The clearest teaching I have ever heard on this subject. Men love and respect your wives with actions! Women do the same, God bless you all in your love for Him and your obedience to love not just with words but also with deeds!
13:00 He did not RELAX the Mosaic code. He said that it was given for hardness of heart, and that the right thing to do is not NOT divorce in the first place.
1 Timothy 5:8,: "Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
That means we intentionally do what we can to contribute both spiritual/material needs - This doesn't apply to ppl who are TRUELY disabled and can't do either.
In just the first few minutes he got my attention...the way he unpacks the Word....I'm impressed! If only this is how every Pastor could teach the Word, there'd be less troubled Christians
Dan G I’m pretty sure you’re a lonely person to the core with no real true friends. Maybe you’re mommy but I’m sure she probably doesn’t care for you much either, kinda like the rest of the general population.
@@DAhonda247 funny that you seem to be doing very thing you’re calling this op. Takes a special kind of lonely ignorant imbecile to just make negative comments to a stranger for no reason.
You just became my favorite TH-cam preacher, I watched you witnessing to Mormons and I've been watching those videos, I was so surprised when I came across this video, by divine appointment indeed! You have a GOD given gift in delivering GOD'S message and making me understand, I praise GOD for you!!! Love and blessings be abundantly ours in CHRIST JESUS OF THE BIBLE for any other jesus is man's ideas!
Great. Grace, Peace, and LOVE in CHRIST JESUS. Yeah, this is one of the ministries that has had a huge impact on me. i watched Brother Jeff's teaching on The HOLY TRINITY and Dr. White's, and they blew me away. YHWH Is Doing Big Things, Brother. Keep pressing in, persevering till the end with great endurance, by Grace, through Faith, in YESHUA; Fearing and Loving YHWH. GOD Bless you
Thank you so much for this i needed to learn so much more about this topic cause i struggle with fear in my own marriage i do love my husband i respect him and adore him very much we both love God very much he left and said it was Gods will over his life to not be my husband anymore and i had a hard time understanding how GOD would say that it is for his will to be not married to me and be okay with him leaving me and cutting my out of his life completely . when i got to the end of this video it made me get on my knees and pray cause i know its not God speaking into my husbands life but the enemy saying lies ...thank you for sharing this video ..xo
He's wrong. It doesn't matter what he says if it is not consistent with what God says and God REQUIRES men to take care of their wives. There is no alternative, he's been deceived. The most loving thing you can do is wait for him and pray for him to repent and return to you. The Lord will surely bless you if you do this!
sr bryan is correct. Do we follow God or mans example... In Jeremiah 3 we see God grant Israel their certificate of divorce (not his choice but he grants this out of love). God then waits still calling Israel his "wife" and saying "I will lure you back to me". Follow the example and command of God and not the tradition of man which is divorce and remarriage. Remember love is the command that sums up all other commands so love hopes all things believes all things and endures all thing! So, hope/believe/endure for the sake of your husband!
You will always find people willing to "talk into your life" when it comes to marriage and divorce. I married young before I was a Christian; the young woman had an affair with my own Dad. Got pregnant. Had the baby (who was disabled), had another affair with someone else and left the home. Left me with the little boy (who wasn't mine). Years later I met my current wife in Church. Love at first sight. She has raised that little boy with me and 28 years later we will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. We have four other children together. Lots of people said, "you can't ever get married again". I was 19. They told my current wife: "he's divorced - on God's junk heap". Some said, "it doesn't matter - do what you want". Every Church I have attended since has denied me entry to the ministry because I am divorced. When Christians hear about it, they immediately divide into several camps. Just like this thread. I pray that you have gotten your husband back Valerie - but if not - that you have, by the grace of God, found a life not only in Him but with someone who loves you and has dedicated their life to you as they should. Blessings.
This is so powerful! Thank you for preaching God's True Word!!! I've needed this message, this truth for so long. I sought answers from a pastor and was left helpless. Thank you...
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord - 1 Corinthians 7:39
Matthew 19:8 “He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.”
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.
John 14:27 - Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Romans 7:2-3 KJV I was digging the sermon until it contradicted Scripture. God hates divorce, Jesus states that in the original plan divorce was not permitted + no man should separate what God unites, Paul states that God wants the separated spouses to remain unmarried and Matthew was speaking to the Jews that had a tradition that if a betrothed person(under contract/ covenant) fornicated then they could put them away. Only 2 reasons for Divorce 1. Death 2. If your fiancé/ betrothed fornicates before the "I do" event. If your spouse leaves or if you are separated, you must remain unmarried.
John Ruiz this is the interpretation I believe I hold to John Piper gave this interpretation under the context of the Greek used for sexual immorality was also used when Joseph was going to "divorce" Mary in the engagement phase but as far as physical abuse I do agree with separation but for the point of reconciliation but I definitely have to disagree with durbin on remarriage and I love durbin but I believe u get one in a lifetime that's y more emphasis should be made on the courting of ur future spouse you'd better do your due diligence
where does it anywhere say a woman can divorce, or that a state may divorce a couple? (much less the church)?God invented marriage He invented divorce by any other name it is not thevsame. The hardness of heart does not make you a meany it makes us disobey God-i.e. not stoning the adulteress.
Correct, God only allowed divorce due to sexual immorality before marriage. Just as Joseph wanted to divorce Mary after he came to know that Mary was pregnant. It’s disturbing that people that call themselves pastors twist the Word of God. That is the very important reason why we must know the Bible. We need to test the spirits.
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? So Jesus said divorce not in any reason except adultery. But when that happens you have to stay single. It is the concequence of choosing the wrong spouse.
No, Jesus said that marrying a divorced person was adultery, except for case of fornication. There are legit reasons for divorce but only one for legit remarrying. You have to read multiple texts about in from Jesus and Paul and then combine them.
Dan G this is actually the standard Protestant view, based on scripture, and has been for centuries. It’s a new, reactionary view that persons can only get divorced for adultery (false, the word is pornea) and then can never remarry. The very churches that are responsible for the divorce crisis because they said pagan things like, “By the power vested in me by the state of ... I now pronounce you man and wife” are just reacting to their deep error in joining matrimony to the state. As Christians, we’re not supposed to join the state with our ceremonies. That’s the whole overriding message of the Old Testament. So maybe you should take your complaint to a pastor who is breaking covenant with God and making covenant with an earthly government. It’s a speck and mote in the eye issues.
Where does the old covenant law say that divorce is permissible? That's a blatantly false statement. Jesus is not in conflict with the law because there is no law that permits it. The Pharisees interpreted Deut 24 as permission and commandment (the grammar does not bear that out), but the law only deals with the injustice done to the divorced woman.
REALLY??? You believe it was just assumed and thats why it is left out of Mark??? or maybe you are misinterpreting "for any cause" and the way it is said in mark and matthew actually mean the same thing. Jesus would it be lawful under any circumstance (or is there any situation in which it would be ok) for me to get a divorce??(not can i get a divorce for any reason i can conjure up.) Jesus says no.
I absolute love everything Jeff stands for but I believe he let his cultural lenses shroud this issue (like we all have at times). This is rare from Jeff but it's not a very good exegetical conclusion. The Greek word "douloo" means "to enslave, to be a slave, to make a slave of, be subject to, serve and obey" and is NEVER used in relation to the covenantal bond of marriage. When Paul speaks of the binding character of marriage, he uses the Greek word "deo", not "douloo". 1210. deo, deh'-o; a prim. verb; to bind (in various applications, lit. or fig.):- bind, be in bonds, knit, tie, wind. See also 1163, 1189. 1402. douloo, doo-lo-o; from 1401; to enslave (lit. or fig.):- bring into (be under) bondage, x given, become (make) servant. We can see some examples of Paul's usage of this word "douloo" throughout the Scriptures. It is consistently used in the context of slavery and submission. "And having been set free from sin, you became DOULOO (servants) of righteousness." (Romans 6:18, The Scriptures) "For though I am free from all, I made myself a DOULOO (servant) to all, in order to win more," (1 Corinthians 9:19) "So we also, when we were children, were under the elementary matters of the world, being DOULOO (enslaved)." -(Galatians 4:3) The Greek word for "bound" in this passage is "deo" (Strong's #1210) and means "to bind, to tie, to put under obligation, bound by law, duty". In context, it refers to being tied by obligation to the marriage covenant and is the exact same Greek word used by Paul in other passages related to the marriage bond. "For the married woman has been DEO (bound) by Torah to the living husband" (Romans 7:2) "Are you DEO (bound) to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed." (1 Corinthians 7:27) "A wife is DEO (bound) by Torah as long as her husband lives" (1 Corinthians 7:39) If his conclusion is true, I don't believe this is how to prove it from the text. May the Lord Jesus Christ lead us all into his truth in every subject, especially the controversial ones.
This discussion with the Lord regarding D&R is documented not only in Matthew but also in Luke and Mark. The only time the "exception' is mentioned is in Matthew, and it happens to be the one book that was written directly to the Jews who were still under the law at that time. Could it be that he was referencing the ONE EXCEPTION that was listed under the Mosaic law? If that were the case, it would sure help explain the rest of the scriptures which seem to suggest that there's no cause for remarriage once an oath has been made. Just some food for thought.
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
We also have to remember that Christ was there to uphold the law so during that time he was affirming Moses's stance on the certificate of divorce in deut 24 and not opposing it.
@@csmooth2288 the certificate is objective and not up for interpretation; it refers to the terms of the law given in Deut 24 which, when viewing the Hebrew it was essentially when a woman would lie about her virginity and he finds out about it. Since he paid for a virgin and she wasn't one, he had the right to divorce her (hand her that certificate)... hence the exception clause for "pornea" found in Matthew. The Word is consistent. But beyond this it's more important to understand that marriage is a representation of Christ and his church (Eph 5, 1 Peter 3, Colossians 3, etc.). To justify divorcing a spouse for any reason is to invite the same judgment from God concerning you, since Christ represents the husband and we, the church, represent the bride. The Word teaches in many places that when we choose to sin we make ourselves ADULTERERS spiritually. Should then Christ divorce us? I hope not. And if we agree that we do not want to be divorced from Christ for our unfaithfulness then we aught not divorce our spouse for any reason since God has made us one with our lawful spouse.
@@sbryan060 thank you for that it's makes perfect sense I've been trying to piece the puzzle together but how would also explain what Paul says in 1 Corinth. 7? About the non believer abandoning their spouse.
Genuine question, where does Jeff get the part where he speaks that failure to provide shelter, food, clothing and love was grounds for divorce in the OT? I haven't been able to find it so far. Thanks for any help
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Timothy 5:8 ESV don’t know about OT but the New Testament makes it clear
I don't know, but in the New testament it says if any husband our father would not provide for his household he is WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL AND HAD DENIED THE FAITH!
Please pray for me, I am in the same spot I was years ago. I got complacent and foolish, and fell away from my responsibilities. Please, lift me up in prayer, and pray for my wife and our children.
I pray that you study this out in the Greek text and the difference between sending away (separation) and giving a certificate of divorce. They are 2 separate actions and both are required. Yeshua said that if you send a woman away (without the certificate of divorce) you cause her to commit adultery. It’s a mistranslation. Just as it is today if you marry a person that is only separated you are committing adultery. There was no change in Gods perfect law
Wow… thank you Jeff for your faithfulness to His Word. I thank God for what He has deposited in you. I have so much ignorance in my heart and I want to know truth eternal and practical. Glory to the Lord Jesus!
i Love the Lord and want to follow his law, but let me ask you what do you do when the wife of your youth has put you aside because she doesn,t want you anymore? Am i suppose to stay single for the rest of my life? I wasn,t happy with our life situation so i came up with a plan to change how i lived and the pace of my life. I offered her this and she rejected me and my plan. I could not stay living the way i was and had to change.
Grace Marie I am born again believer and you are scaring people into thinking they are going to hell for divorcing and remarrying for any other reason than sexual sin! Of course a a couple should try to save their marriage but that is not always possible and the Lord knows this! There is only ONE unforgivable sin! www.gotquestions.org/unpardonable-sin.html Stop being so legalistic.
no one is.....stuck......1 Corinthian 7.10-11 addresses this...10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
There are verses in the bible that say you can get a divorce. The verse that says you are free does not mean you are free to marry again. There is not one verse that says you may marry again when your spouse is still alive. There are many verses that say it is adultery. No matter how or why you divorced, people are not free to marry again until that x spouse is dead. You are wrong Jeff.
@@MMAGUY13 I wish more people knew this they would try harder to fix their marriages and understand they will not go to heaven if they marry again while their spouse is still alive
@@mlaurent8905 No one said you had to stay with him. If you choose to get a divorce you simply cannot be with another man until he dies. You can be single and celibate
@@mlaurent8905 You will have to research this yourself if you care what the Bible says. Unfortunately the Bible also says if you marry agian when your first husband is still alive it is adultery. It is very plain in many verses throughout the Bible. God would not contradict His Word. God expects us to ask Him who we should marry since He is the best match maker. Did you choose who God told you, you should marry? If not, you have no one to blame but yourself. People get themselves in all kinds of trouble when they do things against God's will for their lives, but it doesn't change His rules. The list of people who will not make it into heaven include adulterers. God made Eve for Adam--He was the original match maker. And they never divorced...so, I am not super sure why you brought them up as an example of anything to support your point. It makes no sense whatsoever. You must have thought your marriage vows were what? a joke? When you said til death due us part, what do you think that meant exactly? Til either of you get tired of being married and want a new spouse? No.
"'So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.' They said to him, 'Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?' He said to them, 'Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.'” (Matthew 19:6-9) So actually, it is true that you are not allowed to divorce except for adultery. So yes, Jesus did not abolish the Law but He did fulfill the Law in this regard by establishing the true purpose of marriage, indicating that the Law only permitted divorce due to the hardness of the people. I am disappointed with where this sermon went very early. Completely unexpected from this Pastor who I usually admire for his excellent Biblical consistency and exegesis. An astonishing error for something Jesus resolved in an attempt to trap Him regarding this very issue.
Thir7ySev3n So your telling me my mother was right to not get divorced from my abusing father? She put me and all my siblings through so much because she wouldn't divorce him since he didn't cheat on her? He just would beat her and abuse her daily yet that's not good enough ....
And how powerful of a message for forgiveness than the fact that if one separates from their spouse because of adultery, one can still not remarry. It’s so amazing. 🙏
9:27 Affirms grounds for divorce and remarriage based off of non-conforming standards (abuse) 26:10 Jeff hypocritically chastises pharisees but does what they do. Blows trumpets so everyone will see 38:33 Back handed slap which is what Jeff does to Jesus word 45:45 Asks about divorce 46:40 Jeff quotes "what god has joined together let not man separate" 47:00 From the beginning it was not so, and whoever divorces his wife, commits adultery 51:25 To the UNMARRIED and the WIDOWED 53:40 REMAIN UNMARRIED 55:50 "Set free from divorce" (Says its not adultery) 57:28 God hates divorce Malachi 2:16 Never gave permission 58:00 Jeff creates new standards for divorce and remarriage 59:02: Says that if a man cant provide, is poor, Says divorce and remarriage is OK 1:00:30 Jeff Qualifies again divorce and remarriage because he is afraid that what he say will be used as justification. "Cites Bon-sons thesis as opposed to the scripture LUKE 16:18 1:02:11 Jer 3:8 claims God divorced ???? Yet somehow remains faithful and brought forth christ ???!??!?!?!?!?!?!?! 1:02:40 Now says adultery isn't grounds for divorce says forgive and reconcile ?!?!?!?!?!?!?! 1:05:14 Now claims that you are still married and need reconciliation, then claims in the same breath that if they are "abused" they are not "married" again ............. 1:06:00 Jeff then says that under biblical grounds you can "remarry" (Cites NO scripture)
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
@@FullAutoApolotics A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. ITS FOR LIFE REPENT
@@LOT116 I haven't. But it does say you don't have to chase them down if they are in sin. If you are in that circumstance and everyone against remarrying here followed the law they are quoting, I need you to help me stone my ex this afternoon if you have time?
You're not listening to God's revelation bc He hates Divorce and there's no excuse for it. "Wht God has put together let NO MAN set usunder". Divorce is a lifestyle of adultery and you will be condemned for it! 🔥💯📖👊
Oh man, bless you brother, i love your sermons. I cant remember ever uncontrollably laughing while watching a service before. "Because she wasnt pretty anymore." I can only imagine the Lord sitting there in the "meme Picard posture" when he saw that...
Why does The NT clearly say the Law is "obsolete "? The Law was given as a school master to lead us to Messiah. My take is we are now under the Law of Christ. Does anyone know the OT verses Jeff is referring to about food, shelter, love etc?
So, when i first came across the Teachings of Headship, i was Discipling someone.. i leaned towards my having my Wife and Daughter's sins laid on me (not in †he same measure as CHRIST, The HEAD; my HEAD/†he Head's HEAD) but, Scripture Does Lay Out that Role, rather repeatedly.. how is it that a Wife's Sins will Not affect Her Head/Husband any more than the Husband's will affect His Body/Wife?
Also read 1st Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. AND IT'S NOT ALWAYS THE MAN WHO IS AT FAULT. LOOK HOW EVE WAS THE ONE DECEIVED THAT RUIN THE WHOLE HUMAN RACE. GENESIS 3:13
His scriptures are based on going back to the mosaic law which also allowed polygamy. Does Jeff also support polygamy? Jesus was confronted with the Deuteronomy 24:1-4 divorce law by the Pharisees. Jesus said Moses added that precept for the hardness of their hearts. Jesus then took the standard for divorce all the way back to what God set up in the garden of Eden. Why Jeff takes the Pharisee’s side and reinstates Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is beyond me. Even in the Old Testament God told them that precept wasn’t from him. Jeremiah 3:1 They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the Lord. God said the author of Deuteronomy 24:1-4 was “they” and contrasted that with his heart on the matter and it was completely opposite. Again, why Jeff wants to reinstate a precept Jesus said Moses added because of hard hearted people and God already repudiated hundreds of years earlier through Jeremiah, it’s really beyond me.
Since approx 70% of divorces currently are issued by women, please address what us faithful ex husbands who did not want divorce should do according to scripture. Seems backwards to constantly refer to the men regarding instigating a divorce nowadays since it's primarily women.
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
Marriage is a complex thing and personal think depending on people's situations. only God can know the true foundation of that marriage and who stay married and who doesn't. We have to understand salvation is a personal thing and personal journey, marriage is the same thing that is why we have to leave it to God and allow God to guide us personally because remember some.stay and die I don't think it is God's will either so pray and be guided by the Holy Spirit and He shall guide u to stay , to let it go and be restored in one way or another but divorce isn't the end of salvation or anyone's destiny God is able to forgive and restore anyone as any other sins or failures in our lives ..But teaching about it it is good at least those who goes into it know what is about and those who divorced understand his grace too..God Is love and He is able to redeem all of us as long as we repent and follow his leading. Shalom be blessed
Who shall we follow, Moses? or Jesus? Of coarse we follow Jesus. Moses himself said Jesus would come and to hear him in all things. Jesus taught that to divorce and then to marry again is wrong except for fornication. And that don't mean 25 years later, that means when they first came together. Paul says the law, that same law Jesus said he didn't come to destroy, the law of God, bounds them together so long as they both shall live. If you think it's ok to divorce, then let me ask you where is the love in divorce? Where is the Charity (Charity seeketh not her own!) in divorce? Is not divorce what I want? Me I what I feel? But yet we are not our own, we are bought with a price! I feel, if you cannot agree with Jesus, He is not your Lord.
Great exposition starting out but I was stumped when Jeff got into the two camps stating Jesus was taking the side of shammai. I dont see or believe that at all. I dont see that He was suckered to take any side like they wanted Him to. But rather He flanked and exposed them with the truth. Jesus didnt lend himself to nor practice the foolishness and qaurreling attitudes of the religious. He always cut right through them. Its really suprising to me when learned men such as Jeff (he regularly references the Greek) do not seem to be aware of the fact that "apoluo" ("put away" in the stated passages; and occuring 170 times in the NT) and "apostasion" (bill of divorcment; occuring 3 times in NT) are two diff terms (they are not synonymous). The heading in your bible may read "divorce" but the stated passages have nothing to do with divorce but rather the wicked "putting away". To say that this (blantant) translation error has perpetuated great confusion and harm for so many is an understatement. Dont take any preachers word for it; and certainly not mine, (on this subject or any) but you must study the word for yourself.
the word of God says that if the unbelieving spouse wants to leave "let him leave". we do not have to fight for it. we can let them go. read that scripture fully. if you insist the believer go and "fight" for that marriage, it is contrary to the revealed truth. i disagree with you in that context.
WOW i just listened to all of this. We cannot divorce only in adultery not being beaten, not being provided for. God made prison put your husband in prison dont divorce him. Please stay in the marriageeee love him or her and forgive them. Love themmmm let JESUS HAVE GLORYYYYYY. Me and my husband did adultery and God saved our marriage.
Well, out of the few sermons I've heard him preach on this was very, very disappointing, you were right for most of it until you thre in the scenario of , verbal,physical and sexual abuse as cause for both divorce and remarriage. Under that scenario, those earlier described problems are no different from being cussed out, physically attacked, and many other various and sundry things that are done by the wicked every day! We as Christians are told to " But I say unto you, that ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also ." Matthew 5:39 KJV of which you lightly touched on earlier, well , for the sake of continuity and or consistency, stay steady and straight ahead when teaching God's word, the same God that had authorized and ordained that union ,is the same God that had made provision for the aggrieved spouse in that circumstance. If we are trust Him, then let us all really Trust Him, in everything! In Jesus Name Amen .
One of the few things I have ever heard you talk about I disagree with brother I have been preaching about divorce, broken families, for 25 years. if the Christian is a part of the choir they are with me, 999 out of 1,000 just don't care, hate me, think this sin is popular (divorce) and move on. Being someone abused by my father, we suffered that abuse, been abused by my wife who sexually abused my son. Only adultery is acceptable in this era of grace. We, the church, are supposed to intervene in abuse, trouble, etc. When there were people just, only, refusing to work, spreading gossip, hateful words, the correction was that they did not get to eat. How much more to protect the abused children, spouse, work to save marriage and honor it in all thing, correct the abuser, get the whole story --- The last great generation hated divorce, their good fruits spoke of them, this generations fruits of marital divorce leading to devastation and apostasy - spirtual divorce has brouht in my opinion suffering like the world has never seen -- a few of us are preaching repentance to this apostate and wicked church and country My mother was cheated on many times when my dad in homosexuality did so in the 80s. She would not give uo until he moved out. My wife tried to kill my boy when he was a baby, abused him emotionally, neglected him. I called on the church for help, got none. Only when she sexually molested him was it done for me. The Word of God is truth and all men liars. It is the Body of Christ's duty to help, take in the abused family, rebuke and protect them from the abuser. If they will not stop, treat them as publicans 0- and how do we do that? Copy Jesus, Paul. Pray for them but without access to the church, witness to them, preach repentance, The last faithful generation hated divorce like few 'Christians' do today and fought tooth and nail to keep marriages together. it was as it should be: shameful and horrid to behold the destruction of a family. And if you read any studies on divorce you will not find that the WWII generation was so in bondage and so much abuse was put up with. The COnrary, when marriage was sacred there was not as mich. Since 1952 and the free for all marraige laws, many studies have shown all manor of any ill you can name: mental, social, political, crime, et al have exponentially gone up: spouse abuse up %2,600, teen suicide up %150. Having been abused and seen my son abused I know my God and His Word is right. The church and society simply neglects the ones who need their help in these situations - not a permission to undo what God put together. Having been through my parents divorce and my wife's abuse - I know though most every day i wanted to leave and get me and my son away, I did the right thing protecting him and obeying the literal word of God on the subject in the whole counsel of God. Abuse is not good, in any part of marrige, not an excuse for divorce, and definately not an excuse for the church not to do its job as it did with the people who gossipped and were then not allowed to eat.
@apologiastudios Pastor Jeff, I admire your apologetic approach, and am currently in a nasty storm (separates, divorcing) and am standing on God’s heart, promises, and Word; but it has not been easy and I’ve had failures. I am under constant spiritual attack because of this, as well as I have started a men’s ministry for men who stand for their marriages. Brother, I’d love a chance to have some dialogue with you.
Joseph Hogan my son is going through the similar situation. His wife kicked him to the curb with nothing to his name. She was having a work affair. She threatened him so he gave her full custody of his two boys. Now a year and a half later she’s made a mess of her life, is self medicating all the time. He is working for his church and is a loving dad. He’s trying to get custody of them now that he is stable but she’s wickedly fighting him. But he grows stronger in Christ each week, i I’m So thankful that he never turned away from God through it all. Know your fellow believers are praying for you!
I like to listen to this pastor , this time was playing things I was okay listening to , to maybe help me go bk to sleep , feel asleep to this sermon , not a good sermon to fall asleep to, was getting a talking to in my sleep. Choice wisely when you are having trouble sleeping , but choice wisely what you might hear when sleeping and the voice tone 😂
I would truly like to know what Bible you are quoting from? I read the King James Version , however I think that the sermon was sound, and very understandable, however I never understood why it specifies women in certain situations, in other words does the same act that it speaks on as far as the woman apply to the man?
+Gabriel green that's what i gathered from those verses as well, however I am still unsure of the Lord accepting a marriage where a husband commits adultery & is divorced from his wife although he tried to reconcile she was not willing, is he free to marry again to a believer if he has a change of heart & is saved, since she isn't willing & is being married to another? or is he to stay single although he tried to reconcile after his wrong doing?
jeff durbin. I love your videos but you really need to listen to Voddie Baucham's "the permanence view." Matthew is the only book that has an "exception clause." So with all the other commandments he says "you have heard it said that ... but i say ..." but when he gets to divorce Jesus says you got it right..? And people said it would be better not to marry (matthew 19) Why would they come to this conclusion if Jesus said divorce was just fine? The relationship between Christ and the church is represented between husband and wife. This is reason alone to renounce the idea of divorce.
Agree - I am blown away by Jeff's powerful and genuine preaching and deep theological grasps, but there is simply no 'okay' for divorce. My wife and I were married in 2005, and then on the 3rd of August, 2013, I received an email from her saying 'life's too short.......etc' and she left. I spend each and every day - literally EVERY DAY - ring on my finger, praying desperately that not only will the Lord lay it on her heart to return but that true believers will be involved each day in her life to lead her back and to humble herself and have a soft heart and get back together for God's glory. I miss and love her. There's nothing she could do or say that would make me desire not to welcome her back. God HATES divorce and has never ever said it's 'okay'. There's nothing I can say or do as a disciple of Jesus that would 'allow' divorce... Please pray for Jeff to have God's true and solid cornerstone of truth in this matter. Please pray also for my wife's heart to be reached by God and by other disciples to return and serve Him together. God bless. J
@@jeremycbarnhart2305 But he expects you to repent and get back to work, praising and doing the work. He said through Paul, if they walk, and are not Christians, let them go. You may not be clear to remarry, and I admire your tenacity, but do NOT ruin your life. Grace and Grace alone bud, I had to learn that the hard way, same as you. But forgiveness and separated from sin as far as the East from the West. Move on bro, anything you hold onto thinking it's that heavy is re-crucifying Christ or negating His power over sin.
There is a fundamental problem with this idea of divorce and remarriage, and the problem is this. Marriage is a picture of Christ's marriage to His Church. Now every picture is an imperfect representation of the actuality, but Christ as the bridegroom is always ready to receive back His wife, as there is an unbreakable bond between Christ and His bride, the elect church. How can Christ go back to His bride if she's already remarried and the wife of another man? We read in Ephesians 5:31-32: "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church." If the husband and wife are one flesh, then the idea is that you can't break "one flesh", and neither can you break the union of Christ with His elect church. The second problem is that the Old Testament Scriptures never permitted a wife to divorce her husband, but only a husband to divorce his wife. The permissible reasons for divorce are one: sexual immorality... not abandonment, not cruelty, not a failure to provide. There is one reason given... sexual immorality (Deuteronomy 24:1.) Thirdly, if we are going to demand consistency, then we would expect to see a precept about remarriage in the Old Testament, Gospels and the New Testament (1 Corinthians 7 does not speak of remarriage), but there is nothing there about remarriage of either the "innocent" party or the guilty one. The speaker seems to suggest that the House of Hillel was the overwhelming view of Jewish society, but if that was the case, then why would the Pharisees even be asking Jesus about the controversy. Hillel had been deceased for a couple of decades when Jesus began Hi public ministry and Shammai only died in 30AD. Shammai had been the head of the Sanhedrin, and his views were only firmly rejected AFTER 70 AD with the Jewish revolt. So when Jesus is asked about the controversy, He is being asked about a real controversy where both sides had significant support in Jewish religious society. But what is Christ's response? He speaks of marriage as an unbreakable union which man cannot break. We read in Matthew 19:6 "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." So if Jesus says "let NOT man put asunder", then why is the speaker here telling us that a spouse can divorce for a whole list of reasons? That's not the teaching of Christ here. In fact, what Christ is teaching is a rejection of both the schools of Hillel and Shammai which both permitted divorce (for various and differing reasons) and remarriage. While God certainly permitted men to divorce their wives for adultery "because of the hardness of their hearts", this still does not dissolve the marriage union. That is why Christ's teaching is that it is not only adultery to divorce your wives for unbiblical reasons, but "whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery" (Matthew 19:9.) Note the response of the Apostles who are astounded by Christ's teaching. Now why would they be astounded if Jesus was simply teaching one of the two prevailing and popular views of His day? They were astounded and said "If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry" because they rightly understood that His teaching was far stricter than either school of contemporary thought, and so strict that they questioned whether a man should even consider marriage if he could not remarrry when his wife failed him in some way. Paul in 1 Corinthians tells the believing spouse to be at peace if the unbeliever departs, but never tells them that they are free to remarry. To suggest otherwise is a gross misunderstanding of the text. Paul in Romans 7 says very clearly: 1Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Paul's teaching is the same as that of the Mosaic law, and of Christ, namely that a woman is bound to her husband until the death of either party. If she remarries while her husband is still alive (without any Pauline reservations here), then she is committing adultery. 1 Corinthians 7 is not teaching a new doctrine on remarriage, but simply saying that if an unbeliever refuses to honour the covenant of marriage and leaves their believing spouse, then it is not the fault of the believer. It is not teaching that they can simply "move on with their life" and remarry the next man they meet in church. This speaker's position while representing a more "conservative" side of evangelicalism is simply not Biblical and it's obvious why. It not only permits remarriage of the innocent party, but permits remarriage of the guilty party as well. Take this example: So a 50 year old husband commits adultery with his 20 year old assistant and his 50 year old believing wife divorces him. The husband remarries his assistant and then goes back to his ex-wife's church with his new 20 year old wife. The pastor asks if he has repented and the man says "yes pastor, what I did was wrong, but now I'm remarried." The pastor accepts that and the 50 year old and his 20 year old model wife sit are admitted as members and sit down in the same pew next Sunday with his 50 year old believing "ex-wife." How is that showing any respect to the covenant of marriage, or showing a fallen world that marriage is a "one flesh" union that man is not to put asunder?
I was married before, my ex left me, I tried EVERYTHING that I could to keep her, but at the end she went to the loo at church and I never saw her again. The divorce papers came through on my birthday.. My question is, am I free of this or am I an adulterer?
That is not true.... You're not held liable for another's sin. You are not bound to a covenant if the other partner leaves the covenant.... God doesn't hold the dumped party guilty, he holds the dumper.... You pray, seek the lord earnestly, practice faithfully forgiveness & when they come to mind - bless them. Pray the lord will open their eyes,hearts to His word/His will.... I speak, "health , happiness, & prosperity, lord draw her back to you. Holy Spirit bring conviction & help her repent & truly seek you lord." Lord, I pray for reconciliation, your will, your desire & godly purpose for both of us.... ps138:8 "the lord will fulfill his purpose for me. Lord, your love is eternal;do not abandon the work of your hands." Painful, very difficult Painful walk when one you love & are in covenant with , leaves you.... Be aware of rejection, speak against the hardening of you heart, purpose yourself not to allow the enemy to distract or deceive you with "new" relationships.... Call out for utmost Guidance from the Holy Spirit...... Been dealing with this almost 3yrs, since the wife went the way of the world & stopped living with an enduring faith.... Col 1:23
I’m Positive GOD did NOT WANT marriage between us. I thought since the spiritual umbilical cord never got cut, then leaving would prevent cleaving. One day God spoke to me - another subject- ... And He said,“Go to your husband now… “ So, Nevermind what i think. God accepted him as my husband therefore I think its the consumation of the marriage. And God gives free will - right or wrong. What do you think about thar?
@@mamajinimurphy5640 - I thank you for your answer. But I think that, first, if the marriage is something that The Creator arranged, I mean, this specific man to that specific woman, is one thing. BUT, I think that when we read "GOD united", maybe that's just for those are REBORN, REGENERATED (man and woman) and they got this direction from The Creator. And when we get the direction from The Almighty, we know it.
@@philipbuckley759 So, for you it's like, "no matter what job I have, If it is killing, robbering, etc., it doesn't matter. The point is, to work. And if I'm working, it's good", right? See, I say this because many agreements on paper are not agreements at all. Not to mention the so-called "marriages" that were purchases of child girls to be sex slaves, prostitutes, serving as messengers for traffickers, or end up as sources of organs for organ trafficking. In addition to these cases, there are "marriages" for convenience, for having nothing else to do, for egocentrism and interest in being happy, but NEVER making the other person happy. Therefore, to understand that every marriage started from the only legitimate principle for this - to have the conviction that my goal is to make my spouse the happiest person in the world at all times - is to have my head buried in the ground, ignoring everything that is called "marriage" and it was never that. I hope you understand that I am not trying to educate you, not to "sound" arrogant falling you what is right or what's not. But marriage is way more than to live on the same address having some time for sex and sharing bills.
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace And what was that pesky unforgivable sin again?
I've been blessed by this sermon. Question: Let's say a spouse does forgive their spouse who committed adultery, but the law of the land is that adulterers should be put to death. Would the ruling authorities be acting unjustly if they did so (because the offended party forgave them)? Would similar principles apply to rape and murder? I'm a budding theonomist, so just trying to think through these things.
If you are married to someone who has a former spouse that is alive you are committing adultery.Romans 7:2.Adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God.1Cor 6:9.Don't be deceived!!Don't get yourself in this situation! If you are in it get out!Half this congregation likely falls into this category ,in this wicked and adulterous generation and is now comforted in their sin.Beware of slick teachers like this wolf in sheep's clothing doing this video.Stick with the Bible as if your life depends on it because it does!
Omy gosh!! Some of these comments! People, Listen to the word of God, hear it, then do it!! Thank you pastor for this sound word!! Very theological & right! Loved it!!
kat Just for today there is an excellent book on this called “Not under bondage.” Jeff Crippen, a reformed pastor in Oregon, speaks a great deal on this. He also wrote about it in a book called “unholy charade, unmasking the domestic abusers in our church. Short answer yes. But highly recommend reading the book, it is not a “liberal” interpretation of scripture, it is very faithful to the word of God and makes a strong case for divorce in the case of abuse
I think Jeff makes a mistake here, and it is this. He is still rooting Jesus' teaching on divorce and remarriage in the Law of Moses. I believe Jesus actually takes his view on marriage from a previous point in the Old Testament, namely the Garden of Eden, God's covenant with Adam and Eve. This is really clear in Jesus' explanations. Paul does a similar thing when he deals with Male and female relationships. See 1Corinthians 11:8-9 1Timothy 2:13-14. So the key passages for Christians are Genesis 2 and 3 rather than Deuteronomy. Despite this, I still really like Jeff and appreciate his ministry. I hate some of the judgemental comments on here. Blessings.
This is simple. Divorce is not sin, unless someone does it wrong (such as if a spouse burns food). Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is the answer. Divorce is unfortunate. It is sin if the divorced spouse remarries the spouse they already divorced. That is an abomination. Divorce because of hardness of heart is unfortunate, but not sin. Yeshua perfectly explains this if you know the Torah. No one adds or subtracts from it and Yeshua said all of it stands. He was asked this because the Pharisaic law (Talmud) says you can have premeditated remarriage. That is adultery because a man deliberately divorces his wide because he finds an attractive woman and marries her and then divorces and remarry so he avoids adultery. Obviously that is adultery because he thought about it, and remarrying the same person is detestable.
For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him. 3 So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man. Romans 7:2-3
Jeff Durban - MY Question is!! WRT : "What God has joined together , let no man put usunder." Yet we go around Rubber stamping Gods name on relationships. Jeff, it sounds like You claim that ANY relationship leading to marriage is ordained by God. What- did Satan go to sleep? Is there somewhere in the Bible that says setting up relationships is off limits to Satan ? Not enough space here, there's a LOT more to my story. But i thought i had chosen well.
Gosh reading these comments 😮 I’m to stay in an abusive marriage? He is not a believer and left this year after 23 years- our children have suffered greatly by his hands and with verbal/mental abuse- I was abused by him in all forms. Thank you Lord he walked out. But I’m still to be bound by him? Can’t seek divorce? And if I find a true man of God in 5/10 yrs I’m condemned?
Ok forgive my ignorance. I was married before I was a Christian, I was the guilty one in sin. We divorced. Can I get remarried now as a repentant believer?
So does this mean since I fell away from the lord for 4 years and divorced (unbiblically) and remarried and have since then been brought back into the fold (praise God) .. that I’m condemned ?
Got a hard question, the bible says that we should live in peace. Should that in response to their Christian faith in comparison to their non-Christian faith or absolutely? If absolutely, then, do they have to "live in peace" with an abusive spouse? If divorce is only permissible via sexual immorality then your have to stay, right? The Pharisees also mentions that; because of this hard teaching and divorce certificate revocation, you should not therefore even be married. Jesus affirms them by saying, "very few can accept this teaching". So, if you're the victim of adultery... I dunno honestly for the victims. 1 Corinthians 7 affirms that too but doesn't suggests remarriage. It suggests that it's a tough teaching but also that... marriage is VERY IMPORTANT AND SHOULDN'T BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. 1 Corinthians 7 also suggests that it (marriage) is helpful for avoiding against sexual desires. Lastly, these people are Christians. Christians who should abstain from sexual immorality and not link with an harlot/prostitute and thus become one with her. "Marriage is the two shall become flesh. What God has brought together, let no man separate." Ultimately, let marriage be carefully examined and commit yourself in Christ. They have their own purpose and responsibility but, don't let marriage blind you to lead you away from Christ. Dont let yourself get in the way either; via sin or the deeds of the flesh. They're ministry too. Man ministers to Woman and makes her more holy. They continually sync and leave for each other and prayer. Man gives his life for his woman/wife/sister in Christ. Man gives his own life for Woman/Sister in Christ/Wife.
He was doing well until he started making up circumstances for divorce that the law of God does not state. He literally just invented circumstances for divorce at the end. SMH.
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
@@FullAutoApolotics shut up dude...you don't know what you're talking about. You're taking scripture way out of context. Really shut up. You're bringing a worse judgement on yourself. Smh.
Another actor holding court with his theatre, mis-teaching God’s perfect word. Even if you separate, for any reason, the Bible does NOT allow a remarriage (until your spouse dies, when you are no longer 1 flesh). The “adultery exception clause” is this: you can’t make an adulterer an adulterer, if they’re already an adulterer (eg. “Except for adultery”) IT’s NOT saying you can go remarry if your spouse committed adultery. That’s such a common mis-teaching. Just another slick tongued guy collecting his paycheck from a naive flock. Run, don’t walk from this guy.
Divorce is a sin and God hates divorce and anyone who encourages anyone to divorce is a false prophet and is going to hell. there is no right way to divorce. divorce is a sin period and there is no way round it.
There is one thing I think Jeff seems not too differentiate: one thing is a permission to divorce, the other is the permission to remarry. After analyzing all the texts it seems obvious to me that remarrying is only permissible in case of adultery just like Jesus said to those testing Him. In other cases when divorced people engage in relationships with another man or woman there is adultery. ALso Paul writes about divorce but not about remarrying in case of abandonment by unbelieving spouse, vide I. Kor. 7.11.
the jews were separated from gentiles by sacrifice, if the "holiness laws" are trashed than there is no sacrifice for others. Jesus, looking to Lev. says there is one cause for divorce. by this Law a man only can give a certificate (in the absense of stoning i.e. hardness of civic heart) for uncleaness. God forgive you if you make 3 + reasons out of one. Consider Samson who left his wife and came to find her and her family must have went to Westminster etc. but she was his wife. Paul nowere uses the word abandonment, he does suggest that IF 1, the unbeliever (in Christ) leaves the marriage (pagan 'divorce') they should not consider themselves bound. A man should marry a believing virgin who is subject and bound until his death. any creed or convention or legal theory that claims otherwise is trash.
My heart broke when I heard one of my favorite preachers and someone I tell people about and suggest to hear, speak on this subject as though he honestly seems slightly lost. There is nothing GOD - our heavenly father - allows us to divorce for any reason anymore than He would allow Christ to divorce from His Church. A genuine and deep study of the Word, the character of Christ, the very fact God uses very strong language in saying He HATES divorce and even that it was simply some things Moses came up with for 'a wicked generation...' etc. Divorce is no more allowable than Christ deciding to leave His people.
God hates divorce more than abuse? God hates divorce more than rape? God hates divorce more than adultery? Oh your god sounds like someone I’m not interested in following.
So what if another man goes into your wife? & your wife refuses to let go of this so called man? She prefers to be with him rather than you? You can give this wife warnings, but she refuses to listen to reason To God
The clearest teaching I have ever heard on this subject. Men love and respect your wives with actions! Women do the same, God bless you all in your love for Him and your obedience to love not just with words but also with deeds!
it is totally confusing, to me, this speaker is all over the place...
13:00 He did not RELAX the Mosaic code. He said that it was given for hardness of heart, and that the right thing to do is not NOT divorce in the first place.
1 Timothy 5:8,: "Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
What does that mean exactly?
Does that address “dead beat father’s”?
That means we intentionally do what we can to contribute both spiritual/material needs - This doesn't apply to ppl who are TRUELY disabled and can't do either.
@@Job_Siciliano If that dad is intentionally (He can provide, but won't) withholding the manifestations of the love Timothy is describing - yes.
In just the first few minutes he got my attention...the way he unpacks the Word....I'm impressed! If only this is how every Pastor could teach the Word, there'd be less troubled Christians
Dan G I’m pretty sure you’re a lonely person to the core with no real true friends. Maybe you’re mommy but I’m sure she probably doesn’t care for you much either, kinda like the rest of the general population.
@@DAhonda247 funny that you seem to be doing very thing you’re calling this op.
Takes a special kind of lonely ignorant imbecile to just make negative comments to a stranger for no reason.
he goes off the deep end, from the start....
You just became my favorite TH-cam preacher, I watched you witnessing to Mormons and I've been watching those videos, I was so surprised when I came across this video, by divine appointment indeed! You have a GOD given gift in delivering GOD'S message and making me understand, I praise GOD for you!!!
Love and blessings be abundantly ours in CHRIST JESUS OF THE BIBLE for any other jesus is man's ideas!
Great. Grace, Peace, and LOVE in CHRIST JESUS. Yeah, this is one of the ministries that has had a huge impact on me. i watched Brother Jeff's teaching on The HOLY TRINITY and Dr. White's, and they blew me away. YHWH Is Doing Big Things, Brother. Keep pressing in, persevering till the end with great endurance, by Grace, through Faith, in YESHUA; Fearing and Loving YHWH. GOD Bless you
Thank you so much for this i needed to learn so much more about this topic cause i struggle with fear in my own marriage i do love my husband i respect him and adore him very much we both love God very much he left and said it was Gods will over his life to not be my husband anymore and i had a hard time understanding how GOD would say that it is for his will to be not married to me and be okay with him leaving me and cutting my out of his life completely . when i got to the end of this video it made me get on my knees and pray cause i know its not God speaking into my husbands life but the enemy saying lies ...thank you for sharing this video ..xo
He's wrong. It doesn't matter what he says if it is not consistent with what God says and God REQUIRES men to take care of their wives. There is no alternative, he's been deceived. The most loving thing you can do is wait for him and pray for him to repent and return to you. The Lord will surely bless you if you do this!
sr bryan is correct. Do we follow God or mans example... In Jeremiah 3 we see God grant Israel their certificate of divorce (not his choice but he grants this out of love). God then waits still calling Israel his "wife" and saying "I will lure you back to me". Follow the example and command of God and not the tradition of man which is divorce and remarriage. Remember love is the command that sums up all other commands so love hopes all things believes all things and endures all thing! So, hope/believe/endure for the sake of your husband!
You will always find people willing to "talk into your life" when it comes to marriage and divorce. I married young before I was a Christian; the young woman had an affair with my own Dad. Got pregnant. Had the baby (who was disabled), had another affair with someone else and left the home. Left me with the little boy (who wasn't mine). Years later I met my current wife in Church. Love at first sight. She has raised that little boy with me and 28 years later we will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. We have four other children together. Lots of people said, "you can't ever get married again". I was 19. They told my current wife: "he's divorced - on God's junk heap". Some said, "it doesn't matter - do what you want". Every Church I have attended since has denied me entry to the ministry because I am divorced. When Christians hear about it, they immediately divide into several camps. Just like this thread. I pray that you have gotten your husband back Valerie - but if not - that you have, by the grace of God, found a life not only in Him but with someone who loves you and has dedicated their life to you as they should. Blessings.
@Elize Elisma No he is not a false teacher my friend. We can test him. And also test you.
@Valerie Green that last part Jeff said goes completely 100% against with what your husband did. You didn't catch that but I did.
This is so powerful! Thank you for preaching God's True Word!!! I've needed this message, this truth for so long. I sought answers from a pastor and was left helpless. Thank you...
Overall this was a very enlightening video. I love how Jeff acknowledges the nuances of Jesus' teachings. Praise God!
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord - 1 Corinthians 7:39
Thank you brother Jeff for your unbiased boldness and courage to teach about divorce.
6 years later and still so solid! Praise God for your gift Jeff! Thank you!
Matthew 19:8
“He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.”
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
@@BennettJonWayne-xw9vivery good insight
Thank you
1 Corinthians 7:15
Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.
John 14:27 - Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:2-3 KJV
I was digging the sermon until it contradicted Scripture.
God hates divorce, Jesus states that in the original plan divorce was not permitted + no man should separate what God unites, Paul states that God wants the separated spouses to remain unmarried and Matthew was speaking to the Jews that had a tradition that if a betrothed person(under contract/ covenant) fornicated then they could put them away.
Only 2 reasons for Divorce
1. Death
2. If your fiancé/ betrothed fornicates before the "I do" event.
If your spouse leaves or if you are separated, you must remain unmarried.
John Ruiz this is the interpretation I believe I hold to John Piper gave this interpretation under the context of the Greek used for sexual immorality was also used when Joseph was going to "divorce" Mary in the engagement phase but as far as physical abuse I do agree with separation but for the point of reconciliation but I definitely have to disagree with durbin on remarriage and I love durbin but I believe u get one in a lifetime that's y more emphasis should be made on the courting of ur future spouse you'd better do your due diligence
where does it anywhere say a woman can divorce, or that a state may divorce a couple? (much less the church)?God invented marriage He invented divorce by any other name it is not thevsame. The hardness of heart does not make you a meany it makes us disobey God-i.e. not stoning the adulteress.
Correct, God only allowed divorce due to sexual immorality before marriage. Just as Joseph wanted to divorce Mary after he came to know that Mary was pregnant. It’s disturbing that people that call themselves pastors twist the Word of God. That is the very important reason why we must know the Bible. We need to test the spirits.
Okay, so if my husband is beating the crap out of me, I have to stay with him. Got it.
Um, I think you mean three.
www.gotquestions.org/remarriage-adultery.html
If you have to wonder if its ok in the eyes of God, the answer is yes. There, saved you an hour.
Amen Pastor Jeff! Great summation! I've never had this explained as fully and completely as you just did. Amazing teaching brother!
I don't think Divorce is a sin if you're mentally and emotionally abused in the marriage!! And that's all I'm going to say about that!!
i Love this church. Oh God bring me to a church like this.
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
So Jesus said divorce not in any reason except adultery. But when that happens you have to stay single. It is the concequence of choosing the wrong spouse.
No, Jesus said that marrying a divorced person was adultery, except for case of fornication. There are legit reasons for divorce but only one for legit remarrying. You have to read multiple texts about in from Jesus and Paul and then combine them.
Dan G this is actually the standard Protestant view, based on scripture, and has been for centuries. It’s a new, reactionary view that persons can only get divorced for adultery (false, the word is pornea) and then can never remarry. The very churches that are responsible for the divorce crisis because they said pagan things like, “By the power vested in me by the state of ... I now pronounce you man and wife” are just reacting to their deep error in joining matrimony to the state. As Christians, we’re not supposed to join the state with our ceremonies. That’s the whole overriding message of the Old Testament. So maybe you should take your complaint to a pastor who is breaking covenant with God and making covenant with an earthly government. It’s a speck and mote in the eye issues.
@Dan G where is your prove?
@Dan G again prove?
@Dan G You do understand this is case law right? It is for a specific issue.
Where does the old covenant law say that divorce is permissible? That's a blatantly false statement. Jesus is not in conflict with the law because there is no law that permits it. The Pharisees interpreted Deut 24 as permission and commandment (the grammar does not bear that out), but the law only deals with the injustice done to the divorced woman.
Only when its related to fornication
Galatians 5:18
18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
REALLY??? You believe it was just assumed and thats why it is left out of Mark??? or maybe you are misinterpreting "for any cause" and the way it is said in mark and matthew actually mean the same thing. Jesus would it be lawful under any circumstance (or is there any situation in which it would be ok) for me to get a divorce??(not can i get a divorce for any reason i can conjure up.) Jesus says no.
I absolute love everything Jeff stands for but I believe he let his cultural lenses shroud this issue (like we all have at times). This is rare from Jeff but it's not a very good exegetical conclusion.
The Greek word "douloo" means "to enslave, to be a slave, to make a slave of, be subject to, serve and obey" and is NEVER used in relation to the covenantal bond of marriage. When Paul speaks of the binding character of marriage, he uses the Greek word "deo", not "douloo".
1210. deo, deh'-o; a prim. verb; to bind (in various applications, lit. or fig.):- bind, be in bonds, knit, tie, wind. See also 1163, 1189.
1402. douloo, doo-lo-o; from 1401; to enslave (lit. or fig.):- bring into (be under) bondage, x given, become (make) servant.
We can see some examples of Paul's usage of this word "douloo" throughout the Scriptures. It is consistently used in the context of slavery and submission.
"And having been set free from sin, you became DOULOO (servants) of righteousness." (Romans 6:18, The Scriptures)
"For though I am free from all, I made myself a DOULOO (servant) to all, in order to win more," (1 Corinthians 9:19)
"So we also, when we were children, were under the elementary matters of the world, being DOULOO (enslaved)." -(Galatians 4:3)
The Greek word for "bound" in this passage is "deo" (Strong's #1210) and means "to bind, to tie, to put under obligation, bound by law, duty". In context, it refers to being tied by obligation to the marriage covenant and is the exact same Greek word used by Paul in other passages related to the marriage bond.
"For the married woman has been DEO (bound) by Torah to the living husband" (Romans 7:2)
"Are you DEO (bound) to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed." (1 Corinthians 7:27)
"A wife is DEO (bound) by Torah as long as her husband lives" (1 Corinthians 7:39)
If his conclusion is true, I don't believe this is how to prove it from the text. May the Lord Jesus Christ lead us all into his truth in every subject, especially the controversial ones.
Facts people get confused with bondage and bound.
This discussion with the Lord regarding D&R is documented not only in Matthew but also in Luke and Mark. The only time the "exception' is mentioned is in Matthew, and it happens to be the one book that was written directly to the Jews who were still under the law at that time. Could it be that he was referencing the ONE EXCEPTION that was listed under the Mosaic law? If that were the case, it would sure help explain the rest of the scriptures which seem to suggest that there's no cause for remarriage once an oath has been made. Just some food for thought.
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
We also have to remember that Christ was there to uphold the law so during that time he was affirming Moses's stance on the certificate of divorce in deut 24 and not opposing it.
@@csmooth2288 the certificate is objective and not up for interpretation; it refers to the terms of the law given in Deut 24 which, when viewing the Hebrew it was essentially when a woman would lie about her virginity and he finds out about it. Since he paid for a virgin and she wasn't one, he had the right to divorce her (hand her that certificate)... hence the exception clause for "pornea" found in Matthew. The Word is consistent.
But beyond this it's more important to understand that marriage is a representation of Christ and his church (Eph 5, 1 Peter 3, Colossians 3, etc.). To justify divorcing a spouse for any reason is to invite the same judgment from God concerning you, since Christ represents the husband and we, the church, represent the bride. The Word teaches in many places that when we choose to sin we make ourselves ADULTERERS spiritually. Should then Christ divorce us? I hope not. And if we agree that we do not want to be divorced from Christ for our unfaithfulness then we aught not divorce our spouse for any reason since God has made us one with our lawful spouse.
@@sbryan060 thank you for that it's makes perfect sense I've been trying to piece the puzzle together but how would also explain what Paul says in 1 Corinth. 7? About the non believer abandoning their spouse.
Genuine question, where does Jeff get the part where he speaks that failure to provide shelter, food, clothing and love was grounds for divorce in the OT? I haven't been able to find it so far. Thanks for any help
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
1 Timothy 5:8 ESV don’t know about OT but the New Testament makes it clear
I don't know, but in the New testament it says if any husband our father would not provide for his household he is WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL AND HAD DENIED THE FAITH!
Exodus 21:10-11 is what you’re looking for
Please pray for me, I am in the same spot I was years ago. I got complacent and foolish, and fell away from my responsibilities. Please, lift me up in prayer, and pray for my wife and our children.
I pray that you study this out in the Greek text and the difference between sending away (separation) and giving a certificate of divorce. They are 2 separate actions and both are required. Yeshua said that if you send a woman away (without the certificate of divorce) you cause her to commit adultery. It’s a mistranslation. Just as it is today if you marry a person that is only separated you are committing adultery. There was no change in Gods perfect law
Wow… thank you Jeff for your faithfulness to His Word. I thank God for what He has deposited in you. I have so much ignorance in my heart and I want to know truth eternal and practical. Glory to the Lord Jesus!
i Love the Lord and want to follow his law, but let me ask you what do you do when the wife of your youth has put you aside because she doesn,t want you anymore? Am i suppose to stay single for the rest of my life? I wasn,t happy with our life situation so i came up with a plan to change how i lived and the pace of my life. I offered her this and she rejected me and my plan. I could not stay living the way i was and had to change.
What is the only unforgivable sin my brother?
www.gotquestions.org/remarriage-adultery.html
No ! you can remarry! Seek the Lord and you will be fine!
Grace Marie I am born again believer and you are scaring people into thinking they are going to hell for divorcing and remarrying for any other reason than sexual sin! Of course a a couple should try to save their marriage but that is not always possible and the Lord knows this!
There is only ONE unforgivable sin!
www.gotquestions.org/unpardonable-sin.html
Stop being so legalistic.
www.todayschristianwoman.com/articles/2007/may/is-my-remarriage-sin.html?gclid=Cj0KCQiA_4jgBRDhARIsADezXcgVsjJubuMx71Mw0hqpgi9ezKmmojPSKT6NZLTQECFC_hIeL0Vxb1YaAonhEALw_wcB
HATE - REJECT, CAN'T TOLERATE, DO NOT BEAR, TO THE DETRIMENT OF
LOVE - TO PREFER (ABSOLUTELY)
no one is.....stuck......1 Corinthian 7.10-11 addresses this...10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
There are verses in the bible that say you can get a divorce. The verse that says you are free does not mean you are free to marry again. There is not one verse that says you may marry again when your spouse is still alive. There are many verses that say it is adultery. No matter how or why you divorced, people are not free to marry again until that x spouse is dead. You are wrong Jeff.
Yes you are right
@@MMAGUY13 I wish more people knew this they would try harder to fix their marriages and understand they will not go to heaven if they marry again while their spouse is still alive
FACT👍
@@mlaurent8905 No one said you had to stay with him. If you choose to get a divorce you simply cannot be with another man until he dies. You can be single and celibate
@@mlaurent8905 You will have to research this yourself if you care what the Bible says. Unfortunately the Bible also says if you marry agian when your first husband is still alive it is adultery. It is very plain in many verses throughout the Bible. God would not contradict His Word. God expects us to ask Him who we should marry since He is the best match maker. Did you choose who God told you, you should marry? If not, you have no one to blame but yourself. People get themselves in all kinds of trouble when they do things against God's will for their lives, but it doesn't change His rules. The list of people who will not make it into heaven include adulterers. God made Eve for Adam--He was the original match maker. And they never divorced...so, I am not super sure why you brought them up as an example of anything to support your point. It makes no sense whatsoever. You must have thought your marriage vows were what? a joke? When you said til death due us part, what do you think that meant exactly? Til either of you get tired of being married and want a new spouse? No.
"'So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.' They said to him, 'Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?' He said to them, 'Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.'” (Matthew 19:6-9)
So actually, it is true that you are not allowed to divorce except for adultery. So yes, Jesus did not abolish the Law but He did fulfill the Law in this regard by establishing the true purpose of marriage, indicating that the Law only permitted divorce due to the hardness of the people. I am disappointed with where this sermon went very early. Completely unexpected from this Pastor who I usually admire for his excellent Biblical consistency and exegesis. An astonishing error for something Jesus resolved in an attempt to trap Him regarding this very issue.
Thir7ySev3n
So your telling me my mother was right to not get divorced from my abusing father? She put me and all my siblings through so much because she wouldn't divorce him since he didn't cheat on her? He just would beat her and abuse her daily yet that's not good enough ....
And how powerful of a message for forgiveness than the fact that if one separates from their spouse because of adultery, one can still not remarry. It’s so amazing. 🙏
kayla cheney she can leave him, just can’t get remarried unless he dies.
I don't think she was, no. I'm sorry you all had to go through that. Bless you friend :(
9:27 Affirms grounds for divorce and remarriage based off of non-conforming standards (abuse)
26:10 Jeff hypocritically chastises pharisees but does what they do. Blows trumpets so everyone will see
38:33 Back handed slap which is what Jeff does to Jesus word
45:45 Asks about divorce
46:40 Jeff quotes "what god has joined together let not man separate"
47:00 From the beginning it was not so, and whoever divorces his wife, commits adultery
51:25 To the UNMARRIED and the WIDOWED
53:40 REMAIN UNMARRIED
55:50 "Set free from divorce" (Says its not adultery)
57:28 God hates divorce Malachi 2:16 Never gave permission
58:00 Jeff creates new standards for divorce and remarriage
59:02: Says that if a man cant provide, is poor, Says divorce and remarriage is OK
1:00:30 Jeff Qualifies again divorce and remarriage because he is afraid that what he say will be used as justification.
"Cites Bon-sons thesis as opposed to the scripture LUKE 16:18
1:02:11 Jer 3:8 claims God divorced ???? Yet somehow remains faithful and brought forth christ ???!??!?!?!?!?!?!?!
1:02:40 Now says adultery isn't grounds for divorce says forgive and reconcile ?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
1:05:14 Now claims that you are still married and need reconciliation, then claims in the same breath that if they are "abused" they are not "married" again .............
1:06:00 Jeff then says that under biblical grounds you can "remarry" (Cites NO scripture)
MARRIAGE IS FOR LIFE --- NO DIVORCE ALLOWED
Luke 16:18, Mark 10:2, Ro 7:2, 1 Cor 7:28, all of Old Testament
1 Corinthians 7:15
Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
I would also point to the fact that if you do want to argue that with God he should remind you there is one unforgivable sin
@@FullAutoApolotics A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
ITS FOR LIFE REPENT
Ernie Ray let go of one doesn’t mean you can get another spouse...
@@LOT116 I haven't. But it does say you don't have to chase them down if they are in sin.
If you are in that circumstance and everyone against remarrying here followed the law they are quoting, I need you to help me stone my ex this afternoon if you have time?
You're not listening to God's revelation bc He hates Divorce and there's no excuse for it. "Wht God has put together let NO MAN set usunder". Divorce is a lifestyle of adultery and you will be condemned for it! 🔥💯📖👊
Yes there is, actually, because God himself says it: ADULTERY.
Brother Jeff i love, God bless you
I always hear that same screaming baby in the backgound :P awesome sermon! Glory!
Oh man, bless you brother, i love your sermons. I cant remember ever uncontrollably laughing while watching a service before.
"Because she wasnt pretty anymore." I can only imagine the Lord sitting there in the "meme Picard posture" when he saw that...
Thanks, Jeff. These words are fitting and my heart rejoices when the Word is divided rightly... like apples of gold.
Why does The NT clearly say the Law is "obsolete "? The Law was given as a school master to lead us to Messiah. My take is we are now under the Law of Christ.
Does anyone know the OT verses Jeff is referring to about food, shelter, love etc?
None, false teaching, no reference, made up story, using several passages put together
So, when i first came across the Teachings of Headship, i was Discipling someone.. i leaned towards my having my Wife and Daughter's sins laid on me (not in †he same measure as CHRIST, The HEAD; my HEAD/†he Head's HEAD) but, Scripture Does Lay Out that Role, rather repeatedly.. how is it that a Wife's Sins will Not affect Her Head/Husband any more than the Husband's will affect His Body/Wife?
Sooo. divorce IS a sin. Right? I'm just looking for a yes or no answer.
Also read 1st Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
AND IT'S NOT ALWAYS THE MAN WHO IS AT FAULT.
LOOK HOW EVE WAS THE ONE DECEIVED THAT RUIN THE WHOLE HUMAN RACE.
GENESIS 3:13
dude you give so many reasons that are simply not in the bible for divorce. Its sad. sola scriptura brother
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Wow He gave you bible verses and you threw them away. Solo scriptora my friend
His scriptures are based on going back to the mosaic law which also allowed polygamy. Does Jeff also support polygamy?
Jesus was confronted with the Deuteronomy 24:1-4 divorce law by the Pharisees. Jesus said Moses added that precept for the hardness of their hearts. Jesus then took the standard for divorce all the way back to what God set up in the garden of Eden.
Why Jeff takes the Pharisee’s side and reinstates Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is beyond me.
Even in the Old Testament God told them that precept wasn’t from him.
Jeremiah 3:1
They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the Lord.
God said the author of Deuteronomy 24:1-4 was “they” and contrasted that with his heart on the matter and it was completely opposite.
Again, why Jeff wants to reinstate a precept Jesus said Moses added because of hard hearted people and God already repudiated hundreds of years earlier through Jeremiah, it’s really beyond me.
You have a couples TH-cam account LMAO
@@IsaacSteele so are you saying The New Testament allows Divorce ?
A world full of reprobate Minds......
Thank God for these preachers
Since approx 70% of divorces currently are issued by women, please address what us faithful ex husbands who did not want divorce should do according to scripture. Seems backwards to constantly refer to the men regarding instigating a divorce nowadays since it's primarily women.
Read the whole chapter of 1 Corinthians 7. That will help give you an understanding of situations that may be out of a persons control.
What if u got divorce before u got saved to an unbeliever who worships another God?
Bri Alvarez I was wondering that
Pray and ask God to change his heart. If he doesn't you can separate.
Gentlemen, I really enjoyed the sermons from UK thank you so much
Sound exegesis and pastoral application. Thank you!
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
God hates divorce.....and is angry with sinners, everyday....
Marriage is a complex thing and personal think depending on people's situations.
only God can know the true foundation of that marriage and who stay married and who doesn't. We have to understand salvation is a personal thing and personal journey, marriage is the same thing that is why we have to leave it to God and allow God to guide us personally because remember some.stay and die I don't think it is God's will either so pray and be guided by the Holy Spirit and He shall guide u to stay , to let it go and be restored in one way or another but divorce isn't the end of salvation or anyone's destiny God is able to forgive and restore anyone as any other sins or failures in our lives ..But teaching about it it is good at least those who goes into it know what is about and those who divorced understand his grace too..God Is love and He is able to redeem all of us as long as we repent and follow his leading. Shalom be blessed
Who shall we follow, Moses? or Jesus? Of coarse we follow Jesus. Moses himself said Jesus would come and to hear him in all things. Jesus taught that to divorce and then to marry again is wrong except for fornication. And that don't mean 25 years later, that means when they first came together. Paul says the law, that same law Jesus said he didn't come to destroy, the law of God, bounds them together so long as they both shall live. If you think it's ok to divorce, then let me ask you where is the love in divorce? Where is the Charity (Charity seeketh not her own!) in divorce? Is not divorce what I want? Me I what I feel? But yet we are not our own, we are bought with a price! I feel, if you cannot agree with Jesus, He is not your Lord.
Sam. i sometimes i think it might not be God will for me to remarry. i have already messed up for the rest of my life.
Great exposition starting out but I was stumped when Jeff got into the two camps stating Jesus was taking the side of shammai. I dont see or believe that at all. I dont see that He was suckered to take any side like they wanted Him to. But rather He flanked and exposed them with the truth. Jesus didnt lend himself to nor practice the foolishness and qaurreling attitudes of the religious. He always cut right through them. Its really suprising to me when learned men such as Jeff (he regularly references the Greek) do not seem to be aware of the fact that "apoluo" ("put away" in the stated passages; and occuring 170 times in the NT) and "apostasion" (bill of divorcment; occuring 3 times in NT) are two diff terms (they are not synonymous). The heading in your bible may read "divorce" but the stated passages have nothing to do with divorce but rather the wicked "putting away". To say that this (blantant) translation error has perpetuated great confusion and harm for so many is an understatement.
Dont take any preachers word for it; and certainly not mine, (on this subject or any) but you must study the word for yourself.
the word of God says that if the unbelieving spouse wants to leave "let him leave".
we do not have to fight for it. we can let them go. read that scripture fully.
if you insist the believer go and "fight" for that marriage, it is contrary to the revealed truth.
i disagree with you in that context.
good point....
WOW i just listened to all of this. We cannot divorce only in adultery not being beaten, not being provided for. God made prison put your husband in prison dont divorce him. Please stay in the marriageeee love him or her and forgive them. Love themmmm let JESUS HAVE GLORYYYYYY. Me and my husband did adultery and God saved our marriage.
Well, out of the few sermons I've heard him preach on this was very, very disappointing, you were right for most of it until you thre in the scenario of , verbal,physical and sexual abuse as cause for both divorce and remarriage. Under that scenario, those earlier described problems are no different from being cussed out, physically attacked, and many other various and sundry things that are done by the wicked every day! We as Christians are told to " But I say unto you, that ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also ." Matthew 5:39 KJV of which you lightly touched on earlier, well , for the sake of continuity and or consistency, stay steady and straight ahead when teaching God's word, the same God that had authorized and ordained that union ,is the same God that had made provision for the aggrieved spouse in that circumstance. If we are trust Him, then let us all really Trust Him, in everything! In Jesus Name Amen .
One of the few things I have ever heard you talk about I disagree with brother
I have been preaching about divorce, broken families, for 25 years. if the Christian is a part of the choir they are with me, 999 out of 1,000 just don't care, hate me, think this sin is popular (divorce) and move on. Being someone abused by my father, we suffered that abuse, been abused by my wife who sexually abused my son. Only adultery is acceptable in this era of grace. We, the church, are supposed to intervene in abuse, trouble, etc. When there were people just, only, refusing to work, spreading gossip, hateful words, the correction was that they did not get to eat. How much more to protect the abused children, spouse, work to save marriage and honor it in all thing, correct the abuser, get the whole story --- The last great generation hated divorce, their good fruits spoke of them, this generations fruits of marital divorce leading to devastation and apostasy - spirtual divorce has brouht in my opinion suffering like the world has never seen -- a few of us are preaching repentance to this apostate and wicked church and country
My mother was cheated on many times when my dad in homosexuality did so in the 80s. She would not give uo until he moved out. My wife tried to kill my boy when he was a baby, abused him emotionally, neglected him. I called on the church for help, got none. Only when she sexually molested him was it done for me.
The Word of God is truth and all men liars.
It is the Body of Christ's duty to help, take in the abused family, rebuke and protect them from the abuser. If they will not stop, treat them as publicans 0- and how do we do that? Copy Jesus, Paul. Pray for them but without access to the church, witness to them, preach repentance,
The last faithful generation hated divorce like few 'Christians' do today and fought tooth and nail to keep marriages together. it was as it should be: shameful and horrid to behold the destruction of a family. And if you read any studies on divorce you will not find that the WWII generation was so in bondage and so much abuse was put up with. The COnrary, when marriage was sacred there was not as mich. Since 1952 and the free for all marraige laws, many studies have shown all manor of any ill you can name: mental, social, political, crime, et al have exponentially gone up: spouse abuse up %2,600, teen suicide up %150.
Having been abused and seen my son abused I know my God and His Word is right. The church and society simply neglects the ones who need their help in these situations - not a permission to undo what God put together.
Having been through my parents divorce and my wife's abuse - I know though most every day i wanted to leave and get me and my son away, I did the right thing protecting him and obeying the literal word of God on the subject in the whole counsel of God. Abuse is not good, in any part of marrige, not an excuse for divorce, and definately not an excuse for the church not to do its job as it did with the people who gossipped and were then not allowed to eat.
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Pastor Jeff, I admire your apologetic approach, and am currently in a nasty storm (separates, divorcing) and am standing on God’s heart, promises, and Word; but it has not been easy and I’ve had failures. I am under constant spiritual attack because of this, as well as I have started a men’s ministry for men who stand for their marriages.
Brother, I’d love a chance to have some dialogue with you.
Joseph Hogan my son is going through the similar situation. His wife kicked him to the curb with nothing to his name. She was having a work affair. She threatened him so he gave her full custody of his two boys. Now a year and a half later she’s made a mess of her life, is self medicating all the time. He is working for his church and is a loving dad. He’s trying to get custody of them now that he is stable but she’s wickedly fighting him. But he grows stronger in Christ each week, i I’m So thankful that he never turned away from God through it all. Know your fellow believers are praying for you!
Bro, Jeff most likely wont answer you bro. You got to go to his church otheerwise I really think there is to many comments to answer.
@@christinepastrama1275thats still his wife.
I like to listen to this pastor , this time was playing things I was okay listening to , to maybe help me go bk to sleep , feel asleep to this sermon , not a good sermon to fall asleep to, was getting a talking to in my sleep. Choice wisely when you are having trouble sleeping , but choice wisely what you might hear when sleeping and the voice tone 😂
I would truly like to know what Bible you are quoting from? I read the King James Version , however I think that the sermon was sound, and very understandable, however I never understood why it specifies women in certain situations, in other words does the same act that it speaks on as far as the woman apply to the man?
+Gabriel green that's what i gathered from those verses as well, however I am still unsure of the Lord accepting a marriage where a husband commits adultery & is divorced from his wife although he tried to reconcile she was not willing, is he free to marry again to a believer if he has a change of heart & is saved, since she isn't willing & is being married to another? or is he to stay single although he tried to reconcile after his wrong doing?
+Kay Stewart yes
Jane Doe
It pertains to both men and women
Bible clearly hates women. It's quite obvious when not sugar coated.
jesus came to set women free why does people not work at marriage instead of changing like a new car
jeff durbin. I love your videos but you really need to listen to Voddie Baucham's "the permanence view." Matthew is the only book that has an "exception clause." So with all the other commandments he says "you have heard it said that ... but i say ..." but when he gets to divorce Jesus says you got it right..? And people said it would be better not to marry (matthew 19) Why would they come to this conclusion if Jesus said divorce was just fine? The relationship between Christ and the church is represented between husband and wife. This is reason alone to renounce the idea of divorce.
Agree - I am blown away by Jeff's powerful and genuine preaching and deep theological grasps, but there is simply no 'okay' for divorce.
My wife and I were married in 2005, and then on the 3rd of August, 2013, I received an email from her saying 'life's too short.......etc' and she left.
I spend each and every day - literally EVERY DAY - ring on my finger, praying desperately that not only will the Lord lay it on her heart to return but that true believers will be involved each day in her life to lead her back and to humble herself and have a soft heart and get back together for God's glory.
I miss and love her.
There's nothing she could do or say that would make me desire not to welcome her back.
God HATES divorce and has never ever said it's 'okay'.
There's nothing I can say or do as a disciple of Jesus that would 'allow' divorce...
Please pray for Jeff to have God's true and solid cornerstone of truth in this matter.
Please pray also for my wife's heart to be reached by God and by other disciples to return and serve Him together.
God bless.
J
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What if a man falls in love with someone else and leaves the marriage?
Adese Leqy Ecoma Adultery. Still not okay.
@@jeremycbarnhart2305 But he expects you to repent and get back to work, praising and doing the work. He said through Paul, if they walk, and are not Christians, let them go. You may not be clear to remarry, and I admire your tenacity, but do NOT ruin your life. Grace and Grace alone bud, I had to learn that the hard way, same as you. But forgiveness and separated from sin as far as the East from the West. Move on bro, anything you hold onto thinking it's that heavy is re-crucifying Christ or negating His power over sin.
@@adeseleqyecoma8681 Adultery, living in it non repentant, that's hell. As that would fall right into 1 Corinthians 6:9-10:
There is a fundamental problem with this idea of divorce and remarriage, and the problem is this. Marriage is a picture of Christ's marriage to His Church. Now every picture is an imperfect representation of the actuality, but Christ as the bridegroom is always ready to receive back His wife, as there is an unbreakable bond between Christ and His bride, the elect church. How can Christ go back to His bride if she's already remarried and the wife of another man? We read in Ephesians 5:31-32:
"For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church."
If the husband and wife are one flesh, then the idea is that you can't break "one flesh", and neither can you break the union of Christ with His elect church.
The second problem is that the Old Testament Scriptures never permitted a wife to divorce her husband, but only a husband to divorce his wife. The permissible reasons for divorce are one: sexual immorality... not abandonment, not cruelty, not a failure to provide. There is one reason given... sexual immorality (Deuteronomy 24:1.)
Thirdly, if we are going to demand consistency, then we would expect to see a precept about remarriage in the Old Testament, Gospels and the New Testament (1 Corinthians 7 does not speak of remarriage), but there is nothing there about remarriage of either the "innocent" party or the guilty one.
The speaker seems to suggest that the House of Hillel was the overwhelming view of Jewish society, but if that was the case, then why would the Pharisees even be asking Jesus about the controversy. Hillel had been deceased for a couple of decades when Jesus began Hi public ministry and Shammai only died in 30AD. Shammai had been the head of the Sanhedrin, and his views were only firmly rejected AFTER 70 AD with the Jewish revolt. So when Jesus is asked about the controversy, He is being asked about a real controversy where both sides had significant support in Jewish religious society.
But what is Christ's response? He speaks of marriage as an unbreakable union which man cannot break. We read in Matthew 19:6 "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." So if Jesus says "let NOT man put asunder", then why is the speaker here telling us that a spouse can divorce for a whole list of reasons? That's not the teaching of Christ here.
In fact, what Christ is teaching is a rejection of both the schools of Hillel and Shammai which both permitted divorce (for various and differing reasons) and remarriage. While God certainly permitted men to divorce their wives for adultery "because of the hardness of their hearts", this still does not dissolve the marriage union. That is why Christ's teaching is that it is not only adultery to divorce your wives for unbiblical reasons, but "whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery" (Matthew 19:9.)
Note the response of the Apostles who are astounded by Christ's teaching. Now why would they be astounded if Jesus was simply teaching one of the two prevailing and popular views of His day? They were astounded and said "If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry" because they rightly understood that His teaching was far stricter than either school of contemporary thought, and so strict that they questioned whether a man should even consider marriage if he could not remarrry when his wife failed him in some way.
Paul in 1 Corinthians tells the believing spouse to be at peace if the unbeliever departs, but never tells them that they are free to remarry. To suggest otherwise is a gross misunderstanding of the text. Paul in Romans 7 says very clearly:
1Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Paul's teaching is the same as that of the Mosaic law, and of Christ, namely that a woman is bound to her husband until the death of either party. If she remarries while her husband is still alive (without any Pauline reservations here), then she is committing adultery. 1 Corinthians 7 is not teaching a new doctrine on remarriage, but simply saying that if an unbeliever refuses to honour the covenant of marriage and leaves their believing spouse, then it is not the fault of the believer. It is not teaching that they can simply "move on with their life" and remarry the next man they meet in church.
This speaker's position while representing a more "conservative" side of evangelicalism is simply not Biblical and it's obvious why. It not only permits remarriage of the innocent party, but permits remarriage of the guilty party as well. Take this example:
So a 50 year old husband commits adultery with his 20 year old assistant and his 50 year old believing wife divorces him. The husband remarries his assistant and then goes back to his ex-wife's church with his new 20 year old wife. The pastor asks if he has repented and the man says "yes pastor, what I did was wrong, but now I'm remarried." The pastor accepts that and the 50 year old and his 20 year old model wife sit are admitted as members and sit down in the same pew next Sunday with his 50 year old believing "ex-wife." How is that showing any respect to the covenant of marriage, or showing a fallen world that marriage is a "one flesh" union that man is not to put asunder?
i could Not agree with you more.
💯 correct. He is scared of losing church members most of these false people teach wrong on scripture.
I was married before, my ex left me, I tried EVERYTHING that I could to keep her, but at the end she went to the loo at church and I never saw her again. The divorce papers came through on my birthday.. My question is, am I free of this or am I an adulterer?
You have to remain separated! Unless shes dead you are bound.
That is not true....
You're not held liable for another's sin.
You are not bound to a covenant if the other partner leaves the covenant....
God doesn't hold the dumped party guilty, he holds the dumper....
You pray, seek the lord earnestly, practice faithfully forgiveness & when they come to mind - bless them. Pray the lord will open their eyes,hearts to His word/His will....
I speak, "health , happiness, & prosperity, lord draw her back to you. Holy Spirit bring conviction & help her repent & truly seek you lord."
Lord, I pray for reconciliation, your will, your desire & godly purpose for both of us.... ps138:8 "the lord will fulfill his purpose for me. Lord, your love is eternal;do not abandon the work of your hands."
Painful, very difficult Painful walk when one you love & are in covenant with , leaves you....
Be aware of rejection, speak against the hardening of you heart, purpose yourself not to allow the enemy to distract or deceive you with "new" relationships....
Call out for utmost Guidance from the Holy Spirit......
Been dealing with this almost 3yrs, since the wife went the way of the world & stopped living with an enduring faith....
Col 1:23
Stay true to your oath
@@ParticularBaptist I did, I am now remarried, have been for 15 years.
God remains faithful to his covenant even when isreal was unfaithful and left him.
My question is: HOW WE KNOW THAT GOD united that couple?
I’m
Positive GOD did NOT WANT marriage between us. I thought since the spiritual umbilical cord never got cut, then leaving would prevent cleaving. One day God spoke to me - another subject- ...
And He said,“Go to your husband now… “
So, Nevermind what i think. God accepted him as my husband therefore I think its the consumation of the marriage. And God gives free will - right or wrong. What do you think about thar?
@@mamajinimurphy5640 - I thank you for your answer. But I think that, first, if the marriage is something that The Creator arranged, I mean, this specific man to that specific woman, is one thing.
BUT, I think that when we read "GOD united", maybe that's just for those are REBORN, REGENERATED (man and woman) and they got this direction from The Creator.
And when we get the direction from The Almighty, we know it.
it is taken that all marriages are valid, regardless of what belief system or what motive...
@@philipbuckley759 So, for you it's like, "no matter what job I have, If it is killing, robbering, etc., it doesn't matter. The point is, to work. And if I'm working, it's good", right?
See, I say this because many agreements on paper are not agreements at all.
Not to mention the so-called "marriages" that were purchases of child girls to be sex slaves, prostitutes, serving as messengers for traffickers, or end up as sources of organs for organ trafficking.
In addition to these cases, there are "marriages" for convenience, for having nothing else to do, for egocentrism and interest in being happy, but NEVER making the other person happy.
Therefore, to understand that every marriage started from the only legitimate principle for this - to have the conviction that my goal is to make my spouse the happiest person in the world at all times - is to have my head buried in the ground, ignoring everything that is called "marriage" and it was never that.
I hope you understand that I am not trying to educate you, not to "sound" arrogant falling you what is right or what's not.
But marriage is way more than to live on the same address having some time for sex and sharing bills.
Can't agree with this interpretation. Only for adultery or in the case of an unbeliever who leaves. This saddens me :( signs of the times I guess.
1 Corinthians 7:15
Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
And what was that pesky unforgivable sin again?
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I've been blessed by this sermon. Question: Let's say a spouse does forgive their spouse who committed adultery, but the law of the land is that adulterers should be put to death. Would the ruling authorities be acting unjustly if they did so (because the offended party forgave them)? Would similar principles apply to rape and murder? I'm a budding theonomist, so just trying to think through these things.
If you are married to someone who has a former spouse that is alive you are committing adultery.Romans 7:2.Adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God.1Cor 6:9.Don't be deceived!!Don't get yourself in this situation! If you are in it get out!Half this congregation likely falls into this category ,in this wicked and adulterous generation and is now comforted in their sin.Beware of slick teachers like this wolf in sheep's clothing doing this video.Stick with the Bible as if your life depends on it because it does!
Omy gosh!! Some of these comments! People, Listen to the word of God, hear it, then do it!! Thank you pastor for this sound word!! Very theological & right! Loved it!!
If your husband is abusive to you and/or your children can you divorce him or is it still a sin?
kat Just for today there is an excellent book on this called “Not under bondage.” Jeff Crippen, a reformed pastor in Oregon, speaks a great deal on this. He also wrote about it in a book called “unholy charade, unmasking the domestic abusers in our church. Short answer yes. But highly recommend reading the book, it is not a “liberal” interpretation of scripture, it is very faithful to the word of God and makes a strong case for divorce in the case of abuse
Yes!!!!! Leave!!!! Stay safe and get out!
so sad to hear this, as you are wrong...how was it in the beginning?
So sad to hear what Jesus said? Are you kidding me?
And what else did Jesus say?
I think Jeff makes a mistake here, and it is this. He is still rooting Jesus' teaching on divorce and remarriage in the Law of Moses. I believe Jesus actually takes his view on marriage from a previous point in the Old Testament, namely the Garden of Eden, God's covenant with Adam and Eve. This is really clear in Jesus' explanations. Paul does a similar thing when he deals with Male and female relationships. See 1Corinthians 11:8-9 1Timothy 2:13-14. So the key passages for Christians are Genesis 2 and 3 rather than Deuteronomy.
Despite this, I still really like Jeff and appreciate his ministry. I hate some of the judgemental comments on here.
Blessings.
What’s the bottom line I can’t watch the whole video remarries is a on Going sin what does the pastor say?
it is your call, but it seems to ongoing.....
Jeff....you're a champion.
This is simple. Divorce is not sin, unless someone does it wrong (such as if a spouse burns food). Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is the answer. Divorce is unfortunate. It is sin if the divorced spouse remarries the spouse they already divorced. That is an abomination. Divorce because of hardness of heart is unfortunate, but not sin. Yeshua perfectly explains this if you know the Torah. No one adds or subtracts from it and Yeshua said all of it stands. He was asked this because the Pharisaic law (Talmud) says you can have premeditated remarriage. That is adultery because a man deliberately divorces his wide because he finds an attractive woman and marries her and then divorces and remarry so he avoids adultery. Obviously that is adultery because he thought about it, and remarrying the same person is detestable.
Thank you so much for breaking it down like this. Its all Biblically very clear.
thank you very much. I needed these words. so glad I found you and ur way of teaching
For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him. 3 So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man. Romans 7:2-3
Does Apologia have multiple stages that Jeff preaches from? or is he preaching a difference churches?
Jeff Durban - MY Question is!! WRT : "What God has joined together , let no man put usunder." Yet we go around Rubber stamping Gods name on relationships. Jeff, it sounds like You claim that ANY relationship leading to marriage is ordained by God. What- did Satan go to sleep? Is there somewhere in the Bible that says setting up relationships is off limits to Satan ? Not enough space here, there's a LOT more to my story. But i thought i had chosen well.
Jim Befit was Jeff too liberal for you LMFAO
Proverbs 28:9
Gosh reading these comments 😮
I’m to stay in an abusive marriage? He is not a believer and left this year after 23 years- our children have suffered greatly by his hands and with verbal/mental abuse- I was abused by him in all forms. Thank you Lord he walked out. But I’m still to be bound by him? Can’t seek divorce? And if I find a true man of God in 5/10 yrs I’m condemned?
Ok forgive my ignorance. I was married before I was a Christian, I was the guilty one in sin. We divorced. Can I get remarried now as a repentant believer?
So does this mean since I fell away from the lord for 4 years and divorced (unbiblically) and remarried and have since then been brought back into the fold (praise God) .. that I’m condemned ?
Romans 8
If you can reconcile after adultery with no trust issues I would die of shock. Too many pastors talk about divorce and haven’t lived through it.
I got divorced due to an abusive and controlling husband. I put up with it for 21 years. Does Got want people to stay in abusive relationships?
Without hearing both sides, who can wisely advise. You could be the liar
Where’s part 2...???
phil mathew have you checked your heart?
Got a hard question, the bible says that we should live in peace. Should that in response to their Christian faith in comparison to their non-Christian faith or absolutely?
If absolutely, then, do they have to "live in peace" with an abusive spouse?
If divorce is only permissible via sexual immorality then your have to stay, right?
The Pharisees also mentions that; because of this hard teaching and divorce certificate revocation, you should not therefore even be married.
Jesus affirms them by saying, "very few can accept this teaching".
So, if you're the victim of adultery... I dunno honestly for the victims.
1 Corinthians 7 affirms that too but doesn't suggests remarriage.
It suggests that it's a tough teaching but also that... marriage is VERY IMPORTANT AND SHOULDN'T BE TAKEN LIGHTLY.
1 Corinthians 7 also suggests that it (marriage) is helpful for avoiding against sexual desires.
Lastly, these people are Christians.
Christians who should abstain from sexual immorality and not link with an harlot/prostitute and thus become one with her.
"Marriage is the two shall become flesh. What God has brought together, let no man separate."
Ultimately, let marriage be carefully examined and commit yourself in Christ. They have their own purpose and responsibility but, don't let marriage blind you to lead you away from Christ. Dont let yourself get in the way either; via sin or the deeds of the flesh.
They're ministry too.
Man ministers to Woman and makes her more holy. They continually sync and leave for each other and prayer.
Man gives his life for his woman/wife/sister in Christ. Man gives his own life for Woman/Sister in Christ/Wife.
He was doing well until he started making up circumstances for divorce that the law of God does not state. He literally just invented circumstances for divorce at the end. SMH.
Timothy Titus Daugett I agree with you. I like Jeff durbin but he NVR spoke bout 1 Corinthians 7:10-11
So sad huh...
1 Corinthians 7:15
Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
@@FullAutoApolotics shut up dude...you don't know what you're talking about. You're taking scripture way out of context. Really shut up. You're bringing a worse judgement on yourself. Smh.
Excatly. He gives his own laws adding to scripture
Another actor holding court with his theatre, mis-teaching God’s perfect word. Even if you separate, for any reason, the Bible does NOT allow a remarriage (until your spouse dies, when you are no longer 1 flesh). The “adultery exception clause” is this: you can’t make an adulterer an adulterer, if they’re already an adulterer (eg. “Except for adultery”) IT’s NOT saying you can go remarry if your spouse committed adultery. That’s such a common mis-teaching.
Just another slick tongued guy collecting his paycheck from a naive flock. Run, don’t walk from this guy.
Excatly another man misleading his flock to sin.
Apparently the only thing that isn't a sin is giving money to a preacher other than that I think you're just pretty much sinnin'
Divorce is a sin and God hates divorce and anyone who encourages anyone to divorce is a false prophet and is going to hell. there is no right way to divorce. divorce is a sin period and there is no way round it.
There is one thing I think Jeff seems not too differentiate: one thing is a permission to divorce, the other is the permission to remarry. After analyzing all the texts it seems obvious to me that remarrying is only permissible in case of adultery just like Jesus said to those testing Him. In other cases when divorced people engage in relationships with another man or woman there is adultery. ALso Paul writes about divorce but not about remarrying in case of abandonment by unbelieving spouse, vide I. Kor. 7.11.
Are we able to get the thesis/handout you gave to your church to read for ourselves as well?
+Danny Chains www.reformedsingles.com/theses-divorce-and-spousal-abuse-dr-greg-bahnsen
+Trilene Carson wow awesome. Thank you very much!
how many times does one have to say....abuse is not a Biblical reason for divorce and remarriage......
Excatly
the jews were separated from gentiles by sacrifice, if the "holiness laws" are trashed than there is no sacrifice for others. Jesus, looking to Lev. says there is one cause for divorce. by this Law a man only can give a certificate (in the absense of stoning i.e. hardness of civic heart) for uncleaness. God forgive you if you make 3 + reasons out of one. Consider Samson who left his wife and came to find her and her family must have went to Westminster etc. but she was his wife. Paul nowere uses the word abandonment, he does suggest that IF 1, the unbeliever (in Christ) leaves the marriage (pagan 'divorce') they should not consider themselves bound. A man should marry a believing virgin who is subject and bound until his death. any creed or convention or legal theory that claims otherwise is trash.
multiply the reasons for divorce then chide ythem to get married...you really cant make this up?!
My heart broke when I heard one of my favorite preachers and someone I tell people about and suggest to hear, speak on this subject as though he honestly seems slightly lost.
There is nothing GOD - our heavenly father - allows us to divorce for any reason anymore than He would allow Christ to divorce from His Church.
A genuine and deep study of the Word, the character of Christ, the very fact God uses very strong language in saying He HATES divorce and even that it was simply some things Moses came up with for 'a wicked generation...' etc.
Divorce is no more allowable than Christ deciding to leave His people.
no the bible says you can divorce if your partner was unfaithfull and had relations with another person
You leave pretty much of the Scripture out by stating that.
God hates divorce more than abuse? God hates divorce more than rape? God hates divorce more than adultery? Oh your god sounds like someone I’m not interested in following.
So what if another man goes into your wife? & your wife refuses to let go of this so called man? She prefers to be with him rather than you?
You can give this wife warnings, but she refuses to listen to reason
To God
Amen the LORD Bless you and yours forever.