"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there too much but at least that means I still care. Oh, you think you've won because women are expendable to you? And you may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way, but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone, Alex. I may do a lot of stupid shit, but I know I'm a lot closer to finding someone than you are." LOVE IT!
😂😂😂 that's how a woman thinks that's not how a man thinks....that's the first mistake most women make....that they assume how they think about relationships and what they want in a guy is not what a guy wants in them or how he thinks about relationships 🤦
@@mounishvishnujai5318 Yup, a guy doesn't want a relationship, he wants fifty relationships, preferably one in which he doesn't have to even talk to the woman, lol! If prostitution were legal and free through government subsidy, it would basically be impossible to find a man.
@@BoopSnoot very true ma'am but it is legal in a lot of places in the world and no, the govt won't subsidise things that are deemed as luxury.....and I'm just 23 yrs old with zero experience with women.....but i have seen everything there is to see with my very own eyes with a front row seat when it happens live.....I mean the relationship between a man and a woman... 😂😂😂
@@BoopSnoot well I live in Nevada where prostitution is legal, and there are definitely no married men here. You absolutely have a firm take on modern day relationships. Good job.
That’ last part of her speech always gets me cause she wants to breakdown completely but she is strong enough not to breakdown in front of him completely. She proves her point making Alex look like a total D Bag. Some of me wanted her to reject him at the end which was the same as he did to her. That would of been a better ending to this storyline.
I don't wish she had rejected him, but I am was bothered the way "You're my exception" was treated as a magical solution to their romantic conflicts, in much the same way as tropes like "You complete me," or "You had me at hello." I would've like to see at least evidence of a hours-long conversation that, in the wee hours of the next morning, finally led to a bit of Happier Ever After. And no, I didn't mean Happily.
@@articulatedkat u are my exception worked because it wasn't some throway line out of nowhere.. They set it up throughout the whole movie. It had weight and logic and context. Brining things full circle is good writing bro. Nitpick something else
She was going to reject him, but he had good answers to her questions... And his answers where true. Anything less and she would have flat out rejected him. He taught her well
I dont know, i went on at least 3 guys like alex when i was still single and then met and married my husband and 2 years after i married my husband all of them were still single.
@@sexykoreanchic123exactly! People keep saying you can't force things but they actually just use it as an excuse to not even try and they act like the love of their life is going to fall on their lap on their doorstep. Just like when ppl take the "it should be easy" thing as a black and white anecdote on love without actually accounting for all the nuances there are.
Alex is avoidant type and Gigi is a clinger personality. They don't realise that but in fact they are perfect for each other. Only clinger can make avoidant to open up and only avoidant can tolerate a clinger. The fact that Alex was spending so much time with Gigi 'teaching her' shows that he was subconsciously attracted to that type of girls and just needed a final push e.g. her walking away from him/giving up on him. Avoidants need love just regular attachment people but its more difficult for them to open up to show their feelings. So Gigi didn't build up fantasies in her head, she saw real interest in his eyes and interpreted it correctly :)
Err… no. Anxious and Avoidant attachment styles are both deeply rooted in insecurity (fear of rejection, abandonment and/or loss). When the Anxious feel someone pulling away, they cling more tightly and seek out ANY affection from this person (whether good or bad), whereas the Avoidant will pull away and become more distant and cold when someone gets too close (which is why these relationships are usually the most toxic - it ends up being a push/pull cycle which generally erodes the Anxious partners self esteem and self worth). Gigi and Alex’s relationship developed (bearing in mind this is a fictional couple) because they were so focused on Gigi’s failed dating attempts that the focus/pressure was not on them - they were able to get to know each other, find mutual connection and affection for one another INSTEAD OF letting their toxic behaviours (based on insecurity) get in the way. Gigi’s clinginess didn’t make Alex open up and Alex’s fear of commitment wasn’t the reason he tolerated her clinginess. Quite the opposite in fact. They ended up helping each other become more of a Secure attachment style - Alex ultimately taught Gigi her self-worth, and Gigi taught Alex that it’s okay to be vulnerable and to get hurt sometimes.
Seriously I know. I got rejected for the ex that treated him horribly. One month later they're living together and he's talking about marrying this chick. Idk if they actually got married though
There's a difference between being nice and being a doormat. Loving someone that doesn't love you back doesn't mean the guy is picking someone over you. He's just not interested in you. I see posts from men saying the same thing when women aren't interested in them. Like ooh she picked that guy that treats her bad over me but that's simply not true. Friend-zone is when people pretend friendship to be around someone they really want to date, have sex with or have a relationship with. The lie is in the supposed "friendship" as if they think if they do X,Y and Z that it will entitle them to something from the other party. That's typically not how attraction works.
0:04 _"Why do they do this, why do they build this stuff in their minds, to each little thing a guy does and twist it into something else? It's insane."_ Yeah, because men on the other hand, they never think a girl is into them when she is just being friendly, riiiight? As for Gigi, she think that everyone is looking for a relationship and those who don't and end up alone, can't win in life. Bottomline, men are just as dumb and not every single person is looking for a relationship.
I love this. This is me and my ex-husband. The whole part about being closer to finding someone than he is is how I feel. My ex is an alcoholic psychopath and at least I care enough to put myself out there and to care for other people and help other people than waste my life away making other people miserable all for a better ego. :)
Thank you so much for this video. In my humanity I have misinterpreted the actions of others. I'm working through a situation like that now. Despite my situation, I trust God to lead in the way of truth. and true love... Psalms 23. I am going to live one day at a time and work on me...I've decided that's my best bet for happiness.
I always found it odd that they ended up together, to be honest. She was difficult to watch. I remember being that desperate (but I was a TEENAGER, not a grown woman) - she needed time to be strong on her own two feet. I read the book real quick, and have watched the movie a few times, but it's hard because many of the characters are just genuine assholes.
Honestly, this is the only way to get women to respect you. I’ve been an asshole to women for decades, now. It’s to the point where I actually tell them that I treat them like shit specifically because I know it will keep them around. Now I’m dealing with 4 Gigi type girls that won’t leave me alone no matter how badly I treat them. It’s pretty messed up, but I like the way it feels to pick on them.
Guys, some of you can write the part in minute 0:51 from 0:55 pleaseee I like the Gigi's phrase but I cant underestand in english...I speak spanish ..thank u :)
+MICHELE PAIMA GÓMEZ Alex: Thanks for staying and helping me clean up. I really gotta go to bed though. Gigi: Is that an invitation? Alex: What? Gigi: Ahaha, oh girl, that was cheesy. Oh, I'm not good at this. *Alex rubs his eyes because he's tired and then Gigi jumps him and kisses him* Gigi: I knew that the best relationships grew out of friendships. Alex: Wait, wait wait, Gigi. Wait, wait, wait. What? Now, you and I are in a relationship? Gigi: Well, I'd say if we're not at the relationship station-ship, we're at least on track. Alex: And... why exactly would you think that? Gigi: Because of the signs! Alex: Really? Like, what? Gigi: Like, "it was good to hear from" me, and you talked to me even when you were with a girl, and I... felt... something? Alex: Oh, man. What are you talking about? Gigi, what have I been saying since I met you? If a guy wants to date you, he will make it happen. Okay? He will ask you out. Did I ask you out? Gigi: No... Alex: Then, why would you do this? Oh shit. Why do they do this? Why do they build up this stuff in their minds to each little thing a guy does and twist it into something else? It's insane! Gigi: I'd rather be like that, than be like you. Alex: Excuse me? What is that supposed to mean? Gigi: I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there too much but at least that means I still care. Oh, you think you've won because women are expendable to you? And you may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way, but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone, Alex. I may do a lot of stupid shit, but I know I'm a lot closer to finding someone than you are.
In fact, for you all thinking what Gigi said was something to follow... DONT. Shes just trying to defend her "NiceGirl(tm)" persona. This scene is in direct contrast to this one: th-cam.com/video/FN38gP7lAQA/w-d-xo.html (go to the 2:59 mark). Makes me want to say: "Jesus Gigi, did he break your heart, or did you to yourself?"
You know. You are absolutely right. I think I was so caught up in the...they are so perfect together, they must be together. But the fact is...he was just a friend who gave her EXCELLENT advice.She was the one looking for love and hunting for signs. He made it very clear from the beginning (maybe not nice) but realistic. a guy shouldnt be with you because of guilt.
There is a JOURNEY TO SELF ACTUALIZATION... When you start recovering worth and value and your original intended purpose in Christ... that changes you and how you see otgers.. clay on a Pottery field
I’d rather play the fool for True love them be like that man who was too scared. Because at the end of the day I have a better chance at finding true love then that man. 🙏💫✨❤️
She is so ridiculous to make a scene to him just because she misunderstood everything. You cannot blame someome for not love you or because he prefer not have a relation.
@@QuietlyCurious Are you blind? Did we watch the same clip? He dropped some wisdom without even yelling or making a scene, and Ms. Oblivious was the one who made an emotional retort that isnt based in any sense of reality
@@Jgregoire108 how is his reaction not making a scene. He was rude. How is saying: "Why would you do this? oh shit. Why do they do this? Why do they build up in their minds each little thing a guy does and then twist it into something else. It's insane' wisdom?
She was cute but way too clingy and needy which made her character seem desperate....people don't respond to desperation. You can't force a relationship to happen.
Wow! He's there for you, and now because he's honest, she is mad? I'd rather she shut up. So desperate. and disecting. never shuts up. Boo on her. wah wah wah. I need a man I make up so I don't have to b alone.. why don't men like me. arggg
"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there too much but at least that means I still care. Oh, you think you've won because women are expendable to you? And you may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way, but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone, Alex. I may do a lot of stupid shit, but I know I'm a lot closer to finding someone than you are." LOVE IT!
Except that guys don't care about love because love doesn't last they just want to get their dck wet and don't have or want romantic fantasies.
😂😂😂 that's how a woman thinks that's not how a man thinks....that's the first mistake most women make....that they assume how they think about relationships and what they want in a guy is not what a guy wants in them or how he thinks about relationships 🤦
@@mounishvishnujai5318 Yup, a guy doesn't want a relationship, he wants fifty relationships, preferably one in which he doesn't have to even talk to the woman, lol! If prostitution were legal and free through government subsidy, it would basically be impossible to find a man.
@@BoopSnoot very true ma'am but it is legal in a lot of places in the world and no, the govt won't subsidise things that are deemed as luxury.....and I'm just 23 yrs old with zero experience with women.....but i have seen everything there is to see with my very own eyes with a front row seat when it happens live.....I mean the relationship between a man and a woman... 😂😂😂
@@BoopSnoot well I live in Nevada where prostitution is legal, and there are definitely no married men here. You absolutely have a firm take on modern day relationships. Good job.
That’ last part of her speech always gets me cause she wants to breakdown completely but she is strong enough not to breakdown in front of him completely. She proves her point making Alex look like a total D Bag. Some of me wanted her to reject him at the end which was the same as he did to her. That would of been a better ending to this storyline.
I don't wish she had rejected him, but I am was bothered the way "You're my exception" was treated as a magical solution to their romantic conflicts, in much the same way as tropes like "You complete me," or "You had me at hello."
I would've like to see at least evidence of a hours-long conversation that, in the wee hours of the next morning, finally led to a bit of Happier Ever After.
And no, I didn't mean Happily.
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They were my favorite ship actually but I get what you’re saying
@@articulatedkat u are my exception worked because it wasn't some throway line out of nowhere..
They set it up throughout the whole movie.
It had weight and logic and context. Brining things full circle is good writing bro.
Nitpick something else
She was going to reject him, but he had good answers to her questions...
And his answers where true.
Anything less and she would have flat out rejected him.
He taught her well
"You have not won, you're alone Alex!"
" i may do alot of stupid shit, but i know i'm alot closer to finding someone than you are"
Jesus I have never related more to a movie scene ever! Thank you gigi! You just said everything I feel to a guy I adore who is everything like Alex
Same here!
LOVED it
This movie is a sort of hidden gem
Yeah Alex is a package! I want to find someone like him... haha
Better to be alone and have something grow organically, than it is to jump into every opportunity and over analyze until your soul is hurting
Totally Legit things can’t grow organically if you push people away tho.
I dont know, i went on at least 3 guys like alex when i was still single and then met and married my husband and 2 years after i married my husband all of them were still single.
@@sexykoreanchic123exactly! People keep saying you can't force things but they actually just use it as an excuse to not even try and they act like the love of their life is going to fall on their lap on their doorstep. Just like when ppl take the "it should be easy" thing as a black and white anecdote on love without actually accounting for all the nuances there are.
Alex is avoidant type and Gigi is a clinger personality. They don't realise that but in fact they are perfect for each other. Only clinger can make avoidant to open up and only avoidant can tolerate a clinger. The fact that Alex was spending so much time with Gigi 'teaching her' shows that he was subconsciously attracted to that type of girls and just needed a final push e.g. her walking away from him/giving up on him. Avoidants need love just regular attachment people but its more difficult for them to open up to show their feelings. So Gigi didn't build up fantasies in her head, she saw real interest in his eyes and interpreted it correctly :)
Err… no.
Anxious and Avoidant attachment styles are both deeply rooted in insecurity (fear of rejection, abandonment and/or loss). When the Anxious feel someone pulling away, they cling more tightly and seek out ANY affection from this person (whether good or bad), whereas the Avoidant will pull away and become more distant and cold when someone gets too close (which is why these relationships are usually the most toxic - it ends up being a push/pull cycle which generally erodes the Anxious partners self esteem and self worth).
Gigi and Alex’s relationship developed (bearing in mind this is a fictional couple) because they were so focused on Gigi’s failed dating attempts that the focus/pressure was not on them - they were able to get to know each other, find mutual connection and affection for one another INSTEAD OF letting their toxic behaviours (based on insecurity) get in the way.
Gigi’s clinginess didn’t make Alex open up and Alex’s fear of commitment wasn’t the reason he tolerated her clinginess. Quite the opposite in fact.
They ended up helping each other become more of a Secure attachment style - Alex ultimately taught Gigi her self-worth, and Gigi taught Alex that it’s okay to be vulnerable and to get hurt sometimes.
This is currently my dating life. Still relevant all these years later. Good movie
Sometimes we need a Gigi, other times we need an Alex
except not being so rude about it as Alex is, and not saying 'them; like that
The funny thing about guys is that they always pick the girl who treats them like shit over the one who is sweet and really loves them
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Seriously I know. I got rejected for the ex that treated him horribly. One month later they're living together and he's talking about marrying this chick. Idk if they actually got married though
There's a difference between being nice and being a doormat. Loving someone that doesn't love you back doesn't mean the guy is picking someone over you. He's just not interested in you.
I see posts from men saying the same thing when women aren't interested in them. Like ooh she picked that guy that treats her bad over me but that's simply not true.
Friend-zone is when people pretend friendship to be around someone they really want to date, have sex with or have a relationship with. The lie is in the supposed "friendship" as if they think if they do X,Y and Z that it will entitle them to something from the other party. That's typically not how attraction works.
0:04 _"Why do they do this, why do they build this stuff in their minds, to each little thing a guy does and twist it into something else? It's insane."_
Yeah, because men on the other hand, they never think a girl is into them when she is just being friendly, riiiight?
As for Gigi, she think that everyone is looking for a relationship and those who don't and end up alone, can't win in life. Bottomline, men are just as dumb and not every single person is looking for a relationship.
I love this. This is me and my ex-husband. The whole part about being closer to finding someone than he is is how I feel. My ex is an alcoholic psychopath and at least I care enough to put myself out there and to care for other people and help other people than waste my life away making other people miserable all for a better ego. :)
this movie is a total eye opener from all those rom-coms, though it is one
Thank you so much for this video.
In my humanity I have misinterpreted the actions of others. I'm working through a situation like that now. Despite my situation, I trust God to lead in the way of truth. and true love... Psalms 23. I am going to live one day at a time and work on me...I've decided that's my best bet for happiness.
I applaud you, Gigi!
Mary Margaret leave this man a go with David already
Abby Chiazzaro I love you
Yeah women go get wat you want not be with man who don't know what they want.
I love this movie
Story of my life
are you still alive
I was rooting for Gigi when she told Alex off!!!
Gigi is so me.
you will find love. you have a good heart. yes you.
No, she won't.
Too much baggage.
Unfortunately, most men like that WANT to be alone.
Alone is far better than being with Gigi.
I always found it odd that they ended up together, to be honest. She was difficult to watch. I remember being that desperate (but I was a TEENAGER, not a grown woman) - she needed time to be strong on her own two feet. I read the book real quick, and have watched the movie a few times, but it's hard because many of the characters are just genuine assholes.
Girl says this stuff: audience goes awww.
Guy says this stuff: no means no! Creeper!
men and women are never going to be taken the same.
I am opsessed with this movie👀
Thank you for uploading this!! I am Gigi!!
He’s so mean
Yep
Honestly, this is the only way to get women to respect you. I’ve been an asshole to women for decades, now. It’s to the point where I actually tell them that I treat them like shit specifically because I know it will keep them around. Now I’m dealing with 4 Gigi type girls that won’t leave me alone no matter how badly I treat them. It’s pretty messed up, but I like the way it feels to pick on them.
He has a nice apartment…
Guys who think they're expert but are actually scared to take risk.
Don't get me wrong, i enjoy the movie tho.
Alex did have a point though.
So did she
Sometimes we need an Alex. Other times we need a Gigi
@@kyleroberts8823 No she didnt
The best part
Amen.
But did the guy actually want to find someone? Was that actually something that was a priority? Is he losing an non-existent game he’s not playing?
Go play slone
Alex seems like the type of guy who wouldn't let a girl call him daddy.
Yuck why would you call someone daddy who's not your father 😭
🤣😂😅
Gigi was a cutie the kinda girl you want to marry!
Nope.
Men are like that too honestly
Guys, some of you can write the part in minute 0:51 from 0:55 pleaseee I like the Gigi's phrase but I cant underestand in english...I speak spanish ..thank u :)
write this phrase in english please!!
+MICHELE PAIMA GÓMEZ
Alex: Thanks for staying and helping me clean up. I really gotta go to bed though.
Gigi: Is that an invitation?
Alex: What?
Gigi: Ahaha, oh girl, that was cheesy. Oh, I'm not good at this.
*Alex rubs his eyes because he's tired and then Gigi jumps him and kisses him*
Gigi: I knew that the best relationships grew out of friendships.
Alex: Wait, wait wait, Gigi. Wait, wait, wait. What? Now, you and I are in a relationship?
Gigi: Well, I'd say if we're not at the relationship station-ship, we're at least on track.
Alex: And... why exactly would you think that?
Gigi: Because of the signs!
Alex: Really? Like, what?
Gigi: Like, "it was good to hear from" me, and you talked to me even when you were with a girl, and I... felt... something?
Alex: Oh, man. What are you talking about? Gigi, what have I been saying since I met you? If a guy wants to date you, he will make it happen. Okay? He will ask you out. Did I ask you out?
Gigi: No...
Alex: Then, why would you do this? Oh shit. Why do they do this? Why do they build up this stuff in their minds to each little thing a guy does and twist it into something else? It's insane!
Gigi: I'd rather be like that, than be like you.
Alex: Excuse me? What is that supposed to mean?
Gigi: I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there too much but at least that means I still care. Oh, you think you've won because women are expendable to you? And you may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way, but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone, Alex. I may do a lot of stupid shit, but I know I'm a lot closer to finding someone than you are.
+Letícia Ruschel hey leticia
thankssssss gracias :') por haber escrito toda la conversación
@@leticiaruschels this is so helpful. now i'm more hurt LOL
Wow! Nice!
I love falling in love! 😍#cepv #IMustWin
In fact, for you all thinking what Gigi said was something to follow... DONT. Shes just trying to defend her "NiceGirl(tm)" persona.
This scene is in direct contrast to this one: th-cam.com/video/FN38gP7lAQA/w-d-xo.html (go to the 2:59 mark).
Makes me want to say: "Jesus Gigi, did he break your heart, or did you to yourself?"
true but he didn't need to be so rude about it
You know. You are absolutely right. I think I was so caught up in the...they are so perfect together, they must be together. But the fact is...he was just a friend who gave her EXCELLENT advice.She was the one looking for love and hunting for signs. He made it very clear from the beginning (maybe not nice) but realistic. a guy shouldnt be with you because of guilt.
Most women feel like moving on easily is winning
To be vulnerable is to be alive
to be vulnerable is to be mentally weak
@@Jgregoire108 what are you 9? Grow up 😂
There is a JOURNEY TO SELF ACTUALIZATION... When you start recovering worth and value and your original intended purpose in Christ... that changes you and how you see otgers.. clay on a Pottery field
Bails
I’d rather play the fool for
True love them be like that man who was too scared. Because at the end of the day I have a better chance at finding true love then that man. 🙏💫✨❤️
OK But when did he say he was looking for a relationship or even wanted one ???
I agree she's a "nice girl" and he's a user and a bad friend. They should never have ended up together.
2022
Hhahahahahhahahahahah that's my type of gurl
She is so ridiculous to make a scene to him just because she misunderstood everything. You cannot blame someome for not love you or because he prefer not have a relation.
He did love her tho
He's the one who made a scene. He didn't have to scold her.
@@QuietlyCurious Are you blind? Did we watch the same clip? He dropped some wisdom without even yelling or making a scene, and Ms. Oblivious was the one who made an emotional retort that isnt based in any sense of reality
@@Jgregoire108 how is his reaction not making a scene. He was rude. How is saying: "Why would you do this? oh shit. Why do they do this? Why do they build up in their minds each little thing a guy does and then twist it into something else. It's insane' wisdom?
Why did she feel compelled to make love a competition?
HE IS BEYOND MISCAST FOR THIS PART . Can't believe this guy kissed Britney Spears, Drew Barrymore and played Lindsay Lohan's love interest.
It's called having a personality!
😂
My wife is gonna be sad like this woman
She was cute but way too clingy and needy which made her character seem desperate....people don't respond to desperation. You can't force a relationship to happen.
I'm alex
His problem is she can't compete with his ex that's tarded. She's a pilot now.
Wow! He's there for you, and now because he's honest, she is mad?
I'd rather she shut up. So desperate. and disecting. never shuts up. Boo on her. wah wah wah. I need a man I make up so I don't have to b alone.. why don't men like me. arggg
SPOILER:
I hate that these two end up together in the end
Actually, I hate this entire movie. 😂
I liked everything except that ending. Screwed up the whole point of a funny and intelligent book. YOU ARE NOT THE EXCEPTION.
You're not the only one
They both suck lol. Jk I like this movie.
She was so pathetic the whole movie
I kept saying the same thing.