If she flirts with other guys in front of you then she is disrespecting you, that´s more than a red flag, if she does that she is not testing you she just belongs to the streets.
That's a major red flag. If a girl you're serious about doesn't even respect you and has the audacity to flirt with other men in front of you, just make her your side bitch/booty call and find yourself a real woman.
"It might seem like she is insulting you, but what she is actually doing is testing you" Uhm, no. What she is actually doing is insulting you, and her justification for it is irrelevant.
But this would cause you to not have any empathy which would make you unrelatable and unreliable especially for reproduction, to have standards is completely different than not giving a shit
On the flip side, those "tests" can backfire. Some of us lose all respect and interest when we see signs of manipulation and games like this being played. It's a huge turn off. The man who is just as comfortable being alone as they are in a relationship neither has time for that crap, nor will they put up with it.
Women who use these tests get manipulated by players who know their game. To get a real high value man or woman, you have to be a high value man or woman yourself. Manipulative games aren't going to make up for your lack of value.
Having been around the block a couple times, I can tell you that all this "act indifferent" response is basically a band-aid for a much deeper issue. If you REALLY know what is right and wrong, if you REALLY know your particular values and beliefs, you don't have to "act indifferent", you will BE indifferent. And that is because any woman testing you in this manner is being immature and disingenuous. Once I hit 30, I just noticed what seemed to be irrational behavior of this sort from women, and I just tuned it out and let them know that I was not playing their game. The key is, it was not because I actually WANTED them to accept me, but because I really didn't want to deal with shit in my life. That's where these kind of videos lose the plot. When he says, "act indifferent, she'll actually like you because of it". Yeah, maybe, but do YOU want a girl who plays games like these in YOUR life? Ask yourself that question.
Completely agree...my 2 sisters are watching this too...have been 53 years with their husbands between them...5 kids between them...have had lots of disagreements and arguments...but never tested them....must be a modern thing...guys if ur tested, walk away...life is too short
Absolutely. 100% manipulation. And while I get there is an evolutionary purpose to testing there very much is a line and it speaks to their character. Videos like this try to show how to pass all their tests but fail to show you that they are not the only ones that should be testing. And to much testing is definitely a red flag. If a woman needs constant reassurance that you are high value that is a clear indicator that she is disloyal and out for herself and will always have her options open no matter what you do. If you really do value yourself you would not put up with that. And this is where it falls off. What this is is a game and ultimately a way to fake something. And eventually if you are faking it will allways come out in your actions anyway. What they should be teaching is how to value ourselves so that these self beliefs are genuine and part of that is being selective on what you invest in. We are not here to be slaves to woman who over value themselves. Only desperate men would jump through all these hoops for a woman in the first place. If she wants a guy who does not value her opinion then she will get it. But it's a sign of a toxic relationship either way. These woman are playing silly games and they will win silly prizes. They just cause damage and should largely be avoided. A little testing is ok and natural but flirting with other men is disrespect and should never be tolerated period.
Wow, what a fascinating yet logical perspective you have. I love it XD And who could or would argue with the mighty universe? Only a fool would do that. Just like my great grandpa always used to say: "There are many fishy octopussies in the dripping wet sea of kum island". lololol....
So true. also if a woman..oops wrong word "Small-minded little immature girl" is directing your pain to where you feel like you are being played with, then leave...Work on yourself, learn more new skills from what was already naturally Given to you, it could be, painting, Learning how to build things, or play an instrument, learn a new language. Learn how to spend more time with your self and you will uncover so many awesome things about yourself that you never knew was possible. Remember: You hold the key to your life so shine bright because Your Soul is Colourful and Your Story is Still being made every second. You do not have to impress a woman for her to like you but what you can do is share your new skills/knowledge and You will attract the right partner that was your Destiny the whole time. Where ever you are, when you are not looking for a life long female partner it will be as if she appeared out of thin air 🤝👌🙏❤💞💯
I can handle almost all of these just fine. The jealousy "test" will piss me right off, though. Not because I'm jealous, but because it's disrespectful in the extreme and I won't tolerate it. I've broken off relationships in the middle of dinners, parties, etc because I got fed up with being disrespected to my face. Never got verbally or visibly aggravated though, just told them that since she's so interested in the other guy that she can't even wait until I'm not around, I'll give them some space, and her things that I have at my place will be ready to be picked up the next day at noon.
@@beasthaven1571 A couple girls I've 'dated' have flirted with other men in front of me and I left them for it, but only one of them ended up with the guy afterward. They're now married and have a kid, so I'm happy for them. The rest I guess just wanted attention and it didn't matter who they got it from.
@@user-zr6pl6nb6z I'm not actually 'happy', it's just a term. I'm indifferent because it doesn't affect me at all. It was irritating in the beginning, but after years passed there's no reason to care at all, so in the spirit of being 'neighborly' I'm happy for them, in so far as being cordial is concerned. Kinda like telling someone their kid is so cute when they show you a picture. I don't give a single shit about the kid or how they look, but it's common courtesy.
@@forkme3165 I see. I'm the kind of guy who probably wouldn't even think of her anymore. I've had more than my share of manipulative women and they only get the chance to annoy me once.
Mercedes has more value too and if you buy a old one it last`s too :) thinking am going todo it to, and if i want or need sex its more easy to buy a escort"Girl-Frend Pack deal" after having money hehe :D
Not exactly to dont care because easiest and most stupid way for boooth gendres is to stop care for thing. Reject before they reject you or being cold and playing tough guy/female from the beginning of meeting and not even started so its not so correct to dont give a damn.
not carring subconsiously works it means you are high value and any woman will want you she wants you even more but if u do it to pass the tests she can see it and leave you
@@bozhidarpetrov I believe he means the mentality you have to have...DGAF! It works. Many women have skipped over romantic guys because they take it as a sign of weakness or that she already has you ...it was too easy. Somewhat depends on circumstances but If you have a date with a girl that backs out ....ok no problem....go out with one of her friends or acquaintances that you may also be interested in and don't initiate any further communication with her.
@@jowoo45 it is less common to find a woman that likes the romance, but i feel like once you do find it you should stick to it . Im a guy who usually didnt give af for a couple years and now i got this one girl who is romantic gives attention and treats me good
2 rules: 1) Don't ever get angry with a woman. When it's done, acknowledge it and just leave. If the test happens in the middle of a date, you end that date. Right then, right there. The person who values the relationship least is the one in control of it. If you show her you'll leave if things arent the way you want them, she's less likely to test you. This is the hardest lesson to learn as compromise is normally considered a reasonable alternative when two parties disagree. The problem with that here is if you show you'll bend when pushed, she loses respect and is going to keep pushing, if she sticks around. 2) When you recognize she's playing games, don't play. Almost universally the best answer to a woman's games is walking away, and remembering to not get angry. The one thing that woman will always be searching for is acknowledgement and attention, her games are designed to get her both. Give her neither, understand she is trying to control and manipulate you and do not allow it.
@@ItsCamaro3 when they go cold I'd lose interest. Going cold for a period of time is a red flag of cheating. If you give them less attention, and they do nothing to get it back (attention is currency with them), they are very likely cheating on you and like the reduced pressure on them. Just an opinion of course, but sadly it's supported by my past experience.
1. Insults you 2. Playing hard to get 3. Going cold 4. If you mow your lawn 5. Just kidding on number 4 Here’s the rest ....jealousy test....and getting you to betray what your values are! Gentlemen Good Luck out there!!
If you mow your lawn she says: "Not again this is so noisy." But if you wait: " Your lawn looks horrible, don't you have any pride." BOTH are shit tests BTW :D
Arthur Schopenhauer was right, women will always be children at heart. Those childish tests/mind games are exhausting and that's exactly why i stopped dating. I almost feel manipulated and i genuinely hate it. I don't want to drain myself by analysing everything, i have better things to do.
1. "Same to you, thanks!" 2. Don't you ever double text or otherwise persue her. 3. Go cold on her back. 4. Ignore her attempts to make you jealous. 5. Stay true to your values. IN SUMMARY: Stay true to yourself, and ignore all her wimpy attempts to throw you off. Whatever she does, do not ever let her get away with disrespecting you or with making you do something against your values, beliefs, or whatever you consider important.
in other words, literally deprive all sense of emotion or any care in the relation ship, "as long as you give 0 f's. she will love you." WHAT LOGIC IS THAT!! SHOWING THAT YOU DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP MEANS EXACTLY THAT TO HER AND SHE WILL LEAVE THIS DUDE IS STUPID!
See this actually happened to me. My girlfriend insulted me, and I did get upset because I thought she shouldn't be trying to hurt me if we are together. I always tried to make her feel good about herself so I expected the same in return...but...that caused me to fail this test and that was the end of the relationship. It was odd because honestly in retrospect I should have been the one to walk away from it, however she got there first. Growing up I didn't realize that women these days actually aren't on the level of maturity as women who came before them. Since the relationship failed I have had the opportunity to meet and be with even more beautiful women then her and to meet and be with women who treated me better as well. Oh well. What do we call? blessing in disguise? I dunno
It's about faith. If you have faith in your value against others, you'd really know that whatever happens she cannot leave you. When this happens, you become more carefree and not try to restrict your girl. It's like how a caged pigeon suddenly becomes more loving and faithful when you let it go on its own.
As for your girl flirting with other guys while you're around it is also a warning sign but she may not be very good for you and want attention of other men. I've experienced this. Don't tie your life and your money up with one of these.
To me it indicates that she's incapable of asserting her preferences in front of me, if you have a strong mind and personality, you don't try to play tricks like that on people, you know what you want and if you wanna be poly, you just say so, you see the other person opening up to you, you do the same, you talk about your needs and wants and how you see the world and assume your mentalities and actions, if you need to half ass schemes like this to test someone, it indicates that you have emotional problems, you may perhaps be narcissistic and, thus, egoistic as well, if you are strong, you don't see all of this and ignore it, you call her out for it, confront her with the facts, let her make the choice on the question of, do you want to know thyself? do you want to learn, to grow and to improve, and thus be a better version of yourself? and if she rejects all of that and prefers to play dumb tricks, you let her go, there's that special someone for you, waiting for you at the end of the tunnel so to speak, don't make compromises, assert your dominance in intellect by being true to yourself and to your values, and by expressing what you feel in a ballanced, healthy and confident way, don't act like a cold douchebag, as for the video, I can say that it works, but for getting it on with nasty girls who will not provide much if anything to your growth and life so, do as I told you, and try to be the best version of yourself.
So to summerize the first 4 points, if she insulted you, ignored your messages, got cold on you and flirted with other men ... that doesnt mean she doesnt like you or she's not interested , she s actually testing you... can this get any more ridiculous ?
if she really didnt like you, she wouldnt waste time trying to assess your personality. girls have a lot of options, they have to weed some out so they can attract the highest quality mate they are able to
@@magicseventh9746 If she has to do these tests instead of having honest, open, adult conversations or some other healthy way to get to know you, maybe she is the one that needs to be weeded out from the guy's list of options.
This is crazy A girls doing this to me And its f*cking me up Lately I've been distracted because of these stupid tests... She acts like this and still have the guts to look at me with a smile all the time... Women are something else
As a woman, I don’t know about others but I’m not out to “test” people and be sly. Literally all I (and probably many other women) want is someone to put as much effort into a relationship as I do and to be honest and straightforward with their feelings rather than beat around the bush.
Thats truee, but! Dont u use those tests in the begining? Its appauling but most women, (from my own and friends and facebook group of men talking about intimacy and relatioms) do use those..
@@avivolah9401 no, at no point to I (nor probably most other women) do any sort of tests like that. Not unless they’re manipulative and toxic but normal women don’t pull those kinds of stunts because we wouldn’t want someone to do that to us. Simple golden rule, treat others how you want to be treated.
Never heard of women consciously testing men. To me it seems just disrespectful. Also pretending like you don't care rather than being honest like it is suggested in the video is the worst advice for a relationship in the long term.
@@johnarcher6150 I’m not saying nobody does it, there’s 7 billion people of course there’s gonna be people that do it, but I’m just saying, NORMAL people don’t do stuff like that. Only a woman who’s toxic and manipulative would actually do that
Yeah but age matters, Idt a girl would look to settle with children when she's at the age of 20. I'd say typically >26 y.o. would be a mature woman age, unless you're looking at bad woman then we all know she's not in for something awesome, on the other hand, there are quality woman
Yes and no. Yes to the games no to not caring about these specific things. I know I care about a man I'm interested in sticking to their morals and values.
5 ways of female tests: 1. Insults you. Tests how you handle validation, how you care what she thinks about you. Show her that you don't need her validation & don't care about her opinion about you. 2. Playing hard to get/pulling away. Tests your confidence & trys to find out how investet you are in her, how desperate you act. She wants to see if you chase after her. Don't pursue her. Never chase after her. It shows her that you have no value, other options & nothing going on in your life that keeps you busy. 3. Going cold. She wants to see if she has any impact on you. If a simple girl can shift your intire frame or expose your mental weakness, how can you handle the difficulties that men has to face in life? Show her that nothing that she says or does has an impact on you. 4. Jealousy test. She flirts with other men. Show her that it has no effect on you. 5. Getting to betray what your values are. Can you keep your word, stay true to your value & believes? Be solid like a rock.
Why do women do this shit. They claim they never test etc. But this and many other TH-cam channels show what I already can confirm. Basically men are simple and play checkers girls push dudes away and play chess then whine that they are single
You my friend, are a life saver. Not only do I see my own weaknesses, you also give us vague ways to repair them so we are not just copying a video, and instead make our own ways. I thank you!
Ever since I was a little kid I always thought that getting into a relationship was all about being loyal to one another, sharing the good and bad things in life and love each other. Now the more I grow up the more I realize that relationships especially for us men are a constant challenge. Like you have to constantly be above competition in all terms, weather that's wealth, good looks, intelligence, everything. We are tested and compared with others 24/7. The moment I realized that I completely stopped caring about any "serious relationships" as no such thing can exist when girls offer so SO little and yet always seek the perfect human being. Invest and Pay attention to yourselves my dudes. Girlfriends ain't worth your time.
If she does these things, then guys, she isn't worth your time. She's gonna drain more energy out of you than anyone else. It's an indication that you should probably reconsider the relationship with her and if needed, go to better things and people in life. Honest and clear communication and intentions are basis of a good and healthy relationship. Anybody, whether boy or girl, starts getting manipulative or starts playing dirty games like these is gonna cause major problems for you and your career. Just don't give anyone so much control to decide for you!
Well said my man. Search for girls who have clear intentions and pure at heart, those are worth it, anything else can go fuck herself. Girls who play games like these are the pettiest people ever
I'm gonna be honest, most of these are just red-flags in my opinion. I feel like a girl who uses underhanded tactics just to screw with and "test" you isn't worth a moment of your time to begin with. Playing hard to get, throwing insults, going cold, invoking jealousy, and trying to see if you break your own values? I'm gonna be honest, that doesn't come off as just "testing." That comes off as emotional manipulation. Personally, if a girl wants to act that way toward me, I'm showing her the door. I want to be allowed to care what she thinks of me (within reason). I want to be allowed to be jealous when she flirts with other guys (within reason). I don't want a girl who will go cold or play hard to get just to make some point. I want to be allowed to care about her, her opinion, her feelings, and her attention toward me, because I consider that a healthy part of a relationship. Overreacting aggressively or pathetically to those "tests" is certainly one thing, but if the "wrong response" is caring at all, then it just isn't worth trying for.
*"She went from being warm and kind to acting like I ate her last chicken wing"* That could very well not have been a 'test' but rather she forgot to take her psychotropic meds again. Seriously.
I would definitely take the last chicken wing, but if there was a drumstick, I would take that instead. I like a woman who likes to watch me eat and offers me more when I've finished.
Funny most women whom “test” men with these games would fail them. If a woman does these things to you, they will always create tension in your life. Find someone whom respects you & wants to build your lives up.
I don't test people (its unnecesary), but instead evaluate their behaviour and their actions on the real life as it shows their real value. A person who treats others badly as a test (witch means they are manipulative and don't care for your feelings), are not worth anyones time. There is no excuse for this lack of respect, as it is a red flag. You treat me badly as a way of testing me, you ❌don't pass for me. Playing with people lives is not a joke to me.
If she starts doing any of these, I show her the door and never welcome her back. Life is too short to waste my time on these types of miserable human beings. I have a family to love and protect, including my friends. I have work to do, resources to gather. I don't have time for energy and time wasting female "tests".
Guys lemme tell u one thing if a woman test u or speak logical that means she not into u and she has no attraction.Bcoz attraction has no test of confidence,if she's into u she will never test your confidence level.Looks matter my brother's. (I'm experienced).
A few things. Respond to an insult with upset doesn’t mean you care about what she thinks but instead that you care and respect yourself. When I see men take on a cheek from a woman like this, I can’t help but to think he’s a wimp. Also, when they go cold - don’t chase. You’re right there. You’re wrong with what follows, there are consequences to each person’s actions. Don’t chase, but more importantly never take her back. That relationship is over but maybe she’ll think harder about doing this to another man. Jealousy. Don’t be jealous - at least don’t show her any sign of this. If she cares so little about you to try to test you in this way, you are much better without her in your life. Walk away and stay away. Never betray your values. Our lives are not subject to women’s approval.
insults are a cruel way to test us. I'm 48yrs old so I can pick that up pretty quickly. I simply stay in my frame as an older mature dude....but it doesn't mean I have time for it. I just gracefully smile, finish the date , be a gentleman and walk away afterwards....with grace and class boys. Never kick and scream.
Insults are a red flag. People do not insult people if they are interested. This is the behavior of an insecure person who would most likely be either abusive or co-dependant in the relationship
You'll basically pass all these tests by not having a scarcity mindset. Be the best version of yourself. Thus you are the prize, you choose the girls... Not the other way around.
The sad reality is that most men don’t expect much from a woman, and females know this. Look OK, be halfway nice, show that you care about us a little bit, don’t act like you belong in a straight jacket, etc. Really simple stuff
@@rezag8369 Let me know when you find this mysterious woman? Eventually they will pull one. I bet you money past girls pulled them on you and you never even know it. Women pull this shit subtlety. Have you had a girl who was all over you then set the date and she blows you off or seems uninterested? You failed a test she pulled out of the hat and decided you're beta and out
She's playing with fire in that way. And it could damage her.. Those kinds of tests are toxic and selfish. You have to respect the person you love, period.
Many times, a girl really is busy and hasn’t had time to let you know. That isn’t an intentional test, but if you react with insecurity, she will register that in her mind when deciding your value to her. The jealousy part can work the same way. An emotionally mature woman won’t play these games to test you, she’ll just remember them if and when the relationship starts to become serious. I have a woman now who never tested me, but anytime we were in a situation that fit these “tests”, after it passed, she would compliment me for how I handled the situation. Regarding jealousy, she commented that she admired me so much because I don’t get jealous, or more precisely, I’m not threatened when another guy flirts with her and she flirts back. She is very polite, but sets boundaries when a guy tries to push the flirting beyond her comfort zone. In the beginning, she would apologize to me, but I told her there was no need to apologize. In her job, she has to be sweet and charming, and at times that may include light flirting. Everyone flirts, but emotionally mature people recognize when they need to set boundaries or even end the conversation. The biggest challenge for me is when it feels like a girl has gone cold, or ghosted me. My woman always lets me know what’s going on if I don’t hear from her for over 8 hours, and she expects the same from me. It’s just having consideration for each other. Life is too short to play games. I have no problem with a woman paying attention to how I handle myself in various situations because I do the same.
To be honest, the jealousy test was tried and tested on me a decade ago Luckily for me, I was kinda watching these sorts of videos (the Phub ads, don't ask) And guess what? I just instantly started making her jealous, although it felt wrong and manipulative. It did work, she even admitted it later on when we became a couple. But I never used these manipulation techniques ever again, it just feels awful. Instead, I just hone my skills in uncovering manipulations used against me now, be it with girls or friends, doesn't matter who. Also did end up being called a psychic or a spy/mentalist often because it is easier to notice manipulations now lol
I don’t maybe it’s my age but honestly at 34 I don’t have time for these games. If you like someone you like them and if they play hot and cold then it’s next. I think if I found out that a woman was doing this stuff on purpose to test me I would be so turned off like how old are you 12? Honestly these tests don’t sound like someone healthy is carrying them out. If you find a woman is doing a jealousy test then that’s a test for you right there that she’s got issues and you need a more stable person never mind how big her yams are
You are right,it's better to be straight forward with each other right off the bat straight from the get-go than try to send each other these mixed signals like some sort of alians
These “tests” should be viewed as positive because they’re giving them to establish if you have attractive qualities like confidence, desirability and humour etc. We just see the big yams as you say and we’re attracted but women need a little more before they invest.
@@johnnyblaze9158 I get where you coming from but these tests should be rare not constant,cuz u know not everyone excels at everything,no one is perfect and before trying to find faults in men,women should evaluate themselves to see if they're perfect and are deficit in flaws
@@rezag8369 You brought up the key term: "women". Womenchildren on the other hand love these and stick with equally inmature Menchildren. Finally, men aim higher than silly mindgames and walk away from people who only have that to offer.
@@makegainz4218 very well said, very well said. The test are ways for them to mentally convince themselves they are justify. Eventually you fail at something we all do.
Bro, if a woman even tries to insult me, I would 100% leave the scene and ghost that low-quality woman. If she keeps on texting me after I left I would also call the cops cause she stalks and harrasses me. My life is too important for me to hang out with low-quality, toxic and/or stupid people. Great content btw, brother.
Lol my ex went cold on me during a road trip. I pulled over and told her she could get tf out the car and find another ride home. I don’t have time for your games. Best thing I ever did👌🏻
Great video! This actually just happened to me today, cool chick I have known for years, we recently reconnected and there was an instant attraction! Talk a few days, invite her out to lunch, cancels last minute, next day we try again, cancels last minute again. Later that week we finally get lunch and she's 30 minutes late, I'm irritated but get over it, nice date we had fun. Fast forward to today and we had been planning a hiking trip for the past week. Sure enough 30 min before shes supposed to be at my house for us to go, something comes up again. I tell her she has cancelled on me 3 times and was super late to our lunch, this isn't gonna work for me, it's not fair to me or my time. I need consistency. I have been debating back and forth on it all day on whether it was the right thing to do or not but I'm sticking with my decision. I deserve better than that.
Not only did you save your self from being further victimized by this bitch, you taught her that this kind of behavior has consequences. You've done the world a favor. Next time she meets a guy she's interested in she'll probably think twice about cancelling her date at the last minute.
#3 „going cold“: yeah sorry, if you try to emotionally manipulate me by changing your attitude towards me just to test the reaction, im out immediately. I dont know what kind of girls this guy dates, but to me thats a huge red flag. Just date genuine people.
I promise y'all. I ignored my girl because she wanted space so I gave her space. I started reconnecting to streaming on twitch and I enjoyed myself. She would be upset that I was happy without her so she decided to come back. But don't let these girls control your emotions. You're the King 👑
The other day, this girl from my college texted me about how one of our classmates was helping her in studies. I just replied with, "So? What am I supposed to do with that information?". I think that was the last test she had for me. Because, from that day, she started texting me herself and even asked me if she could do anything for me... 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for your videos man! I appreciate it.
I hate this kind of stuff and it goes both ways. If you feel the need to test someone as to whether or not you’re going to be interested than you’re not looking for a partner, you’re shopping for a temporary acquaintance. If you treat each other with respect, and communicate, you will go significantly further as a couple. Do the little things, and express your concerns. If you aren’t being listened to, or if you aren’t listening than the relationship is likely 1-sided. Love yall, just keep swimming💚
@@bela5054 that's a good thing. Unless a man is low value, no man wants an unfulfilling casual sex night. They seek out relationships. I don't know if you realise this but real life is not a nightclub
@@MrBates-le1ql Nah, if you're actually a desirable guy, you don't need all this crap. If you come across a girl whom you like and vice versa, all of this is ridiculous. Most people who watch this are simply losers who just seek justification.
I bet she tested you without you even knowing about it. Like how confident you are because that's critical information for a woman her survival may depend on it if she picks you for her partner.
Remember lads, you’re most likely going to be miserable if you get involved with emotionally immature women. The more they shit test you, the more arrogant she is (without being able to back up her claims), and the more self entitled she is, the worse of a time you’re gonna have. Do yourself a favor, and find a girl who’s at least salvageable and guide her towards better behavior by having standards. If you’re really lucky, you might even find a woman who is emotionally mature; but that’s about a one in a million shot, now-a-days. Good luck and Godspeed, gents
Thank you I'm in this relationship 9 months she tested me four out of five she never insulted me on anything. I stood on my principles & she come running back.
Sounds like the traits of a Cluster B Personality when laid out in this manner. Tests are great, ladies. But understand that the men you're sizing up, can also lose interest in you; if your insecurity makes for excessive testing. They're called "shit-tests" for a reason. Smart guys can smell that insecurity. Sometimes the winning move is not to play the game. Sometimes your juice just ain't worth that squeeze, love. May the odds be forever in your favor, gents.
I'm thinking a real woman don't test because she knows who her real man is. If a woman test a man she's weak and very childish. But she can also test her man out of love so it all depends on her.
whenever a girl tests me with the "jealousy test" i have this urge where i want to laugh so hard since i can spot it so fast. i had a lot of jealousy tests and i failed them all and whenever i see one (now) i pass it easily
i dont give a single #### what anybody else says, if you flirt with anyone else besides your SO, you are a horrible scum bag of a human being, there is NO excuse to CHEAT, that's what this is, convince me otherwise. Because if she cheats on you to "test" you, she does not love you, OR, she does not deserve love FROM YOU
The key to dealing with all these “problems”. Be a man rooted in principle and virtue. Let no one or anything sway you from these principles and good women will want you.
Yeah I've got no game with women and would prolly fail all of these tests. I guess I just ain't boyfriend or player material. I'll kill myself too if I'm like 30 and haven't found any kind of love yet. Hardly even a joke.
@@clownanonymous6174 Been 3 months since I wrote this bruh, a lot has changed for me. The biggest change I've made is that I learned how to love myself romantically. Might be what you need, too. Besides, women are death traps nowadays. I'm 31, btw. Just use all your kindness, all your energy that you were going to put towards a woman towards yourself and you'll find multiple reasons to live.
if she tries to get you jealous, that's not the one. Jealously should be an indirect thing that you yourself trigger from liking a woman that hasn't built the bond u wish with her. Once she likes you, there's no need for her to attempt to get you jealous.
Some of these tests described in the video shouldn’t be entertained by any man. Like the one where she’s giving the same energy she gives you to someone else while you are with her?! You walking away isn’t a lack of confidence, that’s a sign of self respect.
These “tests” are insanely unattractive. If she can’t do these tests in a respectful manner, she doesn’t deserve your respect either. Doing things in sneaky fashion already puts a sense of distrust, since she doesn’t want to be upfront. Ontop of that, acting indifferent and letting them disrespect you is a sure fire way that if you end up with them, they will most likely use it against you again. Shouldn’t have to take disrespect to “be in love”. And these sound like all the beginning traits of an lopsided and potentially controlling or mentally abusive relationship.
Looking back at all my failed attempts to pick up girls makes a lot more sense now. Guys trust me. Each failure teaches you a new thing. Don’t be afraid of rejection, embrace it.
Basically, just act like you don't care aka be an asshole, and that will make her like you even more. That's why nice guys finish last, and it all makes sense now.
Yes, this is the paradox. If you show her you care about her, she will never be yours. She will drift away to other guys. If you act like you don't care about her, what she thinks, what she feels, she will be all over you, it will be hard for you to get rid of her.
@@independentthought3390 we can actually give an actual shit to it but the thing is we've biased laws. But time has come we need to take the matter seriously.
@@independentthought3390 well, if the girl is like most, she’ll think you really don’t care about her...so she’ll go look for guys that do make their intentions known but still don’t overdue it’s with her
It is called mind games not tests. Woman do it because it feels good, it gives them validation having guys chase after them even though they have no intention on being with them. Women especially beautiful ones can get away with it because they have a lot of options. Men need to be confident, cold and never show emotion.
If someone’s insulted me right off the bat I’d walk away. But the reason is because I don’t want to be around a person who insults people. It’s not because of lack of confidence, it’s because of confidence in what I want
I remember even as a teenager a girl would do those tests on me; so they start young. Wish I knew about sh testing back then; I would've been a lot more successful
Me too. I remember as early as 10th grade when I got my first shit test. She was really attractive, but from what I could tell at the time was only into abuse. We weren’t friends anymore long after that.
@@Frankya92 But now that we understand it’s just a test we can pass them and be more successful in our interactions with girls. Nobody ever told me about this stuff until now
@@brahmadasbyron180 you fail to see the bigger picture , the fact that after hearing this you are still trying to win their approval , you will be failing a lot more than some basic ass immature test by little girls.
@@brahmadasbyron180 The fact that you want to pass these tests speaks volumes. You should feel insulted by them and walk away. Capitulating just validates the behavior.
@@yobogoya4367 Not capitulating no that’s not it. My point is I did not even understand I was being shit tested at the time. Now I do. And you can’t feel insulted at a woman for testing you because they do it naturally But they don’t even know they’re doing it
Simply put, spend time caring about a girl if you like her, but when she shows like she doesnt care as much, just dont care about her as well. You have your own life, shes just another human being, what makes her so special as to make you lose yourself in gaining her approval? Nothing. Throughout Your life, you need to love yourself to set the foundation, ofc that doesnt justify that you become narcissistic or treat others badly. If you truly love yourself and know how to be happy alone, you can never hurt another as you know what its like to suffer and you wouldnt want others to suffer as well. Hope this helps on your journey to seek healthy love relationships
I like reading complex sciences and hard subjects myself. I cannot keep up with women, i just dont get them. Emotions that switch by the word. Hot cold temperament it goes on and on. Does not compute
If she likes you and she pulls away she wants you to chase her. That's her way of finding out if you really want her. They also find it attractive if you do it confidently. And if you don't chase she will choose another guy who does
I never let a woman disresepect me. when a woman disrespects you, it's not a test to see how confident you are. it's her way to test your boundaries and to find out how much sh*t you're willing to tolerate from her just to keep her around. If a guy just lets her insults slide, it's not a sign of him having healthy self-esteem, it's a sign of him being a pushover. if she can say something insulting to the guy and still get away with it, she won't see him as confident. she'll see him as desparate, somebody who's probably got no options so he puts her on a pedestal. never ever let anyone walk all over you. if you don't nip that behaviour in the bud, you'll never have a satisfying relationship with that person.
We all had awkward ways on social interactions. Similar, to this video, a woman initially posted interest on my profile. We chatted. And then when I brought up the question about a date, she deflected and made an excuse about her priorities. I simply posted back if she was ever interested to post me back. And I'll be honest from my end, I most likely wasn't going to be super interested in a long term relationship anyway. Another moment in which I met a woman at a supermarket simply approached me first and told me I was cute. I was flattered since I don't consider myself that. We exchanged numbers. We had a nice first date. However, the 2nd date was awkward. We set up a date hours in advance. Upon the time, I was left hanging. When I told her what happened? She simply responded and giggled that she decided to paint her room. Surprisingly, I wasn't all that steamed although that did indeed throw me off. A few days later, she told me she has this invisible bubble around her (we all have heard of this...lol). I simply listened and was sympathetic about her personal ordeals. A few months later she called me and asked me how I was doing? I simply responded that I'm on a date with another woman. She was silent for around 10-to-15 seconds. And then she told me that I was hoping I was having a good time. A few months later, the same woman who stiffed me on that second date tells me I'm the guy she's always envisioned and she wants to be with me. I simply told her that although I was extremely flattered, I was still with the same woman I had mentioned to her when we spoke a few months ago. To a degree, she may have been a bit hurt. But, I didn't create that situation. I simply respected her decisions at that time. It sort of seemed as if she wanted to almost ruin the positive relationship I had established with this incredible woman I'm still with to this day. It was awkward because in one aspect, I felt a bit guilty about her sort of unhappiness. But I couldn't deny my own affections I found with another woman I'm fond of to this day. In the end, there is a special someone for any of us if we simply allow ourselves to drop our own personal barriers. And stop listening to so-called social experts.
If i was you i would have told her that "ok i am never going to ask you out on a date again" the moment she said that she said she decided to paint her room and stood you up. Don't even give them a chance to give the invisible bubble excuse as she broke a promise for something non important such as painting a room the paint and the room would have been there when she got back
What a modern way to start relationship by insulting each other :-) IMHO these advices are geared to online dating where narcissists dominate and these advices are mostly geared to these types, avoid both :D
Everything you said was accurate except for the chipotle analogy. Not all changes are necessarily bad, what if she convinces you into trying something new that you would’ve never tried before and you end up loving it? I just feel it is important to be open minded when it comes to that, but other than that, great video!
It seems like finding a girl to merely hold a conversation is nearly impossible. I've had several girlfriends and one night stands, but recently has been difficult.
Yep. These covid restrictions makes it next to impossible to meet girls, or new people in general. The only way now is online, which is awful in so many ways.
Well, I agree about having a high self esteem and not being bothered by small things. But jealousy induced by flirting with other guys to make one insecure ? I think that's a lil fcked up. Bcoz if a guy does d same then that wud be outright wrong in everyones view but same passes as a girl's way of testing ? I wud rather be with a girl who doesn't play such mind games but focusses on making a true meaningful relationship. ✌️
@@whatfffd Bro all girls will do this if you fuck up and sense weakness to see if you are beta and if they were wrong about you being a real man etc. Some who have low attraction will do this as a pre-qualification to weed you out if they have 8 other guys blowing up their phone from bumble, okc, etc. It sucks but is reality today. She will only not do this if she has high attraction and it won't always be the case. ALL WOMEN this applies
Now, let's start testing women in the same way, or at least do the same test they gave us soon after. If she complains, just say, 'I am just treating you the way you treated me, what's the matter? Cant take it ?'
I find your opinion to be wrong brother because the test she is conducting is testing your masculinity that's why you can't let her go through the same test because she isn't masculine,she is feminine so how can you expect her to pass in the test of masculinity
I agree with the first comment. So I will just continue on from his point. To restate what he said: They are woman. You are supposed to be stronger and masculine so don't lower yourself down on a feminine level. Also woman do not realize they're doing it most of the time. They don't say "oh I'm going to test his masculinity." Its in their biology. It's an evolutionary test. The female of the species always wishes to get the best male to reproduce with to better the species. That's how natural selection works. It's all biological. They don't even realize they're doing it. But you must not allow men or woman to get under your skin. Always keep your cool and people will respect you for it.
@@KingofNewYorkkk I totally agree that we should test her but not in her way but in our way. Men and women contribute different things in a relationship so both of them should be tested to check if they can provide what's their share(the share of their gender)
@@DylanGames1000 Yes ofcourse women want best that's why test us and we should too but in different manner then her, if she tests your masculinity and your ability to protect her and provide then you should test her femininity and supportive nature(You still are the provider and she has to acknowledge, respect and appreciate that)
Short answer: be NON-REACTIVE. It's all about "maintaining frame" etc etc. Tactically, don't reply and continue on with what you were talking about; or yes, make a joke. If your "frame" is you don't care one way or the other, you should react appropriately. When she pulls back, YOU pull back and don't tolerate bad behavior.
The number 4 that's how she would learn if you aware of her while she flirts, so she can see if in the future she can cheat on you without you even knowing.
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If she flirts with other guys in front of you then she is disrespecting you, that´s more than a red flag, if she does that she is not testing you she just belongs to the streets.
That's a major red flag. If a girl you're serious about doesn't even respect you and has the audacity to flirt with other men in front of you, just make her your side bitch/booty call and find yourself a real woman.
💯
Amen
@@Aeniva s girl was trying to do that test on me cut her off real fadt
Fax
A girl that I've been talking to pulled away for about 5 years now and even got a boyfriend. This is one hell of a test
😭😭😭I feel you
Stay💪🏽💪🏽 my Brother you're wearing her down give it a couple more years she'll be back
LoL
@@arthursutton2492 the WALL always wins !
Looool
"It might seem like she is insulting you, but what she is actually doing is testing you"
Uhm, no. What she is actually doing is insulting you, and her justification for it is irrelevant.
Precisely!
Damn straight!
Sensitive much?
For real i was like this guy is stupid af
@@miniaturejayhawk8702 simp alert
The only way to pass all the test without even trying is to not give a shit.
If she insults me I am gone. Only a guy with low self esteem will accept a insult. This video is very off, most of your videos are good.
But this would cause you to not have any empathy which would make you unrelatable and unreliable especially for reproduction, to have standards is completely different than not giving a shit
Lol I don't give a fuck and still seem to fail...
@@Isaac-kk8yz yes it is good to have empathy, but that doesn't mean you tolerate disrespect and insults.
my man
On the flip side, those "tests" can backfire. Some of us lose all respect and interest when we see signs of manipulation and games like this being played. It's a huge turn off. The man who is just as comfortable being alone as they are in a relationship neither has time for that crap, nor will they put up with it.
Well said
BIG FACTS
Women who use these tests get manipulated by players who know their game. To get a real high value man or woman, you have to be a high value man or woman yourself. Manipulative games aren't going to make up for your lack of value.
except they use it as a filter, they might regret later but in the end they're going to forget about the whole thing
Well said wes brother, bilkul sahi kaha apne bhai, greetings from india 🇮🇳
Having been around the block a couple times, I can tell you that all this "act indifferent" response is basically a band-aid for a much deeper issue. If you REALLY know what is right and wrong, if you REALLY know your particular values and beliefs, you don't have to "act indifferent", you will BE indifferent. And that is because any woman testing you in this manner is being immature and disingenuous. Once I hit 30, I just noticed what seemed to be irrational behavior of this sort from women, and I just tuned it out and let them know that I was not playing their game. The key is, it was not because I actually WANTED them to accept me, but because I really didn't want to deal with shit in my life. That's where these kind of videos lose the plot. When he says, "act indifferent, she'll actually like you because of it". Yeah, maybe, but do YOU want a girl who plays games like these in YOUR life? Ask yourself that question.
Completely agree...my 2 sisters are watching this too...have been 53 years with their husbands between them...5 kids between them...have had lots of disagreements and arguments...but never tested them....must be a modern thing...guys if ur tested, walk away...life is too short
We’ll said !
Real shit
So they what should you doo????
Absolutely. 100% manipulation. And while I get there is an evolutionary purpose to testing there very much is a line and it speaks to their character. Videos like this try to show how to pass all their tests but fail to show you that they are not the only ones that should be testing. And to much testing is definitely a red flag. If a woman needs constant reassurance that you are high value that is a clear indicator that she is disloyal and out for herself and will always have her options open no matter what you do. If you really do value yourself you would not put up with that. And this is where it falls off. What this is is a game and ultimately a way to fake something. And eventually if you are faking it will allways come out in your actions anyway. What they should be teaching is how to value ourselves so that these self beliefs are genuine and part of that is being selective on what you invest in. We are not here to be slaves to woman who over value themselves. Only desperate men would jump through all these hoops for a woman in the first place. If she wants a guy who does not value her opinion then she will get it. But it's a sign of a toxic relationship either way. These woman are playing silly games and they will win silly prizes. They just cause damage and should largely be avoided. A little testing is ok and natural but flirting with other men is disrespect and should never be tolerated period.
You're not losing her, the universe is moving her out of your way!
Best comment ever 😂😂😂😂😂🔥
Wow, what a fascinating yet logical perspective you have. I love it XD
And who could or would argue with the mighty universe? Only a fool would do that.
Just like my great grandpa always used to say: "There are many fishy octopussies in the dripping wet sea of kum island". lololol....
@@creamygoodness3828 damn, did he really used to say that
If you have this mindset you will not succeed
So true. also if a woman..oops wrong word "Small-minded little immature girl" is directing your pain to where you feel like you are being played with, then leave...Work on yourself, learn more new skills from what was already naturally Given to you, it could be, painting, Learning how to build things, or play an instrument, learn a new language. Learn how to spend more time with your self and you will uncover so many awesome things about yourself that you never knew was possible. Remember: You hold the key to your life so shine bright because Your Soul is Colourful and Your Story is Still being made every second. You do not have to impress a woman for her to like you but what you can do is share your new skills/knowledge and You will attract the right partner that was your Destiny the whole time. Where ever you are, when you are not looking for a life long female partner it will be as if she appeared out of thin air 🤝👌🙏❤💞💯
“ A man can be happy with any woman as long as he does not love her” - Oscar Wilde
Man this quote is gold, I gave my heart once, I was surprised at how many values i betrayed. It's sad but love doesn't belong in the real world
Was Oscar Wilde gay thought?
Great quote 👌
Lol yeah he was gay
@Ralph Furley This isn't entirely true, if it were, it would've applied to lesbians.
I can handle almost all of these just fine. The jealousy "test" will piss me right off, though. Not because I'm jealous, but because it's disrespectful in the extreme and I won't tolerate it. I've broken off relationships in the middle of dinners, parties, etc because I got fed up with being disrespected to my face. Never got verbally or visibly aggravated though, just told them that since she's so interested in the other guy that she can't even wait until I'm not around, I'll give them some space, and her things that I have at my place will be ready to be picked up the next day at noon.
Did they really go for other guy what was outcome
@@beasthaven1571 A couple girls I've 'dated' have flirted with other men in front of me and I left them for it, but only one of them ended up with the guy afterward. They're now married and have a kid, so I'm happy for them. The rest I guess just wanted attention and it didn't matter who they got it from.
@@forkme3165 Why would you be happy for them? What does it benefit you?
@@user-zr6pl6nb6z I'm not actually 'happy', it's just a term. I'm indifferent because it doesn't affect me at all. It was irritating in the beginning, but after years passed there's no reason to care at all, so in the spirit of being 'neighborly' I'm happy for them, in so far as being cordial is concerned. Kinda like telling someone their kid is so cute when they show you a picture. I don't give a single shit about the kid or how they look, but it's common courtesy.
@@forkme3165 I see. I'm the kind of guy who probably wouldn't even think of her anymore. I've had more than my share of manipulative women and they only get the chance to annoy me once.
Now it seems like getting a Mercedes is easier than getting a girlfriend.
Don't strive for a Girlfriend. Just work on ur game.
That's the whole point. Working on yourself is much easier. When you do that, it'll be much easier to "get a girlfriend."
It is.
Mercedes has more value too and if you buy a old one it last`s too :) thinking am going todo it to, and if i want or need sex its more easy to buy a escort"Girl-Frend Pack deal" after having money hehe :D
You get neither🤡
Ignore them.
Avoid them.
Evade them.
You have more important things in life than this petty misery.
@Multorum Unum Shaming tactics? Really? Learn a new trick.
@Multorum Unum you didn't offend you just showed simpness
Sounds like he's bitter you hit the nail on the head but it's just better to not say anything if you care about other people's feelings
@@commentainment6811 immature
Also: Never eat the chipotle!
I've had a girl do the jealousy test on me and I did it back to her simultaneously, then she gave me a disgusted look and I smiled.
Legend
Give her a Trump smile
Long story short, don’t give af and you’ll succeed
This is facts.
Not exactly to dont care because easiest and most stupid way for boooth gendres is to stop care for thing. Reject before they reject you or being cold and playing tough guy/female from the beginning of meeting and not even started so its not so correct to dont give a damn.
not carring subconsiously works it means you are high value and any woman will want you she wants you even more but if u do it to pass the tests she can see it and leave you
@@bozhidarpetrov I believe he means the mentality you have to have...DGAF! It works. Many women have skipped over romantic guys because they take it as a sign of weakness or that she already has you ...it was too easy. Somewhat depends on circumstances but If you have a date with a girl that backs out ....ok no problem....go out with one of her friends or acquaintances that you may also be interested in and don't initiate any further communication with her.
@@jowoo45 it is less common to find a woman that likes the romance, but i feel like once you do find it you should stick to it . Im a guy who usually didnt give af for a couple years and now i got this one girl who is romantic gives attention and treats me good
In reality, we are "tested" all the time by everyone!
Amen.
Unfortunately true. It makes direct communication almost impossible
Every single step of the way. 😉 Excellence is a habit.
stop caring start living!
Judged right word here not tested
2 rules:
1) Don't ever get angry with a woman. When it's done, acknowledge it and just leave. If the test happens in the middle of a date, you end that date. Right then, right there. The person who values the relationship least is the one in control of it. If you show her you'll leave if things arent the way you want them, she's less likely to test you. This is the hardest lesson to learn as compromise is normally considered a reasonable alternative when two parties disagree. The problem with that here is if you show you'll bend when pushed, she loses respect and is going to keep pushing, if she sticks around.
2) When you recognize she's playing games, don't play. Almost universally the best answer to a woman's games is walking away, and remembering to not get angry.
The one thing that woman will always be searching for is acknowledgement and attention, her games are designed to get her both. Give her neither, understand she is trying to control and manipulate you and do not allow it.
So when they go cold do nothing? That never works for me…
@@ItsCamaro3 when they go cold I'd lose interest. Going cold for a period of time is a red flag of cheating. If you give them less attention, and they do nothing to get it back (attention is currency with them), they are very likely cheating on you and like the reduced pressure on them.
Just an opinion of course, but sadly it's supported by my past experience.
@@fubarace1027 dude just make fun of them. Girls are pretty dumb in general, don't be serious it will eat you
People seek what they can never have.
I would say that the 2 rules are:
1) Don't get angry with a woman
2) Don't get angry over a woman
1. Insults you
2. Playing hard to get
3. Going cold
4. If you mow your lawn
5. Just kidding on number 4
Here’s the rest ....jealousy test....and getting you to betray what your values are! Gentlemen Good Luck out there!!
Thank you
If you mow your lawn she says: "Not again this is so noisy."
But if you wait: " Your lawn looks horrible, don't you have any pride."
BOTH are shit tests BTW :D
Thanks 🙏
@@Cratossama these are toxic tests means you are dealing with toxic women. The moment she starts doing this you need to get rid of her right away .
Is this what they call sh*t test?
I wonder how many girls could pass these tests themselves.
One in 20.
None of them.
@@malakbrood667 +1
Nun
none
Arthur Schopenhauer was right, women will always be children at heart. Those childish tests/mind games are exhausting and that's exactly why i stopped dating. I almost feel manipulated and i genuinely hate it. I don't want to drain myself by analysing everything, i have better things to do.
1. "Same to you, thanks!"
2. Don't you ever double text or otherwise persue her.
3. Go cold on her back.
4. Ignore her attempts to make you jealous.
5. Stay true to your values.
IN SUMMARY:
Stay true to yourself, and ignore all her wimpy attempts to throw you off. Whatever she does, do not ever let her get away with disrespecting you or with making you do something against your values, beliefs, or whatever you consider important.
Yaman
in other words, literally deprive all sense of emotion or any care in the relation ship, "as long as you give 0 f's. she will love you." WHAT LOGIC IS THAT!! SHOWING THAT YOU DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP MEANS EXACTLY THAT TO HER AND SHE WILL LEAVE THIS DUDE IS STUPID!
Girl: *tests you
You: *indifferent
Girl: you passed
You: sorry I'm not interested in you
Girl: ...
Then The girl Chase you and you don't him
Imagine at the part when she flirt with your friend and you step right in: “Bro that’s my bf”
*levitate*
@@Diego20081 golden
you: you belong to the streets
“How dare you use my own spells against me”
See this actually happened to me. My girlfriend insulted me, and I did get upset because I thought she shouldn't be trying to hurt me if we are together. I always tried to make her feel good about herself so I expected the same in return...but...that caused me to fail this test and that was the end of the relationship. It was odd because honestly in retrospect I should have been the one to walk away from it, however she got there first. Growing up I didn't realize that women these days actually aren't on the level of maturity as women who came before them. Since the relationship failed I have had the opportunity to meet and be with even more beautiful women then her and to meet and be with women who treated me better as well. Oh well. What do we call? blessing in disguise? I dunno
You did the right thing. Don't let them insult you, know your worth. Acting indifferent isn't always the answer.
they've been this way
My ex insulted me and I insulted her back by telling her she wasn’t as tight as my previous girl. Maybe too far 😂
If a female ever tried me in front of a bunch of people we would no longer be a couple. This is more about respect.
Exactly!
It's about faith. If you have faith in your value against others, you'd really know that whatever happens she cannot leave you. When this happens, you become more carefree and not try to restrict your girl. It's like how a caged pigeon suddenly becomes more loving and faithful when you let it go on its own.
@@MarswaggerOG you’re childishly naive
@@Aden_III what about your rebuttal? Can't just label the guy without sharing your own opinion bruh
@@archwaldo Ah, an intellectual. 👀
Put downs are a huge red flag for me in a relationship. There is no true love if she puts you down.
I agree. I don't want to be with a girl who plays games. That's probably why I'm single.
Facts 💯
Is Thanos your real name?
@Joseph Hitler real love definitely exist its just rare especially these days
@Joseph Hitler god damn you’re a fucking loser hahaha
If she’s flirting with other men around you, she’s for the streets. She’s not worthy of you
As for your girl flirting with other guys while you're around it is also a warning sign but she may not be very good for you and want attention of other men. I've experienced this. Don't tie your life and your money up with one of these.
Dealbreaker. The highest of disrespect
That’s literally not your girl anymore
To me it indicates that she's incapable of asserting her preferences in front of me, if you have a strong mind and personality, you don't try to play tricks like that on people, you know what you want and if you wanna be poly, you just say so, you see the other person opening up to you, you do the same, you talk about your needs and wants and how you see the world and assume your mentalities and actions, if you need to half ass schemes like this to test someone, it indicates that you have emotional problems, you may perhaps be narcissistic and, thus, egoistic as well, if you are strong, you don't see all of this and ignore it, you call her out for it, confront her with the facts, let her make the choice on the question of, do you want to know thyself? do you want to learn, to grow and to improve, and thus be a better version of yourself? and if she rejects all of that and prefers to play dumb tricks, you let her go, there's that special someone for you, waiting for you at the end of the tunnel so to speak, don't make compromises, assert your dominance in intellect by being true to yourself and to your values, and by expressing what you feel in a ballanced, healthy and confident way, don't act like a cold douchebag, as for the video, I can say that it works, but for getting it on with nasty girls who will not provide much if anything to your growth and life so, do as I told you, and try to be the best version of yourself.
Just dont take her seriously either then
Haha I'd be gone before she could turn around.
So to summerize the first 4 points, if she insulted you, ignored your messages, got cold on you and flirted with other men ... that doesnt mean she doesnt like you or she's not interested , she s actually testing you... can this get any more ridiculous ?
if she really didnt like you, she wouldnt waste time trying to assess your personality. girls have a lot of options, they have to weed some out so they can attract the highest quality mate they are able to
@@magicseventh9746 If she has to do these tests instead of having honest, open, adult conversations or some other healthy way to get to know you, maybe she is the one that needs to be weeded out from the guy's list of options.
@@DavidFelipe03 exactly drop her
@@magicseventh9746 lol, most of these women ain't high quality themselves. Good luck to them.
This is crazy
A girls doing this to me
And its f*cking me up
Lately I've been distracted because of these stupid tests...
She acts like this and still have the guts to look at me with a smile all the time...
Women are something else
As a woman, I don’t know about others but I’m not out to “test” people and be sly. Literally all I (and probably many other women) want is someone to put as much effort into a relationship as I do and to be honest and straightforward with their feelings rather than beat around the bush.
Thats truee, but! Dont u use those tests in the begining?
Its appauling but most women, (from my own and friends and facebook group of men talking about intimacy and relatioms) do use those..
@@avivolah9401 no, at no point to I (nor probably most other women) do any sort of tests like that. Not unless they’re manipulative and toxic but normal women don’t pull those kinds of stunts because we wouldn’t want someone to do that to us. Simple golden rule, treat others how you want to be treated.
Never heard of women consciously testing men. To me it seems just disrespectful. Also pretending like you don't care rather than being honest like it is suggested in the video is the worst advice for a relationship in the long term.
F to doubt
@@johnarcher6150 I’m not saying nobody does it, there’s 7 billion people of course there’s gonna be people that do it, but I’m just saying, NORMAL people don’t do stuff like that. Only a woman who’s toxic and manipulative would actually do that
This is what a narcissist does, an emotionally mature woman who is looking for something serious doesnt give a shit about these neurotic things.
Totally!
Honestly.
Yeah but age matters, Idt a girl would look to settle with children when she's at the age of 20. I'd say typically >26 y.o. would be a mature woman age, unless you're looking at bad woman then we all know she's not in for something awesome, on the other hand, there are quality woman
Facts!
Yes and no. Yes to the games no to not caring about these specific things. I know I care about a man I'm interested in sticking to their morals and values.
5 ways of female tests:
1. Insults you. Tests how you handle validation, how you care what she thinks about you. Show her that you don't need her validation & don't care about her opinion about you.
2. Playing hard to get/pulling away. Tests your confidence & trys to find out how investet you are in her, how desperate you act. She wants to see if you chase after her. Don't pursue her. Never chase after her. It shows her that you have no value, other options & nothing going on in your life that keeps you busy.
3. Going cold. She wants to see if she has any impact on you. If a simple girl can shift your intire frame or expose your mental weakness, how can you handle the difficulties that men has to face in life? Show her that nothing that she says or does has an impact on you.
4. Jealousy test. She flirts with other men. Show her that it has no effect on you.
5. Getting to betray what your values are. Can you keep your word, stay true to your value & believes? Be solid like a rock.
Yo this happened to me the other day
Why do women do this shit. They claim they never test etc. But this and many other TH-cam channels show what I already can confirm. Basically men are simple and play checkers girls push dudes away and play chess then whine that they are single
@@timothygibney5656 you're generalizing. There are men playing chess, and women playing checkers. Go meet some people lmao
@@jsoimn6812 tell em how it is
Since when are insults validation ?... isn't tht the exact opposite of validation ?😂
You my friend, are a life saver. Not only do I see my own weaknesses, you also give us vague ways to repair them so we are not just copying a video, and instead make our own ways. I thank you!
Ever since I was a little kid I always thought that getting into a relationship was all about being loyal to one another, sharing the good and bad things in life and love each other. Now the more I grow up the more I realize that relationships especially for us men are a constant challenge. Like you have to constantly be above competition in all terms, weather that's wealth, good looks, intelligence, everything. We are tested and compared with others 24/7. The moment I realized that I completely stopped caring about any "serious relationships" as no such thing can exist when girls offer so SO little and yet always seek the perfect human being.
Invest and Pay attention to yourselves my dudes. Girlfriends ain't worth your time.
Dude get better... it's simple, Know the rules and u will have the relationship Uve always dreamed of,
@@bela5054 "Know the rules"?. That line in itself sounded so cringy, my dude. Bela, more like, Beta. Am I right?
@@correctthatfilthygrammar nah
@@correctthatfilthygrammar what exactly is wrong with knowing what it's about?
@@correctthatfilthygrammar might just be an answer to your question
If she does these things, then guys, she isn't worth your time. She's gonna drain more energy out of you than anyone else. It's an indication that you should probably reconsider the relationship with her and if needed, go to better things and people in life.
Honest and clear communication and intentions are basis of a good and healthy relationship. Anybody, whether boy or girl, starts getting manipulative or starts playing dirty games like these is gonna cause major problems for you and your career. Just don't give anyone so much control to decide for you!
damn homie FACTS
Exactly right . I was going out with one like that . It turned fucking nightmare 💀
Well said my man. Search for girls who have clear intentions and pure at heart, those are worth it, anything else can go fuck herself. Girls who play games like these are the pettiest people ever
some of these tests are red flags, run the fuck away!
@@skdfdjkdfjkd absolutely true
I'm gonna be honest, most of these are just red-flags in my opinion. I feel like a girl who uses underhanded tactics just to screw with and "test" you isn't worth a moment of your time to begin with. Playing hard to get, throwing insults, going cold, invoking jealousy, and trying to see if you break your own values? I'm gonna be honest, that doesn't come off as just "testing." That comes off as emotional manipulation.
Personally, if a girl wants to act that way toward me, I'm showing her the door. I want to be allowed to care what she thinks of me (within reason). I want to be allowed to be jealous when she flirts with other guys (within reason). I don't want a girl who will go cold or play hard to get just to make some point. I want to be allowed to care about her, her opinion, her feelings, and her attention toward me, because I consider that a healthy part of a relationship.
Overreacting aggressively or pathetically to those "tests" is certainly one thing, but if the "wrong response" is caring at all, then it just isn't worth trying for.
*"She went from being warm and kind to acting like I ate her last chicken wing"*
That could very well not have been a 'test' but rather she forgot to take her psychotropic meds again. Seriously.
I would definitely take the last chicken wing, but if there was a drumstick, I would take that instead. I like a woman who likes to watch me eat and offers me more when I've finished.
True about the RX- most are on some prescription that alters the mind/ mental processes.
Psychotropic doesn't mean what you think it means. Weed is psychotropic. Shrooms and acid are psychotropic. E is psychotropic.
Lmao 🤣
@@AlexGreeneHypnotist You're thinking of psychedelic.
Funny most women whom “test” men with these games would fail them. If a woman does these things to you, they will always create tension in your life. Find someone whom respects you & wants to build your lives up.
I don't test people (its unnecesary), but instead evaluate their behaviour and their actions on the real life as it shows their real value.
A person who treats others badly as a test (witch means they are manipulative and don't care for your feelings), are not worth anyones time. There is no excuse for this lack of respect, as it is a red flag.
You treat me badly as a way of testing me, you ❌don't pass for me. Playing with people lives is not a joke to me.
I can confirm that . We need honest moment with our selves and make that mindsit changing and i'm proudly saying i did it ✌️
Misuse of 'whom'.
The key to pass all these test is to have an Abundance mindset 🎯💪🏾💯
If she starts doing any of these, I show her the door and never welcome her back. Life is too short to waste my time on these types of miserable human beings. I have a family to love and protect, including my friends. I have work to do, resources to gather. I don't have time for energy and time wasting female "tests".
I like someone like you
I'm 17 I just had my first ever girlfriend the one who cares about me,but she's always acting like that give me some advice pls :(
Respect G 💪
Guys lemme tell u one thing if a woman test u or speak logical that means she not into u and she has no attraction.Bcoz attraction has no test of confidence,if she's into u she will never test your confidence level.Looks matter my brother's.
(I'm experienced).
@@pillogoian9309 did things work out between you guys
I have a test. The test is to not give me a test because life isn't a game. You just failed my test.
Life is indeed a game, fellow stranger.
Try to enjoy it!
You failed your own test just the same.
@@Nubbletech
lol
@@Nubbletech Life isn't about how many times you fall. Life is about how many times you get back up again.
@@hide_and_go_sikh Guess I'm just bad at life then. But will you ever get up from failing your own test.🤔 I would just give up if I were you.
A few things. Respond to an insult with upset doesn’t mean you care about what she thinks but instead that you care and respect yourself. When I see men take on a cheek from a woman like this, I can’t help but to think he’s a wimp. Also, when they go cold - don’t chase. You’re right there. You’re wrong with what follows, there are consequences to each person’s actions. Don’t chase, but more importantly never take her back. That relationship is over but maybe she’ll think harder about doing this to another man. Jealousy. Don’t be jealous - at least don’t show her any sign of this. If she cares so little about you to try to test you in this way, you are much better without her in your life. Walk away and stay away. Never betray your values. Our lives are not subject to women’s approval.
"I don't care" is the magical answer to everything 😂
True.
But sometimes its hard not to care,if this girl is what you've been looking for...
Then she does these tests
@Billy B When she says that you can say, I didn't ask for your opinion.
DNC
insults are a cruel way to test us. I'm 48yrs old so I can pick that up pretty quickly. I simply stay in my frame as an older mature dude....but it doesn't mean I have time for it. I just gracefully smile, finish the date , be a gentleman and walk away afterwards....with grace and class boys. Never kick and scream.
Does it work and teach em a lesson any other social nuggets you have to share?
Insults are a red flag. People do not insult people if they are interested. This is the behavior of an insecure person who would most likely be either abusive or co-dependant in the relationship
You'll basically pass all these tests by not having a scarcity mindset. Be the best version of yourself. Thus you are the prize, you choose the girls... Not the other way around.
💯💯💯
Abundance mindset all the way 🤩
💯
Facts!!!!
Next video . How to test a woman to see if she is worth your time
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Forget wallet or say u lost job 😂 u will automatically get rid of her simple
The sad reality is that most men don’t expect much from a woman, and females know this. Look OK, be halfway nice, show that you care about us a little bit, don’t act like you belong in a straight jacket, etc. Really simple stuff
"How to test a woman to see if she is worth your time"
The answer: She doesn't pull any of the shit mentioned in this video.
@@rezag8369 Let me know when you find this mysterious woman? Eventually they will pull one. I bet you money past girls pulled them on you and you never even know it. Women pull this shit subtlety. Have you had a girl who was all over you then set the date and she blows you off or seems uninterested? You failed a test she pulled out of the hat and decided you're beta and out
She's playing with fire in that way.
And it could damage her..
Those kinds of tests are toxic and selfish.
You have to respect the person you love, period.
Many times, a girl really is busy and hasn’t had time to let you know. That isn’t an intentional test, but if you react with insecurity, she will register that in her mind when deciding your value to her.
The jealousy part can work the same way. An emotionally mature woman won’t play these games to test you, she’ll just remember them if and when the relationship starts to become serious. I have a woman now who never tested me, but anytime we were in a situation that fit these “tests”, after it passed, she would compliment me for how I handled the situation. Regarding jealousy, she commented that she admired me so much because I don’t get jealous, or more precisely, I’m not threatened when another guy flirts with her and she flirts back. She is very polite, but sets boundaries when a guy tries to push the flirting beyond her comfort zone. In the beginning, she would apologize to me, but I told her there was no need to apologize. In her job, she has to be sweet and charming, and at times that may include light flirting. Everyone flirts, but emotionally mature people recognize when they need to set boundaries or even end the conversation. The biggest challenge for me is when it feels like a girl has gone cold, or ghosted me. My woman always lets me know what’s going on if I don’t hear from her for over 8 hours, and she expects the same from me. It’s just having consideration for each other. Life is too short to play games. I have no problem with a woman paying attention to how I handle myself in various situations because I do the same.
Where’s book #2??
u on meth or sum
You sound like you have cuckold tendencies if you have no problem with her flirting with another man. What do you think flirting is for?
Love how it’s easy to pull girls that you don’t like because these tests are easier to pass if you don’t even like them
To be honest, the jealousy test was tried and tested on me a decade ago
Luckily for me, I was kinda watching these sorts of videos (the Phub ads, don't ask)
And guess what? I just instantly started making her jealous, although it felt wrong and manipulative. It did work, she even admitted it later on when we became a couple. But I never used these manipulation techniques ever again, it just feels awful. Instead, I just hone my skills in uncovering manipulations used against me now, be it with girls or friends, doesn't matter who.
Also did end up being called a psychic or a spy/mentalist often because it is easier to notice manipulations now lol
I don’t maybe it’s my age but honestly at 34 I don’t have time for these games. If you like someone you like them and if they play hot and cold then it’s next. I think if I found out that a woman was doing this stuff on purpose to test me I would be so turned off like how old are you 12?
Honestly these tests don’t sound like someone healthy is carrying them out. If you find a woman is doing a jealousy test then that’s a test for you right there that she’s got issues and you need a more stable person never mind how big her yams are
That is how they are. They are grown children.
@@dw4897 Lmao
You are right,it's better to be straight forward with each other right off the bat straight from the get-go than try to send each other these mixed signals like some sort of alians
These “tests” should be viewed as positive because they’re giving them to establish if you have attractive qualities like confidence, desirability and humour etc. We just see the big yams as you say and we’re attracted but women need a little more before they invest.
@@johnnyblaze9158 I get where you coming from but these tests should be rare not constant,cuz u know not everyone excels at everything,no one is perfect and before trying to find faults in men,women should evaluate themselves to see if they're perfect and are deficit in flaws
Tbh I'd leave her the second she does any of this
Then she'll be like "where have all the good men gone?"
@@JESUS_Is_KING573 indeed😅😂😂
Any self-respecting guy would. Honestly, quality women don't pull this shit.
@@rezag8369 You brought up the key term: "women". Womenchildren on the other hand love these and stick with equally inmature Menchildren. Finally, men aim higher than silly mindgames and walk away from people who only have that to offer.
@@JESUS_Is_KING573 lmao
Going cold at the most unexpected moment and the jealousy test is the most confusing and annoying thing I’ve ever experienced from a girl
the jealousy test is the woman's best excuse to cheat, either you react or not.
That's all tests are. Disqualifiers to back up excuses to back up immoral actions.
@@makegainz4218 very well said, very well said. The test are ways for them to mentally convince themselves they are justify. Eventually you fail at something we all do.
Bro, if a woman even tries to insult me, I would 100% leave the scene and ghost that low-quality woman. If she keeps on texting me after I left I would also call the cops cause she stalks and harrasses me. My life is too important for me to hang out with low-quality, toxic and/or stupid people.
Great content btw, brother.
Had a girl try to test me all the time, I said go find someone else, I want someone better
Lol my ex went cold on me during a road trip. I pulled over and told her she could get tf out the car and find another ride home. I don’t have time for your games. Best thing I ever did👌🏻
@Billy B that's why she is "ex"
Gold
Fuck Yeah! king. I'd love if my gf started to insulted me in a different country so I can say. I'm leaving you now.
@@Big-D-Luffy Huh? Are you looking for a reason to leave her?
@@tappajaav I was only kidding.
Great video! This actually just happened to me today, cool chick I have known for years, we recently reconnected and there was an instant attraction! Talk a few days, invite her out to lunch, cancels last minute, next day we try again, cancels last minute again. Later that week we finally get lunch and she's 30 minutes late, I'm irritated but get over it, nice date we had fun. Fast forward to today and we had been planning a hiking trip for the past week. Sure enough 30 min before shes supposed to be at my house for us to go, something comes up again. I tell her she has cancelled on me 3 times and was super late to our lunch, this isn't gonna work for me, it's not fair to me or my time. I need consistency. I have been debating back and forth on it all day on whether it was the right thing to do or not but I'm sticking with my decision. I deserve better than that.
Unfortunately, you should've done this since the first cancelation. However, you made the right call, now it's all up from there!
Good choice bro
Not only did you save your self from being further victimized by this bitch, you taught her that this kind of behavior has consequences. You've done the world a favor. Next time she meets a guy she's interested in she'll probably think twice about cancelling her date at the last minute.
#3 „going cold“: yeah sorry, if you try to emotionally manipulate me by changing your attitude towards me just to test the reaction, im out immediately. I dont know what kind of girls this guy dates, but to me thats a huge red flag. Just date genuine people.
Most of these tests would make me wanna move onto another girl tbh
Especially the jealousy one
We're truly very lucky to have guys like him making such content on TH-cam...
I promise y'all. I ignored my girl because she wanted space so I gave her space. I started reconnecting to streaming on twitch and I enjoyed myself. She would be upset that I was happy without her so she decided to come back. But don't let these girls control your emotions. You're the King 👑
The other day, this girl from my college texted me about how one of our classmates was helping her in studies. I just replied with, "So? What am I supposed to do with that information?". I think that was the last test she had for me. Because, from that day, she started texting me herself and even asked me if she could do anything for me... 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for your videos man! I appreciate it.
Tried to make you jealous. I'll remember your example next time I am able to get a hold of a girl. Thanks for sharing
@@kennylanqua6512 Welcome, brother. And stay strong.
Shit bro you're the best of the best😂😂😂😂🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@s-drileba8872 lol. I know
Wtf LMAOO
Every time a girl stops texting they stay that way and never come back.
They always think they found a better deal, soon they find out it's not and well... regret is a thing.
I hate this kind of stuff and it goes both ways. If you feel the need to test someone as to whether or not you’re going to be interested than you’re not looking for a partner, you’re shopping for a temporary acquaintance. If you treat each other with respect, and communicate, you will go significantly further as a couple. Do the little things, and express your concerns. If you aren’t being listened to, or if you aren’t listening than the relationship is likely 1-sided. Love yall, just keep swimming💚
I just walk away no matter how beautiful she is I will not be a test sample
Same
Thats why u wont get laid...😅
@@bela5054 Women like you are the reason men don’t want to get laid lol
@@bela5054 that's a good thing. Unless a man is low value, no man wants an unfulfilling casual sex night. They seek out relationships. I don't know if you realise this but real life is not a nightclub
I got my girl WITHOUT any of these "tests." We both knew what we wanted and the other had it, plain and simple.
One in a million
@@MrBates-le1ql Nah, if you're actually a desirable guy, you don't need all this crap. If you come across a girl whom you like and vice versa, all of this is ridiculous. Most people who watch this are simply losers who just seek justification.
I bet she tested you without you even knowing about it. Like how confident you are because that's critical information for a woman her survival may depend on it if she picks you for her partner.
@@Lightflames85 she didn't test me, it went exactly as I said. We both knew what we wanted and those "tests" are false for being needed
Remember lads, you’re most likely going to be miserable if you get involved with emotionally immature women. The more they shit test you, the more arrogant she is (without being able to back up her claims), and the more self entitled she is, the worse of a time you’re gonna have. Do yourself a favor, and find a girl who’s at least salvageable and guide her towards better behavior by having standards. If you’re really lucky, you might even find a woman who is emotionally mature; but that’s about a one in a million shot, now-a-days. Good luck and Godspeed, gents
Thank you I'm in this relationship 9 months she tested me four out of five she never insulted me on anything. I stood on my principles & she come running back.
Sounds like the traits of a Cluster B Personality when laid out in this manner.
Tests are great, ladies. But understand that the men you're sizing up, can also lose interest in you; if your insecurity makes for excessive testing. They're called "shit-tests" for a reason. Smart guys can smell that insecurity.
Sometimes the winning move is not to play the game. Sometimes your juice just ain't worth that squeeze, love.
May the odds be forever in your favor, gents.
I've passed up many who just don't know when to stop.
I'm thinking a real woman don't test because she knows who her real man is.
If a woman test a man she's weak and very childish. But she can also test her man out of love so it all depends on her.
whenever a girl tests me with the "jealousy test" i have this urge where i want to laugh so hard since i can spot it so fast. i had a lot of jealousy tests and i failed them all and whenever i see one (now) i pass it easily
i dont give a single #### what anybody else says, if you flirt with anyone else besides your SO, you are a horrible scum bag of a human being, there is NO excuse to CHEAT, that's what this is, convince me otherwise. Because if she cheats on you to "test" you, she does not love you, OR, she does not deserve love FROM YOU
The key to dealing with all these “problems”.
Be a man rooted in principle and virtue. Let no one or anything sway you from these principles and good women will want you.
IDK, all these "tests" seem like a major turn off for me. I don't wanna put up with a girl who thinks testing in some of these ways is acceptable.
Exactly
Mixed signals are the worst,just wish women can stop this
Test’s for her: 1. Make dinner for us. 2. Clean my home. 3. Don’t wear makeup today. 4. Wear your natural hair.
These games have brought me to the point of suicide many times. Then I figured out I wasn't the one that needed to die.
Jesus Christ
Yeah I've got no game with women and would prolly fail all of these tests. I guess I just ain't boyfriend or player material. I'll kill myself too if I'm like 30 and haven't found any kind of love yet. Hardly even a joke.
@@clownanonymous6174 Been 3 months since I wrote this bruh, a lot has changed for me. The biggest change I've made is that I learned how to love myself romantically. Might be what you need, too. Besides, women are death traps nowadays. I'm 31, btw. Just use all your kindness, all your energy that you were going to put towards a woman towards yourself and you'll find multiple reasons to live.
And my friends, that's how sociopaths are 'made'
Please seek help you need it for your own sake.
I was recently insulted by a girl, I’m pretty sure she likes me too.
Test passed though, I didn’t give her a bad reaction 👌
Was it an insult or a tease? Teasing is OK. Insulting is not. Sometimes its hard to tell the difference.
if she tries to get you jealous, that's not the one. Jealously should be an indirect thing that you yourself trigger from liking a woman that hasn't built the bond u wish with her. Once she likes you, there's no need for her to attempt to get you jealous.
I can pass all test, but no one is testing me
So nobody is interested in you?
Some of these tests described in the video shouldn’t be entertained by any man. Like the one where she’s giving the same energy she gives you to someone else while you are with her?! You walking away isn’t a lack of confidence, that’s a sign of self respect.
These “tests” are insanely unattractive.
If she can’t do these tests in a respectful manner, she doesn’t deserve your respect either. Doing things in sneaky fashion already puts a sense of distrust, since she doesn’t want to be upfront. Ontop of that, acting indifferent and letting them disrespect you is a sure fire way that if you end up with them, they will most likely use it against you again.
Shouldn’t have to take disrespect to “be in love”. And these sound like all the beginning traits of an lopsided and potentially controlling or mentally abusive relationship.
Looking back at all my failed attempts to pick up girls makes a lot more sense now. Guys trust me. Each failure teaches you a new thing. Don’t be afraid of rejection, embrace it.
Basically, just act like you don't care aka be an asshole, and that will make her like you even more. That's why nice guys finish last, and it all makes sense now.
They usually end up with an used product
Yes, this is the paradox. If you show her you care about her, she will never be yours. She will drift away to other guys. If you act like you don't care about her, what she thinks, what she feels, she will be all over you, it will be hard for you to get rid of her.
@@independentthought3390 we can actually give an actual shit to it but the thing is we've biased laws. But time has come we need to take the matter seriously.
If your a jerk, you will probably end up with low value women. But I understand what your saying.
@@independentthought3390 well, if the girl is like most, she’ll think you really don’t care about her...so she’ll go look for guys that do make their intentions known but still don’t overdue it’s with her
It is called mind games not tests. Woman do it because it feels good, it gives them validation having guys chase after them even though they have no intention on being with them. Women especially beautiful ones can get away with it because they have a lot of options. Men need to be confident, cold and never show emotion.
If someone’s insulted me right off the bat I’d walk away. But the reason is because I don’t want to be around a person who insults people. It’s not because of lack of confidence, it’s because of confidence in what I want
I remember even as a teenager a girl would do those tests on me; so they start young. Wish I knew about sh testing back then; I would've been a lot more successful
Me too. I remember as early as 10th grade when I got my first shit test. She was really attractive, but from what I could tell at the time was only into abuse. We weren’t friends anymore long after that.
@@Frankya92 But now that we understand it’s just a test we can pass them and be more successful in our interactions with girls. Nobody ever told me about this stuff until now
@@brahmadasbyron180 you fail to see the bigger picture , the fact that after hearing this you are still trying to win their approval , you will be failing a lot more than some basic ass immature test by little girls.
@@brahmadasbyron180 The fact that you want to pass these tests speaks volumes. You should feel insulted by them and walk away. Capitulating just validates the behavior.
@@yobogoya4367 Not capitulating no that’s not it. My point is I did not even understand I was being shit tested at the time. Now I do. And you can’t feel insulted at a woman for testing you because they do it naturally But they don’t even know they’re doing it
Simply put, spend time caring about a girl if you like her, but when she shows like she doesnt care as much, just dont care about her as well. You have your own life, shes just another human being, what makes her so special as to make you lose yourself in gaining her approval? Nothing. Throughout Your life, you need to love yourself to set the foundation, ofc that doesnt justify that you become narcissistic or treat others badly. If you truly love yourself and know how to be happy alone, you can never hurt another as you know what its like to suffer and you wouldnt want others to suffer as well. Hope this helps on your journey to seek healthy love relationships
I'm a music theory teacher, play several instruments and I like to watch physics documentaries to relax
Women can be difficult to understand.
I like reading complex sciences and hard subjects myself. I cannot keep up with women, i just dont get them. Emotions that switch by the word. Hot cold temperament it goes on and on. Does not compute
They are definition of chaos which is clearly described in math.Or white noise which is familiar term for musicians .
It is time to see a video about some test that you can apply to women. Not everyone of them is worth of your investment in time and effort.
If she likes you and she pulls away she wants you to chase her. That's her way of finding out if you really want her. They also find it attractive if you do it confidently. And if you don't chase she will choose another guy who does
Let her choose him and may the Lord have mercy on him.
“This guy is great and I am attracted to him,
but he actually listened to a suggestion of mine so he’s gotta go”
XD
Girl: Insults you
Plays hard to get
Goes cold
And then they wonder why we move on
I never let a woman disresepect me. when a woman disrespects you, it's not a test to see how confident you are. it's her way to test your boundaries and to find out how much sh*t you're willing to tolerate from her just to keep her around. If a guy just lets her insults slide, it's not a sign of him having healthy self-esteem, it's a sign of him being a pushover. if she can say something insulting to the guy and still get away with it, she won't see him as confident. she'll see him as desparate, somebody who's probably got no options so he puts her on a pedestal. never ever let anyone walk all over you. if you don't nip that behaviour in the bud, you'll never have a satisfying relationship with that person.
We all had awkward ways on social interactions. Similar, to this video, a woman initially posted interest on my profile. We chatted. And then when I brought up the question about a date, she deflected and made an excuse about her priorities. I simply posted back if she was ever interested to post me back. And I'll be honest from my end, I most likely wasn't going to be super interested in a long term relationship anyway.
Another moment in which I met a woman at a supermarket simply approached me first and told me I was cute. I was flattered since I don't consider myself that. We exchanged numbers. We had a nice first date. However, the 2nd date was awkward. We set up a date hours in advance. Upon the time, I was left hanging. When I told her what happened? She simply responded and giggled that she decided to paint her room. Surprisingly, I wasn't all that steamed although that did indeed throw me off. A few days later, she told me she has this invisible bubble around her (we all have heard of this...lol). I simply listened and was sympathetic about her personal ordeals. A few months later she called me and asked me how I was doing? I simply responded that I'm on a date with another woman. She was silent for around 10-to-15 seconds. And then she told me that I was hoping I was having a good time. A few months later, the same woman who stiffed me on that second date tells me I'm the guy she's always envisioned and she wants to be with me. I simply told her that although I was extremely flattered, I was still with the same woman I had mentioned to her when we spoke a few months ago.
To a degree, she may have been a bit hurt. But, I didn't create that situation. I simply respected her decisions at that time. It sort of seemed as if she wanted to almost ruin the positive relationship I had established with this incredible woman I'm still with to this day. It was awkward because in one aspect, I felt a bit guilty about her sort of unhappiness. But I couldn't deny my own affections I found with another woman I'm fond of to this day. In the end, there is a special someone for any of us if we simply allow ourselves to drop our own personal barriers. And stop listening to so-called social experts.
If i was you i would have told her that "ok i am never going to ask you out on a date again" the moment she said that she said she decided to paint her room and stood you up. Don't even give them a chance to give the invisible bubble excuse as she broke a promise for something non important such as painting a room the paint and the room would have been there when she got back
What a modern way to start relationship by insulting each other :-) IMHO these advices are geared to online dating where narcissists dominate and these advices are mostly geared to these types, avoid both :D
Everything you said was accurate except for the chipotle analogy. Not all changes are necessarily bad, what if she convinces you into trying something new that you would’ve never tried before and you end up loving it? I just feel it is important to be open minded when it comes to that, but other than that, great video!
It seems like finding a girl to merely hold a conversation is nearly impossible. I've had several girlfriends and one night stands, but recently has been difficult.
Yep. These covid restrictions makes it next to impossible to meet girls, or new people in general. The only way now is online, which is awful in so many ways.
@@domenicogrimaldi591 I don't think that's what he meant..
The brain is far more sexual than we care to imagine. I dont care for a girls apperance when her personality is in the gutter.
At least you've had several girlfriends and one night stands. Im still a virgin who's never even had a girlfriend and I'm in my late thrities
@@kennylanqua6512 just do you. I wouldn't even worry about relationships. Not worth it imo. Work and develop on yourself and put yourself first.
Well, I agree about having a high self esteem and not being bothered by small things. But jealousy induced by flirting with other guys to make one insecure ? I think that's a lil fcked up.
Bcoz if a guy does d same then that wud be outright wrong in everyones view but same passes as a girl's way of testing ?
I wud rather be with a girl who doesn't play such mind games but focusses on making a true meaningful relationship. ✌️
AMEN
Absolutely right. Girls who do this regularly tend to be low value , so move along.
You’re applying your rational thinking to a women so you might be wrong. Ya never truly know
@@whatfffd Bro all girls will do this if you fuck up and sense weakness to see if you are beta and if they were wrong about you being a real man etc. Some who have low attraction will do this as a pre-qualification to weed you out if they have 8 other guys blowing up their phone from bumble, okc, etc. It sucks but is reality today. She will only not do this if she has high attraction and it won't always be the case. ALL WOMEN this applies
1- Insults
2- Playing hard to get
3- Going cold
4- Jealousy Test(Be indifferent)
5- Getting you to betray your own values.
Now, let's start testing women in the same way, or at least do the same test they gave us soon after. If she complains, just say, 'I am just treating you the way you treated me, what's the matter? Cant take it ?'
I find your opinion to be wrong brother because the test she is conducting is testing your masculinity that's why you can't let her go through the same test because she isn't masculine,she is feminine so how can you expect her to pass in the test of masculinity
@@hlyeast4785 Of course men should test women.
I agree with the first comment. So I will just continue on from his point. To restate what he said: They are woman. You are supposed to be stronger and masculine so don't lower yourself down on a feminine level. Also woman do not realize they're doing it most of the time. They don't say "oh I'm going to test his masculinity." Its in their biology. It's an evolutionary test. The female of the species always wishes to get the best male to reproduce with to better the species. That's how natural selection works. It's all biological. They don't even realize they're doing it. But you must not allow men or woman to get under your skin. Always keep your cool and people will respect you for it.
@@KingofNewYorkkk I totally agree that we should test her but not in her way but in our way. Men and women contribute different things in a relationship so both of them should be tested to check if they can provide what's their share(the share of their gender)
@@DylanGames1000 Yes ofcourse women want best that's why test us and we should too but in different manner then her, if she tests your masculinity and your ability to protect her and provide then you should test her femininity and supportive nature(You still are the provider and she has to acknowledge, respect and appreciate that)
Short answer: be NON-REACTIVE. It's all about "maintaining frame" etc etc. Tactically, don't reply and continue on with what you were talking about; or yes, make a joke. If your "frame" is you don't care one way or the other, you should react appropriately. When she pulls back, YOU pull back and don't tolerate bad behavior.
The number 4 that's how she would learn if you aware of her while she flirts, so she can see if in the future she can cheat on you without you even knowing.
Stay true to yourself! 💯☝