6 Ways to Be a Better Spouse if You are Blind or Married to a Blind Person
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- 6 Ways to Be a Better Spouse if you are Blind or Married to a Blind Person
If you are married to a blind person:
1. Listen to Verbals and Nonverbals- there is not always a solution
2. Don’t pressure your spouse to get help or make changes
3. Respect their time. They may feel trapped and they may rely on you for freedom.
For the Blind Spouse
1. Accept Help
2. Be Patient, Your Spouse is doing their best and may feel overwhelmed at times
3. Do what you can to be independent and self sufficient
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That's funny in a way. I'm forever telling my kids, "I can't hear you shaking your head."
Good morning Scott! That is funny, LOL. That’s the thing with people who are visually impaired or blind to, we need verbalization, we cannot see or hear of the nonverbal’s even though sometimes we can send them. LOL, that’s funny and thank you very much for watching this! Hey, one more quick question, quite a few months ago when we were talking back-and-forth, you were talking about how you were considering getting a smart phone, did you ever happen to get a smart device? A smart phone or tablet? Good morning Scott! That is funny, LOL. That’s the thing with people who are visually impaired or blind to, we need verbalization, we cannot see or hear of the nonverbal‘s even though sometimes we can send them. LOL, that’s funny and thank you very much for watching this! Hey, one more quick question, quite a few months ago when we were talking back-and-forth, you were talking about how you were considering getting a smart phone, did you ever happen to get a smart device? A smart phone or tablet? Thanks again for watching this, see you again on Wednesday! Matt
You want to feature me on your channel?@@jordanmahonytheblindworld8483
Hi Jordan, I will try to do that! Thank you for being patient, I have been incredibly busy lately, but hopefully I can give you some mission. Thanks again, Matt
I am so glad that you guys make these videos. It means a lot to those of us who feel the same way. I lived with someone for 26 years and about seven years ago she basically gave up, and didn’t want to be married to a blind person anymore. But because of that, I have become so much stronger.
Good morning! Thank you very much for all of your very kind words, it means a lot to us. You are welcome, we create these videos to create a community for anybody who is blind or visually impaired, or even people who may know or be related to anyone who is blind or visually impaired. It is an amazing community where all of us can come together and share our experiences and know that we are not alone throughout this process. I do everything I can to expose my vulnerabilities through my videos and channel to show everybody else in the same position that it can be tough and that I struggle with the same things many other people with low vision do. I just want to connect with as many people as I can and serve and provide value to as many people as possible, thanks again for being part of this community and for all of your continued support and friendship, it truly means a lot to me! Have a great Tuesday, I will see you again tomorrow in the next video :-) Matt
Doctor Wacky i’m not trying to say that what happened to us is the same thing, but I’ve been broken up with many times because guys get tired of dating a blind girl. It’s very exhausting. Like you said though it makes you stronger. And like I say it weeds out the bad ones.
Hi Matt, I tried to respond with email but it wouldn’t let me. I am using the 6S plus, and it works very well for me
Hi! Thank you for the clarification. I’m glad the 6S is working well for you. This phone that I’m using, the sex, works pretty well too although it does have a few issues here and there. I hope you have a great weekend, the next video will be up in just less than an hour. Thanks again :-) talk to you soon. Matt
Hi, I am just going through the comments and reading some that I missed and that I did not get notified notified of their arrival, but I just came across this and wanted to say that this makes me feel really bad when I see this. I certainly don’t know what either of you have gone through, but I’ve also experienced something similar. Dating as a visually impaired person was incredibly difficult as the majority of people who I encountered in bed then told them about my vision loss, would typically disappear and never talk to me again. Only about one in every 10 people that I met actually decided to stick around for a little while and get to know me a little bit better. It makes me sad to hear the stories. Talking with both of you through the comments makes me realize that you’re such an amazing person and Annie would be very happy to have you in their life! Thank you again for being such an amazing friend, I would love to meet you someday! :-) Mad
This definitely applies to spouses living with physical disabilities, as well. My husband and I experienced this. His leg was amputated above knee, 19 and half years ago. I kept encouraging him to continue with physical therapy. It takes alot of patience. When possible... I scheduled my life around his, more often than not. Great video. Independence is key... I had to stop doing things so he could learn to help, himself. I'm a friend of Rita Harris - ( BLIND BOOMERANG )
Hi, thank you so much for watching this video and for reaching out to us, it is great to hear from you! Oh, that is awesome you are friends with Rita from blind to boomerang, she’s a great person and we are excited to feature her in the video promotion the other day! I completely agree with you, this applies to all relationships regardless if the person are blind or visually impaired, and I also agree, it also applies for physical disabilities too. Not only that, this applies to any relationship even if both people are cited, even if it is a marriage, friendship, or even a relationship between two coworkers. Regardless, these tips are very important. Thank you again for watching this and for reaching out to us, it’s great to hear from you! I hope you’re able to watch the video tomorrow, on Wednesday, I think you will enjoy it! Thanks again, we sincerely appreciate all of your support! See you tomorrow, Matt
@@BlindtoBillionaire Hello again, do you use the TH-cam Studio app, to get a list of your messages in order received from each video? I set that up for Rita so it will be easier for her, instead of checking for notifications. If there's a better way to list your messages, please share. I think that's an awesome app.
Hi, thanks again for reaching out with your question, sorry for the delay, it has been a busy day and evening. Yes, I use the TH-cam studio app to manage all of my videos into replied all my comments. That is exactly where I’m replying to you right now. In the upper right corner of the app, there is a notifications tab, if you click on that it gives a list of the last 25 comments that have been left. I find that is the easiest and fastest way to reply to comments. Otherwise, if that does not work, in the upper left corner there is a navigation drawer if she double clicks on there to open it up there’s a section saying comments, if you click on that it lists all the comments that I left on all the different videos. That is another way to answer comments although I find that weight to be a little bit slower than through the notifications tab. I hope this is helpful, please feel free to ask any additional questions if you have them! Matt
The last point is so me. All my friends, boyfriends, parents, and by standards notice that I want independence so badly and I miss it so much. I work every day to have more independent than the day before, and many of my blind friends say they don’t even have half of the independence I do, not because they don’t want it, because I haven’t taken the links to get there but it depends on who you are and how much you want it. Some people it’s not a choice for me it is. This was an awesome video as always LOL
Hi! I’m so happy to hear that you work every day to gain more independence and freedom. I miss it so much, all I want is independence and freedom so that I can do whatever I want. I’m so happy to hear that you are always working toward more freedom! Sorry for the delay in getting back to you on this comment, sometimes I do not get notifications of comments and they get buried because I don’t know they are there. I’m looking through the comments right now and coming across a few that I did not get notifications for and that I missed it. Again, I sincerely apologize for the delay. I hope you’re doing well, continue to gain more freedom and independence! You’re such an amazing person, I’m so happy and grateful to know you. :-) It will be awesome to meet you in person someday! :-) Matt
Blind to Billionaire you’re totally fine. It’s no big deal if it takes you a bit of time to get to some peoples comments.
Thank you for understanding! I do my best to respond every single comment, but unfortunately, I do miss some here and there. Thank you for understanding, you’re a great person! I hope you’re having a great weekend, I look forward to hearing from you again very soon :-) Matt
Hi Matt and Corey! Thanks for the video and the great advice. Me and my husband married in 2005. Life has change greatly over the years. When I started losing my vision which happened very quickly approximately 2015. Life was very different before and little did I know would change more dramatically over time. Me and my husband went from being a team doing things 50/50 to me doing 98% of everything. And in the process I went from what I would say low vision but still able to drive up until 2015. I don't think I've really had the time to grieve my vision loss. Situations come about in my family and with my husband where I felt like I had no choice but to learn to be as independent as possible and learn how to do things very quickly when I could. In the beginning when I first started losing my vision a family member of mine got drastically sick and now I am in charge of most things where that family member is concerned. Then last August my husband got seriously ill I now I am his full-time caregiver. Things are still a struggle now I'm learning to ask for help when I need it accepting the help hasn't been a problem it's me learning to ask for what I need. It seems in my life it goes from one extreme to the other people thinking I got everything under control and don't need anything which isn't the case but I'm glad they're confident in me and the other extreme being that people assuming I can't do anything at all which is not the case either. Feeling trapped is the biggest challenge and I really don't know what to do about that yet but I'll figure it out. Thanks again for the videos and for the sense of community.
Good morning! I really enjoyed reading this comment, in fact, I read it several times before drafting this reply. It is so interesting how life takes such unexpected turns. When you and your husband married about 14 years ago, both of you were contributing equally to the relationship unknowingly that the future would bring a depletion envision for you and your husband becoming very ill. The part I love about this story is even though you started to lose your vision very rapidly about four orfive years ago and that your husband became very ill, both of you found a way to continue to persevere and continue with your marriage and life doing what you possibly can to support and help each other through this process. I love the resilience and perseverance that is represented in this comment even though you did not directly allude to it. It sounds like you and your husband have such an amazing relationship and it is so nice to hear that you were there for him now to be his caregiver as he probably was for you when you started to lose your vision more rapidly a few years ago. I can’t imagine what it would have been like to experience everything you have in the last few years, but it is also very inspiring to read this comment and hear how you have adapted throughout these drastic changes. Thanks again for being part of this community, your friendship means a lot to us! I hope you have a great Tuesday, and once again, thank you very much for sharing all of this with us. Talk to you again tomorrow, Matt
Nice.we all accept help at many points
The choice is here to move forward..security is a big inner issue that belongs to only self.
Great job you two.
Being independent is great for the visually impaired community.
Hi Larry! I agree, being visually impaired is definitely beneficial to the community as people gain knowledge and education when they encounter people who are blind or visually impaired. Thanks Larry! Matt
My wife and I have been married for going on 10 years now. It wasn't easy at first. But, now hell, she reads things to me before I know I want her to. Like text on TV. Things like that. I played on the road with a touring band and now I work from home and I really don't mind being at home more. Mainly because for years, man I was on the go all the time it seemed like. But, I don sometimes get stir crazy and my wife is good about seeing this in me. Yall will get it worked out. I love how yall kind of pick at each other sometimes. My wife says she wishes we lived close to yall so her and your wife could talk more. My saying is Matt, "It ain't nothing but a blind thang." LMAO. Yall keep it up. We love what yall are doing.
Hey Scott, LOL, I love you’re saying! That is so funny. It’s really nice that you and your wife have been where married 10 years and that she is so helpful, it is just natural instinct for her to start reading things to you now. I love that! It does take time, because we as blind and visually impaired people are definitely the minority, the majority of people out there do not require additional assistance when it comes to visual aspects of our life, so it takes time for someone to realize that we need help with the simple things that are visual in our lives. That is so cool of your wife, Corey also does a great job! But it is not natural instinct quite yet for her on some things thanks again for all your very nice words Scott, I’m so happy to hear that you and your wife love the videos! :-) Matt
This is great relationship advice, whether or not one’s parter is disabled. Support, support, support!
Another awesome video guys and great advice! Matt, I am so glad you are open to O and M training now, I feel it will truly change your life man. It will help you take more control of your life and not needing to rely on Corey so much getting around . Our sighted supporters are awesome, I don't know what I would do without my wife, but we always have to be careful not to push too hard because that is when they can start building resentment towards you even if it's on a subconscious level. Sometimes I feel like a caged animal but I also need to be aware of my sighted supporter's situation because it's not all about me.
Hi Doug, I cannot agree with you more. We always need to be sensitive of the cited supporter that we have in our life, they playing essential role in our lives and you’re completely correct, it is not all about us. It is a mutual relationship at all times. I’m excited for the freedom and independence that the weekend and orientation and mobility training will give me. I’m excited for the opportunities! It will definitely be an interesting experience and I cannot thank you enough for all of your continued support and encouragement, it means so much to me! Thanks again Doug, I hope you’re doing well! Have a great night, see you again tomorrow. Matt
Great video and topic. Keep up the awesome work. Looking forward to the next one as always. 😊
Hi! Thank you very much for watching the video and for the nice feedback, that means a lot to us! We sincerely appreciate you taking the time to watch these videos and to reach out with us for with all of your continued support and friendship, it is just so special! I am glad you are excited for the next video, tomorrow’s video is actually a collaboration with another blind TH-cam creator, it will be an amazing collaboration! We are very excited about it and hope you enjoy it! Thanks again, have a great night, see you again tomorrow :-) your friend, Matt
Excellent point about the grieving process and how it can cause a person to receive persuasion or encouragement as coercion or heartless nagging. Also as someone who's pushed myself hard to advocate for myself at my former work, and gone out of my way to try different things to help with my vision, I definitely got t a point where I was wary of trying yet another potential solution that would drain my energy and hope and then not be the right fit for me. In that head space, someone outside of the visually impaired experience continuing to suggest a particular solution just makes me start taking it personally and the wrong way, even when it's meant with the best of intentions. Great video, lots of food for thought!
Hi Mel! Excellent comment! This was a lot of fun to read. I completely agree, in many situations, our side supporters are giving us encouragement and recommendations to help us gain independence and freedom through our training, but yet we started taking it personally over time as they continue to push a little bit and persist that we gain some training. Then we all of a sudden sometimes take it personally and the wrong way when in fact they are just trying to help us. But like we said, we need to be in the right place through the grieving process as well as ready to start the training rather being pressured to do so. Thank you again for watching this, I hope you’re having a great night! See you again tomorrow in the next video, it’s a collaboration video with another amazing blind TH-cam or! I hope you will enjoy it :-) Matt
Great job guys another great video!
Great tips, I appreciate the insights 💪🏽
Another fantastic video guys. Relationships are not easy. We always need to adapt to the other person that we are with and find the balance to be able to complement each other. Respect, communication and compromise are the most important aspects in a relationship. 😀👍
Good morning, very well said, that is so true! Not only for two people in a relationship with one being blind or visually impaired, but this goes for all relationships, and all relationships of any kind whether it is a marriage, a friendship, a partner ship, or even a work relationship. By work relationship I mean to coworkers. LOL, not some sneaky relationship at work. LOL. I’m sure you know what I meant. Thanks again, I always enjoy reading your comments because you always have something very intelligent with great perspective. Thanks again my friend, I really really appreciate hearing from you! Have a great Tuesday, see you tomorrow in the next collaboration video Matt
I find myself overwhelmed with being so responsible for my new spouses care. He’s been blind for 8years now. We met 4 years ago. It’s become increasingly difficult due to his unwillingness to ask for help and refusing the traditional options for blind people. His moods are what get me down. I sometimes question if I should have never gotten involved. We’re both over 50 and I have physical pain and have to constantly override my body to see to him. Any advice is welcomed 💜
This gave me so so so much hope. Love and relationships are one thing I feel that has suffered the most from me going through my vision loss. I'm still trying out the whole dating thing. Like when do bring up that you can't read the menu and why is your phone talking to you. Plus being 21 has its own set of life drama that is only magnified when you add grieving the loss of your sight. Thank you for all that you do. Be safe. Be happy.
Hi Shelby, thank you so much for watching this video and for reaching out to us. It means a lot to me to get the feedback and know that this video was helpful to you and gave you some hope. That is very encouraging! I can’t imagine how it would be dating and on able to read the menu and having your phone talk to you. Luckily when I was younger and still in the dating arena of my life, my vision was good enough to the point that I was still able to read a menu in most scenarios and I was not using a talking phone at that time. I admire you for everything that you were doing and continuing to put yourself out there in search of someone who will except you and love you for who you are. I think that’s amazing, you seem like such a special person and you are very kind and thoughtful too. I wish there were something I could do to help you, but just knowing that I am here for you at any time as your friend to give you support, friendship, encouragement, motivation, or anything else I can possibly do to help you, I am always here if you need me :-) thanks again Shelby, please feel free to reach out anytime if you ever want to talk! I hope you’re having a great weekend, I look forward to hearing from you again sometime soon. Matt
@@BlindtoBillionaire Hope is the enough. Having examples of "normal" blind person is amazing. Thanks for sharing your lifestyle with us.
Hi Shelby! Well thank you, I really appreciate that. But, if there’s anything else I can do to help you or be supportive in any other way other than just uploading videos and showing you my normal life, please reach out and let me know. That is why this channel exists, to always be as helpful and supportive as possible at all times and to connect with you through these comments. Thanks again Shelby, you’re an amazing person! I’m always here for you if you need me :-) Matt
This was an excellent video. I understand the feeling trapped at home the most. My wife works nights and sleeps during the day. So I dont get out much. Now that I'm reselling In always trying to find ways to get out.
Good morning Chad! The feeling of being trapped can be very difficult sometimes. Well, I know it is for me anyway. I love the fact that you are starting this reselling business, it’s amazing! Not only is it getting you out of the house regularly to go find more products, but it’s great because it gives you something worthy to work toward while you were at home. Not only listing your products, but also packaging and shipping once they are sold. Not only that, you were probably having some social interactions with other people as they send questions and comments about the products you were selling, overall it’s just seems like such a great experience! Are used to sell quite a bit of stuff on eBay and I really enjoyed it! The excitement of selling an item was so much fun to me! Thanks again Chad, we always enjoy hearing from you even though we understand you were busy! Have a great Tuesday, and I hope you get some big sales today! :-) Matt
Good stuff. Appreciate each other for what each of you bring to the table. Learn from each other ❤️
Hi Cindy! Thank you very much for watching this video and for reaching out to me, it is so nice to hear from you! I agree, each person in every relationships bring something unique and important to the relationship regardless of the relationship type. Thanks again, we sincerely appreciate all of your continued support :-) have a nice day, see you again tomorrow and hope to talk to you again soon! Matt
You guys are a riot! "I listen to you guys, I don't listen to Corey."... hahaha!
Good morning! LOL, I’m so happy to hear that you enjoy the videos and you find them entertaining! That is so exciting and means a lot to me! LOL, I listen to Corey, only sparingly. LOL :-) thanks again my friend, I’m so happy to know you and have the opportunity to connect with you as much as we do! Have a great Tuesday, see you again tomorrow in our collaboration video! :-) Matt
You all are the best....... I think even sight on sight should also follow you all advice. Take care
hi guys. I love this video. You touched on everything that my husband and I have been trying to work through for 18 years. I don’t know that there’s ever an end to these issues. I guess to me it’s sort of never ending issues. Does that make sense? We are constantly working together. I could go on and on. My husband works nights. 10 hour nights. So while I’m sleeping he’s working and when I’m awake he’s sleeping. It’s a struggle but we do try to compromise on his days off. I was a late comer to the iPhone as well but neither one of us knew what it would do for me until I was in a group called blind parents. I noticed a lot of them were speaking about the iPhone so I jumped in and asked them what they were talking about. I’ve only had mine for about four years and it has change my life. I don’t want this comment to be too long but I could definitely go on and on about each topic you brought up. I haven’t had enough coffee yet to do it LOL. Love you guys and thanks for another great video.
Good morning Jerry! LOL, it sounds to me like you need to drink some more coffee so you can elaborate in more detail on this video and every topic covered! LOL. I imagine how that could be tough when your husband works nights and sleeping during the day while you are awake. It’s nice that he compromises on his days off, but I can imagine that would probably be difficult when he is probably on the opposite schedule as you. I’m so happy to hear that you got an iPhone and that has been life-changing for you as well, I can definitely say my experience with the iPhone has also been life-changing! I would not give it back for anything. Seriously, it gives us so much more independence. I’m glad that your group blind parents was helpful to you in making the transition into an iPhone, that is very encouraging. I completely agree with you, just like every relationship whether someone is cited or blind, all relationships are forever innovating and improving over time. I always appreciate hearing from you and reading your comments as you always have something very informative and intelligent to say! Thanks again Jerry, see you tomorrow in the next video! Matt
FIRST! I needed this!!! Ps Corey I need that shirt in a men’s 3xl PLEASE
Hi! I’m so glad to hear that you enjoyed this video and that it came at the right time for you. That is great! :-) LOL, you want that shirt in a men’s 3XL? LOL, maybe we can make that happen! Thanks again for watching this, and I’m so happy to hear that this video came at the right time for you! Have a great Tuesday, see you again tomorrow in the next video! Matt
Do as much aa you can is a great advice. Thanks! :D
Hi! Thank you so much for watching this video and for reaching out to us, it is great to hear from you again! I agree, doing as much as we possibly can and contributing goes along way :-) not only for the blind or visually impaired person, but for the cited spouse or partner as well. Thanks again, see you soon :-) mad
By the way Matt. There usually a bus service for counties for disabilities check out services available for your county. They are very cheap and they go door-to-door. Just to get out of the house.
Hi, thank you very much for recommending this, I do know that we have that type of service here too, however I have not used it. I should probably look into it, even if it was something as simple as getting a ride from my house to my parents house which is only about 15 miles, it would be very helpful. In fact, I am meeting with my dad later today so that we can go bid a job, but he needs to drive to my house first and then we need to go in the opposite direction past his house to go to where the job is that we need to bid. This would actually be an excellent opportunity to use this type of service. Thanks again, I will definitely need to look into it! Have a great day, see you again tomorrow. Matt
Hi Matt and Cory. Great video. Super great topics. I too, had a very difficult time asking for help. I had a lot of pride issues. But, once I got past it, I have no problems now asking for help. I’ve had my white cane for about four years now. I frequently still get training with it. But just about three weeks ago I really started using it everywhere I went. That was one of the hardest things I had to get past. Now sometimes when I don’t bring it with me, I feel unsafe without it. I have two brothers who always tell me I should be further along than I am. And they’re off course think that they are expert using white canes. They both are cited. Matt, just like you said, things don’t happen until you feel you are ready. Have a good night. See you tomorrow.
Hi my amazing friend! That is so great that you recently started bringing the cane with you everywhere you go, and now when you go without it, you feel like you were unsafe. That is great, just like we both discussed, you need to be ready to take the next step and be ready to bring the cane with you and just like I need to be ready to go ahead with the training. This is amazing, I really enjoyed reading this comment! You continue to impress me every time we speak! Thanks again for being such a great friend, we sincerely appreciate our friendship! See you again tomorrow in the next video, it is a collaboration with another amazing TH-cam star, I think you’ll love it! :-) Matt
I was badly abused by my ex-husband i had a hammer in my head he stabbed me 12 times run over by him i have problems no one understands me 8 back surgeries i'm glad you and Matt have an understanding relationship
I think its great that you guys. It is never good to pressure any one. IG just does what you said matt. I think Bering demanding would be a good to work on.. You both make good videos. You really do different topic like depression
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Hi Matt and Corey Great video. The only time I get in patient is when I'm on holiday I want to know what my surroundings look like or I'm missing out not seeing the circus when we take our girls. IWant to know what's happening it can be frustrating. I'm the same been in all day I want to get out but my husband exhausted from work .So now he takes Wednesday off work so it's our day . 😊
Hi Tony! That is so nice that your husband takes off work on Wednesday so you can spend the day together! That is so much fun and special! I agree, it can be very difficult in some situations when you cannot visually see your surroundings and watch your girls have fun at the circus. It is just not the same when somebody else is verbalizing what is going on around you versus being able to visually see it on your own. I’m glad to hear that you and your family have so much fun together on Wednesdays! That is such a special time together :-) thanks again Tony, you’re an amazing person and it sounds like you have such a special family! Have a nice day, see you tomorrow :-) Matt
One thing I would encourage you both to do is learn braille. Braille is going to be very very important, there is going to come a day when your phone battery will be dead, and the power will be out and you will need to read something. Also, being able to read notes that you have left for each other is extremely helpful. It has always bothered me that my parents never learn braille, and I wish they had. I am also going to say that yes, you do need to push that to learn independent skills. It isn’t fair that, for you to expect Cory to take you places, or do things like that. Also, once you have your training, you won’t have to be stuck at home all day by yourself. You will be able to go for walks, or even go shopping, because of either a rideshare service, public transit etc. by the way I was saying the word Matt.
Hi! Thank you very much for reaching out with this feedback and encouragement, that means a lot to me! I am very excited about how much freedom the orientation and mobility training is going to give me. It is people like you who have given me the encouragement and the support to go ahead with the training. Thank you very much!I agree, I should not always rely on Corey to help me get out of the house, but rather I need to be independent and learn the skills that will allow me to go out by myself. That is very powerful which I sincerely appreciate. As for your recommendation for braille, I also think that’s a great idea and I am glad you mentioned it. It would be best if Corey and I both learn braille exactly as you suggested. Once again, thank you very much! Have a great Tuesday, we will see you again tomorrow in the next video :-) Matt
Hi matt. A tip i could share with you for whenever you use uber again, is to ask the driver if he or she could walk you to the front door of any place you get dropped off at. I often take uber to doctor appointments, or to a friend's house. I still have enough useable vision to find the door of the house when i go to visit. How did you enjoy uber for the first time?
Hi, thank you very much for that tip, I would love to try that! I’m not sure how the person would feel doing that, but I can definitely ask. As for my first experience with Uber, it was great! The driver was very nice, he grabbed our bags and put them in the trunk of his car for us, and he took them out when we got to the airport. He was very nice. I know you were not supposed to do this, but we gave him a cash tip when we left. We felt like he exceeded our expectations and the ride from the cruise port to the airport was only five dollars on Uber anyway, so we slipped him some cash anyway once we got to our destination. It was totally worth it for us. We loved it! Thank you for the helpful tip tip, I will need to try that :-) thanks again, I really enjoy hearing from you Matt
God bless your family take care
Hi Matt and corey, nice video again. I was wondered Matt, do you have any friends who you can call to do stuff outside the house. Maybe if you do sometimes stuff with friends has corey a evening to calm down and just being Home and relax. Maybe that reliëf the pressure on both of you. Maybe there is a community for blind people that can give you a sighted guide they work for free just to help people with special needs. I can imagine that corey wanted a night cozzy on the couch just doing nothing for just a minute and through this way you get your get out and corey her minute of peace and maybe you both be happyer. Through this way you both have Some freedom and can choose when you doing things toghetter and when you go each doing a nice thing for yourself. It can be a welcoming solution. Love sabrina
Hi Sabrina, thank you so much for reaching out with a suggestion! I would love to do this, I would absolutely love to do this! We have explored this option many times, but to answer your question, no, I do not have any friends. I have been trying to find a couple friends here locally for many years but have not been able to find any. Just as you suggested, if I had a friend or two that I could hang out with and go do some things with, that would give Corey some time to relax at home by herself as she wants to do rather than feeling pressured to go out and do something just so I can get out of the house. I love the suggestion, I wish it was easier to find a friend who is excepting of someone who is visually impaired and willing to help. Too bad we do not live closer, you could be my friend! :-) Thanks again Sabrina, you’re a very special friend to us :-) love, Matt
Blind to Billionaire hi Matt, socially isolation i know exactly what that means. We have exactly the same problem. Thats why i also suggested to find a professionally or volunteer worker who guide people with special needs. If you dont find friends for it you can search a person who make this their work. Here in the netherlands are sighted people who volunteer do sports with bllomd people like running or ride bike. And such people do a lot more. They Will help you to a groceryshop or a walk in the park. Go swim or whatever. Have a drink, shopping everything. We also make ads to ask for people who want to help with stuff. A kind of marketplace asking who is interested to help you doing things you want to. Fondant friends is hard. But community worker can help you to with those things. And if you search through a organisation they search for a good match with you so you have actually fun. Not every person Will fit with you so they search as long untill you find someone who you like and then you have a great match to do thing “on your own”. Love sabrina
Hi Sabrina! I love this idea, it is so cool that you have these types of people in the Netherlands that are able to help you with so many different things, even just living a normal life if you just want to go out and do some shopping, go to the park, or even go out and get a drink. That is so nice. I love that there are these people out in the world. I actually talk to Corey today about your idea and she thought it was great, she also loves the idea of me having a friend available and somebody that I can go out and do things with occasionally. Thanks again for the suggestion! You are a very special friend to us :-) I am going to bed, have a nice day, and wish me sweet dreams LOL :-) Matt
@@BlindtoBillionaire sweet dreams matt. I also going to sleep now 6.27 AM 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and succes with searching for a mate to do a lot of fun stuff. And wish corey some relaxing nights from me. I always love and try to help people. And i am glad if i can you guys. I live far away from you but that doesnt mean i cant do nothing. I do have all my life lived with help from proffesionals and volunteers and i am completely settled in it. It takes time to accept your limitation and like you said starting this channel was starting your journey in acceptance and start taking steps to learn to cope with your vision loss. And luckily a lot of people reached out to you and try to help. And i am so happy to see you growing and to see you happy about a new tool or step you made in your process to cope and develop more independence. And this is also a way to do that. Those people work for free and give you the opportunity to do things on your own. And if there is tention between you and corey because she is overwhelmed by your need to do things that will go away with this solution. Maybe after a great adventure all day you even happy to stay a long warm night toghetter on the couch. Maybe their are also groups with more people with special needs doing things. Harry goes to a daycare. All people there have a disability and they do things to fill your day. Doing nothing makes people depressed so people who cant work because of their disability can go to such a group. So you meet new people and do activities. And they made for everyone. A boardgame for example also for blind people. We did sports there with people in a wheelchair. Swimming with a elevator for wheelchairs. Walking, bingo, cooking and baking, creative with wood. Harry has his own garden. He made a christmashouse for jesus, maria and joseph. If i send you a picture what corey describe you are stunned. Really never saw this people little house for christmas. And such activity centers are made for us to feel a lot better. They come get us with a little bus and they bring us home so everything is cared off. So maybe that also a posibility for you. And you dont have to go all days if you not want that. If you say i want to be at home for 2 days a weel to do houskeeping thats fine. Then you go 2 days or 2 mornings and 1 afternoon. But then you see people and have to do something. I am glad that harry goes to his daycare. We have a lot less fights and arguing because of it. I will make you a whole lot different and you have something to talk about with corey because then you see hear feel things. And those centers also can help you with talking about your struggles and give yoy advice and tools to easy up your life. So let me know if you find someting/someone and how you feel about you "new freedom"🤣🤣 again sweet dream and talk to you soon. Xx sabrina and give corey my love
Good morning Sabrina! Thank you once again, it is very nice to hear about Henry’s experience with his daycare and everything that he’s able to do there. It’s nice to hear the flexibility that these programs offer. I’m guessing there is something very similar here, I just need to find what it is. I love the idea of getting a friend that I can spend time with occasionally well Corey is able to relax. I’ve actually been getting very busy with my work lately, so that is filling the void for the time being. But I still love the idea of having a friend who I can spend time with and go out and do a random activities with an occasional basis. I hope you slept well and have a very nice day! Today is a busy day for me, but I hope to see you later again today with the new video :-) huge hugs, love Matt
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you guys are great and on point. I am still waiting for my mobility training.
Good morning Edward! It’s a exciting to hear that you were waiting for your orientation and mobility training, I would love to hear about it once you start the process! I am also still waiting to start the process, it is a slow one, but eventually it will begin. I’m excited but getting nervous at the same time. It would be great to share our experiences with each other once we both start! Thanks again Edward, it’s always great to hear from you! Have a great Tuesday, and thank you for your continued friendship :-) Matt
Yes that would be great. I was referred to the school of the blind in the state of Michigan. Its funded by social security. I had two home vists. The visits was pretty much a introduction for me and go thogh some paperwork.
Also I would like to shoot an idea that might be great to talk about. I been finding out some stuff has extra features for us ""the blind|. Like the movie theathers has voice decrivive audio tracks. Dvds have the same. I just like to know what else is out there but its not in the open. Thank you and have a great day.
Hi! That’s great that you were referred to that agency for training. That is very encouraging! Sounds like a great experience, I would love to hear more about it! Thanks for reaching out and sharing this with us. Matt
Hi Edward, thank you very much for the recommendation and suggestion! This is pretty cool, it seems they’re not too many people know about the audio description in movies, on Netflix, and at movie theaters. This will probably be something very interesting to discuss. Thanks again for the recommendation, I appreciate it! Have a great night, see you again tomorrow in the next video. Matt
I would like to add that if you have a visually impaired or blind partner, please do not do something which reminds them of their weakness. Whether it is in the form of actions or words, it really leads to devastation of the morale of the disabled person. I have met some people who have reminded me of my RP condition in order to discourage and destroy y confidence...….
Hi! This is actually excellent advice, I completely agree with you. I feel like that is so wrong if somebody faults us or makes us feel bad about our visual impairment or blindness. That is off-limits in my opinion. I just feel like it is so wrong to insult or make fun of somebody or make them feel bad in anyway about any type of disability that they cannot help. I completely agree, even though in the midst of a dispute or argument, it can be easy to attack someone and say things that are on necessary, but we can never on here words that have been said. Once again, excellent advice! I completely agree :-) thanks again for watching this and for reaching out, great comment :-) see you again tomorrow in the next video. Matt
Hi matt. Awesome video! Have you ever used Uber to go places? I use it quite often and enjoy it.
Good morning! Actually, I have only used Uber one time and it was when I was on vacation. LOL, we were actually in San Juan Puerto Rico and we needed a ride from the cruise port back to the airport. We were trying to get a taxi, but they were all very busy and expensive, so we decided to grab an Uber and it only cost us five dollars. LOL. That was our very first experience with Uber and we loved it! I have talked about many times using Uber or Lyft just as an experiment here locally just to drive somewhere, but I have not gone through with it yet honestly, I’m a little bit nervous to do so but I just need to do it. If I had some usable vision that would allow me to be independent once I got to my destination, I would absolutely use this service. The problem is, when I get to my destination, I wouldn’t be able to do anything other than step out of the car and stand right there because I can’t see where to go or what to do. LOL, the orientation and mobility training cannot come soon enough! I’m very happy to hear that you use the services, these are perfect for people in our position for a blind or visually impaired. Thanks again for watching this, I always appreciate hearing from you :-) Matt
Hey Jordan, thank you! I sincerely appreciate all of your encouragement. You’re a great friend, thank you!
Great tips man. Also did you guys finish your work in the house you were working on. Can't wait for Wednesday video, see you then
Good morning Thomas! Thanks for watching the video! Yes, we actually finished up a week ago last Tuesday. We were there for eight days, it was a big job, but it was also fun at the same time to have something to look forward to each day. We have a kitchen demo coming this cut next Monday and we are actually going to bid a different job this afternoon. So we do have some jobs on the horizon, but not a ton right now. We have had opportunities for a lot of other smaller jobs, but I have been turning down a lot of the smaller ones lately because it is not worth our time. We are just going to focus on the big ones, is that is where the money is! LOL, got a love the green! When I say green, I mean money, not part. LOL. Thanks again Thomas, you’re such an awesome guy! Have a great day, Matt
@@BlindtoBillionaire thanks man you too. That sounds good I am happy for you 🙂. But it does suck how you will be home alone all day.
Right on 👌
Good morning Tori! It is so nice to hear from you, it has been so long! I was very happy to see your name, or rather, hear my phone read your name to me :-) thanks for watching this, it’s very nice to hear from you! I hope you’re having a great summer :-) Matt
Blind to Billionaire Good morning and thank you! I’m sorry for being so distant lately, I’m going through a lot of changes and stuff! I hope you’re doing well! It’s nice to hear from you too!
Good morning Tori, that’s understandable. Just know that I am here for you as a friend if you ever want to talk about anything. Feel free to reach out to me at anytime, seriously! I’m very excited for your opportunity that you were doing this summer, I will not talk about it here so that I do not expose it to the entire world, but you know what I’m talking about, and I’m very excited for you! Thanks again Tori, you are an amazing friend and I am very happy and lucky to know you! Have a great Tuesday, I hope we can talk again sometime soon! Matt
😂 I have done the same to my husband! He will suggest something and I am like, okay maybe. Then I come to youtube and see someone else has suggested the same thing so then I want to do it 😆 I am trying to get better!
Ooooo I am so excited for Wednesday! 🙋🏻♀️
Good morning Cassie! I love connecting with you as much as we do! I have seen you around on TH-cam quite a bit, but we have never connected as much as we have in the last couple weeks, I love it! It sounds like you and your husband are very similar to us, which is pretty funny and exciting! It’s weird, our spouse may recommend something that we do not want to except or recognize, but when we come here on TH-cam and see other blind or visually impaired people doing what has been written recommended, it strikes a different cord inside of us that may motivate and inspire us to move forward. Even though our spouse has been recommending for quite a while now. LOL. I love how we both do this, at least I am not the only one. LOL :-) thanks again Cassie, you’re an amazing person and I sincerely appreciate everything you’re doing here on TH-cam for all of us in the blind and visually impaired community! Have a great Tuesday, I look forward to hearing from you again soon :-) Matt
So true! You are definitely not alone! I hate it when I do that, but when I see all of y’all on youtube, and we are all going through similar experiences (and different ones too) it’s like it makes that connection and you trust the suggested idea more. Having that similar connection, even though we have never met, really makes a difference.
I love that we are connecting so much, too! Thank you so much! Y’all are doing an awesome job as well! I can’t wait to see what else you have planned! ☺️
Hi Cassie! Thank you for validating what I was talking about and suggesting. It is really nice to come here on TH-cam and connect with others to get validation for the recommendations that are being given to us. After all, we would probably trust the word of someone who is blind or visually impaired and especially a few of them versus the recommendations of someone who is not blind or visually impaired. Thank you for all the very nice words, we are excited to continue producing content and providing as much value as we possibly can. That is the whole purpose of this community, provide as much value as we can, provide support in anyway and as much as we can, and to always be here as friends to anybody who needs us at any time. Also, to always connect with as many people as we can in as many ways as we possibly can like through these comments. Having this connection is very powerful and solidifies such great friendships. Tomorrow’s video is going to be a collaboration with another great blind and visually impaired TH-cam advocate, we are very excited about it! We hope you enjoy it :-) have a great night, I hope to see you again tomorrow :-) Matt
Very true on the validating!! I have just been so amazed at all of the community connections you can make on here! I really wish I would have started a channel sooner. Not to get too personal, but I have kinda been at a loss the past few years on my goals for my life and this has been wonderful getting to know so many blind and visually impaired people. I can actually have a daily schedule set and a list of things to get done for me. I have loved the journey so far and cant wait to see what’s next!
I will so be here tomorrow! I am over here playing Guess Who by myself! LOL
Good morning Cassie! I was very hesitant to start a TH-cam channel regarding vision loss, blindness, and visual impairment. I wasn’t sure how people would react to my videos and if I would get any traction at all. Here I am a little over a year later and can’t believe how many people I have met through this channel and hear on TH-cam. I have made so many amazing connections and a lot of incredible friends throughout this process. It has been so much fun and I’m excited to see what the next year will bring. As for your concern about not having calls or direction for your life prior to TH-cam, I think many of us in this community struggle with that same thing, I know that I did it for many years and still currently do. As much as I love TH-cam and connecting with everybody here, sometimes I still feel feel very discouraged and ask myself, why am I here, what is my purpose, what do I want to do with my life? TH-cam and everybody else here that I’ve been connecting with has definitely helped me gain a better picture for my purpose and some of my goals. I love hearing that you are able to establish a daily list and work to achieve the completion of it on a daily basis. I love that! We just always need to have something to be working toward otherwise that is when we get complacent and start to get dissatisfied in life. I’ve talked about this many times on my videos but we always need to have something that we are excited about and looking forward to in the future whether the future is tomorrow, a month from now, or three years from now. By the nature of being blind or visually impaired, many and people in this community feel very isolated, which is why once again I have encouraged so many people throughout many of my videos to start a TH-cam channel to start connecting with other people. Although we can’t get out very much, TH-cam is an excellent way for us to connect with others and provide value and contribute in someway. Regardless, this is an incredible platform and there’s so much opportunity here. It’s been such an amazing process and I’m really excited for you to be on here as well. May I ask, when did you start your channel? I started mine in April 2018. For the first six months or so, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my channel and uploaded random videos about anything and everything. It was only after about the first six or eight months when I finally got a direction and decided to start creating content strictly around a visual impairment and blindness. Today is going to be somewhat of a busy day for me, so if I do not reply until tonight, that is why. Have a great day, I look forward to hearing from you again :-) Matt
she kinda looks like : laur DIY (youtuber) and Traci Hovel ( actress)
Good morning! Thank you :-) I hope that is a good thing! Thanks so much for being here, I really appreciate your support
Thank you, that is very nice of you :-) I hope your weekend is going well, hopefully will see you again soon in the next video :-)
My wife is totally blind about a year now. Should she learn brail? She just turned 64 and life supposed to be sweet in retirement years but terribly hard being blind. What do you say to her that will make stay on earth and enjoy her grandson and all the beauty in this world????
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Writing for Jacqueline blind spouse
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Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it :-) great to hear from you once again :-) Matt
Good video have you started the orientation and mobility training yet? I guarantee once you start using a cane you’re going to have a lot more independence and be able to go out without having to wait for Cory to get home
Hi, thank you for watching the video! I have not started the orientation and mobility training quite yet, I’m still waiting for everything to get in line so that I can start working with the trainer. It is a slow process, but I’m excited for it to begin once it does! I’m excited for the freedom and independence that it will allow me to have and of the opportunities that await me. I will definitely be sharing my experiences on the channel! Thank you very much! Have you gone through the training? If so, did you find a dramatic increase in independence and freedom after the training? Thanks again, you’re an awesome guy! Talk to you soon. Matt
Blind to Billionaire Yes I have gone through the training and definitely found that more independence came the second you complete your training and get your white cane. Before training I never use the cane and relying on someone to walk with me to go places. Once I receive the training on the cane it was a see you later everyone I’m doing my own thing
Not to mention it definitely brings awareness to visual impairments and blindness. So many people never knew I had trouble seeing until they noticed me with a cane and then it became a teaching moment for the cited
Wow, that’s amazing! That is so exciting, seriously! I just got really excited when I heard this. I love your attitude, Siya, I’m going off to do my own thing. I love that, that’s exactly how I’m going to be. See everyone, I’m going to do something. I’m very excited! Thank you for giving me this excitement for the training. And yes, I completely agree with you, the training will give us more independence as well as raise awareness and educate other people out in the community when they see us with the cane. Thanks again for sharing your experience! Matt
You’re very welcome here anytime you have questions or need someone to Talk too
Thank you, I really appreciate that, truly! Have a great night, see you again tomorrow. Matt
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So I’m legally blind and I accept I have to ask for help but my partner does not want us there a care giver thing that can help
My wife does not keep thing organized that makes it unlivable for me thought
I am blind and I am going to get my guide dog soon too
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Hi my big teddy bear! LOL, you are our biggest fan! When I read your comments, I can just see you like a big cheerleader with your pom-poms cheering us on! LOL, you’re such a great friend, thank you for all of your continued support and friendship, you are amazing! Have a great Tuesday, see you tomorrow in the next video, I think you will enjoy it! Matt
Blind to Billionaire no Pom poms please lol YW😂😂😂
After my vision loss I bottled up my feelings and can't share any of them with people around me despite of the fact that nowadays, I accept myself as a visual impaired person. How is it possible? I think it is beginning to affect my love life...
Good morning! I sincerely appreciate you reaching out with your feelings and exposing your vulnerability. It is easy to bottle up your feelings and not share them with people around you, I have done the same thing. However, I want you to know that we are here as your friend and you can reach out to us at anytime for any reason if you would like to talk. That is why this community exists, for these types of situations. We would love to connect with you and help in anyway that we can, that is why we are here! You seem like such an amazing person, and we are very happy and lucky to know you!Hopefully over the coming weeks and months you can talk with us more regularly and start sharing how you were feeling, hopefully that will alleviate some of the potential stressors that you are experiencing and allow you to feel like you are back on track in your personal life. Thanks again, we sincerely appreciate having you here! And as always, feel free to reach out at any time :-) see you again tomorrow in the next video, until then, have an amazing day! Matt
@@BlindtoBillionaire You really rock! I couldn't ever imagine that someone so far away from me could understand what I'm going through. To be honest, I also have a group on WhatsApp just like your community works! They are all blind or visually impaired and the majority are from my city. They don't speak English and the purpose of the group is being suportive for each other! By the way, talking to someone about your problems helps shoulder the burden, isn't it?
This group is called "overcoming troop" because we are always overcoming our limites and proving there's nothing we can't do.
The pleasure is mine having the opportunity to join this amazing channel and befriend people who's going through the same situation than I do, and what's crazy, in another language! It's really magic! The efforts really pay off in the end!
Hugs from Brazil! Have a nice week as well!
Hi my friend! Thank you very much, but no, honestly, you’re the one for the rocks! Thank you very much for sharing your community with me, that’s so amazing! I love that you have that community where you can connect with other people in your community who are also blind or visually impaired as a support network in your native language, that’s amazing! I probably do not understand fully what you were going through, but I probably have a pretty good idea as someone who else is visually impaired. I always try to offer as much support and friendship as I possibly can to anyone and everyone here on this channel, you included of course! I just know that blind and visually impaired people are amazing and have a lot to offer the world and our local communities, the problem is, most of us get discouraged and don’t even try because of all the negative feedback we get from other people and the lack of encouragement and support, so that’s why I started this TH-cam channel to connect with all of you and to give any and all support and encouragement that I can through my videos and through connecting with people. It has been an amazing experience and I’m so happy to be in the position here on TH-cam or I can connect with so many great people every day! Thank you again for being part of it, we are truly grateful to have you! And we also love the fact that you were from Brazil! That is very exciting :-) thank you once again, have an amazing day, and I hope to see you again tomorrow in my Wednesday video! Huge hugs from the united state! Matt
That's it! The fact is that we all learned to roll with the punches and there's nothing in this world that will stop us! I always keep in mind that, challeges are what makes life interesting; and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful! Best wishes! @@BlindtoBillionaire
Hi honatan, how are you today? Blindness is universal and what I mean is, it doesn't matter who you are or where you live. At one time or another every blind person goes through the same thoughts, the same feelings, the same emotions, we get scared, afraid, angry, bitter, etc. and that's ok. Every blind person shares this bond with other blind individuals and geography or culture doesn't have anything to do with relating to one another.
In the past I also kept things bottled up and then I learned something about human nature. Everybody, and I mean everybody, has 2 things in common honatan. The number 1 need we all have is acceptance and the number one fear we all have is rejection. Then I learned that I was bottling up my feelings because I was afraid the people around me wouldn't accept who I was and how I felt and would ultimately reject me and that thinking kept me stuck in my life honatan! Fear was slowly creeping in and paralyzing me!
I finally came to the realization that the people who truly love and care about me will accept me and the ones who don't, I don't need their negativity in my life! I also discovered that I need to be my own best friend and truly accept myself. Sure blindness sucks but I look at physical sight as a tool in my tool box. Maybe I don't have the full capability of that tool and because of that maybe I have to do things a little differently but that tool doesn't define who I am. The people that don't know me and my situation, they don't define me. I define myself honatan and I want you to get to that same place in your life because you deserve it!
And i'm on SSI people condemned me for that