You are an amazing young woman and have accomplished so much and are continually evolving. In this video the change in you is evident and a joy to see. In sharing your story there is no doubt you have helped others. If you were my daughter my heart would be filled with pride.❤️
I totally understand everything you shared in this video. People with empathetic traits and personalities are more likely to attract abusers; I know because I'm one of them. We're called empaths, and narcissists are particularly drawn to empaths because they know we are deeply caring people who have a lot to offer. I'm recovering from a narcissistic abuse relationship and it's extremely difficult rebuilding my life and my spirit... But we have to do it. You're a strong woman and an overcomer. ♡
My sister got out of an narcissist abusive relationship. She has grown so much. Now she is reaching her 30s and feeling she is not seen as a person for marriage or family type (aka to hacce children with). She is living this very frustrating stage and sincerely it has caught me off guard and dont know how to help. Any insights are appreciated. Many things you have describes she passed through... you all befimr such strong women. You are brave and beautiful beings... You shine yourself out....
Omg I broke down and cried when u said anyone who been in one "I get it. I get it". I had to hide my relationship from everyone because I didnt want people to shame me anymore. I isolated myself. No one understands unless they go through it.
19:53 ...A lot of us don't feel good enough to be loved. But we both know you are! I hope that you find a guy that loves you the way you deserve to be.
As a clinical psychologist following your channel Zo, I've always had that sentence in my mind but now that you said it at 19:53 that's the highest moment of a successful therapeutic path. And I am super proud of you, you are an amazing woman. Only one thing I want to say is it true that in regard to that man this represents the last piece but not for your mum's situation. In the story with your mum, there is another essential piece, yes she was supposed to love you, yes she didn't instead, BUT THAT'S NOT YOUR FAULT! What she did is not because of who you are or how you looked like, that was her problem, something related to her, you did nothing wrong to deserve it, it happened for other reasons not connected at all with you. And yes, this pain and guilt one day brought you to diminish yourself and feel worthless and unlovable and to attract a man who abused you but don't let the guilt for your mum manipulate you now. She wasn't able to be a good loving caring mum, you were not a bad child. [Love you]
Gotta respect a girl that knows what she’s worth and isn’t afraid to go for what she wants. Just by taking this first step towards positivity and deciding to be who you are now, it’ll be a lot easier to stay consistent with that decision
How wonderful it is that you share these experiences of yours. Absolutely, you or anyone else does not deserve what you've gone through and, YES, you've gotten over these dark periods and turned over a new leaf now! If you are in Toronto, you can even organize some coffee or tea meetings with some of your fans and we'll share other experiences with you that will definitely strengthen your faith of a bright future that you rightly deserve!
Thank you for sharing your life I am a man that has been a abuser I am not proud of who I have been I am under a new level of thinking and interacting with people and Friends and families I hope and pray that I will be a blessing two people and family and real loved ones for what it is worth thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts I hope the best for you and yours
Wow, Zoey, so happy for you! Incredibly wise sharing from soul level! Through your self analysis I can truly see how amazing coach you will be in the future! Take care and much love!
Thank you Zoey for sharing! It was your mother's loss. You are the most lovable, caring, and compassionate person that deserves the best out of life. Love you Zoe!
Hi zoey, I've been following you maybe for 6 months, and this is my fisrt comment in your channel. ... I'm kind of surprised at 21:41 to hear "fuck this"... what a beautiful word, don't get me wrong. it's really funny. I can't stop laughing :D
This is so worth listening to and sharing. Even though I've never been in an abusive relationship, I can relate to this "not worthy enough" mentality you're talking about. Thank you, I really needed a story like this at this time in my life. As a matter of fact, I'm going to journal on it now :)
I just want to say that I love you ! Ever since I found you on TH-cam you have made a big impact in my life. So thank you !! I wish I can express how great you are . Thank you for sharing your journey and life with all of us . You are a strong person that many great things will come into your life . 🥰😘
Thank you for sharing your personal story. It’s been inspiring watching your journey unfold. I’m so happy that you came to an understanding of your challenges. Beautiful things will continue to come to you. Much love from 🇨🇦💖
Zoey ... I have been following you for a bit over a year now and you have no idea how much you've helped me. I get filled with so much love and hope when I watch videos like this, where you open up and share your experiences and growth and I am just so happy to see your changes and the life you've built for yourself. I really hope I can figure things out for myself too. I feel very similar, never good enough, unlovable and it's still so hard for me to connect all the dots even though I've been trying so hard over the past year. Sometimes we need to accept that healing takes time but the process can be really though... But I am hopeful, I will learn my lessons, things will get better.
BRAVA ZOEY! There's so much in this video that I really don't know how to find the words for a comment. Maybe I just need to let it rest and come back later. This resonates a lot with my life but it took me waaaaay longer to get to inner freedom and lightness. Anyway, I'm there now and I'm at the helm of my life, finally. I wish you good winds in your sailing, bella!
I'm so, so sorry that you had to go through this, Zo, but it's really wonderful and inspiring to see your positive attitude to this and that with that you've gained so much from it, despite everything. Love you 😘
Dear Zoey! Thank you for this beautiful transformation story! It took me a long time too to get my lessons from an abusive relationship. But after some years I realized that deep inside of me I believed that I deserved being treated like that. And from the breakdown-point my life began to change completely, so I am very grateful for the experience. I still have to struggle with self-compassion, sometimes I think that I need to be harder to myself and than everything will work out in my life. But life always shows me the opposite: the more relaxed I am, the more time I find for myself and my meditations - the more opportunities I get. Send you lots of love und hugs from Berlin!
So proud of you for opening up, I admire your courage in sharing your story. You truly are an inspiration Zoey ❤️and I know this video will help so many. I loved your book Beauty in the Breakdown, highly recommend to those who have yet to read it!
your story has shown me why something like yours happened to me, i have never had love from my father or mother and when i was in my 20's i was in a relationship like in your past, thank you for shining a light for me so that i could see it for my story, this touched me to the point of crying because of some things that are the same, my father was never around and my mother has always been emotionally abusive to me, for me it has been a long road of building up my self love and this is helping me on my path, thank you for being a light on my past to help my future more, blessings to you;
Thank you so much for sharing. Your journey has and continues to be inspiring. Believe it or not, your videos are what brought lightness and gave me the push I needed for self discovery. Sending lots of love your way! Xoxo
Hey, Zoey, really sorry you had to go through that. No one deserves to be in a abusive relationship. My mother taught me to respect women & never ever ever put your hands on them. Anyone who does that is a piece of crap. Love you 3000, Zoey
So so proud of you Zoey, and happy for you to be making such incredibly positive steps in your journey. I know you are still processing, and still finding yourself. Just know I love you unconditionally.
So brave to put your story out there Zoey! We are so proud of you, who you are, that you stay true to yourself, live with integrity and face all of life's challenges bravely and with a forgiving heart ❤️ Blessed Be 💜
It takes so much to tell a story that isn’t pretty without talking crap about the other person involved. I really admire that you’re grateful and wouldn’t change that experience because of the great things that came out of it. Your relationship with your mom reminds me of Kalyn Nicholson’s personal story. I admire you both and I hope one day you guys would do a collab. Thanks for sharing. I feel less alone hearing about your story and reading the all these wonderful comments of my fellow followers.
Thank you for sharing this, a lot of people cannot do what you have shared with us today. This video will help with our community, God bless u and many blessings
Wow Zoe - you are such an inspiration! Great work to process all this! You are a beautiful soul and now that you've gotten to the root of all this, I think you are going to go through an unbelievable season of life now with lots of happiness, joy and peace! Looking forward to seeing what's coming up for you now!
You are so brave Zoey ❤️The way that you dealt with and processed what happened to you is beyond admirable. You exude such a beautiful loving energy despite having felt those feelings of being unlovable or unworthy yourself, which I think shows how resilient you are. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, you're one of the strongest women I know. Sending you a big virtual hug 🥰💖
Sending so much love for you 💚🍀💕Your story will help so many who have the similar kind of experiences, like this video helped me realise a lot of new things about myself again. 🙏✨ I am so glad you got out of that relationship, it takes a lot of strength to get out of relationships like that. Beauty in the breakdown is one of my favorite books actually, should read it again 😊 it was empowering to read it.
The most important thing, is to learn from experiences good and bad. Realize your worth and that u are worth being valued. Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. Thank you for your honesty!👍
I think more than anything it's not that your mom didn't love you, but that she couldn't love you and there is a big difference. With a mental illness like post partum depression sometimes people are incapable of loving because the illness takes over. I watched your videos when I first started watching TH-cam and I was wondering what happened to you. Then I saw your video on minimalism and decided to Google you. I am so sorry to hear about what happened, but glad to hear that you are doing much better. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there.
Honestly Zoey, I don’t know if I’ve EVER watched such an amazing video!!! This video should be required watching for not only all young women, but men as well. It is stunning, wise, brave, articulate, honest, spiritual and breathtakingly beautiful. Zoey, there is SO much of value here to consider, but I just want to 100% congratulate you for the power and beauty of your journey and agree 100% that you are done with any kind of abuse, or exploitation. You’re too aware now for that, and so there is no need for repetition of lessons learned. I think SO much of you, and love you dearly. Zoey, ALL open, sensitive, loving, caring people who have a deeply spiritual life goal, go through some kind of crisis like you went through. It’s to strengthen you, empower you, deepen you, open you, hone your ability to live by trust, and with gratitude in your gorgeous heart :)
You are wonderful. You are loved. Always. Sending you huge hug from Rio de Janeiro. Thank you for sharing this. It was very supportive for me as I've been in the same road
I am a recovering codependent since 2000 and don't be surprised if you are not through this yet. I could write my own book and I have even thought about it. It is not that easy to get through and to get to the other side as one thinks. You will think you learned your lessons and you can use all the affirmations in the world, it's just not that easy. God bless and I will be looking forward to following your story.
Thank you Zoey, for sharing this video with us. As I watched it, I started to analize my life experiences, so far, and why I acted the way I did. I am so glad i found your channel. Sending you lots of friendly hugs and positive thoughts!
what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. it's sad that you had to experience all that but you've managed to get through and came out stronger and wiser. You will succeed in life and a lot of people will be inspired by you (that includes me). Keep charging, Zoey! =)
Sweet lady, i am so glad to hear of your healing. I hope as you continue your journey you come to understand, yes, you never deserved to be treated in an unloving way by your mum. Also consider, she may have been incapable of loving anyone due to tremendous unlove of her self. You were not what caused her actions, you were only the one closest to it at a very vulnerable time in your development. I wish you continued peace, harmony and beauty... 😘
Very touching but also very helpful video. Thank you for sharing your story! That must have been really hard. I love your videos so much and you have been my inspiration for so many things that have really helped me a lot (e.g. law of attraction and self-love). Wishing you all the best and a very happy and joyful future! 💕
You have an incredible story. I'm so glad you came out on top of all of this. You're a strong person and I'm so happy you were able to let go of a difficult past
You are a truly remarkable woman who has endured horrific abuse from all sides inflicted by your humanized monster. He knew exactly to make you feel like you were insignificant and small with his cold-blooded words but anymore. You no longer belong in his confining definition of what sort of woman you should be. You deserve to be treated with sincere kindness and respect. You do have beautiful eyes which light up your whole face and an equally adorable smile to match. Your unique body is covered with faded scars to prove what you survived. You will be able to survive your lengthy and rewarding process, no matter what he tries to convince you otherwise. Honey, you must do this for your safety and sanity. You must sit down alone and write out every bad thing he has ever done to you. Don't leave anything out. Be extremely graphic and then write how it made you feel. Be one hundred percent honest with yourself. Take as much time and paper as you need. Once you're finished, you'll feel emotionally drained and exhausted but this is when you put away the papers. You must next block this new phone number your narc shark has used to contact you and delete and block him on everything you can possibly find. Email, phone numbers, and all that jazz. I know this will be extremely difficult but you must do this. Delete all photos and quotes that remind you of him. Don't give them a second chance before deleting them. Once you've done all of that, listen to some soothing music and allow yourself some time to cry. ❤ He does not deserve your time or energy. You deserve a one hundred percent better than what he has to offer in comparison. Forgiving a monster is easier said than done and nobody knows this more acutely than you do right now. You would rather crawl under a rock and cry rather than to face him again with those icily calculating eyes and his equally malicious words that make you feel less than a zero with flawless smoothness. You know how this monster will never see the error of his small cruelties and aggressive touches that will leave invisible scars on your heart and mind. You are the one who knows the truth behind that plastic mask he wears with pride to the world, his blind audience, ready to lap up any attention he may give. And now to forgive him for all the horrors you have endured at his hands. You may wonder what I may think of you forgiving this monster disguised as a man. I personally believe you should forgive yourself for what has happened. I do not suggest placing the entirety of the blame and responsibility upon your shoulders. All of those cruelties he deliberately inflicted upon you shows more about his atrocious nature than what it did about your beautiful heart. You will need to find time to fully and completely heal and that will take crying, screaming, hot baths, frustration, anger, and everything else in between. You are here in this amazing support group for a good reason. You are a beautiful survivor who has endured the most horrific of all relationships and yet you are still here. Enduring, surviving, healing, educating, and living!
Oh wow I could relate to you so much, I had a lot of issues with my I was in an abusive marriage, found courage to walk out of my marriage. I did so much healing on the issues with my mom and moved out to my comfort zone in different country staying roommates!. Still healing and figuring out the things!! Same like you I have wonderful and supportive father !
I wouldn't have said you were harboring that much pain stemming from the relationship with your biological mother, I'd have so much to say about the topic myself, just too much it's easier not to, I completely get the feeling. You're on the right path, keep pushing towards self-enhancement, have the courage to stare into the abyss of your own pain, demand kindness and compassion from others; the eyes that you possess tell me you're fond of and attached to life, life will be gentle with you Zoey!
Zoooooe❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I’m so proud of you baby and more than that super happy for you!!!! I can relate to what you’re saying, we didn’t deserve any of it. It’s beautiful to see and hear about your transformation! It takes time... for sure. Giving you a big big hug and I am sooooo excited to see who you will attract in a loving worthy of you relationship going forward 💗💗💗😍😍😍😘
I’m so happy that this wall has been breached and you’ve finally put the last puzzle piece in as to why something of this nature happened. I know the feeling and have been there myself ❤️. And I love that I heard you say fuck for the first time to this situation 😂😂. There may be times when you have a momentary unsteadiness or triggering phase because going through such events is traumatic, and that is ok! Just nurture yourself and talk yourself through it, you’ve already reached such an important point of realization. ❤️ much love to you Zoey. The universe sometimes takes us into troubled waters, not to drown us but to cleanse us ❤️
Hey Zoey! I like to test out how I feel in relation to others when I go to the dance club. I know it might not a be a great place to meet people I really connect with but I like dancing! I've found that when I embody obsession with a guy, I feel like panicky and my awareness is tunnel visioned. I enjoy dancing the most with people that make me feel natural, free, experimental, secure and calm. Overall, I resonate most with feeling light yet calm in life and want to put myself in situations that make me feel like that. So I'm trying to be more aware of this in meeting people in other situations too. :)
Wow! That was such an amazing and powerful video! I am so grateful for your courage in putting it out there! You have just put such a gift into the world! 🙏🤘
Thank you for being so open and candid. This is a very inspirational video...I'm so happy that you were able to find the root cause of your suffering and rid yourself of it! It's incredibly inspiring! Also, I find one thing about all of this very fascinating. I watched your videos from Costa Rica and one thing that struck me about your experience there was when you shared you had received a message to leave Italy and return to Toronto. I was really puzzled by this at the time but as I was watching this video it made perfect sense! Even though you experienced tremendous healing in CR, the final piece of healing needed to happen in Toronto with your coach. It's almost as if the medicine or your higher self directed you to where you needed to go to complete the healing. What do you think? In any case, I've found these videos very inspirational and thanks for sharing!
The exact same thing happen to me by my covert narcissist sister! As soon as i found out she was mentally broken, i cut her out and healed from my anxiety. Sounds like your abusive partner was a narcissist to me :( so glad you found strength from the suffering :)
Wow Zoey, incredible. You brought tears to my eyes! And you saying "f*ck" haha! I have also attracted the wrong people, for similar reasons. You've done amazingly well!!!
❤️ If I were your mom I'd be proud to have a daughter like you....as I am proud of my two sons. I'm sure of one thing, one day you will be a very wonderful mother! 😘. Happy you are finally in a good place and this video will be of help to so many others watching it. Thank you for sharing Zoey xoxo
I'm sorry to hear Zoey. You deserve better. I went through an extremely difficult situation too. I have an antidote for that : The island of Ischia in Italy ! I am going in August/September. 🌞🌞🌞
you are impressive .... doesn't mean much from me, but that's because you learned self confidence. your video will teach a lot people going you something like this. I started watching your video because you are very cute , but I watched the whole thing because of what you are saying. you learned a valuable "lesson" I am also jealous of all the places you have been especially Italy. You go girl.
I’m very glad you overcame this struggle 😍also I wanted to recommend the book to you “ Why you get sick, How you get well, the healing power of feelings “ by Dr. Arthur Janov. It explains a lot about how we inherit behaviour from our parents, and how they did from theirs and so on, so in defence to your mother, she probably was unloved herself, and didn’t know this and inadvertently did the same thing. It’s very interesting theory. All the best to you, love your channel 😍🇨🇦
"..... I found the root of all the darkness - and I got it out!!"...., (Tremendous statement, and...your Canadian accent makes it sexy!!....... Well done!!..... 👍 😍.)
Can you forgive your mom too? You are precious and don't have to prove it to anybody. God loves you so much and he is so proud and happy too about you .
If you haven’t already started reading, I’d recommend reading Influence: The psychology of persuasion by Robert Cialdini to be able to further understand your undesirable choices in the past and be able to stop yourself from making those choices again in the future
You´re an inspiring person. So strong and brave. No much people are able to share personal things, especially things like that. Thanks for all your videos and many things that you teach us. You are so cute but I am sure that your mind is more attractive than your body. That makes you more interesting. Thank you and go further.
You are so beautiful, young and an amazing woman, if I could I would to provide the best relationship to you =) But seriously, I'm so proud of you and your courage to open your heart! God bless you!
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You are an amazing young woman and have accomplished so much and are continually evolving. In this video the change in you is evident and a joy to see. In sharing your story there is no doubt you have helped others. If you were my daughter my heart would be filled with pride.❤️
I totally understand everything you shared in this video. People with empathetic traits and personalities are more likely to attract abusers; I know because I'm one of them. We're called empaths, and narcissists are particularly drawn to empaths because they know we are deeply caring people who have a lot to offer. I'm recovering from a narcissistic abuse relationship and it's extremely difficult rebuilding my life and my spirit... But we have to do it. You're a strong woman and an overcomer. ♡
So proud how strong and brave you have come. Love you and continue to inspire others xx
My sister got out of an narcissist abusive relationship. She has grown so much. Now she is reaching her 30s and feeling she is not seen as a person for marriage or family type (aka to hacce children with). She is living this very frustrating stage and sincerely it has caught me off guard and dont know how to help. Any insights are appreciated. Many things you have describes she passed through... you all befimr such strong women. You are brave and beautiful beings... You shine yourself out....
Omg I broke down and cried when u said anyone who been in one "I get it. I get it". I had to hide my relationship from everyone because I didnt want people to shame me anymore. I isolated myself. No one understands unless they go through it.
Sending you so much love 🙏🏼❤️
19:53 ...A lot of us don't feel good enough to be loved. But we both know you are! I hope that you find a guy that loves you the way you deserve to be.
As a clinical psychologist following your channel Zo, I've always had that sentence in my mind but now that you said it at 19:53 that's the highest moment of a successful therapeutic path. And I am super proud of you, you are an amazing woman. Only one thing I want to say is it true that in regard to that man this represents the last piece but not for your mum's situation. In the story with your mum, there is another essential piece, yes she was supposed to love you, yes she didn't instead, BUT THAT'S NOT YOUR FAULT! What she did is not because of who you are or how you looked like, that was her problem, something related to her, you did nothing wrong to deserve it, it happened for other reasons not connected at all with you. And yes, this pain and guilt one day brought you to diminish yourself and feel worthless and unlovable and to attract a man who abused you but don't let the guilt for your mum manipulate you now. She wasn't able to be a good loving caring mum, you were not a bad child. [Love you]
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Gotta respect a girl that knows what she’s worth and isn’t afraid to go for what she wants. Just by taking this first step towards positivity and deciding to be who you are now, it’ll be a lot easier to stay consistent with that decision
Thank you so much for your openness and vulnerability this was beautifully said and expressed. I’m sending love and prayers for your healing process
How wonderful it is that you share these experiences of yours. Absolutely, you or anyone else does not deserve what you've gone through and, YES, you've gotten over these dark periods and turned over a new leaf now! If you are in Toronto, you can even organize some coffee or tea meetings with some of your fans and we'll share other experiences with you that will definitely strengthen your faith of a bright future that you rightly deserve!
Thank you for sharing your life I am a man that has been a abuser I am not proud of who I have been I am under a new level of thinking and interacting with people and Friends and families I hope and pray that I will be a blessing two people and family and real loved ones for what it is worth thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts I hope the best for you and yours
Wow, Zoey, so happy for you! Incredibly wise sharing from soul level! Through your self analysis I can truly see how amazing coach you will be in the future! Take care and much love!
You are strong. Thank you for sharing. You are an inspiration to others who may be facing abuse
Thank you Zoey for sharing! It was your mother's loss. You are the most lovable, caring, and compassionate person that deserves the best out of life. Love you Zoe!
Hi zoey, I've been following you maybe for 6 months, and this is my fisrt comment in your channel. ... I'm kind of surprised at 21:41 to hear "fuck this"... what a beautiful word, don't get me wrong. it's really funny. I can't stop laughing :D
The power of the mind never ceases to amaze me. I'm glad you are able to realize how far you have come, Zoey. You should be very proud.
This is so worth listening to and sharing. Even though I've never been in an abusive relationship, I can relate to this "not worthy enough" mentality you're talking about. Thank you, I really needed a story like this at this time in my life. As a matter of fact, I'm going to journal on it now :)
I just want to say that I love you ! Ever since I found you on TH-cam you have made a big impact in my life. So thank you !! I wish I can express how great you are . Thank you for sharing your journey and life with all of us . You are a strong person that many great things will come into your life . 🥰😘
Thank you for sharing your personal story. It’s been inspiring watching your journey unfold. I’m so happy that you came to an understanding of your challenges. Beautiful things will continue to come to you. Much love from 🇨🇦💖
Zoey ... I have been following you for a bit over a year now and you have no idea how much you've helped me. I get filled with so much love and hope when I watch videos like this, where you open up and share your experiences and growth and I am just so happy to see your changes and the life you've built for yourself. I really hope I can figure things out for myself too. I feel very similar, never good enough, unlovable and it's still so hard for me to connect all the dots even though I've been trying so hard over the past year. Sometimes we need to accept that healing takes time but the process can be really though... But I am hopeful, I will learn my lessons, things will get better.
BRAVA ZOEY! There's so much in this video that I really don't know how to find the words for a comment. Maybe I just need to let it rest and come back later. This resonates a lot with my life but it took me waaaaay longer to get to inner freedom and lightness. Anyway, I'm there now and I'm at the helm of my life, finally. I wish you good winds in your sailing, bella!
I'm so, so sorry that you had to go through this, Zo, but it's really wonderful and inspiring to see your positive attitude to this and that with that you've gained so much from it, despite everything. Love you 😘
I am healing myself by educating myself especially about early childhood trauma, trusting more in myself and the universe, and parenting myself
A lot of respect to you for your openness and transparency.
Dear Zoey! Thank you for this beautiful transformation story! It took me a long time too to get my lessons from an abusive relationship. But after some years I realized that deep inside of me I believed that I deserved being treated like that. And from the breakdown-point my life began to change completely, so I am very grateful for the experience. I still have to struggle with self-compassion, sometimes I think that I need to be harder to myself and than everything will work out in my life. But life always shows me the opposite: the more relaxed I am, the more time I find for myself and my meditations - the more opportunities I get. Send you lots of love und hugs from Berlin!
One can clearly see the pain behind your smile in this video.More power to you, girl
So proud of you for opening up, I admire your courage in sharing your story. You truly are an inspiration Zoey ❤️and I know this video will help so many. I loved your book Beauty in the Breakdown, highly recommend to those who have yet to read it!
You are the most lovable, caring, and compassionate person that deserves the best out of life!
your story has shown me why something like yours happened to me, i have never had love from my father or mother and when i was in my 20's i was in a relationship like in your past, thank you for shining a light for me so that i could see it for my story, this touched me to the point of crying because of some things that are the same, my father was never around and my mother has always been emotionally abusive to me, for me it has been a long road of building up my self love and this is helping me on my path, thank you for being a light on my past to help my future more, blessings to you;
Thank you so much for sharing. Your journey has and continues to be inspiring. Believe it or not, your videos are what brought lightness and gave me the push I needed for self discovery. Sending lots of love your way! Xoxo
I never thought you’d been thru such a rough time! You are such a happy and beautiful person. Such an inspirational video❤️
Hey, Zoey, really sorry you had to go through that. No one deserves to be in a abusive relationship. My mother taught me to respect women & never ever ever put your hands on them. Anyone who does that is a piece of crap. Love you 3000, Zoey
So so proud of you Zoey, and happy for you to be making such incredibly positive steps in your journey. I know you are still processing, and still finding yourself. Just know I love you unconditionally.
So brave to put your story out there Zoey! We are so proud of you, who you are, that you stay true to yourself, live with integrity and face all of life's challenges bravely and with a forgiving heart ❤️ Blessed Be 💜
It takes so much to tell a story that isn’t pretty without talking crap about the other person involved. I really admire that you’re grateful and wouldn’t change that experience because of the great things that came out of it.
Your relationship with your mom reminds me of Kalyn Nicholson’s personal story. I admire you both and I hope one day you guys would do a collab.
Thanks for sharing. I feel less alone hearing about your story and reading the all these wonderful comments of my fellow followers.
Thank you for sharing this, a lot of people cannot do what you have shared with us today. This video will help with our community, God bless u and many blessings
Thank you Malcom ❤️
Wow Zoe - you are such an inspiration! Great work to process all this! You are a beautiful soul and now that you've gotten to the root of all this, I think you are going to go through an unbelievable season of life now with lots of happiness, joy and peace! Looking forward to seeing what's coming up for you now!
Pure honesty shining... So rare to find a video like this on TH-cam. Sorry for you.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. 🥰✨💕💙💜
You are so brave Zoey ❤️The way that you dealt with and processed what happened to you is beyond admirable. You exude such a beautiful loving energy despite having felt those feelings of being unlovable or unworthy yourself, which I think shows how resilient you are. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, you're one of the strongest women I know. Sending you a big virtual hug 🥰💖
Sending so much love for you 💚🍀💕Your story will help so many who have the similar kind of experiences, like this video helped me realise a lot of new things about myself again. 🙏✨ I am so glad you got out of that relationship, it takes a lot of strength to get out of relationships like that.
Beauty in the breakdown is one of my favorite books actually, should read it again 😊 it was empowering to read it.
You've always been brave, Zoey. Sending love and positive energy to your way
The most important thing, is to learn from experiences good and bad. Realize your worth and that u are worth being valued. Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. Thank you for your honesty!👍
I think more than anything it's not that your mom didn't love you, but that she couldn't love you and there is a big difference. With a mental illness like post partum depression sometimes people are incapable of loving because the illness takes over. I watched your videos when I first started watching TH-cam and I was wondering what happened to you. Then I saw your video on minimalism and decided to Google you. I am so sorry to hear about what happened, but glad to hear that you are doing much better. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there.
Honestly Zoey, I don’t know if I’ve EVER watched such an amazing video!!!
This video should be required watching for not only all young women, but men as well. It is stunning, wise, brave, articulate, honest, spiritual and breathtakingly beautiful.
Zoey, there is SO much of value here to consider, but I just want to 100% congratulate you for the power and beauty of your journey and agree 100% that you are done with any kind of abuse, or exploitation. You’re too aware now for that, and so there is no need for repetition of lessons learned.
I think SO much of you, and love you dearly.
Zoey, ALL open, sensitive, loving, caring people who have a deeply spiritual life goal, go through some kind of crisis like you went through. It’s to strengthen you, empower you, deepen you, open you, hone your ability to live by trust, and with gratitude in your gorgeous heart :)
You are wonderful. You are loved. Always. Sending you huge hug from Rio de Janeiro. Thank you for sharing this. It was very supportive for me as I've been in the same road
Thank you so much Zoey for sharing this!! You have come so far and it gives hope and courage for me to walk my own path to healing.
I am a recovering codependent since 2000 and don't be surprised if you are not through this yet. I could write my own book and I have even thought about it. It is not that easy to get through and to get to the other side as one thinks. You will think you learned your lessons and you can use all the affirmations in the world, it's just not that easy. God bless and I will be looking forward to following your story.
Thank you Zoey, for sharing this video with us. As I watched it, I started to analize my life experiences, so far, and why I acted the way I did. I am so glad i found your channel. Sending you lots of friendly hugs and positive thoughts!
Amazing! Thank you so much for sharing! Will you be writing a follow up to beauty and the break down now that you have had this revelation?
I love you, Zoey Arielle. You’re an inspiration! Proud of You!
I love you too sweetheart ❤️🙏🏼 thank you
what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. it's sad that you had to experience all that but you've managed to get through and came out stronger and wiser. You will succeed in life and a lot of people will be inspired by you (that includes me). Keep charging, Zoey! =)
❤️❤️ thank you for sharing such a powerful story and thank you for being such an inspirational woman .
Love you 😘
Sweet lady, i am so glad to hear of your healing. I hope as you continue your journey you come to understand, yes, you never deserved to be treated in an unloving way by your mum. Also consider, she may have been incapable of loving anyone due to tremendous unlove of her self. You were not what caused her actions, you were only the one closest to it at a very vulnerable time in your development. I wish you continued peace, harmony and beauty... 😘
Very touching but also very helpful video. Thank you for sharing your story! That must have been really hard. I love your videos so much and you have been my inspiration for so many things that have really helped me a lot (e.g. law of attraction and self-love). Wishing you all the best and a very happy and joyful future! 💕
Wow Zoey, wow
Thank you for sharing this with us!
You have an incredible story. I'm so glad you came out on top of all of this. You're a strong person and I'm so happy you were able to let go of a difficult past
I'm so proud of you! You deserve only the best because you are an amazing person. God bless you!
So proud of you. You’ve come so far. You are and always will be beautiful inside and out. Love you to the moon.
This is awesome!! More people need to be talking about this!!
You are a truly remarkable woman who has endured horrific abuse from all sides inflicted by your humanized monster. He knew exactly to make you feel like you were insignificant and small with his cold-blooded words but anymore. You no longer belong in his confining definition of what sort of woman you should be. You deserve to be treated with sincere kindness and respect. You do have beautiful eyes which light up your whole face and an equally adorable smile to match. Your unique body is covered with faded scars to prove what you survived. You will be able to survive your lengthy and rewarding process, no matter what he tries to convince you otherwise. Honey, you must do this for your safety and sanity. You must sit down alone and write out every bad thing he has ever done to you. Don't leave anything out. Be extremely graphic and then write how it made you feel. Be one hundred percent honest with yourself. Take as much time and paper as you need. Once you're finished, you'll feel emotionally drained and exhausted but this is when you put away the papers. You must next block this new phone number your narc shark has used to contact you and delete and block him on everything you can possibly find. Email, phone numbers, and all that jazz. I know this will be extremely difficult but you must do this. Delete all photos and quotes that remind you of him. Don't give them a second chance before deleting them. Once you've done all of that, listen to some soothing music and allow yourself some time to cry. ❤ He does not deserve your time or energy. You deserve a one hundred percent better than what he has to offer in comparison. Forgiving a monster is easier said than done and nobody knows this more acutely than you do right now. You would rather crawl under a rock and cry rather than to face him again with those icily calculating eyes and his equally malicious words that make you feel less than a zero with flawless smoothness. You know how this monster will never see the error of his small cruelties and aggressive touches that will leave invisible scars on your heart and mind. You are the one who knows the truth behind that plastic mask he wears with pride to the world, his blind audience, ready to lap up any attention he may give. And now to forgive him for all the horrors you have endured at his hands. You may wonder what I may think of you forgiving this monster disguised as a man. I personally believe you should forgive yourself for what has happened. I do not suggest placing the entirety of the blame and responsibility upon your shoulders. All of those cruelties he deliberately inflicted upon you shows more about his atrocious nature than what it did about your beautiful heart. You will need to find time to fully and completely heal and that will take crying, screaming, hot baths, frustration, anger, and everything else in between. You are here in this amazing support group for a good reason. You are a beautiful survivor who has endured the most horrific of all relationships and yet you are still here. Enduring, surviving, healing, educating, and living!
Oh wow I could relate to you so much, I had a lot of issues with my I was in an abusive marriage, found courage to walk out of my marriage. I did so much healing on the issues with my mom and moved out to my comfort zone in different country staying roommates!. Still healing and figuring out the things!! Same like you I have wonderful and supportive father !
I wouldn't have said you were harboring that much pain stemming from the relationship with your biological mother, I'd have so much to say about the topic myself, just too much it's easier not to, I completely get the feeling. You're on the right path, keep pushing towards self-enhancement, have the courage to stare into the abyss of your own pain, demand kindness and compassion from others; the eyes that you possess tell me you're fond of and attached to life, life will be gentle with you Zoey!
I’ve always felt unloveable but i have no idea why! Thank you for the inspiration to try and look deeper 💕
Zoooooe❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I’m so proud of you baby and more than that super happy for you!!!! I can relate to what you’re saying,
we didn’t deserve any of it. It’s beautiful to see and hear about your transformation! It takes time... for sure.
Giving you a big big hug and I am sooooo excited to see who you will attract in a loving worthy of you relationship going forward 💗💗💗😍😍😍😘
Been through something very similar. You are not alone ❤️
I’m so happy that this wall has been breached and you’ve finally put the last puzzle piece in as to why something of this nature happened. I know the feeling and have been there myself ❤️. And I love that I heard you say fuck for the first time to this situation 😂😂.
There may be times when you have a momentary unsteadiness or triggering phase because going through such events is traumatic, and that is ok! Just nurture yourself and talk yourself through it, you’ve already reached such an important point of realization. ❤️ much love to you Zoey. The universe sometimes takes us into troubled waters, not to drown us but to cleanse us ❤️
The parallels just baffle me. WILL REPLY SOOON AMOREEE!!!!!😍❤️❤️
Zoey girl
Hey Zoey! I like to test out how I feel in relation to others when I go to the dance club. I know it might not a be a great place to meet people I really connect with but I like dancing! I've found that when I embody obsession with a guy, I feel like panicky and my awareness is tunnel visioned. I enjoy dancing the most with people that make me feel natural, free, experimental, secure and calm. Overall, I resonate most with feeling light yet calm in life and want to put myself in situations that make me feel like that. So I'm trying to be more aware of this in meeting people in other situations too. :)
Wow! That was such an amazing and powerful video! I am so grateful for your courage in putting it out there! You have just put such a gift into the world! 🙏🤘
Thank you for being so open and candid. This is a very inspirational video...I'm so happy that you were able to find the root cause of your suffering and rid yourself of it! It's incredibly inspiring!
Also, I find one thing about all of this very fascinating. I watched your videos from Costa Rica and one thing that struck me about your experience there was when you shared you had received a message to leave Italy and return to Toronto. I was really puzzled by this at the time but as I was watching this video it made perfect sense! Even though you experienced tremendous healing in CR, the final piece of healing needed to happen in Toronto with your coach. It's almost as if the medicine or your higher self directed you to where you needed to go to complete the healing. What do you think? In any case, I've found these videos very inspirational and thanks for sharing!
So proud of you zoey be strong the life goes on all things must pass ily!!
Thank you for sharing your story, many of us are very proud of you for your growth. Maybe you will help someone else with your story ❤
Journalling is the best. I'm so glad it helped u. Hanging around with yourself that's right that's what it is
The exact same thing happen to me by my covert narcissist sister! As soon as i found out she was mentally broken, i cut her out and healed from my anxiety. Sounds like your abusive partner was a narcissist to me :( so glad you found strength from the suffering :)
Wow Zoey, incredible. You brought tears to my eyes! And you saying "f*ck" haha! I have also attracted the wrong people, for similar reasons. You've done amazingly well!!!
Love ya Zoey! You made me tear up cause I also have gone through what you have and still dealing with it.
❤️ If I were your mom I'd be proud to have a daughter like you....as I am proud of my two sons. I'm sure of one thing, one day you will be a very wonderful mother! 😘. Happy you are finally in a good place and this video will be of help to so many others watching it. Thank you for sharing Zoey xoxo
I always love your videos, you always inspire me. Keep posting videos.
I'm sorry to hear Zoey. You deserve better. I went through an extremely difficult situation too. I have an antidote for that : The island of Ischia in Italy ! I am going in August/September. 🌞🌞🌞
Big hugs 💝our sweet Zoey, sending positive vibes, and Joy 💕💞
Thank u Zoey so much!!
Thank you for sharing. I wish you all the best.
you are impressive .... doesn't mean much from me, but that's because you learned self confidence. your video will teach a lot people going you something like this. I started watching your video because you are very cute , but I watched the whole thing because of what you are saying. you learned a valuable "lesson" I am also jealous of all the places you have been especially Italy. You go girl.
I’m very glad you overcame this struggle 😍also I wanted to recommend the book to you “ Why you get sick, How you get well, the healing power of feelings “ by Dr. Arthur Janov. It explains a lot about how we inherit behaviour from our parents, and how they did from theirs and so on, so in defence to your mother, she probably was unloved herself, and didn’t know this and inadvertently did the same thing. It’s very interesting theory.
All the best to you, love your channel 😍🇨🇦
Zoey, I just don't know what to say. Love and grace to you. You Go Girl!!
Happy Valentines day our cherubims surround us you with awe and love always.
Thank you for sharing💝
I love you so much Zoey ❤️ you deserve the VERY BEST 💕
Powerful truth
You are really a great human that has a nice heart.
"..... I found the root of all the darkness - and I got it out!!"...., (Tremendous statement, and...your Canadian accent makes it sexy!!....... Well done!!..... 👍 😍.)
Can you forgive your mom too?
You are precious and don't have to prove it to anybody.
God loves you so much and he is so proud and happy too about you .
If you haven’t already started reading, I’d recommend reading Influence: The psychology of persuasion by Robert Cialdini to be able to further understand your undesirable choices in the past and be able to stop yourself from making those choices again in the future
You´re an inspiring person. So strong and brave. No much people are able to share personal things, especially things like that.
Thanks for all your videos and many things that you teach us. You are so cute but I am sure that your mind is more attractive than your body. That makes you more interesting.
Thank you and go further.
You are so beautiful, young and an amazing woman, if I could I would to provide the best relationship to you =) But seriously, I'm so proud of you and your courage to open your heart! God bless you!
zoey you break my heart down at the movement
I am in awe of you. I love you. I am inspired by you❤️