This is exactly what an estate lawyer is for. Their responsibilities to their clients don't end once the clients have passed and the inheritance has been distributed. The fee paid to them by their clients also includes any disputes or misappropriation of funds. I am glad OPs uncle helped bring up a case against her parents.
@@baskervillebee6097 Yes. I have a good friend who was having trouble with her landlord. I took her to the Legal Aid Society and they handled her case at no charge.
OP: "I will sue you" Parents: "With what money?" OP: "Yours, clearcut case like this, any lawyer will be happy to charge a little more and wait for the payday. And I will be adding a clause that asks that lawyer fees are included in the settlement since it was your actions that made it necessary"
Call your sister's realtor, and tell them you will sue them if they allow the home purchase to continue since it is stolen money. Receiving stolen goods is a crime, and the relator can lose their license if you report them to the licensing board. Also, make a police report. It is a felony to steal that amount of money, and is a crime for both your parents and your sister to steal that money.
Her college fund is also her complete inheritance. That means any extra money was her monitary inheritance. It is not like that money would revert to the parents when she graduates.
She may have gotten one semester out of them before they ghosted on the deal. The plan was to leave her with nothing. They could've left her some of the money. They took it ALL, offered her nothing in return, and then mocked her when she threatened legal action. But she's supposed to think they'll cover 4 years worth of college to cover for what they stole from her. Thank God she finally spoke up about her garbage parents and there was someone who could help her.
@@LisaBeta-42 They don't actually love the "favored" sister either. I have explained on many threads that in extreme cases of favoritism neither child is truly loved. Their actions deprived her of having a healthy relationship with her sister (the OP).
Those who say that you are behaving entitled are absolutely right. You are entitled! ENTITLED to the money that you grandparents left specifically for YOU and NO ONE ELSE!
You are one thousand percent correct in doing what you're doing. That money was left to YOU, not your sister. Your parents had no right to do what they did with YOUR money. They need to get it back from your sister immediately. Anyone saying you're acting spoiled and entitled is nothing but an ignorant idiot. Your parents broke the will of your grand parents who left you the money. It's YOURS and you should have it.
I feel the people who are calling OP entitled and spoiled are people who would do the same thing to their own children. There are some disgusting fucker in the world.
Yeah right, after they literally steal your inheritance you're supposed to trust their verbal assurances that they'll pay for you college fees? NO WAY!
These parents are disgusting. The parents and sister took their inheritance from the grandparents and they are taking OP's inheritance as well, leaving OP with no inheritance at all. It's unbelievable that the parents think that this is acceptable!
@@dawnwagoner8307 The OP's sister should not trust them either. They do not love her either. She is just an extension of their narcissistic egos. They might betray her at some point.
Because it's likely going to come from their retirement fund, and they weren't going to keep their word, likely stop paying after a couple of semesters.
They don't have the money. The promise is to buy time until the uncle backs off and the house is purchased. Once they think they are in the clear, they will "forget" they ever made any promise and will not pay a cent toward OPs college.
The fact they had the audacity to not just steal what was rightly OP's which was stated in grandparents will but to then laugh when being told they were going to be sued asking "with what money" is absolutely vile. They were entrusted with funds for OP. Not funds they could do whatever they wanted. I find it funny how once they were being sued they suddenly were able to pay for OP's college which was probably less than what was given from the grandparents wills. I'm glad OP didn't back down because they needed to be taught that just because they have a favorite doesn't mean they can get away with doing something illegal. I wonder if their relationship with golden child is strained now that she found out the truth.
Should have told maternal Grandpa well if you had brought your daughter up to be a good mother and not an entitled Thief we wouldn't be in this situation before I blocked him
Since the woman seems to condone the theft of hundreds of thousands of dollars that can make a difference in a life, I hope she gets the same treatment from someone.
The parents are only saying they will cover your college tuition to buy time. Once the uncle backs off, they will renege on any promises and not pay a cent. After all, if they had that kind of money, they would pay for golden sis' house without touching your money in the first place. You should tell your uncle to have the lawyer look into criminal charges for theft. Maybe when they hear about criminal charges, they will finally take you seriously.
Why doesn’t Chloe sell the jewellery to help pay for the house? Or the parents got in inheritance as well , what happened to that, why couldn’t they use that? Anyone that thinks people should let people steal her inheritance are just ridiculous, would they let their family steal their inheritance, I don’t know anyone who’d let that happen! Great friend and her parents plus the uncle and aunt all who helped her.
It's explained later, Chloe didn't ask for help, and the parents just stole the money unprompted. She accepted blindly, and apologized when she was informed it was OP's money, and got a normal home loan instead after returning the money
So everyone gets their inheritance except OP? Mom and dad got their portion, sister got her portion , but parents gave OP’s portion to their precious golden child daughter. Oh hell NO! Nobody has a right to call OP entitled for expecting her inheritance. I agree with OP when she said it’s more advantageous to get her money back from sister instead of having parents pay for her college expenses. They will most likely add up to less than the total of the fund the grandparents left for her! I’m happy they are getting in trouble for their actions. 😂
That's if they even keep to their word. Something tells me they would only keep it up for a couple of semesters, then refuse to continue payments. Even with a court order, they would be pressuring OP to go to a cheaper college regardless of what she wants.
Any settlement isn't that they will pay your way through college, it is that they will reimburse you for all the funds that were left to you plus interest.
Parents say that they will pay for OP's education if she talks to her uncle and call off the lawyer. Bad idea. They clearly proved they can't be trusted. I think we all knew she wasn't in the wrong the moment they laughed at her face when she threatened lawsuit. "With what money?" They didn't want to break her sister's heart. What about OP'S heart? Obviously they didn't care about that.
Sperm and egg donor aren't sorry, their just sorry about the consequences. Their trying to save their reputation by "apologizing" and trying to fix their "mistake". It's so typical that when none their tactics were working and op kept refusing their "settlement" they went crying to the maternal grandparents as an attempt to get op to back down. Bet it fustrated them when op just blocked the maternal grandparents and that tactic didn't do anything. I'm glad that the golden child apologized to op and was ashamed of her parents for doing such a thing. It showed how selfish and desperate they are to only help their favorite kid but have disdain for op.
The parents ruined their own reputation. It's kind of sad. I don't fully believe the sister didn't know. She is probably saving face but maybe I'm to cynical after seeing one to many golden child story where the golden child is all shocked pikachu face when their parents screw over their sibling or siblings for their benefit. It's nice op has her uncle and aunt. Because her parents will definitely cut her off and write her out of their will. If she was even in the will to begin with.
Your parents can not withhold money that was left in trust simple fraud, I would inform family members and take legal action against your parents They are abusing you and you where entitled to get your fund and a share of the jewellery this is not acceptable behaviour if they fall foul of the trust it will be audited Your parents will not give you the full amount of your funds they are stealing
NTA. Don't tolerate mistreatment from anyone because you are teaching them how to treat you in the future and it only gets worse. People who engage in or ignore. deceitful, fraudulent and criminal behavior do not need to be negotiated with or kept in your life because, at a fundamental level, they don't value, love or respect you, especially family.
Op parents are going to regret showing special treatment towards Chloe when she leave them behind when she is done using them and when op goes no contact and won’t rescue them in their time of need
It wasn't the parents' money to give to the sister. Sister can be disappointed and can save for a house. If Chloe is a decent person she should not be upset in giving back the money.
I am not a lawyer and have very limited understanding of the law but bottom line common sense tells me that laws need to be passed or if that has already happened better enforced to prevent exploitation of children's trust funds or college funds by their families. Children are too vulnerable to that.
That money belongs to you. It isn't right for parents to give it away. Your sister and her husband can save up the money. College is expensive. Your parents says they will pay for you don't bet on it. They would have control of you. They might pay for the first year but not the next year. They just one you to get your uncle and lawyer off there back. Stand firm
It would be heartless to ask Chloe for her sisters money back after they stole the money to give to her sister for a house? What about being heartless to laugh at her and say the moneys gone and you can't sue us you don't have any money.
for those of you who tell them to suck it up and let it go, how would you react to your parents stealing from you. just because their family doesn't give them a right to steal from anyone, suing them would surely teach them a lesson.
Grandparents left sum of money to OP. So she entitled to that money. And people who called OP entitled because she fight what left for her is weird and stupid.
Sounds like it was the original estate lawyer and a family friend of the uncle, so ensuring the will is enacted would have been part of the job he was originally hired for. Any additional fees if any are probably being paid by the uncle, but I'd hazard a guess the lawyer is doing this pro bono given the situation.
When the parents tried to come to a settlement I would have said that I wanted the same money they stole from me. And I would only accept int paid in installment if we had a legally binding contract of it. Just to see the reaction. If they would protest I would know they weren't serious about paying me back.
OP parents stole from her. It was her money. Go after them make them pay and not your sister down a peg her too. She’s teacher for young kids if I found out how she was treating her sister I stop taking my kids there.
Those parents are something else. Even just paying college expenses, OP would feel obligated to keep expenses down to "help out" her thieving parents, and she would never get all the money left to her. Anyone who thinks she's acting entitled and a brat have never had their inheritance stolen out from under them to be given to someone else. Clearly, it's a violation of the will, which sounds like the law is on the side of the inheritor. "It's only money and she should just get loans like anyone else"-WHY in God's green earth should she HAVE to do that when money has been left specifically for her to be able to avoid that? Different circumstances, sure, she needs to get loans and a job. Good on the uncle for standing up for her and seeking reparations on her behalf. The parents should count their blessings they only have social consequences now (and probably the loss of a daughter, but at least the alienation of one or both of them). Neither of those outcomes are inconsequential, but they should be in jail for fraud and/or grand theft. And I'm so happy sister was unaware of situation and not resentful toward OP. They both turned out much better than the abusive environment in which they were raised might indicate.
They can sell their home and possessions to pay it back or organs, they can rent hole and work johns, but not only would they be paying it back but id be getting some true justice on them too, theyd never experience a second of life with any quality ever again.
OP should worry and feel sorry about her own a$$, instead of feeling bad for a golden sister who never stood up for OP. Chloe is 27 yrs old, she is old enough to see how her parents treated OP, and never spoke a word, while enjoyed the benefits in silence.
S1 NTA because the money is for school And living expenses. If you take your parents' offer, then maybe they will only pay for school and not living expenses. Or only pay for a community college and not a university. It really also depends on your choice of career.
the son of your grandfather's brother is your cousin once removed. But in Asian culture, it is ok to call any rich acquaintance of your parents uncle. OP doesn't need to get the entire sum immediately. Something equivalent, like title to the parents or chloe's house or something like that
These stories have to be hers because all her stories have entirely too many details and explanations where it's not necessary. Also, her stories go over things she's already explained in depth. But I keep listening 😂
You should know by now, Reddit only has 3 stories on the whole platform. They change Susie to Steve, brother to cousin and allergic reaction to intentional poison. Voila, instant new story
This is exactly what an estate lawyer is for. Their responsibilities to their clients don't end once the clients have passed and the inheritance has been distributed. The fee paid to them by their clients also includes any disputes or misappropriation of funds. I am glad OPs uncle helped bring up a case against her parents.
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@@baskervillebee6097 Yes. I have a good friend who was having trouble with her landlord. I took her to the Legal Aid Society and they handled her case at no charge.
@@baskervillebee6097uuui cm u u u i i 16:42 uoo
OP: "I will sue you"
Parents: "With what money?"
OP: "Yours, clearcut case like this, any lawyer will be happy to charge a little more and wait for the payday. And I will be adding a clause that asks that lawyer fees are included in the settlement since it was your actions that made it necessary"
Perfectly phrased❤
The only people that would call you entitled are people that are jealous you got money or people that would also steal it from you. Or they're both.
Tell your parents to use their inheritance money to help Cloe fund her new home.
They could also take out an equity loan and give it to Cloe.
Call your sister's realtor, and tell them you will sue them if they allow the home purchase to continue since it is stolen money. Receiving stolen goods is a crime, and the relator can lose their license if you report them to the licensing board.
Also, make a police report. It is a felony to steal that amount of money, and is a crime for both your parents and your sister to steal that money.
What, exactly, was there to negotiate?
You stole $X, you will return $X
Always always press charges especially against family. They will never learn their lesson without consequences
This story seemed to only exist in civil law. I am not a lawyer but if what they did is a crime she should have had them arrested and jailed.
Expecting to receive your inheritance is not entitled it's rightfully yours
For real, shows how entitled sperm donor, egg donor and parasite are to tell op their entitled to expect their inheritance.
Right.?! That just blew my mind that people called OP entitled when it was the parents who were being entitled and stole Op's money.
Imagine working at a job and being called "entitled" for expecting your paycheck.
Gotta wonder what the paternal grandparents were told. Bet they didn't mention it was a literal inheritance.
👍🏻@@onepieceisking5493
Her college fund is also her complete inheritance. That means any extra money was her monitary inheritance. It is not like that money would revert to the parents when she graduates.
Parents won’t help you. Do not give them another chance.
She may have gotten one semester out of them before they ghosted on the deal. The plan was to leave her with nothing. They could've left her some of the money. They took it ALL, offered her nothing in return, and then mocked her when she threatened legal action. But she's supposed to think they'll cover 4 years worth of college to cover for what they stole from her. Thank God she finally spoke up about her garbage parents and there was someone who could help her.
They had 18 years to act decent and treat both children fairly - forgot to do the right thing, as long as they had no repercussions
@@LisaBeta-42 They don't actually love the "favored" sister either. I have explained on many threads that in extreme cases of favoritism neither child is truly loved. Their actions deprived her of having a healthy relationship with her sister (the OP).
Those who say that you are behaving entitled are absolutely right. You are entitled! ENTITLED to the money that you grandparents left specifically for YOU and NO ONE ELSE!
The term "entitled" has turned into an insult but its not an "insult" when it is LITERALLY TRUE like in this case.
Exactly had she taken that deal they would have convinced her to go to the cheapest school option and probably would have reneged
I wonderif the older sister and her husband could afford the taxes that would be attached to an expensive house.
You are one thousand percent correct in doing what you're doing. That money was left to YOU, not your sister. Your parents had no right to do what they did with YOUR money. They need to get it back from your sister immediately. Anyone saying you're acting spoiled and entitled is nothing but an ignorant idiot. Your parents broke the will of your grand parents who left you the money. It's YOURS and you should have it.
I feel the people who are calling OP entitled and spoiled are people who would do the same thing to their own children. There are some disgusting fucker in the world.
I bet if it was their money stolen they wouldn’t have let it go! Probably because they’d do it to their own family!
Yeah right, after they literally steal your inheritance you're supposed to trust their verbal assurances that they'll pay for you college fees? NO WAY!
These parents are disgusting. The parents and sister took their inheritance from the grandparents and they are taking OP's inheritance as well, leaving OP with no inheritance at all. It's unbelievable that the parents think that this is acceptable!
I'm so glad that had such a perfect and beautifully wrapped up ending. Wonderful reading as usual❤
I’m glad Chloe is a good person. I hope they can have a relationship of some kind
Rare moment where the golden child didn't throw a tantrum
NTA, this is the culmination of a lifetime of neglect.
Do not trust your parents
@@dawnwagoner8307 The OP's sister should not trust them either. They do not love her either. She is just an extension of their narcissistic egos. They might betray her at some point.
If parents have money for the settlement, why didn’t they just use that for the house
Because it's likely going to come from their retirement fund, and they weren't going to keep their word, likely stop paying after a couple of semesters.
They don't have the money. The promise is to buy time until the uncle backs off and the house is purchased. Once they think they are in the clear, they will "forget" they ever made any promise and will not pay a cent toward OPs college.
Better yet they got the estate. So why they didn't just give the sister the grandparents house?
The fact they had the audacity to not just steal what was rightly OP's which was stated in grandparents will but to then laugh when being told they were going to be sued asking "with what money" is absolutely vile. They were entrusted with funds for OP. Not funds they could do whatever they wanted. I find it funny how once they were being sued they suddenly were able to pay for OP's college which was probably less than what was given from the grandparents wills. I'm glad OP didn't back down because they needed to be taught that just because they have a favorite doesn't mean they can get away with doing something illegal. I wonder if their relationship with golden child is strained now that she found out the truth.
Should have told maternal Grandpa well if you had brought your daughter up to be a good mother and not an entitled Thief we wouldn't be in this situation before I blocked him
Since the woman seems to condone the theft of hundreds of thousands of dollars that can make a difference in a life, I hope she gets the same treatment from someone.
The parents are only saying they will cover your college tuition to buy time. Once the uncle backs off, they will renege on any promises and not pay a cent. After all, if they had that kind of money, they would pay for golden sis' house without touching your money in the first place. You should tell your uncle to have the lawyer look into criminal charges for theft. Maybe when they hear about criminal charges, they will finally take you seriously.
Why doesn’t Chloe sell the jewellery to help pay for the house? Or the parents got in inheritance as well , what happened to that, why couldn’t they use that? Anyone that thinks people should let people steal her inheritance are just ridiculous, would they let their family steal their inheritance, I don’t know anyone who’d let that happen! Great friend and her parents plus the uncle and aunt all who helped her.
It's explained later, Chloe didn't ask for help, and the parents just stole the money unprompted. She accepted blindly, and apologized when she was informed it was OP's money, and got a normal home loan instead after returning the money
I'm curious is Chloe was aware that the parents did that when she accepted the money.
She doesn't even care. She's the golden one and is supposed to get whatever she wants, no questions asked.
@@noydb-1this. Not once did she ask where they got the money from she just took it. Smh
So everyone gets their inheritance except OP? Mom and dad got their portion, sister got her portion , but parents gave OP’s portion to their precious golden child daughter. Oh hell NO! Nobody has a right to call OP entitled for expecting her inheritance. I agree with OP when she said it’s more advantageous to get her money back from sister instead of having parents pay for her college expenses. They will most likely add up to less than the total of the fund the grandparents left for her! I’m happy they are getting in trouble for their actions. 😂
That's if they even keep to their word. Something tells me they would only keep it up for a couple of semesters, then refuse to continue payments. Even with a court order, they would be pressuring OP to go to a cheaper college regardless of what she wants.
Any settlement isn't that they will pay your way through college, it is that they will reimburse you for all the funds that were left to you plus interest.
All you have to do is call off the lawyers.
Riiight. They need to sign a contract holding them to the repayment terms.
Then they'd act all "shocked" and gaslight OP with "how dare you call us untrustworthy.!"
The parents need to be prosecuted, convicted and imprisoned for this.
Parents say that they will pay for OP's education if she talks to her uncle and call off the lawyer. Bad idea. They clearly proved they can't be trusted. I think we all knew she wasn't in the wrong the moment they laughed at her face when she threatened lawsuit. "With what money?" They didn't want to break her sister's heart. What about OP'S heart? Obviously they didn't care about that.
Sperm and egg donor aren't sorry, their just sorry about the consequences. Their trying to save their reputation by "apologizing" and trying to fix their "mistake". It's so typical that when none their tactics were working and op kept refusing their "settlement" they went crying to the maternal grandparents as an attempt to get op to back down. Bet it fustrated them when op just blocked the maternal grandparents and that tactic didn't do anything.
I'm glad that the golden child apologized to op and was ashamed of her parents for doing such a thing. It showed how selfish and desperate they are to only help their favorite kid but have disdain for op.
What about the interest the large amount of money would have earned? That needs to be returned as well!
The parents ruined their own reputation. It's kind of sad. I don't fully believe the sister didn't know. She is probably saving face but maybe I'm to cynical after seeing one to many golden child story where the golden child is all shocked pikachu face when their parents screw over their sibling or siblings for their benefit. It's nice op has her uncle and aunt. Because her parents will definitely cut her off and write her out of their will. If she was even in the will to begin with.
Your parents can not withhold money that was left in trust simple fraud, I would inform family members and take legal action against your parents
They are abusing you and you where entitled to get your fund and a share of the jewellery this is not acceptable behaviour if they fall foul of the trust it will be audited
Your parents will not give you the full amount of your funds they are stealing
NTA. Don't tolerate mistreatment from anyone because you are teaching them how to treat you in the future and it only gets worse. People who engage in or ignore. deceitful, fraudulent and criminal behavior do not need to be negotiated with or kept in your life because, at a fundamental level, they don't value, love or respect you, especially family.
Op parents are going to regret showing special treatment towards Chloe when she leave them behind when she is done using them and when op goes no contact and won’t rescue them in their time of need
She buys the house put a lien on it
It wasn't the parents' money to give to the sister. Sister can be disappointed and can save for a house. If Chloe is a decent person she should not be upset in giving back the money.
I’m a kindergarten teacher
I’m a zookeeper
We make nothing!
Our budget is 1.5 million for a house😹
I am not a lawyer and have very limited understanding of the law but bottom line common sense tells me that laws need to be passed or if that has already happened better enforced to prevent exploitation of children's trust funds or college funds by their families. Children are too vulnerable to that.
That money belongs to you. It isn't right for parents to give it away. Your sister and her husband can save up the money. College is expensive. Your parents says they will pay for you don't bet on it. They would have control of you. They might pay for the first year but not the next year. They just one you to get your uncle and lawyer off there back. Stand firm
It would be heartless to ask Chloe for her sisters money back after they stole the money to give to her sister for a house? What about being heartless to laugh at her and say the moneys gone and you can't sue us you don't have any money.
All you need is to call attorney
It's your money not theirs.
for those of you who tell them to suck it up and let it go, how would you react to your parents stealing from you. just because their family doesn't give them a right to steal from anyone, suing them would surely teach them a lesson.
Great. Is it too late for sis to get that home loan? Did the parents scuttle her chances by stepping in unasked?
Grandparents left sum of money to OP. So she entitled to that money. And people who called OP entitled because she fight what left for her is weird and stupid.
Can definitely tell the uncle is military by the way he's acting
Who's paying for the lawyer? Op's inheritance?
Sounds like it was the original estate lawyer and a family friend of the uncle, so ensuring the will is enacted would have been part of the job he was originally hired for. Any additional fees if any are probably being paid by the uncle, but I'd hazard a guess the lawyer is doing this pro bono given the situation.
When the parents tried to come to a settlement I would have said that I wanted the same money they stole from me. And I would only accept int paid in installment if we had a legally binding contract of it. Just to see the reaction. If they would protest I would know they weren't serious about paying me back.
OP parents stole from her. It was her money. Go after them make them pay and not your sister down a peg her too. She’s teacher for young kids if I found out how she was treating her sister I stop taking my kids there.
you do not back off on P's like this
Those parents are something else. Even just paying college expenses, OP would feel obligated to keep expenses down to "help out" her thieving parents, and she would never get all the money left to her. Anyone who thinks she's acting entitled and a brat have never had their inheritance stolen out from under them to be given to someone else. Clearly, it's a violation of the will, which sounds like the law is on the side of the inheritor. "It's only money and she should just get loans like anyone else"-WHY in God's green earth should she HAVE to do that when money has been left specifically for her to be able to avoid that? Different circumstances, sure, she needs to get loans and a job.
Good on the uncle for standing up for her and seeking reparations on her behalf. The parents should count their blessings they only have social consequences now (and probably the loss of a daughter, but at least the alienation of one or both of them). Neither of those outcomes are inconsequential, but they should be in jail for fraud and/or grand theft. And I'm so happy sister was unaware of situation and not resentful toward OP. They both turned out much better than the abusive environment in which they were raised might indicate.
They can sell their home and possessions to pay it back or organs, they can rent hole and work johns, but not only would they be paying it back but id be getting some true justice on them too, theyd never experience a second of life with any quality ever again.
OP should worry and feel sorry about her own a$$, instead of feeling bad for a golden sister who never stood up for OP. Chloe is 27 yrs old, she is old enough to see how her parents treated OP, and never spoke a word, while enjoyed the benefits in silence.
S1 NTA because the money is for school And living expenses. If you take your parents' offer, then maybe they will only pay for school and not living expenses. Or only pay for a community college and not a university. It really also depends on your choice of career.
You’re not entitled.
the son of your grandfather's brother is your cousin once removed. But in Asian culture, it is ok to call any rich acquaintance of your parents uncle.
OP doesn't need to get the entire sum immediately. Something equivalent, like title to the parents or chloe's house or something like that
Dont dance around your parents stole your money.
Hard to listen (one of my favs) because of the 15 ""*ADS*""!
COME ON!!!!
These stories have to be hers because all her stories have entirely too many details and explanations where it's not necessary. Also, her stories go over things she's already explained in depth.
But I keep listening 😂
Have you done a DNA test to see if they are actually related to you??
Sigh, no more of these same old same old stories. Sorry RGirl. That’s the end of my subscription.
You should know by now, Reddit only has 3 stories on the whole platform. They change Susie to Steve, brother to cousin and allergic reaction to intentional poison. Voila, instant new story
Ummm, these stories are based on problems of other people. It's not the fault of this medium there are not different problems of the people.
@@Danarchy3 Ive heard many many different Redditor problems. I seriously believe these are AI.
NTA because parents can smooth things over renig and go back on their word. She can only trust them as far as she could throw them!!