How to Live with Messy People!
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Living with a messy person (or a clean person) can be challenging, so this week Melissa is sharing some tips and tricks to help you establish some strategies in order to retain order in your home!
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Is there a messy person or a clean person who you live with?
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my entire household is messy. I want to leave them ALL and get my own clean space in another zip code!!😡🤦♀️
Titi yes!!! I just don’t understand how messy people think how they live is normal 😭
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Go for it! Don't let them know where you live.
I feel you
Same!
Do you live with a messy person?
oh yes I do I detest living with messy people I need the advice and by the way I love your bedspread does mandala design pillow cases I love them OMG where did you get them?
My flipping mother in law. I spend all day cleaning after her & all she does is mess things up again & then has the flipping cheek to to nit pick about things
+Clean My Space Messy people make great lovers, or so they say.
I live with myself so yeah. I watch your videos because I want to be neat but I'm not still. lol
My entire family is messy, and I'm really depressed.
I used to be the MESSIEST person in the house or among my friends. It was terrible. I was ashamed daily by how my room or elsewhere looked. I never wanted anyone to see it. It really turned into something that emotionally affected me and it was among my top 3 of things I hated about myself.
Then one day I decided not to be messy anymore (this is the FAST story) and Im now the neatest person in the house and I´ve taught my family how to be organized and inspired them. Part of the reason I was messy was that nobody taught me or told me how to be organized and clean. Now I literally leave my room open because it has sort of been an inspiration for my family and I´m really proud of myself. It may sound super silly but it DID affect me terribly before. Btw.. I´m 22 and all this happened around a year and a half ago. So people can change : ) And try not make others feel bad for being messy, some of us where already ashamed of it and it only makes it worse.
😍😍😍😘
I am so proud of you! :)
This is so sweet. Thanks for sharing your story.
@@B3bita1215 Thank you
Time I get home from work I am exhausted. So what I do is pick one room to do a day and if I feel like I keep going. When I see that one room is clean it gets me motivated. Hope this helps someone out in cleaning land. Thank you Melissa and Chad for another great video.
My husband is so messy. He comes from work and starts undressing right in the living room and leaves his clothes on the floor. He uses like 3-4 cups/glasses in one day rather then just rinsing out his cup between uses.
Omg that's my father!
That's my daddy. But so what I love him!!!
+CrownedLily just leave his stuff there and clean up everything else or throw it in a bag in the freezer. He won't care because if they are fine on the living room florr, then they are fine in a bag in the freezer. They are never gonna change.
my partner,, leaves rubbish above the bin on the bench and shoes in the walkways n dirty washing on the laundry floor instead of the baskets -.-'
Cherissa Adams you are right, they are never going to change! Been married to the same woman for twenty years and nothing has ever worked. I guess I've just been forced to live with it.
my inlaws and husband. i can see how my husband does not know how to clean, he never learned. so frustrating. i will try to use some of your tips :)
Paulina Nihipali Same here. My in laws are horders....you have to throw out somethings in secret. My husband isn't a horder but definitely doesn't have all the cleaning skills one would hope.
I think my MIL never expected my husband to clean growing up so it gets very frustrating trying to get him to do even basic cleaning tasks. i normally don't mind but I'm 9ms pregnant.
Esther G. You’re so right! I live with my mil and I have to throw away things without her knowing. She has soo many dishes, she thinks that she needs to keep everything just because she acquired it. Our room is so clean and bright, the rest of the house stresses me out so much I cry about it. I’m planning to move out this tax season lol
truth be told, my entire family is messy. I subscribed to this channel to LEARN how to clean, because I was never taught how to do it as a kid (save for reading directions on the back of bottles of cleaner and putting in massive amounts of elbow grease when something becomes unbearable.) I've definitely picked up a lot of good tips from this channel, even if i still struggle to implement them (i'll confess that's laziness on my part).
My mom is a hoarder so I grew up in a mess. Like stuff everywhere with paths to walk through each room. But she did keep the toilet, sink and tub clean. And laundry was always done. so I have to give her that. I ended up opposite of her and I am very anti stuff, but my son has the hoarder gene. So I ask him to at least keep those nasty areas clean. And I put up a room divider curtain so I don’t have to see it when I go downstairs to do laundry. Once in a while I just take the weekend to get his space clean and get rid of stuff, and he is ok with it. Great advice !!! I used to fight with him all the time and it stressed me out more than him, so I had to tone it down and compromise.
What if the messy person can not improve even little thing?
Leave. I refuse to live with messy/filthy people. I don't live with messy family/friends and my spouse had to pass my "neat test" in order for me to feel safe about tying that knot. I get murderous living with messy people. Just cut down on the would-be misery and just do not get involved in the first place if you treasure your neatness, organization, freshness and sanity.
The Red Sterling Mc'Bae absolutely. I’m transferring to University next year and I cannot wait. My family has disrupted my peace to the point of no return.
"Since we're all adults here"
Me:Ummm...
To answer your comment question, I mostly thought about myself... I want to be a cleaner person, so I can set an example for my family. My husband and step-sons are not neat, and I would love it if they could help me maintain a clean environment. I will try your tips to encourage and reward my family for helping me clean.
my parents are both messy from age. my mom used to keep the house clean and my dad the yard. now my dad has to do most everything. I'm also messy but working on it, I got used to someone picking up after me when I was little. now that I live by myself I'm finding that things tend to stay where you leave them.
My spouse and my inlaws came to my mind while watching this..
N unknowingly I guess I had already approached to midline solution and that's the only way we can have peace of mind!!
Lovely video...
thanks, great advices. i have a super messy sister and we share the bedroom. anyway, I will take a better direction to handle and accept her messyness.
My husband and I live with my Mum, who's the worst offender when it comes to mess. I've been trying to get her to tidy her room since I was in my teens (ironic right?) She has pretty bad asthma, and 20years of dust in her room FYI, and that's aside from all the piles of paperwork and swamped surfaces in communal areas.
Now I'm - yet another one by the previous comments - 4months pregnant and desperate to get the house in a state fit for baby, before I get too big... So thank you for these suggestions; I know I've been too mean/nagged her before and nothing's happened, so I'll gladly try it your way and hope! x
my MOther comes to mind, my mother is cleaning 24/7. Although i dont live with her anymore is very important to have a clean house before any kind of visit.( mind you she lives about 300 feet away from my house )
I'm messy ( I'm a pack rat), but it doesn't help that my husband is lazy! On the weekends I always focus on one room that needs a big deep clean and I do that room then through out the week i try to maintain it. Sometimes it's a success and sometimes it's an epic fail. it's easier when my hubby is away at work because then I have no distractions and I can get things done. To help myself out I have been investing in organizers and containers that way if something gets messy then it's only messy in the container and it's not every where.
hahaha, yes this video rocked. I live with several "said" people and its a challenge big time. I am workin on a strategy thou.. thanks all who responded as well with their ideas. I just may try all of them out.. Melissa any advice on kids and cleaning?
Both of us are guilty as charged (hubby, self). However, we definitely have been doing everything in your video, such as designating zones, compromise, encouraging each other, etc. Rather than saying, "We have so much more to get done," we flip it and say, "Wow, look how much has been accomplished. Great job, let's keep it up." And, rewards always work.
Melissa Is there any Cleaning tips on Cleaning Walls and blinds Etc?
My husband who is finally meeting me in the middle, now our roommate is even worse!! I can’t even get him to pick up after himself. Every time I even mention cleaning or he even sees me cleaning, he rolls his eyes and groans...
i tought of my kids i try to like you said i serve the food and tell him since i serve you the food you pick up your plate but i can watch 24/7 so if i dont tell them every time they dont pick up their plates.
My entire family!!! :O Hubby & kids leave stuff around everywhere!!
This helped me learn how to communicate with my boyfriend, because IM messy and HES ocd. Its driving me crazy and we dont even live together yet, im scared for the future 😰 lol
Man those sheets are awesome
It's like you read my mind and make videos specifically for me.
My mom came to mind. I always help her organize the kitchen cabinets and literally a day later it's all messy :(
where did you get your bed sheets? they are beautiful!
While you're cleaning, ask them for "help". My husband won't pick up on his own, but he will do it with me if he sees it as "helping". Feeds his ego because he thinks he's being a good guy by helping". Doesn't really occur to him that he is responsible for the mess and I'm taking care of him by cleaning it up, but I'll put my ego aside so the work can get done.
I live with my messy sister that is not messy but supper messy she don't clean anything but this video help my sister realise that it is important to have a clean space
Oh gosh, I live in a household full of messy people! My hubby, my 16yo, my 7yo and my sis in law. They hate being nagged at so every time I clean something I make a deduction from what they get from me and I have my in law buy extra stuff. I told them if I'm going to be the maid, I'm damn well going to get paid for it. And they are starting to realize it. It's become compulsive and I like it
I love all your videos!! I also like your duvet cover set. Where did you buy it? Thanks for your videos .
Melissa replied a few inches above: "The bedding is from Anthropologie; it's super cozy and definitely brightens the room."
Hi! Ive been called over-organized and a neat freak all my life, but I share a room with a 17 year old sister who doesn’t understand the benefits of a clean space. The disorganization of our room has recently become too much for me to handle as I’ll be starting highschool this year. She always says that I need to deal with it since she’ll be leaving for college in a year. If I were to have a conversation about it, it’d probably turn into an argument. I don’t know what to do anymore because this mess causes so much stress! I’ll definitely take this video in to consideration and try to talk with her and change the way I deal with cleaning and organizing so maybe she will too. If anyone has any extra tips on how to deal with my situation please feel free to reply! Thank you for the video and to anyone who offers help!
Easy to say than done. Messy people are normally lazy, and when they are lazy, they would not care. My husband is one of them. Sometimes I just ignore his messiness, others I can't. I used soft voice, harsh voice....Every single time after we have a fight about him leaving things everywhere, he would try to keep our place in decent shape for a couple weeks then he would get comfortable and get back to being messy. Sometimes, I ask myself if I should get a divorce because dealing with his messiness makes me a mean and angry person and I don't want to be that kind of person.
Honestly I am the messy person in my life lol But these videos help give me motivation : )
My roommate is the messy person. She doesn’t clean up food that gets splattered in the microwave, leaves dishes in the sink, doesn’t rinse the sink out, or wipe down the counters effectively. I’m the only one who cleans the common areas bc I hate the mess.
I love your bed sheet
love the bed thank you for the tip I'm having this issue with my roommate but we are working out on it . it is a challenge lol
Mine is definitely my brother aagghhh but this video helped so much!!!!!
and water Hi, I want to know what is all purpose detergent . Is it vinegar
since I'm always cleaning organizing our space now my husband if he see untidy organized place he would ask why it's not clean😂😏
spoiled husband
+SafePet Haven lol!!!! 😂😂
solution : congratulate him on his observation skills then tell him since he remembers how it was he can reorganise it to tidy ....
Nanou LOL at least he keeps it clean it sounds like. I'm jealous.
SafePet Haven LoL 😂
My two roommates have trouble cleaning because they both have some sort of physical issue. They are both overweight and dealing with foot, ankle, and knee issues so they tire out easily and have trouble getting things done. I am kind of a neat freak i guess because I can't stand sinks full of dishes, counters covered in gunk, shoes and socks thrown about everywhere, and laundry that has been sitting in the washer for how long. One time i cleaned the fridge because it smelled funny and found mouldy food stuffed in a corner behind a large carton of eggs. Im at wits end... What should I do?
All my fam members ( brother, father and mother)
My husband comes to mind. He believes, cleaning only needs to be done once a week. So he throws his uniforms, socks and undies on the floor in the living room. so I gave him a laundry bag to place in his closet, which is an epic Fail. Now, he places everything on the floor of his closet (which he can't close now). I even, went out and purchased bins to place his shoes and socks in, of course the bin is empty and shoes are all over the floor. I hope someone have ideas that can help. Love the video.
The messy person is me; but!! I've changed 😂 and now the messy person is my husband.. Of course my son is doing like his daddy "like father like son😒" and Im doing my best to make my son as organized as we can. Wish me luck ✌️
Ok, I have a huge dilemma... I suffer from anxiety and depression and mild OCD.
So, the depression makes it very hard to be motivated to clean or do much at all for that matter
And living in any form of mess triggers my OCD, which in turn spikes my anxiety... which then makes it EVEN HARDER to clean.
Some days I will get into a great frame of mind and spend the entire day cleaning, but because I live in such a small room, it gets very messy, very quickly, so as soon as I am out of that good frame of mind, it's hard to clean again.
So I'm stuck in this awful endless cycle, and I don't know how to break it!!! Please help!
I have looked.
I am living with a messy housemate and i am watching this video to feel better about my life. I tried to communicate but he never listened. Now i hate men.
GREAT VIDEO
Where did you get that bedspread from?
My boyfriend and I fight about this all the time. 90% of our fights. After our fight he would start cleaning for a couple of days then he is back to his old routine. It's getting so old. What do I do?
my aunt and cousin came to mind now... they unfortunately live with me at the moment, and they are w all due respect, piggies. i barely leave my bedroom because ik by the moment they wake up the house turns into garbage. i don't really know what to do, cuz im an 18 yo and my cousin i can still try to talk gently, but my aunt... she's 30 and i've tried at times talk to her but it just seems impossible and she does not change her messy behaviours, i feel like she doesn't care about keeping the harmony at the house by having common sense.
YO SOY DESORDENADA!!!
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estoy aquí para aprender y mejorar
please do more videos about how to live with messy people
Where did you get those sheets?
Im a super messy girl and sometimes im so messy that I cant even handle my self ... So myself came to my mind XD
Lol that's funny
rotflmao do i know you :O
I was thinking of my super messy husband and super neat sister. I always argue with him about how messy he is and she always argues with me about how messy I am!!
My spouse!!!! We even seperated for 5 months because I couldn't handle it. When he came back he was great but now the bad habits are returning!!!! HELP!!!!!!!
Sadly I watched this knowing that my husband will NEVER agree to participate in a negotiation like this about cleaning. He just doesn't clean or pick up, EVER! Hubby is 62 and VERY set in his ways.#oldschool #housewife
How do you stay clean when you share the bed room with a messy person?????
Good advice! This sounds like my sister and I :)
Oh goshh the struggle is sooo real!!! I Tried rewording I Tried pep talks it never last love and at this point bi just have to clean there mess and do my stuff to in less it we'll never be done If only I got payed like A made lol!!!!
So helpful !!! Thanks :)
+xxelxx6 Nice beddings
My kids!!!
My sister!! She is so messy and is so hard to me collect all her trash all the time! xD I try everything already...
I really love your bedding and I generally dont like red in bedding.
If a person doesn’t take care of what they have by keeping it clean and in good repair, then they need not expect God to give them anything else until they show they appreciate what God already gave them.
me 😯.. im not realy messy just a horder 😧 but im working on it and throwing s#%t away.. 👍
I just checked out mentally from the messy person. Starting today I'm not going to nag, yell or loose my temper.,...they can go to Hades!! My emotional and physical health is more important. I'm tired of helping slobs...It's draining.
i have 3 messy people in my life my sister my nephew and my grilfriend
i do!!!!!!!!!!
I'm a very messy person and I dont like it.I live by myself. Please take into account a person may be messy because they may be feeling overwhelmed or depressed
Or they may be areas they don't see as mess like art or loads of make up in the bathroom
#true
hi Melissa... 😃
I love being messy
Why?
Thanks for the Video. However I don't agree on the statement that a messy person is not wrong. actually they are wrong, because mess lead to unhealthy living circumstances. if it wasn't for the clean person who keeps cleaning after them, bacteria, mold and insect will be found and lead to health issues, especially in the bathroom. so if they are jeopardizing your health they are wrong. I'm living this situation with my roommate, I don't even ask her to clean, but I have asked her to keep it clean several times. and yet nothing change. it's like I'm being taking advantage of. she's the queen who comes to every thing clean, take a shower, wear her make up, messing the bathroom again and leave, and I'm the maid who keeps cleaning after her LMAO. and this is just because I happened to be the clean person!
I was kind of hoping you would just say throw their shit out! bang walls. Make a bigger mess so they have to live in it. LOL not really but the rage inside was. My partners cousin cleaned bodily fluids in our dishwashing sink and didn't think it was necessary to bleach. That is just the TIP of the iceberg, there is a lot more filth I've put up with. I'm 6mo pregnant and have nearly quite seriously snapped.
The problem is not that 'the messy people' don't clean...I'm perfectly happy to clean EVERYTHING by myself ALL the time, the problem is, they make everything dirty in literally zero time-I unfortunately don't have the time to be cleaning every second of my life, so my request is really simple, i.e. to NOT be making everything dirty all the time, and to me it seems reasonable...especially since I'm willing to do everything else by myself and I don't require any help...but it seems worthless, sigh.
The people I live with don't help with cleaning anymore - not even a little bit. They don't even clean up the litter boxes. I've reached my limit, so I stopped cleaning altogether because these are 25-year-old LADIES who would not stick to chores. They knew I would get manic late at night over it and clean everything and I'm tired of being taken advantage of. It's horrific and depressing...
marta r. I feel the same way once i do my cleaning they just have to keep it clear of clothes, dishes etc thats not much to ask especially my husband he annoys me so much that iam gonna start putting his dirty funky clothes in a bag with his clean clothes lol
Ingrid somewhat same feeling. I give up and will not clean anymore. Let the filth reign. Hahaha!!!!
Ingrid It's time for them to get their own place.
KikiDFabulouss Lol
Being messy comes at a cost, and that cost is your relationships, if you don't want to do it for yourself then do it for others. It's a sign of respect and compassion
My mother and sister. Disorganized, undisciplined, ineficient. I do all the cleaning around the house. Stepping in a messy, grimmy room is pure toture for me as a minimalist.
Omg i found my people my mother and sister are absolute tramps i literally clean up after them like they are infants our house is a nightmare gum stuck on the kitchen floor bathroom looks like a horror scene sometimes i could off myself sometimes
*Really wish these tips worked with my messy person. They simply will not clean, will not throw things away, and always have an excuse why they will not be a clean or neat home living. We no longer live together. That is the inevitable with people that refuse to live clean, neat, and organized.*
I wasn't a nag before I got married and had children. They created the beast so they have to live with the beast!
Lol I feel the exact same!!!!
Truth!
I think it's alright to be a nag with your own kids
Lol
Lol that profile pic matches this comment.🤣
I live with a hoarder 😡 I hate my parents who spend time holding on to material things when there aren't even used daily... or even weekly. it's just plain stupid! aaaah i hate this, i can't wait til i have my own space.
@Leelayla Tyler watch Disney Channel Child
My room is beautifully decorated and meticulously clean. The rest of the house is like a dungeon. Happy to stay in my own room.
Same! My mums bf makes a mess on purpose in my room!
Lingardinho LD watch Back Relief Videos Boomer
@@scorpionz01 stfu
Im not an adult! im 12 y.o. and im obsessed with keeping my room clean and declutering and i live with messy peps! My bro' and my dad! me and my mom always try to tell the and everything but they just do it to their own mind. I really like your videos. you inspired me to acrually start being clean. when i was like 8-9 My room was CONSTANTLY messy but now i just have like a book or 2 on the floor. thanks for this video! it realy helped me!
me and myself bf Good for you! It's a good habit to develop at a young age. Keep it going! It will be so beneficial for you in the long run.
me and myself bf THIS IS LITERLALY ME
Same I'm 12 and I share a room with my sister and my cousin. They don't clean up. I have to clean up everything and when I leave the room and come back after awhile the room already has things underneath the bed/on the floor(ect.) They hate to clean up and leave dirty clothes on the floor and dirty dishes stashed around the room. And trash on the dresser. One time I left the room as it was to see if they was gonna realize their mess and clean up. But the room stayed the same way for 4 days! So had to clean the whole room. Even when company come they leave the house and their room messy. My mom is the only person who helps clean the house with me and I'm the only one who cleans up the room😡 I can't wait to have my own house!
Also they dont have manners and they sneeze and cough without covering their mouth. They sneeze on the floor on the couch on the blankets and even on people and they cough in your face!
me and myself bf same 😂
Make sure that when/if you get married later, you won't end up with a messy partner because this will be a lifelong problem in the relationship ; )
Here's one that few people will ever tell you. Sometimes the best solution is to just walk away and move on with your life. Seriously find another living arrangement, if a person is just plainly a irresponsible person you are not going to change them and they certainly won't meet you in the middle. Responsibility is something that is learned on there terms not yours.
Anyone here a messy person that watches these videos in hopes that you could one day be a clean person?! 😂
In my defense I have 4 small kids so it's kind of pointless to try to keep anything tidy
+Brittany Blankenship they can still help a little. My sister turned my nephew into a super neat baby .... they put the toys away in certain areas. he would get mad if it wasn't right when we tried to help while visiting. they like having a little bit of responsibility makes them feel "big"
Me! I want my house company ready but I feel so overwhelmed!
🙌
Brittany Blankenship me. Keep hoping the ideas will become my reality. 😭
my family... grrr! I would love a pristine home but I live with 3 people who like to leave their things all over the house. I try to keep up but man I get tired of it... for a long time I just gave up but lately I realized letting it be untighty steals my peace, so I have been slowly and nicely reminding then to pick up their things as they are done with them.
My adopted kids have been sneaking food to their rooms and hiding it and hiding trash for 9 years! Can't get them to stop
@@donnamaness7352 Give their asses back to Foster care
My husband is definitely the messy person! However, after many conversations with his family, I'm literally fighting a life long disaster of a problem. I honestly haven't figured out how to deal with it yet. :-(
Dump the bastard.
@@sagrammyfour calling him a bastard is very uncalled for. He could be a genuinely amazing guy and a really good husband
My mother was the overly neat person and my sister followed in her footsteps...I use to associate cleaning with negative thoughts. Instead of showing me how to clean,she would slam things around and hint at needing help instead of just asking so I would always mentally check out. I lived on my own for about 10 years and never enjoyed cleaning until now..I live in a space where I am actually proud of so I would like it to be neat most of the time and can have guests over without embarrassment. It's still a learning curve but I truly appreciate all your videos and all that you do! I agree nobody likes living with a nag!:-P...p.s. can you please make a video about the best way to tackle carpet stains and taking car of upholstered furniture?
That happened to me too. That and donating/pitching a lot of stuff lol. Much easier.
+Megan C Omg you are so right about that I contribute alot of my neatness now is that I live 5 minutes away from a goodwill..totally agree with you
Same here. Hated cleaning growing up, but when I started living on my own, I appreciated and did it gladly!
exciuses.
@@peilin6212 Please learn to spell before you start trolling.
i live with 10 ppl all of them are messy and no one appreciates when i clean
Do you live with a clean freak?
+Clean My Space I'm the clean freak Lol. I hate when I see hair on the floor, underware, dishes to clean, documents everywhere... God, so frustrating!
I wish
my mom
+random 2 i read your comment on melissa's question when she asked do you live with mess person, you said my mom. Now when she says do you live with clean person you are saying my mom. Wth?
+Clean My Space i wish
What if my parents are hoarders? 😭
Better your parents than your partner because at least, there's an end in sight!
Melissa, I want you to know something, Thank you! 😢 I'm in tears right now. I struggle with being messy as well, but living with my elderly father who a hoarder, who rarely cleans is a task to defeat. This video gave me some hope and tips on how to deal with the situation. I'm very motivated at times to clean, but I get depressed that I barely make any progress. This video really was a breakthrough that could know how to deal with him. Thank you!
I feel you on the aging parent. My mom just said to me "I'm past the point where it bothers me." Yeah, *I know* .
@@spirals73 Oh... I think that's how my felt in his head.
Put baskets anywhere they leave their stuff... It looks much better
I pick it all up in a basket and then throw it on their bed. They can't gp to sleep unless they've cleaned up after themselves.
Great video! I guess I would be considered in my husbands eyes as the messy person! My husband is a clean freak and it drives me crazy.... but on the flip side I drive him just as crazy as well. I don't see the need to have EVERY THING in place at all times where as he does. It has been a struggle to compromise with him. We have agreed that my side of the bed is off limits to him as well as my office. I work from home so he feels I have time to clean all the time which is not the case. I don't get paid to clean house during my work hours. In any case I do think your video was pretty helpful and I plan on having him view it as well. Keep up the great work as well as your great suggestions!
Johnece Mercer you should have your husband pay you to clean if he is so adamant about it lol :)
This would be my husband. You just can't imagine how this describes him. Messy wouldn't even begin to describe him.
Hello Clean my space. I need some advice. I have a female room mate who I have moved in with who does not clean anything and refuses to come half way. I have spoken with her calmly as you suggested and she sometimes agrees but never follows through on what shes says. I tried making a chore chart for the 3 of us but she says its stupid and refuses to take part in her one task. She also refuses to shower and I have asked if it is a medical thing and she says no. She says its her house and she can smell if she want to. Im at the end of my rope and could use some advice.
move out
Leave! It will never change.
“While most people don’t like to live with a nag, NO ONE likes to live with a messy person.” FTFY.
Dealing with apathetic, inert or disorganized people is beyond frustrating when often the work load is shifted onto your plate. I cannot, for mental health reasons, live in constant mess or chaos, but also cannot live feeling overwhelmed with a disproportionate amount of the work load. My simple requests of maintaining a cleaned or decorated space, or simply respecting my belonging such as not using my decorative pillows especially when you come home dirty from work is really hard. It isn’t simply a matter of me being _too neat_ but expecting mutual respect for my space and time. Eventually I start to breakdown myself and stop feeling motivated to maintain a healthy living space which is ultimately indicative of my own mental state.
And, I am not at all super particular, and I don’t mind things looking lived-in but frick man. I don’t want to find garbage in the fucking family room or look at your stained blankets or piles of “clean” laundry.
I feel your pain. I'm at the point of exploding. Asking, complimenting, all the said 'solutions' work for abt 2 seconds. Nothing is improving. I stay in my room or outside a lot just to keep my sanity. Best wishes.
Omg same! 😩
@@valoriel4464 At least you have your own room you can escape to....
My roommate is probably the messiest person I have come to know. It gets to be tiresome. So glad for this video! ☺️