10 Clear Signs You've Been Abused By a Narcissist + Healing Prayer + Q&A
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- Abuse goes beyond physical wounds. But depending on our past, it can be difficult to determine difficult relationships from abusive ones.
So join me for today's episode as we dive deep into the 10 clear signs you’ve been abused by a narcissist, plus a healing prayer and LIVE Q & A
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Can you do a video on how we sustain PTSD and subsequent forgetfulness from narcissist abuse?
Bless you.
Wow I am so sensitive.I can tell by the tone of somebody's voice and it doesn't matter who it is if I need to walk on egg sales really quick.😂
I don't trust anybody anymore.
Unable to comment on this post. Not sure why? Use to be able to.
I stayed in a toxic marriage to a narc far too long, believing God hates divorce, so I must make it work, only to lose myself, and find myself needing help to heal. These vids help!
This is me.
I now see I've been surrounded by several family members all with this and was always told I was the problem!! It's freeing to know otherwise!! Very happy now!
A lot of people with narcissistic spouses do not have anyone else in their life so they think even the narcissist is better than total isolation in the world.
We have Jesus. His grace is enough. Better to be on a corner of a roof than with a... narcissistic husband.
They feel isolated because of that spouse - no Narc Spouse - no more isolation!
Thank you. I realize I’m under narcissistic abuse with my partner but I’ve been hiding from the truth 😢… please pray for me anyone reading this
I pray you will leave and trust Jesus christ.. I did and my only regret is not leaving sooner😢
I pray you continue to believe in yourself and seek help. AMEN.
@@Heseesyou. Exactly. Made it to 30 years but was almost insane till I got out. He had left and abandoned me and our son who was an adult but still living at home. Like a hopeful fool I allowed him back. He didn’t change at all in spite of a little counsel that he sat through until the counselor started telling him that he had work to do. Got to the point I couldn’t think. Was hard to work. Had to get counseling and that is when I found out about passive aggression and narcissistic behavior. Took me 2 more years to get finances separated and in order and find another home but I did it. I should have NEVER left him come back the first time.
@DJH97 thank you for sharing, I have been on the journey with the lord for 21 yrs.. he has taken me through alot of counciling and groups. I have sat next to women that have been shot in face and still go back, and the list will go on and on and on until myself woke up .. I pray foe others to do a fraction of what we have endured and still are enduring.. its quite the layers when you start to heal and the other part is to who you hang out with or hear while you heal. I'm very grateful for your courage and I respect women who take action and nor keep permitting another person not to change.. Nothing changes if nothing changes and you are responsible for your own recovery.. great job. May others hear you and I and go go go.. I left it all behind, I even marked the box for no spousal support.. money can't buy a way of escape in the mental sense.. thank you Jesus christ help us to stay free!!
@@Heseesyou. Oh so true. I didn’t want to divorce as God hates it. But I was losing my sanity and had to really take stock of whom I allowed around me. My family of origin had to go. They were just like my ex. They were hateful and cutting and when I looked back to my abusive father in childhood I realized it was for my whole life that I was in this environment. So it’s so true that narcissistic parents will set you up for that same pattern. At 63 I’m free from all of it. If it wouldn’t have been for my son passing in the middle of the separation and divorce I think I would be on my way to total healing. But the death of a child is nothing like anything else you will endure. So this is take me a “minute”. I try to keep faith in Jesus. But it’s been very hard to understand why I went through all of this. Only He sees the whole picture. Thank you for your kind words.
Kris, i cant thank you enough for enlightening me. This list is so accurate. I loved my husband so much and wanted to make him happy. Its so hard for me to wrap my head around the idea that he could treat me so bad, and have no remorse. We met on a religious website, so i assumed he was a "good" Christian. Not only was he not a good Christian, but he isnt even a good person. Ive been self destructive and beating myself up for not trusting my instincts that he was the dysfunctional one. We barely made it threw one year of marriage and i couldn't take the cruelty anymore. Im still trying to heal from all the toxicity. Your videos are a tremendous help, especially knowing that im not alone. You are a true blessing ❤
“We’re not called to please people,
We’re called to please God”
Thank you so much for your ministry.
It helps me so much.
Thank God for you and May God bless you and your ministry miraculously.
Amen Amen!!
Bingo im not here to please them. I'm here to please God
I became a Christian after watching Kris's videos about forgiving a narcissist. In the last 6 months my life changed dramatically. Thank you for your wise words!
I have forgiven my ex but You have to move on and have no contact. For 40 yrs. He mentally, physically and emotionally abused me and I am finally free, after ruining my life. Want nothing to do with him. He is pure evil!
Which video as I am just released from a 32 yr toxic marriage
@@melissabonds75641 how to forgive a toxic mother (it has all the necessary points), 2 if i've forgiven why am i still angry, 3 how to forgive a toxic family member and still move on, 4 what happens when you are released from a toxic relationship. The last one is about the changes that have to happen inside your heart when you're finding the ways to rebuild your life, mental detox, so to speak. Kris's general point is always that we are much more in control than we think and with God's grace all things are possible
@@melissabonds75641. how to forgive a toxic mother 2. if ive forgiven, why am i still angry 3. After you're released from a narcissistic relationship
Amen!! I'm married to a narcissist for 54 years! Only my Lord Jesus Christ carried me through all these years and still is in my old age!
Wow, that's a long time. I don't know if I can continue to do it another year. He's about to retire and I'm not looking forward to it.😔
Amazing.....You truly loved a person. You were truly a committed giving person. I hope that you are okay.
Thank Christ he answered with I cried out for me and he set me free that night, it cost me everything but I PPOL every day for setting me free
I’ve been with my narcissist from the age of 16 to now, in almost 60. How do you explain this to anyone? You love and are accused of not loving them, even by your own family. They say he loves you. We never tell. I’ve learned it’s a great lesson. It really is. Not that it doesn’t hurt. Not like it isn’t real. My whole family is now against me. Thanks to him. I’ve been the scapegoat. Help them all. All these years. I get cancer and a rare infection. No one helps me. I can no longer be the one they rely on. 2 of them lie and say they’ve gone to chemo with me. My oncologist never met one of them. But you know your a chosen one. Jesus loves you. Let that give you peace. At least this is becoming known now. We are the ones bringing this to light. Every generation gives the next generation a gift. This is what we are making better. God bless us. Jesus will take care of them. Know that.
Please prepare to leave, him in the home on a constant basis will lead to so much cronic pain and you already have it😢😢😢@iw9338
It is spiritually, physically and emotionally draining. Do not try to understand anything they do, they have no empathy, they lack all forms of empathy.
Narcissists are demonically possessed. Get away from them! God won't get angry if you divorce the Devil!
Wisdom comment. You are completely correct.
@anastasiapillsy, you are correct! 👍. I tried to understand my Narcissistic partners behaviors towards me, for the 15 yrs we were together 🤦♀️ OMG! What a waste of time! It only served to frustrate, and confuse me! So much wasted energy, on my part 😢! To anyone else reading this, don’t try to understand their behaviors! You never will figure it out 🤷♀️, just know it has nothing to do with YOU! ❤ These people are damaged, don’t let them damage you also 😔! My partner was damaged LONG before we ever got together! They will just throw their “baggage” all over You! Give your kind, caring, giving, heart to someone who deserves it ! I walked away with nothing, but the clothes on my back, and $3.00 in my pocket! This person took everything from me, and never gave in return! That was 15 months ago, I’m still recovering, but, I’m back to my “old self” again 😊! I had doubts that I could ‘start my life over’ again, at age 65 , but, I did it ! 😊 And, You Can Too!
@surfkat59 ...I agree with you 💯%!!!!!
I see myself in many of those traits.
Married 40 years to a narcissist. Miserable all 40 of these years. I'm a Christian and I know envy is a sin but I struggle when I see a happily married couple. I have longed for what they have for all my married life.
Ditto. I have recently found out horribly hurtful and evil things about my husband. I’m getting out. I understand how you feel.
@@Bg4J I'm so sorry.
Thank you Karen. I’ll be praying for you❤️
I'm glad you are able to get out, I'm not. I will be praying for you as well.❤️
Everything or married you see probably have their own demons, people often think they are happy but they are not 9 x out of 10
They are just codependent
I am in my healing isolation season. God is teaching me how to trust the Holy Spirit in leading me on how to interact with people again despite the agonizing pain I've been through. I am loving being myself and in peace and joy, but some days are lonelier than others. However I know im not ready to have anyone close to me right now. In time I trust God will lead equally yoked people into my life ❤
Amen, I'm seeking the same. I'm praying for a healthy sister who is working on her healing and has revelation and fruit.. may his face shine upon you all of your days❤❤
I wish you peace with the Lord in this healing isolation season. I'm living the same. Be blessed !
I also am in an isolated season. struggling with the loneliness. And out of my loneliness.I don't want to make the mistake of letting the wrong person back in when the somebody does come my way that I enjoy being with. I've never been this isolated before. No family now no friends and god hass removed the ones who are so toxic I didn't have the ability to do on my own. I call myself an elder orphan
Why an elder organ? I understood everything else❤
Im a very happy and loving person. All of a sudden im always in some kind of pain. I developed hot flashes. My skin is not as glowing as it was when I met this person. The narcissist has the answer to all I stated earlier. I’m told I should change my diet, I’m told I’m suffering from menopause. I’m told by the narcissist I should bring myself to god. He doesn’t see his contribution to all pain. Sometimes it’s hard to get away from this. I don’t understand why I know this is not right yet I’m still here.
No guilt in life, no fear in death
This is the power of Christ in me
From life's first cry to final breath
Jesus commands my destiny
NO POWER OF HELL, NO SCHEME OF MAN
Can ever pluck me from His hand
Till He returns or calls me home
Here in the power of Christ I'll stand 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen!
@@jeniferfuhrman1525 Lifechanging, awsome....Thank you
Amen, all the glory to our Lord Jesus Christ 🙌👑🩸🔥
Love that song. Sing it loud. Sing the rest. May you be forever blest.
I am a abuse survivor, sexual, emotional, mental, physical and I’m 54 years old so I guess I had to top it off by marrying a covert narcissist and I am struggling to leave him completely. I am codependent, insecure, embarrassed, ashamed, angry, hurt and I have been going through this for 20 years. It is terrible.
I prayed to God The Father to guide and comfort you and give you peace and strength ❤
My mother was a narcissist and subsequently I married to two of them. I have several of these characteristics, hypervigilance often seeking approval and walking on eggshells in relationships when I don't need to be.
You can heal yourself ❤
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ from 🇫🇮. My life is exactly the same. Mom and two husbands. I'm still married to number two. I'm old and thankful, that I buried mom at last 5 years ago. 57 years with that "lady" was a tough trial. And all the other narcissistic people in my life: I'm a magnet. I've not been in contact with other kind of people. Maranatha Yeshua Hamesiah Sarshalom.
Same. My mom was the narcissist and married 2 as well I don’t know who to trust a lot of the times. I really hate being this way.
. Guess is she in hell sinse than?
So what ate your choices and options?
I see 8 of these signs in my life. My health issues are related to cronic stress.
I'm experiencing the same in my life , how to heal from this? I'm having a high chronic stress and tingling sensation in my nerves throughout the whole body. Pls pray for me.
Hyper-vigilance can also manifest defense mechanisms that look like the opposite of hyper vigilance. You might start disconnecting from other people and begin numbing yourself to all things.
When they move your stuff or steal your stuff, mind games, and gas lighting
Ugh I hate that
Yes, my abuser does this all the time. He steals my things and then projects this onto me by accusing me of stealing his stuff. He hides my iPhone all the time and then said “I” must have moved it there. So one day I Googled “find my phone” and activated the screech alarm (this is REALLY loud!) and there it was under the ottoman right next to his head. He then says, “you must have kicked it under there”. The ottoman is very large, very heavy, is all the way on the floor and i wrapped it in a blanket so my cat can’t scratch it. You have to physically lift it up and put the phone under. So much gaslighting. I’ve been very ill for the past 8 years and didn’t have the energy to say anything but not anymore. It’s going to take some real energy to fix this and move on but I’m not sick anymore. Things need to change.
Won't even let me drive. Sends me horrible texts, hurtful lies.
Lies. Lies, lies.
My
Stomach turned the whole time and I felt all of this!! Stated with my mother! Then in my
Relationships!!! I still am trying to figure out who I am! And why I am !
Oh my gosh I am definitely monitoring his moods constantly. I look for a good mood to bring up conversation. My husband instantly says you're not going to do this now are you?! He cannot talk about us. He considers it a fight. He turns it into a loud voice shutting me down and walking away. And blames me for ruining a good day. So I don't talk about us. Ever. I started last week going to counseling. Lord please soften his heart. I've stopped trying to.
Don't wait for him to change! You go get some help for you! Take care of you!! You're wasting your time hoping he'll change! I wasted 14 years of my life on my ex. Finally realized I needed to take action and get out. I'm now married to a lovely man, who is not a narcissist! God saved my life.
Wow, I experience this same instance with my husband.
Same
Same here.. cherry on top is that my husband offers marital advice to others and suggests books to them he’s never read.
I gave up on trying to have any real meaningful conversations yrs ago. Its been so lonely like living in a wasteland.
broke off an engagement with a covert narc, its unbelievable, looking back, how much of myself I had to change to earn his love, which wasn't even enough anyways. I thank God every day I was freed from that. I am also high functioning, so now having healthy relationships is difficult.
I am constantly scared I might say something that will spark his anger and violent behavior.
That's called "walking on eggshells" and it's a form of control. I told mom "I'm not walking on eggshells to be around you"...eventually I had to go no contact since she trashed my boundaries and was so Abusive...I used self-care and put my sanity first.
Same here lived in prison of fear for 19 years
OK then get out NOW. It will only get worse !!
Walking on eggshells since childhood... Gods word gave me boldness.... to confront. To many years under Covert Narcissistism
Me too went through alot of physical illness and got fibromalaga for 6years but Jesus healed me. Praise God I hVe left my husband 5years now.
I didn't know how bad it was in my life, until I gave my life back to God and started to dig into my Bible and take some classes on faith. Now it's almost unbearable. But I am also working on learning to trust in God.
I’m so grateful for your guidance. I am 70 years old and have just learned about covert narcissism. My mom is a classic example and I have been her victim all these years. She is now 89 and still pulling my strings like I am a puppet. Understanding my codependency is helping me so much. Thank you for reminding me that the Holy Spirit can make the changes I need!
Kevin is way way toooooo adorable. God bless you for taking him in and having the patience to love him to wholeness
Imagine living in an Abuse free and Narcissist- free gated Condo community?💝💖❤💙💜❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
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It's called heaven...😁
I want to know why they dont just have their own colony somewhere and leave the rest of us alone.
I was the black sheep of the family because I fought back. Sadly, my father never stood up to my mother.
This is such a hopefull message after 25 years of narcissistic abuse I’m still healing after being free for 8 years
Thank you Jesus christ for setting you free, I pray you stay free.. I pray for a deep healing as you continue to diligently seek him❤
@@Heseesyou yes thank you healing ❤️🩹 slowly but steadily and God holding me close
Dear Lady. Your teachings on narcissistic abuse is enlightening and encouraging.
I am so moved by your prayer of lifting us up to the God Who Heals our broken hearts and Who cleanses and mends all our wounds.
May the Lord continue to boldly empower you in His Kingdom Work.
Thanks so much for this wonderful video! My dad is a narcissist 100%. I have practically all of the symptoms you described on here. I also have fibromyalgia, restless leg syndrome, neuropathy, and gut issues. And yes I definitely do believe this is generational, because of the way my dad was raised. I have stopped all contact with him for over 3 years. I have realized the longer I stay no contact with him, the better I am getting. I can’t believe how messed up I’ve been since I was so little. 😢 Thank you again! ❤️ AMEN!🙏🏻✝️
Sincerely sorry, whatever you had to experience in that relationship, but perhaps try see what he might have been "enduring ' in his life or past as well .If you , would Pray for the Holy Spirit to bring , renewal and blessed hope to his life as well. Your part , may be a catalyst with Jesus love and forgiveness.
@@SuperReznative thank you 😊❤️
All these points are a part of my experience with my vampire covert narc wife. Sorry to be so blunt. The Lord started a healing process 6 years ago. Until recently i didn’t see much progress, my anger, frustration and hyper-vigilance was growing, but I still trusted that the Lord was working on it behind the scene. The amazing changes that have all come together in just the last month or so reminds me of the verse “he works all things together for good to those love him and are called according to his will…” I never thought after so many years of narcissistic abuse that i could ever find peace, trust, joy or love in my heart. But it’s here now and i am almost completely free from the bondage and guilt. My identity and health is coming back now and i am so thrilled i want to tell everyone.
It is to much work for them.
Amen 🙏 Jesus never leaves us!
Going back to someone who is abusing you to get validation - my Mother called that the abused puppy syndrome - dog adictively keeps crawling back to it’s master despite abuse. It gets wired in.
Yes, and it can be healed. Put God first not man. Praying for you 🙏
I'm an Empath. My mother is a narcissist and more. I'm disabled. She's disabled. She tortures me EVERY DAY. I live with her and stay bc of Honor thy mother and father. I thought that I was obligated to stay with her bc of the honor thy mother and father. I understand now that she has demons that are trying to change me and gradually is changing me. I understand now that I MUST LEAVE so that I can continue to grow in Christ. I began to have lupus at age 27 bc my fight or flight never released as a child and growing up. She has always kept me intense. I'm 50 now.
True they are demonic people and try to bring in horrible feelings in the ones that are close to them....i realised that i was acting out of my character because i was being subjected to reactive abuse by my mom, then i moved far away from her manipulative claws and am so much better and can clearly see through the emotional abuse now....all the best for ur escape...
Praying you get out, soon! Your health will decline more if you stay 🙏
Leave.
@@sunshine-db2zm it's beautiful that you are doing better. Praise God. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement.
@@dct1238 thank you for your prayers. I appreciate it
My gosh, everything on that list is what i'm experiencing, I have gastric problems and extreme adrenal fatigue to the point that i'm fainting and having nerve pain, the emotional dependance is another thing and trauma bonding. I don't have any friends left and only my parents are left. Both are narcissists, and I live with them at 33 years old due to financial difficulties, unemployment and the illness. I have tried to move out but had to move back in due to finances, it is exhausting and I cry everyday praying and just searching for friends or people to show me kindness.
Amen!! For the 1st time I realize that I am married to a narcissist for 54years!!! But the wonderful thing is that my JESUS carried me through all this years. Yes it is hard. Thank you nou I realize that its not as I believed all my fault
I was married 18 years to a control freak who made sure I had no car, no phone or help in caring for our children. If I asked for help or money, I was told if I don’t like it then don’t let the door hit me in the %#* when I leave. I eventually left and am now living alone but a satisfying life with many friends and with the power of the Holy Spirit to lead me. I forgive my ex husband for his actions and see him as his own victim. Praise God . Amen
I have been in a narcissist for 30 years. I want to get out, and I'm having a hard time.
Divorcing from one - sexual abuse on daughter and verbal/emotional abuse on myself and 2 kids. Developing physical symptoms and praying for healing for all of us. This process is very difficult.
Thank you for your teaching and encouragement.
🙏🙏🙏
Such a great video Kris 👏🏽 so educational.
I’ve made a list of points as I was scrolling for them myself & couldn’t find any 😄
1. Hyper vigilance - walk on eggshells. Startle easily.
2. Trauma bonding - “it’s going to get better” excuse making - Christlike endurance 😅
3. Loss of personal identity
4. Chronic guilt - gaslighting - challenging your reality
5. Physical symptoms - stress responses
6. Low self-esteem due to constant criticism & belittlement
7. Emotional dependence
8. Walking on eggshells
9. Trust issues
10. Self-doubt - gaslighting, invalidating someone’s experience
I have experienced these 10 signs from my husband for 12 years. But now, i moved out from him and im getting better now, more confident than ever before. I thank God so much because he kept me safe from the hand of my husband. I thought he would changed but his getting worst. I am better now. Its only by His grace. In Jesus Name. Amen.
Sadly, I have seen most of the signs in my life. It is so hard to heal when they keep offending. It's my sister and she acts like she can't believe that I don't want a relationship with her & then is hurt and tells EVERYONE how terrible I am. :(
Amen. Thank you for the teaching and the prayer. God is helping me understand and stay unmovable. I don’t feel so alone now. God bless you! 🙏🏼♥️♥️
bowed my head..wept in my heartbrokenness and lifted my hands...Amen. 🙏♥
Thank you Kris x
Currently trusting no one now
Narcissists are the Teachers. We are the students! It is All for Our advancement. 😊❤
Got them all! Have had from an early age through today! As a newly born daughter of the King, I’m so happy that I came across this video. Soooo many people in my life are described here.
AAAAALWAYS "mood monitoring" with my husband. I NEVER know what is safe to talk about and what isn't. One day, it may be perfectly okay ... the next ... NOT AT ALL .... and all circumstances can be 100% the same .... except for in his messed up head, apparently. But yes ... ALWAYS monitoring his moods to try.... usually failing .... to see if he's in a "good place" or not.
All of them, all 10 of them
Its true what you said about physical ailments. I started having health issues pretty soon in the relationship spent 2 years with the guy, now 6 months free of him and my most recent blood tests have things starting to return to normal.
What I cant understand is why i put up with it so long, why i abandoned myself, my values, my beliefs for this guy. I honesty thought I had more self respect than that. I think forgiving myself is going to be harder than forgiving him 😔
Jessica try not to be too hard on yourself I let a lover from high school back in my life she was out to destroy me from the start , I let her stay for 14 months, walking on egg shells in my own house was just wrong.i blamed myself, I did try early on to end it I seen it was not for real.heck my Dr.( Her and I use the same doc.) Put me on valium.i was about to stroke out.hang in there girl.
Best Counselor for us is the Holy Spirit! John 14:26 "But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you."
I'm living all this right now. Walked away from him but my only option wasn't much better!
My mother and my now ex husband had me living in so much fear I couldn't function. I wanted to move in with my Grandmother to get away from mom. Grandma said no because she didn't want mom and dad visiting too often. Later, I moved in with my boyfriend and his family. He was a narc and I didn't know it . I wish I'd have known this then. Now, I have healing to do.
Yes! Desperately keep going back to get validation! Hoping for respect, peace and love desire.
I. So Thankful for the Power of God and your scriptural information in getting out if this 12 yr narcissist relationship.God is So Wonderful and I'm going to Grow spiritually and stronger everyday!!
I wish Kevin was my dog. Just lost my little Lady. She also would bite when she thought conditions required her to. She had been a abused dog when I adopted her.
Good stuff and well done! The toll has been tremendous and I deal with one still. It's exhausting and consumes your life.
Thank you for this recognition! It's rare to get clarity in counseling. They get uncomfortable with the depth. Then they start offering a pill. I knew that wasn't the answer. I walked away and talked to God instead. Finding me through Him.
Guidance dignity and understanding are the biggest keys. Thank you so much!❤
100 percent always needing validation from men whom I'm in relationship knowing they don't deserve me and I continue to do above and beyond to make them happy
That was one of my struggles
So I was under the same lust😢 I want to share that the cycles don't stop until you take yourself off the clearance shelf. Go heal to your fullest, it may take yrs.. but it's worth it.. its for you to have freedom in this life.. or you can keep sinning and being an open landing strip to satan😢😢 please repent for your part, your lust, your disobedience ❤
I was married to 2 of them!
My childhood role model taught me to be subservient and stick it out no matter what
This is a good warm hearted story. You mended his heart. I don’t believe I can ever be restored. My family are all professionals. They have smeared my name all over town to all other like professionals. I can’t trust anyone. I can’t support myself because of all the damage. I cannot find any way to support myself. They will smear and turn anyone I am associated to against me. And it starts all over again. Sadly I want to just end everything
Sounds absolutely overwhelming. I know the feeling. God is there to catch you.
My mom was mentally ill and psychotic and was a narccersistic type but the good news was I became a counselor and worked on a psyche unit and being hyper vigilant made me good at my job. I thought it was a gift. So grateful for your wisdom and knowledge and walking that road! I thank God for you. Gonna sign up for the course and both of them actually! This helps one with their intimacy with the Lord!
Hi. Asking for prayers and I will pray for all of you.
I separated from my fiance due to her teen daughter who is very narcissistic, and abuses everyone around her.
I pray for His healing of her and my relationship with her Mom
I have Complex PTSD and I know how painful it is; I am in the process of healing. However, I've also learned it's not just about getting the right Christian counselor. It's also about getting the right form of treatment that will help you, which is individual. I currently am doing emdr therapy and I know there are other forms as well.(Whoever is reading this will need to dig deep into that) There's hope.
You are right! Most people don't realize that trust is something that needs to be earned. Yes! trust the Holy Spirit. Good Job! Appreciated
My husband has 3 kids with three different women, and two with me. He lied to me about why things didn't work out with them. He is a narcissist, he put me through so much. He didn't want me talking to his ex-wife, and now I know why. He treated her the same way he treated me.
Well Kris I have qualified on ten out of ten of these issues. I imagine that tells you that I have been living a very lonely and unhappy life bordering on constant thoughts of suicide. I am 66 years old, male, veteran and the only way I have survived is trusting in Jesus, Father God and Holy Spirit. I am divorced twice by two types of these women. I live a life of being constantly broken hearted and alone. The only thing I look forward to is knowing I hopefully won't live too much longer. There is only one woman I have ever truly loved and because I blew it she went to another man and married him. I have never been able to forget her. I know I'm a big disappoint to everyone including God and myself. I am drowning and have been for over 45 years and I don't know how to stop it. I can't afford to get professional help and I don't think they would be able to understand me. Thanks for letting me hear what you had to say. I wish I could talk to you. My name is Mark, please pray for me.
You are not a disappointment to God. You are his son, he sees you like Jesus. Soul Care by Rob Reimer changed my life. You can afford a book. Do it.
I know you feel so alone, but you're not, really. Just in the dark. I feel your pain. And we're all here alone with you. Hang in there. The Son will shine again.
Just LISTENING to this is triggering anxiety and the desire to cry. I left my abuser nearly 2 months ago, and have evidently been numb until yesterday. For those 2 mo. I listened to nothing but scriptural teaching by pastors.
I DO feel compassion for him, and feel it could be SOO Different ...IF... he'd only get help.
But I'm listening anyway!!
Thank all you wonderful people and your heavenly prayers ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Kris your channel has helped me so much. I grew up in a family of narcissist. I felt like everything wrong was my fault. I walked on egg shells all the time. I was both mentally and physically abused. But I managed to finally able to break free. I felt so guilty and angry that I would just go off for nothing. My son told me that he hated when we went to my family gatherings because I would act just like them for days afterwards. It wasn't until I found your channel that I understood what was happening. Thank God for this channel.
Emotional dependency is me, I know I have never received anything from him that I need but I continue to go to him and thinking this is insane but I still do it.
I’ll be praying for us both to finally be able to get out of this cycle with the Holy Spirit’s help.
Experienced a narcissistic sister and abuse for 54 years
Thank you! He is currently either on house arrest or in jail. Your prayers have worked
I'm a survivor of many abusive relationships. I'm celebate now. . G thanks alot.❤😢😮
I Sooo agree with you about "guilt". There IS Godly guilt. We must discern the difference. You gave a great way to see it.
I just started watching your teachings a couple days ago. I want to thank you so much. Your teachings are so spont on and thank you for opening my eyes, you have literally saved me from a bad situation, God bless you above and beyond
So glad to meet you! I've been married to a narcissist for 54 years also! And it's only Jesus that brought me through!
Headaches…..my physical ailment my entire life.
Beautiful Kris, thank you...I needed to hear this. Thank you for your compassionate prayer. I felt the anointing from start to finish!
Thank you so much for your wisdom and your love , you are a safe place for victoms of abuse. I have been married to a narcassist for 28 years.
I separated and filed for divorce because of the abuse. Within two months of leaving, he said he changed and going to church and men’s group (something he wouldn’t do when I was there) and two months later he was in another relationship before our divorce went through. This has been within the last four months. And everything was my fault because I wouldn’t go back or tell him when I would come back because I was trying to work on myself and get the healing that I needed.
So good, Kris ! Thank you so much ! God bless you .
Thank you for helping and saving Kevin. It shows your kind heart and how big it really is....
Loved this video ❤
Remember this is not about the narc this is our personal healing process.
Wow-I have been asking for healing for Soo long !!
God help our unbelief!!!
Is it really possible to make it out !! ??
of walking on eggshells , gas lighting !!! and the terrible trust factor -the self Doubt !!!
Prayer has helped me - And I pray for my children.
You have helped my husband and me more than our Christian counselor. She missed that my in laws were narcissists. She laughed out loud when I told her my step FIL lifted her shirt to bare his stomach to me w/o warning and asked to check something on him at church. The cells in my body know to stay away from him. The flying monkeys at church are coming.
I pray you stop going to people who are not equipped.. you have discernment and continue to flee from them❤
I would think that two narcissists can have an understanding of each other, being that they have that in common. And that could be their basis of staying together, until it doesn't work anymore.
Both my parents are narcissists different styles but fundamentally sadistic
I watched them destroy one another each of their partners afterwards over the DECADES once they knew I was of legal age to separate myself started my own family from them GAVE them BASIC boundaries when interacting with MY SMALL CHILDREN at the time they were SO OFFENDED after being RELENTLESS ENEMIES to being ALIGNED TOGETHER against ME working with my ex husband and ex in laws targeting me grooming my children to treat me sadistically normalizing justifying their “ grandparents rights and concerns “ 🤦♀️
Yes, I find myself knowing I cannot count on them. Still want their validation sometimes.
Am glad you post how to handle trauma cause by NPD person with the view of God's words. Thank you so much that this understanding helps me aligns HIS Words, walk in faith and set a healthy boundary without any guilt feeling. Quite hard to find christian counselor who understands toxic situation issue. Am at the level of realization and acceptance on how my mom as she's aging, her NPD gets worst ..which encourage my elder sisters to put me me as a scapegoat. A setting which is created since I was very young by my mom. Also to be on guard as my spouse (was abuser to me for years before at the end I set a firm boundary to him; and your reminder regarding the love bombing period/ the cycle).
As I learn "to let go and not to involve in their drama" anymore, am placing more my hope in GOD alone and no one else. May this is a new journey of healing in HIS love and faithfulness.
Again thank you for posting this.
It helps me very much
Thumbs up! Love this list. Proves to me I have healed from the narcissistic abuse I suffered from multiple relationships, starting with my parents.
You, dear Lady, are a much needed friend. God Bless You
Awesome teaching as always! For me. the background music was a little too loud which was distracting during your prayer. Just wanted to mention for the future maybe the background music could be much softer, or really not even necessary. You have such an awesome voice I don't really think you need any background music. You definitely capture and hold your audience's attention. Thank you so much for your teachings!
Thank you so much! Wow, 8,9, and 10. Finally I don’t have to keep asking myself, what’s wrong with me
Thank you for the pray. My ex boyfriend had all these signs. I am working on my healing. So greatful I got out of the relationship. Very painful place to be.
Bless you, I'm so proud of you for having the boldness to come out from amongst them and be separate ❤ may your healing be complete ❤ may your testimony go forth to warn others and be a hope to there coming out❤
My dad was a karmic very violent was hard growing up
I share your pain ,stay strong.
Thank You so much for these life-saving chats.
I am ready!
Im currently divorcing after 12 years & ive definitely experienced these ptsd symptoms. Thanks so much for the powerful prayer🙏
Thank you for this ❤
Thank you!