Living in fantasy is excruciating. I hate it. I think it's so strong with me because I know that healthy, romantic love is not something available to me. Because I can't have it, my heart punishes me with limerence when I just want to get on with my life and heal. I just want to be completely neutral on romance so that I can focus on fixing all the stuff that's messed up about me and I can find peace.
Sometimes I feel like all these terms makes me feel worse about myself. Like at one point I thought I was a narcissist because one person called me that and came across videos about BPD and thought I had that (my therapist doesn’t think I have either). Now I’ve been in a panic about limerence, took a quiz and it said I might be (53% or somewhere around there). I guess there’s different degrees. But basically it makes me feel crazier than I actually am. I also thought it was depression that caused me to lose interest in things but realized I just outgrew them and simply need to try new things. I think it helps to reframe things so you don’t identity with whatever it is you’re going through
Amazing how you are raised. Is it really possible to live a lifetime this way in order to believe people are good? That you don't see the truth? The masks they wear change so fast that you don't know who or what is real! Then at 65 you have a breakdown and realize you have no memories of an entire lifetime. When you realize you are the empath raised by a covert mother who still wants you as her indentured servant for life. All I can say is WTF just happened? Is that limerance or something else?
I feel you… the wake up call is part of the healing. Once you realize that you were limerent your whole life about your mother, you can start deconstructing yourself and the relationship. I do it little by little and it is a challenge. Please love your inner child and take care of your adult self
Living in fantasy is excruciating. I hate it. I think it's so strong with me because I know that healthy, romantic love is not something available to me. Because I can't have it, my heart punishes me with limerence when I just want to get on with my life and heal. I just want to be completely neutral on romance so that I can focus on fixing all the stuff that's messed up about me and I can find peace.
If I had a replacement, I could let it go.
Harsh love ❤ thank you for this eye opening video
Sometimes I feel like all these terms makes me feel worse about myself. Like at one point I thought I was a narcissist because one person called me that and came across videos about BPD and thought I had that (my therapist doesn’t think I have either). Now I’ve been in a panic about limerence, took a quiz and it said I might be (53% or somewhere around there). I guess there’s different degrees. But basically it makes me feel crazier than I actually am. I also thought it was depression that caused me to lose interest in things but realized I just outgrew them and simply need to try new things. I think it helps to reframe things so you don’t identity with whatever it is you’re going through
Evita, why do you insist on so ruthlessly calling us out?😂🩷 grateful for your candor… Thank you and God bless.🙏🏽
Dayum
Only comment who makes me laughing 😂 dayuuuum
Very good!
The fantasy still huurts
Penelope was the wife of Odysseus
Damn she’s reading me 😅
Yeah, like a video game. Limerance is more like watching a playthrough and pretending that you're playing.
Everything you want in a parent.. oops a partner 💀
Amazing how you are raised. Is it really possible to live a lifetime this way in order to believe people are good? That you don't see the truth? The masks they wear change so fast that you don't know who or what is real! Then at 65 you have a breakdown and realize you have no memories of an entire lifetime. When you realize you are the empath raised by a covert mother who still wants you as her indentured servant for life. All I can say is WTF just happened? Is that limerance or something else?
Or is limerance on her part the day she says can't we go back to before I had children? As I am moving her into senior housing.
I feel you… the wake up call is part of the healing. Once you realize that you were limerent your whole life about your mother, you can start deconstructing yourself and the relationship. I do it little by little and it is a challenge. Please love your inner child and take care of your adult self
This is good but the tone is too much like a parental telling off to land with me.
Damn calling me out 😅😅😂