“i feel that i could have been happy with myself just by being alive” that hit me so hard bc i realised that i put myself down too much for the smallest things and make myself feel so miserable
Being nice to oneself sounds good in theory but it is again a step in the same direction as being bad to oneself coz you are still *thinking* about the "self". Let me tell you practical ways to actually be happy. Get out of the house more, have more meaningful interactions with people, do meaningful work and lastly don't think when thinking is not required. All of these "inferiority complexes" are caused by us modern humans over thinking things when we could simply just enjoy life as it is.
I’m glad that guy leaned from his experience and is able to teach us all as well! Seems like he has matured and gotten very wise. We are our own worst critics
그게 리얼 정답인 것 같습니다... 저도 초등학생 시절엔 주변 영향 때문인지 성형은 나쁘다 생각하고 성형한 사람들 안 좋게 보고 주변에서 자연미남, 잘생겼다 등 소리 좀 들으니깐 그 시절의 저는 눈에 뵈는게 없었나봐요. 중학생되고 갑자기 얼굴 역변하고 외모로 인해서 불이익도 받으니깐 뒤늦게 깨닫게 되었습니다. 왜 그 따구로 살았는지 아직도 후회합니다. 벌 한번 제대로 받았나 봅니다... 하핳ㅠ, 이젠 성형해도 안해도 전 좋게봅니다. 저도 성형해서 콤플렉스 없앨까 생각중이기도 하고요.
못생겼다고 욕하는건 잘못된 거지만, 성형은 지가 지 발로 남탓 하면서 돈 주고 얼굴 고치는건데....성형한 사람들이 가장 많이 하는 변명이 " 못생기면 못생겼다고 손가락질 성형하면 성형했다고 손가락질" 이더라. 실제로 못생겼다고 손가락질 받은적도 없으면서 그냥 지 성형에 세상 탓 남 탓.
손가락질 안하면 "자기만족" 타령 하다가 손가락질 하면" 못생겨서 손가락질 받아서 성형했다. 근데 왜 이제는 성형 했다고 손가락질"이냐며 스스로를 속이는 변명질. 결국 못생겼을 때 받은 손가락질에 편승해서 본인들도 잘생기고 예쁜사람처럼 행동하고 보이고 스스로 속이고 싶은게 속내 아닌가? 돈과 노력으로 가질 수 없었던 본질적 변화를 이제는 돈으로 쉽게 살 수 있으니. 인생도 거짓, 얼굴도 거짓. 짝퉁에 양심까지 거짓인데 정말 가슴에 손을 얹고 더러운 허영심에 이끌려놓고 남탓하는건 아닌지 생각좀 했으면 좋겠다. 인구대비 성형이 전 세계 1위 라던데. "왜 명품 안 샀어?"라는 손가락질에 "명품이 왜 필요해" 하기보다는 짝퉁이라도 사서 나도 속이고 남들도 속이면서 남들 탓 하면서, 행동과는 전혀 다르게 깨끗한 척 순수한 척 피해자인척 하는게 성형인들
it's sad that pretty much all of them did plastic surgery because someone said something negative about their appearance.. like, it's those people that have a problem to fix, not you.
박나래도 진짜 스트레스 심할 거 같다... 방송에 나오는 사람이고 게다가 개그우먼이라 많이 망가지는데 거기다가 인신공격도 많이 받았고... 시선 때문에 성형을 하는데 이젠 성형한 거 마음에 안 든다고 앞트임 다시 풀라고 하도 그래서 풀었잖아... 난 진짜 예뻤다고 생각했는데 ㅠㅠ 너무 남들의 시선 때문에 스트레스를 많이 받으신 게 아닌지
난 아직도 기억에 남는게.. 형이 나보다 외모가 더 잘생겼는데, 어디 결혼식장같은데 가면 아들이에요~ 소개하다 사람들이 “아들들이 참 잘생겼네” 하지만,, 막상 우리 엄마는 항상 형만 희망이라고 지칭하며 외모적 편견의 시선으로 내 자존감을 짓뭉갰을때 정말 알 수 없는 감정이 수면위로 막 떠올랐음 지금 생각해도 그 때의 실망감은 말로 형용할수가 없네 내 자존감이 낮은걸까?
He could look similar, but he would need to lose weight first. I think a lot is achievable nowadays with surgery, not that I'm promoting it at all. I just think people should go the reversible and cheap way first (like losing weight or maybe working out) rather than just thinking about surgery.
@@icymeow3417 Exactly. I believe that too. Our skin complexion and bone structure is god given but we could simply lose some weight and take better care of ourselves rather than changing what was naturally given to us if we care about our appearance to that extent
@@mesia2453 - Agreed. I just feel like before you do something as drastic as surgery which is expensive, has risks, and most of the time it's irreversible unless it's filler, you should get to a healthy weight and maybe work out to see if that gives you the change you want.
참고로 이번에 성형을 후회하신 남자분은 저번 편에 성형예정자 맞추는 편에서 맞추는 입장에 계셨었는데 , 이번이야기를 통해 저번편에 정답 맞추실때 "남자가 의외로 한번에 추진력 있게 해버리는 경우가 있다" 라고 말씀하셨었던게 자기 자신의 이야기를 말씀했었던거같다는 생각이 드네요
코에 컴플있는데, 초딩때까지는 딱히 신경 안썼어요. 근데 맨날 친척들 어른들이 ♡♡이는 코만 고치면 되겠다, 코빼고 다 이쁘네, 코만 하면 미스코리아 나가자. 이짓거리를 심각하게 많이 해서 이제 누구 볼 때 코부터 생각난다 ㅅㅂ... ~하면 예쁘겠다^^ 이거 칭찬 아니에요
korean surgery makes you look like a doll (big eyes and big aegyosal, sharp v line, really high cheekbones and the high and round nose) so that's why the ones that have more surgeries look like they got surgery.
마지막 남자분 말 너무 공감되요.. 고3끝나고 입시에 실패하고 재수했지만 결국 실패했죠.. 그때의 내 자신이 너무 싫어서 그걸 채우는 수단으로 쌍수를 했어요.. 만족할 줄 알았는데 오히려 성형이 잘되고 못되고를 떠나서 그때의 나를 더 보둠어 주고 안아줄껄 하는 생각이 아직도 들더라구요.. 있는 그대로의 나를 마주할 자신이 없었죠.. 물론 지금은 잘 이겨냈지만 저처럼 후회할 선택은 안했으면 좋겠습니다. 정말 나 자신을 진정으로 사랑해 줄 수 있는 사람은 나밖에 없다는걸 깨달았어요.
The guy that regrets his surgery is so wise. You can just tell he has a good heart. I admire his ability to introspect and realize that at the end of the day you determine your own happiness. Wishing him all the best
영상의 후회자(?) 남자입니다! This is the one who regretted in the video! 재미있는 영상 촬영 기회를 주시는 솔파님에게 무한한 감사를👏👏👏 다들 영상 보시고 해소감을 느끼고 행복해지면 좋겠어요🥰🥰 I'm loving myself at the moment. I hope you feel eased and love yourself more🥰🥰
성형은 나쁘지 않다. 필요한 사람이 있고, 만족하는 사람이 있다면 그 자체로 좋은 일이다. 문제는 포기하고 감내해야할 부분 역시 있다는 것이다. 부작용의 위험을 감수해야하고, 감정에 따라 자연스럽게 변화하는 표정의 일부분을 포기해야한다. 낯설어진 본인의 얼굴을 받아들이며, 마찬가지로 낯설어할 주변과도 적응과 설득의 시간을 가져야 하는 등, 크고 작은 불편사항이 있다. 부정적인 면보다 만족스러운 부분이 본인에게 더 크게 느껴진다면 애초에 문제가 되지 않는 일이기도 하다. 다만, 주변에서도 다하는 보편적인 거니까, 혹은 했던 사람들의 변화가 부러우니까 하는 식의, 맹목적인 흐름으로 휩쓸린 결정들이, 안타까운 결과로 이어지지 않길 바랄 뿐이다.
This video really shows how much we can’t judge a book by its cover... I always admired that dude bc he was always so wholesome, funny and he made everyone feel comfortable all the time. But hearing how he suffered from such severe side effects and depression for a long time really made me think hard about how we don’t always know what’s going on in the lives of others, beneath the surface. We should always be kind bc we never know what they’ve went through.
@@minahin2509 Someone who needed to love himself a little more and care a little less what others thought about him, someone who needed to learn that if you get plastic surgery do it for yourself not to make others have a better opinion about you, because the one that has to live with you is only you... The hell what others think you are important and beautiful no matter what.
You are so right. My older sister told me almost every day in childhood that I was an ugly freak and no one would ever love me. I never got any surgery Bc I could not afford it. Now as an adult I realize she was just jealous and trying to make me hate myself. Sadly it did make me hate myself and gave me life long serious body dismorpfia.
꧁꧂kittycat꧁꧂ I was teased for wearing glasses all through 7th grade. I’m over 40 and wear contacts and I’m still ashamed to be seen in glasses. Logically, I know that’s dumb, but harsh words really stick with you.
But at the end of the day, ITS YOUR CHOICE TO DO WHAT WITH THOSE WORDS. I get it, it’s painfully and it sucks.. we all been there. But at the end of the day, why are y’all letting some words getting the best of you and your day? Remember this everyone, just because someone thinks something, doesn’t mean all will. Sure some people may have called you ugly and fat or something.. but that doesn’t mean ALL with think that way of you. Why don’t y’all recall the times people called you gorgeous, pretty, etc? That’s something I’d rather have my head thinking about
Andrew Aguayo well for me I shared a room with my sister for all my childhood and it really wasn't just her words she also physically and mentally abused me. When you're young and someone says something to you about you describing you it become what your perception of yourself is. Especially if no one else is saying otherwise. Perception is reality and thus what she said about me is how I ended up feeling about myself. I was and still am floored and confused when people say I'm beautiful or gorgeous because I cannot convince myself of the real reality. Every time I went to a therapist to try and deal with my depression or other issues I had they always asked me about my life concluded that my sister is the one who really made me who I am. With her words and her abuse. I should also add that she tried to kill me 3-4 times and spent time in a juvenile detention center for it as well. My parents even considered putting her a different home and by the time she was 16 she had to move in with the cousin because her relationship with my mother was also becoming violent. Sorry so long. But yeah. I should mention that as an adult she has since been diagnosed with more than one mental illness. Basically she's heavily medicated now. She denies what happened in the past now that we are in our 30's.
성형후회하신다는분 전에 영상에서 봤을때 참 호감형이라고 생각했던 기억이 나네요. 말 한마디 한마디에서 다른사람의 고통을 생각해줄 줄 아는 분 같단 생각을 했었거든요. 그런데 역시 본인도 어떤 깊은 고통이 있으셨군요. 힘들었던 시간이 더욱 빛나는 지금을 만든거같네요. 지금은 본인을 너무 사랑하신다니 다행이에요.
In Korea this is fairly common, my fiance was trying to be a actress, and was actually given a part but in order to get it she was told she have to change her nose, she turned it down even tho they where going to pay for it. They then said why, most girls have to change there whole face for you just your nose.. I think the beauty standard in Korea are extremely high, and insane, so many Koreans feel the need to change something, I have seen beautiful women with a nice jawline want to get it shaved down, cause they think its too strong.. For me I thought it was sad, but many Korean I feel accept this practice. So no hate to them.
It's weird but I notice it too,low self esteem spreads like a virus there. I got into Korea a few years ago so I watch a ton of foreigners who moved there to hear their fun experience, Like dominoes one after another... they all began to touch up their faces. Things they would never have thought about in their home country. Suddenly co-workers and sponsors made them feel pressured. Korea made them see parts that were once fine about their face seem ugly...
Yes true no hate to them. But, all i feel is, pity to these kind of people. They tend to have so many issues including mental issues. May your girlfriend won't be influenced by these toxic people
In Korea, you must be perfect. Height, appearance, fashion sense, career, personality. Suicide prevention phrases are written on the Han river Bridge. This is not just a matter of appearance. If you are perfectionist you can easily kill yourself. Korean society nurtures perfectionists. That is the talent that society wants. What I would like to say is why Korea has been the number one suicide rate in OECD countries for over 10 years in a row. The problem of appearance and plasticity is just the tip of the iceberg. Korean people are not so different from champions in hunger game.
This is so true! Also in Korea you can start having plastic surgery when you are like 10 years old and there are so many middle and high schoolers who've already had plastic surgery which is crazy!
@@cosmicdust5572 oh.... yeah but many people doesn't take plastic surgery..ㅠㅠ I'm so sad of many people 'Korean does a lots of plastic surgery...' pleassseee.... remember this.. *Thank you for your kind explanation. I am not good at English because I am Korean.* ☻☻
"I was able to forget and move on from the bad words that others said about me. The real thing that stayed and bothered me was the bad words that I said to myself." That gave me chills.
Over the years, I had always seen him in Solfa videos, and really, really loved his sense of humor and straightforwardness, and it is just so, so great to see him be honest and have the courage to reflect and put his story out there, regrets and all. These kinds of things need to be talked about, but they're not-- and that in and of itself makes this video so beautiful. A great thanks to both him and Solfa.
When I went to Korea last summer, I could literally see the ads of plastic surgery everywhere. The ads that only emphasized how pretty you could be after the surgery were displayed in main streets where everybody including teenagers easily gets to see repeatedly. Korean society really should stop forcing people to fit in their high beauty standards and inform them of the negative effects of plastic surgery.
Hmmm I would like to build on your point. While it's true that every person has a kind of beauty to them, whether they are wise or funny or graceful or artistic etc, but not everyone is "physically beautiful". I think this is the reason why many people can't accept the blanket statement "everyone is beautiful", because we can obviously see that not everyone is "physically beautiful". So it's better to just accept if one is not "physically beautiful" and then focus on the things that are great about oneself. I think that's a more substantial way of looking at things.
@dil oreo I agree exactly. As someone who's been through some really rough things in life I always instantly find kindness, human connection, and imperfections or otherness genuinely beautiful. Ive struggled with eating disorders, anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation etc because of my intense fear of how the world viewed me, but have healed from much of that pain and fully recovered from eating disorders and all the harmful internalized ideas I once had about beauty, bodies, ability, and perfection. I realized through the years of recovery that my ideals were all shaped by a society made to earn money off insecurities and the impossible ideal of perfection that hardly anyone can even pretend to maintain without suffering. That there were billions of dollars of diet companies selling the idea that losing weight or changing shape is possible longterm and healthy (spoiler: its not and actually dieting and intentional weight loss is statistically more harmful than learning to care for and feed and rest your body at any size, shape, look, appearance it comes), that skincare products largely are not necessary, that makeup could be a tool like painting and could be as messy and wild as any creative arts instead of a mask to hide imperfections, that body hair removal is completely manufactured as cleanliness and beauty when less than a hundred years ago it was not and there is so much dta we have available now that proves keeping body hair is actually generally more clean and safe, that in reality all bodies of all looks and abilities house a person with all their fullness of emotions/passions/wants/dreams/intentions etc. These things changed my whole outlook on life and others and myself and ive never been more at peace with myself and human beings than after years of letting those truths really sink in and save and heal me. I think we all need to recognize that we are living in capitalist systems designed to profit off of and exploit us at every front, and recognize that ideals of productivity, beauty, wealth, success are not reachable for many of us and are sadly dangerous to view as ideals because they ultimately /require/ othering those without or those not trying to buy into those ideals. Of course, its not our faults if we cant escape the not good enough feelngs those fake ideals bring, but if we can be aware of it, and work on trying to find beauty and love in the odd world around us, I think we'd all be so much happier and freer.
6:17 when he talked about seeing an old picture of himself i related so much...i always look at myself in the mirror or in recent pictures with so much hate and pick apart every single thing i dont like, but when i look at pictures from 5-10 years ago all the things i used to hate and wanted to change were just fine
I agree, but not all the time. They are not always still suffering, some of them have reflected and moved on, like how this guy did. But it's definitely true. I think it was Stephen Colbert whose family died when he was very young, and only had his mother left. To cheer his mother up, he turned to comedy and ended up rising to the fame that he has today.
세상에 정말 못난 사람은 없더라고요 내면으로든 외면으로든 적어도 하나 이상의 아름다움을 갖고 있다고 생각해요~ 경험 상으로도 그랬고요 ! 세상의 미의 기준을 누가 세웠는지 누가 만들어가는지 잘모르겠지만 ,, 자신의 장점을 알고있는, 자신에 대한 자신감을 갖고있는, 그리고 다른 사람을 존중할 줄 아는 사람이라면 또 이렇게 되기 위해 노력하고 있는 사람이라면 충분히 아름다운 사람일 것이라고, 그렇게 되어가고 있다고 믿어요! 당신을 사랑합니다❤️
성형외과는 정신과다 라는 말이 있는데 정말 맞는 것 같아요. 다들 정신이 이상하시다는 게 아니라, 남들한테 충분히 예쁜 얼굴도 스스로가 자존감이 낮아져있을 때에 못생겼다고 집착하시더라고요. 그래서 저는 부작용만 없다면 성형 자체가 스스로의 정신 건강에 도움을 준다면 아무 문제 없다고 생각해요. 부작용이 문제일 뿐...
매일 무의식적으로 당연한듯 화장을 하고 오직 외모를 어떻게 꾸밀까 집중하고 ... 매일 그렇게 하루를 살아가는 내 자신이 느껴져서 너무 울컥했어요 쌩얼은 자신이 없고 남 앞에서는 예뻐야만 하는 강박감이 저도 모르게 있었다는 걸 이 영상을 보고 깨달았어요 나는 내 스스로 만족하려고 매일매일을 꾸민줄 알았는데 지금보면 남들 눈에 만족스럽기 위해 나 자신을 꾸며냈던 것
not at all to me. i feel cruel saying this and it is definitely not reflective of him as a person and i am sure he is a beautiful person, but to me he looks a bit plastic. i do not want to censor my thoughts, but yeah... he really does... the stuck out nose that just looks very unnatural on his face (and usually looks unnatural on people of East Asian descent in general unless they were born with it), the eyes so swollen, and just... when I look at him, he looks like he got his whole face done. it makes me sad and makes me almost imagine the pain of being in that chair as they do surgery on my FACE/JAW to make it slimmer. that's crazy to me...
남들처럼 평범해지고싶어서 성형했는데 성형하고나니 나는 내자신을 너무 사랑하지않았구나 좀 깨닿게됐어요.. 성형해도 성격은 여전히 그대로고 소심한성격은 바꿀수없다는걸 깨달았죠.. 그래도 성형을 통해서 평범한 삶이라도 얻게되어서 행복해요 평범한게 남들에게 쉬워보여도 평범해지고싶어서 노력했던 제 자신을 사랑하고싶어요
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마지막 여자분 말 공감 ..
자신을 잘 아는 사람이면 성형을 해도 괜찮고 그렇지않으면 반대한다.
자꾸 기준을 밖에 두면 아무리 성형을 한 들 만족할 수가 없죠 . 다들 각자의 아름다움이 있는건데
제가 이해를 잘 못했는데.. ㅜㅜ 보통 아는사람을 말리고싶고 모르는 사람은 하던 별로 상관 안하지 않나요?부작용이나 나쁜 결과을 고려해서
kongee 동영상에서는 지인과 나의 관계가 아닌 자기 자신을 잘 아는 사람이면 성형을 해도 내 자신을 사랑하는 법을 알아 괜찮을 것 같고 나를 잘 모르는 상황에서 무작정 남의 기준에 맞춰 성형을 하는 건 말리고 싶다고 하시는 것 같습니다!
그래 성형여부가 문제가 아니라 그 눈빛이나 분위기가 문제라니까
@@또잉데잉오잉 감사합니다! 완전 잘못 이해하고 있었어요 ㅎㅎ
ㅇㅈ 자기얼굴을 잘알아야 성형을 해도 성공하는거고 그냥 아 무조건 난 눈크게 코높게 이러면 망하는거임.
바비톡 이런 광고 내보내는거 위선적이란 생각 안하나? 성형외과 부작용 후기 올리기만하면 삭제하고 경고 먹이고 글 못쓰게하기로 유명하던데ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ이제와서ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㄱ이미지 메이킹인가
???
어쩐지 박나래가 갑자기 왜 있나 했다...
ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅁㅊ 바비톡껔ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 위선 쩐다
ㅇㅈ 거기서 눈수술로 유명하고 후기들도 다 좋아서 수술햇다가 망햇잖아 화나서 후기 남겻는데 신고먹고 삭제당햇고 그제서야 알앗지 부정적인 후기가 없는이유 근데 바비톡 이제와서 업그레이드됏대서 보니까 부작용칸 생겻더라?
HOXY 저기 받침 ㅆ인데 ㅅ으로 하는거.. 일부러 하시는 건가요..ㅠㅠ 죄송하지만.. ㄱ..거슬려요...ㅠㅠ
정말 요새 외모지상주의로 수많은 성형외과에서 넘쳐나는 광고들 자제시켜야된다.. 부작용이 얼마나 큰 고통인지
이 말 나온지도 벌써 20년임 ㅠㅠ 이천년 초반부터 늘 나오던 말 하지만 절대로 없어지지 않을 말 외모지상주의 성형공화국
부작용 모르는 사람도 있음? 모른다고 해도 성형한다는 사람한테 부작용 디테일하게 말해줘도 결국함
그리고 하는말이 늙어서 부작용 나타나면 자살하지 뭐 ㅇㅈㄹ임
아닌 사람도 많지만 이런 멍청한 생각가지고 하는사람 많음
진짜 아이러니하게 이 댓글 보면서 영상 마무리 했는데 끝나면서 광고가 성형 후기 나오고 이렇게 이뻐졌어요가 나오네요 ㅌㅌㅌㅌㅌㅌ
이런말하는애들 싹다 못생긴거냐??
정작 외모지상주의로 이득보고있는 훈남 훈녀들은 아무말도없던데
하지만 이것도 바비톡의 제작지원을 받은 고도의 간접적인 성형외과 광고라는 것..
학원강사분 사람 진짜 편하게 하시는 분위기를 가지신 것 같아요. 저 분한테 수업 받으면 분위기 좋을거 같은데여... 본인한테 좋은 부분이 아닐텐데 엄청 담담하게 풀어내는 분...
사영 진짜 좋은분이세요 첨삭 엄청 친절하게 해주시고 학원에서도 먼저 말도 걸어주시고 다가와주십니다.. 친구랑 얘기하면서 쌤 너무 좋다고 했었어요
@@폴짝이-l7w 저분 어디서 많이 본것같은 인상인데 신상좀 알려주세요
ㅇㄷ
치약 제 논술조교쌤이셨어요..!!
@@폴짝이-l7w 유튜브는 안하셔요?
하정말..외모가 못생겼단소리를...들으면 진짜 힘들거같긴하다..정말....지인들에게 쌍수얘길 많이듣긴했었지만...후우 그놈의 오지랖..하는사람치곤..이쁜 얼굴 못봤다 진짜...본인부터 생각하지...
옥탑방에서 백혈구토시로 펭수 볼래 그거 ㅈㄴ ㅇㅈㄲㅋㅋㅋ 그런 소리 하는 사람치고 이쁘고 잘생긴 사람없었음 지가 해야 되는데 남한테서 어떻게든 찾아내서 ㅈㄹ 하는것
쌍꺼풀 수술해서 전보다 나아질거 같으면 그냥 해요 요즘 쌍꺼풀은 성형도 아님 ㅋㅋ 실리콘 넣거나 뼈깎는거부터가 진짜 성형이지 눈매교정이나 쌍꺼풀 수술은 안검하수 있는 직장인들도 많이 합니다 왜냐면 이마힘으로 눈뜨면서 사는건 ㅈ나게 불편하거든요
8:02 요번 영상은 여성분이 다했네요... 멋지십니다
"the real thing that stayed and bothered me was the bad words I said to myself"
bro
You are just like me..
Hearing him say that made me tear up,tbh.
Not gonna lie i cried at that part
Same.
Yeah that was sad. I hope he didn’t have depression
“i feel that i could have been happy with myself just by being alive”
that hit me so hard bc i realised that i put myself down too much for the smallest things and make myself feel so miserable
me too
i never feel like i've done something good :')
Being nice to oneself sounds good in theory but it is again a step in the same direction as being bad to oneself coz you are still *thinking* about the "self". Let me tell you practical ways to actually be happy.
Get out of the house more, have more meaningful interactions with people, do meaningful work and lastly don't think when thinking is not required. All of these "inferiority complexes" are caused by us modern humans over thinking things when we could simply just enjoy life as it is.
you’re beautiful
I’m glad that guy leaned from his experience and is able to teach us all as well! Seems like he has matured and gotten very wise.
We are our own worst critics
못생기면 못생겼다고 손가락질
성형하면 성형했다고 손가락질
그게 리얼 정답인 것 같습니다... 저도 초등학생 시절엔 주변 영향 때문인지 성형은 나쁘다 생각하고 성형한 사람들 안 좋게 보고 주변에서 자연미남, 잘생겼다 등 소리 좀 들으니깐
그 시절의 저는 눈에 뵈는게 없었나봐요. 중학생되고 갑자기 얼굴 역변하고 외모로 인해서 불이익도 받으니깐 뒤늦게 깨닫게 되었습니다.
왜 그 따구로 살았는지 아직도 후회합니다. 벌 한번 제대로 받았나 봅니다... 하핳ㅠ, 이젠 성형해도 안해도 전 좋게봅니다. 저도 성형해서 콤플렉스 없앨까 생각중이기도 하고요.
내가좋으면장떙 ㅋ
못생긴 사람=정상
성형한 사람=정상
못생겼다거나 성괴라고 욕 하는 것=자연괴물
못생겼다고 욕하는건 잘못된 거지만, 성형은 지가 지 발로 남탓 하면서 돈 주고 얼굴 고치는건데....성형한 사람들이 가장 많이 하는 변명이 " 못생기면 못생겼다고 손가락질 성형하면 성형했다고 손가락질" 이더라. 실제로 못생겼다고 손가락질 받은적도 없으면서 그냥 지 성형에 세상 탓 남 탓.
손가락질 안하면 "자기만족" 타령 하다가 손가락질 하면" 못생겨서 손가락질 받아서 성형했다. 근데 왜 이제는 성형 했다고 손가락질"이냐며 스스로를 속이는 변명질.
결국 못생겼을 때 받은 손가락질에 편승해서 본인들도 잘생기고 예쁜사람처럼 행동하고 보이고 스스로 속이고 싶은게 속내 아닌가? 돈과 노력으로 가질 수 없었던 본질적 변화를 이제는 돈으로 쉽게 살 수 있으니.
인생도 거짓, 얼굴도 거짓. 짝퉁에 양심까지 거짓인데 정말 가슴에 손을 얹고 더러운 허영심에 이끌려놓고 남탓하는건 아닌지 생각좀 했으면 좋겠다. 인구대비 성형이 전 세계 1위 라던데. "왜 명품 안 샀어?"라는 손가락질에 "명품이 왜 필요해" 하기보다는 짝퉁이라도 사서 나도 속이고 남들도 속이면서 남들 탓 하면서, 행동과는 전혀 다르게 깨끗한 척 순수한 척 피해자인척 하는게 성형인들
저 학원강사 국어 진짜 잘 가르쳐요 우리 학원 국어쌤이었는데 짱,,,
황유진 어쩐지 말을 정말 잘하신다 생각했어요
저희 아xx 논술쌤잉데ㅜ왜여깄어
@@inspiration8936 아토즈?
it's sad that pretty much all of them did plastic surgery because someone said something negative about their appearance.. like, it's those people that have a problem to fix, not you.
malevolenthoe 🗣🗣‼️‼️
periodt
That's South Korea for you. They have a strange obsession with beauty
Facts🙏🏽❤️!!
sadly in SK they are super blunt about beauty related things, symmetry is a big thing...
박나래도 진짜 스트레스 심할 거 같다... 방송에 나오는 사람이고 게다가 개그우먼이라 많이 망가지는데 거기다가 인신공격도 많이 받았고... 시선 때문에 성형을 하는데 이젠 성형한 거 마음에 안 든다고 앞트임 다시 풀라고 하도 그래서 풀었잖아... 난 진짜 예뻤다고 생각했는데 ㅠㅠ 너무 남들의 시선 때문에 스트레스를 많이 받으신 게 아닌지
주변 지인들이 ' 눈만 좀 하면 예쁠거 같다 ' 라던가, ' 넌 누굴 닮아서 코가 그렇게 낮냐 ' 라고 말할때. 솔직히 그런말을 하는 시선들이 잘못된 걸 알면서도.. 그런 말을 계속 듣게되니까, 어쩔 수 없이 성형을 고민하게 되는거 같아요...
진짜 오지랖...... 본인 얼굴이나 신경쓰지 ㅠ
그니까요 더군다나 몇몇은 부모님이 먼저 자식 자존감을 그런 말을 함으로써 낮추더라고요.. 저희 엄마도 그렇고
난 아직도 기억에 남는게.. 형이 나보다 외모가 더 잘생겼는데, 어디 결혼식장같은데 가면 아들이에요~ 소개하다 사람들이 “아들들이 참 잘생겼네” 하지만,,
막상 우리 엄마는 항상 형만 희망이라고 지칭하며 외모적 편견의 시선으로 내 자존감을 짓뭉갰을때 정말 알 수 없는 감정이 수면위로 막 떠올랐음 지금 생각해도 그 때의 실망감은 말로 형용할수가 없네 내 자존감이 낮은걸까?
Am I the only english comment?
이은상_ 맞아요 그리고 또 성형하면 성괴 이지랄 떨죠 ㅋ 이것도 저것도 안되는 세상 ㅋ
미의 기준은 미디아 영향이 큼. 개인 한 명 한 명 다르게 생긴 것이 얼마나 아름다운 건데. 다양성을 받아드리는 것이 건강한 거라고 봄. 똑같은 기준을 다르게 생긴 사람들에게 적용하려고 하는 것은 건강하지 못함. 우리은 모두 우리 나름대로 아름답다.
La La 죄송한데 받아드리는->받아들이는 입니당
@@imsosadd 죄송하면 하지 마세요
@@유인-t4m 진짜 죄송한 것 같아 보여요? ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
solfa 님 갑자기 아이디어가 생각났는데 mbti 모든유형을 모아보는거 어떨까요 서로의 유형을 숨기고 얘기하는거죠
오 되게 괜찮은 생각 같아요
Mbti 는 서양 사주
mbti가 뭐죠
어비스리움 심리테스트로 성격을 알파벳 유형으로 분류한거에요 네이버에 엠비티아이 찾아보면 할 수 있어요 소름끼치게 잘 맞아서 사람들이 한참 과몰입 했었던ㅋㅋ
난 ENTP임
비호감.. 저 말은 진짜 상처다.. 어떻게 그런 말을 쓰지 사람한테 ㅜ
남자분의 말씀을 제가 감히 마음대로 함축해보자면 성형의 부작용도 있지만 무엇보다 옛 자신을 있는 그대로 사랑하지 못했던걸 후회하고 계신게 아닌가 싶네요..
이거다
the thumbnail literally just looks like floating heads wtf
💀💀
Justin Seagull thats the point
ik I was kinda confused look at it 😂😂😂
Lmao 😂
That’s so funny but true,
Justin Seagull
I CANT UNSEE IT 😂😂
"No one was born ugly. The problem is we live in a judgemental society."
Are you army?
Because it reminds me off kim namjoon?
Kim Namjoon 💜
Beauty is relative and subjective... so that goes for itself.
FACT !!!!!!
True
못생긴 사람=정상
성형한 사람=정상
못생겼다, 성괴다 라고 욕하는 것=자연괴물
ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ자연괴물 인정
이거다!!ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
못생긴 사람은 없습니다
@@소즌 응 있어
@@롤다이아유지-o2e 너.
When that man said" I will probably never getting that face right? even if I get surgery " bruh idk if it just me or iduuno that hurts
Yeah it's sad that appearance does matter. By the look at the comments they be trying to find 'sauce' of the Kpop looking guy.
He could look similar, but he would need to lose weight first. I think a lot is achievable nowadays with surgery, not that I'm promoting it at all. I just think people should go the reversible and cheap way first (like losing weight or maybe working out) rather than just thinking about surgery.
@@icymeow3417 Exactly. I believe that too. Our skin complexion and bone structure is god given but we could simply lose some weight and take better care of ourselves rather than changing what was naturally given to us if we care about our appearance to that extent
@@mesia2453 - Agreed. I just feel like before you do something as drastic as surgery which is expensive, has risks, and most of the time it's irreversible unless it's filler, you should get to a healthy weight and maybe work out to see if that gives you the change you want.
I felt that
참고로 이번에 성형을 후회하신 남자분은 저번 편에 성형예정자 맞추는 편에서 맞추는 입장에 계셨었는데 , 이번이야기를 통해 저번편에 정답 맞추실때 "남자가 의외로 한번에 추진력 있게 해버리는 경우가 있다" 라고 말씀하셨었던게 자기 자신의 이야기를 말씀했었던거같다는 생각이 드네요
공통점은 모두 타인의 비난을 전제로 한 평가에 의해서 고통을 겪었다는 점. 이게 얼마나 무섭고 무거운 말인가.... 뭐라 형용할 수 없는 복잡 미묘한 감정이다.......
코에 컴플있는데, 초딩때까지는 딱히 신경 안썼어요. 근데 맨날 친척들 어른들이 ♡♡이는 코만 고치면 되겠다, 코빼고 다 이쁘네, 코만 하면 미스코리아 나가자. 이짓거리를 심각하게 많이 해서 이제 누구 볼 때 코부터 생각난다 ㅅㅂ... ~하면 예쁘겠다^^ 이거 칭찬 아니에요
공감입니당.. 저는 코가 모아나에요 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
@@민다홍-j1v 그건 좋은거죠....?
미작이 안좋은거죠.. 납작해유..
@@민다홍-j1v 아핫....
와 ㅅㅂ!!!!!!! 난 줄!!!! ㅅㅂㅅㅂㅅㅂ 나중에 코 하면 괜찮아
When he asked the girl “why are you crying?”
Me: *wipes tear away*
Same
Lol same, i didn't realize that i cried for a while until that guy asks the girl
Same
Natalia A yess same here, i was like 👀🥺
@Mr. West lndian t.v. ? Lmfao what
Is it just me or some were EXTREMELY obvious than others.
we have the same pfp and yes the one boy who has a v-shaped chin looks a bit obvious
very obvious lol
Some went to cheaper clinics
korean surgery makes you look like a doll (big eyes and big aegyosal, sharp v line, really high cheekbones and the high and round nose) so that's why the ones that have more surgeries look like they got surgery.
I feel like the eyes are the most obvious because they all aim for the same double eyelid and puffy eye look...
썸네일 얼굴들 보다가 갑자기 박나래 있어서 뭐지 하고 들어감
ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
나돜ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
저도옄ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ ㅇㅈ
박나래맞나 한번 더 확인함 ㅋ
아니 언니가 여기서 왜나와?
나 자신을 가장 잘 알고 사랑해야 한다는 말을 기억하게 되는 영상이네요
7:32 울컥... 나 자신을 믿고 사랑하는게 표정으로 보여요
마지막 남자분 말 너무 공감되요..
고3끝나고 입시에 실패하고 재수했지만 결국 실패했죠.. 그때의 내 자신이 너무 싫어서 그걸 채우는 수단으로 쌍수를 했어요.. 만족할 줄 알았는데 오히려 성형이 잘되고 못되고를 떠나서 그때의 나를 더 보둠어 주고 안아줄껄 하는 생각이 아직도 들더라구요.. 있는 그대로의 나를 마주할 자신이 없었죠.. 물론 지금은 잘 이겨냈지만 저처럼 후회할 선택은 안했으면 좋겠습니다. 정말 나 자신을 진정으로 사랑해 줄 수 있는 사람은 나밖에 없다는걸 깨달았어요.
나를 사랑하고 내 모습을 사랑하는게 가장 중요하다는 생각이 드네요. 성형을 한 내 모습을 사랑할 수 있다면 성형을 해도 되고 성형을 안한 내 모습을 사랑할 수 있다면 성형을 안해도 되는거 같아요.
03:54 참 의미심장한 말이네요. 주변에 내가 사랑하는 사람들하고 같이 행복하게 살기를 원하고, 그들은 정작 나의 외모에 상관없이 나를 사랑해준다. 그리고 내가 신경 쓸 필요조차 없는 타인 때문에 내가 고통받을 필요도 없다.
인간은 원래 익숙한것보다 새로운것에 관심을 가지고 익숙한 사람이 비판하는것보다 새로운사람이 비판하는게 더 신경쓰이는게 정상임
These people honestly have such kind souls. Some of them are so warm hearted that you just can't help liking them.
I know this is off topic, but omg ahgase??? And i agree, these people all look so beautiful and seem so kind and gentle.
@@bieoop haha yeah i'm not the biggest ahgase and i'm multifandom as heck but jinyoung's face really spoke to my soul in this pic
@@bieoop I mean they did have surgery..
When the person said the "idol looking guy" was probably the one who regret it because he looked kind of down I agreed cause he looks so sad
People often call him 'Plastic Face'. Ofcourse that hurts.
Kanesyou !! what’s his @
@@sarah-hx5ds @lucluck94
Sarah he also has a TH-cam channel 제롬 JEROME
@@maryannet4710 Isn't it NamsooTv though.
성형한 사람들보다도 인터뷰 하는 여자분에게 눈이 계속 가네요; 공감도 되게 잘해주시고 편안하게 예쁘심.
미쳤나봐 진짜 나래코기가 어딜봐서 비호감이냐
콘치팡 데뷔초에 앞트임 과했을땐 그랬긴햇움.. 지금은아니지만
지금이야 떠서 자주 보고 그 사람에 대해 잘안다고 생각하니까 이런 소리하는거지. 박나래 인기도 없고 수술전인 데뷔초에도 이런 소리 자신있게 할 수 있었을까?
솔직히 성형전 사진봣는데 그때가 더 귀엽고 이쁜것같음 개인적으로. 물론 지금도 이쁘시지만
Be호감
초반에는 ㄹㅇ 비호감소리 마니들음
1:32 이부분 너무 순수하고 웃겨서 현웃터짐ㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄲㅋㅋㄱㅋㄲㅋㄲㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㅋㅋㅋ
아니 저분 ㄹㅇ 찐 귀요미네 뭐했는지 물어봐놓곤 대답다듣고 왜 질문이 저는 그렇게 안되겠죸ㄱㅋㄲㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱ
외모부터 귀요미이심ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 어떻게 보면 아역 같음
말 할때 노래 웅장하고 소리 커지는거 ㅈㄴ 웃김ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
다 졸라 괜찮음 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ진짜 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 남자분 개귀여움 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 저는 이러케 안되게쬬???? ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
유튜버 강츄에요 ,, 개그동아리 식구들까지 다 재밌어요 ,, 👍🏻
진짜 너무 가볍게 한말이 평생 박히는거 같다
여자분이랑 30세 남자분 대화하시는 부분 부터 보는데 언변이 너무 뛰어나시고 진짜 말 참 예쁘게 하시는 거 같고 멋있었어요
The man who talked so movingly about himself....you're very handsome.
While i think he is more handsome before the surgeries. He look manly before this cute pretty face
마지막 여성분 말하시는 거 진짜 이쁘게 말하신다 ㅠㅠㅠ갑자기 우시는데 나도 눈물 울컥했다......마음씨도 너무 착하셔 ㅠㅠㅠ
The guy that regrets his surgery is so wise. You can just tell he has a good heart. I admire his ability to introspect and realize that at the end of the day you determine your own happiness. Wishing him all the best
영상의 후회자(?) 남자입니다!
This is the one who regretted in the video!
재미있는 영상 촬영 기회를 주시는 솔파님에게 무한한 감사를👏👏👏
다들 영상 보시고 해소감을 느끼고 행복해지면 좋겠어요🥰🥰
I'm loving myself at the moment. I hope you feel eased and love yourself more🥰🥰
10년째 재학 중 안녕하세요 너무 눈물나네요 저도 같은 케이스의 25살이에요 지금의 제 모습 때문에 자기학대가 정말 심했는데 깨닫게 해주셔서 감사하고 지금을 즐기도록 노력하겠습니다
Much love, much love (‘.w.’)~
Take it easy, live a good life
제 지난 모습이 너무 오버랩이 되서
말씀하실때 보기 많이 힘들기까지 했는데
그래도 마지막에 행복하다하실때
진심이신게 느껴저도
저도 덩달아 조금 기분이 좋아졌네요.
행복하세요
Yes please love yourself no matter what ❤️
성형은 나쁘지 않다.
필요한 사람이 있고, 만족하는 사람이 있다면 그 자체로 좋은 일이다.
문제는 포기하고 감내해야할 부분 역시 있다는 것이다.
부작용의 위험을 감수해야하고,
감정에 따라 자연스럽게 변화하는 표정의 일부분을 포기해야한다.
낯설어진 본인의 얼굴을 받아들이며, 마찬가지로 낯설어할 주변과도 적응과 설득의 시간을 가져야 하는 등, 크고 작은 불편사항이 있다.
부정적인 면보다 만족스러운 부분이 본인에게 더 크게 느껴진다면 애초에 문제가 되지 않는 일이기도 하다.
다만,
주변에서도 다하는 보편적인 거니까, 혹은 했던 사람들의 변화가 부러우니까 하는 식의,
맹목적인 흐름으로 휩쓸린 결정들이, 안타까운 결과로 이어지지 않길 바랄 뿐이다.
나는 자연스런 얼굴이 좋더라.. 성형 많이해서 꽃미남?이 되어도 자연스럽게 생긴 사람의 분위기는 이길수가 없음. 뭐든 과하면 부자연스러워지고 실제로 봤을때 보기 힘들어짐.
요즘 자연스럽게 해준다
35세 개그우먼씨 뭔가 혼자사실것같다,,
기허 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
나 혼자 산다.
미친ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
드립력ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
@잉뀨 ..?
This video really shows how much we can’t judge a book by its cover... I always admired that dude bc he was always so wholesome, funny and he made everyone feel comfortable all the time. But hearing how he suffered from such severe side effects and depression for a long time really made me think hard about how we don’t always know what’s going on in the lives of others, beneath the surface. We should always be kind bc we never know what they’ve went through.
who is he?
Dont think hes famous, just has been in a lot of solfa videos before
@@minahin2509 Someone who needed to love himself a little more and care a little less what others thought about him, someone who needed to learn that if you get plastic surgery do it for yourself not to make others have a better opinion about you, because the one that has to live with you is only you... The hell what others think you are important and beautiful no matter what.
Dang this is deep
4:05 Those are not friends, just people you happen to know
7:29 I got ocean eyes for what he just said
딱 봐도 저분이 코가 잘못되서 후회하는 듯 보였는데 아무도 못맞췄지..
Pippi Longstocking 되가 아니라 돼입니다!
@@velo2161 사람이 모를 수도 있고 실수 할 수도 있는 건데 제발까지...
@@ggaaeeuunn ㅇㅈ..
정가은 혹시라도 기분 나쁘게 들리셨다면 죄송해요 ㅠㅠ 댓글 수정 했습니다! '돼'와 '되'를 헷갈리시는 사람들이 많아서 말씀 드렸어요. 아무튼 '제발'이라는 단어를 쓰면서 맞춤법 지적한 것에 대해선 기분 나빴을 것 같아요.. 댓글 작성자에게 죄송합니다 ㅜㅜ!
하는 건 좋은데 본인 먼저 지키고 하세요
왕따때문에 눈 성형하셨다고 하신분 말이 너무 와닿아요.. 주변에 날 정말 소중하게 생각해주는 사람들은 변함 없다는게 ㅜㅜ
"그때의 내가 너무 싫었지만 지금의 나는 너무 좋아요"
전 이 채널의 컨셉이 처음엔 너무 난해하다고 생각했는데 갈수록 좋네요. “누가 성형을 후회할까요?” 처음에 이런 질문을 던지는 것이 결국은 영상을 보는 내내 자신의 잣대로 평가하고 판단하게되면서 평소 우리의 편견과 선입견들을 스스로 지각할 수 있게 만드는 거 같아요.
학원강사분 항상 너무 유쾌하고 귀여우셔서 저런 아픔이 있을줄 몰랐다
박나래를 구할 생각을 하다니.. 큰돈 썼네
바보지찬 앜ㅋㅋ
그냥 바비톡 홍보모델이라 나온거 아님?
바보지찬 ㅋㅋㅋ 콘돔으로 보인거냐...?
바비톡에서 지원해줬우요 박나래 바비톡 광고하자나요
Eddi 아 그렇군요..!^^
학원강사님 옛날 이야기 하실때... 툭툭 던지는 한마디 한마디로 스쳐지나간 그 과거가 얼마나 아프고 괴로웠을지, 듣는것만으로도 마음이 아려요
저 30대 강사이신 남성분 심리상담사 하시면 진짜 잘 어울리실듯
말도 너무잘하시고 매 영상에 나오실때마다 남을 이해하면서 해야리면서 말하는 느낌? 가장 당연하지만 어려운데 너무 잘하심
A few simple words can change a person's life.
Indeed.
You are so right. My older sister told me almost every day in childhood that I was an ugly freak and no one would ever love me. I never got any surgery Bc I could not afford it. Now as an adult I realize she was just jealous and trying to make me hate myself. Sadly it did make me hate myself and gave me life long serious body dismorpfia.
꧁꧂kittycat꧁꧂ I was teased for wearing glasses all through 7th grade. I’m over 40 and wear contacts and I’m still ashamed to be seen in glasses. Logically, I know that’s dumb, but harsh words really stick with you.
But at the end of the day, ITS YOUR CHOICE TO DO WHAT WITH THOSE WORDS. I get it, it’s painfully and it sucks.. we all been there. But at the end of the day, why are y’all letting some words getting the best of you and your day? Remember this everyone, just because someone thinks something, doesn’t mean all will. Sure some people may have called you ugly and fat or something.. but that doesn’t mean ALL with think that way of you. Why don’t y’all recall the times people called you gorgeous, pretty, etc? That’s something I’d rather have my head thinking about
Andrew Aguayo well for me I shared a room with my sister for all my childhood and it really wasn't just her words she also physically and mentally abused me. When you're young and someone says something to you about you describing you it become what your perception of yourself is. Especially if no one else is saying otherwise. Perception is reality and thus what she said about me is how I ended up feeling about myself. I was and still am floored and confused when people say I'm beautiful or gorgeous because I cannot convince myself of the real reality. Every time I went to a therapist to try and deal with my depression or other issues I had they always asked me about my life concluded that my sister is the one who really made me who I am. With her words and her abuse. I should also add that she tried to kill me 3-4 times and spent time in a juvenile detention center for it as well. My parents even considered putting her a different home and by the time she was 16 she had to move in with the cousin because her relationship with my mother was also becoming violent. Sorry so long. But yeah.
I should mention that as an adult she has since been diagnosed with more than one mental illness. Basically she's heavily medicated now. She denies what happened in the past now that we are in our 30's.
Why are people not more hyped by Park Narae being in here?!
My thoughts exactly!!!!
"A..a..aa-ahhhh"
I knew I recognized her but I wasn't sure xD
Ikr. I was like 'wait this face is familiar'
I was searching for comments about her and this is the first comment i see. Glad that somebody has mentioned 😁
마지막에 여자분 타인의 이야길 공감해주시는게 너무 좋고 슬프네요..
이번 영상 포인트라곤 할수 없겠지만
누구한테 무슨소리를 듣던 나 자신을 사랑해도 좋다. 이런 느낌이네요ㅠㅠ
부작용때매 하루를 좀먹고살고 있어요..솔직히..아파서 다른건 안보이고..위로로 하루를 버티네요..저도 자책과 후회의 늪에 빠져있어요..성형이 아무리 대중화,한군데는 괜찮겠지 하는맘으로 하신다면 말리고싶어요..
ㅠㅠㅠ힘내세요.. 어떤 부작용이신지 여쭈어봐도 될까요..?
성형후회하신다는분 전에 영상에서 봤을때 참 호감형이라고 생각했던 기억이 나네요. 말 한마디 한마디에서 다른사람의 고통을 생각해줄 줄 아는 분 같단 생각을 했었거든요. 그런데 역시 본인도 어떤 깊은 고통이 있으셨군요.
힘들었던 시간이 더욱 빛나는 지금을 만든거같네요. 지금은 본인을 너무 사랑하신다니 다행이에요.
성형은 주관적이어야 한다 나이들면 안다
남에게 잘보이려고 하는 시기는 20대초반 끝이고
시간이 지날수록 부질없어진다
건강을 해쳐가면서까지 아름다워질 필요는 없다
자기를 사랑하며 내면을 가꾸자
그게 제일힘든거같아요 제일많이듣는소리가 자기를사랑하란소린데 하 전그게제일힘든..ㅜ.
옥탑방에서 백혈구토시로 펭수 볼래 자존감이 낮으신가요?
I laughed when Park Narae came out, I wasn't expecting such a well known celebrity to be casted on this channel
winnnanniee She was in the last video too
it just shows that in the entertainment business that you will be pressure by your looks sadly how harsh it is
Ikr. And also the idea that comedians need to be pretty too is absurd.
This channel is viral so it makes some sense.
Wait so that was Park Narae?? Like she looked so familiar but like idk LOL
마지막 여자분의 말씀과 표정에 진정성이 느껴져서 마음에 와닿네요
대부분 사람들의 말 때문에 상처받아서 성형을 선택하게 됐다는게 너무 슬프다…
인생에 불행이란 사건이 아니라 그 사건을 받아들이기까지의 시간인듯 .... 사람마다 방식이 다르니 더 내 탓을 하게 되는
지난 영상에선 엄청 밝아보이는 분이셨는데, 그런 상처가 있다니 ... ㅜㅜ
결국은 내 자신을 사랑 하는 법을 알아야 하는게 인생사는 방법들 중 하나네요.
0:40 his yt is “namsoo tv” if anyone wanted to know!
THANKYOUUUUU
Well I went to his lates video and he looks COMPLETELY different there then he does in this video
Thank you
YAY THANKS
@@deneuvecrockett5200 It's a wonder what good lighting can do. This lighting is doing none of them any favors.
In Korea this is fairly common, my fiance was trying to be a actress, and was actually given a part but in order to get it she was told she have to change her nose, she turned it down even tho they where going to pay for it.
They then said why, most girls have to change there whole face for you just your nose.. I think the beauty standard in Korea are extremely high, and insane, so many Koreans feel the need to change something, I have seen beautiful women with a nice jawline want to get it shaved down, cause they think its too strong.. For me I thought it was sad, but many Korean I feel accept this practice. So no hate to them.
It's weird but I notice it too,low self esteem spreads like a virus there.
I got into Korea a few years ago so I watch a ton of foreigners who moved there to hear their fun experience, Like dominoes one after another... they all began to touch up their faces. Things they would never have thought about in their home country. Suddenly co-workers and sponsors made them feel pressured. Korea made them see parts that were once fine about their face seem ugly...
Yes true no hate to them. But, all i feel is, pity to these kind of people. They tend to have so many issues including mental issues. May your girlfriend won't be influenced by these toxic people
In Korea, you must be perfect. Height, appearance, fashion sense, career, personality. Suicide prevention phrases are written on the Han river Bridge. This is not just a matter of appearance. If you are perfectionist you can easily kill yourself. Korean society nurtures perfectionists. That is the talent that society wants. What I would like to say is why Korea has been the number one suicide rate in OECD countries for over 10 years in a row. The problem of appearance and plasticity is just the tip of the iceberg. Korean people are not so different from champions in hunger game.
This is so true! Also in Korea you can start having plastic surgery when you are like 10 years old and there are so many middle and high schoolers who've already had plastic surgery which is crazy!
@@cosmicdust5572 oh.... yeah but many people doesn't take plastic surgery..ㅠㅠ I'm so sad of many people 'Korean does a lots of plastic surgery...' pleassseee.... remember this.. *Thank you for your kind explanation. I am not good at English because I am Korean.* ☻☻
"I was able to forget and move on from the bad words that others said about me. The real thing that stayed and bothered me was the bad words that I said to myself."
That gave me chills.
@축늘어진이즈꼬리 💜💜💜
Over the years, I had always seen him in Solfa videos, and really, really loved his sense of humor and straightforwardness, and it is just so, so great to see him be honest and have the courage to reflect and put his story out there, regrets and all. These kinds of things need to be talked about, but they're not-- and that in and of itself makes this video so beautiful. A great thanks to both him and Solfa.
👏👏👍
When I went to Korea last summer, I could literally see the ads of plastic surgery everywhere. The ads that only emphasized how pretty you could be after the surgery were displayed in main streets where everybody including teenagers easily gets to see repeatedly. Korean society really should stop forcing people to fit in their high beauty standards and inform them of the negative effects of plastic surgery.
3:46 이분은 사각턱이 오히려 매력이라 안해도 될듯. 지금이 딱 예뻐요
사고나서 수술로도 복원이 힘들게 된 얼굴도 있습니다 있는 그대로가 가장 아름답고 특별한겁니다 쉽진 않겠지만 상처주는 사람땜에 아까운 시간 허비하지마시고 스스로를 아끼고 사랑해주세요
저 남자분 얼마나 힘든시간이였으면 말씀 하나하나의 깊이가 다르냐....
성형광고 규제가 생겼으면 좋겠어요 너무 자극적인것들이 많아요
Totally out of context but 0:16 the guy is really handsome
And now I’m an emotional ball at the end of the video.....
He's so damn handsome 😍
Call me REN search namsootv in youtube
His side profile reminds me of Wonbin
S M his yt is namsoo tv!
Its sad that whether you got plastic surgery or no
The people will always have things to say
Everyone is pretty, there are just some people who are blind and say they're not.
yOongi🤧💜
I wish there wasn't this idea of beauty. Each person is beautiful, they're all different. It's a great world that way
Hmmm I would like to build on your point. While it's true that every person has a kind of beauty to them, whether they are wise or funny or graceful or artistic etc, but not everyone is "physically beautiful". I think this is the reason why many people can't accept the blanket statement "everyone is beautiful", because we can obviously see that not everyone is "physically beautiful".
So it's better to just accept if one is not "physically beautiful" and then focus on the things that are great about oneself. I think that's a more substantial way of looking at things.
goodtimes I agree. There is always ALWAYS someone else in the world who will think you’re BEAUTIFUL
Arnimal Kaul but I think that people forgot that physical beauty is subjective
@@came8363 True. But only to an extent.
@dil oreo I agree exactly. As someone who's been through some really rough things in life I always instantly find kindness, human connection, and imperfections or otherness genuinely beautiful. Ive struggled with eating disorders, anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation etc because of my intense fear of how the world viewed me, but have healed from much of that pain and fully recovered from eating disorders and all the harmful internalized ideas I once had about beauty, bodies, ability, and perfection. I realized through the years of recovery that my ideals were all shaped by a society made to earn money off insecurities and the impossible ideal of perfection that hardly anyone can even pretend to maintain without suffering. That there were billions of dollars of diet companies selling the idea that losing weight or changing shape is possible longterm and healthy (spoiler: its not and actually dieting and intentional weight loss is statistically more harmful than learning to care for and feed and rest your body at any size, shape, look, appearance it comes), that skincare products largely are not necessary, that makeup could be a tool like painting and could be as messy and wild as any creative arts instead of a mask to hide imperfections, that body hair removal is completely manufactured as cleanliness and beauty when less than a hundred years ago it was not and there is so much dta we have available now that proves keeping body hair is actually generally more clean and safe, that in reality all bodies of all looks and abilities house a person with all their fullness of emotions/passions/wants/dreams/intentions etc. These things changed my whole outlook on life and others and myself and ive never been more at peace with myself and human beings than after years of letting those truths really sink in and save and heal me.
I think we all need to recognize that we are living in capitalist systems designed to profit off of and exploit us at every front, and recognize that ideals of productivity, beauty, wealth, success are not reachable for many of us and are sadly dangerous to view as ideals because they ultimately /require/ othering those without or those not trying to buy into those ideals. Of course, its not our faults if we cant escape the not good enough feelngs those fake ideals bring, but if we can be aware of it, and work on trying to find beauty and love in the odd world around us, I think we'd all be so much happier and freer.
6:17 when he talked about seeing an old picture of himself i related so much...i always look at myself in the mirror or in recent pictures with so much hate and pick apart every single thing i dont like, but when i look at pictures from 5-10 years ago all the things i used to hate and wanted to change were just fine
The funniest one of the group is always the one suffering the most in silence
I agree. It's sad, but true
he isnt anymore though, he said he is happy and he is still very funny
I agree, but not all the time. They are not always still suffering, some of them have reflected and moved on, like how this guy did.
But it's definitely true. I think it was Stephen Colbert whose family died when he was very young, and only had his mother left. To cheer his mother up, he turned to comedy and ended up rising to the fame that he has today.
세상에 정말 못난 사람은 없더라고요
내면으로든 외면으로든 적어도 하나 이상의 아름다움을 갖고 있다고 생각해요~ 경험 상으로도 그랬고요 !
세상의 미의 기준을 누가 세웠는지 누가 만들어가는지 잘모르겠지만 ,,
자신의 장점을 알고있는, 자신에 대한 자신감을 갖고있는, 그리고 다른 사람을 존중할 줄 아는 사람이라면 또 이렇게 되기 위해 노력하고 있는 사람이라면 충분히 아름다운 사람일 것이라고, 그렇게 되어가고 있다고 믿어요! 당신을 사랑합니다❤️
The person who regrets the most seems to be the most cheerful person 😖
7:32 "Now I really like myself" that made me tear up 😭
성형외과는 정신과다 라는 말이 있는데 정말 맞는 것 같아요.
다들 정신이 이상하시다는 게 아니라, 남들한테 충분히 예쁜 얼굴도 스스로가 자존감이 낮아져있을 때에 못생겼다고 집착하시더라고요.
그래서 저는 부작용만 없다면 성형 자체가 스스로의 정신 건강에 도움을 준다면 아무 문제 없다고 생각해요. 부작용이 문제일 뿐...
Wait, Park Narae is in this lmao
i thought she looked familiar lol
Cassia Ferreira yes!! She was in the previous vid too haha
This video is supported by barbie talk and park narae is the model of barbie talk
Yeah that one surprised me. I didn’t know she had surgery done. She looks so natural.
@@Ladeliciadelinda she had surgery a lot. She once said that she couldn't do surgery anymore cuz she doesn't have enough bones.
매일 무의식적으로 당연한듯 화장을 하고 오직 외모를 어떻게 꾸밀까 집중하고 ... 매일 그렇게 하루를 살아가는 내 자신이 느껴져서 너무 울컥했어요 쌩얼은 자신이 없고 남 앞에서는 예뻐야만 하는 강박감이 저도 모르게 있었다는 걸 이 영상을 보고 깨달았어요 나는 내 스스로 만족하려고 매일매일을 꾸민줄 알았는데 지금보면 남들 눈에 만족스럽기 위해 나 자신을 꾸며냈던 것
진심 박나래성형했다는게 믿기지가않을정도...그냥 너무자연인...
아까 남성분이 그때는 사람들이 얼굴을 많이 보는줄 알았다 라는 뉘앙스로 말했을때 그때는 이라해서 지금은 그렇게 생각하지 않겠다해서 난 이 남성분인줄 알았다 근데 지금의 내가 좋다하는모습 너무 좋은것같다
이게 성형한사람 맞추는게 아니라 원 목적은 성형하게된 계기 상처들을 듣는 방송 같네영~
that dude that looks "like an idol" is really attractive tho like-
_edit: so uh- this really started world war 3- anyways, stan sunmi._
I know right
Except for the fact that his eyes look swollen. But yes he's good looking 😂
It’s Namsoo TV you can find him in the comments uwu
not at all to me. i feel cruel saying this and it is definitely not reflective of him as a person and i am sure he is a beautiful person, but to me he looks a bit plastic. i do not want to censor my thoughts, but yeah... he really does... the stuck out nose that just looks very unnatural on his face (and usually looks unnatural on people of East Asian descent in general unless they were born with it), the eyes so swollen, and just... when I look at him, he looks like he got his whole face done. it makes me sad and makes me almost imagine the pain of being in that chair as they do surgery on my FACE/JAW to make it slimmer. that's crazy to me...
@@onemillionpercent noah fence but same thought.
후회를 하더라도 평생 계속해서 외모비하를 받을거 생각하면 그게 더 아찔함
남들처럼 평범해지고싶어서 성형했는데 성형하고나니 나는 내자신을 너무 사랑하지않았구나 좀 깨닿게됐어요.. 성형해도 성격은 여전히 그대로고 소심한성격은 바꿀수없다는걸 깨달았죠.. 그래도 성형을 통해서 평범한 삶이라도 얻게되어서 행복해요 평범한게 남들에게 쉬워보여도 평범해지고싶어서 노력했던 제 자신을 사랑하고싶어요
후회하시는 분 말씀을 너무 잘 하신다고 해야되나용 성격 최고세요
i can kinda tell who’s had it, some i can’t tell
- leah they’ve all had surgery
yea like the girl who got her eyes done and the woman w the orangeish? red? hair
사람의 말 한마디가.. 참..
이런걸 나비효과라고 하는건가요
저는 그렇게 안되겠죠? 남자분 너무 순수하고 귀여우심.. 지금 충분히 매력있으니 절대 하지 마세요.
마지막에 여자분 말이 너무 마음에 와닿아서 눈물 날뻔 했는데 바비톡 로고가 뜨면서 내 눈물 다시 쏙 들어감; 모순됐다 진짜