hoq other countries act with their royals so it is an accurate description
not only gross but disturbing. in this day and age as long as the hair is healthy nobody should be degrading anybody's hair. i see ppl laying these poor babies' edges and by the time they get the high school they wont have any. if anything we should learn from blue's hair evolution and how they allowed her hair to just exist.
@@annabananaSplitz1 You can lay edges & still have healthy hair . It’s called walking & chewing gum at the same time . My niece stayed with her hair did & also had a beautician to properly care for her hair .
@@paigealexander5601 why are you bashing a childs hair like stfu your opinion on her hair is not important nothing is wrong with her hair ifs healthy and way longer than so many people I’m so happy Beyoncé didn’t allow this sick community to influence her to perm if
When I see a Black Woman wearing her natural hair rather it's short or long... I give her a compliment! I'm encourage by woman that love their hair! It inspires me to not be ashamed! Love You Ladies❤
My grandmother was biracial and my mom ended up with a similar look, racially ambiguous with loose wavy hair. She didn’t know what to do with my hair, so she relaxed it when I was nine. Mind you this was before even kiddie relaxers, she used a box relaxer for grown ups. My hair was jacked up for years, and worse yet I went two decades believing my hair wasn’t good.
I have a similar story. My mom always had super long hair and she used to relax my hair to try to make it look like hers. When I was old enough to not relax it I discovered I had 4A popcorn curls I’m like thanks for frying my hair mom!
Lisa Raye is so nasty and rude here!!! Nothing is wrong with "nappy" or kinky hair. NOTHING! My baby boys hair looks like Blu's hair did when she was a baby, and my mama, my granny and aunts are always telling me "do something with that boys hair." And I'm like "No!" It's nothing wrong with natural hair. 🙄😑
Maybe Lisa isn’t a fan of nappy or kinky hair 😂. She shouldn’t have to pretend she is either. Talking about kids shows lack of human decency tho. Something Lisa seems to lack a lot of.
You just now figuring this out. Were it not for the natural hair movement started on blogs and TH-cam by NON HAIR DRESSERS, people would still be walking around with a fried scalp. Many in the beauty world are still low key pissed about it.
Yep… I’ve gotten comments and stares from family and ppl within the community that haven’t always been positive- “what you gone do with all that hair, it don’t look done … etc 😒
I’m a millennial who will not and will never relax my daughter’s hair. She’s 5 years old with a big beautiful Afro. She loves getting her braids and beads because that’s what I’ve been practicing. I was a child who had my hair relaxed because my mother didn’t want to make the time to do my hair and my hair broke off and was severely damaged. I refuse to repeat that. I spend money to get my daughter’s hair done and it’s growing and flourishing.
I will never forget when i was in middle school seeing how nasty grown adults were online when talking about blue Ivy. I will never forget those who were and are still hateful and ignorant to blue ivy.
Lol you should forget them & leave them in their struggle like Beyoncé said . Blue ivy is to busy being a Grammy award winner to focus on internet trolls.
I’m glad vivica said something and understands these grown ass folks are wrong and they don’t need to speak on everything especially one who was a baby at the time innocent and happy not bothering anyone. If she don’t come into the spotlight later and live quietly ion blame her
I absolutely love Blues hair and how her parents allow her to love herself and her hair 🥰 it’s refreshing it’s the reason why so many of us wear weaves and straighten our hair etc, gosh I’m still trying to free myself from the shackles but when I see other women embrace there hair I LOVE it so much and I go out my way to tell them that they are absolutely stunning
When you said “Children are the closest thing to God” whewww 😫 Alot of people don’t understand this☝🏾I’m absolutely appalled that we black women have fought so hard to be seen as acceptable while wearing our natural hair and here are grown ass BLACK women & men BULLYING a CHILD for wearing her natural hair 🤢 IT’S DISGUSTING!!!
I legit cried when Eloho said children are the closest thing to God on earth and if we want to see God’s heart and the purity of God’s love, it’s in children. 🥺 A WORD!! I cried because my heart knows that it is the truth! Every time I see my three year old nephew, I know that and feel that. For any grown person, to say anything negative about a child’s God given hair and features makes me so angry. I love Blue Ivy and I see myself in her as a beautiful little black girl. To Stupid Santana, Lame Lisa Raye and any other dumb ass that has something to say about Blue’s hair or looks: 🖕🏾them. I had to check a male gay friend of mine who had something to say about black girl’s hair. Even though he would never say anything negative on social media about it, I told him don’t say it in private either. We have to check ourselves always and the anti-blackness that is within us as a people.
As someone who was dragged/gossiped about by older bw as a child for my hair “not being done” or having my Afro out, I always felt for Blue. It’s so disgusting how people can drag a child like that, worse yet a baby (at the time). The texturism is so disgusting in the bc and can even be just as bad as colorism although they technically go hand in hand.
I need people to stop saying an afro is not hair that's done. White people can comb their hair and wear it as it is, but when we comb it and wear it as it is then it's not done? Is our hair only done if we straighten or braid it?
@Selena Grant so sorry you went through that!!. Some of the biggest BULLIES in my childhood were older black women 50+ on the porch talking about my weight and ALWAYS making comments on my hair compared to the other neighborhood little girls. And the other little girls DGAF 🙊 what our hair was looking like because we were CHILDREN 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ and.... was gonna come home with our hair jacked up anyways lol from playing outside all day. It's all really so sad and shameful. Just when you think we have progressed things like this remind me we have a long way to go 🙏🏾
Growing up, I wanted a relaxer So bad! I have 3c hair so I was an outcast bc I was called “whyte” girl bc I was proper, I am brown skinned and my hair was a looser texture. As a community, WE have to do better. I’m 36 next month and I literally JUST have come to love myself in my 30’s bc of the insecurities of others placed upon me. No more though ! Ladies, BW, let’s continue to support and love one another! We must love ourselves from the inside- out! Ayeeee congratulations Eloho🕊🤍🤍🕊
Also my mom who is a Gen X like Lisa Raye permed my hair when I was only 4 years old. I was taught to hate my natural hair texture and I have 4a hair. My hair use to break off a lot and my mom did not care at all as long as it was straight. I also remember when I did the big chop to go natural I was called bald headed and told I look like Side Show Bob by black people. I didn’t start getting compliments on my natural hair until it grew long. The texturism in the black community is disturbing.
Same! I have 4 a hair and my mom has 3 b hair as a black woman she didn’t know how to manage my hair so she relaxed it-and I was shamed for going natural as well.
I was referered to as Side Show Bob by my Hispanic coworker and Caucasian manager at work in front of everyone. They thought they ate with the joke.. I with a serious face, stated that it would be unfortunate if I reported this unprofessional behavior to HR. Everyone shut the hell up. Never again did anyone have a word else to say to me. I'm not going back and forth with anyone about my hair nor am I playing when it comes to my hair. We need to start setting real hard boundaries with people as it relates to respect.
got called Side Show Bob by my dad. Didn’t watch the simpsons like that or care to look him up bc I wasn’t going to taint my self worth with his ignorant perception
I'm a Gen X and I got perm in my hair starting in middle school. I stopped getting perms years ago when my hair broke off badly. I started getting brads, when I started wearing it natural my mom (she's in her 70's) said I looked like Buckwheat from the Little Rascals.
“It really only be the black community” Stannnnn Unfortunately it’s because of systematic oppression-it’s not that I’m passing the blame but mental health is such a severe issue in our community there needs to be more mental health pioneers in our communities to break these antiquated and outdated narratives about our beautiful and diverse people it’s so sad we came from queens and kings and now we’re everything BUT THAT in the eyes of the majority we need to get back to who we were cuz we are a lost group of people
The fact that a Gay man and a Biracial Woman feels comfortable talking down on full black children, and the attraction level of a child is repulsive. So again, why aren't we separating from the clowns which is the ultimate cancellation? We are to intertwined with clowns and it is time to go.
and this is where it all starts. people start critiquing your natural state as a child: skin color hair texture, and features. and then wonder why as an adult there are so many insecurities. As a parent this infuriates me. Beyoncé's choice to allow her daughters hair to remain healthy in its NATURAL state makes an impact and a statement to show other young black girls that they are beautiful as they are. For Saucy Santana to compare a black child to a biracial child and hold the biracial child in a better light is sickening. Adults plant the seeds that then cause these kids to grow into adults that perpetuate this nonsense and feel inferior or superior based on hair texture, features, and color.
Aslong as you are living in a society where “Beauty” is a thing it’s impossible for every child to feel equally beautiful as the next, because in reality there are some kids cuter than others. That’s why it’s a parents job not a society to instill unwavering confidence in a child . Blue ivy hair can be 11 types of Nappy y’all still can’t sit with her 😂. She’s still Regina George. On top of her being unbothered & accomplished at such a young age.
A majority of light skin and mixed women who teased and down talked Darker women with natural hair, now have dark skin daughter's with course hair ...they will now have teach they daughter's they are beautiful and their hair is beautiful.... something they couldn't tell a darker skin women they will now have to install in their beautiful darker skinned daughters
That baby has thick healthy hair… same people making fun of her probably barely have their edges underneath the wigs. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ let that child embrace being blck
Nappy hair has never meant our hair is uncombed. It has always been an attack and derogatory remark towards the TEXTURE of our hair. Which is why we're crying every time our hair doesn't look like another texture because we don't like our own. Just carrying on the mantle of anti-blackness.
And the funny thing is that blue ivy’s hair is gorgeous. I just dont understand why grown adults feel like they can put their opinion out publicly about a child’s hair😩 I just will never understand it.
This is my honest opinion, i think they are jealous. Blue has very beautiful hair. That’s what happens when you don’t put chemicals in a child’s hair from the get go. It grows and has its own texture when you get older. Not only that but really taking care of your hair type is important. Older generations are salty because the younger generations are figuring that out. And in my opinion of the word ‘nappy’ only occurs when you can’t wear your natural hair.
It always sickens and never sat right w me how many people feel the need to make it known that they find people w bigger facial features , specifically noses , and afro hair texture , "ugly". Hate and tired of hearing people voice they find Jay Z, Teyana Taylor, Ari Lennox , Tarana Burke, "Ugly". A lot of people feel way too comfortable saying that, they can think that their not attractive , but why make it known, as if people whom happen to have Afro-centric features don't have any feelings. I have a big nose, and afro hair texture and comments like that have affected Mr and have a negative impact on my mental since I was a little girl.
@@coolcontent27 girlll these people are jealous bc you're just beautiful... For me now it's about my long curls bc they go down my shoulders and I'm darkskin so my OWN people be looking weird at me or asking if it's real??? Also this one classmate talking ab my s color when he was all the way darker? how I didn't had much hairs? ( 4 years ago after my big chop ) Don't give them any attention or if it's too much give the same energy bc at the end of the day they aren't the ones paying for what we own, our food, our style etc.. so their negative opinions don't matters, they can sit tf back and watch us thrive 🤷🏾♀️
And people ask questions like “why is Beyoncé not that active on social media” or they wonder why her and Jay keep their kids out of the eye of the public….
@@belly3677 I don't know why you would doubt it.. she rode her daughter heavy about her being overweight being that they're in the Hollywood industry, you saw how she just popped off about them not having nappy hair. Why on earth would she have been happy about her being dark when all her privilege has come from her being light. 🤔🙄
I'm from Houston, not a hive member, but Beyonce is the homegirl. I have always found Blue beautiful from birth. I don't like her being compared negatively to the Kardashian ... offspring is as nice as I can put it. She's smart, sweet, talented and her hair is ALL that.
I agree! My mother forced me to perm my hair at 11 because she "couldn't deal with it" and my hair was always dry and short until I went natural . I will never perm my child's hair. I make sure to let her know how beautiful her hair is and I'm so happy that the ppl in my generation are starting to wake up and see it is. Also not making comments like "bad hair and good hair" associating bad hair with tight curls and afro textured hair and good hair as being loose curls and straight
I'm 50+, in LisaRaye age group and yes adults/family made ignorant comments abt My daughters hair smh. I didn't say this b4 they were born yet 21+yo they have never had a relaxer/perm.
I’m pretty sure my hair would probably be in the middle of my back by now, had I never had a relaxer. And my hair is bra strap length now(natural) but imagine how much longer it would’ve been had I never had it relaxed 🙄. Also I am a proud 4c queen 💅🏾.
3:26 you hit the nail on the head. Just because your family doesn’t have that specific African trait doesn’t give you the right to support or even turn a blind eye to people attacking our CHILDREN for having African features/traits smfh!! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
This is one of the side effects of people normalising the One Drop Rule imo. When people say mixed people are black, so many end up making features more common to mixed (looser curls, light skin) a blk beauty standard. People end up forgetting that black people naturally get kinky hair!
I just hope everyone keeps this same energy when it comes to the little black girls in your neighborhood and families. 💙 if kids are off limits it needs to be all kids, not just rich ones birthed by your faves.
Yes it should be across the board. I get that anything positive said about celebrities you want to assume is people WORSHIPPING them so you feel obligated to speak against it. But in this case, from what I have seen people are saying KIDS ARE OFF LIMITS! Not just B&J baby but ANY KID!
@@teachertx hope so. My son had locs and I received many comments asking when I was going to cut his hair or when it was going to get re-twisted once the roots would start growing out. I see some of the same people in my personal life defending the celebrity child. I’ve seen videos of teachers who keep hair supplies in their desk drawers to “fix” little girls hair when it’s in it’s natural state and they’re praised for going “above and beyond”. So hopefully this applies to regular kids and regular parents who don’t do a bunch of extra styles to their kids hair.
But Blu ivy hair looks good and she has length as well .when my daughter was a baby I put her hair in any type of way. Her hair was curly but most times it was unkept..baby is a baby . leave babies hair alone
“Well, Bella hair isn’t nappy” Lisa Raye… I’m done. It was an ugly undertone. There was no excuse for San to say what he did more was Lisa’s response necessary. If uncouth was a people🙄
Just apologize DASSIT!!! The black women who are still wiling to support, promote, and advocate for Saucy are the ones who signed the petition to get Beyonce to do her daughter’s hair. How you coming for Blue and the same type of hair grows from your scalp ?!?!!
He doesn't have to apologize especially if he doesnt mean it, but he should atleast take some type of accountability. If you arent willing to apologize then atleast be brave enough to own up to what you did and stop hiding behind the "I was young excuse". This was so disappointing of him
I remember growing up and my mom use to always tell me "I wish you would have came out with my texture instead of your father's. My mom was Hispanic and my dad is black. I grew up thinking I had "ugly hair." It wasn't till I became 30 I stopped perming my hair and started to really take care of it & realized how beautiful it is & how it flourished without all those harsh chemicals. I absolutely LOVE my natural hair now!!!! 💞
Lisa granddaughter is dark skin, I’m sure she would not want nobody picking on her. She also has coarse hair like Blue Ivy which is nothing wrong with that. I swear it’s like people just really hate Beyoncé but take it out on her child. And if Santana think he’s about to have a career after this he is sadly mistaken. Gay Black men don’t have the same privilege as gay White men to be disrespectful and come out Scott free.
I also feel like they actually coming for Beyonce indirectly, because they can't fault her for anything. She's rich, famous talented and absolutely drop dead gorgeous. And on top of that she's in her lane and never noisy
First off….. Congratulations on your engagement!!! I’m so happy for you. 😄😄😄 Secondly, LisaRaye and Saucy ain’t shit. Why are they coming after Blue Ivy? What did she do to them? Damn. They are so despicable. Leave her alone. Reminds me of that “journalist” that had the caucacity to come for Blue. Blue Ivy is a beautiful girl. They need several 💺. Thank goodness for Vivica for being there at the right place and right time for her comment. Blue. Is. A. Freaking. Child. Commenting. About. Children. Are. Off. Limits!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So I went natural 3 years ago. I had to learn how to love my hair in it’s natural state. I wear it in an afro EVERYWHERE I go ( yes, including work) How come other groups of people are able to wear their hair the way it grows out of their scalp but not 4C hair girls. I’ve been receiving tons of compliments. But it HAD to be a Black person telling me “ are you one of the Jackson’s five members? *giggles*… like WHYYYYYYY? 🙄😑
Sis, we most certainly are allowed to wear our God given hair. We just choose not to, culturally appropriating other races of hair, grafting it unto our own in the form of wigs and weaves. Nothing wrong with that, but let's be real here. If we wear our natural hair out more, folks will just get used to it and anytime BP make a derogatory comment, just say, 'it's the way God created it, fearfully and wonderfully made! Don't hate what the Lord has made.'
Yea it’s very strange. Sometimes I would wear my hair in a cute fro or twist out. Most of the compliments I get is from non-black people. The reactions I get from our own folks are disgusted stares. When I tell you my self-esteem dropped so low….
@@StarC2233 that’s the part I was noticing too! Only BW get attacked for embracing our type four hair. Meanwhile I never see dudes with the same texture getting called out. Even Saucy looks like he has type 4 hair so why he hating from inside the club?
Lisa Raye drank the kool-aid that her light skin and "good-hair" makes her better. She's always acting like she doesn't get it. She's made colorist comments in the past. Our ppl are so lost. The self hate is real.
right while they are hiding their hair behind wig and everything else, we all know lisa doesn't have good as she calls it hair unless she does a lot to it to make it looks like something kind of good
Didn't she also do a "campaign" to discourage skin bleaching? But going around calling a child nappy headed? Yikes. She's way too old to act the way she does.
I'm mixed and my husband is black. My white family always praised our children's hair. Some of his black family always had a negative comment when their hair wasn't braided or up.
Wait... what? What is Lisa even saying? What is happening? This obsession with multiracial children and loose curls is out of hand at this point. My little baby girl will be one in a week, and I basically only put rosewater and coconut oil on her hair and gently detangle it. People be begging me to put it in a pony tail, straighten out her edges and do all this extra styling... putting all this unnecessary tension on her young hair just so they can look at something that makes her appear a little less Black, is not something I have time for.
White babies hair being looking a hot ass mess all uncombed & whatnot yet no one says shiii!!!! Blue Ivy is so so so beautiful! Bey did a great damn job
He might not be the only one that said nasty stuff about Blue Ivy, a Black girl with African features, but he said these things knowing he might become famous. For me, I can't support a person doing that to a Black girl and woman 🤷🏿♀️
My thing is this... How about people just mind their goddamn business and stop being mean, nasty, and messy. PERIOD! That is, towards kids, old folks, middle-aged folks, birds, cats, dogs... JUST STOP! It says a lot about people who tease and ridicule others, especially those who can't defend themselves. For me, even if a person who does such things apologize, my take from it is that the person had it in their heart to "go there" from the jump, so most likely, any apologies from them bears no meaning because that nastiness is the core of who they are.
Lisa Raye is coming off very immature and smug for nothing 😑. Blue Ivy's hair was and is gorgeous! Beyonce better get Blue a hair company ASAP! Lisa is giving self hating and jealous that hair is not lustrous at all and her hairline is on struggle. And she has not an ounce of style...look at her accessory combination 👀 Blue Ivy is a beautiful child!
I legit cried when Eloho said children are the closest to God on earth and if we want to see God’s heart and the purity of God’s love, it’s in children. A WORD!! I cried because my heart knows and believes that is the absolute truth! For any GROWN person, to say anything negative about a child’s GOD GIVEN hair and features makes me so angry. I love Blue Ivy and I see myself in her as a beautiful little black girl. To Stupid Santana, Lame Lisa Raye and any other dumb ass that has something to say about Blue’s hair or looks: 🖕🏾them. I had to check a male gay friend of mine who had something to say about black girl’s hair. Even though he would never say anything negative on social media about it, I told him don’t say it in private either. We have to check ourselves always and the anti-blackness that is within us as a people.
The black community never seems to want to elavate from our own shackles..
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Oop 🤌🏾
Smh
Please don’t group us all together like this….
That’s why we have to continue to drag those who want to stay in shackles.
Vivica was ABSOLUTELY fucking correct in checking her.
Lisa single-handedly made this show look so tacky 🤮🤮🤮
And that's why I like Vivica 💜
I've only had a baby for 11 months and I didn't birth him, but I would go on an entire internet rampage bad mouthing LisaRaye and Saucy Santana, if that was my baby. I've obviously never been rich enough to ignore haters, coz I don't know how Beyonce is staying above this and only responding thru her music, because I would be problematic af, using my influence to bury mofos.
While the other 2 stayed mute😒. Ms. Iyanla come put this woman in the dirt bc she has not learned, nor healed or grown. There is beauty in our diversed textures. I don't support anyone or anything that does not stand we me and mine and those that may look like us in solidarity.
Yea she lost me with this one. This bitch is goofy idgaf
Light skin and light eyes and loose hair didn’t do anything for Lisarayes career
Oh damn you went there!!!! LMAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Louder for the people in the back!!!
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Exactly she’s the preference that didn’t get choose 😕😐
That’s sad huh 🤷🏽♀️ lol
Lisa Raye: “He couldn’t say that about Baby Bella bc she doesn’t have nappy hair.” Saids the woman that has a horse tail on the top of her head! Girl go disappear like your acting career. PERIODT!!!
This trick was dumped by her husband within a year of her marriage. She’s a has been and this will destroy her career. Watch!!!
🎯she so negative
😂 period!
PURRRR
Major cringe moment right there
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I need us to ban the word “nappy.” “Textured” and “beautifully dense” are fine. 4C hair is lovely. People are hating on Blue Ivy because she is unambiguously Black. People fetishize exoticism, but it’s sick that they’re doing this with a child. Let that baby live.
i say this all the time. the definition of the word nappy means a diaper. why are blk ppl calling each other shitheads?? the history of the word is just so negative all together even with the "new/black definition" so why do we continue using the shit..its disgusting to me. I say "coily" or "tight curled" ..i wish the word would disappear
EXACTLY....WTF IS WRONG WITH BLACK PEOPLE?????....BLACK SELF-HATRED IS SICKENING
That tangled mess will never be beautiful.
@@dickbicycle9304 go away troll
Oh I thought textured wasn't used as a insult. Even though I have 3C hair, I use that word for my hair along with "thick-course" hair.
It’s just something about grown people coming at a child that’s not normal. Blue Ivy is a beautiful little black girl with beautiful natural hair and shame on everyone who disrespected her
That's the thing. Her being a racial unambiguous black child with full negroid features is the reason they come for her.
Biracial girl
@@Dora-kv7br she’s not biracial. Stop it
And that’s the reason the public rarely get the see the twins now. And I don’t blame them at all. I’ll be scorching the earth of people on the Internet we’re talking about my child.
@@jessinthecomments I don’t blame them either. People can be so cruel to innocent children 😔
People need to leave Blue Ivy alone. We need to stop looking down on a child’s natural hair.
Exactly 💯 and her hair is so healthy and gorgeous. That girl needs to stay away from -us- the BC, it's destructive to little black girls and women.
If u h8 yourself it's difficult to see why this is wrong. I had someone write "the girl is ugly, y'all need to let it go..." and I asked who a beautiful child is and they named North and Stormy and... u get the point
They need to stop talkin down on our 4c hair period
On anybody hair!
They been talking about that child hair ppl need to let it go it is sad for these grown folks to be discussing this as a Topic we all know her parents can afford any style it’s evident that SHE likes HER hair like that
There is nothing wrong with “nappy hair” I love seeing type 4 hair in its natural state.
Me too
That ‘n’ term gets me upset lmao but yes type 4 hair is beautiful, whether it’s a fro, defined coils, Bantu knots, mini twists, etc and at any hair length. 👩🏽🦱🧑🏽🦱
right, I’ve been learning to love it by wearing braid outs everyday with just a moisturiser in my hair. And I’ve taken a break from wigs and it’s really helped with my self love 💕
@@__Selena__ type 4 hair is very strong hair.
I wouldn't say Blu has "type 4" hair, but black hair is beautiful in all textures...
I feel bad for us as black women sometimes for constantly getting attacked for how we wear our hair. Even as children and well into our adult years, we get judge. For what?! Smh
By black women
@@ashnaseanchloe4140 thats the saddest part 😢
I think what's worse is that black women are perpetuating this crap alot of the time. Hurt people hurt people. The cycle needs breaking.
Sadly people BEEN hating on Blue Ivy for 0 reason. Why? Why put that much effort to destroy a child’s self esteem? Just to feel better? I wonder what kind of thought process these people have to be doing this while being in their 20s/30s+
It’s the fact that he’s a BLACK MAN degraded a black girl let alone A CHILD!!! As a member of the black community I must say that this community can get toxic at times especially ignorant ideas like Santana. Why are we still brainwashing our community into thinking that a kinky hair type or “nappy” hair is bad hair?? There should only be one reference of “good hair” and that would be hair that’s healthy; AND THAT’S IT!!! (Since Santana brought up Kim’s baby so will I) Why is it that North West can have her hair in protective hairstyles but Blu Ivy can’t ? It starts with us as a black community we must end this toxic cycle because these texturism, colorist, racist, and prejudice generalizations are ruining our community. ALSO generally speaking we need to stop pushing the narrative that once someone with an influence or a platform does something wrong they immediately have to apologize. DON’T GET ME WRONG we definitely must hold them accountable especially when they themselves can’t see the damage that they’re creating. However I feel as though why should we push someone into apologizing for something that we know they aren’t sorry for just because it’s the right thing to do? I say this because say he did apologize for the sake of his career it wouldn’t be genuine and would a fake apology be better than no apology at all??? Instead of pressuring celebrities or influencers into apologizing ( because we’ve seen time and time again that apologies mean nothing) ; we should allow them to continue to show us their TRUE COLORS and when they do we should continue to hold them accountable for their Ignorance by not streaming their music or calling them out constantly until they get the issue or whatever it might be. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk; this topic disgusted me and I’m happy I was allowed to speak my truth in your comments. Thank you Eloho for covering topics like these and giving us a safe environment to talk about the toxicity in our community!!!!
And this is why I don’t deal w the abc army they hate black women too
It’s the fact that that same black man wanna be a black girl so bad !
@@Day2daywithDej Just because he’s a gay man that wears lashes and nails doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to a woman. Same goes for woman that dress masculine. I think he’s just a gay man expressing his femininity.
Nah when it comes to a black gay guy yall wanna chill but a straight black guy everybody talking
@@ashnaseanchloe4140 I’m not sure who “y’all” is but your sexual orientation shouldn’t excuse your actions.
I’d rather him NOT apologize. At this point if he apologized it would be fake. He would only be apologizing at this point because he’s being dragged. He has shown us who he is and we need to believe him!!! So now we don’t have to give him any coin or support! He gets NOTHING!!!!!
I agree 👍🏾
Exactlyyyy
Right! He can keep his sentiments and leave that child alone. I wouldn't blame Beyonce if she kept her other kids out of spotlight until they reached adulthood.
He has the support from the LGBQ community, so he's going to remain successful. 😢
Thank you....he has nerve...he is
*It bothers me that BW can never be left alone in their Blackness.*
Have never been able to...
The black women are the worst self-hatres. Who do you think made the little girl the talk of the town?
We really just be existing in our own self love and space when the foolishness attacks smh
No fr. Black men got it good. They get to wear their natural hair in peace. People like blackness on everyone but Black women.
Syleena the only one looking grand and regal wearing her real hair, the other women look outdated. One day wearing weave will be a thing of the past🌹
I honestly even hate saying stuff like “look at blue now, her hair is so long and beautiful“ cuz it implies that she went through some kind of ugly stage and had a glow up. Blues hair was ALWAYS gorgeous. It was gorgeous when it was a short Afro as well and if it was still a short afro that would be perfect and beautiful as well. We don’t have to grow our hair down our backs to be deemed worthy. She always was gorgeous and deserving of peace over her appearance
Thank you! There’s something about praising her hair when it’s long and straightened that makes me cringe.
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@@theamateurconnoisseur exactly! Like why should she have to silence the haters with how long her hair is. The haters should be silenced by being shamed over their desire to clown black features not by blues length retention
Exactly
Exactly
I’m a (brown skinned) milenial and was raised by my (light skinned) grandmother and she started relaxing my hair when I was like 5. Phucked my hair UP! Now as a mother, I have two teen aged daughters, never relaxed their hair and they LOVE their big beautiful Afros. Of course, my grandmother makes snide remarks about their hair being nappy and them needing relaxers. Nah bruh. Nah.
The truth bothers people judging by how many people chose to ignore your post! We really hate the truth! Bravo to you for learning the lesson and breaking the curse
This is exactly why a lot of us grew up hating our 4c hair. The freaking adults in our culture.
They’re absolutely horrible ppl
People coming from Blue Ivy come from a place of jealousy. She is a black little girl living in pure wealth, she can afford to get all our hairs done. Just say you wish you grew up like her and keep it pushing grandma.
Yep but the difference is she isn't concerned about hair like the po black ppl
Not all our hair done😂😂😂
Damn😄
Yep. And they probably want her hair too. It’s very pretty.
And a Grammy .
Lisa Raye has a lot to say about a child when her own hairline is receding...
😂🤣😂 I was waiting on this comment.
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🤣😂😂I'm weak af
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LMFAO
It all ties back to texturism and self hate. It was weird and sad to see all these adults attack blue ivy not alone a CHILD and at the same time uplift mixed children (more specifically the Kardashian kids) for the expense of Blue’s black features such as her hair. I hate the narrative that Beyoncé and Jay Z don’t love their daughter Blue because her hair wasn’t styled to fit European standards..
This…colorism-Lisa Raye Chile👀👀👀 am I surprised? Also this show is on the Fox network? These people need to take several seats. People we got some weird ways. Time to wake up! Blue Ivy maybe the daughter of Beyoncé but she (Beyoncé) wear wigs, do you know her hair texture? Yet you are coming for Blue. Of because it’s a shame that she gad lighter skin yet her hair is “nappy”. Tianna Taylor has the so called better “texture” than Beyoncé yet oh because her skin is darker no one recognizes this.
But the real thing I am trying to highlight-texturizism, featurism and colorism. Get it together people. White supremacy be running your thoughts and politics-look at the network your are on-that’s why I don’t watch.
I agree.
@@tanettacaleb7767 exactly i grew up with this because I had a loose curl pattern (always had my hair in braids as a kid only started letting my hair down as a teen), natural light brown/ginger hair and was the darkest at the time out of everyone they would be adamant that my hair was fake even till this day. people i grew up with now only say I have nice hair for a african when their african themselves bare in mind im in my 20s -_- I have had arguments with people because they say my youngest sister doesnt have the best hair out of all of us which is a lie the girl is 10 and her hair is strong, healthy and goes up to her butt and they only say this because she is darkskinned and has type 4 hair then they say I have the best hair when in reality I never had long hair or healthy fast hair growth the way my sisters did.
Especially when some of the women are sitting up there with fake hair on their head.
Once his bag stops he'll be sorry then
this is the type of stuff that really gets under my skin about the black community and has had generations of trauma about black hair. as a kid i had always worn braids, buns, ponytails, pressed hair, etc because my grandmother and my mother could not handle my thick hair. my grandmother was an exception because she had carpal tunnel in her hands and wasn’t really able to do very many things to my head. it wasn’t until i was able to learn how to do my own hair that i wore my hair how it naturally grew out of my head. it took some of my family members to get used to it because they’ve always seen an afro as unkept hair. they would often ask “what are you doing to do to your hair?” when i literally spend 3 hours putting product in it and combing it out.
black hair in any form should be celebrated ESPECIALLY for the kids because they are still learning about their identity and the things that make them beautiful. we already get enough shit from r@cist people. we don’t need our own putting us down too.
I always find it funny when certain people attack people for having "Nappy" hair and calling it ugly... Only to turn around and lust or champion dreadlocks, all the way to the point that they go and get fake locks put in their head. That's exactly why I look at them as a joke!
Lisa proves that she’s a bird every time she opens her mouth. Some celebrities should’ve stuck to their craft and remained off of social media.
I’m not feeling her response at all. It almost sounds like she was excusing his comment. Not acceptable..
Even her man know Nickis do it Bettterrrrrrrrr 😉😂 Nicki ate her ass up.
Acting wasn’t her craft either! 🤣
@@OutOfFocus777 right, bc I was going to ask what her craft is bc it’s def not acting 😂😂😂
@@labrian8370 Yet ya’ll the main ones watching Player’s Club every weekend, and claim that as a classic movie. I can’t stand the hypocrisy.
Blue is literally a princess. Honestly, the public doesn’t deserve her.
Seriously 😩 I see why B only pops out every so often
Exactly
Honestly! As far as Americans are concerned, celebrities are our royals. Blue is literally a Princess
Not offense but celebs aren’t all of our royals.* @@tkhachi
@@mmaya772 Yeah, and the royals arent the royals to people of their country too. But the way Americans act with celebrities is hoq other countries act with their royals so it is an accurate description
Just gross for them to think it’s completely ok to talk so negatively about a child. It’s sad.
not only gross but disturbing. in this day and age as long as the hair is healthy nobody should be degrading anybody's hair. i see ppl laying these poor babies' edges and by the time they get the high school they wont have any. if anything we should learn from blue's hair evolution and how they allowed her hair to just exist.
LisaRaye's comment was disgusting 😑
Self hating people generally tend to have others as well.
@@annabananaSplitz1 You can lay edges & still have healthy hair . It’s called walking & chewing gum at the same time . My niece stayed with her hair did & also had a beautician to properly care for her hair .
@@paigealexander5601 why are you bashing a childs hair like stfu your opinion on her hair is not important nothing is wrong with her hair ifs healthy and way longer than so many people I’m so happy Beyoncé didn’t allow this sick community to influence her to perm if
When I see a Black Woman wearing her natural hair rather it's short or long... I give her a compliment! I'm encourage by woman that love their hair! It inspires me to not be ashamed! Love You Ladies❤
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My grandmother was biracial and my mom ended up with a similar look, racially ambiguous with loose wavy hair. She didn’t know what to do with my hair, so she relaxed it when I was nine. Mind you this was before even kiddie relaxers, she used a box relaxer for grown ups. My hair was jacked up for years, and worse yet I went two decades believing my hair wasn’t good.
I feel ya!!!!
I have a similar story. My mom always had super long hair and she used to relax my hair to try to make it look like hers. When I was old enough to not relax it I discovered I had 4A popcorn curls I’m like thanks for frying my hair mom!
Lisa Raye is disgusting 🤢, to talk about a child’s hair like that.
Lisa Raye is so nasty and rude here!!! Nothing is wrong with "nappy" or kinky hair. NOTHING! My baby boys hair looks like Blu's hair did when she was a baby, and my mama, my granny and aunts are always telling me "do something with that boys hair." And I'm like "No!" It's nothing wrong with natural hair. 🙄😑
Yeah you supposed to leave their hate alone during that time maybe add a lil moisturizer but that’s it until it’s long enough
Yes, she's very nasty and rude here! It's disgusting!
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with your baby’s hair ❤️ wonderful mama for embracing your baby’s hair and shutting down the texturism!
Lisa raye always saying rude shit
Maybe Lisa isn’t a fan of nappy or kinky hair 😂. She shouldn’t have to pretend she is either. Talking about kids shows lack of human decency tho. Something Lisa seems to lack a lot of.
Just shows that the people who lowkey discriminate against natural hair is our own community.
It ain't even low-key, it's 'high-key' right in our faces...publicly...on social media. It's disturbing.
Let's call it like it is, black whyte supremacists 🙄
You just now figuring this out. Were it not for the natural hair movement started on blogs and TH-cam by NON HAIR DRESSERS, people would still be walking around with a fried scalp. Many in the beauty world are still low key pissed about it.
Yep… I’ve gotten comments and stares from family and ppl within the community that haven’t always been positive- “what you gone do with all that hair, it don’t look done … etc 😒
Nah, more like High-Key. We already knew this.
I’m a millennial who will not and will never relax my daughter’s hair. She’s 5 years old with a big beautiful Afro. She loves getting her braids and beads because that’s what I’ve been practicing. I was a child who had my hair relaxed because my mother didn’t want to make the time to do my hair and my hair broke off and was severely damaged. I refuse to repeat that. I spend money to get my daughter’s hair done and it’s growing and flourishing.
The more backlash Blue’s hair gets, the longer it grows ✨👏🏾
She’s a fiancé!!!!!!!! Congratulations Eloho🥰❤️
Thank you!!!!!
@@iameloho718 osheyyyy congratulations 💞💞fav TH-cam commentator
Shame on this man and women for this nasty behaviour towards their own.
and a child no less.
Never listening to his music again.
LisaRaye is not a black woman, so Blue Ivy is not one of her own.
I will never forget when i was in middle school seeing how nasty grown adults were online when talking about blue Ivy. I will never forget those who were and are still hateful and ignorant to blue ivy.
Literally
Lol you should forget them & leave them in their struggle like Beyoncé said . Blue ivy is to busy being a Grammy award winner to focus on internet trolls.
I’m glad vivica said something and understands these grown ass folks are wrong and they don’t need to speak on everything especially one who was a baby at the time innocent and happy not bothering anyone. If she don’t come into the spotlight later and live quietly ion blame her
I absolutely love Blues hair and how her parents allow her to love herself and her hair 🥰 it’s refreshing it’s the reason why so many of us wear weaves and straighten our hair etc, gosh I’m still trying to free myself from the shackles but when I see other women embrace there hair I LOVE it so much and I go out my way to tell them that they are absolutely stunning
When you said “Children are the closest thing to God” whewww 😫 Alot of people don’t understand this☝🏾I’m absolutely appalled that we black women have fought so hard to be seen as acceptable while wearing our natural hair and here are grown ass BLACK women & men BULLYING a CHILD for wearing her natural hair 🤢 IT’S DISGUSTING!!!
Yess! I agree 💯💯
I legit cried when Eloho said children are the closest thing to God on earth and if we want to see God’s heart and the purity of God’s love, it’s in children. 🥺 A WORD!! I cried because my heart knows that it is the truth! Every time I see my three year old nephew, I know that and feel that. For any grown person, to say anything negative about a child’s God given hair and features makes me so angry. I love Blue Ivy and I see myself in her as a beautiful little black girl. To Stupid Santana, Lame Lisa Raye and any other dumb ass that has something to say about Blue’s hair or looks: 🖕🏾them. I had to check a male gay friend of mine who had something to say about black girl’s hair. Even though he would never say anything negative on social media about it, I told him don’t say it in private either. We have to check ourselves always and the anti-blackness that is within us as a people.
Literally!!!
A lot of ppl do understand and are simply jealous
Absolutely
As someone who was dragged/gossiped about by older bw as a child for my hair “not being done” or having my Afro out, I always felt for Blue. It’s so disgusting how people can drag a child like that, worse yet a baby (at the time). The texturism is so disgusting in the bc and can even be just as bad as colorism although they technically go hand in hand.
I need people to stop saying an afro is not hair that's done. White people can comb their hair and wear it as it is, but when we comb it and wear it as it is then it's not done? Is our hair only done if we straighten or braid it?
@@yeemawheaver1387 exactly! It is a style just like any other that requires maintenance.
Now most of them are bald headed with no edges and wearing lace fronts to create baby hairs they should already have 🤣🤣🤣
@Selena Grant so sorry you went through that!!. Some of the biggest BULLIES in my childhood were older black women 50+ on the porch talking about my weight and ALWAYS making comments on my hair compared to the other neighborhood little girls. And the other little girls DGAF 🙊 what our hair was looking like because we were CHILDREN 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ and.... was gonna come home with our hair jacked up anyways lol from playing outside all day.
It's all really so sad and shameful. Just when you think we have progressed things like this remind me we have a long way to go 🙏🏾
@@yeemawheaver1387 exactly it’s literally a hair style/texture. I did not play about perfecting my fro 😂
It’s 10 years later and we’re still having this conversation? Smfh annoying…
Literally like why is this even a topic!?
I appreciate and respect Vivica so much ❤️ as a child who was forced into perms and called nappy, I really love her standing up for us.
Growing up, I wanted a relaxer So bad! I have 3c hair so I was an outcast bc I was called “whyte” girl bc I was proper, I am brown skinned and my hair was a looser texture. As a community, WE have to do better. I’m 36 next month and I literally JUST have come to love myself in my 30’s bc of the insecurities of others placed upon me. No more though ! Ladies, BW, let’s continue to support and love one another! We must love ourselves from the inside- out!
Ayeeee congratulations Eloho🕊🤍🤍🕊
Blue Ivy’s grandmother was a hairdresser. They knew what they were doing! Look at the results! I’m nappy and happy.
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I’m waiting for the hair care line
Also my mom who is a Gen X like Lisa Raye permed my hair when I was only 4 years old. I was taught to hate my natural hair texture and I have 4a hair. My hair use to break off a lot and my mom did not care at all as long as it was straight. I also remember when I did the big chop to go natural I was called bald headed and told I look like Side Show Bob by black people. I didn’t start getting compliments on my natural hair until it grew long. The texturism in the black community is disturbing.
Same! I have 4 a hair and my mom has 3 b hair as a black woman she didn’t know how to manage my hair so she relaxed it-and I was shamed for going natural as well.
I was referered to as Side Show Bob by my Hispanic coworker and Caucasian manager at work in front of everyone. They thought they ate with the joke.. I with a serious face, stated that it would be unfortunate if I reported this unprofessional behavior to HR. Everyone shut the hell up. Never again did anyone have a word else to say to me. I'm not going back and forth with anyone about my hair nor am I playing when it comes to my hair. We need to start setting real hard boundaries with people as it relates to respect.
my mother did that to me as well I have a 3 year old she doesn't have type 4 hair but I still would never straighten her hair it's wrong
got called Side Show Bob by my dad. Didn’t watch the simpsons like that or care to look him up bc I wasn’t going to taint my self worth with his ignorant perception
I'm a Gen X and I got perm in my hair starting in middle school. I stopped getting perms years ago when my hair broke off badly. I started getting brads, when I started wearing it natural my mom (she's in her 70's) said I looked like Buckwheat from the Little Rascals.
I love seeing how Vivica Fox has been calling people on their mess lately. I'm HERE for it💛
YES!
True👍.. Im liking this side of her
She need the people coin 🪙 & support
@@paigealexander5601 I really hope that isn't the case and that she's being genuine
“It really only be the black community”
Stannnnn
Unfortunately it’s because of systematic oppression-it’s not that I’m passing the blame but mental health is such a severe issue in our community there needs to be more mental health pioneers in our communities to break these antiquated and outdated narratives about our beautiful and diverse people it’s so sad we came from queens and kings and now we’re everything BUT THAT in the eyes of the majority we need to get back to who we were cuz we are a lost group of people
You said everything that needed to be said!! Thank you! I enjoyed this video!!! ♥️
The fact that a Gay man and a Biracial Woman feels comfortable talking down on full black children, and the attraction level of a child is repulsive.
So again, why aren't we separating from the clowns which is the ultimate cancellation? We are to intertwined with clowns and it is time to go.
Who is the biracial woman? LisaRaye is the light skinned Black woman who made the ignorant comment.
Gay men will drag any type of woman. Even a little girl that hasn’t become one yet. They are so jealous.
@@oblimistic I didn’t see bm saying much of anything tbh. This was a Gay blk male topic or BW topic
@@Jaiunsolicited honestly
@@angelface101ful just because you didn’t see it doesn’t mean it wasn’t happening girl shut up.
and this is where it all starts. people start critiquing your natural state as a child: skin color hair texture, and features. and then wonder why as an adult there are so many insecurities. As a parent this infuriates me. Beyoncé's choice to allow her daughters hair to remain healthy in its NATURAL state makes an impact and a statement to show other young black girls that they are beautiful as they are. For Saucy Santana to compare a black child to a biracial child and hold the biracial child in a better light is sickening. Adults plant the seeds that then cause these kids to grow into adults that perpetuate this nonsense and feel inferior or superior based on hair texture, features, and color.
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Aslong as you are living in a society where “Beauty” is a thing it’s impossible for every child to feel equally beautiful as the next, because in reality there are some kids cuter than others. That’s why it’s a parents job not a society to instill unwavering confidence in a child . Blue ivy hair can be 11 types of Nappy y’all still can’t sit with her 😂. She’s still Regina George. On top of her being unbothered & accomplished at such a young age.
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Prime example of why a lot of older “black” women don’t get respect 🙄🙄🙄
They really be nasty towards a lot of younger black girls and woman’s for literally no reason 🙄
Naaah- that’s just justification and there is no excuse. There will always be ignorant in the bunch
They don’t represent all Black women 😤
Jealousy
It’s not just the older women. Let’s not get starred on this younger generation.
A majority of light skin and mixed women who teased and down talked Darker women with natural hair, now have dark skin daughter's with course hair ...they will now have teach they daughter's they are beautiful and their hair is beautiful.... something they couldn't tell a darker skin women they will now have to install in their beautiful darker skinned daughters
We should’ve left Lisa Raye back in 1996 with The Players Club 🙄
Wtf!!! There is nothing wrong with her natural hair
Right ! I see nothing wrong with her hair.
That baby has thick healthy hair… same people making fun of her probably barely have their edges underneath the wigs. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ let that child embrace being blck
Nappy hair has never meant our hair is uncombed. It has always been an attack and derogatory remark towards the TEXTURE of our hair. Which is why we're crying every time our hair doesn't look like another texture because we don't like our own. Just carrying on the mantle of anti-blackness.
Exactly its a dig at a certain texture. Lets not act naive. I had to tell my own mother to stop calling it nappy. Its not a term of love.
Facts. She really tried it. Coming from a light skin women. Smdh
Yep. It’s def about a certain texture. No one calls hair nappy because it’s uncombed and she knew that
And the funny thing is that blue ivy’s hair is gorgeous. I just dont understand why grown adults feel like they can put their opinion out publicly about a child’s hair😩 I just will never understand it.
This is my honest opinion, i think they are jealous. Blue has very beautiful hair. That’s what happens when you don’t put chemicals in a child’s hair from the get go. It grows and has its own texture when you get older. Not only that but really taking care of your hair type is important. Older generations are salty because the younger generations are figuring that out. And in my opinion of the word ‘nappy’ only occurs when you can’t wear your natural hair.
It always sickens and never sat right w me how many people feel the need to make it known that they find people w bigger facial features , specifically noses , and afro hair texture , "ugly". Hate and tired of hearing people voice they find Jay Z, Teyana Taylor, Ari Lennox , Tarana Burke, "Ugly". A lot of people feel way too comfortable saying that, they can think that their not attractive , but why make it known, as if people whom happen to have Afro-centric features don't have any feelings. I have a big nose, and afro hair texture and comments like that have affected Mr and have a negative impact on my mental since I was a little girl.
@@coolcontent27 girlll these people are jealous bc you're just beautiful...
For me now it's about my long curls bc they go down my shoulders and I'm darkskin so my OWN people be looking weird at me or asking if it's real???
Also this one classmate talking ab my s color when he was all the way darker? how I didn't had much hairs? ( 4 years ago after my big chop )
Don't give them any attention or if it's too much give the same energy bc at the end of the day they aren't the ones paying for what we own, our food, our style etc.. so their negative opinions don't matters, they can sit tf back and watch us thrive 🤷🏾♀️
Blue ivy hair is beautiful
I love my queens right here y’all give me life. Love y’all
And people ask questions like “why is Beyoncé not that active on social media” or they wonder why her and Jay keep their kids out of the eye of the public….
Because she would definitely end some careers. 😂😂
I know she secretly hates how dark her granddaughter happened to come out .. 🙄
Doubt it
@@belly3677 I don't know why you would doubt it.. she rode her daughter heavy about her being overweight being that they're in the Hollywood industry, you saw how she just popped off about them not having nappy hair. Why on earth would she have been happy about her being dark when all her privilege has come from her being light. 🤔🙄
I agree!
Yep !
@@kionaofoldstones4263 Nah
Vivica shouldn’t have HAD to make it personal for her to understand! Lisa is just an unhappy person to me💅🏾
The self-hate is loud amongst them. Too much
I'm from Houston, not a hive member, but Beyonce is the homegirl. I have always found Blue beautiful from birth. I don't like her being compared negatively to the Kardashian ... offspring is as nice as I can put it. She's smart, sweet, talented and her hair is ALL that.
I agree! My mother forced me to perm my hair at 11 because she "couldn't deal with it" and my hair was always dry and short until I went natural . I will never perm my child's hair. I make sure to let her know how beautiful her hair is and I'm so happy that the ppl in my generation are starting to wake up and see it is. Also not making comments like "bad hair and good hair" associating bad hair with tight curls and afro textured hair and good hair as being loose curls and straight
Same!
It’s called self hate. The adjectives are important, and it’s a travesty that blk people use negative adjectives to describe blk features. Foolhardy!
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I'm 50+, in LisaRaye age group and yes adults/family made ignorant comments abt My daughters hair smh. I didn't say this b4 they were born yet 21+yo they have never had a relaxer/perm.
I’m pretty sure my hair would probably be in the middle of my back by now, had I never had a relaxer. And my hair is bra strap length now(natural) but imagine how much longer it would’ve been had I never had it relaxed 🙄. Also I am a proud 4c queen 💅🏾.
3:26 you hit the nail on the head. Just because your family doesn’t have that specific African trait doesn’t give you the right to support or even turn a blind eye to people attacking our CHILDREN for having African features/traits smfh!! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
This is one of the side effects of people normalising the One Drop Rule imo. When people say mixed people are black, so many end up making features more common to mixed (looser curls, light skin) a blk beauty standard. People end up forgetting that black people naturally get kinky hair!
I just hope everyone keeps this same energy when it comes to the little black girls in your neighborhood and families. 💙 if kids are off limits it needs to be all kids, not just rich ones birthed by your faves.
Yes it should be across the board. I get that anything positive said about celebrities you want to assume is people WORSHIPPING them so you feel obligated to speak against it. But in this case, from what I have seen people are saying KIDS ARE OFF LIMITS! Not just B&J baby but ANY KID!
I agree with you about that too op.
@@teachertx hope so. My son had locs and I received many comments asking when I was going to cut his hair or when it was going to get re-twisted once the roots would start growing out. I see some of the same people in my personal life defending the celebrity child.
I’ve seen videos of teachers who keep hair supplies in their desk drawers to “fix” little girls hair when it’s in it’s natural state and they’re praised for going “above and beyond”.
So hopefully this applies to regular kids and regular parents who don’t do a bunch of extra styles to their kids hair.
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This
Okay.... blue sitting on mo money . THE END .😊🤣🤣
But Blu ivy hair looks good and she has length as well .when my daughter was a baby I put her hair in any type of way. Her hair was curly but most times it was unkept..baby is a baby . leave babies hair alone
Look at Jay-Z he is so proud of his beautiful creation, as he should be.
“Well, Bella hair isn’t nappy” Lisa Raye… I’m done. It was an ugly undertone. There was no excuse for San to say what he did more was Lisa’s response necessary. If uncouth was a people🙄
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She’s calling someone’s natural hair nappy, BUT SHE HAS A WHOLE WEAVE ON
Just apologize DASSIT!!! The black women who are still wiling to support, promote, and advocate for Saucy are the ones who signed the petition to get Beyonce to do her daughter’s hair. How you coming for Blue and the same type of hair grows from your scalp ?!?!!
He doesn't have to apologize especially if he doesnt mean it, but he should atleast take some type of accountability. If you arent willing to apologize then atleast be brave enough to own up to what you did and stop hiding behind the "I was young excuse". This was so disappointing of him
Nobody wants his apology
girl please don’t speak for the rest of the black women nobody finna support his nasty ass
I remember growing up and my mom use to always tell me "I wish you would have came out with my texture instead of your father's. My mom was Hispanic and my dad is black. I grew up thinking I had "ugly hair." It wasn't till I became 30 I stopped perming my hair and started to really take care of it & realized how beautiful it is & how it flourished without all those harsh chemicals. I absolutely LOVE my natural hair now!!!! 💞
Everything you said. EVERYTHING!
Lisa granddaughter is dark skin, I’m sure she would not want nobody picking on her. She also has coarse hair like Blue Ivy which is nothing wrong with that. I swear it’s like people just really hate Beyoncé but take it out on her child. And if Santana think he’s about to have a career after this he is sadly mistaken. Gay Black men don’t have the same privilege as gay White men to be disrespectful and come out Scott free.
Lisaraye granddaughter is dark-skinned but have looser texture of hair which Lisaraye love
I also feel like they actually coming for Beyonce indirectly, because they can't fault her for anything. She's rich, famous talented and absolutely drop dead gorgeous. And on top of that she's in her lane and never noisy
First off…..
Congratulations on your engagement!!! I’m so happy for you. 😄😄😄
Secondly, LisaRaye and Saucy ain’t shit. Why are they coming after Blue Ivy? What did she do to them? Damn. They are so despicable. Leave her alone. Reminds me of that “journalist” that had the caucacity to come for Blue. Blue Ivy is a beautiful girl. They need several 💺. Thank goodness for Vivica for being there at the right place and right time for her comment. Blue. Is. A. Freaking. Child. Commenting. About. Children. Are. Off. Limits!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you! Life update video coming soon 💕💕💕
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@@iameloho718 congrats Eloho!!!!♥️♥️
So I went natural 3 years ago. I had to learn how to love my hair in it’s natural state. I wear it in an afro EVERYWHERE I go ( yes, including work) How come other groups of people are able to wear their hair the way it grows out of their scalp but not 4C hair girls. I’ve been receiving tons of compliments. But it HAD to be a Black person telling me “ are you one of the Jackson’s five members? *giggles*… like WHYYYYYYY? 🙄😑
Sis, we most certainly are allowed to wear our God given hair. We just choose not to, culturally appropriating other races of hair, grafting it unto our own in the form of wigs and weaves. Nothing wrong with that, but let's be real here. If we wear our natural hair out more, folks will just get used to it and anytime BP make a derogatory comment, just say, 'it's the way God created it, fearfully and wonderfully made! Don't hate what the Lord has made.'
@@Abena425 nothing but the truth!!! Bless day sis!! 😘
Yea it’s very strange. Sometimes I would wear my hair in a cute fro or twist out. Most of the compliments I get is from non-black people. The reactions I get from our own folks are disgusted stares. When I tell you my self-esteem dropped so low….
Or it's acceptable for BM to wear their natural hair but not BW... it's all so tiring.
@@StarC2233 that’s the part I was noticing too! Only BW get attacked for embracing our type four hair. Meanwhile I never see dudes with the same texture getting called out.
Even Saucy looks like he has type 4 hair so why he hating from inside the club?
Why is this even a topic?? 🤣
Blue Ivy got more money than all of us 😂😂😂😂
Vivica, you are the on point. Why even talk about children. They are off limits. Thank you Vivica.
Lisa Raye drank the kool-aid that her light skin and "good-hair" makes her better. She's always acting like she doesn't get it. She's made colorist comments in the past. Our ppl are so lost. The self hate is real.
And those are the ones we've given an audience smh.
Where is all this good hair that you’re speaking of? Looks just like everyone else’s.
This is actually sick. Grown adults talking about a baby's hair. The ladies really should know better. We are our own worse enemies.
right while they are hiding their hair behind wig and everything else, we all know lisa doesn't have good as she calls it hair unless she does a lot to it to make it looks like something kind of good
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@@MSSmith-rl5or literally!!!
What happened to Lisa trying to prove how black she is by going on press tours and saying she was a Queen of Africa? "Nappy"hair is a part of that.
Hahahaha, I remember that. It wasn’t even true. She’s not actually a queen in Africa.
Didn't she also do a "campaign" to discourage skin bleaching? But going around calling a child nappy headed? Yikes. She's way too old to act the way she does.
She thought we forgot lol.
SELF HATRED MUST END..CELEBRATE OUR OWN!!!!!!
I'm mixed and my husband is black. My white family always praised our children's hair. Some of his black family always had a negative comment when their hair wasn't braided or up.
I just hope Blue Ivy is protected from all this damaging commentary and knows how beautiful she is, despite what her own skin folk say
Wait... what? What is Lisa even saying?
What is happening? This obsession with multiracial children and loose curls is out of hand at this point. My little baby girl will be one in a week, and I basically only put rosewater and coconut oil on her hair and gently detangle it. People be begging me to put it in a pony tail, straighten out her edges and do all this extra styling... putting all this unnecessary tension on her young hair just so they can look at something that makes her appear a little less Black, is not something I have time for.
"10 year old, Grammy award winner, Blue Ivy Carter" is the best sentence I've heard thus far
Grammys are rigged
White babies hair being looking a hot ass mess all uncombed & whatnot yet no one says shiii!!!! Blue Ivy is so so so beautiful! Bey did a great damn job
I think Blu has beautiful hair! ❤️
Her hair is GOALS! 🤩
Blue Ivy IS BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!
He might not be the only one that said nasty stuff about Blue Ivy, a Black girl with African features, but he said these things knowing he might become famous. For me, I can't support a person doing that to a Black girl and woman 🤷🏿♀️
They love exploiting BW especially the one who want to be us!
Trust and Believe thousands of people said something about her daughter. But people want to be fake and blame just one person like come on.
No one is being fake or blaming one person they’re holding him accountable. As they should
There is no such thing as African features
whew IM THE FIRST and I’m so tired of this nasty commentary on a baby.
My thing is this... How about people just mind their goddamn business and stop being mean, nasty, and messy. PERIOD! That is, towards kids, old folks, middle-aged folks, birds, cats, dogs... JUST STOP!
It says a lot about people who tease and ridicule others, especially those who can't defend themselves. For me, even if a person who does such things apologize, my take from it is that the person had it in their heart to "go there" from the jump, so most likely, any apologies from them bears no meaning because that nastiness is the core of who they are.
That man is in no place to judge anyone, that's the nicest way that I can say it. Her hair used to be so cute💗💗💗💗
Her hairline isn't receding, it's RUNNING!!!!!
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Lisa Raye is coming off very immature and smug for nothing 😑. Blue Ivy's hair was and is gorgeous! Beyonce better get Blue a hair company ASAP! Lisa is giving self hating and jealous that hair is not lustrous at all and her hairline is on struggle. And she has not an ounce of style...look at her accessory combination 👀 Blue Ivy is a beautiful child!
Does she wants this little show to be snatched off air🥴😂🤦🏾♀️ Jayz and Bey be working behind the scenes ☕️ better watch yourself old woman
Well said!!!!! You said everything I was thinking! Great job Great video!
Not the multi racial fetish!!!!!!!!!🤣😂🤣 love that line!
As always, Eloho 👑🦄 coming through with the shades 💅🏿, facts 💯 AND tea ☕
Doesn't she also sell wigs?? It's so hypocritical
I legit cried when Eloho said children are the closest to God on earth and if we want to see God’s heart and the purity of God’s love, it’s in children. A WORD!! I cried because my heart knows and believes that is the absolute truth! For any GROWN person, to say anything negative about a child’s GOD GIVEN hair and features makes me so angry. I love Blue Ivy and I see myself in her as a beautiful little black girl. To Stupid Santana, Lame Lisa Raye and any other dumb ass that has something to say about Blue’s hair or looks: 🖕🏾them. I had to check a male gay friend of mine who had something to say about black girl’s hair. Even though he would never say anything negative on social media about it, I told him don’t say it in private either. We have to check ourselves always and the anti-blackness that is within us as a people.
“She’s not in your hair health bracket.”
Exactly! It’s sad, people really need to check themselves-well said Eloho👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Bey and Jay gone shut down that channel like they did with 106 & Park
Blue Ivy and her hair are beautiful! 😍