My boyfriend is Chinese, I met him when I went on a study trip around different cities in China and he accompanied us. He was not shy, he spoke to us all confidently even though he was not fluent. Despite me being the same height and possibly a little taller than him, it did not falter his interest in me nor his confidence. He is humble and modest though, he may have grown up as an only child but he is not spoilt at all. He is traditional, he likes shy, innocent girls and he found those qualities in me, he would not invade my personal space, he is really respectful and it was even difficult to get a hug out of him! However, we often linked arms when we walked together. Like most Chinese men, he treats his girlfriend like a princess, I did not expect this but he was such a gentlemen I couldn't resist his kindness. He cares most about my health, I never hear the end of how warm water cures all haha He encourages me to sleep and rise early, nap often (common Chinese habits that are principles to maintaining health). He is a university student, he does work very hard and studies well but he also knows how to balance this with his social life and when to have fun with friends. He is a family man, it's so important to him, in the summer he will visit his grandparents every weekend and help them whenever they ask but he is like this to anyone. His parents are really accepting of me, I have never met them but he told them about me even before we were officially a couple lol His mum has recently bought an apartment that she said I may use if I ever visit which I think is incredibly kind (bfs and gfs don't stay together before marriage normally, he lives with his parents). Being incredibly close to a Chinese man, I just wanted to share his personality and qualities so you can see how, for the most part, he is not very stereotypical at all :)
Chinese guys rarely approach white girls because we are all sons of multi millionaires and billionaires. Many white girls are working minimum wage jobs to pay off their student loans. Some of us believe that if we were to pick up a white girl, she will rip off the bloke surreptitiously and discreetly.
Yep. It's the epitome of selfishness and hypocrisy. Excuse me, but why is it any business of the parents who their son marries? It's *his* wife and his lover, right? So shouldn't it be what he wants? But they wouldn't mind if their daughter brought home a white guy? For a collectivist culture, it sure produces a lot of selfish and callous people. Not a good system.
A Thought Crime Old habits take a long while to die. Traditional Chinese culture dictates that the man is the breadwinner of the house and head of the family. In the last 200 years, White men have been seen as powerful entities worthy of Chinese respect because of the military might they brought to the last, crumbling Chinese Dynasty in the 19th and early 20th centuries. As such, Chinese families generally believe that if a Chinese girl marries a White man, she will be well taken care of. By contrast, White women were rarely seen and were assumed to be submissive to White men, so Chinese families have no afforded them the same amount of respect. This means they doubt the ability of White women to fill the “wife” role traditionally expected in Chinese culture and strongly discourage Chinese men from marrying White women. Mao tried to dismantle this pre-industrial culture multiple times, but he was never completely successful by force. In recent years due to globalisation and improving lifestyles, these traditions are being slowly eroded away. In the major cities along the Chinese coastline you’ll find that a lot of these ancient sentiments have cooled to the point of a irrelevance, and the notion of Chinese men marrying White women is more acceptable. The poorer interior of China is not as progressive.
Avalanche Good, but not good enough, and it may be too late for me. It's not just that traditional Chinese don't see white women as wife material for their son, but rather it's really more about preserving the culture and bloodline and so they can get a free servant. They, and especially Asian women, feel very threatened by white women. My mom tries to dissuade me from liking white girls and tells me they're too precocious (so?), too sexual (so?), too high maintenance (I'll take my chances), too big (not to me), and even said I can't 'satisfy' a white girl (I kid you not). No. I will always like white girls more, to the day I die. Something has to change, I can't stand these people and I can't stand this culture. Being a provider isn't attractive to women either, they don't want that until they're older and ready to settle down, and even then they still may not have respect for these kind of men so masculinity in the east is very different than in the west.
I'm an Asian guy whose girlfriend is a westerner, and I find myself more attracted to white girls. So I agree with you that this does depend on each individual's preference, though I'm often viewed as a "non-typical Asian" to the eyes of my Asian fellas... From my point of view, western females not being considered very feminine by Chinese men actually hints a pretty sad phenomenon of lacking confidence when it comes to handling westerners. This might come from the body size, or poor English, etc. Plus the generally more reserved social patterns, it would be quite challenging to find a Chinese guy with enough courage to go after western girl. And I believe this also turns off a lot of western girls because, based on my personal experience, I find that western girls actually look for more masculinity in a man than do Asian girls. By the way, you look stunning in that red Chinese traditional dress. And yes, you look very feminine in it.
Yeah, and white women are the symbol of femininity. They're nicer, and more caring, and more ladylike except for a handful of shrews. And white women actually look like women, many Asian women barely have any curves.
My boyfriend is from Guangzhou he isn’t very traditional or shy. My boys mum comes to me for advice haha. My boyfriend’s English is very good/clear and he speaks both mandarin and Cantonese:) 4 years later we have a house and live in AUS he is very affectionate and publicly too. My boyfriend is very much like me we do everything together. He doesn’t have any of the stereotypes that people assume.
I'm Canadian but lately I notice there are more AMWF couples around and they tend to be happier by the expression on their face. I think things are changing!
I'm a chinese guy and i have dated western girls; definitely agree with the shy comment as it took me a while/a few liquid courage to go and ask girls out for starbucks. I think the first step is always the hardest, and then things kind of work out after....... agree with the "chinese guy likes to eat (maybe at better place, maybe)" as most of us are foodies and do spend extra effort to try different food even by ourselves and have no problem sharing... guess that worked out fine lol
(From Australia) I definitely do, but found that the western women in my country just play games and don't commit in general. So have found it ridiculously difficult to start a relationship with a western woman. Mind you, Asian women aren't much 'better' in that respect.
I am Asian/Chinese and I was born in Canada.I still live in Canada and my family is from China. I love the multiculturalism here and I have to say, I am glad that interracial dating between asian guys and western girls is occurring. I just hope one day I can meet a western girl willing to date me and perhaps even leading to a happy marriage. However, I am shy from the beginning, though once you get to know me, I am confident. I really like western girls and every time I had met a girl, told her I like her etc, she rejects me and says "Lets just be friends" Then she finds some other guy and dates him instead. There is a reason for Asian guys to be shy like that, most probably do not feel accepted that much, especially by western girls when it comes to dating. Some asian stereotypes are also false like penis size for instance, the media has lied about it because every Asian guy is different and it isnt only about physical appearances, its also about personality etc. I have had at least one girlfriend and she was western. Things did not work out between me and her not because of our ethnicity difference but because she and her brother pulled off a stupid prank plus did other stuff like talking to her ex boyfriends that hurt my heart alot. She also wanted to date them while dating me so you see she was not into the monogamous kind of relationship, instead she was the type that had multiple boyfriends. I found that to be too odd and well I had to leave her in order to find a better Caucasian girl who is monogamous. Come to think of it though, how I won her heart was through confidence and just being there for her. I have just been hoping to meet the right girl who happens to be Caucasian and gorgeous overall. One more thing to add, that stereotype about "Not alot of Chinese guys can speak proper english." is a lie, I speak good fluent English and yet I am Chinese, born in Canada, so I am a Canadian Chinese guy,
everyone's different. there's no way to generalize the Chinese men type. but it's interesting to hear Lena's perspective. thanks for sharing this Lena.
I disagree with most of the stereotypes mentioned in this article. First of all, there are Chinese men from China, Chinese men from Taiwan, Chinese men from Hong Kong, Chinese men from Malaysia, Chinese men from Singapore, Chinese men from Indonesia and Chinese men from America, etc. Every continent has got Chinese men and their upbringing and social backgrounds are different. Secondly, the article is just generalisation and assumptions of Chinese men. Chinese is a huge majority. Among the majority, there are many ethic groups. And among the ethic groups, they are divided further into subgroups of minority. Chinese in Northern China are from a different subgroup than those in the South. Chinese in Singapore (although many have ancestors from Southern China) are different from their cousins in China. Among Singaporean Chinese, there are differences again. Most Singaporean Chinese men speak and write fluent English. Not shy about our feelings. Communicate well and feel comfortable among Caucasians. And socially outgoing. I can't speak on behalf of Chinese men from other countries but I can definitely speak on behalf of mine since I am born and bred in Singapore. Last but not least, not every Chinese man is a Bruce Lee, Jet Li or Jacky Chan. And mind you... Most of us know nuts about kungfu.
I do think Chinese guys come across as shy. But sometimes they are just reserved and respectful. I haven't met any that are spoilt but many I don't know enough Chinese guys that well. If by tradition they mean more likely to settle down and have a family then yes but that doesn't mean they're all close minded.
Running around with few different gals is to satisfy your own ego and having a bragging rights to your friends that you are a ladies' man. However, personally, I never liked to have more than 1 girlfriend (at a time). I had experience of 'dating' a girl for more than a year though at that time I took it as having a friend of the opposite sex and a companion. However, I discovered that she took me much more seriously as a lifelong companion. I had to back out and told her that I'd be going to the university and wouldn't know what would happen after 4 years and that we should leave it as that. I don't know whether I broke her heart or not, but she was silent as I walked her home. She went overseas for her degree course and still wrote me many love letters but I ignored them. I wasn't ready for any full-time commitment at that age. After graduation, I met another and we struck off quite well. While attending my friend's photo session in his graduation gown, he brought along a female friend (an ex classmate). This woman somehow was quite attracted to me and often asked me out after that. I went out a few times with her, but subsequently, I avoided her at all cost since I already had a girlfriend. I spent 6 months in Taiwan and got to know a Taiwanese very well. Both of us were quite close and she really looked like the actress Brigitte Lin. She told me that and that talent scouts looked her up when she was in college and entice her to become an actress. She told me that the lifespan of an actress is short and she didn't consider it. In a dilemma between the 2, as painful as it was for me (because I really love the one in Taiwan very much), I decided that I should stick with the first one and cut all ties with my Taiwan friend.
Me and my friends never really struggled to find a '' date'' in China or a short-term boyfriend (if I may say). Actually it's easier when you're doing the first move (like guys used to like when I was coming up to them on the streets asking for their wechats and were more confident after that). However as a foreigner, what's difficult is getting in a serious and committed relationship. The '' trophy foreign girl '' is real and although all men in China are not like that (thanks goodness), traditions or just pride itself make it harder to find someone who will go beyond your foreign looks. But it's not impossible and even in the west, it's hard to find someone who'll like you for who you are. If they don't show any interest at all, even if you're the one flirting first, maybe they're just not into you or you're maybe not their ideal type 🤷♀️
I wouldn’t say that Chinese guys rarely date/marry western women. I’ve seen many Chinese men that are dating or married to western women. Well most of these Chinese guys are actually American born citizens
Yes my teachers and textbooks taught me how to read and write, we even can finish university or work in all English environments, BUT, none teachers and textbooks or any family members friends taught us how to flirt in English. That’s the reason.
We are all individuals. There is a huge tendency to grossly generalise when it comes to the Chinese...and that goes both ways (i.e. Chinese people generalise way too much!)
I worked in casino security jobs for a while, in my view Chinese males are definitely the most spoilt and entitled group I ever had to throw down a flight of stairs. But that might have something to do with them mostly coming from wealthy families. They were closely followed by millennials of all western nations.
Yeah, but then I had to deal with a lot of other people from wealthy families as well who would go out of their way not to attract attention. Even the middle class Chinese could not understand I am not going to give them special treatment for spending a few hundred dollars or even a few thousand dollars. A common line was "China could squash your little country". To which the reply was always "that might be true but China is not going to do a thing about me throwing you out". Almost every public assault of a guy bashing his partner was Chinese men. The worst one I saw was a Chinese guy picked up a steel pedestal and crushed his partners face with the base of it, she needed reconstructive surgery. Then could not understand why we were intervening as he cried like a baby being being dragged out.Making sure his head hit every marble step on the way down. A lot of people expect this sort of behavior from Arabs, but generally I enjoyed dealing with Arabs. One situation I had to deal with were a group of middle class Chinese going berserk at not being allowed in a VIP room and abusing the security guard for not taking their bribes, which were pathetically small. Chinese spending money (especially in a group) are really badly behaved. These were not isolated instances, this was the type of crap that had to be dealt with on a nightly basis with the Chinese. I really like living in China and generally like Chinese people, but their sense of entitlement and little emperor behavior (especially when in groups) gives them a really bad name.
The abominable Dr Jones you work in a casino where people go there to spent money what do you expect. That the problems with white society if a Chinese person only buy what he/she needs you call them cheap but if they start buying things they don’t need ,you call them spoilt. Hardly anyone said that to any other races but the Chinese or east Asian. It’s like you don’t even consider us human. Do we need to start causing trouble and riot to you only than when we be consider human
I dated white girlfriends before but I think stereotypes are partially true and partially wrong. There are insanely anti social white dudes in my school as well, but there are super hyped asian dudes. I assume White women tend to think who they can date and they can't. Even in Europe and some part of U.S, females oftentimes say "Asians are not my thing" so you know, this is not about Chinese guys are not outgoing or do not approach girls. It is about white girls defending themselves in many circumstances. If you think you like Asian guys, why don't YOU reach out to them? You know what I am sayin
Hi my Japanese friend I totally agree with ya. The white women hold the stereotype with Asian(especially CN JP KR)and unless we reach out actively, they wont come to us
@@circlelee4026 I am a white woman living in HK and I was living in Japan before. I don't go to men (both Asian or westerns) just because it is not my culture, not because I am not interested. I was used to men in my country approaching me, not me approaching them... So you guys, definitely should try to talk and ask out a girl if you like her and try to be a bit clearer about your intentions. It is really hard (at least for me) to tell if a local guy is interested in me as just a friend or something more and most of the time I feel confused.
Lingling Thank You for bringing this to our attention ☺️ Yes everyone everywhere will have different personalities. I feel that stereotypes are wrong. I look at each person individually and do not judge others by their action or personality. There are know going to be some that clash with other personalities but they are not wrong just may not be suitable for friendships. 🙂 Keep up the superb work that you are doing Lingling 👍 Till next time Zaijian 🤗
When I was younger, I wanted to marry outside my race. When I got older, I wanted to marry Chinese, because we share the common language. Now, I hate thinking of marrying Chinese women, because they are gold diggers. Most are ugly, yet they demand men to provide housing, have higher salary, are taller than them, handsome, etc. Their demand is too high. I need to look elsewhere. Although Chinese women is my first choice, but I cannot meet their demand, so I might end up marrying Vietnamese or a foreigner who can speak Chinese.
He doesn't know any woman. Most women are not like that. First, you have to be likeable. Looks isn't that important at all (for most women), if they find you likeable and easy to get along with. When you are easy to get along with, show more interest in them by being attentive, half the battle is won. When she finds you as someone reliable (as in being a reliable partner), you are almost there. My wife met me when I was dirt poor. She was 18. I had nothing but she clung to me (I know it) like I was the one and only for her. Shortly, we went to apply for a HDB flat (government built apartment) that cost only $72,000. That was a long way from what we live in now - a $7 million home with swimming pool. She didn't ask for anything but she got a life of wealth because I went into business after that and I struck gold.
lena - please help me out. there is a video on youtube, of you having lunch with two western guys, and all three of you were talking about life in china. can you direct me to that video? or maybe give me the name of those two guys, and i can search for it myself. thanks
You have a good idea. People should throw stereotypes away. Personally, if i don't like someone. I don't need to rely on stereotypes to support my opinion...the person is a jerk. That's all I need to know.
Hi! I've been seeing some of your videos and I think you're not looking into the right place... The best fit for your personality, ideas, plans, etc, would probably be someone from Singapore (and yes, there are chinese men in Singapore too). They still retain most of their chinese culture, but are definitely more westernized (in general). Hong Kong and Taiwan would probably be a good bet too, so start looking around :) That being said, most of those men would probably not want to go into mainland China... so seriously, it's not going to be easy to find your soulmate like that. Perhaps if you found another youtuber chinese guy, that would make things easier. I enjoy your videos and find you're really "adorable" as a person, but your bubbly personality doesn't quite fit the typical average chinese guy preferences. Myself, I am married to a Japanese lady for 8 years, and even though most of her life was spent in the westernized Singapore, went to international school, etc, etc... you're in for a massive cultural difference shock. It basically comes down to small daily life things, as well as different opinion on "how things should be done"... because the principles, the culture, and basically the difference on the importance that people give to things, that matters. I wish you all the best of luck, so please keep posting.
I've noticed as an asian guy I only find interest with girls that have the innocent look(facially), or very plain look for lack of a better term. If they dress flashy/revealing (unless in a night club) that is a sign they have an ego/low class , which is a common faux pas among asian culture. I would think for the girls dressing classy, act respectable and being able to say anything thoughtful would make asian men interested. If you come off as brash, trashy or low ambition that is a red flag asian guys look for. In other words don't come off as an danger to yourself..
David Lim, This will sound like a weird question and request but will you look at my profile picture on my facebook and tell me if I have an innocent look? I'm not trying anything I just want to know your opinion. Look up Leslie Haworth on facebook, I'm the white girl with glasses. Please give me your honest opinion, don't worry if it sounds mean, just be honest.
Stereotypes are usually based on truth, but I don't think the person who wrote this article has ever lived in China for an extended length of time. Just the usual nonsense they wrote in 30 minutes.
So is it a yes or no? Cause some white Girls are really Attracted to Asian guys, take the one I know for example. Even though we're on and off all the time, but not thinking about Asian guys is something she can't do.
I don't know how it works in Mainland China, but here in Taiwan where I live the Taiwanese men are mamma's boy and not independent. I have western female friends here who won't date Chinese / Taiwanese men for the reasons I just mentioned above. Taiwan & China is still very conservative which can make it very difficult in a relationship.
Taiwan is the old regime called republic of China. Many old tradition remains there. Because of the Soviet, Chinese culture in the mainland was moving forward since 60's and 70's. Even though, culture revolution was destructive. I think guys from the mainland are open.
Stereotypes are an ignorant person's excuse of not learning more about a group by claiming that they know it all already. Nothing beats the personal experience that you are having 👍
Yes I believe so, most East Asian guy not really in to white female! Simply because culture and beauty standard. But I also think people should stay with their own race!
I don't know how to engage conversation with a white gal, simple as that.. Hell, I don't even know how to engage a conversation with a Chinese girl, damn.
Lenaaround I am kidding lena. Please find a Chinese and have a beautiful mixed baby, you would be surprised how stand-out your kid can be. Just do it !
Chinese girls and boys are not independent. way superficial about lifestyle. I have experience of living with them and most of the article she was reading is true.
Chinese are human too so why are you stereotyping. How is it fair judge a whole group by one person. We all have our own personality. Sometime we act a certain way to connect with our family and friends but that is not who we are as a person.
Lenaaround I have watched many of your videos and how is it fair to judge one person to all. You talk as Chinese no matter form what upbringing act the same. I wouldn’t expect you to understand what it’s like to be a Chinese considering you are not. You may like learning about the culture and history but that does not make you one. You Caucasian have to most freedom to travel to many part of the world and wouldn’t be judge or discriminated too much. As an Chinese the only places I can travel to without being judge like I’m inhuman object is Asia.
i enjoy watching ur video a lot, i as a chinese even think some of those stereotypes are true, but thanks a lot for leaving evenhanded comments! best wishes!
想想还是用中文回复吧，更能表达清楚意思 数字对应观点 1 确实中国男生比较内向，但是基本上都是刚开始放不开，一回生二回熟。尤其遇见女生 （lol），中国绝大部分地区素质教育就男生与女生如何融洽相处这块基本上没咋教，所以脑子基本上一片空白，只能实践出真知。何况直接和一个金发碧眼的漂亮外国姑娘讲英文。 2 曾经施行的计划生育政策导致现在有许多独生子女，（这几年已经开放二胎政策了）但是不是说是个独生子女就会被宠坏，与家庭教育息息相关。大部分人相处起来还是很友好的。就房子这块，家里有钱的话父母就会帮儿女安置房子，这点没啥说的，搁哪个国家都一样。 3 主要是个子问题，与种族无关。一个矮个子中国男生见到一个高个子中国男生一样会有些感到自卑。这个主要还是看个人教育，家庭背景，有些中国男生就像视频里说的 dont give a f，但是大部分男生还是比较敏感身高话题的。 4 还是素质教育问题，和第一点有些像，还是新司机刚上路，练练就轻车熟路了。 5 英语吧，生活中基本上使不到，除非像大学里的高材生或者公司里经常跑国际业务的职员，大部分人基本上只会很少的一些英语。要找个能和你天天英语流畅唠嗑的很难。想像自己国内那样再天天用英语flirt个几句基本上不可能。 6 中国传统文化就是勤俭持家，老一辈人吃苦耐劳习惯了，基本上有钱存起来，所谓未雨绸缪，以防不时之需。你看到的是花钱比较大手大脚的可能要不是就是家里真的有钱，要不是就是90后 00后追赶潮流。每个人都是等自己挣钱了才知道钱是多么来之不易（sad）。来中国的老外确实很节俭，基本上都很会搞价（bargain）。 7 哪个国家都一样吧，不努力工作咋养活老婆孩子。关于享受生活这块，只是东西方方式不同，主要看个人兴趣。中国人放松的方式就是打个麻将阿，一起吹几瓶啤酒阿，打个台球之类的。 8 东西方文化差异造成的误解。西方社交就是party till we die ，中国人社交都是比较温和的，约个饭局阿，ktv唱个歌阿。 Hope these would help:)
From my experience sadly but chinese men are much like stereotypes, i live in south, and really want to have a boyfriend but it just doesn't work with them, we are from different planets and my Chinese is very bad too so it makes things difficult, because almost nobody who tried to approach me knew proper english. I didn't meet the mister right yet, hope he exists. Literally everyone who i knew were just working then going home to sleep, no life! Work is their life. I also work but i can always find time for my bf, sadly usually they are not ready to do the same. If you don't want serious relationship it may be easier.
man: Can we talk? woman: ehmmm, yes? man: you are great woman, I really enjoy staying with you, but.... woman: but what?! man: we want different things...you deserve more... woman: why you say this? why? man:........ woman: (crying) you don`t love me at all, you just want to improve your English! lol...
From many women I have talked with... Asian males simply dont provide western women a sense of masculinity.... strength, protection, feeling safe. Also personality... individualism isnt really a chinese strength. (mommas-boys) strong, humour, confidence is key for ANY women, and asian men tend not to possess these traits.
what an ignorant comment. She just broke down the sterotypes in her video and you are at it again. If you live in Asia, you will see so many strong, humourous and "great personality" Asian guys everyday
The funny thing about stereotypes is for the most part they are true. This is why they persist. Hahahaha, she confirmed the stereotypes are correct. Then she says it’s all bullshit. Priceless.
I am a northeast Chinese guy,I have to say us northeast Chinese guy do marry western Women far more than the rest of other Chinese guys...But since I travels to the west So many times, I have to say I can not accept a Western lady to become my wife~~ Because a western lady has to shave all over her body everyday or she becomes a more hairy person than a Asian man. If get married,10 yrs later,She gonna looks like my mom....And she has to have perfume everyday to cover her smell... Sorry~~~~~
will leon you asian men sound really feminine. if you want your woman to be like that you must act like a girl too. just letting you know that you look like a little bitch to us lmao that's why we're not interested in you either
@@xhobi8419 Well,Miss I gotta say that Less hairy,cleaner body,slowly getting old≠≠≠≠Feminie or non-tough。That is sterotype， too。do not lie to your self，many people with heavy body smell，older looking or hair body could be feminie as well。。。All I wanna do is let the west world feel what eastern asian guys feel when you keep blaming us and sterotype us ，everyday
My boyfriend is Chinese, I met him when I went on a study trip around different cities in China and he accompanied us. He was not shy, he spoke to us all confidently even though he was not fluent. Despite me being the same height and possibly a little taller than him, it did not falter his interest in me nor his confidence. He is humble and modest though, he may have grown up as an only child but he is not spoilt at all. He is traditional, he likes shy, innocent girls and he found those qualities in me, he would not invade my personal space, he is really respectful and it was even difficult to get a hug out of him! However, we often linked arms when we walked together. Like most Chinese men, he treats his girlfriend like a princess, I did not expect this but he was such a gentlemen I couldn't resist his kindness. He cares most about my health, I never hear the end of how warm water cures all haha He encourages me to sleep and rise early, nap often (common Chinese habits that are principles to maintaining health). He is a university student, he does work very hard and studies well but he also knows how to balance this with his social life and when to have fun with friends. He is a family man, it's so important to him, in the summer he will visit his grandparents every weekend and help them whenever they ask but he is like this to anyone. His parents are really accepting of me, I have never met them but he told them about me even before we were officially a couple lol His mum has recently bought an apartment that she said I may use if I ever visit which I think is incredibly kind (bfs and gfs don't stay together before marriage normally, he lives with his parents). Being incredibly close to a Chinese man, I just wanted to share his personality and qualities so you can see how, for the most part, he is not very stereotypical at all :)
SohlNev as a chinese, my english is poor, but i spent 10 min to read your "article" , haha!
Thank you! you're so kind, best wishes :)
Well, thank you so much haha
your profile picture looks creepy.
Chinese guys rarely approach white girls because we are all sons of multi millionaires and billionaires. Many white girls are working minimum wage jobs to pay off their student loans. Some of us believe that if we were to pick up a white girl, she will rip off the bloke surreptitiously and discreetly.
I think the main reason is family.
Chinese guys are under a lot of pressure from family to marry a chinese girl.
Yep. It's the epitome of selfishness and hypocrisy. Excuse me, but why is it any business of the parents who their son marries? It's *his* wife and his lover, right? So shouldn't it be what he wants? But they wouldn't mind if their daughter brought home a white guy? For a collectivist culture, it sure produces a lot of selfish and callous people. Not a good system.
A Thought Crime
Old habits take a long while to die. Traditional Chinese culture dictates that the man is the breadwinner of the house and head of the family. In the last 200 years, White men have been seen as powerful entities worthy of Chinese respect because of the military might they brought to the last, crumbling Chinese Dynasty in the 19th and early 20th centuries. As such, Chinese families generally believe that if a Chinese girl marries a White man, she will be well taken care of. By contrast, White women were rarely seen and were assumed to be submissive to White men, so Chinese families have no afforded them the same amount of respect. This means they doubt the ability of White women to fill the “wife” role traditionally expected in Chinese culture and strongly discourage Chinese men from marrying White women.
Mao tried to dismantle this pre-industrial culture multiple times, but he was never completely successful by force. In recent years due to globalisation and improving lifestyles, these traditions are being slowly eroded away. In the major cities along the Chinese coastline you’ll find that a lot of these ancient sentiments have cooled to the point of a irrelevance, and the notion of Chinese men marrying White women is more acceptable. The poorer interior of China is not as progressive.
Avalanche Good, but not good enough, and it may be too late for me. It's not just that traditional Chinese don't see white women as wife material for their son, but rather it's really more about preserving the culture and bloodline and so they can get a free servant. They, and especially Asian women, feel very threatened by white women.
My mom tries to dissuade me from liking white girls and tells me they're too precocious (so?), too sexual (so?), too high maintenance (I'll take my chances), too big (not to me), and even said I can't 'satisfy' a white girl (I kid you not). No. I will always like white girls more, to the day I die. Something has to change, I can't stand these people and I can't stand this culture. Being a provider isn't attractive to women either, they don't want that until they're older and ready to settle down, and even then they still may not have respect for these kind of men so masculinity in the east is very different than in the west.
This seems a bit subjective here.
Yes,same for my family and that's what I want to too. To preserve and uphold the cultural and ethnical honour and purity of the Chinese brotherhood.
Another reason is that many Chinese men prefer feminine women, but most western women are not considered very feminine in Chinese men's eyes.
I'm an Asian guy whose girlfriend is a westerner, and I find myself more attracted to white girls. So I agree with you that this does depend on each individual's preference, though I'm often viewed as a "non-typical Asian" to the eyes of my Asian fellas...
From my point of view, western females not being considered very feminine by Chinese men actually hints a pretty sad phenomenon of lacking confidence when it comes to handling westerners. This might come from the body size, or poor English, etc. Plus the generally more reserved social patterns, it would be quite challenging to find a Chinese guy with enough courage to go after western girl. And I believe this also turns off a lot of western girls because, based on my personal experience, I find that western girls actually look for more masculinity in a man than do Asian girls.
By the way, you look stunning in that red Chinese traditional dress. And yes, you look very feminine in it.
LuckyLiuBeijing that's cos you're a Beijinger. In Shanghai and Guangzhou guys like strong girls.
LuckyLiuBeijing exactly, u White just go with White and let us Asian alobe please...
Yeah, and white women are the symbol of femininity. They're nicer, and more caring, and more ladylike except for a handful of shrews. And white women actually look like women, many Asian women barely have any curves.
@@MK-vk9eh then you're a race traitor to the Chinese brotherhood and motherland.
My boyfriend is from Guangzhou he isn’t very traditional or shy. My boys mum comes to me for advice haha. My boyfriend’s English is very good/clear and he speaks both mandarin and Cantonese:) 4 years later we have a house and live in AUS he is very affectionate and publicly too. My boyfriend is very much like me we do everything together. He doesn’t have any of the stereotypes that people assume.
I'm Canadian but lately I notice there are more AMWF couples around and they tend to be happier by the expression on their face. I think things are changing!
I'm a chinese guy and i have dated western girls; definitely agree with the shy comment as it took me a while/a few liquid courage to go and ask girls out for starbucks. I think the first step is always the hardest, and then things kind of work out after....... agree with the "chinese guy likes to eat (maybe at better place, maybe)" as most of us are foodies and do spend extra effort to try different food even by ourselves and have no problem sharing... guess that worked out fine lol
(From Australia)
I definitely do, but found that the western women in my country just play games and don't commit in general. So have found it ridiculously difficult to start a relationship with a western woman. Mind you, Asian women aren't much 'better' in that respect.
@nepa lion unfortunately, i agree with you in the first part. actually, this has been my observation with western women
I am Asian/Chinese and I was born in Canada.I still live in Canada and my family is from China. I love the multiculturalism here and I have to say, I am glad that interracial dating between asian guys and western girls is occurring. I just hope one day I can meet a western girl willing to date me and perhaps even leading to a happy marriage. However, I am shy from the beginning, though once you get to know me, I am confident. I really like western girls and every time I had met a girl, told her I like her etc, she rejects me and says "Lets just be friends" Then she finds some other guy and dates him instead. There is a reason for Asian guys to be shy like that, most probably do not feel accepted that much, especially by western girls when it comes to dating. Some asian stereotypes are also false like penis size for instance, the media has lied about it because every Asian guy is different and it isnt only about physical appearances, its also about personality etc. I have had at least one girlfriend and she was western. Things did not work out between me and her not because of our ethnicity difference but because she and her brother pulled off a stupid prank plus did other stuff like talking to her ex boyfriends that hurt my heart alot. She also wanted to date them while dating me so you see she was not into the monogamous kind of relationship, instead she was the type that had multiple boyfriends. I found that to be too odd and well I had to leave her in order to find a better Caucasian girl who is monogamous. Come to think of it though, how I won her heart was through confidence and just being there for her. I have just been hoping to meet the right girl who happens to be Caucasian and gorgeous overall. One more thing to add, that stereotype about "Not alot of Chinese guys can speak proper english." is a lie, I speak good fluent English and yet I am Chinese, born in Canada, so I am a Canadian Chinese guy,
I totally get what you mean. Im in a similar situation. Wish you luck in the future. From a chinese bro in UK ;)
everyone's different. there's no way to generalize the Chinese men type. but it's interesting to hear Lena's perspective. thanks for sharing this Lena.
I disagree with most of the stereotypes mentioned in this article. First of all, there are Chinese men from China, Chinese men from Taiwan, Chinese men from Hong Kong, Chinese men from Malaysia, Chinese men from Singapore, Chinese men from Indonesia and Chinese men from America, etc. Every continent has got Chinese men and their upbringing and social backgrounds are different.
Secondly, the article is just generalisation and assumptions of Chinese men. Chinese is a huge majority. Among the majority, there are many ethic groups. And among the ethic groups, they are divided further into subgroups of minority. Chinese in Northern China are from a different subgroup than those in the South. Chinese in Singapore (although many have ancestors from Southern China) are different from their cousins in China. Among Singaporean Chinese, there are differences again. Most Singaporean Chinese men speak and write fluent English. Not shy about our feelings. Communicate well and feel comfortable among Caucasians. And socially outgoing. I can't speak on behalf of Chinese men from other countries but I can definitely speak on behalf of mine since I am born and bred in Singapore.
Last but not least, not every Chinese man is a Bruce Lee, Jet Li or Jacky Chan. And mind you... Most of us know nuts about kungfu.
Hahaha... I thought all Danish men are vikings too. ;-p
Lenaaround Let me be your Kung Fu Hero, Lena! #LastChineseGuyToKnowKungFuOnEarth #KungFoolery ;-)
republic of china can be consider as china others like malaysia indonesia is not really chinese like 1/8 of blood or less cant be consider as
I do think Chinese guys come across as shy. But sometimes they are just reserved and respectful. I haven't met any that are spoilt but many I don't know enough Chinese guys that well. If by tradition they mean more likely to settle down and have a family then yes but that doesn't mean they're all close minded.
Running around with few different gals is to satisfy your own ego and having a bragging rights to your friends that you are a ladies' man. However, personally, I never liked to have more than 1 girlfriend (at a time). I had experience of 'dating' a girl for more than a year though at that time I took it as having a friend of the opposite sex and a companion. However, I discovered that she took me much more seriously as a lifelong companion. I had to back out and told her that I'd be going to the university and wouldn't know what would happen after 4 years and that we should leave it as that. I don't know whether I broke her heart or not, but she was silent as I walked her home. She went overseas for her degree course and still wrote me many love letters but I ignored them. I wasn't ready for any full-time commitment at that age.
After graduation, I met another and we struck off quite well. While attending my friend's photo session in his graduation gown, he brought along a female friend (an ex classmate). This woman somehow was quite attracted to me and often asked me out after that. I went out a few times with her, but subsequently, I avoided her at all cost since I already had a girlfriend.
I spent 6 months in Taiwan and got to know a Taiwanese very well. Both of us were quite close and she really looked like the actress Brigitte Lin. She told me that and that talent scouts looked her up when she was in college and entice her to become an actress. She told me that the lifespan of an actress is short and she didn't consider it.
In a dilemma between the 2, as painful as it was for me (because I really love the one in Taiwan very much), I decided that I should stick with the first one and cut all ties with my Taiwan friend.
foreign guy ain't stronger, I saw Bruce Lee beat the shit out of Chuck Norris, one time I fought with 2 Canadian dudes, both went to ICU
I'm not that big, only 5' 10 but I practice mixed martial art
@@kevinl7173 Wow you are so badass. I believe your story 100%
Kevin L mma ist the Real deal
Do you benchpress 300, drive a Ferrari and make a 7 digit salary too?
Philip Thomas i do bench press 300 hehe
Me and my friends never really struggled to find a '' date'' in China or a short-term boyfriend (if I may say). Actually it's easier when you're doing the first move (like guys used to like when I was coming up to them on the streets asking for their wechats and were more confident after that). However as a foreigner, what's difficult is getting in a serious and committed relationship. The '' trophy foreign girl '' is real and although all men in China are not like that (thanks goodness), traditions or just pride itself make it harder to find someone who will go beyond your foreign looks. But it's not impossible and even in the west, it's hard to find someone who'll like you for who you are. If they don't show any interest at all, even if you're the one flirting first, maybe they're just not into you or you're maybe not their ideal type 🤷♀️
Still love watching these videos ❤️❤️ love you LingLing!!
I wouldn’t say that Chinese guys rarely date/marry western women. I’ve seen many Chinese men that are dating or married to western women. Well most of these Chinese guys are actually American born citizens
Yes my teachers and textbooks taught me how to read and write, we even can finish university or work in all English environments, BUT, none teachers and textbooks or any family members friends taught us how to flirt in English. That’s the reason.
Love is love. Its not about race or country or age or anything else.
We are all individuals. There is a huge tendency to grossly generalise when it comes to the Chinese...and that goes both ways (i.e. Chinese people generalise way too much!)
I worked in casino security jobs for a while, in my view Chinese males are definitely the most spoilt and entitled group I ever had to throw down a flight of stairs. But that might have something to do with them mostly coming from wealthy families. They were closely followed by millennials of all western nations.
Yeah, but then I had to deal with a lot of other people from wealthy families as well who would go out of their way not to attract attention. Even the middle class Chinese could not understand I am not going to give them special treatment for spending a few hundred dollars or even a few thousand dollars.
A common line was "China could squash your little country". To which the reply was always "that might be true but China is not going to do a thing about me throwing you out". Almost every public assault of a guy bashing his partner was Chinese men. The worst one I saw was a Chinese guy picked up a steel pedestal and crushed his partners face with the base of it, she needed reconstructive surgery. Then could not understand why we were intervening as he cried like a baby being being dragged out.Making sure his head hit every marble step on the way down.
A lot of people expect this sort of behavior from Arabs, but generally I enjoyed dealing with Arabs. One situation I had to deal with were a group of middle class Chinese going berserk at not being allowed in a VIP room and abusing the security guard for not taking their bribes, which were pathetically small. Chinese spending money (especially in a group) are really badly behaved.
These were not isolated instances, this was the type of crap that had to be dealt with on a nightly basis with the Chinese. I really like living in China and generally like Chinese people, but their sense of entitlement and little emperor behavior (especially when in groups) gives them a really bad name.
The abominable Dr Jones you work in a casino where people go there to spent money what do you expect. That the problems with white society if a Chinese person only buy what he/she needs you call them cheap but if they start buying things they don’t need ,you call them spoilt. Hardly anyone said that to any other races but the Chinese or east Asian. It’s like you don’t even consider us human. Do we need to start causing trouble and riot to you only than when we be consider human
I dated white girlfriends before but I think stereotypes are partially true and partially wrong. There are insanely anti social white dudes in my school as well, but there are super hyped asian dudes. I assume White women tend to think who they can date and they can't. Even in Europe and some part of U.S, females oftentimes say "Asians are not my thing" so you know, this is not about Chinese guys are not outgoing or do not approach girls. It is about white girls defending themselves in many circumstances. If you think you like Asian guys, why don't YOU reach out to them? You know what I am sayin
Hi my Japanese friend I totally agree with ya. The white women hold the stereotype with Asian(especially CN JP KR)and unless we reach out actively, they wont come to us
@@circlelee4026 I am a white woman living in HK and I was living in Japan before. I don't go to men (both Asian or westerns) just because it is not my culture, not because I am not interested. I was used to men in my country approaching me, not me approaching them... So you guys, definitely should try to talk and ask out a girl if you like her and try to be a bit clearer about your intentions. It is really hard (at least for me) to tell if a local guy is interested in me as just a friend or something more and most of the time I feel confused.
Lingling Thank You for bringing this to our attention ☺️ Yes everyone everywhere will have different personalities. I feel that stereotypes are wrong. I look at each person individually and do not judge others by their action or personality. There are know going to be some that clash with other personalities but they are not wrong just may not be suitable for friendships. 🙂
Keep up the superb work that you are doing Lingling 👍 Till next time Zaijian 🤗
When I was younger, I wanted to marry outside my race.
When I got older, I wanted to marry Chinese, because we share the common language.
Now, I hate thinking of marrying Chinese women, because they are gold diggers. Most are ugly, yet they demand men to provide housing, have higher salary, are taller than them, handsome, etc. Their demand is too high. I need to look elsewhere. Although Chinese women is my first choice, but I cannot meet their demand, so I might end up marrying Vietnamese or a foreigner who can speak Chinese.
He doesn't know any woman. Most women are not like that. First, you have to be likeable. Looks isn't that important at all (for most women), if they find you likeable and easy to get along with. When you are easy to get along with, show more interest in them by being attentive, half the battle is won. When she finds you as someone reliable (as in being a reliable partner), you are almost there.
My wife met me when I was dirt poor. She was 18. I had nothing but she clung to me (I know it) like I was the one and only for her. Shortly, we went to apply for a HDB flat (government built apartment) that cost only $72,000. That was a long way from what we live in now - a $7 million home with swimming pool. She didn't ask for anything but she got a life of wealth because I went into business after that and I struck gold.
lena - please help me out.
there is a video on youtube, of you having lunch with two western guys, and all three of you were talking about life in china. can you direct me to that video? or maybe give me the name of those two guys, and i can search for it myself. thanks
thanks for your help - i found the video. it's called,
Confessions of a Female Expat in China
You have a good idea. People should throw stereotypes away. Personally, if i don't like someone. I don't need to rely on stereotypes to support my opinion...the person is a jerk. That's all I need to know.
I think you are a very optimistic and I like your perspective of looking at life. Love your TH-cam videos👏
中国男人把约会看得很严肃的事情，并且中国文化里的面子观很重，被异性拒绝是非常没面子伤自尊心的。所以和外国女性约会是一件比较有自我挑战的事，在西方文化里和异性约会属于比较普通的社交活动，不用考虑太多事情，但是中国文化里约会已经是恋爱的一部分了，中国人只会和确立了恋爱关系的异性约会，中国人认为约会不是社交活动，而是非常亲密的私生活。
是的，你说的你在北京遇到的不保守只想玩玩的中国男人肯定存在。但这种行为不是中国人理解的正式约会和谈恋爱，是不道德的。而你的视频的标题是“为什么中国男性很少约会西方女性”，我作为一个中国男性的理解是，你想讨论正常的，道德的男女约会，而不是讨论一夜情。中国文化里，和一个异性约会的前提是，男女双方已经建立或者确认了一种恋爱的关系。汉语的“约会”英语叫date，没有建立恋爱关系的男女date，汉语叫“约炮”，是一个非常不好的行为，这个词也是一个新词，过去中国社会里没有这样的行为。中国大陆社会在80、90年代以前，是非常保守，非常传统的，现在的中国大陆除了一二线城市以外，仍然很传统保守，即使在一二线大城市里，也不是人人都很西化了。中国传统价值观对两性关系的认识是非常保守的，中国人只认可合法婚姻关系为基础的性关系，所有婚姻关系之外的性关系都是被鄙视和谴责的，这一点很像西方社会的天主教和基督教对两性关系的认知。但是，中国改革开放以后，这个传统开始慢慢有所改变，恋爱男女的婚前性行为开始被默认，这在过去是不可能的，而且是犯罪行为，专门有个法律叫“非法同居罪”禁止婚前性行为。改革开放以后，中国大陆里可以看很多西方的电影和电视节目，好莱坞和欧洲电影帮助中国人了解西方社会和习俗，中国人心目中理解的西方社会两性关系是很开放的，不受婚姻关系约束，这和中国传统婚姻观念有很大矛盾。大多数中国男人会有偏见，认为西方女人性观念很开放，这是阻碍他们和西方女性谈恋爱的主要原因。
Lenaaround 我觉得相比西方，中国人大部分都是很"保守"的。其实只是文化不同，大部分中国人只想安安稳稳找个伴侣。因此，中国才会有那种"结婚对象就是初恋"的情怀。那些只想玩玩的男人，大部分中国女人也不会想和这种人谈恋爱。
Julian Z 说的好
没说到点上，主要是家庭观念的差异，很多中国男人觉得谈女朋友是以结婚目的才是正常的，当然也有为了啪啪啪的，既然是这样，家庭观念相差太多也就没必要浪费时间，例如几块钱的东西一些西方夫妻也要算得清清楚楚，在华人看来太奇怪了。
Lack of the confidence, I would say; but it's getting better now.
+Wei Luo it is indeed. Especially when dating locals in China. They're at home here 😂
What's the difference between a stereotype and an observation? 老一套的看法和观察的区别在哪儿
Hi! I've been seeing some of your videos and I think you're not looking into the right place... The best fit for your personality, ideas, plans, etc, would probably be someone from Singapore (and yes, there are chinese men in Singapore too). They still retain most of their chinese culture, but are definitely more westernized (in general).
Hong Kong and Taiwan would probably be a good bet too, so start looking around :) That being said, most of those men would probably not want to go into mainland China... so seriously, it's not going to be easy to find your soulmate like that.
Perhaps if you found another youtuber chinese guy, that would make things easier.
I enjoy your videos and find you're really "adorable" as a person, but your bubbly personality doesn't quite fit the typical average chinese guy preferences.
Myself, I am married to a Japanese lady for 8 years, and even though most of her life was spent in the westernized Singapore, went to international school, etc, etc... you're in for a massive cultural difference shock.
It basically comes down to small daily life things, as well as different opinion on "how things should be done"... because the principles, the culture, and basically the difference on the importance that people give to things, that matters.
I wish you all the best of luck, so please keep posting.
Greatly said!
In Canada even in 2021 AMWF is still super rare. There’s definitely more WMAF tho. Still very hard to understand why that is…
I've noticed as an asian guy I only find interest with girls that have the innocent look(facially), or very plain look for lack of a better term. If they dress flashy/revealing (unless in a night club) that is a sign they have an ego/low class , which is a common faux pas among asian culture.
I would think for the girls dressing classy, act respectable and being able to say anything thoughtful would make asian men interested. If you come off as brash, trashy or low ambition that is a red flag asian guys look for. In other words don't come off as an danger to yourself..
David Lim, This will sound like a weird question and request but will you look at my profile picture on my facebook and tell me if I have an innocent look? I'm not trying anything I just want to know your opinion. Look up Leslie Haworth on facebook, I'm the white girl with glasses. Please give me your honest opinion, don't worry if it sounds mean, just be honest.
You sound like someone with low-confidence who is intimidated by a strong, confident woman
kiss in public is called PDA. I like it but I dont do it so I ll look more educated
+Yu Xuan Yang haha interesting thought
Stereotypes are usually based on truth, but I don't think the person who wrote this article has ever lived in China for an extended length of time. Just the usual nonsense they wrote in 30 minutes.
You should do AMWf website and hook them up. Hehe
Even when we do you know how hard it is???
I can't say rare because I don't know, but I will say this: Maybe it's because we think Western Girls don't like us is a big signal.
So is it a yes or no?
Cause some white Girls are really Attracted to Asian guys, take the one I know for example. Even though we're on and off all the time, but not thinking about Asian guys is something she can't do.
I’m a American.. but I think asian are smart in terms of looks but they are too egoistic as well
Did she just say ling ling? AHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA LOLLLLLL i'm dedd
I don't know how it works in Mainland China, but here in Taiwan where I live the Taiwanese men are mamma's boy and not independent. I have western female friends here who won't date Chinese / Taiwanese men for the reasons I just mentioned above. Taiwan & China is still very conservative which can make it very difficult in a relationship.
Taiwan is the old regime called republic of China. Many old tradition remains there. Because of the Soviet, Chinese culture in the mainland was moving forward since 60's and 70's. Even though, culture revolution was destructive. I think guys from the mainland are open.
I'm Hispanic so I think they dont like I'm not white so its harder
No they like everyone...
Hispanic is not a race lol. You can be black , white / Asian and be Hispanic ?
Stereotypes are an ignorant person's excuse of not learning more about a group by claiming that they know it all already. Nothing beats the personal experience that you are having 👍
Well, very few Chinese guys want to date western girls also
I beg to differ, personal experience, but see my comment for further clarification.
Ben Scoles you live in a cave? We love non-Chinese girls.
Yes I believe so, most East Asian guy not really in to white female! Simply because culture and beauty standard. But I also think people should stay with their own race!
Ben Scoles well said, I don't date White girls
This one does, white girls mean more to me than anything. I don't like Asian girls.
I love you, LingLing!! =3=
everyone is different~~~I agree~~~~
Very good video . . .
I don't know how to engage conversation with a white gal, simple as that..
Hell, I don't even know how to engage a conversation with a Chinese girl, damn.
Lenaaround I am kidding lena. Please find a Chinese and have a beautiful mixed baby, you would be surprised how stand-out your kid can be. Just do it !
Chinese girls and boys are not independent. way superficial about lifestyle. I have experience of living with them and most of the article she was reading is true.
There are many western Asians that aren't like what u r describing
I just need to know if they would even be attracted to me 😩 No clue how to read to read these men!!
I think we will be attracted to you and we'll find you gorgeous. Your smile look great
You guys have NO idea of what this conversation looks like to black people...
I'm just sayin
There is a grain of truth in every stereotype,, otherwise, they wouldn't be funny.
You are lovely and very young. Good luck!
Chinese are human too so why are you stereotyping. How is it fair judge a whole group by one person. We all have our own personality. Sometime we act a certain way to connect with our family and friends but that is not who we are as a person.
+Dragold Anime haha I don't think you watched my video. Maybe you should watch it and then come back XD
Lenaaround I have watched many of your videos and how is it fair to judge one person to all. You talk as Chinese no matter form what upbringing act the same. I wouldn’t expect you to understand what it’s like to be a Chinese considering you are not. You may like learning about the culture and history but that does not make you one. You Caucasian have to most freedom to travel to many part of the world and wouldn’t be judge or discriminated too much. As an Chinese the only places I can travel to without being judge like I’m inhuman object is Asia.
+Dragold Anime I'm sorry for your bad experience. I hope you'll find your way
i enjoy watching ur video a lot, i as a chinese even think some of those stereotypes are true, but thanks a lot for leaving evenhanded comments! best wishes!
asian men are seen as providers
Lenaaround asian men are family centered white men are self centered,asians lack of individualism,thats why we are seen as providers,not lovers
想想还是用中文回复吧，更能表达清楚意思
数字对应观点
1 确实中国男生比较内向，但是基本上都是刚开始放不开，一回生二回熟。尤其遇见女生 （lol），中国绝大部分地区素质教育就男生与女生如何融洽相处这块基本上没咋教，所以脑子基本上一片空白，只能实践出真知。何况直接和一个金发碧眼的漂亮外国姑娘讲英文。
2 曾经施行的计划生育政策导致现在有许多独生子女，（这几年已经开放二胎政策了）但是不是说是个独生子女就会被宠坏，与家庭教育息息相关。大部分人相处起来还是很友好的。就房子这块，家里有钱的话父母就会帮儿女安置房子，这点没啥说的，搁哪个国家都一样。
3 主要是个子问题，与种族无关。一个矮个子中国男生见到一个高个子中国男生一样会有些感到自卑。这个主要还是看个人教育，家庭背景，有些中国男生就像视频里说的 dont give a f，但是大部分男生还是比较敏感身高话题的。
4 还是素质教育问题，和第一点有些像，还是新司机刚上路，练练就轻车熟路了。
5 英语吧，生活中基本上使不到，除非像大学里的高材生或者公司里经常跑国际业务的职员，大部分人基本上只会很少的一些英语。要找个能和你天天英语流畅唠嗑的很难。想像自己国内那样再天天用英语flirt个几句基本上不可能。
6 中国传统文化就是勤俭持家，老一辈人吃苦耐劳习惯了，基本上有钱存起来，所谓未雨绸缪，以防不时之需。你看到的是花钱比较大手大脚的可能要不是就是家里真的有钱，要不是就是90后 00后追赶潮流。每个人都是等自己挣钱了才知道钱是多么来之不易（sad）。来中国的老外确实很节俭，基本上都很会搞价（bargain）。
7 哪个国家都一样吧，不努力工作咋养活老婆孩子。关于享受生活这块，只是东西方方式不同，主要看个人兴趣。中国人放松的方式就是打个麻将阿，一起吹几瓶啤酒阿，打个台球之类的。
8 东西方文化差异造成的误解。西方社交就是party till we die ，中国人社交都是比较温和的，约个饭局阿，ktv唱个歌阿。
Hope these would help:)
哈哈哈 我女朋友也是丹麦人 but with an Italian father though hahaha
From my experience sadly but chinese men are much like stereotypes, i live in south, and really want to have a boyfriend but it just doesn't work with them, we are from different planets and my Chinese is very bad too so it makes things difficult, because almost nobody who tried to approach me knew proper english. I didn't meet the mister right yet, hope he exists. Literally everyone who i knew were just working then going home to sleep, no life! Work is their life. I also work but i can always find time for my bf, sadly usually they are not ready to do the same. If you don't want serious relationship it may be easier.
Which country where you from miss? You live in China now?
oh are you still live in china？can we know about each other？😊
man: Can we talk?
woman: ehmmm, yes?
man: you are great woman, I really enjoy staying with you, but....
woman: but what?!
man: we want different things...you deserve more...
woman: why you say this? why?
man:........
woman: (crying) you don`t love me at all, you just want to improve your English!
lol...
wow, you got a boyfriend always wants to go party.
If he treats you well and seriously about your relations, we are happy. Be happy in China :)
Spoilt one. Have fun
From many women I have talked with... Asian males simply dont provide western women a sense of masculinity.... strength, protection, feeling safe. Also personality... individualism isnt really a chinese strength. (mommas-boys) strong, humour, confidence is key for ANY women, and asian men tend not to possess these traits.
what an ignorant comment. She just broke down the sterotypes in her video and you are at it again. If you live in Asia, you will see so many strong, humourous and "great personality" Asian guys everyday
The funny thing about stereotypes is for the most part they are true. This is why they persist. Hahahaha, she confirmed the stereotypes are correct. Then she says it’s all bullshit. Priceless.
Nice makeups.
I only liked Caucasian girls
I like speakinng English though :p
I am a northeast Chinese guy,I have to say us northeast Chinese guy do marry western Women far more than the rest of other Chinese guys...But since I travels to the west So many times,
I have to say I can not accept a Western lady to become my wife~~
Because a western lady has to shave all over her body everyday or she becomes a more hairy person than a Asian man.
If get married,10 yrs later,She gonna looks like my mom....And she has to have perfume everyday to cover her smell...
Sorry~~~~~
will leon As a western girl I can say that's not true. Idk where y'all get there stereotypes from.
will leon Also to add, women are human too. Every woman smells without perfume/deodorant.
will leon you asian men sound really feminine. if you want your woman to be like that you must act like a girl too. just letting you know that you look like a little bitch to us lmao that's why we're not interested in you either
@@tpk2316 So sorry,you are right
@@xhobi8419 Well,Miss I gotta say that Less hairy,cleaner body,slowly getting old≠≠≠≠Feminie or non-tough。That is sterotype， too。do not lie to your self，many people with heavy body smell，older looking or hair body could be feminie as well。。。All I wanna do is let the west world feel what eastern asian guys feel when you keep blaming us and sterotype us ，everyday
中国还不够开放
你应该去 知乎
Lol lot asian pickup artist in Vancouver bc Do pua white girks all time lol
Who cares!!!!