Unconditional vs conditional love.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- big difference. don't let people put you in that box of control :')
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Good advice. The more self assured and aware a human becomes, the less vulnerable they are to conditional love and manipulations. A strong sense of fairness is key to all healthy relationships
My family has always been "conditional." My mother always gaslights and guilt trips me. My family is extremely emotionally detached. Im not.
True. And I think a lot of people will never truly arrive at this realization.
In part, I think consumerism contributes to the problem. Every commercial, every advertisement, is centered around _you_ . Smiling people serving _you_ . Entertainment curated specifically to _you_ . Food crafted for _your_ tastebuds. Technology turning _you_ into the puppet master of the universe.
And it sells. People like to feel special and powerful. But it's always a suprise when customer service turns out to be some dreary individual who has no idea what's going on.
When all you're surrounded by every day is you, you, you, you might just delude yourself into thinking everyone else out there is under some obligation to make you happy
loves never been my experience and never will be so this video means noting to me
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@@rossq9578 Yes very much so
Damn, you are some kind of galactic angel NFL star. With this statement, you just touchdowned on Earth, and we should all probably expect huge aftershocks. Love and Peace.✌
This one hits good. I'm in a period where I'm realizing they are boxing me up. So I'm letting go and moving on
Fair weather people, that's a simple way to describe those who stay or go or how we behave ourselves.
i find a way that people tend to do this that is quite common nowadays is not respecting you when you tell them that you dont use social media or your phone often so you most likely wont reply. i need to be offline to focus on my own needs, i cannot babysit my friends online for them to not see me outside of social media lol. it's all complicated but anyway i love this perspective. you can't use the people around you as puppets for your own play. it pushes those people away. i always used to attract friends that were very clingy and i hated it. i hated them thinking my life revolved around them and their needs MORE than my own.
ive thought about this a lot. and i think its difficult because i think most people get very conditional love from their parents - their first experience of love - and so i think we learn at a young age that love is condittional.
also we live in a society where people are not seen to have intrinsic worth, ie if you are not useful (do not have a job) you do not deserve the nescessities of life (shelter, food, etc). i think this perspective makes it difficult to feel that it is wrong to change people because those who will not change themselves to meet the needs of the powers that be are treated as below others.
maybe a bit of a tangent but my point is that there are many signals telling us we (ourselves and others) are not deserving of unconditional love and i think this is why so many are so lost
I’ve been at the receiving end of conditional love from family and it internally destroyed me, and later on down the road I came to figure out that it was all because they raised my sibling and they never raised me. We never grew up together since we were born, and I apparently can’t even live with my own extended family and be allowed just the same as my sibling all because ‘they raised him since he was a baby’ and they never raised me…. and I grew up homeless with a narcissist father….
sorry to hear bout that situation with your friend. I feel a lot of people aren't conscious of their own behavior and expectations and they become unintentionally self-centered.
i feel like i've accidentally done this type of thing through being a little easily annoyed by certain things and i feel bad for the people i've done this to
i think a big thing to not doing this is to try to overthink other's actions and just not have high expectations of someone. just deal with what you are given, don't push anyone to do something they don't want to do unless you're completely confident that it could be harmful in some way
just live life in the moment, essentially
If you unconditionally love someone then it doesn't really matter whether they love you back or not. Conditional love hurts the giver more than the person who is on the receiving end of it
I’m cooked, I just want off this wild ride.
Another banger 😁 thank you again I look forward to listening to this
yes great video there is no such thing as conditional love just control AKA Manipulation unconditional love is truly divine grace of divinity on the highest levels enlightenment peace joy love keep spreading the message and hold a distance of space for those that lack innerstanding
i came back to this video
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Yeah
This definitely will come in useful for the future
very wise. thank you!
I'm gonna share an experience i have had and most will likely not believe it which is completely fine, i do not wish to take away from your talk here Leilani, i merely wanna share my pov. But I have had an experience back in 2009 where i was visited by 4 highly advanced extra-terrestrial beings and this completely changed my view on the world, on myself and also on the concept of what "Love" is.
Because on earth we think we are capable of love but actually we don't. This dimension, this reality is based on darkness so the only version of love you can experience is a darker type of energy which we call lust. So people mistake love in the world for lust. And this is evident in every aspect of society.
And so when i met these beings i was faced with the understanding that they completely loved me, i could feel it through every cell in my being. When i came back to earth because as they visited me they extended to take me away for reasons im not gonna share. So as i came back on earth i could never again see for example the way my mom loved me as a way that is love. Because it was nowhere near the energy i had experienced. This is why throughout my life i have never connected or bonded to any person before in my life because i understand love can only come from the self. All the rest outside of yourself is a distraction and conditional. and often manipulative.
All relationships, all friendships, all marriages are all based on conditions and people need those conditions to learn to be on their own, this is the entire reason why on earth you evolve rapidly because you experience pains, heartache, betrayal, and its all meant to drive you back to yourself. Which when that happens you rapidly evolve yourself, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. This is also why in our society now All Relationships are collapsing, marriages are basically non existent anymore. People stay together 3 weeks/months tops. And its all because a change is occuring whereby everyone on the planet is forced to be on their own. Because we are going to evolve out of the darkness concept into the love concept. So actually we will learn about love in the future. This was one of the things these beings told me that in my lifetime the planet will evolve and there will be lots of chaos. This is that point of time they were speaking of. (I cannot stress that enough) We are very close to absolute mayhem on the planet soon which will be the birthing pains of a new world. And people will go nuts!.
So my perspective on this summed up is quite simple: Humans are not capable of unconditional love within this reality itself, because the energy that is actual love cannot exist in lower dimensional frameworks of reality. Everything outside of this lower 4th dimensional realm actually contains the energy of love. This is why our bodies need sleep to refuel that energy of love for sustaining to remain in a artificially holographic dense reality. (This is why if you do not sleep for an amount of days you'll hallucinate and eventually die)
Everything on earth is predatory because it is not a real reality, its holographic. And it has to be holographic to induce a limited form of experience whereby the soul can enter into and experience itself by forgetting itself and remembering what it is!. Once you remember, you are free again and have finalized what you set out to do.
True reality does not degrade, so the fact we age, have seasons on the planet is proof that this reality is not real.
This is why i see Earth as a game. Nothing is serious about it!. The only thing real here is Yourself and your connection to yourself. And that is all that truly matters!. And society will demonize you for it because selfishness is pushed into the "negative" category, because if you only cater to other people they indeed can control you. But once you become mature, love yourself, are self sufficient, Nobody can control you!.
I will say this though, in order to love you must have died and gone beyond the physical reality. And then come back to understand that frequency. This is in reality is what happened to me with the beings, as i was taken out of holographic reality into real reality. And thus i have remembered what it is like to unconditionally love but nontheless its useless because nobody understands or can handle such energies down here. And not gonna lie its very hard to do so because the mind within this reality is constantly programmed.
So if you want to evolve as a human being! Love yourself. ITS THE ONLY WAY!.
tysm for sharing this is really interesting !! do you think anyone else on earth has seen the higher dimensions and felt true love? do you think if you met someone who had you would be able to share true real love with them?
@@finlaygibb6763 You ask great questions. undoubtedly yes others have experienced things like this, each in their own ways and degrees. Ever since 2016 this has grown exponentially and will continue because people are in a sense 'forced' to leave behind the old ways of life more and more. But also in truth, everyone has, because everyone has experienced things when they sleep. When you sleep you enter different levels of reality outside of the body every single night. So we all do it constantly anyway. Whether we remember or not that is an entirely different topic.
I have never met anyone who has had the same and or similar experience as myself. However this is a paradox Because when you truly love yourself and accept yourself you no longer need anybody else to fullfill you. As much as my body would like to experience that kind of expression with another, my soul tells me its not for me.
From my point of view you only 'desire' to be with someone when you haven't found yourself yet. And that is perfectly okay because its a proccess people need to go through to realize. The proccess can be beautiful but often its not all rainbows and sunshine.
And i personally believe if you are with someone all you'll find is their pain reflected back at you at some point. You'll be blamed for their unhappiness because they don't love themselves. People expect from others which leads to suffering, My standards because of my experiences are insanely high i'll admit to that. If it is not the type of love i have experienced then i don't want it. And since nobody on earth to my knowledge is capable of loving like the beings did its a done deal for me.
Make no mistake the experience for me was traumatizing and i had 4 years of depression. i wanted them to come back but they didn't!. Its hard to live in a world where things suddenly all seem fake and pale. But i have learned to move beyond it. But it took lots of time.
I would wait life-times to experience it once again. and until then all i will do is what i have been doing and live my life in the best way possible. But love is not something you are in, its something you are.
And when we are being ourselves we afford others the opportunity to love themselves more. Always give the gift of your being to those who seek for it. It could just be their catalyst to love themselves and grow.
@@finlaygibb6763 I can't see my comment i posted on your question earlier today odd.., youtube must have deleted it. youtube being youtube...grrrrr oh well...
Im just gonna respond in short then, yes theres many who do and no i don't think i would because the paradox of self development is once you are mature and spiritually elevated to a degree you don't need anybody else to fulfill you. And the truth is others desire love outside of themselves to fulfill themselves and it never works!. I have tried it and it only fractured my heart into pieces. Maybe i'm not strong enough to see it through but either way for me i could never, atleast not on this planet in this reality!.
its quite a complex topic in itself but for me personally due to my experiences i cannot accept affection. Because once i would do that i know my connection to myself will drop to the side and i will begin to expect love to come from another person. Expectation is the killer of all connections.
And this i think can be deterimental and is a dangerious teritory to be involved in if you don't know how to navigate yourself completely. And people these days don't do the work this is why domestic violence is rising exponentially also. People blame other people they have lost their own connection.
And most people are so filled with traumatic experience because of other people, and nobody takes the time to reflect and soften those experiences, before entering into new connections, so the odds i would find someone who is smiling but broken inside is way to big. And people aren't honest anymore either.
Its hard to find an authentic human being.
@@finlaygibb6763 for whatever reason my comments have been removed by yt 2x now, so i will say no further responses on questions, other than true love is self that is all!.
@@finlaygibb6763 my cmmnts are being erased can't respond on questions in detail. sorry
This one was deep 5:45
Men are in love, women are in business. We see right through it.
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I gave her my heart and she stole my Oakley sunglasses. No way. Absolutely not. I’m gonna give her one more chance to prove to me that she cares. For real though your ko-fi page isnt linked anywhere
Damn Great topic
U are beautiful
i wish i had money so i could donate to the ko-fi lol
Is one side of your hair long and the other short or am I just tripping? Lol
@@lacecreationz2434 haha, there are short pieces on both sides of my face but sometimes I pull my hair to the side so it melts in