@@ezal8372 that's a little open ended...what about the percentage of men with no play AT ALL....what are they supposed to do as an alternative. The are going to wonder if they just pay for it from a professional or fly to the DR or what? remember there are a majority of lonely men in the world tell them their options are UNTILL they are able to attract a female.
@@lewtz it is but like you said the DR is an option or to work on yourself until your at a level where you get play main thing is not to chase in this day and age the game ain’t the same anymore
Worst part is,the "unattractive" man dont even have to be flirting. It could be as innocent as saying "good morning" or a polite smile in passing or simply existing in the same proximity. He's looked at as some type of creep.
@@ballershanelleYou are right. But it’s gotten to the point many men are afraid to even say good morning, because the wrong female may twist it into an imaginary interaction that could be reported to HR.
@morrisdavidmullings9833 Good chance you misunderstood what I was saying.. but yes,I'll say GM or speak to anyone. It's called common courtesy and having manners.
Bingo🎯it’s all subjective…hence each one teach one, a significant amount of men don’t bother🤷🏾♂️ Nobodies crashing out over emotional turbulence of a hi 👋🏾 in 2024
Why is it so hard to not use discernment? You should know when it’s an appropriate setting and if you’re not getting an open response then leave it alone. People acting like they don’t know what (sexual) harassment is is absolutely hilarious.
Very true!!! We asen need to be more disciplined and not so thirsty. This is why some women deem men "sassy" for falling back and allowing women to initiate.
She definitely NOT LYING. I Dont even Talk to Sista's at Work. Sista's be trying to get out of work and Get a Payday. Making a Brother the scapegoat. Get a Passport then a Wife then ignore Sista's. In that order!
I'm sorry I have to give this a HUGE 🙄 I have two sons and have always taught them that "no" means NO. Those two letters are a complete sentence. One of my sons is considered "attractive" not based on his looks alone, but because of his career as well. Years ago, he touched a female coworker (on her shoulder mind you) AFTER she said she wasn't interested, he was fired for harassment. He said to me, "Mom the minute she responded angrily, all I could hear was your voice in my mind and I knew I had messed up." My second son might be considered "not so attractive [to Black women]" but he has had a steady stream of white and Hispanic girlfriends (one is his soon to be fiancee). He has NEVER had a woman accuse him of any inappropriate behavior. Also, for years he had "unattractive" employment, but now he is in a "desirable" field. In addition, I have never heard of this being a thing. What I HAVE heard is that women say, "No you can't have my number," "I'm not interested," "I have a man," etc., and men get in their ego and can't take the rejection. How many "cute" and "desirable" men have gone to jail for forcing themselves on women? Those are the worst ones! Men need to be taught by their MOTHERS and FATHERS, not random women on the street or their girlfriends. SMH 🙄 This video is gaslighting women...
Too many voices on this issue and quite frankly some need to shut up and allow the laws of attraction to take place. Most make the situation worse because they oftentimes are broken spiritually giving advice to people when they need help themselves. This generation is 🤬 up.
What's up opinion seeker's , I have experience with being invited to approach young ladies and some of the guys that I come into contact with are experiencing the rejection side of most young ladies I know for a fact that some guys social skills are just totally not flattering and please don't let it be a young lady that doesn't know how to properly reject a man instead of him being accused of something else and all he wants was to see if it could be something he can help the the young lady with men chose the type of woman he wants to provide for it's just that the young lady feels offended because he's not up to her standards.
I decided to conduct an experiment as an Uber driver...when women enter my vehicle.. I am respectful and courteous.. but I don't give them the attention that they're used to... and I can see them squirm in the back because they're not getting what they normally get from other drivers.. it's interesting to see... they'll be in the back huffing and puffing..sighing... saying things, hoping I will join in and start entertaining them.. nah..I'm not your entertainment. Stfu..go on your phone or shove headphones in your ears and ignore the driver as the majority of you do as soon as you get in the car. Next week I'll be conducting the "wedding ring" experiment...women treat men who they think are married..differently that single men...I'll post my findings later.
How much personal experience do you have with women treating you that way. I’ve never had a woman say that or treat me in that way ever. Maybe y’all just give off creep vibes.
@@Haddonfield63or maybe you're in an echo chamber, has that thought never crossed your mind, or maybe you are extremely attractive so that situation would never happen to you to begin with. Has those scenarios ever crossed your mind of possibility of happening?
Tell the truth. If he is very unattractive, it's sexual harassment but if he is very attractive, it is flirting. That's it. Men you must understand this.
That doesn't even cover it. If you're attractive and you flirt, but don't give her what she wants, she'll file harassment on you just the same. Its power, plain and simple.
@@jonpool9030 So you're saying that if I innocently flirt with a woman, and she's attracted to me, and then she makes a move but I reject her, there's a 0% chance she'll turn around and accuse me of harassment?
Yeah its a wrap. Just think women have single handed ended dating and courting. 1 women blasted men for giving compliments via video on social media 2 women post they dont need a man. And same women list what they think makes them a catch, except men are the opposite when it comes ro finding a mate. 3 women put crazy new kist of things a man most do upfront to be a real man ie spend hindreds of dollars on women who dobt even like the man, pay their bills, pay for their baby sitter, coffee dates are no longer a valid forst date, and women taking pics for social media without showing the date. 4 Men now must be over 6'5 is the new standard. I'm 6'2 and was told im short by a woman who is only 5'1! 5 Men are not allowed to even breath without it being called sassy by women. Yeah its a wrap ladies.
the 6'2 is short thing..please tell us what she looked like...a full description was she more like H.E.R & ICE SPICE or more like SZA, slim petite or thick...was she really urban or prim and proper. was she West C, East C, Mid W from South. Weave or Natural with short or long hair also if Blk was she regular Blk American or African, or Jamaican..Haitian, born here or not...we gotta know some details
I messed up and started to joke around with a female co-worker and I asked her why she would want the punishment of a higher position and she turned around and told me how she was qualified for it and had an attitude. She assumed I didn't think she was qualified as a female, but I never thought that. She could have reported me. Guys, be careful.Do not joke around with ladies at work. It might get you in trouble, only say hi and bye.
Sometimes jokes aren’t funny, and it doesn’t sound like you guys were besties to begin with to understand the humor. That’s something I would say to certain coworkers, but not all (male or female), because they are older, they take their job more serious, we’re not cool like that, ect.
Women don't joke. They may smile, but they're never really joking: Women actually mean what they say as a "joke." They're just smiling because they don't want a fight at the moment. And because they always mean what they say, they presume you do too.
Manipulation 101. Give her an inch, she'll take a mile. And she can't ever be fully truthful about what she really likes because she wouldn't be able to keep the free attention that a lame will give her for nothing. Understand that. The reason the hot girl term "pick me" and "Pickmesha" is so prevelant is not because they want a man, it's because those women pose a threat to the fraud and manipulation they do.
Women compliment each other all day every day. After a lifetime of the weirdness that often comes with a compliment from a man, I'd rather not receive compliments from men unless it's someone I'm in a relationship with or an actual friend.
@tonywalker2748 sexual harassment is a term that is primarily used in the workplace. If you are my co-worker, do not flirt with me. If you are a patient, do not flirt with me. If what you are doing can be considered harassment, do not do it. If what you're thinking about doing could be considered harassment, don't do it.
If you're ugly & she doesn't like you, it's automatically considered sexual harassment. But if he is good-looking & no matter how much he is literally sexual harassing you, it humble flirting..
This is something that can get one man a sexually liberated woman and can another man a jail sentence or fine. It's important that men know this. This is the first time I ever heard a woman admit it. they love lying about this because it paints them as dishonest
True. I'm not an ugly dude but I'm not a pretty boy either. I'm right in the middle, I would say. But I became aware of this years ago in my 20's. Now, I barely even acknowledge a woman's existence at work or whatever. I see some checking me out, wondering why I won't speak to them. Simple: I'm not gonna let myself be set up for SH and I'm not gonna be your friend so you can get your bills paid. There's only a few genuine women out there who's not on any BS and these are the ones I speak to and even then it's limited.
Honestly, if black women were to stick to a script or a standard, universally men will give you what you're looking for relationship wise, but because there's so many ROGUES out there who wanna get in where they fit in, it messes up everything that the GOOD women are trying to accomplish.
That's literally what she said. There's no gotcha moment you should be looking for. She's being real and holding herself and other women accountable for this. Chill bruh she actually listens.
I had a female colleague explain what the difference was between being harassed and wanted flirting. It all has to do with whether the woman you are approaching is attracted to you or not.
Men dont understand the difference because THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE. Some women just don't want to be bothered to say: "You are not attractive to me, so please do not waste either of our time by speaking to me." Alternatively, some men are so negatively triggered by rejection that things go south as soon as the woman speaks her mind. It's an issue that men and women need to "come to a solution about", but that will never happen because some on both sides will not admit fault or fix their deep-rooted issues..
@r.walker7986 true. Some men ignore that and keep pushing for engagement and that leads to negative actions all around, so they (men in general), need to learn to control themselves. Everyone needs to work on themselves.
@@meoshawomack447Nope. You almost sold me on it being no difference. Because at some point, sure, I do believe, given the situation, and two genuine people, it's no difference. Maybe the person having a bad day right? But that's not what we're talking about. THEN, you did that disingenuous thing that women do when they can't admit truth and deflected to some men being "so negatively triggered" with rejection. That it "goes south". But this is NOT about rejection sweetheart. This is men CLEARLY seeing the difference in the way women treat men they're attracted to, compared to men they are not attracted to. That IS a difference. 😂😂
@@meoshawomack447You did it AGAIN here... 😭😭 "Some men keep pushing for engagement". "Which leads to negative interactions all around and how men just need to learn how to control themselves"...???😂😂😂 So are you saying this is why women treat men they're attracted to better than men they are not attracted to? I'm confused..?? 🤔You are probably the most unaccountable, disingenuous person ever.
@@meoshawomack447You did it again here....😭😭 "Some men keep pushing for engagement leading to negative interactions all around". You then sum it up to "Men(men in general) just need to learn how to control themselves". So are you saying this is why women treat men they are attracted to better then men they are not attracted to?? I'm confused 🤔 Probably the most unaccountable, disingenuous convo ever.
Just learn to take no for an answer. If you say hello and the person is not making eye contact or giving 1 word answers, "have a nice night" and move on... Women don't cite saying hello as harrassment, its harassment when they are clearly not interested and you keep going or if its not at the appropriate time or place, or circumstance.
You dropped a whole lot of b.s. when a man's attractive and doesn't take no for an awnser women discribe him as assertive and confident. When she doesn't find him attractive now he's a creep etc.
@@illrizzocgg1009 As she should. They actually want that attention becasue the man is desirable... Along with taking know for an answer you also have to not be delusional and know when a no is an absolute.
@@r.walker7986ok cool men when a woman's in trouble or about to die think of this man's statement and since they wanna play word games let's play with them and make sure no one gets married or now we just shut women off completely don't talk to them don't look at them dont work around them or nothing
I can't be mad at the attractive being flirting vs unattractive being harassment. As a black man I possess the skill of perception. I don't flirt with women who seem to be uninterested in me. I flirt with women who I perceive to view me as attractive. It's not hard to tell when a woman is attracted to you if you pay attention.
😂😂😂she thinks her polite, Kevin Samuel's approach is gonna wake these hyenas up😅😂😢..nope...🤷🏾♂️...we know this already...when a wm likes u its flirting if she dont its harassment 😢..we get it..we been knew this...the problem is yall dont know yall are 5s(average) wm shooting down good men😢...
If a woman is not willing or available to give to a man what he wants, needs, and enjoys, why should he give to a woman what she wants, needs, and enjoys? This risk-reward formula between most men and most women has been out of alignment for several generations. The men are just now learning to bring things back into it proper balance.
As a ugly guy, I tell soft compliment women sometimes and I do make comments like “Yo girl you sexy, fine ect but I haven’t been accuse of sexual harassment. It would make sense for saying that stuff at work would get you into trouble but if it was an attractive guy (especially a married one), he would still get into trouble by the company if the lady feels like she’s not getting anything from him. Often, women don’t care about a mans compliments. It’s the compliments from women that she really like.
Wanna bet? A modern woman will accuse a man she finds unattractive of all sorts of things, for simply looking in her direction. I work on a college campus, and I've seen young women get mad at the average looking male student for simply saying good morning; but let the basketball team's starting center, or the captain of the football team greet her, and she lights up like a Christmas tree!
It's not that men are not understanding, it's simply woman being terrible at communicating. The risk reward is not worth it for men. They've checked out until y'all figure it out.
Some of these comments🤯Men, stop being so damned fearful and "confused" listening to these podcasters & TH-camrs. Empower yourselves. If you're worried about these things in your workplace, at least sit down and actually READ Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Read your company's policy on sexual harassment that they likely gave you in your new hire packet. More than likely, YOU signed a document saying you agreed to abide by your employer's policies on sexual harassment, so at least read them. Take the guess work out of it by educating yourselves on what sexual harassment really is so you won't have to depend on women to "do a good job in explaining" what it really is. Go to the source. You ALSO need to know what sexual harassment really is in order to PROTECT YOURSELVES FROM BEING sexually harassed in the work place. This isn't just a federal protection for women. You have every right to decide to never speak to women, if you so choose. But how does it serve you to make a decision like that out of fear because you couldn't be bothered to learn what sexual harassment is, even to protect yourselves from being sexually harassed?
She is absolutely right!!..... but on the flip side!!.... women can complement and say some of the same things men say to flirt to each other!!.. and the women say nothing!!!.. they find nothing wrong with it!
Fellas, check this out! The best way to respect or communicate with western modern women today, is to implement two things: 1) Long Geographical Distance. 2) Abrupt Social Silence.
Well said.. but on the flip side to that wonderful statement, it also makes confident alpha women(some not all) more aggressive.. i was called Gay by a woman because i would not entertain her at work…
Men have to know. If a female likes or is open to maybe liking you, she'll communicate and be receptive with you. If shes not, don't even let it get to the sexual harassment point. Just move on. There are a ALOT of women out there.
It's simple, if I don't bat my eyes at you, I'm not into you sir and you then run the risk of being seen as a creeper, if you yry to force me to like you in that way. Its simple math.......a woman will show you if she's interested by her body language, facial expressions and words.
I'm not frustrated about no women because I disconnected myself from women. I don't look at them . I don't give them any attention. I don't help women. I refused to even say Good morning to women.
This is why so many men “the good ones “ are leaving westernized countries and moving abroad for better lives I am relocating to another country in November permanently my visa is almost done
Her point is that anything can be construed as unwanted behavior. It’s very subjective. A simple “I like your new hair style” can be taken the wrong way depending on who I saying it or who’s receiving the innocent compliment.
While I was working at target, we got a new hire, cute little thing. Me trying to be friendly I go up and try to introduce myself. She told me not to talk to her. Found out other co workers told her false shyt about me. Weeks go by, and I’m ignoring her, talking to other “friendly” female colleagues. I get a call to the office. It was me her and my supervisor, she claimed that I’ve been harassing her. My supervisor looks at me. I look at him, giving each other strange faces because we work together for so long and he knows me to be very quiet and to myself, and I don’t like to bother people. Obviously knew she was lying. And The fact that we work on opposite side of the store. She was mad that I was giving attention to other women and not her. She told me not to talk to her, I didn’t and she tried to punish me by trying to get me fired? I’m still trying to find the logic in this.
Alot of yall aren't that good or clear on your attraction level to someone up front. It's basically f around and find out. Even then she can like you and not want you to open a door for her. She's right it isn't consistent and difficult to read.
You just proved the point. How is a guy suppose to know if you find him attractive or not. You really want men to be a mind reader and know who to approach? Again yall make no sense
Don't flirt with females. Don't compliment them Don't do anything just make your money and deal with people who deal with you.
This one
@@ezal8372 that's a little open ended...what about the percentage of men with no play AT ALL....what are they supposed to do as an alternative. The are going to wonder if they just pay for it from a professional or fly to the DR or what? remember there are a majority of lonely men in the world tell them their options are UNTILL they are able to attract a female.
@@lewtz it is but like you said the DR is an option or to work on yourself until your at a level where you get play main thing is not to chase in this day and age the game ain’t the same anymore
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The best statement of 2024 🎉
Attractive people are flirting, unattractive people are harassing. Woman logic.
Pretty privilege 🙃
Well she definitely acknowledged that she recognizes the tom f**kery with the mindset of a lot of these women
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PLEASE SAY DAT LOUDER
Exactly instead of just saying I don't find you attractive or I'm not interested
Worst part is,the "unattractive" man dont even have to be flirting. It could be as innocent as saying "good morning" or a polite smile in passing or simply existing in the same proximity. He's looked at as some type of creep.
Good morning is not harassing In The workforce unless, one has already created a odd situation for the female. She needs to speak up
@@ballershanelleYou are right. But it’s gotten to the point many men are afraid to even say good morning, because the wrong female may twist it into an imaginary interaction that could be reported to HR.
@@ballershanelledisagree. Especially if they claim you gave them a “look” while saying good morning. They could perceive the look as SH
@vernonclark287 do you act the same way with men.
@morrisdavidmullings9833 Good chance you misunderstood what I was saying.. but yes,I'll say GM or speak to anyone. It's called common courtesy and having manners.
If a woman likes you she won’t ask you for anything remember that she will just be happy being in your presence 😉
Ehhhh if she’s broke and dumb she’ll still ask u for something sooner than later
Bingo🎯it’s all subjective…hence each one teach one, a significant amount of men don’t bother🤷🏾♂️
Nobodies crashing out over emotional turbulence of a hi 👋🏾 in 2024
Basically the first rule of dating or flirting these days is don't be ugly. If you ugly, don't even try, there is no shooting your shot when you ugly.
Thats the thing, ugly can't be defined by a single person. If that was the case Jay-Z woukd be single.
Why is it so hard to not use discernment? You should know when it’s an appropriate setting and if you’re not getting an open response then leave it alone. People acting like they don’t know what (sexual) harassment is is absolutely hilarious.
Very true!!!
We asen need to be more disciplined and not so thirsty. This is why some women deem men "sassy" for falling back and allowing women to initiate.
Well articulated 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
She definitely NOT LYING. I Dont even Talk to Sista's at Work. Sista's be trying to get out of work and Get a Payday. Making a Brother the scapegoat. Get a Passport then a Wife then ignore Sista's. In that order!
Boom 💥 she nailed it!
Perfectly said
I'm sorry I have to give this a HUGE 🙄
I have two sons and have always taught them that "no" means NO. Those two letters are a complete sentence. One of my sons is considered "attractive" not based on his looks alone, but because of his career as well. Years ago, he touched a female coworker (on her shoulder mind you) AFTER she said she wasn't interested, he was fired for harassment. He said to me, "Mom the minute she responded angrily, all I could hear was your voice in my mind and I knew I had messed up."
My second son might be considered "not so attractive [to Black women]" but he has had a steady stream of white and Hispanic girlfriends (one is his soon to be fiancee). He has NEVER had a woman accuse him of any inappropriate behavior. Also, for years he had "unattractive" employment, but now he is in a "desirable" field.
In addition, I have never heard of this being a thing. What I HAVE heard is that women say, "No you can't have my number," "I'm not interested," "I have a man," etc., and men get in their ego and can't take the rejection. How many "cute" and "desirable" men have gone to jail for forcing themselves on women? Those are the worst ones!
Men need to be taught by their MOTHERS and FATHERS, not random women on the street or their girlfriends. SMH 🙄
This video is gaslighting women...
Wow, every 3600 years 8AtTheTable has a female guest that actually makes sense 🙌🏾
Too many voices on this issue and quite frankly some need to shut up and allow the laws of attraction to take place. Most make the situation worse because they oftentimes are broken spiritually giving advice to people when they need help themselves. This generation is 🤬 up.
Explained so welll
This need to be a clip i can share i the story
I simply call it the Brad Pitt effect
True Statement
Yep
What's up opinion seeker's , I have experience with being invited to approach young ladies and some of the guys that I come into contact with are experiencing the rejection side of most young ladies I know for a fact that some guys social skills are just totally not flattering and please don't let it be a young lady that doesn't know how to properly reject a man instead of him being accused of something else and all he wants was to see if it could be something he can help the the young lady with men chose the type of woman he wants to provide for it's just that the young lady feels offended because he's not up to her standards.
She thpittin!!
Right, 🤔😅🤣😂
I decided to conduct an experiment as an Uber driver...when women enter my vehicle.. I am respectful and courteous.. but I don't give them the attention that they're used to... and I can see them squirm in the back because they're not getting what they normally get from other drivers.. it's interesting to see... they'll be in the back huffing and puffing..sighing... saying things, hoping I will join in and start entertaining them.. nah..I'm not your entertainment.
Stfu..go on your phone or shove headphones in your ears and ignore the driver as the majority of you do as soon as you get in the car.
Next week I'll be conducting the "wedding ring" experiment...women treat men who they think are married..differently that single men...I'll post my findings later.
She did a great job with her explanation. Chivalry is dead and women killed it.
1000% 🎯🎯
They definitely did
I agree with her ❤
No!!! Some of us love & appreciate men who practice chivalry.
@@PucciNYC some is not most
This is why I don't even talk to women I don't know. You can be kind and polite and she will make a big scene if she don't find you attractive.
Ur right
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Even if a girl think u cute she will still act a fool
How much personal experience do you have with women treating you that way. I’ve never had a woman say that or treat me in that way ever. Maybe y’all just give off creep vibes.
@@Haddonfield63or maybe you're in an echo chamber, has that thought never crossed your mind, or maybe you are extremely attractive so that situation would never happen to you to begin with. Has those scenarios ever crossed your mind of possibility of happening?
That's why they say women are TERRIBLE COMMUNICATORS. THAT JUST LIKE TO TALK A LOT. there's a difference
Damn good comment
Never even thought about it like that
EXCELLENT. I have all sisters, mostly female family and 6 daughters. Absolutely true. They talk alot and listen a little. Communication is two-way.
As a man you can see a woman listening to have a comeback response, versus listening to understand.
This is a simple statement but profoundly true in most situations. !!!
That's why I don't speak to them hold doors for them I keep it moving 👍
Tell the truth. If he is very unattractive, it's sexual harassment but if he is very attractive, it is flirting. That's it. Men you must understand this.
That's what she said
Notorious BIG” Black and Ugly as ever” you got money and fame; look’s goes out the window
It also depends on her idea of what attractive is..
It's a lose lose because even as an attractive man I can still risk the chance of a woman lying to my wife about me flirting with her.
Wait a minute....an attractive jerk, cheater womanizer,tool,abuser,narcissist can be sniffed out a few hundred yards as well. They act too showy
They gon call her a “pick me” for saying this.
Actually, "Mammy" is a better term for her. Lol.
Pick me is code for they all want the same guy.
I still don't understand how they consider that an insult and instead of something positive.
@@JamesPain1203 because they are miserable.
@@SouthParkFullEpisode715lmfaooo 😂😂
That doesn't even cover it. If you're attractive and you flirt, but don't give her what she wants, she'll file harassment on you just the same. Its power, plain and simple.
It has nothing to do with general attractiveness. If she's attracted to you, it's accepted, and if she's not, it's harassment
@@jonpool9030 So you're saying that if I innocently flirt with a woman, and she's attracted to me, and then she makes a move but I reject her, there's a 0% chance she'll turn around and accuse me of harassment?
Yeah! @@jeremyparris6121
More like 0.5%
Jokes aside, I’m sure it happens, but how often?
@@jeremyparris6121it depends on how you reject her you gotta be smooth with it
Yeah its a wrap. Just think women have single handed ended dating and courting.
1 women blasted men for giving compliments via video on social media
2 women post they dont need a man. And same women list what they think makes them a catch, except men are the opposite when it comes ro finding a mate.
3 women put crazy new kist of things a man most do upfront to be a real man ie spend hindreds of dollars on women who dobt even like the man, pay their bills, pay for their baby sitter, coffee dates are no longer a valid forst date, and women taking pics for social media without showing the date.
4 Men now must be over 6'5 is the new standard. I'm 6'2 and was told im short by a woman who is only 5'1!
5 Men are not allowed to even breath without it being called sassy by women.
Yeah its a wrap ladies.
the 6'2 is short thing..please tell us what she looked like...a full description was she more like H.E.R & ICE SPICE or more like SZA, slim petite or thick...was she really urban or prim and proper. was she West C, East C, Mid W from South. Weave or Natural with short or long hair also if Blk was she regular Blk American or African, or Jamaican..Haitian, born here or not...we gotta know some details
I messed up and started to joke around with a female co-worker and I asked her why she would want the punishment of a higher position and she turned around and told me how she was qualified for it and had an attitude. She assumed I didn't think she was qualified as a female, but I never thought that. She could have reported me. Guys, be careful.Do not joke around with ladies at work. It might get you in trouble, only say hi and bye.
Glad you made it out. They are not your friends in a work space. They are a threat to your lively hood if you become too familiar.
Sometimes jokes aren’t funny, and it doesn’t sound like you guys were besties to begin with to understand the humor. That’s something I would say to certain coworkers, but not all (male or female), because they are older, they take their job more serious, we’re not cool like that, ect.
Women don't joke. They may smile, but they're never really joking: Women actually mean what they say as a "joke." They're just smiling because they don't want a fight at the moment. And because they always mean what they say, they presume you do too.
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@@rdkirk3834 "women always mean what they say" 😂😂😂
Big facts, but they still gonna deny it tho
Exactly,the need to be right!! It's in their nature!!
Wow! She actually understands. So many men have tried to explain this to no avail
Well, yea, she does it.
Does she tho?
The #MeToo movement changed everything. Now guys are afraid to approach women ... especially at work.
Definitely changed things. All the uglies and crazies came out too.😂😂
That and cell phone cameras.
Hmm
I have the "#Me,Myself, & I" Movement!
You just have to bet selective
Men are doing what they are supposed to do and that is adjust to dangerous conditions. Men are built to survive.
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Word ✊🏾
YEP
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Wow interesting
You tell a women to not do something. She will do that something
They will tell you one thing and do another!!😉
Manipulation 101. Give her an inch, she'll take a mile. And she can't ever be fully truthful about what she really likes because she wouldn't be able to keep the free attention that a lame will give her for nothing. Understand that. The reason the hot girl term "pick me" and "Pickmesha" is so prevelant is not because they want a man, it's because those women pose a threat to the fraud and manipulation they do.
Twice and then blame you.
Give her an inch she'll take a mile
@@TodrickWilliams-dt3pu...Their words are volatile.
And that’s why I don’t like giving women compliments anymore. It’s all about validation for them.
Women compliment each other all day every day. After a lifetime of the weirdness that often comes with a compliment from a man, I'd rather not receive compliments from men unless it's someone I'm in a relationship with or an actual friend.
@ericaadkins3383
That doesn't make sense for the man who gives you any conversation. How would any relationship ever even start.
@@ericaadkins3383or just grow old and alone.
@@ericaadkins3383make it make sense. 😂 you miss everything with your comment.
@tonywalker2748 sexual harassment is a term that is primarily used in the workplace. If you are my co-worker, do not flirt with me. If you are a patient, do not flirt with me. If what you are doing can be considered harassment, do not do it. If what you're thinking about doing could be considered harassment, don't do it.
If you're ugly & she doesn't like you, it's automatically considered sexual harassment. But if he is good-looking & no matter how much he is literally sexual harassing you, it humble flirting..
Handsome privilege do exist.😂
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So true....A good deed is never goes unpunished. And I been punished for being simply a gentleman. Never again.
Frfr
This is something that can get one man a sexually liberated woman and can another man a jail sentence or fine. It's important that men know this. This is the first time I ever heard a woman admit it. they love lying about this because it paints them as dishonest
So the women who aren’t sexually liberated will put you in jail?
She hit the nail on the head
True. I'm not an ugly dude but I'm not a pretty boy either. I'm right in the middle, I would say. But I became aware of this years ago in my 20's. Now, I barely even acknowledge a woman's existence at work or whatever. I see some checking me out, wondering why I won't speak to them.
Simple: I'm not gonna let myself be set up for SH and I'm not gonna be your friend so you can get your bills paid. There's only a few genuine women out there who's not on any BS and these are the ones I speak to and even then it's limited.
Best to just not pay attention to them. Make them work to get your attention while focusing on doing your own thing. 🤷♂️
Then you hear where did all the "good" men go
And that's for everybody, the people you're meant to be with/ around will find you
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The men are confused cause honestly we as women have been confusing them
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Finally!! Thanks for being accountable! For most of yall, being accountable is like kryptonite!!
Thanks for the accountability queen .. 👸🏾
because yall are confused...
Honestly, if black women were to stick to a script or a standard, universally men will give you what you're looking for relationship wise, but because there's so many ROGUES out there who wanna get in where they fit in, it messes up everything that the GOOD women are trying to accomplish.
She almost slipped and basically said, the difference is how good looking the guy is
That's literally what she's saying!
Because at heart, she knows and they ALL know. They just pretend like they don't know.
That's literally what she said. There's no gotcha moment you should be looking for. She's being real and holding herself and other women accountable for this. Chill bruh she actually listens.
@@bronxishomenomatterwhereig3149 I agree with ya
I had a female colleague explain what the difference was between being harassed and wanted flirting. It all has to do with whether the woman you are approaching is attracted to you or not.
The attractive can be unattractive the unattractive can be the attractive..
Wow that’s makes alot of sense
Never ever talk to a woman first 😳always let them approach you and you’ll never have a problem
YOU WILL WAIT A LIFE TIME, THEY ALOT OF TIMES DONT COME. AT YOU UNLESS THEY SEE THAT YOUR SUCCESSFUL.
@@DERRICKLEONIDAS365you don’t always have to be successful to get a woman
Of course, you come still do...
Its so frustrating for us men these days. We. cant even talk to a female even for a compliment. So sad
Men dont understand the difference because THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE.
Some women just don't want to be bothered to say:
"You are not attractive to me, so please do not waste either of our time by speaking to me."
Alternatively, some men are so negatively triggered by rejection that things go south as soon as the woman speaks her mind. It's an issue that men and women need to "come to a solution about", but that will never happen because some on both sides will not admit fault or fix their deep-rooted issues..
its not hard to tell if a woman is not interested or uncomfortable
@r.walker7986 true.
Some men ignore that and keep pushing for engagement and that leads to negative actions all around, so they (men in general), need to learn to control themselves.
Everyone needs to work on themselves.
@@meoshawomack447Nope. You almost sold me on it being no difference. Because at some point, sure, I do believe, given the situation, and two genuine people, it's no difference. Maybe the person having a bad day right? But that's not what we're talking about. THEN, you did that disingenuous thing that women do when they can't admit truth and deflected to some men being "so negatively triggered" with rejection. That it "goes south". But this is NOT about rejection sweetheart. This is men CLEARLY seeing the difference in the way women treat men they're attracted to, compared to men they are not attracted to. That IS a difference. 😂😂
@@meoshawomack447You did it AGAIN here... 😭😭 "Some men keep pushing for engagement". "Which leads to negative interactions all around and how men just need to learn how to control themselves"...???😂😂😂 So are you saying this is why women treat men they're attracted to better than men they are not attracted to? I'm confused..?? 🤔You are probably the most unaccountable, disingenuous person ever.
@@meoshawomack447You did it again here....😭😭 "Some men keep pushing for engagement leading to negative interactions all around". You then sum it up to "Men(men in general) just need to learn how to control themselves". So are you saying this is why women treat men they are attracted to better then men they are not attracted to?? I'm confused 🤔 Probably the most unaccountable, disingenuous convo ever.
Calling compliments sexual harassment because of lack of interest,is sick and demented.
It is, but it's all in how you compliment. Some men know how, others cross the line... Everybody likes a genuine compliment, male and female.
or a form of priviledge
Just learn to take no for an answer. If you say hello and the person is not making eye contact or giving 1 word answers, "have a nice night" and move on... Women don't cite saying hello as harrassment, its harassment when they are clearly not interested and you keep going or if its not at the appropriate time or place, or circumstance.
You dropped a whole lot of b.s. when a man's attractive and doesn't take no for an awnser women discribe him as assertive and confident. When she doesn't find him attractive now he's a creep etc.
@@illrizzocgg1009 As she should. They actually want that attention becasue the man is desirable... Along with taking know for an answer you also have to not be delusional and know when a no is an absolute.
@@r.walker7986ok cool men when a woman's in trouble or about to die think of this man's statement and since they wanna play word games let's play with them and make sure no one gets married or now we just shut women off completely don't talk to them don't look at them dont work around them or nothing
how about not say chit at all....I ignore them all...they either speak up or not....
@@r.walker7986 Wrong you can't go around accusing Men of a crime just because you don't find them attractive, smarten up.
She actually listen to men to comprehend not to respond. She totally gets it. Breath of fresh air
My late wife said this on podcasts 3 years ago.
I can't be mad at the attractive being flirting vs unattractive being harassment. As a black man I possess the skill of perception. I don't flirt with women who seem to be uninterested in me. I flirt with women who I perceive to view me as attractive. It's not hard to tell when a woman is attracted to you if you pay attention.
Facts 💯💯💯
The angle they set these cameras at. 😞 They KNOW what they are doing
Yep
She kept the curtains closed she’s in a business setting
I know it sucks men, but this is the new world. Stop complimenting and helping them. It’s just not worth it.
😂😂😂she thinks her polite, Kevin Samuel's approach is gonna wake these hyenas up😅😂😢..nope...🤷🏾♂️...we know this already...when a wm likes u its flirting if she dont its harassment 😢..we get it..we been knew this...the problem is yall dont know yall are 5s(average) wm shooting down good men😢...
If a woman is not willing or available to give to a man what he wants, needs, and enjoys, why should he give to a woman what she wants, needs, and enjoys?
This risk-reward formula between most men and most women has been out of alignment for several generations. The men are just now learning to bring things back into it proper balance.
No women in the comments? 😂😂
Just like how they say men are dogs no sis it’s the men you are attracted to.. choose better and poof 💨 you’re in a healthy relationship
As a ugly guy, I tell soft compliment women sometimes and I do make comments like “Yo girl you sexy, fine ect but I haven’t been accuse of sexual harassment. It would make sense for saying that stuff at work would get you into trouble but if it was an attractive guy (especially a married one), he would still get into trouble by the company if the lady feels like she’s not getting anything from him. Often, women don’t care about a mans compliments. It’s the compliments from women that she really like.
Difference is whether your handsome or not. That tells you if its sexual harassment or not
Sexual harassment is not dependent on my looks but by behavior.
Wanna bet?
A modern woman will accuse a man she finds unattractive of all sorts of things, for simply looking in her direction. I work on a college campus, and I've seen young women get mad at the average looking male student for simply saying good morning; but let the basketball team's starting center, or the captain of the football team greet her, and she lights up like a Christmas tree!
It's not that men are not understanding, it's simply woman being terrible at communicating. The risk reward is not worth it for men. They've checked out until y'all figure it out.
Im glad as a man i had enough fun in my 20s and 30s, that now in my 40s i could care less about impressing a woman, she has to impress me.
Some of these comments🤯Men, stop being so damned fearful and "confused" listening to these podcasters & TH-camrs. Empower yourselves. If you're worried about these things in your workplace, at least sit down and actually READ Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.
Read your company's policy on sexual harassment that they likely gave you in your new hire packet. More than likely, YOU signed a document saying you agreed to abide by your employer's policies on sexual harassment, so at least read them.
Take the guess work out of it by educating yourselves on what sexual harassment really is so you won't have to depend on women to "do a good job in explaining" what it really is. Go to the source.
You ALSO need to know what sexual harassment really is in order to PROTECT YOURSELVES FROM BEING sexually harassed in the work place. This isn't just a federal protection for women.
You have every right to decide to never speak to women, if you so choose. But how does it serve you to make a decision like that out of fear because you couldn't be bothered to learn what sexual harassment is, even to protect yourselves from being sexually harassed?
THAT'S WHY IT'S BEST NOT , NOT NOT.....TALK THEM AT ALL......THEY'RE TOO HARD TO PLEASE .....THEY'RE TOO FICKLE-MINDED
If your attractive obviously 🙄
She's honest and cute.
stop flirtinng 😂😅
Thank you...I told ladies on the job...It Aint Sexual Harassment If Hes Cute!!
They laughed...but its the truth ‼️‼️
Frustration on both sides.
She is absolutely right!!..... but on the flip side!!.... women can complement and say some of the same things men say to flirt to each other!!.. and the women say nothing!!!.. they find nothing wrong with it!
Fellas, check this out! The best way to respect or communicate with western modern women today, is to implement two things:
1) Long Geographical Distance.
2) Abrupt Social Silence.
Well said.. but on the flip side to that wonderful statement, it also makes confident alpha women(some not all) more aggressive.. i was called Gay by a woman because i would not entertain her at work…
Another Kevin Samuels imitator 🤷🏽♂️
Men have to know. If a female likes or is open to maybe liking you, she'll communicate and be receptive with you. If shes not, don't even let it get to the sexual harassment point. Just move on. There are a ALOT of women out there.
It's simple, if I don't bat my eyes at you, I'm not into you sir and you then run the risk of being seen as a creeper, if you yry to force me to like you in that way. Its simple math.......a woman will show you if she's interested by her body language, facial expressions and words.
It's not worth it period, just represent yourself as yourself and either you'll be accepted or not accepted. No big deal 💯
I am drained just listening to this bollocks. Good luck fellas, I am out.
I'm not frustrated about no women because I disconnected myself from women. I don't look at them . I don't give them any attention. I don't help women. I refused to even say Good morning to women.
Right, cause if he's not your type, he's not offering himself to be used.
This is a deaf ears convo sadly, great explanation but this doesn't FEEL good for them so it doesn't exist
She is a rare modern woman who understands the hypocrisy and toxic attitudes of most modern women.
This is why so many men “the good ones “ are leaving westernized countries and moving abroad for better lives I am relocating to another country in November permanently my visa is almost done
Every man cannot do what the next man does with female access and presence. Did she want you to flirt with her or not?
Bingo 💯
Damn she broke it down perfectly, and was very articulate about it. She got a black Velma style going on. I dig it.
Brothers; just leave them alone. Seek God not women. Let him lead you to the right woman at the right time.
It's only sexual harassment when it's unwanted disrespectful behavior!
Her point is that anything can be construed as unwanted behavior. It’s very subjective. A simple “I like your new hair style” can be taken the wrong way depending on who I saying it or who’s receiving the innocent compliment.
Thaaankyou beverlysmith6539!!! They're playing dumb forreal.
@@highlovevibration That'll be y'all 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
THEN THEY GO BEHIND YOUR BACK TO THE WHITE MAN TO GET YOU FIRED
Amen preach sister pastor preach
Super facts 💯💯💯 preachhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 😂😂😂
While I was working at target, we got a new hire, cute little thing. Me trying to be friendly I go up and try to introduce myself. She told me not to talk to her. Found out other co workers told her false shyt about me. Weeks go by, and I’m ignoring her, talking to other “friendly” female colleagues. I get a call to the office. It was me her and my supervisor, she claimed that I’ve been harassing her. My supervisor looks at me. I look at him, giving each other strange faces because we work together for so long and he knows me to be very quiet and to myself, and I don’t like to bother people. Obviously knew she was lying. And The fact that we work on opposite side of the store. She was mad that I was giving attention to other women and not her. She told me not to talk to her, I didn’t and she tried to punish me by trying to get me fired? I’m still trying to find the logic in this.
😂😂😂😂😂
If she's not attracted to you
Don't harrase her😂
Alot of yall aren't that good or clear on your attraction level to someone up front. It's basically f around and find out. Even then she can like you and not want you to open a door for her.
She's right it isn't consistent and difficult to read.
You just proved the point. How is a guy suppose to know if you find him attractive or not. You really want men to be a mind reader and know who to approach? Again yall make no sense
@@ericperry72 have zero-tolerance my brotha
BINGO! If they’re not giving that same energy back leave it alone.
If the man is Brad Pitf in looks AND money, it's FLIRTING. If average, it's HARASSMENT.
She is right.
true
It's always the Big Bertha's doin too much w/ their mouths.... overeating, overtalking or talking dumb ish... Gawn sadown....