"My ideas on Therapy." (Check description and pinned comment)

[@Theohybrid]

Its gonna get worse before it gets better but thats a good thing. It means you're making literal progress.
Go to a professional (a good one who specializes in your specific issue and is actually empathic. I shouldn't have to say this but it's actually necessary to find these things as not all therapists are equal in quality and care. )
Here is the process described from an anime but i remapped it into general psychotherapy as I understand it.
IAM NOT A THERAPIST NOR PROFESSIONAL. GO TO THEM. THEY ARE TRAINED to HANDLE YOUR SPECFIC DIAGNOSIS AND/ OR CONDITION.
Without further explanation..
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Borderline Personality is possible to be far manageable but it will require intense work from a trained professional in the specific condition.
Stage 1: Gain trust. This takes time. If the person can see you as a trusted individual for one reason or another they will sit there and eventually start answering questions.
Stage 2: Digging. The Professional will ask various questions that dig into the person's history. It will start inoculated and eventually get pointed. It doesn't particularly matter how but it will happen at the professional's discretion.
Stage 3: Conflict. This honestly will happen throughout the process but deep enough, the person will beckme more volitile. Its not on purpose, the professional is just tampering with sensitive topics. So the person will react a lot. Its all sensitive so the professional has to be the grown up and communicate to the client the most calmly but firmly when necessary.
Stage 5: Core. Once enough trust, answers, crying, intense emotions, and ultimately defensiveness, the core will emerges: something akin to the inner child. But its very close to the inner child. The shame and vulnerability and fear will present itself as raw and very vulnerable. The professional will have gained trust to interact with the inner child and the inner child, a trust with the caregiver.
This profound stage is where the work will be akin to showing. It varies at times. But the child will open its world, revealing the truth of the horrors the being was exposed to at such an young age. To an adult, it is...inocculus but the one revealing it really needed support so it means an insurmountable importance. The professional is delicate but reassuring.
Stage 6: Rewriting & Repair. The professional will need to confess and tell the inner child what ought to/ should have happened in their childhood. The professional will affirm the inner child that they are actually a good girl/ boy/ person and that they needed someone to tell them that. I don't have proper words to describe this process but you are speaking to the person's inner child so you will be engaging akin to the parent they needed. In my guess, the client will feel incredibly safe.
Stage 7: Clear. The person will have undergone a notable change. This will sort of be noticed throughout the process but this part will be very noticeable. Their defense mechanisms will be overwritten , sort of. The person will feel bliss of yhe calm and the storm no longer being nonexistent but, there is yet so, _nothing_ . This is not to be alarmed.
The thing is, they will begin the rapid process of being raised or "re-Parented". They will get to know the _true them_ going forward.
Stage 8: Rediscovery & Empowerment. The person may find the new calm very relieving but will eventually wonder in this peace, 'Who can I be"? This is the beauty. Beyond the clear is discovery. You can start and be whoever you want to be so you move in life and rediscover yourself, your interests, likes & dislikes. They begin to actually value themselves in themselves as themselves.
And you do so with the professional. The good part is that all the skills you've gain while in your prior state transfer over.
This maintenance period is, imo, why therapy can prolong but its just as important. The goal isn't forever, its independence.
Stage 9: Self-Maintenance. The person gains confidence and can solve their own problems using the skills they learning in therapy. This stage could be relatively short but it is necessary.
Stage 10: Leaving the nest. The person has the whole sense of self and the ability to cope healthily in the world. The person makes their leave and has so make that transition. Some do not and attempt to prolong this process because of their strong ties to the professional but the professional will encourage confidently the client's departure. Its time to fly.
Like a kid going off into college it is a tearful goodbye but a confident one.
The person flies away and may stumble but the person will have enough confidence and begin to gather its own strength to fly strong and deal with its own problems to start its adventure with promise and great certainty.
The end.
These are my thoughts of the process imo of how the BPD person is transformed. I left quite a bit out. The professionals know FAR MORE than I do so I'd consult THEM. I mentioned, imo, a general idea but it is VERY intense. But it is good work to do. I appreciate every professional who have guided their clients towards better and more independent lives.
This is meant to show that these individuals, fictional or not, have a future that can be accessed.
I gathered this from many sources, some books, lots of mental health videos, some psych classes I took in the past.
(I am not a professional. I am an enthusiast.)