You nailed 3 of 4. 1: less time and communication together 2: less intimacy 3: trust your gut: kisses with no passion. Less sex. Forgetting about me when i got very ill. I am not sure why i am so upset, when I knew it. But I am. I am going for a run as we speak.
Yes went through this with my soon to be ex wife from the start of the 2021 through to end of May when her affair came to surface . All the lies she told came out too so that’s why I choose to divorce her ass quick smart even though she didn’t want one
Very good video and those of us who have and or are dealing with this currently, much appreciated. My situation was very different. With my last gf, there were absolutely no signs. The relationship seemed so perfect. She just came out one day and admitted everything. The reason / the clues I picked up on as far as why she screwed up were so ridiculous that those were the last things I expected. Problem with cheaters is they should know who they want to be with before committing themselves because if they're going to get with people and start cheating on the side, they're just wasting a ton of time. Time is very important.
I’ve been accused of cheating for years when I never have, and it’s videos like this that really solidify it with the other person if they come across it. I get people who have the suspicion need somewhere to find that information, but being someone on the other end, these videos were often sent to me and it was so frustrating. Mind you, I’ve been definitely going through a lot of emotions with him because he did somethings that really pushed me away, but I stayed in the relationship because I believed in him and that it would pass… instead, he came up with the theory I was being unfaithful to rationalize why I was distant with him.
I’m so glad I saw your post. I’ve had suspicions for almost a year that my wife may be cheating (she does show possible signs based upon signs to look for); however, I’ve asked her twice now (once in counseling) and she has said no both times and got upset this past time in counseling that I thought that. I keep coming back to these videos, which I know can be helpful, but I also don’t want to push her away, as I feel our relationship of 16 years is finally taking a turn for the better. Your post makes me rethink bringing it up again.
In my case, it was only 1 sign. She was overly protective with her cellphone, and she didn't let me look at it when I was close to her. Her "new" boyfriend actually contacted me because he was able to check her phone and discovered she had a chat with me that had been going on for multiple years and sent me like 20 proofs of her cheating on me. He didn't even know I existed. It hurts like hell of course. She was still very physical with me and still said she wanted to spend a lot of time with me. Why would I suspect, right? I feel very dumb
Thanks Danny For me been there done that ,I'd rather cuddle with a cactus tree than be in a relationship that I know is toxic and will eventually have a nuclear melt down . First time you get cheated on changes you forever .
What if someone who is cheating on his / her gf/bf watching this video n then they know how to not let their partner know that they r cheating on them😅, because now they know what is the sign of cheating.
3/3/22 Danny great topic. I slightly thought this after first . But your theories quickly eliminated that thought. I am currently going through a no contact
I am trying to move past and fix my relationship from my girlfriend who is cheating on me. My morals before this happened were if someone you are with Cheated on you , you should leave them. Now that I know that infidelity happened I feel different from what my morals were. I am currently staying with my partner . ? What kind of man does this make me?
Hi Dee, changing your stance or perspective on something doesn't make you less of a man, it is an indication of empathy and growth. However, if you are sacrificing your core values... then I would re-evaluate. Infidelity is difficult to navigate, but it is possible if both parties agree to do the work. - Coach Danny
@@HappilyCommitted my core values after this are changing. I don’t feel like I lost my core values . Does that mean I am sacrificing it? Or should I still re-evaluate?
I was exactly like you,had high morals,but when the immoral happens to you,it changes you.its called trauma bonding,research it and you will understand this happens to us empathy.good luck my friend and just remember, there is a way out
You are in denial and finding it hard to let go. It happens all the time to the person cheated on. No matter how much you try, you can't trust her again and that will not change. The thought will be worse whenever she's not with you or for instance, takes a little longer to get home even if it was that she was caught in traffic. You have to also accept that cheating on you has changed the dynamics of your relationship with her and it will never be the same again. Besides, one day, she may find you boring and while you are reeling in pain, she will leave you and move on with her life.
It means nothing as far as you being a man....after 17 years I found out the ugly truth about my ex. She has been cheating on me the entire time with multiple men and hid all of it. She hid it very well gave no hints, consistent behaviors and actions all these years until she slipped one time. Its pretty dam concrete and no one with a mind would let it go. She contracted h.p.v. from an abnormal pap smear and told me about it. Knowing I'm she's the only woman I have been with and this has never happened to either of us in the past. Gave her the benefit of the doubts by doing my research on H.P.V. and considering the facts with all the possible circumstances in our situation. Fuck no, I'm confident and sure. I interrogated her endlessly to the point where she started blaming me for it and many attempts she tried gaslighting me saying its all in my head, let it pass, it happens to everyone, it's normal, I'm delusional. Bullshit! This behavior was out of character and she denied, denied and denied cheating. I showed up to her work randomly and the look I got from her face was shock when I walked in. She quickly sent a message on her phone and put it in her desk out of my sight. This was my giveaway. I asked waiting for someone to have lunch with or see? No, of course. Hmm....I wanted to see why you don't call on your lunch anymore and why you wait all day to message me and also why all of a sudden you have to stay late at work when the reasons you give me are not even under your job title. I told her to save it. If her words can't tell me she will in her actions and she did. I was right. It's in your best interest to not trust someone willing to hurt you like this. There is no excuses. She didn't take you seriously, she didn't care enough to go thru with what she did or is doing, trust me your not a thing just an after thought and it's only the second she has to face you again does this come out.....if you believe she is sorry and remorseful and shows it by putting the work in immediately like right this second and follows thru with no confrontations or defensiveness you might have a chance. This has to be consistent on her part and she must keep you updated and posted about gaining your trust back. Any slight off of this trail.....your only setting yourself up for more heart break I can promise you that. Don't be stat. Love yourself and know there is better out there waiting for you.....
I can’t tell if she is or not. Idk if it’s my anxiousness or gut saying WARNING ⚠️ but it definitely feels like it, she texts her co worker and the way it sounds like it’s flirting. She says she isn’t. And that she’s a friendly person, but idk what to believe.
Yes. She locked her phone up tight. Would hide. The screen. Not show me messages. It never rang. All sounds were turned off etc. The the verbal , emotional and sometimes she would physically hit me . Pull my hair. Call me names. Horrible insults etc
I get all the same things except the name-calling and hitting.. and insults.. Here's a trick.. Ask to borrow her phone.. put yours on charge.. allow her to unlock it and use the "calculator".. see how she reacts.
My girlfriend recently hid the fact that she was in a romantic relationship prior to s friendship with this girl. The girl now has a boyfriend and they went through an ugly breakup. I get a message on FB that my gf was planning to leave me and they hsve been talking etc. My gf admitted to me when confronted that they had a prior relationship but it just wasnt there for her. I could tell in her vouce that she was totally guilty of something and thenshe was full if anxiety after i confronted her and wanted me to block the boyfriend and not have any further communication. She told me that this girl still had a thing for her tho. And I really feelthat my gf actually considered this girl and kept her onthe backburner bc we hit a rocky patch for like 2 weeks. I left the decision up to my gf if she still would remain friends with this girl even tho I am totally not comfortable with that. My gf did decide to break ties. I just ferl like there is still more to it that she is hiding.
Thank you for reaching out, Nathan. I understand how you're feeling. ⭐ Want To Tell Us More About What You Are Going Through? Call Our Hotline Now 👇:786.635.8373 Coach Natalie
Iactually used this method of yours back then on my freaking big fat liar ex girlfriend . first i caught her flirting in her fb messenger second she changes her password . and i literallt gets on fire and stick to my gut . when she realized that iknow everything what she is hiding from me. we broke up guess wut miss walnut want's me say something but i didn't i just told her . icaugh her cheating . and kept saying her manipulative words " do trust me " this my trigger if a girl is cheating on me she rapidly says that word..
Guys I’m struggling so I feel like my girlfriend recently wanted to hang out with me less and less intimacy but I ended up telling her she’s been acting weird and now she completely changed so I’m just struggling with it. she also doesn’t really want me to have her phone ever it’s just hard man
Hi Azee, I am so sorry to hear that. I empathize with you. I would be more than happy to support you. You can book a 1:1 coaching session via our website, www.happilycommitted.com - Coach Danny
Hi Keith, The primary thing to keep in mind is you want to be respectful and authentic. Transparency is key. Allowing your partner the space to express themselves and answer any questions they may have. If you don't fully know the reasons for wanting to breakup, I suggest spending some time really thinking about it. Closure is very important and neither of you will have that if the reasons are not clear. -Coach Danny
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You nailed 3 of 4.
1: less time and communication together
2: less intimacy
3: trust your gut: kisses with no passion. Less sex. Forgetting about me when i got very ill.
I am not sure why i am so upset, when I knew it. But I am. I am going for a run as we speak.
Hey Martinez,
I am sorry to hear about this. I know how upsetting all of this can be, we have walked in your shoes my friend.
Yes went through this with my soon to be ex wife from the start of the 2021 through to end of May when her affair came to surface . All the lies she told came out too so that’s why I choose to divorce her ass quick smart even though she didn’t want one
Very good video and those of us who have and or are dealing with this currently, much appreciated. My situation was very different. With my last gf, there were absolutely no signs. The relationship seemed so perfect. She just came out one day and admitted everything. The reason / the clues I picked up on as far as why she screwed up were so ridiculous that those were the last things I expected. Problem with cheaters is they should know who they want to be with before committing themselves because if they're going to get with people and start cheating on the side, they're just wasting a ton of time. Time is very important.
I’ve been accused of cheating for years when I never have, and it’s videos like this that really solidify it with the other person if they come across it. I get people who have the suspicion need somewhere to find that information, but being someone on the other end, these videos were often sent to me and it was so frustrating. Mind you, I’ve been definitely going through a lot of emotions with him because he did somethings that really pushed me away, but I stayed in the relationship because I believed in him and that it would pass… instead, he came up with the theory I was being unfaithful to rationalize why I was distant with him.
I’m so glad I saw your post. I’ve had suspicions for almost a year that my wife may be cheating (she does show possible signs based upon signs to look for); however, I’ve asked her twice now (once in counseling) and she has said no both times and got upset this past time in counseling that I thought that. I keep coming back to these videos, which I know can be helpful, but I also don’t want to push her away, as I feel our relationship of 16 years is finally taking a turn for the better. Your post makes me rethink bringing it up again.
In my case, it was only 1 sign. She was overly protective with her cellphone, and she didn't let me look at it when I was close to her. Her "new" boyfriend actually contacted me because he was able to check her phone and discovered she had a chat with me that had been going on for multiple years and sent me like 20 proofs of her cheating on me. He didn't even know I existed. It hurts like hell of course. She was still very physical with me and still said she wanted to spend a lot of time with me. Why would I suspect, right? I feel very dumb
Thanks Danny For me been there done that ,I'd rather cuddle with a cactus tree than be in a relationship that I know is toxic and will eventually have a nuclear melt down . First time you get cheated on changes you forever .
What if someone who is cheating on his / her gf/bf watching this video n then they know how to not let their partner know that they r cheating on them😅, because now they know what is the sign of cheating.
3/3/22 Danny great topic. I slightly thought this after first . But your theories quickly eliminated that thought. I am currently going through a no contact
I am trying to move past and fix my relationship from my girlfriend who is cheating on me. My morals before this happened were if someone you are with Cheated on you , you should leave them. Now that I know that infidelity happened I feel different from what my morals were. I am currently staying with my partner . ? What kind of man does this make me?
Hi Dee, changing your stance or perspective on something doesn't make you less of a man, it is an indication of empathy and growth. However, if you are sacrificing your core values... then I would re-evaluate. Infidelity is difficult to navigate, but it is possible if both parties agree to do the work. - Coach Danny
@@HappilyCommitted my core values after this are changing. I don’t feel like I lost my core values . Does that mean I am sacrificing it? Or should I still re-evaluate?
I was exactly like you,had high morals,but when the immoral happens to you,it changes you.its called trauma bonding,research it and you will understand this happens to us empathy.good luck my friend and just remember, there is a way out
You are in denial and finding it hard to let go. It happens all the time to the person cheated on. No matter how much you try, you can't trust her again and that will not change. The thought will be worse whenever she's not with you or for instance, takes a little longer to get home even if it was that she was caught in traffic. You have to also accept that cheating on you has changed the dynamics of your relationship with her and it will never be the same again. Besides, one day, she may find you boring and while you are reeling in pain, she will leave you and move on with her life.
It means nothing as far as you being a man....after 17 years I found out the ugly truth about my ex. She has been cheating on me the entire time with multiple men and hid all of it. She hid it very well gave no hints, consistent behaviors and actions all these years until she slipped one time. Its pretty dam concrete and no one with a mind would let it go. She contracted h.p.v. from an abnormal pap smear and told me about it. Knowing I'm she's the only woman I have been with and this has never happened to either of us in the past. Gave her the benefit of the doubts by doing my research on H.P.V. and considering the facts with all the possible circumstances in our situation. Fuck no, I'm confident and sure. I interrogated her endlessly to the point where she started blaming me for it and many attempts she tried gaslighting me saying its all in my head, let it pass, it happens to everyone, it's normal, I'm delusional. Bullshit! This behavior was out of character and she denied, denied and denied cheating. I showed up to her work randomly and the look I got from her face was shock when I walked in. She quickly sent a message on her phone and put it in her desk out of my sight. This was my giveaway. I asked waiting for someone to have lunch with or see? No, of course. Hmm....I wanted to see why you don't call on your lunch anymore and why you wait all day to message me and also why all of a sudden you have to stay late at work when the reasons you give me are not even under your job title. I told her to save it. If her words can't tell me she will in her actions and she did. I was right. It's in your best interest to not trust someone willing to hurt you like this. There is no excuses. She didn't take you seriously, she didn't care enough to go thru with what she did or is doing, trust me your not a thing just an after thought and it's only the second she has to face you again does this come out.....if you believe she is sorry and remorseful and shows it by putting the work in immediately like right this second and follows thru with no confrontations or defensiveness you might have a chance. This has to be consistent on her part and she must keep you updated and posted about gaining your trust back. Any slight off of this trail.....your only setting yourself up for more heart break I can promise you that. Don't be stat. Love yourself and know there is better out there waiting for you.....
I can’t tell if she is or not. Idk if it’s my anxiousness or gut saying WARNING ⚠️ but it definitely feels like it, she texts her co worker and the way it sounds like it’s flirting. She says she isn’t. And that she’s a friendly person, but idk what to believe.
To me it's very clear what's going on. It's bad coated with gaslighting.
You might be insecure
Pretty sure my gf has or still is after seeing this. Spot on.
Yes. She locked her phone up tight. Would hide. The screen. Not show me messages. It never rang. All sounds were turned off etc. The the verbal , emotional and sometimes she would physically hit me . Pull my hair. Call me names. Horrible insults etc
I get all the same things except the name-calling and hitting.. and insults..
Here's a trick..
Ask to borrow her phone.. put yours on charge.. allow her to unlock it and use the "calculator".. see how she reacts.
My girlfriend recently hid the fact that she was in a romantic relationship prior to s friendship with this girl. The girl now has a boyfriend and they went through an ugly breakup. I get a message on FB that my gf was planning to leave me and they hsve been talking etc. My gf admitted to me when confronted that they had a prior relationship but it just wasnt there for her. I could tell in her vouce that she was totally guilty of something and thenshe was full if anxiety after i confronted her and wanted me to block the boyfriend and not have any further communication. She told me that this girl still had a thing for her tho. And I really feelthat my gf actually considered this girl and kept her onthe backburner bc we hit a rocky patch for like 2 weeks. I left the decision up to my gf if she still would remain friends with this girl even tho I am totally not comfortable with that. My gf did decide to break ties. I just ferl like there is still more to it that she is hiding.
The more pertinent question for me is why does she lie for the silliest and most trivial things? Lol
Deep init
why are all these signs happening to me
Thank you for reaching out, Nathan. I understand how you're feeling. ⭐ Want To Tell Us More About What You Are Going Through? Call Our Hotline Now 👇:786.635.8373
Coach Natalie
Thank you coach, My question is........Why not talk to me if there's a problem why cheat?
Hit all 4
Spot on Coach!!!
Iactually used this method of yours back then on my freaking big fat liar ex girlfriend .
first i caught her flirting in her fb messenger second she changes her password .
and i literallt gets on fire and stick to my gut .
when she realized that iknow everything what she is hiding from me.
we broke up guess wut miss walnut want's me say something but i didn't i just told her .
icaugh her cheating .
and kept saying her manipulative words
" do trust me " this my trigger if a girl is cheating on me she rapidly says that word..
thanks for the tips, i jus caught her red handed
You're welcome. I am so sorry that you are currently experiencing a difficult time. If you feel you need support, I'm happy to help.
- Coach Danny
@@HappilyCommitted Thx, you are a legend coach danny
What if the cheating makes the partner happier and better because they are excited from cheating and get off on it ?
Guys I’m struggling so I feel like my girlfriend recently wanted to hang out with me less and less intimacy but I ended up telling her she’s been acting weird and now she completely changed so I’m just struggling with it. she also doesn’t really want me to have her phone ever it’s just hard man
I am in the same position.
thanks
Am in pain 💔😭
Hi Azee, I am so sorry to hear that. I empathize with you. I would be more than happy to support you. You can book a 1:1 coaching session via our website, www.happilycommitted.com
- Coach Danny
So what can i do to end the relationship..pliz help me all the signs are over hre
Hi Keith,
The primary thing to keep in mind is you want to be respectful and authentic. Transparency is key. Allowing your partner the space to express themselves and answer any questions they may have. If you don't fully know the reasons for wanting to breakup, I suggest spending some time really thinking about it. Closure is very important and neither of you will have that if the reasons are not clear.
-Coach Danny
@@HappilyCommitted i have spent my time thinking about it and l want a breakup for sure ,so can i just keep quiet and maintain silence or ?
i knew she was cheating