38, wife and 2 beautiful kids, stable job stable income promising career perspective, no mortgage no loans no pressure whatsoever… yet I tick ALL the boxes!!! 😢
40, I feel life is going by too quick, everyone growing up quickly and my parents retiring. No money, getting more impatient, trying to pursue something not knowing if I can succeed. Tired, exhausted, no motivation, just wishing to be more alone. Yeah I’m definitely in my midlife crisis mode.
You’re describing my life right now. Except on top of that I live with a friend who I feel responsible to keep alive. It’s hard trying to be strong all the time
I am exactly there with you. 39 years old, tired of trying to climb the ladder, no desire to go out, date or make friends anymore. I have possibly half my life left but no desire to do anything with it anymore. I’ve been beaten down by life.
I think every 20 years or so, there is an assessment of "where we are in life" 20,40,60 years old. The best outcome of a midlife crisis, in my opinion, is getting back into shape for health reasons. By 40, we vividly seen the correlation between health and vice. Alcohol, sex, morbid obesity (me), tobacco, gambling, ect. There's a correlation between vice and health. Like it or not, it is what it is. We have the power to overcome.
Am almost 52 I have today last year (2023) was the toughest year in my life, sever anxiety and acute depression. This year is better but I feel am not 100% recovered. Just want to know did you resort to medication and what kind ? Am not really keen on any meds.
@@stevesmith3556you'll make it through. You may consider what I told the other guy in this thread. It didn't save so I sent it to him again. See below this comment.
@@athernuvanne7347No I fumbled my way through it. Medication in my opinion slows down the end result. However if you're feeling like you are in a dangerous place by all means seek out counseling. Either way you go do not shut out your family and friends. This includes pets that are able to return affection.
I am a 28 M and I remember the time when I used to be a star athlete of my school and always giving my best at studies and later, at my job as a reputed engineer. Recently I have fell into this void of feeling completely empty on the inside. Nothing excites me. I don’t have any new hobbies… I sleep all day which impacts my work clearly!! I don’t like getting intimate with my partner as I have replaced it with self-pleasure and I have thrown myself into drug abuse problem. I have gained weight and lost control over my life altogether. I know I can achieve greatness but I am too lazy or unmotivated to go get the things done! I see all the signs in myself and I wanna change and… I will change!
There is lots of advice on here that can help you, as well as places to get help in the real world too. Good luck, many people have been through the difficulties you mention, and got through the other side!✌✨
39, I just want off the ride already. This life is not what I thought it was at all. I’m so dismayed at the downward trajectory of my country. This current America is unrecognizable from the one I grew up in. The people have been propagandized into oblivion. I just don’t see much hope for the future anymore, I don’t even have dreams or goals now.
Turn off the news brother, all of it, even the stuff on TH-cam. This country is still a beautiful place. Talk to your neighbors and your extended family. Join a class or a group. I went to see a Jordan Peterson lecture at a local venue this month and I was astonished at how many people in my area were there. I couldn’t believe how many conversations I overheard that sounded just like conversations I’ve had. Most people are still very much the same as 30 years ago. The media wants us to believe the nation and the world are in turmoil. You don’t have to listen to that negativity.
chin up, I was divorced at 39 and went through absolute hell to get access to my kids, and lost all my money through family court and felt old and past my 'use by' date. I had all 13 of the mentioned attributes for mid life crisis. I am 54 now, remarried and 2 more kids and feel younger than when I was 39 except a few more body aches & pains. I feel similar about the city I live in (Melbourne, Australia) as you do about the States. Avoid TV, social media as much as possible. I do wonder why you have 2 old farts running for president though, that's crazy!
Anyone who truly loves America feels what you're feeling. The rest just want their 15 minutes of fame or to watch the world burn or to get theirs. Very sad.
I had a meltdown at 34. Came back again at 53. Matthew's recommendation about not comparing yourself to others and focusing on today (both from st. Matthew's gospel) have helped me tremendously.
I'm reasonably certain that I'm in the beginning stages of one of these events. I have a beautiful family, my wife is drop dead gorgeous, I've got a great career, and things don't seem to be objectively bad. This is how I can tell that what's happening doesn't make any sense. Everything is objectively fantastic yet I still check all the boxes in this video.
Edge between 39 and 40 made me know, that midlife crisis is like nightmare in real. Don't underestimate it, get professional help and prepare for hard work to escape this pitfall
I have anxiety, depression, ADHD, paranoia and an addictive personality. Everything you listed, except maybe 2 or 3 i've had since i was 3 years old. 🤣
@ unfortunately youre not the first person to mention BPD to me. I’ve been afraid to look into it, it does run in my family tho. Thanks for your input. I’ve not heard of the other thing you put, I need to see a psychiatrist I guess. Thanks
@@eastonclarkgood thing you consider it because most won’t. They will rationalize to themselves otherwise. But %80 of BPD can be treated. You’ll be fine.
Same age and I am experiencing the same thing. I am happily married, 4 kids, tons of material things, and pretty much many things a man could ask for. I guess it is just a mid life crisis or whatever we call it now. Reality has really been hitting me hard lately.
42, no kids, never wanted to get married, and I don't regret when I see all my friends having very bad marriages and some already divorced. I still look young, but biologically I know that I'm more past than future, and that's sad. Well, I haven't drunk anymore since last year, and that's a huge achievement for me.
Sounds like I’m the female version of you but about to turn 49! Always get told I look like I’m in my 30’s but I’m feeling the hormonal shift and mentally feel down atm. Lost my mojo 😢 need to get back in the gym had surgery last year and heaps of changes which was stressful. Thanks for sharing 😊
I’m 39 and I am in the same boat. When you’re young, life is always giving you things without you even asking or having to try. Now it seems to always be taking something away.
Im fucking 28. And i am here. I think mid life crisis arrives when we fulfill the society's expectations but failed to fulfill our own. The worst feeling is when everyone else is telling you that you are doing great but you know you aren't....
Very true i am 43 and I experience all this … my goal is to give a better orbit shift lifestyle to my family .. i am making every damn effort for it .. however… i am not able to sleep … very difficult to explain .. lack of words … appreciate your video on this topic
48, it's hitting me. 10/13 of those. A few months ago I quit weed, put my Playstation away, been working out like crazy. I'm in the best shape I've been in 20 years. The life choices made just hover me. I definitely feel trapped.
Thanks so much for this! Yes - relative to all the factors listed it unsurprisingly appears that I'm enjoying a mid-life crisis. I also probably have ADHD so really appreciate this video's summary of these points in such a concise way rather than being dragged out over 15 painful minutes of random stock images and video.. I'm definitely trying to use this as an opportunity though; such strong negative emotions can be a powerful motivator and I'm seeing modest if tangible gains from free-and-body-weight exercises.. which is really rewarding and empowering. I also find regular, sometimes hard aerobic exercise (cycling) to be enormously beneficial. Exercise a great way to react to this situation as it legitimately addresses the physical decline that can be the root of insecurity, prepping yourself for a healthier, happier later life and proving to yourself that you are capable of effecting significant, positive change. Also, as we all know, the joy of objective physical gains notwithstanding, exercise is also intrinsically great for both mental and physical health. I also hope to bring some worth to my life / hijack my misery for the good of others with some charity work / volunteering. Life continues to feel like a miserable, pointless slog a lot of the time... however we're the only ones who can change this so the best you can do is try... even if this seems impossible or futile at times. Good luck folks :)
This is so cute 🥰. 15 is such an innocent and imaginative age and existence. Although you are in no way qualified to speak to/for absolutely anyone that has decades of levels of experience/trauma that can ONLY be provided by the accumulation of years of LIVING THROUGH LIFE, you’re a brave one. Super cute ❤.
I just turned 40 last month. I've never been married or had kids, but I do have a successful career that I'm starting to get crazy thoughts about moving away from to start a new path in life for very few good reasons. I checked all 13 points on your list... urgh...
I’m 29 and feel like this is happening. I’m a recovering heroin addict I have a couple years clean from it but I just can’t figure out why I’d feel like this, and I know people are gonna tell me 29 is too young, maybe it is. wtf is it then cuz 2024 I got a great job where I make great money, got a nice place with a woman with a ring on her finger - and it’s been one of the hardest/darkest years mentally for me. I’ve been thinking about things I never thought, heavy, heavy things, and it’s like idk who I am right now. I don’t know who I was, I thought I’d be somewhere else by now, further along. Whatever it is, it feels like a crisis
John Mayer sings “it might be a quarter life crisis” in why Georgia. Was ironic for me because my Ex Wife Georgia divorced me at 34 and this song came out and invoked all of the symptoms that you state. Glad I got it over early.
I turned mine into an opportunity. I just picked one thing that I could change, and then I did that. I kept doing that until I had changed my whole life. I also asked for help, went to therapy and quit using all forms of drugs down to caffeine. Godspeed
Being of the millennial generation, I cannot sympathize with and relate to my parents generation in a sense and what I experienced them go through when I was younger. I used to think that the days of being young would last forever, that hangouts/parties/etc. would never end but life hits hard and fast once you get past 25. The weekly grind sets in, all of a sudden your Facebook feed is full of wedding photos and baby pics instead of bar/club/concert/etc. photos and party invites, half your friends move away, no one has time to hang out anymore, it's really hard to make new friends or even see the ones you still have on a regular basis, all the new music might sound "crappy" to you for whatever reason and you think that you can still party like you used to and then get proven otherwise. And then you realize that this is the part that goes on forever....
40 in Dec ‘24. Marine vet with a college degree I never got to use because of the ‘11 recession. Not married, no kids, divorced at the age of 30. Nothing to show for any of the last 40 years.
Male 50 here, I have nearly all of them what am mostly confused about is how do I know whether it’s a midlife crisis, severe generalised anxiety or depression or a combination ? On the same day I can go from a massive dread mostly about my health to nice, positive and sweet thoughts. Anyone care to help ? 😢
I would suggest that it doesn’t really matter what the cause is. The main point is that you are struggling and are in a state that requires some time and support to work through it. I would suggest a good therapist. Perhaps start writing a journal to explore your thoughts and feelings. At the same time find an activity that gives you a break from thinking and frees you from your mind from time to time. This could be any activity where you get lost in the moment. A balance of thinking and ‘being’ is important when going through what you are feeling at the moment. Best of luck.
Am 29 and been feeling like this for years about am very scared of life in a dead end job losing hope in my future, and scared of going back to university.. what if I still cant get a job...what if I lose again like I did in community college that was a horrible years of my life. I have no carrer No future in marriage No future in buying a house Just so lost
I had this but it was more of a "quarter-life crisis" at the age of 21, and it lasted almost 2 years. I was smoking weed almost every day with a mate of mine, then all of a sudden, I lost who I was and began to overthink everything. My enjoyment of smoking weed and doing things that were "normal" for me became so abstract. I started to worry that I was doomed to 'smoke up' all day for the rest of my life. I started to look to others who asked "what was wrong with me" to which I had no answer. I had no drive or no idea what to do. So I began to drink much more and seclude myself from others. Fast forward to now, I'm 25, now at university with hopes of completing a bachelor's degree and possibly studying even further. I don't hang out with my stoner mates anymore (even though it was no fault of theirs, it was my choice to smoke), I feel so much more in control of my life and both mentally and physically healthier. I still struggle with motivation and discipline at times, but I strive to be better every day. For me this was a "quarter-life opportunity", I'm afraid if I didn't have it, I wouldn't be where I am today.
I'm not sure how old you are now. I can tell you I had a similar experience at 25. I called it a quarter life crisis. I'm 40 now and am having a midlife crisis. I long for that quarter life crisis haha.
42, every one applies to my life. And it’s presenting itself as anxiety, worry about how I feel about my wife/job/lack of social interaction… I’m missing people from my past and reconnecting with old school friends. Oof…. I need 2025 to take those opportunities.
I’m almost 24, I’ve lived on both side of the country have moved back and forth 3 times so far, twice independently. I’ve had relationships, rented houses, rented apartments, lived with family. I’ve gone from a dishwasher making $11 an hour to commission sales making upwards of $500 in a day. I went from a terrible cocaine addiction and self destructive behavior to a healthy lifestyle. I’m having a hard time finding meaning or purpose, is this the same as a midlife crisis? I relate to the 13 signs I’m just lost.
Yep i’m all of those except the last one. I have no desire or motivation to get in shape or something, i have the one trait of a midlife crisis that would be useful lol pain
I have Aspergers and I put how I’m feeling down to this thinking that my Aspergers is getting worse as I age, it was a work colleague that jokingly said to me that she thought that I was having some kind of midlife crisis as I recently got some new tattoos at the age of 49, something I have not done in years,and my mood has been a little off over the past few years, I have had feelings of anxiety and depression and generally lost my zest for life and am finding hard to find the joy in anything, even going on holiday I find it hard to get excited about. How long does this go on for, could someone please tell me, as I do not want this to be the way I feel for the rest of my life and just want to get my spark back.
I'm a few months to touch 60. Of the 13 sings I got 9 of 'em at lest. I think I hit the ground hard and I feel all comfuse. I lived alone in a rent room by myself and I'm not easy to break, give up or surrender but I don't know what to do or what I want anymore. An adivice it'll be a great help. Thnx.
38, wife and 2 beautiful kids, stable job stable income promising career perspective, no mortgage no loans no pressure whatsoever… yet I tick ALL the boxes!!! 😢
Yup same here, except I’m in my early 50s
Early 40s. Same thing. Just quit my job. Love a new perspective.
Is 34 too young for mid life crisis?) I tick a fee boxes…
31. Same ! Except point 13, no discipline to have a daily routine
38, no wife no kids never had a GF. Just started a promising career. yet I feel lost....
40, I feel life is going by too quick, everyone growing up quickly and my parents retiring. No money, getting more impatient, trying to pursue something not knowing if I can succeed. Tired, exhausted, no motivation, just wishing to be more alone. Yeah I’m definitely in my midlife crisis mode.
You’re describing my life right now. Except on top of that I live with a friend who I feel responsible to keep alive. It’s hard trying to be strong all the time
Are you me?
That's me right now
I hear you bro! Stay strong.
I am exactly there with you. 39 years old, tired of trying to climb the ladder, no desire to go out, date or make friends anymore. I have possibly half my life left but no desire to do anything with it anymore. I’ve been beaten down by life.
Holy Lord im only 43 and all thats mentioned are exactly what I'm feeling
same here
I think every 20 years or so, there is an assessment of "where we are in life" 20,40,60 years old. The best outcome of a midlife crisis, in my opinion, is getting back into shape for health reasons. By 40, we vividly seen the correlation between health and vice. Alcohol, sex, morbid obesity (me), tobacco, gambling, ect. There's a correlation between vice and health. Like it or not, it is what it is. We have the power to overcome.
Mine came late. I'm 59 and finally getting out of mine. The other side is great. Hang in there guys you'll get through it and be better for it.
54. What did you do to get over the hump. Im dying here.....
@@stevesmith3556A realignment of priorities and to learn to accept my new reality.
Am almost 52 I have today last year (2023) was the toughest year in my life, sever anxiety and acute depression. This year is better but I feel am not 100% recovered. Just want to know did you resort to medication and what kind ? Am not really keen on any meds.
@@stevesmith3556you'll make it through. You may consider what I told the other guy in this thread. It didn't save so I sent it to him again. See below this comment.
@@athernuvanne7347No I fumbled my way through it. Medication in my opinion slows down the end result. However if you're feeling like you are in a dangerous place by all means seek out counseling. Either way you go do not shut out your family and friends. This includes pets that are able to return affection.
listening to him … listing 1-13 all things I am feeling at once 😂😂
I am a 28 M and I remember the time when I used to be a star athlete of my school and always giving my best at studies and later, at my job as a reputed engineer. Recently I have fell into this void of feeling completely empty on the inside. Nothing excites me. I don’t have any new hobbies… I sleep all day which impacts my work clearly!! I don’t like getting intimate with my partner as I have replaced it with self-pleasure and I have thrown myself into drug abuse problem. I have gained weight and lost control over my life altogether. I know I can achieve greatness but I am too lazy or unmotivated to go get the things done! I see all the signs in myself and I wanna change and… I will change!
@CuteGamerRichie we will brother
There is lots of advice on here that can help you, as well as places to get help in the real world too. Good luck, many people have been through the difficulties you mention, and got through the other side!✌✨
39, I just want off the ride already. This life is not what I thought it was at all. I’m so dismayed at the downward trajectory of my country. This current America is unrecognizable from the one I grew up in. The people have been propagandized into oblivion. I just don’t see much hope for the future anymore, I don’t even have dreams or goals now.
Turn off the news brother, all of it, even the stuff on TH-cam. This country is still a beautiful place. Talk to your neighbors and your extended family. Join a class or a group. I went to see a Jordan Peterson lecture at a local venue this month and I was astonished at how many people in my area were there. I couldn’t believe how many conversations I overheard that sounded just like conversations I’ve had. Most people are still very much the same as 30 years ago. The media wants us to believe the nation and the world are in turmoil. You don’t have to listen to that negativity.
chin up, I was divorced at 39 and went through absolute hell to get access to my kids, and lost all my money through family court and felt old and past my 'use by' date. I had all 13 of the mentioned attributes for mid life crisis. I am 54 now, remarried and 2 more kids and feel younger than when I was 39 except a few more body aches & pains. I feel similar about the city I live in (Melbourne, Australia) as you do about the States. Avoid TV, social media as much as possible. I do wonder why you have 2 old farts running for president though, that's crazy!
Anyone who truly loves America feels what you're feeling. The rest just want their 15 minutes of fame or to watch the world burn or to get theirs. Very sad.
I’m past mid life been going through all 13 since my 50’s and still going through them at 67!!! Life is hard and gets harder these days .
I had a meltdown at 34. Came back again at 53. Matthew's recommendation about not comparing yourself to others and focusing on today (both from st. Matthew's gospel) have helped me tremendously.
I'm reasonably certain that I'm in the beginning stages of one of these events. I have a beautiful family, my wife is drop dead gorgeous, I've got a great career, and things don't seem to be objectively bad. This is how I can tell that what's happening doesn't make any sense. Everything is objectively fantastic yet I still check all the boxes in this video.
Edge between 39 and 40 made me know, that midlife crisis is like nightmare in real. Don't underestimate it, get professional help and prepare for hard work to escape this pitfall
40 years old in the matrix is fucked.
I’m 41 but I’ve always been a too and depressed
I have anxiety, depression, ADHD, paranoia and an addictive personality. Everything you listed, except maybe 2 or 3 i've had since i was 3 years old. 🤣
Me too and I’m 29 wtf is wrong with me
Maybe you have NPD or BPD or both. Just something to look into. Try not to talk yourself out of looking though…
@ unfortunately youre not the first person to mention BPD to me. I’ve been afraid to look into it, it does run in my family tho. Thanks for your input. I’ve not heard of the other thing you put, I need to see a psychiatrist I guess. Thanks
@@eastonclarkgood thing you consider it because most won’t. They will rationalize to themselves otherwise. But %80 of BPD can be treated. You’ll be fine.
Regretting some of my decisions through life.
Wanting truth from a parent who never admits to anything.
I like your style , straight to the point without all the rambling
35 and experiencing all of the above... I'm not suicidal, but I hate it here.
Same age and I am experiencing the same thing. I am happily married, 4 kids, tons of material things, and pretty much many things a man could ask for. I guess it is just a mid life crisis or whatever we call it now. Reality has really been hitting me hard lately.
Still there? I just joined the club
same age, but honestly, we''ll be fine gents
@@user-xedwsgcan you expand on this?
Plus 1
42, no kids, never wanted to get married, and I don't regret when I see all my friends having very bad marriages and some already divorced. I still look young, but biologically I know that I'm more past than future, and that's sad. Well, I haven't drunk anymore since last year, and that's a huge achievement for me.
Congratulations for not doing any alcohol
How much can you deadlift
Sounds like I’m the female version of you but about to turn 49! Always get told I look like I’m in my 30’s but I’m feeling the hormonal shift and mentally feel down atm. Lost my mojo 😢 need to get back in the gym had surgery last year and heaps of changes which was stressful.
Thanks for sharing 😊
I feel ya
Congrats!!!
I'm 37 now, and I've had all of these thoughts for a few years. Now, after the end of my 14-year relationship, the feeling is stronger than ever.
20 going thru a midlife crises
I’m sorry!
Feeling a lot of these at 33.. started my adult life quite early, and so I guess this is my mid life “opportunity”
I'm just glad he left the sports car thing off the list.
Quick and precise. Thank you for your video Matt.
Wow, this sounds just like going through menopause! I'm 56 and going through hell. 😢
I turned 40 last year and had my whole life start going south before then. Things continue to get worse and my depression is worse than before
Hang in there. Get outside, get some fresh air. Exercise. Do healthy things. Don't smoke, try not to drink to excess. It will get better.
I’m 39 and I am in the same boat. When you’re young, life is always giving you things without you even asking or having to try. Now it seems to always be taking something away.
I’m 41 and no partner or kids. No drama so I guess that helps in my situation.
Im fucking 28. And i am here.
I think mid life crisis arrives when we fulfill the society's expectations but failed to fulfill our own. The worst feeling is when everyone else is telling you that you are doing great but you know you aren't....
Very well said. Also 28 and this is my exact sentiment.
Very true i am 43 and I experience all this … my goal is to give a better orbit shift lifestyle to my family .. i am making every damn effort for it .. however… i am not able to sleep … very difficult to explain .. lack of words … appreciate your video on this topic
48, it's hitting me. 10/13 of those. A few months ago I quit weed, put my Playstation away, been working out like crazy. I'm in the best shape I've been in 20 years. The life choices made just hover me. I definitely feel trapped.
Ticked all the boxes. 38, no kids, no marriage, office job that brings me a steady income but no meaning in doing what I do.
😢 Me too.
Take some PTO if you have some and travel! I plan to
The thought of marrying and having kids makes me sick. Who needs all those bills, responsibility and divorce? I am quite content with life.
Thanks so much for this!
Yes - relative to all the factors listed it unsurprisingly appears that I'm enjoying a mid-life crisis. I also probably have ADHD so really appreciate this video's summary of these points in such a concise way rather than being dragged out over 15 painful minutes of random stock images and video..
I'm definitely trying to use this as an opportunity though; such strong negative emotions can be a powerful motivator and I'm seeing modest if tangible gains from free-and-body-weight exercises.. which is really rewarding and empowering. I also find regular, sometimes hard aerobic exercise (cycling) to be enormously beneficial.
Exercise a great way to react to this situation as it legitimately addresses the physical decline that can be the root of insecurity, prepping yourself for a healthier, happier later life and proving to yourself that you are capable of effecting significant, positive change. Also, as we all know, the joy of objective physical gains notwithstanding, exercise is also intrinsically great for both mental and physical health.
I also hope to bring some worth to my life / hijack my misery for the good of others with some charity work / volunteering.
Life continues to feel like a miserable, pointless slog a lot of the time... however we're the only ones who can change this so the best you can do is try... even if this seems impossible or futile at times. Good luck folks :)
I’m 15 going to 16 and watching you complaining and lost, just have faith in god and in yourself and in the choices you have made
WTF? Isn't it past your bedtime, kid?
This is so cute 🥰. 15 is such an innocent and imaginative age and existence. Although you are in no way qualified to speak to/for absolutely anyone that has decades of levels of experience/trauma that can ONLY be provided by the accumulation of years of LIVING THROUGH LIFE, you’re a brave one. Super cute ❤.
I just turned 40 last month. I've never been married or had kids, but I do have a successful career that I'm starting to get crazy thoughts about moving away from to start a new path in life for very few good reasons. I checked all 13 points on your list... urgh...
Wow, I scored 14 out of 13. At 48 I see myself becoming what I was hating about older people when I was young. Damn.
It there is still time
Phew, that's a relief. I was questioning it until I watched this video. At 42 I don't have any of those feelings... ...yet.
I’m 40 and going through the motions. All these symptoms sound right. I wish I could just transition into that next phase
Opportunity, definitely
I’m 29 and feel like this is happening. I’m a recovering heroin addict I have a couple years clean from it but I just can’t figure out why I’d feel like this, and I know people are gonna tell me 29 is too young, maybe it is. wtf is it then cuz 2024 I got a great job where I make great money, got a nice place with a woman with a ring on her finger - and it’s been one of the hardest/darkest years mentally for me. I’ve been thinking about things I never thought, heavy, heavy things, and it’s like idk who I am right now. I don’t know who I was, I thought I’d be somewhere else by now, further along. Whatever it is, it feels like a crisis
Hit all 13. Time to get the book!
38 and I'm starting
John Mayer sings “it might be a quarter life crisis” in why Georgia. Was ironic for me because my Ex Wife Georgia divorced me at 34 and this song came out and invoked all of the symptoms that you state. Glad I got it over early.
Every time I stumble upon one of your videos. I am very pleased with the content.
I've been in this crisis since I was 20!!!
Alllllll of this 😢😢 turning 40 later this year
I've been having a midlife crisis my whole life based on these points
Need follow up instructions on how to have a midlife opportunity instead of a crisis...
Angela, here is the full series: th-cam.com/play/PLgCGT7nNXGY7Tm7usi7iNe5SfmRqNS3Vu.html
Crisitunity
I turned mine into an opportunity. I just picked one thing that I could change, and then I did that. I kept doing that until I had changed my whole life.
I also asked for help, went to therapy and quit using all forms of drugs down to caffeine.
Godspeed
I'm going to keep that in mind@@nimblecrow
Being of the millennial generation, I cannot sympathize with and relate to my parents generation in a sense and what I experienced them go through when I was younger. I used to think that the days of being young would last forever, that hangouts/parties/etc. would never end but life hits hard and fast once you get past 25. The weekly grind sets in, all of a sudden your Facebook feed is full of wedding photos and baby pics instead of bar/club/concert/etc. photos and party invites, half your friends move away, no one has time to hang out anymore, it's really hard to make new friends or even see the ones you still have on a regular basis, all the new music might sound "crappy" to you for whatever reason and you think that you can still party like you used to and then get proven otherwise. And then you realize that this is the part that goes on forever....
Ok! I’m definitely having a mid life crises.
why am i feeling almost all of these at 13
30 in a week and feel so bad about myself. Fell behind in life. 😢
I’m sorry!
I'm a woman and I'm going through this at 43 and I'm not in menopause 😢
Guys, don't panic. Its normal, things will gradually start getting better👍🏻
I am 19 and I have this
Dammmm!! I'm 35 and I'm spiraling around! I better make this an opportunity for sure
yeah, its exactly how i feel.
40 in Dec ‘24. Marine vet with a college degree I never got to use because of the ‘11 recession. Not married, no kids, divorced at the age of 30. Nothing to show for any of the last 40 years.
All the above. Help me.
this is so spot on
Male 50 here, I have nearly all of them what am mostly confused about is how do I know whether it’s a midlife crisis, severe generalised anxiety or depression or a combination ? On the same day I can go from a massive dread mostly about my health to nice, positive and sweet thoughts. Anyone care to help ? 😢
I would suggest that it doesn’t really matter what the cause is. The main point is that you are struggling and are in a state that requires some time and support to work through it. I would suggest a good therapist. Perhaps start writing a journal to explore your thoughts and feelings. At the same time find an activity that gives you a break from thinking and frees you from your mind from time to time. This could be any activity where you get lost in the moment. A balance of thinking and ‘being’ is important when going through what you are feeling at the moment. Best of luck.
Could be a combination. Seek a therapist to see what’s lurking beneath the epidermis.
Am 29 and been feeling like this for years about am very scared of life in a dead end job losing hope in my future, and scared of going back to university.. what if I still cant get a job...what if I lose again like I did in community college that was a horrible years of my life.
I have no carrer
No future in marriage
No future in buying a house
Just so lost
You brought a smile to me - thanks
Omg I have everything on the list 😢
I had this but it was more of a "quarter-life crisis" at the age of 21, and it lasted almost 2 years. I was smoking weed almost every day with a mate of mine, then all of a sudden, I lost who I was and began to overthink everything. My enjoyment of smoking weed and doing things that were "normal" for me became so abstract. I started to worry that I was doomed to 'smoke up' all day for the rest of my life. I started to look to others who asked "what was wrong with me" to which I had no answer. I had no drive or no idea what to do. So I began to drink much more and seclude myself from others.
Fast forward to now, I'm 25, now at university with hopes of completing a bachelor's degree and possibly studying even further. I don't hang out with my stoner mates anymore (even though it was no fault of theirs, it was my choice to smoke), I feel so much more in control of my life and both mentally and physically healthier. I still struggle with motivation and discipline at times, but I strive to be better every day.
For me this was a "quarter-life opportunity", I'm afraid if I didn't have it, I wouldn't be where I am today.
I'm not sure how old you are now. I can tell you I had a similar experience at 25. I called it a quarter life crisis. I'm 40 now and am having a midlife crisis. I long for that quarter life crisis haha.
currently going through this right now, will try to go to college and get my life in order as well.
@@ratfood3875 trust me. It's a lot worse when youre 40 or older. You still have the whole world open to you.
@ratfood3875 Take your time and remember that when you're at rock bottom, there's only one way you can go
This really helps... Feeling the same right now
41 and it all makes sense now 😮
at 36 right now, I fit in just right for this video.
You forget, that the childish behaviors of a man in a midlife crisis almost always hurt his loving partner, who doesn’t know how to help or what to do
Also, he doesn't know how to help or what to do either😔
My husband at 42 checks all the boxes and I'm scared about the decisions he'll make and regret later 😢
42, every one applies to my life. And it’s presenting itself as anxiety, worry about how I feel about my wife/job/lack of social interaction… I’m missing people from my past and reconnecting with old school friends. Oof…. I need 2025 to take those opportunities.
I’m almost 24, I’ve lived on both side of the country have moved back and forth 3 times so far, twice independently. I’ve had relationships, rented houses, rented apartments, lived with family. I’ve gone from a dishwasher making $11 an hour to commission sales making upwards of $500 in a day. I went from a terrible cocaine addiction and self destructive behavior to a healthy lifestyle. I’m having a hard time finding meaning or purpose, is this the same as a midlife crisis? I relate to the 13 signs I’m just lost.
I'm 30 and am experiencing all of these....
I feel you bro! Our crisis came sooner, it's more like a "first-third life crisis", the true middle crisis is yet to come possibly xD
Yes I’m going through a mid life crisis
All the signs 👀
Me too😮
💯.....×1,000.
I’m 33 and I feel all this.
I'm 42 and going through this now
By the sound if it I've already had a couple of midlife crises before I was 35 😅
Wow!!!! Spot on.
I'm 18 and I have a midlife crisis
I’m 26 I feel this
Thank you. 🌹
I’ve had all of these since I was 15. I’m 40 now. I guess my whole life is a crisis lol
Yep i’m all of those except the last one.
I have no desire or motivation to get in shape or something, i have the one trait of a midlife crisis that would be useful lol pain
Thirty two with two kids. I got every single one and more
35 here.... checking few boxes already
I have Aspergers and I put how I’m feeling down to this thinking that my Aspergers is getting worse as I age, it was a work colleague that jokingly said to me that she thought that I was having some kind of midlife crisis as I recently got some new tattoos at the age of 49, something I have not done in years,and my mood has been a little off over the past few years, I have had feelings of anxiety and depression and generally lost my zest for life and am finding hard to find the joy in anything, even going on holiday I find it hard to get excited about. How long does this go on for, could someone please tell me, as I do not want this to be the way I feel for the rest of my life and just want to get my spark back.
Damn, yup, i am going through it
I guess I've had one since my mid twenties.
Im 25 years old and i feel all of this damn
Yes, definitely have this lol 😂
37 i got all of the symptoms
I didn't hear anything about purchasing a new Corvette....😂😂
But seriously, 40 here and this was all true.
Why am i 16 and all are exactly how i feel
12/13. Just turned 50.
Im 38 and feeling like this since 28 except for the last one, i dont care about my body i wish i didnt have a body
im going through all of this
How do we deal with a wife going through this. It’s very scary to see
I'm only 20 and I feel like this is me right now ahhhhh
Strange this has been my life since I was 20yo
I'm a few months to touch 60. Of the 13 sings I got 9 of 'em at lest. I think I hit the ground hard and I feel all comfuse. I lived alone in a rent room by myself and I'm not easy to break, give up or surrender but I don't know what to do or what I want anymore. An adivice it'll be a great help. Thnx.
I am 19 and I think I have this midlife crisis
All boxes checked for me.
I’m 31 and I think I’m going through a mid life crisis
35 and yes to all of this …..
32 and have all the things you said
26 next month and having more than half of the stated