God always sends me clarification that I'm not crazy. This video popped up just now on my phone. You are speaking on allll the things I just was speaking to my 18 year old son about last night. That had me in tears. You were a blessing to me and I appreciate this video. I subscribed ❤️. Thank you
My son is a single dad, he left home with his son and he learn real quick how hard it was by yourself. He ask to come back and agreed to pay half the rent and utilities so I said yes because of my grandson. He pays me 1/2 rent and utilities never miss rent or bills gladly pays me because he knows how expensive it is to live. Thank God he's a responsible man.
That's what I'm talking about teaching responsibility and priorities, now when he goes out on his own he can manage things better . At the end of the day it's about respect as well , unfortunately I thought by helping her with her other needs she would appreciate me more but it didn't work out that way at all. I feel so unnapreciated for the nice things I do for my children and when I hear Mom your supposed to do that do this it upsets me cause your an adult now remember you tell me this everyday so now I'm supposed to be responsible for adults now too ..um I have my own life to live
I agree with you 💯.. I have lived on my own since 18. I had no parents or adults. ! I have been paying bills since. I gave all my kids responsibilities and some bills to pay. They all have good credit , savings and their own home. They always thank me for not enabling them in bad behaviour! Some of their friends still live at home and have nothing.! I’m glad I used tough love.
Yes, you taught them well and it started at home ,now they are productive, responsible adults that's what I'm talking about but if they happen to fall off into hard times they already know what to do to get back on their feet . Thank you for watching!!❤️
My son is grown but he respect me so, like I said he got out there and life taught him, so he learned to appreciate me. Let them go out there and struggle some then they'll learn to appreciate you
My daughter is 23 and pays rent plus splits utilities. She wanted a house so I purchased one for us so we can leave the apartment life. She hardly cleans to my expectations but I accept that since she’s been good about helping out.
My oldest son tried me I ain’t having it. Once u graduated in my home you go to trade school or college or you work and pay their dad and I 200.00 a month. He started paying but he didn’t want to now he has his own place and he pay 1,000 for rent plus utilities and car payment and car insurance. He knows his room is available for him for 200.00 a month. And no my mom didn’t charge me but look at how much things cost back then compared to now.
Same here she actually moved back in recently,we had an agreement and she was cool with it , not sure what happened. Me and you are on the same page thanks for watching 🙏🏽
Throat punch lol im serious my oldest buy food sometimes my 2nd child doesn't have a job 3rd child buys food 4th child in high school... when they need a place to stay close ur door tell them move with they dad.
I see what you’re saying. Mines is only 7. Contributing is important to help her learn. The only thing that isn’t her responsibility is the sacrifices you made, that was your choice. Unfortunately it’s a hard place to be bc you run the risk of your child blaming you later on down the road. Unfortunately when parents divorce, separate, or worse we’re never together the structure sometimes isn’t there. That’s not always the case thou. You’re doing the best you can with what you have and your communicating to both your children. There are rules in everyone’s home no matter the age, if you don’t like them move…. It sucks, but we’ve all been there and most importantly it’s temporary. There are some ppl that have no trusting family to lean on at all. Blessings to you all and I hope the little one gets it soon, but that’s part of being young and silly🤷🏾♀️. 🫶🏾🙏🏾
No lies told here. Some of these comments are a trip. On my street mostly all the other races are piled in one home sharing bills. When we manage a household and ask for contributions from adult children we are bad parents. Amazing.
Right ,my neighbor moved his sister her teen, brother and Uncle in his house after his wife left him, he knew the assignment the bills had to get paid. His sister says they all contribute & she was able to buy a more dependable vehicle she says without her brother asking her to move in she wouldn't know where she would be she was struggling with her son on her own she says it was a blessing!
@@candyinthahouse he did right! That’s how you build and save. Everyone help one another until the reduced cost allow them to reduce their debt, save, then move out and purchase a place of their own. Thank God my daughter understands the assignment. Keep on doing you sis they’ll learn!
I tried she won't listen , if you call it taking that's your opinion but like I told her you can pay someone $1200 for rent or pay $300 that's 75 a week we all have to contribute. I even lowered it to $200 still not good enough. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable at all living with my parents and not helping or even asking if they need anything , especially if I'm splurging on myself and friends .
It is supporting growth financially and mentally..! If you live at home with your parents and you make $2,000.00 a month And you didn't have bills like you would if you was on your own, you mean to tell me you can't give your parents 200.00..? But you got $1800.00 left over with no other bills...!!! You are the one tripping if you ask me that's not take take take...! That's mom dad I appreciate you both I'm grown now let me ease some of your burdens...! Shit, $200.00 ain't nothing but the light bill if that...!
@@Phamclick74 right!! That thing u flick on and off and leave on all night for no reason , yeah that's money going down the drain and you will help pay it , it's int free geesh!
Even if they move out they may need financial support regularly being a parent is forever things aren’t as easy as when we were young , ….. inflation is out of control 😢
Umm if you move out and need financial help regularly you need to find another job , or pay your mama the 2-300 dollars and stay home , I absolutely will not support an adult child of mine when they move I can still be a parent but not financially
Make her pay rent, an she couldn't move back out until she finds a husband. We pay the world y cant we pay momma. I noticed married couples are the way to beat the world.
No , if you live in my home you will contribute $50 a week . You won't be able to stay anywhere else for free and that's preparing her for when she moves again responsibilities and priorities. No going out with friends and shopping first ,pay your bills and whatever you have left then you can shop and save.
@@divasmith3570 it was $300 ,but then I tried to help her out a lil more and we agreed 200 , I gave her a break for two months already now she has another excuse as to why she can't pay, so I'm over it. Thanks for watching
My daughter will be 22 October 20th. She has had two apartments so far. Rent 900$ month , plus bills, and car payments. She has had to come back hime now. I didn't want her to come back here. It distured my life. I was here alone, with NO CAR. EXERCISING, KEEPING THE HOUSE CLEAN, COOKING, AND EATING, CONTENT. I LOST MY 🏋 TOO MUCH LOSS. ITS NOT HER FAULT ABOUT MY WEIGHTT. SHE BE IN, AND OUTT, ALL DAY. I WOULD NEVER TURN HER AWAY FROM A ROOF OVER HHER HEAD, THIS HOUSSE IS BIG. BOTTOM LINE , SHE DONT DO SHIT, AROUND HERE, NOTHING. AND I DO NOT CHARGE HER RENT AND SHE BE DISRESPECTFUL AS FUCK. BUT THIS MOMMA HERE, IN MY OPION, IS COLD AS ICE😮😮😮.
You said all that to say what?? What are you teaching your daughter? No responsibilities, no respect, no life skills??? And why did you yell the second half If your illiterate paragraph???
What do you mean ? I don't mind sharing my experiences with others at all . Besides if you read the other comments many other parents feel the same way and can relate. If ya don't like what I'm saying keep it moving sis and that's no shade just being real . Smh
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God always sends me clarification that I'm not crazy. This video popped up just now on my phone. You are speaking on allll the things I just was speaking to my 18 year old son about last night. That had me in tears. You were a blessing to me and I appreciate this video. I subscribed ❤️. Thank you
My son is a single dad, he left home with his son and he learn real quick how hard it was by yourself. He ask to come back and agreed to pay half the rent and utilities so I said yes because of my grandson. He pays me 1/2 rent and utilities never miss rent or bills gladly pays me because he knows how expensive it is to live. Thank God he's a responsible man.
That's what I'm talking about teaching responsibility and priorities, now when he goes out on his own he can manage things better . At the end of the day it's about respect as well , unfortunately I thought by helping her with her other needs she would appreciate me more but it didn't work out that way at all. I feel so unnapreciated for the nice things I do for my children and when I hear Mom your supposed to do that do this it upsets me cause your an adult now remember you tell me this everyday so now I'm supposed to be responsible for adults now too ..um I have my own life to live
Amen!! We can only do what we can
They can go live with dad since he loves
Making you the bad guy. I support you
And I thank you 🔥🔥
I agree with you 💯.. I have lived on my own since 18. I had no parents or adults. ! I have been paying bills since. I gave all my kids responsibilities and some bills to pay. They all have good credit , savings and their own home. They always thank me for not enabling them in bad behaviour! Some of their friends still live at home and have nothing.! I’m glad I used tough love.
Yes, you taught them well and it started at home ,now they are productive, responsible adults that's what I'm talking about but if they happen to fall off into hard times they already know what to do to get back on their feet . Thank you for watching!!❤️
My son is grown but he respect me so, like I said he got out there and life taught him, so he learned to appreciate me. Let them go out there and struggle some then they'll learn to appreciate you
Preach!!
Preach!!
My daughter is 23 and pays rent plus splits utilities. She wanted a house so I purchased one for us so we can leave the apartment life. She hardly cleans to my expectations but I accept that since she’s been good about helping out.
Y’all are roommates now you can’t control an adult. Clean your space and let her enjoy her own.
People have this sense of entitlement, including kids and family. My son helps me alot..😉
You are so right ,if I hear but "I'm your child one more time"!
Yes she should be paying rent@@candyinthahouse
My oldest son tried me I ain’t having it. Once u graduated in my home you go to trade school or college or you work and pay their dad and I 200.00 a month. He started paying but he didn’t want to now he has his own place and he pay 1,000 for rent plus utilities and car payment and car insurance. He knows his room is available for him for 200.00 a month. And no my mom didn’t charge me but look at how much things cost back then compared to now.
Same here she actually moved back in recently,we had an agreement and she was cool with it , not sure what happened. Me and you are on the same page thanks for watching 🙏🏽
Throat punch lol im serious my oldest buy food sometimes my 2nd child doesn't have a job 3rd child buys food 4th child in high school... when they need a place to stay close ur door tell them move with they dad.
$300/mth is NOT rent. I dont know what it's called, but not rent.
Ok got it ,I understand what your saying !
Action now.... sweetie 🥰 be Blessed In Jesus Name Amen Hallelujah..... God's Strength , love 💕 and peace.... control your home. .. now
I see what you’re saying. Mines is only 7. Contributing is important to help her learn. The only thing that isn’t her responsibility is the sacrifices you made, that was your choice. Unfortunately it’s a hard place to be bc you run the risk of your child blaming you later on down the road. Unfortunately when parents divorce, separate, or worse we’re never together the structure sometimes isn’t there. That’s not always the case thou. You’re doing the best you can with what you have and your communicating to both your children. There are rules in everyone’s home no matter the age, if you don’t like them move…. It sucks, but we’ve all been there and most importantly it’s temporary. There are some ppl that have no trusting family to lean on at all. Blessings to you all and I hope the little one gets it soon, but that’s part of being young and silly🤷🏾♀️. 🫶🏾🙏🏾
In this economy especially people are going to have learn to pull together 8:09
Amen!
I tell my daughter my bills don’t stop and yours either. Now give me my rent $$$$$…,,
Chile, say it again for the dusties in tha back 🤣
No lies told here. Some of these comments are a trip. On my street mostly all the other races are piled in one home sharing bills. When we manage a household and ask for contributions from adult children we are bad parents. Amazing.
Right ,my neighbor moved his sister her teen, brother and Uncle in his house after his wife left him, he knew the assignment the bills had to get paid. His sister says they all contribute & she was able to buy a more dependable vehicle she says without her brother asking her to move in she wouldn't know where she would be she was struggling with her son on her own she says it was a blessing!
@@candyinthahouse he did right! That’s how you build and save. Everyone help one another until the reduced cost allow them to reduce their debt, save, then move out and purchase a place of their own. Thank God my daughter understands the assignment. Keep on doing you sis they’ll learn!
You can commit her to make a contribution but you should also be supporting her to save or promote GROWTH to her... cannot just tek tek tek
I tried she won't listen , if you call it taking that's your opinion but like I told her you can pay someone $1200 for rent or pay $300 that's 75 a week we all have to contribute. I even lowered it to $200 still not good enough. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable at all living with my parents and not helping or even asking if they need anything , especially if I'm splurging on myself and friends .
It is supporting growth financially and mentally..! If you live at home with your parents and you make $2,000.00 a month And you didn't have bills like you would if you was on your own, you mean to tell me you can't give your parents 200.00..? But you got $1800.00 left over with no other bills...!!! You are the one tripping if you ask me that's not take take take...! That's mom dad I appreciate you both I'm grown now let me ease some of your burdens...! Shit, $200.00 ain't nothing but the light bill if that...!
@@Phamclick74 right!! That thing u flick on and off and leave on all night for no reason , yeah that's money going down the drain and you will help pay it , it's int free geesh!
Follow what God is putting in your heart.
Thank you
Even if they move out they may need financial support regularly being a parent is forever things aren’t as easy as when we were young , ….. inflation is out of control 😢
Umm if you move out and need financial help regularly you need to find another job , or pay your mama the 2-300 dollars and stay home , I absolutely will not support an adult child of mine when they move I can still be a parent but not financially
Make her pay rent, an she couldn't move back out until she finds a husband. We pay the world y cant we pay momma. I noticed married couples are the way to beat the world.
Is the rent that your collect from your daughter going to her savings account/ personal savings account/ retirement account/ bonds/ school tuition?
No , if you live in my home you will contribute $50 a week . You won't be able to stay anywhere else for free and that's preparing her for when she moves again responsibilities and priorities. No going out with friends and shopping first ,pay your bills and whatever you have left then you can shop and save.
No...! It would go towards a bill....! One bill if that...!!! You teach them financial literacy not do it for them...!!!!!
@candyinthahouse Is it 50 $ dollars a week, or is it 300 $ dollars per month? In your video, you stated that you charge them 300 $ dollars?
@@divasmith3570 it was $300 ,but then I tried to help her out a lil more and we agreed 200 , I gave her a break for two months already now she has another excuse as to why she can't pay, so I'm over it. Thanks for watching
@@divasmith3570 no we discussed it verbally beforehand,but sounds like a good idea
My daughter will be 22 October 20th. She has had two apartments so far. Rent 900$ month , plus bills, and car payments. She has had to come back hime now. I didn't want her to come back here. It distured my life. I was here alone, with NO CAR. EXERCISING, KEEPING THE HOUSE CLEAN, COOKING, AND EATING, CONTENT. I LOST MY 🏋 TOO MUCH LOSS. ITS NOT HER FAULT ABOUT MY WEIGHTT. SHE BE IN, AND OUTT, ALL DAY. I WOULD NEVER TURN HER AWAY FROM A ROOF OVER HHER HEAD, THIS HOUSSE IS BIG. BOTTOM LINE , SHE DONT DO SHIT, AROUND HERE, NOTHING. AND I DO NOT CHARGE HER RENT AND SHE BE DISRESPECTFUL AS FUCK. BUT THIS MOMMA HERE, IN MY OPION, IS COLD AS ICE😮😮😮.
You said all that to say what?? What are you teaching your daughter? No responsibilities, no respect, no life skills??? And why did you yell the second half
If your illiterate paragraph???
I feel sorry for you, but thanks for watching 😎
lol so why did you put your business on the internet?
What do you mean ? I don't mind sharing my experiences with others at all . Besides if you read the other comments many other parents feel the same way and can relate. If ya don't like what I'm saying keep it moving sis and that's no shade just being real . Smh