Felt every word especially the judgment people place when you’re not seemingly happy or expressive of the hard day or moments you’re experiencing on social media. Like we are human! Some people are not wired to be flawless and happy 24/7 with everything they post. Your journey is incredibly inspiring sis ❤️
sis said, “it’s not goals, it’s just a picture.” that’s literally the epitome of social media! the fact that it’s all just visual, not entirely real life.
Replacing social media with hobbies will completely turn your life around. After I deleted social media, I started reading more physical books. I feel more relaxed my mind is getting sharper because of it. Most people on these sites dont care about the next man when things get rotten in the real world.
This is so true. Recently deleted my social media and I already have a list of hobbies to keep me busy in the meantime so that it keeps my mind at sanity and make me realize how much life there really is or was before social media existed
“If you see me, you see me, if you don’t, you don’t” This right here I love about being off social media, I no longer feel the preasure to perform for an audience and if I just happen to meet an acquaintance on the street then great, but it’s not like they can go stalk me or I them, it’s such a freeing feeling.
Social media also causes you to not move on from people. Personally I like to "lurk" on people's pages, and sometimes curiosity would cause me to be nosy. Therefore upset/triggering me whenever I'd see an ex with someone else.
Deleted my twitter and deactivated my snapchat/facebook. I don't plan on going back. Havent had instagram in 8 years. Best decision I ever made in my life.
I never feel good when on social media, i noticed this over the last couple years. Im always filled with negative thoughts as I scroll. Thats how I know its just not for me.
Social media is a pool of self absorbed individuals, that was me. I’m sure that was you. It’s more damaging than people think, and the worst thing that could have happened to society. I got off for 5 months and just redownloaded because I want to showcase my videography work, but I still feel mentally drained. Not worth it, getting back off.
Im 40, and i remember happy teenage years before the internet. Even thru parents divorcing, being poor, having bad acne and all that jazz we were blissful. I have always thought it is a bad idea to carry your whole life in your pocket! Worse still, a frigging casino of social media slot machines, yikes!!! You got this sooooo right, fabulous analysis ❤ from Ireland xox
You’re telling the truth Sis. That’s why I’ve been off Facebook for 2 years and snap chat for two months. Social media has us too invested in other people’s lives. We meet people, but not everyone is meant to stay or be a part of our lives. As time goes on people change, and everyone we went to school with doesn’t need to know what we’re up to now. You’re right about getting better sleep!
Thank you for this video. Social media has completely destroyed my life and my marriage has ended. God told me to delete all the apps as I needed to spend more time in God's presence. Now I am happier and I have my peace.
Deleting Instagram over three years ago was the best thing that I did for my mental health! You feel more free to live your real life! Completely resonated with your experience beautiful! 🙏🏻💞✨
This is so true recently deleted my music instagram and I don’t regret it one bit. Because I get more engagement from TH-cam and making more a positive impact on TH-cam as an aspiring artist than I ever did on instagram
Haven’t had Facebook or ig since I was a sophomore in high school (about 10 yrs ago), never made a Snapchat or tik tok. People always ask me why? And I’m just tell them I value my mental health.
I deliberately shut down my Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and Twitter so I’d go ghost mode and THEN SPEND REALLY QUALITY TIME WITH GOD. And this was how THE BIBLICAL FEMININITY CHANNEL was Born.
This is awesome. That quality time with God makes it so much easier to connect and love him more and more. May God uplift and bless your ministry. Thank you so much for watching ❤️
Social media makes it feel like the world as you know it stopped & you’re in an alternate universe. It takes stopping to realize trees are still growing, business are still thriving and people are living outside of the apps.
I deleted my social media last year. Everything you said is so true. I felt I was just doing things for validation. Wasn’t really experiencing life. I recently just got on Facebook but I set a 30 min a day limit on it. If I feel myself losing myself again. I have no problem deleting it again.
I love how you took initiative to delete your social media for your mental health. It's really addicting, and once we let it go. Life becomes peaceful and fun actually. Less is more. But it's truly hard when you are a content creator. Looking for a balance currently.
So well said. We have to get to that place where we can create a healthy balance. I’m looking forward to when I will be able to hire a creative individual or Team to handle such platforms. I appreciate your feedback 🙂
When you said “It was my God” I FELT THAT! This was so good, I’ve felt every single feeling and emotion you mentioned. Thank you for validating my thoughts
Wow same here. I deleted my social media last week and this video just gave me the confirmation I needed that I did the right thing. Thank you so much.
You hit it on the head w seeing so many deaths on social media . I know people are dying everyday a lot of the times senselessly but without social media more so instagram and Facebook I don’t get to see that constantly
Sis I deactivated my fb & IG last year and I can’t even fathom going back. I love being ghost. I love my peace of mind & privacy and j was a huge over sharer and influencer type. TH-cam & Twitter us all I have. Twitter I just find funny but u don’t share my life. You explained how I feel perfectly. Sending you love ❤
I appreciate you for watching and your feedback. Going ghost never felt so great until now lol. Especially when people see you and gasp in awe of you. Like yea, I’m still alive lol.
I haven't used any form of social media in 3 months. I left it because I felt it was poisonous. I would much rather meet people in the real world so I can get to know someone. You cannot get to know someone fully online period.
Planning to permanently delete ig n Facebook .. already did Twitter and TikTok … it creates an illusion of happiness.. I agree with everything you’re saying.. especially feeling present in life than on my social media
Can you please make more videos because i really like your vibe/energy. i deleted my instagram because i was seeking validation from people and getting distracted from my goals. feel so much better and now i'm gonna spend time reading books, exercising, etc. it's crazy how much more time you will have now.
I definitely will do more videos. I’m glad you feel so much better now and the only validation you need is from yourself. Thank you so much for watching and your feedback 🙂
This is as raw as it comes. I think so many will benefit from your experience as I'm sure a ton of people, especially women who depend on public/social acceptance and approval are oblivious to the consequences of social media addiction. It's a sad reality for millions. Social media addiction and the toxic trail it leaves behind to one's mental health is more damaging than people actually realise. Good on your for putting it out there Porcia.
Awww thank you so much. We are all living to learn from each other’s experiences. Thank you so much for your feedback, and thank you also for watching ❤️
I just deleted all my social media except for LinkedIn and it has made a drastic difference. I was on and off for a while until I realized my peace mattered more.
Same with me. I also deleted social media but for temporary right now except for linkedin, youtube, whatsapp. I’m searching for peace of mind 🙏🏼😊all is well for us
best and most important phrase I take with me: "it's not by force to be on those platforms". thanks, I deleted it two weeks ago and enjoy my "new" regained privacy so much now.
This video hit home for me, literally everything you said is why I left social media. It’ll be a year for me in April and I have never felt better. I’m pouring my time into people and things that really matter.
I walked away in 2021 to breathe. I noticed that the moment that I wasn't present there, I was present in my life. I had bad anxiety about being single, about accomplishing my goals, about being out and about in the latest...and when I removed myself from everything that was going on, I felt...relieved. it's still up when I feel the need to go back, but I hardly do because I'm privately having the time of my life. And it's no one's business right now what's going on or what I'm doing. It feels good being anonymous.
Well said 🙌🏾👏🏾 I am currently off of all social media (TH-cam and pintrest are all I have ) but it is so refreshing and rewarding to be in my own energy. Not scrolling looking at what everyone else is doing but genuinely enjoying my life off the grid. It’s a powerful thing that most people can’t do because they’re addicted to it.
Honestly, social media like Facebook makes me depressed. I don’t really have friends and I’ve sent friend requests to others on there but no one accepts them. Facebook is literally a place for people with friends not loners like me. I get sad that I don’t get any likes on my posts. The 1980s were an amAzing time especially because Facebook didn’t exist back then. I guess people met in public back then like couples and friends.
I am 23 , started my journey as a Christian in 2017 God told me to let go of social media in 2019 ever since I am off social media. I love it ,as someone who is goal oriented , I compare less now of course TH-cam does affect sometimes but control what I see and watch.
It’s always great to listen to God when he speaks. He has nothing but great intentions for us and he always replaces what he says to get rid of with something much better. Thank you for watching ❤️
People say social media only has aspirational stuff and no truth but these are also the people who don't make it a safe space for people to share their raw emotions. Proud of you girl ❤
I have felt so similarly, I really want to build an online community yet I feel so much resistance to wanting to be online because of how unauthentic it can be, I've just had to have faith in my intention
Build that community on your terms with the pace that best suits you. Take it one day at time and if you feel uncomfortable at any point, you can pause, take a step back, and just focus on you. Thank you for watching ❤️
I love these types of conversations! I do 100 fasts from social annually but have been off of FB for a few years now. So glad more people are realizing how mentally taxing social media is. You have motivated me to post a video on this topic as well soon!
I take frequent hiatus's ( if that's a word lol) from social media so I get it. I have even hid the apps on my phone so I won't be tempted to go on it. And it feels so good not to sit there and unconsciously scrool.
I love this. Lol I took so many hiatus as well until I got comfortable enough to break up with it. It’s that toxic relationship you can’t get out of. So good but yet so bad!! Thanks for watching 😊
The amount of social media breaks I’ve been on. Currently on one right now & I related to everything that you’ve said! Going out and feeling like “if i don’t post it didn’t happen” or feeling so connected to the News that it would break me mentally/emotionally just even hearing it. I swear the only reason why I have social media is to promote my content & music but if I didn’t do anything, I would be completely MIA. This video really helped validate for me to continue to be intentional with my life & to appreciate it way more than just for content and/or promotion. Thank you for your vulnerability. I loved your video 🙏🏾
I deleted social media because i started to feel like a loser seeing everyone around me having the “best life” in social media when in reality I don’t have any idea of what going on. I just felt like nobody cared about me, nobody like my stuff and started to feel jealous or sad seeing my friends have fun, i felt like my life was so boring compared to everyone else.. when in reality my life is fine. I am happy were i am in life i just comparing myself to everyone else… and it was making me depressed.. it got dark. Hours on tik tok scrolling my life away, not living in the present. Thankfully i deleted the app of my phone and fell so much better about everything.. But now the sad part is seeing that my “friendship” was never real..
@@linnettecandelario530 I’m sorry you had to endure all that. I’m also glad that you finally chose yourself and did what was best for you. Nothing on the internet is worth your self esteem and peace of mind. I pray for peace and fulfillment over your life. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing as well. Good luck on your journey ❤️
i take this step now. And i wanted to make this before, but i don't know why don't I do this so thanks for encourage me for take this important step. thanks from the deepest point in my heart❤.
Preach sister!!! Such great dialogue and so many points made. It’s been 2+ weeks since deleting my social media and I feel soo good. I have better memory, better sleep, better energy levels, etc etc!
Wow! This video is on point. You said everything I’ve been thinking. I have so many ideas but I don’t finish them. Today I’ve removed by FB, Insta and Twitter. Thank you much for this. ❤️
Thank you for your insight! The only downside of not having any social media is that you are left behind in irl conversation about what people post online; this celeb did that, this influencer bought that- blah blah blah. But that cannot compare to the peace of mind I feel. I also don't consider TH-cam a social media since it gives me *the authority to what I consume.* I'm tired of seeing an empty argument on this point.
Couldn’t t have said it any better. The peace of mind I’ve obtained cannot be compared to anything else. Thank you for your feedback and thank you also for watching.
i must have watched tens of these kinds if videos this week alone and yet i still have ig and fb on my phone...... dear god pls give me the strength to be one of them
I'm not a subscriber and I probably won't be. But it was so nice to listen to your voice and your thoughts. I hope your life is going in the most beautiful direction.
Thank you for sharing this really spoke to me deeply. I’ve been depressed for over a year now and recently have started to see how it’s affecting me. I put my goals aside, but when it comes to social media I drop everything I’m doing just to see who’s posting or if xyz shared a story, etc. I would often compare my life to those on media and would feel like crap because my life didn’t look like theirs. As I deleted Instagram and Snapchat I got recommended this video specifically. I think the timing was meant to be, because I refuse to let another day go by without living it with purpose, with authenticity that resonates with me. You’re right, live an intentional life. Who cares if you don’t post, your life is not inside social media, it is outside social media, but most certainly don’t get them mixed up. Thank you once again for your video it really is nice to see I’m not going through this alone. Thank you
I can’t express how touched I am by your comment. I’m also so glad you took the time to watch my video. Continue to work on yourself and do what best suits you. Yes, sometimes we do forget that we are not alone in this walk. Your life is your own to live so live it and enjoy every bit of it when you can. Thank you again ❤️
I agree, any world events that have happened in the last 10 years, I mentally/emotionally distance myself from. It's draining & exhausting. And the irony is the last 3 years I work for the mainstream media so sometimes it's hard to escape it.
I can only imagine how you feel. To be front and center of it all is something I might not be able to handle. Guess you have to try to find a common ground and maneuver through it. Thank you for sharing and watching ❤️
@@porciasview Yea I learned to find common ground. It's also a challenge because the more you distance yourself from mainstream things, the more your mind adjusts to non-mainstream things
You said a whole lot of truth in this video. At times I take a hiatus from social media because at times I begin to compare or feel like I should be doing more with my life. I'm now going to commit to only posting for my business and then logging off. It can become draining at times. I also felt every word you said about posting your man and receiving the goals feedback. Those were my exact reasons for leaving Facebook years ago. Everything is not peaches and cream ❤
You definitely have to put yourself first and work gradually towards what’s best for your sanity. I’m glad you’re taking the necessary steps needed. Everything will work out for you as it should. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing as well ❤
I feel your message so loudly! I loved the part where you mentioned posting when you weren't doing well. there is so much more power in vulnerability than in a facade. proud of you!
this is so relatable to me. i went 3 months off of it. just recently came back. and i find myself consuming so much negativity. not even intentionally, its just there! i find myself having the urge to share everything im doing. i find myself comparing myself to all the gorgeous "rich" people. i find myself falling into the trap of envy with people who "look like" theyre doing better than me. not to mention wasting more time, being less productive. its time to get off again
This. I miss me. The me that didn’t get on social media until my 12th grade year of high school (2008-2009), didn’t get my first cell phone until I was 17. I was just living my life, didn’t care to do what everyone else was doing and was my own person. Social media literally makes me depressed subconsciously and wouldn’t know until I find myself lashing out or feeling low. That’s not me. Even going onto the man in my life page getting in my feelings if he’s online but haven’t responded as if he’s not human and need time to himself too down to seeing people having what I desire and feeling like a failure. I hate what social media does to me and how it changed me but definitely ensuring I fight to get back to myself. I tried to keep it for my art and to be more “social” but truly I’d rather have my peace & happiness. Slowly backing away from being on my phone so much too.
I completely understand how you feel. Gradually pull away and do what’s best for you. Spend more time with yourself and enjoy the simple things life has to offer. All the best on your journey. Thank you for watching and for being so vulnerable as well.
Great video. Loved the transparency. I've really pulled back the throttle on my social media over the last couple years, where I can go days without scrolling through, but haven't quite quit yet. It does have a stupid way of pulling you back in. With that said, I'm closer and closer every single day to deleting them and videos like yours help give me that last push of motivation to do so. Appreciate it!
You are so right. I deleted my ig 2 years ago. I had to ask myself what would I gain or lose being off there. It was the most freeing feeling ever. My mental stay was much better too. I did reactive my page 8 months ago. But I learned to limit my time on there. I can go weeks, months and days without being on there. I could never do that before. If I feel again is affecting my mental state I will deactivate & it will never see me again lol.
It’s so good knowing that you have created a healthy boundary. Keep doing what best works for you and as you stated, you will leave as soon as you feel yourself getting to that place mentally. Thank you for watching and sharing 💕
Same experience for me, this is why I love TH-cam.. you’ll see helpful/ relatable content that you can relate with but is helpful overall. Instagram was the opposite, very triggering. 👏👏 new subscriber!
This is hands down the BEST take on the effects of social media in such a short amount of time. This was so raw, beautiful and completely unedited and I loved every second of it. Your words flowed and hit me straight in the heart. Everything you said completely resonated with me. Thank you for just being so honest and getting straight to the point. This was perfect! Keep reclaiming your - time -!
Told myself i'd detach and just use it for brand building purposes but once I didnt have a team of people doing that for me fell right back in. It's like the worst trap, you need it, but it kills your soul and mind. Worse when you seem to be the only one who seems to perceive this mess, as intensely at least
That part!!! Knowing you need it, yet you gotta stay away. Set boundaries if needed and all will fall into place once you build that team to handle it all for you. Thank you for watching ❤️
I just recently deleted my music instagram because as a aspiring artist it was distracting and I been getting more engagement on my TH-cam channel than instagram. Best decision I have made and should have done it months ago. I do not regret it one bit and I enjoy creating in the moment and living in the moment
You made some brilliant points. Glad you understand and enjoy ‘social space’ now. Truth is no one gives a f*** about your SM posts and you’re way more interesting without an Insta not with one. Well, when it’s being used poorly like all the reasons you mentioned. If it’s literally used to connect & thrive with like minded people in specific groups that benefit your being then fine. But needy posts of what your eating in a restaurant & lifestyle shit is just embarrassing now, it’s old, and it’s like having a mental health issue engaging in the crap. I’m one year free of it all this week.
Good for you man. I totally agree. People act life didn’t exist before social media existed and life was pretty much simple and fine before social media came about. I bet you people can’t even write all the memories they had before social media existed on a piece of paper. Which tells you everything that they are not living in the moment. I can think of all the great memories from my life that had nothing to do with social media and I feel great about it. Never made one memory on social media cause it was that depressing
Girrrrlllll i’m only 1 minute in and I’m screaming. I just had that same revelation about how Instagram and tik tok are really just “instant gratification” apps that leave you worse off and how TH-cam doesn’t have that same effect. I’ve been off IG and Tik tok for 2 weeks and counting and when I tell you it’s already making such a huge difference?!
Recently I was thinking about deleting social media, today was the most emotionally day, i thought a lot about my life, about how i feel and then how I feel due to social media and thanks to it I finally made up my mind. After that I saw your film (I do not know how, is the magic real? This Idea was only on my mind and your film just popped up) , the film that I am really related with, now I feel it is really right decision to delete it from my life, maybe not for my whole life but for now it is the best choice. English is not my native language, so I am sorry if I made some mistakes in the text. Have a nice day/evening 💕
You have no idea how much this means to me. I am so honored to be part of your journey. To me, that magic is always God. Take as much time as you need and focus on yourself. I wish you all the best and Peace. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your experience as well. We are all in this together. Thank you ❤️
I like Instagram,but i do take breaks on there. Also, I don’t overshare either. I’ve been dating for some time and I don’t show photos of my boyfriend like that. If someone wants to know how we’re doing they would have to literally ask me when they see me in PERSON or through a text, phone call. They’re not getting “updates” on my page whatsoever about my relationship..I learned this the hard way when I was in my 20’s now in my 30’s. But, taking breaks is nice tho because I’m focused on what I’m doing in the moment and I’m not worried about other people
Oh i have to thanks TH-cam' s recommendation on this because all of that you said is just what i feel since i left Instagram about a year ago but i still feel the anxiety with the TH-cam short that just pop up out of nowhere... well, thank you, from a high sensitive person it means a lot
I appreciate you for taking the time to watch this video and for also being so vulnerable. Take it one day at a time and skip anything on TH-cam that doesn’t serve you. I appreciate you for sharing and thank you for watching ❤️
Hi Porcia! Loved this video. I agree that TH-cam is such a wonderful place to spend time elevating yourself. You also mentioned being intentional, which I think is so important in all aspects of our lives. It’s harder to be intentional when our minds are cluttered up with what we think everyone else would approve of, or what someone else would do or like. It’s even weirder when we see other people trying to take on and start to do what we are doing in our daily lives! It can definitely breed unhealthy amounts of jealousy in that way. We can really start to know and connect with ourselves when we aren’t paying attention to others, or worrying what they think about us. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼♥️
Thanks for this Amazing message. I needed to hear this even though I knew it already. It’s crazy how what you’re already thinking sounds better when someone else is thinking the same way.
That’s so good to hear. You’re very welcome and just know that it only gets better after the first step! Thanks for watching and thanks for your feedback.
I've watched a few videos about quitting social mediaYou hit the nail on the head with not being able to escape negativity on ig. Cassie and Diddy drama this month has driven me off the platform because not being able to escape posts that are triggering is....triggering
This video was randomly suggested to me by TH-cam and I'm so glad I clicked on it! Some awesome points you made 💙 I really like your calm, peaceful vibe! Thank you for sharing 💖
I understand your points you've made. I have the apps (bar Snap and TikTok) and rarely use them but last few months my group chat has died. I feel like i have to initiate the conversation with people to meet up and sociaise, some people are not even responding back to my messages (months have gone by). I know people but at same time it kinda feels lonely sometimes.
As a business owner I feel I had to stay that was my excuse but god said I got you and I’ve been off social media month and I love being out the loop (if you see me you see if you don’t you don’t) Business is still continuing but I feel free this video I felt in so many ways. I look at TH-cam as television so I’m trying to convert to only have TH-cam it’s hard but I’m going to try it thank you for your video much blesses 💜
Felt every word especially the judgment people place when you’re not seemingly happy or expressive of the hard day or moments you’re experiencing on social media. Like we are human! Some people are not wired to be flawless and happy 24/7 with everything they post. Your journey is incredibly inspiring sis ❤️
I felt every word you wrote as well within my soul. We are human indeed, and to be flawless is to be immortal. Thank you so much for the love 😊
@@TacoBella25 felt the exact same way love lol
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It funny how God always has a way of aligning you with the unimaginable. Someone is always watching indeed. Thank you for watching as well ❤️
Ariana what are you doing here? 😅
sis said, “it’s not goals, it’s just a picture.” that’s literally the epitome of social media! the fact that it’s all just visual, not entirely real life.
Replacing social media with hobbies will completely turn your life around. After I deleted social media, I started reading more physical books. I feel more relaxed my mind is getting sharper because of it. Most people on these sites dont care about the next man when things get rotten in the real world.
This is so true. Recently deleted my social media and I already have a list of hobbies to keep me busy in the meantime so that it keeps my mind at sanity and make me realize how much life there really is or was before social media existed
@@jaysouthmusic8230 Thats awesome dude. Glad more people are finally waking up and taking charge of their lives again
Same! I actually walked to the library, checked out books and spent the evening reading. ❤
@@bh6344 Thats definitely whats up. Getting out to get exercise and get some fresh air while also exercising your mind
I love reading! It helps me expand my vocabulary ❤❤❤
“If you see me, you see me, if you don’t, you don’t” This right here I love about being off social media, I no longer feel the preasure to perform for an audience and if I just happen to meet an acquaintance on the street then great, but it’s not like they can go stalk me or I them, it’s such a freeing feeling.
Such a great feeling overall. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Social media also causes you to not move on from people. Personally I like to "lurk" on people's pages, and sometimes curiosity would cause me to be nosy. Therefore upset/triggering me whenever I'd see an ex with someone else.
so true 🙏🏼
Block their page
True
@@Beyondblessed261 I have done this 🙏🏻
Why would you be triggered bout yo ex tho?
Deleted my twitter and deactivated my snapchat/facebook. I don't plan on going back. Havent had instagram in 8 years. Best decision I ever made in my life.
Samee
I never feel good when on social media, i noticed this over the last couple years. Im always filled with negative thoughts as I scroll. Thats how I know its just not for me.
Always gotta do what makes you feel Good 🙂
Social media is a pool of self absorbed individuals, that was me. I’m sure that was you. It’s more damaging than people think, and the worst thing that could have happened to society. I got off for 5 months and just redownloaded because I want to showcase my videography work, but I still feel mentally drained. Not worth it, getting back off.
Im 40, and i remember happy teenage years before the internet. Even thru parents divorcing, being poor, having bad acne and all that jazz we were blissful. I have always thought it is a bad idea to carry your whole life in your pocket! Worse still, a frigging casino of social media slot machines, yikes!!! You got this sooooo right, fabulous analysis ❤ from Ireland xox
Thank you so much for this and thank you for your feedback. Life is definitely less chaotic in a sense without the internet.
I have deleted my social media accounts . It has been 1 month going on two and my mental health & anxiety has improved significantly!
Love this for you. Thank you for watching 🙂
You’re telling the truth Sis. That’s why I’ve been off Facebook for 2 years and snap chat for two months. Social media has us too invested in other people’s lives. We meet people, but not everyone is meant to stay or be a part of our lives. As time goes on people change, and everyone we went to school with doesn’t need to know what we’re up to now. You’re right about getting better sleep!
That part right there!! Not everyone is meant to stay or be a part of our lives as we grow indeed. Thank you so much for watching and your feedback 🙂
@@porciasview you’re welcome!
Well said ❤
That’s fantastic!
Thank you for this video. Social media has completely destroyed my life and my marriage has ended. God told me to delete all the apps as I needed to spend more time in God's presence. Now I am happier and I have my peace.
When you said “if you’re behind the camera you become a viewer too” THAT PART.
Deleting Instagram over three years ago was the best thing that I did for my mental health! You feel more free to live your real life! Completely resonated with your experience beautiful! 🙏🏻💞✨
Three years, I can only imagine how you’ve been feeling. What a joy it is to hear how this resonates with you. Thanks for watching 🙂
This is so true recently deleted my music instagram and I don’t regret it one bit. Because I get more engagement from TH-cam and making more a positive impact on TH-cam as an aspiring artist than I ever did on instagram
@@jaysouthmusic8230 Love this! TH-cam is so much better! 🙌🏻
Haven’t had Facebook or ig since I was a sophomore in high school (about 10 yrs ago), never made a Snapchat or tik tok. People always ask me why? And I’m just tell them I value my mental health.
I deliberately shut down my Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and Twitter so I’d go ghost mode and THEN SPEND REALLY QUALITY TIME WITH GOD. And this was how THE BIBLICAL FEMININITY CHANNEL was Born.
This is awesome. That quality time with God makes it so much easier to connect and love him more and more. May God uplift and bless your ministry. Thank you so much for watching ❤️
Social media makes it feel like the world as you know it stopped & you’re in an alternate universe. It takes stopping to realize trees are still growing, business are still thriving and people are living outside of the apps.
I deleted my social media last year. Everything you said is so true. I felt I was just doing things for validation. Wasn’t really experiencing life. I recently just got on Facebook but I set a 30 min a day limit on it. If I feel myself losing myself again. I have no problem deleting it again.
I love how you took initiative to delete your social media for your mental health. It's really addicting, and once we let it go. Life becomes peaceful and fun actually. Less is more. But it's truly hard when you are a content creator. Looking for a balance currently.
So well said. We have to get to that place where we can create a healthy balance. I’m looking forward to when I will be able to hire a creative individual or Team to handle such platforms. I appreciate your feedback 🙂
It's really refreshing to not be active on social media,especially when you deal with mental health issues.
When you said “It was my God” I FELT THAT! This was so good, I’ve felt every single feeling and emotion you mentioned. Thank you for validating my thoughts
I'm so glad! Do what brings you peace. Thank you for watching ❤️
Wow same here. I deleted my social media last week and this video just gave me the confirmation I needed that I did the right thing. Thank you so much.
You hit it on the head w seeing so many deaths on social media . I know people are dying everyday a lot of the times senselessly but without social media more so instagram and Facebook I don’t get to see that constantly
Gotta protect your peace. Thank you so much for your input and for watching 🙂
Sis I deactivated my fb & IG last year and I can’t even fathom going back. I love being ghost. I love my peace of mind & privacy and j was a huge over sharer and influencer type. TH-cam & Twitter us all I have. Twitter I just find funny but u don’t share my life. You explained how I feel perfectly. Sending you love ❤
I appreciate you for watching and your feedback. Going ghost never felt so great until now lol. Especially when people see you and gasp in awe of you. Like yea, I’m still alive lol.
I haven't used any form of social media in 3 months. I left it because I felt it was poisonous. I would much rather meet people in the real world so I can get to know someone. You cannot get to know someone fully online period.
“It became my god and began taking over my life” 👏🏼
Planning to permanently delete ig n Facebook .. already did Twitter and TikTok … it creates an illusion of happiness.. I agree with everything you’re saying.. especially feeling present in life than on my social media
Can you please make more videos because i really like your vibe/energy. i deleted my instagram because i was seeking validation from people and getting distracted from my goals. feel so much better and now i'm gonna spend time reading books, exercising, etc. it's crazy how much more time you will have now.
I definitely will do more videos. I’m glad you feel so much better now and the only validation you need is from yourself. Thank you so much for watching and your feedback 🙂
This is as raw as it comes. I think so many will benefit from your experience as I'm sure a ton of people, especially women who depend on public/social acceptance and approval are oblivious to the consequences of social media addiction. It's a sad reality for millions. Social media addiction and the toxic trail it leaves behind to one's mental health is more damaging than people actually realise. Good on your for putting it out there Porcia.
Awww thank you so much. We are all living to learn from each other’s experiences. Thank you so much for your feedback, and thank you also for watching ❤️
I just deleted all my social media except for LinkedIn and it has made a drastic difference. I was on and off for a while until I realized my peace mattered more.
Same with me. I also deleted social media but for temporary right now except for linkedin, youtube, whatsapp. I’m searching for peace of mind 🙏🏼😊all is well for us
best and most important phrase I take with me: "it's not by force to be on those platforms". thanks, I deleted it two weeks ago and enjoy my "new" regained privacy so much now.
So well said!! It's so mentally taxing, unnecessarily
And it’s not worth it at all. Thanks for watching :)
This video hit home for me, literally everything you said is why I left social media. It’ll be a year for me in April and I have never felt better. I’m pouring my time into people and things that really matter.
This is really great to hear. Keep pouring into what really matters to you. Thank you so much for watching 🙂
I walked away in 2021 to breathe. I noticed that the moment that I wasn't present there, I was present in my life. I had bad anxiety about being single, about accomplishing my goals, about being out and about in the latest...and when I removed myself from everything that was going on, I felt...relieved. it's still up when I feel the need to go back, but I hardly do because I'm privately having the time of my life. And it's no one's business right now what's going on or what I'm doing. It feels good being anonymous.
I feel this. I left instagram just to fall into the trap of TikTok. A social break is needed
A lot of people don’t see the pain. Losing SM is the healthiest thing you can do for your mental health. Power to you
This was the best video I seen about deleting social media. Especially “constantly behind the lens, are you experiencing it or just recording it”
That’s so awesome to hear. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment.
Appreciate this message. Been mostly off social media for 60 days and continuing trying to get my real life together. Stay a real one. Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much. Gotta get you life together mindfully
Well said 🙌🏾👏🏾 I am currently off of all social media (TH-cam and pintrest are all I have ) but it is so refreshing and rewarding to be in my own energy. Not scrolling looking at what everyone else is doing but genuinely enjoying my life off the grid. It’s a powerful thing that most people can’t do because they’re addicted to it.
That’s so great. Thank you so much for watching 🙂
@@porciasview You’re welcome ✨
I just deleted by FB and IG pages today and a burden feels lifted. I resonated with every thing you said!
I love that for you ❤️
Honestly, social media like Facebook makes me depressed. I don’t really have friends and I’ve sent friend requests to others on there but no one accepts them. Facebook is literally a place for people with friends not loners like me. I get sad that I don’t get any likes on my posts. The 1980s were an amAzing time especially because Facebook didn’t exist back then. I guess people met in public back then like couples and friends.
well said, there's more to life than social media. I'm glad you created the balance.
Thank you so much ❤️
I am 23 , started my journey as a Christian in 2017 God told me to let go of social media in 2019 ever since I am off social media. I love it ,as someone who is goal oriented , I compare less now of course TH-cam does affect sometimes but control what I see and watch.
It’s always great to listen to God when he speaks. He has nothing but great intentions for us and he always replaces what he says to get rid of with something much better. Thank you for watching ❤️
Literally made the decision yesterday to delete my social media and you popped up on my TH-cam today .! This is my confirmation 💜😮💨 thank you .
I love this for you. The first step is always the best step. Good luck on your journey and I wish so much peace! Thank you for watching ❤️
Been three years since deleting my social media, literally change my mentality for the better I can think and see more clearly.
People say social media only has aspirational stuff and no truth but these are also the people who don't make it a safe space for people to share their raw emotions. Proud of you girl ❤
I still took all the photos even w/on social media. I just love capturing the moment and the beautiful life i live
love this ✨ “if you see me, you see me…. if you don’t, you don’t! exactly sis
I have felt so similarly, I really want to build an online community yet I feel so much resistance to wanting to be online because of how unauthentic it can be, I've just had to have faith in my intention
Build that community on your terms with the pace that best suits you. Take it one day at time and if you feel uncomfortable at any point, you can pause, take a step back, and just focus on you. Thank you for watching ❤️
This is so we'll articulated
Oh thank you so much. I appreciate your feedback.
It is good news that ya woman too are waking up with the social media bullcrap and I'm really happy for that.
Yea it’s time. Thanks for watching 😌
I love these types of conversations! I do 100 fasts from social annually but have been off of FB for a few years now. So glad more people are realizing how mentally taxing social media is. You have motivated me to post a video on this topic as well soon!
Oh this is so great to hear and I love this for you. Go for it!!! The more we share, the more it gets out there. Thank you for watching ❤️
This is why I stopped watching the news everyday. Only once a week now to stay updated.
I take frequent hiatus's ( if that's a word lol) from social media so I get it. I have even hid the apps on my phone so I won't be tempted to go on it. And it feels so good not to sit there and unconsciously scrool.
I love this. Lol I took so many hiatus as well until I got comfortable enough to break up with it. It’s that toxic relationship you can’t get out of. So good but yet so bad!! Thanks for watching 😊
The amount of social media breaks I’ve been on. Currently on one right now & I related to everything that you’ve said! Going out and feeling like “if i don’t post it didn’t happen” or feeling so connected to the News that it would break me mentally/emotionally just even hearing it. I swear the only reason why I have social media is to promote my content & music but if I didn’t do anything, I would be completely MIA. This video really helped validate for me to continue to be intentional with my life & to appreciate it way more than just for content and/or promotion. Thank you for your vulnerability. I loved your video 🙏🏾
I deleted social media because i started to feel like a loser seeing everyone around me having the “best life” in social media when in reality I don’t have any idea of what going on. I just felt like nobody cared about me, nobody like my stuff and started to feel jealous or sad seeing my friends have fun, i felt like my life was so boring compared to everyone else.. when in reality my life is fine. I am happy were i am in life i just comparing myself to everyone else… and it was making me depressed.. it got dark. Hours on tik tok scrolling my life away, not living in the present. Thankfully i deleted the app of my phone and fell so much better about everything.. But now the sad part is seeing that my “friendship” was never real..
@@linnettecandelario530 I’m sorry you had to endure all that. I’m also glad that you finally chose yourself and did what was best for you. Nothing on the internet is worth your self esteem and peace of mind. I pray for peace and fulfillment over your life. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing as well. Good luck on your journey ❤️
@@porciasview thank you ❤️ so much!
i take this step now. And i wanted to make this before, but i don't know why don't I do this so thanks for encourage me for take this important step. thanks from the deepest point in my heart❤.
You are very welcome and I am so glad I could help. Thank you for watching and thank you for your vulnerability.
Preach sister!!! Such great dialogue and so many points made. It’s been 2+ weeks since deleting my social media and I feel soo good. I have better memory, better sleep, better energy levels, etc etc!
Yassss!!! I’ve quit Facebook, Insta and Twitter and I feel Freeeeeee! Free just to BE.
Wow! This video is on point. You said everything I’ve been thinking. I have so many ideas but I don’t finish them. Today I’ve removed by FB, Insta and Twitter. Thank you much for this. ❤️
I love this for this. Thank you for sharing and thank you so much for watching.
Thank you for your insight! The only downside of not having any social media is that you are left behind in irl conversation about what people post online; this celeb did that, this influencer bought that- blah blah blah. But that cannot compare to the peace of mind I feel. I also don't consider TH-cam a social media since it gives me *the authority to what I consume.* I'm tired of seeing an empty argument on this point.
Couldn’t t have said it any better. The peace of mind I’ve obtained cannot be compared to anything else. Thank you for your feedback and thank you also for watching.
i must have watched tens of these kinds if videos this week alone and yet i still have ig and fb on my phone...... dear god pls give me the strength to be one of them
I'm not a subscriber and I probably won't be. But it was so nice to listen to your voice and your thoughts. I hope your life is going in the most beautiful direction.
The fact that you took time out of your day to watch my video is more than enough for me. Thank you so much for watching.
Thank you for sharing this really spoke to me deeply. I’ve been depressed for over a year now and recently have started to see how it’s affecting me. I put my goals aside, but when it comes to social media I drop everything I’m doing just to see who’s posting or if xyz shared a story, etc. I would often compare my life to those on media and would feel like crap because my life didn’t look like theirs. As I deleted Instagram and Snapchat I got recommended this video specifically. I think the timing was meant to be, because I refuse to let another day go by without living it with purpose, with authenticity that resonates with me. You’re right, live an intentional life. Who cares if you don’t post, your life is not inside social media, it is outside social media, but most certainly don’t get them mixed up. Thank you once again for your video it really is nice to see I’m not going through this alone. Thank you
I can’t express how touched I am by your comment. I’m also so glad you took the time to watch my video. Continue to work on yourself and do what best suits you. Yes, sometimes we do forget that we are not alone in this walk. Your life is your own to live so live it and enjoy every bit of it when you can. Thank you again ❤️
I agree, any world events that have happened in the last 10 years, I mentally/emotionally distance myself from. It's draining & exhausting. And the irony is the last 3 years I work for the mainstream media so sometimes it's hard to escape it.
I can only imagine how you feel. To be front and center of it all is something I might not be able to handle. Guess you have to try to find a common ground and maneuver through it. Thank you for sharing and watching ❤️
@@porciasview Yea I learned to find common ground. It's also a challenge because the more you distance yourself from mainstream things, the more your mind adjusts to non-mainstream things
You said a whole lot of truth in this video. At times I take a hiatus from social media because at times I begin to compare or feel like I should be doing more with my life. I'm now going to commit to only posting for my business and then logging off. It can become draining at times. I also felt every word you said about posting your man and receiving the goals feedback. Those were my exact reasons for leaving Facebook years ago. Everything is not peaches and cream ❤
You definitely have to put yourself first and work gradually towards what’s best for your sanity. I’m glad you’re taking the necessary steps needed. Everything will work out for you as it should. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing as well ❤
I quit my social media platforms except TH-cam 💯.
I feel your message so loudly! I loved the part where you mentioned posting when you weren't doing well. there is so much more power in vulnerability than in a facade. proud of you!
Thank you so much. To be vulnerable definitely required power and strength. Thanks also for watching 🙂
Yo this a real video, literally everything of how I feel about keep dropping great content and waking people up, it’s a matrix we living in
this is so relatable to me. i went 3 months off of it. just recently came back. and i find myself consuming so much negativity. not even intentionally, its just there! i find myself having the urge to share everything im doing. i find myself comparing myself to all the gorgeous "rich" people. i find myself falling into the trap of envy with people who "look like" theyre doing better than me. not to mention wasting more time, being less productive. its time to get off again
This. I miss me. The me that didn’t get on social media until my 12th grade year of high school (2008-2009), didn’t get my first cell phone until I was 17. I was just living my life, didn’t care to do what everyone else was doing and was my own person. Social media literally makes me depressed subconsciously and wouldn’t know until I find myself lashing out or feeling low. That’s not me. Even going onto the man in my life page getting in my feelings if he’s online but haven’t responded as if he’s not human and need time to himself too down to seeing people having what I desire and feeling like a failure. I hate what social media does to me and how it changed me but definitely ensuring I fight to get back to myself. I tried to keep it for my art and to be more “social” but truly I’d rather have my peace & happiness. Slowly backing away from being on my phone so much too.
I completely understand how you feel. Gradually pull away and do what’s best for you. Spend more time with yourself and enjoy the simple things life has to offer. All the best on your journey. Thank you for watching and for being so vulnerable as well.
Great video. Loved the transparency. I've really pulled back the throttle on my social media over the last couple years, where I can go days without scrolling through, but haven't quite quit yet. It does have a stupid way of pulling you back in. With that said, I'm closer and closer every single day to deleting them and videos like yours help give me that last push of motivation to do so. Appreciate it!
Thank you for your feedback. I’m so glad you watched. Keep pulling back as much as you can and do what best suits you. Thank you for watching
You are so right. I deleted my ig 2 years ago. I had to ask myself what would I gain or lose being off there. It was the most freeing feeling ever. My mental stay was much better too. I did reactive my page 8 months ago. But I learned to limit my time on there. I can go weeks, months and days without being on there. I could never do that before. If I feel again is affecting my mental state I will deactivate & it will never see me again lol.
It’s so good knowing that you have created a healthy boundary. Keep doing what best works for you and as you stated, you will leave as soon as you feel yourself getting to that place mentally. Thank you for watching and sharing 💕
Same experience for me, this is why I love TH-cam.. you’ll see helpful/ relatable content that you can relate with but is helpful overall. Instagram was the opposite, very triggering. 👏👏 new subscriber!
Oh thank you so much. I appreciate you for watching and sharing your experience 🙂
Yes, I'm trying so hard to only use social media as a business tool and that's it. I'm ready to get a separate phone just for business purposes.
As long as your business is your main objective, you will do just fine. Thank you so much for your feedback and for watching ❤️
I resonate fully with this ❤
This video deeply resonates with me. Thanks for sharing.
I’m so Glad it was helpful! Thank you as well for watching
This is hands down the BEST take on the effects of social media in such a short amount of time. This was so raw, beautiful and completely unedited and I loved every second of it. Your words flowed and hit me straight in the heart. Everything you said completely resonated with me. Thank you for just being so honest and getting straight to the point. This was perfect! Keep reclaiming your - time -!
Oh thank you so much. I really appreciate you for watching and sharing your thoughts ❤
Sis you had me cracked up 🤣, the intensity in your message. And it’s all so brutally true, thanks for spreading the word. SM is a hell of a drug. 🔥🙏🏾
Thank you so much. I had to go there lol. I appreciate you for watching ❤️
Thank you, beautiful. You just motivated to take it off of my phone again.
Told myself i'd detach and just use it for brand building purposes but once I didnt have a team of people doing that for me fell right back in. It's like the worst trap, you need it, but it kills your soul and mind. Worse when you seem to be the only one who seems to perceive this mess, as intensely at least
That part!!! Knowing you need it, yet you gotta stay away. Set boundaries if needed and all will fall into place once you build that team to handle it all for you. Thank you for watching ❤️
I deleted social media October 2022 the best decision my real friends and close family still call me I don’t miss SM at all
Am so glad I passed through this one ☝🏽 🎉
I’m happy to hear this. Thank you for watching :)
I just recently deleted my music instagram because as a aspiring artist it was distracting and I been getting more engagement on my TH-cam channel than instagram. Best decision I have made and should have done it months ago. I do not regret it one bit and I enjoy creating in the moment and living in the moment
I love that for you. Good luck on everything and thank you so much for sharing and watching as well .
@@porciasview I appreciate that and you too
You made some brilliant points. Glad you understand and enjoy ‘social space’ now. Truth is no one gives a f*** about your SM posts and you’re way more interesting without an Insta not with one. Well, when it’s being used poorly like all the reasons you mentioned. If it’s literally used to connect & thrive with like minded people in specific groups that benefit your being then fine. But needy posts of what your eating in a restaurant & lifestyle shit is just embarrassing now, it’s old, and it’s like having a mental health issue engaging in the crap. I’m one year free of it all this week.
Good for you man. I totally agree. People act life didn’t exist before social media existed and life was pretty much simple and fine before social media came about. I bet you people can’t even write all the memories they had before social media existed on a piece of paper. Which tells you everything that they are not living in the moment. I can think of all the great memories from my life that had nothing to do with social media and I feel great about it. Never made one memory on social media cause it was that depressing
@@jaysouthmusic8230 cheers dude. Keep moving forward 🥂
@@sleeplessinstockwell Always do
Girrrrlllll i’m only 1 minute in and I’m screaming. I just had that same revelation about how Instagram and tik tok are really just “instant gratification” apps that leave you worse off and how TH-cam doesn’t have that same effect. I’ve been off IG and Tik tok for 2 weeks and counting and when I tell you it’s already making such a huge difference?!
Oh tell me about it boo. It’s like that one toxic relationship that has to go. Not missed at all. I’m glad you’re taking a break
Recently I was thinking about deleting social media, today was the most emotionally day, i thought a lot about my life, about how i feel and then how I feel due to social media and thanks to it I finally made up my mind. After that I saw your film (I do not know how, is the magic real? This Idea was only on my mind and your film just popped up) , the film that I am really related with, now I feel it is really right decision to delete it from my life, maybe not for my whole life but for now it is the best choice. English is not my native language, so I am sorry if I made some mistakes in the text. Have a nice day/evening 💕
You have no idea how much this means to me. I am so honored to be part of your journey. To me, that magic is always God. Take as much time as you need and focus on yourself. I wish you all the best and Peace. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your experience as well. We are all in this together. Thank you ❤️
I like Instagram,but i do take breaks on there. Also, I don’t overshare either. I’ve been dating for some time and I don’t show photos of my boyfriend like that. If someone wants to know how we’re doing they would have to literally ask me when they see me in PERSON or through a text, phone call. They’re not getting “updates” on my page whatsoever about my relationship..I learned this the hard way when I was in my 20’s now in my 30’s. But, taking breaks is nice tho because I’m focused on what I’m doing in the moment and I’m not worried about other people
Oh i have to thanks TH-cam' s recommendation on this because all of that you said is just what i feel since i left Instagram about a year ago but i still feel the anxiety with the TH-cam short that just pop up out of nowhere...
well, thank you, from a high sensitive person it means a lot
I appreciate you for taking the time to watch this video and for also being so vulnerable. Take it one day at a time and skip anything on TH-cam that doesn’t serve you. I appreciate you for sharing and thank you for watching ❤️
Hi Porcia! Loved this video. I agree that TH-cam is such a wonderful place to spend time elevating yourself. You also mentioned being intentional, which I think is so important in all aspects of our lives. It’s harder to be intentional when our minds are cluttered up with what we think everyone else would approve of, or what someone else would do or like. It’s even weirder when we see other people trying to take on and start to do what we are doing in our daily lives! It can definitely breed unhealthy amounts of jealousy in that way. We can really start to know and connect with ourselves when we aren’t paying attention to others, or worrying what they think about us.
Thank you for sharing
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Couldn’t have said it any better! Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts as well ❤️
Happy for you Sis. Stay encouraged!
Thanks for this Amazing message. I needed to hear this even though I knew it already. It’s crazy how what you’re already thinking sounds better when someone else is thinking the same way.
That’s so good to hear. You’re very welcome and just know that it only gets better after the first step! Thanks for watching and thanks for your feedback.
I've watched a few videos about quitting social mediaYou hit the nail on the head with not being able to escape negativity on ig. Cassie and Diddy drama this month has driven me off the platform because not being able to escape posts that are triggering is....triggering
So sorry to hear that. Protect your peace and do what’s best for your mental. Thank you for watching the video and thank you for your vulnerability.
So happy I came across your video! You spoke the truth!
So glad!
A week leaving social media, trust me it’s the best feeling 😊
It really is! So happy for you. I wish you all the best ❤️
@@porciasview tysmmm
This video was randomly suggested to me by TH-cam and I'm so glad I clicked on it! Some awesome points you made 💙 I really like your calm, peaceful vibe! Thank you for sharing 💖
I'm so glad! Thank you for watching ❤️
Everything you'd said is facts!!!! I deleted my IG as well...feels so good!
I love that for you. Thank you so much for watching ❤️
I understand your points you've made. I have the apps (bar Snap and TikTok) and rarely use them but last few months my group chat has died.
I feel like i have to initiate the conversation with people to meet up and sociaise, some people are not even responding back to my messages (months have gone by).
I know people but at same time it kinda feels lonely sometimes.
Awesome video! Great message!
Thank you so much
Thank you for your honesty, Porcia ✨ giving me also thoughts to quit it permanently 💪🏻
You're so welcome! Thank you for watching
I’m happy I watched this, I need it!
Oh I’m so happy to hear this. Thank you for watching
As a business owner I feel I had to stay that was my excuse but god said I got you and I’ve been off social media month and I love being out the loop (if you see me you see if you don’t you don’t) Business is still continuing but I feel free this video I felt in so many ways. I look at TH-cam as television so I’m trying to convert to only have TH-cam it’s hard but I’m going to try it thank you for your video much blesses 💜