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Wow! I've been researching and studying male/female dynamics for years. I've read and watched hundreds of resources on this topic and I have to say that your info is THE most articulate and spot on when it comes to accurately describing how women feel and act.
...... A very erudite and thorough video Eric! I sure wish you could do a video specifically focused on effectively attracting girls that are incredibly introverted and downright shy.
@@SkillofAttraction .... Haha! Don't try, just remember Erik. But I know, you treat all women the same. Whether they're confident Alpha females or young, shy young girls.
You have to begin to apply them consciously & consistently...& eventually you won't have to think about it anymore. As an example, say there's something you're very good at at your job. You were taught how to do that, but since you've done it so many times it's almost like second nature now...you really don't have to think about it any longer.
Just like this video says...you set the tone. Focus on having fun with her, rather than trying to impress her. Ask her questions, but fun questions...not interview style questions. Look her in the eye when speaking with her & when she asks you questions be a little playful with your answers & never give her full disclosure about yourself.
Technically, because it's essentially a blind date, you both should pay your share. However, be prepared to pay since it's customary that the guy usually pays on the first date. And if you do pay, be sure she buys a drink or two for both of you, or pay for something smaller.
Do I still court this girl after I discovered that she is still using Skout? Because I have this feeling that when are not chatting, she is with other guy that she interact on skout and it's killing me.
Sure, why not? If you're not a committed couple, she's only playing the field & weighing her options. You should be doing the same. In the meantime: th-cam.com/video/pLvQYo_Scc4/w-d-xo.html
People will try to absolve women of accountability for their own personal behavior. Women won't learn until they are alone until nobody wants them. All of this is nothing more than her controlling the frame and wasting massive amounts of time and energy.
If you're (the man) setting the tone (ie: frame), as I instruct in this video, how is it that she's controlling the frame? The pace of the courtship/relationship is different than frame. And if you try to take the pace of the relationship quicker than what she's comfortable with, you'll get friend-zoned. And what does this have to do with accountability?
Dang my dude...your heart is just hardened towards females. As a woman I can guarantee if you just be the damn lighthouse, stable, constant, a beacon we will always come back towards you. Have conviction in who you are, what your intentions for her are, and what she means to you..and when our boats gps system malfunctions (hormones, emotions) and causes us to think illogically, which we do sometimes.. we will still know where you are. We will still come towards you always. The lighthouse never has to tell or command a boat to come it's way. It is unwavering so the boat trusts it's position. When y'all, the supposed logical ones are reacting emotionally to our emotions... Well then there must be something wrong we think. You're allowing our emotions to shape your view of the relationship and keep it ever changing. How should we be able to trust that? We can't now. It's position is forever changing so whats the point in even trying to follow it? Y'all just need to learn to be the glue and our rock when it matters. When we may be angry with you, we'll see thru that. Rise above it and know that anger lies on a bedrock of hurt and that it's actually painful for us to be perceiving you in a bad light. We don't like it either. It sucks for us. But us women have to put on this anger shell and get out guns loaded cuz there is no way for us to be vulnerable or raw and real with y'all about us needing reassurance...which most fights in relationships with regards to a woman starting something are in relation to this very thing. But you guys out here never question further, help us get to the bottom of it and then offer the reassurance. Cuz how can you when your fragile male ego takes every thing a woman says to you as a dig at your character? Ya vastly underestimate the power of a hug and a "hey, I love you. Thats a fact" attitude. You fight with us not for us. That's a concept that no dude gets. Us women would melt at the very thought of you in the middle of a squabble projecting a masculine voice and just simply saying "sit down, right now, we are talking about this, we are figuring this out".. instant swoon. Instant attention and respect. Cuz it's great. You're not all butthurt and damn chaotic. You're seeking to lead us to a resolve and back to love. But regardless of if you do all this right down to pitch and tone of voice..our intuition will sense if your intentions for us in those moments are secondary to yourself and if they are nefarious in any way. It seeps out of your pores. We can smell it...and it just won't work for you. What you give a woman she gives back x10. So most of the time a good look in the mirror is all it takes. What are you giving to your woman? Give her food she gives you a meal... sperm-->baby...house--->home. Give her chaos, the fire ignites. Give her a feeling of not being safe...you get the point. Give her shit behavior and it way backfires.
For questions to be answered in the comments, please give a "super thanks" or head over to my website & ask there.
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Men's Advice Community: soa.fm
Private relationship/dating coaching: soa.fm/dating-relationship-coaching/
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Wow! I've been researching and studying male/female dynamics for years. I've read and watched hundreds of resources on this topic and I have to say that your info is THE most articulate and spot on when it comes to accurately describing how women feel and act.
Thank you so much!
As a woman, this is absolutely true. I dont want to have to teach him. That just makes me think he isn’t already and is faking it
In this case, I don't necessarily think they're faking it...sadly, they really just don't know better.
Oh wow the same Best advice for men ever!
Thanks for watching!
Pure gold that is 👌🙌👏
Thanks, man!
...... A very erudite and thorough video Eric! I sure wish you could do a video specifically focused on effectively attracting girls that are incredibly introverted and downright shy.
Good idea. I'll try to remember to cover that.
@@SkillofAttraction .... Haha! Don't try, just remember Erik. But I know, you treat all women the same. Whether they're confident Alpha females or young, shy young girls.
Great info
Please the book
Agreed! A book would be great!
Great video
Thanks!
How can i make these stratigies apart of me and make it second nature?
You have to begin to apply them consciously & consistently...& eventually you won't have to think about it anymore. As an example, say there's something you're very good at at your job. You were taught how to do that, but since you've done it so many times it's almost like second nature now...you really don't have to think about it any longer.
How much is a coaching session?
I have a few options available...
www.skillofattraction.com/dating-relationship-coaching/
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I am going on a double date with a girl I don’t know that my friends are setting up. Any tips you can give?
Just like this video says...you set the tone. Focus on having fun with her, rather than trying to impress her. Ask her questions, but fun questions...not interview style questions. Look her in the eye when speaking with her & when she asks you questions be a little playful with your answers & never give her full disclosure about yourself.
Skill of Attraction would I pay for the double date? I don’t know her my friend is setting it up
Technically, because it's essentially a blind date, you both should pay your share. However, be prepared to pay since it's customary that the guy usually pays on the first date. And if you do pay, be sure she buys a drink or two for both of you, or pay for something smaller.
Do I still court this girl after I discovered that she is still using Skout? Because I have this feeling that when are not chatting, she is with other guy that she interact on skout and it's killing me.
Sure, why not? If you're not a committed couple, she's only playing the field & weighing her options. You should be doing the same. In the meantime: th-cam.com/video/pLvQYo_Scc4/w-d-xo.html
People will try to absolve women of accountability for their own personal behavior. Women won't learn until they are alone until nobody wants them. All of this is nothing more than her controlling the frame and wasting massive amounts of time and energy.
If you're (the man) setting the tone (ie: frame), as I instruct in this video, how is it that she's controlling the frame? The pace of the courtship/relationship is different than frame. And if you try to take the pace of the relationship quicker than what she's comfortable with, you'll get friend-zoned.
And what does this have to do with accountability?
Dang my dude...your heart is just hardened towards females. As a woman I can guarantee if you just be the damn lighthouse, stable, constant, a beacon we will always come back towards you. Have conviction in who you are, what your intentions for her are, and what she means to you..and when our boats gps system malfunctions (hormones, emotions) and causes us to think illogically, which we do sometimes.. we will still know where you are. We will still come towards you always. The lighthouse never has to tell or command a boat to come it's way. It is unwavering so the boat trusts it's position. When y'all, the supposed logical ones are reacting emotionally to our emotions... Well then there must be something wrong we think. You're allowing our emotions to shape your view of the relationship and keep it ever changing. How should we be able to trust that? We can't now. It's position is forever changing so whats the point in even trying to follow it? Y'all just need to learn to be the glue and our rock when it matters. When we may be angry with you, we'll see thru that. Rise above it and know that anger lies on a bedrock of hurt and that it's actually painful for us to be perceiving you in a bad light. We don't like it either. It sucks for us. But us women have to put on this anger shell and get out guns loaded cuz there is no way for us to be vulnerable or raw and real with y'all about us needing reassurance...which most fights in relationships with regards to a woman starting something are in relation to this very thing. But you guys out here never question further, help us get to the bottom of it and then offer the reassurance. Cuz how can you when your fragile male ego takes every thing a woman says to you as a dig at your character? Ya vastly underestimate the power of a hug and a "hey, I love you. Thats a fact" attitude. You fight with us not for us. That's a concept that no dude gets. Us women would melt at the very thought of you in the middle of a squabble projecting a masculine voice and just simply saying "sit down, right now, we are talking about this, we are figuring this out".. instant swoon. Instant attention and respect. Cuz it's great. You're not all butthurt and damn chaotic. You're seeking to lead us to a resolve and back to love. But regardless of if you do all this right down to pitch and tone of voice..our intuition will sense if your intentions for us in those moments are secondary to yourself and if they are nefarious in any way. It seeps out of your pores. We can smell it...and it just won't work for you. What you give a woman she gives back x10. So most of the time a good look in the mirror is all it takes. What are you giving to your woman? Give her food she gives you a meal... sperm-->baby...house--->home. Give her chaos, the fire ignites. Give her a feeling of not being safe...you get the point. Give her shit behavior and it way backfires.