Childfree by Choice: Why has Aleena Farooq Sheikh voluntarily opted out of parenthood?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ธ.ค. 2021
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Cconversation with Aleena Farooq Sheikh on why she has voluntarily opted out of parent hood
I wish you interview her again after 10 years and ask how this decision is effecting. This is her personal decision but it's not something that everyone should follow or start thinking about it.
Yes agreed...
Exactly
The worst part would be to take this decision AFTER marriage. If a lady does not want to have children, she should declare that well before marriage.
@@silenthill1035 totally agree. They just dnt ruin her husband's life but family will get affect too. I know one similar case in my family too.
agree
Having children is such a amazing experience only a mother can tell this. I was working lady but now i don’t want to work i love to spent my time with my lovely kids i love to my kids more then money. i am raising them doing my best efforts to teach them moralities so they can play a good role in society even i don’t want my little one grow quickly i love her talking with a broken words.its sooo amazing and heart feel soo much peace when your child hug you kiss you and ask you many innocent questions some time i feel sad but my children do something which make me laugh and help to forget my worries. I live in west i know how the old people sit alone and watching others with flat eyes they don’t have any one to who they can share their happiness or sorrows.
Astaghfir ullah 31 sal enjoy karnay k leay kum hay kia
Sab ki marzi
@@IbrarAli-dx5fn unki marzi
Agree
Thank you for sharing your experience.
الحمدللہ کثیرا.. میرے 6 بچے ہیں اور ہم 10 بہن بھائی ہیں اور میں بہت خوش اور پرسکون ہوں.. زندگی اس سب کے ساتھ بہت ہی خوبصورت ہے بغیر کسی کو اپنے بڑھاپے کا سہارا تصور کئے ہوئے... اور میں نے اپنی پریشانی کے لمحات میں ان سب کے ساتھ کو انتہائی سکون کا باعث پایا ہے...
کبھی آپ میری جیسی کثیر العیال خاتون کا تجربہ بھی شیئر کیجئے...تصویر کے دونوں رخ... بچوں کے ساتھ 💕اور بچوں کے بغیر زندگی🙄
Wow
What a bold lady, so clear headed, so articulate!
Loved watching this talk.
Same I was when getting marry was thinking that for next five years I will not gonna make baby soon but when a month passed I myself start craving for a baby.. alhmdulilah having two girls and also completed my PhD
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Exactly . mjy b shadi k bad yi lga k koi bat ni jaldi baby na b ho its ok .
After 2 years i concieved nd wo jo aik motherhood ki journey h Dunia me sb sy best journey feel hoi mjy . sb sy best rishta maa bachy ka . Now i m also planning for my 2nd baby plZ pray for me .
But han bachy kbi b apki taraqqi ki rah me rokawet ni bnty ❤
I never comment online but you just made me do it @Maria Memon. Hats off to both of you for such a fresh and genuine topic.
Very nice interview...I am fedup of our desi culture when it comes to having kids...
Just imagine, if her parents decide the same not to have the child.....Alina was not in this world as she is right now.
Its natural and religious bonding to take part towards the re-generation of human population growth u can not deny it though U can delay it to settle down a little financially or ur career
It's her choice...y can't you understand this simple step
Watch me denying that sht, lol
And how would it bad for her if she didn't exist?
U r right, but agar koi emotional ya financial issue h to shadi mt kro bhai dusray Insan ko zindagi bhi brbd krtay ho apnay fazul mindset k sth
A great topic. I love being single and having no kids-l enjoy my own company and care less what people think of me, I have to live my own live and be happy. I am not ready to comprise my happiness and peace of mind. There is absolutely nothing wrong being single and having no children. I have an amazing family who never interferes in my life and trust to me to make the best decision of the life I chose.
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ماں کے قدموں تلے جنت ہے۔
Amazing to see these topics . Bring more stories like these.
Dnt use the word “childfree” call it “childless”,and its not something to glorify,its every one’s own choice to decide whether to have kidz or not,but fr me my soft little cutie pie is my life part of my soul nd my greatest blessing,No one can b more precious fr a mother thn her child
Plzzz don’t impose your thoughts and beliefs on to others....try to broaden your mind and acknowledge that others are allowed to have different views...
اولاد ہونا اور انسان کی زندگی کے تمام فیصلے اللہ تعالی کے حکم سے ہیں,
ایک ربڑ کا غبارہ آپ کے اللہ کے حکم اور پلان کو بدل دیتا ہے!
@@humanbeing3837 apni padaesh peh ghaur kro.
I also want to go childless like her if I get married. I'm not really into kids. In my opinion, one should have kids only when they feel like it but not out of some pressure.
بہت بہادری سے آپ نے اس موضوع پر بات کی اور آپ اپنے نقطہء نظر سے بہت درست ہیں ۔۔ علینہ میں آپ کو داد دیتا ہوں ۔۔ اس منافقت بھرے معاشرے میں اتنا کلیئر مائنڈ ہونے کے لئے ۔۔ اللّٰہ تعالٰی آپ کے لئے آسانیاں کریں ۔۔ آمین
Maria you are doing amazing discussing the topics which nobody talks about so openly. All the interviews are very informative. You are such a good interviewer 😊
More love and power to you ❤
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Well done salute both ladies to brought up much needed topic. Allah bless you.
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Very good conversation. Our society says that burhapay mein kaun sahara banay ga. First of all no one knows what their future withholds. Also just because someone has kids there isn’t any guarantee they’ll be your support system. Life can make any turn any time in your life. And pressuring women for marriage or planning to have kids after marriage is to me a very disgraceful thing to do. Because your life is no one else’s business. You being an adult and a responsible person has this right to make any decision for your life that suits best for you. And for which you don’t have to regret later on. Because guilt and regret eats you from the inside. It steals away your happiness from you. Anything done under pressure or without your willingness won’t give you happiness. Just because majority does it or follows the norm of the society doesn’t mean the rest has to do the same. It’s okay not to follow the crowd and create your own path and walk that path. When they are not the ones paying your expenses. They aren’t their for you in your sorrow or happiness. Then these people by no means has the right to interfere in your life or tell you what you’re suppose to be doing with your life. When they don’t even care about your well being. There care is only limited to the point where they can get personal gain from you. Or just want something to talk about. Because they don’t have anything else to do in their lives besides trying to figure out what’s going on in somebody else’s life.
Our society thinks that a women’s worth and value comes from having a man in her life. Or whether or not she has kids. You are still a valuable, and worthy person, beautiful in your own way, deserving the same respect regardless of the choices and decisions you’ve made for your life. Atleast you own your decisions. So, if you ever have to bare with those consequences it’s yours. You own your happiness, sorrow, problems, failures, choices and decisions you’ve made for your life. Those are yours and you own them. Unfortunately, the world we live in has this stereotype. They want you to blend in with them and wear the same colors and shades they are wearing. Life is too short to worry about what others think of you. You live your life once. Live it to your fullest. Explore it! Life is an adventure, it’s a beautiful journey and not everyone is fortunate enough to see it’s beauty. Life itself is a huge blessing from God. And one should be thankful to God for every breathe they take. Live out your dreams. In this world we live in one must develop a thick skin. Not letting anything get under their skin. And bother them. Because people are people. You are only responsible for what you say, not for what they understand. It’s their mentality and you can’t make them think. So, just accept the fact that people are people and some will never change no matter what. People these days don’t care how they make you feel. They lack empathy, understanding and compassion. They are not willing to understand other perspectives. Their side of the story. There mentality is only limited to that box. They can’t think outside the box. If they could, this world would have been a better place to live.
I am the youngest of all siblings, with a large generational gap with everyone in the family, who was conceived because "burhapay ka sahara hoga akhri bacha". I was raised with this reiteration everyday so I sacrificed my life choices, ambitions and career because of this responsibility while everyone else ran off to live their lives. I am happy to take care of my parents, but who is responsible for the mental trauma. I genuinely wish people conceive with intention, because that "burhapay ka sahara" that you raised is a mental nut case now.
Thank you for sharing your story
I hear you. Thank you for sharing your story. Kudos to you for caring for your parents but I feel others should have shared the burden. It's too much for one person. You deserve to live your dreams as well.
You are such a beautiful soul...
You deserve good in life.
Taking care of parents is a blessing..
Shadi is not the only motive to live for and kids are not the only option to live happily.. make your life more productive in terms of being enlightened ...search relatable social gathering. you will enjoy your life then more ..such sick society won't effect you anymore like before..
love and respect for you
"Mental trauma" of having kids? This western idiocracy is gonna consume our society too. Sad!
Burhapy ka sahara wala dialogue wo isliyr bolty kiu k unky pas ek bari ala logic h "hmny tmy bachpan mn pal k ehsan kiya tme chalna or bolna sikhaya" what do you say about it then?
Please invite Amina Baig as well. she is police officer you might know her as well.
One of her achievements is the establishment of Women Protection Unit at police station(Kohsar).
That might help women know more about their rights.
And this might help in some way reducing domestic voilence.
i ve seen people literally begging to ALLAH for children but dy never concieve
Good wishes for you
Totally Rubbish Topic. If you don't want to have a baby then don't marry. What kind of woman is this that she doesn't wants to be a mother and having a baby. Children are a source of strong bonding between you and your partner.
اللہ تعالی انلینہ کو ہدایت دی
yes
Loved the Topic... Well done Maria Mam
Having children or not to have children that’s a couple’s own choice, but in my humble opinion such topics should be registered as a clause in the nikkanama and not postponed for a discussion after marriage.
If at time of nikkah both partners agree on not to procreate then it’s fine, else bringing up this discussion after nikkah has a 50% probability of one partner disagreeing to the idea and causing complications in relationship.
Islam totally permits us to put forward this clause in nikkanama, therefore there shouldn’t be a hesitation of discussing it pre marriage
Agreed
Nikah Nama is a marital contract that is only used for legal proceedings later on if something really bad happens in a couple's life. If a person really has some views and ambitions which do not match with the society he is living in then he should choose his life partner wisely. Life partner choose krtay time jo laan taan sunni hai society se wo sun ly... nai to nikah namay main cluases likhwa k bhi apko koi khas faida nai hona... Life miserable e honi hai tab bhi apki... phir adaalton main ja k bhi alag e zalalat hoti hai Pakistan main to... is liye acha nai thori proactive approch k sath chala jaye...?
Am 23 medical student after being all the life struggles everyday i question is life really worth it ? Is it really worth bringing a person which you will love the most into this world ? Sakoon tu qabar mei bhi nahi hai tu bachey laney ka faida kiya
mam pls tell me that does nepotism exist in media industry as well or not?
amazing podcast,salut to maria memon to discuse this type of topic,
Loved the conversation hats off to you both.
Thanks
Im a great fan of your pod-cast. Always different, much needed topics and on the point!
Don’t use word “bold” for this decision. Bold sound rebellious. This word giving the society a thought as girls are going against the rules.
Use much convincing and compelling words.
No matter how much we think we are open minded but we are not esp people from the era of60’s and 70’s who are in the age of being grandparents.
They will never understand these things
Noted
I have 3 kids but i totally support this woman. If thats what she wants let her live her life.
Maria.....being parents.......is world's best experince nd feel u more healthy fresh relax hving hectic routines
There is nothing wrong in opting out of parenthood. This is a personal matter and nobody else should interfere. I myself don't have kids. But when I see joy in the eyes of old people whenever their grandchildren visit them once a year, I know what I will miss in my lasts days.
This is personal life no body interfair
There must be some discussion circles within community either online or face to face where like minded people can sit and discuss their issues like these to combat stress and depression caused by external factors.
could not have agreed more. i love how you explained what why & how, it really gave me an insight for how to express this. i have my own reasons too and am one of the pakistani women who think alike. may God help us all. lots of prayers your way!
Added that she will prove a best mother one day.emotionally and logically perfect mother she will be for sure... so optimistic
More power to the guest for openly sharing her thoughts. Its a battle living around dumb people and keep sanity and still choose to live your life as you want it. Kudos to both of you!
I was waiting for this topic. so true not everyone wants to have kids. Thank you so much for always coming up with such topics. Duaein 💜
True but in our society log ise jene marne ki waja bna late hain
Great topic and great conversation!!
Excellent episode hope so we will understand all of this..,
ماریہ جی پتہ نہیں علینہ کے دماغ میں کیسے یہ خیال آیا لیکن میں آپ کو کنفرم بتا رہا ہوں بہت پچھتائیں گی وقت گزرنے کے بعد
یہ تو لازمی ہے ۔۔۔۔
tumharay pas tu nahi ae gi rotay hue ... pehlay 22 crore gawaaron se bhari qaum hai, aur kitne paida karne .. sood par pura mulk chal raha woh fikr nahi, taleem nahi woh fikr nahi, zana ho raha auraton bachon ka woh fikr nahi, dunya jahan ka kachra gharron k bahir para hua woh fikr nahi, chori daketi woh fikr nahi .. lekin bachay jamm laway 8,10 crore hor .... lanat teri soch te
Says a man ,jiska kam 4 sec mai khatam hojata hai.
@@averagestudent5223 I'm really laughing 😅🤣😂.. you said so well
@@shoaibfarid8987 educated people can leave a positive impact without procreating, teri soch te v lanat. If you don't parent, you can mentor others more easily, you can volunteer ... i gather you've never been outside Pakistan and if that's the case, you definitely don't know what i am talking about. You have to see it to know!
you are doing such an amazing job, please bring more subjects on the table related to psychological issues .👏👌
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Very genuine topic .I don't have any child .my sister also don't have any child . Mri bahat sari friends k b bchey ni han .bt log really bahat ajeeb questions krtey han .but we are satisfied with our life .jb Allah ko mnzoor ho ga bchey ho jaen ge hm kia kr sktey han.
Mere sath b Asa hai koi kahy ga yha chly jao waha chaly jao Mai kuch nhe kr sakti Allah ki marzi k agy.
ALLAH pak jin ki chahat hy uny foran shadi bad olad dy ameen ...
Been through a lot because of this issue and can relate to this.....and things are a mess as far as an individual is concerned but apparently log are satisfied 😌
After a long time I found someone who thinks exactly like me👍
Wow such a refreshing conversation
Thanks
I'm glad to see people are making the choice to stay childfree. I'm 27 years old and from Pakistan and married. I and my husband have decided to remain childfree and i love this choice. It's so liberating and comfortable. I have time for myself. I can focus on my career get a nap and more perks i can't imagine. However, it doesn't mean i don't like children. I adore my nephew and niece and love to spend time with them.
Nice
@Nasir Abdullah There is no evidence of any god
@Nasir Abdullah True
@@71espn There is no evidence of your true father
@Nasir Abdullah Aulaad Allah ki naimat hai..but i think Allah said in the Quran. Maal or Aulaad aazmaish hain. So, you're wrong in a sense.
audiance be aware!
both ladies belong to d notorious group
MERA JISM MERI MERZI
@Aliya Hassan exactly
with every point is very very strong n great . i strongly agreed 👍👍👍
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been married for ten years and childfree by choice. initially, we used to say "dua karien" whenever we were asked about kids. But now we say that by choice we are childfree. Life is good.
Wow 🙌🏽
Then how do they response?
@@mcflurry2029 some laugh, some do not believe but there are few who actually appreciate the decision.
@@naqviramla Good to know some Pakistani CF couples! 😊
@@shoaibfarid8987 stop encouraging hypocrisy. This nation is already a master of that. Shed this "log kya kahenge" syndrome and free your mind of social phobias.
Amazing wow great program god bless you Maria 😊
What if in 5 years you cant have kids. When neighbours are having the grandchildren over at eids what will you do feel? Would you regret?
I'm agreed
Lol she can adopt one.
Me n my husband also decided childfree even before we get married...it was the best decision of our life......we are so happy 😁 thank God.
Looking for more such conversations on our social taboos
Duniya Men Jinki Aulad Nahi Wo Taras Rahe Hain Ke Allah Unhen Aulad Ata Kare. Aur Aik Ap Hain Ke Aulad Na Paida Karne Apni Marzi Girdan Rahi Hain. Allah Apko Sahi Rasta Dikhaye. Aameen
The mindset that every freaking person needs to reproduce whether they are mentally capable or mentally ready or not is the reason we are here today.Parenting is one of the most difficult job with highest amount of responsibility and people give no thought before junping into this
GHAREEB LOWER CLASS AURAT KO BHEE BULANA CHAHYEE
Exactly, everyone here just say ke bache apna rizq khud late hai.
No doubt but university ki fees ap ne hi bharni hai.
Tell that to the child labours working in brick kilns all over the country.
Lol…are u high or what?? Where does mental readiness come from? That’s overthinking & running away from responsibilities. There is no such thing as perfect results before doing a task..You learn along the way..common sense
@@fozyk1099 tou ? That's what parents do for kids like you too right . They must've been regretting now but they did what they think is right . That's why they are PARENTS and you aren't.
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Wow, so personal.
More power to Aleena! Maria - good on you for raising this sensitive subject. Applause to both very able, competent and impressive ladies! 👏👏👏
Thanks
Well....everyone has the right to live a life of his or her choice, thats fine and I absolutely agree with that.
gud formate abt issues
It's the only channel where I find iconoclasts breaking the norms for good. Kudos to you Maria. You have always brought show-worthy topics been remaining under the cover for so long. Love to you also for what you have done by unfolding the nuances among gender-fluid people in your previous videos. ❣
This discussion was so refreshing! Being childfree, I love being an aunt to my relatives' and friends children. Having a child/children is a choice. Also, getting married is a choice.
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When old age comes then you will realize it that how important kids in our lives
Massive respect for aleena. Everybody has the right to lead thr lives as per thr own choices.
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ماریہ آپ نے .9999999% عورت کا وہ روپ اپنے فورم پر ڈسکس کیا جس کی مثال اس معاشرے میں مشکل سے ملتی ہو۔۔۔اور وہ عورت جو پیدائش سے ہی ماں اور ممتا کی تڑپ اپنے اندر لئے جوان ہوتی ۔۔۔۔معاشرے کا جزو اور main part تو وہ ہے نا اسے بھی پروموٹ کریں, سامنے لائیں۔۔۔یاد رکھیں اپنے اصل سے فرار حاصل کرنا اور غیر فطری رویے کو فروغ دینا آپ جیسے صحافیوں کو زیب نہیں دیتا
Very good reply 👍
That's a choice, no one can object but going against nature's rule totally and educating other to do so, will bring to you a destructive phase one day! Not now but sometime! Sacrifices are the major part in every single relationship, you say so that due to children, women neglect their selves and got depression. But then how will you get that rank which is titled. You will not get to know the value of motherhood until you be that, sister. You will realize later.
I really like maria memon. She has a really nice peaceful personality
It's ur life n i respect ur decision. U r brave n iron lady
I highly appreciate both ladies for discussing such a sensitive issue. Excellent...we also decided not to have kids for quiet a time but then we mutually decided that we should have because it will add more love to our relationship and life. But this burhapay ka Sahara we decided two things firstly, that we will bring them up thinking that we don't need anything from them in our old age and secondly what ever we spend on then interms of finance, time n emotion we will never throw on them from their childhood as people say "we did this n that for u and now u r doing this with us". My experience is that if life partners love n respect each other then to face people become lot easier....claps for u...
Beautiful comment. ❤️❤️
Absolutely I agree with your point. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼❤️
Strongly agree, love your thoughts
Really like the podcast and talk, we need people like you two to change the society in Pakistan. I have been coming across your domain over social media for last couple of years and felt appealing, Keep doing what you are doing.
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Very well said, Aleena.
Though, I am single but this is the most amazing thing I have ever watched 👌👌
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Round of applause for both ladies. You are creating amazing and much-needed content. It's not easy to break the taboos :p
Thanks
Zabardast initiative maria... Such brilliant topics.... May this create an impact in our sick minded society... 👏👏👏
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We have a long way to go. I believe we need to be more considerate towards others and refrain from asking any personal questions. Just imagine yourself in the shoes of the person you are asking the question.
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I wish we have more women who think like her. You read my thoughts Aleena, unfortunately everyone in my family thinks I have gone mad when i express my views.. they say, is nay zyada parh lia hai ye pagal ho gaya hai. Bringing kids into this pathetic world seems like a criminal offense to me. People who are not even eligible for parenthood are giving births every year. It's a huge responsibility to bring a new human being into this world and then bring them up so that they can play a positive role in society.
Such a good conversation and you guys are so right that there are many girls who have a child just to stop a society pressure that took a toll on their minds or their partners wanted to have children and after some time they sought of struggling in raising a child and finding their own self that they leave way behind in all this process. They do love their children but at same time in deep down their heart they know this is not the life they wanted.
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*We need to understand that not everything wrong in our society or tradition,many things are right there, why should we delay the motherhood?and why should we promote it?*
Because it's a choice. No one have asked anybody to bear children. Being childfree is a choice just like having children.
En orto ka taluk or at march se hai
Promote freedom of choice
Because it's not your business, duty or right to force people to live how you think they should
VERY BOLD STATEMENT OF ALEENA FAROOQ SHEIKH
Yes. Many people need this time.
Very different and taboo breaker podcast. We need more and more open conversations on such delicate and so called sensitive topics. As an individual , Aleena has every right to live her own life according to her wishes and rules. Although it's not an easy thing to do, she deserves lot of credit for this the way she has talked about this and living her dreams. Brilliant.
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Yes she has the right stop embedding shit in others stop promoting
@@farahkhan1964 Don't try this.
Thanks for the consistency with a Taboo topic but most of interview was in response to the personal or negative comments that she use to face... It could have been more productive and challenging if real questions based upon Islamic, social and psychological philosophy could have been asked. Such as,
What is her view about Hadees in which woman prone to conceive more?
Why actually they get married even that could have been delayed with mutual consent?
What are their views about legacy?
etc etc
Maria u and your podcast is wonderful😍
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Agreed. Great topic.
no matter how brainless it is, its really her own and partner's decision
Not only for having children. In Pakistan people loves to interfere other people personal life. They do not know boundaries, and their stupid questions hurt and harm other people. They should know if someone is not telling their personal thing not to dig for having an information for gossips!
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Very relevant topic. The random people ask personal questions about family and kids as if they are going to raise kids. My body my rights with informed choices is the right of couples.
I liked this podcast with Aleena, can you please invite news anchor Sarah Ilyas on your next podcast? Just a humble request.
Its good to discuss taboo topics but going against the nature can be regretful in coming future. Imagine a life when your immediate family is no more alive and you are left alone weak and lonely. Children are hope and reason fornour happiness. Secondly, there wont be anyone who will do dua e maghfirat after you die.If you cant have children thats another issue but intentionally you dont want , that a loss for you in this world and hereafter.
Bilkul main bhi ye hi keh rahi hun Allah ne jo life cycle banai hai us main mudakhlat sarasar ghalat hai aur insaan ka dunya main aur jana kisi insan k ikhtiyar main nhi hai aesi soch walon ko apna self assessment karni chachyiea ku abhi beth k age k 10 15 20 saal baad kia hoga aur ap ko kis ki zaroorat hogi u never know nature k khilaf ja k na sirf ap apne khuda ko balke apne waldain apne pyare aur apne well wishers ko bhi naraz kar rahe hote hain
Waqt badalte dair nhi lagti aj ap ko logo ka bolna apna muamlaat main nhi pasand per zindagi main kbhi ye waqt aya jo har kisi ki life main ata hai apko zaroorat pare kisi to ap nhi expect karsakte k wo ap k liyea age ayen ku k ap to khud mukhtar hain har cheez pe
Children are not your support system
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Absolutely Erum, iam an early years teacher. I used to work in Pakistan and lived half of my life there now i live in the UK. People have started picking wrong trends just because what West is doing. Unfortunately, the young generation is more than happy to pick up wrong stuff but don't want to learn the ethics, morals and values from the west. Perhaps now thge West people are more into having children and families. It's good to give choice and as a human its absolutely necessary to have individual decisions, however at the same time in doing so no one should go against the nature's laws. Yes, to be able to take care of another human is the autmost important responsibility but it should never be made an issue or a problem. Having kids bring blessings and parents learn to live life in real sense, they bring in joy and give you strength to face challenges in life. It should be a choice but not by making it an issue or point of women empowerment. We are empowered already, I remember a British lady once said to me, who says that women are weak? Just look at when a mother gives birth its like cracking up all your bones in your body. Unfortunately, the media has become a trash ground these days.
How can she say that she is privileged by not opting for parenthood?
She feels privileged, whats wrong in that?
Not everyone is comfortable with raising kids.
She feels privileged beacuse she was given the right to not to choose for motherhood by her husband. Thats why she feel privileged. How many of us could have such oppertunity
Because she has has the right to decide whereas I know so many women who had kids because they were pressurized which caused depression
Excellent conversation! Loved watching it. Thank you for having coversation on this topic.❤🙌
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Allah pak hadayt day, deen sy duri hai or kuch nahi, Allah pak nai nasal ko apni hifazt main rakhy rakhy, aameen
Beautiful..I m mother of 3 being 40years old and believe me thousands women out there get stuck in marriage because if kids...spend time with ur partner and understand him or her...I won't call selfish ,u know urself better
@Nasir Abdullah I know that..I m one of them.but again kids are responsibility..they are not commodity u just get to make urself happu..happy.. a right kids is.most difficult thing to do
Loved the conversation!
I have recently got married,just 5 months back.
And trust me including my mother-in-law (though she is a sweetheart) has indirectly asked trillion times k bache kb paeda karhe ho 😶🌫️ while m not mentally or emotionally ready for a child right now!
Our society needs to understand that it is a personal choice,there can be couples who don’t want a child ASAP and that should be ok!
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be upright about it with your parents, in laws and partner. take no pressure! nobody wants a sulking deprived mother. may God help you.
Oh behn try jaise kution کو Allah dyta b nai hi jahil ourt tu Ulad ki nemat sy wakif he ni hai jahil ourt tu kr k dekh lay ab tujhe Allah nay dena he nai hi lanti ourt
It is really brave decision. Log bachy paida krty hen ar phr inko paal nahi skty. Na achi khoraak, na taleem na dignity. Aj Pakistan me dkhen to abaadi barh rhi bht ar jo jitna ghareeb us k utny bachy. Kash log smjhen ar apny sath sath us anay waly insan p b raham kren.GOD says, k jitni chadar ho itny paon phelaao.
Well said
She truly describe my thoughts 😀
Really???
Do you think it is recommended in Islam?
Your videos are nice... they give a lesson that people should not interfere in other peoples' lives and decisions...
In my opinion, she should stick to her decision but keep revisiting it every few years. I also regret to have my kids so much early after the marriage... My wife and I should have waited for a couple of years to spend some time with each other. But trust me kids are not only the SAHARA of oldness... they also bring a lot of joy to your life... I can't explain how much happiness I feel as a father when my kids are with me.
Thank you for your honest comment
very informative topics no one discuse these type of topic yet
Inspirational