Me & my dad come clean about our mental health issues | Tarek Ali
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.ย. 2024
- My father told me one of his biggest secrets today and I had no idea...he was diagnosed. In this video me and my dad get very honest about our experiences with mental health and how we treat it. oh and, Happy Black History Month! I thought this video could help
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I think it's so crazy how in the last video I told my dad my biggest secret and now..he's telling me his. I never knew this. but seriously..this is the last serious video for a lil while. we worked hard, now its time to play hard 🤪love you taebies! [follow me on ig: itstarekali ]
Hey Tarek, you Dad's so cool and chill
Tell your dad I said thanks for being a friend of Bill.
I’m a new fan I love love love you and your dads vibe ❤️ I’m now a taebie
God is good thanks 💗💝💕
I love yall cuz 😘💞😘💞😘💞😍😍
I believe one of the reasons the Black community (Africans included) has shied away from it is cause there's generational trauma attached. Historically, we have had to suppress our emotions and act like we're okay while being dehumanized by the society around us. We have gotten used to, "don't name it cause then it becomes real. Just say you're having a bad day and move on" because in times of slavery, we weren't ALLOWED to have "sick" / mental health days. It just wasn't a "luxury" we were given (on top of that, psychology was in its early stages, so certain things were not even well known). Also, therapy is quite expensive. Not everyone who needs it can afford it. I'm in school studying psyc to become a counselor and one of the things I want to work on is affordable therapy rates.
“Sometimes you have to go against everything to take care of you.” 🗣🗣🗣
When is your dad starting his own youtube channel? #NEEDED
Sugar T James lord is that you in the avi? Sir you’re gorgeous
@@AmoreAmoraa00 Yes that's me. Thank You💜 xxx
I would like to see it!
I was so sad when I realized the video was ending lol. I really appreciate videos like this as much as the fun ones.
I wish I had a relationship with my father
Me too man
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Me 3 Man
Do more videos with your dad I love him on these videos
you and your dad are the perfect balance and an iconic duo. I admire you guys presence and energy together 💖 stay beautiful!
WOW IM IN TEARS GUYS! YOU HAVE NO IDEA BUT IVE JUST COME OUT OF 7 MONTHS DEPRESSION STAGE I DIDNT LEAVE THE HOUSE OR ACCEPT ANY CALLS OR TEXT. ITS SO GOOD TO SEE YOU AND YOUR FATHER SO CONNECTED !
I LOVE the way you listen...
Bree Brayden because he listens to understand not to respond I love that.
“You gotta find ya demons and vanquish them. The Charmed ones taught me that!”
Yas! Stan for the Charmed Ones! The power of three will set you free!
does your dad have his own channel? cuz he needs one....i like him
I TOTALLY agree... it's sad that we as a People don't talk about mental health...we have to get away from that "give to the lord" mentality and actually have the discussion and assistance from Professionals...there's no shame in needing help....we all do...life has a way of making that very clear....I LOVE your Fathers definition of mental health issues.
That give it to God rhetoric causes more harm than good in the black community.
@@ChameleonOne I agree!
The "I'm not claiming that" mentality. It as if you do not admit to the "thing" then it does not exist.
*I get panic attacks & my anxiety is through the roof most days, depression is a viscous cycle that never seems to leave. My arab parents don't believe in mental illness at all so it's very hard to talk to them. Suicidal thoughts never fucking leave but I'll get through like I always do, keep your head up Tarek, your dad is wonderful.*
Palestinian Hip-Hop a lot of cultures feel the need to be “strong” and view mental health as a weakness. I think identifying and acknowledging the issues is what makes you strong. I wish you all the best. Find a support group in your area to get you through. Sending you much love ❤️
Palestinian Hip-Hop same here but I’ll be your Virtual sister and we can lean on each other when the suicidal thoughts become to surreal
I’m right along with you! Sometimes we just need to listen to other people’s stories! Continue to watch tae! But also check out mine and so many others, so whenever a new level of your depression unlocks, you’ll know how to fight it
Are you not muslim ? how could you have suicidal thoughts ?
his father look good 😂😂😂😂
He do id have no issue in adopting him as my step son 😂
He does too.
Okaaay his dad is definitely my type he’ll I’m 30 I think I’d have a chance 😂😂😂😂.
RealGia ... and his uncle.
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These videos with your father are beautiful this is what more black men need to be doing with their fathers. These videos are powerful❤️
You and your father are very handsome.
I am white. Even in my family we use to clean the dirty clothes at home. In the past I have been depressed to the point of simply wanting to disappear. I was inside a tunnel where there was no light, and there was no air to breathe. I was disgusted by myself, (even today I have not completely overcome the wounds left me from that period), I was a victim of bullying, I had come to the point of no longer answering the phone at home or mobile, for fear that it was someone of my schoolmates throwing me insults ... I felt completely alone. I was alone. sorry again for my bad english. (I feel I must give a huge hug to your father who seems to be a very wise man, who has seen and passed through all the colors in life!)
This is why I love your videos you talk about real things
People don't understand what real -life topics is they quick to hit the dislike button ,but this need to be talk about more and today's society.
I love how kids think you just started living when you had them ... loving this conversation with your dad .. the black community needs to address all of our demons. ❤️ Thank you both for starting these needed conversation... me and your dad are around the same age.
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So glad you spoke out on depression and studying abroad. I'm currently studying in Germany for 2 semesters and originally from SoFlo; boy is the depression real. Of course it's glamor and fun travelling with friends I made, but no one speaks about how you can go days on end not leaving your room, sometimes not speaking to someone 2-3 days at a time. Well made.
I love the dynamic of yall relationship. It's so inspiring....
I suffer from COMPLEX PTSD I do Spoken Word and advocate for Mental health
your dad is so wise, great man!
Your dad is a man with wisdom. He is very supportive and sweet.
Aww I love this! Mental health isn’t talked about enough in our community and it’s so necessary! Blessings to you both! 🤗
I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder every since I was 13 years old. But I have my family and friends church family to keep me going.
I'm a white straight female...mental health issues NEED TO BE ADDRESSED ALL ACROSS THE BOARD!!! I have severe anxiety and depression disorder PROPERLY diagnosed by my physicatrist...once I figured out "my demons" and got the proper treatment WOW ...it changed my whole life/outlook for the BETTER!!! I can sooo relate to y'alls pops story about HOW HE FELT/ ACTED when he was younger...looking for acceptance. I was so busy looking out for EVERYONE else that I LITERALLY LOST ME!! Thanks for having the conversation...y'alls pops is INCREDIBLY AMAZING!!! My therapist once asked me the definition of EGO...I started reeling off all these answers. She stopped me and said I had a huge EGO and I looked at her like she was crazy...she said the definition of EGO is EDGING GOD OUT!!!! What a revelation...👏👏👏❤❤❤
this helped me ❤️ thank you
Uhhh yeah. You should have more videos with you and your dad. This really brings light to what relationships should be like in black families in general
Often we forget parants have emotions too. P.S nothing wrong with you Dad ,but something going on . Thanks for sharing.
I fwy bruh deadass 💯💯💯 keep pushing stay strong I’m straight but I’m comfortable with who I am and I feel like you’re human and deserve to be treated like human it’s like racism but different how can we fight for racism to end it but treat gays and other gays like there not human we all human keep being you bruh iont always agree with that lifestyle but you are who you are and I wanna accept you and not judge and anxiety I battle with that and depression it’s no joke bruh
I so appreciate your Dad, I’m dealing with the exact same thing! It’s been my entire life! The isolation is the worst!
tarek your dad is a perfect example of a strong black father loveing his child no matter if hes gay or straight and i so appreciate your dad my father died when i 9 so i never got a chance to share my life with him ur dad is to be honored for being with you
11:10 There your dad goes again making me cry: that's exactly at the point of realization I'm right now-where I realize that people would rather keep me in a state where I'm fucked up, than see me evolve.
Tarek you have been a quiet, intelligent, person since highschool but to talk about mental health with your dad takes courage , and bravely. especially with everything y'all both been through. I'm proud of you man keep up the good work.
Tarek digging your pops wisdom reguarding mental health. Please do more videos with him. Like the father/ son dynamic and discourse.
Just found your channel,all the way from SA🇿🇦.........I AM STAYINGGGGGGGG!!!!!
Your dad needs his own channel, man you two getting so real is therapeutic, thank you both for being vulnerable and sharing that with us. You two are blessed.
These kinds of conversations are so necessary! Thank you both so much for being vulnerable 💕
The sudden random quietness happens to me too and I don’t understand why. I could just be very talkative a minute before then boom, suddenly mute. Also I enjoy these kinds of conversations and I believe we need more people ( youtubers) like you to do them. Keep up the great work!
Besides being so handsome, you are so compassionate along with being so intelligent. Thank you for sharing, your Father is great.
Glad to hear this topic being discussed. Unlike visual disabilities mental health is not immediately viable to the outside world and thus hard to accept.
There are few revealing conversations between parents and their grown children that turn out like this. I commend you and your father for being able to talk to one another with respect and dignity. I goes so much further than other alternative ways of communicating. Kudos to Father & Son!
Tarik Ali, I really appreciate you and your father’s candor together, I watched you officially coming out to your dad and that was absolutely amazing and touched me to my core. I could only wish this for my family( and for other families especially BLACK ones) We are more often than none ashamed, afraid, willfully ignorant and more worried about what other people will say or think to help save a loved one. We often let our pride get in the way and that causes us to not use our common sense and or have compassion and empathy for others that maybe struggling or displaying non verbals as they are silently pleading and crying out for help. We often struggle with having poor communication skills, we allow our religious beliefs to sway our hearts and minds as well as our thoughts and actions and therefore this taints our hearts in such away that we loose sight of what’s really important and needed which is SUPPORT, LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING .
Hell we often refuse to address or get help for MH and or drug and alcohol addiction. So thank you and I congratulate you both for tackling this extremely sensitive issue with such grace and tack. I can only hope my family will someday achieve this same level of openness, respect and acceptance towards one another. You and your dad discussing your personal battles with Mental Health and drug addiction was absolutely amazing. I’ve never watched you before with such interest but this topic as well as your coming out hit home. Just listening to your father and son duo show was truly a blessing not to mention it’s what’ is needed in our communities, churches and households, so thank you. Btw I really would love it for your father to start a channel for people my age as I’m in my early 50’s .
Thank you so much tarek for this videos cause so many time ive seen young black men where live who suffer with mental health problems but they're parent are afraid to admit to or acknowledge that there child is suffering in that way. They feel like the blame or shame is being put on them when a doctor tell them your child is depressed or bi-polar. I wish in today time more people open there eyes and see there child need help instead of being scared and waiting before it to late. i have my battle with depression but i have a mother who well aware and acknowledges my suffering in that regard. Thank you again for this video. You are such a inspiration
I truly appreciate this conversation and how candid it was. It's very rare to find an adult, especially a black adult, willing to talk about mental health and their own journey. One thing I can say that your dad touched on was not always diagnosing our quiet moments to depression. One thing I've learned is that our body, mind and spirit naturally wants to recharge, like a battery. Our bodies are machines and we give out sometimes and in that moment we feel chill neither happy nor mad just neutral, and it doesn't last long. Once again thank you for the opportunity to hear your truth and experiences. I live abroad and I can relate to how your experience was in Paris but I am happy you came out on the other side. Traveling and or living abroad teaches you to appreciate where you came from and appreciate what's in front of you. Thanks again Tarek.
Truly enjoyed your videos with your Father. You all touched on some truly powerful stuff, and its refreshing to hear such realness.
I’m so glad there are people like you giving us young black men a voice !!!!
Omg the ptsd / bipolar just hit me hard since I am suffering from both and recently diagnosed... 😢😪😢😪
Dad is talking facts most people don't want to be labeled as crazy.but first love your self and then don't isolate your self .it's so easy to just sleep barrly not even wanting to talk.there we're days when my anxiety would be so bad my mouth would lock up.i would cry for days and for the longest I didn't tell anyone.i can relate so much to what he speaking of.but anyone suffering try to pray talk learn your triggers and make time for yourself.do simple things for you that you find joy in.find someone u can talk to and who won't tell the world.take care of yourself and first then you can help others
Trek Ali, I think most of your videos should be with your dad because we are getting 2 generations of views. U 2 together are great.
man your dad is such an honorable man!! and its so cool to see yall have such a great relationship!
I never been diagnosed with it but I had very random mood swings to where im happy and next thing u Kno im mad ASF and ik ppl triggers it. I can just walk in a room and get mad r just b driving and it hits me it may last 30 minutes but no longer then 45 minutes and I'll go back to being happy, laughing and trying out
This topic is so necessary 👏🏾👏🏾
Between generational trauma and the Ptsd that comes with being black in America we need to keep talking about mental health.
I love that you and your father get to have this dialogue that’s mad attractive keep doing you and hope you reach your goals and more😍 this is a great topic also depression in black men is crazy and they don’t feel safe or comfortable talking about it we need to change the narratives
You two have a beautiful and blessed relationship. I'm so happy for you both. I pray God continues to bless you both.
Father and son talk that is greatest conversation ever
This is So Real Talk
You guys seem to have a great relationship.. you have a great dad he has an amazing spirit ❤️❤️❤️
Dad!!!!! YOU NEED YOUR OWN CHANNEL!!! YOU BRING A LOT TO THE TABLE AND DON'T EVEN KNOW IT!
This is an amazing video. Y'all getting into some tinggggz. Pops need a channel as well tho. One of the things that stood out from the video was “Sometimes you have to go against everything to take care of you." wheeeew chille .
Let me say it, I love you Tarek, I think you're very smart and very aware of what's going on and I think that it will take you very far. Keep doing what you do, I think this is your CALL . You have a very good spirit. ❤❤❤
You are such a blessing to your Dad, you help him heal ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations, your relationship with your Father seems to have really progressed since the first video that you made together! I can see the love and pride that you have for one another in both of you men’s eyes. And it was so nice to see your Father embrace you at the end of the video. The conversations you discuss on your videos are much needed in today’s society. Thanks again for sharing. BTW, I’m a new subscriber.
Your dad is amazing! Such an understanding father.
Much needed topic! Too many ppl either don't know or don't want to face what's happening within them. You guys did great...thank you!
Oh wow! You and your dad make a good team! Love your this
Tarek this is my first time seeing your video of your coming out to your dad. All I can say is based on the following you have you are a celebrity in your own right. Secondly your relationship with your dad is one of the most loving father/son relationships I have ever seen. You are lucky to have a dad who cares, loves and now understands you to the fullest......I am an instant fan...
This is a healthy conversation. I love how you both just listen.
Great topic!! Dad is really on top of his overall well being.
You did really good starting the convo off, getting your dad involved, & encouraging the convo with your dad. It's a great video.
thank you. people dont realize that feeling low is just as valid and should be just as accepted as feeling high.
This country has lots of youngsters dealing with mental problems and they rely on alcohol and drugs to escape. Wish you help our youngsters by setting good examples like this. Otherwise it’s scary how we will run the nation in the future.
Tarek...tell yo fiiiine daddy I said hey😛 lmao
Very well articulated young man and I see you get it from your father...you are blessed and it makes me happy to see men who are having constructive relevant important conversation
you have a beautiful relationship with your dad
I'm glad you and your dad had this talk. My cousin told me before he told anyone else in our family back in 1983 and the only reason he told me is i threw him a birthday party and only guys showed up! I could go in depth but to keep it short; we all need to keep each other close and understand our differences. I let him know that no matter what whether family or not. He was loved and respected and i was blessed to be in this world with himbby my side. I have not seen him nor heard from him in 15 years but love him and miss him. His mother and father has since passed on and i haven't heard from him or any other family members about him.
I really am happy that you and your dad took the time to have this conversation, and share with us.
You and your dad have an amazing relationship. Would enjoy to see more convos between you two, its therapeutic to watch.
Wow that part when you said that you just get silent and something just comes over you and it’s not because some things wrong it’s just how you feel at the moment I have those moments to and people will ask are you okay and I am I just don’t feel like talking or I’m just in my own thoughts
Im with you DAD about them conspiracies! That ain't no damn joke!!
Your so blessed to have family!
Please make more videos like this. This is helping me out a lot. I’ve re watching this.
You so Look like your dad.....Love how good you all are........
thank you so much for this ✨ this video gave me the motivation to make the therapy appointment that I’ve been putting off!
This Video Help Me Out A Lot Tarek Ali Thanks
I’m new to your channel. I click on because of your hair color. Now I’m hook on your personality. Your Father is fine and if he’s married no disrespect to his wife or girlfriend. You two together the chemistry is Great 👍🏽
daddy is snatched ..🙌🙌😀 cool video
Everybody needs a "Tarek's dad" in their life.
One of the best videos you have ever made. Thank you & Dad for opening up and sharing the real. A lot of healing could take place if families were open to discussions on this transparent level.
I’m new too your channel and I love your relationship with your dad... keep up the great work & speaking on tough topics because you never know what ppl need to hear but scare to speak on or speak up for themselves or someone they love... 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I love and want your Dad. Umumum
I love your channel
This is a conversation that needs to happen more often.
Even if I’m diagnosed with depression or/and anxiety, I wouldn’t want medication. I feel like the pharmacy will make you get addicted to the drugs, so they can make more money.
Being addicted to prescription drugs is a bad place to be. I have to add though, there are some people who absolutely *need* medication. They literally have a chemical imbalance that needs a medical intervention of some kind. Just like diabetics need insulin or anaemic people need iron. And not all drugs for depression/anxiety or other conditions are addictive.
16:48 Great point
0:08 that was so freaking cute man. he was cheesing so hard because he did a good job then he forgot i love that. reminds me of my god parents lol
THIS for the black community!!!
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Just watched RTT with Jada and Don Lemons. Tarek Ali I hope to see you there soon. Much Love!!!