Gosh, you are SO relatable! I've lost count of the amount of times I've been overwhelmed and confused about a social situation or my feelings relating to someone/something, for then to sit down with my journal, describe it, free-write around it, just letting my hands flow, and suddenly realising that, "OH! THIS is how I feel! THAS is what's going on here!" and then I look down on the words on the page and it seems *so obvious,* even though I was completely oblivious until it suddenly popped out of my hand 😂 / I can't do digital either, because notifications don't register as "real" to me, they're just blobs in the ether without any substance. With debit cards replacing cash and online banking, money doesn't feel real to me either, they're just numbers on the screen. All I do is make sure enough numbers go into the billing account each month and that I have enough numbers for x, y, z, and as long as I don't enter into negative numbers (which I never understood anyways), I'm all good. I can't think about it any harder because my philosophy brain will go into the "realness of money" and that effs with my head, LOL. / I put recurring tasks in my planner. Yesterday I changed the bedsheets. They should be changed every two weeks. So I flip two spreads forward to two weeks into the future and write "change bedsheets" as a task on the day marking two weeks. That way, I see recurring tasks in my planner, on the day it needs to be done, together with everything else. If it's in a separate tracker, then I forget to look at the tracker, or I get overwhelmed by having to remember to look at the tracker, so this system works for me :)
Omg doesn’t it make you feel so funny to look in your journal and be like “yeah so i woke up to the dog barking, dropped my drink, accidentally grabbed an uncomfy shirt, got yelled at at work, and forgot to eat. Why do I wanna cry tho lol weird haha” and youre just like …🤔🤔 Dont even get me STARTED on the concept of money bro!! Its something that I have to force myself to constantly look at because without paper bills, it’s so easy to just hit the paypal button and not think about consequences since you’re not seeing a diminishing resource!! I have reoccurring tasks for dog medicine in my monthlies and also changing air filters! 🥰 Every Saturday I also have certain chores cycled in and out like sheets or cleaning floors etc. Laundry is my biggest vice rn bc it’s so difficult to predict when I need to do it!!
@@justusspace OMG YES! After years of that kind of journaling, I now have an easier time being kind to myself. Like, today started with me going almost directly into a meltdown. A few years back, I probably would've internally scolded myself for being overly sensitive. Today, though, I was able to tell myself that it was okay, because: I had been driving for three hours the day before in bright winter sunlight that kept flickering between the trees, and then my dog had spent the entire evening whining and howling after being separated from a b*tch entering heat, while I had a fever and my entire body was hurting, and then I woke up in the morning to my dog whining in his crate (very unusual for him), and he howled when I went to the bathroom to pee (also unusual), and I still felt like crap, and I have trauma-related abandonment issues, so when my dog kept on whining and howling and completely ignoring me like I was air, of course that triggered my abandonment issues, and all things considered, a meltdown was a very understandable reaction. So I did things to care for both my dog and myself, and the rest of the day turned out better than okay! I've never been "ill enough" for consistent therapy, so I don't think I would've been able to talk to + treat myself in such a compassionate way if it wasn't for all of the journaling I've done over the past decade. I'm introspective as a black hole by nature, so journaling helps me externalise and look at my thoughts and feelings from a bit of a distance. When they're on paper, it's like they're outside of me, so I can have a conversation with them. That sounds really weird, LOL, but basically I do cognitive behavioural therapy on myself. Ugh, yes, I just spent 40 dollars on a new charging cable (because my current one is broken) and I didn't even flinch. I just kinda zoned out. I don't know how I'd cope without a separate billing account and all of my bills being automatically withdrawn from the billing account, so all I have to do is transfer a fixed amount of money into the billing account every time I get paid and then I know the rest is for food and whatever else I need or want, so if I zone out and overspend, my bills will still get paid. I struggle with laundry, too. Mostly because I use my aunt's laundry machine, and she's notorious for forgetting stuff in both the washer and the dryer. Sometimes everything's empty, sometimes something is running, sometimes there's WET CLOTHES in BOTH the washer AND the dryer! Sometimes there's dry clothes in the washer that she's forgotten to start. The unpredictability gets to me, and I can get super irritable when I have to deal with her laundry in order to get to my own. She's deaf and I still haven't gotten the opportunity to properly learn sign language, so I can't snap at her to get her sh*t together -- which is probably a good thing! 😂
@@inlesinlet THAT IS SUCH A GREAT WAY TO SAY IT!!! To journal and read it back is to externalize yourself where you can kinda talk to yourself like another person. I can pick out problems in other people so easily (as many judgey judies can), so to read it back as if my friend is texting me is like “yeah that’s BS. You need to do XYZ.” That laundry situation sounds so stressful. Maybe leave an aggressive note LOL
Congratulations on your recent diagnosis!! I remember feeling very mixed after getting my diagnosis, and hope youre doing well with it 🌟🌟🌟 Here’s to embracing your brain and re-learning how you work best!
@@justusspace Thank you! I feel good with it, like I finally understand why I am the way I am, and I'm excited about why I should set maybe different goals than what I was trying to achieve before.
I relate to ALL of this. I had to break up my journals into multiples because keeping it all in one gave me anxiety about how I'd find important info on the fly. That has helped greatly in making my process a little more refined.
Subscribed from this video! I'm not autistic(my son is) but I am all-the-things ADHD and I would not be able to function without my physical planner. I have all notifications off on my phone except my alarm clock, so those work for important daily things, but otherwise my planner brain and emails keep me in line. I also use my journal to figure out my feelings as I am just not in touch with my emotional side at all! My period will render my meds useless for days which is super unfun!
I love love love your comment!!! Im so glad that journaling also acts as a huge aid for you. Also. Phone notifications suck Im glad you have them turned off
Uhh I can relate so much! What I don't write down, I forget. Digital never worked for me, it has to be pen and paper. Bullet journal is great because finally I know where I find the info I need. Previously I often lost my little papers, post-its, whatever. I tracked my cycle and migraine for YEARS when I realized there is a connection... Being irritable before my menses was always obvious though! :D
I wonder how many of us were post-it people before bujo! I also went through this for a bit - particularly with doodles though so some Of my sketchbooks are filled with post its and paper scraps
Why thank you! 😊 666 subscribers is absolutely a milestone, but being 667 is just a wee bit better. Thank you for taking the time to leave a nice comment!
Gosh, you are SO relatable! I've lost count of the amount of times I've been overwhelmed and confused about a social situation or my feelings relating to someone/something, for then to sit down with my journal, describe it, free-write around it, just letting my hands flow, and suddenly realising that, "OH! THIS is how I feel! THAS is what's going on here!" and then I look down on the words on the page and it seems *so obvious,* even though I was completely oblivious until it suddenly popped out of my hand 😂
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I can't do digital either, because notifications don't register as "real" to me, they're just blobs in the ether without any substance. With debit cards replacing cash and online banking, money doesn't feel real to me either, they're just numbers on the screen. All I do is make sure enough numbers go into the billing account each month and that I have enough numbers for x, y, z, and as long as I don't enter into negative numbers (which I never understood anyways), I'm all good. I can't think about it any harder because my philosophy brain will go into the "realness of money" and that effs with my head, LOL.
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I put recurring tasks in my planner. Yesterday I changed the bedsheets. They should be changed every two weeks. So I flip two spreads forward to two weeks into the future and write "change bedsheets" as a task on the day marking two weeks. That way, I see recurring tasks in my planner, on the day it needs to be done, together with everything else. If it's in a separate tracker, then I forget to look at the tracker, or I get overwhelmed by having to remember to look at the tracker, so this system works for me :)
Omg doesn’t it make you feel so funny to look in your journal and be like “yeah so i woke up to the dog barking, dropped my drink, accidentally grabbed an uncomfy shirt, got yelled at at work, and forgot to eat. Why do I wanna cry tho lol weird haha” and youre just like …🤔🤔
Dont even get me STARTED on the concept of money bro!! Its something that I have to force myself to constantly look at because without paper bills, it’s so easy to just hit the paypal button and not think about consequences since you’re not seeing a diminishing resource!!
I have reoccurring tasks for dog medicine in my monthlies and also changing air filters! 🥰 Every Saturday I also have certain chores cycled in and out like sheets or cleaning floors etc.
Laundry is my biggest vice rn bc it’s so difficult to predict when I need to do it!!
@@justusspace OMG YES! After years of that kind of journaling, I now have an easier time being kind to myself. Like, today started with me going almost directly into a meltdown. A few years back, I probably would've internally scolded myself for being overly sensitive. Today, though, I was able to tell myself that it was okay, because: I had been driving for three hours the day before in bright winter sunlight that kept flickering between the trees, and then my dog had spent the entire evening whining and howling after being separated from a b*tch entering heat, while I had a fever and my entire body was hurting, and then I woke up in the morning to my dog whining in his crate (very unusual for him), and he howled when I went to the bathroom to pee (also unusual), and I still felt like crap, and I have trauma-related abandonment issues, so when my dog kept on whining and howling and completely ignoring me like I was air, of course that triggered my abandonment issues, and all things considered, a meltdown was a very understandable reaction. So I did things to care for both my dog and myself, and the rest of the day turned out better than okay! I've never been "ill enough" for consistent therapy, so I don't think I would've been able to talk to + treat myself in such a compassionate way if it wasn't for all of the journaling I've done over the past decade.
I'm introspective as a black hole by nature, so journaling helps me externalise and look at my thoughts and feelings from a bit of a distance. When they're on paper, it's like they're outside of me, so I can have a conversation with them. That sounds really weird, LOL, but basically I do cognitive behavioural therapy on myself.
Ugh, yes, I just spent 40 dollars on a new charging cable (because my current one is broken) and I didn't even flinch. I just kinda zoned out. I don't know how I'd cope without a separate billing account and all of my bills being automatically withdrawn from the billing account, so all I have to do is transfer a fixed amount of money into the billing account every time I get paid and then I know the rest is for food and whatever else I need or want, so if I zone out and overspend, my bills will still get paid.
I struggle with laundry, too. Mostly because I use my aunt's laundry machine, and she's notorious for forgetting stuff in both the washer and the dryer. Sometimes everything's empty, sometimes something is running, sometimes there's WET CLOTHES in BOTH the washer AND the dryer! Sometimes there's dry clothes in the washer that she's forgotten to start. The unpredictability gets to me, and I can get super irritable when I have to deal with her laundry in order to get to my own. She's deaf and I still haven't gotten the opportunity to properly learn sign language, so I can't snap at her to get her sh*t together -- which is probably a good thing! 😂
@@inlesinlet THAT IS SUCH A GREAT WAY TO SAY IT!!! To journal and read it back is to externalize yourself where you can kinda talk to yourself like another person. I can pick out problems in other people so easily (as many judgey judies can), so to read it back as if my friend is texting me is like “yeah that’s BS. You need to do XYZ.”
That laundry situation sounds so stressful. Maybe leave an aggressive note LOL
I relate to all of this too!
My house would never get cleaned without my journal set up reminding me when to clean. It is my brain.
If I didnt have it written down idk if my litterbox would be scooped 🤢
@@justusspace saaame
Yes to everythingggg you just said! - from a newly diagnosed autistic person & fellow stationery lover. 💛💛💛
Congratulations on your recent diagnosis!! I remember feeling very mixed after getting my diagnosis, and hope youre doing well with it 🌟🌟🌟
Here’s to embracing your brain and re-learning how you work best!
@@justusspace Thank you! I feel good with it, like I finally understand why I am the way I am, and I'm excited about why I should set maybe different goals than what I was trying to achieve before.
I relate to ALL of this. I had to break up my journals into multiples because keeping it all in one gave me anxiety about how I'd find important info on the fly. That has helped greatly in making my process a little more refined.
Subscribed from this video! I'm not autistic(my son is) but I am all-the-things ADHD and I would not be able to function without my physical planner. I have all notifications off on my phone except my alarm clock, so those work for important daily things, but otherwise my planner brain and emails keep me in line. I also use my journal to figure out my feelings as I am just not in touch with my emotional side at all! My period will render my meds useless for days which is super unfun!
I love love love your comment!!! Im so glad that journaling also acts as a huge aid for you. Also. Phone notifications suck Im glad you have them turned off
Uhh I can relate so much! What I don't write down, I forget. Digital never worked for me, it has to be pen and paper. Bullet journal is great because finally I know where I find the info I need. Previously I often lost my little papers, post-its, whatever. I tracked my cycle and migraine for YEARS when I realized there is a connection... Being irritable before my menses was always obvious though! :D
I wonder how many of us were post-it people before bujo! I also went through this for a bit - particularly with doodles though so some
Of my sketchbooks are filled with post its and paper scraps
i relate v much! i love seeing other autistics talk abt things like this bc it makes me feel less alone. also 🤝 stationery special interest
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I hesitate to knock you from 666 subscribers to 667, but this subject, channel, presenter are all irresistible. Sorry about that…
Why thank you! 😊
666 subscribers is absolutely a milestone, but being 667 is just a wee bit better. Thank you for taking the time to leave a nice comment!
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