The comparison/competition culture is hard to get away from because it’s everywhere. I used to feel guilty for not doing all the things but now I see the benefits of letting my kids just be kids. I was stressing myself out over things(reading levels, test scores, getting MVP on the tball team 🙄) when I can’t MAKE those things happen. I can help my child if they’re struggling in school but I can’t make him be the next child prodigy or the next Altuve 😂
I am thankful very often that we don't have education competition. I think I could easily be the crazy mom comparing test scores and reading levels. Instead, I don't even know what they mean. 🤣🤣🤣 people will tell me and I respond with 🤷
I feel the pressure already for my one year old ....they have to be walking and talking and waving and clapping, or we need intervention. Like how did we ever survive before all of this
I don't know. There's no way past generations stressed this much about milestones. It has to be a sign of our luxury. That we have the time and the means for these constant, often unnecessary concerns.
I get so much grief from my extended family that my kids don't do enough. I have always made a very conscience effort to make sure my kids get to be kids. I see nothing wrong with kids just being content with life at home with family ❤
I agree there needs to be a bigger conversation. Modeling is important, it’s way harder to limit screens for my kids when I’m attached to my phone. The flip side of this is that my kids don’t know how to play by themselves well. And there is an unreasonable expectation out there for parents to play with their kids, what’s better is having your kids tag along with us on adult things. You touch on a point, which I agree that generations has been broken down before this generation. We are trying to correct for excessive screen time while we are all addicted. I’ve been trying to practice being away from my phone, even one day noticing I had forgotten my phone inside the house before going out and I left it. That felt invigorating to be without it. Ever since the tv our imaginations have been diminished and our life has been sidelined.
I am making a conscience effort to allow my kids to be kids. My girls stopped gymnastics during Covid and it was the best decision ever. They have friends that we cannot actually schedule anything with going on 12 weeks now because they do dance 4X a week, swim 4X a week and are in band etc. These kids are literally scheduled everyday including weekends. We do not have phones in this house either and for my oldest who is in 11th grade (no phone) he just started working 18 hours a week and is learning how to better schedule his time to get schoolwork done and work- because he has no extracurriculars during the week we felt it was time to teach this skill. When he chooses to move on to college he will have to balance all of these things as we are unable to pay for school and he will not take out predatory loans. It is very hard- I am constantly being told I am weird and old school because we choose to not play "keeping up with the Jones'".
It will serve you all well! Covid have us a hard dance reset that helped us refocus our energies. It allowed us to keep in mind that we quote enjoyed less. It's wild that some families never spend time together anymore. My girls will not physically react if I offer them a standing weekend commitment🤣. Also, loans are predatory!! Couldn't agree more. There are new and amazing ways to steal from us all the time. 🤬
One of my favorite memories from this summer was a day when our neighbors came over unexpectedly and we all played outside riding bikes and skateboards until 9 pm. It was seriously one of the best days I've had in a while and it was so unbelievably simple. It reminded me of my childhood 💕
We do tend to overcomplicate things. I've found that structured activities are rarely what my girls want. They just want wild and free play with their friends.
From talking to a children's libarian she said that most kids that le as in how to "read" by kindergarten don't really know how to read but they are memorizing their favorite books they've heard over and over again. Which isn't bad that is a good start to reading.
I'm not a parent but I am early Gen Z who had a pretty sheltered childhood. (Kinda within reason, but my parents did do a lot to prevent me from learning adult topics) I work in the tech industry right now. Children should not have unlimited access to the internet. It should be restricted unless they are doing reasonable research. They also should not be on social media until they are at least 16. Small children should also not be having smartphones. Heck, even early middle schoolers! There are more studies on how social media is affecting children's brains and mental health. People like to claim that studies are not around. Yes, there are. It's something I've had to write about in college a few times. Even my mother had to write and research the subject for psychology courses. Because of what she learned during peak social media usage in teens, I was not allowed on social media until I was 18 (Pinterest and VERY limited Instagram being exceptions). I'm probably one of the only Gen Z kids who had a childhood and didn't have social media rule my life. Yes, I was bullied for it relentlessly in high school, but it did help me. I learned more adult subjects from books I read without school guidance. Only bad thing is, I didn't learn a lot about other big adult topics until I moved out. Yes, it may be hard to not raise kids without technology now, but it can be done. I have 4 brothers living with my parents and while they play video games, they are not playing with strangers online. Their behavior is SO DIFFERENT compared to their peers from what I've noticed (they do not have social media at all). They've had childhoods, they play sports, they learn about technology without social media, they get good grades... If this sounds like a lot, let me know. And if I shouldn't say this because I'm not a parent, let me know.
People send their babies away at 3/4/5 ish years old 😮 then they tell them that they're children until they're 18... Not teaching them how to be men and women when they start developing into adults around 12-13 ish years old. People used to go to college around 14/15 years old.
There are imporatatnt life lessons that need to be taught to help our kids become citizens. There is also allowing our kids and even encouraging them to put down the dolls at 7 and pick up the makeup. We need more open-ended play.
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I am absolutely guilty. Let's discuss this further. What do you have to add to this conversation?
The comparison/competition culture is hard to get away from because it’s everywhere. I used to feel guilty for not doing all the things but now I see the benefits of letting my kids just be kids. I was stressing myself out over things(reading levels, test scores, getting MVP on the tball team 🙄) when I can’t MAKE those things happen. I can help my child if they’re struggling in school but I can’t make him be the next child prodigy or the next Altuve 😂
I am thankful very often that we don't have education competition. I think I could easily be the crazy mom comparing test scores and reading levels. Instead, I don't even know what they mean. 🤣🤣🤣 people will tell me and I respond with 🤷
Completely agree. I have to remind myself academics is great, but so is play and exploring and life skills. That floor shine 😍😍😍
This floor is too shiny! Gotta be totally clean or it's a mess.
I feel the pressure already for my one year old ....they have to be walking and talking and waving and clapping, or we need intervention. Like how did we ever survive before all of this
I don't know. There's no way past generations stressed this much about milestones. It has to be a sign of our luxury. That we have the time and the means for these constant, often unnecessary concerns.
I get so much grief from my extended family that my kids don't do enough. I have always made a very conscience effort to make sure my kids get to be kids. I see nothing wrong with kids just being content with life at home with family ❤
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There are times i feel guilty that I don't have my kids in extra curricular activities.. thank you for this video ❤
Don't! I'm sure you're doing what's right for them and for your family.
@MakingEverydayMagic thank you:)
I agree there needs to be a bigger conversation. Modeling is important, it’s way harder to limit screens for my kids when I’m attached to my phone. The flip side of this is that my kids don’t know how to play by themselves well. And there is an unreasonable expectation out there for parents to play with their kids, what’s better is having your kids tag along with us on adult things. You touch on a point, which I agree that generations has been broken down before this generation. We are trying to correct for excessive screen time while we are all addicted. I’ve been trying to practice being away from my phone, even one day noticing I had forgotten my phone inside the house before going out and I left it. That felt invigorating to be without it. Ever since the tv our imaginations have been diminished and our life has been sidelined.
Agreed
I am making a conscience effort to allow my kids to be kids. My girls stopped gymnastics during Covid and it was the best decision ever. They have friends that we cannot actually schedule anything with going on 12 weeks now because they do dance 4X a week, swim 4X a week and are in band etc. These kids are literally scheduled everyday including weekends. We do not have phones in this house either and for my oldest who is in 11th grade (no phone) he just started working 18 hours a week and is learning how to better schedule his time to get schoolwork done and work- because he has no extracurriculars during the week we felt it was time to teach this skill. When he chooses to move on to college he will have to balance all of these things as we are unable to pay for school and he will not take out predatory loans. It is very hard- I am constantly being told I am weird and old school because we choose to not play "keeping up with the Jones'".
It will serve you all well! Covid have us a hard dance reset that helped us refocus our energies. It allowed us to keep in mind that we quote enjoyed less. It's wild that some families never spend time together anymore. My girls will not physically react if I offer them a standing weekend commitment🤣. Also, loans are predatory!! Couldn't agree more. There are new and amazing ways to steal from us all the time. 🤬
One of my favorite memories from this summer was a day when our neighbors came over unexpectedly and we all played outside riding bikes and skateboards until 9 pm. It was seriously one of the best days I've had in a while and it was so unbelievably simple. It reminded me of my childhood 💕
We do tend to overcomplicate things. I've found that structured activities are rarely what my girls want. They just want wild and free play with their friends.
From talking to a children's libarian she said that most kids that le as in how to "read" by kindergarten don't really know how to read but they are memorizing their favorite books they've heard over and over again. Which isn't bad that is a good start to reading.
I remember both of my girls could recite their favorites without even looking🤣
I'm not a parent but I am early Gen Z who had a pretty sheltered childhood. (Kinda within reason, but my parents did do a lot to prevent me from learning adult topics) I work in the tech industry right now. Children should not have unlimited access to the internet. It should be restricted unless they are doing reasonable research. They also should not be on social media until they are at least 16. Small children should also not be having smartphones. Heck, even early middle schoolers! There are more studies on how social media is affecting children's brains and mental health. People like to claim that studies are not around. Yes, there are. It's something I've had to write about in college a few times. Even my mother had to write and research the subject for psychology courses. Because of what she learned during peak social media usage in teens, I was not allowed on social media until I was 18 (Pinterest and VERY limited Instagram being exceptions). I'm probably one of the only Gen Z kids who had a childhood and didn't have social media rule my life. Yes, I was bullied for it relentlessly in high school, but it did help me. I learned more adult subjects from books I read without school guidance. Only bad thing is, I didn't learn a lot about other big adult topics until I moved out.
Yes, it may be hard to not raise kids without technology now, but it can be done. I have 4 brothers living with my parents and while they play video games, they are not playing with strangers online. Their behavior is SO DIFFERENT compared to their peers from what I've noticed (they do not have social media at all). They've had childhoods, they play sports, they learn about technology without social media, they get good grades...
If this sounds like a lot, let me know. And if I shouldn't say this because I'm not a parent, let me know.
It really is amazing to see the differences in kids allowed to have free internet reign and those who don't.
Oh yes… FOMO on “opportunities” when it comes to activities it tough! This is a constant internal battle for me.
Same!! Glad to see ya😘😘😘
I completely agree. It's 1 reason kids have such poor mental health! LET THEM PLAY! LET THEM BE KIDS!
Yes!!!
People send their babies away at 3/4/5 ish years old 😮 then they tell them that they're children until they're 18... Not teaching them how to be men and women when they start developing into adults around 12-13 ish years old.
People used to go to college around 14/15 years old.
There are imporatatnt life lessons that need to be taught to help our kids become citizens. There is also allowing our kids and even encouraging them to put down the dolls at 7 and pick up the makeup. We need more open-ended play.