It Takes A Village!

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  • @isabella322pluspizza
    @isabella322pluspizza หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Okay I have a lot to say but probably don’t want to put it all in a TH-cam comment lol. I’ve followed you for probably like 10 years (or maybe even longer) and love a lot of your content but politically we are so different lol. I think it’s amazing that you are able to live close to your parents and that your kids will get to grow up having a close relationship with your parents and vice versa. I had a similar experience growing up and I am forever grateful that I got to know my paternal grandparents in the way that I did. But that is not an option for everyone. There’s all sorts of reasons why that is either not possible or not the best choice for people and their children. I challenge you to think about how it might feel for someone to watch this video and hear you say that some people who go no contact with their family shouldn’t have done that and your argument that it would be more healing and beneficial for them to continue to have a relationship with them….people who have gone no contact with their families do so for a reason and I kind of feel like it doesn’t matter if some of us personally wouldn’t end that kind of relationship. I also think that people need to recognize that abuse isn’t just physical or sexual it can also be emotional abuse and that can cause a great deal of trauma. Why would someone want their children to experience that from their grandparents?
    Also yes I of course agree that it takes a village but there are so many reasons why it may not be family. And something I’m curious about is I feel like you argue about the government supporting freedoms that you personally would like, such as medical freedom, but then you say tax shouldn’t be a thing essentially and I just feel like if you were someone whose life literally depending on these things you would feel differently. I feel like if you are going to bring the church into this you should be thinking about the greater good of everyone in this country and not just your own family. There is just a lot of complexity when we think about others who are in different situations than we are and we think about how to make sure these people get the support they need. Anyway, I mean no disrespect at all just passionate about how I feel, as I know you are too

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hey!🙋🏻‍♀️ a couple things…1. I thought I mentioned a couple times in the video that everyone’s life is different and they shouldn’t take something a stranger on the internet says to them personally…? everyone’s gotta do what they have to do and of COURSE if something is seriously unhealthy then you have to handle it….& cutting people out is sometimes the smartest move…I literally just basically recommended that to a friend the other day…there’s a book I recommend btw called “Boundaries”…I’m simply speaking to a trend that Ive noticed….and that is people cutting family out IMO way too frequently without being willing to work through the conflict and/or set healthy boundaries…I think it’s honestly pushed in our media AND the government 🤷🏻‍♀️ For example…I used to do some work for a place called the dream center in LA and they had multiple experiences where social workers would essentially say they could financially support someone through a government program if the family legally divorced…but not if they stayed together…random, but I’ve seen lots of things like that.
      2. It’s not me “just” thinking about my own family…I have been involved in charity work for a large part of my adult life and that’s part of my point…I think taxation is theft and I don’t think the government does a very good job at “redistribution” of wealth or running programs…I think that should be left to the private sector…people have different worldviews though 🤷🏻‍♀️🙏🏻 also, I’m missing your point about medical freedom vs taxation…?
      That being said, I know you don’t mean disrespect….thanks for your thoughts! 🙏🏻🫶🏻

    • @isabella322pluspizza
      @isabella322pluspizza หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@NikkiPhillippi definitely can see what you mean with people not being willing to work through conflict/set healthy boundaries, because I’m sure there are examples of that, but I also think that choosing to go no contact is often a very difficult decision for one to make so if someone chose to do that, they likely put more thought into it than you are giving them credit for. I’m referencing specifically parent-child relationships, not marriages. That is interesting you had that experience with the dream center because I am not sure the specific reasoning they had for people only receiving support if they get divorced, I’d be curious to learn more about…..but if we are on the topic of marriages and divorce I think that sometimes christians think that people should stay together despite there being domestic violence. I’m not saying all Christians have that belief, but I just don’t always think that is beneficial to stay together just because you got married…
      And yes, I think I’ve heard you talk about charities you have been involved in, I think that is great and certainly making a difference but my question here is are you expecting that charities are going to eradicate poverty and other issues in this country? There are so many people in this country who would be seriously harmed if they didn’t have government programs. I know you were saying that you think the government is trying to take over the role of the church and my question for you with that is what happens to the people that don’t go to church or are religious? Are they just screwed and do they not deserve help and assistance? People who don’t belong to church are just as worthy of community and deserve to have places where they can access it. Do you not think places like libraries should exist?
      Regarding medical freedom, I think in my initial post I was trying to cover too much that I didn’t elaborate on it lol, but I think my point was just that you reference having fundamental rights like medical freedom but what about freedom of religion? It feels like because one of those rights personally benefits you and the other doesn’t (unless I heard you incorrectly in the video I believe you said that the church should take on the role the government is? And I think this goes against freedom of religion because what about agnostic and atheists? Are they just not allowed to exist or have resources?)
      I find it super interesting how people who are super conservative come to have the point of view that they do and like that we can debate about it. Anyway thanks for reading! lol

  • @OHbabe574
    @OHbabe574 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I grew up around grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins…..and my life was better for it. Even if it’s not a “ proven fact” it was a wonderful way to grow up, surrounded by all the people who loved me….learning about ancestors from Poland and France. I believe we need this. I’m a grandma to 5 and see them ALL the time, sleepovers almost every weekend, vacations away from mom and dad. We have different rules at our house which is a good teaching. I’m retiring in 5 months and I’m so excited to spend more time with them. I also speak or see my daughter every day. I love them all so much this just seems natural to me. Love you Nikki and all that you believe in. Keep true to God and follow his path and don’t let anyone change that 🙏🏻❤️

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is so sweet 🥹 thank you for sharing this! I’m excited for you, your retirement and your family! And thank you for the encouragement as well 🙏🏻🫶🏻

  • @christinaanders6939
    @christinaanders6939 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Totally agree! We also live in front of my parents and about 5 minutes from my in laws. I am so thankful for them and so glad they are there to help raise our kids.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That’s incredible 🥹🙏🏻

  • @dunebuggie
    @dunebuggie หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I am a liberal. I am for social freedom. I would prefer the Government spent less on the military for instance. I also believe in separation of church and State. I think a generational family is a fine idea. It is probably not for everyone.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I don’t think it’s for everyone…..but I think it’s something that is purposefully undersold or even made difficult now adays…

  • @MadisonHopperCleaning
    @MadisonHopperCleaning หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I totally agree with this! My in-laws play a big role in my kid’s lives. They bring another kind of love into my kid’s lives. Another form of stability. My dad pays for them to have music lessons. Something that we wouldn’t be able to afford for all of our kids. He helps me out if I need someone to watch them in a pinch. He’s always there to be supportive in any way he can. My mom unfortunately struggled with mental health her whole life and was never able to fully be there for me. However, there was a time I would go to her house (when I was a single mom with my oldest) and we would have dinner once a week. It was a special time that I will always remember.
    Life is tough. Relationships are tough. But they’re worth fighting for. Especially for your kids.

  • @Mrs_Mendoza
    @Mrs_Mendoza หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You’re so blessed to be able to have great involved parents. I think a lot of people need to hear your words. 🙏🏽

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I FEEL very blessed 🥹 thank you for this 🙏🏻🫶🏻

  • @PollyWannaCracker21
    @PollyWannaCracker21 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I always love hearing your thoughts on interesting concepts. I moved an hour away from my parents but my parents still see my kiddos once a month. We do live much closer to my husband’s side and it is nice to have closeness. It can just be hard sometimes when family members think differently and are not on the same page on many topics.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Totally. This makes sense. That being said, I’m so happy they’re on your kids lives! Like I said, I was lucky to see my grandparents once a year! What a gift you’re giving them:) also thank you for the compliment!

  • @lk40282
    @lk40282 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is important! My husband and I want to buy our own soon, but we want to make sure we get a house in our neighborhood so we can be near my parents who love and help take care of our son!

  • @Hannahsunshine-
    @Hannahsunshine- หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My dad asked me to have kids one week before he passed away suddenly at the age of 60. It's been hard to think I could have kids without them ever knowing him. I'm torn. 💔

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Hannahsunshine- I’m so sorry to hear this Hannah 🥺😔 I can understand that…one thing I will say that is wild about having kids is that I see BOTH of my parents in my children…it’s such a beautiful thing to see the genetics passed on…it’s also such a trip! 🥺🙏🏻🫶🏻

  • @comfortablespaces
    @comfortablespaces หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I completely agree! I have been begging my parents to move home since I started having kids. Life is so much easier when they’re around and my kids gain generational knowledge when they get to spend time with their grandparents!

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@comfortablespaces I hope that’s what God had for you! He knows ultimately what’s best for YOUR family 🙏🏻 it’s beautiful your kids already have a relationship with them tho! Also thank you for the comment 🫶🏻

  • @Pg-kx2gy
    @Pg-kx2gy หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love the idea of raising my son with a village. unfortunately we dont have that. We have grandparents 5 mins away and will only see and hear from my son if I put in the effort. I do make that effort but there is so much one can do when the other side isn’t making much of an effort. Its actually exhausting. My parents are busy working and busy with church that they arent around much either. both my sisters are working women with there own families and Although it’s something that I would love to have, I dont. Its easier for me to say that its doesnt take a village just so that I dont feel bad that it’s something I want but dont have.

  • @elizabeththornhill2302
    @elizabeththornhill2302 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Grandparenthood is the greatest blessing. Nothing compares.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🥹🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @normalopezingle7732
    @normalopezingle7732 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Agree I always lived within a 15 minute drive to my parents. Then due to my husbands job we had to move to NC, then Florida. My daughter got married and her husband is from Colorado so they moved there my son went into the Airforce. Man was I sad. We ended up moving to Colorado. lol Then my daughter tells me she feels like her daughter now 4 at the time was only 2 1/2 was missing out on family. So we sold our homes and came back to Michigan. Its the best decision we ever made. I just pray that she would get closer to God. I know she believes but (I know she will get there) I love my family and can't be without them. It has not been easy. BTW She too is going to homeschool. :)

  • @sophiar6996
    @sophiar6996 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You have a dog? WTF?!!!!!

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@sophiar6996 yup:) she’s about 12 years old

  • @kitkat3077
    @kitkat3077 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Also, how is the government bad when it comes to vaccines, education regulation, etc. - but at other times good when it comes to the constitution, for example? You can’t have it both ways.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Because in general I believe the constitution protects freedoms and the things you just listed restricts them and enforces choices that I think should be left up to the individual…like freedom of speech…the right to have guns…I’m not an expert at law or the constitution, I’m just sharing my thoughts 🙏🏻

    • @kitkat3077
      @kitkat3077 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@NikkiPhillippi you still have many individual freedoms, no one is trying to take that away. But you need to believe that they will be, in order to try and reinforce the status quo. In the end, many laws are in place for good reason - to try to protect people.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@kitkat3077 we’re clearly not following the same news/citizen journalists…also, different people obviously have different worldviews and morals…🤷🏻‍♀️🫶🏻

  • @migueljose3136
    @migueljose3136 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I enjoyed watching this video! I love that you're real and authentic! :)❤

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

  • @DuvAngel1
    @DuvAngel1 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    In righteousness of Christ perhaps, but that’s not always available. When my daughter was a teenager we were in the Twin Cities but we couldn’t find a church that didn’t have children her age that were messed up by the world. The adults were messed up as well and I was even called out of my own brothers church because it got corrupt by my own sister-in-law. The Lord sent me to other churches to find out that they were corrupt too, and pray for them. Basically the only message out there that should be heard is the one of repentance a huge huge repentance to those they sin against and then Prayer for intentional deliverance. The end times has encroach so greatly now and the nation is geologically unsafe… Apparently our only hope is in Jesus and that’s what we need to be talking about. Villages don’t raise children. Godly people do and we all need to, Pardon the pun pool together and pray and ask for God‘s mercy on this nation and on the Earth for salvation.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Villages look different for everyone! Like I
      Mentioned, family isn’t an option for all people either…I just also think that families have been purposefully torn apart and I wanted to put this thought out there…thanks for your thoughts. I’m sorry you have to deal with such chaos in the city amongst believers 🙏🏻

  • @DashandDougtheGoldens
    @DashandDougtheGoldens หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Wow! This conversational topic was well crafted and insightful
    I must buy the book you mentioned
    You’re an asset to this community
    Keep going!!!

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Oh wow! Thank you for this! As a creator you always struggle with doubting the value you are or aren’t bringing…so ya, thanks friend 🙏🏻🫶🏻

  • @arasren5695
    @arasren5695 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    It's weird when you say you were "cancelled" cause unfortunately you're still here. And that poor dog is gone. I thought religious people cared about all of gods living creatures

    • @sideeffect2
      @sideeffect2 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Dang girl go spend your excessive free time doing something good for your community..

    • @arasren5695
      @arasren5695 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      🤡

  • @natemarx4999
    @natemarx4999 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Nikki is such a gem 💎

  • @kaitlynbone7505
    @kaitlynbone7505 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey Nikki! I’ve watched you for like 12 years now. While i definitely agree with where you’re coming from, I strongly urge you to dig a little deeper to the no-contact issue. As someone whose spouse is no-contact with their family (my in-laws), you don’t seem to have a good understanding of the issue (and I don’t mean any rudeness by that, truly). I know you are obviously not no-contact with your parents or Dan’s, so you don’t have any experience with it. Please allow me to explain and hear this from a place of understanding, not defensiveness- the amount of pain a person has to go through to even consider going no-contact with family is unfathomable. Furthermore, the act of actually going no-contact is even more painful. No one would go no-contact for something “unserious”, as you claimed people go no-contact for things that aren’t that serious. While I’m so glad to watch your videos and hear your thoughts, I definitely think that aspect of this video needed some more research (and compassion) before blindly stating people just go no-contact like it’s nothing. I can promise you, it is not nothing. It was hard hearing such a judgemental attitude on this topic knowing you are usually such a kind person.
    I hope you can understand where I’m coming from and use my comment to learn and understand more ❤

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kaitlynbone7505 hey! I hope you can hear my heart when I say it was not meant as judgmental towards someone like you…I think you’re feeling pained by me talking about this topic because it IS painful and serious…but I mentioned probably 3 times in the video that I understood that there are actual legit reasons to go no contact with family members …I 100% understand that…BUT I stand by my sentiment that I also think that way too many people in this day and age cut relationships out and throw around the word “trauma” too lightly….I think it actually lessens the severity of the situation/word for people like your husbands family who have actually inflicted serious trauma…and where going no contact IS the healthiest thing to do….i try to give an appropriate amount of disclaimers in a video when discussing a topic, but unfortunately i think when a topic is so personal (like this one is to you) it’s easy to be hurt by words and miss the disclaimers…boundaries are incredibly important and they look different for everyone…im glad you and your husband have done what’s necessary to protect your hearts and family! Im so sorry for how painful it must’ve been making that decision…i pray things change on their end and restoration is one day able to happen…but if not, once again…good on you guys for doing what is right 🙏🏻🫶🏻

    • @kaitlynbone7505
      @kaitlynbone7505 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@NikkiPhillippi Thanks for your response, Nikki. While I didn’t miss your disclaimers, your comment helps me understand more what you were trying to say about folks choosing to cut off parents/family members. Now that you explain it that way, I do have a family member who cut me off over a simple social media issue, so I can understand more where you’re coming from now. I guess I have watched you for so long and DM’d back and forth a few times you feel like a friend so I felt more comfy commenting my thoughts, lol. Anyway, wish you a wonderful day and looking forward to the next video 💕

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kaitlynbone7505 I’m glad I was able to clarify….honestly I’m still figuring how to express my thoughts around deeper topics so it’s understandable if my points weren’t clear to you…but yes your social media example was definitely a perfect example..I’m sorry that happened to you btw 🥺
      That being said, thanks for watching all these years and thanks for sharing/expressing your thoughts! I hope YOU have a great weekend Kaitlyn and I’ll see you around the internet!🤗😘🫶🏻

    • @kaitlynbone7505
      @kaitlynbone7505 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@NikkiPhillippi 💕💕💕

  • @emy2127
    @emy2127 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love this Nikki, keep sharing.

  • @cucumber790
    @cucumber790 หลายเดือนก่อน

    airlines rock I don't agree with that at all lol

  • @WhitDough
    @WhitDough หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love this! This was very interesting. I’ve chatted about doing a family commune before I think it’s been hard to see because of unforgiveness in my heart and also some narcissistic family.
    Does anyone know of a good book about how to have a village or a rules for being apart of multigenerational living.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@WhitDough have you heard of the book boundaries? It doesn’t address this exactlyyyy but it’s a very good book….keep praying for wisdom and consider seeking help from a Christian counselor…my family is not “perfect”…no family is obviously…and everyone has to do what’s right for them…but I just felt like throwing these thoughts into the world because I feel like the family unit/ more specifically generational family living has been attacked….i hope the Lord covers you in peace as you navigate all of this 🙏🏻 also I’m glad you liked the video!🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

  • @SouthernMama
    @SouthernMama หลายเดือนก่อน

    Seeing billions of tax dollars go overseas while experiencing what my own state (NC) has this week due to Helene makes me sick. If I must pay taxes then my tax dollars should stay in my state/country.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@SouthernMama dude I’m so sorry for what you guys have gone through 😔 that being said, I 100% agree 🙏🏻🫶🏻

    • @Sarahtheterror-ns2qs
      @Sarahtheterror-ns2qs หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Government can’t stop a storm 🙄

  • @victorianess988
    @victorianess988 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    God she is wacky

  • @amjean5832
    @amjean5832 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey Nikki 👋 💞 I agree I live close to my mom and her and my son are very close, and it's so heartwarming that he gets to experience my mom the way I did :) I love that you're not afraid to share your thoughts about such sensitive topics. You're such an inspiration. I hope you and your family are well 🤗🤗🤗🤗

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@amjean5832 thank you Amber for the compliment! NGL I didn’t realize this topic was thatttt sensitive! I just felt the need to chime in! That being said, thanks:) also I’m so happy you and your son get to reap the rewards of being near your mom! It’s beautiful they’re so close!🥹🙏🏻🫶🏻

  • @kitkat3077
    @kitkat3077 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I love how Christians are always telling other people how to live. If their lives were really changed by “god” and they minded their own business, they might actually convert more believers, lol.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I don’t necessarily believe that because of John 15:18…also, how come other people are allowed to share their world views but when a Christian does it is often met with anger and hostility? I said multiple times in this video that people have different life situations and have to make the right decision for themselves and their families….

    • @kitkat3077
      @kitkat3077 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@NikkiPhillippi stop playing the victim, you can say that all you want, but the context of what you actually said speaks volumes.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kitkat3077 your comments speak volumes as well. You’ve spent a lot of time recently leaving very rude comments on my channel 😬

  • @Heydrayheyhey
    @Heydrayheyhey หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Girl your dropping views say it all.

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They’ve been dropping for years!

    • @NikkiPhillippi
      @NikkiPhillippi  หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Also why do you feel the need to be rude?

    • @Heydrayheyhey
      @Heydrayheyhey หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@bethquah hahaha no she is getting low views because people are tired of her bullshit. She should try self accountability and taking responsibility for the low quality of her video content instead of blaming the audience or youtube.

    • @megstarbright
      @megstarbright หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If being authentic drops views then I’m sure she’s fine with it, because she is able to speak from her heart. Stop watching her if you don’t like it but being rude doesn’t accomplish anything.

  • @sideeffect2
    @sideeffect2 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I couldn't agree more with everything you said in this video 😊