my favorite thing and easy way to spot feminine versus masculine is - the masculine takes JOY and naturally wants to do these nice caring things without you having to ask and they don’t complain, it comes like second nature- feminine men in my past complain about it or didn’t think about it at all, or think you have to “deserve” certain treatments. They are not chivalrous with you simply for being a woman like most masculine gentlemen. A true gentleman is also courteous regardless he likes you or not. Feminine men are sassy and argue with women once they realize they can’t get anything out of them
Ugh. Yeah my guy doesn’t even text me to check when I’m taking the bus. It’s frustrating. I asked his friends and these men make sure their ladies are okay. Even my male co workers asks me to text the, when I’m home to make sure I’m safe. I feel so unloved. Edit. To fix typos. I’m dyslexic. Sorry.
oh, you’re so spot on 😭 i grew up in a household with a high-earning mother and a feminine, narcissistic father and it was miserable for all the reasons you stated. they were in that relationship for nearly 30 years, but now that my mom is seeing a much more masculine man, it’s like a weight has been lifted off of her. she’s smiling so much more and is bubblier at 56 than i have seen her in my entire life 😩 ladies, please spare yourself the heartache
I am so happy for your mother! That is an awful experience for all of you but there is always hope and healing for the future. Thank you for sharing love!
1. 08:37 They're not go-getters (they usually just complain about what they don't like about their lives instead of changing it) 2. 09:55 They're okay with you and other people paying (most intentionally seek out high earning women so that they can be spoiled by them) 3. 11:23 They don't take the initiative (they don't plan or arrange dates and are okay with you doing the chasing) 4. 13:54 You're on the phone with him all (he want to soak up all your time as they like to talk and chit-chat, they usually have a lot of female friends) 5. 18:00 overly focused on his looks (more so than masculine men) 6. 20:30 They always want you to help them (help them solve problems, help them physically) 7.
I didnt become more feminine until after i had my daughter. Unfortunately this caused the family to break apart and i could no longer deal with lack of ambition and drive. The stress postpartum financially, was terrible. Praying for myself and my daughter to continue to soften to align with a man that is truly masculine. So that she can learn from my mistakes.
Yes having children almost always changes things and I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. I will pray for you too! Yes, teach your daughter everything so she never has to. Thank you for watching honey!
This happens...however, women are cyclical It's best to get into traditional feminine🌷things If you have time, get sewing lessons from a college, and make more skirts Guys would love to see women dress more feminine
This is exactly why I’m trying to change this now. I saw how it fell apart with my mother. You can muster the energy while you are working. You can cook and clean and make the money. But after you have a baby, the work is too much plus taking care of a baby. I know that intuitively yet i keep falling into these patterns. Thanks for the reminder. I will change this
Love love love this video! Love the dramatics of the examples you provided…I used to blame the men for being in their feminine, but then I realize I was attracting them with my need to control. I surrender and let things be, I no longer attract them, I actually repel feminine men.
I clutched my pearls when I seen the title of this video, I used to be guilty of this haha - thank u for bringing this to the light bc a lot of women normalize feminine men 😢
Oop a masculine man will want to protect and provide for his children … a feminine man feels he doesn’t have to take care of his responsibilities 🎯 that hit home I’ve been dating princesses 😭
18:51 reminds me of Johnny Bravo from Cartoon 🤣🤣 he was such a self absorbed character and swore all the ladies loved him and he was always looking in the mirror. LOL
I love your attitude! You’re so funny!😂 I’m not dating anyone but whenever I’m around feminine men I literally feel grossed out. That just perfectly describes it for me, grossed out.
You just read my ex to the T! The only thing that was off, is that he didn’t care AT ALL about his looks. He took pride in messy hair, holes in his clothes and shoes, and thought it was a badge of honor to be able to go anywhere and not care what other people think. He also discouraged me and our son from looking nice. But of course me in my masculine at the time, I figured I could get him to care more if I started him off with new clothes 🤦🏾♀️ I am so glad I left him before our son turned 2 because I did not want him to see his mother treated like that anymore.
I'm a feminine women and my dad is a narcissist..he's a weak man and it caused me a while host of problems in life. Having a narcissistic father is only a slight step above having no father. I also noticed I had to get into my masculine with dad during any sort of stress - he's lose it completely. Dressing out and raging. Meanwhile I was in the role of remaining calm, rational and helped him solve the problem almost always. I didn't realise that was actually the masculine person's role.
Thank you for the explanation..its so true what you said. I dated a feminine man and i also experienced that they can be very jealous of your accomplishments & your femininity as a woman and they like the drama.. Lesson learned.
Spot on!! my ex was a princess and narcissistic with a lot of female friends that he was always on the phone with them. It always felt like I was a man and he was the woman, was so competitive with me too.
I recently dated a feminine man, I couldn’t do it, I was so repulsed by him. I feel bad because he is a nice guy but I just couldn’t do it, he would pull me out of my feminine energy and I hated it.
Totally Get It!! These types will Definitely bring out Masculine Energy in You, These Men are Pathetic it’s Terribly Sad because I don’t have that kind of tolerance anymore
You are on point. My father was a feminine man and it almost destroyed myself and my siblings we are suffering the consequences to this day because of it.
I love this video because unfortunately there are also men out there with some trauma who are not fully feminine all the time but sometimes act out in a toxic manner in a feminine way and like you said it’s not always narcissistic and it’s not all the time but now it’s easy for me to pinpoint when a man is acting out in a feminine way when he should not be . I no longer have any time for it . Only healthy aware men.
I needed to hear this video so much. Thank you Dr. Daf ❤ I didn’t realize that I’ve grown up with feminine men and attracted feminine men in my relationships because I thought it was normal. God ultimately freed me from these situations before I understood what it was and I’m soooooooo grateful and thankful! ❤🙌🏾 Thank you again☺️
This is why, some churches Push women to wear dresses And men to keep hair short, with ties.. Stay away from guys wearing manbuns, pierced ears, ponytails, and locks.. Manbuns are close to ballerina buns (They don't look "samurai")
As someone who experienced all of this (in the past), I can totally agree with all that points. It gives me the ick now and once we change, we will also change what we attract 🥰
I was trying to make sense of the married “feminist” women and the men who marry them. I know a few! I was always confused by the dynamic, thank you for this illumination.
As I’m listening I’m not like this but I realize that so many women are used to this they think it’s something wrong with men that are masculine…. This where we are in this world
The more feminine you are The more masculine. Feminine men, are more violent My ex bro in law was To my sister..and he "overdressed" Stay aesy from gangsta rap And that entire culture Not just race M&m too
I have a daughter with a feminine man, she’s 10 now and he still hasn’t understood the importance of paying child support on time. His understanding is that since I work, I can afford all her charges. In 10 years all he has done is ask me when we can get back together…
Omg i really needed to hear this. I didn’t even search this video. Just cut off a guy with all these traits last night. I am a feminist thru and thru so idk how this popped up but something did eventually feel off with him after two months. Thank you thank you !
Wow, Dr. Michelle! As I’m hearing these characteristics, these traits were in my Ex-Fiancé. Although, he did serve in the military in his 1st career, and owned his own business secondary after retirement. He wanted me to do the dirty work to help him launch his 2nd company. And do the grunt work on my own. His excuse “I keep a roof over your head, so the least you can do is prepare my business plan.” And, still expected me to keep a 9 to 5 along the process of paying my own bills! I look back at this behavior he totally was operating in his feminine energy in our relationship. I’m disgusted by the tactics.🙅♀️
Part two please. I would like to know the other traits. Everything you mentioned is on point. As mentioned it could be male family member. It definitely is a narcissistic trait. And sadly is very prevalent in today's time...❤❤❤
Hey love thank you for this video this was very eye opening, I feel like I was just dealing with a masculine man with feminine traits he had a great job and a car but he definitely didn't plan things and I feel like he didn't care about my safety either ex: not walking me to my car late at night and not making sure I arrived home safe after we spend time together at night and he liked a lot of attention
@@drmichelledafthose guys, may have come from broken homes...no father's. Sometimes, grandfather could be a standing..if he's masculine..and could train him...
This was such a great video! I remember going on this date with this REALLY feminine man. He was obsessed with his looks. I remember looking at his hands that were perfectly manicured and even had clear polish on them 😂 when I brought it up he said his toes were polished too!! It’s so interesting because he was really ambitious. He kept talking about how much money he made but in was in a way that was so weird. He was basically saying I should be doing all the things he was doing and should be making just as much money as him. Like he was trying to look down on me because I wasn’t making as much money as him at the time. (I probably make more than him now ) but I never had a guy talk to me like that before. I was so turned off and he all of a sudden became so unattractive. Such an interesting topic. Love this video.
This was why, they didn't want to train women in certain careers, years ago... Women start using masculine energy Men..in general, tend to use one side of brain at a time.. They have the side, to be tender and soft with a woman Then, use his hard side to protect. Women tend to use both sides of her brain at the same time..
Hi Dr. Daf ☺️ I hope you are well. Can you do a video about remaining feminine while being around people who don’t share your same values? Sometimes we just have to be around people that live this way. Co workers, family members, friends of family members, etc. I don’t want to judge others or be unkind- but what if they talk about things I don’t agree with or behave in a way I don’t agree with. Example: my boyfriend’s sister invited me to hang with her friends who are very worldly- drink a lot, homosexual, curse- I’m not going to be rude or judge but I just don’t agree with this lifestyle. I don’t want to be rude and say “I don’t want to hang with you because you behave this way” that would seem rude and judgey. But I don’t want to be around the sin. I know as Christian’s we are called to love- am I supposed to be remain quiet and feel uncomfortable the whole time?? Or coworkers who are liberal- or family members that just don’t think the same. Can someone help me navigate this? I feel so uncomfortable being around sin but I know it’s inevitable- as we cannot control other people
Not necessarily. It depends on who he is being aggressive towards. If a man is a healthy masculine man he is going to want to protect you not harm you. Many times men in their feminine are so emotional and that emotional energy gets channeled towards aggression towards women. They would not dare be that way with another man. That's the difference.
Thank you, very detailed and on point, almost the best I heard about this topic/ now thinking about my relationships, I think I’m used to date the feminine type - but when I dated the masculine one I felt definitely more drawn to them on the energy level and sexually / but not sure why I still find comfort in dating the feminine one --- any thoughts on what we need as women to work on ourselves on to break that cycle?! 🙂↔️
Thank you so mich forcthis video Dr Daf. Please can you do a video on home a single mother (who has kids with a feminine man) can move into her feminine energy and start a new health relationship. But still be a strong provider at home.
7:45 She was seeking feminine men out of fear 9:00 they just talk about it but they don’t do it They like the process more. Masculine energy is very achievement oriented. They are ok. They want to lean back. They expect you to pay your half. 11:37 not taking initiative. 12:25 you dont feel very safe with a feminine man. You feel like you have to look out for yourself 16:50 they crave the attention from women. To look good for them. They need attention, they have multiple women. 18:17 overly focused on their looks from head to toe 25:20 a masculine man will want to take care of you and the kids. He is driven to provide and protect for them. 25:41 that’s how my dad is! Yikes. I forgive him tho. He said my mom has a good job, she’s got it. 26:42 a man in his feminine as an artist. Hopefully he can have the initiative. 27:31 feminine men are into your looks. And theirs. And other women’s. they’re the men who are talking about other women and their looks. 30:40 you have to force everything. You don’t feel safe, you don’t feel in flow.
I was expecting my boyfriend to be described in this video… and he wasn’t at all. I’m shocked. Is it possible for someone to be masculine but have a feminine personality? He’s SO lovey-dovey. He LOVES love. He’s clingy w me. & too affectionate for me. I watched this video expecting you to describe him. Otherwise he’s a provider & is aware of my needs & generous so I’m confused
Yes it is. Remember - no one size fits all. A masculine man can still have feminine traits, but that doesn't make him predominantly feminine. We cannot put people in neat, uniform boxes - human nature is far too complex and too much nuisance for that. Simply ...the predominant energy is what will make someone primarily masculine or primarily feminine. A masculine man will still have feminine traits. Trust me, women would hate a fully masculine man - he would be rough, abrasive and obnoxious.
One more thing I also noticed about a trait feminine men have in common: Don't know how to drive, Don't like driving, have excuses for why they don't or can't drive (ex: I have depression and can't drive), they expect you to drive them as their mother did/still do.
I have 2 kids with such a man...i am so confused... he is always complaining, i have to pay myself, i did not know if he will get me from the hospital after giving birth, whole pregnancy he had backpain so i had to carry everything myself. Laughing about my big womb... Even if we have sex, he dont want to do the work... I really hope i can find a solution for me and my kids...
So I’m sure I will receive some heat here but, I am a trans woman and while in my male mode I am a giver, and protector, I do all the things like open car doors and doors to stores or restaurants. However I love being a woman and I also love being with a woman, so guess I am a lesbian in a way, I am self sufficient in all ways, I work 40-50 a week, can cook and clean and sew, I don’t need a woman but I want a woman, does this make sense to you?
This is interesting. Sees that even my mother and grandmother met feminine men. For whom they basically did everything. But this time I honestly fell for it. Because my ex demanded and demanded without actually giving anything. Also became more and more a breadwinner for him. Even his children. Been involved in this before. There is a special energy here. But learned. Today I find it unattractive. They come in fast and text bombs. Then there is nothing behind. More like a big giant baby. Who wants attention. I broke up. So had to get hold of myself and break this pattern. In retrospect, he was also still involved in his ex-wife. He was breaking me. So no more ever. I had to get real how i feel so i could heal. The ex bought two trips quickly or at the beginning of the relationship. But had no money when we went on the first one. So I covered everything. I didn't go on the second one.
I’m a single father and have just a small issue with the financial part of men can’t ask for help but it’s seemingly alright for women to take money from a man. Some women aren’t exactly up to par either which is why guys like myself exist. I speak for the men that step up even when the woman decides not to do her part.
my favorite thing and easy way to spot feminine versus masculine is - the masculine takes JOY and naturally wants to do these nice caring things without you having to ask and they don’t complain, it comes like second nature- feminine men in my past complain about it or didn’t think about it at all, or think you have to “deserve” certain treatments. They are not chivalrous with you simply for being a woman like most masculine gentlemen. A true gentleman is also courteous regardless he likes you or not. Feminine men are sassy and argue with women once they realize they can’t get anything out of them
Yes yes and yes!! Thank you for sharing ✨
Spot on! So glad this is a conversation now because it’s necessary!
Spot on!
Accurate and perfectly put. 👏
Ugh. Yeah my guy doesn’t even text me to check when I’m taking the bus. It’s frustrating. I asked his friends and these men make sure their ladies are okay. Even my male co workers asks me to text the, when I’m home to make sure I’m safe. I feel so unloved.
Edit. To fix typos. I’m dyslexic. Sorry.
oh, you’re so spot on 😭 i grew up in a household with a high-earning mother and a feminine, narcissistic father and it was miserable for all the reasons you stated. they were in that relationship for nearly 30 years, but now that my mom is seeing a much more masculine man, it’s like a weight has been lifted off of her. she’s smiling so much more and is bubblier at 56 than i have seen her in my entire life 😩 ladies, please spare yourself the heartache
I am so happy for your mother! That is an awful experience for all of you but there is always hope and healing for the future. Thank you for sharing love!
Years ago, that wasn't allowed...
It weakens the men, and makes them more emotional, and dangerous at times
Yessss❤
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1. 08:37 They're not go-getters (they usually just complain about what they don't like about their lives instead of changing it)
2. 09:55 They're okay with you and other people paying (most intentionally seek out high earning women so that they can be spoiled by them)
3. 11:23 They don't take the initiative (they don't plan or arrange dates and are okay with you doing the chasing)
4. 13:54 You're on the phone with him all (he want to soak up all your time as they like to talk and chit-chat, they usually have a lot of female friends)
5. 18:00 overly focused on his looks (more so than masculine men)
6. 20:30 They always want you to help them (help them solve problems, help them physically)
7.
*all day
I didnt become more feminine until after i had my daughter. Unfortunately this caused the family to break apart and i could no longer deal with lack of ambition and drive. The stress postpartum financially, was terrible. Praying for myself and my daughter to continue to soften to align with a man that is truly masculine. So that she can learn from my mistakes.
Yes having children almost always changes things and I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. I will pray for you too! Yes, teach your daughter everything so she never has to. Thank you for watching honey!
Yes feminine men lack ambition and drive 😢 unfortunately
This happens...however, women are cyclical
It's best to get into traditional feminine🌷things
If you have time, get sewing lessons from a college, and make more skirts
Guys would love to see women dress more feminine
This is exactly why I’m trying to change this now. I saw how it fell apart with my mother.
You can muster the energy while you are working. You can cook and clean and make the money. But after you have a baby, the work is too much plus taking care of a baby. I know that intuitively yet i keep falling into these patterns. Thanks for the reminder. I will change this
Love love love this video! Love the dramatics of the examples you provided…I used to blame the men for being in their feminine, but then I realize I was attracting them with my need to control. I surrender and let things be, I no longer attract them, I actually repel feminine men.
That is wonderful love! I'm happy you've grown in that way and now recognize the traits. Thank you for sharing 🤍✨
Please how did you it
I clutched my pearls when I seen the title of this video, I used to be guilty of this haha - thank u for bringing this to the light bc a lot of women normalize feminine men 😢
Oop a masculine man will want to protect and provide for his children … a feminine man feels he doesn’t have to take care of his responsibilities 🎯 that hit home I’ve been dating princesses 😭
It’s okay sis we I had a princess before but I got rid of him 😂
Had to ... now recovering my femininity!
Been in my masculine wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy toooooooooooooooo longgggggggggggggg
We women have to stop allowing this. Also check and see if he has tool kits at home
Tools are very masculine
Especially if he knows how to use them
😂😂😂❤
@@kathleenking47and it begins with so called "empowering" the " women"
18:51 reminds me of Johnny Bravo from Cartoon 🤣🤣 he was such a self absorbed character and swore all the ladies loved him and he was always looking in the mirror. LOL
I love your attitude! You’re so funny!😂
I’m not dating anyone but whenever I’m around feminine men I literally feel grossed out. That just perfectly describes it for me, grossed out.
You just read my ex to the T! The only thing that was off, is that he didn’t care AT ALL about his looks. He took pride in messy hair, holes in his clothes and shoes, and thought it was a badge of honor to be able to go anywhere and not care what other people think. He also discouraged me and our son from looking nice. But of course me in my masculine at the time, I figured I could get him to care more if I started him off with new clothes 🤦🏾♀️ I am so glad I left him before our son turned 2 because I did not want him to see his mother treated like that anymore.
I'm a feminine women and my dad is a narcissist..he's a weak man and it caused me a while host of problems in life. Having a narcissistic father is only a slight step above having no father. I also noticed I had to get into my masculine with dad during any sort of stress - he's lose it completely. Dressing out and raging.
Meanwhile I was in the role of remaining calm, rational and helped him solve the problem almost always. I didn't realise that was actually the masculine person's role.
Thank you for the explanation..its so true what you said. I dated a feminine man and i also experienced that they can be very jealous of your accomplishments & your femininity as a woman and they like the drama.. Lesson learned.
Now it makes sense !!! I knew something was off.
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Spot on!! my ex was a princess and narcissistic with a lot of female friends that he was always on the phone with them. It always felt like I was a man and he was the woman, was so competitive with me too.
I believe that experienced dating a feminine man because after a while I felt myself operating like a man
I recently dated a feminine man, I couldn’t do it, I was so repulsed by him. I feel bad because he is a nice guy but I just couldn’t do it, he would pull me out of my feminine energy and I hated it.
Totally Get It!! These types will Definitely bring out Masculine Energy in You, These Men are Pathetic it’s Terribly Sad because I don’t have that kind of tolerance anymore
Same, tried but I ended up resenting him. Glad im out
This is so good! I love how your broke this down and how relatable your examples were. Thank you for sharing!
Aww thank you sis!! I appreciate you
Spot on! Will you be doing a video on the traits of a masculine man?
You are on point. My father was a feminine man and it almost destroyed myself and my siblings we are suffering the consequences to this day because of it.
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm thankful that God is healing that part of you as you grow. Thank you for watching love 🤍✨
What did your father do then?
I love this video because unfortunately there are also men out there with some trauma who are not fully feminine all the time but sometimes act out in a toxic manner in a feminine way and like you said it’s not always narcissistic and it’s not all the time but now it’s easy for me to pinpoint when a man is acting out in a feminine way when he should not be . I no longer have any time for it . Only healthy aware men.
Yes that is sadly true... there are so many factors. Thank you for sharing love ✨
Narcissistic men sometimes come from broken homes
Or...grandfathers..
The more ambitious a woman is, the more feminine a man is
Women are cyclical
Yes!!
I needed to hear this video so much. Thank you Dr. Daf ❤ I didn’t realize that I’ve grown up with feminine men and attracted feminine men in my relationships because I thought it was normal. God ultimately freed me from these situations before I understood what it was and I’m soooooooo grateful and thankful! ❤🙌🏾 Thank you again☺️
Praise God! Yes, you don't know what you don't know. I am so glad this was helpful. Thank you for watching honey!
This is why, some churches
Push women to wear dresses
And men to keep hair short, with ties..
Stay away from guys wearing manbuns, pierced ears, ponytails, and locks..
Manbuns are close to ballerina buns
(They don't look "samurai")
Omg spot on, I love the impression of the man getting ready, made me laugh out loud! 😂
Love this video dr michelle
As someone who experienced all of this (in the past), I can totally agree with all that points. It gives me the ick now and once we change, we will also change what we attract 🥰
I was trying to make sense of the married “feminist” women and the men who marry them. I know a few! I was always confused by the dynamic, thank you for this illumination.
Yes! Thank you for watching.
Would not say this is accurate from my perspective
As I’m listening I’m not like this but I realize that so many women are used to this they think it’s something wrong with men that are masculine…. This where we are in this world
No way as young lady we love masculine man
This is true...
You are a breath of fresh air, my dear. I thank you and love you 🫶🏾
I’m so grateful that my fiancé is the exact opposite of this. 💕
The more feminine you are
The more masculine.
Feminine men, are more violent
My ex bro in law was
To my sister..and he "overdressed"
Stay aesy from gangsta rap
And that entire culture
Not just race
M&m too
This video all women need!
Yes! lol Thank you for watching
Wow this was a very much needed conversation. Thank you sooo much.💕
You are most welcome love thank you for watching 💋
@@drmichelledaf you’re very welcome💕 Dr. Daf
@Dr. Michelle Daf This was an excellent video! I learned quite a lot! You should really make a “Part 2” of this video! Thank a million!
This is an excellent video. Please turn this topic into a series. Thank you.
I have a daughter with a feminine man, she’s 10 now and he still hasn’t understood the importance of paying child support on time. His understanding is that since I work, I can afford all her charges. In 10 years all he has done is ask me when we can get back together…
Ugh that is so unfortunate. I'm sorry you're dealing with this love ✨
I hope it's okay for me to comment but I accidently read your comment as though your 10 year old daughter was dating a feminine boy haha
@@JesusLightsYourPath😂😂
This is so helpful.
I'm so happy to hear that!
dare to say a feminine one is a talker and a masculine one is a doer?!
It’s not politically correct but honestly after my experience i see some of what she is talking about. 24:01 she also says here that they are equal
Omg i really needed to hear this. I didn’t even search this video. Just cut off a guy with all these traits last night. I am a feminist thru and thru so idk how this popped up but something did eventually feel off with him after two months. Thank you thank you !
@@slimbarbie1 you're welcome my love
You are 💯 correct Dr. Michelle. ❤
Thank you for watching love!
Absolutely enjoyed this video! It was insightful, tactful and you provided spot on examples. Thank you for sharing your insight!
Thank you love!✨
Wow, Dr. Michelle! As I’m hearing these characteristics, these traits were in my Ex-Fiancé. Although, he did serve in the military in his 1st career, and owned his own business secondary after retirement. He wanted me to do the dirty work to help him launch his 2nd company. And do the grunt work on my own. His excuse “I keep a roof over your head, so the least you can do is prepare my business plan.” And, still expected me to keep a 9 to 5 along the process of paying my own bills! I look back at this behavior he totally was operating in his feminine energy in our relationship. I’m disgusted by the tactics.🙅♀️
ASAP Rocky said “I’m a bad bxh too girls need to buy ME flowers”
Wait what? 😭
@@Sesen111 in an interview not a song- he was serious lol
No he didn’t omg we really got a pool of pretty princesses that look like men
It's why, he got Rihanna😩
He also said he didn’t spend money on women and if he does, she’ll invest money money than him because he’s a handsome man 🥴
Part two please. I would like to know the other traits. Everything you mentioned is on point. As mentioned it could be male family member. It definitely is a narcissistic trait. And sadly is very prevalent in today's time...❤❤❤
This was fun watching Doc ❤
lol Thank you for watching 🥰
I absolutely loved this video
Please make this a series!!!!!
Hey love thank you for this video this was very eye opening, I feel like I was just dealing with a masculine man with feminine traits he had a great job and a car but he definitely didn't plan things and I feel like he didn't care about my safety either ex: not walking me to my car late at night and not making sure I arrived home safe after we spend time together at night and he liked a lot of attention
Loving Dr Michelle's energy today😅
Great video. This video would cover the online red pill community and their podcasts then.
Yes masculine men have no time or desire for that lol
@@drmichelledafthose guys, may have come from broken homes...no father's.
Sometimes, grandfather could be a standing..if he's masculine..and could train him...
This was such a great video! I remember going on this date with this REALLY feminine man. He was obsessed with his looks. I remember looking at his hands that were perfectly manicured and even had clear polish on them 😂 when I brought it up he said his toes were polished too!! It’s so interesting because he was really ambitious. He kept talking about how much money he made but in was in a way that was so weird. He was basically saying I should be doing all the things he was doing and should be making just as much money as him. Like he was trying to look down on me because I wasn’t making as much money as him at the time. (I probably make more than him now ) but I never had a guy talk to me like that before. I was so turned off and he all of a sudden became so unattractive. Such an interesting topic. Love this video.
How should I behave if I end up in a situation like that where the guy is slightly talking down to me?
@@JesusLightsYourPath just remove yourself and keep it moving. Should not put up with that alt all.
Aww your son is soooooo cute!!!!! He will be a great man/husband one day!!!! Thank's to Mom & Dad!!!! xoxo
Awww thank you so much!!💋💋💋💋
This was super helpful! thank you Dr Daf❤
1. Love your makeup today! 💕
2. Thoroughly enjoyed this episode💫
Wonderful insights!!! Thank you
I had a guy tell me that I should buy HIM flowers! I was so clueless back then.
@@OhioGalReads oh my!!!! 😩 Yes so thankful for the growth 💕
They think you are their safe place but they can certainly read you your rights
Thank you so much for your quality content and you look soo pretty 😍
When he becomes an ex and requests gifts that he gave you back and also when he has “moved on” but still sneak disses you.
I really enjoyed this ☺️ thank you for sharing!!
Powerful message thank you❤
You are most welcome love!
Great video Michelle. You’re so funny 😂
Can a feminine man change into a masculine man?
You save lives. Thank you Jesus for this content
This was why, they didn't want to train women in certain careers, years ago...
Women start using masculine energy
Men..in general, tend to use one side of brain at a time..
They have the side, to be tender and soft with a woman
Then, use his hard side to protect.
Women tend to use both sides of her brain at the same time..
very good video Michelle
Glad you liked it! Thank you!
Please make a part 2
We have a lot of that in our community. Hence, the rate of men who walk out of their children's lives.
Hi Dr. Daf ☺️ I hope you are well. Can you do a video about remaining feminine while being around people who don’t share your same values? Sometimes we just have to be around people that live this way. Co workers, family members, friends of family members, etc. I don’t want to judge others or be unkind- but what if they talk about things I don’t agree with or behave in a way I don’t agree with. Example: my boyfriend’s sister invited me to hang with her friends who are very worldly- drink a lot, homosexual, curse- I’m not going to be rude or judge but I just don’t agree with this lifestyle. I don’t want to be rude and say “I don’t want to hang with you because you behave this way” that would seem rude and judgey. But I don’t want to be around the sin. I know as Christian’s we are called to love- am I supposed to be remain quiet and feel uncomfortable the whole time?? Or coworkers who are liberal- or family members that just don’t think the same. Can someone help me navigate this? I feel so uncomfortable being around sin but I know it’s inevitable- as we cannot control other people
I have the same experience. Maybe you can talk with fellow Christians how they handle this?
Yes, I can. This is tough, I understand. Thank you for watching!
@@drmichelledaf Thank you so much, I love your videos 🩷
Lol I love the beginning. Great video. I love all your content.
This is really good thank u
Wait, so someone correct me… The more aggressive a man portrays himself to be, the more feminine he is??
Not necessarily. It depends on who he is being aggressive towards. If a man is a healthy masculine man he is going to want to protect you not harm you. Many times men in their feminine are so emotional and that emotional energy gets channeled towards aggression towards women. They would not dare be that way with another man. That's the difference.
@@drmichelledaf Ahh, I get it now. Thank you!
These are really good ones.
Wow thank you, what a great information
You are most welcome love!
You look very pretty!
Thank you love!
You are a blessing.
God Bless You and Thank You Abundantly !!!!!!!
Thank you, very detailed and on point, almost the best I heard about this topic/ now thinking about my relationships, I think I’m used to date the feminine type - but when I dated the masculine one I felt definitely more drawn to them on the energy level and sexually / but not sure why I still find comfort in dating the feminine one --- any thoughts on what we need as women to work on ourselves on to break that cycle?! 🙂↔️
Thank you so mich forcthis video Dr Daf. Please can you do a video on home a single mother (who has kids with a feminine man) can move into her feminine energy and start a new health relationship. But still be a strong provider at home.
7:45 She was seeking feminine men out of fear
9:00 they just talk about it but they don’t do it
They like the process more.
Masculine energy is very achievement oriented.
They are ok. They want to lean back. They expect you to pay your half.
11:37 not taking initiative.
12:25 you dont feel very safe with a feminine man.
You feel like you have to look out for yourself
16:50 they crave the attention from women. To look good for them. They need attention, they have multiple women.
18:17 overly focused on their looks from head to toe
25:20 a masculine man will want to take care of you and the kids. He is driven to provide and protect for them.
25:41 that’s how my dad is! Yikes. I forgive him tho. He said my mom has a good job, she’s got it.
26:42 a man in his feminine as an artist. Hopefully he can have the initiative.
27:31 feminine men are into your looks. And theirs. And other women’s. they’re the men who are talking about other women and their looks.
30:40 you have to force everything. You don’t feel safe, you don’t feel in flow.
I was expecting my boyfriend to be described in this video… and he wasn’t at all. I’m shocked. Is it possible for someone to be masculine but have a feminine personality? He’s SO lovey-dovey. He LOVES love. He’s clingy w me. & too affectionate for me. I watched this video expecting you to describe him. Otherwise he’s a provider & is aware of my needs & generous so I’m confused
This is interesting.. have you learned what your attachment style and what his attachment style is?
Have you explored this with a therapist?
Yes it is. Remember - no one size fits all. A masculine man can still have feminine traits, but that doesn't make him predominantly feminine. We cannot put people in neat, uniform boxes - human nature is far too complex and too much nuisance for that. Simply ...the predominant energy is what will make someone primarily masculine or primarily feminine. A masculine man will still have feminine traits. Trust me, women would hate a fully masculine man - he would be rough, abrasive and obnoxious.
Where's the issue lol, he sounds great
Fr, what are we complaining about 😭
Wow yes I know a couple men in my life that check all these boxes
Great video❤
Thank you beautiful!!
Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for watching!
Great video!
Very educational and informative!! Please continue this as a series.
Thank you dear. I'll see what I can do
Great video
Thank you so much love 💋
He asked me if i could clean his car, and was mad at me becsuse i did not do it😂
One more thing I also noticed about a trait feminine men have in common: Don't know how to drive, Don't like driving, have excuses for why they don't or can't drive (ex: I have depression and can't drive), they expect you to drive them as their mother did/still do.
I have 2 kids with such a man...i am so confused... he is always complaining, i have to pay myself, i did not know if he will get me from the hospital after giving birth, whole pregnancy he had backpain so i had to carry everything myself. Laughing about my big womb... Even if we have sex, he dont want to do the work... I really hope i can find a solution for me and my kids...
You are amazing!
So I’m sure I will receive some heat here but, I am a trans woman and while in my male mode I am a giver, and protector, I do all the things like open car doors and doors to stores or restaurants. However I love being a woman and I also love being with a woman, so guess I am a lesbian in a way, I am self sufficient in all ways, I work 40-50 a week, can cook and clean and sew, I don’t need a woman but I want a woman, does this make sense to you?
This was good.
Thank you love!
It’s definitely a spectrum
Everything you pointed out is true! I once knew a man who LOVED bossy tuff women as he took on the feminine roll.. it was gross..
Lol
Thank you :)
You are so welcome!
This is interesting. Sees that even my mother and grandmother met feminine men. For whom they basically did everything. But this time I honestly fell for it. Because my ex demanded and demanded without actually giving anything. Also became more and more a breadwinner for him. Even his children. Been involved in this before. There is a special energy here. But learned. Today I find it unattractive. They come in fast and text bombs. Then there is nothing behind. More like a big giant baby. Who wants attention. I broke up. So had to get hold of myself and break this pattern. In retrospect, he was also still involved in his ex-wife. He was breaking me. So no more ever. I had to get real how i feel so i could heal. The ex bought two trips quickly or at the beginning of the relationship. But had no money when we went on the first one. So I covered everything. I didn't go on the second one.
Some are on the DL.
My baby daddy is a feminine man and I didn't see it till it was too late..makes sense why we never got married.. cause ah..no..😂
I’m a single father and have just a small issue with the financial part of men can’t ask for help but it’s seemingly alright for women to take money from a man. Some women aren’t exactly up to par either which is why guys like myself exist. I speak for the men that step up even when the woman decides not to do her part.
never be a sucker and be used because its the "masculine" thing to do...
I think a lack of female friends is making me masculine..
Gosh.
Stop talking about my ex.
50/50 man. 😂
2nd comment!!!!! Powerful!!!!! very good!!!!
Thank you for watching love 🤍✨
You're making broad, sweeping generalizations. Feminine men can be very concerned and considerate.