“You can have 6 pack abs, 6 inch D, you can be the Sultan King.” -Casey Zander Dude makes me die from laughter when he always talks about that: “It doesn’t matter if you are 6 foot five, drive a Lamborghini, and own the Houston Mavericks” 🏀😂🙂 K? Key? K?
Casey in my opinion you should show whatever! Wherever it’s vulnerability or annoyance or something else. Think about it is it really worth keeping all that shit inside you it will make you mentally ill. Far better the girl sees what you really are than some fake ass wannabe macho guy! Even if you don’t keep her and have to go from girl to girl that’s a lot better than staying with one and feeling the need to put an act on.
Honestly I realized that I really like theater girls. I am a sensitive guy and bullied in the past fittingly for it. Now I have a lot of anger and desire to go to full out on mma. I realize now that at least for me... those girls with stunning looks are nothing compared to girls with passion who are "kinda pretty'. Thats when you realize beauty is inaide and most of these women are not even worth bothering with.
This is so true. My sister dated a guy for several years before he past away. There was many things about him that she didn't know the answers to. The storyline in their "relationship movie" continues as a mystery novel for her in her mind. Wishing she knew more about him. She is devastated by his passing, but even in death she still loves him.
It’s so hard to stay disciplined about not telling unessesary things! I believe Robert Green wrote that it’s a natural human tendency to actually share things and that we are not very good at keeping secrets, it’s a weight we want to get rid off.
You definitely need some kind of outlet. I would suggest some online male or female friend that lives far away from you and is not part of your normal social circle.
It's crazy how they are all just copy pasted. There's so little variability or individuality in them. I think dudes have a misconception about women cuz the way dudes make friends is very natural and honest, and what you see is what you get you know? So you can immediately be like yep that's my dude right here. So we try to apply the same logic to women. But they're designed to be smoke and mirrors and not have higher order brain function. Not that they aren't intelligent, they just seem to have almost no meta-cognition or moral compass whatsoever. And their personality is just a superficial amalgamation of what they've been exposed to. The more I date them (after a decade long relationship), the more I learn, the more I lose respect for them. And the more free I feel in my life as I realize they're just a pretty little aside from real life. A piece of candy (with some razor blades in it but you stop before you get to the razor blades). I still wish they were everything they were chalked up to be, but time to live in reality and not fantasy. I'm grieving the loss of the sunshine and roses conception of femininity.
@@benjaminrennicke i have seen this crap first hand. shit from my family and past...hurled at me..at our lowest arguments.... and most of what CZ describes is like a play by play as things turned sour in my last relationship.
Best analogy for this is it's like a magician who has an incredible stage show. You are the magician, and she is in awe of your magic. A magician never reveals how he does his tricks...but if he does...watch that interest and wonder of his fans and audience immediately disappear. That's what it's like for a girl when a man she is dating reveals his tricks of how he came to be . She doesnt want to know.
@ZeroBudgetDude agree completely. Another analogy I didnt put in that comment was James Bond. Almost everything Casey can pretty much be summed up by James Bond's deamenors and behaviors. Does Bond go spilling his feelings to the sultry woman he met at the hotel? No. Does he tell her about his whole past? No. Does he worry about any of her emotions? No. The list goes on.
Yup, happened to me, all of it. Scars and all. Believe what he says gentlemen. Be very vague and don’t offer too much to her. Don’t over extend your emotions and invest too much either or you will lose your frame. Your awareness of her subtle seduction will keep you alert. Read up on the betaization process and don’t let it happen to you. Sometimes you do have to get beat up to learn the hard way. But if you can avoid it, you’re ahead of the game.
Casey has mentioned this in other videos. This subtle and tangible piece of advice can be immediately implemented and is pure gold. When women ask me about how I started my business, I reply back with something along the lines of "Its a long story and not that interesting" followed by changing the subject.
I like that but I feel like if I’m too vague or a mystery constantly they’ll think I’m shady or something. It’s my natural personality to be open and honest and have good conversations after being exclusive with someone. Do I have to be an actor basically? How do you train yourself to talk less but still not fret about losing her cuz you never open up? Any advice is appreciated.
@@mohegansonyeah same here… I’m just naturally talkative and open, and I enjoy sharing things about my life. so what should I do on a date? just not talk? I want to implement this advice but I honestly don’t get it
@@Fred-zt5ky It's a mindset shift, you gotta realize no one actually cares about things you do or what goes on in your life not because they don't want to, but literally because they have never felt or experienced your life, so they can't especially when they have their own shit going on. they just ask things just to make conversation. So when you talk about yourself, keep it brief, add some flair, and change the subject to something fun. Ex: Her: "What do you do for work" Old Me: "Yeh I'm a Software Engineer for XYZ, I do this this this,etc" New Me: "I wake up every morning to a warzone, saving failing machines by writing code, I never know what's gonna come next, [Changing subject] does your job make you feel like you're in a movie sometimes?"
I don’t know men. I’ve been around some chicks who never STFU Last week I had a girl on blue tooth was having a few beers in my car. She could talk for 5-8 minutes straight without me getting a word in. I fucking just let her go, go outside to get another beer, took a piss, got back in the car opened the beer and she never knew I left 😂
8:40 Too true. Dad died when I was 18, freshly out of high school, left me completely emotionally destroyed and lost in life. He was my best friend, I was the only son. Had a full ride to the University of Michigan, now 23 about to graduate, I feel like a man amongst boys, I see grown men twice, 3 times my age and a fraction of my maturity. Keep going boys, keep pushing. It gets better. Like Uncle C said a few videos ago - nothing can replace the reps, that shit can’t be faked. Put in the work consistently and you will achieve anything your mind can conceive.
Yes, don't. As much as you want to tell personal info because she's a female, she's going to tell others about what you told her. I've heard from females I met from online chat talk about other guys she heard personal things about. Things like the guy saying he's still a virgin. Another is when he was crying on the phone about his GF. Even girls from overseas has shown me messages on what others guys has messaged her. Stuff like perverted messages.
He's the GOAT hands down! This brother knows female psychology and behavior on a Grand Master level. Everything he has ever said I have either knew to be true and have come to the same conclusion as a 44 year old.
That's so true. On one hand you need to stay like a mystery - that's why woman like surprises. And on the other hand - you can't show struggles, don't say how hard your day was. It can be told very limited, in a positive way. You always need to enjoy life, show how much fun you have. Sad story, because you really expect them to help you and they do if they are in love, but it's like a fuel and it will run off, if you will be using it constantly.
It can depend on the woman. Some are truly caring and want a best friend to settle down with. Some don’t like guys that never open up. Depends on the age, background, what you’re each looking for, etc but I agree to be as stoic as possible
@@mohegansonAll of the good women - do care and do want oppennes. Or even if they are bad but in the passionate state. But what I meant - in a long term it will do bad for you no matter how good the woman is, and Casey is describing it here. You just better know this before the relationship will go south, if you really care about that woman. And handle your openness with care. There are some instruments to "repair" relationships if they did broke. Because once again - woman are emotional and can react on your new behaivior, forgetting what was before. For example you can be separated for some time, gain "point" in her eyes, etc. Anyway, you must remain strong all the time preferably, women ain't logical creatures, you can't just explain to them something, they need to actually feel it.
Great points, as always. The Stoic philosophy teaches us never to talk about the philosophy, but to live it. Thereby showing the world what we are, not trying to convince others by talking about it. So we show her what we are and never utter a word about it.
I think you can talk about trauma and struggle but put a positive spin on it, how it’s helping you grow and how you’re grateful for it. It comes down to HOW you talk about the past. In fact, it may deepen the respect, attraction, and love you both feel for each other. Just don’t cry about it or get overly emotional when talking about it. I’ve shared traumatic things from my past with my girl and in reality she cares more about where I’m going, my future, my vision.
All facts, lived and learned the hard way. Everything will be used against you from your past. If you treated a woman well, and you tell a new girl. you better treat her better than the last she will expect.
@@moheganson Obviously, never talk to a woman before. They will ask you questions when you’re half asleep, they will ask you covert questions, they will ask the same question five different ways, they will ask the question five different feelings, they may even try asking question through tears, of course you don’t tell her about your past they pry it out of you. All men make this mistake. Try to learn from other peoples mistakes is what the messages.
You basically need to be like a mysterious sailor who comes home every once in a while without talking of your journeys but keeping her curious and her imagination running wild.
This is a terrible strategy. The more the man I love tells me, the more vulnerable he’s willing to be with me, the more I love him. He is strong, and his strength IS WHAT allows him to be vulnerable… Do men only see strength as like, muscles and being silent or something? No wonder men like this have 0 respect for us.
Wow this guy is on point with everything he says. Woman say to be vulnerable but will think your weak and lose attraction over time. Never listen to what women want only listen to your brothers.. .
#1 Take-a-way: If you want to keep the flame burning, tell her as little as possible about you. Never be vulnerable about your past struggles. Maintain the image of strong masculine man that attracted her, opening up will change that image and cause her to slowly lose desire.
Daaaaammmmn... Find some new honeys 🍯 once I ran my first wife off I just replaced her lol. I literally hit up & made friends with like 10 girls with her same name and same race lol.
Once again appropriate video for where I find myself in my relationship with my girl right now. The sparks aren't there from the first weeks anymore, she's not into the sex anymore and it's starting to go stale. We burned too fast. I think I shared too much about my past with her too soon. Lesson learnt.
I've deliberately trialled this in a few relationships over the last 5 years: giving info, giving less info, expressing current issues being faced and not, etc. Everything you say is 100% correct, and it doesn't matter what type of girl you date and what they tell you and ask you to do.
Facts! I recently met a woman and immediately things got heated. Amazing chemistry! And what did I do? I said to myself “this girl is different “! And I opened up myself to her. What a huge mistake. Almost immediately she started pulling back. Way back. You live and learn I guess. I won’t ever make that mistake again.
Somehow we promise to not make same mistake but they have a huge manipulative arsenal man! As much as you try you still dump some personal shit to her bin.. otherwise she becomes emotionally unavailable asap
I absolutely agree with not sharing info and especially losses from past but this video also infers a long term relationship is impossible in this day and age.just something to think about
Only just learning this lesson, and not yet learnt. Tricky being courageous and authentic sharing truth, but not exposing too much.. I think we all have different values in this space, but certainly less us more in the long game.
Alot of this is certainly true especially for short term relationships, but long term often require different approaches depending on the woman. I honestly think a lot of those habits that you mention about women are more applicable to immature women who aren't in tune with their own desires or subconscious thoughts. A good relationship should have vulnerability and emotional openness as well as a degree of honesty about one's past, otherwise trust becomes shakey. But depends on the guy and the woman and how they interact.
If the woman chose butterflies then it doesn’t matter as the attraction will fade anyway, but if the woman chooses you and doesn’t l look for the Perfect Man then open up more. Not ALL, but sufficient.
Wise beyond his years. Unfortunately, it took me much longer... And looking back, it took a lot hard lessons to get to this point (the point of this video). Nontheless. The lessons were learned and internalyzed now. Women ONLY have the power you give them. And that is that. They are as transparent as clear glass now. Your most important tool is your frame and your ability to maintain it.
This was another brilliant video. I have had exactly the same experience myself. A good rule of thumb is to never talk about the past, nor the future. And only joke and talk about sensual things in the present, never about deep thoughts. These are very basic rules, so they are easy to follow and make a world of a difference.
This only works on Western(ized) women. If you don't create a bright line of where things are supposed to go if you deal with a woman from say a Middle Eastern country you're done.
Trust me, I used to be very secretive with women then I got into a long term relationship with my ex, let my guard down and got a little TOO comfortable. And it ended in a complete disaster as she threatened to ruin my life by telling people certain things (seriously, this girl was actually planning on teaming up with some violent drug addicts I had a spat with online after accusing me of cheating on her - it was scary AF to be honest). I was so overwhelmed by this i havent even gone on a date in 2 months, and i used to be a serial dater, but now i will try to take steps. What Casey says here is 100000 per cent the truth and I can't give him enough props for providing information, not just for men who are single and dating, but also for men in long term relationships or even marriages.
One of my ex's was an absolute nightmare for this! Eventually I gave in and told her everything about my past. So we could finish the movie (relationship)😊
Completely agree on the point regarding anything/everything being used against a man by a woman during times of woe and/separation. Completely disagree that past scars would create a negative connotation for a woman (with a brain) it’s all about how the story is told
In philosophy, the definition of wisdom is experience without emotion. So healed pain like Casey says, or else it would be emotional. But when healed its easy to talk about as you don't give a F about the judgement. I guess I should tuck my tongue
I don’t regret anything I say or do, but after discovering these videos, I wish I knew some of this stuff earlier on. Not just this one about your past but the numerous times you’ve talked about not talking serious stuff with women. I’m thinking back to a girl I was talking to and how the vibes were good until I tried to get deep and introspective with her and somewhere along the line I did kinda share some part of my past.
This is absolutely true. I lived it. They always use it against you. People got mad at Shaq for recently saying not being too open with women you’re with but he was speaking the truth. It’s a trap.
They will find a reason to dump you anyway when the next better man comes up, no matter if you are too emotionally available or unavailable they will still find out a reason or invent it.
6:25 this only "issue" i still have, is being present in the moment when a female is around me, because my mind is constantly on the future and planning things out.
Casey I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart😂I'm glad I discovered your channel. I grew up watching romance movies and I used to think that's how women fall in love but noo, love like those doesn't exist in real life, it's a hard pill to swallow but after watching your videos I abandoned my former understanding of the concept of love and now I got bitches left and right🤣All these girls are the same man
My Dad said he worked multiple jobs while dating my mom and even after i and my siblings came into the picture and never gave her a company name or location just
Some of this I don’t personally agree with saying woman “can’t help it” super hot take but “can’t is for people in wheelchairs” people are the masters of their own reality, I believe you can tell woman about ur past and they won’t automatically want to use it against you, i also I understand the mystery of your background is good, but you might find yourself acting which makes you fake, just stay conscious and remember you control your reality, pain is an illusion, you don’t have to let it control you.
I like the analogy represented about the woman finishing the movie, and on her way to the next cinema which is, " A new man. " Or like a novel that she has read and she is on to the next book to read. We must keep the proper amount of mystery to keep them hanging on so they can never completely figure us out. For those who do not agree with Casey well Weird Al Yankovic once said, " DARE TO BE STUPID. " :)
What is the difference between a woman and a police officer? Police officer, at least, tells you in advance that anything you say will be used against you.
Every word is so true... Fuck.. I wish that i would have known this shit before.. Well i have scars, deep scars but i have managed to get over those shitty things. But listening this man makes us more intuned of how much of the game this is. I hate games, womens emotional shit and the sudden ways they poison us. I am man that feels very deeply, regardless of my stoic presence. My character has been build up by sports, fighting sports. I am 171cm guy and always had to fight bigger and stronger men and that has made me hard as a nail. Women just don't feel it and never guess that they would actually be pretty safe with me cos i am friendly, easy going and not revealing the potential i really have. I have been living with the dog some time and i think that it's better that way. My boy is more of companion than any lady i have met ever.
Really good video…basically make the girl crave your story/book by creating mystery and not damaging yourself by revealing to much. 🤐 I think 48 laws of power might be a good book
@@ayiltonpalate9217 honestly been loving being separated. I feel kinda bad like I’m not allowed to be me anymore. The girls can continue on but we are suppose to be rented mules and don’t miss a day of work!!
@@dreambeliever3652 i felt the same, the problem is, that all this primal stuff about emotions and programms are mostly true but it is not that simple because we are way more complex and smarter these times....in the redpill space, woman are often portrait as evil robots who just follow their primal programms and patterns... woman are also able to learn, trying to understannd their partner, figure things out and selfreflect on their behaviour, dont forget they are humans too and want a happy life most of redpill stuff works for the attraction phase but not for a long term relationship. all these things are so generalized and extreme...no nuances. a lot of redpill stuff suits just immature and shallow woman if a normal woman really likes you, she is not gonna run away when you have a bad day, struggle or tell something about your past...because everyone has their problems, concerns and struggles, thats real and human... its okay to open up to a woman in a serious relationship (you dont need to become a beta for this lol just own your sh*t)....thats how it supposed to be. if you plan to create a family, you are gonna be together for decades, you cant keep up this redpill bs mask for that long. (woman are testing you, if you are your true self or if you are just pretending) you are supposed to know every little thing about your partner after 20 years. theres not gonna be mystery left anymore and ITS OKAY...guess what...people are still happily married or in a relationship. listen to real married man who have a family. they know much better than some young youtuber who makes a business out of lonley man.... look up Ryan Horgan unfiltered, maybe he helps you more
@@racinggames1 I agree with you totally. I’ve been married for 16 years. The mystery is pretty much out of the bad. Lol It’s been a rocky road for sure tho. A lot of toxicity was brought into our marriage. We’ve tried to fix it for years. When you have a very emotional and combative pattern… all this red and blue pill stuff doesn’t really pan out anyhow, does it. But to the point: Im 50 now and I’ve done tons of research and have tried every tactic, in hopes to rekindle what we had. Woman still want tho authentic you, rather than all the shallow pickup moves. Man… I had to find that out too. I stupidly gave it all a shot to see what sticks tho. 😂😂😂 But todays woman are very shallow and spoiled. It is well noted by so many men dropping out of the game. Woman despise men and call them “the ick”. Most of them you could never satisfy anyhow. But yes… there still are some out there.. if they keep their heads on straight, that could make a good partner. Not many tho
Hes right, once you open up, they lose interest. I ask myself if I want to do this? I rather be open and honest but then they walk. Seems like a crap life.
This guy is a genius, his correct, most woman will never watch the same movie or read the same book twice 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I knew this fairly young which is strange, I could never have been able to articulate this, his a guru listen to him
Definitely a great video. However I’ve never had this problem. Even after divulging my past I still create mystery by constantly evolving and growing. Stay on your purpose period let her be in awe with even knowing what she knows she still doesn’t know how you do it.
@@vladonutueu lol I keep um on there toes and make it hard to pin me down. I stay in different while showing some interest with body language and being slightly flirtatious. It’s all natural at this point and just who I am. It’s like you have to be the book or show that they’ll read/watch over and over again like Grey’s Anatomy or leave enough on the table to create sequels like Harry Potter
1 benefit I have is that even if I explain myself very logically they still don't understand me or the way I see the world or why I carry myself a certain way lol
In the TV show MADMEN.. Don Draper does this to his wife. The entire TV show script is based on this peeling off the onions to figure out WHO IS DON DRAPER...this show was a HIT SERIES. for 7 seasons.. that is a long time.
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“You can have 6 pack abs, 6 inch D, you can be the Sultan King.” -Casey Zander
Dude makes me die from laughter when he always talks about that:
“It doesn’t matter if you are 6 foot five, drive a Lamborghini, and own the Houston Mavericks” 🏀😂🙂
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Casey in my opinion you should show whatever! Wherever it’s vulnerability or annoyance or something else. Think about it is it really worth keeping all that shit inside you it will make you mentally ill. Far better the girl sees what you really are than some fake ass wannabe macho guy! Even if you don’t keep her and have to go from girl to girl that’s a lot better than staying with one and feeling the need to put an act on.
Soooo danm true. She knew about my past, my ex, and she used it against me every single time. Even when we’re talking she would mention my ex.
You have the right (and obligation) to stay silent. Anything you say, can and WILL be used against you in the court of women.
And marriage is a life sentence
There are actually too many woman judge in this world.. More reasons to keep the distance with ladies😂
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Once she knows the script, she no longer will care about the movie
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Wow ,wisdom in those words ,simply
Well said lad
“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.” 💯
Facts
don't say anything. don't care about anything. Become a stone. never put effort. never chase, never validate.
Don't touch...
Honestly I realized that I really like theater girls. I am a sensitive guy and bullied in the past fittingly for it. Now I have a lot of anger and desire to go to full out on mma.
I realize now that at least for me... those girls with stunning looks are nothing compared to girls with passion who are "kinda pretty'.
Thats when you realize beauty is inaide and most of these women are not even worth bothering with.
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@@alemonkikithat's precisely because beautiful girls don't need to develop any real world skills. They are given what they want just for existing.
This is insane bro
This is so true. My sister dated a guy for several years before he past away. There was many things about him that she didn't know the answers to. The storyline in their "relationship movie" continues as a mystery novel for her in her mind. Wishing she knew more about him. She is devastated by his passing, but even in death she still loves him.
Damn its a little sad we have to be unknown to our partner to be loved like that sounds a little lonely to be around someone that doesnt know us
Exactly.
@@laeminencia7284 Just be Clint Eastwood. They’ll keep flocking to ya
She got alpha widowed
@@laeminencia7284bro u can fill this need with your real friends.
Never explain never complain.
@ZeroBudgetDude No bullshit‼🎯💯
It’s so hard to stay disciplined about not telling unessesary things! I believe Robert Green wrote that it’s a natural human tendency to actually share things and that we are not very good at keeping secrets, it’s a weight we want to get rid off.
Unless you’re Clint Eastwood or Michael Myers
@@moheganson what’s up with them?
@@RedRumble14 Well, one is taciturn and cool AF. The other never speaks and is a psychopath so neither would share unnecessary things.
You definitely need some kind of outlet. I would suggest some online male or female friend that lives far away from you and is not part of your normal social circle.
@@thomashilmersen711 A diary kept in secret or a relative that you can trust are also good outlets.
Casey is so on point. I fucking make this mistake time and time again thinking women are different, they are all the same!
It's crazy how they are all just copy pasted. There's so little variability or individuality in them. I think dudes have a misconception about women cuz the way dudes make friends is very natural and honest, and what you see is what you get you know? So you can immediately be like yep that's my dude right here. So we try to apply the same logic to women. But they're designed to be smoke and mirrors and not have higher order brain function. Not that they aren't intelligent, they just seem to have almost no meta-cognition or moral compass whatsoever. And their personality is just a superficial amalgamation of what they've been exposed to. The more I date them (after a decade long relationship), the more I learn, the more I lose respect for them. And the more free I feel in my life as I realize they're just a pretty little aside from real life. A piece of candy (with some razor blades in it but you stop before you get to the razor blades). I still wish they were everything they were chalked up to be, but time to live in reality and not fantasy. I'm grieving the loss of the sunshine and roses conception of femininity.
I finally learned to stop doing that over the past few months. I’m 34. It never ends well.
"Everything you say can and will be used against you". Dating and having a girl friend does feel like you're being arrested.
Marriage is the death penalty ⚡️
@@mohegansonDamn. 😂
When she INTENTS to use anything from your past against you, is the moment you stand your man and she will respect you for it.
@@benjaminrennicke i have seen this crap first hand. shit from my family and past...hurled at me..at our lowest arguments.... and most of what CZ describes is like a play by play as things turned sour in my last relationship.
ha ha....true
The lady who cuts my hair herself told me to never tell a woman anything because she will use it against you.
Best analogy for this is it's like a magician who has an incredible stage show. You are the magician, and she is in awe of your magic. A magician never reveals how he does his tricks...but if he does...watch that interest and wonder of his fans and audience immediately disappear. That's what it's like for a girl when a man she is dating reveals his tricks of how he came to be . She doesnt want to know.
@ZeroBudgetDude agree completely. Another analogy I didnt put in that comment was James Bond. Almost everything Casey can pretty much be summed up by James Bond's deamenors and behaviors. Does Bond go spilling his feelings to the sultry woman he met at the hotel? No. Does he tell her about his whole past? No. Does he worry about any of her emotions? No. The list goes on.
Great analogy! So on point.
Yup, happened to me, all of it. Scars and all. Believe what he says gentlemen. Be very vague and don’t offer too much to her. Don’t over extend your emotions and invest too much either or you will lose your frame. Your awareness of her subtle seduction will keep you alert. Read up on the betaization process and don’t let it happen to you. Sometimes you do have to get beat up to learn the hard way. But if you can avoid it, you’re ahead of the game.
Casey has mentioned this in other videos. This subtle and tangible piece of advice can be immediately implemented and is pure gold. When women ask me about how I started my business, I reply back with something along the lines of "Its a long story and not that interesting" followed by changing the subject.
I like that but I feel like if I’m too vague or a mystery constantly they’ll think I’m shady or something. It’s my natural personality to be open and honest and have good conversations after being exclusive with someone. Do I have to be an actor basically? How do you train yourself to talk less but still not fret about losing her cuz you never open up? Any advice is appreciated.
So, @@moheganson. How does a man like you start his own business? You dress like one.
@@mohegansonyeah same here… I’m just naturally talkative and open, and I enjoy sharing things about my life. so what should I do on a date? just not talk? I want to implement this advice but I honestly don’t get it
@@Fred-zt5ky It's a mindset shift, you gotta realize no one actually cares about things you do or what goes on in your life not because they don't want to, but literally because they have never felt or experienced your life, so they can't especially when they have their own shit going on. they just ask things just to make conversation. So when you talk about yourself, keep it brief, add some flair, and change the subject to something fun.
Ex:
Her: "What do you do for work"
Old Me: "Yeh I'm a Software Engineer for XYZ, I do this this this,etc"
New Me: "I wake up every morning to a warzone, saving failing machines by writing code, I never know what's gonna come next, [Changing subject] does your job make you feel like you're in a movie sometimes?"
@@strange-loveI like this alot
Women don’t tell men their history, why should men tell women their history
Name, rank, and serial number. Keep them in the dark
I don’t know men. I’ve been around some chicks who never STFU
Last week I had a girl on blue tooth was having a few beers in my car. She could talk for 5-8 minutes straight without me getting a word in. I fucking just let her go, go outside to get another beer, took a piss, got back in the car opened the beer and she never knew I left 😂
She talked to me for 2.5 hours on the phone… probably a 9 but seems like wack doodle. TMI! Not sure I wanna meet her
@@mohegansonif your not sure you don’t want to meet her don’t. Trust yourself
@@D.N.A.2008SERE Training applicable for dating psychology 😅
8:40 Too true. Dad died when I was 18, freshly out of high school, left me completely emotionally destroyed and lost in life. He was my best friend, I was the only son. Had a full ride to the University of Michigan, now 23 about to graduate, I feel like a man amongst boys, I see grown men twice, 3 times my age and a fraction of my maturity.
Keep going boys, keep pushing. It gets better. Like Uncle C said a few videos ago - nothing can replace the reps, that shit can’t be faked. Put in the work consistently and you will achieve anything your mind can conceive.
Absolutely. Always remember fellas, women will use information against you. Be mindful of how much you share.
Yes, don't. As much as you want to tell personal info because she's a female, she's going to tell others about what you told her.
I've heard from females I met from online chat talk about other guys she heard personal things about. Things like the guy saying he's still a virgin. Another is when he was crying on the phone about his GF. Even girls from overseas has shown me messages on what others guys has messaged her. Stuff like perverted messages.
Not only women, this is a universal rule. Never tell your secrets to anyone!!
Casey, my dawg. Every week, I think it's your best video yet. This is the GOAT!! Every man in the world needs to hear this on repeat into eternity.
He's the GOAT hands down! This brother knows female psychology and behavior on a Grand Master level. Everything he has ever said I have either knew to be true and have come to the same conclusion as a 44 year old.
That's so true. On one hand you need to stay like a mystery - that's why woman like surprises. And on the other hand - you can't show struggles, don't say how hard your day was. It can be told very limited, in a positive way. You always need to enjoy life, show how much fun you have. Sad story, because you really expect them to help you and they do if they are in love, but it's like a fuel and it will run off, if you will be using it constantly.
It can depend on the woman. Some are truly caring and want a best friend to settle down with. Some don’t like guys that never open up. Depends on the age, background, what you’re each looking for, etc but I agree to be as stoic as possible
@@mohegansonfacts
@@mohegansonAll of the good women - do care and do want oppennes. Or even if they are bad but in the passionate state. But what I meant - in a long term it will do bad for you no matter how good the woman is, and Casey is describing it here. You just better know this before the relationship will go south, if you really care about that woman. And handle your openness with care.
There are some instruments to "repair" relationships if they did broke. Because once again - woman are emotional and can react on your new behaivior, forgetting what was before. For example you can be separated for some time, gain "point" in her eyes, etc. Anyway, you must remain strong all the time preferably, women ain't logical creatures, you can't just explain to them something, they need to actually feel it.
Great points, as always. The Stoic philosophy teaches us never to talk about the philosophy, but to live it. Thereby showing the world what we are, not trying to convince others by talking about it. So we show her what we are and never utter a word about it.
Dude, you are so totally on point because my ex used my past against me in her own defense. Stay mysterious, gents! 💪🏻
This happened last week. The girl dipped out faster than the flash lol learned my lesson fr
Bro u gonna love the song by Skepta - Same Old Story.
There is some line about a girl asking about bodycount or smth like that 😅
Me today bro. seen her walk out a building with another dude. It is what it is🤷🏻♂️
@@SalMos7737Damn. These girls got no remorse, do they?
Bro same here lol
Pro tip boys: NVR tell a chick you’re prone to anxiety 😅
I think you can talk about trauma and struggle but put a positive spin on it, how it’s helping you grow and how you’re grateful for it. It comes down to HOW you talk about the past. In fact, it may deepen the respect, attraction, and love you both feel for each other. Just don’t cry about it or get overly emotional when talking about it. I’ve shared traumatic things from my past with my girl and in reality she cares more about where I’m going, my future, my vision.
All facts, lived and learned the hard way.
Everything will be used against you from your past.
If you treated a woman well, and you tell a new girl. you better treat her better than the last she will expect.
Exactly.
Why would anyone talk about how they treated their ex? The new girl isn’t your therapist
@@moheganson
Obviously, never talk to a woman before.
They will ask you questions when you’re half asleep, they will ask you covert questions, they will ask the same question five different ways, they will ask the question five different feelings, they may even try asking question through tears, of course you don’t tell her about your past they pry it out of you.
All men make this mistake. Try to learn from other peoples mistakes is what the messages.
@@goontubeassos7076 they will ask before snd after sex 😂 when we all know we’re not thinking with our brains..
You basically need to be like a mysterious sailor who comes home every once in a while without talking of your journeys but keeping her curious and her imagination running wild.
I like it but after a while won’t she think we’re shady if we’re always secretive or shut off ?
Im literally a sailor and after months away at sea I definitely have an aire all over me when i come home
Lol I like that
This is a terrible strategy. The more the man I love tells me, the more vulnerable he’s willing to be with me, the more I love him. He is strong, and his strength IS WHAT allows him to be vulnerable… Do men only see strength as like, muscles and being silent or something? No wonder men like this have 0 respect for us.
@@MeandmySara yall all say this tho 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wow this guy is on point with everything he says.
Woman say to be vulnerable but will think your weak and lose attraction over time.
Never listen to what women want only listen to your brothers.. .
#1 Take-a-way: If you want to keep the flame burning, tell her as little as possible about you. Never be vulnerable about your past struggles.
Maintain the image of strong masculine man that attracted her, opening up will change that image and cause her to slowly lose desire.
Last time i told a woman about my past and insecurities she used it all against me. It broke me, bad. Year and half later I'm still trying to recover.
Daaaaammmmn... Find some new honeys 🍯 once I ran my first wife off I just replaced her lol. I literally hit up & made friends with like 10 girls with her same name and same race lol.
That’s cause women are socially programmed to believe emotional availability in a man means he is a weak male. Which sucks for emphatic males.
Truth : if you want a woman to stay with you never truely love her .
The best way of having a happy life ❤😂, Bravo 👏👍🏼
Horrible but true
@@loverboy01996 indeed 😂👍
@@loverboy01996Yo Wanted to discuss something you in ?
True, but sad
Once again appropriate video for where I find myself in my relationship with my girl right now. The sparks aren't there from the first weeks anymore, she's not into the sex anymore and it's starting to go stale. We burned too fast. I think I shared too much about my past with her too soon. Lesson learnt.
Increase the distance
Make her feel unwanted
She will soon maybe start to desire you again
This is true. Oversharing when she asks will be used against you
I've deliberately trialled this in a few relationships over the last 5 years: giving info, giving less info, expressing current issues being faced and not, etc. Everything you say is 100% correct, and it doesn't matter what type of girl you date and what they tell you and ask you to do.
So which one of the variants worked best?
Wisdom arrives once knowledge has been abandoned and intuitive action has come forth.
For women "perception is reality"
The illusion becomes real and the more real it gets the more they want you
FACTS
No shit she Will hold that shit against you for the rest of your relationship!!! It is the worst thing ever!!!!!!
Yup. Gaslight you for eternity
Gaslighting gals 💯
A concept I wish I would have implemented in my last relationship. Live and learn baby.
Man this is brutally true. Just finished learning this lesson. No matter what she says, do not let her see your weaknesses.
Facts! I recently met a woman and immediately things got heated. Amazing chemistry! And what did I do? I said to myself “this girl is different “! And I opened up myself to her. What a huge mistake. Almost immediately she started pulling back. Way back. You live and learn I guess. I won’t ever make that mistake again.
Somehow we promise to not make same mistake but they have a huge manipulative arsenal man! As much as you try you still dump some personal shit to her bin.. otherwise she becomes emotionally unavailable asap
7:18 - 7:23 !!!
“For women perception is reality”
Feeling over facts well said.
I feel like so many of these tactics and games don't need to be played if you're preselected with a lot of high quality options
IF it’s always the word in life
@@vladonutueu yup
They are immediately gauging you for weaknesses and are not above using them against you!
I absolutely agree with not sharing info and especially losses from past but this video also infers a long term relationship is impossible in this day and age.just something to think about
Of course, this is good advice for ShagLand not for committed relationships
This is 10000% true. I goofed.
Only just learning this lesson, and not yet learnt. Tricky being courageous and authentic sharing truth, but not exposing too much.. I think we all have different values in this space, but certainly less us more in the long game.
Thx for this fundamental advice... Simple and important.
Another Banger!!!
The second it starts going bad, or you break up… she will talk and tell all your stuff to everyone. Pay attention to what you share with your women.
Once a woman thinks she has you figured out, it's over.
Yea it’s like I’ve a man is figured he doesn’t stand any chance to change during his life 😂 duck logic
This is so true. My dating experience is: "You're only as good as your worst mistake."
Alot of this is certainly true especially for short term relationships, but long term often require different approaches depending on the woman. I honestly think a lot of those habits that you mention about women are more applicable to immature women who aren't in tune with their own desires or subconscious thoughts. A good relationship should have vulnerability and emotional openness as well as a degree of honesty about one's past, otherwise trust becomes shakey. But depends on the guy and the woman and how they interact.
If the woman chose butterflies then it doesn’t matter as the attraction will fade anyway, but if the woman chooses you and doesn’t l look for the Perfect Man then open up more. Not ALL, but sufficient.
Wise beyond his years.
Unfortunately, it took me much longer...
And looking back, it took a lot hard lessons to get to this point (the point of this video).
Nontheless.
The lessons were learned and internalyzed now.
Women ONLY have the power you give them.
And that is that.
They are as transparent as clear glass now.
Your most important tool is your frame and your ability to maintain it.
This was another brilliant video. I have had exactly the same experience myself. A good rule of thumb is to never talk about the past, nor the future. And only joke and talk about sensual things in the present, never about deep thoughts. These are very basic rules, so they are easy to follow and make a world of a difference.
This only works on Western(ized) women. If you don't create a bright line of where things are supposed to go if you deal with a woman from say a Middle Eastern country you're done.
I dont want to type a paragraph so I'll just say I agree fully.
Less is more 💯
Trust me, I used to be very secretive with women then I got into a long term relationship with my ex, let my guard down and got a little TOO comfortable.
And it ended in a complete disaster as she threatened to ruin my life by telling people certain things (seriously, this girl was actually planning on teaming up with some violent drug addicts I had a spat with online after accusing me of cheating on her - it was scary AF to be honest). I was so overwhelmed by this i havent even gone on a date in 2 months, and i used to be a serial dater, but now i will try to take steps. What Casey says here is 100000 per cent the truth and I can't give him enough props for providing information, not just for men who are single and dating, but also for men in long term relationships or even marriages.
One of my ex's was an absolute nightmare for this! Eventually I gave in and told her everything about my past. So we could finish the movie (relationship)😊
Best comment.👍👍👍
Completely agree on the point regarding anything/everything being used against a man by a woman during times of woe and/separation. Completely disagree that past scars would create a negative connotation for a woman (with a brain) it’s all about how the story is told
In philosophy, the definition of wisdom is experience without emotion. So healed pain like Casey says, or else it would be emotional. But when healed its easy to talk about as you don't give a F about the judgement. I guess I should tuck my tongue
Facts - This shit just happened to me over the weekend, its wild out.here 😂!! Fellas keep it to your selves
I don’t regret anything I say or do, but after discovering these videos, I wish I knew some of this stuff earlier on. Not just this one about your past but the numerous times you’ve talked about not talking serious stuff with women. I’m thinking back to a girl I was talking to and how the vibes were good until I tried to get deep and introspective with her and somewhere along the line I did kinda share some part of my past.
Yeah man. I’m 41. All I had at 18 was AIM
Had to learn the hard way without today’s technology but it’s never too late to begin anew
This is absolutely true. I lived it. They always use it against you. People got mad at Shaq for recently saying not being too open with women you’re with but he was speaking the truth. It’s a trap.
They will find a reason to dump you anyway when the next better man comes up, no matter if you are too emotionally available or unavailable they will still find out a reason or invent it.
6:25 this only "issue" i still have, is being present in the moment when a female is around me, because my mind is constantly on the future and planning things out.
Very true. All of it. Thanks for your wisdom and reassurance.
Casey I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart😂I'm glad I discovered your channel. I grew up watching romance movies and I used to think that's how women fall in love but noo, love like those doesn't exist in real life, it's a hard pill to swallow but after watching your videos I abandoned my former understanding of the concept of love and now I got bitches left and right🤣All these girls are the same man
Fuck Hallmark and Disney
Which are his most important videos do you think?
Romance movies are written by Marxists and people who aren't heterosexual.
Are you in love with the girl in the profile picture or she's your daughter?
Men fall in love not women.
Been preaching this for YEARS.
Yeah so true !
Don't even tell them your bosses name. If possible not even exactly where you work...
My Dad said he worked multiple jobs while dating my mom and even after i and my siblings came into the picture and never gave her a company name or location just
She can Google you and find out your employer through LinkedIn etc.
Girls do background checks these days.
@@sunnybadgr5073I don’t have linked in and my social media is Fort Knox
@sunnybadgr5073 she can't Google shit if she don't know my name
In my case I just freely told her deep dark secrets that she black mailed me with if she didn't get her way. I was so in love...lol..
Some of this I don’t personally agree with saying woman “can’t help it” super hot take but “can’t is for people in wheelchairs” people are the masters of their own reality, I believe you can tell woman about ur past and they won’t automatically want to use it against you, i also I understand the mystery of your background is good, but you might find yourself acting which makes you fake, just stay conscious and remember you control your reality, pain is an illusion, you don’t have to let it control you.
anyone who lives a life based around the emotion of pity (women, and many men) will hurt others unintentionally/subconsciously
Uncle C is back in the new office!
Wound, scar, knowledge and wisdom
I dont know what to say,i am so blessed to have found this chanel at a very young age,thank you very much master casey,
You inspire me so much my brother, I also have so much to day to the world, things that help.
12:10 Straight facts. Knowledge gained and applied. Thanks for the quantum leap bro.
You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you.
I like the analogy represented about the woman finishing the movie, and on her way to the next cinema which is, " A new man. " Or like a novel that she has read and she is on to the next book to read. We must keep the proper amount of mystery to keep them hanging on so they can never completely figure us out. For those who do not agree with Casey well Weird Al Yankovic once said,
" DARE TO BE STUPID. " :)
Man I have witchcrafted 4 girls I can't believe it. May God bless you with all the happiness of life
😂😂😂 the witcher
What is the difference between a woman and a police officer?
Police officer, at least, tells you in advance that anything you say will be used against you.
😂😂😂
You can speak about your past from a point of strength . You don’t have to hide anything
Yea or invent a lot of shit, she can’t check anyway
Every word is so true... Fuck.. I wish that i would have known this shit before.. Well i have scars, deep scars but i have managed to get over those shitty things. But listening this man makes us more intuned of how much of the game this is. I hate games, womens emotional shit and the sudden ways they poison us. I am man that feels very deeply, regardless of my stoic presence. My character has been build up by sports, fighting sports. I am 171cm guy and always had to fight bigger and stronger men and that has made me hard as a nail. Women just don't feel it and never guess that they would actually be pretty safe with me cos i am friendly, easy going and not revealing the potential i really have. I have been living with the dog some time and i think that it's better that way. My boy is more of companion than any lady i have met ever.
Dogs are wonderful companions!
I had plenty of women ghosting me after talking about me not about my past, so.. it’s even worse.
Really good video…basically make the girl crave your story/book by creating mystery and not damaging yourself by revealing to much.
🤐
I think 48 laws of power might be a good book
Manipulate the manipulation..
Why is it that the more I hear about woman…. The less I want to?
Yah😢….A lot men don’t get it, thruths like this make you wanna stay single forever
@@ayiltonpalate9217 honestly been loving being separated. I feel kinda bad like I’m not allowed to be me anymore. The girls can continue on but we are suppose to be rented mules and don’t miss a day of work!!
@@dreambeliever3652 i felt the same, the problem is, that all this primal stuff about emotions and programms are mostly true but it is not that simple because we are way more complex and smarter these times....in the redpill space, woman are often portrait as evil robots who just follow their primal programms and patterns... woman are also able to learn, trying to understannd their partner, figure things out and selfreflect on their behaviour, dont forget they are humans too and want a happy life
most of redpill stuff works for the attraction phase but not for a long term relationship. all these things are so generalized and extreme...no nuances.
a lot of redpill stuff suits just immature and shallow woman
if a normal woman really likes you, she is not gonna run away when you have a bad day, struggle or tell something about your past...because everyone has their problems, concerns and struggles, thats real and human...
its okay to open up to a woman in a serious relationship (you dont need to become a beta for this lol just own your sh*t)....thats how it supposed to be. if you plan to create a family, you are gonna be together for decades, you cant keep up this redpill bs mask for that long. (woman are testing you, if you are your true self or if you are just pretending)
you are supposed to know every little thing about your partner after 20 years. theres not gonna be mystery left anymore and ITS OKAY...guess what...people are still happily married or in a relationship.
listen to real married man who have a family. they know much better than some young youtuber who makes a business out of lonley man....
look up Ryan Horgan unfiltered, maybe he helps you more
@@racinggames1 I agree with you totally. I’ve been married for 16 years.
The mystery is pretty much out of the bad. Lol
It’s been a rocky road for sure tho. A lot of toxicity was brought into our marriage. We’ve tried to fix it for years. When you have a very emotional and combative pattern… all this red and blue pill stuff doesn’t really pan out anyhow, does it. But to the point:
Im 50 now and I’ve done tons of research and have tried every tactic, in hopes to rekindle what we had. Woman still want tho authentic you, rather than all the shallow pickup moves. Man… I had to find that out too. I stupidly gave it all a shot to see what sticks tho. 😂😂😂
But todays woman are very shallow and spoiled. It is well noted by so many men dropping out of the game. Woman despise men and call them “the ick”. Most of them you could never satisfy anyhow. But yes… there still are some out there.. if they keep their heads on straight, that could make a good partner. Not many tho
I just had a girl pull back from me because I did this. A women will use what you say against you EVERYTIME EVERYTIME
Hes right, once you open up, they lose interest. I ask myself if I want to do this? I rather be open and honest but then they walk. Seems like a crap life.
Yea it’s like they’re children that get bored of old toys
That was awesome, thank you!
Not one lie told here. Great video
Correct, my 1st exx-wife told me never tell anyone about my family past mistake.
This guy is a genius, his correct, most woman will never watch the same movie or read the same book twice 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I knew this fairly young which is strange, I could never have been able to articulate this, his a guru listen to him
Going through same thing right now keep ur head up my guy’s
Don’t tell them anything just take them to pound town. That’s all they really want.
That and money
Lol!
I really like Pound Town, and the gals I date love it!
"Don't share your secrets with the enemy, or you'll lose the battle."
So my wife is my enemy?
@@moheganson read between the lines.
@@moheganson "Mans helper who is against him" or how was it in the old testament?
@@levismirnoff5450 no idea. Non religious
From what I can tell that’s camelback mountain in the background. I love AZ 😂
You really know what you are talking about, this is the second great advice i get from you dude, keep it up my man and thank you for the value.
Definitely a great video. However I’ve never had this problem. Even after divulging my past I still create mystery by constantly evolving and growing. Stay on your purpose period let her be in awe with even knowing what she knows she still doesn’t know how you do it.
You’re an exception then
Maybe you’re just too damn interesting or have wizard aura 😁
@@vladonutueu lol I keep um on there toes and make it hard to pin me down. I stay in different while showing some interest with body language and being slightly flirtatious. It’s all natural at this point and just who I am.
It’s like you have to be the book or show that they’ll read/watch over and over again like Grey’s Anatomy or leave enough on the table to create sequels like Harry Potter
This might be true for women with issues. So the kind of woman this guy is going for.
1 benefit I have is that even if I explain myself very logically they still don't understand me or the way I see the world or why I carry myself a certain way lol
In the TV show MADMEN.. Don Draper does this to his wife. The entire TV show script is based on this peeling off the onions to figure out WHO IS DON DRAPER...this show was a HIT SERIES. for 7 seasons.. that is a long time.
This kid is wise and learned
100% true
I like ur drip today
One of the greatest videos to exist