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Hey Clay, My ex broke off our 10 year relationship in February. She began dating someone she barely knows. She married the rebound in April in a shocker of a wedding. I worked on No contact etc but she was the one who continued to contact me. Shes been married a month, they don't even live together yet. I have heard from her more or seen her more since shes been married than I did prior to her marriage. I'm shocked at the marriage but really? More contact now? Your thoughts?
My ex started dating since we broke up couple of weeks ago. At first i beg but i failed she said she will not return throw some harsh words on me the blocked me on facebook. Never thought she could replaced me that fast. Im grieving for the loss. Now im in no contact and slowly accepting things and working on myself.
Yes i finished a month of no contact im all improved and busy with my job. And also the other day my ex liked an old post i tagged her on fb using her other account.
You just made me realize this girl I'm dating that her man left her a couple months ago, and he is already with someone else, she might feel forced to find someone the soonest to not feel behind compared to him.
Hey Julio, Since both of you are in the dating stage, it is still an opportunity to get to know the person. Dating should be considered as a way to get a feel on how it is to be with the person, knowing if their values are aligned with what we want in a healthy relationship and you can later decide if both of you is a good match. All the best.
My ex went into a relationship with someone who looks similar to me. And had her start up an It company, I work in IT. And it seems like he is trying to create a better version of me. She has never held a leadership position in her life, and has never worked in IT. And there is more…. I just feel embarrassed to have been with him. He is like a child.
I have a friend who got out messy divorce back in September 2015, then got engaged in January 2016, then got married in September 2017, now she has been separated for 7 month but 6 months ago, she decided to jump into another relationship with a Venezuelan guy whom she just met, talking about fun, sweet, and kind he is, wanting him to teach her his culture. Now, she does not know him at all.
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I just ended a relationship with a woman because she spent so much time talking about the ex. I almost thought he was sitting next to me most of the time. I told her she’s not emotionally available and needs time to heal. She blocked me on her phone and all social media accounts as if me telling her this was untrue.
Me and my ex broke up in April but less than a month later started dating each other and being intimate. She was also dating other people but we kept dating, being intimate a couple of times a week, and right up until Breile weeks ago she was saying I love you, talking about kids, engagement rings etc. then quite suddenly she emailed me and said that we should stop seeing each other and that she’s moved on. Seems like things are moving fast on her front and i wonder if this is a rebound considering that she’d never really taken the time to mourn and have time on her own?
We broke up in sept.. were together almost 2 years and started looking for a house together.. not even a month after the breakup which was sudden, he was with my now ex friend of 30 something years! Before Christmas she’s wearing what looks like an engagement ring.. shortly after Valentine’s Day, they moved in together!!! Wtf!? It’s like our relationship with someone else! We all work together which sucks! I haven’t said 2 words to her or him since I found out about this! She’s constantly staring at me or looking at me or whatever.. I had to change my number cause of HER!!! She’s constantly saying things when I’m around about him and her and once tried flashing her ugly ring in my face!!! he goes through weeks of glances at me to weeks of pretending I’m not there.. I hear from a friend of mine he’s been reminiscing about his ex wife who supposedly treated him like crap! They’ve been over for like 4 years.. I’m thinking all the bs about his ex’s is just a bunch of lies and HES the issue... not anyone but him! In almost 2 years we never argued.. he never said anything was wrong! Monkey brancher???
My ex broke up with me in June and found someone a month later and now they are thinking of moving in with each other but I know it’s not gonna last because she tells me to go away when she asked one of my friends what I’m up to and how I’m doing which is a clear sign she wants me back and wants to know what I’m doing. Since our breakup I haven’t tried to date anyone because I still love my ex. So it’s extremely difficult to forget about her.
same here, my ex also told me to stop, no more talking, we wont see each other, but she told me to stop coz her BF is jealous over me, yes thats rebound
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My ex is with someone else but she's been reaching out and txtn me with the past and talking with me and flirting.. I play along, but I never do the reaching out she does..
Hi Clay. Hope you see this and can answer my question: Is it possible for someone to go from rebound to rebound? When I met my ex, he was fresh out of a divorce after being married for 15 yrs. We had a 2 year relationship and when things started to get serious, things started to go downhill and he broke up with me. Less than 3 months after our breakup, I learned that he was in a relationship with a co-worker. He said it was weird how quickly it happened and it wasn’t planned. Was I a rebound to his marriage and is he now moving on to another rebound? What are the odds that he is still emotionally unavailable in his new relationship?
I’m in a similar position except he’s not dating anyone yet. Yes we are definitely rebounds. Mine was with his ex for 17 years, married for 14 with three kids. Love bombed me and some future faking, treating me like a therapist. He still texts me every day, try to arrange meetings but covertly. Some FaceTime calls. FYI he broke up with me but he also won’t let go of me. He’s Fearful Avoidant and so am I. If either of us dated right now it would be a rebound as well because we’re clearly not over it
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My ex cheated on me 3 months ago.. and I left her. But she did beg for a while then we where meeting and having sex the whole break up.. and a week ago I found out she was talking to someone.. so i was already over what she had done to me so I tried to get back with her. And she said no!!.so we met up to eat and talk and we made out she even came over that night to my house and later in my bed and we hugged and kissed and did some other things.. and then she went home. And the next day I found out on Facebook she was in a relationship with this new guy. It crushed me and I told the guy she had cheated on him with me... And she said some mean thing and then blocked me and said she hated me.. I know they stayed together idk if he's a rebound or not.. but then I sent a message telling her I forgave 100 percent everything she did to me I told her that I hope one day she can forgive me for trying to break them up and that I wish her happiness.. I'm only 3 days into no contact. I miss her but I think I know I have to move on no matter how much I love her.
What if the person my ex hooked up with 2 weeks after our break up is, extremely emotionally insecure and sensitive & doesn't handle stress or conflicts well (which she has told me he is) is the ending of their relationship heightened to end faster than a rebound relationship without these factors??
Willis, getting your ex back will not depend on how long they stay with their rebound or how fast the rebound relationship will end. Even if it ends right away, there's no guarantee that she'll get back to you. It will depend on you taking the right actions to show her that you have the capacity to give her the love she needs.
Clay .. my x fiancé and I broke up 3 months ago we ware together for 3 years and engaged for 1 .. now he started texting me saying that he miss me that he is blocked that his depression.. but that he is in relationship now and that he feels that he is not ready that Eve thing happened so fast and that he that he feels that he got in this to feels the void I left .. so if in a rebound relationship?
My ex dumped me because she wanted to do things for herself, by herself and needed to be alone. She also didn’t see a future with me despite us having plans to get married and buy property. Fast forward 6 weeks since breakup and no contact, I shoot her a txt to say how are you, hope you’re doing well. I got no response, which was fine and expected, and from that I just gathered that it was too early to reach out so I left it. Fast forward 2 days after I sent the txt and I get a txt from her telling me to stop asking her how she is (I asked once) she was moving on with someone else and was happy, and doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. This rebound is 19 years old and my ex is 37. She kinda looks like me, my ex likes chubby chicks so I guess we have that in common. But where the ‘future’ is in this union, I’m not sure 🤔
He literally continued our relationship with her.. lol he took her to our special date spots.. did things we planned... less than a week after we broke up
Just divorced. She already moved on. Texted said I want to be on talking terms and friends. I called to get details on kid exchange. She said I have nothing to hide. I have a boyfriend. Then brought him to kid exchange. Gutted me. 😢
I am sorry to hear about the divorce. For now, focus on healing yourself first and having clear communication with her for the kids' sake. Focus on yourself first and once you get to heal and improve on your issues- you can work on getting emotionally connected to her again even as a friend to begin with.
Hopefully you see this and can give me atleast a small comment . My ex and I broke up a month ago because I was being an asshole and not giving her attention. She met someone from high school and they moved really fast even sleeping together every night . At first the entire month she was cold and we didn’t communicate much . Towards the new month I got a weird text saying “i bet you’re happy now that I’m gone “ that ended up with many texts back and fourth and later on meeting person and she confessed her feelings . The next day she ends up again in my house , and confessed she misses me and wished I would of acted better. We ended up having sex meanwhile she’s in this relationship that I thought she was truly happy in . Im Confused now
My ex wife left me and 2 days later was already going out with a new guy one week later they moved in together and he seems to be giving her everything she wants and buying anything she wants to keep her happy and win over the love of our kids she recently asked me to no longer contact her unless necessary or has to do with the children
Would someone enter a rebound if the prev person they felt strong feelings for and didn’t actually deal with but never actually dated and instead went to someone else instead of dealing with the feelings of the previous person. Would this still be considered a rebound for the new person
We dated for a year and a half what if you messed up really bad like you were dping all the wrong things throughout the relationship then they started dating less than two months later? Would this guy really be better than me?
My ex broke up with me and she cried that whole week. Then next week she started to talk to another guy and a week later she said she likes him and she said that he is way better than me by comparing me and him. When I tried to talk to her about why she broke up with me , she said oh I’m talking to someone else about my feelings and she meant that she is tell that dude about me and our relationship from before. I want her back but she already went on dates with him and Idk if they are dating or friends. When she went on the dates with him , she dressed sexy and had makeup on. Can you help me Clay
She blocked me on everything, except my phone number and I’m in the no contact thing for about 3 weeks now and she told my cousin that she will text me again when she is ready to be friends
Hi Xavier, I'm sorry to hear about the breakup. It seems like your ex is emotionally confused just like you. It is best to focus on what you can control and you cannot have full control of. In this situation, the only person that we can control is just our own self. Focus on your healing and cultivating the Advanced Relational Skills that we talk in most of our videos as that will be your basic tool on your journey. All the best.
I was with my boyfriend for a year, he ended it and 2 weeks later he is sleeping with a girl that lives 2 streets away from me and has to drive past my road to get there bearing in mind he stayed at my house every night faced with sleeping at his parents house he’s found this. Since I’ve found out he’s there every night coming and going at the same time he did to me. When I spoke to him he said he was well and eating and ‘sleeping’ really well doing well in the gym ect why tell me this? He is basically imitating our old life with someone new he said he’s just spending time with someone new he’s not spent a lot of time with before. The facts it’s so full on is freaking me out, the girl also has a 4 yr old child that’s lives there to!! Is this a classic rebound and will it fail? I know she will never want commitment cuz she’s a slag and he basically said he’s living his life Laissez-faire ... while I’m being crippled by what he’s doing! He kinda knows this but I’m doing a good job of hiding it. He cried yesterday when we spoke there’s clearly a lot of pent up feelings he’s not dealing with and rang me back to make sure we’re were on good terms. Any advice? Is this classic rebound?
She past the relationship we had. And she is engaged 3 months post breakup. Engagement that she had been asking me for. Assuming the new dude was an orbiter/friend. That means they already had a bond and cheating.
That happened to me twice by my ex husband. He cheated on me (he had a secret addiction issue the last year of our marriage which coincided with the affair. He left me and our son. That affair relationship lasted 7 years (2010-2017.) We got back together in 2020 for 6 months. I discovered him using again. I put him in detox and then rehab. He got out and said he didn’t have any feelings for me and 2 weeks later discovered he had been seeing an addict in her 20’s. He’s 46.
What if you ex moved on with someone he’s known for years? Someone he may have had a crush on for years? We dated for 6 years and were very much in love. I broke up with him although we were in love. He now has a girlfriend, a person he has known for a long time. Very soon after our breakup. I can’t believe it isn’t just a hook up and he’s asked this person to be his actual girlfriend. 💔
It normally is someone they do already know because it’s easier than meeting someone new. Maybe she has always fancied him and he knows this and she was an easy target. Don’t worry too much just focus on you 🙂
My immediate rebound relationship from ex husband lasted 3 years. A year after divorce he began relationship with a married woman. It has lasted 3 years now. It is rocky yet according to firsthand info, they are taking it slow because she doesn't want to hurt anyone.....He remains close to my family. When we see each other we are cordial. When they were on a hiatus, sparks were flying. Then he ghosted. Saw him a couple days ago at family function. Cordial. What are chances we can reconcile?
The chances for reconciliation will always be possible. But there are different factors that have to be considered. The healing process, acceptance and emotional readiness.
if they have a history of doing it then you know its not a search for compatibility its a search for who is available at the moment. this is self-destructive behavior
Our relationship is no commitment, he is insist being friend. He upset on me when I wanted to disconnect with him for awhile to heal my feeling which I dont understand why. He told me that I brought him a drama and push responsibility to him because I understood, we can only being friend 🙄
Focus on your healing process, Wasana. Set the proper expectations with him why you need to have that space. communicate things properly instead of getting into an argument. Make him understand that this is good for your well being in.
Hi clay, great stream and i broke up with my gf, i regretted it but within a few hours i made out with a girl and obviously she was upset. i asked her back 3 days later and it seemed like it was working for 2 weeks but i got a bit insecure due to the 'rules' of the relationship. anyway it didnt work. i didnt give her the space i needed. ive made out with 2 other girls but nonetheless i saw her a couple days ago (after 10 days of no contact) at another gathering making out with another guy. i was obviously hurt but i did the same thing pretty much so i had to be calm about it. i talked to her a bit i didnt beg or nothing but she said she cant come back to me and started crying because shes already 'hooked up' or whatever i was hurt again but i played it chilled and i said its okay its how u heal. she said she is happier single and said she needs time. i said sure i understand and left. anyway i asked for closure a 2 days later(today) i just said can we talk over text anyway i just said i need closure and tell me if u think u see us in the future ever or whatever. she said she has feelings wants to kiss me and wants to be around me but probably not. i asked again for something clear, she said she cant and doesn't know rn. i simple said ill take it as a no and she went a bit blunt anyway, what do i do boss, im happy to go no contact again and if i see her with another guy its hurt me once and i aint allowing it to fuck me up again, probably what she is doing and tryna move on like that. will her flings just be rebounds do u think, its been a month since breakup and we dated for 15 months. i would love her back but idk how to move on for MYSELF and not for HER because i was a depressed mess for a lot of the relationship so it took a lot out of her so ik she wont come back to the same me.
Hey Clay! My ex cheated on me then after that next day she started dating that guy and it cannot makes sense for me whats happening. A month later now after all that shit she posting happy pictures and happy posts on social media is it a real thing or just a dumb way to kill inside emotions?
Clay i have a question i was the one did the dumping do i text him or call him to say am sorry i no i hurt him and made him think we was going to be together for the hall but i decided to go back to my x because he was to soft to needy and had no dreams i don't what a relationship with him anymore i just want to say am sorry the way things turned out i heard he had a rebound person 2days after the breakup i dont want to upset what he have going on but it hurt that he moved on so quickly
HI Deborah, as you know, people get into a rebound as they feel that being in a new relationship will help them lessen their distress. I understand that if you feel hurt but then it's something that you cannot have full control of. But what you can do is to be in acceptance and be okay with his life choices.
Clay , my x fiancée messaged me saying he miss us/ me that his depressed , but that me got into a relationship so fast to feel the void I left .what do I do ? If this a rebound relationship?
What is your thoughts if they are rebounding with a friend they knew and had a close relationship with to begin with as opposed to a stranger they just met? She left me and within a week or two was already seeing someone else.
Clay Andrews yes someone that she works with and already had a friendship with. The evidence is on social media, their pics of them together. It hurts because it makes me wonder if she left me specifically for him. If she was able to move from one person to another that fast maybe she never valued our relationship as much as l thought. Do rebounds usually work when they already know each other and have some sort of emotional connection to begin with?
Is it still a rebound if they are like a fling and start dating together after a month of break up? but i dont know if they’re official together. But they do a lot of things together like going out on dates. I just can’t believe he moved on so fast with someone new
It could be. But the main thing to gauge if we jump into a rebound is to ask ourselves if we have fully healed from the past breakup before getting into a new one. Sometimes, it's only us can tell that and not anyone else. We can project how happy we are but the truth in one's emotions can only be answered by the person itself.
After the break up I realized tht my ex has been dating this lady for the past year whilst he was with me. Is this considered a rebound. Ever since the breakup he is angry with me. Anytym we talk abt the kids he tries of ways to squeeze talking abt us in the conversation bt I keep the conversation abt the kids. I hav asked him wht is he angry abt since he broke up wit me. I dnt ask for anything from him. And he gets angry tht I take care of my kids and dnt ask for anything from him. I honestly dnt understand him... I hear he is drinking a lot bt in the 12yrs we were together he neva drank alcohol at all. Wht is going on here... 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Without asking he tells me he has moved on..
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Tebogo. Yes, it could still be considered a rebound. We may not be truly sure where his anger is coming from but it could come from a deeper reason. Yes, you are right, there is nothing wrong taking care of the kids. I am not sure but there must be something deeper aside from the reason that she had stated. And it is something that you have to uncover as well through effective communication. Just like what we teach inside the Advanced Relational Skills. All the best.
@@ClayAndrewsif only he would talk to me bt he is always angry. Last tym he came to my home he jst sat there like someone who wanted to say something bt after half an hr he left.
Hallo Clay I have a qustion about what to do when my ex is in a rebound. He is 52 and i am 47, We were together for 3 years and he broke up in december. It was a "nice" breakup, no drama, no begging ect from my side. In january he wrote to me that he is seeing some one else. I wished him all the best. And then i did no contact. I really love him and for the first time i thought that i meet a man who i want to live my life with and i still have the same feelings for him. He had reached out on text to me 6 or 7 times since January and i have answered him nicelly every time, no begging, no neediness and I kept it short. This monday he reached out again and asked me to meet up for coffee. I am going to Dubai for 10 days so i promised him that i would write to him when i was home again. Then thuesday he post a romantic picture whit him and he's new girlfriend on facebook. NOW my question what to do???? Should i write to him after my vacation or should i let him contact me again? Is it a bad idea meeting up whith him when he has i new girlfriend. Should i tell him that i cant meet up just being his friend and drink coffe once in a while. Or should i just meet him for coffee have i good time and see where things are going Best wishes from Denmark
Marlene, what do you want? Do you want to keep in contact with him? If so, then try meeting up for coffee. He is likely in a rebound relationship, which will come with it's own set of problems, but you must stay anchored in what YOU want for yourself.
Clay Andrews i really want him back. I love him and i want to do it the right way. So i will meet him for coffe👍Should i write to him after my vaccation to schedule for a coffe date as i promised or should i wait for him to write again. Thank you😄😄😄
How can I get ex bf back if it’s been 7 years and he’s with relationships 2 rebounds I think he has displaced emotions (fake love) but I’m still single ever since the brake up I have hangout with guys as friends because most men aren’t serious. I’ve try to contact him being friendly telling him how I feel he still rejects me. I still stalk him on social media I noticed that his current girlfriend seems like she’s faking it
Hi kris, there are two sides of the story that we have to check. when you had a relationship with your ex, is he or she is 100% healed from the past relationship? At times, we tend to go back to a relationship whom we are familiar with. Was there any form of evidence that they are indeed in a relationship?
@@ClayAndrews yes they are together. He is hiding it because his family hates her. He jumped right into it after me. He cant be alone. She has claimed to have changed. Im distraught because why am I left feeling like hell and he is not. Would you consider her a rebound if she was already in his life before? Will they last? :( thanks Clay
it may be possible. But each person has their own unique pace when it comes to healing. So there's no exact timeframe for the grieving and healing process. But it depends on the level of acceptance of the person over the situation.
If you're just trying to emotionally get past what he did, then the key here is to learn to differentiate between what he did and the meaning your mind is trying to make out of how it relates to you. The truth is that what he did only tells you about him, and it is very unlikely a reflection on you.
I'm sure you probably found your answer by now but I'm guessing that if she unlocked you and is still in her relationship, she's probably preparing to get out of that relationship. In my experience, women don't leave relationships until their fallback plan is in place.
@@TheCHILDRENofTV , more to knowing what her actions mean, you need to take a proactive approach in getting the emotional connection back. Though she's still with a rebound, it's what you do that will determine your chances. Have you considered looking into one of our courses? We can definitely help you out on your journey.
Ya my unblocked me from Snapchat and started following me on the GPS and story's she's been with the rebound for more then 2 months now and the other day I post a picture of me and my lady friend taking a drive in my car. My x flip out calling me all sorts of name .. so why did she get so dfensive if she's already with someone.... Please explain
I throw him out after he hit me....4 weeks after he had a new gf...now she moved in with him and theg got engaged... in 5 month all this happened.....(.we were together for 6 years..)
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Hey Clay, My ex broke off our 10 year relationship in February. She began dating someone she barely knows. She married the rebound in April in a shocker of a wedding. I worked on No contact etc but she was the one who continued to contact me. Shes been married a month, they don't even live together yet. I have heard from her more or seen her more since shes been married than I did prior to her marriage. I'm shocked at the marriage but really? More contact now? Your thoughts?
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My ex started dating since we broke up couple of weeks ago. At first i beg but i failed she said she will not return throw some harsh words on me the blocked me on facebook. Never thought she could replaced me that fast. Im grieving for the loss. Now im in no contact and slowly accepting things and working on myself.
I'm sorry that that happened to you Plo Plo. I know it must hurt a lot.
Never beg! Set them free walk away and never look back focus on yourself!
Yes i finished a month of no contact im all improved and busy with my job. And also the other day my ex liked an old post i tagged her on fb using her other account.
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Same thing Happened hahahaha. Did your ex reach you out now?
You just made me realize this girl I'm dating that her man left her a couple months ago, and he is already with someone else, she might feel forced to find someone the soonest to not feel behind compared to him.
Hey Julio, Since both of you are in the dating stage, it is still an opportunity to get to know the person. Dating should be considered as a way to get a feel on how it is to be with the person, knowing if their values are aligned with what we want in a healthy relationship and you can later decide if both of you is a good match. All the best.
My ex went into a relationship with someone who looks similar to me. And had her start up an It company, I work in IT. And it seems like he is trying to create a better version of me. She has never held a leadership position in her life, and has never worked in IT. And there is more…. I just feel embarrassed to have been with him. He is like a child.
Thanks Clay, now I can confidently say my ex is in a rebound. Your understanding and explanation is so on point
Glad to help!
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I have a friend who got out messy divorce back in September 2015, then got engaged in January 2016, then got married in September 2017, now she has been separated for 7 month but 6 months ago, she decided to jump into another relationship with a Venezuelan guy whom she just met, talking about fun, sweet, and kind he is, wanting him to teach her his culture. Now, she does not know him at all.
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People are very sick. It’s sad.
People need to see themselves and how their actions affect others. Maybe we will have lesser pain in this world.
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I just ended a relationship with a woman because she spent so much time talking about the ex. I almost thought he was sitting next to me most of the time. I told her she’s not emotionally available and needs time to heal. She blocked me on her phone and all social media accounts as if me telling her this was untrue.
I agree, that could be a red flag as it still shows certain level of attachment from the past relationship.
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I agree also. shes not over it.
Sorry man but this Is hilarious when u said it felt as he was sitting next to you lmao
Me and my ex broke up in April but less than a month later started dating each other and being intimate. She was also dating other people but we kept dating, being intimate a couple of times a week, and right up until Breile weeks ago she was saying I love you, talking about kids, engagement rings etc. then quite suddenly she emailed me and said that we should stop seeing each other and that she’s moved on. Seems like things are moving fast on her front and i wonder if this is a rebound considering that she’d never really taken the time to mourn and have time on her own?
@adrianmesko I know this is years later, but how did it go? Was it a rebound?
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We broke up in sept.. were together almost 2 years and started looking for a house together.. not even a month after the breakup which was sudden, he was with my now ex friend of 30 something years! Before Christmas she’s wearing what looks like an engagement ring.. shortly after Valentine’s Day, they moved in together!!! Wtf!? It’s like our relationship with someone else! We all work together which sucks! I haven’t said 2 words to her or him since I found out about this! She’s constantly staring at me or looking at me or whatever.. I had to change my number cause of HER!!! She’s constantly saying things when I’m around about him and her and once tried flashing her ugly ring in my face!!! he goes through weeks of glances at me to weeks of pretending I’m not there.. I hear from a friend of mine he’s been reminiscing about his ex wife who supposedly treated him like crap! They’ve been over for like 4 years.. I’m thinking all the bs about his ex’s is just a bunch of lies and HES the issue... not anyone but him! In almost 2 years we never argued.. he never said anything was wrong! Monkey brancher???
My ex broke up with me in June and found someone a month later and now they are thinking of moving in with each other but I know it’s not gonna last because she tells me to go away when she asked one of my friends what I’m up to and how I’m doing which is a clear sign she wants me back and wants to know what I’m doing. Since our breakup I haven’t tried to date anyone because I still love my ex. So it’s extremely difficult to forget about her.
same here, my ex also told me to stop, no more talking, we wont see each other, but she told me to stop coz her BF is jealous over me, yes thats rebound
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My ex is with someone else but she's been reaching out and txtn me with the past and talking with me and flirting.. I play along, but I never do the reaching out she does..
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Hi Clay. Hope you see this and can answer my question: Is it possible for someone to go from rebound to rebound? When I met my ex, he was fresh out of a divorce after being married for 15 yrs. We had a 2 year relationship and when things started to get serious, things started to go downhill and he broke up with me. Less than 3 months after our breakup, I learned that he was in a relationship with a co-worker. He said it was weird how quickly it happened and it wasn’t planned. Was I a rebound to his marriage and is he now moving on to another rebound? What are the odds that he is still emotionally unavailable in his new relationship?
I’m in a similar position except he’s not dating anyone yet. Yes we are definitely rebounds. Mine was with his ex for 17 years, married for 14 with three kids. Love bombed me and some future faking, treating me like a therapist. He still texts me every day, try to arrange meetings but covertly. Some FaceTime calls. FYI he broke up with me but he also won’t let go of me. He’s Fearful Avoidant and so am I. If either of us dated right now it would be a rebound as well because we’re clearly not over it
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My ex cheated on me 3 months ago.. and I left her. But she did beg for a while then we where meeting and having sex the whole break up.. and a week ago I found out she was talking to someone.. so i was already over what she had done to me so I tried to get back with her. And she said no!!.so we met up to eat and talk and we made out she even came over that night to my house and later in my bed and we hugged and kissed and did some other things.. and then she went home. And the next day I found out on Facebook she was in a relationship with this new guy. It crushed me and I told the guy she had cheated on him with me... And she said some mean thing and then blocked me and said she hated me.. I know they stayed together idk if he's a rebound or not.. but then I sent a message telling her I forgave 100 percent everything she did to me I told her that I hope one day she can forgive me for trying to break them up and that I wish her happiness.. I'm only 3 days into no contact. I miss her but I think I know I have to move on no matter how much I love her.
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What if the person my ex hooked up with 2 weeks after our break up is, extremely emotionally insecure and sensitive & doesn't handle stress or conflicts well (which she has told me he is) is the ending of their relationship heightened to end faster than a rebound relationship without these factors??
Willis, getting your ex back will not depend on how long they stay with their rebound or how fast the rebound relationship will end. Even if it ends right away, there's no guarantee that she'll get back to you. It will depend on you taking the right actions to show her that you have the capacity to give her the love she needs.
Clay .. my x fiancé and I broke up 3 months ago we ware together for 3 years and engaged for 1 .. now he started texting me saying that he miss me that he is blocked that his depression.. but that he is in relationship now and that he feels that he is not ready that Eve thing happened so fast and that he that he feels that he got in this to feels the void I left .. so if in a rebound relationship?
My ex dumped me because she wanted to do things for herself, by herself and needed to be alone. She also didn’t see a future with me despite us having plans to get married and buy property. Fast forward 6 weeks since breakup and no contact, I shoot her a txt to say how are you, hope you’re doing well. I got no response, which was fine and expected, and from that I just gathered that it was too early to reach out so I left it. Fast forward 2 days after I sent the txt and I get a txt from her telling me to stop asking her how she is (I asked once) she was moving on with someone else and was happy, and doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. This rebound is 19 years old and my ex is 37. She kinda looks like me, my ex likes chubby chicks so I guess we have that in common. But where the ‘future’ is in this union, I’m not sure 🤔
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He literally continued our relationship with her.. lol he took her to our special date spots.. did things we planned... less than a week after we broke up
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Sounds so familiar! So incredibly unhealthy.
Just divorced. She already moved on. Texted said I want to be on talking terms and friends. I called to get details on kid exchange. She said I have nothing to hide. I have a boyfriend. Then brought him to kid exchange. Gutted me. 😢
I am sorry to hear about the divorce. For now, focus on healing yourself first and having clear communication with her for the kids' sake.
Focus on yourself first and once you get to heal and improve on your issues- you can work on getting emotionally connected to her again even as a friend to begin with.
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Hopefully you see this and can give me atleast a small comment . My ex and I broke up a month ago because I was being an asshole and not giving her attention. She met someone from high school and they moved really fast even sleeping together every night . At first the entire month she was cold and we didn’t communicate much . Towards the new month I got a weird text saying “i bet you’re happy now that I’m gone “ that ended up with many texts back and fourth and later on meeting person and she confessed her feelings . The next day she ends up again in my house , and confessed she misses me and wished I would of acted better. We ended up having sex meanwhile she’s in this relationship that I thought she was truly happy in . Im Confused now
The relationship she is in is a rebound. She still has feelings for you but the thoughts of how you treated her in the past is still stopping her.
My ex wife left me and 2 days later was already going out with a new guy one week later they moved in together and he seems to be giving her everything she wants and buying anything she wants to keep her happy and win over the love of our kids she recently asked me to no longer contact her unless necessary or has to do with the children
Would someone enter a rebound if the prev person they felt strong feelings for and didn’t actually deal with but never actually dated and instead went to someone else instead of dealing with the feelings of the previous person. Would this still be considered a rebound for the new person
Yes, it may still be considered as a rebound, Paul. :-)
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We dated for a year and a half what if you messed up really bad like you were dping all the wrong things throughout the relationship then they started dating less than two months later? Would this guy really be better than me?
My ex made it 5 weeks until rebound.... She did actually tell me a couple weeks after that then said "I can see it going somewhere"
My ex broke up with me and she cried that whole week. Then next week she started to talk to another guy and a week later she said she likes him and she said that he is way better than me by comparing me and him. When I tried to talk to her about why she broke up with me , she said oh I’m talking to someone else about my feelings and she meant that she is tell that dude about me and our relationship from before. I want her back but she already went on dates with him and Idk if they are dating or friends. When she went on the dates with him , she dressed sexy and had makeup on. Can you help me Clay
She blocked me on everything, except my phone number and I’m in the no contact thing for about 3 weeks now and she told my cousin that she will text me again when she is ready to be friends
Hi Xavier, I'm sorry to hear about the breakup. It seems like your ex is emotionally confused just like you. It is best to focus on what you can control and you cannot have full control of. In this situation, the only person that we can control is just our own self. Focus on your healing and cultivating the Advanced Relational Skills that we talk in most of our videos as that will be your basic tool on your journey. All the best.
I was with my boyfriend for a year, he ended it and 2 weeks later he is sleeping with a girl that lives 2 streets away from me and has to drive past my road to get there bearing in mind he stayed at my house every night faced with sleeping at his parents house he’s found this. Since I’ve found out he’s there every night coming and going at the same time he did to me. When I spoke to him he said he was well and eating and ‘sleeping’ really well doing well in the gym ect why tell me this? He is basically imitating our old life with someone new he said he’s just spending time with someone new he’s not spent a lot of time with before. The facts it’s so full on is freaking me out, the girl also has a 4 yr old child that’s lives there to!! Is this a classic rebound and will it fail? I know she will never want commitment cuz she’s a slag and he basically said he’s living his life Laissez-faire ... while I’m being crippled by what he’s doing! He kinda knows this but I’m doing a good job of hiding it. He cried yesterday when we spoke there’s clearly a lot of pent up feelings he’s not dealing with and rang me back to make sure we’re were on good terms. Any advice? Is this classic rebound?
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She past the relationship we had. And she is engaged 3 months post breakup. Engagement that she had been asking me for. Assuming the new dude was an orbiter/friend. That means they already had a bond and cheating.
Hi, Clay can you please tell me what it means, when my exe girlfriend says, my heart is yours? Also she said, I give you my heart?
That happened to me twice by my ex husband. He cheated on me (he had a secret addiction issue the last year of our marriage which coincided with the affair. He left me and our son. That affair relationship lasted 7 years (2010-2017.) We got back together in 2020 for 6 months. I discovered him using again. I put him in detox and then rehab. He got out and said he didn’t have any feelings for me and 2 weeks later discovered he had been seeing an addict in her 20’s. He’s 46.
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What if you ex moved on with someone he’s known for years? Someone he may have had a crush on for years?
We dated for 6 years and were very much in love. I broke up with him although we were in love. He now has a girlfriend, a person he has known for a long time. Very soon after our breakup. I can’t believe it isn’t just a hook up and he’s asked this person to be his actual girlfriend. 💔
It normally is someone they do already know because it’s easier than meeting someone new. Maybe she has always fancied him and he knows this and she was an easy target. Don’t worry too much just focus on you 🙂
My immediate rebound relationship from ex husband lasted 3 years. A year after divorce he began relationship with a married woman. It has lasted 3 years now. It is rocky yet according to firsthand info, they are taking it slow because she doesn't want to hurt anyone.....He remains close to my family. When we see each other we are cordial. When they were on a hiatus, sparks were flying. Then he ghosted. Saw him a couple days ago at family function. Cordial. What are chances we can reconcile?
The chances for reconciliation will always be possible. But there are different factors that have to be considered. The healing process, acceptance and emotional readiness.
How about 7 months now ? We broke up 7 months too is it still a rebound ?
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if they have a history of doing it then you know its not a search for compatibility its a search for who is available at the moment. this is self-destructive behavior
What if his rebound is his childhood sweetheart
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Our relationship is no commitment, he is insist being friend. He upset on me when I wanted to disconnect with him for awhile to heal my feeling which I dont understand why. He told me that I brought him a drama and push responsibility to him because I understood, we can only being friend 🙄
Focus on your healing process, Wasana. Set the proper expectations with him why you need to have that space. communicate things properly instead of getting into an argument. Make him understand that this is good for your well being in.
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Hi clay, great stream and i broke up with my gf, i regretted it but within a few hours i made out with a girl and obviously she was upset. i asked her back 3 days later and it seemed like it was working for 2 weeks but i got a bit insecure due to the 'rules' of the relationship. anyway it didnt work. i didnt give her the space i needed. ive made out with 2 other girls but nonetheless i saw her a couple days ago (after 10 days of no contact) at another gathering making out with another guy. i was obviously hurt but i did the same thing pretty much so i had to be calm about it. i talked to her a bit i didnt beg or nothing but she said she cant come back to me and started crying because shes already 'hooked up' or whatever i was hurt again but i played it chilled and i said its okay its how u heal. she said she is happier single and said she needs time. i said sure i understand and left.
anyway i asked for closure a 2 days later(today)
i just said can we talk over text
anyway i just said i need closure and tell me if u think u see us in the future ever or whatever.
she said she has feelings wants to kiss me and wants to be around me but probably not.
i asked again for something clear, she said she cant and doesn't know rn.
i simple said ill take it as a no and she went a bit blunt anyway, what do i do boss, im happy to go no contact again and if i see her with another guy its hurt me once and i aint allowing it to fuck me up again, probably what she is doing and tryna move on like that.
will her flings just be rebounds do u think, its been a month since breakup and we dated for 15 months.
i would love her back but idk how to move on for MYSELF and not for HER because i was a depressed mess for a lot of the relationship so it took a lot out of her so ik she wont come back to the same me.
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My ex cheated on me then after that next day she started dating that guy and it cannot makes sense for me whats happening. A month later now after all that shit she posting happy pictures and happy posts on social media is it a real thing or just a dumb way to kill inside emotions?
@Controversy haha still here. Moved on completely tho and blocked him on all social media platforms
@Controversy thats right haha. living my best single life
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Clay i have a question i was the one did the dumping do i text him or call him to say am sorry i no i hurt him and made him think we was going to be together for the hall but i decided to go back to my x because he was to soft to needy and had no dreams i don't what a relationship with him anymore i just want to say am sorry the way things turned out i heard he had a rebound person 2days after the breakup i dont want to upset what he have going on but it hurt that he moved on so quickly
HI Deborah, as you know, people get into a rebound as they feel that being in a new relationship will help them lessen their distress. I understand that if you feel hurt but then it's something that you cannot have full control of. But what you can do is to be in acceptance and be okay with his life choices.
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Clay , my x fiancée messaged me saying he miss us/ me that his depressed , but that me got into a relationship so fast to feel the void I left .what do I do ? If this a rebound relationship?
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What is your thoughts if they are rebounding with a friend they knew and had a close relationship with to begin with as opposed to a stranger they just met? She left me and within a week or two was already seeing someone else.
Is your ex seeing a friend? Was there a solid evidence that they are dating?
Clay Andrews yes someone that she works with and already had a friendship with. The evidence is on social media, their pics of them together. It hurts because it makes me wonder if she left me specifically for him. If she was able to move from one person to another that fast maybe she never valued our relationship as much as l thought. Do rebounds usually work when they already know each other and have some sort of emotional connection to begin with?
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Is it still a rebound if they are like a fling and start dating together after a month of break up? but i dont know if they’re official together. But they do a lot of things together like going out on dates. I just can’t believe he moved on so fast with someone new
It could be. But the main thing to gauge if we jump into a rebound is to ask ourselves if we have fully healed from the past breakup before getting into a new one. Sometimes, it's only us can tell that and not anyone else. We can project how happy we are but the truth in one's emotions can only be answered by the person itself.
After the break up I realized tht my ex has been dating this lady for the past year whilst he was with me. Is this considered a rebound. Ever since the breakup he is angry with me. Anytym we talk abt the kids he tries of ways to squeeze talking abt us in the conversation bt I keep the conversation abt the kids. I hav asked him wht is he angry abt since he broke up wit me. I dnt ask for anything from him. And he gets angry tht I take care of my kids and dnt ask for anything from him. I honestly dnt understand him... I hear he is drinking a lot bt in the 12yrs we were together he neva drank alcohol at all. Wht is going on here... 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Without asking he tells me he has moved on..
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Tebogo. Yes, it could still be considered a rebound. We may not be truly sure where his anger is coming from but it could come from a deeper reason. Yes, you are right, there is nothing wrong taking care of the kids. I am not sure but there must be something deeper aside from the reason that she had stated. And it is something that you have to uncover as well through effective communication. Just like what we teach inside the Advanced Relational Skills. All the best.
@@ClayAndrewsif only he would talk to me bt he is always angry. Last tym he came to my home he jst sat there like someone who wanted to say something bt after half an hr he left.
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I have a qustion about what to do when my ex is in a rebound. He is 52 and i am 47, We were together for 3 years and he broke up in december. It was a "nice" breakup, no drama, no begging ect from my side. In january he wrote to me that he is seeing some one else. I wished him all the best. And then i did no contact. I really love him and for the first time i thought that i meet a man who i want to live my life with and i still have the same feelings for him. He had reached out on text to me 6 or 7 times since January and i have answered him nicelly every time, no begging, no neediness and I kept it short. This monday he reached out again and asked me to meet up for coffee. I am going to Dubai for 10 days so i promised him that i would write to him when i was home again. Then thuesday he post a romantic picture whit him and he's new girlfriend on facebook. NOW my question what to do???? Should i write to him after my vacation or should i let him contact me again? Is it a bad idea meeting up whith him when he has i new girlfriend. Should i tell him that i cant meet up just being his friend and drink coffe once in a while. Or should i just meet him for coffee have i good time and see where things are going
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Marlene, what do you want? Do you want to keep in contact with him? If so, then try meeting up for coffee. He is likely in a rebound relationship, which will come with it's own set of problems, but you must stay anchored in what YOU want for yourself.
Clay Andrews i really want him back. I love him and i want to do it the right way. So i will meet him for coffe👍Should i write to him after my vaccation to schedule for a coffe date as i promised or should i wait for him to write again. Thank you😄😄😄
How can I get ex bf back if it’s been 7 years and he’s with relationships 2 rebounds I think he has displaced emotions (fake love) but I’m still single ever since the brake up I have hangout with guys as friends because most men aren’t serious. I’ve try to contact him being friendly telling him how I feel he still rejects me. I still stalk him on social media I noticed that his current girlfriend seems like she’s faking it
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What if the rebound was one of their exs from a year before me? (We were together for 2 years)
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Hi kris, there are two sides of the story that we have to check. when you had a relationship with your ex, is he or she is 100% healed from the past relationship? At times, we tend to go back to a relationship whom we are familiar with. Was there any form of evidence that they are indeed in a relationship?
@@ClayAndrews yes they are together. He is hiding it because his family hates her. He jumped right into it after me. He cant be alone. She has claimed to have changed. Im distraught because why am I left feeling like hell and he is not. Would you consider her a rebound if she was already in his life before? Will they last? :( thanks Clay
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I hear it takes 3 weeks to grieve the lost of the relationship and lost as a couple. I take 3 weeks to heal from a break up mostly.
it may be possible. But each person has their own unique pace when it comes to healing. So there's no exact timeframe for the grieving and healing process. But it depends on the level of acceptance of the person over the situation.
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2 months hit me like anything n going to be third month little relief, still pain and emptiness.
3 weeks? Good luck. If your feeling was ever true it will take way way longer. Time doesn't heal anything. You just learn how to live with it.
My Ex hooked up with a work colleague he had known for a while so not sure it’s a rebound, but how could you get past what they have done anyway?
If you're just trying to emotionally get past what he did, then the key here is to learn to differentiate between what he did and the meaning your mind is trying to make out of how it relates to you. The truth is that what he did only tells you about him, and it is very unlikely a reflection on you.
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What if she knows her rebound from a previous marriage after 10 year are more
Hi Dwayne, We have to go back if she has fully moved on from the old relationship or not. If she had taken the time to heal , it may not be a rebound.
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My ex recently unblocked me on Instagram what does that mean exactly
It means your ex has lowered their walls and might be ready for a light talk.
Clay Andrews she’s still in a new relationship with her new boyfriend
I'm sure you probably found your answer by now but I'm guessing that if she unlocked you and is still in her relationship, she's probably preparing to get out of that relationship. In my experience, women don't leave relationships until their fallback plan is in place.
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Ya my unblocked me from Snapchat and started following me on the GPS and story's she's been with the rebound for more then 2 months now and the other day I post a picture of me and my lady friend taking a drive in my car. My x flip out calling me all sorts of name .. so why did she get so dfensive if she's already with someone.... Please explain
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I throw him out after he hit me....4 weeks after he had a new gf...now she moved in with him and theg got engaged... in 5 month all this happened.....(.we were together for 6 years..)
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