13 Signs You are Having a Midlife Crisis - Matthew Kelly
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- Yes, You're Having A Mid-Life Crisis
How to Have A Great Mid-Life Crisis - Part 2 - Matthew Kelly
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Video Transcript:
“Do things seem a little off? You may be having a mid-life experience. Is it a crisis? Maybe. Here are 13 Signs you might be having a mid-life crisis.
1. You feel trapped.
2. You don’t know what you want.
3. Your life doesn’t make sense anymore.
4. The things that used to satisfy you no longer satisfy you.
5. Your experiencing mild or severe depression, or unusual mood swings.
6. You have a growing sense that there must be more to life.
7. Shifting sleep patterns: You don’t feel like getting out of bed in the morning or have trouble falling asleep at night.
8. You start questioning the big decisions you have made.
9. You begin to question your priorities, values, and what you want from life.
10. You have trouble making even the smallest decisions.
11. Everything and everyone frustrates you, including yourself.
12. Increased compulsivity around food, drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, or anything you consider a relief from the constant and mounting anxiety.
13. You have a sudden urge to loose weight, get in shape, look better, and feel better.
Are you having a mid-life crisis or a mid-life opportunity? You get to decide.
In (Part Three) of this series we will explore 3 Mistakes People Make When They are Having a Mid-Life Crisis.”
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38, wife and 2 beautiful kids, stable job stable income promising career perspective, no mortgage no loans no pressure whatsoever… yet I tick ALL the boxes!!! 😢
Yup same here, except I’m in my early 50s
Early 40s. Same thing. Just quit my job. Love a new perspective.
Is 34 too young for mid life crisis?) I tick a fee boxes…
31. Same ! Except point 13, no discipline to have a daily routine
38, no wife no kids never had a GF. Just started a promising career. yet I feel lost....
40, I feel life is going by too quick, everyone growing up quickly and my parents retiring. No money, getting more impatient, trying to pursue something not knowing if I can succeed. Tired, exhausted, no motivation, just wishing to be more alone. Yeah I’m definitely in my midlife crisis mode.
You’re describing my life right now. Except on top of that I live with a friend who I feel responsible to keep alive. It’s hard trying to be strong all the time
Are you me?
That's me right now
listening to him … listing 1-13 all things I am feeling at once 😂😂
Feeling a lot of these at 33.. started my adult life quite early, and so I guess this is my mid life “opportunity”
35 and experiencing all of the above... I'm not suicidal, but I hate it here.
Same age and I am experiencing the same thing. I am happily married, 4 kids, tons of material things, and pretty much many things a man could ask for. I guess it is just a mid life crisis or whatever we call it now. Reality has really been hitting me hard lately.
Still there? I just joined the club
same age, but honestly, we''ll be fine gents
@@user-xedwsgcan you expand on this?
Plus 1
I have anxiety, depression, ADHD, paranoia and an addictive personality. Everything you listed, except maybe 2 or 3 i've had since i was 3 years old. 🤣
Holy Lord im only 43 and all thats mentioned are exactly what I'm feeling
same here
I think every 20 years or so, there is an assessment of "where we are in life" 20,40,60 years old. The best outcome of a midlife crisis, in my opinion, is getting back into shape for health reasons. By 40, we vividly seen the correlation between health and vice. Alcohol, sex, morbid obesity (me), tobacco, gambling, ect. There's a correlation between vice and health. Like it or not, it is what it is. We have the power to overcome.
42, no kids, never wanted to get married, and I don't regret when I see all my friends having very bad marriages and some already divorced. I still look young, but biologically I know that I'm more past than future, and that's sad. Well, I haven't drunk anymore since last year, and that's a huge achievement for me.
Congratulations for not doing any alcohol
How much can you deadlift
Sounds like I’m the female version of you but about to turn 49! Always get told I look like I’m in my 30’s but I’m feeling the hormonal shift and mentally feel down atm. Lost my mojo 😢 need to get back in the gym had surgery last year and heaps of changes which was stressful.
Thanks for sharing 😊
I feel ya
Congrats!!!
I turned 40 last year and had my whole life start going south before then. Things continue to get worse and my depression is worse than before
Hang in there. Get outside, get some fresh air. Exercise. Do healthy things. Don't smoke, try not to drink to excess. It will get better.
I’m 39 and I am in the same boat. When you’re young, life is always giving you things without you even asking or having to try. Now it seems to always be taking something away.
I’m 41 and no partner or kids. No drama so I guess that helps in my situation.
39, I just want off the ride already. This life is not what I thought it was at all. I’m so dismayed at the downward trajectory of my country. This current America is unrecognizable from the one I grew up in. The people have been propagandized into oblivion. I just don’t see much hope for the future anymore, I don’t even have dreams or goals now.
Turn off the news brother, all of it, even the stuff on TH-cam. This country is still a beautiful place. Talk to your neighbors and your extended family. Join a class or a group. I went to see a Jordan Peterson lecture at a local venue this month and I was astonished at how many people in my area were there. I couldn’t believe how many conversations I overheard that sounded just like conversations I’ve had. Most people are still very much the same as 30 years ago. The media wants us to believe the nation and the world are in turmoil. You don’t have to listen to that negativity.
chin up, I was divorced at 39 and went through absolute hell to get access to my kids, and lost all my money through family court and felt old and past my 'use by' date. I had all 13 of the mentioned attributes for mid life crisis. I am 54 now, remarried and 2 more kids and feel younger than when I was 39 except a few more body aches & pains. I feel similar about the city I live in (Melbourne, Australia) as you do about the States. Avoid TV, social media as much as possible. I do wonder why you have 2 old farts running for president though, that's crazy!
Edge between 39 and 40 made me know, that midlife crisis is like nightmare in real. Don't underestimate it, get professional help and prepare for hard work to escape this pitfall
40 years old in the matrix is fucked.
I’m 41 but I’ve always been a too and depressed
yeah, its exactly how i feel.
Quick and precise. Thank you for your video Matt.
Wow, this sounds just like going through menopause! I'm 56 and going through hell. 😢
Regretting some of my decisions through life.
Wanting truth from a parent who never admits to anything.
this is so spot on
Every time I stumble upon one of your videos. I am very pleased with the content.
I'm just glad he left the sports car thing off the list.
You brought a smile to me - thanks
Phew, that's a relief. I was questioning it until I watched this video. At 42 I don't have any of those feelings... ...yet.
Thanks so much for this!
Yes - relative to all the factors listed it unsurprisingly appears that I'm enjoying a mid-life crisis. I also probably have ADHD so really appreciate this video's summary of these points in such a concise way rather than being dragged out over 15 painful minutes of random stock images and video..
I'm definitely trying to use this as an opportunity though; such strong negative emotions can be a powerful motivator and I'm seeing modest if tangible gains from free-and-body-weight exercises.. which is really rewarding and empowering. I also find regular, sometimes hard aerobic exercise (cycling) to be enormously beneficial.
Exercise a great way to react to this situation as it legitimately addresses the physical decline that can be the root of insecurity, prepping yourself for a healthier, happier later life and proving to yourself that you are capable of effecting significant, positive change. Also, as we all know, the joy of objective physical gains notwithstanding, exercise is also intrinsically great for both mental and physical health.
I also hope to bring some worth to my life / hijack my misery for the good of others with some charity work / volunteering.
Life continues to feel like a miserable, pointless slog a lot of the time... however we're the only ones who can change this so the best you can do is try... even if this seems impossible or futile at times. Good luck folks :)
Thank you. 🌹
I’m past mid life been going through all 13 since my 50’s and still going through them at 67!!! Life is hard and gets harder these days .
I had a meltdown at 34. Came back again at 53. Matthew's recommendation about not comparing yourself to others and focusing on today (both from st. Matthew's gospel) have helped me tremendously.
Im fucking 28. And i am here.
I think mid life crisis arrives when we fulfill the society's expectations but failed to fulfill our own. The worst feeling is when everyone else is telling you that you are doing great but you know you aren't....
Hit all 13. Time to get the book!
Ok! I’m definitely having a mid life crises.
I’m 26 I feel this
38 and I'm starting
You forget, that the childish behaviors of a man in a midlife crisis almost always hurt his loving partner, who doesn’t know how to help or what to do
Also, he doesn't know how to help or what to do either😔
John Mayer sings “it might be a quarter life crisis” in why Georgia. Was ironic for me because my Ex Wife Georgia divorced me at 34 and this song came out and invoked all of the symptoms that you state. Glad I got it over early.
All the above. Help me.
Ticked all the boxes. 38, no kids, no marriage, office job that brings me a steady income but no meaning in doing what I do.
😢 Me too.
Take some PTO if you have some and travel! I plan to
Omg I have everything on the list 😢
why am i feeling almost all of these at 13
Alllllll of this 😢😢 turning 40 later this year
32 and have all the things you said
Yup... confirmed.
20 going thru a midlife crises
I’m sorry!
35 and yes to all of this …..
Yes, definitely have this lol 😂
All boxes checked for me.
I'm a woman and I'm going through this at 43 and I'm not in menopause 😢
All the signs 👀
Me too😮
26 next month and having more than half of the stated
I’m almost 24, I’ve lived on both side of the country have moved back and forth 3 times so far, twice independently. I’ve had relationships, rented houses, rented apartments, lived with family. I’ve gone from a dishwasher making $11 an hour to commission sales making upwards of $500 in a day. I went from a terrible cocaine addiction and self destructive behavior to a healthy lifestyle. I’m having a hard time finding meaning or purpose, is this the same as a midlife crisis? I relate to the 13 signs I’m just lost.
35. ticked all but 2.
I am 30 going through this all
50 in June..
13 out of 13
Need follow up instructions on how to have a midlife opportunity instead of a crisis...
Angela, here is the full series: th-cam.com/play/PLgCGT7nNXGY7Tm7usi7iNe5SfmRqNS3Vu.html
Crisitunity
I turned mine into an opportunity. I just picked one thing that I could change, and then I did that. I kept doing that until I had changed my whole life.
I also asked for help, went to therapy and quit using all forms of drugs down to caffeine.
Godspeed
I'm going to keep that in mind@@nimblecrow
Yep i’m all of those except the last one.
I have no desire or motivation to get in shape or something, i have the one trait of a midlife crisis that would be useful lol pain
30 in a week and feel so bad about myself. Fell behind in life. 😢
I’m sorry!
Thirty two with two kids. I got every single one and more
By the sound if it I've already had a couple of midlife crises before I was 35 😅
I'm 18 and I have a midlife crisis
Why am i 16 and all are exactly how i feel
Im 18 but i check most of the boxes
I'm 30 and am experiencing all of these....
I feel you bro! Our crisis came sooner, it's more like a "first-third life crisis", the true middle crisis is yet to come possibly xD
I didn't hear anything about purchasing a new Corvette....😂😂
But seriously, 40 here and this was all true.
11/13 and I am still 19.
checked all 13 boxes... damnit...
ALL. :(
Im about to turn 60, i just dont want this poxy life anymore
Every. Single. One.
How do we deal with a wife going through this. It’s very scary to see
Im 38 and feeling like this since 28 except for the last one, i dont care about my body i wish i didnt have a body
Wow... 12 out of 13 (I sleep like a baby)
39 going 40 😢
I have Aspergers and I put how I’m feeling down to this thinking that my Aspergers is getting worse as I age, it was a work colleague that jokingly said to me that she thought that I was having some kind of midlife crisis as I recently got some new tattoos at the age of 49, something I have not done in years,and my mood has been a little off over the past few years, I have had feelings of anxiety and depression and generally lost my zest for life and am finding hard to find the joy in anything, even going on holiday I find it hard to get excited about. How long does this go on for, could someone please tell me, as I do not want this to be the way I feel for the rest of my life and just want to get my spark back.
Yes, all of them....n then some more 😉
I had this but it was more of a "quarter-life crisis" at the age of 21, and it lasted almost 2 years. I was smoking weed almost every day with a mate of mine, then all of a sudden, I lost who I was and began to overthink everything. My enjoyment of smoking weed and doing things that were "normal" for me became so abstract. I started to worry that I was doomed to 'smoke up' all day for the rest of my life. I started to look to others who asked "what was wrong with me" to which I had no answer. I had no drive or no idea what to do. So I began to drink much more and seclude myself from others.
Fast forward to now, I'm 25, now at university with hopes of completing a bachelor's degree and possibly studying even further. I don't hang out with my stoner mates anymore (even though it was no fault of theirs, it was my choice to smoke), I feel so much more in control of my life and both mentally and physically healthier. I still struggle with motivation and discipline at times, but I strive to be better every day.
For me this was a "quarter-life opportunity", I'm afraid if I didn't have it, I wouldn't be where I am today.
I'm not sure how old you are now. I can tell you I had a similar experience at 25. I called it a quarter life crisis. I'm 40 now and am having a midlife crisis. I long for that quarter life crisis haha.
currently going through this right now, will try to go to college and get my life in order as well.
@@ratfood3875 trust me. It's a lot worse when youre 40 or older. You still have the whole world open to you.
@ratfood3875 Take your time and remember that when you're at rock bottom, there's only one way you can go
This really helps... Feeling the same right now
Yep 52 crisis 😊😂….shite! I’ve said tataaaa to lots of things
so what should I do?!😢
Midlife crises RULE! Take all that shit and get it together. Lol. It’s the next door…find the key and open it…walk through it…one day it’ll all be over. Let’s see how much we can grow!
Hello, is there a Russian version of this book?
9 outta 13 I'd say so
32
I have 12 of the 13 signs....
Thank you Matthew 🌹🌹🌹
“I think there’s something really beautiful about aging.”
~ Justin Bieber ~
You quote Justin Bieber?
@@Tmo2024 Yes ❤️ He has a beautiful soul and loves Jesus very much.
I experience all 13 . I am having a crisis…
Midlife?How do you know what you have left to live
Male 50 here, I have nearly all of them what am mostly confused about is how do I know whether it’s a midlife crisis, severe generalised anxiety or depression or a combination ? On the same day I can go from a massive dread mostly about my health to nice, positive and sweet thoughts. Anyone care to help ? 😢
I would suggest that it doesn’t really matter what the cause is. The main point is that you are struggling and are in a state that requires some time and support to work through it. I would suggest a good therapist. Perhaps start writing a journal to explore your thoughts and feelings. At the same time find an activity that gives you a break from thinking and frees you from your mind from time to time. This could be any activity where you get lost in the moment. A balance of thinking and ‘being’ is important when going through what you are feeling at the moment. Best of luck.
Could be a combination. Seek a therapist to see what’s lurking beneath the epidermis.
36 and maybe..😮
Solution?
i dont know
How to get out? I feel indeed trapped not knowing what to do where to go. I am 44 and single no kids. Where I live is always the same thing, it's cold and my job sucks. I got health issues and not able to live my dreams and make decisions. Pls help
I'm 34 and I feel like my life is going nowhere
omg..its all of tgem😅
6. 8. 9 .13 i guess im good
I feel like this has been me since I was 15 :/
Fortnite szn got me looking this up bro 😭
Im 28 and have this feeling about to be 29 pretty soon i hate this feeling
Don't. You're too young. Take this decade and live to the fullest.
All people commenting here are like 40... im 20 😭 just moved to another country to study there but that's what i always wanted so idk what it is..
That’s most of my life so far as an INFJ
I hear ya. I’m 40 now and have already had several of these
You're perfect yes, it's true
But without me you're only you
Your menstruating heart
It ain't bleedin' enough for two
It's a midlife crisis...
what happends if im 14 and already have one
Why do I feel a lot of this if I'm just 28?
Hubby filed for divorce and he ticked all the boxes. 😢
Let him go
You find a new purpose of life
Life is too short to chase someone who wants to leave anyway
You enjoy your life
You are the writer of your lofe story
Not someone else
The way I dealt with midlife crisis was to leave the U.S.
Dang... like other commentors here... apparently ive had mid life crisis on and off for at least 20 years about. Ick