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Man I don't understand who are below her league . Bagger gutka eater deserve better. I am not disrespecting or insulting her it's just my personal openion .
Honestly, why even bother reacting to someone who is clearly projecting their past traumas and delusions online just to gain attention and views? It's such a waste of time. The person offering advice isn't even a certified psychologist, researcher, or at the very least, a relationship counselor. To be frank, I doubt this individual is even in a healthy relationship themselves. Ultimately, they seem to be nothing more than a poor excuse for someone to offer meaningful advice.
It's basically, "Meri shaadi nahi ho rahi, maine apne saare boyfriends ko mental trauma de dia hai. Now I'll brainwash all the girls on the internet so that no girl gets married and I'll do this in English so that white men sympathise with me and I find a white boyfriend".
@@Themetaphysician1999 Hadd darze ke simps hote hain wo log bhi. Bas flirting skills acchi hoti hai aur rang gora hota hai isliye Indian women don't villainize them.
Why we have to make romantic relationships so complicated by bringing tons of standards?? Why things can't just happen organically?? Nobody is perfect. Accepting each other's differences is the primary key to a successful relationship. I don't want to fulfill anybody's standards. Life is too short for that!
This can’t happen because people these days are complicated and people are not as nice good and innocent like previous times So complicated people leads to complicated relationships and problems etc.
Everyone had standards this or that way, it’s not as complicated as it may seem. Find the partner who understands you and respects you, someone who you can vibe with. That’s all.
@@vp-lv6yk the thing is these single mothers are going to be drug addicts and destroy kids future cause what she will run for is attention from any men.......go and check out what is happening already in west .
I can’t believe none of you really understood what she is trying to say but let me explain what it actually means when it comes to “lowering your standards”. Most girls really don’t know when they are being treated badly just cause they love the man. It’s so important to understand your worth and with someone who treats you right with respect. That’s all that it means. That advice is not terrible
@@harshsrivastava7991 how is that different from lowering your standards ? the default premise remains the same. why would any guy get offended by this statement ? if you did you know where you lie in the spectrum
@@harshsrivastava7991 so what's the problem. Why you want to be with someone so bad that they need to lower their standards for you. Don't take rejections personally. Why would anyone want to be with a person who doesn't want you
@@Xoxososowi the problem lies in the standards pal, if she has those standards personally it's very okay to have so , but what she actually doing is telling everyone to have same idiotic standards as her , not tough to comprehend innit?
bro this girl is the biggest red flag. There r people who follow these so called influencers bhai gen z is fked. and yeh toh relationship mein bhi nhi hogi yar isko kaise pata ki aur insaan ko kaisa banda pasand ata hai. looks is everything for her ig
Now i pause the video before Shwetabh's explaination and try to make my own points on these videos and now slowly some of my points have started to match with Swethabh's points,like when i listen his points i feel so yay that thats exactly what i thought that was exactly my point he is saying,yes he still give more perspectives which i didn't thought but still i have been seeing this progress in my Critical thinking skills this man has changed the way i think 🤯 ,Love you Bro ❤
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What she said, I m living that life n could do nothing just regret throughout life. I don’t like the person n he doesn’t treat me the way I expected from my partner at all. She is 100 percent right. It’s really not worth it.
True. She is perfectly saying right things. He is overanalyzing. Marrying below your standards no matter what they are creates two unhappy people. The one lowering standards will resent the other, while the other person would be anxious and on toes on what is wrong! I infact pray no one lowers their standards to marry or date me.
@@Xoxososowiyaha lowering standards kin parameters ke basis par hai ? Is it intelligence, thoughts on career, conflict resolution oriented as bhaiya said or is it only looks ?
@@rishavkumar1250 Chodo Bhai Itna analysis krke smjhaya tb smj ni aya 😂 yeh to ldkiyan hain chutiya type ... Pati bhi to chutiya hi milega kher... Bhenchod ab to ulti ati hai Indian kehlane se ... Dimag me dobara bhara h sbke
Emotion Regulation or self control. The opposite of this is impulsiveness, impatience, high reactivity, not being able to control their emotions and acting rashly or emotionally.
Guys in the first clip😭she is not only talking about looks when she says about lowering standards It basically means for example : You are a financially,mentally, etc stable person and are old enough to get married and all your friends are getting married so you think the reason you aren't getting married is because you want a mentally wise person or a financially stable person to be your life partner or any etc quality you desire in your ideal one (ALWAYS KNOW ITS NOT WRONG TO HAVE PREFERENCES WHILE CHOOSING SOMEONE AFTER ALL ITS A MATTER OF TWO LIVES , WHATS WRONG IS IF YOU CHOOSE THE ONE YOU DONT LIKE AND THEN CONTINUE TO TREAT THEM LIKE CRAP OR THEN CHEAT THEM BECAUSE YOU WERE NEVER SATISFIED WITH THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE) as it's the matter of two lives. But since you can't find someone upto your thinking..... you decide to lower the bar aka certain standards you had for marrying a person and marry someone out of desperacy (that oh all my friends are getting married, I should get married too , then marry anyone randomly) , now the person is definitely not who you wanted as your lifepartner, so you and him/her won't have a happy married life as you would always be unsatisfied by their lack of a certain quality/ies you desired , and (the second point which she said about them mistreating you , this one depends upon person to person as bhaiya said in the video) they would maybe be too proud "that oh, i pulled an emotionally mature , well earning, good looking girl/boy" and he/she would take you for granted because you you both are now tied to a wedlock and well that would just lead to a messy divorce and if you guys have kids then it would impact them too. Or if you find a genuinely good person then they might have a newfound respect for accepting them as they are and maybe would try to be their best for you as you inspire them to be the best, it could be both a happy or a sad ending it just depends on luck and person tbh. No hate to anyone . Peace♡
Also bhaiya ne Jo Jo baatein kahi they were so true and wonderful especially when he said "you should never let anyone treat you bad irrespective of their league" so yeah I completely agree with him!!! ❤❤❤
@@dhhpolice15yearsago84 it completely depends on the person to treat you good or bad.....I have seen many cases such as Aishwarya Rai bacchan or be it princess Diana etc... those women were talented, pretty, well spoken, loyal while the husband was just a nepo baby, and they mistreated and took the women for granted....even in case of men where woman is mistreats him and takes him for granted happen
@ananya._.choudhary_ you are saying so confidently as if you know them personally,whatever she show herself in front of camera,who knows what type of wife she is,you are bashing someone just based on a rumour,your intellect is awesome
@@dhhpolice15yearsago84 i agree they agree just because the rumour said that the couple is getting divorced then the man must be at fault Ex Mukesh Ambani everybody bknows how badly nita Ambani treats him on camera but we don't how good of a wife she is behind the camera
Fun fact : No one is above the league or out of the league don't matter when person knows the beauty of relationship and value of societal aspects of human emotions
As a girl, I often found myself falling for these traps of relationship advices which are so baseless and simply thrown out on the internet. It used to make me feel superior for having higher standards but with time I realised that for a person no matter what gender, to have the desired so called "high standard" spouse you also have to become the best version of yourself. And this "high standard" is nothing but basic qualities we should actually be looking for in our partners, it's just people have created this term because they see all the failed marriage examples around them and think that wanting such qualities in our partner is like having high standards / rare to find. Or in other cases they think too highly of themselves. Also idk what she is reffering to when talking about high standards but the qualities you mentioned like emotional intelligence, problem solving, career focused, commitment, etc. are the real things people should look for in their partner and also develop in themselves as well.
Yes . I am very sure what you mentioned are standards she is referring to. But people can have any standards, nothing wrong with it. It's wierd to ask someone to lower it because eon does not fit em
Shit like this is the reason I'm encouraging my family to quit Instagram. Especially my parents. They're not desensitized to stuff like this yet, and they take everything they see online for the face value. Something that I say doesn't have a tenth of the value for them than some random person on Instagram making a dumb statement because apparently they have "more authority since they're getting more likes which means people agree with them". Obviously this particular situation doesn't apply for my parents but the thing is, brainrot is real. Not the skibidi ohio type of brainrot... this is a whole another level of brainrot that's reaching many people.
Algorithm shows u what u want to see. They won't have such videos on their insta account. My mom only has bhajan, astrology etc videos in her recommendation
@@vp-lv6yk algorithm also shows you videos that people around you or associated with your account watch try watching a specific genre (let's say tech) in the same space as someone else and they'll be recommended the same things these corporations are smarter than you could ever imagine there's a lot of rage bait content nowadays compared to a few years back this type of things are unavoidable
@@vp-lv6yk AL is managed by गहरा राज्य 👁️ under Intelligence Community with the help of elected government in 🇺🇸 All over the 🌍 Whoever comes to Power They have hands in both Sides
Good luck making insta the boogeyman and putting entire blame on it😂😂😂.... it's just a platform where ppl share their views. The things this girl is saying has been said by fmnists in movies and media channels for 2-3 decades now.
I feel like relationships today have become so shallow, with most people focusing on looks, chemistry, or status rather than emotional connection. It’s frustrating how hookup culture has made everything feel temporary, where people chase short-term pleasure instead of building trust and understanding. Many avoid vulnerability because they’re scared of rejection or getting hurt, which only leads to surface-level connections that don’t last. It feels like no one wants to put in the effort anymore-they just want what’s easy and convenient. It’s painful to see how quickly people treat relationships as disposable, always searching for the next thrill instead of appreciating the person they have. There’s too much emphasis on what looks good in the moment, but real love takes time, patience, and effort to grow. I believe meaningful connections are still possible, but only if we start valuing personality, kindness, and emotional depth over shallow things. Love should be about seeing and accepting someone for who they truly are, not chasing perfection or convenience.
Are u sane? This is literally a necessity not a standard this is one the rare times i found shwetabh wrong people can have standards be it based on beauty we men aren't gowing around any random woman on the streets either i have certain looks based standards too not cheating and not beating someone is a basic need for humans not a standard
Yesterday :- 7hr Machine Learning Theory 2hr Data Structures & Algorithms 1hr Optimization Theory 1hr read non-fiction (Deep Work) 45 min. Home workout 20 min Yoga Today :- 6hr Machine Learning Theory 1hr Statistics 1hr read non-fiction (Deep Work) - finished with the book, will move to Outliers book by Gladwell 45 min. Home workout 30 min. Yoga Will brush up on some maths probably before sleeping (1-2hr), taking small break right now. And I really think this lady is out of her depth & people watching her should realise that before taking her words for gospel.
@@RajeevKumar-dy7dh Yeah I'm in 1st year 2nd sem in my bachelors... currently doing Support Vector Machines & the all the underlying math is killing me but it's so fun tbh. Many books I'm referring to, understanding ml: from theory to algorithms by shai ben david (uWaterloo professor), PRML by bishop for all the math behind these classical ML models. Following along the course eecs 189 by UC Berkeley along with the reference book "deep learning by bishop".
The problem is not being with someone "out of your league" or someone less good looking (because looks are not everything) BUT how badly these people treat you. Being said that, even a good looking or out of your league guy can do the same with you. So, I understand young teenage girl might find her idea fascinating but I understand the points Shwetabh is making here. Unfortunately, if I send this video to those younger girls I know, they won't understand at this age.
@@madeofmelancholy well a young girl's mind is just as impressionable as a young boys. But this generation definitely has more critical thinking skills tbh. A complex is fueled due to multiple incidents and experiences. A video leaving an impression is quite subjective to be honest. So to sum it up, it depends.
Shwetabh bhai You changed alot in me A lot of my personality comes from the perspective that what would Shwetabh do in this situation Thanks for being the big brother I did not have 💫
@@anoushkas8726Did she ever mention anything about personality?she just said they'll get ego boose because they bagged a person above their league and we all know no way she is talking about personality or money it's just looks
@@anoushkas8726 "If they are lower your standard, it will give them an ego boost, and you'll be treated as shit by someone who's not even in your league". Wow! When did relationships become a competition, where you are establishing a hierarchy that I'm above in leagues wrt this person, and lower wrt this. And how did she arrive at "you'll be treated as shit", just how? On what basis, which research. It's so funny how people become "relationship guru" based on the very few limited experiences they've personally had. Maybe she should read a few things before getting into all of this.
@@anoushkas8726 If she's using a term that's widely used for a different purpose, the onus is on her to clarify. If someone says, "I beat my kids every week", would you not assume anything? If he/she means "beating" as in defeating them at a game or some challenge maybe, then the onus is on him/her to clarify. She literally said "out of your league" for a relationship advise. Think of compatibility, mutual respect, etc, have you ever heard someone say that phrase for such things. If you think we shouldn't assume anything whatsoever, then we just cannot analyze any argument. You'll have to make certain general assumptions to move forward, especially when she didn't clarify the term.
@@anoushkas8726 And just one last thing, you mentioned that standard for some could be "compatibility". So if I say, we're not compatible, I mean one of us is below the standard of other? No way, I just mean, we're not compatible!! It's not even a correct sentence to say "He is below my standard in compatibility". It's totally possible that she is being misunderstood, but it's because of her own choice of words, that's the point. And many young people watching her might misunderstand and buy the wrong message too if they consider her trustworthy or reliable.
To whoever thinking she is not talking about looks,she said "it will give him ego boost that he grabbed someone out of his league",that explains what she is referring to
@@jongsaenguwu1808no girl especially mentions looks cause acc to global women community looks doesn’t matter. “Out of League “ means Majority Times Looks & Minority times Status . Principles & Personality are part of standards you keep but no one brags about their partners Principles & Personality they only brag about their partners Status & Looks .
@@shizs8956 dude idk i have seen often times women breaking up with their bfs cause they were red flags or cheated on them etc. Never heard someone break up cause of looks. They just dont date people who dont fit their beauty standards. That being said what exactly is so wrong about having beauty standards. Women put in a lot of effort to look a certain way so expecting the same isnt so bad.
@@Undisputed_Massive10 good for you then. In this gen we just dont know who would turn out to be bad, men or women. Its just men with bad women go through heartbreak while women with bad men can end up mutilated and dead.
Brother let me tell you one thing about shwetabh's preaching. I used to think shit about my relationship with my girl. After watching his videos about relationship my perspective about relationship changed alot and mere dimag jo kida tha flush kiya meine. And now i got married after 8 years of relationship. Thanks for that my big brother. Love and respect. ❤❤❤
I had a gf since school days. I broke up with her in 2022 bcz i felt the relation was too toxic and there were other things going on in my mind like career stress. Was pursuing ca at that time and failed some attempts. Now after 2 years we recently came back in contact. She used to talk to me like we were in a relationship. Past memories etc. Only thing left was saying i love you. So i again developed feelings for her. But now she says she wants marriage and kids by 30. I am not yet settled in my career. Left CA recently and started looking for a job. And also she says she cannot trust me since i left her. I said i will marry her only just give me some time. But she says she doesn't want to. And she is looking for a man. We both are 27. Never dated anybody except her. Don't know how to forget her. Right now we r not in talking terms since we had a fight regarding this.
@@manishhhh_71 inter and was stuck for 5 years. I am 27. Am planning to do acca or cpa in long term now. But first looking for a job. I was frustrated and aur pressure handle nahi ho raha tha so i decided to quit.
Bhai phle to tumne hi use choor diya tb nhi socha ki wo kese bhoolegi tumhe or ab wo time nhi de rhi , ya to bhai sorry bol do agr tumhe shi lgti hai wo tumhare liye to otherwise na mane to bhai apna focus karo jo bhi tumhare kaam hai uspr or is channel pr waise bhi bhot se videos hai agr tum bhoolna hi chahte ho to.
I don't disagree at all with your points. But as far as I can understand from a women's perspective, maybe she's talking about how a guy treats a woman sets the standard. And probably she's asking to not compromise and settle for someone who doesn't care about their partner emotionally. Maybe for once we can consider that maybe she was talking about emotional compatibility
this girl is the definition of who not be around with, wheather as a friend or a partner......noone should take her seriously.....just one high paying brand deal is enough to change her entire narative
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I have had friends who said that they just want to get married for all the functions and the jewellery and dressing. I think she might be warning girls not to get carried away by those ideas. And also not to think about getting married soon as all your friends are getting married.
Ye 'standard' standard BS mein bhi bhut time se sunn raha tha mera bhi dimaag kharab karta the word itself and i wanted you to give ur view on this, glad u did, thankyou
I’ll tell you what standard means according to that girl It means having lots of money, looking decent, should spend money on your high lifestyle What standard should mean is, you should be devoted to long term relationships, The only person who deserves your body,(sex) should be your forever person, Who is your forever person? Someone who you pick based on empathy, nature loyal, trustworthy, who care and value her/him, no cheating, fakeness and low or no body count, Ask your gut, whether he’s right person for you, Whether his/her words matches his/her actions.. You should never pick a person because you’re bored, or because of peer pressure, or because of fetish, money, 6ft tall etc etc, these are worst reasons for picking someone Respect your body, if you sleep around, you’re not valuing your body, and if you don’t value yourself, no one will respect you, your conscience won’t respect you, and you will be treated like garbage, no one’s gonna offer you long term commitment You should also have wisdom to listen to which influencers, if you take advice from people such as that girl, you will get bitter and destroy ur life..
bro this dating game is literally like rocket science for men honestly ! kaafi kam log ise figure out kar paate hai and ladkiya naturally deceptive nature ki hoti hai
LOL its been a month and i watch at least 1 video of Shwetab per day and to be honest what i feel like watching him has made my argument presenting and debating on logical facts better than they were and he has sparkled up the flame inside me of giving our perspective on anything which i believe is baseless or illogical yet appraised. and it has become like my habit that whenever i watch his video he pauses and gives his opinion and then i pause and give my opinion 🗿 and one of the best things about his videos are the people with high critical thinking skills helll yeaah i just love the people in comments too
To the women here thinking she not mentioned looks: No girl especially mentions looks cause acc to global women community looks doesn’t matter. & don’t want to be cancelled/ called out “Out of League “ means Majority Times Looks & Minority times Status . Principles & Personality are part of standards you keep but no one brags about their partners Principles & Personality they only brag about their partners Status & Looks .
A suggestion can you also go through comment section as well so we can get a idea how people is taking the advice. Just a suggestion ❤. Thanks for making such a good videos
Selecting a partner should be based on their emotional intelligence and how they choose to show up in the relationship. It’s about their willingness to make things work and their happiness with the idea of being together. It’s not about social leagues or status; it’s about the kind of person they are and the connection you share.”
I want to share a real story just to support what you said in the video. I dated a guy 4 years back, he was good looking, good salary, passed out from an IIT. And for me it was a match made in heaven. After 1 year of dating, Slowly things started turning sour. He was emotionally manipulative, distant and subjected me to mental and emotional abuse. And I never could make sense of it. A well educated, cultured, employed man was making me feel shit about myself. Now its been 2 years since the end of that relationship. And I had to work a lot on myself. And I can attest to it that the qualities you want in a person as a life partner is kindness, emotional maturity and respect. And you have to give yourself that first to prioritize that in another person. And I wish that influencers stop making such suggestions which can really ruin lives of young girls. This was a very very amazing video ❤
I think the standard she is talking about is about the boy's personality. Girls under desperation to enter a relationship starts settling for bare minimum or even less, for eg i liked a guy a while back abd had a crush on him but he did not use to talk to me the entire day, iust used to reply after late night , whenever i was telling them about my day he used to interrupt me or say jokingly that he doesn't care about it. Used to talk down about my looks maybe because he was insecure about his, or he was a asshole only idk, glad i didn't settle that time and didn't let my desperate let me stuck in a toxic relationship .
no girl especially mentions looks cause acc to global women community looks doesn’t matter. “Out of League “ means Majority Times Looks & Minority times Status . Principles & Personality are part of standards you keep but no one brags about their partners Principles & Personality they only brag about their partners Status & Looks .
Following you since 2021 by your "how to move on from breakup" video ,to till now and day by day you're giving me lessons like seeing things in different perspectives, critical thinking, motivations , you know it's a lot for me . Thank you Shwetabh ❤️, for being here and improving my thoughts day by day . Jiban mei King kong ban ke hi raunga 💪🦍
People here are not even married, most of them are commenting 😂 because, the married ones are busy in their life, most of us here are either Gen Z and few percent of Millennials, and those who are professional they also don't have time to think about these things. Shwetabh is good in giving perspective but, considering situation of India and most middle-class people's mindset, it is not what actually he is teaching to us, we all have our own problems, expectations, desires and also a man is always going to be provider in every family, in some cases both genders are working, and in some cases only female is working, but the point is the stress is mostly on the provider and whether you marry or not this thing is relentless and we have to do it, and I personally think that marriage is good as long as both person are trying to improve each other and wants to have normal life, without any external influences, but money is the ultimate factor and everyday you need it so decide what you want to do first, and also belief systems are other hindrance in India for not allowing to fail, and expect to perform well in life.
I am dating a man who is not that attractive by looks but bruh his sanskar>>>> his love for me>>>>> 🧿🧿 I am so so proud of him, my friends judge him n I don't care
Your friends judge him but you are still sticking with those friends instead of breaking that friendship say lot about u + it’s also tells how much u respect that guy.
@shivendraSingh-us4ez aisa 2 frn grp me ho chuka hai ek friend circle ne aag lagayi vaha se hat gayi second time durse ko laga I deserve better to ab baat he band kardi
@@light.feminineyes, at last only sanskar matters, how he/she respect you matters. Looks, money are temporary.☺️☺ And ask your friends a question what if he is good looking, rich but don't respect you? Insulting you infront of anyone.️
@SIRJUSTSIR-p8g Exactly lekin vo log kuch bolte nhi hai na he looks dete hai but I know internally kon kya soch Rahi hai, ek baar koi kuch bolke to dekhe
Meri coaching me ek ladki hai jisse meri baat hoti thi mujhe thodi bohot acchi lagi vo phir mujhe pata chala ki ye ladki ka bf hai lekin vo shaadi nhi karna chahta because of parents and she is sad then she started saying i dont want to talk to boys etc etc i said ok then one day i just ask her about syllabus and she said i am not comfortable in talking face to face i said ok from that day we didn't talk and one day i saw she removed my contact no. I found it weird very very weird Edit - 18 saal ki hai aur shaadi ki baat ho rahi
all things you said are completely valid but you should've also addressed her perspective which even applies to men. one being the looks - i don't think most men will settle with someone they find unattractive. Most men will never lower their standards that low(depends on the men though) - in general i think it's completely okay to have standards and not wanting to go too low. even for me, my personality and the way i look at stuff and world - there are a lot of things i will never lower my standards for. too many sub/below standard people nowadays. your whole channel is about self improvement, but there are people who are on the opposite end, should i lower my standards for them too??
I would like to thank u Shwetabh bhaiya Earlier i used say lot of cuss words(galli) but i started realising its not that good and am using it just to demean my friends and giving my ego a sort of boost and also realised that my freinds are not quite geniune as they just feared i will mock them so they are with me but from past 2 months i have reduced it so much and people around me also noticed it and they appreciate it its going good ur philosophical perspectives are really good and helping many of us....
I, for now, don't know how to think of someone as a right person, what i mean is that on what basis can someone be perfectly right for me, or me being right for that other person as well, maybe it's because i think a lot, but all this league concept just seems utter bullshit to me. If i like someone, and they don't feel the same, there is nothing i can do, i cannot force myself on other, and especially when i can tell when someone is pretending and just trying to act good because they have an ulterior motive, things gets a lot harder to actually like someone.
What a huge load of crap this girl is talking about ? Girls please don't listen to such girls. Class and Standards are not set by looks and money, it depends on what kind of heart you have. Don't lose your character for class. Please. You can lose a lifetime of happiness with this advice.
@@swatisaini6447 1st she talked about standard so it was unclear but later when she said out of league . it was obvious thaT She is talking about looks and money. no one says she is uncompatible with me so i am out of her league but they do say my looks are out of her league
Guys don't lower your standards means do not settle for a guy just because he's good.be honest with yourself and the guy so that you could avoid wasting each other's time and find your suitable partner who could match your vibe, understand your emotions, support you in hard time and the most important thing love you the way you want to be loved. Period!!
She's literally projecting her past relationship so chances are she made this reel primarily to shame her ex, but some naive women might not realise that and take her advice seriously. An eco chamber of projection she is creating.
The thing about these videos is that they get the engagement these creators want. More engagement = more money and growth. She knew people would be pissed by it that's a problem with social media I feel.
This month from 1st October I tried to strictly follow my study routine, not very successful so far till now i've only been studied 12 days from, other people here motivated me to get on track again so from today on i'll be monitoring my routine no matter how hard it goes. Btw 10 Dec is my exam day. DAY 1/48 till my exam.
Well standard mein money loook,eq, personality sab hi aajata h generally? why do u think that her point is toward looks! I think it's totally depend on the person ki aap video ko kis way me lerhe ho what I get that many people do get married out of fomo! P.s - not her fan just sharing my thoughts!
The best creator with most rational thoughts and points and actually a guide for a younger generation who is needed to be educated (me including the more the knowledge the less it feels) ...love your videos shwetabh bhaiya ❤
Shwetabh bhai... I am your subscriber from your early days, and i cant tell you how much i adore you as a big brother.... please always remain like that and never let anyone or anything change you, i never watch these cringe people ever but come to see your perspective on such idiots. I am a banker and earning well from all means, but i want you to make videos for indian youth directly focused on money making. May god bless you always ❤
Actually I am struggling with the idea of letting go of a past friendship. I feel nostalgic lonely ,frustrated and self doubt Also I wrote this today I feel like I want to meet you. I want to know where we are, what we're doing, and discuss everything. Basically, I want to spend 30 minutes of quality time, just like we did on the bus that day when I read you that beautiful poem I wrote about you. We haven't met after school in the past 2 years, so maybe a lot has happened in our lives and we really don't want to share everything. Actually, I want to, but you don't because your thoughts, opinions, and perspectives are completely opposite and I don't really know how to express my feelings and what to talk about because it's become difficult to even talk to you now. I feel like I have more things to say and you don't, but a lot has happened in the past 2 years and we've changed. I always decide that I won't talk to you, but I can't control feeling and I can't forget your name.
If you really don't wanna keep that friendship then you'll forget about it in time just make sure in your mind (think about it deeply) why you are ending it. But if you think you should keep this person in your life in some nice and easy way then.. Send it to them if you think they'll like it. Only reason to not share it is if you are sure they will react negatively towards it. Your words seems okay here, still you can remove any negative thing you think you have written here in some way and replace it with some more poetic words. ❤
A woman is often viewed as a sex object, while a man is seen as a success object. As women age, their perceived value tends to decrease. In contrast, if a man continues to work on his skills, his value may increase with age. By the age of 30, a man's value can surpass the average value of a woman. Thus, while women may set high standards, they cannot demand the same level of value at 30 as they had at 20. This reflects a simple principle of supply and demand. In fact, a man's value may indeed rise over time. In short: leave her alone with her high standards..
That is assuming environmental, medicinal, genetic, psychiatric, and physiological factors remain unchanged. Life is rarely how one imagines in a linear simple theory, that is why entire several subjects have spawned from understanding behavior, and multitudes of points of view. Also, things aren't a binary. Humans work on multiple factors -- money, success, beauty are dominant, sure. But in behavior and in research on dating behavior, they have found altruism, compassion, kindness to be very important needs of people too, amongst many other things. My point is, it isn't that simple. But sure reads amazing on paper and feeds the ego pretty nicely.
@@GangstaPerspectives The fact of the matter is that most dating advice isn't worth the paper that it's printed on. Much of it can sound good and plausible, but that is often because it's separated in the moment of consumption from the realities of the sexual marketplace it describes-how people would like dating to be or how people believe dating should be. The reality, of course, is neither; it is what it is, and the more people can move in the direction of accepting that reality, as painful and difficult as it might be, the more success they will eventually have in their relationships. In my opinion, even the best of the most popular dating advice only ever gets it half right, and there's actually a very simple reason why this is the case. The fundamental principle in the game of mating and dating is that everyone is attempting to get and keep their perceived best option. If this is true, then the perception of value, the best option, is at the heart of all human relationships. This means that relationships always have two components: perception, which is psychological, and value, which is economic. The most popular dating advice tends to fail because it approaches dating as if it's either one or the other-that is, either it's all psychological and so relationship problems can be solved entirely by psychological means, or it's all economic and so relationship problems can be solved entirely by economic means. In reality, relationships are both, and any model that focuses on one without the other is doomed to failure. By far, the overwhelming majority of dating advice fails because it focuses exclusively on the psychological and completely avoids the economic. This advice fundamentally assumes that all relationship issues can either be addressed intrapsychic ally-that is, within the minds of the individuals in question-or interpersonally, that is, within the dynamic of the couple in question. You'll recognize this immediately when I give you some examples. Dating advice that focuses on intrapsychic components holds out the promise that the main thing standing between most people and the relationships they want is their unhealed emotional wounding from childhood, their inability to love themselves, their lack of awareness into the dynamics of their family of origin, their lingering trauma from previous relationships, their tendency to self-sabotage, their low self-worth that leads them to accept less than they deserve, or a lack of appreciation for their attachment styles, etc. Like I could go on and on. This perspective is a symptom of the therapy craze, which believes that most or even all problems can be solved by therapy, introspection, and self-awareness. They can't. This perspective has some validity, but it has become narcissistic in its overextension. It may be difficult to hear, but a person could be the most psychologically stable, emotionally intelligent, securely attached individual on the planet, and if he or she is unattractive, it will be difficult for that person to get and keep a relationship. Men don't think, "Damn, look at the size of that woman's assertiveness; oh, got to get a piece of that." And women don't date men because they are emotionally available. These are not the attributes that the other side rewards in the sexual marketplace. Don't kill the messenger. Believing that this shouldn't be the case is pointless; it is what it is. What's more, a lot of this dating advice focuses on the interpersonal dimension-the dynamic that exists between the individuals in question. This perspective holds out the promise that the main thing standing between most people and the relationships they want is their inability to communicate, their unwillingness to compromise, their lack of appreciation for the other's love language, their resistance to emotional vulnerability, their poor boundaries, or their reluctance to argue, etc. I could go on and on. This perspective is flawed because it intellectually isolates the couple from the larger context in which it is embedded. This perspective has some validity, but it ignores the fact that relationships do not occur in a vacuum. Rather, they always exist, even if you are married, even if you are soulmates, in the context of the overarching sexual marketplace. It may be difficult to hear, but a person could be the most empathic communicator, the most conscientious partner, and the most deferential lover, and if a better option exists, it will be difficult for this person to get and keep a relationship. If you cannot beat out your intersexual competition, it's less likely that you will be selected for a relationship, and it's less likely that you will retain any relationship for which you were selected. Believing that this shouldn't be the case is pointless; it is what it is. Now, the other side of this problem is dating advice that exclusively focuses on the economic and ignores the psychological. This is definitely a smaller proportion of the circulating advice, but it exists, nonetheless. You'll recognize this immediately when I give you some examples. Dating advice that focuses on economic components holds out the promise that the main thing standing between most people and the relationship they want is their body mass index, their fashion sense, their bank accounts, their game, their social status, their height, or their curves, etc. I could go on and on. This perspective fails because it assumes that everything about relationships depends not only on sexual marketplace value but on SMV in its most standardized and impersonal sense-namely, normalized sexual marketplace value. It doesn't, though. To be honest, it does matter more than we would collectively like to admit. SMV is not the whole story, but it is absolutely the case that more attractive people are more frequently selected for relationships, negotiate more favorable terms for themselves in those relationships, and retain their relationships more successfully against their intersexual competition. Relationships are easier if you are attractive, and everyone can be more attractive than they currently are, so this component is ignored and vilified at people's own risk. That said, relationships absolutely don't turn on the fulcrum of attractiveness. A rich, handsome, arrogant man and a beautiful, sexy, entitled woman are both very difficult to date. All the benefits they provide might be completely nullified by their toxic personalities and sociopathic tendencies. However, for better or for worse, people will still try to date them, and people will still try to make it work with them, and they will try longer and harder to make it work with them before they give up. Why? Because they are attractive. Believing that this shouldn't be the case is pointless; it is what it is. Of course, the best dating advice should include both perspectives. The ideal is to be a good and attractive partner. However, this is very difficult and extremely expensive; most people can't do both. So, what happens is that people selectively emphasize the component in which they are stronger and denigrate the component in which they are weaker. Basically, good people think they shouldn't have to be attractive attractiveness is superficial and materialistic; goodness is all that should matter. Attractive people think they shouldn't have to be good goodness is impractical and naive; attractiveness is all that should matter. If you want to be optimally successful in the sexual marketplace in the long run, you need to be both. However, if you absolutely had to prioritize one component over the other, you should err on the side of being attractive. If you have more of what more people most want, you will be awash in relationships of all kinds, and people will compete for the privilege of your company. It is what it is.
😂 that's some 2 year old analogy. Statistically old, single, childless women are among the happiest group of ppl. They live longer than married women while the opposite is true for men. Your market value in jobs increases with experience irrespective of gender. Unmarried women with no children have much higher chances of career success than married women with children as they have more time And less responsibility. And as women get older, marriage becomes a less attractive option since they get the habit of relaxed life. That's why divorced women are less likely to date again as compared to divorced men who almost always start looking for someone else after divorce or death of wife With age the need for a man also decreases because sxual drive also decreases.
@@vp-lv6yk Yes, single, unmarried, and childless women are so happy that the majority of them are on antidepressant medications, seeking a therapist weekly, and suffering from loneliness. But whenever someone asks them for research purposes whether they are happy, they are going to self-report yes, and stupid and illiterate people like you are going to believe it.
Not even once she used the words money, looks but "Standard" and "League" which can be for emotional and intellectual intelligence but this man interpreted it to suit his narrative.He only wanted to look cool by bashing her, but whatever he is saying is pretty useless in context of her video.
Okay I heard your entire pov and honestly I've seen this reel before on my insta and I personally don't think she's saying anything wrong maybe your interpretation is negative cuz when did she ever mention that "having standards" equals to having looks and money? You just assumed and molded her words into what you consider to be problematic she's just advising women to not make rushed decisions due to peer pressure and hold up her values to wait for the right person to walk in instead of just settling for someone way lesser that what she might deserve cuz it'll only leave her with disappointments and regret specially when it comes to marriage it's a relationship meant to be kept sacred for a lifetime you can't just go for a person you don't even think fits your standards. Now talking about standards everyone has their own versions for example for me my standards for a life partner would be "ambitious", "caring", "family oriented ", "feminist", "calm" and "loyal" similarly for someone else the standard might be "outgoing", "assertive" and "romantic" now I don't mean to say that any of the mentioned lists is wrong it's just the qualities that we prioritize that our partners must have these are some qualities we as different individuals feel are necessary for our partners to have to be able to live a life of harmony now in this case as well I'm not saying it'll be all chocolates and roses cuz nobody is perfect they'd have some parts that might not be that positive but what's important is that their good traits that are important to us even it out. Now coming to the topic of dating below your league advice the way I took it was that if a woman knows she's a good person that she's kind, compassionate, strong and nurturing she's a fully capable individual who deserves to be valued and respected by her romantic partner and she starts to date someone in a rush without knowing their personality due to peer pressure and then that man turns out to be a cheater/ player then no matter how good looking that guy is he's dating a gem and that woman is wayy out of his league and visa versa. So basically she never mentioned money or looks she just advised us to not make rash decisions because of peer pressure or because of our society's pressure but rather make a sure and informed decision before selecting a partner so that in the end they can build a healthy relationship with each other based on mutual liking that turns into love.
She already lost when she said it's an advice from a "big sis" to "younger sis" , so yeah she is a type of big sis who doesn't care about younger brothers 💀 Clear case of Misandry
I don't think she was talking about looks or physical appearance while talking about lowering ur standards. If u were not sure what she was talking about then what makes u think that she is talking about looks exclusively. It's clearly visible that she is not talking about physical appearance exclusively. And you make most of the points around this look thing. I don't think this is a fair thing to do. Maybe it's time to check ur prejudices and perception towards certain people.
I see a lot of people sharing their day schedule, so here is mine as a 23 year old working in cybersecurity, Woke up at 8.40 and started job at 9 (i work from home) 9-5 job 5-6 rest (video games, i started elden rings today and its good so far) 6-7.30 studied for a certificate 7.30-10 food and friends and workout 10-12 talked to family on phone and watched an episode of better call Saul
i dont think outta your league is look based, like i had this guy who acted like he liked me, both of us are in a financially struggling phase (so no money talks) infact i have more knowledge about the field of education and situation we r in rn, i am very career focused and not to make it about me or nth to be proud about but i am not someone who acts like yk "hard to get" doesnt think a lot b4 speaking, i try to be friendly and kind and want to act approachable, THIS GUY has the audacity to flirt with me and later when i think okay lets see where it goes, he says he had a gf all along, wowwww, and not just him i have met 3 guys like that, they just act flirty and get all the information about yk transfer, opportunities etc etc, and then they show their real colors, now I just know who to talk less to, but again this people pleaser wouldn't understand for shit
She never even mentioned the word "LOOKS". Why is it so difficult for guys to accept that girls have some standards too just like guys. Do guys just date any girl???
She is giving wierd and vague advice. She clearly intends to talk about looks just cancel culture se bachne ke liye she didn't mention the word "looks". Its ok to like good looking men/women but she is wierdly making it the entire thing shadi is not a competition. People go monogamous to be at peace and find comfort in each other. I know people quarrel too. once you age, you will loose your beauty no 6-pack abs will remain, no hourglass figure. She lives in a different world than us.
some girl not to be rude but the most illogical and horrible standards are from girls only and Shwetabh isn't talking about standards he just quoted that not everything is based on looks and materials he isn't hating he is just saying that you don't compare your partner to you in terms of looks and standards just to feel yourself good and shame them for that do you date a guy who is only attractive and popular for his looks and fashion and don't think about anyone else?? don't you look for maturity understanding emotional intelligence humbleness etc? and first of all why do you think that he is only talking about girls? he said that it applies to both the genders girl you gotta realise that not everything is centered around you no one cares about your standards if you're just rude and egoistical in the first place and if standards is the case then guys should also date women who is very attractive gorgeous cause apperently they are the one providing and protecting her or girls should only date guys who are rich and attractive ?? maybe you didn't got properly of video watch it again and realise what he is saying
I think she come to this point because of her attitude the other person loses interest in her and doesn't treat her the same so she think it was because she lowered her standards to get into the relationship. She doesn't analysis her own toxic behaviour.
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I can't take someone with that accent seriously! That girl makes no sense
Man I don't understand who are below her league . Bagger gutka eater deserve better. I am not disrespecting or insulting her it's just my personal openion .
Honestly, why even bother reacting to someone who is clearly projecting their past traumas and delusions online just to gain attention and views? It's such a waste of time. The person offering advice isn't even a certified psychologist, researcher, or at the very least, a relationship counselor. To be frank, I doubt this individual is even in a healthy relationship themselves. Ultimately, they seem to be nothing more than a poor excuse for someone to offer meaningful advice.
@@sujalpore373 I am more sad for boy who is or was with her
@@motherisape well I am happy for him that he is not with her rn I believe he is having his best time in life
The way she talks it's creepy .
Common wannabe Amrikaan accent
@@kyadekhrahahe-n6njust commented the exact thing
Its more than the accent. There is evil in her, i saw the devil herself
she tries to act like a white girl who rants on tiktok infront of mirror.
Typical South Bombay GenZ accent
Thank you, these videos always motivate me to delete Instagram!!
A girl i was talking to sent me that video and i said the exact same thing. She got offended lol.
The gal who you are talking to is red flag
Dodged a bullet bruhhhhh😂😂
Girl these days are not really good quality . Stupid and weard looking girl like her have a lot to ego. And they completely dehumanize man .
Don't ever take relationship advices from that girl.
Bro
Run from that ch&&&t iye
It's basically, "Meri shaadi nahi ho rahi, maine apne saare boyfriends ko mental trauma de dia hai. Now I'll brainwash all the girls on the internet so that no girl gets married and I'll do this in English so that white men sympathise with me and I find a white boyfriend".
White boyfriend bhi nai milna isko
@@Themetaphysician1999😂😂😂 wo to use and throw karega ise
They have no issues with white men doing ANYTHING to them. @@omnipotent9924
@@Themetaphysician1999 Hadd darze ke simps hote hain wo log bhi. Bas flirting skills acchi hoti hai aur rang gora hota hai isliye Indian women don't villainize them.
that's a cope video for her ex-boyfriend taunting him that he was below her league, and he got an ego boost bcz she dated him.
Why we have to make romantic relationships so complicated by bringing tons of standards??
Why things can't just happen organically??
Nobody is perfect. Accepting each other's differences is the primary key to a successful relationship.
I don't want to fulfill anybody's standards. Life is too short for that!
"i dont want to fulfill anybody's standards'' what a point 👏👏. we are humans not objects that can be bought into a relationship
exactly
This can’t happen because people these days are complicated and people are not as nice good and innocent like previous times
So complicated people leads to complicated relationships and problems etc.
@@utopia0909 previous time were not better they were more used to robbery and killings than us.....
Everyone had standards this or that way, it’s not as complicated as it may seem. Find the partner who understands you and respects you, someone who you can vibe with. That’s all.
its always the Sakshi's
Chup sali logo ki zindagi barbad kar k sorry bolti hai😡@@krata6621
Who hurt you bro 😢
Sakshi hurt her 😭@@nishtha2788
Lmao
😂
She's future single mother trust me
this video is about sumo wrestling though😊
What's wrong with bringing a Single mother? The mother stayed with her child while the father left. It shows her dedication
3rd grade wife are left with alimony. Its not about lack of dedication @@vp-lv6yk
@@vp-lv6yk we should also talk about the reasons why father left
@@vp-lv6yk the thing is these single mothers are going to be drug addicts and destroy kids future cause what she will run for is attention from any men.......go and check out what is happening already in west .
I can’t believe none of you really understood what she is trying to say but let me explain what it actually means when it comes to “lowering your standards”. Most girls really don’t know when they are being treated badly just cause they love the man. It’s so important to understand your worth and with someone who treats you right with respect. That’s all that it means. That advice is not terrible
Cut the crap, she literally said " below your league " fella
@@harshsrivastava7991
how is that different from lowering your standards ? the default premise remains the same.
why would any guy get offended by this statement ? if you did you know where you lie in the spectrum
Fuck your opinion
@@harshsrivastava7991 so what's the problem. Why you want to be with someone so bad that they need to lower their standards for you.
Don't take rejections personally. Why would anyone want to be with a person who doesn't want you
@@Xoxososowi the problem lies in the standards pal, if she has those standards personally it's very okay to have so , but what she actually doing is telling everyone to have same idiotic standards as her , not tough to comprehend innit?
bro this girl is the biggest red flag. There r people who follow these so called influencers bhai gen z is fked. and yeh toh relationship mein bhi nhi hogi yar isko kaise pata ki aur insaan ko kaisa banda pasand ata hai. looks is everything for her ig
Bro I just clicked on your dp and the first message I see is 💀
@@pag3160what's the message I didn't get it bro
@@pag3160 Real 💀
@@pag3160what does it mean
@@pag3160 what is it
Now i pause the video before Shwetabh's explaination and try to make my own points on these videos and now slowly some of my points have started to match with Swethabh's points,like when i listen his points i feel so yay that thats exactly what i thought that was exactly my point he is saying,yes he still give more perspectives which i didn't thought but still i have been seeing this progress in my Critical thinking skills this man has changed the way i think 🤯 ,Love you Bro ❤
Thats really a good thing
Thanks for sharing 👍
Bhai I imagined someone doing the thing you mentioned and the guy looked so dumb🤓😂
@@ajsuryavanshi759 true when my parents catch me talking to myself about different topics they laugh and joke about it it's so embarrassing 😭😂
Bro i do the same Lets Gooo!!!!
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Diverting my mind from her (the girl who broke my heart couple months ago) and working towards my dreams
I'm not doing this to "win her over" or out of grudge for her. I once hated her from every fiber of my being for "manipulating me using me and what not" but honestly now the way I see it, we were both immature, her hurtful actions cannot be justified but there's no use and only harm in keeping resentment now
This new found approach helps me work towards my goals for myself, instead of doing it out of being by subjugated by malice for someone who was just as unreasonable as I was
Good luck brother
Great bro ❤
Kis kis ko aisa accent sunke gussa aa jata hai?.. or is it just me
@@parkar09sanil you aren't alone
Mujhe isliye gussa aata kyuki flat chested hai.. hot ldkio p chal jata hai
@@robinsinghadhikari8045bhai simp matt bano
Hot ldki h ya ugly
Roast karo chutiya ladkiyo ko
Don’t allow them to play the women card
Aur har 2sec me fake smile
@@robinsinghadhikari8045 wtf?
Her accent killed me😂
Her voice is like this
The accent is so fake bruv and the voice...... Oh my god 💀💀
Bhai inferiority complex in these wanna be angrez. Feel ashamed our native accent
Bro aage badho accent se
Iski awaaz sunta hoon mera mann karta hoon joota maru
What she said, I m living that life n could do nothing just regret throughout life. I don’t like the person n he doesn’t treat me the way I expected from my partner at all. She is 100 percent right. It’s really not worth it.
True. She is perfectly saying right things. He is overanalyzing.
Marrying below your standards no matter what they are creates two unhappy people. The one lowering standards will resent the other, while the other person would be anxious and on toes on what is wrong!
I infact pray no one lowers their standards to marry or date me.
@@Xoxososowiyaha lowering standards kin parameters ke basis par hai ?
Is it intelligence, thoughts on career, conflict resolution oriented as bhaiya said or is it only looks ?
@@rishavkumar1250 Chodo Bhai Itna analysis krke smjhaya tb smj ni aya 😂 yeh to ldkiyan hain chutiya type ... Pati bhi to chutiya hi milega kher... Bhenchod ab to ulti ati hai Indian kehlane se ... Dimag me dobara bhara h sbke
Then should not deserve a man
Emotional Regulation, High empathy, problem solving and conflict resolution-oriented, marker for a good partner
Emotion Regulation or self control. The opposite of this is impulsiveness, impatience, high reactivity, not being able to control their emotions and acting rashly or emotionally.
Shwetabh Bhai ke aage koi kuch bol sakta hai kiya?@@GangstaPerspectives
@@GangstaPerspectives Emotional regulation is better than self control as prevention is better than cure.
@topgun4071 emotional regulation and self control are the same thing.
Also makes for a 'boring' partner.
Guys in the first clip😭she is not only talking about looks when she says about lowering standards
It basically means for example : You are a financially,mentally, etc stable person and are old enough to get married and all your friends are getting married so you think the reason you aren't getting married is because you want a mentally wise person or a financially stable person to be your life partner or any etc quality you desire in your ideal one (ALWAYS KNOW ITS NOT WRONG TO HAVE PREFERENCES WHILE CHOOSING SOMEONE AFTER ALL ITS A MATTER OF TWO LIVES , WHATS WRONG IS IF YOU CHOOSE THE ONE YOU DONT LIKE AND THEN CONTINUE TO TREAT THEM LIKE CRAP OR THEN CHEAT THEM BECAUSE YOU WERE NEVER SATISFIED WITH THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE) as it's the matter of two lives. But since you can't find someone upto your thinking..... you decide to lower the bar aka certain standards you had for marrying a person and marry someone out of desperacy (that oh all my friends are getting married, I should get married too , then marry anyone randomly) , now the person is definitely not who you wanted as your lifepartner, so you and him/her won't have a happy married life as you would always be unsatisfied by their lack of a certain quality/ies you desired , and (the second point which she said about them mistreating you , this one depends upon person to person as bhaiya said in the video) they would maybe be too proud "that oh, i pulled an emotionally mature , well earning, good looking girl/boy" and he/she would take you for granted because you you both are now tied to a wedlock and well that would just lead to a messy divorce and if you guys have kids then it would impact them too. Or if you find a genuinely good person then they might have a newfound respect for accepting them as they are and maybe would try to be their best for you as you inspire them to be the best, it could be both a happy or a sad ending it just depends on luck and person tbh. No hate to anyone . Peace♡
Also bhaiya ne Jo Jo baatein kahi they were so true and wonderful especially when he said "you should never let anyone treat you bad irrespective of their league" so yeah I completely agree with him!!! ❤❤❤
The thing she said "he will start thinking himself at your level" is utterly crap
@@dhhpolice15yearsago84 it completely depends on the person to treat you good or bad.....I have seen many cases such as Aishwarya Rai bacchan or be it princess Diana etc... those women were talented, pretty, well spoken, loyal while the husband was just a nepo baby, and they mistreated and took the women for granted....even in case of men where woman is mistreats him and takes him for granted happen
@ananya._.choudhary_ you are saying so confidently as if you know them personally,whatever she show herself in front of camera,who knows what type of wife she is,you are bashing someone just based on a rumour,your intellect is awesome
@@dhhpolice15yearsago84 i agree they agree just because the rumour said that the couple is getting divorced then the man must be at fault
Ex Mukesh Ambani everybody bknows how badly nita Ambani treats him on camera but we don't how good of a wife she is behind the camera
Fun fact : No one is above the league or out of the league don't matter when person knows the beauty of relationship and value of societal aspects of human emotions
As a girl, I often found myself falling for these traps of relationship advices which are so baseless and simply thrown out on the internet. It used to make me feel superior for having higher standards but with time I realised that for a person no matter what gender, to have the desired so called "high standard" spouse you also have to become the best version of yourself. And this "high standard" is nothing but basic qualities we should actually be looking for in our partners, it's just people have created this term because they see all the failed marriage examples around them and think that wanting such qualities in our partner is like having high standards / rare to find.
Or in other cases they think too highly of themselves.
Also idk what she is reffering to when talking about high standards but the qualities you mentioned like emotional intelligence, problem solving, career focused, commitment, etc. are the real things people should look for in their partner and also develop in themselves as well.
Yes . I am very sure what you mentioned are standards she is referring to.
But people can have any standards, nothing wrong with it. It's wierd to ask someone to lower it because eon does not fit em
Shit like this is the reason I'm encouraging my family to quit Instagram. Especially my parents. They're not desensitized to stuff like this yet, and they take everything they see online for the face value. Something that I say doesn't have a tenth of the value for them than some random person on Instagram making a dumb statement because apparently they have "more authority since they're getting more likes which means people agree with them". Obviously this particular situation doesn't apply for my parents but the thing is, brainrot is real. Not the skibidi ohio type of brainrot... this is a whole another level of brainrot that's reaching many people.
Based
Algorithm shows u what u want to see. They won't have such videos on their insta account. My mom only has bhajan, astrology etc videos in her recommendation
@@vp-lv6yk algorithm also shows you videos that people around you or associated with your account watch
try watching a specific genre (let's say tech) in the same space as someone else and they'll be recommended the same things
these corporations are smarter than you could ever imagine
there's a lot of rage bait content nowadays compared to a few years back
this type of things are unavoidable
@@vp-lv6yk
AL is managed by गहरा राज्य 👁️ under Intelligence Community with the help of elected government in 🇺🇸
All over the 🌍
Whoever comes to Power
They have hands in both Sides
Good luck making insta the boogeyman and putting entire blame on it😂😂😂.... it's just a platform where ppl share their views.
The things this girl is saying has been said by fmnists in movies and media channels for 2-3 decades now.
I feel like relationships today have become so shallow, with most people focusing on looks, chemistry, or status rather than emotional connection. It’s frustrating how hookup culture has made everything feel temporary, where people chase short-term pleasure instead of building trust and understanding. Many avoid vulnerability because they’re scared of rejection or getting hurt, which only leads to surface-level connections that don’t last. It feels like no one wants to put in the effort anymore-they just want what’s easy and convenient.
It’s painful to see how quickly people treat relationships as disposable, always searching for the next thrill instead of appreciating the person they have. There’s too much emphasis on what looks good in the moment, but real love takes time, patience, and effort to grow. I believe meaningful connections are still possible, but only if we start valuing personality, kindness, and emotional depth over shallow things. Love should be about seeing and accepting someone for who they truly are, not chasing perfection or convenience.
U need a man who take care of u , support u, never cheat on u , protect u , never do physical violence 💯 but these people taking it so far
stating the obvious
😂😂😂u need to be self sufficient for others to respect u. No one will stay back from exploiting u if u are weak
@@bella_sera2 ye to bhai basic baat hai, obviously ye to karna hi hota hai.
Are u sane? This is literally a necessity not a standard this is one the rare times i found shwetabh wrong people can have standards be it based on beauty we men aren't gowing around any random woman on the streets either i have certain looks based standards too not cheating and not beating someone is a basic need for humans not a standard
@@ARYANJEE-uu3qe did I said something wrong Herr insane person Aryan jee?why are u so offended by my comment insane aryajee
Yesterday :-
7hr Machine Learning Theory
2hr Data Structures & Algorithms
1hr Optimization Theory
1hr read non-fiction (Deep Work)
45 min. Home workout
20 min Yoga
Today :-
6hr Machine Learning Theory
1hr Statistics
1hr read non-fiction (Deep Work) - finished with the book, will move to Outliers book by Gladwell
45 min. Home workout
30 min. Yoga
Will brush up on some maths probably before sleeping (1-2hr), taking small break right now.
And I really think this lady is out of her depth & people watching her should realise that before taking her words for gospel.
Is there any time table in the course
This comment gave me the motivation to work for an hour atleast
What are you reading in machine learning theory and from where? Are you a bachelor's student?
@@RajeevKumar-dy7dh Yeah I'm in 1st year 2nd sem in my bachelors... currently doing Support Vector Machines & the all the underlying math is killing me but it's so fun tbh. Many books I'm referring to, understanding ml: from theory to algorithms by shai ben david (uWaterloo professor), PRML by bishop for all the math behind these classical ML models. Following along the course eecs 189 by UC Berkeley along with the reference book "deep learning by bishop".
@@doofus8 Too good. These days I am also learning advanced NPL focusing mainly on LLMs.
The problem is not being with someone "out of your league" or someone less good looking (because looks are not everything) BUT how badly these people treat you.
Being said that, even a good looking or out of your league guy can do the same with you.
So, I understand young teenage girl might find her idea fascinating but I understand the points Shwetabh is making here.
Unfortunately, if I send this video to those younger girls I know, they won't understand at this age.
certainly they wont. as a man i must ask, is it because of some complex they develop over a period of time?
A lot of young men don't understand it either to be honest. Bad treatment is gender neutral.
@@madeofmelancholy well a young girl's mind is just as impressionable as a young boys. But this generation definitely has more critical thinking skills tbh. A complex is fueled due to multiple incidents and experiences. A video leaving an impression is quite subjective to be honest. So to sum it up, it depends.
Beauty is everywhere nowadays its not even rare but intelligence is
Shwetabh bhai You changed alot in me
A lot of my personality comes from the perspective that what would Shwetabh do in this situation
Thanks for being the big brother I did not have 💫
You are welcome, and thank you so much for your kind words.
@@anoushkas8726Did she ever mention anything about personality?she just said they'll get ego boose because they bagged a person above their league and we all know no way she is talking about personality or money it's just looks
@@anoushkas8726 "If they are lower your standard, it will give them an ego boost, and you'll be treated as shit by someone who's not even in your league". Wow! When did relationships become a competition, where you are establishing a hierarchy that I'm above in leagues wrt this person, and lower wrt this. And how did she arrive at "you'll be treated as shit", just how? On what basis, which research.
It's so funny how people become "relationship guru" based on the very few limited experiences they've personally had. Maybe she should read a few things before getting into all of this.
@@anoushkas8726 If she's using a term that's widely used for a different purpose, the onus is on her to clarify. If someone says, "I beat my kids every week", would you not assume anything? If he/she means "beating" as in defeating them at a game or some challenge maybe, then the onus is on him/her to clarify. She literally said "out of your league" for a relationship advise. Think of compatibility, mutual respect, etc, have you ever heard someone say that phrase for such things. If you think we shouldn't assume anything whatsoever, then we just cannot analyze any argument. You'll have to make certain general assumptions to move forward, especially when she didn't clarify the term.
@@anoushkas8726 And just one last thing, you mentioned that standard for some could be "compatibility". So if I say, we're not compatible, I mean one of us is below the standard of other? No way, I just mean, we're not compatible!! It's not even a correct sentence to say "He is below my standard in compatibility". It's totally possible that she is being misunderstood, but it's because of her own choice of words, that's the point. And many young people watching her might misunderstand and buy the wrong message too if they consider her trustworthy or reliable.
Hi Shwetabh. I'm AnaI. I'm a fan of you since 2020. you've completely changed my mindset and life. thank you so much for the work you do for us ❤
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Uhh...Pardon?
@@Outlawyermusic HE IS A PORN CATEGORY!!!!
@@Outlawyermusic 😂😂
To whoever thinking she is not talking about looks,she said "it will give him ego boost that he grabbed someone out of his league",that explains what she is referring to
Bhai looks ke alawa bhi out of league cheezein hoti hain jaise ki status aur principles
Uss bandi ne looks mention hi nhi kara kabhi
@@jongsaenguwu1808no girl especially mentions looks cause acc to global women community looks doesn’t matter.
“Out of League “ means Majority Times Looks & Minority times Status .
Principles & Personality are part of standards you keep but no one brags about their partners Principles & Personality they only brag about their partners Status & Looks .
@@shizs8956 dude idk i have seen often times women breaking up with their bfs cause they were red flags or cheated on them etc. Never heard someone break up cause of looks. They just dont date people who dont fit their beauty standards.
That being said what exactly is so wrong about having beauty standards. Women put in a lot of effort to look a certain way so expecting the same isnt so bad.
@@jongsaenguwu1808 tbh in this generation I'm just scared of women I'll never know what she is thinking I'm. Happy alone
@@Undisputed_Massive10 good for you then. In this gen we just dont know who would turn out to be bad, men or women. Its just men with bad women go through heartbreak while women with bad men can end up mutilated and dead.
Brother let me tell you one thing about shwetabh's preaching. I used to think shit about my relationship with my girl. After watching his videos about relationship my perspective about relationship changed alot and mere dimag jo kida tha flush kiya meine. And now i got married after 8 years of relationship. Thanks for that my big brother. Love and respect. ❤❤❤
Can you mention those videos names please?
I had a gf since school days. I broke up with her in 2022 bcz i felt the relation was too toxic and there were other things going on in my mind like career stress. Was pursuing ca at that time and failed some attempts. Now after 2 years we recently came back in contact. She used to talk to me like we were in a relationship. Past memories etc. Only thing left was saying i love you. So i again developed feelings for her. But now she says she wants marriage and kids by 30. I am not yet settled in my career. Left CA recently and started looking for a job. And also she says she cannot trust me since i left her. I said i will marry her only just give me some time. But she says she doesn't want to. And she is looking for a man. We both are 27. Never dated anybody except her. Don't know how to forget her. Right now we r not in talking terms since we had a fight regarding this.
Focus on your career first...if she really loves you she'll understand you and will stay...
In what stage you left CA? FInal or Inter? and Why?
Leaving CA was your biggest mistake
@@manishhhh_71 inter and was stuck for 5 years. I am 27. Am planning to do acca or cpa in long term now. But first looking for a job. I was frustrated and aur pressure handle nahi ho raha tha so i decided to quit.
Bhai phle to tumne hi use choor diya tb nhi socha ki wo kese bhoolegi tumhe or ab wo time nhi de rhi , ya to bhai sorry bol do agr tumhe shi lgti hai wo tumhare liye to otherwise na mane to bhai apna focus karo jo bhi tumhare kaam hai uspr or is channel pr waise bhi bhot se videos hai agr tum bhoolna hi chahte ho to.
Work done today
Woke up 4am
Read bhagvat geeta
Read the rudest book ever
6am to 6pm heat physics
1hour break in between
7-10 biology (yet to be done)
1:58 after watching her
My mind be like - koi aapse pyar kyu krega 😂😂
Akeli maregi yeh
Arrey Same bhai 😂😂😂😂
Khud toh "chuse hue aam 🥭🥭" ke league mein bhi nahi aati hai 😂aur out of my league ki Baat kar rahi Yeh influencer 😂😂
I don't disagree at all with your points. But as far as I can understand from a women's perspective, maybe she's talking about how a guy treats a woman sets the standard. And probably she's asking to not compromise and settle for someone who doesn't care about their partner emotionally. Maybe for once we can consider that maybe she was talking about emotional compatibility
Wrong she is clearly talking about looks and money. Watch the video again
tbh, she gave vague statement which sounds more egoistic than helpful.
@@shaktimishra9710 I am unable to find. Please let me know at which time stamp?
@@rachanadavid2184 Watch video again with open mind and open eyes.
@@rachanadavid2184 let me explain you . When you say on your level or out of your league. It generally decided money and looks
This woman is not a 🚩... She is a 🚨...
Run away from her... 😂😂😂
this girl is the definition of who not be around with, wheather as a friend or a partner......noone should take her seriously.....just one high paying brand deal is enough to change her entire narative
Today's Task Completion:
- 4 hours of study (1 hour remaining)
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Wow👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Baki ek ghanta padh liye?
11 seconds ago is crazy
Bhai gali nhi de
Gali ki baat kaha si ayi @@FaizanOffical-1
Don't abuse bro
Kya iska mtlb ?
Gaali nahi deni chahiye bandu
I have had friends who said that they just want to get married for all the functions and the jewellery and dressing. I think she might be warning girls not to get carried away by those ideas. And also not to think about getting married soon as all your friends are getting married.
He has some really insightful perspectives on things. Just that he speaks so fast that I have to watch it at 0.85x to properly grasp his ideas.
Bhai apki English kamzor hai kya😅 mai toh 2x pe dekhta hoon sab samjh aata hai...plss meri kisi baat ka bura mat manna 🥺 love you bro ☺️☺️☺️👏
Ye 'standard' standard BS mein bhi bhut time se sunn raha tha mera bhi dimaag kharab karta the word itself and i wanted you to give ur view on this, glad u did, thankyou
bhai BS nhi BIS hota hai, Bureau of Indian Standards
@@nashtrashcool idhar bs ka mtlb kuch aur h jo likhne par yt comment delete krdeta but basically bull-crap.
@@nobsguykeepitreal ik bhai par ye Bis bhi idhar sahi beth rha tha😝
@@nashtrashcool bakwas kyun kar raha hai bkl
10:38 shwetabh couldn't control mocking her accent :D :D :D
I’ll tell you what standard means according to that girl
It means having lots of money, looking decent, should spend money on your high lifestyle
What standard should mean is,
you should be devoted to long term relationships,
The only person who deserves your body,(sex) should be your forever person,
Who is your forever person? Someone who you pick based on empathy, nature loyal, trustworthy, who care and value her/him, no cheating, fakeness and low or no body count, Ask your gut, whether he’s right person for you, Whether his/her words matches his/her actions..
You should never pick a person because you’re bored, or because of peer pressure, or because of fetish, money, 6ft tall etc etc, these are worst reasons for picking someone
Respect your body, if you sleep around, you’re not valuing your body, and if you don’t value yourself, no one will respect you, your conscience won’t respect you, and you will be treated like garbage, no one’s gonna offer you long term commitment
You should also have wisdom to listen to which influencers, if you take advice from people such as that girl, you will get bitter and destroy ur life..
I just want to thank you Shwetabh bcoz you totally changed my thinking and made me strong. You are just An INSPIRATION ❤.
bro this dating game is literally like rocket science for men honestly ! kaafi kam log ise figure out kar paate hai and ladkiya naturally deceptive nature ki hoti hai
LOL its been a month and i watch at least 1 video of Shwetab per day and to be honest what i feel like watching him has made my argument presenting and debating on logical facts better than they were and he has sparkled up the flame inside me of giving our perspective on anything which i believe is baseless or illogical yet appraised. and it has become like my habit that whenever i watch his video he pauses and gives his opinion and then i pause and give my opinion 🗿 and one of the best things about his videos are the people with high critical thinking skills helll yeaah i just love the people in comments too
NTA- national testing agency ❌
NTA - national trauma agency ✅
what did they do now?
This is old now. Just stfu
Ab kya hogaya?
Hehe😂😂
Bhai is sab moh maaya se aage aa chuka hoon ab 😚😚😚😚
To the women here thinking she not mentioned looks:
No girl especially mentions looks cause acc to global women community looks doesn’t matter.
& don’t want to be cancelled/ called out
“Out of League “ means Majority Times Looks & Minority times Status .
Principles & Personality are part of standards you keep but no one brags about their partners Principles & Personality they only brag about their partners Status & Looks .
A suggestion can you also go through comment section as well so we can get a idea how people is taking the advice. Just a suggestion ❤. Thanks for making such a good videos
Selecting a partner should be based on their emotional intelligence and how they choose to show up in the relationship. It’s about their willingness to make things work and their happiness with the idea of being together. It’s not about social leagues or status; it’s about the kind of person they are and the connection you share.”
9/10 tasks done for today.
Wow, great analysis. Good for both girls and guys. #mustwatch
U r doing mentor's work in everyone's life awesome job, brother ❤
I want to share a real story just to support what you said in the video. I dated a guy 4 years back, he was good looking, good salary, passed out from an IIT. And for me it was a match made in heaven. After 1 year of dating, Slowly things started turning sour. He was emotionally manipulative, distant and subjected me to mental and emotional abuse. And I never could make sense of it. A well educated, cultured, employed man was making me feel shit about myself. Now its been 2 years since the end of that relationship. And I had to work a lot on myself. And I can attest to it that the qualities you want in a person as a life partner is kindness, emotional maturity and respect. And you have to give yourself that first to prioritize that in another person. And I wish that influencers stop making such suggestions which can really ruin lives of young girls.
This was a very very amazing video ❤
I think the standard she is talking about is about the boy's personality. Girls under desperation to enter a relationship starts settling for bare minimum or even less, for eg i liked a guy a while back abd had a crush on him but he did not use to talk to me the entire day, iust used to reply after late night , whenever i was telling them about my day he used to interrupt me or say jokingly that he doesn't care about it. Used to talk down about my looks maybe because he was insecure about his, or he was a asshole only idk, glad i didn't settle that time and didn't let my desperate let me stuck in a toxic relationship .
Acharya Prashant ko sun lo behen toxic relationship mein nai fasogi ❤
no girl especially mentions looks cause acc to global women community looks doesn’t matter.
“Out of League “ means Majority Times Looks & Minority times Status .
Principles & Personality are part of standards you keep but no one brags about their partners Principles & Personality they only brag about their partners Status & Looks .
she literally gave a vague stetement, and most of the audience take shit, idc keep eating shi
He was your crush what a stupid concept for fall in love 😂😂😂😂😂
@@shaunakkadam3877 you don't know what people do in desperation
Following you since 2021 by your "how to move on from breakup" video ,to till now and day by day you're giving me lessons like seeing things in different perspectives, critical thinking, motivations , you know it's a lot for me .
Thank you Shwetabh ❤️, for being here and improving my thoughts day by day .
Jiban mei King kong ban ke hi raunga 💪🦍
People here are not even married, most of them are commenting 😂 because, the married ones are busy in their life, most of us here are either Gen Z and few percent of Millennials, and those who are professional they also don't have time to think about these things.
Shwetabh is good in giving perspective but, considering situation of India and most middle-class people's mindset, it is not what actually he is teaching to us, we all have our own problems, expectations, desires and also a man is always going to be provider in every family, in some cases both genders are working, and in some cases only female is working, but the point is the stress is mostly on the provider and whether you marry or not this thing is relentless and we have to do it, and I personally think that marriage is good as long as both person are trying to improve each other and wants to have normal life, without any external influences, but money is the ultimate factor and everyday you need it so decide what you want to do first, and also belief systems are other hindrance in India for not allowing to fail, and expect to perform well in life.
I had a question in mind for you Swetabh but I forgot after watching this insta video.
Gonna connect next video.
😂😂
If you treat your spouse like a king/queen, they might treat you like a subject. Better to treat them like a spouse.
I am dating a man who is not that attractive by looks but bruh his sanskar>>>> his love for me>>>>> 🧿🧿 I am so so proud of him, my friends judge him n I don't care
Your friends judge him but you are still sticking with those friends instead of breaking that friendship say lot about u + it’s also tells how much u respect that guy.
@shivendraSingh-us4ez naah bruh friend ship is over
@shivendraSingh-us4ez aisa 2 frn grp me ho chuka hai ek friend circle ne aag lagayi vaha se hat gayi second time durse ko laga I deserve better to ab baat he band kardi
@@light.feminineyes, at last only sanskar matters, how he/she respect you matters.
Looks, money are temporary.☺️☺
And ask your friends a question what if he is good looking, rich but don't respect you?
Insulting you infront of anyone.️
@SIRJUSTSIR-p8g Exactly lekin vo log kuch bolte nhi hai na he looks dete hai but I know internally kon kya soch Rahi hai, ek baar koi kuch bolke to dekhe
99.99% duniya mein dimaag nahi hota. Toh har kissi ki baat mat suno. Critically question karo sabki baaton ko. Aur ache mentors dhoondo.
These kind of people start traingulation it's a very toxic behaviour which we suffer in our whole life
The perspectives bhai giving in videos just change the how i see things before and now .
I Think by 30 Year's she Means The Lifestyle of Relationships nowadays; divorces cheating and dynamics rapidly changing
5:30 😂
So true!
@@Catwoman2379 😂
Meri coaching me ek ladki hai jisse meri baat hoti thi mujhe thodi bohot acchi lagi vo phir mujhe pata chala ki ye ladki ka bf hai lekin vo shaadi nhi karna chahta because of parents and she is sad then she started saying i dont want to talk to boys etc etc i said ok then one day i just ask her about syllabus and she said i am not comfortable in talking face to face i said ok from that day we didn't talk and one day i saw she removed my contact no. I found it weird very very weird
Edit - 18 saal ki hai aur shaadi ki baat ho rahi
Don't get involved in the person having messed up life.
Just a piece of advice 😅 rest is your choice
all things you said are completely valid but you should've also addressed her perspective which even applies to men.
one being the looks - i don't think most men will settle with someone they find unattractive. Most men will never lower their standards that low(depends on the men though)
- in general i think it's completely okay to have standards and not wanting to go too low.
even for me, my personality and the way i look at stuff and world - there are a lot of things i will never lower my standards for. too many sub/below standard people nowadays.
your whole channel is about self improvement, but there are people who are on the opposite end, should i lower my standards for them too??
I would like to thank u Shwetabh bhaiya Earlier i used say lot of cuss words(galli) but i started realising its not that good and am using it just to demean my friends and giving my ego a sort of boost and also realised that my freinds are not quite geniune as they just feared i will mock them so they are with me but from past 2 months i have reduced it so much and people around me also noticed it and they appreciate it its going good ur philosophical perspectives are really good and helping many of us....
Meanwhile if you listen to 2020, he himself has been using so many cuss words lol.
@@beinghiteshjha yes bro but he changed ☺️☺️.....btw 18+ wali videos mein abhi bhi de deta hai😂😂
@@pranavsingh4718 😂
I, for now, don't know how to think of someone as a right person, what i mean is that on what basis can someone be perfectly right for me, or me being right for that other person as well, maybe it's because i think a lot, but all this league concept just seems utter bullshit to me. If i like someone, and they don't feel the same, there is nothing i can do, i cannot force myself on other, and especially when i can tell when someone is pretending and just trying to act good because they have an ulterior motive, things gets a lot harder to actually like someone.
What a huge load of crap this girl is talking about ? Girls please don't listen to such girls. Class and Standards are not set by looks and money, it depends on what kind of heart you have. Don't lose your character for class. Please. You can lose a lifetime of happiness with this advice.
Don't play basketball ever in your life.
Where did she mention looks. Give timestamp
@@swatisaini6447money or looks, it's the same thing
It is implied@@swatisaini6447
@@swatisaini6447 1st she talked about standard so it was unclear but later when she said out of league . it was obvious thaT She is talking about looks and money. no one says she is uncompatible with me so i am out of her league but they do say my looks are out of her league
Guys don't lower your standards means do not settle for a guy just because he's good.be honest with yourself and the guy so that you could avoid wasting each other's time and find your suitable partner who could match your vibe, understand your emotions, support you in hard time and the most important thing love you the way you want to be loved. Period!!
She herself will never be happily married 😂😂😂
If you let them talk long enough, eventually they'll tell on themselves.
-----------------> remember - Beauty is illusion of time ⏳
I understand the gone girl movie more and more everyday.
She's literally projecting her past relationship so chances are she made this reel primarily to shame her ex, but some naive women might not realise that and take her advice seriously. An eco chamber of projection she is creating.
The thing about these videos is that they get the engagement these creators want. More engagement = more money and growth. She knew people would be pissed by it that's a problem with social media I feel.
This month from 1st October I tried to strictly follow my study routine, not very successful so far till now i've only been studied 12 days from, other people here motivated me to get on track again so from today on i'll be monitoring my routine no matter how hard it goes. Btw 10 Dec is my exam day.
DAY 1/48 till my exam.
Best of luck, brother
5:58 that's a very strong point!!!
Well standard mein money loook,eq, personality sab hi aajata h generally? why do u think that her point is toward looks! I think it's totally depend on the person ki aap video ko kis way me lerhe ho what I get that many people do get married out of fomo!
P.s - not her fan just sharing my thoughts!
The best creator with most rational thoughts and points and actually a guide for a younger generation who is needed to be educated (me including the more the knowledge the less it feels) ...love your videos shwetabh bhaiya ❤
Shwetabh bhai... I am your subscriber from your early days, and i cant tell you how much i adore you as a big brother.... please always remain like that and never let anyone or anything change you, i never watch these cringe people ever but come to see your perspective on such idiots.
I am a banker and earning well from all means, but i want you to make videos for indian youth directly focused on money making. May god bless you always ❤
Actually I am struggling with the idea of letting go of a past friendship. I feel nostalgic lonely ,frustrated and self doubt
Also I wrote this today
I feel like I want to meet you. I want to know where we are, what we're doing, and discuss everything. Basically, I want to spend 30 minutes of quality time, just like we did on the bus that day when I read you that beautiful poem I wrote about you. We haven't met after school in the past 2 years, so maybe a lot has happened in our lives and we really don't want to share everything. Actually, I want to, but you don't because your thoughts, opinions, and perspectives are completely opposite and I don't really know how to express my feelings and what to talk about because it's become difficult to even talk to you now. I feel like I have more things to say and you don't, but a lot has happened in the past 2 years and we've changed. I always decide that I won't talk to you, but I can't control feeling and I can't forget your name.
If you really don't wanna keep that friendship then you'll forget about it in time just make sure in your mind (think about it deeply) why you are ending it.
But if you think you should keep this person in your life in some nice and easy way then..
Send it to them if you think they'll like it. Only reason to not share it is if you are sure they will react negatively towards it. Your words seems okay here, still you can remove any negative thing you think you have written here in some way and replace it with some more poetic words. ❤
Attack Mode: 6/6 Tasks Done. 16/20 Points Today. I have 74 points this week as of today.
Then: Ssas bahu ki bakwaas❌
Now : Internet pe bachodi✅🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱
Ngl saas bahu ki bakwas was better
You are eye opener.. Only u can save this generation 🥹🥹🥹💜 big brother ✨
A woman is often viewed as a sex object, while a man is seen as a success object. As women age, their perceived value tends to decrease. In contrast, if a man continues to work on his skills, his value may increase with age. By the age of 30, a man's value can surpass the average value of a woman. Thus, while women may set high standards, they cannot demand the same level of value at 30 as they had at 20. This reflects a simple principle of supply and demand. In fact, a man's value may indeed rise over time.
In short: leave her alone with her high standards..
That is assuming environmental, medicinal, genetic, psychiatric, and physiological factors remain unchanged.
Life is rarely how one imagines in a linear simple theory, that is why entire several subjects have spawned from understanding behavior, and multitudes of points of view.
Also, things aren't a binary. Humans work on multiple factors -- money, success, beauty are dominant, sure. But in behavior and in research on dating behavior, they have found altruism, compassion, kindness to be very important needs of people too, amongst many other things.
My point is, it isn't that simple. But sure reads amazing on paper and feeds the ego pretty nicely.
@@GangstaPerspectives The fact of the matter is that most dating advice isn't worth the paper that it's printed on. Much of it can sound good and plausible, but that is often because it's separated in the moment of consumption from the realities of the sexual marketplace it describes-how people would like dating to be or how people believe dating should be. The reality, of course, is neither; it is what it is, and the more people can move in the direction of accepting that reality, as painful and difficult as it might be, the more success they will eventually have in their relationships. In my opinion, even the best of the most popular dating advice only ever gets it half right, and there's actually a very simple reason why this is the case. The fundamental principle in the game of mating and dating is that everyone is attempting to get and keep their perceived best option. If this is true, then the perception of value, the best option, is at the heart of all human relationships. This means that relationships always have two components: perception, which is psychological, and value, which is economic. The most popular dating advice tends to fail because it approaches dating as if it's either one or the other-that is, either it's all psychological and so relationship problems can be solved entirely by psychological means, or it's all economic and so relationship problems can be solved entirely by economic means. In reality, relationships are both, and any model that focuses on one without the other is doomed to failure.
By far, the overwhelming majority of dating advice fails because it focuses exclusively on the psychological and completely avoids the economic. This advice fundamentally assumes that all relationship issues can either be addressed intrapsychic ally-that is, within the minds of the individuals in question-or interpersonally, that is, within the dynamic of the couple in question. You'll recognize this immediately when I give you some examples. Dating advice that focuses on intrapsychic components holds out the promise that the main thing standing between most people and the relationships they want is their unhealed emotional wounding from childhood, their inability to love themselves, their lack of awareness into the dynamics of their family of origin, their lingering trauma from previous relationships, their tendency to self-sabotage, their low self-worth that leads them to accept less than they deserve, or a lack of appreciation for their attachment styles, etc. Like I could go on and on. This perspective is a symptom of the therapy craze, which believes that most or even all problems can be solved by therapy, introspection, and self-awareness. They can't. This perspective has some validity, but it has become narcissistic in its overextension. It may be difficult to hear, but a person could be the most psychologically stable, emotionally intelligent, securely attached individual on the planet, and if he or she is unattractive, it will be difficult for that person to get and keep a relationship. Men don't think, "Damn, look at the size of that woman's assertiveness; oh, got to get a piece of that." And women don't date men because they are emotionally available. These are not the attributes that the other side rewards in the sexual marketplace. Don't kill the messenger. Believing that this shouldn't be the case is pointless; it is what it is.
What's more, a lot of this dating advice focuses on the interpersonal dimension-the dynamic that exists between the individuals in question. This perspective holds out the promise that the main thing standing between most people and the relationships they want is their inability to communicate, their unwillingness to compromise, their lack of appreciation for the other's love language, their resistance to emotional vulnerability, their poor boundaries, or their reluctance to argue, etc. I could go on and on. This perspective is flawed because it intellectually isolates the couple from the larger context in which it is embedded. This perspective has some validity, but it ignores the fact that relationships do not occur in a vacuum. Rather, they always exist, even if you are married, even if you are soulmates, in the context of the overarching sexual marketplace. It may be difficult to hear, but a person could be the most empathic communicator, the most conscientious partner, and the most deferential lover, and if a better option exists, it will be difficult for this person to get and keep a relationship. If you cannot beat out your intersexual competition, it's less likely that you will be selected for a relationship, and it's less likely that you will retain any relationship for which you were selected. Believing that this shouldn't be the case is pointless; it is what it is.
Now, the other side of this problem is dating advice that exclusively focuses on the economic and ignores the psychological. This is definitely a smaller proportion of the circulating advice, but it exists, nonetheless. You'll recognize this immediately when I give you some examples. Dating advice that focuses on economic components holds out the promise that the main thing standing between most people and the relationship they want is their body mass index, their fashion sense, their bank accounts, their game, their social status, their height, or their curves, etc. I could go on and on. This perspective fails because it assumes that everything about relationships depends not only on sexual marketplace value but on SMV in its most standardized and impersonal sense-namely, normalized sexual marketplace value. It doesn't, though. To be honest, it does matter more than we would collectively like to admit. SMV is not the whole story, but it is absolutely the case that more attractive people are more frequently selected for relationships, negotiate more favorable terms for themselves in those relationships, and retain their relationships more successfully against their intersexual competition. Relationships are easier if you are attractive, and everyone can be more attractive than they currently are, so this component is ignored and vilified at people's own risk. That said, relationships absolutely don't turn on the fulcrum of attractiveness. A rich, handsome, arrogant man and a beautiful, sexy, entitled woman are both very difficult to date. All the benefits they provide might be completely nullified by their toxic personalities and sociopathic tendencies. However, for better or for worse, people will still try to date them, and people will still try to make it work with them, and they will try longer and harder to make it work with them before they give up. Why? Because they are attractive. Believing that this shouldn't be the case is pointless; it is what it is.
Of course, the best dating advice should include both perspectives. The ideal is to be a good and attractive partner. However, this is very difficult and extremely expensive; most people can't do both. So, what happens is that people selectively emphasize the component in which they are stronger and denigrate the component in which they are weaker. Basically, good people think they shouldn't have to be attractive attractiveness is superficial and materialistic; goodness is all that should matter. Attractive people think they shouldn't have to be good goodness is impractical and naive; attractiveness is all that should matter. If you want to be optimally successful in the sexual marketplace in the long run, you need to be both. However, if you absolutely had to prioritize one component over the other, you should err on the side of being attractive. If you have more of what more people most want, you will be awash in relationships of all kinds, and people will compete for the privilege of your company. It is what it is.
andrew tate se copy kiya hai.
😂 that's some 2 year old analogy.
Statistically old, single, childless women are among the happiest group of ppl. They live longer than married women while the opposite is true for men.
Your market value in jobs increases with experience irrespective of gender. Unmarried women with no children have much higher chances of career success than married women with children as they have more time And less responsibility. And as women get older, marriage becomes a less attractive option since they get the habit of relaxed life. That's why divorced women are less likely to date again as compared to divorced men who almost always start looking for someone else after divorce or death of wife
With age the need for a man also decreases because sxual drive also decreases.
@@vp-lv6yk Yes, single, unmarried, and childless women are so happy that the majority of them are on antidepressant medications, seeking a therapist weekly, and suffering from loneliness. But whenever someone asks them for research purposes whether they are happy, they are going to self-report yes, and stupid and illiterate people like you are going to believe it.
Not even once she used the words money, looks but "Standard" and "League" which can be for emotional and intellectual intelligence but this man interpreted it to suit his narrative.He only wanted to look cool by bashing her, but whatever he is saying is pretty useless in context of her video.
Bhaiya, one video on emotional intelligence and how to practice it
needed
Okay I heard your entire pov and honestly I've seen this reel before on my insta and I personally don't think she's saying anything wrong maybe your interpretation is negative cuz when did she ever mention that "having standards" equals to having looks and money? You just assumed and molded her words into what you consider to be problematic she's just advising women to not make rushed decisions due to peer pressure and hold up her values to wait for the right person to walk in instead of just settling for someone way lesser that what she might deserve cuz it'll only leave her with disappointments and regret specially when it comes to marriage it's a relationship meant to be kept sacred for a lifetime you can't just go for a person you don't even think fits your standards. Now talking about standards everyone has their own versions for example for me my standards for a life partner would be "ambitious", "caring", "family oriented ", "feminist", "calm" and "loyal" similarly for someone else the standard might be "outgoing", "assertive" and "romantic" now I don't mean to say that any of the mentioned lists is wrong it's just the qualities that we prioritize that our partners must have these are some qualities we as different individuals feel are necessary for our partners to have to be able to live a life of harmony now in this case as well I'm not saying it'll be all chocolates and roses cuz nobody is perfect they'd have some parts that might not be that positive but what's important is that their good traits that are important to us even it out. Now coming to the topic of dating below your league advice the way I took it was that if a woman knows she's a good person that she's kind, compassionate, strong and nurturing she's a fully capable individual who deserves to be valued and respected by her romantic partner and she starts to date someone in a rush without knowing their personality due to peer pressure and then that man turns out to be a cheater/ player then no matter how good looking that guy is he's dating a gem and that woman is wayy out of his league and visa versa. So basically she never mentioned money or looks she just advised us to not make rash decisions because of peer pressure or because of our society's pressure but rather make a sure and informed decision before selecting a partner so that in the end they can build a healthy relationship with each other based on mutual liking that turns into love.
Wannabe west girl😂
She already lost when she said it's an advice from a "big sis" to "younger sis" , so yeah she is a type of big sis who doesn't care about younger brothers 💀
Clear case of Misandry
Can't be purely on the basis of looks. We are talking about marriage here!
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I don't think she was talking about looks or physical appearance while talking about lowering ur standards. If u were not sure what she was talking about then what makes u think that she is talking about looks exclusively. It's clearly visible that she is not talking about physical appearance exclusively. And you make most of the points around this look thing. I don't think this is a fair thing to do. Maybe it's time to check ur prejudices and perception towards certain people.
I am a girl and I think what the girl’s saying, is perfectly correct! I think Shwetabh understood it on a whole different tangent.
Then what about "the boy will get an ego boost". Are you telling me it's not about looks? And how did you reach your conclusion?
Attack mode ❤
15 min meditation
2 hr physical geography
2hr revision economics part 2
1 HR pyq session done ...
I see a lot of people sharing their day schedule, so here is mine as a 23 year old working in cybersecurity,
Woke up at 8.40 and started job at 9 (i work from home)
9-5 job
5-6 rest (video games, i started elden rings today and its good so far)
6-7.30 studied for a certificate
7.30-10 food and friends and workout
10-12 talked to family on phone and watched an episode of better call Saul
@@rajvirsangha6430 which job you are doing?
What's your Twitter account... Would be nice if I could get to know your way how you entered cybersecurity
Bro just wanted to know do you live in india I hear people saying about more than 8 hrs working in india
@saibharath1236 8 hours is very common, if it is unconventional jobs, it could be around 9-12 hours too.
@@Bully7490 what does unconventional job mean
i dont think outta your league is look based, like i had this guy who acted like he liked me, both of us are in a financially struggling phase (so no money talks) infact i have more knowledge about the field of education and situation we r in rn, i am very career focused and not to make it about me or nth to be proud about but i am not someone who acts like yk "hard to get" doesnt think a lot b4 speaking, i try to be friendly and kind and want to act approachable, THIS GUY has the audacity to flirt with me and later when i think okay lets see where it goes, he says he had a gf all along, wowwww, and not just him i have met 3 guys like that, they just act flirty and get all the information about yk transfer, opportunities etc etc, and then they show their real colors, now I just know who to talk less to, but again this people pleaser wouldn't understand for shit
She never even mentioned the word "LOOKS". Why is it so difficult for guys to accept that girls have some standards too just like guys. Do guys just date any girl???
Lol
She is giving wierd and vague advice. She clearly intends to talk about looks just cancel culture se bachne ke liye she didn't mention the word "looks". Its ok to like good looking men/women but she is wierdly making it the entire thing shadi is not a competition. People go monogamous to be at peace and find comfort in each other. I know people quarrel too. once you age, you will loose your beauty no 6-pack abs will remain, no hourglass figure.
She lives in a different world than us.
No hate to you stranger. Just don't let any influencer's advice sit between your ears, most of them just say anything with a smile and confidence.
some girl not to be rude but the most illogical and horrible standards are from girls only and Shwetabh isn't talking about standards he just quoted that not everything is based on looks and materials he isn't hating he is just saying that you don't compare your partner to you in terms of looks and standards just to feel yourself good and shame them for that do you date a guy who is only attractive and popular for his looks and fashion and don't think about anyone else?? don't you look for maturity understanding emotional intelligence humbleness etc? and first of all why do you think that he is only talking about girls? he said that it applies to both the genders girl you gotta realise that not everything is centered around you no one cares about your standards if you're just rude and egoistical in the first place
and if standards is the case then guys should also date women who is very attractive gorgeous cause apperently they are the one providing and protecting her or girls should only date guys who are rich and attractive ?? maybe you didn't got properly of video watch it again and realise what he is saying
that's what she meant and that's exactly what her viewers perceive to feed their insecurities.
I think she come to this point because of her attitude the other person loses interest in her and doesn't treat her the same so she think it was because she lowered her standards to get into the relationship. She doesn't analysis her own toxic behaviour.