California's domestic violence law has recently added "disturbing the peace" as domestic violence. This means if you do anything at all that upsets your ex you can be held for domestic violence. Even if there is no contact and no longer any relationship if you do something your ex finds upsetting even though what you did is not against any law, you can still be changed with domestic violence. It is an obvious violation of the void for vagueness doctrine and the 14th amendment. It is currently being challenged in the courts but for now it is still the law.
Does the protected person have to have true fear of the restrained person ? Example, my ex has a TPO on me but is asking me to go on vacation with him ?
@dianebass5251 we have a son together but he has asked me on talking parents to go to Japan with him. He's gotten me kicked out of my home. I had to go back to Florida bc I can't afford to live in Cali. I had a supervised visit with our son this week and he let me get him the whole weekend unsupervised. He dropped our son off at the airport alone and requested it on talking parents.
@@dianebass5251 so if I requested to lift the restraining order I am not out of luck as me being the petitioner. If we both show up to court and talk to the judge. Is there a chance she could deny it?
As the Victim, Ive been trying to get the CPO order removed. Stanislaus County in Modesto Ca. told me the victims can not do. waiting on head DA respond . Do you think a letter to the judge might help?
Still waiting on Head DA reply. ( over week since I sent her a letter in the mail) I’m going send the Judge a letter as well. I’ll keep you posted on the outcome. Thank you for responding
If a restraining order was issued on your behalf after reporting the incident. The restraining order can be terminated automatically if the case was dismissed. If the defendant came to a resolution or accepted a plea and the case was closed, you would have to call your DA office to request for modication of Peaceful Contact. They have to send you an official letter by mail or email stating the docket number and the DAs information and provide a referal to agencies that provide the Safety Planning course (1 hour long) some provide the class online or in person. You must have a letter from the DA's office first or the agency wont accept you as a participant. After you complete the course, a certificate of completion is emailed to you by the agency or mailed. You send that back to your DA office via email or call them to see how they prefer you to proceed by getting the certificate to them. Then they schedule you for a hearing. After the hearing if the judge grants you the modification, after 6 months of peaceful contact "cool down" period without any issues, you can request to terminate the restraining order and repeat the process again.
My mother in law called my house every day for 22 years. I blocked her phone number. My wife got an order of protection against me and I got kicked out of my house for 1 year. I have had zero contact with my wife, my house, and my children for 9 months. The year is about up. My wife's lawyer has informed me that they are going for another 2 years of protection. What is the chance, what are the reasons, a judge would agree with them and kick me out for another 2 years?
Kicked out? The order is to establish that you won't ever see your wife, "ex wife" they will continue the recertification ongoing until you show that you will not choose to stop by, show up etc. The only way you could get a judge to allownyou to see your kids would be 1. You have gone to therapy for awhile, you will have supervised visitation with a 3rd party, responsibility, accountability and exhibit great change. N
Anyone can see there are pieces of your story missing. You're trying to play victim while a judge somewhere out there granted your wife's petition for an NCO for a reason. SUS
@@reneemolohon5300 My wife got my daughter to testify that I threw a pot at my wife's head in the presence of my children. That did not happen. My daughter lied. She was 17 at the time of the hearing. THAT is the piece that is missing. If my daughter hadn't testified, my lawyer said I would have gone home. But ironically, my daughter saved me, because my wife was hell bent on getting me kicked out or sent to prison.
Wait is my wife actually telling the truth haha. She said we can talk because the no contact order was dropped. I dont trust it. I mean the no contact box as empty with no check mark but that means nothing to me. It seems very technical
Wondering, what if I did physically abuse my significant other a couple times, who wasn't actually my significant other, and what if they were intensely emotionally / psychologically abusive thus "causing" the physical abuse after a long period of time?
The petitioner's lawyer lied during the order of protection hearing, but that judge didn't know it. The lie has been brought before the chief judge, and both judges agree: the lawyer lied. Could the chief judge reverse the granting of the order of protection?
Could you give me any insight at all on my issue? Me and my ex have EPOs in eachother. We recently got caught together ( both mutually wanting to see eachother) and we went to jail. I’m a first time a offender I’ve never been in trouble. I’m worried if when I go to court, I’ll be locked up again? Do you know what I could be facing?
to much power over people if we wanted a damm NO CONTACT ORDER I would have asked for one who gives them the right to run my life I'm the dam Victim
Real
its BS
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so true! my kids need to see their mama and we need to communicate in regards to the children!
Don’t go to Babylon and expect your rights upheld
California's domestic violence law has recently added "disturbing the peace" as domestic violence. This means if you do anything at all that upsets your ex you can be held for domestic violence. Even if there is no contact and no longer any relationship if you do something your ex finds upsetting even though what you did is not against any law, you can still be changed with domestic violence. It is an obvious violation of the void for vagueness doctrine and the 14th amendment. It is currently being challenged in the courts but for now it is still the law.
This has being very helpful thank you so much!
What if it’s the PO that put the no contact order ?
You must abide by conditions of probation, unless they are overly burdensome and then you talk to the court.
Does the protected person have to have true fear of the restrained person ? Example, my ex has a TPO on me but is asking me to go on vacation with him ?
That’s BS. You should not be communicating with him in any way if he has a restraining order and you should go to court to have it vacated.
@dianebass5251 we have a son together but he has asked me on talking parents to go to Japan with him. He's gotten me kicked out of my home. I had to go back to Florida bc I can't afford to live in Cali. I had a supervised visit with our son this week and he let me get him the whole weekend unsupervised. He dropped our son off at the airport alone and requested it on talking parents.
@@dianebass5251and thanks for responding must don't 👍
How common is it for a judge to lift a restraining order ? If the petitioner requested it?
It is common depending on the circumstances.
@@dianebass5251 so if I requested to lift the restraining order I am not out of luck as me being the petitioner. If we both show up to court and talk to the judge. Is there a chance she could deny it?
@@TeamTarver what happened
WHEN WILL THE NO CONTACT ORDER BE DROPPED? INEITHER ONE OF US FILED A RESTRAINING ORDER
Where are you located?
What if I’m on the opposite side and I want to drop the no contact order that was put on me
Your lawyer should help
You with that.
As the Victim, Ive been trying to get the CPO order removed. Stanislaus County in Modesto Ca. told me the victims can not do. waiting on head DA respond . Do you think a letter to the judge might help?
Possibly.
Still waiting on Head DA reply. ( over week since I sent her a letter in the mail) I’m going send the Judge a letter as well. I’ll keep you posted on the outcome. Thank you for responding
@@jinellemarshall3627 what happened
@@jinellemarshall3627hey what happened with your situation?
If a restraining order was issued on your behalf after reporting the incident. The restraining order can be terminated automatically if the case was dismissed. If the defendant came to a resolution or accepted a plea and the case was closed, you would have to call your DA office to request for modication of Peaceful Contact.
They have to send you an official letter by mail or email stating the docket number and the DAs information and provide a referal to agencies that provide the Safety Planning course (1 hour long) some provide the class online or in person.
You must have a letter from the DA's office first or the agency wont accept you as a participant. After you complete the course, a certificate of completion is emailed to you by the agency or mailed. You send that back to your DA office via email or call them to see how they prefer you to proceed by getting the certificate to them. Then they schedule you for a hearing. After the hearing if the judge grants you the modification, after 6 months of peaceful contact "cool down" period without any issues, you can request to terminate the restraining order and repeat the process again.
My mother in law called my house every day for 22 years.
I blocked her phone number.
My wife got an order of protection against me and I got kicked out of my house for 1 year.
I have had zero contact with my wife, my house, and my children for 9 months.
The year is about up. My wife's lawyer has informed me that they are going for another 2 years of protection.
What is the chance, what are the reasons, a judge would agree with them and kick me out for another 2 years?
My ex did the same thing these people are petty i would block her out of my life completely
Kicked out? The order is to establish that you won't ever see your wife, "ex wife" they will continue the recertification ongoing until you show that you will not choose to stop by, show up etc. The only way you could get a judge to allownyou to see your kids would be 1. You have gone to therapy for awhile, you will have supervised visitation with a 3rd party, responsibility, accountability and exhibit great change. N
Anyone can see there are pieces of your story missing. You're trying to play victim while a judge somewhere out there granted your wife's petition for an NCO for a reason. SUS
@@reneemolohon5300
My wife got my daughter to testify that I threw a pot at my wife's head in the presence of my children.
That did not happen. My daughter lied. She was 17 at the time of the hearing.
THAT is the piece that is missing. If my daughter hadn't testified, my lawyer said I would have gone home.
But ironically, my daughter saved me, because my wife was hell bent on getting me kicked out or sent to prison.
@@reneemolohon5300
They lied. They said I threw a pot at my wife's head. That didn't happen.
Stalking order has more protection
Can I just not show up so the domestic violence restraining order is dropped?
No. You have to show up to tell the judge you don’t want it.
@@dianebass5251 thank you for sharing
Will this be done the same day
Wait is my wife actually telling the truth haha. She said we can talk because the no contact order was dropped. I dont trust it. I mean the no contact box as empty with no check mark but that means nothing to me. It seems very technical
@@Flatpickmastery show the document to an attorney so they can advise you
Wondering, what if I did physically abuse my significant other a couple times, who wasn't actually my significant other, and what if they were intensely emotionally / psychologically abusive thus "causing" the physical abuse after a long period of time?
You can go to hell
Thanks for the information but I feel like you’re kind of biased. I am the male victim here
I am discussing how to get a no contact order dropped if that is what the victim wants.
@@dianebass5251Lol “victim!” 😂😂
The petitioner's lawyer lied during the order of protection hearing, but that judge didn't know it.
The lie has been brought before the chief judge, and both judges agree: the lawyer lied.
Could the chief judge reverse the granting of the order of protection?
Weird
Could you give me any insight at all on my issue?
Me and my ex have EPOs in eachother. We recently got caught together ( both mutually wanting to see eachother) and we went to jail. I’m a first time a offender I’ve never been in trouble. I’m worried if when I go to court, I’ll be locked up again? Do you know what I could be facing?