Oh, my. I'm a licensed therapist in TX and was cringing throughout Mel's long story short. I'm so sorry that was your experience, Mel! For anyone that was wondering: Group therapy and Support Groups are both highly effective methods of therapy but they are NOT the same! Both can be transformative and powerful when facilitated by a trained therapist that's skilled in this area. Butt it's really important to know the difference when considering if this form of therapy is a good fit for you. Group therapy is typically a closed space with a set number of people, coming together with the same concerns/struggles to learn more on the topic and learn new coping skills. They are typically 5 to 12 weeks long and really structured. Before joining group therapy, therapist meet with each member prior to see if they're a good fit for the group. (sometimes if people are not in the best emotional space, staying in individual therapy may be the best). Support groups are groups that are a bit surfaced, open to anyone, and the topics discussed can range from anything. Most times they are never-ending with no stopping point because the group members freely can come and go. And the whole point of support groups is to feel supported and encouraged. Mel, I could be wrong but it seems like you joined an ' open support group for black women' that could had been facilitated better by your therapist. Not judging, just agreeing with your statement on how she poorly handled the situation. Long story short (lol), I think it's important to also mention that our experiences are just that - OURS. What may happen to one person - may not happen to another. Group settings aren't for everyone and that's okay! If you're still reading this and still considering participating in a form of group therapy, my hope is that you remain open to the possibility that your experience may be a positive one and to search for therapist in your area that offer the type of group that you think may benefit you! Take care.
Agree with all of this! I run groups at a university counseling center and group counseling can be so beneficial but there is a skill to running groups and knowing when to intervene and facilitate as a therapist
aww last episode of the year. YALL HAVE BEEN TRULY AMAZING - this podcast was always so funny, informative, light-hearted and all together fun :) can't wait til next year. happy holidays and happy new year LISS and MEL
When I tell you I had real life tears, while doing my makeup when Mel told that group therapy story 🤣🤣! It was such a rollercoaster ride lol. I love this podcast so much.
@49:58 Too many of my brothers have lost the art of conversation, dating apps make it harder to know who your dealing with because of the veil of how they present who they are
My daughter has been sick since she started preschool. She's in 1st grade now and only time she hasn't been sick is during the summer and a literal week here and there during the school year. I'm tiirreeed of these contagious ssa kids.
Mel You're sooo, right! I recently took my young adult grandson to Claires, to have his ears repierced. Because one closed. I was flabbergasted at he cost of them. They used to be 9.99. But I'm 62...but still😂
It’s actually safer and better to go to the doctor or tattoo shop because their process causes less trauma to the ear then those guns they use at the stores
Mel, thank you for letting me know about Claire's! I want to get my 2nd holes repierced, I'll go to a tattoo shop!!! That Group Therapy conversation was hilarious and the therapist handled that situation wrong!
Oh The Harlem Candle Company, Chris Collins !!! Get the discovery set 1st . You will be AMAZED. Prepare yourself !!!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 You will find some FAVORITES & Damn it purchase everything!!!!
You can absolutely get it done at the doctor’s office. Unfortunately, the big corporate type healthcare systems are going away from the practice, but the small practices definitely do it.
Now I gotta slide over on the couch so you can have a seat! Dead!! LMFAOOOOOOOO!! This was the best podcast YET!!! OH MY GOSH! The ear piercing! LOL!!!
Omg that's me on a podcast about the dating scene thank yall. Also yup that's the trash and trash because they all are garbage. Lis yes definitely rejects. So sad. The dating apps are trash. Also there is scammers. We doomed lord help
😮😮😮😮 the way my jaw dropped when that man asked if she’s on her period. My block would have been so strong he would have to think to himself that he did something STOOOPID!
Yea that group therapy session was a mess. Mel you are right it should be focused on a specific topic just like NA or AA. Where I am we a place where kids can go participate in group therapy to help with the loss of a family member. I signed my kids up when my husband died. Since it was during the pandemic it was all on Zoom and separated by age group. For the kids it was children who lost grandparents, parents or another close relative. But in my particular parent group we were all widows, fiancees, or long time partners. It was all women so it was easier for us to relate to each and support each other. Group therapy can work if it's facilitated correctly and every one there is for similar experiences.
I'm in grad school and I picked up Amazon delivery for Winter break cause I needs the moneys. I'm getting ready for work and Melissa you said why would you go to the store when things can be delivered and I agree. HOWEVER!!!!!! I'm gone need to pop the trunk on the kitty litter people. Cause why the box all small and then weigh a thousand pounds? YOU can go to the store ma'am! 😅
Long story short.... OMG, my mom had a doctor's appointment yesterday, this nurse and patient comes by for him to do a eye exam. The nurse, cover your left eye, read line eight. As he is reading, he says F when it was a P, me... I'm shaking my head to tell him it's wrong, my mom yells my name and was like girl! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ But the kicker was when the nurse said, cover your right eye read line eight, he said, no, ok read line seven, NO, okay, read line six, he said, I can only see line one and two, me 😮😮😮😮 oh my. I know his pain. Almost Two years ago when I went to get my exam, the doctor said read this line, me, nope, ok, this one, Nope, ok, this one, with my chest out, I read the line, proud. The doctor goes, that first line is where your glasses are now, your eyes are worse by double 😮😮😮😮🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Wait, when did Claire's become so expensive? When I was 18, my aunt and I went to Claire's to get a second hole. We were waiting our turn looking around. They pierced the lady in front of us, she screamed and we walked out. 😂😂😂😂😂 Never got a second hole til this day. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️😂😂😂
Men and women do the same thing on dating as far as catfishing, lying, portraying whatever both genders do the same thing Married people shouldn't comment on single people's business unless they're dating single people
Group therapy story ...the way I would have cussed that lady out and not felt bad (cause we aint friends). Yes, her mother transitioning was horrible, but she should have led with that! She was rude and obnoxious and would have been met with that same energy 🫣😑🤭
Why does her ears need to be pierced? She can go when she’s older. I didn’t take my babies to get their ears pierced until they were old enough to ask for it.💕🦋💕🦋
Yes but for so.e of us we do it asap...I did my oldest at 8 weeks and she cried so bad I vowed to never do it as a baby again...then I got married and the hubs insisted on piercing the children as babies...I didn't want to do it
I also breastfeed all 3 of my babies… first two for a year each and had milk stored til 1.5 years old. My last baby nursed a year and then at night until she turned two… I gave her more liquid gold because she was the last one.
You could just get some cute clip ones for right now. Also why are we still taking the liberty to get a child’s ears pierced, like why not use clip ons until the child wants to poke a whole in them? Sorry y’all this triggered me. My mom pierced my ears as a child had to do a redo, fast forward I’m grown and don’t wear earrings. Y’all need to stop let these girls make that permanent decision just like a tattoo, we make them wait for that.
Oh, my. I'm a licensed therapist in TX and was cringing throughout Mel's long story short. I'm so sorry that was your experience, Mel!
For anyone that was wondering: Group therapy and Support Groups are both highly effective methods of therapy but they are NOT the same! Both can be transformative and powerful when facilitated by a trained therapist that's skilled in this area. Butt it's really important to know the difference when considering if this form of therapy is a good fit for you. Group therapy is typically a closed space with a set number of people, coming together with the same concerns/struggles to learn more on the topic and learn new coping skills. They are typically 5 to 12 weeks long and really structured. Before joining group therapy, therapist meet with each member prior to see if they're a good fit for the group. (sometimes if people are not in the best emotional space, staying in individual therapy may be the best). Support groups are groups that are a bit surfaced, open to anyone, and the topics discussed can range from anything. Most times they are never-ending with no stopping point because the group members freely can come and go. And the whole point of support groups is to feel supported and encouraged. Mel, I could be wrong but it seems like you joined an ' open support group for black women' that could had been facilitated better by your therapist. Not judging, just agreeing with your statement on how she poorly handled the situation.
Long story short (lol), I think it's important to also mention that our experiences are just that - OURS. What may happen to one person - may not happen to another. Group settings aren't for everyone and that's okay! If you're still reading this and still considering participating in a form of group therapy, my hope is that you remain open to the possibility that your experience may be a positive one and to search for therapist in your area that offer the type of group that you think may benefit you! Take care.
Agree with all of this! I run groups at a university counseling center and group counseling can be so beneficial but there is a skill to running groups and knowing when to intervene and facilitate as a therapist
These 2 comments are amazing ❤
“Girl, Claires got too much dip on they chip.” 😂😂😂
aww last episode of the year. YALL HAVE BEEN TRULY AMAZING - this podcast was always so funny, informative, light-hearted and all together fun :) can't wait til next year. happy holidays and happy new year LISS and MEL
When I tell you I had real life tears, while doing my makeup when Mel told that group therapy story 🤣🤣! It was such a rollercoaster ride lol. I love this podcast so much.
@49:58 Too many of my brothers have lost the art of conversation, dating apps make it harder to know who your dealing with because of the veil of how they present who they are
Another great episode. Happy Holidays ladies & everyone.👋🏾
Omg the Dating pop the Trunk... AAAAAND BLOCK!! 💯💯💯💯🤣🤣🤣😂
My daughter has been sick since she started preschool. She's in 1st grade now and only time she hasn't been sick is during the summer and a literal week here and there during the school year. I'm tiirreeed of these contagious ssa kids.
Mel You're sooo, right! I recently took my young adult grandson to Claires, to have his ears repierced. Because one closed. I was flabbergasted at he cost of them. They used to be 9.99. But I'm 62...but still😂
Yes!! Pray for us single sisters!! It's TRASH out here in these single streets!!
Mel said “help me, help me” & i haven’t been right since bc EXACTLY 😂
I love your car commercial, Liss!❤ And Mel, You will hit Alll those goals👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This is my absolute favorite podcast 😂😂 yall are crazy fun!❤
It’s actually safer and better to go to the doctor or tattoo shop because their process causes less trauma to the ear then those guns they use at the stores
Mel, thank you for letting me know about Claire's! I want to get my 2nd holes repierced, I'll go to a tattoo shop!!!
That Group Therapy conversation was hilarious and the therapist handled that situation wrong!
The dating scene sucks please keep us in your prayers 💜
Oh The Harlem Candle Company, Chris Collins !!! Get the discovery set 1st . You will be AMAZED. Prepare yourself !!!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 You will find some FAVORITES & Damn it purchase everything!!!!
You can absolutely get it done at the doctor’s office. Unfortunately, the big corporate type healthcare systems are going away from the practice, but the small practices definitely do it.
I feel you on sending kids to daycare. I am dealing with a stuffy-nosed baby boy now. :(
2:25 Mel, please cover Shirley Strawberry’s husband Ernest William’s case next year.
Also if you use the card at the pump, there is a likelihood that there is a fake card reader on the pump. 40:06
Now I gotta slide over on the couch so you can have a seat!
Dead!! LMFAOOOOOOOO!!
This was the best podcast YET!!! OH MY GOSH!
The ear piercing! LOL!!!
Omg that's me on a podcast about the dating scene thank yall. Also yup that's the trash and trash because they all are garbage. Lis yes definitely rejects. So sad. The dating apps are trash. Also there is scammers. We doomed lord help
Love Gin and Juice 😂😂😂
😮😮😮😮 the way my jaw dropped when that man asked if she’s on her period. My block would have been so strong he would have to think to himself that he did something STOOOPID!
It's the fact that y'all on the other side of the world the dating is the same as in South Africa 😂
Haibo it's bad
FYI Samsung products are integrated lol 37:17
Yea that group therapy session was a mess. Mel you are right it should be focused on a specific topic just like NA or AA. Where I am we a place where kids can go participate in group therapy to help with the loss of a family member. I signed my kids up when my husband died. Since it was during the pandemic it was all on Zoom and separated by age group. For the kids it was children who lost grandparents, parents or another close relative. But in my particular parent group we were all widows, fiancees, or long time partners. It was all women so it was easier for us to relate to each and support each other. Group therapy can work if it's facilitated correctly and every one there is for similar experiences.
Me screaming because Mel wanted to be a pretty girl!!!! My heart is smiling! 💚💗💚 I hope you reconsider joining a grad chapter one day.
16:05 It's the daycare. Full of sickness. 😢
Where is the link to the gift bags so we can support the business
I'm in grad school and I picked up Amazon delivery for Winter break cause I needs the moneys. I'm getting ready for work and Melissa you said why would you go to the store when things can be delivered and I agree. HOWEVER!!!!!! I'm gone need to pop the trunk on the kitty litter people. Cause why the box all small and then weigh a thousand pounds? YOU can go to the store ma'am! 😅
My daughter only goes to daycare 2 days and she's sick every month lol and they send out a new letter with a new illness going around every month smh
I'm glad that yall recognize Androids are better.
Mel tells the best stories 😂
Long story short.... OMG, my mom had a doctor's appointment yesterday, this nurse and patient comes by for him to do a eye exam. The nurse, cover your left eye, read line eight. As he is reading, he says F when it was a P, me... I'm shaking my head to tell him it's wrong, my mom yells my name and was like girl! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ But the kicker was when the nurse said, cover your right eye read line eight, he said, no, ok read line seven, NO, okay, read line six, he said, I can only see line one and two, me 😮😮😮😮 oh my. I know his pain. Almost Two years ago when I went to get my exam, the doctor said read this line, me, nope, ok, this one, Nope, ok, this one, with my chest out, I read the line, proud. The doctor goes, that first line is where your glasses are now, your eyes are worse by double 😮😮😮😮🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
11:31 this is my life 😂😂😂😂
Congratulations on the national commercial Melissa.
I’ve been “hatfished” before and GIRL mans looked like Cone-head 😂😂😂! The apps legit terrify me now! 😩😩
Thanks Coco because I wanted to say something😂😂 Let's go Android 😊
Wait, when did Claire's become so expensive? When I was 18, my aunt and I went to Claire's to get a second hole. We were waiting our turn looking around. They pierced the lady in front of us, she screamed and we walked out. 😂😂😂😂😂 Never got a second hole til this day. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️😂😂😂
Innervixen---try this Black own Bn.
Melissa take your boys down to do a tour of da HBCU so they can get a feel of the atmosphere
My AMEx they’s tried to decorate them whole house😂😂😂gurl noooo
Another black-owned perfume: Moodeaux #Worthy
I got mines done at the doctors office. But I’m holes are not even…. lol
Worked with someone who admitted to me he hat fished cause he was balding at a young age… it’s definitely real
Dr.'s def pierce ears. my 16 year got hers done when she was 6 weeks at her PCP
My pediatrician pierced my daughter’s ears. That was 20 years ago. We paid $60
Now I want to cuss somebody out! Hahahaha
I was born in the 1900's and had my ears pierced in the hospital shortly after I was born. The best place to go for ear piercing is a tattoo shop.
It's called team android 😊
I had Mel pegged for an AKA. I was kinda right lol
I paid 100 for earing at Claire's...its crazy
Savoire faire black owned fragrance
Men and women do the same thing on dating as far as catfishing, lying, portraying whatever both genders do the same thing
Married people shouldn't comment on single people's business unless they're dating single people
Mel girl go to a piercing or tattoo shop. It is better to get pierced with a needle instead of a gun especially when restoring a prior piercing!
Mel, do you have allergies?
My immune system stand on 🐂 💩.
Group therapy story
...the way I would have cussed that lady out and not felt bad (cause we aint friends). Yes, her mother transitioning was horrible, but she should have led with that!
She was rude and obnoxious and would have been met with that same energy 🫣😑🤭
Liss, u could’ve just pressed the “duplicate” button on that video so that it would be your most recent chile
If you don't understand that a therapist needs therapy to you're misinformed... they're people to
Administrative Day April 24, 2024
Melllll, stop telling the business about the sororities! That’s not your story to tell please 😂😂
Take her to an actual piercer. They can reopen it without trauma. I can’t even remember what it’s called, but I’m 14 piercings in, so hear me out.
Go to Sally Beauty and get the kit and do it yourself.
Soooo, yall didnt explain Mel's top. We need answers
Why does her ears need to be pierced? She can go when she’s older. I didn’t take my babies to get their ears pierced until they were old enough to ask for it.💕🦋💕🦋
Yes but for so.e of us we do it asap...I did my oldest at 8 weeks and she cried so bad I vowed to never do it as a baby again...then I got married and the hubs insisted on piercing the children as babies...I didn't want to do it
I breastfed all 3 of my kids, 1 year each. And I was pregnant during part of it.
I also breastfeed all 3 of my babies… first two for a year each and had milk stored til 1.5 years old. My last baby nursed a year and then at night until she turned two… I gave her more liquid gold because she was the last one.
My daughter's pediatrician office pierced my daughter's ears I thk they charged $40.
Bruh never go to Claire's for ear piercing. I used to work there and the method for piercing is more likely to cause a keloid. Go to a professional.
Well...Well...WELL Look at y'all 🍎users 😥over the (iThis & iThat) #TeamAndroid 🤖😊
Melissa someone probably is hacking you. Possible through your email
You could just get some cute clip ones for right now. Also why are we still taking the liberty to get a child’s ears pierced, like why not use clip ons until the child wants to poke a whole in them? Sorry y’all this triggered me. My mom pierced my ears as a child had to do a redo, fast forward I’m grown and don’t wear earrings. Y’all need to stop let these girls make that permanent decision just like a tattoo, we make them wait for that.