Raised by a parent with undiagnosed adhd and what i now understand as emotional dysregulation and anger management concerns. It was rough. But we have evolved and we work to better ourselves
My mom had undiagnosed adhd when I’d been diagnosed and I used to take deep breaths as a coping mechanism whenever I felt overwhelmed by her. She would take that as a sign of disrespect and it would frustrate her. At the time, I didn’t know I was experiencing emotional dysregulation and I couldn’t explain why I was reacting so strongly to certain things. Communication is still a little hard with her, because we both get angered quickly when we feel like we’re being criticized or pressured.
@@kook.a.doo. even my therapist suspected that my late father was on the spectrum as I am, based on how he acted and behaved in my family's day-to-day lives.
I have severe ADHD, and I’ve always had anger problems. My anger is so intense that I’ve made holes in my walls, and destroyed doors during an episode. I’ll scream and curse too.
I only get angry when someone is angry to me. This anger usually is in the form of losing all emotion except anger. To people around me, it only seams like I’m less talkative because I don’t really share my anger. I don’t really explode. The anger just remains as bitterness whenever I remember the situation.
I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY ME but whenever the people around me were very obviously fuming even if i was feeling happy, seeing someone angry makes me angry too and i don't know why.
This is all good and helpful, but as much as it is about managing yourself, it's also good to be in an environment that can help guide you in your emotion, and away from people who only scald you and only make you feel bad about yourself, Something I lived with having an older brother all my life. It's a team effort when learning and working on yourself, so find the right people.
I’m disappointed in myself because I know my temper is shit but I thought I was just a horrible person. It’s only worn down over the years to be very honest
Diagnosed in 1992 before it was cool and your statement hits hard over here. I’ll add lack of self worth and big time people pleaser. Glad your anger is milder. Most of us have pretty good control, it’s just those damn triggers from ones we love, especially if there’s a calm conversation about what they are and those boundaries are pushed or broken later on. Stay strong
Anger frequently spawns from, constantly being misunderstood by family/colleagues..... Told how unsuitable your symptoms make you appear to others, And being reduced to your symptoms so completely as a person , that it seems folks don't even know who you are as a person. Just what they perceive without talking to or even knowing you or what's happening.
@@missplainjane3905 Im guessing based on my own experience.... but more often than not, no. It seems like its a chore for them to receive this unwanted information. Its simply too much work to try for them. A few genuinely want to understand, but articulation of the issue comes into play along with them being unable to relate to the problem I'm having.
@@missplainjane3905 Heh, agreed. I'm working on it, without trying to put to much wear and tear on those around me, that is. Fingers crossed, wish me luck.🤞
sometimes when i get angry i scream at the top of my lungs until i taste blood then keep going. ive blown out my voice many times doing this. i simply cant stop myself. im terrified of relationships because i cant stop myself from raising my voice when i get dysregulated.
What makes it worse is when people ask "why are you in the room screaming by yourself" they don't get the explosive feeling. Let me not forget to mention you feeling horrible about who you hurt and regretting how you reacted because it's hard to control.... there's so much more to it than this, this is just me dipping my finger in the ocean about how I feel about my ADHD. And I know some people out there can relate to this.
I have inattentive ADHD. I have explosive outbursts over sometimes small stuff and i start cursing and yelling up a storm. I couldn’t understand why everyone else had such a easy time not getting angry. I especially hate when people have to dumb down instructions because i have a hard time paying attention or trying to take over what im doing. This video explains a lot and is very cute and well done. Thanks
I'm having this realization today. Last week I took an ADHD test for my therapist and I've done a lot of research about the subject. I'm struggling to cope that my ADHD that I've had since I was born eventually turned into depression, PTSD, bipolar and suicide attempts because people in my life lead me to believe I was broken and difficult to be around. To this day I'm severely struggling to figure out how to cope with my struggles.My shame and guilt that I've had since childhood has been a result of undiagnosed ADHD this whole time.
I have Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder, ADHD Combined and Generalized Anxiety Disorder and if I had to go in order of which disorder is more severe it would be the ADHD then Generalized Anxiety and then the Communication Disorder. ADHD combined has been my living hell and meds plus CBT make it remotely manageable because it feeds into everything else and makes things 10x worse
Took the words right out of my mouth. I have been feeling intense shame for this, as I know how it negatively affects the people in my life who I love very much. May we treat ourselves with loving compassion ❤️ also see you posted 7mo ago, hope you’re finding peace in your struggles friend. Sending love!!!!
@@DiamondEnergetics Yes! Anger isn't a problem anymore, for sure. There's other emotional dysregulation but hey, here's still progress! Hope you find some peace from it all! ❤❤
That app ahead is actually pretty freaking helpful!! I was seeing ads for it and finally caved. This sounds like an ad but it’s not 😂 it genuinely is helping me though. If you’re reading this and you feel like your anger and your mind controls you, and especially if you don’t necessarily feel comfortable talking about it in therapy right away bc you know the whole shame thing!!! The Apple app called Ahead is more helpful than any therapist I’ve seen. Granted- I didn’t stick with any of them for very long. I’m going to pair this app with a good therapist that resonates with me and I think I should be set. It’s okay to take baby steps. If you’re not comfortable w therapy right away, maybe something like this is the step 1 you need. We gotta start somewhere though. Learn to behave in a way we are proud of when big emotions hit. We DO have control over our anger!! One thing ahead has taught me already that is a game changer is that my anger is valuable, and has helped me in many instances. A tool I use a lot right now from the app is to thank my anger. You say “thank you, brain, for the suggestion to get angry - but I got this.” It really works for me. Again, totally not sponsored by this app. Totally wish I were. Hope this helps someone. Sending love!
I had the experience once of being in a group of friends, with me and another guy both having ADHD. The reactions, behaviours and clashes were legendary.
i was recently diagnosed with inattentive adhd last summer when getting tested for bipolar disorder and i notice my anger episodes are usually triggered by knowing plans last minute, being rushed, social conflict as a whole, and definitely overstimulation and stress. i get so upset during this episodes i tend to yell, argue, swear, throw things, or even turn to old bad habits of sh. i hope everyone else struggling with these problems will learn to cope with them eventually, it is possible but things take time
I get more angry at myself when I forget stuff and remember later when its actually too late, or if I'm telling a story and in the middle of the story something distracts my attention and I forget my story. i can explode at myself. ADHD is a curse from the devil.
I’m just angry, and when I lose focus and concentration at work? I feel like the top of my skull is about to blow open. I always keep it under wraps but I have no way of venting it, also social situations are really bad for me, I get very angry with people even over little things.
I've had so many angry outbursts in my life especially in the last year and a half that i sometimes feel completely destroyed and that using my current coping skills isn't worth a damn. But i also know that this isnt the right attitude to have when trying trying to cope with it.
I've taught myself to block my emotions in stressful situations because of social norms, low self esteem(I feel not important enough to express my emotions), fear of the consequences (I've had many occasions where my outbursts made me embarrased of myself) and my upbringing - which includes fear of authority figures (any emotion that was negative was interpreted as being in spite of them or wrong) also my whole life I've been learning to keep in my tears (It's a struggle of mine) because they were not welcome in my household. Nowadays I usually cry afterwards the stressful situation - the most important task at the time is to solve the problem so I don't allow any emotion cuz It gets in the way. Anyone else?👀 Btw I dunno if I have ADHD can someone recommend any good sites for some research?💫🙏 🦈
I've never gotten over the anger, I always had that scary snapping anger that everyone says serial killers had, whixh worries me but I think I know that I'm gonna turn it in so it becomes depression. Its better to be a lonely sad sack than to snap on people and end up losing everything and effecting other people's lives badly.
Thank you , as someone with comorbid with CD your help is great. Its apathy , bottled up and anger most of the time especially when not entertained. My environment caused to turn like this and Im trying to go back and be better.
im undiagnosed and i truly believe i have adhd and im so mad i cant function like a normal person and i get so mad so i just hurt my self and hurt other people
I discovered this channel today and I'm watching one video after another. I have internalized all of these symptoms so much that I literally can't believe what I'm hearing right now.
I have really bad road rage with people who don't drive properly and bad traffic conditions. Driving is so hard because of difficult driving conditions and that triggers my ADHD related anger.
My mom a teacher had noticed I had adhd an year ago but she was not sure so took me to a doctor who also said I had add after that I've felt let out but since 3 years I keep on being angry at my parents its like I can't control what I'm saying after that I found this channel and now I'm going to keep a goal to get rid of my add thank you so much!!
Although I may be late, this video did help a bit as someone with adhd and anger. I usually get really angry when people make me repeat things, or just reply “huh” over and over again to what I am trying to explain, or if people do not understand what I am trying to convey, which leads me to get really aggressive towards the people who meant no harm at all. It’s honestly annoying to do that, and I do it a ton. The video helped a small bit, but didn’t point out many things that happen to me, and it may just be because it’s something different? Anyways, thank you for the video. ^^
Yess, I’m usually more patient with people I don’t know that well but someone pestering me and not leaving me alone also makes me angry ur not alone :>
I remember when I would ask my older brother or my friends a question and he would say “what” repeatedly. I would say it louder and louder and even FUCKING SHOUT MY QUESTION and yet they still continue to say what?? That infuriated me.
Moça muito obrigado! Você me ajudou muito, tanto em aprender mais sobre TDAH quanto em inglês. Recebi meu diagnóstico de TDAH no final do ano passado e assistir seus vídeos ajudou e ajuda muito a entender todas essas coisas. Eu amo seus vídeos, eles são fáceis de entender e a estética de seus vídeos é perfeita. Te sigo aqui no TH-cam e no Inst4, adoro seus posts por lá, vejo quase todos os dias. Só queria dizer muito obrigado novamente :))
My whole life everyone describes me as explosive and can be loud... i used to br angry a lot... like a lot. Couldn't understand why, i took my anger and frustration on my dog when i was teenager and I hate this so much about me. I'm so much better to control it now but I'm scared the ghost from past will come back... this year at 33 years old i realised I might be having ADHD... and it all makes it so much clearer but also it helps me to be kider to myself...
My family is proud of their ability to black out in anger... im terrified of it. Im better than i used to be but ive learned i just can not let myself get angry at anything, under any circumstances. Not angry like that at least.
Frustration at inability to usr executive functions. Getting teased for inability to communicate. Getting told to just focus, do it like, blah blah. Yes, sorting out, impulse. SENSORY OVERLOAD!! Being dismissed, or telling people that I have this problem, can you meet me halfway. And they ignore it as an excuse, instead of a medical condition, meltdowns, disregulation are all very valid
very educational and a very cute aesthetic as well :) I have to say all these examples are things I do... often. especially when I'm stressed at my desk or hyperfocused on a task, i am prone to being self-centered and lashing out at people :/
I know I'll never find a job that doesn't stress me out in some way, so I've just gotten used to wearing a bite guard all day and spend as little time around people when I get home.
I have severe ADHD and I get very very angry when people turn something dead simple like doing laundry into a level 100 boss fight. It shouldn’t be that hard but it becomes that way because people fail to communicate for example that a laundry machine will be down here is some alternatives. I need a Plan B for when shit happens or I explode and/or meltdown and there’s nothing that’ll stop it
maaaaaan... i just wished i had known all this when i was kid and young... holy cow all the issues i could have avoided... just by knowing ... and all the fights i could have ... tried to avoid in school... *argh - i got the full on anger towards people not knowing shit about these things when i was a kid.
I’m either the chillest dude ever who usually doesn’t get mad at pretty much anything whatsoever but there are a few things if said or done to me I explode but I just can’t control it, for example my weight I’ve always struggled with
I actually have anger management issues I actually get angry mostly at my parents usually but now since I have a counsellor I’m starting to realise that I need to control it a bit more
My wife sets my anger off so damn hard. The constant criticism of my fu%kups and lack of focus just sends me in a rage more often than not. I really struggle with criticism and have never been able to deal with it well. I have coped by just learning to avoid the problems which always backfires cause.... of course that won't solve anything. My adhd has basically annihilated our relationship.
Your comment hits it right on the head for me. I really really want to just avoid the criticisms and point fingers. She always tells me she's not trying to attack me, but it always feels like she's trying to attack me. I'm sure it's just me flowing out of proportion.
Me to a T. Only recently (in my 43 years) have I realized it and am constantly working on keeping things under control. It's tough. It's like holding back explosive lava (sounds a lot like Taco night 🤣 )
Here is my summary of daily routine for adhd 1. **Super Brain Yoga Exercises**: - **Steps**: 1. Stand up straight, press your tongue to the roof of your mouth. 2. Cross your arms, holding opposite earlobes. 3. Inhale deeply as you squat down, exhale as you stand up. 4. Repeat 7-14 times. - **Benefit**: Enhances memory, focus, and mental clarity. 2. **Breathing Exercises for Focus (Box Breathing)**: - **Steps**: 1. Inhale through your nose for a count of 4. 2. Hold your breath for a count of 4. 3. Exhale through your mouth for a count of 4. 4. Hold your breath for a count of 4. 5. Repeat for 5-10 minutes. - **Benefit**: Reduces stress and improves concentration. 3. **Inhale Exercise While Lying Down**: - **Description**: Inhale while lying down, stretch your legs and arms, then lift them while exhaling. - **Benefit**: Enhances oxygen flow and improves focus. 4. **Ginkgo Biloba Supplements**: Take two 120 mg capsules daily. There are many similar alternatives available, but it's preferable to take the official supplement. 5. **Fish Oil Supplements**: Also, consider a - z multivitamins that contain a mix of essential elements. 6. **Avoid Flavorings and Reduce Electronics Use**: Minimize the use of flavorings from food and reduce exposure to electronic devices. --- I hope these tips are helpful!
And I pushed my brain so hard to Concentrate it was so annoying I kept thinking about other things when listening to the teacher I can't control my anger
I get very angry when somebody tells me I didnt do something good enough or that I’m lying. I don’t mean to lose my temper but I go off the wall and accidentally cuss bad. I feel so bad right after but then continue to think about it and get more mad
Hi , im a 28 year old woman. I've had severe ADHD my whole life. I got diagnosed at age 13yo. Yes, i was the hyper adhd girl. All my life ive had anger problems. Now im 28yo. I still have anger problems im in my car, crying and writing in my journal how i hate myself so much. Nd how hard it was to finally love myself. Then i wrote "why am i so emotional, or why do i react the way i react with my emotions " . I feel like i want to dissappear far away from people. So they wouldn't have to deal with this monster of a human. But hey i do love myself and eventually ppl will forgive me. But thats all
My whole family has untreated ADHD in varying degrees of severity. I also have bipolar disorder and I’m on the autism spectrum so symptoms of ADHD in my family members such over explanation, excessive talking, random singing and being overall really loud gets me very angry since the moment I wake up every morning. The only times when I’m not angry is when I’m home alone in the silence, otherwise I get so much overwhelmed that I become angry easily and I just want to lock myself in my room and hear nothing😢
NEVER KNEW ADHD ,WAS PARTICULARLY TO BLAME FOR MY IMPULSIVITY ,BESIDES MY ADDICT ,ALCOHOLIC BRAIN,AND (** C-P.T.S.D BRAIN ***) TOO😢😢😢😢 TRIGGERS ARE SO HARD TO IDENTIFY..TE AMO❤4/28/2023
Bingo, I usually have zero awareness prior to blowing up. And my outbursts are always when someone comes at me with an out of line personal insult. (Or perceived) usually I can see what tripped me, I have not been able to 100% stop outbursts.
@@tonyromano6220 and then people think you’re nuts when really, you can’t help it. And they have no idea how badly it eats at you, for years after, that you did that. YEARS LATER! Their judgement makes your own self-disgust worse. And then you cry yourself to sleep about it, even decades later. And no one except our fellow ADHD peeps get it. Truly truly get it.
Try undiagnosed adhd& a ( now dead father in law) who seemed to enjoy provokeing me when my3 children were young, blamed me for being an awful person! Yah he got 109% in jerk.
I got charged multi physical injuries and assault they really got me when they making fun me straight up bullying, had a bad day arguing with my parents and go to school. I was really pissed and its been always these group when they saw me, im trained amateur fighter and this is the first time i snapped when they threw something on me while buying my lunch. I thought this happens only on movies, i beat them all up. I don't know how my life will go and everything is messed up
The fact that i put my phone down today and for the life of me had a complete blank space in my head for the moment when I put it down. It was like it never happened. Retracing my steps was no problem but did I remember how or why it was sitting in the empty kitchen sink? NOPE. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 adhd sucks.
I severely frustrated at certain things my siblings do and sometimes just blank. I’ve grown to control myself every now and then, It’s been almost a year since I’ve gotten really physical with one of my siblings but I just had a rage moment and after I looked back there was really no reasoning behind it so now I just want to find how to better myself I gave him lots of robux that should help for now but I don’t want to see nor feel that type of rage anymore I don’t like to really harm my siblings to the point where there scared of me and may feel on edge with me in there presence. My oldest sibling is now 19 she’s older then me so back when we were younger I wouldn’t just hit her but as I got older she would eventually attack me and that lead to me having no respect for her so I eventually started beating her up but I’ve only stopped because of the consequences of her telling. But now that my younger brother is older I’ve only grown to torment/torture him. He may be irritating sometimes but that doesn’t mean I should just blank and beat up anyone especially some as close to me such as a sibling. Sorry if you had to read all of this but I just recently had an episode or whatever you call it and I’m just seeking to see what’s wrong with me. We currently don’t have the funds for therapy so I’m just trying to at least help myself and find something online. Thank you for reading this it was much needed to leave my system.🙏🏾
Such a great and helpful video for an ADHD-er like myself, the chibi animation style makes it so easy to digest too 🤗💛. I have to say though, personally I don't really enjoy videos that don't use pop filters, but I understand it's for the ASMR effect. I hope this channel keeps growing! ❤
I may get checked for adhd as my daughters boyfriend has it and we have similarities in that we will talk and become almost fixated on certain hobbies etc.. but I can have a Jekyll Hyde personality .. will do anything and go out of my way to help someone but if wound up cant shut off and will go to the ends of the earth to get someone back if they have done me a wrong.... my work in building and long hrs gym, boxing, muay thai etc used to help but as I'm older now and have bulging discs etc it makes doing some of these more difficult so its like a circle...
I had that situation as a kid where something would infuriate me to the point where I scream and I get the ass whipping of my life when my parents don’t understand the context.
Angry about dealing with other adults - including teachers - who think neurodivergence is a “symptom” of a “problem.” The actual problem is caused by the instructors’ lack of skill in teaching a variety of learning styles. Where are the videos detailing the gifts of adhd and how to skillfully apply them?
Honestly for the past 2/2& a half years I've been back and forth to my Doctors telling them i need an ADHD diagnoses but they won't listen. They keep saying because of the Tik Tok hype the waiting list is through the roof so they keep palming me off. They just say its anxiety and depression but I know there's more to it and it infuriates me so much! The last time i went there i had a melt down and had an angry burst and the Dr just sat there and said "I think you're looking into this ADHD diagnoses too much I just think you're stressed" nobody cares. Especially when you're a woman in your 20s. I'm so self aware of my behaviour and how I act Especially now that I'm older. I'm exhausted living this life with no help and masking everyday to seem 'normal' 🥺💔
So much knowledge and help on TH-cam to understand about ADHD. To support yourself in the waiting for a diagnosis. I have been treated only for depression and anxiety, for ten years .... .. low and behold I have been suffering with ADHD hell my whole life ,and only diagnosed at 62. Seek a different doctor, I have to believe they do not all share the same perspective.
@estherloske1396 I went back today after finally typing up my experiences and symptoms and they said they can scan the letter but still need me to see a doctor to refer me but I work full time so trying to get an appointment is impossible. They just keep fobbing me off. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression 6 years ago but I've always known it's something else but they refuse to listen 😔
You are gaining knowledge and it will empower you to keep advocating for yourself. Prepare yourself in getting DR. Appointment. First appointment, Lunchtime appointment, Last appointment, Or book a sick day off to get diagnosis ,support or meds. Best wishes 💯
Eyy i have struggled with that myself until i didn't search for specialist I wasn't diagnosed, it's hard you feel like everything is out of control, how you been?
i have severe anger issues but idk if i got adhd idk much bout that shit but i just be mad af all the time especially doing shit i like for example if i game and shit or if someone dumber than me does some shit i dont like i start destroying shit around me and it gets stronger when i listen to for example baby kia i know it sounds like some fucking wannabe main character shit but i always get frustrated too (idk how to write that) im just yapping idk what i wrote but i have severe anger issues i dont like it i think im bipolar cause i be mood switching like crazy
I have ADHD , And i Feel Anger And the jitters , For The most trivial reasons , For example My Phone is IPhone I Entered The Setting Through the "Password" Option , and is requires me to point my face at the camera for it to Open , but an error occurred Several times , and I became angry , annoyed , and irritated
It’s feels good and bad at the same time when I get angry
I relate
You sick f I feel the same 😂😂😂
Me too baby
Too true. Lol
Same
Raised by a parent with undiagnosed adhd and what i now understand as emotional dysregulation and anger management concerns. It was rough. But we have evolved and we work to better ourselves
My mom had undiagnosed adhd when I’d been diagnosed and I used to take deep breaths as a coping mechanism whenever I felt overwhelmed by her. She would take that as a sign of disrespect and it would frustrate her. At the time, I didn’t know I was experiencing emotional dysregulation and I couldn’t explain why I was reacting so strongly to certain things.
Communication is still a little hard with her, because we both get angered quickly when we feel like we’re being criticized or pressured.
Can you help in dealing with the experience u had with adhd.. Am recently diagnosed
@@kook.a.doo. even my therapist suspected that my late father was on the spectrum as I am, based on how he acted and behaved in my family's day-to-day lives.
Bro, SAME
angry about having to live with adhd
True
what a mood (seriously)
r/ifeelcalledout X3
Real
Hahaha so true😭
I get angry when I get overwhelmed, which then gets me even more angry which then gets me further overwhelmed and so the cycle continues…
Same
I thought this was Pysch2go for a second, this channel is very underrated.
I have severe ADHD, and I’ve always had anger problems. My anger is so intense that I’ve made holes in my walls, and destroyed doors during an episode. I’ll scream and curse too.
Yep. I see red and feel like an insane person. Then when I am calm and reflect I realize I must look insane the way I am acting and the shit I say lol
Same lmao, I literally cracked my wall out of frustration because I noticed i ran out of toilet paper mid sh*tting
@@One_Call_System im not diagnosed but iv had these exact reactions you just said since i was a kid and im 31 now.
ADHD medication has helped me a lot, it might help you too
@@neurodivergentdawn I take meds for it and they do help
I only get angry when someone is angry to me. This anger usually is in the form of losing all emotion except anger. To people around me, it only seams like I’m less talkative because I don’t really share my anger. I don’t really explode. The anger just remains as bitterness whenever I remember the situation.
I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY ME but whenever the people around me were very obviously fuming even if i was feeling happy, seeing someone angry makes me angry too and i don't know why.
Agreed.
Good or bad, I tend to strongly mirror the treatment I'm given.
THANKS FOR CLEARLY EXPLANATION OF"ANGER AND ANGER'
IT'S IMPIRTANT TO KNOW,
'I THINK ,
PATIENCE IS IMPERATIVE SOMEONE WITH ADHD,
WITHOUT JUDGMENT💥
@@stefyguereschi yer stuck in Caps Lock...
Think of it as an "Implied Anger" button for text.
Hopefully only your keyboard sounds angry. ✌️
Relatable but I've flipped at times openly at that point too screaming like some gorilla and I really don't like conflict
This is all good and helpful, but as much as it is about managing yourself, it's also good to be in an environment that can help guide you in your emotion, and away from people who only scald you and only make you feel bad about yourself, Something I lived with having an older brother all my life. It's a team effort when learning and working on yourself, so find the right people.
I’m disappointed in myself because I know my temper is shit but I thought I was just a horrible person. It’s only worn down over the years to be very honest
Maybe I have a short temper AND i’m a horrible person? 😅
@@addictedfoolgamer1970 lmao the accuracy
@nikowalkes772 I have adhd to buddy your not alone
Diagnosed in 1992 before it was cool and your statement hits hard over here. I’ll add lack of self worth and big time people pleaser. Glad your anger is milder. Most of us have pretty good control, it’s just those damn triggers from ones we love, especially if there’s a calm conversation about what they are and those boundaries are pushed or broken later on. Stay strong
I also accidentally snap at my beastie and I always apologize so many times and they forgive me but I still wanna Control it
Anger frequently spawns from, constantly being misunderstood by family/colleagues.....
Told how unsuitable your symptoms make you appear to others,
And being reduced to your symptoms so completely as a person , that it seems folks don't even know who you are as a person.
Just what they perceive without talking to or even knowing you or what's happening.
Do you think others would care to understand
@@missplainjane3905 Im guessing based on my own experience.... but more often than not, no. It seems like its a chore for them to receive this unwanted information. Its simply too much work to try for them.
A few genuinely want to understand, but articulation of the issue comes into play along with them being unable to relate to the problem I'm having.
@@FurtiveSkeptical
It would be helpful to have someone who could try to understand one's condition.
@@missplainjane3905 Heh, agreed. I'm working on it, without trying to put to much wear and tear on those around me, that is.
Fingers crossed, wish me luck.🤞
@@FurtiveSkeptical
I think listening to some calm music and abit of meditation might help out. All the best.
sometimes when i get angry i scream at the top of my lungs until i taste blood then keep going. ive blown out my voice many times doing this. i simply cant stop myself. im terrified of relationships because i cant stop myself from raising my voice when i get dysregulated.
What makes it worse is when people ask "why are you in the room screaming by yourself" they don't get the explosive feeling. Let me not forget to mention you feeling horrible about who you hurt and regretting how you reacted because it's hard to control.... there's so much more to it than this, this is just me dipping my finger in the ocean about how I feel about my ADHD. And I know some people out there can relate to this.
I have inattentive ADHD. I have explosive outbursts over sometimes small stuff and i start cursing and yelling up a storm. I couldn’t understand why everyone else had such a easy time not getting angry. I especially hate when people have to dumb down instructions because i have a hard time paying attention or trying to take over what im doing. This video explains a lot and is very cute and well done. Thanks
im on the Autism spectun and ADHD . ADHD has been a catalyst and the thing that has disable me more that Autism ever had .
I'm having this realization today. Last week I took an ADHD test for my therapist and I've done a lot of research about the subject. I'm struggling to cope that my ADHD that I've had since I was born eventually turned into depression, PTSD, bipolar and suicide attempts because people in my life lead me to believe I was broken and difficult to be around. To this day I'm severely struggling to figure out how to cope with my struggles.My shame and guilt that I've had since childhood has been a result of undiagnosed ADHD this whole time.
I have Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder, ADHD Combined and Generalized Anxiety Disorder and if I had to go in order of which disorder is more severe it would be the ADHD then Generalized Anxiety and then the Communication Disorder. ADHD combined has been my living hell and meds plus CBT make it remotely manageable because it feeds into everything else and makes things 10x worse
Yeah, this is weirdly poignant right now. Been struggling with this recently. Trying to be kind to myself. Will get there.
Took the words right out of my mouth. I have been feeling intense shame for this, as I know how it negatively affects the people in my life who I love very much. May we treat ourselves with loving compassion ❤️ also see you posted 7mo ago, hope you’re finding peace in your struggles friend. Sending love!!!!
@@DiamondEnergetics Yes! Anger isn't a problem anymore, for sure. There's other emotional dysregulation but hey, here's still progress! Hope you find some peace from it all! ❤❤
good luck with that.
That app ahead is actually pretty freaking helpful!! I was seeing ads for it and finally caved. This sounds like an ad but it’s not 😂 it genuinely is helping me though.
If you’re reading this and you feel like your anger and your mind controls you, and especially if you don’t necessarily feel comfortable talking about it in therapy right away bc you know the whole shame thing!!! The Apple app called Ahead is more helpful than any therapist I’ve seen. Granted- I didn’t stick with any of them for very long. I’m going to pair this app with a good therapist that resonates with me and I think I should be set. It’s okay to take baby steps. If you’re not comfortable w therapy right away, maybe something like this is the step 1 you need. We gotta start somewhere though. Learn to behave in a way we are proud of when big emotions hit. We DO have control over our anger!! One thing ahead has taught me already that is a game changer is that my anger is valuable, and has helped me in many instances. A tool I use a lot right now from the app is to thank my anger. You say “thank you, brain, for the suggestion to get angry - but I got this.” It really works for me. Again, totally not sponsored by this app. Totally wish I were. Hope this helps someone. Sending love!
I had the experience once of being in a group of friends, with me and another guy both having ADHD. The reactions, behaviours and clashes were legendary.
thank you for the video. Now I know that I am not the only one who feels that way.
❤#METOO ❤
I used to be this way 15 years ago before I learned to cope. However I can get frustrated and irritable with myself. Thank you for this video.
i never understood my emotions until i realized i have ADHD, i needed to hear this.
should I mention that the drawings, despite being simple, are incredibly well executed. Lot of finesse and balance.
i was recently diagnosed with inattentive adhd last summer when getting tested for bipolar disorder and i notice my anger episodes are usually triggered by knowing plans last minute, being rushed, social conflict as a whole, and definitely overstimulation and stress. i get so upset during this episodes i tend to yell, argue, swear, throw things, or even turn to old bad habits of sh. i hope everyone else struggling with these problems will learn to cope with them eventually, it is possible but things take time
i might have inattentive adhd and i struggle with showing or letting loose my anger.
I get more angry at myself when I forget stuff and remember later when its actually too late, or if I'm telling a story and in the middle of the story something distracts my attention and I forget my story. i can explode at myself. ADHD is a curse from the devil.
I’m just angry, and when I lose focus and concentration at work? I feel like the top of my skull is about to blow open. I always keep it under wraps but I have no way of venting it, also social situations are really bad for me, I get very angry with people even over little things.
I've had so many angry outbursts in my life especially in the last year and a half that i sometimes feel completely destroyed and that using my current coping skills isn't worth a damn. But i also know that this isnt the right attitude to have when trying trying to cope with it.
Same here
I've taught myself to block my emotions in stressful situations because of social norms, low self esteem(I feel not important enough to express my emotions), fear of the consequences (I've had many occasions where my outbursts made me embarrased of myself) and my upbringing - which includes fear of authority figures (any emotion that was negative was interpreted as being in spite of them or wrong) also my whole life I've been learning to keep in my tears (It's a struggle of mine) because they were not welcome in my household. Nowadays I usually cry afterwards the stressful situation - the most important task at the time is to solve the problem so I don't allow any emotion cuz It gets in the way.
Anyone else?👀
Btw I dunno if I have ADHD can someone recommend any good sites for some research?💫🙏
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idk any good websites but if you’re financially able, talking to a therapist or psychiatrist might be a good idea if you think you have adhd
I related to this way too closely😢
you're me. you have adhd.
I've never gotten over the anger, I always had that scary snapping anger that everyone says serial killers had, whixh worries me but I think I know that I'm gonna turn it in so it becomes depression. Its better to be a lonely sad sack than to snap on people and end up losing everything and effecting other people's lives badly.
Thank you , as someone with comorbid with CD your help is great. Its apathy , bottled up and anger most of the time especially when not entertained. My environment caused to turn like this and Im trying to go back and be better.
I was just diagnosed with adhd, thank you for your videos
Best of luck to your ADHD journey 🥰
Once I became an adult, I was allowed to see a psychiatrist and recently got diagnosed too.
@lim.6535 u will be ok
im undiagnosed and i truly believe i have adhd and im so mad i cant function like a normal person and i get so mad so i just hurt my self and hurt other people
I discovered this channel today and I'm watching one video after another. I have internalized all of these symptoms so much that I literally can't believe what I'm hearing right now.
I have really bad road rage with people who don't drive properly and bad traffic conditions. Driving is so hard because of difficult driving conditions and that triggers my ADHD related anger.
This happened to me this morning on my way to work
Same here but X100000000000. I’m a truck driver and a competitive cyclist who has to train on the road 😒
My mom a teacher had noticed I had adhd an year ago but she was not sure so took me to a doctor who also said I had add after that I've felt let out but since 3 years I keep on being angry at my parents its like I can't control what I'm saying after that I found this channel and now I'm going to keep a goal to get rid of my add thank you so much!!
Although I may be late, this video did help a bit as someone with adhd and anger. I usually get really angry when people make me repeat things, or just reply “huh” over and over again to what I am trying to explain, or if people do not understand what I am trying to convey, which leads me to get really aggressive towards the people who meant no harm at all. It’s honestly annoying to do that, and I do it a ton. The video helped a small bit, but didn’t point out many things that happen to me, and it may just be because it’s something different? Anyways, thank you for the video. ^^
Yess, I’m usually more patient with people I don’t know that well but someone pestering me and not leaving me alone also makes me angry ur not alone :>
Aa glad im not xD im not patient with anyone besides my bf so LMAOOO (and that’s barely)
@@SharkMANIUHyea glad u have that kind of person i wish i also did :} Anyways good luck with what ur doing ;)
I remember when I would ask my older brother or my friends a question and he would say “what” repeatedly. I would say it louder and louder and even FUCKING SHOUT MY QUESTION and yet they still continue to say what?? That infuriated me.
@@okjeffy6581 Fr thats very annoying but there are misunderstandings and the environment matters. Still… in the end its just plain annoying so ye true
Moça muito obrigado! Você me ajudou muito, tanto em aprender mais sobre TDAH quanto em inglês. Recebi meu diagnóstico de TDAH no final do ano passado e assistir seus vídeos ajudou e ajuda muito a entender todas essas coisas. Eu amo seus vídeos, eles são fáceis de entender e a estética de seus vídeos é perfeita. Te sigo aqui no TH-cam e no Inst4, adoro seus posts por lá, vejo quase todos os dias.
Só queria dizer muito obrigado novamente :))
i just love the animation style
❤VERY COLORFUL ANIMATION ❤❤❤❤
My whole life everyone describes me as explosive and can be loud... i used to br angry a lot... like a lot. Couldn't understand why, i took my anger and frustration on my dog when i was teenager and I hate this so much about me. I'm so much better to control it now but I'm scared the ghost from past will come back... this year at 33 years old i realised I might be having ADHD... and it all makes it so much clearer but also it helps me to be kider to myself...
This is me to the T. Then, add being ex alcoholic / addict to the mix with anxiety. Life is hard on a daily basis.
How about that? I always thought I was born pissed off.
Im autistic and struggle with emotional regulation. I'm watching this video to help myself
My family is proud of their ability to black out in anger... im terrified of it. Im better than i used to be but ive learned i just can not let myself get angry at anything, under any circumstances. Not angry like that at least.
wait it was my adhd this whole time? bruhhhhh
im embarrassed and ashamed at my self that i came to this point that im looking how to control my anger issues with a yt vid, i really hope this helps
Frustration at inability to usr executive functions. Getting teased for inability to communicate. Getting told to just focus, do it like, blah blah. Yes, sorting out, impulse. SENSORY OVERLOAD!! Being dismissed, or telling people that I have this problem, can you meet me halfway. And they ignore it as an excuse, instead of a medical condition, meltdowns, disregulation are all very valid
Thank you for making a video about such an important topic.
very educational and a very cute aesthetic as well :) I have to say all these examples are things I do... often. especially when I'm stressed at my desk or hyperfocused on a task, i am prone to being self-centered and lashing out at people :/
I know I'll never find a job that doesn't stress me out in some way, so I've just gotten used to wearing a bite guard all day and spend as little time around people when I get home.
I have adhd and a lot of anger issues
I have severe ADHD and I get very very angry when people turn something dead simple like doing laundry into a level 100 boss fight. It shouldn’t be that hard but it becomes that way because people fail to communicate for example that a laundry machine will be down here is some alternatives. I need a Plan B for when shit happens or I explode and/or meltdown and there’s nothing that’ll stop it
after the hell i went trough these 33 years, now i find this out.
maaaaaan... i just wished i had known all this when i was kid and young... holy cow all the issues i could have avoided... just by knowing ... and all the fights i could have ... tried to avoid in school... *argh - i got the full on anger towards people not knowing shit about these things when i was a kid.
I’m either the chillest dude ever who usually doesn’t get mad at pretty much anything whatsoever but there are a few things if said or done to me I explode but I just can’t control it, for example my weight I’ve always struggled with
I actually have anger management issues I actually get angry mostly at my parents usually but now since I have a counsellor I’m starting to realise that I need to control it a bit more
Avoid triggering situations? Ok so I have to avoid to live.
wdym?
My wife sets my anger off so damn hard. The constant criticism of my fu%kups and lack of focus just sends me in a rage more often than not. I really struggle with criticism and have never been able to deal with it well. I have coped by just learning to avoid the problems which always backfires cause.... of course that won't solve anything. My adhd has basically annihilated our relationship.
Therapy helped me calm my anger issues and made my relationship way better between us
Your comment hits it right on the head for me. I really really want to just avoid the criticisms and point fingers. She always tells me she's not trying to attack me, but it always feels like she's trying to attack me. I'm sure it's just me flowing out of proportion.
thank you very much for this video! also, this style is unbelievable cute and nice!!
Me to a T. Only recently (in my 43 years) have I realized it and am constantly working on keeping things under control. It's tough. It's like holding back explosive lava (sounds a lot like Taco night 🤣 )
That's amazing ,keep up ! 🎉
Especially anger issues
Anger
Certain events happen when which shouldn’t happen and the world gangs up on us plus I was late diagnosed
You feel emotions more stronger with adhd
Here is my summary of daily routine for adhd
1. **Super Brain Yoga Exercises**:
- **Steps**:
1. Stand up straight, press your tongue to the roof of your mouth.
2. Cross your arms, holding opposite earlobes.
3. Inhale deeply as you squat down, exhale as you stand up.
4. Repeat 7-14 times.
- **Benefit**: Enhances memory, focus, and mental clarity.
2. **Breathing Exercises for Focus (Box Breathing)**:
- **Steps**:
1. Inhale through your nose for a count of 4.
2. Hold your breath for a count of 4.
3. Exhale through your mouth for a count of 4.
4. Hold your breath for a count of 4.
5. Repeat for 5-10 minutes.
- **Benefit**: Reduces stress and improves concentration.
3. **Inhale Exercise While Lying Down**:
- **Description**: Inhale while lying down, stretch your legs and arms, then lift them while exhaling.
- **Benefit**: Enhances oxygen flow and improves focus.
4. **Ginkgo Biloba Supplements**: Take two 120 mg capsules daily. There are many similar alternatives available, but it's preferable to take the official supplement.
5. **Fish Oil Supplements**: Also, consider a - z multivitamins that contain a mix of essential elements.
6. **Avoid Flavorings and Reduce Electronics Use**: Minimize the use of flavorings from food and reduce exposure to electronic devices.
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I hope these tips are helpful!
And I pushed my brain so hard to Concentrate it was so annoying I kept thinking about other things when listening to the teacher I can't control my anger
I struggle with anger everyday. Anger and ADHD is a mf to live with.
I get very angry when somebody tells me I didnt do something good enough or that I’m lying. I don’t mean to lose my temper but I go off the wall and accidentally cuss bad. I feel so bad right after but then continue to think about it and get more mad
Hi , im a 28 year old woman. I've had severe ADHD my whole life. I got diagnosed at age 13yo. Yes, i was the hyper adhd girl. All my life ive had anger problems. Now im 28yo. I still have anger problems im in my car, crying and writing in my journal how i hate myself so much. Nd how hard it was to finally love myself. Then i wrote "why am i so emotional, or why do i react the way i react with my emotions " . I feel like i want to dissappear far away from people. So they wouldn't have to deal with this monster of a human. But hey i do love myself and eventually ppl will forgive me. But thats all
I do not know how to manage any of my emotions so I suppress all of them but I don't think it's working out very well
I’m in year 6 I wanna go to this high school but everyone says that I won’t go and I’ll go to a special school what should I do
My whole family has untreated ADHD in varying degrees of severity. I also have bipolar disorder and I’m on the autism spectrum so symptoms of ADHD in my family members such over explanation, excessive talking, random singing and being overall really loud gets me very angry since the moment I wake up every morning. The only times when I’m not angry is when I’m home alone in the silence, otherwise I get so much overwhelmed that I become angry easily and I just want to lock myself in my room and hear nothing😢
i’ve been masking so long sometimes i don’t even feel anything
NEVER KNEW ADHD ,WAS PARTICULARLY TO BLAME FOR MY IMPULSIVITY ,BESIDES MY ADDICT ,ALCOHOLIC BRAIN,AND (** C-P.T.S.D BRAIN ***) TOO😢😢😢😢 TRIGGERS ARE SO HARD TO IDENTIFY..TE AMO❤4/28/2023
I only get angry when I feel attacked. Unfortunately I can’t always tell if I’m really attacked or if I’m overreacting
Bingo, I usually have zero awareness prior to blowing up. And my outbursts are always when someone comes at me with an out of line personal insult. (Or perceived) usually I can see what tripped me, I have not been able to 100% stop outbursts.
@@tonyromano6220 and then people think you’re nuts when really, you can’t help it. And they have no idea how badly it eats at you, for years after, that you did that. YEARS LATER! Their judgement makes your own self-disgust worse. And then you cry yourself to sleep about it, even decades later. And no one except our fellow ADHD peeps get it. Truly truly get it.
Try undiagnosed adhd& a ( now dead father in law) who seemed to enjoy provokeing me when my3 children were young, blamed me for being an awful person! Yah he got 109% in jerk.
Thank you so much this was really helpful!
I think my own parents are responsible for all such symptoms in my life
I got charged multi physical injuries and assault they really got me when they making fun me straight up bullying, had a bad day arguing with my parents and go to school. I was really pissed and its been always these group when they saw me, im trained amateur fighter and this is the first time i snapped when they threw something on me while buying my lunch. I thought this happens only on movies, i beat them all up. I don't know how my life will go and everything is messed up
The fact that i put my phone down today and for the life of me had a complete blank space in my head for the moment when I put it down. It was like it never happened. Retracing my steps was no problem but did I remember how or why it was sitting in the empty kitchen sink? NOPE. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 adhd sucks.
💃 Over here still trying to sort out if my anger is ADHD or comorbid Quiet BPD 💃
I don't have it ;but someone I know does. I want to understand this.
I severely frustrated at certain things my siblings do and sometimes just blank. I’ve grown to control myself every now and then, It’s been almost a year since I’ve gotten really physical with one of my siblings but I just had a rage moment and after I looked back there was really no reasoning behind it so now I just want to find how to better myself I gave him lots of robux that should help for now but I don’t want to see nor feel that type of rage anymore I don’t like to really harm my siblings to the point where there scared of me and may feel on edge with me in there presence. My oldest sibling is now 19 she’s older then me so back when we were younger I wouldn’t just hit her but as I got older she would eventually attack me and that lead to me having no respect for her so I eventually started beating her up but I’ve only stopped because of the consequences of her telling. But now that my younger brother is older I’ve only grown to torment/torture him. He may be irritating sometimes but that doesn’t mean I should just blank and beat up anyone especially some as close to me such as a sibling. Sorry if you had to read all of this but I just recently had an episode or whatever you call it and I’m just seeking to see what’s wrong with me. We currently don’t have the funds for therapy so I’m just trying to at least help myself and find something online. Thank you for reading this it was much needed to leave my system.🙏🏾
Stupidity is my anger
when I fail at something I become super angry. and it's hard to relax
I HAD ADHD AS A CHILD AND NOW I HAVE IT IN MY ADULT YEARS.
I find that my anger is exasperated by stress or narcotics/alcohol, thankfully I'm sober but never stress free 😭
Such a great and helpful video for an ADHD-er like myself, the chibi animation style makes it so easy to digest too 🤗💛. I have to say though, personally I don't really enjoy videos that don't use pop filters, but I understand it's for the ASMR effect. I hope this channel keeps growing! ❤
I may get checked for adhd as my daughters boyfriend has it and we have similarities in that we will talk and become almost fixated on certain hobbies etc.. but I can have a Jekyll Hyde personality .. will do anything and go out of my way to help someone but if wound up cant shut off and will go to the ends of the earth to get someone back if they have done me a wrong.... my work in building and long hrs gym, boxing, muay thai etc used to help but as I'm older now and have bulging discs etc it makes doing some of these more difficult so its like a circle...
It can also be immaturity, acting like a spoilt brat (particularly as an adult) usually doesn't end well, so remember, pick your battles.
I can't get angry even in situations when I should be.
I had that situation as a kid where something would infuriate me to the point where I scream and I get the ass whipping of my life when my parents don’t understand the context.
Chronic pain + adhd made me psychotic, I need to be medicated.
Angry about dealing with other adults - including teachers - who think neurodivergence is a “symptom” of a “problem.” The actual problem is caused by the instructors’ lack of skill in teaching a variety of learning styles. Where are the videos detailing the gifts of adhd and how to skillfully apply them?
You should yell at people who delete work.
Honestly for the past 2/2& a half years I've been back and forth to my Doctors telling them i need an ADHD diagnoses but they won't listen. They keep saying because of the Tik Tok hype the waiting list is through the roof so they keep palming me off. They just say its anxiety and depression but I know there's more to it and it infuriates me so much! The last time i went there i had a melt down and had an angry burst and the Dr just sat there and said "I think you're looking into this ADHD diagnoses too much I just think you're stressed" nobody cares. Especially when you're a woman in your 20s. I'm so self aware of my behaviour and how I act Especially now that I'm older. I'm exhausted living this life with no help and masking everyday to seem 'normal' 🥺💔
So much knowledge and help on TH-cam to understand about ADHD.
To support yourself in the waiting for a diagnosis.
I have been treated only for depression and anxiety, for ten years .... .. low and behold I have been suffering with ADHD hell my whole life ,and only diagnosed at 62.
Seek a different doctor,
I have to believe they do not all share the same perspective.
@estherloske1396 I went back today after finally typing up my experiences and symptoms and they said they can scan the letter but still need me to see a doctor to refer me but I work full time so trying to get an appointment is impossible. They just keep fobbing me off. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression 6 years ago but I've always known it's something else but they refuse to listen 😔
You are gaining knowledge and it will empower you to keep advocating for yourself.
Prepare yourself in getting DR. Appointment.
First appointment,
Lunchtime appointment,
Last appointment,
Or book a sick day off to get diagnosis ,support or meds.
Best wishes 💯
Eyy i have struggled with that myself until i didn't search for specialist I wasn't diagnosed, it's hard you feel like everything is out of control, how you been?
Yeah I get angry from somebody who yells at me and tells me that am not arguing about something that I wasn’t even arguing
My problem is when I’m angry I either wanna kill myself or whatever/whoever made me mad
I struggle with this lol
Awesome information about emotional regulation . ! 😊 diag. Here..
i have severe anger issues but idk if i got adhd idk much bout that shit but i just be mad af all the time especially doing shit i like for example if i game and shit or if someone dumber than me does some shit i dont like i start destroying shit around me and it gets stronger when i listen to for example baby kia i know it sounds like some fucking wannabe main character shit but i always get frustrated too (idk how to write that) im just yapping idk what i wrote but i have severe anger issues i dont like it i think im bipolar cause i be mood switching like crazy
I have ADHD , And i Feel Anger And the jitters , For The most trivial reasons , For example My Phone is IPhone I Entered The Setting Through the "Password" Option , and is requires me to point my face at the camera for it to Open , but an error occurred Several times , and I became angry , annoyed , and irritated
If you're struggling with anger please talk with a counsellor or hypnotherapist x
Angry about being denied medication after being diagnosed at age 8. Now 33, I wonder where I could've been if I was helped.