Dad Shares Heart-Wrenching Story of Losing a Child (**Sensitive content warning**)
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- *WARNING* This video contains sensitive descriptions of child loss and might be uncomfortable for some viewers.** In this interview, I discuss a father's perspective on grief, losing a child, and tips for others experiencing loss. →For my perspective, watch this video: • What is my life like 8...
David, my ex-husband and my children's father, opens up and we both get emotional as we discuss the details surrounding our 10 year-old daughter's death and how he is dealing with the trauma of unexpected grief and child loss.
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I lost my 23 years old son in car accident in 2022. I think the pain will stay with me for rest of my life.
I hope everything to get better, I think that the pain can disappear, but I'm sure that if you don't give up and if you follow the things that the persons that made this beautiful videos does, you can make the things to get better little by little, I send you love❤
And the same for anyone else in Thai horrible situation ❤
So sorrey for your loss i do agree with you my aunty loss her son he was 25 and the day he die she died with him apart of her died to her only child .She is loss and she will alwats be but we do talk about him all the time
Libby was my friend and when they told us at school everyone started crying so hard
Oh, Katie. 💔 Libby talked about you all the time. I think about you and your classmates often. I hope you guys still talk about her and keep her silly, sweet, caring memories alive. ❤️❤️❤️ Sending the biggest hugs.
We lost our 22 year old son last year from a brain bleed. I save people for a living and this is torture. He was the best, I was so lucky to have him for as long as we did. His brothers are just lost, we all are. So sorry for your loss as well.
Hugs.you have my deepest sympathy.
Sending love your way. It's the most difficult road to walk. ❤️
Our deepest condolences to you and your family, we lost our youngest daughter, 21, 9 years ago.
@@brookecarlock Thank you so very much,Brooke!
@@carolyn6001 Thank you so much for that! God bless you all. Its horrible! We miss him so much!
To lose a child must be the worse kind of pain. I lost my niece and her children in a tragedy 4 yrs after her husband had passed from cancer. They were so young. So beautiful. Prior to this I'd lost my sister to pancreatic ❤cancer and a yr later my brother died of complications from Parkinsons. If it weren't for the Lord in my life I'd have given up. He is my strength. May the parents of the children who have passed on find peace and love. ❤
He is my strength too. I lost my beautiful disabled daughter from rape and murder during covid lockdown in Sept 2021, soon after one of my best friends died. I look to Jesus and ask Him to use me and my shared testimony for His glory. She has an amazing legacy that speaks of God's hand throughout her life. My faith and trust remains, despite my broken heart
I am so so sorry for all your loss fhat is a lot to deal with i no i lost so many in a short time and it would go one by one like it was nothing , i thought Jesus was coming because they all went fast acceot one with Cancer he sufferd 6 months but two years before that he was suffering .
It heart breaking .
Sending you so much love and strenght your wait .
@@suharrap6868i am so sorry for your loss my wow that painful and heart breaking sending you love strenght prayers your wait .i hope your daugbter got justice and you all to and to all your lost i hope they do cone in your dreams ❤❤
I have lost a wonderful daughter to cancer....and my eldest son died in 2020.....to lose 2 of my adult children has been devastating. I remember the good times but they're gone gone gone!!! I'm so sad and I feel for you both......
I am so very sorry for the loss of your children. It's understandable and totally normal for you to be sad. Sending you love. ❤️
I'm so very sorry for your loss.. ❤
I'm so sorry ❤ it's understandable and what you feel it's normal but please, keep going and never give up, I'm sure that that is what your childs would want❤
And the same for everyone in Thai horrible situation ❤
I am so so sorry for the loss of your 2 children. Just reading this hurt my heart for you. I hope you have lots of love and support around you always. God bless
I lost my 18 year old son in a car accident , his freshman year in college . Just December 1, 2023. Feels like yesterday. Not sure how I’m going to make it through the pain and missing him every minute of every day. It’s unbearable. Thank you for sharing your experience ….
You are so welcome, and I'm so sorry about your son. 💔
❤ prayers ❤
Your loss is still so “new”…. I hope you’re doing “ok” today.
Im so sorry for your loss ..I can't imagine ..I hope you are doing better and not in pain everyday ..praying for everyone on here!!❤❤❤
My sister lost her 11 year old daughter along with our mother when the driver of the other vehicle fell asleep. He walked away with two broken ribs,we walked away with two broken hearts. We all went through the “what ifs” too. If mom had been delayed even five minutes….if she were just not going out that day. I was so so so so angry. I was so angry and bitter that I got physically sick. I had no voice. I lost my voice. I was supposed to read a poem at the funeral, but I couldn’t even speak a word.
Ugh, my heart breaks for your family. You will be in my thoughts. ❤️
I'm sorry ❤
I'm so sorry ❤ I hope anything to get better, you never forget that situations because you can't change the past,but at least you can build a better future ❤
God bless both of you and your family. I lost my 25 year old daughter 17 years ago to an asthma attack. It feels like yesterday. Both of you are still in shock and numb. Grief is not a process, it does not end. It is now your life’s journey. Talk to her everyday. Say her name everyday.
I'm sorry about your sweet daughter... I definitely talk about mine every day. One step at a time. ❤️
I'm so sorry ❤ I hope anything to get better and please, heard the comments like "don't give up" or "keep going" but not heard the comments that says something like you shouldn't still feeling that way or that you should move on, you should continue, but should not just move on and forget anything, all fo this feelings are completely normal, you should just take your time, put a lot of effort, maybe see this kind videos and try to get help of professionals and not give up ❤I send you all my love and best wishes ❤
Thanks David .... lost my only Son to a car accident he was 28 yrs old almost ten yrs ago ..... I appreciated watching & listening to you both .... thanks appreciated in a grieving way.
Thank YOU for watching, and we are so, so, sorry that you can relate. ❤️
I lost my daughter 4 months ago.She died because she drank herself to death. I feel like poeple feel like it was her fault. It is a pain so deep .I'm trying to run from it but it pops up often.I'm so sorry for your loss.
That is such a difficult situation, and I'm so sorry you're experiencing that added stress on top of the hell that is losing a child. Sending you so much love. ❤️
My mother drank herself to death after my dad shooting himself when i was one. I am sorry for your loss😢
@@cathy2142 Thank you.
Alcohol starts off as a crutch but the body becomes dependent please don’t judge her harshly
I lost my youngest son at seven years.old. it's been years but the pain is always there
My heart breaks for you and for anyone who has to go through this pain. It doesn't matter how long ago it was -- I know it will stay with us. We just have to try to keep going. Hugs to you.
36:47 I lost my only daughter on april 10 2024. She was 9 yrs old😢. I can't describe 😭 my pain. As a singje mum i feel soo empty and shattered
Oh, Mama... It's so impossibly hard. Sending you so much love.
I am so sorry mama i can imagine your pain like it will never go away and how you going to continu with out them i loss so many in a few short years some was young and older just heart breaking your story 9 years young life cut to short i pray she come in yoir dreams a lot me they do and it helps .untle i am with them forever again.i cry sometime in the am or night it helps therapy did to.
I no its not my child it was other people children the older one i was close to so it hell on earth sonetime .she always be with you never forget that .She is arrownd even you dont see her .i do believe in Jesus he died on that cross for us even i was not their to see.
So that keeps me going if it was my kids i would have to continu fight hard untle i am back with them but i ratter die with them that what j ask God .i dont no how to live with out them its my biggest fear but i will have no choice tp grief and live each day one day at a time .i am so sorry for you breaks my heart its kids i always ask God why their to good to be here
Since my little girl passed away I sure no who are my friends and some family don’t ever talk about her my daughter Breda Louise forever . She had turned 19 years old just before her death. I still can’t believe she is gone;
I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Losing a child can definitely change relationships. ❤️
I'm so sorry ❤I hope anything to get better ❤ please, don't give up
I found my 3 month old son dead in the crib and lost my mind. Instinctively I called my partner but apparently all he said he heard was primal-like screaming over the phone. He can't recall rushing home from work. He drove screaming and shouting. I'm surprised he didn't end up in a car accident on his way back based on the state of the car. When he got back to the our home we rushed my son to the hospital but in my heart, I knew our son was dead on arrival. My heart sank the minute I found him. Life is a nightmare. I am totally lost. Tomorrow I will be checked in at a medical center to gain some help from professionals. 3 months in and I just cannot process this new reality. We are broken. I failed my living daughter and deceased son. I am deeply sorry for your tragic loss. It's gut-wrenching. Your daughter is such a precious soul.
Hi Theresa, I hope you met with supportive professionals today. Please don’t blame yourself, you have not let your daughter down or your precious baby boy. As loving parents we do the best we can each day in our human capacity. I lost my much loved son, age 23, almost 5 months ago in a work accident. We give ourselves a hard time as parents but need to try and be kind to ourselves in this cruelest of journeys as bereaved parents. Take care ❤️ 💔 xx
Thank you Brooke for sharing some of your journey with us. I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Libby and all our precious children we love and miss beyond words ❤️ 💔 xx
@@mumoftwoteens Thank you so much for your kind words and responses, and I'm sorry for the loss of your son. Beyond words is a great way to describe how it feels. ❤
@@brookecarlock Thank you. I just read your blog on losing a child when divorced. My ex left when my youngest was a baby and he didn’t maintain contact so there’s no communication there. Similar to you, I’m in the early stages where my heart knows the loss but my mind is still in shock/disbelief/protection mode. I appreciate your posts, and Libby’s Dad sharing will help the males out there too ❤ xx
Oh Theresa, I’m just so sorry. I’m proud of you for taking care of yourself. Peace be with you.
Thanks for the warning. Maybe I will come back and watch this another time. My 29 year old son's funeral is tomorrow. I do not see myself EVER getting past this hurt for the rest of my life.
Oh, dear friend, I hope the funeral went well. 💔 I am sending you SO much love. Right now you're just holding on for dear life. It will never go away, but it will get easier as you learn to live with it. Let me know if there are any topics or videos that would be helpful to you . ❤️
@@brookecarlock "How to breathe" NO, seriously, I don't know how to breathe today. The funeral was beautiful, just as I wanted. But what I WANT has been stripped from me. Thanksgiving is this week. The texts stopped as soon as the service was done. People will gather with their loved ones as they should, but my loss is unimaginable. People are lovingly telling me that "it will get better", "you are strong", "you need to find a purpose ", "go get another cat " to replace the one I lost at the same time, and the other one 3 weeks ago. People want me to be "ok" and when I tell them I am not, they say "I'm sorry", but still want me to do positive things. I can't even BREATHE. I don't WANT to breathe anymore. I want to be in heaven where hopefully my son is. I have nothing to look forward to in this life.
So sad dear one. I pray God will wipe away your tears and soothe your broken heart. 🦋❤️🇦🇺
How are you doing😢
@@ShinebrightToday Well yesterday marked the 3 months. I can "breathe " now. I don't cry ALL day anymore, but I cry sometime every day. I adopted my son's two cats and they are doing well and they help give me a reason to get up in the morning, because some days, all I want to do is sleep. Thank you for asking. Grief is definitely a journey and not a quick one. I miss him so very much.
I lost my precious 4 year old son 2 months ago.. i hate April 15.. i feel like i hate the world sometimes.. i miss him so so much!! I miss hearing his voice& holding his little hand.. the pain that comes after loosing a child is UNREAL...it can EASILY make you go crazy! Seriously crazy! I want to look at pictures and videos but everytime ive done that i get really low& in a weird state where im questioning if life is even real..i have to be careful how often i look at pictures because it is too hurtful.
I am so, so sorry that you are going through this hell as well. Sending you so much love and strength. ❤️
I lost my only son at 34 years old. December 30,2020. I know the pain you are in. It's a deep pain I have never experienced before.
It's the worst pain, Sunny Day. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending love. ❤️
God bless you
I am so sad for you both. I feel my loss through your words and emotions. My 27yr old daughter was shot in the back of her head in her bed with her own gun. The police said suicide. My guilt can eat me up at times. 5 years later I can not look at her picture or watch her videos. I'm so very sorry for your loss
Oh, Donna. I'm so sorry to hear this. The videos and pictures are so difficult -- I have to mentally prepare myself for seeing anything, and if I see things pop up and I wasn't expecting them, it's the worst! Sending hugs. ❤️
I couldn't imagine. This is one of the primary reasons I don't have children. People have issue with me not having children but when I try to explain I can't deal with the grief if something happened to them, they don't get it. I don't know how I would be able to function with this. You all are so brave. I'm reading through the comments and all I could think of is that you all are such brave people. You all loved that child so much and STILL do. Your children are blessed to have you as parents. Don't feel guilt or anger towards yourself. It's not your fault. David - you're not superhuman. It's normal to feel like a protector at all times but it just isn't possible at all times. I pray you all continue to have strength and find comfort during this time.
Thank you so much. I'll pass your message along to David-- I tell him the same thing all the time! We're not especially brave, I don't think. We just weren't given a choice. And we want to help other people who are in the same situation know that they aren't alone. ❤️
You shouldn’t have have children because you might loose them. You should have children because you would love them. Not all children die.
@@carolinasones1541I completely agree, I think that this logic it's very bad, because with that logic, you just would not let anyone to enter in your life because they should die, if you don't want to have children it's alright, but I think that this reason isn't alright, not all the children dies, and as I just said, with that logic you should just not talk or relate with anyone again...
Wish they wouldn't have divorced.... so sad about poor girl passed.. please know Heaven is her forever home....please don't lose your faith.... drunk drivers are bad
I'm going to share your channel with a friend. She lost daughter about 3 years ago. Then about a year ago, she lost her son. 6 months later, she lost her husband. I'm still having a hard time wrapping my head around how she even gets up in the morning.
Thank you for sharing... I hope your friend finds my videos helpful. She sounds like a kindred spirit with all of those losses to bear. Send her my love. ❤️
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Today was the funeral my husband's great nephew. A19 yo who was shot at a party last Saturday night. He was the grandson of my husband's brother. Just random shooting up the place. No real motive known. Another young man was also killed. To make things even more tragic my brother in law lost his 17 yo only son to a shooting in the 90s. This was at a gas station over a girl. This is just a working family. No criminal enterprises.I hope we can support him. He visits us often. I am so very sorry for all of you. I think of grief sticking to us and affecting every part of us and our lives. Much love as you go forward.
Oh my goodness, I am sending so much love and strength to your family. ❤️❤️❤️
I,ve lost two boys. I understand your pain
I'm so sorry. Sending love. 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss. I too lost my only living son on February 28th 2022. I'm still going through waves of emotions. It hurts so much. My heart is with you.
My heart is with you. Something no one should have to suffer through. Sending hugs!
I am so sorry for your loss.
This was so great! I lost my baby girl at 2 months old. My marriage did not survive 😢. Grief is its own monster that affects each person differently. One of the hardest for me was comments that well meaning people said that ended up being hurtful for whatever reason. She was my first so comments like ‘you’re young, you’ll have other children’ hurt like heck. It’s been 44 years and 3 children later but the pain can still overwhelm me at times. God bless you both and may he give you comfort as you go through this season of life. ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss as well... ❤️❤️❤️
We (my family) lost my niece when she was 19 months old while on a family vacation to our parents retirement home. Flew in at night around 10pm..went swimming before bed...swam when the woke up.. went to put the car seat in the other car to go buy groceries and to get her to take a nap... in 30 seconds of my mom and sister putting in the car seat she went missing...30 seconds! They ran around the house...yelling.. looked in the pool and she was almost touching the bottom. They tried cpr.. the hospital tried for 4 hours..and they had to call it. My sister called me while my mom was doing cpr. I was her daycare provider she was my side kick.. my family and my brother flew down on the 1st flight available but we were to late. I miss her more than anything..I now care for her baby sister..we will never not talk about Cassidy and tell everyone and her sister all about her♡
Oh, my goodness I am so, so sorry. That sounds so traumatic for everyone involved. I am sending you so much love. Keep talking about beautiful Cassidy. ❤️
Oh my God I'm so sorry 😭😭😭
The loss will always feel like "yesterday" .
My beautiful 1 year old daughter died in an accident when I was 18 years old and I am now 71. And, And I was driving.
I look forward to seeing her again fairly soon.🙏
Losing a child takes you to depths of pain you would not no existed otherwise.
I agree with all you say. Thank you.
Yes it does. I'm so very sorry for your loss. ❤️
So sorry for your loss my son passed in january I know in my heart he's gone but in my head I look for him to walk in the door
So do I -- all the time. I'm so sorry that you're going through this as well. Sending hugs. ❤️
I lost my only child, my son who was 30,in January of this year too. I am so very sorry for your loss and for the pain you are experiencing. I understand what you mean about thinking your son will walk through the door. I feel that same feelings. My head cannot accept his death, but the empty hole in my heart is forever there.
I lost my son 25 years old 5 months ago due to a car accident also. It’s awful 😢no words to say to you, so sorry.
I'm so sorry for your loss, as well. Losing a child so quickly and unexpectedly is insanely difficult. My heart goes out to you. ❤️
Same. Mine had just turned 22. He was just a doll. It’s such a huge loss. I cope better but we still will never be the same
@@dittohead7044 So sorry. It's awful, Sending love.
It takes a Man to cry!!! And thank you for mentioning how photos of beautiful memories can and actually do hurt.... I am so sorry for your loss and pray healing won't be too far away. You will always feel the pain but living with it becomes a bit easier with time.... but don't pressurize yourselves by thinking "it's time". We all grieve differently and in our own way.... God bless you for sharing your story...
Thank you so, so much Gwen! I've gotten much better at not pressuring myself to be "fine." Thanks for commenting! ❤️
I remained in a state of shock for about 4 years.
It really is like you're living in an alternate universe. ❤️
Nobody prepares you for the loss of your child. It is something that you cannot explain, the deep grief and heart pain and blackness that overwhelms you for years. We lost our only son nearly 30 years ago, but the missing is still there and the longing to see, hold, and hear them. Thank you for your bravery in recalling such awful circumstances of your child's death. So very sorry for your loss.
Thank you, and I'm so sorry to you as well. 💔
I undestand how you both feel , I lost my Daughter Maddie in 2020..It is a pain that can never be contemplated by folks who have not suffered the lost. I wish you strength and much love!
Sending love and strength back to you. ❤️
God Bless You ALL!!!! When my grief from losing loved ones wells up in my chest I like watching “Near Death Experiences” on TH-cam which seems to bring me some Peace. A recurring theme throughout the majority of their stories is the calmness, peace, and happiness that the person who has passed feels. Also, the person that has passed usually does not want to return to earth. In addition, they also have some sense that they will see their loved ones really soon. Often, they see loved ones on the other side… sometimes a Grandparent who they never even met during their lives on this earth. This is what helps me!
I do the same. I watch testimonies of heaven and reading books about it. It gives so much comfort ❤
PLEASE, please, please tell me how you do it??? I am just over a year without my son and I cannot even begin to laugh, be happy, find joy anywhere. I feel like I am walking around with a heavy wet blanket around me. The absence of his presence is enough to make me want to die more often than not. Every corner I turn, there is a trigger. Memories sneak up on me and shatter my heart all over again. I am desperately trying to get to the place where photos, memories, events and places make me smile rather than cry. I pray and pray some more, I read everything I can but there is no magical answer. The magnitude of this loss is too overwhelming for me at this point. I feel like I miss him more every day. The thought of all of the ‘never agains’ with him takes my breath away. I dont know how I am going to survive this. At 8 months, I was just coming out of my fog. I dont remember much of last fall/winter. Christmas coming is too unbearable to think about. I am drowning😭
You are welcome to join our virtual grief group for child loss... Otherwise maybe seek counseling or coaching. Grief is insanely difficult-- I went to a hospital myself and meds helped a lot. Sending you so many hugs. ❤️
GOD bless you honey...this is the loneliest hardest walk i hope you ever have to face. It has taken me 3 years to begin being able to speak to people again. It is so painful but trust me when I tell you that this deep despair and sorrow will ease up...Peace and GOD'S love be with everyone who has lost a child.
I just read your post... I hope you are feeling better.
Oh my heart is broken for you. Please know I'm praying for a peaceful and healing heart for you. The days do become more manageable. I promise.
It’s going to be hard especially the first holidays but I always make the best of them cause my daughter just loved Christmas so I still put up her Christmas tree in her bedroom with her lights and I do feel like she’s here with us,
That's such a wonderful way to look at things. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
So much pain! She was gorgeous! The mum is so sweet !😥😥😥
Thank you so much. 💔
Thank you both for y’all’s ability to be vulnerable and allow some of us who have newly entered this unimaginable space of brokenness. Our son passed at 19 on 5-12-24. David, you nailed the way I’ve felt in multiple different ways during this. I feel like literally part of my soul died with our son. I’m usually out going, funny, entertaining. Now i don’t hardly laugh or joke. I’ve noticed I’m isolating myself because i can’t keep my thoughts together enough to hold a long conversation. I’ve cried every day for the past three weeks. I never knew i could love anyone this much. I woke up yesterday crying because i just wanted to hug him so tight. I’ve heard a couple really good sayings.
grief is a reflection of a connection that has been lost.
Two empty vessels can’t fill each other.
I’m searching for an online grief group since i work a 13hr shift it’s hard to find an in person one. I looked through this video but couldn’t find the one you mentioned. Lord bless
Ray
Ray, I will be sure to share this with David. I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. I know the pain all too well. This video was from a while ago, so the grief group is no longer running. On the resources page of my website, if you scroll to the bottom there are links to several online groups: brookecarlock.org/resources. I hope you find one that works for you. 💔❤️
@@brookecarlock thank you for your reply and resources. Forgive me for not mentioning my apologies for y’all’s loss as well.
God bless you both for sharing your grief. We lost our son.
I'm so very sorry about the loss of your son. Sending you love. ❤️
We just lost our 20 year old son Eli in a car accident 8/11/24. I appreciate your story and you sharing with others. I'm struggling and this was helpful. Thank you both.
Sending you so much strength and love. I'm so sorry. 💔
So sorry, I really can't imagine the sorrow and pain.
Thank you. We're surviving, but miss her every second.
I have not lost a child. But neither do I think I couldnt.
I've noticed most of the viewers and commenters here are also parents who've lost a child.. So many people are terrified of witnessing grief this deep. I can see how grieving parents could feel like lepers at times. This needs to change.
I dont know the pain of losing a child but I'm here to witness and learn.
We lost our 18 year old Daughter in 1997 and lost our 33 year old Daughter in 2010 both in terrible vehicle accidents.
It's now November 14th 2022 and we always feel our Daughters will be coming over to our Ranch, or a phone call we know it won't happen and it's SO HARD DAILY WE 😢 CRY, we have 8 kids, 2 living with Jesus in Heaven.....God be with you in this journey called Grief, thank you for sharing.....
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I'm so, so, sorry for the losses of your two beautiful girls. Sending so much love. ❤️
How can you believe in a God after losing 2 daughters???
So heartbreaking but what important voices in the realm of grieving. So much care and compassion to you both in these heartbreaking seasons of loss.
All the tears over here for your loss.
Such beautifully deep insights and so genuine.
Thank you so, so, much for your kind words. ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss! You are so brave telling your story! Thank you for sharing! Love & prayers to you both! 🤗🙏
So sorry for your loss it must be so.hard God bless you both 💕
Thank you. We miss her every second.
You video just came up on my feed, I don't know why, I've never watched other videos on grief or child loss. Unfortunately I never had children, so can't begin to imagine what you're going through. I have lost grandparents, parents and a brother. I love to talk about them with others, sharing stories and getting reminders of all the good times they had. A friend just lost her mum, I messaged her immediately to say if she wanted to talk, cry, laugh or scream I would always listen. I believe that's all we can do for others going through the grief process. Being available when needed, but never pushing our opinions or expecting their grief to be the same. There is no time limit, I only hope you, and others around you, recognise and believe that. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Xx
Thank you so much. I'm sorry for your losses, as well. Listening is one of the best things that someone can do for another. ❤️
I think one of the worst things with that no one wanted to talk about Luke or the period during which she died. I’m glad you touched up on that. Now I ask people if they have a story they would like to share with me. A story about Luke. Boy, life throws you some hard turns, thank God for the goodness of people like you.
God bless you precious people in your courage to talk about your precious children❤️😪
Thank you so much.
I’ve done a lot of grief work in order to deal with my own. In my opinion you two are expecting way too much of yourselves this early. Unfortunately it can take a long, long time. Remember that your grief is a tribute to your sweet daughter and even though it is painful beyond words, you are honoring Libby. Try to embrace it.
I definitely agree, Debra-- I have to tell myself to slow down almost daily. I tend to go, and go, and go, and then crash. I remind myself all the time that grief is not a race and I can't "work" my way out of it. We try to honor Libby in everything we do. ❤️. Thank you for sharing.
My dad passed away when I was 5 (33 years ago) and I feel like I am going through some kind of grieving process… I also lost my grandmother (his mother) 2 years ago and she always felt like my link to him. It’s been hard. Lots of thinking about what my life would have been like if he hadn’t been killed that day.
The "What if's" are SO hard. Sending hugs.
With grief there is never closure!
Nope!
Bless your sweet family. My heart breaks for you. I lost my son January 2006 and I still wake up wanting to talk to him or ask him a question. Like you guys, I love to hear stories about Billy and love to tell "Billy stories". I make people uncomfortable when I bring him up. I don't want people to forget him.
It is great that you too can grieve together and talk. My experience was the exact opposite.
I pray that Max is getting help because I know this weighs heavily on him.
When you talked about crying in public, it reminded me of 2 weeks after Billy died. I was eating alone at a buffet. A pregnant woman beside me started choking and I went into a full blown panic attack . Then I yelled a sweet Kady that came over to check on me.. after a few minutes I did apologize and explain my reaction. My son had been paralyzed from the chest down 7 years prior. He died from choking on chewing tobacco. He fell asleep with it in his mouth. I can't tell you how many times I got on him for doing that. He always called me paranoid. One of my first thoughts was "Billy! I told you not to do that!"
Birthdays and holidays are when it hits me hard. Most of the time I can talk without a problem but get teary other times. You never stop thinking of them.
I'm wrapping my arms around your whole family. Love and hugs.
Sherry, your comments make me want to cry AND smile. Thank you for sharing, and I'm sorry about Billy. Your reaction to the choking is totally understandable!!! And yes, stories about our kids are the best, even after they're gone. ❤️
My heart goes out to you! I've been there as my youngest son died 16 years ago in December and in many ways it is as if it were yesterday but time moves forward with or without you and life happens. It left us a broken family and we have not recovered. I know lead a life without room for emotion in it. It is the only way that I cope from day to day. If I can't 'feel' things don't hurt. You are both incredibly brave discussing your grirf so openly . Much love to your family xx
Thank you for kind words, and I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your son. ❤️
I'm so sorry that your daughter passed away in such tragic cicumstances......I can't even begin to imagine what you are both going through. Thank you for sharing and if your experience can help someone going through the same thing, then it will be worth it😊
The one thing that perturbed me was at the end of the video when the mother said to the camera "if you've lost a child, then join us...." in a way that someone was inviting people to join some sort of happy club!! I know that grief takes different forms but......??
It's definitely not a happy club, but some people do find strength in support from others who have gone through the same thing. ❤️
Your daughter and your family will be remembered in my prayers💖
Thank you. ❤️
Thank you for your truth snd honesty David. I felt the depths of your pain. I hope i can support my bro and dad through our grief of losing my mom...❤
I will send your message to David, and I'm so, so very sorry about the loss of your mom. Sending you so much love. ❤️
You two obviously love each other...hugs
I know how the both of you feel. Lean on one another like you are. I lost my son 4yrs ago. To suicde. God got through the big part of it. I just have had to deal with the loss to this point. You never get over the lost. Atleast i haven't. 19:39
I’m so sorry, you two, for all your families loss ❤ My baby is 10 and I cannot imagine the enormity of your loss…. I applaud your strength in this video, and your sticking together….. I send love.
I appreciate it. Hug your baby tight for me! ❤️
Thank you for sharing... we need more parents who have lost a child to speak up because no one knows what losing a child is like unless its is YOUR child and they are gone. 😢 My deepest sympathies are with you and your family.
Thank you so much for your kind words. ❤️
I know this was very painful for you. And I can only imagine what it feels like but thankfully and hopefully I didn't have to and never will. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this with your viewers, it is highly appreciated. What brings me hope and comfort is seeing that you continue to be a true family, looking out for each other, and approaching each other with love and respect, instead of blaming, shaming and destroying.
I, too, hope you never have to experience something so awful. ❤️
Well done you two, cliches one foot in front of the other, being together in positive ways, planting food together, hands in dirt, building something together, a shed, an arbor in the garden....laughing and crying together, remembering with your sons... and anything goes❤💯❣
Thank you Moana!
Love what Davids advice is "do what works for you". Everyone griefs differently. I need a grave site and like to look after it while talking to my deceased loved one's. It might sound crazy for others, but it works for me. I feel comforted to talk to them.
I totally understand! My sister is the only person I've lost who has an actual grave site, and I do go there occasionally to "talk" to her and give her updates. ❤️
You both are so kind and respectful and empathetic towards each other ❤️
Lots of time and practice, haha.
Thank you both for sharing your story. Libby sounds amazing! But I want to congratulate you both for being there for one another so you can be present for your boys in such courageous and loving ways. The risk of losing your parents in their grief when a sibling dies is real. You are creating a healing path for parents living with their grief. Keep up the great work and sharing your Libby love. Best. Carole
Thank you so much, Carole! ❤️
My deepest condolences to the whole family. I too am a bereaved parent. We lost our youngest daughter at age 21, 9 years ago this coming December. She was diagnosed with the severe rheumatoid arthritis. They gave steroids that I’m sure didn’t help. A week before Christmas, my oldest daughter went to turn off her alarm clock, and then she shouted that her sister was not responding. She had passed away overnight. We go to The Compassionate Friends, with chapters worldwide. She passed away 10 months after my mom, same year. We had a portrait made her smiling when she got engaged. That smile is there as walk down the stairs. I have a tattoo of her inside my lower arm with her as a mermaid, she loved the Ocean and it’s creatures. She was cremated and hope to throw them in the Ocean when we move. She was getting ready to transfer to UNC-Charlotte to complete her degree in Meteorology with a minor in Broadcasting. Hugs to all
I am so, so, sorry Elizabeth. I can feel the love for your daughter coming through your comments. Sending so much love. ❤️
I am so glad I found you Brooke, I have share your video with my parents grieving group. I will continue to follow you. Thank you!
Aww, thank you so much. I appreciate you sharing and following. ❤️
I saw Your thumbnail and didn't bring myself to watch the video.I lost my son about 20 years ago to cancer.We are altered forever.Please believe that time makes it more bearable. Best Regards, Cynthia
That's totally fine-- that's why I put the sensitive content warning! I'm so sorry that you lost your son and thank you for the reminder to have hope that despite being altered, things will get easier to bear. ❤️
My prayers are with you both. I am so sorry.
Thank you so much.
Thats awful, my condolences to you all, I hope you're son is doing okay. RIP Libby 🩷🌈🙏🏻💐
I cry and I’m very open with all my emotions. No shame. Don’t hold it in
That's awesome. Such a great way to be. ❤️
Thank you for sharing you’re beautiful Libby with us. I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost a son in 2003, Timothy was stillborn at 20 weeks. People can say the wrong things unintentionally so helping them to know it’s ok to talk about our children and not just saying it will get better or time heals, helps people I think. Sharing our experiences, what helps what doesn’t is very beneficial as well. I’m sorry to meet you under these circumstances but grateful for you both. Libby is going to continue to touch so many lives. ❤
Thank you so very much for your kind words, Melissa! ❤️
I'm so sorry, I'm glad that you keep going after that, you're such an strong and brave person, ❤️ all that feelings are completely okay
Ive been saying the same thing for 3 years why. Im so sorry you lost your Libby. Joshua forever 31
I'm sorry about your Joshua. Sending love. ❤️
God I couldn’t imagine. I lost my dog of 18 years. My heart goes out to this man ❤
I will let him know. Thank you. ❤️
A dog? Ya ok
I am so sorry.
Thank you, Tracy.
My heart grieves for you. It's so hard. Thankfully I didn't experience this kind of loss and I hope and pray I never have to but I have a 9-year-old and I could never imagine life without him. Both of my grandparents passed away a few years apart which caused Family estrangement. the loss of my grandparents who were my rock and not having one side of my family that I was closest to is what I have to grieve. I feel so alone at times and I know I need to create a new life and start a new one for my son. It's so hard! Everyone has grief differently and the pain and loss and void are the worst. It's hard because you want to fill it but its not always the healthiest because you use the wrong things to fill it with. I feel like I lost the ones I use to lean on and cry on in hard times because I wasnt close to my mom (their daughter). I cant do that with my dads family. I wish I knew how to grieve it and feel better and less sad and alone in hard times.
I'm so sorry, Jennifer. It is definitely hard, and each family has their own grief going on. Hug your son tight! Sending hugs. ❤️
So sad your divorce, because you need each other. God bless your family. She is in heaven ❤
So incredibly sorry. I truly know your deep sorrow. This was hard to watch and listen to as it brought back so many of these same feelings, I had that night my son drowned. Watching my husband scream and work so hard to revive him is an image that will never leave my mind. So sorry to you and Libby's father. She is a beautiful girl. Hugs from NC. We travel this journey together.
Ugh, my heart breaks reading this. I'm so, so sorry-- for both you and your husband. Sending hugs back to you. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thank you. ❤️
I lost my daughter on te 24/4/16; she was my little girl and died from sepsis due to infection, se was my only daughter and I’ve one son who is older than her, still heartbroken 💔
I'm so sorry. Of course you're heartbroken! Sending so much love. ❤️
bless you all
Thank you!
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On the 21st October 2023 my son was involved in a car accident on his way from school,he passed away the following day,this is so painful he was only 15 years old with dreams of becoming a pilot
I am so, so, very sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. I wish we were never in this club of child loss, and I am sending you so much love. Please hang in there and let me know if there are any particular topics that you'd find helpful. ❤️
Thx for sharing ❤
My deepest condolences for your loss💖
Thank you so much.
This made me bawl like a baby. Libby was lucky to be so loved. How is Max?
Thank you, Heather. We did love her so, so, very much. Still do! Max is good. It's a lot for anyone to bear, but he's doing it as well as he can. Physically he's now fine except for some scars. ❤
my ex and my daughters father died in 2020 and i still have moments that i can’t believe he’s gone. the pain doesn’t go away. my daughter is still feeling guilt and anger also 💔
I'm sorry for your loss -- even if you weren't together, that bond is usually still there, as you can see with us! 💔
@@brookecarlock 🙏
Oh I’m so sorry. I lost my mom . Mom And I we’re inseparable. I miss her. I am so sorry heart breaks.
I lost my 24 year old daughter one month ago due to complications of Lupus. She had a flare up the cause multiple organ failure. She was my youngest child. I have cried every day since she passed away. I really don’t think that I’m going to make it through. I truly think that I died the same day that she died and I’m just waiting for God to pull me from this earth.
I'm so, so very sorry. I remember feeling exactly the same way. The first months are literally just about survival. One second at a time. Focus on eating what you can, moving your body as much as you can, breathing deeply, trying to sleep (if possible), and seeking professional help if you need it. Sending you so much love and so many hugs. 💔
I hope I NEVER have to deal with such an intense loss...hoping that someday you can think about Libby with a smile...not the profound grief and guilt I KNOW you are experiencing...
Thank you, Suzanne. I hope you never have to deal with anything like it, either! ❤
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your living children are doing as well as they can be given the circumstances with the loss of their sister. I will be keeping your family in my thoughts.
Thank you so much, Anna. They are doing ok. My oldest (who was driving) is actually doing well thanks to work with a trauma therapist. My 17 year-old doesn't like to share his emotions, so it's been more of a rough road with him.
i am very sorry for you and your family and i thank god i am not walking in yours shoes however i walk in the shoes of cancer/dimentia and a broken heart. again i am very sorry for your loss💫💞💫💞
You are walking a difficult path, as well. Sending hugs. ❤️
I can't imagine! Is there anyway that through this grief you two could get back together? Just a question I keep thinking of. She was so cute. How is your son handling this? Since he was driving? Thank you for this.
Haha, we've had quite a few people say that. There's a lot of history there that we'd have to overcome, but he's still my best friend. :). Our son is doing remarkably well considering the circumstances -- thank you so much for asking. He went to a great trauma counselor right away, so that definitely helped.
I just lost my brother a couple months ago he passed under suspicious circumstances and I know it but can't prove it how do I move on from that
We don't ever really move on... We just try to find a way to move forward. Some of my other videos might be helpful. ❤️
You don't have to move on, you can continue...but you don't have to forgot what happened or forgot your brother, just continue and don't give up ❤ and I hope these videos to be helpful
I lost my daughter 29 years ago. She was five and a half months old. I'm still grieving and her death blew my entire family apart in slow motion. I have no one in my life who understands. Yes, I went on with life. Got better at living with the loss. But I am not the same. I'm shattered and broken. Watching everyone else now having grandchildren via their living daughters is difficult to say the least. I'm happy for them of course. But honestly, I have been completely traumatized and robbed of a normal life. I didn't just lose her. I lost my whole family and I lost any grandchildren I might have had. All because of Science® juice. My heart bleeds for everyone here. Losing a child is absolutely devastating. I was offered a Styrofoam cooler type thing to bury her in. I refused and demanded a real casket and told them I would go home and make one myself if I had to. I will never understand why anyone thought it appropriate to put a Styrofoam cooler in front of my face the day after my daughter died as a burial option. My daughter was a living human being. She was my life. She deserved better and I demanded she got it. Looking back, it infuriates me that I was rushed to bury her. Dead on a Monday, visitation on Wednesday, buried on Thursday. I needed time to make better decisions and time to process that she was gone. It was horrible. I wanted to crawl in the hole and get in the casket with her. It took everything in me not to. I sat by the hole for hours after everyone left. I was a single mother and her father did attend but we weren't on good terms due to the cheating while I was pregnant. Anyone who says God doesn't give you more than you can handle can promptly shut up. I can't handle it. My life is a complete mess, I'm going through a heinous divorce after 25 years, I was abandoned and left for dead, I am permanently disabled and I might be losing my home. I honestly don't think I would have ended up with my jackass husband had I not been going through incredible grief when I met him. I was vulnerable and I ignored every red flag because I felt like if I had to continue to be alone, I was going to end my life. The pain was just too much to bear. And now here I am. I get so tired of people saying there's help out there. No there's not. I'm broke, have to be my own attorney which is impossible, I am broken and failing my living son. I have looked for, begged and pleaded for help everywhere I can think of and trust me, there's no help for disabled, broke, grieving women going through divorce. Yes, I pray. God rarely answers my prayers. I have a headstone and plot next to my daughter and many days, I just want to be in it.
This is heartbreaking. I have gone through a lot of bad stuff in my life, but I won't pretend to understand what you're going through. Keep reaching out to people if you can. Have you tried online grief groups? There are many free groups for people who have lost a child and need support. Also check in with your local hospice -- even if you didn't have a loved one that used hospice services, they often offer general grief support. If needed, check yourself into the hospital for mental health. The world needs you, and your son needs you. Sometimes my sons are the only thing that keep me going. Hang on to that. ❤️ I'm sending you all the strength and love that I can.
@@brookecarlock thank you. Like I said, there's no help. I have looked. Everywhere. I'm rural and isolated. I was part of a grief support group for a long time way back but I really need something different. Something for complex trauma. And ultimately, just help. Physical help. Emotional support. It doesn't exist. People always say there's help but never ever offer anything specific like a name or a number. Oh I have been given the suicide hotline number. What a joke. It's a good thing when I called, I was just looking for therapy resources because if I had actually been suicidal, they would have been what tipped the scales. They were awful. None of their resources led to anything. I have trial in two days. If I lose my home, not sticking around. No desire to be homeless on top of disabled, traumatized and grief stricken. I got through things and lived with my daughter's death for 25 years. But losing my entire family, my marriage and my health in top of that is just too much. Everyone has their limits. I am way past mine. It doesn't help that my spouse defamed me in a tiny town. Or that the medical community here hates me because I have been vocal about the cause of my daughter's death. I do appreciate your comments and kind words. I'm open and praying for a miracle. Or for anything, anything at all to take some stress or sadness off of me. This is excruciating.
I hope your son Max is doing well
That is so kind of you to ask. He is doing very well for everything that he has been through. I actually have an interview with him on my channel. He was a guest on my Mourning Coffee podcast. ❤️
I lost my first true Love my son Jesse October 28 2022 He made me a mother .He taught me true sacrifice, he taught me what true Love is and in a matter of blink of a eye My first true Love was gone , And I hurt so deep.I feel like im screaming on the inside.And know one can hear me .I know people think I should just move on it ,My son was hit by a pickup truck why crossing the street .And I feel in my gut my son wants me to find out the truth As to why the man that hit him got away with it .Please keep me in your prayers As I bark on this journey to find out why my son's life was less important. My son Jesse was born in October 14 and he died 14 day after his birthday Oct 28,11:49 pm why walking in the crosswalk
Why did the police ,think my son life was less important, than the man that killed him .
I'm so, so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful son Jesse. ❤️
I,m real sorry your family is going through that I will try and finish the video I lost my son February 9th 2015 to murder. Justin was 25 years old I can't even function I'm om all kinds of meds life will never be the same the stages of grief are out of chronological order just like his death was.
Yes, yes, yes with the stages. Totally not in order for everyone. I'm so sorry about your son. If you need meds, take them! Just be careful that they're not completely numbing you to all of your grief. ❤️ Sending hugs.
Thinking and praying for you. How is Max doing?
He's doing really well. He was really banged up physically (and mentally) and took some time off of college, but he's back and ready to graduate this year. ❤Thank you for checking in!
you 2 make a beautiful couple it’s a shame you’re apart 😊 i see love still there 😊
Love can't heal the loss of a child.
but they are still her parents so i still have hope for them but that up to Jesus and them. my heart go out to both them and the their beautiful family Jesus be with them at this hour
Other factors make a couple, not just grief or getting on. It may not be love you see, it may be a collective grief that they share!