Thank you so much, your videos are so so helpful! I am someone who does not have access to up-to-date complex trauma informed therapists so this is all I have to help me understand my condition.
I used to think it was about sharing intimate past details and thoughts with your partner and full acceptance. But everything was later used against me by my now ex-wife
I'm very sorry for this disappointment. I do feel that if somebody abuses of our trust in this way of turning it against us, it cannot be our loss. Our showing up - our openess is still our harvest and no-one- if we don't allow it - can take this capability of getting in relationship away from us.
There was the moment that I should abandon a part of myself to get loved and to love. After that moment I understand that love means giving up myself. How horrible they are and how lonely I was.
Hey, I'm 62 _ didn't know either, compassion for u_ time to be our own best friends now, we were probably imprinted to trust our church father's, but that's were the wolves go.I told my minister that the pedo Sunday school teacher was abusing us, he said go tell the police if u have a problem. Too bad it's the police chief who is the Sunday school teacher
Loving actions and words but with ulterior motives, is that love? No, that is grooming and lovebombing, a manipulative tool that abusers use very well to get what they want out of a person. And they can withdraw that loving behaviour super quickly. This hot and cold mix is how they get you hooked.
If love is a frontal cortex decision, it begs the question to clarify: at what age is the frontal cortex of the human brain fully developed? What’s the criteria for determining this level of developmental completion?
I don't agree that love is a "decision in cortex". Being conscious about love certainty helps, but you can't have love without limbic brain involvement. In the end you need both.
maybe I didn't understand something that's been said here. does being in love evolve into love naturally or do we always have to learn how to love? if love means meeting needs, how do you call what children feel towards their parents? or when they live far away from them? if love is a decision, why can't sometimes mothers decide to love the newborns? why can't we decide that to love some stranger on the street? or a homeless person can we see on the way to a store? what makes us stop loving a spouse? why people divorce when they can just decide to keep loving each other? does it have to be "falling in love" first and then love? why are some people hard to love? if it's a decision, everyone should be just as lovable. isn't "meeting needs" just caring for someone? do caretakers in senior's care centers love their clients and their families don't? is love really always unconditional? or does it require the object of love to have certain qualities first? you wouldn't love just anybody, right?
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Tim the real MVP of mental health TH-cam
Your the earth dad I never had.Thanks for caring and sharing.
Thank you so much, your videos are so so helpful! I am someone who does not have access to up-to-date complex trauma informed therapists so this is all I have to help me understand my condition.
The horizontal focus of the Christian gospels brings life. Thank you!
What a wisdom in theese words. .thank you i am listening with pleasure ...
You're a therapeutic blessing!💓
Thank you so much. May God bless you!
How can you tell when "accepting" the other person has tripped from healthy acceptance to accepting thr unacceptable?
You hear the sound of one hand clapping.
Hearing this is healing. Sadly our parents didn't know and their parents and so on... But now we know and we can do better. ❤
So good ,thank you so much.
I used to think it was about sharing intimate past details and thoughts with your partner and full acceptance. But everything was later used against me by my now ex-wife
I'm very sorry for this disappointment. I do feel that if somebody abuses of our trust in this way of turning it against us, it cannot be our loss.
Our showing up - our openess is still our harvest and no-one- if we don't allow it - can take this capability of getting in relationship away from us.
Thank you so very much for this content, and the definitions provided. Goes to show just how much I had wrong with what needs to ne corrected
Love is a big commitment and actively following through with that commitment.
Beautiful! ❤️
There was the moment that I should abandon a part of myself to get loved and to love. After that moment I understand that love means giving up myself.
How horrible they are and how lonely I was.
How could i have known i was abandoned by every person that was suppose to love me
Hey, I'm 62 _ didn't know either, compassion for u_ time to be our own best friends now, we were probably imprinted to trust our church father's, but that's were the wolves go.I told my minister that the pedo Sunday school teacher was abusing us, he said go tell the police if u have a problem. Too bad it's the police chief who is the Sunday school teacher
@@tmking7483So sorry you had to go through this, you are not alone, this is a good place and i give you a virtual hug and prayer❤🌹🙏
Thanks for sharing!❤⚘
Learning with your videos!
I will forever listen to Tim until I get older 😂❤.. with my healthy partner as I am. ❤
Perfect analysis. Thank you
Loving actions and words but with ulterior motives, is that love? No, that is grooming and lovebombing, a manipulative tool that abusers use very well to get what they want out of a person. And they can withdraw that loving behaviour super quickly. This hot and cold mix is how they get you hooked.
This is golden wisdom
Powerful
Totally love this session....
Thank you
Really powerful
Omg, this is beautiful from I started replaying from 18:25
love is not love which alters when it alteration finds. Shakespeare.
TIM. THANK YOU.
My problem with horizontal spirualaty is that i can't handle all the uglyness and sorrow you see.
Thankbyou
Thank you 🙏🏽
If love is a frontal cortex decision, it begs the question to clarify: at what age is the frontal cortex of the human brain fully developed? What’s the criteria for determining this level of developmental completion?
Your amazing ♥️
I don't agree that love is a "decision in cortex". Being conscious about love certainty helps, but you can't have love without limbic brain involvement. In the end you need both.
So much good information though I might not want to be quoting Jay Shetty 😆
maybe I didn't understand something that's been said here. does being in love evolve into love naturally or do we always have to learn how to love?
if love means meeting needs, how do you call what children feel towards their parents? or when they live far away from them?
if love is a decision, why can't sometimes mothers decide to love the newborns? why can't we decide that to love some stranger on the street? or a homeless person can we see on the way to a store?
what makes us stop loving a spouse? why people divorce when they can just decide to keep loving each other?
does it have to be "falling in love" first and then love?
why are some people hard to love? if it's a decision, everyone should be just as lovable.
isn't "meeting needs" just caring for someone? do caretakers in senior's care centers love their clients and their families don't?
is love really always unconditional? or does it require the object of love to have certain qualities first? you wouldn't love just anybody, right?
Very clear you didn’t understand
I cant remember last time i had oxytosine feel.
Me too
I thought oxytocin is the love hormone
💥❤🐳 🌞
What is love?
Baby don't hurt me 😄
Aman