We Got Screamed At In Public / Squirmy and Grubs
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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 800,000 subscribers on TH-cam. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over four years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.
You two are actually responsible for my brain-injured son's love life! How about that? I sent you a message on Instagram about it a while back. They are going strong and I thank you....I never thought he would find love again...but 21 yrs late it happened. Thanks so much for having this channel!
That's awesome!
why 21 years late? it’s never too late!
How did they meet im looking for my soulmate and I got gastroenterological disease
@@amysteele6540 I'm assuming she meant "21 years LATER"
@@roderickgarcia2778 She used to work for the agency that oversees his care. She quit her job and eventually they started dating. Good luck to you!
Lots of love from South Dakota. I was born with Spina Bifida and I have been following you guys for a while and you have really brought me out of some dark times so I just wanted to say a very heart felt thank you and may God always bless you both.
Thank you so much :)
Hannah and Shane both are you are so funny and sweet. I am so inspired by both of you and your obvious love for each other. God bless! ❤️
Hello from Nebraska!
It frustrates me when society feels like they have to offer some sort of validation to the disabled or offer an apology for their disability. And WHY, are places not thinking about accessibility on the most basic of levels?! The boxes are a trip hazard for anyone let alone Shane in a wheelchair or my son walking with forearm crutches. Ugh Hannah, I praise you and and Shane for your poise.
Right! I think that's part of Shane & Hannah's work, raising awareness. Too bad they have to
I'm on a cane for stability because my joints are bad and I would have tripped right over those. It's a lawsuit waiting to happen because even able bodied people could trip over those
While disabled (from migraines and Trigeminal Neurlagia), my legs aren’t disabled and I’d most likely would find a way to trip while going off into book lala land…and face plant in that book store. Places like that are dangerous for those of us who are just plain nerds and klutzes. My Special Needs students often had to help me up…when I fell over whole just teaching them (for no other reason than being I’m a klutz who can’t walk straight). So no one feel bad (and yes, it’s a issue for everyone when aisles are awful like this. It’s also a good for way to lose everything if a sue happy person gets hurt). Hell, I once found a way to lose my footing at the Tower of London (ironically enough talking about where Elizabeth1st tripped and hurt her knee for life when being imprisoned by her sister Bloody Mary there…The Traitors Gate…and not paying attention to where I was going, and nearly found myself in the Thames River! Had it not been for my aunt who saved the day and grabbed me by my jacket first, I would have absolutely baptized myself in that gross water)!
I used to work in the legal field and I can't even begin to tell you how many trip and fall cases we saw. No matter what your ability level, from 100% to a cane to a walker to a scooter to a chair...as a business just don't set yourself up for failure at the very least, and at most have an amazingly accessible space. It's not hard.
I am not sure if I would classify myself with a disability or not. My eyes work independently form each other and I am partially blind in my right eye from a stroke. I am also very outspoken and have no problem asking a store worker to pick up off the floor. I always use a please and thank you. I think some store worker get used to seeing boxes on the floor and are sued to shuffling them along, so they become part of the store display. I am not making excuses for lazy staff
I love how Hannah throws in these very interesting facts about her life like nothing; oh I lived in Albania when I was a kid. I’d love to hear more about that! Looking forward to when it’s safe for you two to get back to international travel vlogs.
Shane "spreads sunshine" everywhere he goes. Hannah is "So Patient" with the people they meet. Love You Two!
Crazy lady: ohh he's so handsome
Shane: sorry I'm taken
@@youllpayforthis4035 Nobody can ever take Hannah's place. She's a unicorn.
@@youllpayforthis4035 lol
@@youllpayforthis4035 hahahaha true
@@Kreatyve1 and a mermaid.
@@youllpayforthis4035 , a forth hot chick?! What are you on about?
Your comment is dripping with sarcasm, which betrays your jealousy of Shane and just how he managed to marry such a hot and amazing woman like Hannah.
Btw, green doesn’t look good on anyone.
New subscriber. I started watching your videos earlier this week, and I’ve binged-watched a heap. You guys are awesome. Thank you for the humor, the inspiration, and the education. I’ve been walking into stores all this week and looking around wondering how accessible they are. I’m embarrassed to say it’s never really been on my radar before. It is now. Thanks Shane and Hannah. ❤️
I found this channel through an interview with Molly Burke. She has told stories about how people speak to her guide dog that way and blatantly try to get the dogs attention. It blows my mind that someone would do that to a guide dog let alone to a HUMAN BEING! People need to be educated on how that’s absolutely NOT ok. It breaks my heart to see the horrible things people say or disrespect they give you both even if it’s unintentional still not ok. All I see is the love you both have for each other and it shows you can be strong together to handle these situations. I’m so glad you have each other! ❤️
People who use support dogs can be just as bad, I remember I met a lady in a wheelchair with a dog. I made sure not to give it eye contact , didn’t get too close and didn’t speak to it . However I wanted to tell her what a beautiful dog it was, so I did. She jumped down my throat and accused me of distracting the dog, when I’d done more than most to make sure I didn’t, when I tried to explain that I was talking to her and not the dog, she became even ruder! So told her not to speak to me like that and I walked off
@@cuteladeeful wow, honestly so unnecessary. 🤦🏽♀️
@@carmensamone Yep I almost cried
@@cuteladeeful I feel like that is not very common. Maybe they were having a bad day, I don’t think that at all reflects all guide dog users as a whole.
@@cuteladeeful that is a distraction for many service dogs. You could have just let them go about their business, as you did not know them. Or completely ignore the dog and talk to her only. If you were wanting to make her life easier.
My 7 year old who loves to watch y'all with me. Said "how did they not see his little tiny mustache". "People shouldn't think he is little". Y'all have been a great influence on her.
I’d love to see a book haul. It’s always fun to see what other people like to read.
Yes!!! Bibliophile here and I’d like that too.
Absolutely agree! That could be a whole video itself -
I love a good book haul video! Please do one, guys!
Great idea! I’d love to watch that, too 🥰
Would love this too!!
Being soo handsome is a terrible burden to carry, but you all seem to carry it well.
True.
IMO/Grub/squiman
I'm pleased to say that I'm unlikely to be burdened in such a way - unless the person has exceptionally low standards.
Enjoyed. I have noticed the accessibility issues. People that plan these things are not operators of wheel chairs.
You are verry lacky man
Book haul please! Also, so sorry about that awkward encounter but that’s exactly why what you two do is so important. You are educating people with your channel about treating others with respect.
"And that was a crazy lady." -Nacho Libre
Lmao I was walking around saying this yesterday lol
I genuinely have no idea what I would do in that situation oh my god… people have talked to me like a baby before and I’ve just said “I’m an adult.” But good lord that was on a whole other level
Right? I’m surprised she didn’t pinch Shane’s cheeks while she was yelling at him what a handsome stud muffin he is ~ some people 😳🙄
@@emmessp5737 I totally thought he was gonna say she did. Or she was respecting his space so she pinched her own cheeks as if they were his!! 🤣🤣🤣
@@lisamariemary 😁👍🏻
Do a book haul!!! I saw that you read Where the Crawdad Sings. I enjoyed that book. You might enjoy reading The Nature of Fragile Things. It was so so so good!
We'll check it out! Thanks!
@@SquirmyandGrubs They are making a movie from the book (Where the Crawdads Sing) and several of my favorite actors are going to be in it. Garrett Dillahunt (Raising Hope, Fear the Walking Dead & Army of the Dead is playing Pa. I got to meet him a few times at Cons & he’s such a sweetheart!!
I can’t wait to see it.
@@SquirmyandGrubs I'm reading Artemis by Andy Weir (author of The Martian). It's about a robbery in the first city on the Moon. It's bound to be a film sometime.
@@SquirmyandGrubs How long you're gonna be in Ann Arbor
I loved that book so much!!
Oh my gosh, how embarrassing… I know people just like that. My ex wife and mother in law do that sort of stuff all time in public. They just don’t know how to react when they see someone or something different that you don’t see all the time. They over react and make asses out of themselves!
Lol guess why she became your x
Glad they are “X” 😂
I love this channel! I am at the gym right now literally laughing out loud. Shane's sense of humor is the best.
yes! Do a book haul... I'd love to see a "library" tour of the books you already own too
shane and hannah your videos have become something i take comfort in your relationship you have together is so refreshing and beautiful to see keep it up please ♥️♥️
Shane gets worked up by being called a "stud muffin," film at 11! AND, when you're in the bookstore, always ask for books from the Monty Python "bookshop" sketch, such as "Ethel The Aardvark Goes Quantity Surveying."
Or "The Adventures of Captain Gladys Stoat-Pamphlet and Her Intrepid Spaniel Stig Amongst the Giant Pygmies of Beccles," Volume 8.
I’ve had similar interactions with folks when downtown in Austin like that but they were drunk 🥴
Definitely should start telling people to their face how rude they are being. I couldn’t imagine being in your situation. You handle it so well, because I think I would be so angry.
Me too.
I think this girl...had a mental problem.
I’m getting a power chair soon and I am looking forward to being able to quickly get away from people like the yelling lady. Super weird.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Yes! Run from the yelling lady!
What about yelling back at her, "Omg! No! No! You! *YOU* are just so beautiful! Omg! Look at you! Omg!"
Okay here’s how you have to handle it next time.
*get out the camera first and roll for us*
But respond to the person EXACTLY how they are talking to you. Ask the same questions BACK. In the same tones. The same volume.
Verbatim.
And let’s have some fun 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Omg yes. Just said the same on another comment. It really, really, *so* has to go this way.
With some people there’s no filter, no education, no sensitivity towards other people’s feelings of being overwhelmed with their actions, and no volume control and you two found the one that embodies them all⁉️ 🍀 U 2❣️🙄 Oh well, it’s an interesting mix of people that’s the truth❣️🤣
I truly was not expecting the story to unfold that way. That girl was "special"; someone mentally stable just would not act that way.
I was expecting them to say someone yelled at them angrily! Never would've guessed this haha!
@@kimberlyearly8918 I was expecting that a little kid came up and squealed in recognition. lol Shane should mount a dash cam on his wheelchair.
@@hilaryc3203 I know, right?!😂
@Miles Doyle attention seeker. Ew.
That happens to me all the time I have cerebral palsy and I recently had to go to pick up my new glasses and I was speaking to the receptionist and she was just talking to me like I was a toddler and I am sitting there speaking to her normally and she’s still doing it and I just got my glasses and laughed it off. Chalk it up to Ignorance.
I enjoy listening to Audiobooks because I can enjoy books and reach my fitness goals at the same time. I use a library App for my audiobooks. Would it be possible for Hannah and Shane to narrate your books ? I would really love that.
Shane’s books already have an Audible version?
@@analogkid4957 They're not narrated by them though. I haven't seen Strangers Assume My Girlfriend Is My Nurse on Audible yet, I should check again!
A book haul would be awesome. I have the same problem with being in a book store. It takes a lot of willpower to go in and not pick up too many books. If I know what I want when I go in, I actually do pretty well sticking to my purchases. It's going in only intending to just look around, that's when I want to buy out the entire store.
Love ya'lls videos! They just turned my frown upside down.
Ohh lord, I wish I would've seen this just 2 days ago. I put 3 large boxes of hard back books to my curb. I'm working on minimizing "STUFF". I would've paid to mail you guys my collection- my parents and grand parents collection. I've been dragging them around since I was 25. I am now 60. Lol. I would've loved to give them a loving permanent home with you guys!! Love ya'lls channel so much. Thank you for inspiring and educating the masses!! ❤
Hello!!! Thank you so much! You have changed my life!
This video had some great call outs on accessibility. Things that those of us with "average" ability don't think of, or think we ARE being accessible to others.
If you have a ramp, but then clog that ramp and your store, it is no longer accessible. If font is unreadable if you aren't right on top of it, it isn't accessible.
Thank you for these call outs and in such a kind but clear way.
Doggone! I live in Ann Arbor! Wish I could have met you both! I knew exactly where you were every place you stopped! Sweet Waters is at the top of a big hill at the edge of downtown! There is an Awesome ice cream parlor by the tracks on Liberty you would have loved! I am glad you enjoyed aMa. If you ever come back look me up!
She got so embarrassed she had to stick with it all the way 🤣
Please, turn on the subtitles. I believe there are people who can't hear so it's really useful. And sorry for my poor English. Always love your videos!
I graduated from Ann Arbor High School and the University of Michigan. My two sons were born there. The downtown area you were in, back in "the old days", was a very typical Mid-Western American downtown. That's where we went to buy school clothes and Christmas presents, to go to the hardware store, the "5 and Dime", the pharmacy, the garden shop, hobby shop, toy store, or fabric shop, to eat at the cafe in the department store or order from the Sears catalog store. There was only one restaurant on Main Street originally. Now that area has been really, really upscaled! It was fun seeing you guys there and I'm glad you enjoyed it! :-D
I always overbuy in bookstores, and then just look at them on my shelf for months, feeling guilty I haven't read them..... but is that enough to make me stop doing it? Nevaaa! 😆📖
Omg I know. Again and again. Also commit same crime digitally. Kindle, Audible, Google Books. But I start a bunch of them. I'm basically in the middle of reading a gazillion books in a gabillion formats. Redonkulous. It be cool doe, it's how I roll. 😁😁😁
LOL...omg, really? I'm sorry that happened lol...that girl must've had a little extra crack in her coffee XD
"This is so embarrassing, there's people all around..."Hannah says as she leans in and whispers in secret to her 856k subscribers...😄
😂😁😊
OMG. I can relate to your experience big time! We’re a mixed race, inter-a led couple, and no one seems to get that we’re together, either. And…I’m constantly banging my wheelchair on corridors and ramps and doorways that are too narrow. What a pain!
Can you guys do a book recommendations video?? I just finished where the crawdads sing after Shane recommend it and absolutely loved it!
They are making a movie from that book and several of my favorite actors are going to be in it. Garrett Dillahunt (Raising Hope, Fear the Walking Dead & Army of the Dead is playing Pa. I got to meet him a few times at Cons & he’s such a sweetheart!!
I loved that book. I could barely put it down.
That would be a great idea. Squirmy and Grubs book club. Shane mentioned he is developing a home library.
Haha, im not on it but I know booktube is a big TH-cam community so I assume they could catch some new viewers with that content as well!
One of my favorites!
Omg I’m suffering from second hand embarrassment. What a crazy lady!
Hahaha!!
Would LOVE a book haul video! Always looking for reading recommendations from people I respect!
Book haul, please! Love the book library ambition and goal. Good bookstores are the best.
I love Shane's haircut..that's why the lady was so overwhelmed by his beauty💕
well intelligent and with a sense of humor yes but beauty no way!!!She s far more beautiful
You're both so radiant, that woman's brain just went critical and melted down.
Yes, please do a book haul. Always looking for good recommendations.
Yes to the book haul video. That would be awesome.
"This is my home now" is something that frequently comes out of my mouth.
I never realized how beautiful Shane's eyes are!
That's the first thing I ever noticed about him. That and his cute knees.
I know right!!
He is handsome. Eyes and smile 😃
I think it's the tan. He's been looking extra sharp lately.
Well if you ever run into him in the street you can scream at him how handsome you think he is! Jk 🙃
Can I just say that I love your video opening animation/song?! So adorable!
Yo, blind person here, I totally get it. I’ve had some REALLY awkwardly awful interactions over the years. Hugs to you guys!
Thank you, batshit lady, for confirming 100% for my social anxiety that that shit might someday happen to my partner and I in public. Lord almighty.
Yes! Do a book video! Include your top 5 all time favorite "ya gotta read this" books.
Wow! Close encounters of the overbearing kind !
Definitely interested in the book haul, I’m
Always interested in what others are reading. So many books so little time!
It never ceases to amaze me how clueless and ignorant some people behave when they encounter something new or different. Honestly, Shane, you and Hannah were wonderful in how you handled it. You didn't make a scene by letting that woman know how rude she was, but you simply supported each other and behaved like civilized people. Truly, you guys make the world a wonderful place to be in.
Book Haul sounds fun! I'm always looking for new recommendations and you guys typically have great taste :)
Yes please to the book haul! Always love knowing what other people are reading!
Yessss book haul!! Happy to see you guys enjoying A2, even with the one crazy lady!
Yes to the book haul!! I would love to have a cozy library. You 2 are so fun to watch!
Oh my gosh this is happened to me before too! People think they’re being nice by giving the person in a wheelchair attention but they have no idea how embarrassing and hurtful it is! Of course I’ve never been in a inter abled couple so I can’t judge Hannah’s side of it but still I’m sorry that happened to you guys! ❤️
I'd love to hear what books you're reading!
I would love a book haul! This vlog was very coool
Hey There....You guys were about 45 minutes from me. Wish I'd known. Michigander here. I worked in Ann Arbor for a few years and just loved it. It was a fancy job and I walked to work from the parking structure which to me was so cool from working in the more country areas prior. I just loved it. I was able to window shop on the way to work, go to the coffee shop w/ a book store upstairs for lunch. It was an awesome experience.
If I had my own book I'd go in every bookstore too looking for it. Then if I found it I would stand there and say "THATS MY BOOK".
No really but I'd want to.
I totally would.
I would!
Hey start writing, make your dream come true.
Me too..
Would LOVE a book haul. Id love knowing your like top 5 FAVs. (Besides Shane’s books which are def up there on my list of favs)
Yes book haul. I’m DYING to go to Literati!
Shane's hair style is fantastic! I'M YELLING THIS!!!!!
You need the Shane cam back but rolling continuously lol.
Lol... Your story about getn yelled at made my day! 😅 ♥️
And I'd love to see your book haul! 👍🙏
Lol I love that Shane was like sorry I'm taken! I laughed out loud at that.
I love a book haul. I'm a bookworm lol
I'm so sorry that happened to you guys..I live by ann arbor. I promise we all aren't this way. Love you guys!
Welcome to Michigan! We like our food here 🤘🤘
That's so funny haha. I bet that felt awkward. You guys are adorable by the way. 🥰💕💖
Welcome to Ann Arbor! The yelling thing happens to me all the time! I really wish I would’ve known you were in town I would’ve come to see you. I’m glad you think Ann Arbor is cute. Love your videos! Safe travels! Angie from Ypsilanti.
All the time?! So incomprehensible. I had this thought brewing up from the other day at work. (Restaurant cashier) Some people, due to their extreme self-focus, are kinda floating around through society. Not *over* us, but like a foot off the ground. Floating around, higher than society, because they're not really *in* society. Two realities, existing in the same space, one a bit higher than the other. We're right in their face, but they dont see us or hear us unless they want to. Oh hell's bells, wait, I think too often that's ME. Whoa. For example, expecting my mom to *see* me, but my not really *seeing* her. Whoa. I think you just therapized me. How'd you do that? How do I pay the bill?
I live near Ypsi!
Thank you for mentioning the filming issue as you walked along that super cool wall! LOL what a cute city!
I would love a book haul!!
Our family is just Amazing keep loving each other with all your heart
If you win the house from the ad, good luck affording the property prize tax. Take the money instead.
my exact thoughts! if I took the house, I would turn it into an AirB&B and make some BANK
@@carriepadgett2743 Some people have taken advantage of BnB's just like renters do from their Landlords during this time.
@@OrhallaZander yeah I've been seeing it happen to some of my customers homes on my mail route
Grew up in Ann Arbor! Thanks for showing off our pretty town...and the crazy folks who walk around! 🤣🤣🤣
Shane you always crack me up. I love your dry sense of humor.👍🏼😜
You guys are SO GREAT dealing w people!!!
I just love you guys! You always makes me smile. Hugs to you both! D
I love you guys! Thank you for always being so real!😍❤ ➡️Yes, book haul please!
Hey guys, you could easily do a whole book series of videos. I drive to St Cloud a couple times a week for work, so I listen to a lot of books/series on Audible. I bet they'd even sponsor the videos.
Absolutely! I vote for all different kinds of books, too. All ones ya'll love, but different genres, subjects, styles, etc. 😊
To have a mega library is my dream, too!
Yes to a book haul!
OMG! I’m literally screaming and laughing. “They’re a couple!” You stud muffin, you. Very cringy.
So fun to see you in a town I know so well! I'm glad you liked it so much! And yes, a book haul please!
Aww 🥰 see Shane your a stud muffin in this young girls eyes …
Shane has a very distinct writing style. Please do a book haul. I'd love to see what kind of books you read. 😍
Do a book haul please! Great video! Sorry about the strange experience,
I would love if you guys did a book haul every once in a while! That would be cool. I love book recommendations. 🥰
I always find it uncomfortable when people praise me for going places by myself. I do appreciate help with doors and high shelves. I find most people are great, just not the one who turned right on red while I was in the crosswalk and had the walk sign.
I agree. I find it uncomfortable when people help me, I guess that's from being independent. I have scoliosis. My spine is 51% curved. Ugh. I'm totally hunched over. Which is embarrassing in itself. Waiting to get more surgery. I relate with what you say. I'm not the type to stay put was always on the go. Sorry I rambled.
Yes pls.....I'd love to see the books
@Miles Doyle stop posting books. Damn
@Miles Doyle Nobody reads the crap you post. But when I see it, I report it. Hopefully youtube will do something about it. Kind of doubtful, but I remain hopeful. You’re welcome.
Some people are just crazy. Love you guys!
I thought Shane heard there was book about croc hunting in 1st book store.
You're in one of my favorite cities, Ann Arbor.just love that place. I'm sorry they weren't more accessible and normal.
You need to tell us what you thought of the books after you read it. Helps someone like me to decide on a book to read. I can never make up my mind what book I want to read.
Omg....I was embarrassed for you! You guys are so hilarious...I love watching your videos!
I’d LOVE to see what books you got. I’m always looking for suggestions.
Yes please on the book idea! I'm always looking for recommendations!