In Asia we don't open gifts in front of the giver especially if other friends/family are present, but I'd like to add to the reason she gave .The real reason is so as not to embarrass the giver if it was something inexpensive and so those present would not be comparing gifts given by various guests as some may be financially better off than others. If it was a one-on-one situaltion or between very close friends/family we are more comfortable to open the gift in front of the giver and immediate family present.
Et c'est parfois très difficile. Les quiproquos arrivent rapidement car les cultures sont très différentes. D'où la nécessité de rester ouvert aux autres et d'observer plutôt que de juger.
But here in America, we expect others to know our culture and don't believe we need to learn others' cultures. Why else do we restrict what is taught in our schools and homes?
Where are you from Kingboy ? American ? If so. with such an answer, I understand why your country is in war everywhere... You have to learn that you're not alone in the World (and my country is one of your friends...). Edit : Of course you're american...
For chinese we have a saying 物轻情义重 which means even if the gift is 'light' the feelings are 'strong'. There's a story of a friend traveling a long harsh way, losing the present on the way, but still trying hard to make it to see the friend, but felt bad to go without present and on the way saw a white feather and thought it's beautiful to make it as a gift. Upon arrival, the friends were delighted to see each other, but the one felt bad and worried to gift a feather. Instead the friend was happy and replied 物轻情义重, saying that the feelings were so much important than the actual weight of the item. So we usually put the actual 'gift' aside showing that their 'feelings' is enough. Sometimes we would say something like 'you don't need to actually give me anything, your wishes/feelings are enough. A long comment for anyone interested.
I think that only applies to monetary gifts. People don't get wrapped gifts and them just hide them for a week or month as they stay at their family's home for Spring festival. Most family members would be insulted that you are not taking pictures and showing off the new shoes they just bought you.
In a place where consumerism is valued, you should know what I like to consume. In America what you consume is part of your identity(brand, product...)
I’m from the USA too but not every family in America is the same . In my family you don’t open it cause you don’t want to look greedy. We wait till we get home to open our gifts. Edit : This lady has no idea what she’s talking about. The melting pot country has many different customs and cultures. We’re not a one size fits all .
You open it because it's polite. The person who sees it gets to see if it was correct or not and you get to show your appreciation by giving a hug and thanking them.
In America the situation determines the opening of the gift. At a wedding, the gift is opened later, with just the wedding party, or the bride and groom present. Birthday parties, the gift is set with others, and all gifts are opened together, later during the party. If it is Christmas, it depends on the participants. Family and friends, you might wait for everyone to open them together, or open them when given if its a one on one situation. If its at a job party, they are generally opened when presented. Different traditions are always great to learn, and helps us to appreciate each other.
Same way in my native country Nicaragüa, but the real reason is because we don’t want to embarrass the giver if the gift is not that much of high value or not much of your liking 😢so we open up the gift after all of your guesses gone. ❤❤❤
In Nigeria, it's customary not to open a gift in front of the person who gave it, as it's considered impolite. The tradition is to thank the giver when they present the gift, and then again when you see or speak to them later. This repeated expression of thanks is a way of showing appreciation, not just for the gift itself, but for the thoughtfulness and generosity of the giver.
Yes, you would shake with the hand opposite the side you carry your sword (mostly right hand - sword on the left) thus making it close to impossible to pull the sword and do anything harmful with it.
I'm a Southern woman in America and I like to wait to take it with me, but most people want you to open it there, so I do. I'm just never in a hurry to open it and I like to have something to look forward to after I wind down. Lol... But if they insist, I will. Please like to see your reaction too.😅😅😅 Nobody is right or wrong... But the beer cup tradition is spot on 😂😂😂 We all need that tradition 🎉
I personally have always hated this tradition of opening gifts in front of everyone. Especially when it's during a party or event. It seems so tacky to me, and it puts the giver and recipient on the spot. You can tell when a gift isn't well received and it's just awkward. I'd much rather open it in private.
Lots of my friends are stunned when I don't open their gift on the spot. I thank them sincerely, because they are also the ones I care for. When I open it at home, I send them a message to thank them again.
@@johancreemers6796I'd feel so sad, like you didn't want it, like giving someone food and they put it on the kitchen counter instead of eating it. And I lose the pleasure of seeing your reaction... excited, surprised, happy, laughing, crying. 😮😢
It can also embarrass people who can't give as much as others. I always tell my daughter to open her birthday presents at home after the party, because I know she has several friends whose families are struggling and can't afford fancy or expensive presents like the others, and I don't want to risk making them feel insecure.
In the Philippines we usually say "bakit nag-abala ka pa?" which translates to "why did you even bother?" It is of course a rhetorical question. The act of gift-giving is very much appreciated. The gifts are then put aside to be opened by the celebrant later after the party. It is to tell the guests that their presence is what's important. Not bringing gifts is actually common. What's frowned upon is not going to a party you're invited to just because you didn't have a gift to give. Edit: a much better translation should be: "you shouldn't have bothered, but thank you." (Non-native english speaker excuse hahaha)
Very true! My parents raised me to always show up with something, and to not open gifts in public so as to not be rude. I always found it odd when Americans opened gifts around others. So awkward!
@@HeyitsJtotheAYou open up the gift in front of the giver so you both can enjoy the experience together. Your Philippine custom is the only one that's awkward. Also, when it's your birthday in the Philippines you don't receive gifts, you give them. Backwards country.
Also 'clinking your glass' with another person's glass is a hold-over from doing it to ward off evil spirits. Is she making this up as she goes along? lol
In Lebanon, we don't open gifts in front of the person who gave us the gift, unless they specifically ask us to. This is to avoid awkward reactions. Also, we make sure to remove the price tag because it is impolite to show how much you spent on it. If it was too cheap, the receiver may feel like you didn't put much effort; if it was too expensive, the receiver may think you are trying to show off and expect an equally expensive gift next time; and if it was well priced, the receiver may think this is how much you expect them to spend on your gift. It's just best to avoid the price tag altogether. And if they ask how much it was, say it doesn't matter. However, if the person is very close to you where these social norms no longer matter to you two, you can give them the receipt if they'd like to change it (mostly with clothes, for the size, color, of style).
Huh. My family immigrated from Lebanon a couple of generations ago, but my grandparents opened presents like other Americans. It would take a lot of pressure off of trying to pick perfect gifts a lot of the time, but I went to a friend's daughter's 1st birthday and they didn't open the gifts, and I really felt like my gift didn't matter and it wasn't appreciated.
In the US (at least with my family), we normally remove the price tag or use a marker to cross the price out unless it's clothes so we can return it if it doesn't fit
@@EmpressLizard81 I had the distinct impression one time the person (ex-sister in law) was just gonna re-gift our present to her child, our niece. It was so odd to not let her open her birthday present right away. Well we Forced the mother to open it, and the little girl Loved her present. Hah!
I guess you have to be specific about which country in Aisa because Im also in Asia and we dont think like that about someone who opens our gifts in front of us 😅
I'm shocked that this woman literally just said "Asia." Like how the fk can you box 50+ countries, excluding even central Asia, South Asia, etc...that's nuts. Thailand is way different from Indonesia and Vietnam, and China is a place that's just different from every country in the world. Americans saying "Asia" are just so out of touch with reality. Is Asia a country? Do you speak Asian? Then why tf would you even box everyone in as Asian? Nuts. Murikkkans.
Correct me if I'm wrong... In Japan, the traditional sitting position is called seiza, where you sit on top of your heels and legs. It is very uncomfortable and causes numbness on the legs, but this is intentional. This position was used by samurais to show that they wouldn't attempt to kill the others during meal, because even if they attempted to do so, they would be slowed down by the numb legs caused by the way they sit, giving time to the others escape.
@@tonylopez580 yeah, but not everyone would sit like that, only the samurais. The lord of the castle that the samurais served under would sit normally.
I'm Japanese and idk the answer to it but what I will say is that if U don't seiza very often it makes sense that Ur foot or leg would go numb but if U do it all the time like which samurai used to do it really doesn't make sense that they would go numb. I do it quite often and I have done it for few hours and I'm totally fine w it but in contrary my friends who are foreign can't even do it properly for one sec I will say.
As an American I HATE having to open gifts in front of people. I don’t like all of that attention & I just want to take it home & open it alone. I don’t want to put in energy making a big fuss in front of them to show how grateful I am- because sometimes I just don’t have that energy. But if you don’t show surprise & amazement then you’re considered very rude. It’s tiring.
I agree!! Especially at a little kids party bc there is always a child that doesn't understand that the gifts aren't theirs and want to open them too. Honestly, in the US, we r all about consumerism. Maybe if we took the focus off of that and put it back on our family and friends, we might be a happier society
wtf I'm in America and i don't have to do all that i mean during the holidays you open gifts in front of people but alls you have to do is say thank you no need to act surprised or amazed by it so i never felt like that but then again my family is buttholes well except my distant aunt and cousins they make gift giving a competition and want you to say who gave the best gift and if you say well I'm not that kind of person i don't compare gifts that's unacceptable to her and you are forced to pick
In Thailand right for now especially close friends or family. We don’t need to unwrap the gift because we didn’t need to wrap them. They always told what they needed for the event.😅
In Pakistan, it's common to wait until later to open gifts. It shows appreciation for the gesture rather than focusing on the gift itself. Keeping the cost or value of the gift private is also a way to maintain humility and respect in social interactions. It's fascinating how traditions vary across different regions 😅
It's true.I'm a Chinese, from what I was taught by my parents since we were young, it is rude and show desperation to open gifts right away. It is a way to show respect, and a good manner. You want the giver to feel appreciated and thoughtful no matter what the gift is, regardless " the cost" of the gifts. It's to show the value of "thoughtfulness" ,love, and caring that we received from the giver beyond the material stuffs.
i am Korean and i am 40. we don’t have that culture. children can open it, and parents can open it right away. i was not taught that’s rude. never heard of it.
There’s no strict way of doing things in the US. In fact, some people ask if they should open the gift now, or if it’s more appropriate at a later time. Traditionally, if it’s at a Christmas party or birthday, you would open up each other’s gifts though. Even in those cases the sender may not be at the event.
Mostly it is opened in front of the sender. On the off chance the person has manners, they'll ask if it can be opened in front of them. But 90% of the time, it is ripped apart in front of the sender.
Watching Korean dramas and BTS I learned a lot about their culture and I am amazed. Everything it is so different.I really love the fact that they have so much respect for each other, for old people ,they speak with honorifics.I can't say here about all the things I 've learned from them,but I can tell you ,it is fascinating. I will really love to learn about other cultures too,we are all the same (like human beings)but different in some ways. From this lady here ,I learned some things I had no idea before.Thank you. 😊👍
I'm from India, here we too don't open a gift right away if it is given formally to us by a colleague or relative or during parties. But if a close friend gives us gift, we open it in front of them because they expect us to feel excited after discovering their gift. So even if we don't like it, we pretend that we are excited to have that gift
We traditionally don't open gifts even from friends & relatives in India. This westernization/Americanization nonsense is spreading in India, that's a different thing.
In Uganda🇺🇬,if someone gives you a Gift you just open it right there infront of them cause they are Excited and want to see your happy smiley face reaction after you’ve found out what’s inside 😂😂😂😂
In Czechia, if it's a gift outside of Christmas or birthdays, we ask if it's ok to open it right there, but I guess generally you could say we open presents in front of the giver. The reason being we show our gratitude to whoever gave us the gift, because they took time out of their day to think about what might bring joy to us, regardless of what the thing is or how cheap or expensive it was. I imagine it's the same for America, since many Czech were amongst those who established the United States.
As a North American, I can tell you that it depends on the situation, such as why the gift is being given, where the gift is being given, and when the gift is being given, even how the gift is being given. Sometimes, even who is giving the gift is important. Grandmothers, for example, will insist on seeing you open their gift even if the situation otherwise calls for opening it later. Especially if they use the word early when handing you the gift, such as "early birthday gift" or "early Christmas present." Grandmas don't play around.
Shaking hands was done with the right hand because most people are right-handed. If you were shaking hands with your right hand, you were not able to draw your sword with what was likely your sword fighting hand.
Who is this speaker please? I love her balanced view and as a White man having spent over half his life in SE Asia, I'm always fascinated learning where I fit in the balance. Please share her podcast/TH-cam link if there is somewhere I can hear more. Thank you.
이게 일반적으로는 맞는 말이긴 합니다. 하지만 반드시 그렇지는 않습니다. 한국에서는 그 자리에서 바로 오픈하는 경우도 많습니다. 시대가 많이 변했고 관습이 변해가고 있습니다. 요즘은 그냥 그 자리에서 바로 오픈하는 것이 귀찮아서 바로 오픈을 안하고 뭐가 들어 있는지 물어봅니다.
I'm not Korean, but I have many Korean students. In our school, it was kind of a routine for students to give their teachers gifts before they returned to their countries. At first, I always set aside their gifts because I wanted to open them later when they were not watching, but two of them actually told me that I should open the gifts in front of the Korean gifter to show my appreciation for their gifts. May it be food or things, you need to unwrap them and taste (food) them in front of the giver. Not all Asian countries are the same.
They had already bought a gift for the teacher that they believed would be satisfying and delightful, taking into account American gift giving culture. Therefore, they expected the teacher to open the gift in front of the student and had encouraged them to do so. In Korea as well, when no one else is around, people sometimes open gifts in front of the person who game them.
As a Korean, you are right. We prepare gifts, wrap them, or give them as is. If the recipient expresses surprise and gratitude, the giver is happy just by that. Like many other countries. Just one thing to keep in mind. Do not search or ask how much it costs right in front of giver.
Yea this is what I was thinking too. I’ve been living in South Korea for almost a decade and every single Korean that has ever given me a gift has insisted I open it in front of them
Yea, even in one country you’re gonna have casual gift giving and different manners but high level etiquette generally even in Korea would not open the gift there on the spot. Again, the closeness of the relationship matters. A teacher or a close colleague, they may or may not open the gift on the spot depending on the person’s personality. A gift from conservative adults to other adults, I’ve rarely seen people look inside the envelope or the bag. Uncouth.
Ya im American and i would never open my gifts right away, but then i realized people would get sad because they wanted to see me get qll happy opening it, so now ill open them in front but still feels odd to me
For us, not opening it meant you expected a gift and do not care for it. We like you to open it as if you did not expect to receive a gift and the gift is to bring you joy so the excitement we see you have makes us feel joy 😊
@@ReassuringSmile It's both in the States, really. Its almost like saying I don't wear the wedding ring because you're here with me. At a wedding that would be inappropriate in the US. I honestly don't like how some cultures separate things from people if that thing has value because of the person who gave it "not" money value.
True, in the US it would be considered a snub to show such nonchalance. Also, making a "big fuss" is not necessary, a genuine "thank you" would suffice. It shows that you appreciate the thoughtfulness.
That's the same in England as America with gift giving. It's funny how in different cultures things can be the opposite. I have never outright been told you should open a gift in front of someone except maybe as a child your mum says open it all excited, yet when someone doesn't open it in front of me when I give a gift, I feel slighted although I'm asking myself why I feel that way. We want to see the happiness brought by our gift I think.
I'm Asian, and when my friends have the expectant look on their face, I will ask if they like me to open it then. They will either say yes please open it or no it's fine, you can look at it later. Then I will proceed as requested.
Idk, if I give my close friends a gift I would want them to open, but if it’s someone that I’m not familiar with then I don’t care, because it won’t be anything interesting inside anyway 😂
Indeed; clearly, less rich, "developing" countries and cultures, seem more humaine, thoughtful and considerate, compared to the rich "developed" countries seem less considerate of humanity, more materialistic.
Yes, I can see that side of it. Opening the gifts later prevents the guests from making comparisons over whose gift was best. However, the important reason for opening gifts in front of the giver is so they can have the enjoyment of seeing your pleasure. If someone gives me a gift, and I set it aside without opening it, it would be interpreted as not being interested or not holding the giver or their gift in high esteem.
But it's the thought that counts, not the expense of the gift. I can't really understand why it would be seen as rude other than subject interpretation.
I love hearing and learning about the history of why we do things the way we do them and how it got started that way!!! This is an awesome short!!! Def need more shorts like this!!! Reminds me of the story about the saying "Raining cats and dogs" that homes used to have straw roofs and cats and dogs would sleep on the rooftops at night and when it would rain the animals would fall through the roof...hence the saying raining cats and dogs lol
@@thepcal9654except it is 😂. The hand shake was both to show strength to other person, why it’s firm…. And to show no hostility of weapon draw. But it predates firearms. But hey. Say it’s false but give no reason that is validated, in ya mind
@@dawidmackowiak-y6d Widzę, że masz monopol na wiedzę o wszystkich polskich domach. Gratuluję tego wyczynu, musi być ciężko objechać cały kraj i zapytać miliony ludzi, jak otwierają prezenty. Szkoda tylko, że wnioski oparłeś na swoim podwórku. W większości polskich domów to, co napisał kolega wyżej, jest normą - prezenty otwiera się po wyjściu gości. Ale cóż, zawsze znajdzie się ktoś, kto uważa, że jego sposób to jedyny właściwy. Pozdrawiam serdecznie i życzę więcej dystansu następnym razem.
@@timmi4190 ty też piszesz jakbys wiedzial jak zachowuje się większość u mnie w domu u wsumie raczej u większości osób które znam otwieranie prezentów przy kimś to nie problem i wydaje mi sie to raczej logiczne że chce wiedzieć czy mój prezent się podobał
In Mexico the entire family opens the gift and its usually shared xD or maybe thats just with my fams coz we poor af so we didnt expect gifts growing up and when we got a gift- it was for all of us to share ❤
I am a Turk who has been living in Canada for a long time. According to Turkish culture, if the person giving the gift insists, we open her / his gift, but normally we do not open the gifts. We thank for it and put it aside and open it when the guests leave. In this way, a guest who brought a gift of lower financial value will not feel bad. When someone gives me a gift, I prefer not to open it actually because when you open it, you have to pretend you are happy, even if you don't like or need it.
@@magik410 Pretty big difference actually. If someone has a gun in their hand, you'll see it. If they have a blade hidden up their sleeve, you'll feel it when you lock arms
It's not about right or wrong. It's about understanding the culture that you're operating in and acting properly within that culture. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
@@notcrazy6288lol hier in Germany if i act like german, they will consider it weird and say to me "who do you think you are here in my country!?" And I'm not white person. So i always have to be careful how i defend myself, because here there is so called "outlander" /foreigner in Germany it has a negative tendency and always considered as a terrorist or aggressive person, uncivilised person and this tendency only applies to brown and black people this is because those muslim people who always make problems wherever they go, they give other poc people hard time and white people generalized all POC people are the same (basically arrogant) and White people from other European countries that are living in Germany have also struggles but they have different problem. So basically in Germany you can't do that "if you are in Rome do it like the Roman" because they don't like it instead they just want you to be the 2nd class and follow what they say / be their Slave if you want to be in Germany (Democratic Neo Slavery) This isn't only in Germany, what i see mostof the European countries are. But i also do think it's not only in European countries but also in most of the countries have this similar situation for foreigners.
Same rules in Germany^^ (for example: If you get an envelope with cash in it from your grandma, you say "thank you" but don't open it right now and counting the cash)
Same in the US. This woman is applying what happens on Christmas morning to every situation where someone receives a gift, which is often a situation where gifts are exchanged and it is not one side receiving gifts from many, such as weddings and graduations. In both of these situations, the gifts are opened later on private. This woman is clueless. I live in Asia and other than at weddings, gifts received are opened immediately.
Canada gramma puts the money in a card. You have to open it to read the card. Gramma knows you want to know but you don't want to be rude. Grandchild reads the card and pretends not to count while making a fuss about the lovely words from gramma!😊
I agree ,,here in the Philippines ,it's common for us to open our gift at home ,bcoz we don't want to offend the giver if ever we didn't like the gift,,
Really? I gave envelopes to my elementary classmates, and they opened the envelopes right there (1 person even ripped the $ when envelope was opened that I had to replace the $ because Philippines will not exchange the ripped dollar). I invited my elementary classmates to have a party at our house and gave them a gift.
My family does. But then again my mom is a narcissist to the point that she couldn’t even let us believe that Santa and stuff was real because she said she wanted us to know that it was her spending her money on us not some fantasy guy. Even though if she wasn’t so short sighted and acting like everything needs to be a show she could’ve probably looked to the future and realized we would’ve been more appreciative and surprised and emotional knowing down the line it was really her all along.
In india if someone give us gifts we say "oh you didn't have to" but deep inside we want it. Then we'll keep the gift in side tell the person "thank you for coming" it shows we're happy having person not the gifts. For us gifts doesn't matter but the person who is here matters.❤ I think it's same with most of the countries.❤
I'd be sad if someone waited to open my gift. I love to see the joy and happiness gifts bring. Especially if you're a good gift giver and you listen and care about peoples likes and dislikes. 🎉
It's not supposed to be about YOU. That's the problem with us Americans. We think everything is about ourselves. If I knew someone would bawl if I didn't open it in front of them, I'd rather they just NOT give me anything.
No matter who gives me what gives me I make sure I open it infront of them and I love to tell them how happy and grateful Im to get this gift...a gift is a gift and it is really precious because someone think of you while buying it.
In iran we have chants for opening gifts too. The chants can be funny, thankful, and even teasing. Here you can hurt people's feeling if you don't open their gifts in front of them!
In Algeria too. We do not open gifts immediately, that's considered greedy. We push them aside and we continue talking and cheering. For children it's the opposite, we open them immediately ❤
In South Africa, KZN in our traditional events like weddings, when the host is serving traditional beer (Utshwala/Umqombothi) from the ukhamba (traditional container), the host takes the first sip, leaving foam on their lip, proving it's safe. Same with meat - the host eats the first cut. This tradition protects guests from potential poisoning, this is why only family members serve food and drinks. It's more than just a gesture; this customs history is because long ago in the tribe if someone was your enemy this was the best way to take them out.😂😂😂😂
Nice concept. In India, there is a culture in some families that when after the oldest one takes 1st bite, the others take food. It may be if the food is poisoned accidentally then it will affect the oldest one 1st. 🤔
Di Indonesia mending nanya langsung ke pemberi hadiah, mau dibuka sekarang atau nanti? Karena orang Indonesia unik-unik wataknya beda-beda 😂. Contohnya Ibu saya kalau dia kasih hadiah ke orang lebih suka langsung dibuka di depan Ibu saya dan muka penerima hadiah harus senang + excited.
Also the same in Indonesia, my mom taught me when I was a kid, if someone gave me gifts say "thank you" or say: "no, you don't have to do this" (just to be polite but still taking the gifts😂) no matter small or big the gifts look like. Don't open it right away, bring it home, and open it the next day.
Very interesting. Greed in Asia is very frowned upon but in the US it is promoted and encouraged. This is why in Asia most of the time when you tip them they frown and give it back to you while bowing… it’s because they do not want to be seen as greedy.
American here. For those who are wondering if she's wrong, she's not. It is pretty rude to not open a gift right away or at a party, at least from the west coast part of the US. (I've never been East Coast. It means you dont appreciate the gesture. There are exceptions, but it requires justifying like, "Oh my hands are too full, I'll open this later," but then you'll probably be looked at suspiciously. People will think you're being snobby and ungrateful.
The same in Brazil. If you give a present you would expect the person to open it. Of course the situation may change it, like in a big party the person would not have time to open all the presents, etc,
Ha ha ha ha, us MAYAS will give you an unwrap present and will be something something very valuable to us , something that belongs to us. What "Americans" is she referring to? I hear poisoning, guns greed,japan,germany, and the false america it all makes sense . Like the ANTICRHIST.
Different cture, but it sounds narcissistic. You give the gift to another person, it is about them. The moment you demand it being opened in front of you, you make it all about yourself. Opening gifts when nobody else sees it will protect the giver as he she does not have to feel bad about not giving as much as others.
@JohnDoe-id1es oh sorry you know everything. Some here I'm 74 born in 1950. But I do know a refined woman. Not someone getting attention or would even date you if you were rich.
Your comment is ironic, because she’s lying through her teeth. Handshakes are literally thought to be pre-historical - the idea goes as far back as any record we have discovered - but she says it’s about firearms.. We know specific examples of handshakes from 2000 years before the fire firearm..
Asia is'nt only one far east part of it. The newly made term middle east includes countries in west asia. I'm iranian, we've always been west asian and we've always opened gifts in front of the guests to thank them properly.
@@marijaparlov2101 it’s always good to get information from other peoples cultures so it’s not up to me to say it’s true or false. I did think about It’s interesting, just something I’ve never heard of it before. It was just interesting to hear. I like showing excitement about a gift I receive in front of the individual I received it from because I love receiving gifts just as much as I love planning the gifts I give.🤗😁🥳😊
I always hated having to open gifts in front of my family. We're all white we have no Asian ancestry or anything but I've just always found it is so awkward and uncomfortable. I'm glad to know there's some cultures out there who feel the same way I do
In many "white" cultures people don't open gifts in front of people. It's probably just the US thing. So, it has nothing to do with race, just a nationality.
@alonalohman2947 Nonsense. It is normal to open it when you receive it in the vast majority of the western world. Never heard or seen the contrary here. I live in Europe.
Hello i finally found it🎉😂 th-cam.com/video/qBTQB26i5ss/w-d-xo.htmlsi=2-69OPUS2HU8YPEj The podcast is called trying to figure it out with ally petitti:redefining étiquette. THE lady's name is Sara Jane Ho
Here in India if i get gifts from my friends i open it in front of them cuz im excited as well as my friend is excited to see the reaction that i give, but if its given formally by someone we will hve to open it once their gone
I've lived in Taiwan for many years and I have to say this isn't really universally true. At traditional Taiwanese weddings they literally open up your red envelope (an envelope of money you give as a gift) and count it and record it when you get there. They literally measure how much you care about the person or the measure of your relationship by how much you give. It's the most bizzare practice and younger Taiwanese are getting away from it though because it's pretty weird
This practice are not solely in taiwan. In many chinese wedding they do the same.1 of the reason is to record who pay how much so next time we can pay the amount equals to what they pay. Another reason is to pay for the wedding bill. Some families rely on those gift to settle the wedding banquet. The worst are those setting putting u on different tier base on how much u pay.
I love her eyes. One of my ex’s had eyes like that and she was very insecure about them. I found them so beautiful, but eventually she got them operated and converted her “mono-eyelids” to “double-eyelids” (her words). As long as she’s happy, but it’s sad what standards the media instill into our minds.
This is so true. I grew up in Taiwan and moved to US when I was 15. Later in my grown age life Ive made few American friends and I noticed my Americans friends would open the presents in front of the giver and it was a Strange thing to me!! Lol Then later I blended in the culture and when I give a gift I always say OPEN IT! OPEN IT! Lol😂
Especially in South Korea, as a Korean, there are a few things to be mindful of when opening a gift. The primary consideration is for the group. If you're in a group setting and you open a gift immediately, the person who gave it might easily feel embarrassed. This could be interpreted as disrupting the community dynamic by emphasizing a particular relationship. In my opinion, the caution against showing greed reflects Korean values around equality. Equality among community members is very important. Historically, Korean society has had social customs that emphasize the sustainability of the community, and equal status among members was a key concept. This has fostered a strong sense of homogeneity and community harmony among Koreans. Similarities in age, family background, and social status are key factors in understanding social groups. From a historical perspective, where defense against foreign invasions was vital, community equality promoted a sense of solidarity among defenders. From this perspective, gift-giving between individuals could be seen as a factor that might disrupt the equal relationships among all community members. Therefore, the careful consideration of avoiding greed may be a custom that reflects a concern for the entire community.
No, it's not. I'm a korean. We open and say thank you in front of them. Maybe when black money is related. Yes, we don't open. Some asked when they handed over and don't open. Then we don't open. 도대체 무슨 드라마를 봤길래 현실에 없는 소리들만 하는지...
@Brand6791dl 이번 영상에서 제가 염두에 둔 것은 집단주의 문화와 개인주의 문화의 차이입니다. 특히, 저는 집단을 주요시하는 한국 사회의 전통적인 집단주의 문화를 생각했습니다. 물론, 선생님 말씀대로 선물을 그 자리에서 뜯는 것은 '긴밀한 친구 관계에서는' 무리가 없을 것으로 생각합니다. 그런데, 일반적인 관계에서 선물을 바로 뜯는 것은 저는 약간 회의적입니다. 특히, 직장 상사, 은사님, 교수, 거래처 직원, 어르신처럼 손윗사람이나 손님이 준 선물을 그 자리에서 뜯는 행위는 쉽게 상상하기 어렵습니다. 동창이나 동기간의 관계에서 선물을 그 자리에서 뜯는 것도 저는 조금 주저되네요;; 물론, 해당 행위는 상황과 분위기에 따라 다를 수 있습니다. 문화 현상을 한 문장으로 정의하는 것은 어려울 것입니다. 그러나 제가 소박하게 경험했던 바는 집단주의 문화 관습이었습니다. 물론, 선생님께서 말씀하시는 지점도 일정 부분은 공감합니다. 다수의 한국 사회학자들은 1997년 IMF 사건 이전까지 한국 사회에 집단주의가 대체로 강했다고 언급합니다. 그리고 학자들은, '최근 들어서면서' 사회에 개인주의가 확산함에 따라 전통적인 가치가 변화하고 있다고 언급합니다. 따라서 최근 변화되는 트렌드로 볼 때, 저도 집단주의 문화 설명이 한국 사회를 100%로 설명하지 않는다고 생각합니다. 이 지점에서 선생님의 말씀은 분명히 의의가 있습니다. 저는 제 이야기가 한국 사회 전체를 대변할 수 없다고 생각합니다. 저의 이야기는 조금은 옛날이야기일 수 있습니다;;;ㅎ 그러나 한국의 고령화 사회 속에서, 특히 장년층을 주로 대하는 저의 환경 속에서, 영상 속 행위는 좀 어려웠습니다. 저는 이것을, 오해를 쉽게 불러일으킬 수 있는 행위라고 판단했습니다. 따라서 제가 이야기한 내용이 허구적 상황이 아닌 개인적인 경험이었던 점을 헤아려주시길 부탁드립니다.ㅎㅎ
This is stupid. I open my gift infront of the person who handed it to me to show I am curious and happy at same time that I cant wait. The friend who hands it over also asks me to open it. Stop spreading misinformation.
In America the native Americans would hold their hand out in a ‘high-five’ with their figures spread out when greeting other natives to show that they had 5 fingers and not 6. In Americas ancient times there exists tribes of Giants, some from Canaan such as the Timacua from Jekyll Island. They were 7-8’ tall, large boned. The Timacua Canaanites practiced ritual sacrifice of their first born. There existed a large stone alter in the village. Rockefeller purchased the land which the alter was on, and built his cottage upon it. Directly upon the alter itself Sat a table, upon which Rockefeller, Warburg, Schiff, and other Jooish bankers wrote the US Federal Reserve Legislation, imbuing unto it the Dark Energy which has afflicted our Finacial industry. The legislation was illegally passed during Christmas break, when congress was not in session. What followed was the subjugation of all Americans in an interest rate induced debt trapping system.
It depends on the setting, if it’s at a party there will be a time to open the gifts and the gift can be set aside until that time comes. If it’s an intimate setting, like a date then yes there is an expectation to open the gift then and there unless the gifter insists you open it when you get home.
Ohh, it can be given so many reasons for doing it or not, personally I think you do how you feel, there is no right or wrong, everything is invented by us, people ❤❤❤
To me as asian, i think we not open the gift in front of people because it as a respect to them. Some people might not give you a "WOW" gift because well...not of us got tons of money. So we collect all the gift put in one place. After the party end, we open it.
what kind of an asian are you that think this way? im fucking asian and i open the gift when i get the gift infront of the person who gave me the gift.. what fucking asian culture is this BS
My niece loved her $5 doll versus her 20 dollar dress. It is not about the cost but the thought of the gift. As an American with Mexican heritage, my family opened the gifts. Some of the most memorable gifts I had cost less than a dollar because I knew who gave it to me put a lot of thought in to it.
I have no idea about all of this, I'm asian by the way. People I know open the gift given from a close person in front of them and fuss but usually we don't have time to open it in big parties since there are a lot of gifts. It's not because of constraint and stuff.
i always ask the person. would you like me to open it now or when you leave? just in case to give that option, if they really want to see your reaction to it or if they’d rather all the hubbub be reserved for another time. you just never know with people and i’d feel awful if i made someone feel poorly for the wrong reaction or lack of. and if not, that pressure is easily and quickly released right at the beginning and there’s no awkward “are they gonna open it? are they not? are they not opening it because they don’t want or like it? should i not have brought one? is it rude or presumptuous? do they feel inclined to also have a gift for me?” and so on. i hate that weird “open or not” tension so i get rid of that shit asap 😂
Its amazing how cultures have different standards for the same situation. Even in regions where countries are closer together and share a similar culture, like how tea in the Asian countries can be so similar and yet so different. Like the Gongfu Tea tradition from China, its not the same as when it began because its considered a way to improve on how you make your tea. Yet in Japan, they treat Gongfu Tea tradition as it was when it started in China because the Japanese culture believes in honoring the ancestors by using the old traditional methods that were imported from China. Gongfu Tea in China is seen as a way to experiment and improve on your tea making because its considered a skill, much like training in Gongfu itself, its a skill set that can always be improved on through practice and trying new thing. I love Asian cultures and the honor and respect they carry. The history is some of the best recorded and preserved traditions of cultural mixing, like the sharing of the Gongfu Tea tradition. And Chinese tea is some of the best ive ever had, and the traditional medicine culture is truly amazing.
That's very interesting. In Turkey, too, it was customary not to open the gift immediately. Not to embarrass the gifted. But also to show that you don't pay more attention to the gift than to the person himself. In the period of globalization, this has also changed in many urban regions in Turkey. I still feel uncomfortable opening the gift immediately. But I live in Germany and it's expected.
In the Netherlands: “here’s your gift, and here’s the receipt in case you don’t like it”
This is where my blood is from. This makes much more sense than here in the US.
In Germany sane😂
😂😅 you got me there
And also so you can see the price that I spent for said gift, so that you know how much to spend on my reciprocal gift ;)
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In Asia we don't open gifts in front of the giver especially if other friends/family are present, but I'd like to add to the reason she gave .The real reason is so as not to embarrass the giver if it was something inexpensive and so those present would not be comparing gifts given by various guests as some may be financially better off than others.
If it was a one-on-one situaltion or between very close friends/family we are more comfortable to open the gift in front of the giver and immediate family present.
This makes a lot of sense.
That’s kind of nice. I like that idea.
that’s d most accurate one
Exactly
Me as a Filipino not knowing this rule for opening gifts in asia 🤣
in pakistan we dont open it so we can give it as a gift next time we visit someone
It most likely will be a bomb. That is why they give it to the next person. @@hedunlap
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@@knabbagluon double it and give it to the next person
Disrespectful
@@biochar.😀😂😁 It might be a vibrator...😀😂😁
I think its important to know different cultures so that you show respect. Thank you for sharing.
Et c'est parfois très difficile. Les quiproquos arrivent rapidement car les cultures sont très différentes. D'où la nécessité de rester ouvert aux autres et d'observer plutôt que de juger.
But here in America, we expect others to know our culture and don't believe we need to learn others' cultures. Why else do we restrict what is taught in our schools and homes?
Why? There's no need to leave where you were born and therefore no need to know different cultures or respect different cultures.
@@DrHerculesReal Of course, America is the greatest place on earth. Why would I need to learn about somewhere else's culture. Seems totally useless.
Where are you from Kingboy ? American ? If so. with such an answer, I understand why your country is in war everywhere... You have to learn that you're not alone in the World (and my country is one of your friends...). Edit : Of course you're american...
In Egypt we don’t open gifts because your presence is more important than the gift.
I like that
I keep discovering things about the Egyptian culture that are kind and well thought out.
Unless I'm a foreigner, then you guys scam me
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For chinese we have a saying 物轻情义重 which means even if the gift is 'light' the feelings are 'strong'. There's a story of a friend traveling a long harsh way, losing the present on the way, but still trying hard to make it to see the friend, but felt bad to go without present and on the way saw a white feather and thought it's beautiful to make it as a gift. Upon arrival, the friends were delighted to see each other, but the one felt bad and worried to gift a feather. Instead the friend was happy and replied 物轻情义重, saying that the feelings were so much important than the actual weight of the item. So we usually put the actual 'gift' aside showing that their 'feelings' is enough. Sometimes we would say something like 'you don't need to actually give me anything, your wishes/feelings are enough.
A long comment for anyone interested.
不是礼轻情义重？
I think that only applies to monetary gifts. People don't get wrapped gifts and them just hide them for a week or month as they stay at their family's home for Spring festival. Most family members would be insulted that you are not taking pictures and showing off the new shoes they just bought you.
In a place where consumerism is valued, you should know what I like to consume. In America what you consume is part of your identity(brand, product...)
In Russia we say: "Главное не подарок главное внимание", that means: the gift isn't important, the main thing is attention
Nice one ❤
In America you open the gift so the giver gets his satisfaction lol
Dependes on the American country
I’m from the USA too but not every family in America is the same . In my family you don’t open it cause you don’t want to look greedy. We wait till we get home to open our gifts.
Edit : This lady has no idea what she’s talking about. The melting pot country has many different customs and cultures. We’re not a one size fits all .
You open it because it's polite. The person who sees it gets to see if it was correct or not and you get to show your appreciation by giving a hug and thanking them.
My family and friends, in the US and Mexico, we open the gifts in front of everyone to show off, celebrate, and make a big show of appreciation. 🥰
@@krismine99wtop it. They dont get to see if it was a correct gift. they get to see you acting if it wasnt 😂
In America the situation determines the opening of the gift. At a wedding, the gift is opened later, with just the wedding party, or the bride and groom present. Birthday parties, the gift is set with others, and all gifts are opened together, later during the party. If it is Christmas, it depends on the participants. Family and friends, you might wait for everyone to open them together, or open them when given if its a one on one situation. If its at a job party, they are generally opened when presented.
Different traditions are always great to learn, and helps us to appreciate each other.
I love people talking about the traditions in their country. It is really fascinating so learn so much about customs and traditions around the world
If opening it a gift makes me greedy , then call me greed 😎
And then realising that Asians are absurdly correct about almost everything 😂
Would be cool if she got thw traditions from other nations right before talking about them though.
I’m Asian and sometimes we do open immediately we received the gifts sometimes but we do ask ‘can I open it now?’ Before we open it
Same way in my native country Nicaragüa, but the real reason is because we don’t want to embarrass the giver if the gift is not that much of high value or not much of your liking 😢so we open up the gift after all of your guesses gone. ❤❤❤
In Nigeria, it's customary not to open a gift in front of the person who gave it, as it's considered impolite. The tradition is to thank the giver when they present the gift, and then again when you see or speak to them later. This repeated expression of thanks is a way of showing appreciation, not just for the gift itself, but for the thoughtfulness and generosity of the giver.
I'm 69 years old and it did not used to be a thing to open a gift in front of someone. That's the new thing to me
Big fact.
Exactly, when we Nigerians receive a gift, we treat very specially, and wait for a good time to open and then properly thank the giver
Very polite and discrete. Nice.
Same thing in Grenada. We black over here too although it's like an unspoken rule
Not a gun, just any weapon in general. It goes back to way before guns were invented.
Yeah, swords baby
Yes, you would shake with the hand opposite the side you carry your sword (mostly right hand - sword on the left) thus making it close to impossible to pull the sword and do anything harmful with it.
It was knives originally.
I mean. Swords are pretty obvious to tell if someone is holding one in their hands or not
@@jermainepaki4606 any person who trained with their weapon can deploy it quickly so just seeing isn't believing when making an agreement etc
I’m Asian and always open the gift right away to show appreciation. Asian is diverse, not to stereotype
You're not traditional east asian. We typically respect the gift givers
I'm a Southern woman in America and I like to wait to take it with me, but most people want you to open it there, so I do.
I'm just never in a hurry to open it and I like to have something to look forward to after I wind down. Lol... But if they insist, I will. Please like to see your reaction too.😅😅😅
Nobody is right or wrong... But the beer cup tradition is spot on 😂😂😂 We all need that tradition 🎉
We also do not open our gifts in front of our guest....from malaysia
I'm from Bangladesh. We don't open gifts before the giver. It is considered impolite.
just cuz you dont do it, doesnt mean its not applied to the general.
I personally have always hated this tradition of opening gifts in front of everyone. Especially when it's during a party or event. It seems so tacky to me, and it puts the giver and recipient on the spot. You can tell when a gift isn't well received and it's just awkward. I'd much rather open it in private.
It can get long and awkward at birthday parties if there are too many gifts, for sure.
Lots of my friends are stunned when I don't open their gift on the spot. I thank them sincerely, because they are also the ones I care for. When I open it at home, I send them a message to thank them again.
@@johancreemers6796I'd feel so sad, like you didn't want it, like giving someone food and they put it on the kitchen counter instead of eating it. And I lose the pleasure of seeing your reaction... excited, surprised, happy, laughing, crying. 😮😢
You hate it because you have to act out your appreciation as if you love the gift
It can also embarrass people who can't give as much as others. I always tell my daughter to open her birthday presents at home after the party, because I know she has several friends whose families are struggling and can't afford fancy or expensive presents like the others, and I don't want to risk making them feel insecure.
In the Philippines we usually say "bakit nag-abala ka pa?" which translates to "why did you even bother?" It is of course a rhetorical question. The act of gift-giving is very much appreciated. The gifts are then put aside to be opened by the celebrant later after the party. It is to tell the guests that their presence is what's important. Not bringing gifts is actually common. What's frowned upon is not going to a party you're invited to just because you didn't have a gift to give.
Edit: a much better translation should be: "you shouldn't have bothered, but thank you."
(Non-native english speaker excuse hahaha)
Very true! My parents raised me to always show up with something, and to not open gifts in public so as to not be rude. I always found it odd when Americans opened gifts around others. So awkward!
@@HeyitsJtotheAYou open up the gift in front of the giver so you both can enjoy the experience together.
Your Philippine custom is the only one that's awkward.
Also, when it's your birthday in the Philippines you don't receive gifts, you give them.
Backwards country.
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What a coincidence,we say almost the same: ,,ohh,you shouldn't bother'' when we receive a gift in Romania.
Also 'clinking your glass' with another person's glass is a hold-over from doing it to ward off evil spirits. Is she making this up as she goes along? lol
In Lebanon, we don't open gifts in front of the person who gave us the gift, unless they specifically ask us to. This is to avoid awkward reactions. Also, we make sure to remove the price tag because it is impolite to show how much you spent on it. If it was too cheap, the receiver may feel like you didn't put much effort; if it was too expensive, the receiver may think you are trying to show off and expect an equally expensive gift next time; and if it was well priced, the receiver may think this is how much you expect them to spend on your gift. It's just best to avoid the price tag altogether. And if they ask how much it was, say it doesn't matter.
However, if the person is very close to you where these social norms no longer matter to you two, you can give them the receipt if they'd like to change it (mostly with clothes, for the size, color, of style).
Huh. My family immigrated from Lebanon a couple of generations ago, but my grandparents opened presents like other Americans.
It would take a lot of pressure off of trying to pick perfect gifts a lot of the time, but I went to a friend's daughter's 1st birthday and they didn't open the gifts, and I really felt like my gift didn't matter and it wasn't appreciated.
In the US (at least with my family), we normally remove the price tag or use a marker to cross the price out unless it's clothes so we can return it if it doesn't fit
That stingy price tag 🏷️
@@EmpressLizard81 I had the distinct impression one time the person (ex-sister in law) was just gonna re-gift our present to her child, our niece. It was so odd to not let her open her birthday present right away. Well we Forced the mother to open it, and the little girl Loved her present. Hah!
I guess you have to be specific about which country in Aisa because Im also in Asia and we dont think like that about someone who opens our gifts in front of us 😅
I'm shocked that this woman literally just said "Asia." Like how the fk can you box 50+ countries, excluding even central Asia, South Asia, etc...that's nuts. Thailand is way different from Indonesia and Vietnam, and China is a place that's just different from every country in the world. Americans saying "Asia" are just so out of touch with reality. Is Asia a country? Do you speak Asian? Then why tf would you even box everyone in as Asian? Nuts. Murikkkans.
Correct me if I'm wrong... In Japan, the traditional sitting position is called seiza, where you sit on top of your heels and legs. It is very uncomfortable and causes numbness on the legs, but this is intentional. This position was used by samurais to show that they wouldn't attempt to kill the others during meal, because even if they attempted to do so, they would be slowed down by the numb legs caused by the way they sit, giving time to the others escape.
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Ohhh! For real??? 😲 😂😂😂
But if that was how all were sitting like that, it'd be the same problem for the person who was about to get attacked🤔
@@tonylopez580 yeah, but not everyone would sit like that, only the samurais. The lord of the castle that the samurais served under would sit normally.
I'm Japanese and idk the answer to it but what I will say is that if U don't seiza very often it makes sense that Ur foot or leg would go numb but if U do it all the time like which samurai used to do it really doesn't make sense that they would go numb. I do it quite often and I have done it for few hours and I'm totally fine w it but in contrary my friends who are foreign can't even do it properly for one sec I will say.
As an American I HATE having to open gifts in front of people. I don’t like all of that attention & I just want to take it home & open it alone. I don’t want to put in energy making a big fuss in front of them to show how grateful I am- because sometimes I just don’t have that energy. But if you don’t show surprise & amazement then you’re considered very rude. It’s tiring.
I agree!! Especially at a little kids party bc there is always a child that doesn't understand that the gifts aren't theirs and want to open them too. Honestly, in the US, we r all about consumerism. Maybe if we took the focus off of that and put it back on our family and friends, we might be a happier society
wtf I'm in America and i don't have to do all that i mean during the holidays you open gifts in front of people but alls you have to do is say thank you no need to act surprised or amazed by it so i never felt like that but then again my family is buttholes well except my distant aunt and cousins they make gift giving a competition and want you to say who gave the best gift and if you say well I'm not that kind of person i don't compare gifts that's unacceptable to her and you are forced to pick
I completely understand. Everyone was confused at my wedding because I didn’t want to open at my bridal shower. Lol sorry I felt rude. 😂😅
Tough luck buddy
Same. I’ve always hated it too.
I’d love to watch the rest of this podcast. Interesting stuff😮
YT: Redefining Etiquette with Expert and Netflix Star Sara Jane Ho
@@tvr286thank you!!!
@@tvr286Thank you so much!
@@tvr286Saviour 🙏✅🏆
Thank you
In Thailand right for now especially close friends or family. We don’t need to unwrap the gift because we didn’t need to wrap them. They always told what they needed for the event.😅
In Pakistan, it's common to wait until later to open gifts. It shows appreciation for the gesture rather than focusing on the gift itself. Keeping the cost or value of the gift private is also a way to maintain humility and respect in social interactions. It's fascinating how traditions vary across different regions 😅
Ye the difference from the east and the west. That's why I love Oslo, Stockholm, London where it is multicultural ❤
Pakistan? You mean islamic republic of India. Got it
Basically, Asian bro. We all do that for those reasons even in the mountainous regions.
R people so cultured in Pak to give gifts? Is it not just hate they share?
@@phoenixj1299abey kehna kiya chah rahai ho
It's true.I'm a Chinese, from what I was taught by my parents since we were young, it is rude and show desperation to open gifts right away. It is a way to show respect, and a good manner. You want the giver to feel appreciated and thoughtful no matter what the gift is, regardless " the cost" of the gifts. It's to show the value of "thoughtfulness" ,love, and caring that we received from the giver beyond the material stuffs.
i am Korean and i am 40. we don’t have that culture. children can open it, and parents can open it right away. i was not taught that’s rude. never heard of it.
That sounds like your parents were more concerned about looking poor than showing respect
@@phillips91682ify showing excitement is showing gratitude. we care person gave that present than someone’s judge.
Even if it's an inexpensive gift it should not be problem. One should not base a friendship on expensive gifts.
We all need to learn more about culture it's fascinating
There’s no strict way of doing things in the US. In fact, some people ask if they should open the gift now, or if it’s more appropriate at a later time. Traditionally, if it’s at a Christmas party or birthday, you would open up each other’s gifts though. Even in those cases the sender may not be at the event.
Mostly it is opened in front of the sender. On the off chance the person has manners, they'll ask if it can be opened in front of them. But 90% of the time, it is ripped apart in front of the sender.
It's disgusting. Look at her smirk.
That's how most US people from older generation act. Open present later unless urged to open it.
Watching Korean dramas and BTS I learned a lot about their culture and I am amazed.
Everything it is so different.I really love the fact that they have so much respect for each other,
for old people ,they speak with honorifics.I can't say here about all the things I 've learned from them,but I can tell you ,it is fascinating.
I will really love to learn about other cultures too,we are all the same (like human beings)but different in some ways.
From this lady here ,I learned some things I had no idea before.Thank you.
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I'm from India, here we too don't open a gift right away if it is given formally to us by a colleague or relative or during parties. But if a close friend gives us gift, we open it in front of them because they expect us to feel excited after discovering their gift. So even if we don't like it, we pretend that we are excited to have that gift
We traditionally don't open gifts even from friends & relatives in India.
This westernization/Americanization nonsense is spreading in India, that's a different thing.
India is in Asia so this makes sense…
@@justathinker8669she’s talking about only gift but in America their wife sleep with others.
I am also from India. Nobody opens gift here in front of person giving the gift.
Indian here, had a canadian customer, gave her gift and she opened right away. I was in surprise and laugh both due to same reasons she told.
In Uganda🇺🇬,if someone gives you a Gift you just open it right there infront of them cause they are Excited and want to see your happy smiley face reaction after you’ve found out what’s inside 😂😂😂😂
Which part of Uganda
Love that! ❤🎉
Same in the States❤❤❤
In the Philippines, we try not to make it seem like the gift was more important than the presence of the person. So we don't open gifts on the spot.
Philippines :D every foreigner is a gift !! And u don't have culture, especially zero respect and honor!
That's not true
In Czechia, if it's a gift outside of Christmas or birthdays, we ask if it's ok to open it right there, but I guess generally you could say we open presents in front of the giver. The reason being we show our gratitude to whoever gave us the gift, because they took time out of their day to think about what might bring joy to us, regardless of what the thing is or how cheap or expensive it was. I imagine it's the same for America, since many Czech were amongst those who established the United States.
In the Philippines 🇵🇭 there is no manners
@@Chiton10 yea they're same like all the stray dogs
This is great.
I love learning when, where, and how traditions began.
I love hearing about all the different cultures and in what ways they clash or ways they’re similar. Very cool ❤
As a North American, I can tell you that it depends on the situation, such as why the gift is being given, where the gift is being given, and when the gift is being given, even how the gift is being given. Sometimes, even who is giving the gift is important. Grandmothers, for example, will insist on seeing you open their gift even if the situation otherwise calls for opening it later. Especially if they use the word early when handing you the gift, such as "early birthday gift" or "early Christmas present." Grandmas don't play around.
Weddings are the only situation I can think of where Americans don't make a spectacle of opening their gifts.
@@johnene bridal showers on the other hand....
@@johneneor kids’ birthday parties at an indoor playground or similar venue, where guests just leave our packaged gifts in a huge box
@@jjjooe interesting, I've never experienced that.
Yes, I felt the same way. I didn't know that was an American custom. 😅 It always depended on the situation.
Shaking hands was done with the right hand because most people are right-handed. If you were shaking hands with your right hand, you were not able to draw your sword with what was likely your sword fighting hand.
In china, the same word for sword became the word for gun and sword got a new name now
@@raywexler9602 what's the new name 😂 and gun share a same name with spear not sword ya hehe
@@raywexler9602 Anything you say.
I suppose you means "spear(刺槍)" being substituted by "gun(火槍)" when we referring a single word "槍"
Explains the phrase "left-handed"
Who is this speaker please? I love her balanced view and as a White man having spent over half his life in SE Asia, I'm always fascinated learning where I fit in the balance.
Please share her podcast/TH-cam link if there is somewhere I can hear more. Thank you.
In India we don't open gifts because for us a gift itself is a sign of love and thoughtfulness, doesn't matter how small or big the gifts are.
Right.
이게 일반적으로는 맞는 말이긴 합니다. 하지만 반드시 그렇지는 않습니다. 한국에서는 그 자리에서 바로 오픈하는 경우도 많습니다. 시대가 많이 변했고 관습이 변해가고 있습니다. 요즘은 그냥 그 자리에서 바로 오픈하는 것이 귀찮아서 바로 오픈을 안하고 뭐가 들어 있는지 물어봅니다.
이건 한국인들 사이에서도 의견이 갈릴거 같아요 저는 친구에게 선물했는데 안에 뭐들었냐고 물어본다면 예의없다고 생각할거 같아요 한국인데 선물받고 그자리에서 포장지를 다 뜯어서 선물을 오픈한다? 흔하지 않죠
@@채비-j4g 전 제가 선물을 주면 받으시는 분이 바로 열어보시길 바랍니다. 그래서 반대로 선뮬을 받아도 앞에서 열어보고 얼마나 맘에 드는지 (설령 맘에 안들더라더) 알려드려요. 그게 예의같아서요.
왜냐하면 한국은 다른 아시아 국가에 비해 매우 서구화된 국가이기 때문입니다.
@@chataignevendemiaire 그건 아닌거 같은데요..
@some_one_endearing, 당신이 원하는 것을 생각하십시오. 그러나 객관적인 역사적, 문화적 사실은 그 반대를 말합니다. 차? 아니, 커피. 일반 성기? 아니요, 포경수술한 성기입니다 (안녕하세요, 미국). 목록은 계속됩니다.
I'm not Korean, but I have many Korean students. In our school, it was kind of a routine for students to give their teachers gifts before they returned to their countries. At first, I always set aside their gifts because I wanted to open them later when they were not watching, but two of them actually told me that I should open the gifts in front of the Korean gifter to show my appreciation for their gifts. May it be food or things, you need to unwrap them and taste (food) them in front of the giver. Not all Asian countries are the same.
No doubt south Koreans follow western manners 👀
They had already bought a gift for the teacher that they believed would be satisfying and delightful, taking into account American gift giving culture. Therefore, they expected the teacher to open the gift in front of the student and had encouraged them to do so. In Korea as well, when no one else is around, people sometimes open gifts in front of the person who game them.
As a Korean, you are right.
We prepare gifts, wrap them, or give them as is. If the recipient expresses surprise and gratitude, the giver is happy just by that. Like many other countries.
Just one thing to keep in mind. Do not search or ask how much it costs right in front of giver.
Yea this is what I was thinking too. I’ve been living in South Korea for almost a decade and every single Korean that has ever given me a gift has insisted I open it in front of them
Yea, even in one country you’re gonna have casual gift giving and different manners but high level etiquette generally even in Korea would not open the gift there on the spot. Again, the closeness of the relationship matters. A teacher or a close colleague, they may or may not open the gift on the spot depending on the person’s personality. A gift from conservative adults to other adults, I’ve rarely seen people look inside the envelope or the bag. Uncouth.
I feel like not opening it is more respectful. Because the presence of the person should be more important than something material.
Ya im American and i would never open my gifts right away, but then i realized people would get sad because they wanted to see me get qll happy opening it, so now ill open them in front but still feels odd to me
For us, not opening it meant you expected a gift and do not care for it. We like you to open it as if you did not expect to receive a gift and the gift is to bring you joy so the excitement we see you have makes us feel joy 😊
Nah… don’t u want to see the reaction though?
Precisely ❤
@@ReassuringSmile It's both in the States, really. Its almost like saying I don't wear the wedding ring because you're here with me. At a wedding that would be inappropriate in the US. I honestly don't like how some cultures separate things from people if that thing has value because of the person who gave it "not" money value.
True, in the US it would be considered a snub to show such nonchalance.
Also, making a "big fuss" is not necessary, a genuine "thank you" would suffice. It shows that you appreciate the thoughtfulness.
uiuiiiiih look at that snob using big words to defend a country without cultures nor manners 😂😂😂 give me a break and FY
@@makasiiyou have issues dude.
genuine thank you but dont need to open the gift still lol that's not nonchalance at all
No i definitely agree that people from the US expect people to be overjoyed at their gift
Interesting. We got it from the US then.😊
-Philippines
I love her voice! It was so comforting and reassuring.
Pleasant! Eurasian(?)
Why is she not talking about things down in China , where there are 100 's disgusting tradition related to marriage and other things
No, just Asian.
So are her looks. Love Asian women.😍
@@hals214China isn't the only country from Asia bruh
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Gifts are supposed to be open before others. That shows acceptance of love
That's the same in England as America with gift giving. It's funny how in different cultures things can be the opposite. I have never outright been told you should open a gift in front of someone except maybe as a child your mum says open it all excited, yet when someone doesn't open it in front of me when I give a gift, I feel slighted although I'm asking myself why I feel that way. We want to see the happiness brought by our gift I think.
I'm Asian, and when my friends have the expectant look on their face, I will ask if they like me to open it then. They will either say yes please open it or no it's fine, you can look at it later. Then I will proceed as requested.
Idk, if I give my close friends a gift I would want them to open, but if it’s someone that I’m not familiar with then I don’t care, because it won’t be anything interesting inside anyway 😂
Indeed; clearly, less rich, "developing" countries and cultures, seem more humaine, thoughtful and considerate, compared to the rich "developed" countries seem less considerate of humanity, more materialistic.
在公開場合 不公開禮物 表示對待每個人的原則不會因為禮物的貴重與否而改變。
Yes, I can see that side of it. Opening the gifts later prevents the guests from making comparisons over whose gift was best.
However, the important reason for opening gifts in front of the giver is so they can have the enjoyment of seeing your pleasure.
If someone gives me a gift, and I set it aside without opening it, it would be interpreted as not being interested or not holding the giver or their gift in high esteem.
Makes sense if people of different incomes give you gifts the one with the cheaper gift will be embarrassed during the event.
向西方世界展示贫困是极其违法和不爱国的行为。我已经通知了优秀人民网络安全局 12339.gov.cn
But it's the thought that counts, not the expense of the gift. I can't really understand why it would be seen as rude other than subject interpretation.
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I love hearing and learning about the history of why we do things the way we do them and how it got started that way!!! This is an awesome short!!! Def need more shorts like this!!! Reminds me of the story about the saying "Raining cats and dogs" that homes used to have straw roofs and cats and dogs would sleep on the rooftops at night and when it would rain the animals would fall through the roof...hence the saying raining cats and dogs lol
I have always wondered about that. Thank you!
I thought it was because a tornado 🌪 swept up all the cats and dogs and they fell with the rain on this superstitious medieval town
Except that’s not why we clink glasses or shake hands. So we’re really not learning history.
@@thepcal9654 Interesting. Do you know the actual reason?
@@thepcal9654except it is 😂. The hand shake was both to show strength to other person, why it’s firm…. And to show no hostility of weapon draw. But it predates firearms. But hey. Say it’s false but give no reason that is validated, in ya mind
Thank you for the different ways of customs
In poland is the same i have never opened a gift in front of my guests. I open gifts when the party ends
chyba u ciebie, polaczku
@@dawidmackowiak-y6d w większości polskich domów jest jak napisał kolega powyżej.
@@timmi4190gowno prawda
@@dawidmackowiak-y6d Widzę, że masz monopol na wiedzę o wszystkich polskich domach. Gratuluję tego wyczynu, musi być ciężko objechać cały kraj i zapytać miliony ludzi, jak otwierają prezenty. Szkoda tylko, że wnioski oparłeś na swoim podwórku. W większości polskich domów to, co napisał kolega wyżej, jest normą - prezenty otwiera się po wyjściu gości. Ale cóż, zawsze znajdzie się ktoś, kto uważa, że jego sposób to jedyny właściwy. Pozdrawiam serdecznie i życzę więcej dystansu następnym razem.
@@timmi4190 ty też piszesz jakbys wiedzial jak zachowuje się większość u mnie w domu u wsumie raczej u większości osób które znam otwieranie prezentów przy kimś to nie problem i wydaje mi sie to raczej logiczne że chce wiedzieć czy mój prezent się podobał
In Mexico the entire family opens the gift and its usually shared xD or maybe thats just with my fams coz we poor af so we didnt expect gifts growing up and when we got a gift- it was for all of us to share ❤
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Siiiiiiii!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
😂 te mamaste
😂😂and everyone is happy regardless
@squeekyclean1644 what is you saying
I am a Turk who has been living in Canada for a long time. According to Turkish culture, if the person giving the gift insists, we open her / his gift, but normally we do not open the gifts. We thank for it and put it aside and open it when the guests leave. In this way, a guest who brought a gift of lower financial value will not feel bad. When someone gives me a gift, I prefer not to open it actually because when you open it, you have to pretend you are happy, even if you don't like or need it.
so good point
Very interesting and important differences between cultures.
Please make more vids like this. 😘
The history of shaking hands was to show that you didn’t have a hidden dagger….not a gun LOL
Same thing lolol
Big difference... anything to discredit someone else... 🔔 end
@@magik410 Pretty big difference actually. If someone has a gun in their hand, you'll see it. If they have a blade hidden up their sleeve, you'll feel it when you lock arms
But you get the point right ?
@@stridergiant8304A dagger and a gun is the samething?
All this needs to be respected in all cultures ,no one is wrong or right , that's why no intervention to change another culture Mind set.
It's not about right or wrong. It's about understanding the culture that you're operating in and acting properly within that culture. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
RIGHT...... JUST DO AS YOU WOULD IN ANY CULTURE and stop fussing and wynning about it! ..... lol
Yes.
I don't shake hands or hug strangers. People think I'm rude for this, but I just don't like touching strangers or have strangers touch me.🤷
@@notcrazy6288lol hier in Germany if i act like german, they will consider it weird and say to me "who do you think you are here in my country!?" And I'm not white person. So i always have to be careful how i defend myself, because here there is so called "outlander" /foreigner in Germany it has a negative tendency and always considered as a terrorist or aggressive person, uncivilised person and this tendency only applies to brown and black people this is because those muslim people who always make problems wherever they go, they give other poc people hard time and white people generalized all POC people are the same (basically arrogant) and White people from other European countries that are living in Germany have also struggles but they have different problem. So basically in Germany you can't do that "if you are in Rome do it like the Roman" because they don't like it instead they just want you to be the 2nd class and follow what they say / be their Slave if you want to be in Germany (Democratic Neo Slavery)
This isn't only in Germany, what i see mostof the European countries are. But i also do think it's not only in European countries but also in most of the countries have this similar situation for foreigners.
@@notcrazy6288no, white people are wrong, and we should try to sneak in some complaints and insults when we talk about “culture,” like this lady does.
Same rules in Germany^^ (for example: If you get an envelope with cash in it from your grandma, you say "thank you" but don't open it right now and counting the cash)
Grandma this is 40,you promised me 50 woman 😂😂.
😂😂😂😂😂@@caprumra782
That is equivalent to embarrassing the grandma.
Same in the US. This woman is applying what happens on Christmas morning to every situation where someone receives a gift, which is often a situation where gifts are exchanged and it is not one side receiving gifts from many, such as weddings and graduations. In both of these situations, the gifts are opened later on private. This woman is clueless. I live in Asia and other than at weddings, gifts received are opened immediately.
Canada gramma puts the money in a card. You have to open it to read the card. Gramma knows you want to know but you don't want to be rude. Grandchild reads the card and pretends not to count while making a fuss about the lovely words from gramma!😊
We all need that different perspective. Life is beautiful, especially when learning how other ppl view things.
I agree ,,here in the Philippines ,it's common for us to open our gift at home ,bcoz we don't want to offend the giver if ever we didn't like the gift,,
its not about offending, we just dont open the gift in from of the giver because its rude... unless the giver will say to open the gift right now...
Culture is fascinating to me. I could be rude while attempting to be polite. I suppose it would be good to ask the giver.
Actually depends on what kind of gift and where you receive it right ?
@@YanixOpawPalermo yes it is rude. But also we don't want to offend the giver if it is not of our taste.
Really? I gave envelopes to my elementary classmates, and they opened the envelopes right there (1 person even ripped the $ when envelope was opened that I had to replace the $ because Philippines will not exchange the ripped dollar). I invited my elementary classmates to have a party at our house and gave them a gift.
In America, Grandma gives you gift and says how much it cost her and the trouble she had to go through to get your gift. 😱😂😂😂
Maybe some circles but I have never seen it.
Never have that happen in my family
Has the latino, “cuando me muero” speech 😂😂
Absolutely never happened in my large American family!🇺🇸
My family does. But then again my mom is a narcissist to the point that she couldn’t even let us believe that Santa and stuff was real because she said she wanted us to know that it was her spending her money on us not some fantasy guy. Even though if she wasn’t so short sighted and acting like everything needs to be a show she could’ve probably looked to the future and realized we would’ve been more appreciative and surprised and emotional knowing down the line it was really her all along.
Shaking hands was not to do with guns. It was exposing your sword hand as a sign of trust.
A tradition from a place different than yours , but still note worthy ❤
True. The sword hand was offered to show peaceful intent.
true, you can still hide and grab a gun when you shanking hands
It doesn't matter what is in your hand, it's to show you don't have a weapon.
Good to know. Thank you for sharing
Link to the full video?
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In india if someone give us gifts we say "oh you didn't have to" but deep inside we want it. Then we'll keep the gift in side tell the person "thank you for coming" it shows we're happy having person not the gifts. For us gifts doesn't matter but the person who is here matters.❤ I think it's same with most of the countries.❤
We do that in England aswel 😂
Yes
You just called our date of yourself twice in that message
Very nice. I love India. 🇺🇸
Keep your indian ness yourself stop giving knowledge
I'd be sad if someone waited to open my gift. I love to see the joy and happiness gifts bring. Especially if you're a good gift giver and you listen and care about peoples likes and dislikes. 🎉
It's not supposed to be about YOU. That's the problem with us Americans. We think everything is about ourselves. If I knew someone would bawl if I didn't open it in front of them, I'd rather they just NOT give me anything.
No matter who gives me what gives me I make sure I open it infront of them and I love to tell them how happy and grateful Im to get this gift...a gift is a gift and it is really precious because someone think of you while buying it.
In Mexico there's an immediate "OPEN IT OPEN IT OPEN IT" chant if someone gives you a gift lol
Huh strange for my family you open gifts the next morning of a party
In iran we have chants for opening gifts too. The chants can be funny, thankful, and even teasing. Here you can hurt people's feeling if you don't open their gifts in front of them!
It’s so interesting hearing ab dif cultures, human nature,… 💖
Shaking hands is older than guns. She says it with so much confidence..
she meant weapons
Is kni fe
Okey with you!
How nice of you to highlight her weakest point of analogy and ignore all the strong ones..😊 cherry picker😂
She just misspoke. She meant weapons.
A weapon dummy!
In Algeria too. We do not open gifts immediately, that's considered greedy. We push them aside and we continue talking and cheering. For children it's the opposite, we open them immediately ❤
In South Africa, KZN in our traditional events like weddings, when the host is serving traditional beer (Utshwala/Umqombothi) from the ukhamba (traditional container), the host takes the first sip, leaving foam on their lip, proving it's safe.
Same with meat - the host eats the first cut. This tradition protects guests from potential poisoning, this is why only family members serve food and drinks.
It's more than just a gesture; this customs history is because long ago in the tribe if someone was your enemy this was the best way to take them out.😂😂😂😂
😮 interesting
Nice concept. In India, there is a culture in some families that when after the oldest one takes 1st bite, the others take food. It may be if the food is poisoned accidentally then it will affect the oldest one 1st. 🤔
Mkhaya
Di Indonesia mending nanya langsung ke pemberi hadiah, mau dibuka sekarang atau nanti? Karena orang Indonesia unik-unik wataknya beda-beda 😂. Contohnya Ibu saya kalau dia kasih hadiah ke orang lebih suka langsung dibuka di depan Ibu saya dan muka penerima hadiah harus senang + excited.
I want to hear more!
Also the same in Indonesia, my mom taught me when I was a kid, if someone gave me gifts say "thank you" or say: "no, you don't have to do this" (just to be polite but still taking the gifts😂)
no matter small or big the gifts look like.
Don't open it right away, bring it home, and open it the next day.
Where can I find the full interview and who is this woman? She’s caught my interest
This is Ai made.
@@spartawarrior2771i don't think it's ai
I want to watch the whole thing as well
Very interesting. Greed in Asia is very frowned upon but in the US it is promoted and encouraged. This is why in Asia most of the time when you tip them they frown and give it back to you while bowing… it’s because they do not want to be seen as greedy.
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Where can i find this whole interview? Thanks
How rude
Agreed. No link to the entire interview, and no information about the person being interviewed.
This is a huge opportunity missed on part of the host.
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@@Anil18834 I agree. These shorts tend to lack info. I would like to hear more from this woman.
@@chirdeepdev Thank you kind human.
American here. For those who are wondering if she's wrong, she's not. It is pretty rude to not open a gift right away or at a party, at least from the west coast part of the US. (I've never been East Coast. It means you dont appreciate the gesture. There are exceptions, but it requires justifying like, "Oh my hands are too full, I'll open this later," but then you'll probably be looked at suspiciously. People will think you're being snobby and ungrateful.
The same in Brazil. If you give a present you would expect the person to open it. Of course the situation may change it, like in a big party the person would not have time to open all the presents, etc,
Ha ha ha ha, us MAYAS will give you an unwrap present and will be something something very valuable to us , something that belongs to us. What
"Americans" is she referring to?
I hear poisoning, guns greed,japan,germany, and the false america it all makes sense .
Like the ANTICRHIST.
There is no right or wrong. It’s a cultural thing
But the gift giver wouldn’t be able to handle the truth if the gift is not want they liked or want, right?!
Different cture, but it sounds narcissistic.
You give the gift to another person, it is about them. The moment you demand it being opened in front of you, you make it all about yourself.
Opening gifts when nobody else sees it will protect the giver as he she does not have to feel bad about not giving as much as others.
Why u r not fix the frem of video ? Just doing zoom on and out
This is a very Educated and well Refined and Elegant young woman. And yes beautiful . 🎉
Quit beggin'
@JohnDoe-id1es oh sorry you know everything. Some here I'm 74 born in 1950. But I do know a refined woman. Not someone getting attention or would even date you if you were rich.
Except shes making stuff up. Take a second and google how old hand shakes are.
Your comment is ironic, because she’s lying through her teeth. Handshakes are literally thought to be pre-historical - the idea goes as far back as any record we have discovered - but she says it’s about firearms..
We know specific examples of handshakes from 2000 years before the fire firearm..
She probably just made up all that
BS she was talking about though...
I don't know this for a fact but she
just looks to be that type of person...
Asia and Middle East are like minded, as a Middle Eastern we dont open gifts in the gifter present.
Where's the continent of middle east? Isn't it all just part of Asia? ❤
@zahastar yes it is, but we are not discussing geography here, i hope the point went thru. Go back to your keyboard
@@Texas_handymanmiddle east is still asia. Cope harder kid
Asia is'nt only one far east part of it. The newly made term middle east includes countries in west asia. I'm iranian, we've always been west asian and we've always opened gifts in front of the guests to thank them properly.
In some Asian countries they often give cash for a gift. "go buy the thing that you always wanted to buy".
Yes thats so true. We've this culture, along with giving gifts here in Southern West region of Pakistan 🇵🇰
It would be great if you tagged the podcast
shaking hands was there way before guns were invented😂😂😂😂
It was for knives and rocks.
Any weapon genius
Thank you for this video. That’s good information. Appreciate that.❤
It is false, think about it, makes no sence at all
@@marijaparlov2101 it’s always good to get information from other peoples cultures so it’s not up to me to say it’s true or false. I did think about It’s interesting, just something I’ve never heard of it before. It was just interesting to hear.
I like showing excitement about a gift I receive in front of the individual I received it from because I love receiving gifts just as much as I love planning the gifts I give.🤗😁🥳😊
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I always hated having to open gifts in front of my family. We're all white we have no Asian ancestry or anything but I've just always found it is so awkward and uncomfortable. I'm glad to know there's some cultures out there who feel the same way I do
In many "white" cultures people don't open gifts in front of people. It's probably just the US thing. So, it has nothing to do with race, just a nationality.
😂😂😂you were once an Asian in your past lives
😂😂😂 you are not alone.
I feel the same way, some people just won’t take no for an answer though
@alonalohman2947 Nonsense. It is normal to open it when you receive it in the vast majority of the western world. Never heard or seen the contrary here. I live in Europe.
I like hearing about different cultures. We’re all beholden to certain cultures at some point in life.
nah, not all Asian thinks the same way.
when we give you gifts we expect gifts too.
She meant East Asian.
@@jusdat1278
I'm Indonesian, in my Country we never open the gifts right away
she should say east asia then. For her asia is only people with cross eyes@@jusdat1278
Obviously shes talking about the most prevalent custom. Now its all being blended in with western culture
@@notrealatall196 written like an imbecile who doesn't know just how big AND diverse Asia is lol & smh.
Who is the woman or where can I find the original podcast?
I was think about that did u find it?
Hello i finally found it🎉😂
th-cam.com/video/qBTQB26i5ss/w-d-xo.htmlsi=2-69OPUS2HU8YPEj
The podcast is called trying to figure it out with ally petitti:redefining étiquette.
THE lady's name is Sara Jane Ho
Same question
If you find let me also know please
Her name is Sara Jane ho
Here in India if i get gifts from my friends i open it in front of them cuz im excited as well as my friend is excited to see the reaction that i give, but if its given formally by someone we will hve to open it once their gone
That's why lets understand and respect each other's culture!
I've lived in Taiwan for many years and I have to say this isn't really universally true. At traditional Taiwanese weddings they literally open up your red envelope (an envelope of money you give as a gift) and count it and record it when you get there. They literally measure how much you care about the person or the measure of your relationship by how much you give. It's the most bizzare practice and younger Taiwanese are getting away from it though because it's pretty weird
OK, I never hear of such practices, but not claiming it is not done.
Whaaat that is very surprising! I'm married to a Chinese man for 30 years now. We live in America. I've never seen that happen.
This practice are not solely in taiwan. In many chinese wedding they do the same.1 of the reason is to record who pay how much so next time we can pay the amount equals to what they pay.
Another reason is to pay for the wedding bill. Some families rely on those gift to settle the wedding banquet.
The worst are those setting putting u on different tier base on how much u pay.
@@Roadside121 So I should just simply decline to attend. I am cheap and around of it!😉
@@HHH-nv9xb well of course u can. But some couple expect u to send a gift even not attending hahaahaha. Thats how the society works today
I love her eyes. One of my ex’s had eyes like that and she was very insecure about them. I found them so beautiful, but eventually she got them operated and converted her “mono-eyelids” to “double-eyelids” (her words). As long as she’s happy, but it’s sad what standards the media instill into our minds.
People should be happy with themselves, but it's also you support them in how they want to change as well.
lol, it’s hilarious as a Korean because of puberty, I was having double eyelid but my eyelid turn into monolid.
This is so true. I grew up in Taiwan and moved to US when I was 15.
Later in my grown age life Ive made few American friends and I noticed my Americans friends would open the presents in front of the giver and it was a Strange thing to me!! Lol
Then later I blended in the culture and when I give a gift I always say OPEN IT! OPEN IT! Lol😂
😂😅😂😅😂 love it hahaha
Very interesting. I love learning new things.
Here in Soviet Russia, box is not the gift, we're the gift! 😂
Suprisingly wholesome
Especially in South Korea, as a Korean, there are a few things to be mindful of when opening a gift. The primary consideration is for the group. If you're in a group setting and you open a gift immediately, the person who gave it might easily feel embarrassed.
This could be interpreted as disrupting the community dynamic by emphasizing a particular relationship. In my opinion, the caution against showing greed reflects Korean values around equality. Equality among community members is very important. Historically, Korean society has had social customs that emphasize the sustainability of the community, and equal status among members was a key concept.
This has fostered a strong sense of homogeneity and community harmony among Koreans. Similarities in age, family background, and social status are key factors in understanding social groups. From a historical perspective, where defense against foreign invasions was vital, community equality promoted a sense of solidarity among defenders.
From this perspective, gift-giving between individuals could be seen as a factor that might disrupt the equal relationships among all community members. Therefore, the careful consideration of avoiding greed may be a custom that reflects a concern for the entire community.
No, it's not. I'm a korean. We open and say thank you in front of them.
Maybe when black money is related. Yes, we don't open.
Some asked when they handed over and don't open. Then we don't open.
도대체 무슨 드라마를 봤길래 현실에 없는 소리들만 하는지...
@Brand6791dl 이번 영상에서 제가 염두에 둔 것은 집단주의 문화와 개인주의 문화의 차이입니다. 특히, 저는 집단을 주요시하는 한국 사회의 전통적인 집단주의 문화를 생각했습니다. 물론, 선생님 말씀대로 선물을 그 자리에서 뜯는 것은 '긴밀한 친구 관계에서는' 무리가 없을 것으로 생각합니다. 그런데, 일반적인 관계에서 선물을 바로 뜯는 것은 저는 약간 회의적입니다. 특히, 직장 상사, 은사님, 교수, 거래처 직원, 어르신처럼 손윗사람이나 손님이 준 선물을 그 자리에서 뜯는 행위는 쉽게 상상하기 어렵습니다. 동창이나 동기간의 관계에서 선물을 그 자리에서 뜯는 것도 저는 조금 주저되네요;; 물론, 해당 행위는 상황과 분위기에 따라 다를 수 있습니다. 문화 현상을 한 문장으로 정의하는 것은 어려울 것입니다. 그러나 제가 소박하게 경험했던 바는 집단주의 문화 관습이었습니다.
물론, 선생님께서 말씀하시는 지점도 일정 부분은 공감합니다. 다수의 한국 사회학자들은 1997년 IMF 사건 이전까지 한국 사회에 집단주의가 대체로 강했다고 언급합니다. 그리고 학자들은, '최근 들어서면서' 사회에 개인주의가 확산함에 따라 전통적인 가치가 변화하고 있다고 언급합니다. 따라서 최근 변화되는 트렌드로 볼 때, 저도 집단주의 문화 설명이 한국 사회를 100%로 설명하지 않는다고 생각합니다. 이 지점에서 선생님의 말씀은 분명히 의의가 있습니다. 저는 제 이야기가 한국 사회 전체를 대변할 수 없다고 생각합니다. 저의 이야기는 조금은 옛날이야기일 수 있습니다;;;ㅎ 그러나 한국의 고령화 사회 속에서, 특히 장년층을 주로 대하는 저의 환경 속에서, 영상 속 행위는 좀 어려웠습니다. 저는 이것을, 오해를 쉽게 불러일으킬 수 있는 행위라고 판단했습니다. 따라서 제가 이야기한 내용이 허구적 상황이 아닌 개인적인 경험이었던 점을 헤아려주시길 부탁드립니다.ㅎㅎ
장문을 쓰시내 ㅋㅋㅋ
일리가 있습니다.
This is stupid. I open my gift infront of the person who handed it to me to show I am curious and happy at same time that I cant wait. The friend who hands it over also asks me to open it. Stop spreading misinformation.
I don't think anyone in America really puts that much thought in opening a gift in front of another person.
Exactly. Bc most of them are greedy inconsiderate users.
Yeah it’s second nature to us because it’s culture… like no shit we don’t think about it that much
No they will open it and tell you point blank they don’t like it
In America the native Americans would hold their hand out in a ‘high-five’ with their figures spread out when greeting other natives to show that they had 5 fingers and not 6.
In Americas ancient times there exists tribes of Giants, some from Canaan such as the Timacua from Jekyll Island. They were 7-8’ tall, large boned.
The Timacua Canaanites practiced ritual sacrifice of their first born. There existed a large stone alter in the village. Rockefeller purchased the land which the alter was on, and built his cottage upon it. Directly upon the alter itself Sat a table, upon which Rockefeller, Warburg, Schiff, and other Jooish bankers wrote the US Federal Reserve Legislation, imbuing unto it the Dark Energy which has afflicted our Finacial industry.
The legislation was illegally passed during Christmas break, when congress was not in session. What followed was the subjugation of all Americans in an interest rate induced debt trapping system.
It depends on the setting, if it’s at a party there will be a time to open the gifts and the gift can be set aside until that time comes. If it’s an intimate setting, like a date then yes there is an expectation to open the gift then and there unless the gifter insists you open it when you get home.
Ohh, it can be given so many reasons for doing it or not, personally I think you do how you feel, there is no right or wrong, everything is invented by us, people ❤❤❤
To me as asian, i think we not open the gift in front of people because it as a respect to them. Some people might not give you a "WOW" gift because well...not of us got tons of money. So we collect all the gift put in one place. After the party end, we open it.
what kind of an asian are you that think this way? im fucking asian and i open the gift when i get the gift infront of the person who gave me the gift.. what fucking asian culture is this BS
Why judge rich or poor? It doesn't matter, event hough not expensive item, the American still enjoy your gift.
Now you're judging an asian culture @@Sbxjp-p9o
My niece loved her $5 doll versus her 20 dollar dress. It is not about the cost but the thought of the gift. As an American with Mexican heritage, my family opened the gifts. Some of the most memorable gifts I had cost less than a dollar because I knew who gave it to me put a lot of thought in to it.
我们可以在下一次碰面的时候（通常是不久以后）提起礼物的事。而西方人……她们下一次碰面，会是在一年、两年，甚至十年以后，所以，他们必须在当下就表达出大大的“惊喜”，因为那可能是唯一的机会……I'm just saying...😂😂
Who is she? I would love to watch/ listen to more!
Please tell me if you find out I am searching myself
Sara Jane Ho
@ Tysm you’re the best was searching all over
She talks a lot of nonsense and spreads wrong explanations. That's pretty sad actually
@@maiakisses Thank you! ✊💛
I have no idea about all of this, I'm asian by the way. People I know open the gift given from a close person in front of them and fuss but usually we don't have time to open it in big parties since there are a lot of gifts. It's not because of constraint and stuff.
its about the perception of it, open or not open is both good depend on how we think
Asian from Asia speaking, we say “open it! Open it” right after giving the gift, and we enjoy watching!
Which part of Asia are you in? I guess not East Asia?!?
Probably india
Where in asia are you from?
Asian ...what country than?
I can't even wait till the day I get so excited giving gifts. I want them to have it as soon as I get it.😂😂😂
In Africa, we don't give gifts😢
I did not know that. There’s still Christmas or birthdays, right or not even then.?
😂😂😂😂 Of course we do. We give cattle 💯
But they ask for gifts to Africans working in Europe 😂
which part?
Sorry but I don’t agree with that!
i always ask the person. would you like me to open it now or when you leave? just in case to give that option, if they really want to see your reaction to it or if they’d rather all the hubbub be reserved for another time. you just never know with people and i’d feel awful if i made someone feel poorly for the wrong reaction or lack of. and if not, that pressure is easily and quickly released right at the beginning and there’s no awkward “are they gonna open it? are they not? are they not opening it because they don’t want or like it? should i not have brought one? is it rude or presumptuous? do they feel inclined to also have a gift for me?” and so on. i hate that weird “open or not” tension so i get rid of that shit asap 😂
Its amazing how cultures have different standards for the same situation. Even in regions where countries are closer together and share a similar culture, like how tea in the Asian countries can be so similar and yet so different. Like the Gongfu Tea tradition from China, its not the same as when it began because its considered a way to improve on how you make your tea. Yet in Japan, they treat Gongfu Tea tradition as it was when it started in China because the Japanese culture believes in honoring the ancestors by using the old traditional methods that were imported from China. Gongfu Tea in China is seen as a way to experiment and improve on your tea making because its considered a skill, much like training in Gongfu itself, its a skill set that can always be improved on through practice and trying new thing. I love Asian cultures and the honor and respect they carry. The history is some of the best recorded and preserved traditions of cultural mixing, like the sharing of the Gongfu Tea tradition. And Chinese tea is some of the best ive ever had, and the traditional medicine culture is truly amazing.
That's very interesting. In Turkey, too, it was customary not to open the gift immediately. Not to embarrass the gifted. But also to show that you don't pay more attention to the gift than to the person himself. In the period of globalization, this has also changed in many urban regions in Turkey. I still feel uncomfortable opening the gift immediately. But I live in Germany and it's expected.