I question the accuracy of the standardised IQ tests. I have been tested at 162 for the shorter test and 164 for the longer test. I am not sure what those scores mean exctily, but I know they are higher than the vast majority of people. The thing is, I am not at all social, feel rather stupid around others, and I am inept with forced social interactions. I can not possibly be as intelligent as the tests falsely claim.
David, if you announce you have a super-high IQ, then you likely do not have one. One who legitimately is super-high IQ would likely not be able to function in society. Not only that, they wouldn't declare IQ as a means of self-certification, followed by self-depreciation that appears relatable which takes away from the severity of you boasting about your perceived intellect. IQ is a poor indicator of practical intelligence, like Poverty is a poor predictor of crime as appose to familial risks.
I’m a 23 year old black female in Texas who also is in the gifted category, went to magnet schools but always had issues learning and connecting certain things. I would always say things I though were just honest and logical and end up in trouble. Honestly I wanted to kill myself before watching this. It’s been hard not having help when people say you don’t look like it but multiple times I have been told I probably am and was diagnosed at 2 in California. I live in Texas where there is like no help and it’s really affecting my mental health, like I’m tired of always being out of place, and wrong. I’ve been trying to get tested but it’s an endless cycle. Your video and The comment section have helped relieve some of this tonight. I don’t feel stupid and alone anymore. I feel like people understand something which I’ve never felt in my entire life. Thank you
Hi Faith, my daughter is 15 years old and I just had her assessed for the Spectrum and she’s been diagnosed as a Gifted Autistic child. We live in California too. You are not alone and if nobody has ever told you this... You’re loved, Jesus loves you and you are worth it. He has a purpose for your life. If you’re ever contemplating hurting yourself this is the number to talk to someone 1.800.273.8255... It’s to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. This hotline is for you and anyone else that might need it. May God bless you! Keep the faith, Faith...It’s a beautiful name and it has a wonderful meaning. Look it up in the Bible because God has a lot to say about Faith.
Tiera 1997 Hi Tierra! How’s it going? You’re not alone sweet heart. There’s a lot of support out here in these TH-cam streets...Lol😄 I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way, but please know that you are loved! Please feel free to express whatever it is that you’re feeling.
Also gives clarity and piece of mind. Actually helps guide you to the right places and gave me my street smarts and street credibility. Sometimes I say the streets raised me more than my own folks.
Helps lots knowing and accepting yourself, without the need to conform all the time, choices when to wear the masks required to achieve your own goals, and allow yourself time out when you overdo things without feeling guilty or not normal. Helps a lot to balance that inner turmoil, and self judgements that can be self limiting. The freedom to be just you is ok.
not in my book, its one of the things i put myself down for, even have a term i use(at least in my head) but i wont say it, dont want to insult everyone
@@katrinnajasso6668 its not inept. Its different. I was diagnosed and talked to several doctors. One day I'll make a video explaining how my best friend taught me thru it.
Lucy Bemore plenty of people with things like anxiety/ ptsd certainly are socially inept because of their mental states though... Having little control over how they behave in and read certain social situations and having to re/teach themselves how to socialise "normally". It's just a different root cause.
All the time... I'm not diagnosed, but I really think I most likely have ASD... People misunderstand me and it makes me feel overwhelmed and then I start acting in ways that come off as mean when they're just panicked...
I really appreciate you talking about giftedness with autism. That's what I get most upset/frustrated about with my own case. Being told how smart and capable I am all the time, yet not being able to get past an initial job interview even though I'm qualified for the position, takes a huge toll on my self-worth and adds on to the anxieties I have about the future. Hearing a similar struggle from someone else's mouth, with a positive attitude behind it, validated my feelings. And, I thank you for that. =)
I was just diagnosed with ASD today. My psychologist said he was kicking himself for not coming to that conclusion sooner. I have always been ridiculously shy and find it very difficult to connect with people (I have 2 close friends). I had selective mutism as a child - I could not talk to grown-ups. I would freeze and not be able to speak if they tried to confront me with something or ask me a question. I grew out of the mutism, but was still very socially awkward. More often than not, people meet me, hang out with me once or twice, then they ignore me and never talk to me again. I try to be nice and polite, but the results indicate that I regularly do or say things that people find to be rude/creepy and they repel from me. I become twitchy (rapid blinking, nose twitching, swaying/can't stand still) and my voice can get shaky. The fact that people are so passive-aggressive and indirect with their issues with you (they just ignore you and talk behind your back rather than confront you) makes it very difficult to understand what you're doing wrong. So I just could never figure out the problem. I LOVE the idea of going to a social gathering/party and having a great time. But every time I actually do, I come home feeling worthless, rejected, and even suicidal because I just can't connect with people in the way the average person can. To add, I am also not funny. I used to think I was, but my close friend and partner (who was actually the first to mention I might be on the spectrum) lovingly broke it to me that I'm REALLY not. Alongside that, I do not laugh a lot at things. Quite often, people in social events will randomly laugh really hard and hysterically at something, but I just don't understand how that is so funny... I can't even count on one hand the amount of times I've found something funny enough to laugh like that. I feel so lonely. I can know someone for YEARS, but then a new person with good social skills will come along and form a stronger bond with the person in 1 day than I could in those years. I am isolated at work because of all these issues, and whilst most of my coworkers are friendly have no real issues with me, they still don't want to go out of their way to have a conversation with me, and if they do, they treat me very differently (somewhat similar to how they would treat a child or a disabled person) to everyone else. I am horribly irritated by certain sounds; raspy voices, coughing, the "phegm" noises people make when they have a cold, and ESPECIALLY people who overenunciate their consanants or make 'saliva noises'. For this reason, I cannot STAND meditation videos, sexualized commercials, or intimate scenes in movies with a lot of kissing. Whenever I listen to a guided meditation video, I often become angry, twitch and get chills because they think it's relaxing to overenunciate every freaking consanant. And don't get me started on screaming babies/toddlers, banging pots/pans/glass/metals or sudden loud noises in general. I actually wear ear plugs when I use the vacuum cleaner and I block my ears when I flush the toilet. I have never felt normal, but I never felt legitimately disabled either; I am basically too weird for the normal people and too normal for the weird people. I am completely alone. I have been kicking myself for YEARS, because no matter how hard I try, I just can't feel a part of anything. I can communicate one-on-one with a lot of people, but the second a third (or more) person joins, they connect with each other, I can't connect with them, and it becomes a two-way conversation and I am just standing there awkwardly while they chat; they won't even make eye contact with me, even though I am standing right there trying to join in, they only look at each other. I feel awful and alone, but I'm so relieved that I finally have an answer and can start fixing the problem.
Hey, i relate a lot about the paragraph on sounds. If i have to be around sounds without a break, like in a city, i get very upset, i sometimes cry, having a temper tantrum. I started this day's questioning because of seeing the word 'p*rn' and becoming very upset about it, and wondering why i hated anything sexually suggestive, at my boyfriend's family party some girls dancing appeared on the tv and i immediately felt a whole lot of tears coming and then walked away to cry a LOT to myself. Then my thoughts led me to how i never seem to "get it", along with other things, and how i can emulate a normal personality but then i feel like i'm in another body and i still don't seem to truly get it like others do. I have a sister with autism though as far as my family knows, it was caused by the umbilical cord around her neck at birth, not genetic. I feel myself wishing i had the diagnosis of autism so i can finally explain what is so weird and off about me. I also could not make any sort of eye contact as a child and younger person but i've always been aware of myself and questioning, and curious & empathetic towards people because they've always been the biggest mystery. I feel like i'm capable of learning and having skills but around people it feels like i lack access to what i know. I'm afraid of streets, i feel like people are watching me, i'm afraid of hearing a knock at my door. These are things i can think of at this moment. I also overshare and what i say doesn't make people respond in a way they do to others, they don't seem to follow what i say sometimes. I relate to a whole lot that you've said and i hope that brings you comfort in some way
Also, i can be confident around people, but it's different, i get excited and giddy and i feel like i act like a child but i entertain people and let people laugh at me and that makes me feel accepted, so i think that's why i act like that
Yes. I have the same problem where I don’t find a lot of things funny that most normal people do. That was incredibly isolating growing up. So I would fake laugh to fit in not understanding that people could tell I wasn’t experiencing the feeling and then people would call me out on it and ask why I laughed “like that”. I was in a group therapy session and I asked everyone how they made friends and what made someone want to stay friends with another person and I legitimately got strange looks. It felt like the air being sucked out of the room. Every time I try to fit in, it falls so incredibly short. I’m fairly certain I’m on the spectrum (my ex was).. I’m going to speak with my psychiatrist about this and see what he says. It would explain a lot.
I think I'm autistic, but my parents refuse to accept the fact that one of their children could have anything different about them. Like my older sister obviously has it very badly, and they're still in denial.
Omg im so sorry you're in this kind of family. I don't know what kind of advice tø give. But depending on your age and her age you two can try and see a doctor on your own tø get help. Best of luck tø you both hun!
@@AlwaysTimo NOT necessarily. It is sensitivity to just about ANYTHING. Such as aversion to feeling the air brush across your skin when a fan is blowing. Wind is one thing..not an issue. BUT the centralized feeling of a fan blowing directly on the skin feels unbearable. Having too many people in the room talking loudly and constantly moving about around you while you are trying to pay attention to just one person. Same scenario but trying to read a book, watch tv, hell trying to DO or ACCOMPLISH anything. Then having to LITERALLY REMOVE MYSELF FROM THE SITUATIONS, NEVER USED FANS, AVOIDED THEM IF POSSIBLE, DIVERTED THE FANS.I always thought it was just "too busy"/"too much chaos" and everyone felt that way. Come to find out it is AUTISM.
I'm an aspie and no one believes me because I'm "too normal" but they don't know how I am on the inside. I have so much trouble finding friends that put up with my crazy interests and quirks, and it's so depressing. I shake and twitch a little bit when people talk to me and lately it's getting worse as I've become more isolated. I'm forcing myself to go to a party and participate in a debate at my college so hopefully I'll become as strong as you.
Fuck those ableist posers, they wouldn't even know what "normal" was themselves if they saw it at the bottom of the 100 proof vodka they drink every Saturday night....... I'm Aspie too, so I know what it's like to get visibly shaken at the slightest threat or misconception, but in the end I'm the one who makes those fools twitch when I tell them they're no different. Come with me to a party and anyone who looks at you or judges you wrong I'll verbally shake them down in a heartbeat with my newfound confidence, it'll get so bad that they'll be walking out of that spot with wet pants and their dicks in their hands....... 😂😂😂😂😂 There's nothing wrong with you having your own special interests and quirks, they're probably ten times better than the vague, overrated, overglorified notions that other people seem to have about themselves and that they put about like dogs across the carpet. Television is fucking horrible, and so are the sycophants that they advocate, they should sell them and get themselves some retro gameboys, at least they have more platform and definition. Don't even trust friends, even they might be just as condescending if they don't already know your truth, the only true friend you can rely on is yourself. Self-respect and necessary silence never betray, take it from me.
Hello Victoria, ive got AS too, but fortunate for me i like to be alone and do stuff by myself, but i know what your mean, parties are boring, there is much more what you can do instead of just drinking. A couple of days before i was sitting in a Bar with friends and where talked until 3 in the morning about science and there and my topics. What i want to say is, your not alone. And if you just want to talk, write me. Greetings, Martin.
Thanks for this! I am also a female with autism and can really relate to what you are saying. I’m a normal looking person so none of my friends or relatives believe me since I only let the symptoms show at home in a safe non judgmental environment. That whole not being properly understood thing has kind of overridden the awesome effects that finally having this diagnosis has had. Instead of being relived that I can better understand my behaviors and know that there is a community of people I can relate to, my friends and family make me feel more alienated than ever. I have been trying hard to find other autistic females (especially who appear normal like me) but it’s so hard, as many women don’t know that they are autistic in the first place. THANKYOU for putting your story out there, it brings me a lot of comfort 💗💗
Me too. I want to get out of the neurotypical world. I really want to do it but i just couldn't. I feel very lonely because none of them understand me and i don't understand them.
I found out this week no body would believe me except other neurodivergent people so I find comfort in them or books written by autistic authors. neurotypical people don't get it generally.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m 21 and have just been diagnosed and I always felt like an outsider and thought I must be the only one that experiences these things, but as you highlighted not “looking autistic” can make it feel pretty invalidating when others don’t understand the spectrum and I’m so relieved to hear another girl talking about this and feel peace that I can relate to someone out there on such personal and specific things. The right label takes away the fear of the unknown!
Holy. Moly. You have no idea... or maybe you do... how this video affected me as a 36 year old... who has just watched a video of someone basically describing my life... and my struggles. Now... to find someone to take me seriously and assess me. All this to say, thank you for making this video.... Thank you so much.
Love your video. I have an 11 yr old son with Asperger's and a 6 yr old daughter who was diagnosed with severe Autism. My daughter although she is very severe does not look like it all. The only thing is that she doesn't talk at all. People are always confused because my son talks and then when they approach my daughter she just stares and smile. Then I have to explain that she has Autism and the first thing people say is "she don't look like she has Autism". What does it look like, is always my response.
Natural Vegan Mom Im not going to tell you that you should worry. But be aware of milestones your child should be reaching. My daughter didnt speak either at 2. When she was almost 3 and not speaking that is when she was diagnosed with autism. I wish we had her evaluated sooner so we could have gotten help and support earlier. She ended up speaking a few words when she was 4.5. Now she is 10 and wont stop talking. lol
When you said that you always struggled with the fact that you knew you were capable of high achievement but you just couldn't seem to ever make it happen...I felt that so deep. I know for a fact that I have Aspergers but I've been dismissed by doctors my entire life so I'm just really scared to go to my doctor for a referral, with the possibility that they are going to laugh in my face and imply that I've been reading too much "Dr. Google" I wish doctors would say in their biographies whether they are very knowledgeable on the presentation of Aspergers in women. It would so much to me to get an official diagnosis but even more so, I suspect my daughter may be on the spectrum as well so I just thought that I would get the confirmation for myself first and then I could feel valid enough to put her through all that testing as well.
Look up the formal diagnosis criteria for the country you live in, then go along and just say stuff that ticks all boxes, which is how how doctors typically operate IME. This is how I got mine in the UK (socialised health system). Or if you have the means you could just pay for a private diagnosis.
I thank you for putting up this video. Ever since I was born, I always wondered why I wasn't as social, talkative or extroverted like other kids. I was always quiet, shy, bashful, introverted, and nervous around new people I don't know. Or I'm just plain like that in general. I'm also very antisocial and I'm always alone and I never understood why throughout my childhood. Funny thing is, it wasn't until I was 15 that my parents, my teachers and my doctors finally revealed I, indeed, have Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD.) My parents explained to me at one point that I was diagnosed with Autism when I was much, much younger, but I never really known of it until I asked them why I'm so shy and quiet and antisocial and to which case, they told me I'm Autistic. The thing is, I have Mild Autism, which means impairment in speech, confusion in sarcasm, avoidance of eye contact and etc. And I was constantly picked on, teased and bullied alot from elementary school to high school because of it. Because I was "Different" from the other kids in those schools. I looked down at myself constantly because of my flaws and my weaknesses from what my bullies and the other kids told me in my past and also current day. But luckily enough, I'm working on ignoring the negativity shot towards me and both my parents have reassured me that I'm not the only person in the world going through this. There are some of my favorite actors, musicians and other people who I heavily admire in the world that has Autism as well. That brightens my day every time, and also does so now that I have checked out this awesome, super helpful video about you explaining your Autism symptoms and ones I can very personally relate to. It warms my heart every time. And for that, you earned a new subscriber. Thanks for this video I can relate to. You're a very down-to-earth person and I look forward for more uploads from your channel. :D ~ Devin Moss, from Texas
Thank you for this video. It came up on my recommended feed two years ago and was the video that made me realize I was autistic. I got my formal diagnosis a few months later, and while I still struggle with work and social interactions, the awareness has allowed me to be kinder to myself and to advocate for my needs.
I'm looking for the diagnosis now too. I felt everything you said! I am crying because I knew the whole time I was on the spectrum and grew up with a non compassionate family who told me I was stupid and lazy. This finally makes me feel seen thank you. I am going to the doctor I don't know how to go about this but just knowing his makes me feel so much more compassion for my younger self why I couldn't be like everyone else. Thank you
Btw, you did an amazing job at explaining all of this so eloquently, in so much detail and in a way that could be understood.. really appreciate that!!
Ah now, the gifted thing makes so much sense. That's why I feel in such limbo in life. Brings to mind a Beach Boys lyric, "They say I got brains, but it ain't doin' me no good." While I may be somewhat attractive, talented and intelligent, my horrible social presence and interactions keep me from obtaining more of the life I want and always dreamed of even before I found Autism inside me. I never got a professional to take it seriously yet. And besides also not being treated for childhood (and lasting) trauma I was treated for all the wrong stuff in mental healthcare. We have a similar story. I hope you're well!
I fight every day because of my "inadequacy" and I just want to say that I can relate to your story and feel amazing connection with you. It is so great to be understood when everyone judges you from their own subjective perspective. I love you and all people commenting here, you are all wonderful and deserve respect and love :)
I always felt different and like I was “broken”, when I was growing up. My mom once made fun of me for not knowing how to talk to people but I didn’t understand why she would tell me that. I always felt soooo alone...I know in my heart that I’m in the spectrum. I don’t feel broken now. I just feel like this is who I am. This is me and I feel like I overcame a hurdle. ❤️🤘🏼
OMG, SO did I! I didn't think I could be high functioning Autistic, but after reading the symptoms in 2011 on WebMD, and then getting diagnosed in 2012 with Asperger's Syndrome... Man! It was the biggest relief in the world, but SO frickin' surreal. I am SO glad you got officially diagnosed! 💕
Autism is very hard to diagnose in women. And unfortunately a lot of women like you suffer until their adulthood for a diagnosis. I was in the exact same boat as you . My diagnosis just never seem to fit my characteristics until I turned 16I was finally diagnosed on the spectrum. It's such a relief to have a name for the struggles I suffer with every day.
Hi Kelcey - Age 59, male - just diagnosed ASD 2 months ago. It's a lot to absorb for sure.. but I think I can assume that this "key" has had a profound impact on your life too. Count your blessings that you know at a younger age. It made me feel complete in many ways, to know that I'm on the spectrum and this was at the heart of a part of my self identity that was always missing. Wishing you the best!
My ASD Journey What’s the point of getting a diagnosis ? It’s expensive & what do you gain from it ? If you’re Austin you know you’re you can read the symptoms on the web, why do you need a price of paper from a “ psych” to agree with you, to make it so ?
I have ADHD and Autism and I appreciate that everyone in my family is ok with it. Some of my friends have Autism and their parents will never accept it.
As it’s largely genetic parents will often be in denial as it would likely involve having to examine themselves at a fundamental level, which most people avoid
Hey Kelcey! I was so happy to come across your page. I work with autistic students, and I absolutely love what I do. And you’re absolutely right on with your explanation! Thank you for making a video like this, I believe it’s important that more people know about Autism, and how beautiful it is. With all my love❤️
You are amazing! Good for you for being your own advocate and getting tested!! I have a daughter that has so far been given the diagnoses of "twice exceptional" with giftedness, dyslexia, language/speech issues, and some sensory issues. She is "social" and also pretty athletic, so I have always dismissed the possibility of her being on the autism spectrum due to these characteristics! I appreciate this video and will keep this in mind in the future if she continues to have troubles! Thank you!
Omg. You have make the room drop around me listening to your symptoms and panic attack gestures/movements and I feel like I’m right there with you. I’ve been diagnosed and treated (~12yr-now as a 30yo) with ADHD, massive depressive disorder, generalized anxiety/panic disorder and never felt, free. I’m going to do more research and see what I can do. THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU!
@@catherinebradshaw3519 aspergers doesn't have a face when I meet people for the first time and I say I have aspergers they are usually shocked as I come across as normal as I learned how to function in social settings it not impossible it just takes times and a lot of practice.
@@ScreamingReel500 it actually is as it helps people express themselves for example people could trade tips with one another for time managment skill or how to look someone in the eye while talking things like that. Aspies help other aspies.
Aspergers is like acting in a movie everyday of your life, but you dont know what character your supposed to be. Im 40 years old never diagnosed but i know what i struggled with when i was younger and to a certain degree deal with today. Just because someone is social doesnt mean theyre not screaming inside with anxiety you just learn and train yourself to get threw those awkward social interactions and overtime you can mask it very well
I appreciate you so much for making this. I'm in my 20s (F) trying to get diagnosed.. There are not a lot of resources where I am though, and I've called about 5 different places (Dr., hospital, psychiatrists, places all those people referred me to) and no one has been able to assess me or know where I can even be assessed. It's frustrating but I'm not giving up because it's my life, and like you said it feels good to finally know and find the label that fits. It's all about growth and you need to understand what you're working with to grow!
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve known I’m autistic but after hearing you describe being twice exceptional it helped me really think about it and realized what it really feels like. I’ve always felt like my mind was moving so fast and my body couldn’t keep up ever. I almost skipped grades and had a high reading level and was in top percentiles for learning and comprehension but i never felt like I could do the things I wanted to do. Because of this video, I feel as though I understand why I am the way I am and I wouldn’t have ever connected it without this video. Thank you so so so much
thank you for making this video because I felt like you were explaining my own life to me. I have been dealing with the obvious signs that I might be on the spectrum and then thoughts of me just overreacting and faking it. This helped me to accept what I know deep down more, and so, thank you for that.
Kelcey, thank you for being so open and sharing your story. So great! So relatable. I'm studying a Masters of Educational and Developmental Psychology and I am learning to help people find out if they have autism, usually with younger kids. I loved hearing about what your journey is like as a young woman. I learnt as much from you as I have from any lecturer or professor :)
I’m 35 years old and I got diagnosed with autism, adhd and bipolar disorder a month ago. I always knew there was something ”wrong” with me but never got any help. It felt like no one took me seriously. Now im finally at a place where I can see happiness and I can be the mother my son deserves.
Wow, this is so similar to my experience too. I was just diagnosed yesterday at 27. Was overly misdiagnosed as a kid and became so jaded to labels. A chain of events including a TH-cam vid led me on the journey to discovering this about myself and yea it makes all my struggles make sense. Thanks for sharing!
Myself, growing up actually for most of my life I saw myself as less than related to having Autism. That only changed within the last half year. For years I used to hate my brain. Now, I’m happy as hell for my mind the way it is. I’m glad I am Autistic. It’s given me the freedom to be unapologeticly me. I know I would not have half the fire in my soul if I didn’t. I also don’t think I would have the protection against and such an aversion to conformity and bullshit ie social games. 6 years ago I didn’t even know how start a conversation. Nothing at all came naturally, not even the inflection in my voice. Nothing social. September 2012 I made a promise to myself that I wanted to turn over a new leaf and understand people and anything and everything social my very first day when I went to college in Olds where I studied business administration. I remember back in highschool sitting with classmates at lunch talking in group conversation. I wanted to join in, but I didn’t know how so I stayed quiet. I thought if someone was nice to me they were my friend. I didn't understand anything about how friendships worked. In highschool I understood math better than people. Most days I just went to school and went home. I didn't even go to my fist highschool dance until grade 12. That was scary and awkward for me. Most of my life, I was a huge people pleaser and just wanted other people to like and accept me because I didn’t like and accept myself. I forced myself to do things that made me uncomfortable which was anything and everything socially related, and making myself be the first to initiate conversation and if things went well ask to exchange numbers. Someone has to initiate, or connection never happens. Now after relentless and constant practice, I do now without much thought, whereas years ago I had to think quite a bit and wasn’t sure and didn’t understand. I didn’t understand sarcasm, a lot of jokes, or a lot of non verbal cues. Now, I actually enjoy starting conversations, and have no problem leading if the other person starts to run out of things to say. I enjoy talking to people, and more so only surround myself with people who like me for me. Kelcey knows me and sees me as the outgoing and outspoken person I am now. That only happened very recently. I know not everyone is going to like me and that's ok. At the end of the day, the most important opinion of me is the one I have of myself. The most important thing for anyone in life is being true to the core of what burns within their soul. Nothing else matters. The people that judge anyhow are really just projecting their own insecurities. Secure people don't do that. They lift others up because they are completely comfortable with themselves and want others to feel the same because we all deserve to be. You never know what someone may be dealing with, that's why I like to be kind. Holding a door open or a random compliment from a stranger can change someone's whole day. Hate is literally like a poison that you drink hoping for the other person to die. The best and healthiest revenge is to improve and empower yourself in a way that makes you happy, not to please others. It is our differences that make each of us beautiful and who we are. I’m glad I had to work for my social skills. I appreciate them more, and you know what they say... hard work trumps talent where talent doesn’t work hard. I’ve actually had many people tell me I’m more socially aware than most people not on the spectrum, even people who have known me for years. I worked damn hard for that, and am very proud of that. At the end of the day though, it doesn't matter how people validate me, it matters how I internally validate myself, and that goes for everyone. I finally became happy with myself when I finally started to let go of the people pleasing which is a never ending road to hell. Life is short, and I believe the purpose of life is just to live it to the fullest in however that looks to you and being true to yourself. Emotional intelligence, social awareness, compassion, empathy and understanding are the most important things in life to me. I’ve seen how damaging lack empathy and social awareness can be. Of course, there are many people not on the spectrum who are and can be socially unaware. I grew up with a family member like that. That's what I mean when I say I've seen how damaging lack of awareness and empathy can be, especially close mindedness. It just is different for someone on the spectrum. We all have challenges, it’s part of being a human being. No one's challenges are better or worse than another’s. Just different. Despite mine growing up, I wouldn't trade me for anyone. I’m aware of the social games people play, I just don’t play them. I strongly believe you can be direct, while remaining tactful and being considerate to another’s feelings. Tact is extremely important to me. I’m passionate about many things, but one of the most is autism awareness. Hence my billion comments lol. Anyway that’s more about me and I love sharing my own thoughts and experiences regarding autism. Autistic and damn proud of it. Amazing video once again. I have lots to say lol especially regarding autism. I'm not at all surprised in the overflow of responses in the comments to Kelcey's take. I'd honestly be more surprised if there wasn't. Anyway, that is my take. I enjoy sharing, and I hope any of my personal takes helps anyone else who is reading the comments. Peace and love everybody!
Thank you! I also have an incurable chronic pain condition called fibromyalgia that I beat. Not with drugs or covering the symptoms but doings complete diet change. At my worst, I swore to myself that if I could overcome my chronic pain that I could do anything. I have, and I will. My pain is barely anything to a zero, something I thought for a decade was impossible.
Kathryn Rhodes hey Katheryn! Do you have Instagram? Give me a follow (@alphalogic_)! I’d love to talk to you as I believe I am autistic and would love a little nudge in the right direction to get a proper diagnosis. I was suicidal until recently because I felt no one around me understood me and heading this stuff makes more sense to my lack of social awareness!
Hi Kelsey, Great to listen to you and hear it from your perspective. I have a daughter with ASD1. A brilliant mind and a caring soul really under the anger and meltdowns she has. She had been best served by a very carefully administering daily medications, to reduce anxiety and improve concentration. I too sought diagnosis and came out with neuro-diverse, which really just means that I can relate well and do suffer some of the symptoms too. Especially under stress or strain emotionally. Recognising these traits in myself creates empathy for others on the spectrum, it also intruiges me and I want to learn more about it. All the best with your videos etc and of course being gentle with yourself, it really helps.
i’ve known my whole life that i was different to my peers, telling myself i just had a lot of social anxiety and similar things, but i’ve never been brave enough to go to a doctor with my issues. i don’t know exactly when i first thought of ASD but it’s definitely something i’ve considered for a while but always been hesitant to research it too much. in more recent years i’ve started showing symptoms of ocd and it’s getting progressively worse, i did some research around this (as it’s coming to be a big part of my life) and found that ocd can be a part of ASD and it makes sense. so i continued the research, and relate so much to masking and feeling as though i’ve never fit in socially but have just been “pretending”. in the last year i’ve started working at a primary school where i see many children going through the process of diagnosis, and now i can’t stop thinking about it for myself. i know it fits and i’m almost certain it’s what my struggles have been my entire life, but i’m so anxious to visit the doctor. i went the other day for something completely unrelated and worked myself up enough to mention to the doctor, simply asking how I could go about getting a diagnosis for something like ASD, and he just replied saying that if I did have autism, I’d have already known about it. which I HAVE known, even if i didn’t know it by name as a child. i just feel so discouraged to go again, even with another doctor, because i just feel they’re going to say i don’t have it because i mask my social issues so much and don’t “look” autistic
Thanks for sharing your experience. I, too, was diagnosed with ASD as an adult (earlier this year), and your story is so similar to mine. It is so validating to know that I'm not alone.
It is so helpful when other people share their stories. Thank you so much. A couple months ago I have recently got diagnosed with autism, which makes so much sense now, but to be honest, it is still frustrating at times dealing with it.. it feels like a constant battle just to make one friend..
🎉 congratulations 🥳 it’s a great thing to get the diagnosis that fits and you can understand yourself better and get help where needed x and acceptance is important too. Good easy on yourself
Within the past 6 months I've been coming to a realization that I am autistic, looking back now there has always been a non verbal disconnect in my life. People have always implied that I was different and suggested that I should be segregated from certain groups and situations. I always blended in as a kid but never knew what the elephant in the room was. I've had people make comments about me, they call me slow and stuff. I am very clumsy, I hate the fact that I fit the stereotype as far as cornering and balance. When you see me I may seem very callous and unemotional, but this is normal for me I need stimulation go emulate emotion. I just got medical insurance and I am working towards getting help, a diagnosis would help alot right now; mostly by getting rid of the uncertainty I know I am different, i just want people to understand. The biggest shock was realizing that I had been stimming my whole life, eye contact isn't that uncomfortable for me, my problem is inappropriate eye contact either looking too long or not blinking comes off as a stare and naturally bieng aspie my eyes are a little eccentric people think I'm some kind of psycho or something lol.
Hey Kelcey, I’m so glad you were able to get the appropriate diagnosis. I was diagnosed three years ago at age 43. It was not just a huge relief, it was a fundamental shift in how I related to myself. I almost attempted suicide when I was 12 because of how alienated and alien I felt around anyone else, and like you, I’m also in the “gifted” category. My intelligence was a huge help balancing off my autistic traits, or really, helping me learn to mask and cope to a certain extent. It’s like how a good portion of my autistic traits can be grouped into Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and ADHD can be in a positive feedback loop and help me really cope and mask, or negatively feedback and take me to extremes of my autistic traits. But now with the diagnosis of “high functioning autistic”, I don’t necessarily feel the need to put in the energy to mask a lot of my mannerisms, so I end up with more energy to cope and I much more forgiving of myself for things like missing social queues and ask people to be direct with me, as an example of helping others accommodate me. Plus I have found people in my life are more comfortable around me because they appreciate my literalness, directness without meanness, and ability to focus on them to the exclusion of anything else going on around us. It’s a nice change to be “the autistic guy” instead of the previous “weird hyper-intelligent asshole”. Self-advocating just to get diagnosed is incredibly important, but doesn’t stop so that you and those around you can understand the why and how of you and your unique expression of autism. Hope you’re doing great and taking care of yourself, now and always!
Jeez, now that I have a daughter who I was researching for, I have been running across all these videos over the last few months and am in a similar boat to you. Fist bump for solidarity my friend. 👊🏻
Lynn, Thank you for sharing your story. It makes me think of my beautiful daughter who is also "Twice Exceptional". She is Autistic and Gifted. I feel like the most blessed mother to have been given her as my daughter. I want her to have the healing that comes from being officially diagnosed with Autism. She was tested for Gifted when she was 9 years old and that helped our family so much to understand her needs more. I want to be able to learn more about Autism and her needs. Thank you again for sharing.
I love how you spoke about this in such a public way. Quite honestly one of the most captivating TH-cam videos I've ever seen. To everyone reading this my name is Kathryn, and I also have Autism. I actually know Kelcey a bit. What a wonderful person. Autism to me personally isn't a disability, but merely a different way of thinking. We all think differently. The world needs all kinds of minds. If we all thought the same the world would be boring as hell, and I guarantee you we would still be living in the dark ages. I love anything to help autism awareness and anyone's preconceived notions of it. What an amazing video Kelcey. Kudos to you girl. And I agree on the labels thing. Labels can be negative but they can also be positive if it helps one understand themselves. Anyway Kelcey I so love your own thoughts on this, and you have a knack for story telling by the way! I can't emphasize enough how much I love this. You go girl!!! 👊👊
I dont have what you speak of, but I watched you and read the comments. I'm blown away at my ignorance of everyone's struggles. I dont know what normal is anymore because everyone is dealing with something. But thank you for sharing and all the best to you and blessings to everyone.
Knowing the (correct!) reason is powerfully liberating. The positive aspects can be used more and the negative can be counterbalanced. The joy you feel by finally (!) knowing “why” is obvious. I’m so blessed to have watched it.
Everybody is different, even within a community. It's just a relief to know. I want the diagnosis to get the right help. But personally I'm just more relieved. Like, finally my life makes sense. I had to think back on that skimming thing. I didn't think I did that either and I can't really remember any particular moments except sever thunderstorms. I always thought I was having a mental breakdown or something. Oh! I just remembered I did that a lot in college... 🤔 Something to think about. Anyway, thanks for sharing this. It's nice to know I'm not completely alone and completely weird. 💖🙏🏾
Yay!!!! Good on ya Kelcey! You're helping blaze a path that people like me can follow. I've just self-diagnosed this past week. I'm a 45 year-old man who was diagnosed with dyslexia as a child. I received Sensory Integration Therapy for two years and my IQ shot up so they put me in the gifted classes, but I usually got C's. I berated myself worse than my parents did for my underachieving, all the way through college. Some years after college I got a diagnosis of ADD and a prescription to go with it. I was soooo grateful for the help and the label. Now I find myself in the same position, except on a much bigger scale. I might still doubt it if it weren't for the specificity of some of the markers. (Prime examples.....thought my hearing was clinically bad, got it tested, nada. My eyes track towards license plates in an effort to track patterns. Friends don't return my calls......the truth hurts, but maybe less so now.) Ha, now that I think about it, my Dad used to rail on me about eye contact. I couldn't put the effort in at school but I can rattle off the names of actors, directors, etc. I'm still soaking in what this means. Random memories pop up, I examine them now through the lens of Autism, and feel enormous relief. Through the lens of Autism, my dumpster fire of a social life has some explanation to it. (Not the least of which is being honest about the situation. How much energy have I spent staying in denial of the rejection strangers and friends regularly heaped on me.) Beautiful catharsis.........................I'll try and check back later with an update. Thanks!!
Sometimes I have a hard time getting my words out and in stuttering but when I'm thinking about something I'm able to put pieces together in my mind I was in special needs for most of my life
I'm in the same exact situation guys you aren't alone. We are so much smarter than we get credit for! I've never met better people than people diagnosed with asd. We have so many beautiful parts of you. Don't give up.
This video was the catalyst to my seeking an assessment, thank you so much for being open and vulnerable. I also feel like you have explained so much that I can't to my family that I have actually used it as a means of explaining to the aunt who tells me it's not possible.
You're doing you very well. I'm 42 (in uni) and have always worked etc. It has only been the last few years I've expected I have autistic traits and my doctor wife agrees. My father also has a rare form so it's likely. Personally I don't feel I would benefit anything from having a label so I haven't been formally diagnosed. Basically I'm saying there are probably lots more people out there that are autistic in some way and don't even know it. Keep being you, you're 1 in 7.5 billion (Aprox)
Thank You for sharing this as you are definitely helping others like yourself come to an understanding and healing. I grew up Dyslexic and had amazing hardships in schooling and it wasn't until my late 20's until I found about my learning disability. Like you my brain over compensated so it was "hidden in plain sight." Praying you find many blessing on your healing journey.
Your video was very enlightening! I'm looking forward to more videos, for example about your most outstanding symptoms. I have a hard time at social events or chatting. Toby is so cute! Take care 😁
Thank you so much for this! My 3 year old daughter was recently diagnosed with autism and I am trying to learn as much as I can to try to be able to communicate with her and understand enough to help her. There is so little known about autism with girls (especially 3 year olds as most girls are older when they are diagnosed). She has an amazing SPED preschool teacher, but without that degree myself, I feel like I am not doing enough at home. Thank you for being an inspiration.
ive been thinking about it for 3 years now (or maybe more, my memory is absolute shit) and i wanna get a diagnosis but idk how and i dont feel "autistic enough". Thanks for sharing your story. It wont make me do anything right now but maybe 30 more of these kinds of videos and i might pursue a diagnosis. or not. bye
Yeah i went to a doctor and she told me im not autistic. She didn't get to know me at all though, it was just one conversation and i didn't check the right boxes to be diagnosed. But im just trying to treat all my problems individually now and if theres an underlying cause it doesn't really matter to me
@@nixdortundnixda got it, dam that's a shame but as long as you know that is the most important and there is becomming a stronger autistic communion here on TH-cam and social media so if you need help you can reach out to us anytime because we all get it❤❤
These videos are so amazing and helpful to people who find out they are on the spectrum as a adult. I felt so alone until I saw the amount of women who go their entire lives without knowing.
I believe and a friend of mine speculates that I am on the spectrum. Unfortunately as a black female we are the least studied. Female and Black. its frustrating because I honestly don't know what to do to get help. Or where to go. Thanks for posting this video bc i like you don't fit the stereotype... or I've developed my own way to hide or disguise my symptoms. But i still struggle all the time. Ive been mis diagnosed as well plenty of times. At this point from all the research and reading the dsm and literally trying to figure out what is wrong with me i need to find a therapist to help me figure out if this is what it is. I really hope you do this second video bc i really found this helpful.
tobagotb10 why would you say something so toxic and vile. Not knowing anything about what I'm going through? Do you know how depressed I am? Or how much I struggle with being alive. Do you not understand how much words hurt? I didn't ever get notified that you said this. But I had a terrible week. I've had a terrible year my mom died. And I'm alone. And I came home to read this hurtful crap and just sat here and cried. Bc im already struggling so much with depression. That a stranger's words can be and are peircing. You have no idea what I'm going through. And yet you're selfish enough to try to hurt others. It's not ok. I'd never do something like that.
oh wait um... Was that person referring to someone else or calling me a p.o.s? I'm so confused. I only see the one comment that says get off the internet you p.o.s. And I'm like what did I do. 😔
tobagotb10 ok I'm sorry. Yes he must've deleted the comment because I never saw it but thank you for taking up for me. You have no idea how much something so small can be so uplifting and powerful. Sometimes the smallest things we do can touch someone's life. And that small gesture made me feel so much better. There are kind people in this world. Even in the internet. And I read that entire I've learned post and I agree with so much of it. Thank you my friend for sending me the love! Spiritual hugs 🌼🌺🌸
I feel you. Just be careful because some people try to drag you down with them insulting people like us and acting like we’re idiots. We aren’t, we are the smartest kind of people
Thank you for sharing this! I actually asked my mom a few months back if I was autistic and she laughed and said my little sister asked the same question about a year ago. So my sister and I had talked about this and it turns out that we both believe that we are on the autism spectrum and now I’m finding videos such as yours that are helping me with this. I need to call the VA to get an appointment to see if I can get an assessment done because I’ve had a long list of diagnoses saying that I have so many different disorders, but looking back at my childhood all the way up until now in my 30s I realize that I have probably been diagnosed time and time again with the wrong things. I’d imagine it would be a huge relief to know that I am artistic rather than having 10 different characteristics diagnoses so I can make sense of all of my issues with socialization, my OCD, my anxiety, my issues in relationships and with friendships and my difficulties with jobs and more...
Are you in the US? I was wondering about how you began the assessment process. I was looking into ASD because I am positive my eldest son has it along with the ADHD he was diagnosed with when he was 3. I am pretty sure that I have it as well. I would love to be assessed!
Thank you for posting this!!! I'm autistic and while I'm very comfortable being autistic, most people wouldn't have a clue. Also, meeting other autistic people especially "twice gifted" like you said, can help you to fit in where you never felt that way before. Support groups helped me a ton but I sometimes still feel left out of the autistic community because I have kids.
The fact I achieved anything in life is amazing considering I had near zero networking, few friends and avoided study groups like the plague in college, but was intelligent focused polite honest direct maximally. Completely alone I relied most effectively on my autistic intellect. Once heard that a person is autistic only when with others, alone not ~~ while solitude is the way the body heals itself. Lovely video thanks Kelcey.
Yes! I echo your sentiments, and I am glad you got your diagnosis earlier than I did. It's so freeing to finally have the right understanding of why one's experience is different to that of others.
I really enjoyed your video! I’m a 30 year old male with Aspergers but never officially diagnosed. I’m training at a university now to be a counselor for people struggling with this. I think videos like yours can help people see the broader spectrum outside of the Rain Man.
I got diagnosed last june and It is such a relief yet so weird to have a late diagnosis. I can so relate to what you said. I waited 2 years before going to get my diagnosis because I feared getting dismissed cause i'm a pro at masking my ''symptoms''. Thank you for this video :) glad to see adults on the spectrum.
Kelly__ I went to get a diagnosis and I was told I wasn't autistic. Frustrating to say the least. I am 20 years old... I am practically lonely and completely isolated.
Please Don't Kill My Vibe same I’m 20 and I’m always alone but I love being alone anyway and I also isolate myself it’s bad but I don’t completely know how to communicate like an adult😞
You helped me so freaking much! I have always felt and had those same exact feelings and its nice to see someone so similar in age that has the courage and knowledge to share your story.It makes me feel like theres hope for me. Thank you so much!
Learning about ‘high functioning’ females with ASD has been so eye opening and wonderful. At first I thought no way could I be on the spectrum; my only exposure was from books like ‘the curious incident of the dog in the nighttime’, but learning more about autism i am really relating more than I ever thought. Makes me realise how important awareness and representation is. I never recognised myself as perhaps being autistic because I couldn’t relate to people w ASD that I was aware of. When I’m overwhelmed I go mute for hours and rock back and forth for Christ sakes hahaha. Like cmon hun u autistic. Just coz u shit at maths u think it’s impossible? Oh dear hahahaha
thanks for sharing this! the video that sparked a lightbulb in you, also inspired me to look into ASD further...and yup, i tested high for having ASD and i’m 33 years old. i was in denial at first bc people have always described me as the girl who’s “friends with everyone” (aka me masking hardcore 😂). for me, having autism is like being in a play where everyone has the script, but you’re the only one who doesn’t. constantly feeling out of place, but not knowing why or how to fit in like everyone else.
Congratulations! You will now be able to define and structure your life as it best suits your needs. I was diagnosed at 42 and it was an awakening. So many frustrating things from my past now make sense. There are many people including my own family that still dismiss my diagnosis. I wish they were focused more on me making life in a majority neurotypical society more comfortable. But I need to do what’s best for me. “Spectrum Women” is one of the best and most validating books I’ve read as a woman on the spectrum. Make no apologies for creating a life that supports you!
This was super cool to watch. I don’t think I’m on the autism spectrum but I’ve dealt with mental health issues all my life and for the last five years I’ve had a bunch of diagnoses at the same time but I feel like it’s something bigger like a personality or mood disorder and I’ve tried many different antidepressants that don’t quite work. It’s nice to feel validated in seeking a more accurate label to my experience, and potentially the way I and my doctors/therapist approach it!!
I've always thought something was off with me..for as long as I can remember. I'm 19 and a college freshman. I hate living with a roommate, because I get overwhelmed by all the small sounds and actions she does. There used to be nights when I would walk around outside at 3 am, because I was overstimulated and couldn't get my brain to stop spinning. I get weird attachments to objects that I shouldn't be attached to. Examples include: a small felt voodoo doll that I made that I had to make sure I was in my pocket before I went any where; a tennis ball that I have to have in my hand when I fall asleep; etc. I pick at my scalp (and have for years) when I'm trying to take tests or just get overwhelmed by things I feel like I don't understand. Apparently I used to stutter a few years back, but I don't remember it because it was "normal" for me. Sometimes I still find myself stuttering or repeating words and phrases when I get excited or upset or just overwhelmed and lose my train of thought. I don't like going out, and I don't have many friends...Of the few friends I've made in college, I hardly talk to them, because I always feel like they don't like me. I can talk to people "easily" I suppose, but I don't really like initiating and it is hard for me to continue conversations. If I am to initiate a conversation, then I likely rehearsed it before hand to figure out what I need to say.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
This is me in a nutshell . ADHD too and always being told I'm not living my potential . I find it so hard being around people yet I'm a chameleon and I feel dreadful after .
Thanks for your time. I am trying to figure out what is going on with myself. I am 40 now and ever since I was a child people said I was different. I always felt like an outsider and communication never came easy to me. While smart, you wouldnt know it from school. I just never paid attention. Like you I am not just looking for a label. I am looking for the RIGHT label. Sadly, I let this bind me up pretty bad. I made the mistake to always look at it like "I can handle it! Dont need help!" This just made things worse and now half my life is gone without any real answers. Idk if im gonna ever figure this out but...the longer it goes the easier it gets for me to wanna just check out of life in general. Sucks...But im trying still. I told myself I would atleast give the medication side of help a chance before I just pack it in and call it a day. I am very TIRED. Anyway, good luck with everything and Im glad you have some reference to work with. I cant think of anything worse then knowing something is off, but not being able to pinpoint it. How do you fight something you cant see? Your still young...now that you have figured it out please make the most of that information.
this was the first video I've ever watched about autism and since then I couldn't stop researching about it because it finally felt like I found the thing that described me so perfectly. And now three years later I've officially gotten diagnosed with ASD :) so thank you so much for making this video
Word of advice to anyone with these conditions, manage ur mental health by creating a short term and long term plan. Because stuff happens in life and I've seen way too many people go crazy
Thank you, I’ve had so many dioceses that never fitted only until a great doctor told me my mental health could be a learning disorder and yep I am on the spectrum. Thank you for talking about this as felt cheated out of life being 34 now. And it’s nice to see another woman talk about it. Thank you 😊💜👏✌️
@@kayjay-kreations a year and a half on now for me and I actually understand myself. I feel so much more happy with my life. Best thing I ever did. Take your time to find the real you ☺️❤️
It was actually really funny for me and how and when I ended up getting assessed and diagnosed. I was in grade two, and it was actually my music teacher who spoke with my mom and she said hey I think your daughter might be Autistic. If it wasn't for that teacher, I really don't think I would have been diagnosed and given the help in not only understanding myself, but helping my mom to understand me at such an early age. I remember my mom talking to me about for her she didn't see it as something wrong with me, but it helped her to understand me in ways she didn't know how to before. I'm 25, and even when my mom talks about that she still gets extremely emotional. My mom has all of Temple Grandin's books around our house, and actually made me a homemade pressure vest. An idea she actually got from Temple's squeeze machine concept. If anyone wants to ask me anything they can. I am so passionate about autism awareness and I love Kelcey's take on it. And, it's only when we can get a dialogue starting where there can be understanding. At the end of the day, it is our humanity that unites us. We all want to be loved, appreciated, respected, and most of all something far too lacking in our society, understood.
She was, she's retired now. Amazing lady, and family. My brother was actually best friends throughout elementry school and all of high school with one of her sons. The kind of friendship where he would just show up at my parent's house, and my dog wouldn't even react and my mom would feed him lol. I grew up in a small town lol. Oh wow. That sounds super judgey! I'm sorry you had to deal with that! I dealt in my life with super judgey people especially realted to the Autism, and myself. For most of my life I hated my brain and saw myself as less than related to the Autism, and I sometimes would cry myself to sleep and google how to be Neurotypical. That saddens me when I think about that now. I am glad I'm Autistic. I wouldn't have half the fire in my soul if I didn't. It also gave me the freedom to be unapologetically myself, and not be prey to conformity and the sheep mentality a majority of people carry, and not engage in social games and petty avoivable unecessay drama many neurotypical's indulge in. I am now aware of all the social games people play. I just choose not to play them. I beleive you can be tactful while being direct. People play games out of cowardice. There is a difference between being tactful, and considerate of the other person and just playing games that stems from fear and caring too much about what other's think. It's important to care about others, but at the end of the day you can't care more about what other's think of you than what you think of yourself.The only thing that matters in this world is knowing who you are at the core of your soul and beinf true to that. I'm glad I had to work for my social skills and that nothing came naturally. I appreciate them more, and it made me want to learn how to understand people and anything and everything social as bad as I wanted to breathe. I've now had many people tell me that I am more socially aware than most people not on the spectrum. I worked damn hard for that and cultivated skill where talent was zero. Most people with a natural talent at something don't try as hard as the person with zero. Hard work trumps talent where talent works hard. I love my brain and myself. Normal is boring and doesn't exist. I now feel sorry for anyone who feels the need to judge and put others down. Projection at it's finest, and the bully's mentality. Secure people don't do that. They lift other's up, and don't feel the need to bully others and see everyone as no better or worse than themselves. It's our differences that make us beautiful. If everyone thought the same, and liked the same things the world would be hella boring and I guarentee you we would still be living in the dark ages. I no longer view Autism as a disability, but merely a different way of thinking. The world needs all kinds of months and everyone "Neurotypical" or otherwise thinks differently. Most of the biggest game changers in history were thought to be on the spectrum, and I am proud to be a part of that community. Different, but not less. I am glad I am Neurodivergent. That sounds so much cooler than Neurotypical. To anyone out there on the spectrum you are not less. You are beautiful and more than enough exactly the way you are.
@@kathrynrhodes7785 Those are some wonderful words and I agree with most of them. Personally being on spectrum is something I've struggled with and still do today, I'm trying hard to accept that it's a part of me and that I'm not less but well, it's difficult. I still can't do the some of the things I want because of it, the reason I fell into a depression years ago was because I realized I was on the spectrum. I'm better now but I still struggle. I didn't wanna get a diagnosis because I was afraid. I had pretended the best I could to appear "normal" in front of people but with the diagnosis even other people would know. However, these kinds of videos have helped me, helped me to not care if other people know and that I'll be fine, just like everyone else with a diagnosis. So I'm gonna make an appointment and see if I can get diagnosed~
If you ever wanted someone to talk to I can talk, only if you want. Trust me I understand where you are coming from more than you know. Honestly, the people that judge you and don't like you for you and make you feel you have to be anything other than you aren't worth being around. Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter. :)
Thanks, that's kind of you. If you feel up to it, I totally wouldn't mind :) And that's very true, but the "pretend to appear 'normal'" thing kinda happens automatically for me, until I find out if the person I meet is open-minded enough, luckily my friends are. I have never really been able to be myself in public, or with someone I just met. It takes years for that haha.
I'm about to start tearing up. When you said you flap your hands like your waving tears, I started thinking, I do that when I'm having a nervous break down. I haven't been diagnosed, but I feel like that just confirmed it for me.
Super high IQ, poor EQ, sometimes I’m a genius, other times I’m so socially awkward I want to go to bed and forget about the day.
I question the accuracy of the standardised IQ tests. I have been tested at 162 for the shorter test and 164 for the longer test. I am not sure what those scores mean exctily, but I know they are higher than the vast majority of people. The thing is, I am not at all social, feel rather stupid around others, and I am inept with forced social interactions. I can not possibly be as intelligent as the tests falsely claim.
David, if you announce you have a super-high IQ, then you likely do not have one.
One who legitimately is super-high IQ would likely not be able to function in society. Not only that, they wouldn't declare IQ as a means of self-certification, followed by self-depreciation that appears relatable which takes away from the severity of you boasting about your perceived intellect.
IQ is a poor indicator of practical intelligence, like Poverty is a poor predictor of crime as appose to familial risks.
I'm sure he would know of his IQ is high, they have tests for that you know 🙄
I’m a 23 year old black female in Texas who also is in the gifted category, went to magnet schools but always had issues learning and connecting certain things. I would always say things I though were just honest and logical and end up in trouble. Honestly I wanted to kill myself before watching this. It’s been hard not having help when people say you don’t look like it but multiple times I have been told I probably am and was diagnosed at 2 in California. I live in Texas where there is like no help and it’s really affecting my mental health, like I’m tired of always being out of place, and wrong. I’ve been trying to get tested but it’s an endless cycle.
Your video and The comment section have helped relieve some of this tonight. I don’t feel stupid and alone anymore. I feel like people understand something which I’ve never felt in my entire life. Thank you
Hi Faith, my daughter is 15 years old and I just had her assessed for the Spectrum and she’s been diagnosed as a Gifted Autistic child. We live in California too. You are not alone and if nobody has ever told you this... You’re loved, Jesus loves you and you are worth it. He has a purpose for your life. If you’re ever contemplating hurting yourself this is the number to talk to someone 1.800.273.8255... It’s to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. This hotline is for you and anyone else that might need it. May God bless you! Keep the faith, Faith...It’s a beautiful name and it has a wonderful meaning. Look it up in the Bible because God has a lot to say about Faith.
Hey can we please talk im also a black female with autism and i feel so alone:(
Tiera 1997 Hi Tierra! How’s it going? You’re not alone sweet heart. There’s a lot of support out here in these TH-cam streets...Lol😄 I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way, but please know that you are loved! Please feel free to express whatever it is that you’re feeling.
I feel you. I'm a half black 23 year old woman.I've struggled with depression and self harm. I really need to be understood and diagnosed.
Hope you’re doing better!
Having the diagnosis definitely alleviates the self deprecating
Also gives clarity and piece of mind. Actually helps guide you to the right places and gave me my street smarts and street credibility. Sometimes I say the streets raised me more than my own folks.
Helps lots knowing and accepting yourself, without the need to conform all the time, choices
when to wear the masks required to achieve your own goals, and allow yourself time out when you
overdo things without feeling guilty or not normal. Helps a lot to balance that inner turmoil, and
self judgements that can be self limiting. The freedom to be just you is ok.
not in my book, its one of the things i put myself down for, even have a term i use(at least in my head) but i wont say it, dont want to insult everyone
@@riannamajzoub5241 pffft
It made it worse for me.
This is exactly how I felt growing up. Everyone seemed to understand something about connecting with other people that I didn't get.
YES, thank you, it has finally been put into words 👏
Just because someone is socially inept. Doesn't make them autistic.
Other things can make someone socially inept. such as PTSD, or anxiety @@lucybemore4373
@@katrinnajasso6668 its not inept. Its different. I was diagnosed and talked to several doctors. One day I'll make a video explaining how my best friend taught me thru it.
Lucy Bemore plenty of people with things like anxiety/ ptsd certainly are socially inept because of their mental states though... Having little control over how they behave in and read certain social situations and having to re/teach themselves how to socialise "normally". It's just a different root cause.
Does anyone ever get called weird, mean, or “antisocial” (not in the personality disorder sense but meaning ‘you don’t talk to people’)?
All the time... I'm not diagnosed, but I really think I most likely have ASD...
People misunderstand me and it makes me feel overwhelmed and then I start acting in ways that come off as mean when they're just panicked...
All the time.
If they ask you that its because you have a charisma about you and they want to get to know you.
All the time.
All the time. I can do it, but it sometimes seems like it would be too exhausting.
I really appreciate you talking about giftedness with autism. That's what I get most upset/frustrated about with my own case. Being told how smart and capable I am all the time, yet not being able to get past an initial job interview even though I'm qualified for the position, takes a huge toll on my self-worth and adds on to the anxieties I have about the future. Hearing a similar struggle from someone else's mouth, with a positive attitude behind it, validated my feelings. And, I thank you for that. =)
AwkwardWhispers I also totally relate to this!
I was just diagnosed with ASD today. My psychologist said he was kicking himself for not coming to that conclusion sooner. I have always been ridiculously shy and find it very difficult to connect with people (I have 2 close friends). I had selective mutism as a child - I could not talk to grown-ups. I would freeze and not be able to speak if they tried to confront me with something or ask me a question. I grew out of the mutism, but was still very socially awkward. More often than not, people meet me, hang out with me once or twice, then they ignore me and never talk to me again. I try to be nice and polite, but the results indicate that I regularly do or say things that people find to be rude/creepy and they repel from me. I become twitchy (rapid blinking, nose twitching, swaying/can't stand still) and my voice can get shaky.
The fact that people are so passive-aggressive and indirect with their issues with you (they just ignore you and talk behind your back rather than confront you) makes it very difficult to understand what you're doing wrong. So I just could never figure out the problem. I LOVE the idea of going to a social gathering/party and having a great time. But every time I actually do, I come home feeling worthless, rejected, and even suicidal because I just can't connect with people in the way the average person can. To add, I am also not funny. I used to think I was, but my close friend and partner (who was actually the first to mention I might be on the spectrum) lovingly broke it to me that I'm REALLY not. Alongside that, I do not laugh a lot at things. Quite often, people in social events will randomly laugh really hard and hysterically at something, but I just don't understand how that is so funny... I can't even count on one hand the amount of times I've found something funny enough to laugh like that. I feel so lonely. I can know someone for YEARS, but then a new person with good social skills will come along and form a stronger bond with the person in 1 day than I could in those years. I am isolated at work because of all these issues, and whilst most of my coworkers are friendly have no real issues with me, they still don't want to go out of their way to have a conversation with me, and if they do, they treat me very differently (somewhat similar to how they would treat a child or a disabled person) to everyone else.
I am horribly irritated by certain sounds; raspy voices, coughing, the "phegm" noises people make when they have a cold, and ESPECIALLY people who overenunciate their consanants or make 'saliva noises'. For this reason, I cannot STAND meditation videos, sexualized commercials, or intimate scenes in movies with a lot of kissing. Whenever I listen to a guided meditation video, I often become angry, twitch and get chills because they think it's relaxing to overenunciate every freaking consanant. And don't get me started on screaming babies/toddlers, banging pots/pans/glass/metals or sudden loud noises in general. I actually wear ear plugs when I use the vacuum cleaner and I block my ears when I flush the toilet.
I have never felt normal, but I never felt legitimately disabled either; I am basically too weird for the normal people and too normal for the weird people. I am completely alone. I have been kicking myself for YEARS, because no matter how hard I try, I just can't feel a part of anything. I can communicate one-on-one with a lot of people, but the second a third (or more) person joins, they connect with each other, I can't connect with them, and it becomes a two-way conversation and I am just standing there awkwardly while they chat; they won't even make eye contact with me, even though I am standing right there trying to join in, they only look at each other.
I feel awful and alone, but I'm so relieved that I finally have an answer and can start fixing the problem.
Yeah same
Hey, i relate a lot about the paragraph on sounds. If i have to be around sounds without a break, like in a city, i get very upset, i sometimes cry, having a temper tantrum. I started this day's questioning because of seeing the word 'p*rn' and becoming very upset about it, and wondering why i hated anything sexually suggestive, at my boyfriend's family party some girls dancing appeared on the tv and i immediately felt a whole lot of tears coming and then walked away to cry a LOT to myself. Then my thoughts led me to how i never seem to "get it", along with other things, and how i can emulate a normal personality but then i feel like i'm in another body and i still don't seem to truly get it like others do. I have a sister with autism though as far as my family knows, it was caused by the umbilical cord around her neck at birth, not genetic. I feel myself wishing i had the diagnosis of autism so i can finally explain what is so weird and off about me. I also could not make any sort of eye contact as a child and younger person but i've always been aware of myself and questioning, and curious & empathetic towards people because they've always been the biggest mystery. I feel like i'm capable of learning and having skills but around people it feels like i lack access to what i know. I'm afraid of streets, i feel like people are watching me, i'm afraid of hearing a knock at my door. These are things i can think of at this moment. I also overshare and what i say doesn't make people respond in a way they do to others, they don't seem to follow what i say sometimes. I relate to a whole lot that you've said and i hope that brings you comfort in some way
Also, i can be confident around people, but it's different, i get excited and giddy and i feel like i act like a child but i entertain people and let people laugh at me and that makes me feel accepted, so i think that's why i act like that
Yes. I have the same problem where I don’t find a lot of things funny that most normal people do. That was incredibly isolating growing up. So I would fake laugh to fit in not understanding that people could tell I wasn’t experiencing the feeling and then people would call me out on it and ask why I laughed “like that”.
I was in a group therapy session and I asked everyone how they made friends and what made someone want to stay friends with another person and I legitimately got strange looks. It felt like the air being sucked out of the room. Every time I try to fit in, it falls so incredibly short. I’m fairly certain I’m on the spectrum (my ex was).. I’m going to speak with my psychiatrist about this and see what he says. It would explain a lot.
@@presidentamanda7468 I wish you the best.
I think I'm autistic, but my parents refuse to accept the fact that one of their children could have anything different about them. Like my older sister obviously has it very badly, and they're still in denial.
Autism might be part of Neanderthal DNA, take it as a compliment
@@AlwaysTimo um what??
Omg im so sorry you're in this kind of family. I don't know what kind of advice tø give. But depending on your age and her age you two can try and see a doctor on your own tø get help. Best of luck tø you both hun!
Hollyann Rose I think I might be too, or something like that. But I never tested for it.
@@AlwaysTimo NOT necessarily. It is sensitivity to just about ANYTHING. Such as aversion to feeling the air brush across your skin when a fan is blowing. Wind is one thing..not an issue. BUT the centralized feeling of a fan blowing directly on the skin feels unbearable. Having too many people in the room talking loudly and constantly moving about around you while you are trying to pay attention to just one person. Same scenario but trying to read a book, watch tv, hell trying to DO or ACCOMPLISH anything. Then having to LITERALLY REMOVE MYSELF FROM THE SITUATIONS, NEVER USED FANS, AVOIDED THEM IF POSSIBLE, DIVERTED THE FANS.I always thought it was just "too busy"/"too much chaos" and everyone felt that way. Come to find out it is AUTISM.
I'm an aspie and no one believes me because I'm "too normal" but they don't know how I am on the inside. I have so much trouble finding friends that put up with my crazy interests and quirks, and it's so depressing. I shake and twitch a little bit when people talk to me and lately it's getting worse as I've become more isolated. I'm forcing myself to go to a party and participate in a debate at my college so hopefully I'll become as strong as you.
Fuck those ableist posers, they wouldn't even know what "normal" was themselves if they saw it at the bottom of the 100 proof vodka they drink every Saturday night.......
I'm Aspie too, so I know what it's like to get visibly shaken at the slightest threat or misconception, but in the end I'm the one who makes those fools twitch when I tell them they're no different. Come with me to a party and anyone who looks at you or judges you wrong I'll verbally shake them down in a heartbeat with my newfound confidence, it'll get so bad that they'll be walking out of that spot with wet pants and their dicks in their hands....... 😂😂😂😂😂
There's nothing wrong with you having your own special interests and quirks, they're probably ten times better than the vague, overrated, overglorified notions that other people seem to have about themselves and that they put about like dogs across the carpet.
Television is fucking horrible, and so are the sycophants that they advocate, they should sell them and get themselves some retro gameboys, at least they have more platform and definition.
Don't even trust friends, even they might be just as condescending if they don't already know your truth, the only true friend you can rely on is yourself. Self-respect and necessary silence never betray, take it from me.
Hello Victoria, ive got AS too, but fortunate for me i like to be alone and do stuff by myself, but i know what your mean, parties are boring, there is much more what you can do instead of just drinking. A couple of days before i was sitting in a Bar with friends and where talked until 3 in the morning about science and there and my topics. What i want to say is, your not alone. And if you just want to talk, write me. Greetings, Martin.
Being quirkie and having crazy interests does not make you Aspbergers, nor does being introverted. It just makes you a person like the rest of us.
@@Unicysis - Your very reaction is an indicator that you are probably not really on the spectrum.
Richard Chappell Your statement is an indicator that you’re a skeptic who believes that autism isn’t real, in which case you should read more books.
Thanks for this! I am also a female with autism and can really relate to what you are saying. I’m a normal looking person so none of my friends or relatives believe me since I only let the symptoms show at home in a safe non judgmental environment. That whole not being properly understood thing has kind of overridden the awesome effects that finally having this diagnosis has had. Instead of being relived that I can better understand my behaviors and know that there is a community of people I can relate to, my friends and family make me feel more alienated than ever. I have been trying hard to find other autistic females (especially who appear normal like me) but it’s so hard, as many women don’t know that they are autistic in the first place. THANKYOU for putting your story out there, it brings me a lot of comfort 💗💗
Me too. I want to get out of the neurotypical world. I really want to do it but i just couldn't. I feel very lonely because none of them understand me and i don't understand them.
I found out this week no body would believe me except other neurodivergent people so I find comfort in them or books written by autistic authors. neurotypical people don't get it generally.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m 21 and have just been diagnosed and I always felt like an outsider and thought I must be the only one that experiences these things, but as you highlighted not “looking autistic” can make it feel pretty invalidating when others don’t understand the spectrum and I’m so relieved to hear another girl talking about this and feel peace that I can relate to someone out there on such personal and specific things. The right label takes away the fear of the unknown!
Holy. Moly. You have no idea... or maybe you do... how this video affected me as a 36 year old... who has just watched a video of someone basically describing my life... and my struggles. Now... to find someone to take me seriously and assess me. All this to say, thank you for making this video.... Thank you so much.
Love your video. I have an 11 yr old son with Asperger's and a 6 yr old daughter who was diagnosed with severe Autism. My daughter although she is very severe does not look like it all. The only thing is that she doesn't talk at all. People are always confused because my son talks and then when they approach my daughter she just stares and smile. Then I have to explain that she has Autism and the first thing people say is "she don't look like she has Autism". What does it look like, is always my response.
Kenya Hardy what does it look like. Mind blown. Best response ever! 👏🏻🎉
Great response!
My son is 6 and just started talking again. He had a few words at the normal time and then quit talking. Autism is very hard thing to understand.
kama13 my daughter is nearing two and hasn't said her first words yet. She babbles a lot, but no real words. Trying not to worry but it's hard.
Natural Vegan Mom Im not going to tell you that you should worry. But be aware of milestones your child should be reaching. My daughter didnt speak either at 2. When she was almost 3 and not speaking that is when she was diagnosed with autism. I wish we had her evaluated sooner so we could have gotten help and support earlier. She ended up speaking a few words when she was 4.5. Now she is 10 and wont stop talking. lol
When you said that you always struggled with the fact that you knew you were capable of high achievement but you just couldn't seem to ever make it happen...I felt that so deep. I know for a fact that I have Aspergers but I've been dismissed by doctors my entire life so I'm just really scared to go to my doctor for a referral, with the possibility that they are going to laugh in my face and imply that I've been reading too much "Dr. Google"
I wish doctors would say in their biographies whether they are very knowledgeable on the presentation of Aspergers in women.
It would so much to me to get an official diagnosis but even more so, I suspect my daughter may be on the spectrum as well so I just thought that I would get the confirmation for myself first and then I could feel valid enough to put her through all that testing as well.
Often women find out because of their child's diagnosis. Good luck xx
Look up the formal diagnosis criteria for the country you live in, then go along and just say stuff that ticks all boxes, which is how how doctors typically operate IME. This is how I got mine in the UK (socialised health system).
Or if you have the means you could just pay for a private diagnosis.
I thank you for putting up this video. Ever since I was born, I always wondered why I wasn't as social, talkative or extroverted like other kids. I was always quiet, shy, bashful, introverted, and nervous around new people I don't know. Or I'm just plain like that in general. I'm also very antisocial and I'm always alone and I never understood why throughout my childhood. Funny thing is, it wasn't until I was 15 that my parents, my teachers and my doctors finally revealed I, indeed, have Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD.) My parents explained to me at one point that I was diagnosed with Autism when I was much, much younger, but I never really known of it until I asked them why I'm so shy and quiet and antisocial and to which case, they told me I'm Autistic. The thing is, I have Mild Autism, which means impairment in speech, confusion in sarcasm, avoidance of eye contact and etc. And I was constantly picked on, teased and bullied alot from elementary school to high school because of it. Because I was "Different" from the other kids in those schools. I looked down at myself constantly because of my flaws and my weaknesses from what my bullies and the other kids told me in my past and also current day. But luckily enough, I'm working on ignoring the negativity shot towards me and both my parents have reassured me that I'm not the only person in the world going through this. There are some of my favorite actors, musicians and other people who I heavily admire in the world that has Autism as well. That brightens my day every time, and also does so now that I have checked out this awesome, super helpful video about you explaining your Autism symptoms and ones I can very personally relate to. It warms my heart every time. And for that, you earned a new subscriber.
Thanks for this video I can relate to. You're a very down-to-earth person and I look forward for more uploads from your channel. :D
~ Devin Moss, from Texas
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Thank you for this video. It came up on my recommended feed two years ago and was the video that made me realize I was autistic. I got my formal diagnosis a few months later, and while I still struggle with work and social interactions, the awareness has allowed me to be kinder to myself and to advocate for my needs.
I'm looking for the diagnosis now too. I felt everything you said! I am crying because I knew the whole time I was on the spectrum and grew up with a non compassionate family who told me I was stupid and lazy. This finally makes me feel seen thank you. I am going to the doctor I don't know how to go about this but just knowing his makes me feel so much more compassion for my younger self why I couldn't be like everyone else. Thank you
Btw, you did an amazing job at explaining all of this so eloquently, in so much detail and in a way that could be understood.. really appreciate that!!
Ah now, the gifted thing makes so much sense. That's why I feel in such limbo in life. Brings to mind a Beach Boys lyric, "They say I got brains, but it ain't doin' me no good." While I may be somewhat attractive, talented and intelligent, my horrible social presence and interactions keep me from obtaining more of the life I want and always dreamed of even before I found Autism inside me. I never got a professional to take it seriously yet. And besides also not being treated for childhood (and lasting) trauma I was treated for all the wrong stuff in mental healthcare. We have a similar story. I hope you're well!
I fight every day because of my "inadequacy" and I just want to say that I can relate to your story and feel amazing connection with you. It is so great to be understood when everyone judges you from their own subjective perspective. I love you and all people commenting here, you are all wonderful and deserve respect and love :)
I always felt different and like I was “broken”, when I was growing up. My mom once made fun of me for not knowing how to talk to people but I didn’t understand why she would tell me that. I always felt soooo alone...I know in my heart that I’m in the spectrum. I don’t feel broken now. I just feel like this is who I am. This is me and I feel like I overcame a hurdle. ❤️🤘🏼
@Tara Johnson wait me tho
OMG, SO did I! I didn't think I could be high functioning Autistic, but after reading the symptoms in 2011 on WebMD, and then getting diagnosed in 2012 with Asperger's Syndrome... Man! It was the biggest relief in the world, but SO frickin' surreal. I am SO glad you got officially diagnosed! 💕
Autism is very hard to diagnose in women. And unfortunately a lot of women like you suffer until their adulthood for a diagnosis. I was in the exact same boat as you . My diagnosis just never seem to fit my characteristics until I turned 16I was finally diagnosed on the spectrum. It's such a relief to have a name for the struggles I suffer with every day.
Hi Kelcey - Age 59, male - just diagnosed ASD 2 months ago. It's a lot to absorb for sure.. but I think I can assume that this "key" has had a profound impact on your life too. Count your blessings that you know at a younger age. It made me feel complete in many ways, to know that I'm on the spectrum and this was at the heart of a part of my self identity that was always missing. Wishing you the best!
I just subscribed to your channel. Looking forward to viewing your videos.
My ASD Journey What’s the point of getting a diagnosis ? It’s expensive & what do you gain from it ? If you’re Austin you know you’re you can read the symptoms on the web, why do you need a price of paper from a “ psych” to agree with you, to make it so ?
I have ADHD and Autism and I appreciate that everyone in my family is ok with it. Some of my friends have Autism and their parents will never accept it.
As it’s largely genetic parents will often be in denial as it would likely involve having to examine themselves at a fundamental level, which most people avoid
Hey Kelcey! I was so happy to come across your page. I work with autistic students, and I absolutely love what I do. And you’re absolutely right on with your explanation! Thank you for making a video like this, I believe it’s important that more people know about Autism, and how beautiful it is.
With all my love❤️
You are amazing! Good for you for being your own advocate and getting tested!! I have a daughter that has so far been given the diagnoses of "twice exceptional" with giftedness, dyslexia, language/speech issues, and some sensory issues. She is "social" and also pretty athletic, so I have always dismissed the possibility of her being on the autism spectrum due to these characteristics! I appreciate this video and will keep this in mind in the future if she continues to have troubles! Thank you!
Omg. You have make the room drop around me listening to your symptoms and panic attack gestures/movements and I feel like I’m right there with you. I’ve been diagnosed and treated (~12yr-now as a 30yo) with ADHD, massive depressive disorder, generalized anxiety/panic disorder and never felt, free. I’m going to do more research and see what I can do. THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU!
It's helpful for people to share their stories. Thank you.
This was helpful. Thank you for posting it.
Helpful in what sense? So people can be borderline autism? Where is the line drawn? BS.
@@catherinebradshaw3519 aspergers doesn't have a face when I meet people for the first time and I say I have aspergers they are usually shocked as I come across as normal as I learned how to function in social settings it not impossible it just takes times and a lot of practice.
@@ScreamingReel500 it actually is as it helps people express themselves for example people could trade tips with one another for time managment skill or how to look someone in the eye while talking things like that. Aspies help other aspies.
Aspergers is like acting in a movie everyday of your life, but you dont know what character your supposed to be. Im 40 years old never diagnosed but i know what i struggled with when i was younger and to a certain degree deal with today. Just because someone is social doesnt mean theyre not screaming inside with anxiety you just learn and train yourself to get threw those awkward social interactions and overtime you can mask it very well
I appreciate you so much for making this. I'm in my 20s (F) trying to get diagnosed.. There are not a lot of resources where I am though, and I've called about 5 different places (Dr., hospital, psychiatrists, places all those people referred me to) and no one has been able to assess me or know where I can even be assessed. It's frustrating but I'm not giving up because it's my life, and like you said it feels good to finally know and find the label that fits. It's all about growth and you need to understand what you're working with to grow!
You are such a beautiful, smart, and lovable person. I know what it's like living with Asperger's. You are not alone.
Ryan's Channel what is aspergers? Exactly 🤔
Elzy Moreno Check out Max Derrat’s series on it: th-cam.com/play/PLDYqIK_NYzw77oQTcWpF_l1P6z2m1_ihw.html
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve known I’m autistic but after hearing you describe being twice exceptional it helped me really think about it and realized what it really feels like. I’ve always felt like my mind was moving so fast and my body couldn’t keep up ever. I almost skipped grades and had a high reading level and was in top percentiles for learning and comprehension but i never felt like I could do the things I wanted to do. Because of this video, I feel as though I understand why I am the way I am and I wouldn’t have ever connected it without this video. Thank you so so so much
thank you for making this video because I felt like you were explaining my own life to me. I have been dealing with the obvious signs that I might be on the spectrum and then thoughts of me just overreacting and faking it. This helped me to accept what I know deep down more, and so, thank you for that.
Kalyn Young Me too. Thank you
@@brandon556 I’m well, how are you?
Kelcey, thank you for being so open and sharing your story. So great! So relatable. I'm studying a Masters of Educational and Developmental Psychology and I am learning to help people find out if they have autism, usually with younger kids. I loved hearing about what your journey is like as a young woman. I learnt as much from you as I have from any lecturer or professor :)
I’m glad the diagnosis has made you feel better. My ADHD diagnosis did the same for me.
I’m 35 years old and I got diagnosed with autism, adhd and bipolar disorder a month ago. I always knew there was something ”wrong” with me but never got any help. It felt like no one took me seriously. Now im finally at a place where I can see happiness and I can be the mother my son deserves.
Mia Lundgren I’m 35 too and recently got diagnosed
Jennifer Watkins It cost me about $15.
Ryan Reed thats awesome. I Hope you get the right help now
Wow, this is so similar to my experience too. I was just diagnosed yesterday at 27. Was overly misdiagnosed as a kid and became so jaded to labels. A chain of events including a TH-cam vid led me on the journey to discovering this about myself and yea it makes all my struggles make sense. Thanks for sharing!
Myself, growing up actually for most of my life I saw myself as less than related to having Autism. That only changed within the last half year. For years I used to hate my brain. Now, I’m happy as hell for my mind the way it is. I’m glad I am Autistic. It’s given me the freedom to be unapologeticly me. I know I would not have half the fire in my soul if I didn’t. I also don’t think I would have the protection against and such an aversion to conformity and bullshit ie social games. 6 years ago I didn’t even know how start a conversation. Nothing at all came naturally, not even the inflection in my voice. Nothing social. September 2012 I made a promise to myself that I wanted to turn over a new leaf and understand people and anything and everything social my very first day when I went to college in Olds where I studied business administration. I remember back in highschool sitting with classmates at lunch talking in group conversation. I wanted to join in, but I didn’t know how so I stayed quiet. I thought if someone was nice to me they were my friend. I didn't understand anything about how friendships worked. In highschool I understood math better than people. Most days I just went to school and went home. I didn't even go to my fist highschool dance until grade 12. That was scary and awkward for me. Most of my life, I was a huge people pleaser and just wanted other people to like and accept me because I didn’t like and accept myself. I forced myself to do things that made me uncomfortable which was anything and everything socially related, and making myself be the first to initiate conversation and if things went well ask to exchange numbers. Someone has to initiate, or connection never happens. Now after relentless and constant practice, I do now without much thought, whereas years ago I had to think quite a bit and wasn’t sure and didn’t understand. I didn’t understand sarcasm, a lot of jokes, or a lot of non verbal cues. Now, I actually enjoy starting conversations, and have no problem leading if the other person starts to run out of things to say. I enjoy talking to people, and more so only surround myself with people who like me for me. Kelcey knows me and sees me as the outgoing and outspoken person I am now. That only happened very recently. I know not everyone is going to like me and that's ok. At the end of the day, the most important opinion of me is the one I have of myself. The most important thing for anyone in life is being true to the core of what burns within their soul. Nothing else matters. The people that judge anyhow are really just projecting their own insecurities. Secure people don't do that. They lift others up because they are completely comfortable with themselves and want others to feel the same because we all deserve to be. You never know what someone may be dealing with, that's why I like to be kind. Holding a door open or a random compliment from a stranger can change someone's whole day. Hate is literally like a poison that you drink hoping for the other person to die. The best and healthiest revenge is to improve and empower yourself in a way that makes you happy, not to please others. It is our differences that make each of us beautiful and who we are.
I’m glad I had to work for my social skills. I appreciate them more, and you know what they say... hard work trumps talent where talent doesn’t work hard. I’ve actually had many people tell me I’m more socially aware than most people not on the spectrum, even people who have known me for years. I worked damn hard for that, and am very proud of that. At the end of the day though, it doesn't matter how people validate me, it matters how I internally validate myself, and that goes for everyone. I finally became happy with myself when I finally started to let go of the people pleasing which is a never ending road to hell. Life is short, and I believe the purpose of life is just to live it to the fullest in however that looks to you and being true to yourself.
Emotional intelligence, social awareness, compassion, empathy and understanding are the most important things in life to me. I’ve seen how damaging lack empathy and social awareness can be. Of course, there are many people not on the spectrum who are and can be socially unaware. I grew up with a family member like that. That's what I mean when I say I've seen how damaging lack of awareness and empathy can be, especially close mindedness. It just is different for someone on the spectrum. We all have challenges, it’s part of being a human being. No one's challenges are better or worse than another’s. Just different. Despite mine growing up, I wouldn't trade me for anyone. I’m aware of the social games people play, I just don’t play them. I strongly believe you can be direct, while remaining tactful and being considerate to another’s feelings. Tact is extremely important to me. I’m passionate about many things, but one of the most is autism awareness. Hence my billion comments lol. Anyway that’s more about me and I love sharing my own thoughts and experiences regarding autism. Autistic and damn proud of it. Amazing video once again. I have lots to say lol especially regarding autism. I'm not at all surprised in the overflow of responses in the comments to Kelcey's take. I'd honestly be more surprised if there wasn't. Anyway, that is my take. I enjoy sharing, and I hope any of my personal takes helps anyone else who is reading the comments. Peace and love everybody!
Wow!! I’m so proud of you
Thank you! I also have an incurable chronic pain condition called fibromyalgia that I beat. Not with drugs or covering the symptoms but doings complete diet change. At my worst, I swore to myself that if I could overcome my chronic pain that I could do anything. I have, and I will. My pain is barely anything to a zero, something I thought for a decade was impossible.
Kathryn Rhodes hey Katheryn! Do you have Instagram? Give me a follow (@alphalogic_)! I’d love to talk to you as I believe I am autistic and would love a little nudge in the right direction to get a proper diagnosis. I was suicidal until recently because I felt no one around me understood me and heading this stuff makes more sense to my lack of social awareness!
Hi Kelsey,
Great to listen to you and hear it from your perspective. I have a daughter with ASD1. A brilliant mind and a caring soul really under the anger and meltdowns she has. She had been best served by a very carefully administering daily medications, to reduce anxiety and improve concentration. I too sought diagnosis and came out with neuro-diverse, which really just means that I can relate well and do suffer some of the symptoms too. Especially under stress or strain emotionally. Recognising these traits in myself creates empathy for others on the spectrum, it also intruiges me and I want to learn more about it.
All the best with your videos etc and of course being gentle with yourself, it really helps.
i’ve known my whole life that i was different to my peers, telling myself i just had a lot of social anxiety and similar things, but i’ve never been brave enough to go to a doctor with my issues. i don’t know exactly when i first thought of ASD but it’s definitely something i’ve considered for a while but always been hesitant to research it too much. in more recent years i’ve started showing symptoms of ocd and it’s getting progressively worse, i did some research around this (as it’s coming to be a big part of my life) and found that ocd can be a part of ASD and it makes sense. so i continued the research, and relate so much to masking and feeling as though i’ve never fit in socially but have just been “pretending”. in the last year i’ve started working at a primary school where i see many children going through the process of diagnosis, and now i can’t stop thinking about it for myself. i know it fits and i’m almost certain it’s what my struggles have been my entire life, but i’m so anxious to visit the doctor. i went the other day for something completely unrelated and worked myself up enough to mention to the doctor, simply asking how I could go about getting a diagnosis for something like ASD, and he just replied saying that if I did have autism, I’d have already known about it. which I HAVE known, even if i didn’t know it by name as a child. i just feel so discouraged to go again, even with another doctor, because i just feel they’re going to say i don’t have it because i mask my social issues so much and don’t “look” autistic
I did not expect a ferret in this video. Our pets help us through things. They don't scrutinize, judge, or advise. They are just there for us.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I, too, was diagnosed with ASD as an adult (earlier this year), and your story is so similar to mine. It is so validating to know that I'm not alone.
It is so helpful when other people share their stories. Thank you so much. A couple months ago I have recently got diagnosed with autism, which makes so much sense now, but to be honest, it is still frustrating at times dealing with it.. it feels like a constant battle just to make one friend..
I have autism and I feel so alone, and I cry because I wish I was like everyone else.
I Have Autism I Was Diagnosed With Autism At Age 14 I'm 27 Years Old Now Iv'e Been Living Interdependently On My Own For 3 Years So Far
🎉 congratulations 🥳 it’s a great thing to get the diagnosis that fits and you can understand yourself better and get help where needed x and acceptance is important too. Good easy on yourself
Within the past 6 months I've been coming to a realization that I am autistic, looking back now there has always been a non verbal disconnect in my life. People have always implied that I was different and suggested that I should be segregated from certain groups and situations. I always blended in as a kid but never knew what the elephant in the room was.
I've had people make comments about me, they call me slow and stuff.
I am very clumsy, I hate the fact that I fit the stereotype as far as cornering and balance.
When you see me I may seem very callous and unemotional, but this is normal for me I need stimulation go emulate emotion.
I just got medical insurance and I am working towards getting help, a diagnosis would help alot right now; mostly by getting rid of the uncertainty I know I am different, i just want people to understand.
The biggest shock was realizing that I had been stimming my whole life, eye contact isn't that uncomfortable for me, my problem is inappropriate eye contact either looking too long or not blinking comes off as a stare and naturally bieng aspie my eyes are a little eccentric people think I'm some kind of psycho or something lol.
Hey Kelcey, I’m so glad you were able to get the appropriate diagnosis. I was diagnosed three years ago at age 43. It was not just a huge relief, it was a fundamental shift in how I related to myself. I almost attempted suicide when I was 12 because of how alienated and alien I felt around anyone else, and like you, I’m also in the “gifted” category. My intelligence was a huge help balancing off my autistic traits, or really, helping me learn to mask and cope to a certain extent. It’s like how a good portion of my autistic traits can be grouped into Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and ADHD can be in a positive feedback loop and help me really cope and mask, or negatively feedback and take me to extremes of my autistic traits. But now with the diagnosis of “high functioning autistic”, I don’t necessarily feel the need to put in the energy to mask a lot of my mannerisms, so I end up with more energy to cope and I much more forgiving of myself for things like missing social queues and ask people to be direct with me, as an example of helping others accommodate me. Plus I have found people in my life are more comfortable around me because they appreciate my literalness, directness without meanness, and ability to focus on them to the exclusion of anything else going on around us. It’s a nice change to be “the autistic guy” instead of the previous “weird hyper-intelligent asshole”. Self-advocating just to get diagnosed is incredibly important, but doesn’t stop so that you and those around you can understand the why and how of you and your unique expression of autism. Hope you’re doing great and taking care of yourself, now and always!
Jeez, now that I have a daughter who I was researching for, I have been running across all these videos over the last few months and am in a similar boat to you. Fist bump for solidarity my friend. 👊🏻
Lynn, Thank you for sharing your story. It makes me think of my beautiful daughter who is also "Twice Exceptional". She is Autistic and Gifted. I feel like the most blessed mother to have been given her as my daughter. I want her to have the healing that comes from being officially diagnosed with Autism. She was tested for Gifted when she was 9 years old and that helped our family so much to understand her needs more. I want to be able to learn more about Autism and her needs. Thank you again for sharing.
I love how you spoke about this in such a public way. Quite honestly one of the most captivating TH-cam videos I've ever seen. To everyone reading this my name is Kathryn, and I also have Autism. I actually know Kelcey a bit. What a wonderful person. Autism to me personally isn't a disability, but merely a different way of thinking. We all think differently. The world needs all kinds of minds. If we all thought the same the world would be boring as hell, and I guarantee you we would still be living in the dark ages. I love anything to help autism awareness and anyone's preconceived notions of it. What an amazing video Kelcey. Kudos to you girl. And I agree on the labels thing. Labels can be negative but they can also be positive if it helps one understand themselves. Anyway Kelcey I so love your own thoughts on this, and you have a knack for story telling by the way! I can't emphasize enough how much I love this. You go girl!!! 👊👊
I dont have what you speak of, but I watched you and read the comments. I'm blown away at my ignorance of everyone's struggles. I dont know what normal is anymore because everyone is dealing with something. But thank you for sharing and all the best to you and blessings to everyone.
Thanks so much for this video
Knowing the (correct!) reason is powerfully liberating. The positive aspects can be used more and the negative can be counterbalanced. The joy you feel by finally (!) knowing “why” is obvious. I’m so blessed to have watched it.
Everybody is different, even within a community. It's just a relief to know. I want the diagnosis to get the right help. But personally I'm just more relieved. Like, finally my life makes sense.
I had to think back on that skimming thing. I didn't think I did that either and I can't really remember any particular moments except sever thunderstorms. I always thought I was having a mental breakdown or something. Oh! I just remembered I did that a lot in college... 🤔 Something to think about. Anyway, thanks for sharing this. It's nice to know I'm not completely alone and completely weird. 💖🙏🏾
Yay!!!! Good on ya Kelcey! You're helping blaze a path that people like me can follow.
I've just self-diagnosed this past week. I'm a 45 year-old man who was diagnosed with dyslexia as a child. I received Sensory Integration Therapy for two years and my IQ shot up so they put me in the gifted classes, but I usually got C's. I berated myself worse than my parents did for my underachieving, all the way through college. Some years after college I got a diagnosis of ADD and a prescription to go with it. I was soooo grateful for the help and the label. Now I find myself in the same position, except on a much bigger scale. I might still doubt it if it weren't for the specificity of some of the markers. (Prime examples.....thought my hearing was clinically bad, got it tested, nada. My eyes track towards license plates in an effort to track patterns. Friends don't return my calls......the truth hurts, but maybe less so now.) Ha, now that I think about it, my Dad used to rail on me about eye contact. I couldn't put the effort in at school but I can rattle off the names of actors, directors, etc.
I'm still soaking in what this means. Random memories pop up, I examine them now through the lens of Autism, and feel enormous relief. Through the lens of Autism, my dumpster fire of a social life has some explanation to it. (Not the least of which is being honest about the situation. How much energy have I spent staying in denial of the rejection strangers and friends regularly heaped on me.)
Beautiful catharsis.........................I'll try and check back later with an update. Thanks!!
Sometimes I have a hard time getting my words out and in stuttering but when I'm thinking about something I'm able to put pieces together in my mind I was in special needs for most of my life
Thank you for being so open, willing to share. You are an inspiration and help.
Congrats on a proper diagnosis. I just completed my formal testing.
I'm in the same exact situation guys you aren't alone. We are so much smarter than we get credit for! I've never met better people than people diagnosed with asd. We have so many beautiful parts of you. Don't give up.
I sent this to my daughter... you have so many similarities and she is about your age!
This video was the catalyst to my seeking an assessment, thank you so much for being open and vulnerable. I also feel like you have explained so much that I can't to my family that I have actually used it as a means of explaining to the aunt who tells me it's not possible.
You're doing you very well. I'm 42 (in uni) and have always worked etc. It has only been the last few years I've expected I have autistic traits and my doctor wife agrees. My father also has a rare form so it's likely. Personally I don't feel I would benefit anything from having a label so I haven't been formally diagnosed. Basically I'm saying there are probably lots more people out there that are autistic in some way and don't even know it. Keep being you, you're 1 in 7.5 billion (Aprox)
I'm going to have my 18 yr old autistic son watch this video when he gets home from school today. Thank you so much for posting this.
Internal tensions---"should be capable of" ---totally get that - thank u for sharing!!
Thank You for sharing this as you are definitely helping others like yourself come to an understanding and healing.
I grew up Dyslexic and had amazing hardships in schooling and it wasn't until my late 20's until I found about my learning disability.
Like you my brain over compensated so it was "hidden in plain sight."
Praying you find many blessing on your healing journey.
Your video was very enlightening! I'm looking forward to more videos, for example about your most outstanding symptoms. I have a hard time at social events or chatting. Toby is so cute! Take care 😁
Thank you so much for this! My 3 year old daughter was recently diagnosed with autism and I am trying to learn as much as I can to try to be able to communicate with her and understand enough to help her. There is so little known about autism with girls (especially 3 year olds as most girls are older when they are diagnosed). She has an amazing SPED preschool teacher, but without that degree myself, I feel like I am not doing enough at home. Thank you for being an inspiration.
ive been thinking about it for 3 years now (or maybe more, my memory is absolute shit) and i wanna get a diagnosis but idk how and i dont feel "autistic enough". Thanks for sharing your story. It wont make me do anything right now but maybe 30 more of these kinds of videos and i might pursue a diagnosis. or not.
bye
Did you manage to get a diagnosis? Just interested in your situation
Yeah i went to a doctor and she told me im not autistic. She didn't get to know me at all though, it was just one conversation and i didn't check the right boxes to be diagnosed. But im just trying to treat all my problems individually now and if theres an underlying cause it doesn't really matter to me
@@nixdortundnixda got it, dam that's a shame but as long as you know that is the most important and there is becomming a stronger autistic communion here on TH-cam and social media so if you need help you can reach out to us anytime because we all get it❤❤
These videos are so amazing and helpful to people who find out they are on the spectrum as a adult. I felt so alone until I saw the amount of women who go their entire lives without knowing.
I believe and a friend of mine speculates that I am on the spectrum. Unfortunately as a black female we are the least studied. Female and Black. its frustrating because I honestly don't know what to do to get help. Or where to go. Thanks for posting this video bc i like you don't fit the stereotype... or I've developed my own way to hide or disguise my symptoms. But i still struggle all the time. Ive been mis diagnosed as well plenty of times. At this point from all the research and reading the dsm and literally trying to figure out what is wrong with me i need to find a therapist to help me figure out if this is what it is. I really hope you do this second video bc i really found this helpful.
Tommy Jones wtf mate
tobagotb10 why would you say something so toxic and vile. Not knowing anything about what I'm going through? Do you know how depressed I am? Or how much I struggle with being alive. Do you not understand how much words hurt? I didn't ever get notified that you said this. But I had a terrible week. I've had a terrible year my mom died. And I'm alone. And I came home to read this hurtful crap and just sat here and cried. Bc im already struggling so much with depression. That a stranger's words can be and are peircing. You have no idea what I'm going through. And yet you're selfish enough to try to hurt others. It's not ok. I'd never do something like that.
tobagotb10 I wish you had her feelings and she felt better. Bc the world needs less of you. And more ppl like her. I said it.
oh wait um... Was that person referring to someone else or calling me a p.o.s? I'm so confused. I only see the one comment that says get off the internet you p.o.s. And I'm like what did I do. 😔
tobagotb10 ok I'm sorry. Yes he must've deleted the comment because I never saw it but thank you for taking up for me. You have no idea how much something so small can be so uplifting and powerful. Sometimes the smallest things we do can touch someone's life. And that small gesture made me feel so much better. There are kind people in this world. Even in the internet. And I read that entire I've learned post and I agree with so much of it. Thank you my friend for sending me the love! Spiritual hugs 🌼🌺🌸
I feel you. Just be careful because some people try to drag you down with them insulting people like us and acting like we’re idiots. We aren’t, we are the smartest kind of people
I’m an Aspe...the struggle is real. Stay strong.
Thank you for sharing this! I actually asked my mom a few months back if I was autistic and she laughed and said my little sister asked the same question about a year ago. So my sister and I had talked about this and it turns out that we both believe that we are on the autism spectrum and now I’m finding videos such as yours that are helping me with this. I need to call the VA to get an appointment to see if I can get an assessment done because I’ve had a long list of diagnoses saying that I have so many different disorders, but looking back at my childhood all the way up until now in my 30s I realize that I have probably been diagnosed time and time again with the wrong things. I’d imagine it would be a huge relief to know that I am artistic rather than having 10 different characteristics diagnoses so I can make sense of all of my issues with socialization, my OCD, my anxiety, my issues in relationships and with friendships and my difficulties with jobs and more...
@@brandon556 Do we know each other?
I went through all of this and my son got diagnosed when he was 6 I got diagnosed last year at 39years old I finally get the support I need
Are you in the US? I was wondering about how you began the assessment process. I was looking into ASD because I am positive my eldest son has it along with the ADHD he was diagnosed with when he was 3. I am pretty sure that I have it as well. I would love to be assessed!
Thank you for posting this!!! I'm autistic and while I'm very comfortable being autistic, most people wouldn't have a clue. Also, meeting other autistic people especially "twice gifted" like you said, can help you to fit in where you never felt that way before. Support groups helped me a ton but I sometimes still feel left out of the autistic community because I have kids.
The fact I achieved anything in life is amazing considering I had near zero networking, few friends and avoided study groups like the plague in college, but was intelligent focused polite honest direct maximally. Completely alone I relied most effectively on my autistic intellect. Once heard that a person is autistic only when with others, alone not ~~ while solitude is the way the body heals itself. Lovely video thanks Kelcey.
"A person is autistic only when with others, not alone" - wow, I relate so much.
Yes! I echo your sentiments, and I am glad you got your diagnosis earlier than I did. It's so freeing to finally have the right understanding of why one's experience is different to that of others.
So where do you go from here? Would love a followup video about your future plans, work, lifestyle etc
I really enjoyed your video! I’m a 30 year old male with Aspergers but never officially diagnosed.
I’m training at a university now to be a counselor for people struggling with this.
I think videos like yours can help people see the broader spectrum outside of the Rain Man.
I got diagnosed last june and It is such a relief yet so weird to have a late diagnosis. I can so relate to what you said. I waited 2 years before going to get my diagnosis because I feared getting dismissed cause i'm a pro at masking my ''symptoms''. Thank you for this video :) glad to see adults on the spectrum.
what doctor did you go too to get diagnosed?
Hello where did you go to get diagnosed
Kelly__ I went to get a diagnosis and I was told I wasn't autistic. Frustrating to say the least. I am 20 years old... I am practically lonely and completely isolated.
Please Don't Kill My Vibe same I’m 20 and I’m always alone but I love being alone anyway and I also isolate myself it’s bad but I don’t completely know how to communicate like an adult😞
Kelly__ you are black and autistic like me... we don't get represented alot. Um... what is your special interest if you dont mind me asking?
You helped me so freaking much! I have always felt and had those same exact feelings and its nice to see someone so similar in age that has the courage and knowledge to share your story.It makes me feel like theres hope for me. Thank you so much!
Learning about ‘high functioning’ females with ASD has been so eye opening and wonderful. At first I thought no way could I be on the spectrum; my only exposure was from books like ‘the curious incident of the dog in the nighttime’, but learning more about autism i am really relating more than I ever thought. Makes me realise how important awareness and representation is. I never recognised myself as perhaps being autistic because I couldn’t relate to people w ASD that I was aware of. When I’m overwhelmed I go mute for hours and rock back and forth for Christ sakes hahaha. Like cmon hun u autistic. Just coz u shit at maths u think it’s impossible? Oh dear hahahaha
Omg same. I'm also really bad at math. I can't grasp it. I wish I was good at math at least :(
thanks for sharing this! the video that sparked a lightbulb in you, also inspired me to look into ASD further...and yup, i tested high for having ASD and i’m 33 years old. i was in denial at first bc people have always described me as the girl who’s “friends with everyone” (aka me masking hardcore 😂). for me, having autism is like being in a play where everyone has the script, but you’re the only one who doesn’t. constantly feeling out of place, but not knowing why or how to fit in like everyone else.
Congratulations! You will now be able to define and structure your life as it best suits your needs.
I was diagnosed at 42 and it was an awakening. So many frustrating things from my past now make sense. There are many people including my own family that still dismiss my diagnosis. I wish they were focused more on me making life in a majority neurotypical society more comfortable. But I need to do what’s best for me.
“Spectrum Women” is one of the best and most validating books I’ve read as a woman on the spectrum.
Make no apologies for creating a life that supports you!
This was super cool to watch. I don’t think I’m on the autism spectrum but I’ve dealt with mental health issues all my life and for the last five years I’ve had a bunch of diagnoses at the same time but I feel like it’s something bigger like a personality or mood disorder and I’ve tried many different antidepressants that don’t quite work. It’s nice to feel validated in seeking a more accurate label to my experience, and potentially the way I and my doctors/therapist approach it!!
So I feel like your describing my life with the hand flapping curl up into a ball rocking back and forth panic attacks when you get overwhelmed.
I love that you shared this video!!! That the response my son kept getting! “He doesn’t look autistic” Thank you so much for sharing!
I've always thought something was off with me..for as long as I can remember. I'm 19 and a college freshman. I hate living with a roommate, because I get overwhelmed by all the small sounds and actions she does. There used to be nights when I would walk around outside at 3 am, because I was overstimulated and couldn't get my brain to stop spinning. I get weird attachments to objects that I shouldn't be attached to.
Examples include: a small felt voodoo doll that I made that I had to make sure I was in my pocket before I went any where; a tennis ball that I have to have in my hand when I fall asleep; etc.
I pick at my scalp (and have for years) when I'm trying to take tests or just get overwhelmed by things I feel like I don't understand. Apparently I used to stutter a few years back, but I don't remember it because it was "normal" for me. Sometimes I still find myself stuttering or repeating words and phrases when I get excited or upset or just overwhelmed and lose my train of thought. I don't like going out, and I don't have many friends...Of the few friends I've made in college, I hardly talk to them, because I always feel like they don't like me. I can talk to people "easily" I suppose, but I don't really like initiating and it is hard for me to continue conversations. If I am to initiate a conversation, then I likely rehearsed it before hand to figure out what I need to say.
I pick my scalp when I get stressed. 👀
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
This is me in a nutshell . ADHD too and always being told I'm not living my potential . I find it so hard being around people yet I'm a chameleon and I feel dreadful after .
Thank you for this video. I'm happy to see my daughter could live a normal life with the right help when she gets older. ❤❤❤
Thanks for your time. I am trying to figure out what is going on with myself. I am 40 now and ever since I was a child people said I was different. I always felt like an outsider and communication never came easy to me.
While smart, you wouldnt know it from school. I just never paid attention.
Like you I am not just looking for a label. I am looking for the RIGHT label.
Sadly, I let this bind me up pretty bad. I made the mistake to always look at it like "I can handle it! Dont need help!"
This just made things worse and now half my life is gone without any real answers.
Idk if im gonna ever figure this out but...the longer it goes the easier it gets for me to wanna just check out of life in general.
Sucks...But im trying still. I told myself I would atleast give the medication side of help a chance before I just pack it in and call it a day.
I am very TIRED.
Anyway, good luck with everything and Im glad you have some reference to work with. I cant think of anything worse then knowing something is off, but not being able to pinpoint it.
How do you fight something you cant see?
Your still young...now that you have figured it out please make the most of that information.
this was the first video I've ever watched about autism and since then I couldn't stop researching about it because it finally felt like I found the thing that described me so perfectly. And now three years later I've officially gotten diagnosed with ASD :) so thank you so much for making this video
Word of advice to anyone with these conditions, manage ur mental health by creating a short term and long term plan. Because stuff happens in life and I've seen way too many people go crazy
Thank you, I’ve had so many dioceses that never fitted only until a great doctor told me my mental health could be a learning disorder and yep I am on the spectrum. Thank you for talking about this as felt cheated out of life being 34 now. And it’s nice to see another woman talk about it. Thank you 😊💜👏✌️
I was diagnosed with autism 5 years ago and I must say, your mannerisms are very similar to mine. There is nothing wrong with it, I deem it as a gift
Great video, I’m with you on finding out, I actually got my diagnosis last yea at 64. Now my life makes a whole lot more sense ☺️❤️
Congratulations, I got mine this week at 58.
@@kayjay-kreations a year and a half on now for me and I actually understand myself. I feel so much more happy with my life. Best thing I ever did. Take your time to find the real you ☺️❤️
It was actually really funny for me and how and when I ended up getting assessed and diagnosed. I was in grade two, and it was actually my music teacher who spoke with my mom and she said hey I think your daughter might be Autistic. If it wasn't for that teacher, I really don't think I would have been diagnosed and given the help in not only understanding myself, but helping my mom to understand me at such an early age. I remember my mom talking to me about for her she didn't see it as something wrong with me, but it helped her to understand me in ways she didn't know how to before. I'm 25, and even when my mom talks about that she still gets extremely emotional. My mom has all of Temple Grandin's books around our house, and actually made me a homemade pressure vest. An idea she actually got from Temple's squeeze machine concept. If anyone wants to ask me anything they can. I am so passionate about autism awareness and I love Kelcey's take on it. And, it's only when we can get a dialogue starting where there can be understanding. At the end of the day, it is our humanity that unites us. We all want to be loved, appreciated, respected, and most of all something far too lacking in our society, understood.
Sounds like a great teacher. All of my teachers just said "she's a little shy, but she should try to talk more" 🙄
She was, she's retired now. Amazing lady, and family. My brother was actually best friends throughout elementry school and all of high school with one of her sons. The kind of friendship where he would just show up at my parent's house, and my dog wouldn't even react and my mom would feed him lol. I grew up in a small town lol. Oh wow. That sounds super judgey! I'm sorry you had to deal with that! I dealt in my life with super judgey people especially realted to the Autism, and myself. For most of my life I hated my brain and saw myself as less than related to the Autism, and I sometimes would cry myself to sleep and google how to be Neurotypical. That saddens me when I think about that now. I am glad I'm Autistic. I wouldn't have half the fire in my soul if I didn't. It also gave me the freedom to be unapologetically myself, and not be prey to conformity and the sheep mentality a majority of people carry, and not engage in social games and petty avoivable unecessay drama many neurotypical's indulge in. I am now aware of all the social games people play. I just choose not to play them. I beleive you can be tactful while being direct. People play games out of cowardice. There is a difference between being tactful, and considerate of the other person and just playing games that stems from fear and caring too much about what other's think. It's important to care about others, but at the end of the day you can't care more about what other's think of you than what you think of yourself.The only thing that matters in this world is knowing who you are at the core of your soul and beinf true to that. I'm glad I had to work for my social skills and that nothing came naturally. I appreciate them more, and it made me want to learn how to understand people and anything and everything social as bad as I wanted to breathe. I've now had many people tell me that I am more socially aware than most people not on the spectrum. I worked damn hard for that and cultivated skill where talent was zero. Most people with a natural talent at something don't try as hard as the person with zero. Hard work trumps talent where talent works hard. I love my brain and myself. Normal is boring and doesn't exist. I now feel sorry for anyone who feels the need to judge and put others down. Projection at it's finest, and the bully's mentality. Secure people don't do that. They lift other's up, and don't feel the need to bully others and see everyone as no better or worse than themselves. It's our differences that make us beautiful. If everyone thought the same, and liked the same things the world would be hella boring and I guarentee you we would still be living in the dark ages. I no longer view Autism as a disability, but merely a different way of thinking. The world needs all kinds of months and everyone "Neurotypical" or otherwise thinks differently. Most of the biggest game changers in history were thought to be on the spectrum, and I am proud to be a part of that community. Different, but not less. I am glad I am Neurodivergent. That sounds so much cooler than Neurotypical. To anyone out there on the spectrum you are not less. You are beautiful and more than enough exactly the way you are.
@@kathrynrhodes7785 Those are some wonderful words and I agree with most of them. Personally being on spectrum is something I've struggled with and still do today, I'm trying hard to accept that it's a part of me and that I'm not less but well, it's difficult. I still can't do the some of the things I want because of it, the reason I fell into a depression years ago was because I realized I was on the spectrum. I'm better now but I still struggle. I didn't wanna get a diagnosis because I was afraid. I had pretended the best I could to appear "normal" in front of people but with the diagnosis even other people would know. However, these kinds of videos have helped me, helped me to not care if other people know and that I'll be fine, just like everyone else with a diagnosis. So I'm gonna make an appointment and see if I can get diagnosed~
If you ever wanted someone to talk to I can talk, only if you want. Trust me I understand where you are coming from more than you know. Honestly, the people that judge you and don't like you for you and make you feel you have to be anything other than you aren't worth being around. Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter. :)
Thanks, that's kind of you. If you feel up to it, I totally wouldn't mind :) And that's very true, but the "pretend to appear 'normal'" thing kinda happens automatically for me, until I find out if the person I meet is open-minded enough, luckily my friends are. I have never really been able to be myself in public, or with someone I just met. It takes years for that haha.
I'm about to start tearing up. When you said you flap your hands like your waving tears, I started thinking, I do that when I'm having a nervous break down. I haven't been diagnosed, but I feel like that just confirmed it for me.
You are beautiful 😍 I have anxiety so, sometimes I feel that everyone doesn’t like me and I have mental breakdown but I’m getting better 😊