episode 4: TOXIC COWORKERS
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 มิ.ย. 2024
- In this episode of Work Bestie Business we talk all about challenging coworkers: how to identify them, how to work with them, and ways we can set boundaries to set ourselves up for success.
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At my last position, I had a micromanager and I have ADHD. I'm smart, competent and productive but I work in my own way. She wanted her family member in my position and gate-kept every part of my duties so I was getting dribs and drabs of info while learning the position. Then she was off work for a month. She gave me a bad review when she returned which I have never had one at any job. I really wanted that position but my mental stress level was more important. I asked for help from several sources but none helped. She is now retired and I haven't worked for anyone since. It's not worth it. I'm still looking for ways to work on my own.
I start a junior management role tomorrow in a new company and your video really helped me feel more confident for tomorrow, so thanks. 🙏🏽
I don’t know if it’s only me, but lately the sound of the videos are not that good :( same for “red flags with managers” maybe it’s an echo in the new office, but I have a feeling like you had to scream and I had to stop the video cause it was stressing me out😢
I had a lying, manipulative coworker at my last job, which was about 75% why I left. I didn't think of her as a bully but maybe she was?
I'm stuck in a team of slackers. My manager is off on maternity and I've been asked to manage the team till they come back. It's made me realise how slow and badly the team works. It's so disheartening because complaining makes me feel like I'm always feeling empty 😢 and that I'm being negative. Can't live with it, can't ignore it because it makes the team look bad. It's the worst feeling because my workplace is very nice and flexible so I want to stay.
The hardest part working with micromanagers is that they waste your time with working on things that they will either needlessly redo or, worse, redo in font of you as if your somehow collaborating and not just being nitpicked to death, further wasting your time. Nothing makes me less productive than a micromanager because, never being able to please them, I start putting in the minimal effort required because it makes no sense to spend energy on something that is just going to be redone anyway, and usually for no good reason. I’m not a lazy person, in fact I’ve been very successful in my career over more than a few decades, but nothing squanders my talents more than having me report to a micromanager.
It's better when you're WFH. Most of the people advocating for Return to the Office are the neediest. You can't schmooze yourself out of your work or dump it on someone else without a trail. WFH is great.
I'd love to see one on how not to be a toxic coworker. I'm sure some are watching this and thinking, "Oh.... I do that sometimes.... why do I do that? How can I improve my coworkers' impression of me?" I definitely had to change some things about my comportment since I first started working.
I had one co-worker who constantly dumped their work off on other people and when she tried that with me I simply didn't do her work. So at the end of the day her stuff wasn't done and when her manager, who didn't realize she was doing that, called her out on it she tried to blame it on me saying I didn't do the work and the manager actually said I'm sorry this is your job why would she be doing the work instead of you. It did not end well for that co-worker lol.
A very good point about not necessarily knowing, what causes the unwanted behaviour. As an example, a collegue complained to me about another coworker often dismissing what she says, and repeatedly asking the same guestion from another person after she'd already answered it. I was puzzled for a moment, and after collecting myself informed that the said negative person had a deaf ear, and literally didn't hear everything.
“Done is better than perfect.” Yes. I work with a co-worker who’s a perfectionist who takes as long as possible to get anything done. She has no idea how her lateness and gate-keeping slows down the team. And then asks me to do her work when she gets behind.
I really love these episodes. I hope you continue these series. It is nice to have someone share experience that i can implement in my job. I have learned a lot from you. <3
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currently working with a very bullying boss and feeling lost
Complainers are the worst.
😊Thank you for the motivation to go into work today! I’m having lots of difficulties with coworkers and going to try some of these tips!
I once had a job that I wasn’t qualified for. The co-worker who felt she should have had the position made my life hell for the time was there. I got a nice payout & went back to my self-employment.
We had some lay offs recently and I‘m happy to say the ones let go where exactly this Type
Outstanding insight and tips. One for micro-managers: take it upon yourself to, under the guise of wanting to be more productive, timesheet your day, highlight where improvements could be made, and include the manager on developing those improvements. When they get to the impact they are having it's just a problem to solve, not an attack on their management style or them personally. Of course, if they are not willing to 'fix the problem' with you, you have the empirical evidence needed to escalate.
My whole team is gossipers but we gossip about the bs we see daily. We work for a call center so for example we'll gossip about how severely an agent avoided taking calls (doing their job) it's how we stay sane, we share the insanity so one person alone doesn't bear it.