I don't usually comment but I always watch your videos. You are a treasured friend and you encourage me in ways you'll never know. Both of you! I am in my 60's and past this season of life but your family and your deep faith as a couple is an island of peace in this chaotic world. God Bless You
Same here. Retirement is all exploring what you enjoy and I’m a long time subscriber here. Let’s all take a minute to pray for the Florida mom with a 17 yr old son who is struggling. Surely with all of us lifting her up He will listen and make a way. 🙏
Oh guys, internet critics!!🙄 people need to just do their own life and stop trying to do yours. I made plenty of mistakes raising my kiddos and thank goodness I wasn’t being critiqued at every turn. Anyone can see that you are a happy and balanced family with love and respect for each other. And all you armchair critics, remember, not every thought you have needs to spoken! Take care Tribe🥰
As my grandmother used to say…In one ear and out the other. Don’t let those negative comments take up any space in your mind. You guys are a beautiful loving family and we appreciate you sharing your life with us. Blessings to all of you! 😘❤️
I want to say thank you to both of you for saying how you pray when you and your spouse are not on the same page. My husband and I disagree on some things and I never thought to pray for a change in his heart or mine. So thank you for this. I just recently started going back to church with my 8 year old and I thought I knew everything about praying but I see that it’s not just what you pray for it’s how you pray for it. That was a real eye opener for me, so thank you!!
I am a very confrontational person but the Lord has shown me lately how I have won more battles on my knees in prayer than I have through an argument. I now have a peace of mind that I never had before. If someone irritates me, I just pray in my heart for them and for me, and the atmosphere just begins to change.
I will never understand why people waste their time leaving nasty comments and spreading negativity. Its biazrre ..I am single and I have no children but i love your content Sarah and Solo and I come here for the down to earth common sense approach to life, the warmth of the family and the wholesome content in general. ❤ Love to you all from Qatar
I’m claiming that your house is already sold! The fact that you had more that one party interested is amazing!!! So congratulations 😁👏🏽 🎈🎉🎊 !!! I also liked the fact that in your decision making you took into account that the new family would be a good fit for your old neighborhood! God bless you for that and praise God for answered prayer🙏🏽!!!
Love you guys , I don’t usually comment but sweet lady you can tell by just seeing your sweet kids that they are very well fed. I love how you share your lives with us. Can’t wait to see y’all start your new home.
„He leads, we follow“ Yes! 😀 You guys are wise and kind and you seem very authentic. I love how naturally you share your faith, without pushing it too much. I can tell that is is your life and you love to follow such a good God. Some people are just so rude when they write on social media. I love how your mom and Solo protect your heart Sarah.
I can definitely relate to the woman with the anger problem. With my wife going through a medical issue right now and me working 2 jobs being the sole breadwinner, I get agitated a lot. What helps me is that when I'm at work and get irritated, I ask myself "Who am I doing this for?" Then I remember that my family depends me and it gets me motivated and stay focused.
I am trusting God that he has sent you a qualified buyer. We listed our home on Nov. 16 ,2023 and received 1 offer at open house on that weekend. They were thrilled, and excited that it was move in ready. We had the closing 2wks later. They move in on Dec. 14th! trust God he is a way maker!🙏🏼🙏🏾
My heart goes out to the newly divorced mother of teenagers. You are doing well to help your child through this difficult time. Mine had some real rough patches but now, at 41, is a wonderful family man who loves the Lord. This is a season, it's not the end.
I admire your parenting skills! You certainly have wonderful children. I am looking forward to watching you build your new home on your dream plot of land! Blessings!🌲
I loved hearing you answer these questions . Parenting young adults is a hard time that a lot of people don’t discuss . They are at such a crossroads in their own life . Will be praying for this mom and her children . As the mom of 21 and 20 year old daughters and then a caboose who is 13 I totally relate .
We have to help structure our kids healthy habits and eating habits. They don’t have the self awareness for many things, especially food wise. We don’t let our children get too much of one thing until they eat more of other things on their plate. We aren’t depriving our kids by not letting them eat too much of one thing! It’s a balance! We are just helping them find that balance! As parents that is our job!
It’s always very clear that your kids get plenty of good healthy food! I have a relative who’s a child who would eat nothing but rolls if given the chance. Kids don’t always make the best choices without parent supervision. Like Solo said, they have to eat a balanced meal. You’re doing a great job Sarah!
We are currently building our forever home on acreage and my advice is whatever timeline you think it is going to be double it. It is a long slow process building a new custom home. We thought we were going to be in by Thanksgiving this year and now we are shooting for Valentine’s Day.
So Excited & Encouraged for "ALL" of you as you enlarge and expand the blessed territory our Great Father God has given you. I love seeing the beginning of the Homestead with the cows, kittens, chickens, & ducks. Thank you for the many homemade healthy recipes that makes our lives a little easier. May "The Blessing" with much Joy continue to rest upon you as you move forward.
Sarah, GREAT advice on the 17 year old boy!! Relationship helps soooo much! That mother needs strength, because if he son senses that he can overwhelm and dominate things then he will.
Trigger for me. What people also don't realize is when you eat clean you get more satisfied and the kids don't need as much as kids that fill up on junk
you feed your children better than most!! I've loved watching your journey to slowly changing to healthier things... it's been an encouragement to me and I often use you as an example! Sara you are not afraid of making changes and learning new things but you are very smart about how you implement these changes ... slow and steady so there isn't overwhelm! you are doing an amazing job!!! Solo, you are the father every kid needs!
I’d be on edge too if I saw comments about my children or parenting especially when it’s shown they’re very much cared for. Love your family!! Thanks for sharing 💝
When my daughter is in time out or doesn't want to go to bed at night, she literally cries and screams "I'm hungry!!" over and over. I live in an apartment so my neighbors probably think I'm starving my kids. 😅
You both offer so much wisdom. We are great-grandparents now and raising children is behind us. Today you reminded me of the servant heart and how it affects what I do. Remembering that it not only blesses them, but it blesses God as well. That is precious. Thank you.
To the newly single mom of the 17 yr. old son. I too am a single mom of a 21, 19, 17, and 9 yr. old. My kids are doing great and following the Lord. I completely agree with Sarah about focusing on the relationship. Here are some "rules" I have written out when it comes to raising teens: Make sure they know you love them unconditionally! Make sure they know there is nothing that they could do that would stop you from loving them. Make sure they hear you say, “I love you” every day. Expect great/honorable things from them. They will rise to it if they know you believe in their capability to reach it. Be willing to have the argument. Don’t bank down. Don’t leave things unresolved. As soon as you recognize, you are wrong admit it to them and apologize, regardless of what they do. Listen more than you speak. In the midst of an argument, do not get sidetracked. Stay on topic. Don’t let them try to deflect and derail. Fully, hear them out, even if you don’t like what is being said. Always be honest with them, but make sure to do it with kindness. Hold them accountable. Do not let attitudes go unchecked without calling them out and if need be, consequences. When they don’t like something you are doing/requiring, make sure you let them know that their best interests and character are your top priorities. You are not making decisions just to make them miserable. Follow through with the consequences. Calmly, don’t back down from what you have said is going to happen. However, always be willing to change something if you see that you might be being unreasonable. It is a delicate balance. Show genuine interest in their interests. Check yourself and make sure that you are not disciplining or giving consequences out of anger, or trying to get back at them in any way. Realize that they are going to do/say things that will be hurtful to you. However, you need to choose forgiveness for things that they won’t understand until they are far into adulthood. When they really mess up in a big way, and they know it. Extend tons and tons of forgiveness and grace. Be willing to answer any and all questions. There is no topic off-limits. When answering these make sure to ask questions to find out what they’re truly wanting to know. Don’t just assume and then overshare. Don’t be surprised if a topic comes up that you never thought about before. Have fun with them!
@@magentared5822 I am actually currently going through training to become a biblical counselor. I wrote these a long time before making that decision, though. I am so glad you find them helpful and want to share them! It has been through a lot of prayer and tears that the Lord has taught me these things. I feel extremely blessed that my children are doing so well despite the odds, and I attribute it all to the Lord's faithfulness!
I love you guys so much and you feel like lifelong friends! Your entire family feels like that to me. Nana and papa, the kids, the animals! Thanks for sharing your sweet life with my family! Blessings to you all! Praise God for His help in selling your home!
I literally guffawed when you said someone didn’t think you feed your kids enough. 🤦🏼♀️ You are literally my favorite channel on TH-cam and really any show out there. You have truly helped and inspired me in my growth as a Godly wife and Mother. So grateful for you all.
Your family is amazing. I don't know how you have time to do all you do including all the extras. Even with all the chaos of having many kids they are all so lovely and well behaved. A nice thing to see in today's world. ❤
Homeschooling mom of nine here...I think “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure”. My kids aren’t perfect by any means, but when a parent chooses to disciple and have their kid’s whole heart from a very young age, keeping them CLOSE, there aren’t as many band aids to put on in the teenage years. My husband and I are loving the teenage years with four of them. Good advice though Solo and Sarah for those who have not had the privilege of discipleship from the beginning. May God bless this ministry! (I can’t believe you had to explain about the steaks! Hats wild. My kids aren’t allowed two steaks in a sitting.😂) merry Christmas!!!
Thank you for having hard conversations. Communication is difficult. Thank you for sharing what a godly family looks like. Continue to be light in darkness. ❤
I love that you brought this up. When I watched that video I knew someone was gona think that…… They honestly don’t follow y’all or haven’t for long. Your children are healthy and loved and anyone that has followed along can see that!!🥰🥰🥰🥰 Love you guys!!!
Hi!! I watch you weekly. Don’t worry about the negative comments. I’ve learned that some people would be negative no matter what. It could be jealousy or mental instability. I am happy for you and your family. I told my daughter the other day… I was like I got a great recipe my friend posted on TH-cam. My daughter laughed at me. I think you are so encouraging and friendly that you feel like a friend. I think you have a lot of friends that you are a testimony and witness to. God has given you a platform to almost be a missionary right where you are showing his love. Thank you for that.
I don’t think those people are confused, that’s so sweet Sarah. They are just looking to be negative or they are ignorant. Not confused lol. I would guess they are not made of money and are just commenting to make comments. If they want to provide your family with unlimited steaks, let them :-) I love watching you and Solo! Never edit yourself. I’m pregnant with baby number 6 I’ve just accepted most people will never understand. It is a bit different since I am not putting out videos on my life. I just want to encourage you both to always be yourself and who the Lord has created you to be. It really is a double whammy because ministry is so tough and your life is on TH-cam so there’s a lot of pressure for you I can imagine! We love and appreciate your great example of a loving Christian family and I pray the Lord continues to bless you in every way. ❤
for my 17 year old boy some things were negotiable and some things there was a clear line in the sand that you did not cross - we are teaching our children to become good adults and being an adult is somethings hard - we have to teach our kids how to cope with life and all it's curve balls - my now 27 year old is now a Dad and great at it and he said to me I can here you (me) and Joycee (my mother) when he talks to his kids
OMGosh, you feed your kids such an Amazing variety, and culturally diverse, of good clean foods. You do an excellent job of feeding your children within your budget despite the times we live in…I’m always blown away!!
My son was born the end of May, and I took him to the pool the when he was 6 weeks. He was never afraid of the water and looked forward to the water. They use to have a show called water babies. Deven is and always has been a water baby, and now his 5 girls are also water babies
Sarah & Solo, I am in that season of life where I’m taking care of and doing a lot of things for my mom. She no longer drives and has many health problems. Your advice to others today spoke to me even though different circumstances. Thank you for taking time to answer viewer questions and advising in a Godly way.
7:34 ,Parents should help limit their children’s consumption of food. Many times kids eat as long as the food tastes good-they don’t understand that it takes a while for the body to register satiety. It is our job to help them learn. Helping children to understand that is education, not deprivation.
I'M 63 AND HAVE BEEN WATCHING YAL FOR A WHILE...DON'T USUALLY COMMENT BUT FAITHFUL WATCHER ....LOVE WATCHING..LOVE LISTENING SOLO TALK...I'M SAY THAT TO SAY THIS...ALWAYS AT LEAST ONE IN EVERY CROUD...YAL JUST BE YOUR SELVES WE LOVE YAL...HAPPY HOLIDAYS 🎉
I have been watching your videos for a while now and I don't know how you have so much energy to do so much, your lives are full of learning, trying new things, travel, and more! Quite awesome! What a great family to be a part of.
I'm a Florida homeschooling mom with 3 kids in college. We, the parents, issue the high school diploma and it carries the exact same weight as a school- issued diploma. You are 100% right that the transcript and SAT/ACT test schools are really the important part. And by important, I mean for admission and scholarships in competitive colleges. For non-competitive colleges, it matters less.
Great news about the house! I love how the testimony of waiting in God and listening to him shines through! Thank you for choosing to deal with the negative so that you can share so many great things with us! ❤❤
I love you guys and you truly are one of the most spiritually uplifting people I know jealousy and envy are horrible don’t pay them any kind keep up the fantastic jobs as parents and TH-camrs!! Your property looks so gorgeous!
Talk talk talk even if you feel he is not hearing you. It’s amazing what they hear without being conscious of it. Also say what you mean and more importantly mean what you see.
@@OurTribeofMany but I want u to know….i am 82 yrs old, still married to my wonderful husband for 62 years, have four grown children who are very successful, and yes…..some days I felt like saying, “Carl, go to your mothers and take the kids with you.” I enjoy your videos so much.
Don’t give negative people your time or energy. We watch your channel regularly, we know your children are loved and cared for. If you know something isn’t true do not feed into it. Continue with the awesome work you are doing.
As weird as this sounds I really struggle with mom guilt over what I think other people think about my parenting, and it was so validating to hear that you have your times with that too because you’re such a wonderful mother and kind person and I have so much admiration for you.
As a mom I deal with it too. We homeschool as well and have gotten so many negative comments from family and friends and it can get into your head after a while. I think it adds to the pressure we as parents already feel to do our best, and the eventuality of mistakes we will make along the way can compound on that pressure. I think this is true especially when you have an alternative approach to parenting. That's why it's so vitally important to have a support network and friends who share your values.
I knew it! The Lord whispered to me, to watch you guys this morning... I would receive your word in a question someone else asked! The question of being overwhelmed with caring for others and their needs...I needed help with that! LOL!! Sometimes, I feel stretched to the limit, and I don't know how to be there for ALL of my loved ones. I don't have any little children, but my husband is losing his vision and I have two older children with physical and mental challenges, that depend on me a lot. Thank you both, Sarah and Solo, for being here...💖💖💞💞 Good luck with the sale of the BIG house! May the good Lord continue to bless you!🙏🙏
I come from such a different background - I am Jewish and in my 40s and have 2 boys - but I love watching your videos very much. You are such an inspiration with your down to earth, balanced, thoughtful advice. You have built a wonderful channel that is all about your family without exploiting your children. Thank you for being a wonderful part of my days.
I love watching your channel! On the topic of your child eating 2 steaks… children need protein.. my 3 grandchildren are meat eaters, my Grandson is 12 he’s 5’12” tall, he’s a good eater and his parents prefer he eat all protein, fresh fruits & vegetables and NO CARBS! I tell my Son to buy 1/2 a cow… everything at the grocery store is so expensive now. My Daughter in Law is a homeschooling parent..she’s has her degree in teaching and decided to home school her children. I’m so proud of parents who can homeschool. I wish I’d had the knowledge when I was young. Keep up the great work! God bless you forever!
Sarah you and Solo are giving great advice. Love your channel and your big family! I wish I would have had you guys to refer to when I was raising my family. God Bless and take care
Such a wonderful answer to the mom struggling with her teen. It can be such a hard time for all! I wish i had done more of that. I was a bit overreactive - my brother had died in a car accident when he was 23 that involved drinking. I was so afraid that something like that would happen to my son that I probably just made demands rather than discussed. The past and fears can certainly cast a shadow over your thinking! I think prayer would have helped! Thanks for your wonderful answer to other moms struggling!
WOW! You having to explain what your kids are eating is really sad! There are boundaries for EVERYTHING in life, including FOOD! I'm really sorry you "needed" to "explain" that! 😢 Sending warm thoughts! ❤😊
Merry Christmas Family!! Spread that wisdom thick!! This world needs it, especially people with children and not a clue how to raise them! Gotta make you wonder sometimes, huh??
It's so funny to me that people would pay attention to such detail about something your kids said in passing. I just love your channel, Sarah and Solo....I look forward to it every time you upload. Thanks for putting yourselves out there and being so accepting and loving toward your viewers! God Bless you.
We are not here to judge anyone's life and decisions. I believe in my heart you guys are doing a great job! Prayer is the answer to any situation! Have a wonderful day!
Anyone who thinks you don’t feed your kids well, obviously doesn’t watch your videos on a regular basis. You are great parents.
They need to watch the Dougherty dozen and then comment!
Love how you all cook and feed all of your family such healthy food. ❤️
Greatest scammers! Thank the lord they dont have to answer to us
Tell me how these 2 bozos afford 2 houses @ 17K in taxes a yr? Shisters should be ashamed of yourselves. Pathetic stop scamming people stealing
@@outbackchick5111so agree. That woman is beyond words
I don't usually comment but I always watch your videos. You are a treasured friend and you encourage me in ways you'll never know. Both of you! I am in my 60's and past this season of life but your family and your deep faith as a couple is an island of peace in this chaotic world. God Bless You
❤️❤️❤️ thank you for that.
I agree!
Same here. Retirement is all exploring what you enjoy and I’m a long time subscriber here.
Let’s all take a minute to pray for the Florida mom with a 17 yr old son who is struggling. Surely with all of us lifting her up He will listen and make a way. 🙏
Oh guys, internet critics!!🙄 people need to just do their own life and stop trying to do yours. I made plenty of mistakes raising my kiddos and thank goodness I wasn’t being critiqued at every turn. Anyone can see that you are a happy and balanced family with love and respect for each other. And all you armchair critics, remember, not every thought you have needs to spoken! Take care Tribe🥰
Agree!
❤️❤️❤️ your comment has encouraged this mama very much even though it wasn’t intended for me. Thank you for sharing.
Amem!!!
Unfortunately, being on youtube opens one up to criticism. I'm thankful not to be on youtube for that and many other reasons.
Well said!!!!!!!!
As my grandmother used to say…In one ear and out the other. Don’t let those negative comments take up any space in your mind. You guys are a beautiful loving family and we appreciate you sharing your life with us. Blessings to all of you! 😘❤️
I so agree with you 💯 percent. I love this family so very much ❤️ 💖 💜
@@shirleyschutt3959 🥰
Your children are obviously well cared for and growing appropriately! Thanks for sharing your family!
People are awful. Please ignore any negative comments. I love watching your family. My son loves watching you guys as well! Happy Birthday!!!
I want to say thank you to both of you for saying how you pray when you and your spouse are not on the same page. My husband and I disagree on some things and I never thought to pray for a change in his heart or mine. So thank you for this. I just recently started going back to church with my 8 year old and I thought I knew everything about praying but I see that it’s not just what you pray for it’s how you pray for it. That was a real eye opener for me, so thank you!!
That's awesome. Thanks so much for sharing!
I am a very confrontational person but the Lord has shown me lately how I have won more battles on my knees in prayer than I have through an argument. I now have a peace of mind that I never had before. If someone irritates me, I just pray in my heart for them and for me, and the atmosphere just begins to change.
I will never understand why people waste their time leaving nasty comments and spreading negativity. Its biazrre ..I am single and I have no children but i love your content Sarah and Solo and I come here for the down to earth common sense approach to life, the warmth of the family and the wholesome content in general. ❤ Love to you all from Qatar
I’m claiming that your house is already sold! The fact that you had more that one party interested is amazing!!! So congratulations 😁👏🏽 🎈🎉🎊 !!! I also liked the fact that in your decision making you took into account that the new family would be a good fit for your old neighborhood! God bless you for that and praise God for answered prayer🙏🏽!!!
Amen!
Rest assured Sarah, your limits are not unreasonable at all! I also love that you try not to focus on the comments ....I love your authentic self!
So refreshing to hear that God is first and his will be done. Sarah stay true to yourself and keep being you.
Love you guys , I don’t usually comment but sweet lady you can tell by just seeing your sweet kids that they are very well fed. I love how you share your lives with us. Can’t wait to see y’all start your new home.
Solo, you are so right. Praise God for the wisdom advice you have given this mom about her son. Beautiful, well said🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
„He leads, we follow“
Yes! 😀
You guys are wise and kind and you seem very authentic. I love how naturally you share your faith, without pushing it too much. I can tell that is is your life and you love to follow such a good God. Some people are just so rude when they write on social media. I love how your mom and Solo protect your heart Sarah.
I am too!
Sarah, I love your channel and one big reason is that you are genuine! It’s clear to see and very rare!
I can definitely relate to the woman with the anger problem. With my wife going through a medical issue right now and me working 2 jobs being the sole breadwinner, I get agitated a lot. What helps me is that when I'm at work and get irritated, I ask myself "Who am I doing this for?" Then I remember that my family depends me and it gets me motivated and stay focused.
I am trusting God that he has sent you a qualified buyer. We listed our home on Nov. 16 ,2023 and received 1 offer at open house on that weekend. They were thrilled, and excited that it was move in ready. We had the closing 2wks later. They move in on Dec. 14th! trust God he is a way maker!🙏🏼🙏🏾
The look of love Solo has on his wonderful face when he looks at you is just the best.❤
My heart goes out to the newly divorced mother of teenagers. You are doing well to help your child through this difficult time. Mine had some real rough patches but now, at 41, is a wonderful family man who loves the Lord. This is a season, it's not the end.
Your children have such a wide varied diet they are very lucky to be able to try all these different cuisines. You are excellent parents xxxx
I admire your parenting skills! You certainly have wonderful children. I am looking forward to watching you build your new home on your dream plot of land! Blessings!🌲
I loved hearing you answer these questions . Parenting young adults is a hard time that a lot of people don’t discuss . They are at such a crossroads in their own life . Will be praying for this mom and her children . As the mom of 21 and 20 year old daughters and then a caboose who is 13 I totally relate .
When Solo said he prays “God change that woman” I laughed SO hard 😂😂😂😂😂😂
We have to help structure our kids healthy habits and eating habits. They don’t have the self awareness for many things, especially food wise. We don’t let our children get too much of one thing until they eat more of other things on their plate. We aren’t depriving our kids by not letting them eat too much of one thing! It’s a balance! We are just helping them find that balance! As parents that is our job!
Children need to know limits even when it comes to food. Some people have to find negative. You guys are doing great.
Oh don’t pay any attention to the negative things. Please be your beautiful self. ❤
I love every member of your family. I truly cannot think of a negative comment. Just love...
You both are doing a great job with your children…don’t ever change ❤
Your children look well taken care of, and well feed plus lots of fruit and vegetables are always out. I think you and Solo do a fabulous job.🙏👍
It’s always very clear that your kids get plenty of good healthy food! I have a relative who’s a child who would eat nothing but rolls if given the chance. Kids don’t always make the best choices without parent supervision. Like Solo said, they have to eat a balanced meal. You’re doing a great job Sarah!
Happy Birthday Sarah!!!!!! God Bless you.
We are currently building our forever home on acreage and my advice is whatever timeline you think it is going to be double it. It is a long slow process building a new custom home. We thought we were going to be in by Thanksgiving this year and now we are shooting for Valentine’s Day.
So Excited & Encouraged for "ALL" of you as you enlarge and expand the blessed territory our Great Father God has given you. I love seeing the beginning of the Homestead with the cows, kittens, chickens, & ducks. Thank you for the many homemade healthy recipes that makes our lives a little easier. May "The Blessing" with much Joy continue to rest upon you as you move forward.
Sarah, GREAT advice on the 17 year old boy!! Relationship helps soooo much! That mother needs strength, because if he son senses that he can overwhelm and dominate things then he will.
She's demanding obedience would love to know her actual attitude with him.
“God, change that woman “ made me LOL! Y’all are wonderful together. Merry Christmas to both of you and the tribe.
Trigger for me. What people also don't realize is when you eat clean you get more satisfied and the kids don't need as much as kids that fill up on junk
Regarding the lady with the anger issues...don’t forget to ask for help or accept the help from others. 🦋💕🙏
you feed your children better than most!! I've loved watching your journey to slowly changing to healthier things... it's been an encouragement to me and I often use you as an example! Sara you are not afraid of making changes and learning new things but you are very smart about how you implement these changes ... slow and steady so there isn't overwhelm! you are doing an amazing job!!! Solo, you are the father every kid needs!
I’d be on edge too if I saw comments about my children or parenting especially when it’s shown they’re very much cared for. Love your family!! Thanks for sharing 💝
When my daughter is in time out or doesn't want to go to bed at night, she literally cries and screams "I'm hungry!!" over and over. I live in an apartment so my neighbors probably think I'm starving my kids. 😅
Happy birthday, Sarah !
You both offer so much wisdom. We are great-grandparents now and raising children is behind us. Today you reminded me of the servant heart and how it affects what I do. Remembering that it not only blesses them, but it blesses God as well. That is precious. Thank you.
Thanks! That is so good!
You two are the best parents. ❤❤❤
When we moved to the country, we had only one showing AND we sold the house! It only takes one.
To the newly single mom of the 17 yr. old son. I too am a single mom of a 21, 19, 17, and 9 yr. old. My kids are doing great and following the Lord. I completely agree with Sarah about focusing on the relationship. Here are some "rules" I have written out when it comes to raising teens:
Make sure they know you love them unconditionally! Make sure they know there is nothing that they could do that would stop you from loving them. Make sure they hear you say, “I love you” every day.
Expect great/honorable things from them. They will rise to it if they know you believe in their capability to reach it.
Be willing to have the argument. Don’t bank down. Don’t leave things unresolved.
As soon as you recognize, you are wrong admit it to them and apologize, regardless of what they do.
Listen more than you speak.
In the midst of an argument, do not get sidetracked. Stay on topic. Don’t let them try to deflect and derail.
Fully, hear them out, even if you don’t like what is being said.
Always be honest with them, but make sure to do it with kindness.
Hold them accountable.
Do not let attitudes go unchecked without calling them out and if need be, consequences.
When they don’t like something you are doing/requiring, make sure you let them know that their best interests and character are your top priorities. You are not making decisions just to make them miserable.
Follow through with the consequences.
Calmly, don’t back down from what you have said is going to happen. However, always be willing to change something if you see that you might be being unreasonable. It is a delicate balance.
Show genuine interest in their interests.
Check yourself and make sure that you are not disciplining or giving consequences out of anger, or trying to get back at them in any way.
Realize that they are going to do/say things that will be hurtful to you. However, you need to choose forgiveness for things that they won’t understand until they are far into adulthood.
When they really mess up in a big way, and they know it. Extend tons and tons of forgiveness and grace.
Be willing to answer any and all questions. There is no topic off-limits.
When answering these make sure to ask questions to find out what they’re truly wanting to know. Don’t just assume and then overshare.
Don’t be surprised if a topic comes up that you never thought about before.
Have fun with them!
@coralloyd5705, your advice/suggestions are amazing! Do you teach parenting? Or are you a counselor? I plan to share this with several people.
@@magentared5822 I am actually currently going through training to become a biblical counselor. I wrote these a long time before making that decision, though. I am so glad you find them helpful and want to share them! It has been through a lot of prayer and tears that the Lord has taught me these things. I feel extremely blessed that my children are doing so well despite the odds, and I attribute it all to the Lord's faithfulness!
You both are amazing. Thank you for your presence in my life. So much enjoyment.
I love you guys so much and you feel like lifelong friends! Your entire family feels like that to me. Nana and papa, the kids, the animals! Thanks for sharing your sweet life with my family! Blessings to you all! Praise God for His help in selling your home!
How could anyone be negative about your family. You are wonderful.
My gosh. I cant believe people pick at such silly things. You are brilliant!!!
16:56 say what you mean and mean what you say. I loved Sarah and Solo response to this question! Bonding and boundaries ❤❤❤
I literally guffawed when you said someone didn’t think you feed your kids enough. 🤦🏼♀️
You are literally my favorite channel on TH-cam and really any show out there. You have truly helped and inspired me in my growth as a Godly wife and Mother. So grateful for you all.
Thanks for your comment!
You both are amazing! Thank you for sharing your journey it is so inspiring!
Your family is amazing. I don't know how you have time to do all you do including all the extras. Even with all the chaos of having many kids they are all so lovely and well behaved. A nice thing to see in today's world. ❤
Homeschooling mom of nine here...I think “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure”. My kids aren’t perfect by any means, but when a parent chooses to disciple and have their kid’s whole heart from a very young age, keeping them CLOSE, there aren’t as many band aids to put on in the teenage years. My husband and I are loving the teenage years with four of them. Good advice though Solo and Sarah for those who have not had the privilege of discipleship from the beginning. May God bless this ministry! (I can’t believe you had to explain about the steaks! Hats wild. My kids aren’t allowed two steaks in a sitting.😂) merry Christmas!!!
Thank you for having hard conversations. Communication is difficult. Thank you for sharing what a godly family looks like. Continue to be light in darkness. ❤
I just love you guys!!! I struggle daily with a negative narcissist for a husband, it's exhausting so watching y'all makes me happy
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I love that you brought this up. When I watched that video I knew someone was gona think that…… They honestly don’t follow y’all or haven’t for long. Your children are healthy and loved and anyone that has followed along can see that!!🥰🥰🥰🥰 Love you guys!!!
Hi!! I watch you weekly. Don’t worry about the negative comments. I’ve learned that some people would be negative no matter what. It could be jealousy or mental instability. I am happy for you and your family.
I told my daughter the other day… I was like I got a great recipe my friend posted on TH-cam. My daughter laughed at me. I think you are so encouraging and friendly that you feel like a friend. I think you have a lot of friends that you are a testimony and witness to. God has given you a platform to almost be a missionary right where you are showing his love. Thank you for that.
I don’t think those people are confused, that’s so sweet Sarah. They are just looking to be negative or they are ignorant. Not confused lol. I would guess they are not made of money and are just commenting to make comments. If they want to provide your family with unlimited steaks, let them :-) I love watching you and Solo! Never edit yourself. I’m pregnant with baby number 6 I’ve just accepted most people will never understand. It is a bit different since I am not putting out videos on my life. I just want to encourage you both to always be yourself and who the Lord has created you to be. It really is a double whammy because ministry is so tough and your life is on TH-cam so there’s a lot of pressure for you I can imagine! We love and appreciate your great example of a loving Christian family and I pray the Lord continues to bless you in every way. ❤
@Blessedfamilymama, I love your comment, and pray blessings over you, baby # 6, and your entire family. Children are a blessing! 🙏❤
for my 17 year old boy some things were negotiable and some things there was a clear line in the sand that you did not cross - we are teaching our children to become good adults and being an adult is somethings hard - we have to teach our kids how to cope with life and all it's curve balls - my now 27 year old is now a Dad and great at it and he said to me I can here you (me) and Joycee (my mother) when he talks to his kids
OMGosh, you feed your kids such an Amazing variety, and culturally diverse, of good clean foods. You do an excellent job of feeding your children within your budget despite the times we live in…I’m always blown away!!
Brilliant news about the house xx
5:42 it is SO sweet that Solo and your mom look through comments first! That is love!
My son was born the end of May, and I took him to the pool the when he was 6 weeks. He was never afraid of the water and looked forward to the water. They use to have a show called water babies. Deven is and always has been a water baby, and now his 5 girls are also water babies
Sarah & Solo, I am in that season of life where I’m taking care of and doing a lot of things for my mom. She no longer drives and has many health problems. Your advice to others today spoke to me even though different circumstances. Thank you for taking time to answer viewer questions and advising in a Godly way.
7:34 ,Parents should help limit their children’s consumption of food. Many times kids eat as long as the food tastes good-they don’t understand that it takes a while for the body to register satiety. It is our job to help them learn.
Helping children to understand that is education, not deprivation.
We as Christian’s hold a lot what people say but some time we gotta let go and let it out ! Your family are Blessed & Loved
you guys are great,,, you do you and do not worry what people say....God Bless Your Family
I love you both. Thank you for always keeping it real!
I'M 63 AND HAVE BEEN WATCHING YAL FOR A WHILE...DON'T USUALLY COMMENT BUT FAITHFUL WATCHER ....LOVE WATCHING..LOVE LISTENING SOLO TALK...I'M SAY THAT TO SAY THIS...ALWAYS AT LEAST ONE IN EVERY CROUD...YAL JUST BE YOUR SELVES WE LOVE YAL...HAPPY HOLIDAYS 🎉
I have been watching your videos for a while now and I don't know how you have so much energy to do so much, your lives are full of learning, trying new things, travel, and more! Quite awesome! What a great family to be a part of.
I personally think it's none of those people business. Your doing a great job. God Bless
I'm a Florida homeschooling mom with 3 kids in college. We, the parents, issue the high school diploma and it carries the exact same weight as a school- issued diploma. You are 100% right that the transcript and SAT/ACT test schools are really the important part. And by important, I mean for admission and scholarships in competitive colleges. For non-competitive colleges, it matters less.
Great news about the house! I love how the testimony of waiting in God and listening to him shines through! Thank you for choosing to deal with the negative so that you can share so many great things with us! ❤❤
I love you guys and you truly are one of the most spiritually uplifting people I know jealousy and envy are horrible don’t pay them any kind keep up the fantastic jobs as parents and TH-camrs!! Your property looks so gorgeous!
Talk talk talk even if you feel he is not hearing you. It’s amazing what they hear without being conscious of it. Also say what you mean and more importantly mean what you see.
My mother used to say, “Carl, go to your mothers and take the kids with you!” When she was at her wits end.
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@@OurTribeofMany but I want u to know….i am 82 yrs old, still married to my wonderful husband for 62 years, have four grown children who are very successful, and yes…..some days I felt like saying, “Carl, go to your mothers and take the kids with you.”
I enjoy your videos so much.
Don’t give negative people your time or energy. We watch your channel regularly, we know your children are loved and cared for. If you know something isn’t true do not feed into it. Continue with the awesome work you are doing.
Pray for husband or wife, that’s my opinion.
Definitely worked for me and my husband !
Praise God!
It’s an honor and a privledge to watch you raise your family following the Lord Jesus Christ. So proud to be one of your followers.
As weird as this sounds I really struggle with mom guilt over what I think other people think about my parenting, and it was so validating to hear that you have your times with that too because you’re such a wonderful mother and kind person and I have so much admiration for you.
I do think a lot of moms deal with it. You and I are in good company 🤣
Thank you and Solo for all of your wonderful advice. It is so incredibly appreciated.
As a mom I deal with it too. We homeschool as well and have gotten so many negative comments from family and friends and it can get into your head after a while. I think it adds to the pressure we as parents already feel to do our best, and the eventuality of mistakes we will make along the way can compound on that pressure. I think this is true especially when you have an alternative approach to parenting. That's why it's so vitally important to have a support network and friends who share your values.
Happy Birthday Sarah!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
OMGoodness!! Your children are fed Very well! One steak per child is normal!! Your family is adorable! I love your parenting style!! 💗💗
I knew it! The Lord whispered to me, to watch you guys this morning... I would receive your word in a question someone else asked!
The question of being overwhelmed with caring for others and their needs...I needed help with that! LOL!!
Sometimes, I feel stretched to the limit, and I don't know how to be there for ALL of my loved ones.
I don't have any little children, but my husband is losing his vision and I have two older children with physical and mental challenges, that depend on me a lot.
Thank you both, Sarah and Solo, for being here...💖💖💞💞
Good luck with the sale of the BIG house!
May the good Lord continue to bless you!🙏🙏
I come from such a different background - I am Jewish and in my 40s and have 2 boys - but I love watching your videos very much. You are such an inspiration with your down to earth, balanced, thoughtful advice. You have built a wonderful channel that is all about your family without exploiting your children. Thank you for being a wonderful part of my days.
Thanks!
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Solo…. ‘God change that woman’! Hahaha you cracked me up. 😂😂 love the sense of humour.
The way you guys look at each other is priceless ❤. Happy holidays to you and your beautiful family
I love watching your channel! On the topic of your child eating 2 steaks… children need protein.. my 3 grandchildren are meat eaters, my Grandson is 12 he’s 5’12” tall, he’s a good eater and his parents prefer he eat all protein, fresh fruits & vegetables and NO CARBS! I tell my Son to buy 1/2 a cow… everything at the grocery store is so expensive now. My Daughter in Law is a homeschooling parent..she’s has her degree in teaching and decided to home school her children. I’m so proud of parents who can homeschool. I wish I’d had the knowledge when I was young. Keep up the great work! God bless you forever!
LOL "... need to travel the world a little more..." This had me laughing!! You are both a lovely couple with a heart full of joy and love.
Sarah you and Solo are giving great advice. Love your channel and your big family! I wish I would have had you guys to refer to when I was raising my family. God Bless and take care
Such a wonderful answer to the mom struggling with her teen. It can be such a hard time for all! I wish i had done more of that. I was a bit overreactive - my brother had died in a car accident when he was 23 that involved drinking. I was so afraid that something like that would happen to my son that I probably just made demands rather than discussed. The past and fears can certainly cast a shadow over your thinking! I think prayer would have helped! Thanks for your wonderful answer to other moms struggling!
My boy is homeschooled and he’s had his acceptance for college in sept 24 already
WOW! You having to explain what your kids are eating is really sad! There are boundaries for EVERYTHING in life, including FOOD! I'm really sorry you "needed" to "explain" that! 😢 Sending warm thoughts! ❤😊
QUESTION: Homes too close to the water could get water damages! Beautiful property and beautiful family!!!!!!
There are ways to build it to where water damage won't exist.
I am sure they will get the right people who are professional about lake houses.
That’s not a question…
People can be and are awful..so sorry they direct that behavior towards you and your family. Happy Holidays..and much love to you all.❤
“God, change that woman!” 🤣😂🤣😂🤣. I almost fell out of my chair! Love that humor!
Merry Christmas Family!! Spread that wisdom thick!! This world needs it, especially people with children and not a clue how to raise them! Gotta make you wonder sometimes, huh??
I love your channel and your family. Blessings ❤
It's so funny to me that people would pay attention to such detail about something your kids said in passing. I just love your channel, Sarah and Solo....I look forward to it every time you upload. Thanks for putting yourselves out there and being so accepting and loving toward your viewers! God Bless you.
We are not here to judge anyone's life and decisions. I believe in my heart you guys are doing a great job! Prayer is the answer to any situation! Have a wonderful day!