He’s ADORABLE!!! Lol even him trying to do his bed and shuffling over to you when he realized he messed up was insanely cute. Thanks so much for sharing the stories, because when you see kids just being so precious and perfect all the time without any “my kid can be a train wreck sometimes, too,” you can start getting in your head… lol.
I loved, loved, loved this video!!! My oldest is 56 and my youngest is 45 (with four more in-between), and this brought back so many memories of when my children were small. You did something I should've done which probably would've made a difference, and that was to wake them up, make them get up before they fell asleep, etc. to complete a chore they were given before bedtime. That is an excellent idea! Xander will thank you one day, but that day in many days in the future. His wife will also thank you for making him into the man you are helping him to become. Bless both you and Nolan.
My mom had twelve children and we had a two week chart with everyone doing chores, we were not allowed to complain, but we could switch with either one of our brothers/sisters however if they did not complete the job then we still were responsible.needless to say I learned quickly who I could trust 😅 You are an incredible Mom , blessings to you and your beautiful family 🙏🙏🙏💕💕
Great job. It is so important to teach not just responsibility but accountability as well. I could tell Xander wasn't thrilled with the dishwasher I felt his pain. My least favorite thing to do next to dusting. It seems Xander is ready for school. I wasn't sure if you will send him or homeschool him. Keep up the good work parenting. You are doing exactly what scripture us to do. Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 Blessings.
Growing up -- we had chores and were paid with a place to sleep and food -- it was considered part of being a family unit. However, we were not taught how to handle money and that turned out to be difficult for some of our siblings. (when we wanted to go to the occasional movie -- mom would give us money or we would earn some doing chores for the neighbors)
Yes same. He does have to work outside of his chores but I was also raised the same. Then you don't learn much about money and how to manage it. This way he understands that toys have value and he treats them better if he works hard for them.
I think you n Nolan are doing awesome job. The hardest part of being a parent n knowing all that you want from your child n to give them is being consistent at what you do. The chore idea is a great one but we must always stay on top of it. Right? I can’t believe how much Xander has grown being 5 now. He’s a fine young boy to be proud of. I’m passed rising little ones but I definitely love what you are doing. ♥️♥️♥️😊👍👍👍👍
Best advise I would offer - say what you mean and mean what you say. It’s so simple but the most difficult to see through. Following through - consistency is the most challenging for anyone but especially for a parent of young children. It’s so great to see you working on this and encouraging others. Of course everyday is different and has its own challenges but that’s when the Lord is faithful to supply the strength, grace, forgiveness and most importantly PATIENCE when we call upon Him for this season. I do remember how EXHAUSTING this season was but I hate to be one of those moms and say - you will miss these days. Honestly those words are TRUE! We have 3 young adults and one thing I look back and wished I offered a little more grace, was a little more consistent, kept up with our chore charts and definitely LAUGHED more! But I am thankful to know on the flip side And now My kids offer the same - grace forgiveness, patience and love towards us as they share memories growing up and hold nothing against us. We aren’t perfect parents but by Gods grace may our parenting always reflect the Goodness The Lord shows us and may our children choose to be followers of Christ. That’s the most important gift we can offer. Thank you for sharing and I love watching and being a part of your sweet family ❤❤❤❤ You’re both doing a WONDERFUL Job keep at it! 😊
I'm in my seventies & I love watching you, Nolan, Xander & now Lexi. I raised 3 children & I was much like you. I would get frustrated with the fact that it's harder to have them take care of their own responsibilities. It's so much easier to just do it myself! But two things come to mind. #1, we want our children to be cooperative & behave when we are with other people or in public. If we can be consistent at home, then when you are out in public they know what you expect from them; & generally they want people to like them so they can be more cooperative in public than typically they are at home. Someone will tell you that your children are so well-behaved or so nice to have around. Say thank you even though you "know" how they can be. 🤦🏼♀️ #2, our job is to work ourselves out of a job. You have to teach them how to adapt to different situations, to prosper in life. (When I say prosper, I'm not talking about money, but about succeeding in life.) One day without you. I know mom's don't like to think about children growing up & leaving home to make their own way. But let me tell you, you don't want your child to be one of those adult children who fail to fledge. The verse you shared has been a staple for me, "For it is precept upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, there a little.” Isaiah 28:10 ESV Now days I look back on my life & thank God he usually taught me a little at a time, & repeat... 🤗
Our girls all had chores as they grew up. My oldest (47) still talks about having fold towels for 10 cents. And how she hate’s to fold laundry. We all have something we ready don’t like to do but still do them. I must say they all learned to save money and their work ethic’s are great.
Precious Xander, he struggled with that top sheet. I just wanted to give him a big cuddle. I just adore him. He is so much like my 3 year old grandson Jack. You are doing such a great job with the children. Totally agree with giving chores.
As a mom of a 6 year old (delayed) and a 3 year old this video made me cry. I have so little patience. We are in such a difficult season. Thank you for the encouragement
Way to Go Mom! He is doing a lot at just 5 years old, learning responsibilities and what it takes to make a dollar or 5!! He will be very independent. Consistency is the KEY! You (and Xander) are doing a great job! Well done.....
Xander really impresses me already with his competence! Making a bed at his age is a huge undertaking, but he did a great job and he learned mom might be right sometimes!😀 It definitely is work for you to help him make these habits, so I pray for your strength and patience. Timing is everything, so when it seems toughest, I'd recommend watching him for signs of his openness or energy etc. to implement each chore. Maybe, like us, making a bed is easier to do right after he wakes up. Maybe he needs breakfast first. You can help him figure those timing issues out. Also, it will take Nolan's support for you to succeed so I pray he gives it to you! We already know Xander is a great boy and you are doing a terrific job, but this was fun to watch! He certainly is a five star brother. Lexi is one lucky girl to have a brother like him!
I think you are doing an awesome job Mom. I had 2 girls. When one was into something in the kitchen, the other one was in the bathroom plundering in the cabinets. At the end of the day, I had to clean 2 hugh messes. Zander is quite intelligent and very curious about everything. You will get through this my dear. Be patient with yourself. Your schedule will work out also. Your still trying to find your groove.God bless you. 😃
Oh how I wish I could rewind time to when mine was this age with the knowledge I have now! I worked long hrs out of town then and my son loved to help and I would get so frustrated because i wanted to get done because I had to get up early in the morning and I was so tired that I would just do it myself. It made things harder in the long run now that he is almost 18. He still is a good helper, but if I could go back I would do it differently. Xander does an amazing job and you should be so proud of him. Your efforts will most definitely pay off!
You're doing A great job Mom teaching him at a young age to be responsible and when he is older he will have alot of respect for you and UR husband for teaching him now at A young age.🙏🙏🙏🙏
Good for you. See how excited Xander was to tell dad about his day and accomplishments. Even at 62 on disability pension I am still in service to others wishing I was able to do more like I use to. I totally believe children can have fun but also be responsible and have chores. I kinda like the tax idea too. It is always good to save a little nest egg. Without God to lean on we are on our own. With God to lean on brings us comfort and peace. I constantly remind myself of this. Lexi is growing so fast. God Bless you and your family.
I am impressed with the responsibility you are teaching Zander. You are right, it is easier to do it yourself now, but as he grows he will be a good worker like his parents, and a big help to both of you. Great job, and great advice for parents. It's all about preparing your child for the real world. He still has lots of good playtime. Wow to Zander balancing on his bike! Yes, the parent's response to a child who is bored, is some chores.
Good job momma!! I had charts for my kids too. My son asked one time why. My husband and I showed him his daddy's job description. That helped him understand his "job" more. But the most fun is the line in the job description that says, "all other duties as assigned". That one line helped him realize that there us always some type of job/chore to be done. It's kind of like the Help Mom on your chart. I love that you have consequences. Children need to learn that things don't always go their way and if they don't do their job, what can happen. I applaud you and Nolan!! All of my children are now grown and productive. Chores did not harm them in any way! Even though some days I thought I would die before they were done.
I think you are doing a great job teaching him responsibility! Then praising him for a job well done!! One thing I think would be a good addition is saying yes mam, no mam thank you , no thank you, etc. I know I hear so many people comment on how polite my grand children are and they were all started at a young age learning this!! Now at 11-24 in ages they all are still being complimented on how polite they are!! Xander did a wonderful job on his chores and it is such a wonderful thing that he is learning to tithe!! It fortunately has stayed with all of grandchildren and it is just a natural thing to do!! You are doing great mom!!!
You are truly awesome I love your channel I told my husband our children need to watch your channel and we have grandchildren about your sons age ....good job momma
Dear Janine You are doing a great job. Sometimes you let him learn by his mistakes and then you can discuss without put down. He is learning about himself...how important is mothering and parenting! When Xander is an adult he will remember your love and patience. He's been allowed to have so much freedom....which is great 👍 .now he is learning limits. You did the right thing with the towel. Well done mum! Battle of the wills eh?! Bless you and Nolan as you grow in Parenting.
I taught our son how to me with house chores. Even taught how to mow ! When he got older. He knows how to clean, cook, and do outside work. Even thou! He's 33yrs. old. I still have to get own to him. For leaving food out. I go and get him up, and tell him to clean up the kitchen.
I remember those chart days! Good job teaching him responsibility it’s so worth it in the long run. Don’t feel bad making it look seamless we don’t come here to see a whinny kid. Ha we all know how it goes.
Spectacular job at teaching your son! Life skills are a lost art in many homes. I’m a grandmother now and every chance I get I teach them something if I can. My daughters-in-law have thanked me many times. My dad was deployed a lot and my mom just needed us to help. I say a prayer of gratitude to her in heaven…she taught me well.
You are a God send. My kiddos don't have school today our house was a mess and I was just not feeling like doing anything today, until I watched your video. Of course I have more kiddos and some older ones then you but they all ran out after lunch and left the mess for me until I watched your video. I asked them to come in and help it didn't take to long and we had the house tidy. Not without some frustrated melt downs but patience is the key to them.
@@theMennoniteMom raising teenagers isn't always easy , but I still enjoy it. 5 year old melt downs can be a challenge too. I feel like the preteen stage has been the worst for us so far but I'm so glad we have God we can turn to , to make things easier. Wishing you God's Blessings, from this far away mennonite family . 🙂
Xander is such a lovely boy, you are bringing him up with good values. Enjoyed watching you as always Jeanine. I hope you and your lovely family have a great weekend xx
Praise God !!! You are doing a Great Job with Zander. He is so Precious & Cute. He is growing in leaps and bounds. I Love the Bible verses and teaching Zander the Principal of the Tithe.
When our four children were growing up we gave them weekly chores to do, and then paid them for those completed jobs. In their rooms they each had three Mason jars. They were labeled giving/ tithing, saving and spending. They all handle money well now as adults.
Some very good ideas. Wish I had done some of this parenting with mine when they were young. Thank you for your openness and honesty. Parenting is hard but such a blessing!
I am now a great grandmother several times over but Wow do I remember those days…some were difficult but I look back and miss them. They were some of the happiest times ever…I am also a widow as of a few months ago and live alone but my memories are with me and I love the remembering…I enjoy your videos especially this one …Thanks for sharing your life with us…💕
Dear Jeannine, so wonderful that you are doing the hard work now. One day he will reap the dividends. As challenging raising our son was at Xanders age, I marvel at the role temperament plays in all of this. Abba bless your consistency'! ❤️
Consistency, encouragement, follow through and love are the cornerstones. Yes, they know every button to push to avoid doing what they need to do! Accountability is the hardest life lesson. Responsibility for attitude and williness to try again are all important lessons. I agree with everything you are doing! Maybe it would help if he had a smaller bed with smaller bedding?
You are doing great, I can just imagine a portion of the patience and everything that God must do to teach and lead us in our learning of his ways, Thank you, Loved this video, God bless,
Xander is so cool when doing chores at 5 he does have great enthusiasm. God bless all his efforts. Well done on the chores &most importantly the Bible memory verses. . Awesome Xander 👏👏👍🙏 That reminded me of my boys at 5yrs saying Psalm 23.
Tithing momey, is So Very IMPORTANT. I know that it's helping them open the Window of MANY BEAUTIFUL BLESSINGS from OUR HEAVENLY FATHER ❣️ I have seen in my own life the power even when there was lack in our finances all our needs we meant❣️ I have also seen how people who finances are above and seeing lack and need 😕.
This is a great thing for Zander. I love that you are teaching him about consequences. Watching him put the stars on the chart made me think of when my nieces and nephews were little and completing their charts. 💕 TFS.
My personal opinion - because I KNOW that is why you have a vlog! I love giving children responsibilities around the house. We all live here - we need to take care of the place and ourselves. It is great modeling for responsible behavior. I also love that you are teaching him to give to others. Great modeling as well. However, my personal opinion is to not pay kids for helping around the house. My husband and I disagreed on this - and it actually caused some distress in our household after we blended our families. However, my opinion is that we all live here and we all take care of the place and ourselves. If our kids needed things - and they were contributing regularly - they got what they needed (ie - money for special outings with friends, clothes, a small thing here and there...etc)... If they wanted to save up or earn money for extra special toys, books, etc...we worked out a plan for special projects, etc. That's just my thoughts. Everyone is different and that is okay. We need to do what works in our own families. I just found that paying my kids only worked for a while, then phased out and it wasn't "worth the little bit of cash" to them - vs instilling a sense of working for the common good of the family.
That's so awesome! He will definitely thank you later in life for the chart. I think it definitely builds character and work ethic. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ have a wonderful weekend!
Good for you for teaching him to follow the rules. It’s hard, but he will become such a better person. He made me laugh, trying to fix that bed. Some Days I feel like throwing it all in a ball too.
I love how sincere you are in your video's, and as a person in general!😊 You are doing such a wonderful job with everything, from teaching structure to your children, as well as making scripture a priority in their lives. Xander is so precious! God bless all of you!👍❤😁
Another amazing video for young parents! You are teaching Xander little life lessons as he goes about his day. All that you shared makes so much sense and has practical results. Thank you, Jeanine!
The age 5 for our second child has probably been the most difficult to parent. Pushing 6 year molars adds to the already heightened emotions. Much love and understanding to you! Praying that God continues to lead you each step of the way as you navigate it all.
@@theMennoniteMom We are currently in it. Less than a week away from being 6, but still very much in the thick of it. Chore charts were helpful, but I just have to remember to stay on top of it myself.
Hi there Janine... I don't think kids should be paid to do chores. They live in the same house with the family so they should do chores. If kids need money they can do other things that you find for him to do. I always made sure they had spending money and it was up to them to save or spend and if they spend it all then they had to find other things to earn money. I know its hard when living on a farm. But you'll know what to have him do. Xander is a sweet boy. I was told not to pray for patience cause you get tribulation but to pray for understanding.I love watching you playing dominoes with Xander my mom always played with me cause I was an only child. You're A good mom God Bless LuvYa! Bye from Ohio
Yes I agree on chores without pay. He still has to work when we two him to. We just developed the chart as a means to pay him without just handing him money so he stays learning how long it takes to save up and get a better understanding of the value of money. But I agree. Children shouldn't be paid to work. They need to help out no matter.
Love the motivation. I strongly believe that whatever system works best for your family - consistency is key. My husband and I found that out the hard way. ❤️
Thank you so much for parenting your child. So many parents now a days are afraid to tell there kids anything. I wish they would stop the junk of needing to be there kids friends. It's ok to have fun with your kids. We however need to teach them what the real world is like. Not enough of this going on these days. In our house we have payed chores then chores you do just because you live in the house as well. Hang in there mamma I have 2 kids that when chore time comes there legs are broken. Other times they say I can be a big helper and do xyz for you. Mine are 13 5 and 3 hormones are out of this world in all 3 of my boys right now. Angry one minute crying the next. They can also be little drama princes when they get told no. You got this just keep praying for peace and patients.
I agree. We can't try to be our childrens besties.. they will walk all over that. I had to laugh at the broken legs. Totally relate! And the drama! Yup same here
He’s ADORABLE!!! Lol even him trying to do his bed and shuffling over to you when he realized he messed up was insanely cute. Thanks so much for sharing the stories, because when you see kids just being so precious and perfect all the time without any “my kid can be a train wreck sometimes, too,” you can start getting in your head… lol.
I loved, loved, loved this video!!! My oldest is 56 and my youngest is 45 (with four more in-between), and this brought back so many memories of when my children were small. You did something I should've done which probably would've made a difference, and that was to wake them up, make them get up before they fell asleep, etc. to complete a chore they were given before bedtime. That is an excellent idea! Xander will thank you one day, but that day in many days in the future. His wife will also thank you for making him into the man you are helping him to become. Bless both you and Nolan.
My mom had twelve children and we had a two week chart with everyone doing chores, we were not allowed to complain, but we could switch with either one of our brothers/sisters however if they did not complete the job then we still were responsible.needless to say I learned quickly who I could trust 😅
You are an incredible Mom , blessings to you and your beautiful family 🙏🙏🙏💕💕
😅 thanks for the laugh. I can so picture that!
@@theMennoniteMomgrey trash bags huh the trash bag came out slow do you know why?
Great job. It is so important to teach not just responsibility but accountability as well. I could tell Xander wasn't thrilled with the dishwasher I felt his pain. My least favorite thing to do next to dusting. It seems Xander is ready for school. I wasn't sure if you will send him or homeschool him. Keep up the good work parenting. You are doing exactly what scripture us to do. Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 Blessings.
Growing up -- we had chores and were paid with a place to sleep and food -- it was considered part of being a family unit. However, we were not taught how to handle money and that turned out to be difficult for some of our siblings. (when we wanted to go to the occasional movie -- mom would give us money or we would earn some doing chores for the neighbors)
Yes same. He does have to work outside of his chores but I was also raised the same. Then you don't learn much about money and how to manage it. This way he understands that toys have value and he treats them better if he works hard for them.
@@theMennoniteMom That's a great insight!
I think you n Nolan are doing awesome job.
The hardest part of being a parent n knowing all that you want from your child n to give them is being consistent at what you do. The chore idea is a great one but we must always stay on top of it. Right?
I can’t believe how much Xander has grown being 5 now. He’s a fine young boy to be proud of.
I’m passed rising little ones but I definitely love what you are doing.
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Yes consistency is difficult! I agree the chore chart is sometimes more work for us to proud then thru it 😃🥲
You are so right! Ages 1-6 are considered the most important time of their lives. They grasp the most thru these years.
Best advise I would offer - say what you mean and mean what you say. It’s so simple but the most difficult to see through.
Following through - consistency is the most challenging for anyone but especially for a parent of young children. It’s so great to see you working on this and encouraging others. Of course everyday is different and has its own challenges but that’s when the Lord is faithful to supply the strength, grace, forgiveness and most importantly PATIENCE when we call upon Him for this season.
I do remember how EXHAUSTING this season was but I hate to be one of those moms and say - you will miss these days. Honestly those words are TRUE! We have 3 young adults and one thing I look back and wished
I offered a little more grace, was a little more consistent, kept up with our chore charts and definitely LAUGHED more! But I am thankful to know on the flip side
And now My kids offer the same - grace forgiveness, patience and love towards us as they share memories growing up and hold nothing against us.
We aren’t perfect parents but by Gods grace may our parenting always reflect the Goodness The Lord shows us and may our children choose to be followers of Christ. That’s the most important gift we can offer.
Thank you for sharing and I love watching and being a part of your sweet family ❤❤❤❤
You’re both doing a WONDERFUL Job keep at it! 😊
Thank you and thanks for sharing! I enjoyed hearing your thoughts and wisdom!
My dear, you are doing well, by Holy Spirits power and wisdom in you. What a way to live! Wisdom is living out knowledge! Col. 1
I'm in my seventies & I love watching you, Nolan, Xander & now Lexi. I raised 3 children & I was much like you. I would get frustrated with the fact that it's harder to have them take care of their own responsibilities. It's so much easier to just do it myself! But two things come to mind.
#1, we want our children to be cooperative & behave when we are with other people or in public. If we can be consistent at home, then when you are out in public they know what you expect from them; & generally they want people to like them so they can be more cooperative in public than typically they are at home. Someone will tell you that your children are so well-behaved or so nice to have around. Say thank you even though you "know" how they can be. 🤦🏼♀️
#2, our job is to work ourselves out of a job. You have to teach them how to adapt to different situations, to prosper in life. (When I say prosper, I'm not talking about money, but about succeeding in life.) One day without you. I know mom's don't like to think about children growing up & leaving home to make their own way. But let me tell you, you don't want your child to be one of those adult children who fail to fledge.
The verse you shared has been a staple for me, "For it is precept upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, there a little.”
Isaiah 28:10 ESV
Now days I look back on my life & thank God he usually taught me a little at a time, & repeat... 🤗
Really good bed making for a 5 year old!! So adorable!!!
I have three wonderful adult children. I raised them exactly like you are. They are wonderful successful children today with fabulous work ethics.
Glad to hear that! Thanks for sharing because we want Xander to learn to work as well as understand the value of money and how to manage it.
Our girls all had chores as they grew up. My oldest (47) still talks about having fold towels for 10 cents. And how she hate’s to fold laundry. We all have something we ready don’t like to do but still do them. I must say they all learned to save money and their work ethic’s are great.
I love the way you reason out your thoughts with him. It isn’t an automatic “because I said so”. God bless you and your family ❤️.
Thank you
Precious Xander, he struggled with that top sheet. I just wanted to give him a big cuddle. I just adore him. He is so much like my 3 year old grandson Jack. You are doing such a great job with the children. Totally agree with giving chores.
This is so good & necessary for kids. He is such a sweet smart & polite boy. I love him to pieces. Great job Mom. $1 a day is very reasonable.
Thank you 😊 it's enough I think that he can save but it takes awhile to save up for larger items. Hopefully he learns money doesn't grow on trees 😀
As a mom of a 6 year old (delayed) and a 3 year old this video made me cry. I have so little patience. We are in such a difficult season. Thank you for the encouragement
What a sweet boy! He is just adorable!!
I'm happy to see he has chores ... I hear and see so many get into trouble because they are bored and or idle ... u r a good mom
Great job, Momma! Real life consequences for their decisions to take short cuts teaches young minds better than 1000 lectures. ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
I like it how you keep it real yet respectful
Thank you
Love you are teaching your son Bible verses. He is so cute!!!!!! Good job Mom!!! Gods blessings 🙏.
Way to Go Mom! He is doing a lot at just 5 years old, learning responsibilities and what it takes to make a dollar or 5!! He will be very independent. Consistency is the KEY! You (and Xander) are doing a great job! Well done.....
Xander really impresses me already with his competence! Making a bed at his age is a huge undertaking, but he did a great job and he learned mom might be right sometimes!😀 It definitely is work for you to help him make these habits, so I pray for your strength and patience. Timing is everything, so when it seems toughest, I'd recommend watching him for signs of his openness or energy etc. to implement each chore. Maybe, like us, making a bed is easier to do right after he wakes up. Maybe he needs breakfast first. You can help him figure those timing issues out. Also, it will take Nolan's support for you to succeed so I pray he gives it to you! We already know Xander is a great boy and you are doing a terrific job, but this was fun to watch! He certainly is a five star brother. Lexi is one lucky girl to have a brother like him!
I think you are doing an awesome job Mom. I had 2 girls. When one was into something in the kitchen, the other one was in the bathroom plundering in the cabinets. At the end of the day, I had to clean 2 hugh messes. Zander is quite intelligent and very curious about everything. You will get through this my dear. Be patient with yourself. Your schedule will work out also. Your still trying to find your groove.God bless you. 😃
Oh boy! 😅 what we mothers don't go through 🤣 thanks for the encouragement!
Oh how I wish I could rewind time to when mine was this age with the knowledge I have now! I worked long hrs out of town then and my son loved to help and I would get so frustrated because i wanted to get done because I had to get up early in the morning and I was so tired that I would just do it myself. It made things harder in the long run now that he is almost 18. He still is a good helper, but if I could go back I would do it differently. Xander does an amazing job and you should be so proud of him. Your efforts will most definitely pay off!
Don't live in regret! We all have things we wish we could change. I'm sure you had strong areas in other things that other moms didn't.
You're doing A great job Mom teaching him at a young age to be responsible and when he is older he will have alot of respect for you and UR husband for teaching him now at A young age.🙏🙏🙏🙏
Your past few videos have been so encouraging to my weary mama heart! Thank you ❤️
Thanks for that! PTL!
Good for you. See how excited Xander was to tell dad about his day and accomplishments. Even at 62 on disability pension I am still in service to others wishing I was able to do more like I use to. I totally believe children can have fun but also be responsible and have chores. I kinda like the tax idea too. It is always good to save a little nest egg. Without God to lean on we are on our own. With God to lean on brings us comfort and peace. I constantly remind myself of this. Lexi is growing so fast. God Bless you and your family.
I am impressed with the responsibility you are teaching Zander. You are right, it is easier to do it yourself now, but as he grows he will be a good worker like his parents, and a big help to both of you. Great job, and great advice for parents. It's all about preparing your child for the real world. He still has lots of good playtime. Wow to Zander balancing on his bike! Yes, the parent's response to a child who is bored, is some chores.
Thanks for the encouragement!
Amazing mama one gorgeous family heaven sent ❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you
Good job momma!! I had charts for my kids too. My son asked one time why. My husband and I showed him his daddy's job description. That helped him understand his "job" more. But the most fun is the line in the job description that says, "all other duties as assigned". That one line helped him realize that there us always some type of job/chore to be done. It's kind of like the Help Mom on your chart.
I love that you have consequences. Children need to learn that things don't always go their way and if they don't do their job, what can happen.
I applaud you and Nolan!! All of my children are now grown and productive. Chores did not harm them in any way! Even though some days I thought I would die before they were done.
I think you are doing a great job teaching him responsibility! Then praising him for a job well done!! One thing I think would be a good addition is saying yes mam, no mam thank you , no thank you, etc. I know I hear so many people comment on how polite my grand children are and they were all started at a young age learning this!! Now at 11-24 in ages they all are still being complimented on how polite they are!! Xander did a wonderful job on his chores and it is such a wonderful thing that he is learning to tithe!! It fortunately has stayed with all of grandchildren and it is just a natural thing to do!! You are doing great mom!!!
Great job Mom, Xander is doing well.
You are an awesome Mom. I love the way you are handling the chores
Thank you!
Xander looks like me when I make the bed. I understand the discouragement! I love your chore chart. I need to make one now (for myself) :D
You are truly awesome I love your channel I told my husband our children need to watch your channel and we have grandchildren about your sons age ....good job momma
Thanks glad you enjoy!
Xander is such a precious boy. He'll get the chore chart down quickly.
I’m impressed how Xander made his bed, good job
Thank you for uplifting me today with your video! 💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏
Good job, mom!!! I'm amazed at what he is able to accomplish at his age! Xander, you are good at your chores, buddy!
Dear Janine
You are doing a great job.
Sometimes you let him learn by his mistakes and then you can discuss without put down. He is learning about himself...how important is mothering and parenting!
When Xander is an adult he will remember your love and patience.
He's been allowed to have so much freedom....which is great 👍 .now he is learning limits.
You did the right thing with the towel.
Well done mum! Battle of the wills eh?!
Bless you and Nolan as you grow in
Parenting.
Thanks for the encouragement! I hope so!
Oh, Zander is just so sweet and so precious!!! 💕
I taught our son how to me with house chores. Even taught how to mow ! When he got older. He knows how to clean, cook, and do outside work. Even thou! He's 33yrs. old. I still have to get own to him. For leaving food out. I go and get him up, and tell him to clean up the kitchen.
Such a neat day in the life! Good job Xander 👍 the only problem.... the video was too short 😬😉🥰❣️
This is a very very beautiful family and young man you are doing so great 👍
I remember those chart days! Good job teaching him responsibility it’s so worth it in the long run. Don’t feel bad making it look seamless we don’t come here to see a whinny kid. Ha we all know how it goes.
Spectacular job at teaching your son! Life skills are a lost art in many homes. I’m a grandmother now and every chance I get I teach them something if I can. My daughters-in-law have thanked me many times. My dad was deployed a lot and my mom just needed us to help. I say a prayer of gratitude to her in heaven…she taught me well.
How cool!
That's wonderful you still take those opportunities to help teach! Thanks for sharing
You are a God send. My kiddos don't have school today our house was a mess and I was just not feeling like doing anything today, until I watched your video. Of course I have more kiddos and some older ones then you but they all ran out after lunch and left the mess for me until I watched your video. I asked them to come in and help it didn't take to long and we had the house tidy. Not without some frustrated melt downs but patience is the key to them.
Good for you! 😀 glad I could help. Now I'll need your motivation next time I don't feel like following thru 😀
@@theMennoniteMom raising teenagers isn't always easy , but I still enjoy it. 5 year old melt downs can be a challenge too. I feel like the preteen stage has been the worst for us so far but I'm so glad we have God we can turn to , to make things easier. Wishing you God's Blessings, from this far away mennonite family . 🙂
That was a sweet video. Your boy is precious, savor every moment. P.S. cute dress.
Xander is such a lovely boy, you are bringing him up with good values. Enjoyed watching you as always Jeanine. I hope you and your lovely family have a great weekend xx
Thank you for being here!
Praise God !!! You are doing a Great Job with Zander. He is so Precious & Cute. He is growing in leaps and bounds. I Love the Bible verses and teaching Zander the Principal of the Tithe.
❤ it. God is faithful.
Xander is a very good little boy! You are blessed!
You are doing a good job and yes, they need to learn that choices have consequences. You will pick the fruit later on down the line.
Zander trying to make his bed, so funny!
Zander surely did a good job making his bed❤️I would have done the same with the water logged towel you did👌
😃 good to hear! And thanks!
When our four children were growing up we gave them weekly chores to do, and then paid them for those completed jobs. In their rooms they each had three Mason jars. They were labeled giving/ tithing, saving and spending. They all handle money well now as adults.
That's good to hear! Thanks for sharing!
Some very good ideas. Wish I had done some of this parenting with mine when they were young. Thank you for your openness and honesty. Parenting is hard but such a blessing!
Great job, Zander🎉
🖐 I loved this ❤ very inspiring. I need lots of friends like you in my life🥰
Cheers! Thanks for being here!
Most moms know how hard all this is. Ups and downs ups and downs lol. U r doing great with motherhood!
Thanks! 😀
Love watching ❤️
I am now a great grandmother several times over but Wow do I remember those days…some were difficult but I look back and miss them. They were some of the happiest times ever…I am also a widow as of a few months ago and live alone but my memories are with me and I love the remembering…I enjoy your videos especially this one …Thanks for sharing your life with us…💕
I'm so sorry for your loss.. I can only imagine the loneliness 😔 sending hugs!
You're awesome! Thank you for sharing your advice and wisdom.
You have good parenting skills.
Dear Jeannine, so wonderful that you are doing the hard work now. One day he will reap the dividends.
As challenging raising our son was at Xanders age, I marvel at the role temperament plays in all of this. Abba bless your consistency'! ❤️
It sure does! Children are so different
This was great Jeannine. You encourage me so much. Xander is so precious as you know. Be blessed.
Consistency, encouragement, follow through and love are the cornerstones. Yes, they know every button to push to avoid doing what they need to do! Accountability is the hardest life lesson. Responsibility for attitude and williness to try again are all important lessons. I agree with everything you are doing! Maybe it would help if he had a smaller bed with smaller bedding?
You are doing great, I can just imagine a portion of the patience and everything that God must do to teach and lead us in our learning of his ways, Thank you, Loved this video, God bless,
Putting that sheet on was hilarious! I loved how the sheet ended up in a ball instead of on the bed. You’re a good mom!
I know I really laughed when I saw that in review 😂
Xander is so cool when doing chores at 5 he does have great enthusiasm. God bless all his efforts. Well done on the chores &most importantly the Bible memory verses. . Awesome Xander 👏👏👍🙏
That reminded me of my boys at 5yrs saying Psalm 23.
Tithing momey, is So Very IMPORTANT. I know that it's helping them open the Window of MANY BEAUTIFUL BLESSINGS from OUR HEAVENLY FATHER ❣️
I have seen in my own life the power even when there was lack in our finances all our needs we meant❣️ I have also seen how people who finances are above and seeing lack and need 😕.
I love my charts that already motivates the children. Oh and I love timers. It takes away the long drawn out process of things.
☀️ oh this made my day!!! How fun Zander! Gosh he is cute as a button!!!!! What a good boy and such wonderful parents. Blessings to your family 🦕💙
Thanks for being here!
This is a great thing for Zander. I love that you are teaching him about consequences. Watching him put the stars on the chart made me think of when my nieces and nephews were little and completing their charts. 💕 TFS.
My personal opinion - because I KNOW that is why you have a vlog! I love giving children responsibilities around the house. We all live here - we need to take care of the place and ourselves. It is great modeling for responsible behavior.
I also love that you are teaching him to give to others. Great modeling as well.
However, my personal opinion is to not pay kids for helping around the house. My husband and I disagreed on this - and it actually caused some distress in our household after we blended our families. However, my opinion is that we all live here and we all take care of the place and ourselves. If our kids needed things - and they were contributing regularly - they got what they needed (ie - money for special outings with friends, clothes, a small thing here and there...etc)...
If they wanted to save up or earn money for extra special toys, books, etc...we worked out a plan for special projects, etc.
That's just my thoughts. Everyone is different and that is okay. We need to do what works in our own families. I just found that paying my kids only worked for a while, then phased out and it wasn't "worth the little bit of cash" to them - vs instilling a sense of working for the common good of the family.
That's so awesome! He will definitely thank you later in life for the chart. I think it definitely builds character and work ethic. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ have a wonderful weekend!
Thanks for being here!
Your a great Mom. All kids need chores. Zander is so cute, and does more chores than teenagers!
Good for you for teaching him to follow the rules. It’s hard, but he will become such a better person. He made me laugh, trying to fix that bed. Some
Days I feel like throwing it all in a ball too.
Excellent video, love it
I love how sincere you are in your video's, and as a person in general!😊 You are doing such a wonderful job with everything, from teaching structure to your children, as well as making scripture a priority in their lives. Xander is so precious! God bless all of you!👍❤😁
You are such a good mom!!love the idea of the chore charts!💗
Another amazing video for young parents! You are teaching Xander little life lessons as he goes about his day. All that you shared makes so much sense and has practical results. Thank you, Jeanine!
You're doing great Mom. Keep up the good work. Self Care is Sacred!
Love watching Xander, he is hilarious.
You're an awesome mom! Doing a great job!❤
The age 5 for our second child has probably been the most difficult to parent. Pushing 6 year molars adds to the already heightened emotions. Much love and understanding to you! Praying that God continues to lead you each step of the way as you navigate it all.
Thanks for the encouragement! I'm not sure if you are in the 5 year old stage now or referring back but sending love your way as well! It's tough!
@@theMennoniteMom We are currently in it. Less than a week away from being 6, but still very much in the thick of it. Chore charts were helpful, but I just have to remember to stay on top of it myself.
Beautiful plan for a child. Love the Scripture memory, so important
Hi there Janine... I don't think kids should be paid to do chores. They live in the same house with the family so they should do chores. If kids need money they can do other things that you find for him to do. I always made sure they had spending money and it was up to them to save or spend and if they spend it all then they had to find other things to earn money. I know its hard when living on a farm. But you'll know what to have him do. Xander is a sweet boy. I was told not to pray for patience cause you get tribulation but to pray for understanding.I love watching you playing dominoes with Xander my mom always played with me cause I was an only child. You're A good mom God Bless LuvYa! Bye from Ohio
Yes I agree on chores without pay. He still has to work when we two him to. We just developed the chart as a means to pay him without just handing him money so he stays learning how long it takes to save up and get a better understanding of the value of money. But I agree. Children shouldn't be paid to work. They need to help out no matter.
You are such a wonderful Mamma! Thank you for being so real with us!
Loved today’s video. Life can be full of challenges but we can learn many life lessons that can stay with us always.
Love the motivation. I strongly believe that whatever system works best for your family - consistency is key. My husband and I found that out the hard way. ❤️
New to your channel, and I find it so encouraging. Thank you 😊
Thank you and welcome!
That was great. Love your approach. I would have done the same with the wet towel. He’s such a cutie.
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Enjoyed the video.Your a wise mom we do these things cause we love our children so much and want them to grow up to be responsible adults.
You're doing a great job as a Mom👌🌹🌹🌹I don't think you need any "suggestions" 👍
Thank you so much for parenting your child. So many parents now a days are afraid to tell there kids anything. I wish they would stop the junk of needing to be there kids friends. It's ok to have fun with your kids. We however need to teach them what the real world is like. Not enough of this going on these days. In our house we have payed chores then chores you do just because you live in the house as well. Hang in there mamma I have 2 kids that when chore time comes there legs are broken. Other times they say I can be a big helper and do xyz for you. Mine are 13 5 and 3 hormones are out of this world in all 3 of my boys right now. Angry one minute crying the next. They can also be little drama princes when they get told no. You got this just keep praying for peace and patients.
I agree. We can't try to be our childrens besties.. they will walk all over that. I had to laugh at the broken legs. Totally relate! And the drama! Yup same here
We have to have patience and kids need to learn to listen to parents. 😄
You are such a great mom and an encouragement to me! Thank you. Blessings.