I'm Scared To Leave My Job Because I'm Scared Of The Unknown

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  • @Ebizzill
    @Ebizzill 5 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    its risky leaving my comfortable salary, it's riskier to stay in and not progress. I hate monday mornings I hate every mornings.

    • @tanairigonzalez9793
      @tanairigonzalez9793 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Did you end up leaving?

    • @Ebizzill
      @Ebizzill 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@tanairigonzalez9793 ran for my life!

    • @BlackFaithProduction
      @BlackFaithProduction ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Ebizzill Was it worth it? Especially in the beginning?

    • @Ebizzill
      @Ebizzill ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@BlackFaithProduction 100% worth it, and I would do it 1000 times over. when you said in the beginning what do you mean?

    • @JettingChen
      @JettingChen ปีที่แล้ว

      @Ebizzill did you have a new job lined up before you left? Or were you looking after quitting?

  • @jesussaves89
    @jesussaves89 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    If it's dead end and no growth then you have to move on. Many people never reach full potential because they are comfortable and security is usually what makes us stop growing long term!

  • @memyselfandi6788
    @memyselfandi6788 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    I can totally relate to this lady. Im in a job that I hate, but I don't want to do my current profession anymore. Also, I dont have a passion or idea of what else i want to do.

    • @bambamlover
      @bambamlover 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      This is a year late but... this is literally me. I've worked in the same job for 10 years. Because I've spent about 5 years of that, pushing my misery into the pit of my stomach, my mental health has taken a major toll. I am just about to do a 2nd interview for brand new career path. I'm scared absolutely shitless. BUT I had to work through all those feelings of fear and unworthiness and anxiety. I applied for a few jobs and it was really, really hard. Now, I'm essentially three weeks or so away from walking out of a building that's been my 2nd home for 10 years. You can do it. In fact, you NEED to do it. It can be an uncomfortable feeling but it's your mind's way of fighting against the current of change. As far as a "passion" the only thing I know I'm passionate about is charity type work. To know that I'm getting up every day to make a difference in someone's life and not just helping some old geezer in the CEO chair collect his million dollar paycheck off me; that was something I could get behind. I'm moving from media to work in a children's therapy office. Not sure if you've done any soul searching since your comment, but I think it's really important to go through your passions with a fine tooth comb and start looking at job/careers that go along with those passions. Meditation and books have helped me the last year or so. Good luck and I hope you are able to find some peace.

    • @Gio-m
      @Gio-m ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bambamloverThis is awesome advice, I’m happy you found something you love to do!
      How did you come to the realization you loved to do charity work? Did you do a lot of during your time outside of work? Was is only some deep self reflection?
      Personally I’ve been so focused on the grind that it’s up until now I realized that this just isn’t very fulfilling to me. Now I’m stuck wondering “So what am I passionate about?”. I never seriously thought of that question because my main focus was to just get money this whole time.
      So it’d be nice to hear what you did to find that out for yourself.

  • @Bluesnakes333
    @Bluesnakes333 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I deserve to work a job I’m happy with. Everyone does!

  • @Rinoaeris
    @Rinoaeris 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I needed to hear this. I am WAY too comfortable with my job, even though I hate it and have contemplated suicide because of it. Right now I have been offered a great, high paying job elsewhere but I'm too scared to take it and have been talking myself out of taking that job! Even I'm aware that this is crazy, but I'm so stuck in my comfort zone that I'm afraid to take this great opportunity. (That and I'm sad to leave my co-workers that I love)

    • @sarahlightfoot9417
      @sarahlightfoot9417 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      How did you get on?? I am in the same situation right now

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Hello. I am in the same situation as you guys. I finally resigned today. I'm still scared and yes, I will be moving out of my comfort zone. I'm really scared and worried. I think I will cry almost everyday until I get to accept the fact that there's really nothing to be scared of

    • @hallelujah5506
      @hallelujah5506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same exact situation!! But I definitely dont make as much as she does..

    • @Satsui_No_Hado
      @Satsui_No_Hado 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did you end up doing it??

    • @cmmgray
      @cmmgray ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am the same buddy…. Trust me you are not alone.

  • @hansonel
    @hansonel 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I love this approach for dealing with fear and doubt.
    Making fun of doubt is a great exercise to take its power away in-order to start taking action and move forward with confidence.

  • @Chris_dolmeth
    @Chris_dolmeth 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I'm right here right now minus the 100k lol. Switching from a job that treats me like crap and overworks/ underpays me to a job that pays 2 dollars an hour more for the same thinng im doing but less work. Scared of change.

  • @kristieleblanc9846
    @kristieleblanc9846 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Your coaching is so valuable and appreciated!

  • @hart316
    @hart316 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really needed to hear this! Thanks Ken & Emily!

  • @firepatriot42
    @firepatriot42 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Needed this. In same situation, stress, work culture much more. Only reason I'm their is the insurance for a pre-existing condition, but the work is making it worse. Bout to say see ya!
    Yet I'm making progress with getting out of it. 🙋

  • @billgateskilledmyuncle23
    @billgateskilledmyuncle23 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This is so me. I make 20/hr in medical in a small southern town. I set my own hours, but that's because I'm at risk of getting called almost any time of day plus weekends. I want to put my fist through a wall when my phone rings. I basically wait all day Saturday for them to call and if they don't, I wasted the whole day watching my phone. I can't count how many deep sleep cycles I've had ruined over the years because I got called at 3 or 4 in the morning. I've been there over a decade with little chance of getting laid off and now the devil I know is better than the one I don't.

    • @baxakk7374
      @baxakk7374 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If you saved most of your money and invested, you could quit now.

    • @gelloyangsteryang6481
      @gelloyangsteryang6481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@baxakk7374 in 6 months?

  • @henryk.5192
    @henryk.5192 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Ken makes really good points with those silly questions. Sometimes, we forget about the big picture because we have tunnel vision. I'm in the very same situation as this lady, and I'm thinking the same thoughts she's thinking.

  • @hylabrookbooks
    @hylabrookbooks 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i'm so glad i found Dave Ramsey and found Ken Coleman. I listen to Ken way more.

  • @MrYoungill726
    @MrYoungill726 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I needed this.

  • @aboutmillions
    @aboutmillions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow that was an amazing exercise.

  • @arislopez411
    @arislopez411 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent actionable advice :)

  • @Roquea.207
    @Roquea.207 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I found this golden channel due to my resignation today in the company that I’ve been working for year and half, a comfort zone, got rid of the scarcity mindset and decided to resign yesterday to leave next day , they could care less about me so I could care less about them ,this is a dead end there’s no way to grow in any sense not even the pay !!!the big boss tried to make me a ridiculously stupid low offer ( some cents more hour or a buck ) which I rejected
    Feel a little bit of fear of the unknown but all the best Decisions of my life have been taken out of fear
    And my odds are the best :
    33 years old
    Single
    No debts
    No kids
    No dog lol
    Some Savings (20k)
    What is keeping me from getting out of this four walls grave? JUST MY MIND
    3 more hours and will shoot that door behind my back to never come back !!!

    • @Hithere19088
      @Hithere19088 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Single 😅😅😂😂❤?

    • @Roquea.207
      @Roquea.207 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Hithere19088 and 34 still down to it ?

    • @Roquea.207
      @Roquea.207 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Hithere19088 and you ?

    • @MSav1988
      @MSav1988 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Fckin shit same page lol. 33 with no liabilities,responsibilities,debts, decent savings, in gr8 physical shape(not so much mental as I wanna resign this shitty job lol) Just shit scared of venturing in the unknown.

  • @SamTravelNow
    @SamTravelNow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great advice

  • @TriciaLove99
    @TriciaLove99 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I been at a job 6 years and got an offer for a new job w/more money. I started crying after I accepted the job and being crying off and on for the last couple of days bc I’m scared I’ve made to wrong decision in accepting the new job. I’m literally making myself sick thinking about it.

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello. How are you feeling now? Did you start at your new job? Same for me, I feel like crying. I'm thinking maybe I made the wrong decision, like why did I accept the job offer from another company. I am doubting myself and I am doubting the new job.

    • @STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS
      @STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kylielandingin5737 How are you with the new job, Kylie? Have you adjusted fully?

    • @thelektryk
      @thelektryk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Tell me guys!

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@STUPIDTH-cam_HIDINGMSGS I decided to stay at my current company. I am not sure if I made the right decision or whether I will regret it soon or in the future. But I decided to think positive. Of course I anticipated that not all issues will be solved but I try not to think about it so much. How about you?

    • @STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS
      @STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kylielandingin5737 Hi Kylie, there is a section in Susan Jeffers book (Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway) that talks about the scenario Patricia and us have been going through on why we should leave or not and the mindset that we should have, but reading that I still struggle most of the time about job matters. I resigned from my job effective 5 weeks from now, I wouldn't know if that is the right decision but I did it anyway, now I'm doubting my decision and my abilities to find another job or if I can perform what the job entails should I be lucky to have one.

  • @muccia7328
    @muccia7328 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow Ken YES!!

  • @retepoteil
    @retepoteil 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m afraid to go to a new job that’s worse then we’re I’m at and even if it starts out good but I know it’s a matter of time before that job falls apart

  • @ahcrx
    @ahcrx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I needed this video. I'm in the exact same situation. I hate my career. I went to university to get a degree to get where I am.. I really want to change my career. I actually know which trade I want to get into.. It's a massive paycut.. Just scared of the change.. Especially now with. Young family 😞...i dread my job... Period

    • @taetae4632
      @taetae4632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hello, how are you now. I’m in this same situation now!!! Can you give me some pointers of what you done.

    • @ahcrx
      @ahcrx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@taetae4632 I have had a change in role.its been good. It's all in the mind to take control. It's not easy, but time flies . Being realistic here if the pay impacts you or family it may not be worth it.

    • @noy6184
      @noy6184 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m in the same situation. I love my current job that I do for 13 yrs but there is better higher pay job but I don’t have the skill compare to my current role. I’m scare of the unknown

  • @JettingChen
    @JettingChen ปีที่แล้ว

    I keep saying, discovering Ken’s older videos made me like him more.

  • @Soh201
    @Soh201 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great advice!!! I was feeling guilty because I had not shared with anyone that I was looking fine a promotion elsewhere outside of my current job location.. truth of the matter is that I love my job but there is too much favoritism and I don’t see myself growing within that building.. however I Moore have an opportunity at a different location within the same company and I do have to think of my future

    • @rjjohnson6507
      @rjjohnson6507 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You wrote my life. I must push through the fear for possible chance at more!!! Good luck 2U

  • @johngreen9762
    @johngreen9762 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Aye its great when shes fully qualified

  • @Jvilleman400
    @Jvilleman400 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My job gives me suicidal thoughts, seriously

    • @rustymertz
      @rustymertz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I hope you have left.
      You don’t deserve to be in that dark place.

    • @Jvilleman400
      @Jvilleman400 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@rustymertz I’m currently in Sedona Arizona trying to find out if it’d worth living in Arizona.

    • @ajprasad6865
      @ajprasad6865 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      GET OUT NOW

    • @Jvilleman400
      @Jvilleman400 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ajprasad6865 I been out but now I’m homeless

    • @catholicfemininity2126
      @catholicfemininity2126 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Jvilleman400 I straight up would rather live in a shelter than go back to nursing. My soul was dark back then, if I died in mortal sin I would've gone to hell. No lie. Jesus wasn't playing when he said the love of money is the root of all evil. Our society loves it's comfort even if they hate it or want to die. ;( I hope you someday know that Jesus loves you. And your life matters, not because people like you or because you're rich, but because there is no one else like you, and God made you, and Jesus died for you.

  • @lssantore
    @lssantore 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wish it was that easy to just change your belief system just like that.

  • @markjseventy
    @markjseventy 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    High stress at work over a long period of time is bad for your mental health. Leads to prescribed meds that may not even work. Common issue in corporate america. They overwork employees to maximize shareholder wealth

  • @gigi8528
    @gigi8528 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love the department that I’m in at my current job but in order to move up, learn new skills, and make more money I’d have to change departments which scares me....I afraid of the unknown and I don’t like change. I just recently turned down an interview for a very good position and now I regret it😞 I hope another position is available soon because I will definitely apply.

    • @tanairigonzalez9793
      @tanairigonzalez9793 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did u end up leaving?

    • @gigi8528
      @gigi8528 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tanairigonzalez9793 I sure did. The new department is ok. Lots of turnover and low pay though.

    • @tanairigonzalez9793
      @tanairigonzalez9793 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gigi8528 you are brave for doing that, wish you the best

    • @noy6184
      @noy6184 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow. I have same story

  • @maxsanemitchell1609
    @maxsanemitchell1609 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    THIS was really good.

  • @catholicfemininity2126
    @catholicfemininity2126 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love my job but it's far from my house, one time I got stuck on the highway trying to get there. I want to apply for a job closer to my home, but I am scared because it looks like a job that requires more work and the boss isn't as seemingly easy going as my current one.

  • @Blackte4
    @Blackte4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg I'm going through this right now

  • @t.shamoan1646
    @t.shamoan1646 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is my current situation

  • @03jan23
    @03jan23 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He's like talking to me.

  • @Sid_Scot
    @Sid_Scot 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Been offered a new job for more money, it'll be more demanding as expected. Been in my current job for years and set in my ways & know what I'm doing. Cannot make a decision!

    • @bk10200
      @bk10200 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We all move on to be happier and get better life. If you think you will be miserable in the next job, stay.

    • @Sixty5South
      @Sixty5South 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Sid, let me ask, how afraid were you before taking your current job? How demanding was it before you learned enough to be comfortable and set in your ways? My point is, I’m guessing you felt the same about your current job when you started, but you tackled the challenge and it sounds like you’ve mastered it. Don’t be afraid of this new one. Take the challenge (and the money) and reward yourself! You never know where this one will lead you next!

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Sixty5SouthWhat a good advice. I also struggled for the first few years at my current job. Now I can say, I'm already an expert. But still, I'm scared to move to my new job. I will be going out of my comfort zone. I will need to adjust and learn again.

    • @STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS
      @STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@kylielandingin5737 Hi Kylie, I'm feeling the exact same way, being here at a company for 15 long years! So I'm going out of my comfort zone and see where it gets me...

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@STUPIDTH-cam_HIDINGMSGS Good luck to you! I think you can do it. A new environment might be better 😊

  • @rajputraghu10
    @rajputraghu10 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am working on a company from 3 years and i am not happy at all.
    My heart and mind needs the change but I am scared too about new opportunity.
    What should I do ?
    can somebody pls help me.

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm also scared so I might not be of help to you. I think first, you evaluate the things that make you unhappy and see if you can find a solution or improve your situation. If you can't, then try looking for other job opportunities, just look at the work requirements and salaries offered. From there, you will be able to gauge if you have the skills needed for other jobs and if the salary is higher. Also, think about your future goal, what you want to achieve a few years from now. Will your current company help or not? I hope it helps

  • @thomask8298
    @thomask8298 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ken has to shake the sleazy car salesman vibe

  • @husnainfayaz
    @husnainfayaz 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    hahaha same case with me lol :p

  • @Gen3ralGrimReaper
    @Gen3ralGrimReaper ปีที่แล้ว

    I mean, making 6 figures isn’t bad at all. Oh well, I’ll stick with that job because it’s better than my $39k I make annual