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I loved that you talked about how you didn't immediately love your baby the way 'they' tell you everyone does. The truth is birthing a baby is really shocking. Especially first baby. Thanks for sharing your experience.
It took me 3 months to warm up to loving my child because my post partum was horrible with a NICU baby and an unplanned pregnancy/birth plus unresolved sexual trauma!! People don’t realize that your child is also a human being, and you’re getting to know that human being.. not all bonds happen right away and that’s okay!! Now we are inseparable !!
It took me a year 😔 Im also a sigle mom and my son was born bery premature with cerebral palsey trough a c-section. I took care of him the best I could, trying to love him but the feeling of inconditional love did not come fast...
I so identify with the difficulty of no longer having an “out” after having a child. I’ve not heard anyone else say that aloud before. Also 100% to falling in love with your baby overtime not immediately
I’m a single woman of 36 and have recently decided that I will get pregnant by next year. I’m not exactly sure how, and up until watching this I told everyone that I won’t be able to do it on my own and I need to find a co-parent. But hearing her story felt so empowering- like if she can get through it, maybe so could I. Like Whitney, I’m directing everything in my life towards becoming a mom and I’m deeply committed to fullfilling that wish for myself. I’m scared and excited. Eliza & Lily, thank you so mich for your work, this series is absolutely amazing.
Oh my goodness! When I saw this comment I got so excited, I just had to put my opinion out there. I am 39, but when I got pregnant and had a baby I was 29. Even though I was in a serious relationship and we were engaged, I still lived at home and so did he. He had just lost his full time job and I was in my last semester in school to become a respiratory therapist. I was able to finish school right before I had my son, however I was not able to start working anywhere. Needless to say, money was very tight when I gave birth but I knew I wanted my son. Even though I felt like I worried about money all the time, I found ways to provide for my son. So many people told me that if I waited til the perfect moment to have a baby, I would never end up having one because the time never feels completely right. So whether ur alone or with someone, rich or poor, as long as you love your baby with every fiber of your being - You will get the job done!! Best of Luck Always, Laura (and my now 10 yr. old, Max)
Good for you! It’s better not to wait, if you know you want the baby, then go for it, because you don’t want to look back on your life with regrets. Also, I think when you just go for it, the rest will fall into place. You might meet the right person after having the baby, as the person in the video did.
I don't want to be a downer but please look up the difference in life outcomes between single parent and two parent households. Then please understand WHY these differences exist so you can take adequate steps to mitigate the host of issues you're likely are going to expose your child to. Even if you're maybe getting pregnant just for your own personal satisfaction and not the well being of this child, please think about it.
I remember Whitney from her Real L Word days. Feels like a long time ago. I alway liked her vibe, so I’ve continued to follow her over the years. It’s cool to see her speak here and as a mum.
Oh my god, to hear another person say all of how I felt after also having an emergency c section ! It was the best day of my life along with the worst day, how do you process that alone ? Parenthood is so tough and so incredible, I am still learning how to be a mother….and my oldest child is 29 🌹
All of my ultrasounds indicated my baby was a girl. During my whole pregnancy, I talked to her, dreamed of her and was totally in love with her. My child was born a boy. I had such a hard time connecting with him, as I was grieving the loss of the baby girl that never was. Add to that hormones and it was a rough ride for a few months. He’s 19 years old now and I’m so thankful for him, but then? It was so hard.
definitely one of my favorites. As a non-binary person whos pregnant and single, plans just aren't working out and it's scary to think of all the things that can go wrong but ultimately looking forward to all of the love i will share when they arrive
Wowww what an amazing, strong, beautiful person. That boy has an amazing mama. He is going to have a great life. So happy for him and moved by the story of mama’s journey. Sending all the good vibes their way, and soaking up the strength and inspiration this video radiates. 🌟
Thank you Whitney. You have me balling over here. The way you described what birth is like and the rawness of your first days of being a mom. I am not a mom yet and don’t know if I will be. The way you described it is very profound, poetic and beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
Aaaaaah! I just love these interviews and stories! Absolutely beautiful! ❤️. As a blind mom who uses a cane and a guide dog for independent travel, ergo baby was actually indispensable for me. My children are 9 and 16 now, but I wore my babies everywhere so that I could travel everywhere we needed to go!
Thankyou for sharing, Whitney! I can really resonate with this. My now 2 year old sons father and I had a short lived romance and he left us first trimester. He has barely spoken to me since...it’s a long story but my point is that I can TOTALLY relate to every bit of the trauma of being a single mom, becoming a mom on your own, the pregnancy and birth on your own, the heartbeat yes, knowing you are THE ONLY...can feel lonely, empowering, and heavy and scary. Well spoken and expressed! I feel you! I am still learning how to ask for help, a life lesson for me too. My son is strong willed and fiercely independent...I have no idea where he gets it. It is life changing and the ultimate lesson in love. At the end of the day, good mom/bad mom weighs in my head. Was it good enough for my son? All the lil moments and choices of the day. I am the only one to make those decisions. And then there’s this grief of a void I feel for lack of a father and partner in this. I dunno if you could relate because you chose, and we have different circumstances. Kudos to you Mama! We all need support in the parenting journey, especially the single parents. I can relate to your moment at the store, where the other mama was kind. That is the most supported I feel, by strangers that understand the work involved in parenting. My son and I practice Reiki. It is everything. I had quite the traumatic pregnancy, homeless in key west. I want to write more about it but have a hard time finding the time as a single mama😆 I am very spiritual and my pregnancy journey in key west and just life is so much that...always engrossed in the metaphysical experiences simultaneously, synchronistically. I asked God/dess to show me true love, literally wrote this in my journal and then discovered I was pregnant. Of course this child beamed through the light of the universe and chose me as his vessel, having placed crystals in the vbirth of the sailboat upon his conception🧘♀️🤦♀️we did not intentionally create my son, but energetically we sure did. And my son is here with a past life wisdom, strong intuition and will. I sent him Reiki everyday in the womb and surrendered to the universe as I had no idea how I was going to provide for this child in my cockroach infested van...truly, living outa a hammock on sunshine, coconuts, the goodwill of others and Mother Earth guiding and grounding the energeez, us. And my son is strong willed because he survived tequila night when I did not know yet that I was pregnant, when I drank so much tequila I thought it a good idea to drop acid, jump off a moving dingy and swim with the flying fishes. Ya...there’s a lot to the story of my son. There’s the layer of resentment toward his father, the way he has treated me. I try to look at him as just sperm for my beautiful bright son. But, for my dignity sake I need to track him down better (I had to leave Florida to be back with family for a home and support) and confront him with truth...how can he provide for his other 3 children while barely acknowledging this one. Audacious. My son will be a man of integrity despite his father knows nothing of it. He is teaching me the lessons in true love, my son. Self love and he is the person that makes me want to be a better person. He is the person it is so easy to give and receive love. He is my true love right now and forever. So, this might could actually be a cool platform for sharing. StyleLikeU would you be interested in interviewing me?? I am scared to put myself out there but feel called, I have so much to share. So much trauma but lots of beautiful lessons woven throughout. Anyway.... Thankyou for making these videos of real humans🙏 Key west motto is ONE HUMAN FAMILY, unity, equality and diversity. One💜
I am so so excited to watch this. Just the title makes my heart ❤ happy as this is such a topic needed to be talked about. I'm a Mama to 5 boys!!!! And all by c section. It's so major and I have alot of trauma bc of each one. I resonated so so much this. Thanks. Humans supporting humans.
Ugh I did not want this video to be over !!! She’s such a strong and beautiful women. Now that’s a women that wanted that baby with everything in her❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. I so wish I had known that I could ask for help without feeling weak or that I was a failure. Because all I ever wanted to be was a mother, I thought it would just come easily. I was shocked when it didn't. My youngest is 30 and all I can say is that I did my best and my children know their mother loves them. I'm ok with that. Now. I do what I can to help every young mother I see. Sometimes with actual help help or sometimes with words. Helping a Mom put her groceries in her car or even taking her cart for her. You truly never know. Kindness is never wasted. Your little is adorable and he's got a great foundation: a parent who wanted and chose to have a baby and who wants to be there. You purposefully made a commitment with the knowledge that you ARE going to keep it. I promise you, it's more rare than you know. Thank you for your content. I learn so much.
Thank you so much for demystifying that moment of birth, whether it's via c-section (my daughter had an emergency c-section last year - it IS major surgery and it is scary) or natural birth. Giving birth can be very traumatic (it was for me) and when I met my baby I was glad to see her, but no, I didn't know her yet and had no idea how we would interact. It's a very delicate and vulnerable time and often you are simultaneously having to interact with people like you're fine - you're not fine. Sending you hugs and again, many thanks for your honesty and openness.
Yeeeesssssssss all of this yes. Time to normalize and talk more about the fourth trimester. Im training to be a post pardum doula and it truly warms my heart that we as people are unifying and vocalizing all the aspects of this time. Knowledge is power and sometimes that knowledge is knowing that; A- it will be a shit show B- love grows both with your new self and your baby C- whatever your feeling your not alone D- it’s ALL temporary. That goes for the good and the bad. E- your more capable and powerful that you have ever fathomed. F- it’s ok to feel in over your head at times. It comes as no surprise that you put this beautiful interview together I have been watching your channel for years and your evolution is truly empowering and inspirational. Rock on and keep educating us! All of it. We want more of all of it!!
Stop labelling people. Don't call me or other women femms!!! And before anyone abuses or attacks me.... I'm allowed an opinion, a voice , a preference.
Your vulnerability in the beginning touched me immensely, talking about how lonely you felt. One of the reasons I’m is childless because of the fear of doing it on my own. I have no regrets, I think I had the ultimate choice at 38, and I chose not to embark on the journey, after two hours of crying in the shower. I have a huge respect for women who made the choice to have a child on their own, as I have for women who chose not to. For whatever reason. I love this channel and the insights in the choices that are available to us when we choose to be what we are….human.
We absolutely need more honest and open discussions around birth and postpartum experiences. Being a parent is incredibly challenging. For many reasons and at all ages of your child’s life. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us 💐
This was so beautiful! I remember being so scared when our child was born. I felt completely in love with Kaden 2 weeks after they were born. I didn't and still didn't know I could love like this. Kaden is 12 years old and I had them through a donor. I was lucky to have a partner at the time to co-partner.
Its inspiring to know she had such severe post partum that she wasn’t even sure she would make it, but her love for her baby and taking care of it was the only thing keeping her going. Beautiful! 💖
Thank you for what you shared. I was so touched. Thank you Elisa and Lily. I really imagine a society in which birthing people are supported by the rest of us. From the most simple tasks like doing the dishes, doing groceries, to emotional support, to even support to the new life and as they grow. Certainly a more evolved society. You are doing great! I hadn't thought about growing a being in your body clothes not being the stereytipical feminine, till I heard @JessicaKellgrenFozard's partner talk about her own clothing for her matternity period. I don't have kids, but I would definitely want less of the stereotypical feminine clothes if I were pregnant. I enjoy comfort. pants, etc. Thank you for the vulnerability you shared. Lately, I've been valueing keeping one's word to ownself. I really like what you shared about maybe your new romance partner becoming more of a friend because you had committed to something to yourself. And I also love that you wanted to bring a life to this world. In a way the stereotype is that "not feminine" people don't want to bring life in their bodies, but I have come to even challenge that. I am not so stereotypically feminine, but I think this is my femininity, wild, free, open. Loved what you shared.
Loving this series. Feels so good to watch someone else share the journey of being a mother. As a single mum I so understand. And I don’t have any other friends in my life who are in the same position. So so great to hear her story and resonate with it. We are so powerful. Us mothers. Us women
I am LOVING this channel!! ❤ I find so much inspiration form these women! I am a single 40 year old African American mother. Her story mirrors mine in so many ways. I literally heard my babies heartbeat for the first time alone. It’s sobering indeed. Id really like to see “sistas” tell their stories. You guys are doing an amazing job, Thank You all!
Wow, this was so emotional to watch. I'm familiar with Whitney from the Real L-Word and loved her there. I'm also not very femme, am queer, became a single Mom during the pandemic, had to have an emergency C-section and had post-partum. I feel seen. Thank you for this ❤
Thank you for this. As a Childbirth Educator, I think it is my duty to talk frankly about the fact that it will be ok if people do not fall in love immediately with their babies after birth. The birthing journey can be shocking, intense, traumatising and confusing. You sometimes need to do some processing and coming back into your body before you are able to extend love to this new being. Thank you so much Whitney for sharing your story. I LOVE this series so much. Let us all share the compassion that that woman in the grocery store did to all mothers who we witness struggling. We're all just doing the best that we can!!
When I had my first kid, I remember feeling kinda the same way. When she was born and they handed her to me, I just kept thinking, with total amazement, "who are you?", I really wanted to know who she was. It's like, there's a new person, and I'm responsible for them, completely, but I dont even know anything about them. It's not like it was a surprise, I knew I was having a baby, but when, all of a sudden, there is another living being in the room, and they're your responsibility, they're going with you. I think I was too scared to fall in love, but over time I have come to know a love that I never knew existed before.
I am so happy fpr Whitney she loved her grandma so much but seemed to be detached from others in her family . Im also happy to hear that she has a new girlfriend and future wife . May God bless her and all those finding their own personal ways in the 🌍.Thank you for making this video!
Never be ashamed to ask for help as a single parent! Dude, I have my husband and we still need help at times. I was raised by a single mom and my family helped and I benefitted from their help. It takes a village to raise a well rounded person and if you have the option of help, take it! My children changed me forever and for the better. Motherhood is the most challenging, life changing, incredibly rewarding thing I have and ever will do.
I think they also automatically assume your partner is the birth mother because of the colour of her skin as your baby is dark. Not saying this is correct for them to do by any means, just saying it’s probably also a factor. Mecca is so cute and I’ve been following you for a long time, just so happy to see you happy 😊
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I loved that you talked about how you didn't immediately love your baby the way 'they' tell you everyone does. The truth is birthing a baby is really shocking. Especially first baby. Thanks for sharing your experience.
It took me 3 months to warm up to loving my child because my post partum was horrible with a NICU baby and an unplanned pregnancy/birth plus unresolved sexual trauma!! People don’t realize that your child is also a human being, and you’re getting to know that human being.. not all bonds happen right away and that’s okay!!
Now we are inseparable !!
That's so true. I was in real shock after having baby first time and never had any more because of the experience. Nobody admits to it.
It took me a year 😔
Im also a sigle mom and my son was born bery premature with cerebral palsey trough a c-section.
I took care of him the best I could, trying to love him but the feeling of inconditional love did not come fast...
@@carolinarios2994 That is valid. Your story and feelings are valid. And now you do love him. 💖
So true
I loved the "grocery story" where she said another mom acknowledged her. That gave me some tears
As someone who is not a mother, but is a woman… the stories from this series are very powerful. Thanks for sharing this great idea 💛
I so identify with the difficulty of no longer having an “out” after having a child. I’ve not heard anyone else say that aloud before. Also 100% to falling in love with your baby overtime not immediately
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Yeah that’s an interesting thought I’ve never considered
I’m a single woman of 36 and have recently decided that I will get pregnant by next year. I’m not exactly sure how, and up until watching this I told everyone that I won’t be able to do it on my own and I need to find a co-parent. But hearing her story felt so empowering- like if she can get through it, maybe so could I. Like Whitney, I’m directing everything in my life towards becoming a mom and I’m deeply committed to fullfilling that wish for myself. I’m scared and excited.
Eliza & Lily, thank you so mich for your work, this series is absolutely amazing.
Oh my goodness! When I saw this comment I got so excited, I just had to put my opinion out there. I am 39, but when I got pregnant and had a baby I was 29. Even though I was in a serious relationship and we were engaged, I still lived at home and so did he. He had just lost his full time job and I was in my last semester in school to become a respiratory therapist. I was able to finish school right before I had my son, however I was not able to start working anywhere. Needless to say, money was very tight when I gave birth but I knew I wanted my son. Even though I felt like I worried about money all the time, I found ways to provide for my son. So many people told me that if I waited til the perfect moment to have a baby, I would never end up having one because the time never feels completely right. So whether ur alone or with someone, rich or poor, as long as you love your baby with every fiber of your being - You will get the job done!! Best of Luck Always, Laura (and my now 10 yr. old, Max)
Just a baby is an app where you can find donors, coparents, different arrangements.
Good for you! It’s better not to wait, if you know you want the baby, then go for it, because you don’t want to look back on your life with regrets. Also, I think when you just go for it, the rest will fall into place. You might meet the right person after having the baby, as the person in the video did.
I don't want to be a downer but please look up the difference in life outcomes between single parent and two parent households. Then please understand WHY these differences exist so you can take adequate steps to mitigate the host of issues you're likely are going to expose your child to. Even if you're maybe getting pregnant just for your own personal satisfaction and not the well being of this child, please think about it.
Its been a year, i hope youve gotten the chance to have your baby :')
So appreciate her transparency about how fatiguing it can be. I imagined this for some but never heard it this openly before. So valuable.
I remember Whitney from her Real L Word days. Feels like a long time ago. I alway liked her vibe, so I’ve continued to follow her over the years. It’s cool to see her speak here and as a mum.
Oh my god, to hear another person say all of how I felt after also having an emergency c section ! It was the best day of my life along with the worst day, how do you process that alone ? Parenthood is so tough and so incredible, I am still learning how to be a mother….and my oldest child is 29 🌹
My only child will be 27 may 28th
All of my ultrasounds indicated my baby was a girl. During my whole pregnancy, I talked to her, dreamed of her and was totally in love with her. My child was born a boy. I had such a hard time connecting with him, as I was grieving the loss of the baby girl that never was. Add to that hormones and it was a rough ride for a few months. He’s 19 years old now and I’m so thankful for him, but then? It was so hard.
This is so real and so sweet, thank you for sharing
Let it out Susan…let it out 👍🏼🙏🏼
Omg that’s weird glad you love each other and connected
That's just a bad OB
definitely one of my favorites. As a non-binary person whos pregnant and single, plans just aren't working out and it's scary to think of all the things that can go wrong but ultimately looking forward to all of the love i will share when they arrive
Congratulations on this new journey. I wish you love and light.
Sending lots of love to you 🧡
You got this!!
Wowww what an amazing, strong, beautiful person. That boy has an amazing mama. He is going to have a great life. So happy for him and moved by the story of mama’s journey. Sending all the good vibes their way, and soaking up the strength and inspiration this video radiates. 🌟
Masculine presenting single mom here. I'm grateful for this interview.
childbirth is one of the most traumatic experiences a woman can go through.. Thank you Whitney for being transparent about your experience...
This is such a phanomenal channel. I always feel amazing after watching an episode. Thank you for being advocates for authenticity.
Thank you Whitney. You have me balling over here. The way you described what birth is like and the rawness of your first days of being a mom. I am not a mom yet and don’t know if I will be. The way you described it is very profound, poetic and beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
Aaaaaah! I just love these interviews and stories! Absolutely beautiful! ❤️. As a blind mom who uses a cane and a guide dog for independent travel, ergo baby was actually indispensable for me. My children are 9 and 16 now, but I wore my babies everywhere so that I could travel everywhere we needed to go!
This was such a powerful message. Life has so many shades, i am already replaying it in my mind xx
Thankyou for sharing, Whitney! I can really resonate with this.
My now 2 year old sons father and I had a short lived romance and he left us first trimester. He has barely spoken to me since...it’s a long story but my point is that I can TOTALLY relate to every bit of the trauma of being a single mom, becoming a mom on your own, the pregnancy and birth on your own, the heartbeat yes, knowing you are THE ONLY...can feel lonely, empowering, and heavy and scary. Well spoken and expressed! I feel you!
I am still learning how to ask for help, a life lesson for me too.
My son is strong willed and fiercely independent...I have no idea where he gets it. It is life changing and the ultimate lesson in love.
At the end of the day, good mom/bad mom weighs in my head. Was it good enough for my son? All the lil moments and choices of the day. I am the only one to make those decisions.
And then there’s this grief of a void I feel for lack of a father and partner in this. I dunno if you could relate because you chose, and we have different circumstances.
Kudos to you Mama! We all need support in the parenting journey, especially the single parents. I can relate to your moment at the store, where the other mama was kind. That is the most supported I feel, by strangers that understand the work involved in parenting.
My son and I practice Reiki. It is everything. I had quite the traumatic pregnancy, homeless in key west. I want to write more about it but have a hard time finding the time as a single mama😆
I am very spiritual and my pregnancy journey in key west and just life is so much that...always engrossed in the metaphysical experiences simultaneously, synchronistically. I asked God/dess to show me true love, literally wrote this in my journal and then discovered I was pregnant. Of course this child beamed through the light of the universe and chose me as his vessel, having placed crystals in the vbirth of the sailboat upon his conception🧘♀️🤦♀️we did not intentionally create my son, but energetically we sure did.
And my son is here with a past life wisdom, strong intuition and will. I sent him Reiki everyday in the womb and surrendered to the universe as I had no idea how I was going to provide for this child in my cockroach infested van...truly, living outa a hammock on sunshine, coconuts, the goodwill of others and Mother Earth guiding and grounding the energeez, us.
And my son is strong willed because he survived tequila night when I did not know yet that I was pregnant, when I drank so much tequila I thought it a good idea to drop acid, jump off a moving dingy and swim with the flying fishes. Ya...there’s a lot to the story of my son. There’s the layer of resentment toward his father, the way he has treated me. I try to look at him as just sperm for my beautiful bright son. But, for my dignity sake I need to track him down better (I had to leave Florida to be back with family for a home and support) and confront him with truth...how can he provide for his other 3 children while barely acknowledging this one. Audacious. My son will be a man of integrity despite his father knows nothing of it. He is teaching me the lessons in true love, my son. Self love and he is the person that makes me want to be a better person. He is the person it is so easy to give and receive love. He is my true love right now and forever.
So, this might could actually be a cool platform for sharing. StyleLikeU would you be interested in interviewing me?? I am scared to put myself out there but feel called, I have so much to share. So much trauma but lots of beautiful lessons woven throughout.
Anyway....
Thankyou for making these videos of real humans🙏
Key west motto is ONE HUMAN FAMILY, unity, equality and diversity.
One💜
I am so so excited to watch this. Just the title makes my heart ❤ happy as this is such a topic needed to be talked about.
I'm a Mama to 5 boys!!!! And all by c section. It's so major and I have alot of trauma bc of each one. I resonated so so much this. Thanks. Humans supporting humans.
Ugh I did not want this video to be over !!! She’s such a strong and beautiful women. Now that’s a women that wanted that baby with everything in her❤️❤️❤️
Oh! That was amazing. Whitney is an amazing woman. I really admire her. Thank your for recording this special moment.
Thank you for sharing your story.
I so wish I had known that I could ask for help without feeling weak or that I was a failure.
Because all I ever wanted to be was a mother, I thought it would just come easily.
I was shocked when it didn't.
My youngest is 30 and all I can say is that I did my best and my children know their mother loves them.
I'm ok with that.
Now.
I do what I can to help every young mother I see. Sometimes with actual help help or sometimes with words.
Helping a Mom put her groceries in her car or even taking her cart for her.
You truly never know.
Kindness is never wasted.
Your little is adorable and he's got a great foundation: a parent who wanted and chose to have a baby and who wants to be there. You purposefully made a commitment with the knowledge that you ARE going to keep it.
I promise you, it's more rare than you know.
Thank you for your content.
I learn so much.
Thank you so much for demystifying that moment of birth, whether it's via c-section (my daughter had an emergency c-section last year - it IS major surgery and it is scary) or natural birth. Giving birth can be very traumatic (it was for me) and when I met my baby I was glad to see her, but no, I didn't know her yet and had no idea how we would interact. It's a very delicate and vulnerable time and often you are simultaneously having to interact with people like you're fine - you're not fine. Sending you hugs and again, many thanks for your honesty and openness.
Yeeeesssssssss all of this yes. Time to normalize and talk more about the fourth trimester. Im training to be a post pardum doula and it truly warms my heart that we as people are unifying and vocalizing all the aspects of this time. Knowledge is power and sometimes that knowledge is knowing that;
A- it will be a shit show
B- love grows both with your new self and your baby
C- whatever your feeling your not alone
D- it’s ALL temporary. That goes for the good and the bad.
E- your more capable and powerful that you have ever fathomed.
F- it’s ok to feel in over your head at times.
It comes as no surprise that you put this beautiful interview together I have been watching your channel for years and your evolution is truly empowering and inspirational. Rock on and keep educating us! All of it. We want more of all of it!!
Single Mom hugs 💗 Can relate to so much. It can be so hard but so worth it for the love, I've never loved anything more than I do my son 💗
This is incredibly touching and Whitney you and your son are beautiful. 🥰🤍
You touched on the loneliness. It’s beyond true. No one is as invested as me. Such a powerful statement and brought me to tears.
Stop labelling people. Don't call me or other women femms!!! And before anyone abuses or attacks me.... I'm allowed an opinion, a voice , a preference.
Your vulnerability in the beginning touched me immensely, talking about how lonely you felt. One of the reasons I’m is childless because of the fear of doing it on my own. I have no regrets, I think I had the ultimate choice at 38, and I chose not to embark on the journey, after two hours of crying in the shower. I have a huge respect for women who made the choice to have a child on their own, as I have for women who chose not to. For whatever reason. I love this channel and the insights in the choices that are available to us when we choose to be what we are….human.
We absolutely need more honest and open discussions around birth and postpartum experiences. Being a parent is incredibly challenging. For many reasons and at all ages of your child’s life. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us 💐
This was so beautiful! I remember being so scared when our child was born. I felt completely in love with Kaden 2 weeks after they were born. I didn't and still didn't know I could love like this. Kaden is 12 years old and I had them through a donor. I was lucky to have a partner at the time to co-partner.
wow. I can relate so much. thank you for the representation. I'm a 36 yr old queer single mum who identifies as non-binary. just thank you
Its inspiring to know she had such severe post partum that she wasn’t even sure she would make it, but her love for her baby and taking care of it was the only thing keeping her going. Beautiful! 💖
Thank you for what you shared. I was so touched. Thank you Elisa and Lily. I really imagine a society in which birthing people are supported by the rest of us. From the most simple tasks like doing the dishes, doing groceries, to emotional support, to even support to the new life and as they grow. Certainly a more evolved society.
You are doing great! I hadn't thought about growing a being in your body clothes not being the stereytipical feminine, till I heard @JessicaKellgrenFozard's partner talk about her own clothing for her matternity period. I don't have kids, but I would definitely want less of the stereotypical feminine clothes if I were pregnant. I enjoy comfort. pants, etc.
Thank you for the vulnerability you shared. Lately, I've been valueing keeping one's word to ownself. I really like what you shared about maybe your new romance partner becoming more of a friend because you had committed to something to yourself.
And I also love that you wanted to bring a life to this world. In a way the stereotype is that "not feminine" people don't want to bring life in their bodies, but I have come to even challenge that. I am not so stereotypically feminine, but I think this is my femininity, wild, free, open.
Loved what you shared.
You are doing great, and you’re showing us the way to go.
Loving this series. Feels so good to watch someone else share the journey of being a mother. As a single mum I so understand. And I don’t have any other friends in my life who are in the same position. So so great to hear her story and resonate with it. We are so powerful. Us mothers. Us women
BEAUTIFUL BOUNTY OF LOVE ❤ WELCOME TO THE WONDERFUL WORLD OF BEING A MOTHER
Thank you so much for sharing your story and for your honesty and realness.
I am LOVING this channel!! ❤ I find so much inspiration form these women! I am a single 40 year old African American mother. Her story mirrors mine in so many ways. I literally heard my babies heartbeat for the first time alone. It’s sobering indeed. Id really like to see “sistas” tell their stories. You guys are doing an amazing job, Thank You all!
Her story is so authentic n vulnerable
Wow, this was so emotional to watch. I'm familiar with Whitney from the Real L-Word and loved her there. I'm also not very femme, am queer, became a single Mom during the pandemic, had to have an emergency C-section and had post-partum. I feel seen. Thank you for this ❤
This was wonderful to watch 😊
Ooohh I loveee this bc I’m preggers and I love to learn about other people’s experiences!
Thanks for sharing your amazing journey in becoming a mother.. Living life in Truth is everything. This was so beautiful, she was so real & honest.
This series has just become my support group. ❤️
Beautiful story, beautiful person, beautiful baby. Thank you❤❤❤
Thank you for this. As a Childbirth Educator, I think it is my duty to talk frankly about the fact that it will be ok if people do not fall in love immediately with their babies after birth. The birthing journey can be shocking, intense, traumatising and confusing. You sometimes need to do some processing and coming back into your body before you are able to extend love to this new being. Thank you so much Whitney for sharing your story. I LOVE this series so much. Let us all share the compassion that that woman in the grocery store did to all mothers who we witness struggling. We're all just doing the best that we can!!
Yes, you can say you’re beautiful because you are. And you are so much loved. ❤️
Omgahd these always make me cry! I identify so much with this person tho for sure ♥️
Hey Whitney it’s Meg here:) I feel your supermarket story so much. You are doing great, keep it up xo
This is beyond beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story Whitney. 🧡
How beautiful this whole story is! Thank you!
Such a great interview Whitney….from one 100% single mom since day 1 to another. We got this!!!
I really loved her attire....Just jazzy and laid back...And her son is sooo cute wearing his little cap...
One of the most beautiful episodes I’ve seen. Thank you. ❤
When I had my first kid, I remember feeling kinda the same way. When she was born and they handed her to me, I just kept thinking, with total amazement, "who are you?", I really wanted to know who she was. It's like, there's a new person, and I'm responsible for them, completely, but I dont even know anything about them. It's not like it was a surprise, I knew I was having a baby, but when, all of a sudden, there is another living being in the room, and they're your responsibility, they're going with you. I think I was too scared to fall in love, but over time I have come to know a love that I never knew existed before.
That got me crying. What a beautiful story. ❤️
This really clicked for me, thanks
This is stunningly beautiful 🤍
Nice to see you again after all this time, you haven't had an easy journey but as long as you're happy now that's all that matters, xx
I am so happy fpr Whitney she loved her grandma so much but seemed to be detached from others in her family . Im also happy to hear that she has a new girlfriend and future wife . May God bless her and all those finding their own personal ways in the 🌍.Thank you for making this video!
Nowwww I understand what happened! Awesome little interview.
This is such a beautiful interview. Wow.
Omg Whitney !! I love that you had baby !! Congrats and I love your birth story ❤️
Motherhood is hard. But if you have a loving support system it makes a big difference.
You are sooo beautiful. Thank you for sharing your sweet story.
That was so beautiful. So proud of you Whitney. You look beautiful.
Beautiful you are!🥰 Thanks for sharing! 💯
I wish I was that clear on my direction. Wow. I love this video. What an amazing woman!!
Love you! Go find a grandma like me that would love to help you whenever you need it!!!
omg and hes a mix baby i love it this is truly beautiful the best of both worlds congratulaitons whitney
🥺🥲 seeing her come so far is just so amazing.
I would love to see a Mama Doctor Jones video about her experience. I learned so much, on so many levels, from this
this is truly amazing i love it love her an all the blessing to her an her son
I knew I would love this interview. 👍❤
Loved listening to her story. I like how she describes her experience. She's going to be a great mom! 💝
Never be ashamed to ask for help as a single parent! Dude, I have my husband and we still need help at times. I was raised by a single mom and my family helped and I benefitted from their help. It takes a village to raise a well rounded person and if you have the option of help, take it! My children changed me forever and for the better. Motherhood is the most challenging, life changing, incredibly rewarding thing I have and ever will do.
Thank you for this. I’ve made gendered assumptions about butch pregnant women in my circle that this has helped me unpack and correct.
This was such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. ✨
Beautiful sharing 🌻🌟🌼
What an amazing person.
Absolutely beautiful. Thank you so much for this.
This is beautiful.
omg. #Motherhood * You are BEAUTIFUL. Thank you for sharing your story !!!!!!!!! we're doing Great
wow - really great interview...Whitney has always been great in front of a camera...
I had back labor too. It was horribly traumatic and I dealt with tailbone pain for a few years :/
Beautiful. Touching . ❤️
Yes momma🙏🏼❤️
this is honest... being a Mom is sooooo hard... especially when they're little... great job... let the Love in...
Aaah he's georgeous..thanks for telling people about emergency caesarian...its ruff
So so brave ❤️ Thank you 🙏🏼❤️
Loved this. I just love everything you all do.
I connect to this on so many levels
I think they also automatically assume your partner is the birth mother because of the colour of her skin as your baby is dark. Not saying this is correct for them to do by any means, just saying it’s probably also a factor. Mecca is so cute and I’ve been following you for a long time, just so happy to see you happy 😊
Interesting story. Thank you for sharing
Love this.
Omg I remember Whitney, she cut her dreads off 😮 she looks great!
You're doing GREAT!!
i learned so much from Whitney