Dating Abuse - Picture Perfect
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ก.ย. 2022
- Sara says she loves her boyfriend, Mike, more than anything. However, when she confides in Emma about Mike’s abuse, Emma wants to tell an adult. But Sara protests that it needs to be kept a secret. Will Emma keep Sara’s secret?
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Abuse isn’t always just physical, it’s can be verbal, emotional, etc. If you feel like you’re in a abused, talk to a trusted friend or family member, counselor, or teacher.
Being falsely accused of abuse is as worse as getting abused
@@Myfavoritecuties????
@@aarchivedd you know what I mean
I agree verbally abusing and physically abusing can be emotionally exhausting and draining it’s best to find someone who does not treat you like that
@@Myfavoritecuties my ex boyfriend was abuse me my dad tell me end it he was with me my brothers told him if he ever come near me he wish never been born.
It‘s better to stay single than to stay in an abusive relationship.
This is better than I thought. Especially the end. Perfect advice for children coming up into this fallen world.
MEAN dating abuse teacher
I'd hate to be in a relationship like this...
Same
Any normal person would.
@@cottoncandyjellybean8539 emotionally healthy*
I’ve been in a relationship like that before.
My ex was the same way. My gf treats me way better.
That’s a real friend. It would’ve been so much easier to stay silent, but she didn’t.
this guy obviously doesn’t want her to me happy . if he don’t like the clothes you wear , yo girlfriends or the thought of you painting gets to him . DROP HIMMMM!!!
Ikr? Ugh controlling boyfriends are so annoying.
@@ladybugradio1988 ong
@@faithyyy995 Trust me, girl I had one before and I find dating him to be a huge mistake.
I know right. If he doesn't want you to be happy or doesn'’t like the clothes you wear, your girlfriends or the thought of you painting gets to him, that's his problem. It doesn't need to be yours.
@@andrewcolinwilson1 I agree.
The way Mike treated her is an example to all males of how not to treat a woman if you really want to keep her.
The moment Mike smashed the painting it was really heartbreaking. It was very painful
It was good to see how her mother had her back by protecting her and telling her how to keep him away.
Unfortunately, this is all too common. Remember the first time you are disrespected Run. Cut all contact. Go for help. Tell people you trust. Noone has a right to abuse you. If they choose to abuse you, they never loved you. Life free your best life. God bless you 🙏♥.
Now that’s good parenting 👏🏾👏🏾
Yes it was.
@@LookoutYoru yep I agree it's good parenting 👍
Agreed 👍
@@LookoutYoru this happen my best friend her ex boyfriend used beat her up I saved her now she happy married and have 3 kids with guy really loves her .
Right?! Mom was not about to be charmed back into his web and facilitated the end of the relationship firmly!
If people don't like you for you that's thier lost
her mum needs to tell her what real love is and what love isn't. Tell her she deserves to be treated better.
Him: oh, and by the way, I want us to get married, as soon as we graduate. 😖
The, "Did I StUtTeR" 😆
Nobody is going to tell me who I can or can't be friends with. And if she wants to go to art school, she can.
I know right. And if the person you're dating doesn't like your friends, that's their problem. It doesn't need to be yours.
have you ever been in a relationship like that. if not then you can't really say, but if you was then you know it's not all that easy
@@jannett4333 Nobody's saying it is all that easy.
Absolutely
Mike was a mind controlling maniac
Controlling someone isn’t right
Naww you don’t say
He was being territorial on Sarah and possessive
A true friend speaks up always
Absolutely
They’re real with you wether you wanna hear It or not
That guy is a real jerk
Yeah! Nakia is a real kind gentleman for loving me for who I am and not what I wear. My cousin was obviously not a good cousin. She decides what outfit to wear to like like everyone else, decides what place to go to, and the food she wants me to eat. My mom and I wanted to make our own decisions, but sometimes we accidentally invite them in our lives to force their decisions down our throats and expects us to change to impress other people. This was not what I wanted. The best decision I have ever made was dating Nakia. He supports my decisions and I always support his decisions.
I know right. Mike is a real jerk but at least he doesn't hit Sara.
He really is
That dress is so beautiful and she looks great.
I love a strong and wise mother ! 🙂😌😁😃
that's the first red flag 1:51 ''if I lost you'' ??? pls that had me cracking up.
She has real talent in painting and love her paintings!
This is heartbreaking 💔😭. I feel so bad for Sarah
I feel bad for Sara too but at least Mike doesn't put his hands on her.
Haven’t seen this in so long! I’m so glad you guys are making videos like this again! 😃
This guy is like the textbook definition of a gaslighter
I like her mom & friend helping her it’s always good thing I understand how she feels and um… some relationship can be hard it’s not easy but if you find someone who truly loves, care about you just the way you are not for anything I seen how relationships looks like no one is perfect we all are trying our best in life
If you were Sara, how would you have reacted to Mike's abuse?
A. You could just ignore what you're feeling and try to get out of that situation by acting like a victim. That's called being COLD or passive. But that won't get you out of that situation and will only make it worse.
B. You could explode at him and that will probably get you out of that situation. That's called being HOT or aggressive. But talking back to him and/or acting tough around him will still make it worse and anger him more.
C. Be COOL or assertive and break up with Mike in a calm and controlling manner.
Please reply with your answer below.
Well, at first I thought B would be a good answer but I realized that being aggressive is not working well every time with everyone.
Probably C is the thing I would do, actually the thing I did
I think Option C is the best choice, as Option B might anger the other person more and make things worse for me
I would do b just because that’s the way I handle things not the best way to handle it so I wouldn’t
Recommend it though
I'd dump that punk immediately.
C for sure
I loved the message in the ending note I want us to realize that it's also the other way around males can be involved in relationships where females are abusive too anyway great job I gave it a like.
Uncle Gary's performance stole the show for me personally.
Lol I want an Uncle Gary too!
If I were in Sara’s shoes after dumping Mike, I would probably file a restraining order.
I can relate to this short film when I was a senior in high school
I do music, and if I were dating someone who does art, I would compliment her on it
Reminds me of what happened with my Ex. Good video
@@kassiestevenson6806 this has nothing to do with dating abuse
@@tinyforecast she said she went through the same thing the girl went through with her ex
@@nevaehboynton5388 im not talking about her, some other girl said something about how she got bullied by a boy that WASNT her ex
@@tinyforecast oh ok sorry
same here
Girl you don't know what love is. He belongs in jail. If he hurts you. He'll do it again. If he kills you. He'll still go to jail for murder nobody gets away with that. In jail the inmates will have a field đây with him.
picture perfect memories scattered all around the floor
Poor Sarah. She deserves better but there's a guy out there who'll treat her right
He did not accidentally knock something over.
What a jerk
Why in the hell she still with him if he treats her like trash 🗑
sometimes when you love someone so much, its as if you try to forget the way they're treating you because you don't want to leave them. they're your comfort, even if they treat you so badly.
@@kennedygentry5788 yes your right
@@kennedygentry5788 Rubbish. When you love someone that much 😒. Girls who stay with abusive partners by choice and claim it's because of love are stupid and if you're one of them then, it's a shame.
@@janetlopez463 Right? Have you people lost you're minds 😂
@@accountuser5588 umm I'm sorry... what do you think they stay for?? I'm not the stupid one here, you probably aren't even a real girl, knowing today's society.
8:00 omg such amazing acting! That "no" changed my whole life :D
Great, supportive mother. G-d bless her!
why does she shout in lower case
Today's gonna be tough; your gonna need to be tougher .
stalking is a crime in all 50 states. Once you tell the person NOT to contact you, I would recommend NOT blocking them. If you block them, they will still call, text, email, you just won't SEE it, nor will you have that evidence to PROVE in court that they have continued to stalk you after you said nO. If you do see their attempts, you can print those out, and collect them to prove they are stalking. All the people helping her are great here in this video too. It's difficult to get that kind of support once you're an adult, And many victims still don't realize how dangerous these individuals are
Having someone potentially risk inflicted self-harm and constant harassment just to "catch" someone in the act is not the recommended protocol by legal or mental health professionals. It could be a dangerous game to play, that you don't know the outcome to. Collecting evidence is always a good idea, but one shouldn't feel obligated to expose themselves to more damaging things to collect additional evidence.
I would never treat my girl like that.
You a beta boyyy
Same.
Yeah so true hey
Same.
love is blind ❌
blind by love ✅
Good Short Movie....Good Parenting Mom
Love is a powerful thing and has the potential to be the death or life of free will..
Chose what to love and don’t let love choose you because we may hate and despise what it is we love.
I was in two abusive relationships they are hard to leave
Yea
“If your a real friend you won’t tell”
If your not a real friend you won’t tell
If you’re a real friend you will tell no matter the consequences. -my friend
4:40 pure stalker behavior their
I would've broken up with him the moment he'd say "did I stutter?"
If I was a mother, I wanna make sure there was a restraining order on that kid
Mike doesn't know what love is
They should probably file a restraining order.
I can't believe Mike is telling her to give him her phone like come on not cool
Full blown malignant narcissism even at that age, wow
It's a kick in the chest for me just Mike treating Sarah badly
Luckily for Sara, the abuse Mike was giving her was only emotional but not physical.
WoW really what kinda guy he is it's seem he has no respect for her 😣😢. Hay girl you don't need him . he not right for you girl I am so sorry ok.
I was dreading that she would have foolishly relented and gone back to him one more time just to straighten things out. As a prosecutor, I had a case of domestic abuse where the woman went back after pulling away from an abusive drug addict boyfriend just to clear things up and the guy killed her.
Agreed 💯 Dating Abuse is No Joke 😔 I was in That Situation Once Before
He also cornered her which is never okay and the fact he broke into her house with the spare key.
Plus someone's gotta put a restraining order against Mike
They probably should.
the irony that his name is Mike 🤣🤣🤣 My controlling ex was Mike
Sarah's mom is really right about Mike.
Liking this post of hers
Been there and didn’t know it at the time. She left me for a guy that she claimed ( I hate that I have to doubt this) physically abused her. She tried to contact me even years after I married someone else (20 years and still going strong). She Kept leaving controlling messages that were blaming me for our break-up (That I lead her to cheat because he took care of her better than I did, etc).
The trauma from Mike abusing Sarah it will stay with her.
Sarah's mom be like: how oblivious can i be
wow, has her very own television and dresser and everything
Was this filmed in Youngstown Ohio? They mention the Butler Art Gallery, and the two girls seemed (?) to be talking while standing on the Silver Suspension Bridge in Mill Creek Park....
Me: "No one finds out Sarah really? Some one will"
Nice painting
Sometimes it is hard for someone to talk about it and i have been there before
This breaks my heart when i first saw Mike destroy that painting
If you really love Mike he wouldn't have destroyed your painting, kid.
Question. The captions says her friends name is Emma but she called her Bella. That’s confusing. Was it a typo?
It’s possible that with every painting it’s draining his life force, and he can feel it. That’s why he says either him or the painting.
When we love someone or something, we become part of it, are connected with it. To love painting is to be a God, a creator. The inspiration is drawn from somewhere.
Think about the oils, the paint, the brush, the canvass, the colors.
When someone loves painting, are they loving the canvas, the oils, the brush, the paint, the colors?
If they’re not changing then the answer is no.
For a painting to be made something has to change, to mix, to move from one state into another.
The realm where she and him met didn’t have such a painting in existence.
Through the action of painting she is changing her reality and leaving behind those whom she doesn’t love so she can stay true to herself.
Through the action of painting, if she herself doesn’t change, there is a sacrifice.
The pure white canvas is sacrificed to bring about, call fourth, manifest, evoke, the painting into the world she is in. However, there are many questions that go along with that that the artist must answer:
Is the painting in alignment with how imagined perfectly, yes or no? Is it suppose to be that way, yes or no? Is it something worthy of acceptance and approval, yes or no? Is every aspect of the painting loved including but not limited to each and every aspect that has gone into it, yes or no? Is the painting being made with the soul, yes or no? If the painting isn’t being made with the soul and isn’t loved through every aspect in its creation is there a sacrifice, yes or no? Is that sacrifice worth it, yes or no? What is the goal of that painting: is it going to be abandoned, yes or no? Cherished, yes or no? Sold or exchanged, yes or no? Public or private, yes or no?
When art goes into an exhibit that is the same as a display of nakedness, nakedness of thought, of mind, of a moment.
Was she aware of that, yes or no? Was that person he told her to stay away from aware of that, yes or no? Was he aware of that, yes or no?
If not one’s own self they are revealing through painting then who, what, when, where, and why are they revealing and did they have permission to do that, or is that a boundary being crossed.
As above, so below, what you reap is what you sow, as above, so below.
The Bible mentions the holy sprit which repeats what it sees and hears. The judgement is only on the self that does the doing.
If you’re crossing boundaries and ignoring it, then something else is going to cross boundaries and ignore it.
A hack is the attempt to loop hole the universal law of mirroring after a mistake by treating others the way you yourself want to be treated. Basically after the holy sprit was blasphemed to undo the damage by doing what should have occurred rather than what did.
Trauma and rape. If the rapist doesn’t quit, are you going to quit, and if you don’t quit is anything else going to quit?
Is the canvas alive, yes or no? Is the canvas made from something once living, yes or no? Was a sacrifice made to create that canvas, yes or no? Did the canvas ask to be pained on, yes or no? Was the painter or writes met with painters or writers block, yes or no? Is that because the canvas was in prayer and the painters block is the prayer of the canvas being answered, yes or no?
If she truly loves painting then that’s the relationship she has chosen. She controlled everything about the life of the painting and the canvas, yet when her life was controlled by her partner she didn’t seem to like it.
She became the canvas, the painting, whether she knows it or not, that’s love. True love, the power of it.
The person she was with, he, didn’t want that kind of relationship. It’s possible that she was unaware that is what the relationship is, and what she is doing.
The canvas couldn’t get away, nor could the brush, nor could the paints, nor could she.
The person she was in a relationship with, if they didn’t want to have that kind of relationship, would have to die or the relationship would have to end.
She loved both him and the painting.
That’s where the stress e lies. She has to make a choice. He told her the best way he could that, the activity of painting is the cause of my death. I cannot control loving you, so make a choice, me (what remains) or the painting. Basically saying that his body would still be there, but who he is within would die, and because of her choice to not let go and his lack desire to leave because of concern of not being able to get love anywhere else or that selfish blind stupid love had grown so intense that he couldn’t escape.
You want to know how and why God would kill his one and only son, that’s it, that’s how. That’s why the words: the love on 3 (ball) 4 2 … the cross, the tree of knowledge of good and evil, is the root of all evil.
The question is: why did someone love being king so much, what were they trying to control, who were they trying to bring to life or what were they trying to create or change, and was it worth it? What was the gain? What was the loss? Can it be undone, yes or no?
The Devil lived
leven _ bread
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I’ve been in a relationship like this. emotionally and I was completely drained. my friends could tell that I was not happy, I had to cut out some of my guy friends bc he said I had to. he told me all the time that he loved me but he was always controlling things and telling me to stop doing things I love. I’m so grateful that God took my out of that relationship
If anyone sees any of these red flags, plz get out of the relationship. It’s only gonna get worse. don’t be infatuated with them bc they look good. It’s about how they treat you♥️🙃😁
Me or painting? YOU GO, mr. abuser!!!😢😮
Yes abuse can also involve stalking
One more important thing, if he’s keeps harassing you and getting physical, call the police.
True
What if you don't have friends?
As an older person, i had my share of abusive situations. Rather be single than be in negative relations called torturesjops. People with whom i worked said you could do bad and better by yourself
I meant tortureships
Some people are too immature to see the situation
That is why I got rid of negative people in my life.
people who control you and your life are not it. drop them ASAP
Teenage dating abuse is not OK and that is against the law, I’m glad she’s not his boyfriend anymore and she should’ve put a restraining order against him!
To prevent Mike from coming into Sara’s house, Sara could set up some booby traps outside of the house.
I dumped a guy in January like this. I did everything to make sure he doesn't ever think about coming back 😂. Stood up for myself and spoke up .
Kids don't understand how fast things like that get out of hand! Thats not love!!
Me: "Sarah you have to not talk to him anymore, i can't deal with it anymore."
Aww that's 😔 😟 🙁 😥
Aww that's sad 😔 😟
Mike's a mind controller
what causes people to act like the bf in the video because I was acting like that to my bf when I was 12 to 15 (same person) I changed and I don't act like that anymore im wondering if its just cause of how young I was or my younger childhood im not sure
Bye bye Mike
10:16
A few months ago, I paid a visit to my mom’s best friend who is like my godmother/aunt. She lives in SF and the last two times I was there, there was a sign on her and her neighbor’s front door that reads:
“To: Terrance Buckley
Because of your past behavior, you are not welcome here at 34/36 Lexington Street. If you are in this doorway, you are trespassing. Please leave immediately or the San Francisco PD will be called”
Sarah’s family should put up a the exact same sign on their front door but with Mike’s name on it, and the sign should also say “we will NOT have any conversation with you”
Her friend she entered in the art contest
No painting?!? Wtf
Poor Sarah
Okay well they tried but it doesn't happen like that. We would be so lucky if it did because then we would know to walk away right away. You don't get those behavior at all in fact they'll butter you up and tell you that they would never take you away from your friends or family and they wouldn't get in the way of your dreams and then it becomes subtle hints of being disappointed and jealous of your accomplishments and then it starts slowly turning to demands. The guys who start their relationships off like this don't stay in relationships. The only reason why many abused women stay with their abusers is because they had a bunch of time with them where they weren't abusing them, fell in love and emotionally attached.
This is actually realistic and it can sometimes happen this way. The key things here were that she had support and a plan to breakup with the guy and stick to it. It depends on the situation sometimes but I’ve worked with abuse survivors and with support, they can escape from the abusive relationship. I hear what you’re saying though in some cases, there’s stalking, threats, emotional blackmail etc.
So true!! I say they wait for you to take the bait…… then the abuse begins
If I had a girlfriend I would never treat her like that ever!
"If I had a girlfriend I would never treat her like that ever!"
Bella really cares about Sarah