What if his words say no.. twice, and his actions say yes.. OFTEN.. he is still healing from the loss of his wife.. but it's like he is trying to step out but then maybe feels that attachment still.
Right! It is an art we have to learn and have to want to learn. Have you read the ART OF LOVING, by Erich Fromm ? Too, as a Christian isn't it our "job" to love in all situations? Our return does not necessarily come from where we place our love, but more so from the wonderful generation of Godly love within ourselves. Like a fruit tree that bears much fruit is a "happy tree." My Aunt who had a very successful school for pre-schooler's said, "the child who is the hardest to love needs your love the most". -john
My advice is : don't fall in love with anyone yet. If you already like someone, start to see this person with the rational glasses on, otherwise you'll get into the delusional side already. You'll be to able to decide to fall in love with your husband at the time you'll get married. At this point you'll be safe to give a piece of your heart to someone trustful. It's all a matter of decision. Be wise. May God help you and give peace to your heart 😊
I know myself as a happy, strong woman, reserved, sweet and gentle spirited . There is nothing that i dont know i am scared of except one thing and that is when i fall in love i ran away. Whenever i start to feel something good toward a guy i distant myself from being close to him and it destroys the friendship. I couldnt help it. And the feeling i have for the guy i keep it in secret deep in my heart not telling anyone except God. Praying for the right one a spirit-filled man, zealous for God with a heart like mine compassionate for people and passionate for the work of the Lord, willing to lay down his life for the sake of the heavenly call
Please pray for me and my children. Prayers are all we truly NEED. Jesus I still trust in you and will keep my faith even though it is so very difficult. I’m constantly faced with financial hardships and can barely support my children. I’m a single mom. With two children on the spectrum. I’m overwhelmed at times. My boys require a lot from me. I recently started homeschooling them due to bullying and other issues. I lost my job for declining the vaccine. I declined because I suffer from heart disease. I had a massive heart attack a year and a half ago and I also have lupus. Since losing my job I’ve been struggling to support my children and myself. I’m now waitressing and I’m grateful but I’m not making nearly enough. JESUS HELP me. I’m CRYING OUT TO YOU. I’m tired of struggling. Struggling to buy groceries. Struggling to pay rent. It hasn’t been easy. Why me Lord? But I know God doesn’t give you more than you can handle. I know all things are possible through Jesus. I WILL KEEP FAITH. No matter how hard life gets. FAITH OVER FEAR!
Sister, please stay strong in faith. I'm a fellow single mum (not my doing) with two boys, one on the spectrum and I had to give up my work to home Ed. God blessed me with a business and clients that allow me to WFH...he will provide. I learnt to trust him more and more and he does come through. We don't live a grand lifestyle but we have food on the table, a roof over our head and just enough. God's looking out for us and love in our household. I'll be praying for you. Stay in the word and pray for some good believing friends for support. God will provide them. Well done for not giving in on the poison. REV 18 talks about all nations being deceived by sorcery aka pharmekia. Stand strong sister, our rewards are in Heaven. Maranatha 🙏
Pls. Stay encouraged in CHRIST JESUS, I struggle with situations, however the struggle is different when you're focused on CHRIST JESUS🙏🙏, stay on your knees...
Less than an hour ago I prayed and asked God to show me the answer to the question you just answered. By GOD, you answered it fully, and with precision and clarity. Thank you. -john
This is absolutely my experience as well. Its like he took the thoughts from my heart, analysed them and spoke Gods heart about them. Thank you so much Mark, God bless you
I felt I messed up my friendship with them. The feelings were unrequited and I had to go to grief support. I have intensity of love and try to see them through God's eye. I need to give space to them and I will be okay.
This just made me feel so much better. My mother and brother make me feel like crap, and honestly mock me for being so close with God. Ive actually had to realize there will be no reconciliation. I love them so much and just always hurt. Im just happy to know that the love I feel is a gift from God. I cant even feel like dating because my life has fallen apart, and family has turned on me, but this encouraged me to stay strong in the season I am in, and thankful God has filled my heart with love that I cannot wait to actually give someone one day along with God. For now I just want to draw nearer with God, and praise him during these wonderful Shavuot Holy Days ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am going through the same thing! if you can find ask the Holy Spirit to help you find a christian community or to make friends at church. I have that now and it makes all those hard and weak times so much better, its tough being in the battle sometimes. I pray you keep holding onto God and endure until the end, bless you xxxxx
You are not alone. Many of God's children are experiencing this. I agree to ask God to bless you with a community of believers. Also, to show you His love. It lightens the burden of persecution from the world and creates perseverance in Christ. ❤
Evaluate if your family is good for you often: if they are frequently toxic, better to love them from afar. God wants you to be edified, not mocked. Try to surround yourself with other God-loving people. I hope God helps you with this and changes the hearts of your family members. Bless you!!
Jesus gave me a man. Now I hope I do everything alright. I've never had a relationship at all in my life. So I'm hoping this works out. He's a Christian and so am I. I do want this and would like it to work out!!❤😊❤😊❤
It's option 3 for me! I made the conscious decision to love this person no matter what, and now I do, but it doesn't seem like we can be together and I was kind of stuck thinking I couldn't break this "promise". But what I can do is give the situation and give my heart back to God.
I've never been easily moved. Particularly in the romance department. And I'm typically attracted to strong character. So when I found myself in such a predicament, with someone whose character I was uncertain of, I was baffled. Thankfully, this is ancient history. And I'm grateful it didn't go anywhere. Despite these feelings, I thank God I never had intentions of entertaining a romantic relationship with them. I learned a valuable lesson about guarding my entire well-being, as much as my heart. They're absolutely related. Jesus said it best: "Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you.". God taught me another valuable lesson through that experience, too: Regardless of whether it's a relationship, happiness, or Salvation, if someone doesn't appreciate or value what we're offering we must respect their decision. Even if it pains us (even if their choices make them desolate or hell-bound), if we truly love someone, we must respect their right to those choices. Sometimes, people must learn the hard way. I'm just grateful God gives us the capacity to learn, at all. It's the kind of mercy people don't really talk about. Sorry for rambling. Hope this helps someone. Thanks for bearing with me. Stay blessed, everyone. And I pray you find your God-ordained partner. 😊
Mark, keep doing what you're doing. Keep listening to God, sticking to the word and bringing God glory through helping his people with relationships. You are blessed and highly favored. Thanks for everything.❤
People have been broken, herd, damaged and have lost faith in whatever purpose God have created for them, and i believe God uses people and their love for one another over a period, to show those who are broken and lost, what love is truly about, and once that person feels that love you are giving them, a seed of hope and restoration takes place, to place them back on track, for the original purpose God created them for, its all part of His master plan for your life, the bible says God have plans for our lives, and the reality is nothing is guaranteed, except for the promises of God, we are the vessels God uses, to bring about his love to this world.❤❤❤
Great video, Mark. Points 2 & 4 really stand out for me. Every romantic interest, business relationship, classmate, friendship, ministry, and even choosing to have children carries a risk of caring deeply about people who won't care about you in the same way in return. Love anyway but stand in the grace of truth. Sometimes you will be called to be a light to a person who will probably realise long after the relationship has ended that nobody else carried a presence in their lives like you did. Hopefully they will know that that is because of the presence of God in your life and come to know Him. You can always end things amicably and respectfully. Avoid ghosting and stonewalling people because these passive-aggressive actions can burn bridges and leave you having to traverse a path of shame to repair what you damaged later on. Check your own inner struggles because admitting that you may be co-dependent, narcissistic or unstable is hard but attachment styles can cause havoc in a world of insensitive and unaware people.
I really needed to see this video today. Very sobering. Reason 2 - ‘God loves us and it is not always returned’. God sometimes allows this in our lives for us to reflect His glory in the situation. I imagine the same type of heartbreak we experience when love is not returned from someone we are interested in a relationship with, is what God experiences when we do not return His love. 😢. Reason 3. - Not guarding your heart.
I used to think the reason was with me is why the Christian man I love doesn’t reciprocate my feelings, and so I had to do some soul-searching. It turns out that he is a dismissive avoidant. Now I just pray for him and I see him at church and he usually comes to me and wants to talk, and he walks me to my car. He definitely can’t be with me if he doesn’t pursue me, but with God all things are possible. I’m focusing on doing God’s will and serving Him as my priority.
This is what i am experiencing now. Not by power but by the spirit. I had a feeling about her after many answered prayer signs. We see each other in after service at Church.
My heart faltered for an unbeliever. I had prayed to God to answer all my questions about her. He did so. Yet it was heart wrenching and sadnesses has overcome my heart. I am grateful to God to have experienced this. I know the Lord is my witness. I pray she is willing to accept Jesus in her life not now but someday. I pray for her heart.
I know how you feel. Going through the same thing right now. It's so hard, especially when you truly care for them and they reject you believing in God yet they still keep some sort of communication with you. I hope things workout for you one day.🙏
Please don't give up. Abraham's wife Sarah got pregnant at 99. Joseph became the head of Potifers House after being sold into slavery and locked up. Saul became the mighty apostle Paul.. It's never too late. Trust me..its never too late🙏🏼
I went 'no contact' with a man I cared about. Then I broke it to tell him everything that led to that point. He disrespected boundaries again and blamed it on alcohol. He seems to have issues with alcohol and admitted it. What we have in common are behaviors related to past trauma. I may be the only person who's confronted him about anything. The best thing for me is going 'no contact' again. I NEED to know God's will given the circumstances!
I'm really hoping that my feelings and this other girl's feelings stay around so we can date. I'm really hoping it is in God's plan for us to get together.
Absolutely the best presentation! ❤️🔥 thank you Mark 🙏 The Lord is so good, and in His wisdom you have covered all the possible angles of my why’s for this question. Made me 😢 and 🙏 and 🥰 thank you!! 🔥🔥🔥
My LDR for almost 5yrs finally BROKE UP with me yesterday. After the unhealthy EXCUSES making of being busy and the GHOSTING... I thought just because I already witnessed alot of signs and wonders and miracles over our relationship means it would grow deeper and deeper. I care so much about him and respect him alot so I dont demand neither complain thinking that he would see the difference between his exes who left him for another man and a faithful woman of God who knows nothing but to FAITH IT and KNEEL IT as she was fighting for the relationship depending on Christ.
I was in the same boat but I only had it last for few months cuz a girl has needs ( communication, quality time) and he wasn’t meeting it. I broke it off and cry a little but moved on. I need someone but I’m guarding my heart until he man up 😂
I guard my heart by running the second I get that look😔been hurt too much. I was about to run again, now, but something happened, never had this before. I'll stick around for a bit❤I really enjoy your talks, they hit home. He may be worth it.
God doesn't necessarily allow or not allow it, we have freewill. In fact, many times a woman maybe emotionally attaching to a man for no other reason than limerance (look it up), its not all to do with God
I've seen this woman in Church for 15 years and never said hello until a few years ago. I hope this works out it's not a temporary thing. I don't think she was ready for a relationship and still isn't and I'm involved with my parents who are older so I don't have much time. I hope we get together and grow together until we're both ready for a full-time committment.
Brother Mark, I’ve been following you for years and the Lord uses and uses you every single time!! I asked the lord about a month ago “why do I care so much about this person?” And you hit it spot on. Double confirmation, thank you Jesus!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🥹👏🏽✝️
I think mine was number 4, being a light with/for a Christian, and for a season. The season thing as explained exactly. Yeah, I knew he probably wasn’t the one for me, and he did end up showing that to be true. But we kinda helped each other for the most part at the right time. It still needed to end as quick as it did, because I think we started to not be good enough stewards of our time spent together, among other things. I thank God, for showing me through this video that “it’s okay that you spent exhaustive amounts of time with each other, and you both made some mistakes. Not that making silly mistakes is good, but it will be alright, if you follow my lead more closely in the future. You were a very sweet girl to a very clueless guy. You did good to remove yourself and forgive yourself and him.”. I mean, I clearly see what went wrong, and God forbid I let what happened happen again.
Amen! Thank you Pastor Mark! Always insightful! I'm having a few epiphanies just from this. Like, relationship for just a season, while that might seem obvious to some people, I've never thought to put it into that perspective. Makes a ton of sense, and now I feel peace from closure to certain parts and people. Maybe someone out there is having that same struggle too? But finally having the realization, to let them go and be at peace. God bless you Brother! Thank you! 😇
@@solomonkabutey3356 I think that might be one of those things you realize in hindsight. As of right now, I can see that with the current season I am in, which I work part time, go to school full-time, and go on missions intermittently, but am currently working up to go on missions full time. Some of my friends graduated and went back to their respective home states or elsewhere for post graduate school. Some of the friends I've made from previous jobs, I have not had contact with in months, sometimes years. Some of the romantic prospects I've had previously, have also moved on whether they changed jobs, went to different countries, and so on. Many have taught me very valuable lessons, whether they realize it or not. I know God has used them all for various purposes in growth, or placement or for setting the stage for another season of my life. I know for myself personally, I'm reminded of "the bigger picture" in God's plan for my life, and keeping my expectations loose, which is not foreign to me. My time served in the military paved the way for understanding seasonal relationships too. Some of the men and women I've served with, are some of the best relationships I've had in my life, but they move on too. Some of them went to be with The Lord and that's just the way it is sometimes. Sorry, that was much longer than I intended 😅 Does that all make sense? I hope that helps! 😇
@@solomonkabutey3356 I think, also, if we keep in mind where we are,, whether it's work, or the gym, what season we are in with different parts of our life, like people from ministry, people from work or social gatherings, we can have an idea of whether this person is present in our life for a season, or not. What is the purpose of me being here in a specific place? Is it strictly for work? The overall will of God is to glorify Him and represent His image everywhere we go and in all that we do. Am I representing God well or poorly? Like some relationships are limited to certain places for certain times. Like this one girl I was getting to know, I basically did not exist to her outside of the place she worked, even though we had some very personal conversations, so I had to come to terms with the fact we were only in each others' lives for a period of time, and that I did not mean more to her than a friendly client. You see?
I’ve been watching your videos for the past years (2 years maybe?) and you have been becoming and you are continually becoming better and better!! Praise God! You’re more prophetic, you have more and more accurate revelations and understanding!🙏🏻 Thank you for being a blessing and for always growing!!🔥
Hey Mark, theres someone i have feelings for and that ive shared those feelings with. The person liked what i said till i expressed one extra(good) feeling i had for her. I think i scared her a little, unintentionally. I wrote her later and apologized for scaring her and said we can take it slow and just get to know each other. I think about this person all the time and my feelings for her. I think i maybe in a "right person, wrong time or right person, slow down" situation. What do you think Mark?
A hard part of this I deal with is the reactions from others. When I love others thru acts of kindness, caring, offering help; people will say I care too much, I worry too much, it's too dangerous and not proper for a man to do to a woman. That feedback really messes with me in all ways, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. I just want to do the will of God and be his image. Sad when fellow Christians ask/tell me to do things that seem to contradict because of experiences from what the world says instead of what God says. Also I still battle feelings when I do try to be good to a woman with initial intentions to do not for God and not myself but then I keep liking those girls and desiring a relationship. Never know what to do at that point. Whether to stop it all together and run or keep what I am doing while praying more. Discerning whether those ideas/feelings are from God, the world/experiences, or the devil is so hard.
As an adult who is confident in my position of authority in Christ and in rhe knowledge of His power and the freedom that He LIVES, by the Power of the Holy Spirit that is freely available to all who hear His voice... i am so grateful that Ive been rejected, taken advantage of, and deceived by my own family.... because it's exactly what I needed to finally STOP ALLOWING MYSELF TO BLAME GOD for ANYTHING. If I'm not in a relationship with someone WHY WOULD I CARE ABOUT THEM??? GUESS who can care about someone im not in a relationship with???? GOD.
Please help me pray for my daughter, her name is Imee Moreno. May the Lord protect her from men who wants to have premarital sex with her 😭🙏🏻💔 May the Lord protect her from men who wants to fornicate with her 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 please please please help me pray for her 😭💔🙏🏻
Please help me pray for my ongoing application is our city’s local government unit. I am broke and I have type two diabetes and I need a job so bad for my family and my medication. Please please please pray for me 😭♥️💔
I needed to hear this, thank you I have been struggling with my feelings for someone who I thought he felt the same way for a bit too long. This is exactly what I did by not guarding my heart - I trust so much the words without actions regardless of knowing a person better until they give me a reason to doubt. Please pray with me to learn to guard my heart = forgive me O Lord as I try to rededicate my heart fully to you ❤
I really need prayers right now. Me and my best friend clearly love each other but for some reason we both have this intrusive fear and doubt of trusting each other and it’s ruining our relationship. We want to grow closer to one another and walk in Christ together. God is not a God of such confusion, but we don’t know why this is happening. I love this man so much already, please pray that if it was really meant to be for us to work things out. I’m afraid that the enemy might be putting this fear into the relationship in spite of God. I believe this video summarizes everything about our situation. Please pray for us!
I just went to your website but I’m confused on the pricing. So do you enroll for $275 and then you get all those courses? Or are you just enrolling for 275 and then you still pay $200 for each class you want to take?
Hey Mark, I came across this video you produced and I wanted to thank you for a very balanced teaching on this subject, I was very impressed with your level of gifting in this area. Speaking to believers about this topic is so very important, I believe the church has shied away from topics of this nature or even a healthy discussion about sex. My own son struggled for years and I never knew, it could have been avoided. I would never say the neglect of this within the Body of Christ is the cause of so many problems with gender identity issues and casual sex we see today, but it sure would help equip the saints for the work of ministry within their own lives, families and beyond to help address this in real life among the masses. Think I'll follow you and see what this is all about. Blessings.
I fell for this one woman, we were getting close but in the end she chose a guy who cheated on his own wife. It broke my heart in a bad way. I still pray for her even though we don't talk to each other anymore. I ask God to help me and teach me to get through this.
You are srsly wanting us to believe that God wants 2 people to fall madly in love with one another, all just so He can drag them apart later because it was "only supposed to be for a season"?? What kind of sadist do we serve if this is true?!
I just went through this, lovingly a guy much younger and now i feel stupid. Is ok i will get over it. I was wondering why tho like I don't want these feelings!!!
Thank you, heavenly father, for allowing me to love this angel. You sent it to my life Brandi ❤️ I will honor her and protect her from the animal that was in her life. The man who put it through h***... Amen 🙏 Through jesus christ, our lord Savior.
People who are Godly/agape lovers don't focus on receiving love. They're like God and givers, regardless of the outcome. The Is 5:20 type believe they're lovers yet focused on how they're loved back. That type of love is Satan's selfish love (narcissism). Eros love is not agape. Eros is self-based love. Modern society calls it romance.
yes, but biblically there are different types of relationship rules. As a Christian, your love for people is different than your love for a person you want to make your spouse. So it's not biblically accurate to confuse the types of love and put rules on relationships that don't apply to that type of relationship. Romance is meant to be mutual unlike the charity type of love that can be one sided. A ministry is different than a mutual relationship. For example, to love your enemy is clearly different than to love your spouse . . . both are love but a different type. For more on this you can read C.S. Lewis' book called The Four Loves
I think the details matter a lot so you might need to talk that out with someone in your life. For example, there is a time for correction and then a time to cast someone out like it talks about in 1 Corinthians 5 until they repent. If someone is not repenting you have to keep moving in your life. So it all depends. But here's a video about boundaries: th-cam.com/video/foYXgKnDKso/w-d-xo.html
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God bless!
-Mark
What if his words say no.. twice,
and his actions say yes.. OFTEN.. he is still healing from the loss of his wife.. but it's like he is trying to step out but then maybe feels that attachment still.
I've been down this road. Totally miserable. Don't fall in love with someone who doesn't love you back. Guard your heart, proverbs 4:23.
Let's hope the person knew you loved them. So many times no direct communication can be an awful way of expression. I hope you find the love u want.
@@xoxo-nw6tb Thank you very much.
Loge doesn't exist. Ur better off just staying single. Women aren't worth u wasting ur life on. Live ur life for you.
The crazy thing, is that I have this on a shirt I LOVE but haven’t been wearing lately because I finally noticed the rips😢
@@Carlos-t3q no lie detected.
Some people don't love us back bc they're not capable.
Right! It is an art we have to learn and have to want to learn. Have you read the ART OF LOVING, by Erich Fromm ? Too, as a Christian isn't it our "job" to love in all situations? Our return does not necessarily come from where we place our love, but more so from the wonderful generation of Godly love within ourselves. Like a fruit tree that bears much fruit is a "happy tree." My Aunt who had a very successful school for pre-schooler's said, "the child who is the hardest to love needs your love the most". -john
true, you need love to give before you can give it. 1 John 4 is helpful
But they can learn if they want
Na they just dont want to. In that case you just move on
100% true
This gives me hope but also I’m scared it’s feeding into my delusions 😭
Girl omgosh this!!!
My advice is : don't fall in love with anyone yet. If you already like someone, start to see this person with the rational glasses on, otherwise you'll get into the delusional side already.
You'll be to able to decide to fall in love with your husband at the time you'll get married. At this point you'll be safe to give a piece of your heart to someone trustful.
It's all a matter of decision. Be wise. May God help you and give peace to your heart 😊
@@darmend94 thank you! I’ll take it to heart
Delulu being the solulu😂😂😂.. But on a real note.. Observe, observe and observe
I know myself as a happy, strong woman, reserved, sweet and gentle spirited . There is nothing that i dont know i am scared of except one thing and that is when i fall in love i ran away. Whenever i start to feel something good toward a guy i distant myself from being close to him and it destroys the friendship. I couldnt help it. And the feeling i have for the guy i keep it in secret deep in my heart not telling anyone except God. Praying for the right one a spirit-filled man, zealous for God with a heart like mine compassionate for people and passionate for the work of the Lord, willing to lay down his life for the sake of the heavenly call
Please pray for me and my children. Prayers are all we truly NEED. Jesus I still trust in you and will keep my faith even though it is so very difficult. I’m constantly faced with financial hardships and can barely support my children. I’m a single mom. With two children on the spectrum. I’m overwhelmed at times. My boys require a lot from me. I recently started homeschooling them due to bullying and other issues. I lost my job for declining the vaccine. I declined because I suffer from heart disease. I had a massive heart attack a year and a half ago and I also have lupus. Since losing my job I’ve been struggling to support my children and myself. I’m now waitressing and I’m grateful but I’m not making nearly enough. JESUS HELP me. I’m CRYING OUT TO YOU. I’m tired of struggling. Struggling to buy groceries. Struggling to pay rent. It hasn’t been easy. Why me Lord? But I know God doesn’t give you more than you can handle. I know all things are possible through Jesus. I WILL KEEP FAITH. No matter how hard life gets. FAITH OVER FEAR!
I also hope you have a good local church to help support you.
May God bless you, I hope in time, your life improves a lot sooner than you think. Hug
Amen 🙏
Sister, please stay strong in faith. I'm a fellow single mum (not my doing) with two boys, one on the spectrum and I had to give up my work to home Ed. God blessed me with a business and clients that allow me to WFH...he will provide. I learnt to trust him more and more and he does come through. We don't live a grand lifestyle but we have food on the table, a roof over our head and just enough. God's looking out for us and love in our household. I'll be praying for you. Stay in the word and pray for some good believing friends for support. God will provide them. Well done for not giving in on the poison. REV 18 talks about all nations being deceived by sorcery aka pharmekia. Stand strong sister, our rewards are in Heaven. Maranatha 🙏
Pls. Stay encouraged in CHRIST JESUS, I struggle with situations, however the struggle is different when you're focused on CHRIST JESUS🙏🙏, stay on your knees...
Less than an hour ago I prayed and asked God to show me the answer to the question you just answered. By GOD, you answered it fully, and with precision and clarity. Thank you. -john
Wow! I'm so glad this was timely, God is good!
Praise the Lord
This is absolutely my experience as well. Its like he took the thoughts from my heart, analysed them and spoke Gods heart about them. Thank you so much Mark, God bless you
Dude. God has been using this man for a whole week in guiding me in some super important life decisions. Such a blessing
"Whoever does not love does not know God because God is love"
I felt I messed up my friendship with them. The feelings were unrequited and I had to go to grief support. I have intensity of love and try to see them through God's eye. I need to give space to them and I will be okay.
God bless as you seek the Lord's leading!
I hate seasonal relationships, its better if they never happened, well for me it is..
I was a drug addict, homeless on the streets... God is good he always makes a way.. now I've been clean for 2 years, and not turning back
thank you
This just made me feel so much better. My mother and brother make me feel like crap, and honestly mock me for being so close with God. Ive actually had to realize there will be no reconciliation. I love them so much and just always hurt. Im just happy to know that the love I feel is a gift from God. I cant even feel like dating because my life has fallen apart, and family has turned on me, but this encouraged me to stay strong in the season I am in, and thankful God has filled my heart with love that I cannot wait to actually give someone one day along with God. For now I just want to draw nearer with God, and praise him during these wonderful Shavuot Holy Days ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am going through the same thing! if you can find ask the Holy Spirit to help you find a christian community or to make friends at church. I have that now and it makes all those hard and weak times so much better, its tough being in the battle sometimes. I pray you keep holding onto God and endure until the end, bless you xxxxx
You are not alone. Many of God's children are experiencing this. I agree to ask God to bless you with a community of believers. Also, to show you His love. It lightens the burden of persecution from the world and creates perseverance in Christ. ❤
Evaluate if your family is good for you often: if they are frequently toxic, better to love them from afar. God wants you to be edified, not mocked. Try to surround yourself with other God-loving people. I hope God helps you with this and changes the hearts of your family members. Bless you!!
same
Jesus gave me a man. Now I hope I do everything alright. I've never had a relationship at all in my life. So I'm hoping this works out. He's a Christian and so am I. I do want this and would like it to work out!!❤😊❤😊❤
Jesus took him away and its okay.
@@michelleward1173 that didn't last long
This video, like many others, was SO helpful! And really changed my perspective on things. The point of "give your heart back to God" was amazing!
I'm so glad it was useful! God is good!
It's option 3 for me! I made the conscious decision to love this person no matter what, and now I do, but it doesn't seem like we can be together and I was kind of stuck thinking I couldn't break this "promise". But what I can do is give the situation and give my heart back to God.
Same here. I may not know what will happen down the road but what i know is that i had to give my heart back to God fully again... 😢
I've never been easily moved. Particularly in the romance department. And I'm typically attracted to strong character. So when I found myself in such a predicament, with someone whose character I was uncertain of, I was baffled.
Thankfully, this is ancient history. And I'm grateful it didn't go anywhere. Despite these feelings, I thank God I never had intentions of entertaining a romantic relationship with them.
I learned a valuable lesson about guarding my entire well-being, as much as my heart. They're absolutely related.
Jesus said it best: "Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you.".
God taught me another valuable lesson through that experience, too: Regardless of whether it's a relationship, happiness, or Salvation, if someone doesn't appreciate or value what we're offering we must respect their decision.
Even if it pains us (even if their choices make them desolate or hell-bound), if we truly love someone, we must respect their right to those choices.
Sometimes, people must learn the hard way. I'm just grateful God gives us the capacity to learn, at all. It's the kind of mercy people don't really talk about.
Sorry for rambling. Hope this helps someone. Thanks for bearing with me.
Stay blessed, everyone. And I pray you find your God-ordained partner. 😊
Very well said 🙌💓
Mark, keep doing what you're doing. Keep listening to God, sticking to the word and bringing God glory through helping his people with relationships. You are blessed and highly favored. Thanks for everything.❤
People have been broken, herd, damaged and have lost faith in whatever purpose God have created for them, and i believe God uses people and their love for one another over a period, to show those who are broken and lost, what love is truly about, and once that person feels that love you are giving them, a seed of hope and restoration takes place, to place them back on track, for the original purpose God created them for, its all part of His master plan for your life, the bible says God have plans for our lives, and the reality is nothing is guaranteed, except for the promises of God, we are the vessels God uses, to bring about his love to this world.❤❤❤
Great video, Mark. Points 2 & 4 really stand out for me. Every romantic interest, business relationship, classmate, friendship, ministry, and even choosing to have children carries a risk of caring deeply about people who won't care about you in the same way in return. Love anyway but stand in the grace of truth. Sometimes you will be called to be a light to a person who will probably realise long after the relationship has ended that nobody else carried a presence in their lives like you did. Hopefully they will know that that is because of the presence of God in your life and come to know Him.
You can always end things amicably and respectfully. Avoid ghosting and stonewalling people because these passive-aggressive actions can burn bridges and leave you having to traverse a path of shame to repair what you damaged later on. Check your own inner struggles because admitting that you may be co-dependent, narcissistic or unstable is hard but attachment styles can cause havoc in a world of insensitive and unaware people.
God bless Matthew!
Hey Matthew, I agree with your message! Very well said. I had to learn how to communicate better since coming to know God.
I really needed to see this video today. Very sobering. Reason 2 - ‘God loves us and it is not always returned’. God sometimes allows this in our lives for us to reflect His glory in the situation. I imagine the same type of heartbreak we experience when love is not returned from someone we are interested in a relationship with, is what God experiences when we do not return His love. 😢. Reason 3. - Not guarding your heart.
Another way to know you won't be together, they marry someone else
This is so encouraging Brother Mark! The Lord has really raised you up to uplift and edify Christian singles for His glory!!! Thank you so much
I used to think the reason was with me is why the Christian man I love doesn’t reciprocate my feelings, and so I had to do some soul-searching.
It turns out that he is a dismissive avoidant. Now I just pray for him and I see him at church and he usually comes to me and wants to talk, and he walks me to my car. He definitely can’t be
with me if he doesn’t pursue me, but with God all things are possible.
I’m focusing on doing God’s will and serving Him as my priority.
Literally just prayed and asked God a similar question related to this topic yesterday evening. Thank You Lord for answers.
Its been hard for me to move on from my ex. We have a child together so we have to stay in contact. Hopefully God hears my prayers
This is what i am experiencing now. Not by power but by the spirit. I had a feeling about her after many answered prayer signs.
We see each other in after service at Church.
My heart faltered for an unbeliever. I had prayed to God to answer all my questions about her. He did so. Yet it was heart wrenching and sadnesses has overcome my heart. I am grateful to God to have experienced this. I know the Lord is my witness. I pray she is willing to accept Jesus in her life not now but someday. I pray for her heart.
I know how you feel. Going through the same thing right now. It's so hard, especially when you truly care for them and they reject you believing in God yet they still keep some sort of communication with you. I hope things workout for you one day.🙏
I’m 59 and getting old. It’s too late. I’ve loved so many, and yet I’ve been alone my whole life.
Never too late! Have Hope.
Please don't give up. Abraham's wife Sarah got pregnant at 99. Joseph became the head of Potifers House after being sold into slavery and locked up. Saul became the mighty apostle Paul.. It's never too late. Trust me..its never too late🙏🏼
I went 'no contact' with a man I cared about. Then I broke it to tell him everything that led to that point. He disrespected boundaries again and blamed it on alcohol. He seems to have issues with alcohol and admitted it. What we have in common are behaviors related to past trauma. I may be the only person who's confronted him about anything. The best thing for me is going 'no contact' again. I NEED to know God's will given the circumstances!
God wants to teach about love like God loves us. Though our love is unrequited we still love (agape) the person.
Thank you Mark for being an instrument.
This hits me so much after asking this to God.
Thank you Mark, this is helpful! May He bless you richly! 🙏🤍⛲🕊️
I'm so glad it was useful! All glory to God!
I'm really hoping that my feelings and this other girl's feelings stay around so we can date. I'm really hoping it is in God's plan for us to get together.
God is Always on Time❤
This is so good & confirms what God has shared with me 🙌
You answered what I've been asking myself for months.
Your words are amazing and have really given me a better understanding
Absolutely the best presentation! ❤️🔥 thank you Mark 🙏
The Lord is so good, and in His wisdom you have covered all the possible angles of my why’s for this question.
Made me 😢 and 🙏 and 🥰 thank you!! 🔥🔥🔥
I trust you and I will be waiting for you master still.
God is good!
My LDR for almost 5yrs finally BROKE UP with me yesterday. After the unhealthy EXCUSES making of being busy and the GHOSTING... I thought just because I already witnessed alot of signs and wonders and miracles over our relationship means it would grow deeper and deeper. I care so much about him and respect him alot so I dont demand neither complain thinking that he would see the difference between his exes who left him for another man and a faithful woman of God who knows nothing but to FAITH IT and KNEEL IT as she was fighting for the relationship depending on Christ.
I can’t believe I will be one of the women who just invested love and respect over a man who would end up taking my heart from granted.😢
@@justbargelleGod will bring someone right. More than anything, you’ll lean on God more, this time, and from now.
Stay in the word. God will lead you!
I was in the same boat but I only had it last for few months cuz a girl has needs ( communication, quality time) and he wasn’t meeting it. I broke it off and cry a little but moved on. I need someone but I’m guarding my heart until he man up 😂
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Amen. I WILL... please keep praying for me. Thank you so much Pastor Mark. 🙏🏻
I guard my heart by running the second I get that look😔been hurt too much. I was about to run again, now, but something happened, never had this before. I'll stick around for a bit❤I really enjoy your talks, they hit home. He may be worth it.
God doesn't necessarily allow or not allow it, we have freewill. In fact, many times a woman maybe emotionally attaching to a man for no other reason than limerance (look it up), its not all to do with God
I've seen this woman in Church for 15 years and never said hello until a few years ago. I hope this works out it's not a temporary thing. I don't think she was ready for a relationship and still isn't and I'm involved with my parents who are older so I don't have much time. I hope we get together and grow together until we're both ready for a full-time committment.
Brother Mark, I’ve been following you for years and the Lord uses and uses you every single time!!
I asked the lord about a month ago “why do I care so much about this person?” And you hit it spot on. Double confirmation, thank you Jesus!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🥹👏🏽✝️
Wow! All glory to God!
Wow. I really appreciate that last point. Maybe God has led two folks together for just a season 💔 ... and that's ok. Really a tough one! But it's ok.
I think mine was number 4, being a light with/for a Christian, and for a season. The season thing as explained exactly. Yeah, I knew he probably wasn’t the one for me, and he did end up showing that to be true. But we kinda helped each other for the most part at the right time. It still needed to end as quick as it did, because I think we started to not be good enough stewards of our time spent together, among other things. I thank God, for showing me through this video that “it’s okay that you spent exhaustive amounts of time with each other, and you both made some mistakes. Not that making silly mistakes is good, but it will be alright, if you follow my lead more closely in the future. You were a very sweet girl to a very clueless guy. You did good to remove yourself and forgive yourself and him.”. I mean, I clearly see what went wrong, and God forbid I let what happened happen again.
We have choices. …. Some things can’t be blamed on God.
I need to guard my heart better 😔
Amen! Thank you Pastor Mark! Always insightful! I'm having a few epiphanies just from this. Like, relationship for just a season, while that might seem obvious to some people, I've never thought to put it into that perspective. Makes a ton of sense, and now I feel peace from closure to certain parts and people.
Maybe someone out there is having that same struggle too? But finally having the realization, to let them go and be at peace.
God bless you Brother! Thank you! 😇
Can you explain how to spot a seasonal relationship
@@solomonkabutey3356 I think that might be one of those things you realize in hindsight. As of right now, I can see that with the current season I am in, which I work part time, go to school full-time, and go on missions intermittently, but am currently working up to go on missions full time.
Some of my friends graduated and went back to their respective home states or elsewhere for post graduate school. Some of the friends I've made from previous jobs, I have not had contact with in months, sometimes years.
Some of the romantic prospects I've had previously, have also moved on whether they changed jobs, went to different countries, and so on. Many have taught me very valuable lessons, whether they realize it or not. I know God has used them all for various purposes in growth, or placement or for setting the stage for another season of my life.
I know for myself personally, I'm reminded of "the bigger picture" in God's plan for my life, and keeping my expectations loose, which is not foreign to me. My time served in the military paved the way for understanding seasonal relationships too. Some of the men and women I've served with, are some of the best relationships I've had in my life, but they move on too. Some of them went to be with The Lord and that's just the way it is sometimes.
Sorry, that was much longer than I intended 😅 Does that all make sense? I hope that helps! 😇
@@GrimSoldat Great context
@@solomonkabutey3356 I think, also, if we keep in mind where we are,, whether it's work, or the gym, what season we are in with different parts of our life, like people from ministry, people from work or social gatherings, we can have an idea of whether this person is present in our life for a season, or not.
What is the purpose of me being here in a specific place? Is it strictly for work? The overall will of God is to glorify Him and represent His image everywhere we go and in all that we do. Am I representing God well or poorly? Like some relationships are limited to certain places for certain times.
Like this one girl I was getting to know, I basically did not exist to her outside of the place she worked, even though we had some very personal conversations, so I had to come to terms with the fact we were only in each others' lives for a period of time, and that I did not mean more to her than a friendly client. You see?
@@GrimSoldat I get it. Thank you camp.
I’ve been watching your videos for the past years (2 years maybe?) and you have been becoming and you are continually becoming better and better!! Praise God! You’re more prophetic, you have more and more accurate revelations and understanding!🙏🏻 Thank you for being a blessing and for always growing!!🔥
Hey Mark, theres someone i have feelings for and that ive shared those feelings with. The person liked what i said till i expressed one extra(good) feeling i had for her. I think i scared her a little, unintentionally. I wrote her later and apologized for scaring her and said we can take it slow and just get to know each other. I think about this person all the time and my feelings for her. I think i maybe in a "right person, wrong time or right person, slow down" situation. What do you think Mark?
God has a plan for me.Amen
i was young and naive when i fell in love the 1st time if i knew what i know now things would have been different as they say hind sight is 20 20
And what if you love a narcissist? 😢
AMEN I LOVE YOU AND WE ALL LOVE YOU LORD AND JESUS CHRIST AMEN🤍🙏🏾.
How is that this shows up in pivotal time.
I don't wanna question God, it's just very uncomfortable loving someone who doesn't know my love exists and I can't lean to my own knowledge. #CJ
A hard part of this I deal with is the reactions from others. When I love others thru acts of kindness, caring, offering help; people will say I care too much, I worry too much, it's too dangerous and not proper for a man to do to a woman. That feedback really messes with me in all ways, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. I just want to do the will of God and be his image. Sad when fellow Christians ask/tell me to do things that seem to contradict because of experiences from what the world says instead of what God says.
Also I still battle feelings when I do try to be good to a woman with initial intentions to do not for God and not myself but then I keep liking those girls and desiring a relationship. Never know what to do at that point. Whether to stop it all together and run or keep what I am doing while praying more. Discerning whether those ideas/feelings are from God, the world/experiences, or the devil is so hard.
As an adult who is confident in my position of authority in Christ and in rhe knowledge of His power and the freedom that He LIVES, by the Power of the Holy Spirit that is freely available to all who hear His voice... i am so grateful that Ive been rejected, taken advantage of, and deceived by my own family.... because it's exactly what I needed to finally STOP ALLOWING MYSELF TO BLAME GOD for ANYTHING. If I'm not in a relationship with someone WHY WOULD I CARE ABOUT THEM??? GUESS who can care about someone im not in a relationship with???? GOD.
Please help me pray for my daughter, her name is Imee Moreno. May the Lord protect her from men who wants to have premarital sex with her 😭🙏🏻💔 May the Lord protect her from men who wants to fornicate with her 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 please please please help me pray for her 😭💔🙏🏻
Some people don’t know how to love
Please help me pray for my ongoing application is our city’s local government unit. I am broke and I have type two diabetes and I need a job so bad for my family and my medication. Please please please pray for me 😭♥️💔
I needed to hear this, thank you I have been struggling with my feelings for someone who I thought he felt the same way for a bit too long. This is exactly what I did by not guarding my heart - I trust so much the words without actions regardless of knowing a person better until they give me a reason to doubt. Please pray with me to learn to guard my heart = forgive me O Lord as I try to rededicate my heart fully to you ❤
I really need prayers right now. Me and my best friend clearly love each other but for some reason we both have this intrusive fear and doubt of trusting each other and it’s ruining our relationship. We want to grow closer to one another and walk in Christ together. God is not a God of such confusion, but we don’t know why this is happening. I love this man so much already, please pray that if it was really meant to be for us to work things out. I’m afraid that the enemy might be putting this fear into the relationship in spite of God. I believe this video summarizes everything about our situation. Please pray for us!
I just went to your website but I’m confused on the pricing. So do you enroll for $275 and then you get all those courses? Or are you just enrolling for 275 and then you still pay $200 for each class you want to take?
Hey Mark, I came across this video you produced and I wanted to thank you for a very balanced teaching on this subject, I was very impressed with your level of gifting in this area. Speaking to believers about this topic is so very important, I believe the church has shied away from topics of this nature or even a healthy discussion about sex. My own son struggled for years and I never knew, it could have been avoided. I would never say the neglect of this within the Body of Christ is the cause of so many problems with gender identity issues and casual sex we see today, but it sure would help equip the saints for the work of ministry within their own lives, families and beyond to help address this in real life among the masses. Think I'll follow you and see what this is all about. Blessings.
I fell for this one woman, we were getting close but in the end she chose a guy who cheated on his own wife. It broke my heart in a bad way.
I still pray for her even though we don't talk to each other anymore. I ask God to help me and teach me to get through this.
You are srsly wanting us to believe that God wants 2 people to fall madly in love with one another, all just so He can drag them apart later because it was "only supposed to be for a season"?? What kind of sadist do we serve if this is true?!
I just went through this, lovingly a guy much younger and now i feel stupid. Is ok i will get over it. I was wondering why tho like I don't want these feelings!!!
Thank you, heavenly father, for allowing me to love this angel. You sent it to my life Brandi ❤️ I will honor her and protect her from the animal that was in her life. The man who put it through h***... Amen 🙏 Through jesus christ, our lord Savior.
Because it could be our twin flame or past life soulmate. Or karmic contract.
I know its an obvious answer, but do you guys ask the Lord to guard your heart? Is there anything else you do?
This is happening to me there say someone who loves me more than everything and is a man,but I'm not in a relationship with him
I’ve been through this it’s so extremely painful.
You’re amazing brother. Praise the Lord for your existence. You’re giving my answers one by one.
Mark, great video! 💞
So glad it was helpful!
I hope it’s no. 1 lol
He laid the foundation I needed to adjust my prayers for what I actually did want
People who are Godly/agape lovers don't focus on receiving love. They're like God and givers, regardless of the outcome. The Is 5:20 type believe they're lovers yet focused on how they're loved back. That type of love is Satan's selfish love (narcissism). Eros love is not agape. Eros is self-based love. Modern society calls it romance.
yes, but biblically there are different types of relationship rules. As a Christian, your love for people is different than your love for a person you want to make your spouse. So it's not biblically accurate to confuse the types of love and put rules on relationships that don't apply to that type of relationship. Romance is meant to be mutual unlike the charity type of love that can be one sided. A ministry is different than a mutual relationship. For example, to love your enemy is clearly different than to love your spouse . . . both are love but a different type. For more on this you can read C.S. Lewis' book called The Four Loves
Thank u lord, too u be the Glory ! Let your will be done , amen
Hi Mark, can you tell us more about Limerence.
Talking to me.
If I finish the course do I get my MRS degree?
Kinda timely this video pops back up
Amen 🙏✝️🙏💙
God bless Tracy!
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God bless!
God makes mistakes and we are one of them.
Now THIS message I can Receive!
Hey Mark, could you do a video on how to love someone where they're at? How do you do this without enabling the bad behavior of the person?
I think the details matter a lot so you might need to talk that out with someone in your life. For example, there is a time for correction and then a time to cast someone out like it talks about in 1 Corinthians 5 until they repent. If someone is not repenting you have to keep moving in your life. So it all depends. But here's a video about boundaries: th-cam.com/video/foYXgKnDKso/w-d-xo.html
Great clarity on this topic. Well done.
wish I had this guy's hair 🙂
Excellent!!! 😊🕊️🙌
God bless!
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