I’m watching this video on February 28, 2022, so two years plus one month since you filmed yourself struggling with how much to remove, from where, what to leave, and also learning how the clippers worked. That’s a lot and I can relate, even though I’m still very much at the beginning of this part of my journey. It’s been about three weeks since I decided I wanted to buzz off my hair, but only eight days since I actually held the clippers to my head for the first time. I’ve been divorced since 1990, and my four children are long gone from home, so I decided I’d just do it myself. First I watched several TH-cam videos of women buzzing off their hair for all different reasons, which helped a bit to desensitize me and acted as somewhat of a tutorial on how to do it. I got my clippers from Amazon (they have the colored guards like yours) and one evening before bed I took the plunge. I started with a long guard, but soon realized it was going to have to be an all or nothing kind of deal. There was not going to be any cute outcome (like Taz), I simply didn’t have enough to work with on the top. So I kept using a shorter guard until I was using the next to the shortest one! And then the next morning before my shower, I went over a couple more times with the very shortest guard! It took almost a week before I stopped jumping when I saw myself in a mirror, and I’m still constantly running my hand over and over my head in wonder and amazement. 😊 Regrets? Not really, and getting ready to leave the house suddenly became a whole lot easier. I revealed my secret first to my very best friend of nearly 50 years over a video chat. She had no idea and it was rather satisfying to give her a little jolt like that. In fact, I quite like revealing my secret that way so I did it again for my daughter a couple days later. Friend thinks I’m brave and awesome for doing it; daughter still looks at me quizzically because she knows what’s under the wig. I’m not sure if I’m going to unveil for my 94-year-old mother. Time will tell. The hardest part for me is how my mind is constantly conjuring up scenarios where I won’t be able to wear my wigs-cataract surgery in two weeks-will they let me keep my wig on during the procedure? Or my family reunion in early May with my four children, their spouses, and all my grandchildren. We have a house on the Outer Banks in North Carolina-it’s the beach, windy, they don’t even know about the wigs yet, much less what’s hiding underneath. All of these things cause me a lot of anxiety, but I still don’t regret what I’ve done, and right now I can’t think of a good reason to ever grow out my bio hair. What’s the point when past pictures tell the tale of how I wasn’t really getting away with my techniques to hide the thinning. I’m going to binge the rest of your videos on this subject! Thank you for sharing your heart and baring your soul. Now that’s what real courage looks like. What is your saying, “We’re in this together”?
Hi!! I read this as I sit and drink my morning coffee and was so encouraged! I love that you took the time to write this!! Thank you so much 💓. I am pinning this comment so others who stumble across this video during their own journey will see it if they choose to scan the comments. While hair loss and choosing to cut all our hair off is a personal journey only we can take individually, I truly do believe we can gain strength and courage from others experiencing something similar which is why I can confidently say that we are in this together. Hugs to you and for all that you have gone through and are going through! I know you will figure out these outstanding questions/issues/worries you have because you took this step! PS: cheap headband wigs are AWESOME for beach scenarios and overnight family gatherings. They obviously won't work for everyone (nothing does) but here is a link to a video about them. Obviously telling everyone about your wigs had its pros and cons and is also personal, but I want to encourage you to try to get there. It will relieve so much anxiety in the end.... and at some point how people react or what they think about it is not our problem. HUGS!!! th-cam.com/video/di3aYpdFIDg/w-d-xo.html
You're what courage looks like, Evangeline! Thank you for sharing, I feel your spunky spirit and appreciate your sharing. I'm just beginning this journey, stories like yours are so helpful. I imagine you rocking your choices with a smile and hope you're well! Diane
You still gave some hair at least you can you can’t go out like that yeah but at least you can look in the mirror and still not feel all that horrible. This was just a shock with me and I really don’t know what to do. I’m so disgusted with doctors I had the Hashimoto and then they found out I have a low iron. My body is not absorbing iron even after being iron tablets and I’m not getting any answers after spending like over $3000 already so out of pocket so I’m disgusted they don’t take insurance. I don’t even know what to do anymore.
Oh this brings tears. I started loosing hair 12 years ago, it was a very slow process at first, and my hair was to my waist. Then in 2014 I realized it was so thin I went in and had my pony tail cut off and tried wearing it short, just above my shoulders. The density of my pony tail was the size of my pinky finger. I then in 2016 decided to go ahead with wigs. Then one day I just decided to take the clippers I use on my husbands head and I too used the longest guard and shaved it off. I cried! But, it became easier to shave it off from that day forward, and I got shorter and shorter until I used just the normal guard with the extender all the way out. My head freezes in the winter, so I let it be longer then, and very short in summer. With me, I am a Christian woman, and I believe all women's hair is their crown and glory, long hair to me meant so very much as a woman and a head covering in Spiritual Alignment. When I told my husband I wanted to shave my head he was supportive but I couldn't feel comfortable, so when I shaved it, I hid it from him for a while. I couldn't let him look at me, I was humiliated and embarrassed. Then when I finally did let him see me, I couldn't look him in the eye. Eventually I was ok and comfortable. Bless his heart, he never once has said a word of anything less then positive to me about, and says you are beautiful no matter what. But then, still today, 4 years later, I still look at myself in the mirror and don't recognize my reflection and think wow, i'm not the woman I used to be, how can he love me? But he does. Society puts emphasis on beauty and sadly we are falsely led down the rabbit hole of thinking we have to fit a mold of something. I was also concerned that if I shaved my head I was making a mistake with The Good Lord because it is shameful in the Bible to shave a woman's head. I know Jesus loves me, and I know I'm all woman all these feelings are my insecurities. The best day of my wig experience was the first person I came out and told "it's a wig" and stopped caring or being afraid of people knowing I was wearing a wig. Now I simply don't care with anyone, but there are still those days with my husband, and I know that it will pass. OH BTW I am shocked at 54 how dark my bio hair is and very little gray. I'm actually loving the grays I see because it has given me a chance to see what might have been. I'm so proud of you and sending great big hugs. You've helped more people then you can fathom on here.
Oh my gosh, you have no idea how much I can relate to this. I was just listening to a sermon in the car this week about this topic... and the treatment the pastor gave was so helpful in understanding the context of scripture around women cutting their hair, and it made me feel so much better. Essentially, it is about being obedient and following God's order to things. Men have a place in relation to God, and women have a place in relation to Man. If cutting your hair is an act of rebellion against the natural authority that God set out, then it is against God. In our case, we are not rebelling against God, but dealing with a condition that isn't normal. I did not buzz my hair to make a point or prove I can be like a man, therefore I am not in conflict with God's word. Thank you so much for your comments my sister in Christ. Big hugs to you!
@@heywigsister Amen and yes Ma'am, I too understood that just recently. I'm glad we already know each other in heaven. Hugs and keep posting you're do so much in His service as well.
This brought me to tears. So many emotions. Sadness for you, sadness for me. But also I felt less alone. My bio hair looks exactly like yours did in the beginning of the video. EXACTLY. The sporadic thinning, the wispiness of the remaining hair. To say I can relate to you does not even begin to cover it. Thank you. Thank you for putting this out there. You look beautiful.
Thank you, Erin! Isn't it amazing how alone we thought we were until we found each other on social media? I never knew so many women were experiencing this. Social media has its negatives, but this sisterhood makes up for those 10 fold. It is such a blessing and I am grateful for you and all my sisters! 💕
My heart goes out to you as I watch this because I know exactly what you are going through! I was in the same boat at the beginning of last summer when I buzzed what was left off. There are still some moments I look in the mirror and feel overwhelmed looking at my bald head but mostly I just feel free!!
This was filmed 4 years ago, but it's brand new to me. I am I'm tears. I am SO PROUD of you, Denise. You are so brave. So brave to film this. I could see and feel your grief, and I saw a glimmer of relief, too. So thankful I found you.
I cut all my hair off with scissors literally 1 inch all over 3 weeks sgo with my husband's help. My hair was coming out with the head rash Pityriasis Rosea and getting thinner and thinner and left some bald spots that was devastating. I was so ready and was very surprised when as my husband was cutting, tears were streaming down my face which made it super hard for him. So shocking that I was so emotional. However, BEST THING EVER! Got my head cleared of the rash and washing my head in the shower and plopping on my wig without prep is wonderful. I don't like to walk around the house bare headed either. I always wear knitted slouch hats that I make to match my pjs. Cotton in the summer and wear wigs when dressed. I don't know if I will let it grow again because if it grows it will still be thin. I do feel free and the emotion around it is gone.
I buzz down with no guards. I love the uniform look of my buzz cut, instead of my balding old man hair. I do it at home myself every week. No appointments, tipping, taking time out of my schedule to go to the hairdresser, or risking everyone in the salon staring. It is freeing!
I love this! I am planning to use a 2 guard the next time and see what happens. Now I have courage, lol! I love how it feels. Thank you so much for sharing! 💕
Oh my sister!!!! I did this literally just this morning!!!!! You are so precious for sharing this with us. I feel better now and don’t have to fuss with hair sticking out. My hair was never thick enough for a ponytail. I have been cutting my hair shorter and shorter like you. This video came on at the perfect time today. God is so good. You are so brave and strong. Love you & appreciate you soooooo much. You are such a precious sister-gift to me. If you are happy, your husband will be happy too, darling girl. My darlin husband is going to be happy if I’m happy. We are going to be okay sweet girl. I would have helped you with buzzing 🥰 so I’m cheering for you & your happiness. Praying for you both. Love & Prayers💗💗💗
Thank you so much for your prayers and sharing your experience. You have helped me so much and others who will read your comment. Thank you and God's blessings to you!
I saw an interview with Ricky lake over the weekend, she buzzed her hair. It had been like yours, and she said she felt so much freer now. That’s kind of how I feel. It is hard, you are grieving a loss of part of your body. I’ve buzzed mine three times so far, and unless there’s a big change, I’m going to just keep it this way. For me it’s a lot Easier. The family’s used to it, and I’ve got some great wigs. Thank you Lord! You are awesome, lots and lots of comments, I read them. I’m really happy you did this video. God bless you my friend! (When I buzzed mine, I never even thought of using a guard. This last time I used one, and it didn’t make a difference. I don’t know anything about clippers either. I guess were all on a very similar journey!)
Thank you so much for your wonderful support, Jude. I think I am just going to move down to a 2 guard next time and see what happens. Isn't it amazing how many women this touched? I am both stunned by the number of comments and views and so grateful to God for the strength to share this. Obviously there is a great need to be connected on this and I am so so thankful for this sisterhood. Big hugs to you my friend!
Denise Sheets It’s funny, because this morning I looked in the mirror and thought of you. If you get a chance, look for Ricky Lakes’ interview. She always looks good, but honestly, she looks terrific! The more we talk about this stuff, the better. I discuss it with friends or neighbors when they come. I always wear the same style of wig, Now,. But I, like you, watched a ton of videos to get where I am now. I took myself off of all of the online wig stores, because I was tempted to buy too many. I settled on the kind I feel best (Jett by Estetica), And have 2 in gray & 1 in lilac mist (Sandstone mixed with hints of Lilac)...it feels good to be at this point. I’ll talk to you soon! God bless you as always! I am really happy that so many people are touched by your videos. You speak straight from the heart, and I love the way you always mention that you’re a Christian. You are awesome
Hi Denise, can I just say that I think you look fab with your hair buzzed! It totally suits you. I made this same decision about 5 weeks ago as my hair was so thin. I am now completely bald and feel empowered! At least now when I look in the mirror I see my features instead of obsessing over how little hair I had.Thank you SO much for sharing this, a very brave thing to do. Hugs from Scotland. Debs ❤
Thank you Sister! I cried at some point. The struggle is so recognizable. Thanks for not cutting and editing things out. Thiis is so raw and honest and I applaud you for your bravery. You do really look cute by the way with the #3 buzz cut!!! Thanks for taking this step. I think I am getting ready to do it too. But I think I will ask a stylist. I'm not brave enough to do it alone. Hugs hugs and more hugs. Denise you are amazing and a true sister to all of us. 😘🌷
There is strength in knowing we aren't the only ones going through this! How did ladies in the past get through it without the support of others. Thank you!
Gosh, Gail, I have wondered that very same thing!! Honestly, the internet and social media bring so many not so great challenges, but there are so many GOOD things as well, like this sisterhood that we would not have without it. 💕
Every husband/partner of a woman going thru this should watch this video. You are so sincere and honest about your emotions. I don't think men (in general) really understand the struggles and emotions a woman experiences with severe hair loss. My wife has been living with this for probably 30 years and, like your husband, I have been supportive. However, after all this time, this video has brought me to tears thinking of her struggle to deal with this problem. Thank you!!!!
Gosh. Jim.... I cannot tell you how touched I am by your comment. Seriously. It means so much to me to hear a husband's reaction, especially one like this! It reinforces for me my belief that this isn't just happening to us when we are in marriage, and why it is so important to bring our husband's along on this journey with us, even if that means waiting for them to catch up emotionally before doing something drastic like shaving our hair off. Hugs to you and your wife as you go through this together.
I just washed my hair and decided I would look for something to watch while I dry it and do my best to style it. And there you are talking to your audience and I am talking back to you. Go figure, no one can hear me. But I wished I could help you. You are a brave soul, but you walk through life with Him and draw the courage you need. Such a difficult decision. You'll never know how many you help. You impact so many with your positive nature. You're just as beautiful as ever.❤
First let me say, you are PRECIOUS! I'm just starting my own journey on this hair loss/thinning and the courage (and struggles) you have shown to everyone is such an encouragement to me personally. Yes, I cried. I cried because I know what I'm facing, I cried because I wish I could have been there to help you since I've buzzed/ scissor cut my husband's hair and sons hair for over 25 yrs, and I cried because of just the beautiful soul you are. I absolutely love your videos and just know that you are helping us women more than you realize. I also want to say that I thought it was precious how you were taking into consideration your husband's feelings about this too. Their support means more to us than anybody else's. God bless you and what you are doing for others. Many thanks!
Thank you so so much, Rebecca. Your words are so precious to ME! Gosh it means so much that we support each other through this... thank you for your support. 😍💕
The final result was the best, you look really good. The focus is now on your beautiful eyes and face. The thin wispy hair distracted from your expression and communication.
You are very brave to share. I’m with you. I felt very similarly. After only a few months from when I started losing it to major loss due to AA, I also buzzed it. I use a 1 guard all over what is left. At first I wore a light scarf or bandana, now I just let it be free. It takes time to adjust and some days are harder than others. You aren’t alone in this.
Hi, Darcie! Thank you so much for sharing... I really do love the way it feels and am getting used to the way it looks. It definitely isn't worse than before, jut different. Thank you so much for taking time to comment, it really helps me to not feel so alone for sure. Big hugs!
You are so, so brave to let us see you and go with you through this journey. It will help so many women. At the end I was shouting, "You look like me!!". I am buzzed all over with just long pieces for side burns. It looks silly as heck but I love the feel of my head after buzzing, love how my wigs fit on my head and showering is a breeze. The only thing I don't like is the way I look and though I mostly feel okay walking around the house, I tend to wear a super soft winter hat or bandana. I just bought a really cute bamboo head scarf. I'll come back and link it. You might love it. It seems like it would be very cool for hotter weather but it's also feminine, which is not an adjective I would use for the winter hat!! Thank you again, so very much. You are a peach. We are lucky to have you in this wig sister community.
Hi Denise! I watched your video last night. 3-12-2024. It was a struggle to watch you go through the emotions, because I was right with you last night. I was ready to buzz my hair off. Towards the end when you said maybe wait for someone to help you I took that seriously. However at 1:30 AM I grabbed my hubbys clippers and did it. I feel so much better mentally this morning. A little backstory is 28 years ago I had brain surgery for a tumor the size of a softball, so huge scar, my hubby was willing to help me, he is a trucker and won’t be home until tomorrow, but like you were very mindful of not freaking your hubby out. I was the same way with what would my scar look like and how I would react to it. If I broke down he would crumble. I did not want to subject him to that. My scar is mostly gone!! You know what I felt pretty for the first time in years, my hair loss was a lot like yours. Anyway, I learned a lot from this video in terms of the clipper guards. I knew I wanted a buzz so I went with a number 2 guard and it was perfect. Now I have helped hubby buzz his hair so I knew how to work the clippers pretty well. I’m rambling but I wanted to say thank you for your videos, you have made this wig journey so much easier and better for me.
Oh Denise. Thank you for sharing this raw honesty with us -- my heart goes out to you. It makes total sense to me that this would prompt another stage of grieving and feelings of vulnerability. Sending you so much love.
So inspiring! I have been considering the take it off cut too! I'm balding and further damaged my hair by trying to add highlights from my natural 4/6 to blond. My hairdresser said my scalp and greys wouldn't be as obvious.... now what's left is fried.... Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I am in awe of you Denise! You have helped many, including myself, through our journey. You continue to inspire many, cheers to you! You still look beautiful & God bless you❤️!
I am quietly crying for you. My hair looks so much like yours. I think for a woman it’s just gut wrenching to not have hair. It seems so basic to human existence. I’m 70 years old now and have suffered privately most of my adult life. It has affected what I would do and where I would go etc. Like you I’ve hated going to the beauty shop for haircuts. Mostly because others would stare, not my stylist. I’ve been chopping my own for years now. I’m just now considering wigs and it is mostly because of your sweet spirit in your videos. You have given me hope and I’m so grateful. ♥️
❤️❤️Oh Denise...You look beautiful! My heart was with you through this whole video. ( And thumping in my chest) I’ve been cutting my hair shorter each time working up to really buzzing it all off. I don’t let anyone see my head uncovered, even my husband who is always supportive but has no idea what to say because I’m so emotional about the whole thing. I can’t even express what your sharing this with us means to me . You are a bright light in this very difficult journey ❤️
Alice, this was so sweet and I appreciate it so much. This is a difficult journey no question... and to think most of us were going through this alone for YEARS and YEARS! Many people say lots of bad things about social media, and while many of those bad things are true, support like this is definitely a light in a dark journey. Big hugs to you.
This is the first video of yours that I have watched. Your hair is exactly like mine and I struggle with it everyday. I have absolutely no confidence. I have ordered my first wig and am waiting for it to arrive. I am scared and anxious. I’ve never worn one before and live in an area where people will make comments to me I’m sure, maybe even make fun. I have always wanted to buzz my hair, but my husband doesn’t think I should, but like yours, he would support me. I want to say thanks for this video. I’m just starting this journey, hope it’s good! You are an inspiration to me!
Hi and WELCOME to the wig sisterhood. It can be VERY hard at first, so please be gentle with yourself. If you ever have any questions please do not hesitate to reach out. I am Denise Dancik Sheets on Facebook and Hey Wig Sister on Instagram. Big hugs and please know you are not alone in this!
Yes, girl, YAAAAAAAAASSSSSS! You sharing your internal (and external) process every step of the way is going to help sooo many women, I can't even. This is great, and so are you. xxo
Denise, thank you so much for sharing this. My heart went out to you as you were shaving your head. You were more methodical than I was and really struggled with how much to cut. You look beautiful. I know when I finally decided to buzz my head I asked my husband what to he thought and he just said go for it. Then, as you know, it took me a while to do it. I remember standing in front of that mirror with the same exact clippers, read the he instructions, put them away and grabbed a #2 guard and went to town...that was it. I didn’t know what I was doing and just began and haven’t looked back since. Then I took a photo of before and after and messaged it to you as I had promised. I must say that I had different emotions than you...for me it was very freeing as each time I looked in he mirror I got depressed. My hair was probably as thin, if not thinner, than yours and I had stopped coloring it because I was just coloring mostly my scalp because my hair was shorter to begin with. You have helped more people than you can ever imagine by posting this video...you are so special and thank you for sharing your feelings throughout the whole process. So welcome to the club, girlfriend... I know that very soon you will be saying “I should have done this sooner” promise... but until then, I do hope that your adjustment goes smoothly......hugs and prayers...🥰❤️
oh my friend. you have been so helpful and supportive of me. It means the world to me that you are here on this journey with me. I am 1 week in and it has definitely gotten easier. I love the way it feels and honestly do not think I will ever look back.
Denise Sheets I’m so glad❤️I just did mine again last week...had been trimming in between but did need a full buzz again. This time I did leave more on the sides...hugs🥰. Love you 😍
I have been so much happier since buzzing off my hair. It indeed does eliminate the need for a wig grip. I hadn't realized how much hair I'd lost from the top of my head (I never saw that part of me lol) until our granddaughter took some pics of me looking down as I did something. My wonderful husband always supports me in any-and every- thing. I'm so grateful. So, buzzing my hair off want even an issue. Facing the reality of my hair loss and learning all about wigs and the joy they can bring had been so good for me. 😊 Thank you for all you share, Denise. I'm so glad I found your channel.
Oh my heart...I felt for you thru this entire video. Made me tear up. I could really feel your emotional struggle with this, but I’m happy for you too. My sweet husband has always said I look just fine the way I am, and has always been wonderful in checking me over to make sure I had all of my bald spots covered (even tho there was no way to cover them completely). He was supportive when I decided it was time for a wig, and I always check to see what he thinks about a style or color when I’m shopping. I want him to be as happy with my choice as I am. But in the end he always says whatever I think or like is just fine. He still calls me his beautiful wife. When I felt like I needed to shorten the back of my hair, he did it for me. I wear very short wigs (at the moment) so we even went as far as to completely shave my neck (with clippers and an electric razor) and the lower part of my hair up to just above where the edge of my wig sits. It’s wonderful and REALLY makes my pixie wigs look perfect on my neck! The top of my hair is almost exactly like yours was. I’m also not sure why I keep it, but haven’t been brave enough to suggest cutting it yet. It’s so thin it doesn’t help or hinder wearing my wigs, but I do keep my sides scissor-cut above and around my ears with just a hint of a sideburn for blending too. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for being open and allowing us to live that with you. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing this with all of us. I love everything you said. I have been so tempted to do this for a long while. My hair is thinning on top and I think about doing it every day. I have a cleft lip and nose (surgically repaired a few times, but not so great results), so my hair has always been the main way for me to feel pretty. Once my hair started thinning, I have become so insecure. We all have our reasons for wanting beautiful hair, which has us make these big decisions. I support you and anyone else who does this. This has helped me get closer to doing it. You are so good at conveying your message in your videos. You are so inspiring. I’m so happy I found you on youtube and that I subscribed to you. You look beautiful!
((((Lisa))))- that is me giving you a giant hug! One of my best friend's daughter has a cleft lip and pallet and has had numerous surgeries. My heart goes out to you, and I can totally understand how the pain of losing your hair was magnified because of your struggles with that. Thank GOD for wigs, that is all I can say. If you ever need some encouragement please do not hesitate to reach out! I am Denise Dancik Sheets on Facebook and Hey Wig Sister on Instagram. :)
My heart went out to you Denise, I guess a women's hair is part of out identity & we do care how it affects our partners. I got really fed up with my grey/brown thinning hair the other night I grabbed some scissors & cut out all the brown, when my husband got home he looked & said "bit short isn't it", but was ok with it. When you cut the rest of your hair it really looked good, in fact it looked less patchy. Take care 💞
Oh my gosh, I had a hard time watching this. It didn't show on your face but you said you were struggling and I felt it. I have to say though that I thought you looked super cute at every stage. I'm not ready to do this and don't know if I ever will be, but sometimes i think how much easier it would be! Thanks for sharing this. I really felt like I was right there with you and I just wanted to give you a hug!
Denise you are such beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I buzzed my hair about 4 months ago and at times I think about letting it grow back, but I know I will never feel as pretty with my own hair as I do with wigs so what’s the point. And it definitely is much easier to wear wigs without hair! Besides not feeling comfortable wig-less around the house, the only other drawback for me is my head against the pillow when I’m trying to sleep feels “pokey” and cold. I’ve been wearing a hoodie to sleep and that seems to be working for now. Praying that your husband feels better about your decision soon. Hugs. 💖
Hi, Jacie! I wonder if you cut your hair shorter than I did, or if your hair is more course? Mind is so soft and baby fine and thankfully I have not had any pokey feeling yet (I was worried about that, actually). I am also more comfortable wearing it around the house now and am so grateful for that (it has been 1 week). I am sitting here right now wigless as a matter of fact. :) Big hugs to you as well!
I feel fortunate that my husband was willing to do this for me. It was far from a perfect job but it just felt better getting it all off. The sides grew back out pretty quickly. I'm overwhelmed by your courage to do this and post the video! I love your heart!
I'm so proud of you for having enough courage to do this and film it at the same time. There is no way that I would have had the courage to do that a year ago wen I buzzed nine. In my experience with little to no natural hair, I got some really cute, lightweight turbans to wear around the house without a wig. That was for my husband more than me but he got used to it and now, I don't wear anything. My hair is about 3 inches long now but I am going to keep the nape shaved. I will say that leaving some hair on the temples for blending is a good choice, I did miss that when I wore a wig that didn't have great coverage. You will be so glad you did it in the summer though. When people say they get really hot in the summer, I didn't understand it because I buzzed my hair a month into my wig journey. The summer is great with little to no hair. So proud of you my dear friend!
I am loving it and have zero regrets! I love the way it feels, I just wish it would help cool me off, lol!! Thank you for being there for me the night before, you are the best and I love you so much my sweet friend. 💕
Great video. You are so brave. I shaved my head last year. My husband helped even though he misses my bio hair. There were benefits, but also some things I missed, so I have been letting my hair grow, but keeping it at jaw length. My husband just walked in as I was watching this video. He said, "You're not going to shave your head again, are you? Because your hair is looking really good right now," as he reached out to touch my hair. I replied, "Ummm, hon, I am wearing a wig."
Hi Denise I am amazed by your strength! You are so pretty it does not matter, hair or very short hair!!! So sweet and helpful! You are great!!! I truly believe you did the right thing!
Oh Denise, I am sending hugs to you! Yes, I am struggling with this. A few months ago I cut mine short, but haven’t been able to get to buzzing yet. Seems like I am about 6 months behind you but on the same track. Thank you sooooo much for sharing!!! You are so amazing and brave! I am so inspired by you! Just sending love to you for all you do!
I just love that you are right here with me. Thank you so much for your love through all the comments you post. Big hugs, and I'm so glad we are in this together.
Congratulations for your courageous decision! I can appreciate all you're going through, totally! Because I'm going down that road too. I've been my husbands barber for 40 yrs as he lost his hair. I wish i could have helped you out by doing your buzz. I think it will be difficult just to manuver the clippers on my own head! Just because it feels ackward & its hard to see! Good for you, & everything gets easier with practice. Courage is what you showed us, thank you for that. Simplifying the "process" of wearing & just putting on our wigs is what I'm hoping for too. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
After watching you review Wigs and talking a little bit about your journey for the last few months I came to watch all of these and man is it emotional! I hope you know how many people you are helping! You are very very brave. ❤
I think you are beautiful.. & have a great shaped head!! You did not make a mistake deciding to take the plunge!! Congrats on making the decision & thank you for sharing this journey!!❤️
Denise, I have always enjoyed your honest reviews and heartfelt advice. I am in awe of you and your bravery. This video really shows all the emotions one goes through with our crazy hair issues but showing us that maybe baby steps is the best way for most of us. I too started wearing wigs about the same time as you and I too am thinking of doing the same. Thank you... Thank you!! You are a beautiful soul.
Gale- you are definitely not alone in this and I appreciate your comments so much! If you need to chat about this at all please don't hesitate to reach out. I am Denise Dancik Sheets on Facebook, and heywigsister@gmail.com on email if you aren't on FB. :)
Thank you for your courage, Denise. I can really relate to how you feel especially when you are trying to consider your husband in the process. I hope this turns out to be a great thing for you. Please keep us posted ❤️- Melissa
Denise, it looks better super-short-Demi Moore-ish! 😉 This summer you'll be cool & free! Try bigger earrings...and why not try Topix (sp?) on top if you want a thicker look around the house? Your eyes look larger! Thank you for being YOU!
Janean- I definitely am glad I did this now so I have time to get used to it before summer and figure out what length is best. I used Toppik for 18 years prior to finding wigs... I am so done with that stuff, lol. I would rather just be brave and go with nothing than ever use Toppik again. Maybe I will!
It must feel so free and be so easy. I struggle with mine everyday so I envy you having made this decision and to film it too. Thank goodness we live in a time where wigs and toppers are just so pretty and look and feel great. Hugs!
Yes- it is DEFINITELY free and easy! I am 1 week in and love how it feels. Getting used to how it looks still, but it feels so great that I really don't care how it look!
First you are very brave and thank you for including us in the experience. I did it to. I cried because it is a new awareness regarding hair loss. Then you feel a great freedom and pleasure of not dealing with the hair. Many thanks for all your truthful reactions regarding this event. Relax and enjoy. It is just another part of the journey.
I buzzed mine back when I started wearing wigs full time, and I went public with my buzzed head a week ago. It's been amazing - so much that I'm taking a break from wigs for now! You're fantastic, love your videos.
Really? That's AWESOME! Way to go! I am thinking I may need to go with my buzzed hair to the beach this summer, we will see! And THANK YOU for the super nice compliment, Big hugs!
Sending you hugs Denise! No matter how much we have accepted our journey, there are times that catch us unaware that provide us a newfound sense of loss.. but how great is the sensation wearing a wig afterwards. My partner had also shaved mine the first few times with clippers. You will find more comfort and strength if you just charge forward, your husband will understand soon, but this is ultimately your journey and choice 💗
Kim, I so appreciate you taking time to comment. I am certain Chad will come around soon, he hasn't said anything at all about it, and doesn't seem upset or taken aback. He sees how much better I feel and I've commented multiple times on how much less sensitive my scalp is, so he gets it. Hope you are having a great week and welcome to the weekend!
Oh wow Denise, you are so brave! Good for you! I felt everything, every emotion, just as if I was there with you! I just know you are going to love it! I cut mine super short this morning, was so tired of messing and tucking the thin, straggly mess. I was like you about asking myself, why are you letting it grow so long? I havent "fixed" it or not worn a wig since July. So I wacked it off. Feels much better. Cant wait to see how you like yours.
I have androgenic alopecia too and listening to your story gave me the courage to buzz mine finally. I figured it looked terrible anyway so buzzing it couldn't be any worse and I have a wig to cover it up. It was so depressing taking a shower everyday and having to clear the drain. My Husband actually suggested it and has been so supportive. He took it better than I did. It is freeing but not brave enough to go out of the house without a ballcap. I think the fear of always having to explain it to people or getting looks makes it harder to embrace it. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and all the wig reviews which have been so helpful in picking the right color. You have been such a blessing to us that needed someone that understands.
Ahh hon' - I remember the sinking feeling I got when I shaved mine for the first time. Big lump in my throat. But it is soooo much easier, and really, it looks better than the pathetic amount of stringy thin hair I had. Hugs to you - you'll be fine and before you know you it you'll be saying "why didn't I do this sooner"! Promise!
Kelly that's a great way to describe it..."a sinking feeling". I agree it does look better and mine was just a reminder of what was and would never be.
Thank you so much for sharing this very personal experience with us. A lot of us are going through similar struggles. You have helped me think through the process. Again, thank you!
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for sharing such a personal journey with us. I’m so grateful for your courage. Thank you Denise. You are a blessing to all of us. This has been or will possibly be a part of our own journey some day. I think about shaving my head, a lot. Not quite there yet, but like you, some has to do with my husband. He’s not on board with it yet. He’s been so wonderful and very support of my wigs, but this is a little tougher for him. Thank you again for your bravery and willingness to share such a personal journey. I know as I watch this over and over, it will help build my courage. 💕💕💕
Michelle, there is no rush. It took me a year to get here, and my husband is doing very well with it. We all progress at our own pace, but knowing we have sisters who get it and will support us makes all the difference. If you ever need to chat about this I am here!
I really love the shaved look it actually looks better in my opinion x little tip is to make sure u keep the guards on your head as you’re cutting so u r feeling the comb bit and yes go diff ways with it around the bottom as with me I have waves so I need to go a diff direction with the clippers to make sure it gets the hair. I applaud you for making this decision xx
Well done Denise 👏👏 you look so much better plus now you don't have to deal with hair loss if that makes sense. I definitely think you'll feel better in the long run 👍😘💞
Yay you! I'm not married, but certainly would have considered my husband's opinion and feelings if I were. It's a bold move, buzzing your hair off, but I haven't regretted it for a second. It does take a little time to adjust your self-image and that is more challenging since we change wigs too! Which image is the "real" me? All of them!
I could feel you Denise. When I did it, I mourned, because it was a part of me. It is painful to see this. Every time I do this, it is hard to look at myself. It was even harder to see my hair. So thin and fine. Alopecia sucks. I am so grateful for wigs. Believe it or not, it is better to shave it off. Like you did. I am proud of you. Well done Denise.
Thank you so much, Karin. Isn't is surprising how much this impacts us? We think we have accepted our hairloss, but this brings us right back. Big hugs to you on your journey. We are definitely in this together without question. 💕
@@heywigsister I have stated to get scarves and now I tie it around my head, and it makes me look pretty. I try to figure out interesting ways. Colour coded the works! Now I can face my husband as well. I have struggled a lot with this, and then one day, I realised that to God I am perfect. And it was then that I realised that my hair does not define who I am. I fell I love with wearing wigs, and now I wear it proudly, and besides, now I can wear all the styles that I have always admired on others and wanted. Now it is fun. And I got that peace that was always eluding me. It is only when I shave my head, that the hurt of loss sometimes catches me unaware. But then I put on my happy scarves, and soon I forget about it. I love your videos, I want to do it here in South Africa. No one does it here, and then my journey will be full circle. I feel so grateful to have "discovered" you. God bless Sister!
You are a brave lady. I paid 20.00 plus tip (and to sit in a public salon and have everyone watch, women that have no clue what it is like to have hair loss.) just to have my hair shaved in the back and the front kept a little wisps just like you said to leave out around the sides of your head for wig edge cover ups. Well, you just upped the game by doing this yourself. Such great support you just gave me personally. My hair is growing , well some hair, and it is getting in the way again on top. I just might take the plunge myself. My husband too might not appreciate a buzz cut, but what is a girl to do? Thank you.
Thank you for sharing! I can't imagine which is harder, doing it yourself or going somewhere with someone you don't know. I will tell you- it has been 1 week and I am loving it! I am more comfortable wearing it around the house already, and almost more comfortable than pre-buzz. Today my husband and I were talking about going to breakfast- I had my makeup on and was all ready but no wig yet and I said "don't worry, I'm putting a wig on" and he shrugged his shoulders and said "eh, doesn't look that bad". WHAT?? Didn't take him long to get on board, lol.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest. When you said, “it’s like dealing with the hair loss all over again.” That’s been my greatest reservation in buzzing because I feel like I’m in a good place mentally I don’t want it to bring it all up again.
It was so weird and unexpected, but I got over it VERY quickly and now I am loving it. I am more comfortable wearing my buzzed hair around the house than I was before, oddly enough.
Denise first I want to say you are absolutely beautiful with or without your hair. Thank you doesn't do you justice for sharing your journey with all of us women going through the exact same thing you are. You are so sweet and brave for sharing something so raw with the world and for that I applaud you! I have been struggling with making this same decision for several months now. I am a bigger girl and am afraid shaving my hair off will only emphasize that more. But I'm losing it anyway any watching that in the mirror every day is so depressing. After watching your video I think I'm ready. My only wish is I was as beautiful as you are. You look amazing in every wig you put on. Hair or no hair your husband is a lucky man because you are beautiful sister! Thank you again for sharing and all the videos you do. God Bless you.
You are ahhmazing!!! You're right, it's hair. I see mine slowly falling out every day and I still have hair. I know if it continues to thin wigs will be my answer. And yes, I will buzz mine off if and when the time comes. You look beautiful!!!!! Your beauty is not your hair. It's you!! All you!!!!!
God love you sweetheart - such a hard thing to do the first time, and you did it beautifully. For me, that mourning feeling happened only the first time. After that, it has felt empowering - accept the loss, take control and move on. One tip: keep the long flat part of the guard flush against the head for trimming to a consistent length. When you lift the guard off the head a 1/4 - 1/2 inch, the clipper is not making contact and cutting a consistent length. I use 1-inch all over, leaving 3-4 inches at my widow' s peak and at the temples for blending. I let it grow out to 2-3 inches and live with that for awhile, then cut it back again. You look beautiful in the final result - confident and strong.
Thank you so much for the tips! I plan to go down to a 2 guard the next time and see what that does, and will keep your tips in mind. THANK YOU SO MUCH! ❤️
I literally watched about a 1/4 of your video, paused it, and went into the bathroom and buzzed mine all off. Okay, I can honestly tell you, I think it looks better than my thin stringy hair. I'm almost as thin as you, the only difference is I still have quite a lot of hair at the back. So I used to cut my brother, and my husbands and my son's hair (not a hair dresser though). I have a little experience with clippers. My advise is push the flat of the clipper comb against your scalp. When you work your way up, follow the curve of your head but go straight up. Try not to do a scooping motion. That way you can keep the top longer if you wish. I started mine that way awhile ago, then just now took the rest off.
You did a fantastic job it actually looks very good...... I highly commend you for your bravery I know you were nervous but God had your back.... God Bless you are a wonderful lady keep your videos going.....
You won't regret it, but if you do, it can grow back! I buzzed mine several months ago. It was hard and it looks uneven and awful. But nobody sees it but me and the dog. I wear wigs and hats and caps outside. You are right, it is very hard to see what you are doing. They say to move the blade against the way the hair grows, but I have swirls all over. So I think cutting all over is the only way. I use no guards at the hairline in back. Every month or so, it starts getting long and fuzzy and I buzz it again. Always feels freer. You can get knit slouchie caps at Amazon that are really great and keep your head warm in winter.
1 week in and no regrets! Thank you so much for taking time to comment. PS: I am always so hot and this hasn't really made a difference in that. I'm bummed!
Oh well done you ❤️ I felt so emotional during this video mainly because this huge decision along with all the thoughts & grief it brought out & you were on your own with it. The end result looks great & I felt liberated for you. When you wear wigs anyway why not make it easier for yourself & like you commented, it’s hair!, it will grow! You have much support from your friends & subscribers, many of who can feel exactly what you were feeling. Thank you for sharing this experience with us & be kind to yourself you’re fabulous 😘🤗❤️ xx
You are really keeping me going through my journey, I have fine thinning hair, mine is the same as yours but a little thicker on top. Iv only just started wearing wig this month, we are now 6 weeks into lockdown in UK. Iv now watched your second video and your inspiring me to do a sponsored head shave as you have said it feels better under your wigs, it grows back as you say but wearing wigs anyway. I love watching your videos, I hope your staying safe xx
Thank you so much for commenting.... I love hearing about people's journeys.... how is the wig wearing going? Have you found one you like? That can be so hard in the beginning.... hugs! You got this!
@@heywigsister hi Denise, thank you for replying, I have Kai and evanna from René of Paris, I'm in love with Kai! Its the style iv always wanted but could never get my bio hair to get to, evanna is a love/hate relationship at the moment but I think that's because iv never actually had that amount of hair lol stay safe love from Scotland x
Thanks for posting this video Denise! I have been planning to buzz my hair, but have wanted to wait until after an upcoming surgery. Well... Surgery postponed, so, this weekend might be the time! 👏🙌😍 My husband keeps asking me when I'm pulling the trimmers out, he wants to do it. I'm so blessed with a man that is on board for anything that makes me happy.😁
Thank you for sharing! I'm in the same boat as you were (almost) prior to the buzz. Is it itchy? That's my biggest concern about buzzing it all off...having an itchy head. I went to my stylist in November to have a cut and what bothered me the most were the STARES from customers/other stylists! It's kept me from going back. No, I don't have cancer and I'm not dying...I have no idea what went through their heads (and I don't care) but I can tell you being stared at is pretty uncomfortable. MUCH more uncomfortable than buzzing it all off and letting the remainder of my hair go...I think I have less hair than you do! :) But there are bamboo sleep caps and yoga turbans that you can buy to wear around the house when you want to go without a wig! Fabulous products. I admire your courage and willingness to share. It's a journey we're each taking in our own way. Thank you for being such a brave soul and taking us with you on this newest venture. Take care.
I'll be 65 next week. I've always been a dishwater blonde with curly hair. I highlighted for years. A few years ago I stopped coloring my hair when I began seeing a little grey. I wanted to go grey gracefully without roots and I was actually looking forward to it. I never expected my hair to start falling out. I'm in tears seeing you say goodbye to your hair and imagining that I might have to do it too. In the grand scheme of things, it ain't nothin' but a thing but, yeah it is isn't it? Thanks for being so brave and showing us the way.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I needed this support in knowing there is someone else thinking and going through the same range of emotions as I am. This video was so liberating and healed my soul. I'm buzzing my hair tonight. I'm tired of the roller coaster of emotions seeing my bio hair in such a state. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I’ve contemplated it too. I have taken a long time to grow it out long to hide the bald spots I do have. Right now, I can still pull it back in a ponytail to hide the spots but it’s getting harder and harder to hide them. If I shave my hair off it would have to be dull on Mr Clean shave due to the bald spots.
I would say as long as your bio hair is serving a purpose, even if it is a small imperfect purpose, you might want to wait on the shaving. :) just my 2 cents.
I wanted to advise you to cut the top with scissors first into a pixie type cut. Then use your clippers to gradually take down the sides and back. I find the clipper guards to be a huge pain and give you uneven areas, so just use a larger sized blade and buzz what and how much you want...I think cutting it all was a wonderful it very stressful idea! Whew.....I really need to buzz mine again as it’s growing in like cotton candy not the pixie look I once had. ha! Hope your hubby warms up to seeing your cute new look.
Hi Denise I commend you on taking this step. It's hard and as much as we know we are suffering hair loss, for some reason it's so difficult to let go and cut off what's left. Why is that? We are wearing wigs after all and the main reason is to cover up our hair loss and to feel better about ourselves right? I felt for you the entire time - do I, dont I? Cut the back, leave the top? And yes I was telling you from the other side of the screen, cut it all off! Only because through all your emotions, I know you will feel better for doing it. You've let go, now you can move on. And for your husband, he'll come round. If he sees you are happy, he too will be happy. Tx for sharing this personal and emotional experience. It could have taken 3 hours, I still would of watched supporting you from the other side of the screen! X Sandy
Omg! Denise, I am doing the Exact Same thing with my hair! From the little ponytail in the back to the baseball cap to cutting the ponytail shorter and shorter to the hair loss every time I shower!! I have been thinking about buzzing my hair for the very same reasons. My hair loss is a bit more advanced. I spend a lot of time at the beach in the summer and I don’t think I could stand the heat in a wig though 😥. Thank You for this video!!! Xxx’s 🙏🏻💖💖
I just touched mine up. This time I shaved all around the sides with my longest clipper guard. I really prefer a fade at the nape. I left the top this time. My thinning is distributed all over with a little extra in the crown and temples. I got tired of it reminding me what is not there. I think what you are experiencing sounds like what I went through after shaving the first time. Remember you’re beautiful inside and out 💕 I think you look so cute!
You did really great, Denise! I have thought and thought about doing this. The problem for me is I can't do it myself because I have tremors, so my hands won't be still. I could never get the nerve to go to a salon to have it done either. Thank you so much for sharing with us! ❤️
Oh, Doris... my heart goes out to you. Thank you for commenting, and I will pray that someone in your life will be able to give you a hand with this when you are ready. I would totally help you if you lived in the Minneapolis area ❤️
@@heywigsister you are so precious. God bless you for your kind heart. I need bangs, so I'm glad to see more wigs with bangs coming out. I also have been diagnosed with CIDP and I have carpal tunnel in both hands. The disease and issues with my hands limit me on what I can do with any wig I choose. However, I'm still so grateful to have a wig to cover my terribly thinning hair. 💇 🥰
I watched this video again. You inspire so many of us! The problem with the ponytail is what I'm going through also! I've lost most of my hair in the nape area. I believe wearing a ponytail does pull my hair and it's especially sensitive in that area! I really noticed it in my previous wig I wore for 3 years. It was a Gabor which had a lot of permatease in the nape which caused me to itch all the time! You look stunning with your shaved head! (big applause!) 💖
@@DorisHayesGibson There are definitely more wigs with bangs. Can you cut a dirty bang with your carpal tunnel? Wigs by Patti's Pearls has a great video and it is really easy and just one or two snips.
I did shave my head years ago. I loved it but it’s hard. I still shave my head once a month. Not the sideburns. I just trim them. It did take me awhile to be comfortable with myself.
Good for you Denise...... I've been struggling with the same thing for years and am getting close to shaving my head too as I don't really know which makes me more upset, to take the plunge or to avoid even looking at myself in the mirror without my wig on. I have a friend (a barber) who has helped me with my hair issues for years and I may have her do it first and then maintain it with the clippers after. I NEVER leave the bathroom in the mornings without my 'hair' on as being nearly bald is one of the hardest things I've had to deal with in my life. I know it's not fatal and I'm thankful for that, but still...... I admire your courage to deal with this stuff publically. I cannot. I have a sweet partner who loves and accepts me as I am, but how I feel about myself is something yet to be conquered.
I completely relate to your comment "I know its not fatal".... yes, we can be grateful for that but that doesn't mean it is easy. I definitely think you should have your friend help you, it will be so much easier the first time. That was the one thing missing in my whole plan. Now that I"m there it is all good, but having help would have probably gotten me there quicker. ❤️
Wow this is emotional for me bc I went through this also. I just couldn’t take the constant hair loss and it just wasn’t working I couldn’t deal with it. I also wondered what if I’m too tired for a wig or I don’t want my husband to see me totally buzzed/bald. He did not like me doing it-but it’s my head & I couldn’t deal with the toppers bc it was so painful & yes I get very hot also-like heat stroke 🥵 hot. BUT…I went for it and it was so liberating. It felt so much cooler and I let my daughter watch & made it fun & felt she learned an important lesson- it’s just hair! What’s on the inside matters so much matter than what is on the outside. Not to say we don’t want to look nice, but at the end of the day your inner beauty shines so very brightly! Thank you for this. I’m loving going through all of your videos.
You are brave, sweetheart. I totally would like to hug you right now and thank you for being YOU. And for the record, you look great! Much, much love xxxx
Thanks, Kathy. I just kept reminding myself that I have so many sisters on my side and so many that just need to feel connected through our shared experiences and that helps me press on. 💕
Sweetie, I am so sorry for your situation. I have been losing my hair for many years, but I am still limping along with my bio hair. My hair loss is due to diabetes, anesthesia and genetics. You are certainly going through the grieving process again. You are among friends here and we love you hair or no hair.
I know my situation is a bit different than yours, although my hair had gotten pretty thin before my cancer diagnoses. My hubby shaved my hair for me. He is so wonderful. My friend and I were just talking about loving our bald heads, at chemo on Wed. It is so easy to shower and get ready. We will see how mine grows back in, but if it is real thin, I may keep mine shaved and wear my wigs. You are beautiful inside and out , no matter what. I like your hair shaved even better than before! It looks cute!
@@heywigsister thank you for the prayers! I feel them! I have two more short treatments then they will do my surgery. The surgeon did an ultrasound Wed and cannot see any cancer! God is so good!
I recently got sick of my thin cotton candy hair and buzzed it. I recently started wearing wigs and it is so much easier and much more comfy without it. My kids are having a hard time with me thinking I have lost my mind. I happen to live it. ❤️
I laughed. I cried. You are my hero! Thanks so much for sharing this with us. My hair loss is similar to yours and I have considered doing this too. I've never had short hair, and I don't really like short hair. My husband is supportive, but he has ttold me that he wished I didn't have to wear a wig. I think he is more upset over my hair loss than I am, and I don't know how he would feel if I did this.
Oh, Marie! You are such a good friend! Isn't it amazing how much this impacts our husbands? I get that it is our head and our decision, but they are a part of us and it is so important we bring them along on this journey as best we can. Big hugs to you!
You are so incredibly brave. I have been slowly cutting my hair shorter and to see you do this makes me want to just get it over and done with. (Tbh I think doing it slow is more for my family). But anyway, thank you for sharing your journey with us, you're amazing and have given me so much inspiration. PS - Don't worry about the video being long or feel like you took too long, there's no such thing when you're making decisions like this. This journey is a tough one
I’m watching this video on February 28, 2022, so two years plus one month since you filmed yourself struggling with how much to remove, from where, what to leave, and also learning how the clippers worked. That’s a lot and I can relate, even though I’m still very much at the beginning of this part of my journey. It’s been about three weeks since I decided I wanted to buzz off my hair, but only eight days since I actually held the clippers to my head for the first time. I’ve been divorced since 1990, and my four children are long gone from home, so I decided I’d just do it myself. First I watched several TH-cam videos of women buzzing off their hair for all different reasons, which helped a bit to desensitize me and acted as somewhat of a tutorial on how to do it. I got my clippers from Amazon (they have the colored guards like yours) and one evening before bed I took the plunge. I started with a long guard, but soon realized it was going to have to be an all or nothing kind of deal. There was not going to be any cute outcome (like Taz), I simply didn’t have enough to work with on the top. So I kept using a shorter guard until I was using the next to the shortest one! And then the next morning before my shower, I went over a couple more times with the very shortest guard! It took almost a week before I stopped jumping when I saw myself in a mirror, and I’m still constantly running my hand over and over my head in wonder and amazement. 😊 Regrets? Not really, and getting ready to leave the house suddenly became a whole lot easier. I revealed my secret first to my very best friend of nearly 50 years over a video chat. She had no idea and it was rather satisfying to give her a little jolt like that. In fact, I quite like revealing my secret that way so I did it again for my daughter a couple days later. Friend thinks I’m brave and awesome for doing it; daughter still looks at me quizzically because she knows what’s under the wig. I’m not sure if I’m going to unveil for my 94-year-old mother. Time will tell. The hardest part for me is how my mind is constantly conjuring up scenarios where I won’t be able to wear my wigs-cataract surgery in two weeks-will they let me keep my wig on during the procedure? Or my family reunion in early May with my four children, their spouses, and all my grandchildren. We have a house on the Outer Banks in North Carolina-it’s the beach, windy, they don’t even know about the wigs yet, much less what’s hiding underneath. All of these things cause me a lot of anxiety, but I still don’t regret what I’ve done, and right now I can’t think of a good reason to ever grow out my bio hair. What’s the point when past pictures tell the tale of how I wasn’t really getting away with my techniques to hide the thinning. I’m going to binge the rest of your videos on this subject! Thank you for sharing your heart and baring your soul. Now that’s what real courage looks like. What is your saying, “We’re in this together”?
Hi!! I read this as I sit and drink my morning coffee and was so encouraged! I love that you took the time to write this!! Thank you so much 💓. I am pinning this comment so others who stumble across this video during their own journey will see it if they choose to scan the comments. While hair loss and choosing to cut all our hair off is a personal journey only we can take individually, I truly do believe we can gain strength and courage from others experiencing something similar which is why I can confidently say that we are in this together. Hugs to you and for all that you have gone through and are going through! I know you will figure out these outstanding questions/issues/worries you have because you took this step! PS: cheap headband wigs are AWESOME for beach scenarios and overnight family gatherings. They obviously won't work for everyone (nothing does) but here is a link to a video about them. Obviously telling everyone about your wigs had its pros and cons and is also personal, but I want to encourage you to try to get there. It will relieve so much anxiety in the end.... and at some point how people react or what they think about it is not our problem. HUGS!!! th-cam.com/video/di3aYpdFIDg/w-d-xo.html
You're what courage looks like, Evangeline! Thank you for sharing, I feel your spunky spirit and appreciate your sharing. I'm just beginning this journey, stories like yours are so helpful. I imagine you rocking your choices with a smile and hope you're well!
Diane
Thank you for your courage. ❤
You still gave some hair at least you can you can’t go out like that yeah but at least you can look in the mirror and still not feel all that horrible. This was just a shock with me and I really don’t know what to do. I’m so disgusted with doctors I had the Hashimoto and then they found out I have a low iron. My body is not absorbing iron even after being iron tablets and I’m not getting any answers after spending like over $3000 already so out of pocket so I’m disgusted they don’t take insurance. I don’t even know what to do anymore.
Oh this brings tears. I started loosing hair 12 years ago, it was a very slow process at first, and my hair was to my waist. Then in 2014 I realized it was so thin I went in and had my pony tail cut off and tried wearing it short, just above my shoulders. The density of my pony tail was the size of my pinky finger. I then in 2016 decided to go ahead with wigs. Then one day I just decided to take the clippers I use on my husbands head and I too used the longest guard and shaved it off. I cried! But, it became easier to shave it off from that day forward, and I got shorter and shorter until I used just the normal guard with the extender all the way out. My head freezes in the winter, so I let it be longer then, and very short in summer.
With me, I am a Christian woman, and I believe all women's hair is their crown and glory, long hair to me meant so very much as a woman and a head covering in Spiritual Alignment. When I told my husband I wanted to shave my head he was supportive but I couldn't feel comfortable, so when I shaved it, I hid it from him for a while. I couldn't let him look at me, I was humiliated and embarrassed. Then when I finally did let him see me, I couldn't look him in the eye. Eventually I was ok and comfortable. Bless his heart, he never once has said a word of anything less then positive to me about, and says you are beautiful no matter what. But then, still today, 4 years later, I still look at myself in the mirror and don't recognize my reflection and think wow, i'm not the woman I used to be, how can he love me? But he does.
Society puts emphasis on beauty and sadly we are falsely led down the rabbit hole of thinking we have to fit a mold of something. I was also concerned that if I shaved my head I was making a mistake with The Good Lord because it is shameful in the Bible to shave a woman's head. I know Jesus loves me, and I know I'm all woman all these feelings are my insecurities.
The best day of my wig experience was the first person I came out and told "it's a wig" and stopped caring or being afraid of people knowing I was wearing a wig. Now I simply don't care with anyone, but there are still those days with my husband, and I know that it will pass. OH BTW I am shocked at 54 how dark my bio hair is and very little gray. I'm actually loving the grays I see because it has given me a chance to see what might have been.
I'm so proud of you and sending great big hugs. You've helped more people then you can fathom on here.
Oh my gosh, you have no idea how much I can relate to this. I was just listening to a sermon in the car this week about this topic... and the treatment the pastor gave was so helpful in understanding the context of scripture around women cutting their hair, and it made me feel so much better. Essentially, it is about being obedient and following God's order to things. Men have a place in relation to God, and women have a place in relation to Man. If cutting your hair is an act of rebellion against the natural authority that God set out, then it is against God. In our case, we are not rebelling against God, but dealing with a condition that isn't normal. I did not buzz my hair to make a point or prove I can be like a man, therefore I am not in conflict with God's word. Thank you so much for your comments my sister in Christ. Big hugs to you!
@@heywigsister Amen and yes Ma'am, I too understood that just recently. I'm glad we already know each other in heaven. Hugs and keep posting you're do so much in His service as well.
This brought me to tears. So many emotions. Sadness for you, sadness for me. But also I felt less alone. My bio hair looks exactly like yours did in the beginning of the video. EXACTLY. The sporadic thinning, the wispiness of the remaining hair. To say I can relate to you does not even begin to cover it. Thank you. Thank you for putting this out there. You look beautiful.
Thank you, Erin! Isn't it amazing how alone we thought we were until we found each other on social media? I never knew so many women were experiencing this. Social media has its negatives, but this sisterhood makes up for those 10 fold. It is such a blessing and I am grateful for you and all my sisters! 💕
My heart goes out to you as I watch this because I know exactly what you are going through! I was in the same boat at the beginning of last summer when I buzzed what was left off. There are still some moments I look in the mirror and feel overwhelmed looking at my bald head but mostly I just feel free!!
I definitely am experiencing that. It is already getting easier. Thank you so much for sharing!
You are such a strong woman! Making this video to help others through their struggles speaks volumes. Thank you for having such a kind heart 💖
Thank you so much!!! ❤❤
This was filmed 4 years ago, but it's brand new to me. I am I'm tears. I am SO PROUD of you, Denise. You are so brave. So brave to film this. I could see and feel your grief, and I saw a glimmer of relief, too. So thankful I found you.
I cut all my hair off with scissors literally 1 inch all over 3 weeks sgo with my husband's help. My hair was coming out with the head rash Pityriasis Rosea and getting thinner and thinner and left some bald spots that was devastating. I was so ready and was very surprised when as my husband was cutting, tears were streaming down my face which made it super hard for him. So shocking that I was so emotional. However, BEST THING EVER! Got my head cleared of the rash and washing my head in the shower and plopping on my wig without prep is wonderful. I don't like to walk around the house bare headed either. I always wear knitted slouch hats that I make to match my pjs. Cotton in the summer and wear wigs when dressed. I don't know if I will let it grow again because if it grows it will still be thin. I do feel free and the emotion around it is gone.
Are those emotions so unexpected? I'm so glad he helped you, what a good good man! And I LOVE your homemade knitted hats! They are adorable!
I buzz down with no guards. I love the uniform look of my buzz cut, instead of my balding old man hair. I do it at home myself every week. No appointments, tipping, taking time out of my schedule to go to the hairdresser, or risking everyone in the salon staring. It is freeing!
I love this! I am planning to use a 2 guard the next time and see what happens. Now I have courage, lol! I love how it feels. Thank you so much for sharing! 💕
Oh my sister!!!!
I did this literally just this morning!!!!!
You are so precious for sharing this with us.
I feel better now and don’t have to fuss with hair sticking out. My hair was never thick enough for a ponytail. I have been cutting my hair shorter and shorter like you. This video came on at the perfect time today. God is so good. You are so brave and strong. Love you & appreciate you soooooo much. You are such a precious sister-gift to me. If you are happy, your husband will be happy too, darling girl. My darlin husband is going to be happy if I’m happy. We are going to be okay sweet girl. I would have helped you with buzzing 🥰 so I’m cheering for you & your happiness.
Praying for you both.
Love & Prayers💗💗💗
Thank you so much for your prayers and sharing your experience. You have helped me so much and others who will read your comment. Thank you and God's blessings to you!
I saw an interview with Ricky lake over the weekend, she buzzed her hair. It had been like yours, and she said she felt so much freer now. That’s kind of how I feel. It is hard, you are grieving a loss of part of your body. I’ve buzzed mine three times so far, and unless there’s a big change, I’m going to just keep it this way. For me it’s a lot Easier. The family’s used to it, and I’ve got some great wigs. Thank you Lord! You are awesome, lots and lots of comments, I read them. I’m really happy you did this video. God bless you my friend! (When I buzzed mine, I never even thought of using a guard. This last time I used one, and it didn’t make a difference. I don’t know anything about clippers either. I guess were all on a very similar journey!)
Thank you so much for your wonderful support, Jude. I think I am just going to move down to a 2 guard next time and see what happens. Isn't it amazing how many women this touched? I am both stunned by the number of comments and views and so grateful to God for the strength to share this. Obviously there is a great need to be connected on this and I am so so thankful for this sisterhood. Big hugs to you my friend!
Denise Sheets It’s funny, because this morning I looked in the mirror and thought of you. If you get a chance, look for Ricky Lakes’ interview. She always looks good, but honestly, she looks terrific! The more we talk about this stuff, the better. I discuss it with friends or neighbors when they come. I always wear the same style of wig, Now,. But I, like you, watched a ton of videos to get where I am now. I took myself off of all of the online wig stores, because I was tempted to buy too many. I settled on the kind I feel best (Jett by Estetica), And have 2 in gray & 1 in lilac mist (Sandstone mixed with hints of Lilac)...it feels good to be at this point. I’ll talk to you soon! God bless you as always! I am really happy that so many people are touched by your videos. You speak straight from the heart, and I love the way you always mention that you’re a Christian. You are awesome
Hi Denise, can I just say that I think you look fab with your hair buzzed! It totally suits you. I made this same decision about 5 weeks ago as my hair was so thin. I am now completely bald and feel empowered! At least now when I look in the mirror I see my features instead of obsessing over how little hair I had.Thank you SO much for sharing this, a very brave thing to do. Hugs from Scotland. Debs ❤
Wow- so courageous of you as well! Thank you so much for sharing! Big hugs!
I buzzed mine off too. My hair looks like yours! Thank God we have the wigs to enjoy and make ourselves beautiful! They are a blessing to us!
Yes they are! Congrats on your freedom! I absolutely LOVE having my hair buzzed. TOTALLY!
Thank you Sister! I cried at some point. The struggle is so recognizable. Thanks for not cutting and editing things out. Thiis is so raw and honest and I applaud you for your bravery. You do really look cute by the way with the #3 buzz cut!!!
Thanks for taking this step. I think I am getting ready to do it too. But I think I will ask a stylist. I'm not brave enough to do it alone.
Hugs hugs and more hugs. Denise you are amazing and a true sister to all of us. 😘🌷
Thank you!! I was really surprised by how hard it actually was.... but I'm so glad I have supportive friends like you behind me!
There is strength in knowing we aren't the only ones going through this! How did ladies in the past get through it without the support of others. Thank you!
Gosh, Gail, I have wondered that very same thing!! Honestly, the internet and social media bring so many not so great challenges, but there are so many GOOD things as well, like this sisterhood that we would not have without it. 💕
Every husband/partner of a woman going thru this should watch this video. You are so sincere and honest about your emotions. I don't think men (in general) really understand the struggles and emotions a woman experiences with severe hair loss. My wife has been living with this for probably 30 years and, like your husband, I have been supportive. However, after all this time, this video has brought me to tears thinking of her struggle to deal with this problem. Thank you!!!!
Gosh. Jim.... I cannot tell you how touched I am by your comment. Seriously. It means so much to me to hear a husband's reaction, especially one like this! It reinforces for me my belief that this isn't just happening to us when we are in marriage, and why it is so important to bring our husband's along on this journey with us, even if that means waiting for them to catch up emotionally before doing something drastic like shaving our hair off. Hugs to you and your wife as you go through this together.
Such a real struggle that you showed so genuinely. You look beautiful.
Thank you! ❤
I just washed my hair and decided I would look for something to watch while I dry it and do my best to style it. And there you are talking to your audience and I am talking back to you. Go figure, no one can hear me. But I wished I could help you. You are a brave soul, but you walk through life with Him and draw the courage you need. Such a difficult decision. You'll never know how many you help. You impact so many with your positive nature. You're just as beautiful as ever.❤
Thank you soooo much, Deborah. Your comments always make me smile.
Deborah, beautiful, encouraging words.
First let me say, you are PRECIOUS! I'm just starting my own journey on this hair loss/thinning and the courage (and struggles) you have shown to everyone is such an encouragement to me personally. Yes, I cried. I cried because I know what I'm facing, I cried because I wish I could have been there to help you since I've buzzed/ scissor cut my husband's hair and sons hair for over 25 yrs, and I cried because of just the beautiful soul you are. I absolutely love your videos and just know that you are helping us women more than you realize. I also want to say that I thought it was precious how you were taking into consideration your husband's feelings about this too. Their support means more to us than anybody else's. God bless you and what you are doing for others. Many thanks!
Thank you so so much, Rebecca. Your words are so precious to ME! Gosh it means so much that we support each other through this... thank you for your support. 😍💕
The final result was the best, you look really good. The focus is now on your beautiful eyes and face. The thin wispy hair distracted from your expression and communication.
Thank you thank you!!
You are very brave to share. I’m with you. I felt very similarly. After only a few months from when I started losing it to major loss due to AA, I also buzzed it. I use a 1 guard all over what is left. At first I wore a light scarf or bandana, now I just let it be free. It takes time to adjust and some days are harder than others. You aren’t alone in this.
Hi, Darcie! Thank you so much for sharing... I really do love the way it feels and am getting used to the way it looks. It definitely isn't worse than before, jut different. Thank you so much for taking time to comment, it really helps me to not feel so alone for sure. Big hugs!
You are so, so brave to let us see you and go with you through this journey. It will help so many women. At the end I was shouting, "You look like me!!". I am buzzed all over with just long pieces for side burns. It looks silly as heck but I love the feel of my head after buzzing, love how my wigs fit on my head and showering is a breeze. The only thing I don't like is the way I look and though I mostly feel okay walking around the house, I tend to wear a super soft winter hat or bandana. I just bought a really cute bamboo head scarf. I'll come back and link it. You might love it. It seems like it would be very cool for hotter weather but it's also feminine, which is not an adjective I would use for the winter hat!! Thank you again, so very much. You are a peach. We are lucky to have you in this wig sister community.
Thank you so much for sharing, Tammy! I love that we have each other for support- it makes all of this so much easier!
Hi Denise! I watched your video last night. 3-12-2024. It was a struggle to watch you go through the emotions, because I was right with you last night. I was ready to buzz my hair off. Towards the end when you said maybe wait for someone to help you I took that seriously. However at 1:30 AM I grabbed my hubbys clippers and did it. I feel so much better mentally this morning.
A little backstory is 28 years ago I had brain surgery for a tumor the size of a softball, so huge scar, my hubby was willing to help me, he is a trucker and won’t be home until tomorrow, but like you were very mindful of not freaking your hubby out. I was the same way with what would my scar look like and how I would react to it. If I broke down he would crumble. I did not want to subject him to that. My scar is mostly gone!! You know what I felt pretty for the first time in years, my hair loss was a lot like yours.
Anyway, I learned a lot from this video in terms of the clipper guards. I knew I wanted a buzz so I went with a number 2 guard and it was perfect. Now I have helped hubby buzz his hair so I knew how to work the clippers pretty well. I’m rambling but I wanted to say thank you for your videos, you have made this wig journey so much easier and better for me.
Oh Denise. Thank you for sharing this raw honesty with us -- my heart goes out to you. It makes total sense to me that this would prompt another stage of grieving and feelings of vulnerability. Sending you so much love.
Thank you my friend. 💕 Love right back.
You are so brave to video this process! I'm so proud of you! I've threatened to do this many times! I imagine it will be so freeing! Good for you!💕
Well... my year of threatening to do this is now over, lol! That is one of the best parts... no more wondering about it. 😁
Enjoy your newfound freedom and ease. No more stragglers, pick your wig of the day and go! You have fortitude. 🖒
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You are one brave woman to do this in front of us. So proud of you. You are a beautiful soul both inside and out!
Thank you so much, Rita!
So inspiring! I have been considering the take it off cut too! I'm balding and further damaged my hair by trying to add highlights from my natural 4/6 to blond. My hairdresser said my scalp and greys wouldn't be as obvious.... now what's left is fried.... Thank you, thank you, thank you!
You bet! Thank you for being here and commenting- we can figure this out together for sure!
Honestly at 21:12 through 22 or 23 looked really cute. You could have stopped there. . But you are an amazing beautiful strong woman. So genuine.
Thanks so much for watching and sticking around!!
I am in awe of you Denise! You have helped many, including myself, through our journey. You continue to inspire many, cheers to you! You still look beautiful & God bless you❤️!
Thank you so much, Ann!! Big big hugs!
I am quietly crying for you. My hair looks so much like yours. I think for a woman it’s just gut wrenching to not have hair. It seems so basic to human existence. I’m 70 years old now and have suffered privately most of my adult life. It has affected what I would do and where I would go etc. Like you I’ve hated going to the beauty shop for haircuts. Mostly because others would stare, not my stylist. I’ve been chopping my own for years now. I’m just now considering wigs and it is mostly because of your sweet spirit in your videos. You have given me hope and I’m so grateful. ♥️
❤️❤️Oh Denise...You look beautiful! My heart was with you through this whole video. ( And thumping in my chest) I’ve been cutting my hair shorter each time working up to really buzzing it all off. I don’t let anyone see my head uncovered, even my husband who is always supportive but has no idea what to say because I’m so emotional about the whole thing. I can’t even express what your sharing this with us means to me . You are a bright light in this very difficult journey ❤️
Alice, this was so sweet and I appreciate it so much. This is a difficult journey no question... and to think most of us were going through this alone for YEARS and YEARS! Many people say lots of bad things about social media, and while many of those bad things are true, support like this is definitely a light in a dark journey. Big hugs to you.
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This is the first video of yours that I have watched. Your hair is exactly like mine and I struggle with it everyday. I have absolutely no confidence. I have ordered my first wig and am waiting for it to arrive. I am scared and anxious. I’ve never worn one before and live in an area where people will make comments to me I’m sure, maybe even make fun. I have always wanted to buzz my hair, but my husband doesn’t think I should, but like yours, he would support me. I want to say thanks for this video. I’m just starting this journey, hope it’s good! You are an inspiration to me!
Hi and WELCOME to the wig sisterhood. It can be VERY hard at first, so please be gentle with yourself. If you ever have any questions please do not hesitate to reach out. I am Denise Dancik Sheets on Facebook and Hey Wig Sister on Instagram. Big hugs and please know you are not alone in this!
Yes, girl, YAAAAAAAAASSSSSS! You sharing your internal (and external) process every step of the way is going to help sooo many women, I can't even. This is great, and so are you. xxo
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Such a real moment. Thank you for inviting us in. You are a gem 💎
💕- you are always here to support me and I thank you so much!
Denise Sheets 🤗❤️💎
Denise, thank you so much for sharing this. My heart went out to you as you were shaving your head. You were more methodical than I was and really struggled with how much to cut. You look beautiful. I know when I finally decided to buzz my head I asked my husband what to he thought and he just said go for it. Then, as you know, it took me a while to do it. I remember standing in front of that mirror with the same exact clippers, read the he instructions, put them away and grabbed a #2 guard and went to town...that was it. I didn’t know what I was doing and just began and haven’t looked back since. Then I took a photo of before and after and messaged it to you as I had promised. I must say that I had different emotions than you...for me it was very freeing as each time I looked in he mirror I got depressed. My hair was probably as thin, if not thinner, than yours and I had stopped coloring it because I was just coloring mostly my scalp because my hair was shorter to begin with.
You have helped more people than you can ever imagine by posting this video...you are so special and thank you for sharing your feelings throughout the whole process.
So welcome to the club, girlfriend... I know that very soon you will be saying “I should have done this sooner” promise... but until then, I do hope that your adjustment goes smoothly......hugs and prayers...🥰❤️
oh my friend. you have been so helpful and supportive of me. It means the world to me that you are here on this journey with me. I am 1 week in and it has definitely gotten easier. I love the way it feels and honestly do not think I will ever look back.
Denise Sheets I’m so glad❤️I just did mine again last week...had been trimming in between but did need a full buzz again. This time I did leave more on the sides...hugs🥰. Love you 😍
I have been so much happier since buzzing off my hair. It indeed does eliminate the need for a wig grip. I hadn't realized how much hair I'd lost from the top of my head (I never saw that part of me lol) until our granddaughter took some pics of me looking down as I did something. My wonderful husband always supports me in any-and every- thing. I'm so grateful. So, buzzing my hair off want even an issue. Facing the reality of my hair loss and learning all about wigs and the joy they can bring had been so good for me. 😊 Thank you for all you share, Denise. I'm so glad I found your channel.
Oh my heart...I felt for you thru this entire video. Made me tear up. I could really feel your emotional struggle with this, but I’m happy for you too. My sweet husband has always said I look just fine the way I am, and has always been wonderful in checking me over to make sure I had all of my bald spots covered (even tho there was no way to cover them completely). He was supportive when I decided it was time for a wig, and I always check to see what he thinks about a style or color when I’m shopping. I want him to be as happy with my choice as I am. But in the end he always says whatever I think or like is just fine. He still calls me his beautiful wife. When I felt like I needed to shorten the back of my hair, he did it for me. I wear very short wigs (at the moment) so we even went as far as to completely shave my neck (with clippers and an electric razor) and the lower part of my hair up to just above where the edge of my wig sits. It’s wonderful and REALLY makes my pixie wigs look perfect on my neck! The top of my hair is almost exactly like yours was. I’m also not sure why I keep it, but haven’t been brave enough to suggest cutting it yet. It’s so thin it doesn’t help or hinder wearing my wigs, but I do keep my sides scissor-cut above and around my ears with just a hint of a sideburn for blending too. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for being open and allowing us to live that with you. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for taking time to comment. Your husband sounds like a keeper! Love that he supports you so much- makes all the difference, doesn't it?
Thank you for sharing this with all of us. I love everything you said. I have been so tempted to do this for a long while. My hair is thinning on top and I think about doing it every day. I have a cleft lip and nose (surgically repaired a few times, but not so great results), so my hair has always been the main way for me to feel pretty. Once my hair started thinning, I have become so insecure. We all have our reasons for wanting beautiful hair, which has us make these big decisions. I support you and anyone else who does this. This has helped me get closer to doing it.
You are so good at conveying your message in your videos. You are so inspiring. I’m so happy I found you on youtube and that I subscribed to you. You look beautiful!
((((Lisa))))- that is me giving you a giant hug! One of my best friend's daughter has a cleft lip and pallet and has had numerous surgeries. My heart goes out to you, and I can totally understand how the pain of losing your hair was magnified because of your struggles with that. Thank GOD for wigs, that is all I can say. If you ever need some encouragement please do not hesitate to reach out! I am Denise Dancik Sheets on Facebook and Hey Wig Sister on Instagram. :)
Denise Sheets Thanks so much, and thanks doe the big hug!! 🤗
My heart went out to you Denise, I guess a women's hair is part of out identity & we do care how it affects our partners. I got really fed up with my grey/brown thinning hair the other night I grabbed some scissors & cut out all the brown, when my husband got home he looked & said "bit short isn't it", but was ok with it. When you cut the rest of your hair it really looked good, in fact it looked less patchy.
Take care 💞
Thank you for sharing your own experience! Big hugs to you on your journey, Barbara! 💕
Oh my gosh, I had a hard time watching this. It didn't show on your face but you said you were struggling and I felt it. I have to say though that I thought you looked super cute at every stage. I'm not ready to do this and don't know if I ever will be, but sometimes i think how much easier it would be! Thanks for sharing this. I really felt like I was right there with you and I just wanted to give you a hug!
Thank you Cindy! Hug felt through your comment. You are the best and I am so glad to be on this journey with you.
You did great. I think you made the right choice. It looks easy to care for and tuck in your wig easily. Good luck! Pretty lady!
Thanks! I'm loving it!
Denise you are such beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I buzzed my hair about 4 months ago and at times I think about letting it grow back, but I know I will never feel as pretty with my own hair as I do with wigs so what’s the point. And it definitely is much easier to wear wigs without hair! Besides not feeling comfortable wig-less around the house, the only other drawback for me is my head against the pillow when I’m trying to sleep feels “pokey” and cold. I’ve been wearing a hoodie to sleep and that seems to be working for now. Praying that your husband feels better about your decision soon. Hugs. 💖
Hi, Jacie! I wonder if you cut your hair shorter than I did, or if your hair is more course? Mind is so soft and baby fine and thankfully I have not had any pokey feeling yet (I was worried about that, actually). I am also more comfortable wearing it around the house now and am so grateful for that (it has been 1 week). I am sitting here right now wigless as a matter of fact. :) Big hugs to you as well!
I feel fortunate that my husband was willing to do this for me. It was far from a perfect job but it just felt better getting it all off. The sides grew back out pretty quickly. I'm overwhelmed by your courage to do this and post the video! I love your heart!
Thank you so much, Janis! That was so awesome of your husband. Mine has come around, and even said it doesn't look that bad... progress!
I'm so proud of you for having enough courage to do this and film it at the same time. There is no way that I would have had the courage to do that a year ago wen I buzzed nine. In my experience with little to no natural hair, I got some really cute, lightweight turbans to wear around the house without a wig. That was for my husband more than me but he got used to it and now, I don't wear anything. My hair is about 3 inches long now but I am going to keep the nape shaved. I will say that leaving some hair on the temples for blending is a good choice, I did miss that when I wore a wig that didn't have great coverage. You will be so glad you did it in the summer though. When people say they get really hot in the summer, I didn't understand it because I buzzed my hair a month into my wig journey. The summer is great with little to no hair. So proud of you my dear friend!
I am loving it and have zero regrets! I love the way it feels, I just wish it would help cool me off, lol!! Thank you for being there for me the night before, you are the best and I love you so much my sweet friend. 💕
Great video. You are so brave. I shaved my head last year. My husband helped even though he misses my bio hair. There were benefits, but also some things I missed, so I have been letting my hair grow, but keeping it at jaw length. My husband just walked in as I was watching this video. He said, "You're not going to shave your head again, are you? Because your hair is looking really good right now," as he reached out to touch my hair. I replied, "Ummm, hon, I am wearing a wig."
Oh my gosh, I laughed out loud!! Thank you for sharing and the giggle! That must have been a really great wig, lol!
LOL! Great story!
@@heywigsister It was my really old Avalon (Aspen when I purchased her) that I only wear around the house now.
@@janean3773 I was so amazed.
Hi Denise
I am amazed by your strength! You are so pretty it does not matter, hair or very short hair!!! So sweet and helpful! You are great!!! I truly believe you did the right thing!
Thank you so much, Katherine! I really really appreciate it. I am 1 week in and have no regrets :) 💕
Oh Denise, I am sending hugs to you! Yes, I am struggling with this. A few months ago I cut mine short, but haven’t been able to get to buzzing yet. Seems like I am about 6 months behind you but on the same track. Thank you sooooo much for sharing!!! You are so amazing and brave! I am so inspired by you! Just sending love to you for all you do!
I just love that you are right here with me. Thank you so much for your love through all the comments you post. Big hugs, and I'm so glad we are in this together.
Congratulations for your courageous decision! I can appreciate all you're going through, totally! Because I'm going down that road too. I've been my husbands barber for 40 yrs as he lost his hair. I wish i could have helped you out by doing your buzz. I think it will be difficult just to manuver the clippers on my own head! Just because it feels ackward & its hard to see! Good for you, & everything gets easier with practice. Courage is what you showed us, thank you for that. Simplifying the "process" of wearing & just putting on our wigs is what I'm hoping for too. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
You are so so welcome, Gail! This community and the support we get from our sisters makes a game changing difference, don't you think? Big hugs!
After watching you review Wigs and talking a little bit about your journey for the last few months I came to watch all of these and man is it emotional! I hope you know how many people you are helping! You are very very brave. ❤
I think you are beautiful.. & have a great shaped head!! You did not make a mistake deciding to take the plunge!! Congrats on making the decision & thank you for sharing this journey!!❤️
Thank you thank you! I am so appreciative of the feedback.
Denise, I have always enjoyed your honest reviews and heartfelt advice. I am in awe of you and your bravery. This video really shows all the emotions one goes through with our crazy hair issues but showing us that maybe baby steps is the best way for most of us. I too started wearing wigs about the same time as you and I too am thinking of doing the same. Thank you... Thank you!! You are a beautiful soul.
Gale- you are definitely not alone in this and I appreciate your comments so much! If you need to chat about this at all please don't hesitate to reach out. I am Denise Dancik Sheets on Facebook, and heywigsister@gmail.com on email if you aren't on FB. :)
Thank you for your courage, Denise. I can really relate to how you feel especially when you are trying to consider your husband in the process. I hope this turns out to be a great thing for you. Please keep us posted ❤️- Melissa
I will for sure! I am 1 week in and loving the way it feels, and getting more and more used to how it looks. I feel kind of bad ass, actually, lol.
Denise, it looks better super-short-Demi Moore-ish! 😉 This summer you'll be cool & free! Try bigger earrings...and why not try Topix (sp?) on top if you want a thicker look around the house? Your eyes look larger! Thank you for being YOU!
Janean- I definitely am glad I did this now so I have time to get used to it before summer and figure out what length is best. I used Toppik for 18 years prior to finding wigs... I am so done with that stuff, lol. I would rather just be brave and go with nothing than ever use Toppik again. Maybe I will!
It must feel so free and be so easy. I struggle with mine everyday so I envy you having made this decision and to film it too. Thank goodness we live in a time where wigs and toppers are just so pretty and look and feel great. Hugs!
Yes- it is DEFINITELY free and easy! I am 1 week in and love how it feels. Getting used to how it looks still, but it feels so great that I really don't care how it look!
First you are very brave and thank you for including us in the experience. I did it to. I cried because it is a new awareness regarding hair loss. Then you feel a great freedom and pleasure of not dealing with the hair. Many thanks for all your truthful reactions regarding this event. Relax and enjoy. It is just another part of the journey.
Thank you so much, Henrietta! I truly appreciate you taking time to comment.
I buzzed mine back when I started wearing wigs full time, and I went public with my buzzed head a week ago. It's been amazing - so much that I'm taking a break from wigs for now! You're fantastic, love your videos.
Really? That's AWESOME! Way to go! I am thinking I may need to go with my buzzed hair to the beach this summer, we will see! And THANK YOU for the super nice compliment, Big hugs!
Sending you hugs Denise! No matter how much we have accepted our journey, there are times that catch us unaware that provide us a newfound sense of loss.. but how great is the sensation wearing a wig afterwards. My partner had also shaved mine the first few times with clippers. You will find more comfort and strength if you just charge forward, your husband will understand soon, but this is ultimately your journey and choice 💗
Kim, I so appreciate you taking time to comment. I am certain Chad will come around soon, he hasn't said anything at all about it, and doesn't seem upset or taken aback. He sees how much better I feel and I've commented multiple times on how much less sensitive my scalp is, so he gets it. Hope you are having a great week and welcome to the weekend!
Oh wow Denise, you are so brave! Good for you! I felt everything, every emotion, just as if I was there with you! I just know you are going to love it!
I cut mine super short this morning, was so tired of messing and tucking the thin, straggly mess. I was like you about asking myself, why are you letting it grow so long? I havent "fixed" it or not worn a wig since July. So I wacked it off. Feels much better. Cant wait to see how you like yours.
Hi, Emily! Thank you so much for your support! I am 1 week in and so far so good. It is getting easier to see it everyday and I LOVE the way it feels!
I have androgenic alopecia too and listening to your story gave me the courage to buzz mine finally. I figured it looked terrible anyway so buzzing it couldn't be any worse and I have a wig to cover it up. It was so depressing taking a shower everyday and having to clear the drain. My Husband actually suggested it and has been so supportive. He took it better than I did. It is freeing but not brave enough to go out of the house without a ballcap. I think the fear of always having to explain it to people or getting looks makes it harder to embrace it. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and all the wig reviews which have been so helpful in picking the right color. You have been such a blessing to us that needed someone that understands.
I think you are incredibly brave and I could feel your heart in this video. The end result looks great.
Thank you so much, Paula!
Ahh hon' - I remember the sinking feeling I got when I shaved mine for the first time. Big lump in my throat. But it is soooo much easier, and really, it looks better than the pathetic amount of stringy thin hair I had. Hugs to you - you'll be fine and before you know you it you'll be saying "why didn't I do this sooner"! Promise!
❤❤ I have a feeling you are right!
Kelly that's a great way to describe it..."a sinking feeling". I agree it does look better and mine was just a reminder of what was and would never be.
Thank you so much for sharing this very personal experience with us. A lot of us are going through similar struggles. You have helped me think through the process. Again, thank you!
You are so welcome! I am so glad it was helpful and please know you are not alone!!
Take your time, every few weeks it will get easier. You remind me of me, All through this video. You're a Doll! Soldier on!
Geri, you are so sweet! I am 1 week in as I type this and things are getting easier and easier! I don't see myself ever going back.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for sharing such a personal journey with us. I’m so grateful for your courage. Thank you Denise. You are a blessing to all of us. This has been or will possibly be a part of our own journey some day. I think about shaving my head, a lot. Not quite there yet, but like you, some has to do with my husband. He’s not on board with it yet. He’s been so wonderful and very support of my wigs, but this is a little tougher for him. Thank you again for your bravery and willingness to share such a personal journey. I know as I watch this over and over, it will help build my courage. 💕💕💕
Michelle, there is no rush. It took me a year to get here, and my husband is doing very well with it. We all progress at our own pace, but knowing we have sisters who get it and will support us makes all the difference. If you ever need to chat about this I am here!
Denise Sheets Thanks so much Denise 😀. You’re the best 💕💕
I really love the shaved look it actually looks better in my opinion x little tip is to make sure u keep the guards on your head as you’re cutting so u r feeling the comb bit and yes go diff ways with it around the bottom as with me I have waves so I need to go a diff direction with the clippers to make sure it gets the hair.
I applaud you for making this decision xx
Thank you so much for the tips and the support!
Well done Denise 👏👏 you look so much better plus now you don't have to deal with hair loss if that makes sense. I definitely think you'll feel better in the long run 👍😘💞
Hi, Clara! I am one week in and have no regrets at all! 💕
Yay you! I'm not married, but certainly would have considered my husband's opinion and feelings if I were. It's a bold move, buzzing your hair off, but I haven't regretted it for a second. It does take a little time to adjust your self-image and that is more challenging since we change wigs too! Which image is the "real" me? All of them!
I could feel you Denise. When I did it, I mourned, because it was a part of me. It is painful to see this. Every time I do this, it is hard to look at myself. It was even harder to see my hair. So thin and fine. Alopecia sucks. I am so grateful for wigs. Believe it or not, it is better to shave it off. Like you did. I am proud of you. Well done Denise.
Thank you so much, Karin. Isn't is surprising how much this impacts us? We think we have accepted our hairloss, but this brings us right back. Big hugs to you on your journey. We are definitely in this together without question. 💕
@@heywigsister I have stated to get scarves and now I tie it around my head, and it makes me look pretty. I try to figure out interesting ways. Colour coded the works! Now I can face my husband as well. I have struggled a lot with this, and then one day, I realised that to God I am perfect. And it was then that I realised that my hair does not define who I am. I fell I love with wearing wigs, and now I wear it proudly, and besides, now I can wear all the styles that I have always admired on others and wanted. Now it is fun. And I got that peace that was always eluding me. It is only when I shave my head, that the hurt of loss sometimes catches me unaware. But then I put on my happy scarves, and soon I forget about it. I love your videos, I want to do it here in South Africa. No one does it here, and then my journey will be full circle. I feel so grateful to have "discovered" you. God bless Sister!
You are a brave lady. I paid 20.00 plus tip (and to sit in a public salon and have everyone watch, women that have no clue what it is like to have hair loss.) just to have my hair shaved in the back and the front kept a little wisps just like you said to leave out around the sides of your head for wig edge cover ups. Well, you just upped the game by doing this yourself. Such great support you just gave me personally. My hair is growing , well some hair, and it is getting in the way again on top. I just might take the plunge myself. My husband too might not appreciate a buzz cut, but what is a girl to do? Thank you.
Thank you for sharing! I can't imagine which is harder, doing it yourself or going somewhere with someone you don't know. I will tell you- it has been 1 week and I am loving it! I am more comfortable wearing it around the house already, and almost more comfortable than pre-buzz. Today my husband and I were talking about going to breakfast- I had my makeup on and was all ready but no wig yet and I said "don't worry, I'm putting a wig on" and he shrugged his shoulders and said "eh, doesn't look that bad". WHAT?? Didn't take him long to get on board, lol.
I’ve finished watching the video and YOU LOOK MARVELOUS!!!!
Thank you so much!
Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest. When you said, “it’s like dealing with the hair loss all over again.” That’s been my greatest reservation in buzzing because I feel like I’m in a good place mentally I don’t want it to bring it all up again.
It was so weird and unexpected, but I got over it VERY quickly and now I am loving it. I am more comfortable wearing my buzzed hair around the house than I was before, oddly enough.
Denise first I want to say you are absolutely beautiful with or without your hair. Thank you doesn't do you justice for sharing your journey with all of us women going through the exact same thing you are. You are so sweet and brave for sharing something so raw with the world and for that I applaud you! I have been struggling with making this same decision for several months now. I am a bigger girl and am afraid shaving my hair off will only emphasize that more. But I'm losing it anyway any watching that in the mirror every day is so depressing. After watching your video I think I'm ready. My only wish is I was as beautiful as you are. You look amazing in every wig you put on. Hair or no hair your husband is a lucky man because you are beautiful sister! Thank you again for sharing and all the videos you do. God Bless you.
You are ahhmazing!!! You're right, it's hair. I see mine slowly falling out every day and I still have hair. I know if it continues to thin wigs will be my answer. And yes, I will buzz mine off if and when the time comes. You look beautiful!!!!! Your beauty is not your hair. It's you!! All you!!!!!
Oh my gosh you are so sweet! Thank you! ❤
God love you sweetheart - such a hard thing to do the first time, and you did it beautifully. For me, that mourning feeling happened only the first time. After that, it has felt empowering - accept the loss, take control and move on. One tip: keep the long flat part of the guard flush against the head for trimming to a consistent length. When you lift the guard off the head a 1/4 - 1/2 inch, the clipper is not making contact and cutting a consistent length. I use 1-inch all over, leaving 3-4 inches at my widow' s peak and at the temples for blending. I let it grow out to 2-3 inches and live with that for awhile, then cut it back again. You look beautiful in the final result - confident and strong.
Thank you so much for the tips! I plan to go down to a 2 guard the next time and see what that does, and will keep your tips in mind. THANK YOU SO MUCH! ❤️
I literally watched about a 1/4 of your video, paused it, and went into the bathroom and buzzed mine all off. Okay, I can honestly tell you, I think it looks better than my thin stringy hair. I'm almost as thin as you, the only difference is I still have quite a lot of hair at the back. So I used to cut my brother, and my husbands and my son's hair (not a hair dresser though). I have a little experience with clippers. My advise is push the flat of the clipper comb against your scalp. When you work your way up, follow the curve of your head but go straight up. Try not to do a scooping motion. That way you can keep the top longer if you wish. I started mine that way awhile ago, then just now took the rest off.
Wow- you are awesome! Thank you so much for the tips- I will take your advice the next time. Hugs to you!
You did a fantastic job it actually looks very good...... I highly commend you for your bravery I know you were nervous but God had your back.... God Bless you are a wonderful lady keep your videos going.....
Thank you so much Veronica! I so appreciate your comments, God bless you for being so supportive!
You won't regret it, but if you do, it can grow back! I buzzed mine several months ago. It was hard and it looks uneven and awful. But nobody sees it but me and the dog. I wear wigs and hats and caps outside. You are right, it is very hard to see what you are doing. They say to move the blade against the way the hair grows, but I have swirls all over. So I think cutting all over is the only way. I use no guards at the hairline in back. Every month or so, it starts getting long and fuzzy and I buzz it again. Always feels freer. You can get knit slouchie caps at Amazon that are really great and keep your head warm in winter.
1 week in and no regrets! Thank you so much for taking time to comment. PS: I am always so hot and this hasn't really made a difference in that. I'm bummed!
Oh well done you ❤️ I felt so emotional during this video mainly because this huge decision along with all the thoughts & grief it brought out & you were on your own with it. The end result looks great & I felt liberated for you. When you wear wigs anyway why not make it easier for yourself & like you commented, it’s hair!, it will grow!
You have much support from your friends & subscribers, many of who can feel exactly what you were feeling.
Thank you for sharing this experience with us & be kind to yourself you’re fabulous 😘🤗❤️ xx
What a wonderful comment! Thank you so much! It means the world to me to know my sisters are here with me. Big hugs from me to you!
You are really keeping me going through my journey, I have fine thinning hair, mine is the same as yours but a little thicker on top. Iv only just started wearing wig this month, we are now 6 weeks into lockdown in UK. Iv now watched your second video and your inspiring me to do a sponsored head shave as you have said it feels better under your wigs, it grows back as you say but wearing wigs anyway. I love watching your videos, I hope your staying safe xx
Thank you so much for commenting.... I love hearing about people's journeys.... how is the wig wearing going? Have you found one you like? That can be so hard in the beginning.... hugs! You got this!
@@heywigsister hi Denise, thank you for replying, I have Kai and evanna from René of Paris, I'm in love with Kai! Its the style iv always wanted but could never get my bio hair to get to, evanna is a love/hate relationship at the moment but I think that's because iv never actually had that amount of hair lol stay safe love from Scotland x
Thanks for posting this video Denise! I have been planning to buzz my hair, but have wanted to wait until after an upcoming surgery. Well... Surgery postponed, so, this weekend might be the time! 👏🙌😍
My husband keeps asking me when I'm pulling the trimmers out, he wants to do it. I'm so blessed with a man that is on board for anything that makes me happy.😁
Now THAT is a good man! Please let me know if you do it and how it goes! I am 1 week in and feel much more secure in it now. Feels GREAT!
You're fabulous. Just fabulous!!! I've been thinking about doing this forever. This has helped me so much. Thank you!!!!
I'm so glad! Thank you SO MUCH for taking time to comment, Sunshine!
Thank you for sharing! I'm in the same boat as you were (almost) prior to the buzz. Is it itchy? That's my biggest concern about buzzing it all off...having an itchy head. I went to my stylist in November to have a cut and what bothered me the most were the STARES from customers/other stylists! It's kept me from going back. No, I don't have cancer and I'm not dying...I have no idea what went through their heads (and I don't care) but I can tell you being stared at is pretty uncomfortable. MUCH more uncomfortable than buzzing it all off and letting the remainder of my hair go...I think I have less hair than you do! :) But there are bamboo sleep caps and yoga turbans that you can buy to wear around the house when you want to go without a wig! Fabulous products. I admire your courage and willingness to share. It's a journey we're each taking in our own way. Thank you for being such a brave soul and taking us with you on this newest venture. Take care.
So far not itchy at all. My scalp actually feels so much better. Thank you so much for your message!
I'll be 65 next week. I've always been a dishwater blonde with curly hair. I highlighted for years. A few years ago I stopped coloring my hair when I began seeing a little grey. I wanted to go grey gracefully without roots and I was actually looking forward to it. I never expected my hair to start falling out. I'm in tears seeing you say goodbye to your hair and imagining that I might have to do it too. In the grand scheme of things, it ain't nothin' but a thing but, yeah it is isn't it? Thanks for being so brave and showing us the way.
Thank you for your courage in sharing your experience with us. You're an inspiration.
Thank you so much, Barbara!
Thank you for sharing your experience. I needed this support in knowing there is someone else thinking and going through the same range of emotions as I am. This video was so liberating and healed my soul. I'm buzzing my hair tonight. I'm tired of the roller coaster of emotions seeing my bio hair in such a state. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Hi! Did you do it? How did it go and how are you doing now? I'm so sorry I didn't respond sooner, and just doing some catching up on comments. HUGS!!!
I’ve contemplated it too. I have taken a long time to grow it out long to hide the bald spots I do have. Right now, I can still pull it back in a ponytail to hide the spots but it’s getting harder and harder to hide them. If I shave my hair off it would have to be dull on Mr Clean shave due to the bald spots.
I would say as long as your bio hair is serving a purpose, even if it is a small imperfect purpose, you might want to wait on the shaving. :) just my 2 cents.
I wanted to advise you to cut the top with scissors first into a pixie type cut. Then use your clippers to gradually take down the sides and back. I find the clipper guards to be a huge pain and give you uneven areas, so just use a larger sized blade and buzz what and how much you want...I think cutting it all was a wonderful it very stressful idea! Whew.....I really need to buzz mine again as it’s growing in like cotton candy not the pixie look I once had. ha! Hope your hubby warms up to seeing your cute new look.
Thanks Terrie! This is one time I wish I had chosen to go live, lol!!
Hi Denise I commend you on taking this step. It's hard and as much as we know we are suffering hair loss, for some reason it's so difficult to let go and cut off what's left. Why is that? We are wearing wigs after all and the main reason is to cover up our hair loss and to feel better about ourselves right? I felt for you the entire time - do I, dont I? Cut the back, leave the top? And yes I was telling you from the other side of the screen, cut it all off! Only because through all your emotions, I know you will feel better for doing it. You've let go, now you can move on. And for your husband, he'll come round. If he sees you are happy, he too will be happy. Tx for sharing this personal and emotional experience. It could have taken 3 hours, I still would of watched supporting you from the other side of the screen! X Sandy
Thank you so much, Sandy. My husband has already come around which is so great! Big hugs and thank you so much for your support.
Omg! Denise, I am doing the Exact Same thing with my hair! From the little ponytail in the back to the baseball cap to cutting the ponytail shorter and shorter to the hair loss every time I shower!! I have been thinking about buzzing my hair for the very same reasons. My hair loss is a bit more advanced. I spend a lot of time at the beach in the summer and I don’t think I could stand the heat in a wig though 😥. Thank You for this video!!! Xxx’s 🙏🏻💖💖
You bet! I think I am going to try to be brave and go to the beach with just my bio hair this summer. We will see!
I just touched mine up. This time I shaved all around the sides with my longest clipper guard. I really prefer a fade at the nape. I left the top this time. My thinning is distributed all over with a little extra in the crown and temples. I got tired of it reminding me what is not there. I think what you are experiencing sounds like what I went through after shaving the first time. Remember you’re beautiful inside and out 💕 I think you look so cute!
Thank you so much my friend!
You did really great, Denise! I have thought and thought about doing this. The problem for me is I can't do it myself because I have tremors, so my hands won't be still. I could never get the nerve to go to a salon to have it done either. Thank you so much for sharing with us! ❤️
Oh, Doris... my heart goes out to you. Thank you for commenting, and I will pray that someone in your life will be able to give you a hand with this when you are ready. I would totally help you if you lived in the Minneapolis area ❤️
@@heywigsister you are so precious. God bless you for your kind heart. I need bangs, so I'm glad to see more wigs with bangs coming out. I also have been diagnosed with CIDP and I have carpal tunnel in both hands. The disease and issues with my hands limit me on what I can do with any wig I choose. However, I'm still so grateful to have a wig to cover my terribly thinning hair. 💇 🥰
I watched this video again. You inspire so many of us!
The problem with the ponytail is what I'm going through also! I've lost most of my hair in the nape area. I believe wearing a ponytail does pull my hair and it's especially sensitive in that area! I really noticed it in my previous wig I wore for 3 years. It was a Gabor which had a lot of permatease in the nape which caused me to itch all the time!
You look stunning with your shaved head! (big applause!) 💖
@@DorisHayesGibson Thank you thank you!
@@DorisHayesGibson There are definitely more wigs with bangs. Can you cut a dirty bang with your carpal tunnel? Wigs by Patti's Pearls has a great video and it is really easy and just one or two snips.
I did shave my head years ago. I loved it but it’s hard. I still shave my head once a month. Not the sideburns. I just trim them. It did take me awhile to be comfortable with myself.
Yes, that is what I'm experiencing. I really love having the hair gone, visually it is taking time.
Good for you Denise...... I've been struggling with the same thing for years and am getting close to shaving my head too as I don't really know which makes me more upset, to take the plunge or to avoid even looking at myself in the mirror without my wig on. I have a friend (a barber) who has helped me with my hair issues for years and I may have her do it first and then maintain it with the clippers after. I NEVER leave the bathroom in the mornings without my 'hair' on as being nearly bald is one of the hardest things I've had to deal with in my life. I know it's not fatal and I'm thankful for that, but still...... I admire your courage to deal with this stuff publically. I cannot. I have a sweet partner who loves and accepts me as I am, but how I feel about myself is something yet to be conquered.
I completely relate to your comment "I know its not fatal".... yes, we can be grateful for that but that doesn't mean it is easy. I definitely think you should have your friend help you, it will be so much easier the first time. That was the one thing missing in my whole plan. Now that I"m there it is all good, but having help would have probably gotten me there quicker. ❤️
Wow this is emotional for me bc I went through this also. I just couldn’t take the constant hair loss and it just wasn’t working I couldn’t deal with it.
I also wondered what if I’m too tired for a wig or I don’t want my husband to see me totally buzzed/bald. He did not like me doing it-but it’s my head & I couldn’t deal with the toppers bc it was so painful & yes I get very hot also-like heat stroke 🥵 hot.
BUT…I went for it and it was so liberating. It felt so much cooler and I let my daughter watch & made it fun & felt she learned an important lesson- it’s just hair!
What’s on the inside matters so much matter than what is on the outside. Not to say we don’t want to look nice, but at the end of the day your inner beauty shines so very brightly!
Thank you for this. I’m loving going through all of your videos.
You are brave, sweetheart. I totally would like to hug you right now and thank you for being YOU. And for the record, you look great! Much, much love xxxx
I can feel the virtual hug! :) Lots of love and hugs right back!
You are so brave. I was crying
Thanks, Kathy. I just kept reminding myself that I have so many sisters on my side and so many that just need to feel connected through our shared experiences and that helps me press on. 💕
Sweetie, I am so sorry for your situation. I have been losing my hair for many years, but I am still limping along with my bio hair. My hair loss is due to diabetes, anesthesia and genetics. You are certainly going through the grieving process again. You are among friends here and we love you hair or no hair.
Thank you so much, Joan! I love the support from this community. Big hugs!
I know my situation is a bit different than yours, although my hair had gotten pretty thin before my cancer diagnoses. My hubby shaved my hair for me. He is so wonderful. My friend and I were just talking about loving our bald heads, at chemo on Wed. It is so easy to shower and get ready. We will see how mine grows back in, but if it is real thin, I may keep mine shaved and wear my wigs. You are beautiful inside and out , no matter what. I like your hair shaved even better than before! It looks cute!
Thank you! How are things going? Are you hanging in there with the chemo and everything. You are in my continued prayers. Lots and lots of hugs.
@@heywigsister thank you for the prayers! I feel them! I have two more short treatments then they will do my surgery. The surgeon did an ultrasound Wed and cannot see any cancer! God is so good!
@@Brandi62 awesome!!!!
I recently got sick of my thin cotton candy hair and buzzed it. I recently started wearing wigs and it is so much easier and much more comfy without it. My kids are having a hard time with me thinking I have lost my mind. I happen to live it. ❤️
I'm so glad my family just goes with the flow.... although I can see how they might think I am a bit loony about all this at times.
I laughed. I cried. You are my hero! Thanks so much for sharing this with us. My hair loss is similar to yours and I have considered doing this too. I've never had short hair, and I don't really like short hair. My husband is supportive, but he has ttold me that he wished I didn't have to wear a wig. I think he is more upset over my hair loss than I am, and I don't know how he would feel if I did this.
Oh, Marie! You are such a good friend! Isn't it amazing how much this impacts our husbands? I get that it is our head and our decision, but they are a part of us and it is so important we bring them along on this journey as best we can. Big hugs to you!
You are so incredibly brave. I have been slowly cutting my hair shorter and to see you do this makes me want to just get it over and done with. (Tbh I think doing it slow is more for my family). But anyway, thank you for sharing your journey with us, you're amazing and have given me so much inspiration.
PS - Don't worry about the video being long or feel like you took too long, there's no such thing when you're making decisions like this. This journey is a tough one
Thank you so much! I so appreciate your comments and support. ❤